Beg? Play guitar? Look for odd jobs on craigslist?

Just be the most polite and charming that you can be.

700 in two weeks is rough, dude.

40 hours a week at $10 an hour would get you $800 before taxes.

But a lot of places make you wait an extra pay period to get you first paycheck or something gay like that.

Best bet is under the table, but I have no idea what. Or just get some student loan bullshit and then worry about it later.

>>400183
You could do it by begging an average of $50 a day.

Easiest way to do that would probably be the gas can scheme, or the homeless-person-with-dog tactic. In a big city it could be done.

>>400186
Some places weren't hiring but how long does it usually take when a place is hiring to conduct interviews? It seems way too long. The jobs I applied for are all general labour. I'm 22 and I've had a lot of different jobs. I think they don't want to hire summer students at all.

>>400150
No. Not everyone is like that. Many are, many are not. That's a fact of every attribute. Regardless, justifying your actions by saying "Well, they do it so it's OK for me to do it too" is foolish.

A lot of this board makes sense when threads like this are taken into account. It's sad when the artificial song and dance is the fundamental common ground of many in society, while the natural beauty of the self is hidden away. Pearls before swine in some cases, but it's no different than growing a plant and bringing it inside when it flowers.

Do what comes naturally to you. If you desire something and it's not there within you to do so then keep doing what does come to you. You'll make your way there sooner or later. Besides, don't you have anything better to do than chase sex and other physical comforts?

>>400152

Im not saying it's bad that we put on this show and dance, im just saying it happens.

If you're not a confident person 'doing what comes natural' will never ever change that. You have to work and pretend and put on an illusion of confidence until you get there. Fake it until you become it. Until it feels natural.

This doesn't just apply to chasing women, this applies tovall aspects of life.

>>400156
Symbolic Interactionism

>>400179
Watch as I symbolically put my head on my desk.

>>400156

I understand where you're coming from. But, all that work and faking is done because you, me and everyone else who buys into that shit is not doing what THEY want to do, undefined by the expectations and significant influences of others and the mainstream as a whole. It's not easy to think for yourself, and even harder to do.

Just listen to this.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t-ne_H5HL88&feature=youtube_gdata_player

In my experience, you can't do anything to make a girl like you. Either they do or they don't. With any given girl you get once chance every random time cycle. What I mean is that if circumstances work out so that you lose touch with a girl for a while, she might like you the next time around.

But if you know a girl well after a long period of time, and you're still not "together," the chances of her suddenly wanting to commit to anything are slim. And such relationships, when they do form, are short-lived.

>>400130

I'm going to have to highly doubt they had the same desires, wishes, or probably even the same intellect that we do. They were worried about survival, we've long since stopped having to worry about that in developed countries.

>>400005

> Honestly though, I find the majority of people so uninteresting. They talk, but they don't talk about anything worth saying.

Everyone has something interesting to say. That something is just different for everyone. Sometimes you have to dig.
I like hearing about the unique experiences of others. I'm not interested in their hobbies or what they did over the weekend, I just like hearing about the unique perspective they have to offer. It might be on a death in the family, or going to war, or having worked in an old person's home doing the dirty work, etc. All of that is valuable to me personally.

Find something of value to you in that way.

>>400148

If your work is what interests you, then you're killing two birds with one stone.
Ever hear the old adage if you do what you love you'll never work a day in your life? Well, that's not realistic for everyone, but if you can find a way to make money off of your pleasures, then you have a recipe for a fulfilling life.

If what you want is simply never to work, then pick a job you somewhat like and count the days until retirement.

>>400119
i'm well aware that you don't just get your degree and live happily ever after. i'm also aware that living off baked beans and dragging your way up may very well be something you are entirely uninterested in. when i said "pick one", i was merely suggesting you at least put some effort into attempting to find something that will pay the bills that you DON'T hate.

much like yourself, i don't plan on living the generic school>work>retire>death life. what i am suggesting is that you make a smart investment so that you could at least be somewhat satisfied with your time in the workforce.

to me, achieving real love is what i perceive to be fulfilling in life. on top of this, i was also told in high school that i could not become a doctor. being a doctor is something i have wanted to do since i WAS learning to colour in-between the lines. but i told those cunts to get fucked, and now i am studying biomedical science at a highly regarded university as a undergrad before i attempt to enter in their graduate medical course. among my peers, my average is considerably high and i am working towards this career with a now realistic possibility of doing so.

i'm not trying to sound like will smith in one of his inspirational films. i'm not trying to toot my own horn by making myself an example of somebody who knows how to live. fuck man, there is a very probably chance that i won't make it all the way to attaining a medical license, let alone be eligible to study medicine. i'm just suggesting that there are ways to improve your life, and you seem so content on ignoring the fact that life can be enjoyable.

i may have not taken as many steps in the 'real' world, sure, i'll give you that. i do work and study hard, but i have never felt strong financial hardships, and i don't believe that i'll ever be in a likely position where i could end up homeless. however, i don't believe that i am too innocent to understand how things work. i have felt real pain. again, i don't want to sound as if i am talking myself up, but i would say that i am aware of the fact that life is hard and not always happy.

happiness is not like an orgasm. it comes and goes, but if you are living the way you really want to then that orgasm can be continued almost indefinitely. sure, happiness will fluctuate, it would be meaningless if it didn't.

the problem i see with you is that you're all about work, work, work. money makes the world go round, i'm not denying our capitalistic nature, but as other posters said, you are letting your work define your life, and it does not.

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If you want to shit on people, you have to let them shit on you first.

>>400075
I think you've drawn my answer into your argument rather than seeing from my perspective...

I'm telling you to do something generally considered immoral to make enough money to enjoy your life. Taboo and morality (and prohibition, but you're looking for a better lifestyle not extra stress) create market niches that are inherently skewed in favor of the supplier of those taboo products/services as a result of such few people being willing to fill that role.

See: Bumfight video sales

I would say, just fuck her.. Don't get into a relationship with her, because she might end up doing the same to you

>>399536
id never trust a bitch who talks bad about there relationship to other guys like that. maybe she just needed some more dick tho.

I feel like this thread got really angry really quickly. Maybe I'm being too optimistic here but It doesn't sound like this girl was out looking for anything, or trying to find a new guy. She was in a crummy relationship, she met some random new guy through a friend, and she really liked him. I don't remember OP saying anything about fucking her, or anything really past talking to her (until this last update of course). So she met some guy she liked more, broke up with her bf, and got with OP? That's not cheating, that's how life works. Tough shit other guy, we can't all be winners all the time. Good luck OP, I hope this brings you much happiness.

female here; I think you should go for it.

I'm actually in a similar situation. I have a boyfriend, but I met this guy at a party and we hit it off really well. We have a lot more common interests, and I do have to admit that I am way more physically attracted to him than my boyfriend. I feel badly because my boyfriend does take care of me, but there's no passion or interesting conversation. He also acts weird at times in a way that makes me feel uncomfortable, like he's mildly irritated with me a lot and he always sees things differently than I do. It really annoys me how often he tells me to "chill out" when I'm just trying to have a philosophical conversation or talk about literature or something. I would probably break up with my boyfriend if this other guy really pursued me. I think we could be happy and have fun together. I want someone to tell him to go for it...

>>400176
It's not always a matter of just getting fucked. I've never cheated on anyone, but you can't help when someone you think is special walks into your life unexpectedly while you're in a failing relationship. OP, it sounds like this girl's boyfriend doesn't make her as happy as you apparently do, and that absolutely does not make her a bad person. So go for it. Just make sure she breaks up with her boyfriend before you start being romantic.

>>400074

Holy shit man. Holy shit.

I voluntarily committed myself once. Big, big mistake.

My therapist and my psychiatric nurse got me out of there in like 3 days though. I owe them big time.

>>400134

btw the therapist and nurse had nothing to do with the hospital to which I was confined.

And actually, I didn't even know I was committing myself until it was too late. The hospital basically tricked me, so I should've put "voluntary" in quotes.

>>400136
I've been hospitalized three times, no joke.

Never give up, never surrender.

>>400138

Me too. They make it so fucking difficult to get help. Say anything slightly related to suicide, and bam, "I'm sorry, but legally I have to call the police or 'crisis intervention team'." I'm glad I found a bunch of good, non-professional support, because I've vowed to never see a doctor for mental health again.

Frankly, I have no time for idiots who don't know what a diet is.
Diet = what you eat on a controlled and frequent basis.

For example: I want to "tack on mass" so I eat more carbs and have a higher calorie intake. It's just a description.

Stupid people who run on basic semantics only will hear "diet" and assume weakness. This is because they themselves are weak and project this without any awareness of their psychological slips. To have any semblance of a routine diet is to be a cut above these moronic plebeians. Bonus points if you have a specific exercise routine also. It's not a matter of losing or gaining weight, but showing consideration for the things you take in on a chemical/nutritional level.

>>399636
It's your girlfriend's body, OP, not yours. Let her do as she wants with it. End of story.
The last thing a woman wants is a man policing her body. You should tell her how you feel, but it's not your place to tell her what to do with her body.

>>399636
here's how u get ur girlfriend to start caring about her own weight. u need to start focusing on ur weight and diet and she will follow. start eating healthier snacks and meals etc. let her see u doing workouts urself. if u are already in shape then u have to motivate her so she can motivate herself. suggest cooking together and making meals together so instead of looking like u just want her to lose weight, while u are, ur also bonding better with ur girl and eating healthier. she won't want to do this shit alone. telling her she needs to diet better and all that shit isn't going to get her to do shit just maker her feel more pressured. if u can walk to a movie or walk to get something to eat instead of drive do that. instead of going to see a movie when u guys are both off of work. say u were thinking about going for a hike and ask her to come along with u. basically just suggest doing something new. if u do this long enough and she will start to see results eventually she will start pushing her ownself. set goals for urself so she will want to do the same. just give her a little push.

Damn this thread is still on the first page?
I guess I'll update it then.
So I explained, slightly, just slightly, to her relief, that it's not like I have lost feelings for her. It's a physical aspect. She took it alright She actually told me the whole weight-loss thing was on her mind and me bringing it up gave her the motivation she needed. and the next day told me she was going on this retarded diet based on some app she downloaded on her phone.
She told me I was supposed to support her in this, so I didn't criticize her much on her decision (I'm that guy who always has his opinion on something, so I tried to stay out of it for once)
Anyway, it was obviously a stupid diet and she texts me today (a day after she starts the diet) that she's not doing it anymore.
I tell her I'm glad because it was a hella dumb diet. it didn't even CONSIDER the sodium intake (some of the options for food was beef/turkey/etc jerky and her diet involved daily cold cuts) or anything else besides cutting shit like candy/soda and keeping cals down. More unhealthy than it's worth.
ANYWAY we're now planning a way to exercise more together and she's not on any strict diet but says she's going to try and place more restrictions on things.
For the record, I DO have a six pack, ya nerds. I go to the gym often but she's awfully afraid of using weights for some reason. Whatever. We'll stick to cardio and see where it goes.

>>400170

Man, stumptuous.com and Zuzka Light (or whatever the fuck she calls herself now) are your best friends.

>>400147
Actually, I did ask her out once, several years ago in high school. I threw a totally awesome party, got laid twice, and as everyone was asleep she and I laid down together. I still remember that night. I could just barely see her outline. But even in the dark her blue eyes struck me as something unnatural. "why are you lookin at me like that?" I asked. she giggled and said "I dont know." then we just stared at each other for a solid five seconds before her and I started making out. But it went no further... I definitely could have gone farther.......... but i didn't. i fucking didn't. i just passed out next to her like a drunken idiot. then some time after, her and I went out to get some things sometime around 10pm and after (as friends? well it was only her and I and we weren't friends like that so I'm sure she was interested) . I did nothing. but that was high school and I was shy. it was only a little bit after that I was able to grow a pair and ask her out, at which point she said she considers me as only her friend. that's right, welcome to the cakefart bitch.

But i'm not the same guy I used to be. I always had a pair but when it came to girls, i don't know. I held back a lot I suppose. I could say something to someone who's wrongfully picking on someone who i don't even know, get my ass whooped trying, and still be nervous talking to a girl I like. But not now. And I hope she hasn't changed and if she has, that it's for the better. I hope I haven't missed yet another opportunity.

oh and I hope i didn't lose my /qq/ privileges for 1 month because i think i'd like to stay a while. i like the support i'm getting. it's the only support i have besides what i give to myself.
pic related. nb

>>400151
You need to find what it is that satisfies you in life. As it stands you seem to be squeezing apples and expecting orange juice, so to speak.

There's no I in the past. Have you heard that before? There's nothing in the past you cannot find in the now. Everything you are and perceive is shaped by your experiences. There's no need to hold on to what you already are.

For what it's worth she obviously isn't who you think she is either. Do you sincerely believe that she doesn't realize the same things you do?

People simply cannot see things the way you do. If you genuinely do what you feel is right then nothing else should matter. As long as you look to others for validation and acceptance you will not be.

>>400154
If I can do what you said I should do then the only thing hanging over me is how to deal with feeling shitty about all of it. cause i cannot work out like this. i need to eat and sleep. I try not to think about it. I try to change my perspective to something like what you're saying. Sometimes that works. other times not so much.

>>400161
I couldn't really tell you. You can't change who you are, but you can discover and develop aspects of yourself that you haven't realized. Their relationship is something there, undoubtedly. Who's to say that you and her do not posses a relationship similar in nature, though in appreciation of you as the person you contrast to him as.

You can study yourself in contrast to all the people you know, find what you don't like and use that to align yourself towards what you do.

As for the issue you immediately face: you do not need to eat to work out, you consume to redevelop and refine what you were. You do not need to sleep to work out, you dream so that you may begin again with everything you've developed until that moment.

These moments are an exercise in spirit. What you seek is there, but what you perceive is not your own. You need to find what it is you desire as it is in your life.

>>400162

thank you. it's sort of funny, you remind me of my friend. you are the epitome of what he aims to be. the difference is clear though. your insight is genuine and helpful.

i feel this is all the help i need. im supposed to do the rest.

Well that sucks man, but it seems to me like you only have two choices, be miserable your whole life because of it, or learn to live with it and find happiness.

There are plenty of happy, successful ugly people. They even find love, the myth that you have to be attractive to have a meaningful relationship is a fat lie. You just have to work harder to find the people who aren't fucks.

Good luck to you sir

>>400144

Three choices. What the other guy said, plus, you can always devote a large portion of your life to developing a high level of physical fitness related to a specific physical discipline. Your body will reflect this, and even very attractive women will be willing to overlook your face in light of it.

You can always find a happy medium between the three.

>>400144
Have you considered looking into Body Dysmorphic Disorder?

>>400157
This is what OP has and what I struggled with for a while. I'm stick-thin. I hate it. I still do, but now at least I know it's not my fault (lol genetics and lol illness.)

OP, you can't really do much about how you look. Yes, it's a "big deal" and nothing I nor anyone else on this board will say will make you okay with it. It's something you have to deal with. Not in that "man up bitch nigga" way, but... you kind of have to accept it. I have a big nose and big lips, my girlfriends weigh more than I do, etc. I'm not in love with it by a long shot, but it defines who I am. It's me in the purest form. I have to play it off like it's not a big deal because if I let it become a big deal, then it's just working against me. I can sit here and bitch to myself about every little detail I'd change but it's not really doing me much good and at the end of the day I'm still me.

Looks really aren't everything. People uglier than you find love.

Have you considered talking to a therapist about it? How about working out?

>>400159
Listen to this guy OP, this is solid advice.

And you know, everyone is fucking self conscious about their physical appearance on some level. You just gotta get over it, I mean shit, your born that way. Not much else to do but move forward. At least you didn't make yourself ugly by choice like some people.

Hell, I'm thin as a rail and way too tall, I wear pants and long sleeves more often than not because it makes me feel weak. But I'm getting over it, cause you know, the physical shit really doesn't matter after the first 10 minutes of talking to someone.

At least you don't have cancer tumors on your face.