/cd/ Transgender Discussion
i posted on /lgbt/ but they're a bunch of faggotsdo I pass? aperture science representin'also general passing thread
>>376090and how do you come to terms with it...
>>376091In my experience: by ignoring it as much as you can, and having a good cry when you can't.
>>376091Therapy. Talking to other trans people. Mostly time, it took a lot of time for me. You'll probably never fully 100% accept it, or stop feeling like the world is so absurdly unfair because of it. But you might reach the place where is ceases to be an acting force in your life, something you think about every day, etc. That's how it went for me. One thing that might help is to remember that your experiences have given you the oppurtunity to experience life in a very unique way. You're able to comprehend the complexities of identity and gender in a way most people never will. Being trans has made me a better person, particularly in how I sympathize and empathize with the experience of others. Not everything about being an MTF has to be shit, agony, and pain. There are some nice things about it, but you need to be willing to look.
>>376092I already do that... ;_;>>376093I guess that's true, but theres so much I'd sacrifice to be cis... idk I do agree that I am a smarter more accepting person compared to other people and that I'd probably just be one of them if I wasnt born this way...
>>375903>>375905>>375908>>375942>>375947so many beautiful ladies in this thread...
What's 420chans opinion, I'm finally deciding to go ahead and try starting hormones and embracing this life I've been afraid to follow but instead to embrace it. I think my first cock I sucked and fucked cemented it now hehe.. you think I'll eventually end up passing nicely?
>>376080I'd be willing to bet that if you ask 1000 random cis girls you'll find more than one who gets aroused by their own bodies. A small sample size is not sufficient to establish the behaviors of a large group.
>>376084 >>376084I have known several who have expressed the idea but i think it was more like arousal from anticipation like >>376080 saidlike wow if you can actually get off on your own body then you must look pretty good like probably TumbLR good
>>376124People can be kinky and narcissistic, the dreaded combo.
>>376080Where did op say she/he was turned on by their own body? Or was that just an assumption you made by the fact that they said they wanted to feel sexy?
>>376131>>376131OP essentially equates liking cocks with being trans.OP feels that taking hormones will enhance the euphoria of liking cock.OP is need to understand that being a cock burglar does not mean that hormones are needed.
I came out to my sister a few months ago and didn't see and talked to her much. I made progress, started hrt went almost fulltime although my voice is shit.Now I'm visiting her and can't get over the feeling of how much prettier she is than me. I mean I'm lucky for a transgirl but standing next to my sister I just feel like a bad joke. Plus I feel bad that I replaced the figure of her well respected older brother with this joke and I'm afraid that she is ashamed of me. Idk I know I shouldn't feel that way but I just can't help myself. I feel way uneasy around her.
>>376113No, still don't do it lol. Terrible idea. As if it isn't going to bleed through and affect you negatively just because you didn't say it out loud haha.
>>376126How about you just don't say/think or give credence to extreme negative thoughts, just like you wouldn't say it to someone else. You yourself being most deserving of your love and all that. Stay centered =)
>>376127Like literally y'all! Don't let your mind use you, use your mind. Change your self-talk. It is possible lol. What you habitually think largely determines what you will become says Bruce Lee! haha I saw a list of Bruce Lee quotes the other day. k done triple post
>>376127Some shit is just negative and to be unaware of it is called being delusional. It's one thing to tell someone that they shouldn't dwell on negativity, but it's completely unrealistic to expect someone to never think poorly of another person. Many people genuinely suck; think it, test it and if you still feel justified in thinking it, acknowledge it, then let it pass.
This is why I am so happy I don't have a sister. She would no doubt be beautiful just like my brothers and I were and I would get to see everything I could have been all the time.
How long did it take you to decide to transition.I've been thinking about it for 2 years on an off.Had been in denial for about five before that.When I was little I had said tendancies; liking dolls playing as female characters in vidya.But I haven't made the decision to just do it. I am still mulling other options such as just being that guy; we all know that guy, you know the one I'm talking about.
wanted to transition when I was like 14-15, but I wasn't allowed and also I was too scared to have people find out.So tried to just "be a guy" for a few years, ended up a depressed recluse doing drugs in my room every day unable to go to college. Got some money at 17, realized I could start transition if I wanted, so I started self medding.at least for me being "that guy" turned out to be not a good idea though it seemed possible at the time
>>376104About 1.5-2 years after I had gotten some idea about trans stuff, took a while to learn what it was, then some internal struggles to figure out if I should try to transition or suicide, and then I took steps to try to transition (it didn't happen for a while though, 3 years, but I had decided to transition).
Honestly?From first time seriously considering transitioning, through various stages on and off of selfdenial, to finilally starting transition... about 6 Years.RIP my teenage years.
>>376115Similar.Found this board when i was 16 - didnt know it was possible, didnt beleive it was possible to live a normal life after doing this - admired those who did and watched over the years to see if they turned out okay. After i felt there was enough awareness and acceptance around me i felt like if i didn't do it i would live knowing i would be living in fear on a daily basis and not be doing anything about it simply because of my own internalized issues - which is fair enough for some people, maybe its the smart thing to do... I know i will never be like other girls, their size at least and that alone makes me stand out but also it will be easy for people to notice my larger hands and feet so i am not %100 i will be able to live my life and have strangers(is this meaningful?) recognize me as a she but i will still get to explore and express my femininity with confidence i hope!I feel like maybe sometime in the next 30 years gender will be deconstructed in the scientific community adding a greater awareness of what gender means in developed cultures.
>>3761045 years, learnt of trans people at 17 transitioned at 22.my main concearn was family and acceptance.
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you're SOOOO funny posting my pics here on /cd/ and telling everyone i'm an ftm, you're really bullying me!to all the /cd/ lurkers, I apologize for these retards spinning a tale about me. they don't like me on their imageboard, so they try to make me leave constantly, by calling my parents, insulting me, etc.please disregard the hatersI'm a guy btw
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>>376112sounds like you guys should take this to / S D /theyre into all kinds of humiliation over there
>>376121also sounds like if the group of people you socialize with is going to be so dis-respectful to other communities then you have poor taste in people
I got a referral from my GP a couple of weeks ago to a gender specialist. From what I've heard, he's the specific one in my city that other trans* people see to get hormones, so essentially this is my only option.This is all well and good, but apparently the wait time to get my first appointment is 3-4 months. In this couple of weeks I've been daydreaming about starting HRT more and more and am feeling dysphoric far more frequently.Does /cd/ have any tips for coping with this agonizing dysphoric wait before I can hopefully become myself? Picture unrelated.
>>375880Idk, I started with self medding, and with the magic of the magic of Safe Consent I didn't even have to change the dose I was on when I switched to prescribed HRT. Basically you start with the 2mg a day dose so that your boobs don't shoot out in random directions, and work your way up to 8mg gradually. And you should never take more or less than 100mg spiro a day; unless you want alot of health problems.
>>375973>8 mg estradiol>no more or less than 100mg spiroCripes, those are some iffy dosages. This is why we really need to see doctors and get bloodwork done.
>8 mg estradiol>no more or less than 100mg spiro
>>376097iffy? thats pretty standard actually. most ppl work themselves up to 8mg so that its not a shock to their body and you wouldnt be below or over 100 spiro unless there was a biological reasonf or you to. so really if you have a fairly healthy body then its pretty straight forward actually
>>376118I was actually under the impression that 4mg was as high as it went. Maybe it's an age thing?
>>3761194 mg is indeed the standard dose, which works for the vast majority of people. You can justify a higher (or lower) dose if your blood work is off though.
Hi seedee.How many of you masturbate? As in jerking off? I usually masturbate in a different way but today I was feeling little horns and the only way I could do it was jerking off. So I did. I didn't come or anything, but now here I am. It feels wrong and I feel somewhat guilty. Is doing this a bad thing? Should I feel bad? Pic totally unrelated.
>>376099I'm on hormones, but I can't increase dosage because of money issues. Chemical castration was a serious part of the reason I was happy to get onto HRT, and it isn't nearly as bad now(I have less T than a born woman does) but I want it to be complete. Have been considering orchi, as I'm not sure about SRS...
>>376100I would strong advise looking at chemical castration approaches as opposed to an orchi. If your T is already that low, an orchi is not going to make a difference. Also if you get an orchi, you're severely limiting future SRS options.
>>376101I'm not sure what other chemical castration things I can ask about. I'm fine with no longer feeling sexual pleasure -happy with it, even. Have any of you done something like this before?I'm feeling actual hope.
>>376102Ask about Depo-Provera.
I masturbate occasionally when I feel the urge to. Pre-HRT, my penis caused me a lot of dysphoria just by existing. Post-HRT, it doesn't bother me -- I can touch it and have it touched without it worrying me. I don't think I could penetrate, and that's where I draw the line, but everything else is ok.I prefer masturbating with anal toys though; jerking off doesn't bother me, but it also doesn't actually feel good. It doesn't feel like much of anything; it's a satisfaction of an urge, similar to urinating, not something enjoyable. Masturbating with a toy anally, though, is really nice.HRT caused my dysphoria, which was considerable, to dwindle to nonexistence.
I need some advice. I am passing MtF after voice surgery, planning to undergo SRS soon. I am in a relationship with a man for almost half of the year now. The problem is this - he doesn't know i am transgender. We are very close and we get very intimate sometimes. I managed to hide my genitalia from him - we basically agreed to not have sex because i convinced him that i have some problem regarding my sex organs and we can't have sex before surgery of some sort.Should i tell him I am TS before SRS? After SRS?Should i tell him about it at all?And finally - how i am supposed to tell him about that? I feel that i want him to know that but i have absolutely no idea how to do it. I am really scared that the longer i wait, the worse one of his possible reactions can be. He doesn't seem to like LGBT people, but I noticed once that he referred to a known MtF as "she" - should i take it as positive sign? I don't want to lose him... I really love him and i feel loved too.I apologize if my english sucks. Pic unrelated.
>>375955somehow I missed that part, I knew it was long distance!!
Damn, /cd/ I expect better of y'all. Be constructive here, please.>>375930You sound fucking pathetic, coming here to hate on a stranger.. as if they are your enemy. As if you actually are affected by them. Pull your head out of your ass and realize your words can be powerful, but yours are just smelly shit beneath a dog's asshole.OP, follow your heart. You will know when the time is right to tell them, and if things go sour then that is how it was meant to be. You WILL find another person who loves you. I PROMISE. Don't be afraid to take a step forward; you will find yourself relieved. Stay grateful that you are loved, but remember that part of love is trust. Allow yourself to trust your partner. If he reacts negatively, say goodbye with love. Take care of what needs to be done and LOVE YOURSELF FIRST!
>>375980Your obviously missing the whole point of the thread, morals aside thats not the issue. The issue is whats she doing is dangerous, and its pretty basic knowledge as far as Trans issues go. Thats why people are coming for her. If there wasnt some much violence towards trans people we would not care. But the FACT is that this is a major reason why Trans people get murdered....
>>375998Nice... I JUST CAN'T FIGURE OUT WHAT WORD PREVENTS ME FROM POSTING MY COMPLETELY HARMLESS POST.I've allready changed any word that might have been inappropriate for ANY person in the world... and I'm still not allowed to post.PENETRATE THIS FECAL MATTER.
>>376000Can you tell us a little about what your post was about? are you posting links? are you mentioning contact details?
>>376003I was asking for some shaving advice...
>>375996Same image as on /lgbt/ ... So it's about shaving?
>>376025Are you a wizzard?
I'm trying to figure out which bra I should get. By boobs are fairly small (AA) but through some t-shirts my nipples are poking through so I need something to cover them up. I ordered some sport bras and they fit fairly well but they feel like they are to warm to be worn unter a shirt.What models should I look for? I'm looking for comfy and stealth ones as for a push-up too (for certain occasions)
>>375938Shit nigga, calm down, you look fine.
>>375957yeah sorry i >>375926 forgot to say you look fine. Its just something i noticed. you have a smaller face than most transwomen.My advice?Put on heaps of weight. then your body will fill out. You wont be a slim model, unless you really work atr the gym and even then no guarantee, but people will not see how big your bones are!
>>375878You look beautiful! I like your style; that's not an old lady shirt to me.. As others have said, go try on bras!! That's the only way to ensure you don't waste your time and money. Don't be afraid, my love! Walmart and Target have surprisingly decent bras. If you MUST order them online, check out Aerie. They have comfy, smaller cup bras.
>>375979thx for the kind words!
Hi there, I have an appointment to see Dr. Curtis in less than a month and i am looking for some advice on what to expect from going private with him. I am interested to find out the timescale of the whole process, advice on what to expect during the initial assessment, If I will be able to eventually get a prescription for mones from the NHS through Dr. Curtis.I have already looked further afield and am just looking to gather as much information as I can, Thank you.
>>376001Yes Curtis instructs you to see a therapist, I will see mine twice in August and twice early September, so less than a month for the therapy side of things. Also Dr. Curtis will not make you live in your preferred role for any amount of time before he prescribes hormones, as long as you take blood tests and do the therapy you're good to go.He is expensive, but you bypass all of the gate-keepery you may encounter with the NHS. Total cost for the first year with Dr. Curtis is somewhere around £900, aslong as you have some sort of steady income it's not too expensive as the payments are spread out across the year.
>>376004Ah great, I don't know where I got that idea from, and for £900 or so, i think it'll be worth it, i HATE waiting for this...I can't wait to get on track (:
Honestly? He's a bit of a quack and is very hungry for our money. You'll definitely get your hormones regardless of your circumstances. It takes around 3 months but you can get fast tracked and skip his shrink if you've already had 6 therapy sessions somewhere else before seeing him.
>>375153> I swear to god I will jump out this fucking window if I have to wait a year to start treatment>a yearAHAHAYeah try 2 and a half fucking years before even an initial appointment. I've been shipped around doing the basics. I've had 3 people question me to make sure I'm not mentally ill, one sex therapist, a slew of blood tests and having to check in with my GP at least every month or two. It's absolute bullshit to the highest degree. I'm finally in but due to the stress of having 0 money 0 job and 0 time I've missed an appointment and if I miss another I have to start all over again. Fuck the NHS. I've been on hormones for over 2 years and they've done fuck-all to help me apart from blood tests. I tried committing suicide recently, and in the first ever appointment with a gender therapist, she said she might have to "hold back" treatment because I was suicidal too recently. I don't even give a shit about needing help apart from the fucking surgery and to be legally recognised as a woman, and chances are I'll pay for the surgery anyway because there's no surgeon on the NHS that can do a half-decent job and knows any techniques apart from the archaic penile inversion.
> I swear to god I will jump out this fucking window if I have to wait a year to start treatment>a year
>>376002I'm back home for the summer now but will be back in Brighton come september, sorry. I'll be more than keen on that drink then, but I dunno how I can find you... :/
I'm able to start in one week. QHI or IHP and why? Anything i should know before starting? What do you wish you knew before? About when will I not be able to wear a t-shirt anymore?
I use IHP.After two years I'm still in guy mode and going braless with only a single layer of t-shirt on.Probably shouldn't do that, yeah, but nobody says anything. I guess most people assume they're pecs- in spite of my complete lack of muscle anywhere else.
>>375994Weird you say that I still go IHP but it wasn't until year 3 that my boobs just exploded and still keep growing. The only things that keep me in guy mode are my voice and facial hair, which will be addressed now that after 4 years I finally have a career.
>>376010What are you saying at the beginning about IHP? Confuses me ._. I don't know whether to go with qhi or ihp.
>>376028New customers can't order from IHP without a prescription (though their .vu site allows you to, but you can only pay with eChecks), so you should go with QHI.
>>376029Hmm, do you think it's worth paying with eCheck? I'm mostly worried about price.
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