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I decided to write again anon, incase you were disappointed I made an error with that txtwall above!
Everyone experiences ITs to some degree, including me. Most of the thoughts that stream through our mind each day are not invited, they happen, they mean nothing and we don't pay much attention. With ITs, it can feel like they have taken over. They haven't - it's part of being human. The only difference between an IT that pops into your head and then leaves, and an IT that is distressing, is how you respond to it anon!
We could have these thoughts because our mind is telling us to pay attention to something that we need to find a solution to. That's all. There could be something that requires action, a relationship problem, a life problem etc. ITs latch on to the things that are important to you. Once you realise the root of the thought anon, and begin focusing on the solution/s instead, they WILL subside. Our brains were made to bring things into our awareness, and it WILL let them go again. The important point to note is that it is not the thought that is the problem, rather the problem arises with what you do with the thought, how much you feed it. Don't feed them and give them power anon.
If you ruminate, you need to actively recognise when the thoughts are starting. As soon as you realise, immediately make an effort to take action with something that interests you. Get up, go talk to a friendly family member, indulge your hobby, read, go on YouTube a while etc. Get up and do it! You'll become much better at this with practise. The main trick is to not start dwelling or ruminating for a long time if you are prone to this and it's making you feel bad.
Before you start getting upset with yourself, you have to remember that, at the moment, you are doing the best you can with your ITs. Stay calm. Do something you enjoy doing. Work out. Plant some vegetables. Get into nature. Put the radio on a talk show/call-in, listen and do household chores. Walk your dog. By enjoying any of the above activities you will be getting back into a healthier mindset. I won't promise things will drastically improve overnight, it'll take a little bit of time.
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