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Feels like I'm fucked by Alice Dummlehidge - Thu, 23 Oct 2014 17:59:22 EST ID:978Ot0cF No.380027 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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  • you're MtF
  • you've been on DIY HRT for 14 months
  • blood levels are stable and in the right female range
  • you are still in your 20's

yet HRT has done shit-all and you are still read as male pretty much all the time.

And people wonder why I want to off myself....
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Shit Pockridge - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 06:47:15 EST ID:e3iWttpq No.380054 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Only minorly. I've never seen anything close to a GGs fat deposits on a transgirl.
Jack Memblewidge - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 10:41:25 EST ID:ZP+TqlkM No.380058 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>stupid self-serving bullshit
Transitioning isn't about" effort", its about genetics. Passing with make up and the perfect clothing style just means you are a crossdresser trying to distract people from your unpassing face. FFS is the only answer if you weren't top 25% of feminine male genetics.
Cedric Tootshaw - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 11:31:59 EST ID:4KCgA8zh No.380059 Ignore Report Quick Reply

well what you said is true, depending on how much t effected you during puberty, no matter how much effort you put in, if your face is a manface, then you're fucked.

but most people here transitioned early-late, so earlier than most but later than ideal, so really it can be done with effort, there are many things you can do to be percieved as female, hair, makeup, mannerisms, language, voice. if you can pass as an 'ugly' girl, you still pass.

So if you're having troubles passing, just buy some new clothes, hang out with more cis girls your age, learn makeup (you dont need to go all out, just the basics) but most of all, if you go around worrying "they can tell i look like a man, omg they think i look like a man omg" then you're projecting that image, imagine telepathy is real!
Walter Turveybanks - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 12:15:46 EST ID:978Ot0cF No.380061 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP once more. Nobump cause why bother.

I'll be honest - I'm not brave enough to wear makeup or style my hair in an obvious feminine syle, nor wear feminine clothing yet. I'm afraid I'll get ridiculed, harassed and not get taken seriously. I don't pass. Weaking makeup would not make me pass any more than any other guy wearing makeup, same with clothing, same with hair. My face is simply too fucked up, and slightly softer skin from HRT hasn't helped me passing :/

My hair is long, and I take good care of it, I'm quite thin, I pluck my eyebrows and talk in a fairly feminine voice (doesn't sound totally female, but better than nothing). That's as far as I dare to go at the moment, and predicatably it's not helping much.

I'm afraid that's true... passing seems to come down to genetics, mostly.

I guess I do have a big problem with my confidence, and I do think a lot about not passing and fearing judgement from other people. I'd love to be an ugly girl, really, at least I pass then...
Phoebe Nittingshit - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 16:26:18 EST ID:eKjrBFEQ No.380065 Ignore Report Quick Reply
If you have brow bossing or a bad filament distance or your jaw is too strong you are fucked. You can have those things without having a "manface". There's sooooo many characteristics that ruin passing.

transgenderism by Edwin Pinnerchack - Wed, 22 Oct 2014 10:58:07 EST ID:459yK7rO No.379977 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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i wondered what you guys thought about this:
the author seems to have no particular malice and does have a point. personally i have no problem with trannies but i dont understand it and i dont want to harm anyone while thinking im supporting them.
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Matilda Fallermuck - Wed, 22 Oct 2014 20:02:44 EST ID:459yK7rO No.380003 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP here,
i take it the consensus of the community is that he dosent know what hes talking about?
i dont know any trannies on a personal level so i decided to ask the internet. personally i like the idea of transhumanism, no reason to meekly accept the body you were born in when weve developed options.
Shitting Gobberstet - Wed, 22 Oct 2014 20:27:14 EST ID:UoaKdTXe No.380004 Ignore Report Quick Reply
well if youre interested I can lay some of the things out for you. Thats only my personal knowledge though. And I am not going to search for sources unless Ive a personal interest in it.

>Transgenderism has been wrongly bracketed with homosexuality as just another sort of sexual identity
sex and gender arent the same, and basically nobody really argues for it. They're (probably) loosely connected

>other mental stuff is treated by therapy and drugs
you cant tread GID with anything but transition. that option simply doesnt exist (yet?). unless he wants to just let every transperson suicide, he probably should continure doing transitions.

>believe they were born with the wrong sex organs
implying thats all there is to it. Sex organs are important, of course. But at least for me, the social aspect is so much more important. He doesnt seem to differentiate between sex and gender at all.

>They’ve got enough data now to know that patients who undergo transitions often end up dead: tragically, a huge proportion commit suicide after having the surgery.
One surgery doesnt take away the pains and problems of being trans. Id like to see the numbers compared between non ops (and wanting op) and people that got it though. I bet it will be obvious that the rates are lower.
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Isabella Himmernetch - Thu, 23 Oct 2014 03:28:52 EST ID:BMc+T1E6 No.380015 Ignore Report Quick Reply
He's full of shit. Naively, it seems like therapy and antidepressants/antipsychotics would be the first thing you try, but this has been tried and it doesn't work.

Shitting pointed out the rest that is wrong with the article. Is anyone really surprised that transsexuals do worse than a group of cis people, considering how anyone who is visibly trans is treated in society? The study also goes back to 1973, just consider how much worse it was 40 years ago.

Comparing trans people who want hormones and/or surgery and got that treatment vs. trans people who only got therapy would be more meaningful and I'd be interested in a long-term study on that, but that's not what the source is about.
Matilda Fallermuck - Thu, 23 Oct 2014 19:08:26 EST ID:459yK7rO No.380032 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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OP again
much like i expected really. i noted that he didnt exactly have any footnotes. to me it makes no difference what anyone does with their own body. i just wanted to hear it from the horses mouth to make sure i wasnt just being a useful idiot for an ideologically based narrative.
/cd/ should maybe make an faq for us cis-gendered norps. your average joe isnt going to spend an inordinate amount of time trying to understand you when you represent such a small demographic. this dosent mean were malicious but we have limited time to be alive and there are almost 7 billion people to relate to. an "idiots guide to whats up with trans-people"-leaflet would probably do a world of good.
Angus Blirrydudging - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 14:12:04 EST ID:0zNvipwM No.380064 Ignore Report Quick Reply
> /cd/ should maybe make an faq for us cis-gendered norps
All you need to know is that trying to cure us is pointless and transition is the least possible evil, as everything else has been and is being tried repeatedly without any lasting or reproducible success, so it's really annoying when another smartass thinks he's the first person on the planet to think to cure transpeople and gays with testosterone therapy. If you want details: it's in the brain structure, hardware if you will, and trans people can only become normal by rewiring our brain structure, and by the time we will be able to do that, we would almost certainly also be able to outright change human beings' gender completely, both genes and phenotype included, so hope on neither in the foreseeable future, so there's only HRT to go to for help.
Really, there isn't a giant body of literature that you need to read, what I just wrote is elaborated upon by various official sources in the medical community, but the main point stays the same, and I'll repeat it: there's simply no better cure than HRT. That's it. The rest is irrelevant details.

Chaser? by Eugene Sablinghot - Tue, 21 Oct 2014 18:25:04 EST ID:EM9giYrm No.379949 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I know I'm trans, I've known since I was young, I get dysphoria, I'm loving transition, etc. Here's the thing though, I fap to shemale porn and futa. I'm submissive, so I'd only like to be topped by another transgirl. I find cis girls attractive when I'm out and about, and I don't think of them having a penis. However, if a transgirl sends me nudes, I want to see the penis. Strapons aren't too appealing, I like the idea of the girl not caring about her own penis and making me feel more feminine than her by using hers on me. Am I a chaser? What is wrong with me? I don't like guys, I do like cis girls, but I always get off to trans girls.
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Reuben Pubberchun - Thu, 23 Oct 2014 08:45:31 EST ID:4KCgA8zh No.380024 Ignore Report Quick Reply

give you self control? which will eventually allow you to stop looking at futa porn because you wont need porn?
Shit Surringfure - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 05:54:51 EST ID:Iw35VWdv No.380053 Ignore Report Quick Reply
just stop drinking water, and you wont need it anymore
Cedric Tootshaw - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 06:53:11 EST ID:4KCgA8zh No.380055 Ignore Report Quick Reply

water is required for survival, masturbation is not. are you serious?
Shit Surringfure - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 12:44:17 EST ID:Iw35VWdv No.380062 Ignore Report Quick Reply
holy god damn hell you're stupid. nb
Clara Gummleson - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 13:06:57 EST ID:t5WRfmRf No.380063 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>380024I fail to see what kind of benefit should be gained by doing so?

"As a Trans person" by Charlotte Brallercheck - Sun, 12 Oct 2014 02:31:28 EST ID:4KCgA8zh No.379424 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Does it annoy anybody else when people comment on things but have to start with "as a trans person"?

"as a trans person" i think they are just looking for attention or for people to think they are special snowflakes.

So, does it annoy you? what do you think about people who do that?

inb4 every reply starts with "as a trans person"
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Ernest Chapperheck - Wed, 22 Oct 2014 10:07:10 EST ID:BMc+T1E6 No.379975 Ignore Report Quick Reply
If you say "as a young woman" or "as a black woman", does that imply they're not simply women? You can have qualifiers without breaking things.
Caroline Dillyfoot - Wed, 22 Oct 2014 11:38:03 EST ID:4KCgA8zh No.379981 Ignore Report Quick Reply

same thing, sounds like they just want attention for being young or being black.

Their opinion still matters.
Just comes off as "im special, so listen to my opinion".

Its like people saying "as a white woman" or "as a male of no colour" or "as a poilitician". they can voice their opinion without stating what/who they are.
Samuel Crerringston - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 08:41:49 EST ID:oXkG7HHx No.380056 Ignore Report Quick Reply
"as an _____ person" usually means someone is playing the victim while stereotyping themselves/others. often the appearance of being victimized is a result of the stereotyping.
Rebecca Deffingway - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 09:52:59 EST ID:BMc+T1E6 No.380057 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Because it is absolutely impossible that someone's personal experiences make someone's opinion more relevant. Black people have no special insight into racism, your average women doesn't know anything about sexism that a 20 year-old neckbeard doesn't, and if I want to ask someone for advice about safe sex a virgin's advice is as valid and likely to be relevant as the advice of a prostitute or someone working at planned parenthood. Yea, right.
Cedric Tootshaw - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 11:41:48 EST ID:4KCgA8zh No.380060 Ignore Report Quick Reply

As a transwoman, I dont even know anymore.

got clothes to give away by Frederick Chonningmark - Thu, 23 Oct 2014 20:38:00 EST ID:wTPARKZD No.380035 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Is there a website or other service set up somewhere that people can donate clothes to trans girls/women who can't afford to buy or cannot safely obtain feminine clothes?

I have a bunch of new or barely worn bras/skirts/etc that are sitting around waiting to go to Goodwill but tbh I'd rather give them directly to a trans girl who needs them, if I can.

Obviously I can't give them away on here because NO HOOKUPS but if anyone knows of a service like this already in place, I'd like to check it out.

pic unrelated.
Cedric Tootshaw - Thu, 23 Oct 2014 21:09:49 EST ID:4KCgA8zh No.380036 Ignore Report Quick Reply

There are places on tumblr, you could also try giving them away on circlejerk?

I think its like transclothesxchange or something.
Sophie Pudgewan - Thu, 23 Oct 2014 23:18:56 EST ID:rUI8XJ5W No.380038 Ignore Report Quick Reply
i just wanna put it out there that bras count as underwear to goodwill and that they'll immediately chuck any you decide to donate
Rebecca Deffingway - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 03:48:06 EST ID:BMc+T1E6 No.380050 Ignore Report Quick Reply
This. There's a subred.dit called transclothingexchange (or something like that). If you can't find it, ask at /r/asktransgender.
Rebecca Deffingway - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 03:49:38 EST ID:BMc+T1E6 No.380051 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Also, /r/randomactsofbras on circlejerk. It's mostly ciswomen, but better than goodwill throwing them out, I guess.

Getting Cypro in the US by Jack Clupperpudge - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 03:00:01 EST ID:5GT+8rl5 No.380048 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm one of those unfortunate souls that happen to be allergic to Spiro. I discovered this during my first attempt at HRT about a year ago, when I started developing a rash around my wrists. Obviously, this is a serious obstacle in transitioning.

This in mind, I'm considering self-medding with Cypro, but health risks aside, it's a controlled substance in America, so it's kind of illegal to possess. Then again, so is weed, and I buy and possess a lot of that, so legality doesn't concern me. What does concern me, however, is how in the ever loving fuck I'm supposed to actually get a hold of it.

Has anyone here ordered Cypro online through, say, IHP or ADC? If so, how was that experience, and what would you say are my chances of actually getting it if I placed the order?

Side Note: I did some research on Spiro, and according to a lot of the resources I found, squarely half of them stated that a rash is an allergic reaction, while the other half said it was a minor side effect. Which is it?

moping by Shitting Sanningstidge - Thu, 23 Oct 2014 03:38:10 EST ID:iRvkFFKG No.380016 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Not gonna put you through the long boring story that all of you have heard before
I've been thinking about this trans thing for 2 years now
got super depressed about it, haven't told anybody but friends, they've been supportive thank god
told my brother, he doesn't understand, thinks transitioning is the worst thing I can do
other bro doesn't know, thinks I'm gay
parents don't know but are stereotypical conservative
fuckbuddy is uncomfortable, thinks it's a waste of a good dick
got a counselor, he's trans, not pushing transitioning but totally pushing it
crossdressed some, feels good man
I want to be a girl so bad- physically, socially, all of it
can't go to the store without being hyperaware of the girl section
i want to go to there
transitioning means tearing the family apart, losing friends, being broke, sacrificing career, all for some boobs and a surgical vagina and a vague hope that things will be better
nobody wants to date the lesbian trans chick
plus I'm male af
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Fucking Porrycocke - Thu, 23 Oct 2014 17:32:20 EST ID:yw24MY44 No.380025 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Thanks everybody who responded, this was just a 2am vent and I wasn't really expecting any feedback. I'm 20, live away at college and so on so now is probably the best time to start working on things... I don't know. The whole thing sucks and I wish it never happened but the suggestions given are really relevant to what's going on and they do help, a lot. I have absolutely no intention of being a douche about any of this to anyone, or suddenly being super feminine and pushing it on everybody else- it's taken me two years to get to this point so I can't expect anyone else just to shrug and be ok with it immediately.
Anyways, I'm babbling.
Thanks for the input, everybody, I'm sure I'll be around.
Eliza Ponkinhall - Thu, 23 Oct 2014 17:59:34 EST ID:Ruy3nqW/ No.380028 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Bro, just take care of your body. Guy bodies can be attractive in their own rights. Work it, man. Make some feminine inspired beauty routines for your hair and skin. Learn some style and incorporate your own perspective, male or female.

I'm in a similar boat myself, but I actually really enjoy 'guymode'. I know I'll never have that beauty that's so exclusive to women, but I'll make up for it. Make a choice man. But it doesn't have to be one or the other. Mix the pot, 1 part girl to 2 parts guy. Or whatever. Unfetter the binds.
Wesley Chacklepit - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 00:55:45 EST ID:yw24MY44 No.380040 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I can dig it
Whitey Chuckleberk - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 01:32:06 EST ID:G22SnfEZ No.380041 Ignore Report Quick Reply
How long have you even know that transitioning was an option, OP? I'm 31 and I only knew about crossdressers and hons until I was like 21, and even then my main 'role model' was like nina arsenault.
Wesley Chacklepit - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 02:29:51 EST ID:yw24MY44 No.380046 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP here, pretty much from the beginning of checking this whole thing out, I guess? So a few years. It was always kind of an option- far-fetched, but an option. It's taken me a while to come to terms with the possible consequences (heck, I'm still not really at peace with them) but I've seen it as a possible choice for almost as long as I've been grappling with dysphoria, etc. Why do you ask?

dreams? by Jack Muffingdale - Sun, 19 Oct 2014 18:21:16 EST ID:Vft+DGOv No.379861 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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although this might belong in /dr/ i want to know how u tranny's feel about this.

ok i occasionally dreamed that i was a girl back in the day, and they were my favorite dreams. But since i've transitioned i always dream i'm a girl and they rent as magical does anyone have a similar feeling to this
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Hugh Buzzford - Tue, 21 Oct 2014 18:48:52 EST ID:4KCgA8zh No.379952 Ignore Report Quick Reply

i cant remember any dreams from my childhood, let alone a week ago. unless i wrote them down.
Basil Shittingbury - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 01:36:46 EST ID:1Lpet/3S No.380042 Ignore Report Quick Reply
people who are transgender are allowed to say 'tranny'; deal with it.
Basil Shittingbury - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 01:38:47 EST ID:1Lpet/3S No.380043 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>The only time I call transwomen trannies is when I'm referring to the hateful, bigoted way society sees us: as degenerate trannies.
Actually, you *are* allowed to use the word tranny, but you shouldn't use it in a terrible, negative way like that. If you think it's a 'bad' word then just don't say it at all.
Clara Gummleson - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 01:49:30 EST ID:t5WRfmRf No.380044 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Are you really trying to prohibit a transwoman to use the term tranny, while bluntly misgendering her in the same sentence?

WOW talking about bigots.
Clara Gummleson - Fri, 24 Oct 2014 01:54:42 EST ID:t5WRfmRf No.380045 Ignore Report Quick Reply
... Just like how it's now totally soically accepted for white bigots to call blackpeople jolly african-americans, just because some ghetto kids have reclaimed the word decades ago?

Yeah ist just happens all the time, right.

how to deal with dickbag family members??? by Nicholas Brurryman - Tue, 21 Oct 2014 23:47:09 EST ID:JGrKq2Gw No.379962 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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My sister recently came back from cuba and was at my house this morning. Needless to say, the discussion of my transition came up (it always seems to one way or another) and i'm honestly getting sick of this shit.

Basically, i'm ftm and post everything (for now anyways) and while i wouldn't say my family isn't supportive, they're not exactly... pleasant about it. Whenever it's brought up with my mom, it's usually the old "you'll never be a man if you don't have a penis" logic, and usually i just kinda ignore it.

However, i've been feeling super dysphoric lately and my sister is completely brutal. In the few hours she was there, she called me a "man woman minotaur thing" as well as trying to tell me i'm just a lesbian and because i don't want bottom surgery, i obviously want to be a woman. Nothing really struck me more than her bringing up my sexual assault i experienced with a female cousin of mine when i was kid, saying that "the only reason i want to be a dude is because that experience made me uncomfortable with being a chick" even though i had experienced gender related stuff way before that happened

Anybody got any advice for trying to shovel through this shit without wanting to slip and fall down the stairs?
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Shitting Hoffingpog - Wed, 22 Oct 2014 00:29:34 EST ID:Vft+DGOv No.379965 Ignore Report Quick Reply
how doesn it feel to have a real vagina... please trade with me
and if you could would you trade, or are u just like the surgerys lame
Shitting Hoffingpog - Wed, 22 Oct 2014 00:30:17 EST ID:Vft+DGOv No.379966 Ignore Report Quick Reply
to deal with family i dont know what to say, time usually heals everything
Nicholas Brurryman - Wed, 22 Oct 2014 00:32:54 EST ID:JGrKq2Gw No.379967 Ignore Report Quick Reply
To be honest, i don't feel much dysphoria with my lower half. My dysphoria usually comes from my chest (DD cups are hard as fuck to hide) as well as my inability to grow facial hair
Caroline Dillyfoot - Wed, 22 Oct 2014 04:16:47 EST ID:4KCgA8zh No.379970 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Losing your family is usually the biggest thing with transition.

Theres not much you can say, joke along with them? their minds are made up, so just relax. maybe if you have the courage to start being the real you infront of them without T, maybe they will see that you really are a boy.
Matilda Fallermuck - Thu, 23 Oct 2014 19:19:05 EST ID:459yK7rO No.380033 Ignore Report Quick Reply
your family members are going to get a bit fucked up about this. it probably just means they care. to them, your flesh and blood, you are talking a knife to something very precious to them.

also facial hair is mostly just a pain in the ass. its one of the downsides of having a y chromosome unless youre really into beards.

Finasteride/Dutasteride by Nell Heckleforth - Thu, 23 Oct 2014 17:58:36 EST ID:35c7qLzr No.380026 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I see a lot of people taking them to lower DHT, but isn't DHT created from normal testosterone? So if you lower testosterone with spiro or cypro then do you still have to worry about it?

"The Questionnaire" help thread by Martha Turveywill - Sat, 18 Oct 2014 04:22:16 EST ID:NjuvzkKk No.379788 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hi. My therapist thought I might be transgendered and a trans friend recommended I come here and ask for a questionnaire. She said I'm probably not trans, but I've thought about it a little bit in the past. I've never yearned to live in a females body, though I'd like to know a bit more about what being trans is like for reference.

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Eliza Memmledirk - Mon, 20 Oct 2014 20:24:39 EST ID:xuXPCgIj No.379909 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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i get what you're saying totally but you are filling in allot for me without knowing much except that i did a dance class in highschool and i being in the guy role was confusing.
Im not saying i was bad at it or awkward?
of course i was awkward at first but i have good rhythm so i go the hang of it? i had to stop because i felt a sense of yearning that i had allot throughout my life that made me feel sick - so i left the situation.
It makes you/me feel sick because you think "this is wrong i shudnt want that i should be happy with what i am/have" and trying to repress that causes the brains frustration.
When i say i felt empty i mean there was a sense of satisfaction and warmth of being with this person but it was like i was in the wrong timeline - allot of my life - not most.
I havent gone and added to my memory, i have remembered scenarios where i have felt that yearning and then shame-guilt - disgust and confusion over why i was disgusted - emptyness - resignation and the depression - which wud lead me to looking for something else to put this negativity on - transfer these issues onto another issue as a way of avoiding dealing with something that was confusing and not what i could understand.
I grew up and i saw i was a boy and the world treated me as a boy and i agreed- i saw myself and thought "im a boy" so when i exhibited these other responses or behaviors it was confusing and i tried to repress it out of denial.

i havent added these memories, i understand them now tho. i dont think that MEANS i am trans- i think there is more to it than just being feminine in some or allot of ways.

"normal" is a very hard word to understand these days but if know what it is like to feel normal then you know what i mean when i say since starting transition i have felt more normal everyday - more real - more alive and more responsible for myself - more in tune with myself on a level where i just. feel. normal.
I am more comfortable in every situation - family, friends, with boys and esp other girls.

I dont think you should have the absolutist ideas about people in general, its good to commit yourself to a stance on something but when you start saying "every trans person makes up BS about their childhood to help prove they are really meant to be a girl" then i think thats when you get a bit silly.
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Hugh Buzzford - Mon, 20 Oct 2014 21:20:44 EST ID:4KCgA8zh No.379913 Ignore Report Quick Reply

yeah you've hit it right on the head there.

I dont know what memories are real or not, but when people use one obscure little details about their childhood as justification for their being trans, you can generally tell its either made up, or they are bluring the truth, because if you had actual trans feelings back then, then lots of things would make you uncomfy, not just dancing.

I know what you're saying, i have been there, i have felt that emptiness also growing up, but im not going to say it was my trans feelings, because back then, it wasnt, back then it was just empty feelings.
But as an Adult, a Trans Adult, you can reflect and say "hmm thats the reason why".

Im not saying every trans person makes up BS about their childhood, im saying generally they make up BS about their childhood, for a bunch of different reasons, but mostly for peace of mind, justification and verification of their transness.

But the thing is, is that i can never ever know for sure how you felt back then, but i just call it how i see it and i know a whole load of trans people, they all say the same bullshit stories, for example why that one specific memory thats so open ended it could mean anything? maybe you just didnt like dancing, maybe you didnt like the person you danced with, maybe you werent feeling your best that day, maybe you were worried about the homework you hadnt done, maybe you were worried about failing the test, maybe you didnt like girls and when you were forced to dance with one it made you feel empty because you wanted to dance with a boy?
Do you see what im saying?

So dont use memories or whatever to justify your current self, you are who you are.
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Nathaniel Bardfield - Wed, 22 Oct 2014 06:01:24 EST ID:+806gigT No.379972 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Exactly, memory is a very tangible thing and can be altered however so slightly to help fit in more with your current world view. I guess the last thing you want is to feel like you are tricking yourself or wrong about being trans and you need more than just feelings to prove etc

For me though i look for the pattern, that sense of yearning, that feeling of confusion and trying to block out that feeling. And i hate to go on about this but it wasnt just the dance thing, it was allot of things of course! it was everything! I didnt have those overt thoughts (well i did but i would tell myself i am silly and supress them with sexism and feelings of shame and disgust)

And for the record - i love to dance and i like girls and guys (girls more then- guys more now ) and i never worried about homework yadda yadda i didnt care about shit except my own self serving introspection blah blah

anyway who cares.
Caroline Dillyfoot - Wed, 22 Oct 2014 06:40:43 EST ID:4KCgA8zh No.379973 Ignore Report Quick Reply


what im saying is, we dont need to know, you are who you are and we accept that, if people start interrogating you about your past and how you know you're really trans, then just say you have had issues with it since childhood, you dont need to take a stroll down memory lane :)
Thomas Sorringwell - Wed, 22 Oct 2014 22:21:09 EST ID:xuXPCgIj No.380005 Ignore Report Quick Reply
thats actually what i was going to say instead of who cares but my boy had just finished making dinner

well then by Reuben Blackville - Sun, 19 Oct 2014 13:25:11 EST ID:2SF4KDv+ No.379854 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>happy 22 year old male
>gorgeous girlfriend
>seeing counsellor about gender issues
>I want to wear womens clothes and have breasts
the fuck
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Simon Benningkere - Tue, 21 Oct 2014 17:10:01 EST ID:2SF4KDv+ No.379944 Ignore Report Quick Reply
nope, just said I'm having gender confusion and issues
Simon Benningkere - Tue, 21 Oct 2014 17:16:16 EST ID:2SF4KDv+ No.379945 Ignore Report Quick Reply
not really, anything tickles my pickle. You're using it in derogatory sense but I just don't feel comfortable in my skin
Emma Sapperlock - Tue, 21 Oct 2014 17:24:05 EST ID:Iw35VWdv No.379946 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Well you have to say a bit more if you want any kind of real responses. At this point all that can be said is don't sweep the issue under the rug.
Hugh Buzzford - Tue, 21 Oct 2014 18:56:05 EST ID:4KCgA8zh No.379954 Ignore Report Quick Reply

OP, have you tried crossdressing? maybe you just need to get it out of your system, im not saying prance around outside in a frilly dress, keep it in your home, see how you go, maybe buy some breast forms or something.
Reuben Conningpeck - Wed, 22 Oct 2014 14:33:46 EST ID:PTq/jxeX No.379989 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP this same thing happened to me at 24. I think it's because everything was going so well that I could finally feel that something deep down wasn't right.

Before then, I could ignore it as I buried myself in school, and I dismissed trans feels as the need for a steady girlfriend and sexual relationship.

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