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Toxic Love by Emma Beckleham - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 14:22:23 EST ID:Uc3v3vtk No.517526 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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TL;DR I'm 31/f, recently ended a 5 year relationship with a 28/m. We're talking about getting back together, but I'm not sure if we can overcome our issues.

I broke it off for five reasons:

1.) We had been engaged for a year and a half and still hadn't set a date.

2.) He changed his mind and said he didn't want kids.

3.) He has a problem with alcohol.

4.) He lies and says mean things when he's drunk.

5.) His mom doesn't like me. My dad doesn't like him. Quite a few friends think we should stay apart.

I'm not perfect either. As a result of his lies, I have gone through his phone, which I know is wrong. I also started flirting with another guy a few days before I broke up with my ex. Nothing physical happened, but I know it was still wrong.
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Nicholas Blammerham - Thu, 20 Jul 2017 05:23:50 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.517550 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517526
>problem with alcohol.

Stopped reading, it's over never go back.
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Simon Gizzlefoot - Thu, 20 Jul 2017 06:50:41 EST ID:7fC8LtQw No.517552 Ignore Report Quick Reply
All those people who say he is not going to change , to stop lying or stop drinking: he probably will, if he finds the way to stop doing it. The problem as someone said is that this might just be a coping mechanism, if he stops drinking he might take smoking or something else, so instead of focusing on making him stop drinking alcohol you need to get him to understand why he does it and how can he stop having those emotions or feelings that cause him to feel the need to drink.

You need to make sure he trusts you, because otherwise you will just be dealing with his defensive wall, and you could not get to the bottom of his issues. I think people can stop lying, I used to be like him, drinking and lying to my family. I still enjoy a bottle of red wine from time to time but I have stopped lying to people. I also went through someone's emails and that ruined a good friendship so I think I've learned my lesson, and I am more honest now than I was 5 years ago.

I suppose it's normal for people who break up to want to go back to where they were, simply because it's part of the routine. Suddenly you find yourself not being able to do a lot of the things you did before, and if you don't see a clear future you might think "oh maybe the past was the right thing to do, and I should go back to my old routine"

It seems to me that you already want to get out of this relationship, you broke up with him, then you went back together but it might just have been "oh i don't have anyone better to be with, so I will give this guy another go." You need to be honest with yourself, if you're open to flirting with other guys (even just a little bit) don't you think that means that you're also thinking about moving on, about trying again with someone else? Maybe you're afraid he'll do something to himself and you will feel guilty? Like he will kill himself while he's drunk and you might feel that you have to be his girlfriend in order to prevent this. If that's the case it wouldn't be a healthy reason to stay in a relationship.

Now obviously I'm not a relationship expert, but it appears to be that you're asking us for validation before break…
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Nicholas Blammerham - Thu, 20 Jul 2017 12:52:57 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.517554 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517552
Speaking from experience it's just not worth it to try and help someone combat alcoholism, especially if you're the type of person who wants to help people.

It just takes so much out of you emotionally and there will be big blows and disappointments before anything gets better, if it ever does. At least you've already broken up before committing to helping him, it's not worth the risk.
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Lydia Saddleham - Thu, 20 Jul 2017 13:25:12 EST ID:XS6JMhmD No.517555 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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You guys saying he'll never change are really fuckin' wrong. I'll never understand how this 'people don't change' meme got started nor why anybody believes it. Simon is right, nobody is an alcoholic or compulsive liar because it's just so much fun. They'd change if they could. People with self-destructive tendencies know they're awful for them, they just don't know how to not do it.

At the same time though Blammerham is also right. Trying to help somebody kick an addiction is soul crushing shit. The only time you should ever try to do that is if you seriously, truly love them and that's a one in a million thing. Excluding family, everybody on this board will almost certainly never meet somebody that they legitimately love. There's plenty of people you could marry and spend the rest of your life with and be more or less happy, sure, but you won't love them. If they died you'd grieve and then you'd go back out and find somebody else.

Anyway, I mostly agree with everybody else. Helping him with his addiction is something you shouldn't even be thinking of doing because it'll be your entire life for the next three fucking years, at least, and once the trust is gone, it's never coming back. You might be able to get close, but it'll always be there in the back of your head gnawing at you.
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Eugene Buzzspear - Thu, 20 Jul 2017 14:02:29 EST ID:AkBTpOns No.517556 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517549
>where you find you if you're really compatible in the long term

you mean like...as in what you start doing within the first 5 minutes of meeting someone whos a potential partner?

kids are a horrible idea and if they werent, youd both want it and both be in a position to provide for them fully. read the die rather than expecting them to rearrange.


Estranged from family by Thundercunt Jackson - Sat, 15 Jul 2017 20:23:11 EST ID:GV9SUhOg No.517470 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've more or less decided that it's for the best if I disappear from my family. My siblings were the only point to stick around any of them, really, but it's becoming clear that they don't want me around.

For those of you that left your families:

>Why did you do it?

>What impact did you have on you in the short term?

>Long term?

>Do you regret it? Why?


>Any advice in general.
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Phineas Dabbledure - Sun, 16 Jul 2017 14:15:44 EST ID:XS6JMhmD No.517483 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>517470
>Why did you do it?
Dad was an alcoholic drug addict and generally a shitty person.

>What impact did you have on you in the short term?
Happier not having to deal with him or his side of the family.

>Long term?
Way less stressed out, don't feel like I have this anvil hanging over my head.

>Do you regret it? Why?
lol no

>Any advice in general.
Take care of yourself, nobody else will.
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Cedric Drablingnudge - Tue, 18 Jul 2017 05:50:00 EST ID:U8qlldS6 No.517499 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>why
Emotional abuse

>Short term
play it safe

>long term
inability to enjoy life

>regret
no. Life is good.

>Advice

Accept the reality of the situation
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Charlotte Fuckleputch - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 23:12:40 EST ID:1s93+sMm No.517547 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Charlotte Fuckleputch - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 23:25:21 EST ID:1s93+sMm No.517548 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Why did you do it?
Because my family is depressive shits. And I couldn't be who "I am" without their bullshit that goes along with it. I also knew it was time to grow up and become my own person and not some child of so and so. Where I lived also fucking sucked. And also people didn't really care for the kind of person I am where I lived.

>What impact did you have on you in the short term?
Eh, kinda felt a bit shitty. Also felt like I was foaming at the mouth day to day fighting to survive and make it. With no support network, no money, no jerb, and a relatively unwanted skill set, nobody really bothered to help me. Lived like a wild animal for a year of my life afterwards, very limited contact with my family. They weren't really happy about my decision nor my reclusiveness. I also was their only child and they didn't have any friends or shit anymore. I was the life of the household. They divorced shortly after my departure because I wasn't around to make things bearable.

>Long term?
Eh, they probably aren't fairing too well. They split up, got no grandkids, their only child and only reason for living just left. So I'm sure shit spun way the fuck out of control when I left. Both ended up really depressed. I got back on my feet after spending a year or two drowning. And I'm doing what I love and can live free as who I want to be. Quality of life is depressing and worthless when you hate yourself, you're heart is cold, and life is some hostile entity choking you constantly. Fresh air is everything.

>Do you regret it? Why?
Not at all. I hate that it had to be done the way it was but you gotta break eggs to make an omelette. There really was no other way around it. My parents thought about having another kid when I was around 16 or so. And it was blatantly apparent I wasn't sticking around forever so they probably made a mistake there. I had a frank talk to them that I wasn't going to be the kid they wanted, pissed them off, and et-al. Their choices to make. They would be much happier if they still had a homestuck kid that stayed local and married, had kids, got a normal job etc.

>Any advice in general.
Do it but be smart about…
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Isabella Lightville - Thu, 20 Jul 2017 08:04:49 EST ID:jPpWgI0N No.517553 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>Why did you do it?
They're horrible people. Won't have civil arguments to hash out ideas. They don't have the spirit for that. They just shut down if you challenge their ideas, but not until after screaming at you for a while and then go "Really *your name here*, you're so RIDICULOUS sometimes.". Only one I talk to still is my mom, and even she's a stupid, arrogant, manipulative, short sighted bitch. But she gives me money so I put up with it.

>What impact did you have on you in the short term?
Anxiety. Anger. Confusion about why they acted like they did. I knew if I asked I would never get an answer. Because I had already tried. They gaslit me "I have NO idea what you're EVEN talking about right now. You're being absurd. Where is this coming from?" etc. etc. Finally I accepted it like how I accepted when my friends died. It's like an early death. I might see them again one day, but I really, really doubt any good would come of it, I think it would just be another massive, gigantic disappointment. A soul crushing one.

>Long term?
It's been about 4 years since I cut contact. I still think about my family sometimes. I'm still bitter. They planted a malice in me, a hatred. Many lessons of rage were learned through my exposure to these people. Getting over that is hardest.

>Do you regret it? Why? Sometimes. But like I said before, I think regretting it is stupid when I believe that reconnecting would be a disappointment. A soul crushing one.


>Any advice in general. Stay strong. Oh, and no one is coming. No one is coming to help you. So you better help yourself. I'm serious, get this through your head. No one is coming to help you.


How do I stop my father from being a miserable, pessimistic bastard? by OP - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 12:45:43 EST ID:dc+oeNfU No.517521 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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My dad is a very negative person. He's always complaining, whining or moaning. 90% of what he says falls into one of these categories.

He lives alone. I live with my mother and we see him roughly once a week. I don't have any friends or a social life, so the only people I speak to are him and my mother. My mother is great, she's very positive and optimistic. My dad is the complete opposite. Sadly, he also has no social life or friends.

I feel sad for him because I know what it's like being lonely and feeling depressed. But I can't handle it anymore. The 1 day in the week I spend with him is becoming too much of a strain. I feel completely drained after he's visited. His negativity and pessimism are a really bad influence on me, but I can't say anything about it to him because he can not handle criticism whatsoever. If I was to say something, he'd throw a tantrum and be even more bitter for months and months before he'd "forgive" me.

Anyway, is there anyone in a similar situation? What are subtle ways of making him happier or at least less fucking miserable. Thanks.
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OP - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 17:52:59 EST ID:UaYskC8S No.517535 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517531
My father isn't exactly the hugging type. I never saw my mother and father kiss or hug each other when they were still married (they divorced when I was 18). He's not very 'modern' in that regard. In any regard, really.

But yes, I am aware of the probability that he is severely depressed. I know I would be if I lived his life. That's why it's such a difficult situation for me. On the one hand, I hate him for being such a bad influence in my life. On the other hand, I know exactly why he feels and acts the way he does, so I can't hate him because I know he's just a product of his environment and bad decisions. Still, I shouldn't be the one having to pay the price for that.
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Nigel Snodfuck - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 17:55:10 EST ID:zzgztlb9 No.517536 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517534
I feel like deep down you know what you have to do but can't bring yourself to do it. That is entirely up to you. I think you need to talk with people, take your time, take no hasty decision.
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OP - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 18:21:04 EST ID:dc+oeNfU No.517538 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517536
You're right. I know that I have to confront him about his behavior. But I am too afraid to for a number of reasons.

Firstly, he is very touchy and it could backfire big time, leading to even more friction. Secondly, I don't know how or even if he can "heal" himself. He's so bitter, so stuck in his habits and own patterns and way of thinking that it would take a tremendous amount of willpower and discipline and self-knowledge and emotional understand (all things he doesn't possess) to even begin to change. On top of that, I don't know if he wants to change nor am I sure there is anything to change to. Maybe he really just is a pessimistic, bitter person whatever situation he's in.
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OP - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 18:28:04 EST ID:dc+oeNfU No.517539 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517536
Thanks for taking the time to post, by the way. I appreciate it, I hope that's clear.
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David Fonnerway - Thu, 20 Jul 2017 06:30:41 EST ID:zzgztlb9 No.517551 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517539
The pleasure is mine. I've spent half my life in depression, so I can only imagine what he's been going through and how unsufferable it must seem for his immediate family.


Most Sexually Frustrating Night of My Fucking Life by Hedda Clirringleg - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 02:11:07 EST ID:uy3JDE2/ No.517512 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So, I had met this girl that just came back to my City after being in Alabama for like 2 years. She was staying with her cousin because she left an abusive relationship and me and her cousin happened to be very good friends and so she tried to set me and her up. I hit it off with this girl immediately despite her being 28 and me being 23 and her having 2 kids. One day, my friend(her cousin) tried to get her to do H and told her it was coke when she wanted to experiment with a little. I happened to just get off H and be on the Vivitrol shot. She ends up showing me the baggie her cousin gave her and said she sniffed a little and felt weird and I told her it was H(I recognized the design on the bag too from the area) and she moved out of her cousins like 2 days later and claimed to be living with "friends" for about 2 weeks and we dont speak at all. She texts me saying she was trying to fuck, so I went over and we did our thing and a few days later she tells me she's living with her ex-husband who she has an indefinite injunction against and told me she had to move out because she didn't like the fact her cousin was selling drugs, etc and she didn't want to raise her children in that environment. About 3 weeks pass and her cousin gets killed in a car accident and so she's basically trapped at her abusive alcoholic ex-boyfriend's home and both her parents are deceased. This guy beats the shit out of her when he gets drunk and she's really just trying to escape. She's called me, put the phone in her pocket, and told me to listen. I listened to her getting her ass fucking whooped and got extremely upset. I think any man that beats a woman isn't a real man at all. So, we both mutually agreed we have feelings for eachother and we made plans to actually become roommates in a house together and split rent and utilities. So, I am over at her house tonight, her ex-husband is about 2 hours away for work and she invited me to stay with her. I hangout with her the whole day, we were all over eachother all day but didn't do anything considering her kids were around. Like I almost have blue balls because of it. She claimed she wanted weed, I got a friend of mine to smoke us out on d…
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Ebenezer Fuckinglock - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 09:33:51 EST ID:V8Zyw7UU No.517517 Ignore Report Quick Reply
yellowtext That shit if you expect anyone to read

So, I had met this girl that just came back to my City after being in Alabama for like 2 years.
>She was staying with her cousin because she left an abusive relationship and me and her cousin happened to be very good friends and so she tried to set me and her up.
>I hit it off with this girl immediately despite her being 28 and me being 23 and her having 2 kids.
>One day, my friend(her cousin) tried to get her to do H and told her it was coke when she wanted to experiment with a little.
>I happened to just get off H and be on the Vivitrol shot.
>She ends up showing me the baggie her cousin gave her and said she sniffed a little and felt weird and I told her it was H(I recognized the design on the bag too from the area) and she moved out of her cousins like 2 days later and claimed to be living with "friends" for about 2 weeks and we dont speak at all.
>She texts me saying she was trying to fuck, so I went over and we did our thing and a few days later she tells me she's living with her ex-husband who she has an indefinite injunction against and told me she had to move out because she didn't like the fact her cousin was selling drugs, etc and she didn't want to raise her children in that environment.
>About 3 weeks pass and her cousin gets killed in a car accident and so she's basically trapped at her abusive alcoholic ex-boyfriend's home and both her parents are deceased.
>This guy beats the shit out of her when he gets drunk and she's really just trying to escape.
>She's called me, put the phone in her pocket, and told me to listen.
>I listened to her getting her ass fucking whooped and got extremely upset.
>I think any man that beats a woman isn't a real man at all.
>So, we both mutually agreed we have feelings for eachother and we made plans to actually become roommates in a house together and split rent and utilities.
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Ebenezer Fuckinglock - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 09:39:51 EST ID:V8Zyw7UU No.517518 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517517
Ok I read it now

You are her backup-plan and my only advice is to not only get the fuck away from her but also from any other people of that kind if its the kinda crowd you usually hang with.

>H
>Getting high & fuckin around while having 2 kids
>bringing her kids around an abusive alcoholic
>Living with H dealer with her kids
>Wanting to do coke while having kids
Shes bottom of the barrel scum and you will regret starting anything with this girl.
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Simon Duckwell - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 10:18:36 EST ID:iKPa+Mgz No.517519 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517518
Those poor kids.

I don't feel anything for you OP but she's a piece of shit and so is almost everyone she knows. You might not be but if you're willing to chase a woman like this in denial of what a fuckup she is I think you need to take a look at your own life.
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Ernest Nollerwedge - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 15:15:47 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.517529 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517512

tl;dr

You know what a paragraph is?

>>517517

Read this one.

I think OP should go for it.

She has 2 kids, a violent abusive husband, doing heroin/cocaine, probably has no source of income other than putting out, I mean, what could go wrong?

Stuff that snatch OP, save her because you're the only one who can.
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Shitting Honeybury - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 23:07:31 EST ID:s+dE+qb3 No.517545 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>has kids
>future junkie
>moves in with her abusive ex husband under the excuse that "but muh cousin was doing heroin!!!"
L M A O
You and Emma Beckleham from the other thread should date. You're both dealing with people who you really really want to believe are total good souls in bad situations, but really, they're just two faced pricks. Nobody fucking moves out of their cousin's place to live with their fucking physically abusive ex husband just because their cousin snorts some heroin. She's a clinger who needed a male in her life so she put up with the punches for a while, but now you're here and she's ready to intrude on your life next.

You're still young, OP, don't get stuck in this kind of rut.


Getting ready to pack my bags and LEAVE by Jarvis Gublingham - Sun, 02 Jul 2017 13:36:22 EST ID:JsQi4/8G No.517225 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Everything is making me feel shitty and I can't take it anymore.

  1. Hate my job. I'm in a dead end job, where I see no opportunities to better myself. My boss tries to take advantage of me, by paying me less for the work I do. I've had several arguments with her about it.

2. Can't wait for the weekend to come, just to drink until I'm wasted, smoke weed, and find someone to have sex with.

3. That! Happened and I had sex with a guy I met at a bar. We saw each other several times, then he started to ignore me and slowly disappeared. I would go on more in detail to get your opinion about the situation, but it was just that he might have lost interest. I kind of fell for him, but just wanted someone to have a good time with and smoke.

3. Talking to this guy that lives across the world, but really there's no future there. He lives far away, with a 9 hr difference.

4. My closest friends have their life together with kids, stable job, and don't want nothing to do with partying, go randomly to the beach and shit.. Been trying to find people that have the same interests as me, but no luck.

5. My family has always had money, and now we are basically broke. My mom never worked a day in her life, and now she is looking for a job. My dad has parkinsons, a bad knee, and bad back. I live with them, haven't moved out because I've been helping them financially and emotionally, but it's seriously taking a toll on me.

6. My mom is a nervous wreck, and that has rub off on to me and my dad just walks like a zombie asking random questions with no meaning.
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Hugh Hizzlechire - Fri, 14 Jul 2017 07:39:28 EST ID:qKqaUT0t No.517448 Ignore Report Quick Reply
If you want a 1-3 month or so "find-yourself" trip, do drugs and meet other backpackersand party for cheap. Go to south east asia and stay in lowend hostels. Laos , myanmar, indonesia

If you want to go for longer I second the other poster and would recommend one of the poorer european countries. Spain, portugal or southern italy or greece
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Augustus Hovingpork - Sun, 16 Jul 2017 00:51:55 EST ID:D6Nw402O No.517475 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517418
JEEEEZ a fellow colombian is so rare around here

have you thought about going back, even just to travel? what city are u from? paisa here!
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Phoebe Blackfuck - Sun, 16 Jul 2017 08:12:13 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.517479 Ignore Report Quick Reply
There's an easy solution for falling for guys you have sex with who then leave you: you just have to wait to have sex with someone until you love them and think they love you too. People act like it's impossible to wait, but it's not. If you make guys wait, only the ones who are truly interested in you will keep pursuing you. The extended courtship is what allows for a deeper bond to form. A lot of guys assume that if you fuck them easily and quickly then it means you'll do that with anyone and they lose interest. Men still do not like sluts as long term partners no matter what people tell you, and they will assume you are a slut if you fuck them right away. Women who don't understand this end up getting hurt over and over and end up thinking that it's something fundamentally wrong with them. Their self esteem takes a hit and they feel less able to resist the sexual advances of a guy they like for fear of him losing interest. In fact the thing most likely to make him lose interest in you is sleeping with him too quickly.

This won't fix the problem of guys being really nice and engaged and then losing interest because men do that to get sex, it's just an act and it doesn't reflect on you. If you want to know if it's real or not, make them wait. The men who are just putting on a show will disappear, but the ones who actually like you will stick around and a real romance can form.


Also, I think you will regret abandoning your family if they really are in a situation where they can't get by without you. Make sure they are taken care of and will be fine without you before you leave.
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Nigel Baddledock - Sun, 16 Jul 2017 13:38:15 EST ID:iKPa+Mgz No.517482 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517225
All my friends who are my age are at a stage where they're moving on from to where I'm trying to get in life now so I know how being behind goes. Backpacking might find you perspective or you might just be running from your problems and letting the gulf grow.

I don't think you should run away from your family. I think you should try to change things. The current situation isn't sustainable and it's not fair to expect you to look after your kept mother and sick father when you're young.

Okay so as for your job, look for a new one. You have mastered a dead end job and that means you've got a lot of skills and experience that will help you do other jobs.

>>517479
Love takes months. You don't need to wait for months. But weeks. Make them know you have to be comfortable, win their respect, get to know you. A lot of guys will not put up with it but will be happy because they enjoy your company and can see things moving forward. If they don't enjoy that process then they aren't long term relationship material. A lot of guys will still try to have sex with you even if they want a relationship though.

All that said, a lot of people who want a serious relationship also want more than just get wasted and fuck. So I hope you have actual interests to share with that person or maybe they're bailing because you're shallow. I don't know, I suspect you have interests and at worst just hide them because we're all made to feel ashamed of what makes us weird. And with most people their secret shameful passion is the most exciting thing about them in my experience.
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Hugh Crallyhare - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 19:02:04 EST ID:7fC8LtQw No.517542 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517475
not the op but i'm also from Colombia. Guaviare. fucking colombians


Why is she upset? by Betsy Crandersig - Thu, 13 Jul 2017 08:12:59 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.517425 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I have trouble understanding people.

Please help me understand this; me and my ex have maintained a friendship, it was fine then one day I realised that I really wanted to fuck her again I kinda figured that this was a bad thing to do and so I told her and said that maybe we shouldn't be friends. She said no to the fucking as expected but then got very upset about the whole thing, she hasn't got in touch with me since.

Now why would she become so upset about it? I outright said it was a bad idea and the reason I brought it up was for transparencies sake so that she could decide whether to keep the friendship.

So is she upset cause she still has feelings? Is she upset because i've destroyed the friendship?
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Clara Gunningpeck - Tue, 18 Jul 2017 22:59:41 EST ID:FdyA3NfS No.517511 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Eugene Cammershaw - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 11:24:47 EST ID:AurREd88 No.517520 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Betsy Bigglehudge - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 14:39:47 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.517527 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>517510
I just put the moves on her
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Ernest Nollerwedge - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 15:05:25 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.517528 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517510
ITT: u jelly
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Hugh Crallyhare - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 18:59:39 EST ID:7fC8LtQw No.517541 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517486
congrats my boy


so I met this girl... by Doris Bunstone - Tue, 18 Jul 2017 02:15:36 EST ID:xel3HCuT No.517497 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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We met through Tinder, done mdma at my place on our "first date". I thought we were gonna just fuck but we ended up talking all night sharing personal experiences, our view of the world, sexuality etc. and turns out a lot of it correlates with my own which is rare, actually I never met anyone who I could really share things with and feel a connection with on this level.
I have/had a lot of social issues and I'm bi (to an extent, prefer women) - as a result I am very inexperienced in the whole relationships with women department (for a lot of years I mainly hooked up with guys or paid prostitutes, I'm gradually stopping this behavior among other things which I perceive as bad habbits/behaviors in the last couple of years. trying to seriously improve myself). I've had 2 relationships with women who I wasn't too attracted too for various reasons, they both lasted about 3 months.
I told her about this (to an extent) after she told me she was also bi. She's also polygamous and told me that the last guy she was with hurt her and currently she's not seeing anyone else.
During the trip I got a bit too lit, idk, there just wasn't a sexual atmosphere. she kissed me at some point but that's pretty much it. we listened to music/talked/danced and I didn't see any indication she didn't have a good time or she roesn't like me. She also told me that she finds me very attractive and turbs out we have similar fetishes.
Today I'm going away for a week, which I told her when we parted ways after the "date" and told her I want to see her before that. Yesterday she sent me a message like "whew finally this day is over", then when I replied and called her she didn't answer and just "disappeared".
Sent her "good morning, is everything ok?" she replies "yes.." I reply "good. have a pleasent day at work", she replies "thanks <3"
now tbh I'm in a state of struggling with the idea that my self acceptance and self love is not dependt on other people, I am ok, I deserve love, I can love back. She's not "the one", there is no such thing. What I should take from this is that there ARE w…
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Thomas Pickforth - Tue, 18 Jul 2017 09:53:19 EST ID:I+aZpxKk No.517500 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Did you ever consider maybe you were on drugs?
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Barnaby Drommerchodge - Tue, 18 Jul 2017 13:01:42 EST ID:uYRpuiGJ No.517502 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Its hard to swallow but "emotional connections" made on MDMA are mostly fake drug shit in retrospect at least in my experience.

Also Im weirded out by you being able to restrain from fucking her when rolling.
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Lydia Bimblewell - Tue, 18 Jul 2017 17:30:01 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.517505 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517502
100%, I knew a guy and we became like brothers we loved eachother, then i remembered i'd been snorting cathinones with him daily for 5 months, he was still a chill guy but once we stopped it wasn't the friendship it once was.

On the other hand though I had like 100 tabs of acid once and met a girl, we ended up taking a lot of acid together for a few weeks, i thought once the acid ran out it would all be over and I was okay with that but it turned out to be fine actually and I stayed with her for 3 years after that.

So OP if you like her try see her again, if you don't want to see her the conclusions that you've come to are not bad ones to hold onto even if they're warped by drugs, through my own experiences with drugs i've formed new opinions and although they're warped by drugs i feel they make me a better person, for example i am now more confident and open. So if you feel better about women now then hold onto that thought.

Also from your post you seem like you may be becoming a little obsessive since you decided to mention you texted her and she dissapeared, play the chill guy who cares just enough but not too much if you want this encounter to lead to anything.
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Beatrice Blythedale - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 09:01:06 EST ID:iSfa9wBW No.517516 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517505
>play the chill guy who cares just enough but not too much if you want this encounter to lead to anything.
yesteday she called me then right away went "sorry I have a weird incoming call, I'll call you in a few minutes" then never did. texted her "?" two hours later, she replies "sorry, couldn't call back, I'll call in two hours *kiss*" then again nothing.
so at this point it seems she's into shit testing. I'm gonna wait until she contacts me, best idea is to give her some space right? she's clearly playing games.
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Betsy Bigglehudge - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 13:26:21 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.517524 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517516
Yeah I'd just leave it.

She could've been having fun that night but maybe woke up with regrets, i've sometimes felt weird waking up after a drug session even if nothing bad happened.


Dealing with giftedness by Ian Gozzlebury - Wed, 12 Jul 2017 09:10:48 EST ID:zzgztlb9 No.517372 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Other gifted persons here? I was a considered an extremely gifted child, scored 155 on an IQ test (WS3) when I was 9 then I got to skip a class because I was bored in class.

Eventually graduated from high school but never really could succeed in the academic fields because of how hyperspecialised everything feels. I was wondering if others always felt somewhat different from typical people, in the way you think or perceive things. Keep in mind who normal people "normies" are.
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Martin Breblingpedge - Tue, 18 Jul 2017 21:46:28 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.517508 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517507
why in the fuck would they score somebody solely in relation to the scores of the other children in their particular school?
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Martin Breblingpedge - Tue, 18 Jul 2017 21:47:08 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.517509 Ignore Report Quick Reply
when talking about IQ, i mean.
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Polly Gibbercocke - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 02:38:21 EST ID:1s93+sMm No.517513 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I connected all the dots on the school scantron tests and get suspended each year because the teachers had to fix them. I did okay in school probably mostly A's with some B's. But then again, corporal punishment was the response my parents had to C's or lower. I also went to school with gang bangers so just turning in the work alone was passing.

I'm probably pretty dumb. I can't keep up with social conversations well. I have no friends and never really had any to begin with. Also, crazy eyes keeps people away.
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Archie Tillingcocke - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 03:24:27 EST ID:jPpWgI0N No.517514 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517372
I feel you bro. Mines only 132. But I still feel like an alien with most people. I have a diagnosis of aspergers but I don't think that's what's wrong with me. I think I have ptsd from childhood trauma and have difficulty forming connections because anyone would have difficulty forming connections with people who are the same distance from me as retards are from normal people. It must be worse for you I imagine.
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George Cricklemotch - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 07:30:12 EST ID:nR9NKcat No.517515 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>517508
because that's how it is supposed to work. a certain amount of people score in the upper quartile and a certain amount of people are supposed to score in the lower quartile. if you plotted all of the scores i doubt that it would make a nice neat curve like in pic.


Need a real job, fast by Rebecca Tootham - Tue, 27 Jun 2017 01:14:32 EST ID:vKvaev27 No.517086 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've posted a little on here recently so some of this might sound familiar, but not about this particularly.

I'm on probation for a misdemeanor offense. I was working for a few months as a machinist apprentice, i made okay money but it was fucking asinine. They had me on a surface grinder, the work was extremely dangerous, and the dude training me was a total bonehead who gave no fucks. Very dangerous accidents happened on a weekly basis, i'm surprised I didnt end up in ER or worse.

I spent a night in jail over memorial day, got caught drinking on probation (wasnt even driving) which is trouble, spent the night in jail, lost my job when I came back but was expecting to anyways because i kept fucking shit up.

That same week I got this sketchy under-the-table pizza delivery job, I dont make that much but I make enough to get by. The hours are bullshit, the other employees are total fucking douchebags. They dont show up for their shifts half of the time and I end up working 11-13 hours a few days out of the week. The owners are a mexican family and I grocery shop at the mexican store by my house and they love me, they say im the only good white person that works their and they think im a hard worker and that everyone else is a loser bum, they tell me almost every shift that i'm ambitious and will go places in life.

Theyre good people but I need a good job. This is paying the bills but i'm barely scraping by. I want to take a weekend off but no one will cover me even though I cover shifts for people on a weekly basis.

So I started applying places. I've had a construction apprenticeship interview. Seemed very promising. Went for over a half hour, the job was restoring historic buildings down town. I'd love this job. "We need to run a background check and we'll get file the paperwork for a drug test after." Called them next week, they "Found a different candidate they were interested in"

Last week. I had an interview at this warehouse for order selecting. The work is shit, but im just looking for a decent job at this point. The Interview was very promising, it went over an hour and I got a tour of the place. I answered all of the questions good and had some decent questions about the history of the company, and shown that I did some research too. At the end of the interview, I asked how many people they were interviewing, how many positions were open, and when I would know. "We have 6 applicants and 2 positions we're looking to fill" He said. "You should hear from us by Friday or next monday, we're looking to fill it quick"

I walked out with my head held high, knowing I probably would be turned down after they ran my name and saw I was on probation and spent a night in jail recently. Its now midnight on Monday, I never heard back.
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Hedda Gandertitch - Fri, 07 Jul 2017 12:31:13 EST ID:nXxNvgb9 No.517297 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517295
Call the company and ask why you were no good. Get feedback, be dignified. If you don't ever get feedback you can apply and turn up all day, you'll never get anywhere. It could be something stupid and simple that you just wouldn't think of. Or maybe it is bullshit and you got screwed but at least you'd known.
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Caroline Trotfoot - Sat, 08 Jul 2017 00:25:26 EST ID:A/W0mtJV No.517301 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517295

>shooting his mouth off all day about how hes gonna become a supervisor here and make 100 grand a year.

why would you think this is a good idea
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Barnaby Brennerpuck - Sat, 08 Jul 2017 11:10:57 EST ID:JscnHsCp No.517307 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517301
They kept saying they always promote from within and like for their employees to stick around and be successful their and stuff like that. I thought id seem motivated.
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Nigel Hemmerhidging - Tue, 18 Jul 2017 01:30:50 EST ID:9kDuEtyA No.517496 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517295
Sleeping on the job is completely fucking retarded, even if it was on break. ALSO - when you're at work, just work. Don't go out of your way to make friends or be popular, just keep your head down, do your work and collect your paycheck, you're obviously too socially retarded at this point in time to handle workplace politics.
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Thomas Pickforth - Tue, 18 Jul 2017 09:55:15 EST ID:I+aZpxKk No.517501 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517301

Yeah OP, you fucked up. Next time just shut up and show them you know how to work, while also being pleasant to talk to when in a social situation


I'm so fucking weary by Lenoh !UWuatltY0U - Thu, 22 Jun 2017 05:38:57 EST ID:66UWXbaL No.517006 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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> No gf, the last four (in 14 years, avg relationship length 7-8mo) have fucked me over in different ways
> Literally no friends (ones that I thought were good friends fucked me over last year for hotel room costs because they wanted to be stingy)
> In constant pain (if it's not my back due to scoliosis when I was 12, it's my mouth due to botched dental surgery a couple years back)
> Dead end security job with no real advancement opportunities and no real non-volunteer experience besides that (pic VERY related, it may be contributing to no gf and no friends)
> Tired all the fucking time, tried weed, that doesn't help and could get me fired from aforementioned job. Trying melatonin but just waking up feeling like I got hit by a steamroller and can still hear the WRYYYYYYYY
> Can't get laid, don't know why, everyone thinks I'm cute, and can't afford a hooker either because I'm afraid of getting a girl preg and/or catching AIDS and my job doesn't pay near enough
> Can't even see a shrink because Medicare (yes, MEDICARE) is dicking me over and I can't afford to pay for my appointments
> And the worst part? It took me 3 hours to write this because one of my biggest fears is having to ask for help and having someone call in the men in clean white coats to lock me in a mental ward

Seriously how fucked up am I
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Lenoh !UWuatltY0U - Wed, 28 Jun 2017 20:32:36 EST ID:66UWXbaL No.517120 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Update: Had 2 hits on Tinder. First was a black girl using Tinder for prostitution. Second was actually rather nice and we're friends on Telegram now. Only downside is she's taking 3 months away from the area (going to the East Coast apparently) and won't be free to hang out during that time.

So...square one for at least the next three months? Still trying...
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Oliver Nudgetet - Thu, 29 Jun 2017 23:51:47 EST ID:d92XJxk3 No.517155 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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get 2yr IT degree faggot

https://vimeo.com/222993301
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Lenoh !UWuatltY0U - Fri, 07 Jul 2017 18:54:21 EST ID:66UWXbaL No.517300 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Found a shrink!
See him on the 17th.
Hopefully good news but not holding breath, this may be a "pick oneself up by the bootstraps" thing.
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Nathaniel Hodgeshit - Sat, 08 Jul 2017 13:23:59 EST ID:wXldPDDM No.517310 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517006
I hope you feel better, OP
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Lenoh !UWuatltY0U - Tue, 18 Jul 2017 04:43:24 EST ID:66UWXbaL No.517498 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Found some answers from shrink and mom. Fixing two of my bitchings in the OP post. (Well, one and a half.)

Still, progress. Thanks, /qq/!


Stuck by Emma Geblingchotch - Tue, 11 Jul 2017 18:24:26 EST ID:zhekDbGC No.517366 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>Fucked up, on probation
>have *severe* anger management issues, to the point where im on probation because of it
>took a 12 week anger management course, identified that the current source of all my anger is my apartment and my roommate, which is a very toxic environment
>Lease up up August 31st
>Deliver pizzas, have some technical skills, Cant get a real job because I'm on probation, have a few leads but its already almost mid-july
>Can easily have an apartment by October 1st, but that leaves me homeless for a month
>Homeless on probation=Revoked probation, Jail for 9 months
>Saw my PO today and talked about moving
>She told me I can't move to my parents, to close to victim of the crime i committed (it was their neighbor)
>Tells me I can move to my grandmas if I need to
>Grandma is 85, doesnt know im on probation, dont necessarily want to tell her that I am, she would flip out, she would have to meet my PO for a house visit if I move
>None of my friends really live in the county anymore, i have to live in the county. So thats out of the option. I have 1 friend but he smokes hella weed and I dont want my po to see his house, she'd be very suspicious
>The only thing I can think of is living in the boarding home down the street, where all the heroin addicts and fat ghetto black chicks live

Sorry if this all seems familiar, i posted alot here over the years. I need to figure this shit out like this week.
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Hamilton Chucklelock - Thu, 13 Jul 2017 00:24:09 EST ID:VZnfLdL3 No.517413 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You've probably gotta just deal with it and tell your grandma you're on probation. Are you the guy with the pedo next door?
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Edwin Huffingtidging - Thu, 13 Jul 2017 00:58:49 EST ID:ibwJUkSC No.517415 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517413
Yup same story
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Albert Fovingforth - Sun, 16 Jul 2017 19:11:20 EST ID:9AqpqDyc No.517485 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP you listen to Big KRIT?
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Simon Weggleman - Mon, 17 Jul 2017 15:03:31 EST ID:FwheuJ8x No.517494 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>only thing I can think of is living in the boarding home down the street, where all the heroin addicts and fat ghetto black chicks live

Who do you think lives in jail? Or even the street/shelter for that matter?

At the very least 1 month beats 9.


Setting up TAILS for a potential party van candidate by Hedda Bomblechure - Fri, 14 Jul 2017 23:49:25 EST ID:3WUBtv6t No.517461 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>TLDR:
>as a kid found highly suspect child exploitation material on my dad's computer more than once (15 years ago or so)
>he has also travelled extensively to places in SEA known for child exploitation, which could be unrelated...
>never came to a conclusion about what if anything to do about this
>recently he has asked me to set up TAILS for him after I mentioned it in the context of DNMs
>claims he wants it to avoid the tax department snooping on his emails (I know he does own property overseas, probably other investments too)
>I can't help but think he's not just avoiding the tax department, but the party van too.
>what do?

I might make a second post with details, at the moment my post keeps getting flagged for banned words and I'm not sure which one it is.
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Hedda Bomblechure - Fri, 14 Jul 2017 23:57:54 EST ID:3WUBtv6t No.517462 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517461
Probably relevent detail: often when we'd go to pick him up at the airport he'd take 4 hours in customs. He mentioned them disassembling his electronics and going through his camera. He claimed this was due to being on a government watchlist due to political activism in the 70s/80s (on paper this watchlist was erased after various laws changed, in reality who knows). In fairness he also looks like exactly the sort of person you would target, 40-50 with long fair.
Just thought this was relevant to whether he's being watched by more than the tax department.
If anyone wants more detail I can go in to that, but I'm really more interested in the moral quandary of providing anonymity for questionable purposes than the true /qq/ "how the fuck do I deal with this?" stuff, because basically I've thought about it a lot and I can't prove anything, all I could do is confront him. I've taken the mature measure of sticking my fingers in my ears and pretending it never happened...
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Wesley Dicklebodge - Sat, 15 Jul 2017 13:33:56 EST ID:fX99t0fX No.517466 Ignore Report Quick Reply
keep an eye on him via remote access account, if he starts to do CP related activities tell him to get therapy.
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Thomas Sobberhall - Mon, 17 Jul 2017 09:23:36 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.517492 Ignore Report Quick Reply
well, you just got to ask yourself whether you want him to go to jail over this or not. If he's already seeking out cp, setting up TAILS for him isn't going to do anything but make him less likely to go to jail for it.
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Reuben Sullytin - Mon, 17 Jul 2017 14:47:28 EST ID:TuR6hHE1 No.517493 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Yeah man, it's a really bad buzz. I found searches on limewire for CP when I was growing up with my brother. Never confronted him about it but told my sister and one time blurted it out when I was having an argument with my dad. Been a long time since I've thought about this and it's something I've only ever told 2 other people, one of them killed themselves so I guess now it's only my ex that knows outside of the family. I don't know if my sis thinks about it much but I have a feeling my dad is able to push it out of his mind.

My dad confronted him about it and my brothers excuse was that he just downloaded things at random. But what I found was searches, rather than videos. So I know it's exactly what he was looking for. As horrific as a bus that this was, I grew up spending WAY more time on the internet than my brother, and while I can say I never actively looked shit up, I DID spend time on motherless when it was a bit more oldschool than it is now, and loli hentai isn't my thing but it's hard to avoid it sometimes considering the age of most characters in anime. So despite growing up with some pretty shady stuff and loli hentai, that shit got left behind when I grew up a bit. I'm open to thinking that my brother is the same. He's married now. My pornography habits have kind of calcified and left all the proper weird shit behind, I have a feeling that the same thing has happened to him and he's not a true pedo. Maybe I'm wrong though.

When I was younger I used to make dumb little youtube videos myself, and one day I found out that basically 80% of my subscribers were pedos. Only subscribed to young boys, and all their favorites were videos of topless boys playing in pools and shit. I think both these things had an impact on me because I went through a phase of thinking EVERYONE was a pedo. Didn't really help that I was spending so much time on the future at the time which put "loli" shit on a bit of a pedestal. "Blind Mute Loli" and all that sort of stuff back then. I defo had a bit of a trivialized attitude to all that shit.

I do have some questions about what it was exactly you found on your computer, but if there's a…
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Henry Mamblefidge - Tue, 18 Jul 2017 13:09:29 EST ID:bwJOb6Ln No.517503 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Sonic is faster


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