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#qq on IRC by Mintzs !GD3wBpep0Y - Sun, 13 Aug 2017 12:14:49 EST ID:d5kHsYag No.518069 Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hi folks,

If you're looking to talk to someone immediately about any problems you have in your life and have nobody close to you, come and speak to us!

Join us on IRC on #qq. Most of us have different time zones but if you stay there, one of us will be there.

Don't be afraid to speak up.
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Phyllis Sozzlestod - Sun, 23 Sep 2018 21:04:54 EST ID:dVp8iHEG No.526777 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Nah he should just evade and post pictures of his scrotum in retaliation
Ernest Ferryseck - Mon, 08 Oct 2018 18:37:40 EST ID:NJkLq9MW No.527056 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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i had to draw this in order to get unbanned. i was like nigga you want me to draw what
Beatrice Hengermire - Mon, 15 Oct 2018 23:30:30 EST ID:fMWa6u7G No.527196 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Fuck. Thanks for the good idea, I should've used that to get unbanned before. Oh well, next time.

Is he cheating? by Nicholas Ceffingstug - Mon, 15 Oct 2018 18:00:25 EST ID:BQvANHRE No.527183 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey guys.

32/f in a long distance relationship with 30/m. You’d think I’d have this all figured out by now, but I’m starting to think that never happens.

I’ve been dating this guy for about six months. We spent almost every day together this summer, but in August he moved 8 hours away for law school. I knew going into this that this first year would be difficult. I can handle not being able to see each other a lot, or even talking as much as I’d like. I haven’t felt insecure or worried at all so far.

Until this weekend.

I’m not on birth control, so we use condoms. I went to see him for a few days in September, and he had a new box of 12 condoms. We had sex 4 or 5 times and used one condom each time. The box was still mostly full when I left. I didn’t count them, but logically there should’ve been like 7-8 left.

Well... I went to see him again this past weekend. Naturally we had sex again right away, but when I went to grab a condom, there were only four left and the box was gone. I figured he had just split them up or something and didn’t think anything of it at first.

But later, I saw the empty box in the trash. I couldn’t help but wonder, so I brought it up. Our conversation was brief and straightforward. Neither of us got upset or anything either.

He said he was “pretty sure” we had used multiple condoms the last time I was there, and he thought there should’ve been more leftover too but he definitely hadn’t cheated on me. Then he said he had been too busy to do anything anyway, and that the only girl he had seen in the past month was his neighbor, who had come over to study. That made me a little uncomfortable, because in my experience inviting someone over to study is usually code for sex... but then he was like, “and she smokes so I’d never hook up with her.”
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Alice Henningnedge - Tue, 16 Oct 2018 14:50:35 EST ID:USUZpST+ No.527225 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I'm not really sure what you think you're doing right now but I don't think you're coming across as well as you imagine.
Jarvis Fuckingworth - Tue, 16 Oct 2018 15:06:24 EST ID:BQvANHRE No.527228 Ignore Report Quick Reply

He wants to be an immigration lawyer, not a defense attorney. He’s never lied before or given me any reason not to trust him. Outside of missing condoms our relationship has been great, and there are other explanations for the condoms.

Yes, it’s possible he’s lying and cheating. But there’s no reason to assume that given what I know so far.

I regret this post so much. Haha
Barnaby Surryhood - Tue, 16 Oct 2018 15:46:30 EST ID:IV9dlIIT No.527230 Ignore Report Quick Reply
don't have sex next time you drive there. let's see if you really do it out of love.
Barnaby Surryhood - Tue, 16 Oct 2018 15:47:39 EST ID:IV9dlIIT No.527231 Ignore Report Quick Reply
don't have sex next time you drive there. let's see if you really do it out of love.

do you know what "love" is? tell me, because to do it for that reason, you defined it haven't you?
Cornelius Feshtetch - Tue, 16 Oct 2018 16:15:39 EST ID:GBoUEPoV No.527232 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>Don't have sex next time you drive there
>Don't have sex on every drive. I bet you do anyway.
>let's see if you really do it out of love.
>do you know what "love" is? tell me, because to do it for that reason, you defined it haven't you?
>A lawyer in training? He better be good at lying.

You know, when you put all your posts back to back, you read like a totally normal, well adjusted human being that doesn't have any issues with his insecurities. I wish you all the best.

OP stop worrying. You're nitpicking at a question that probably flew right over his head, hence his casual answer. He didn't think much of the condoms missing, and he didn't think much of your neighbour, ya'll are overanalyzing this. He just didn't think whatsoever, because it's not something most people think about. It'd akin to someone asking you where did all your sanitary towels are, it's a mundane question that your beating yourself up with, so stop it.

can you even trust any women? by Graham Clenkinwot - Thu, 13 Sep 2018 02:48:19 EST ID:xeQtH2nf No.526656 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've heard of so many girls cheating, my friends who are girls have cheated (most of them I think?), even the ones who don't overtly cheat play all sorts of fucked games. Idk I got dumped like 2 months ago and while the thing wasn't that serious to begin with, I can't get it out of my head that she's out there getting railed lol.

My buddy's girl of 2 1/2 years he found out today was fucking another guy for a year and a half of their relationship and she dumped him. How are there even people capable of that? And why does it feel like that's the fucking norm now? I'm afraid of getting into anything anymore because how the fuck do you trust? It's like they're all scheming ass emotionally driven animals. There's gotta be some good ones out there, right?!

I feel like my whole life I was taught like, okay this is how things are in relationships: monogamy is the norm, most girls are respectable and good to men. Lots of men are shitty, but there's still good dudes or whatever and they can do alright. It's starting to look like it's mostly shitty people out here and there's a couple of us non-shitty people. I do okay attracting girls and getting pussy or whatever but it just feels like love is just an idea that is super fucking rare and somehow made it into the mainstream... But it's not real, is it?
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Augustus Mattingcocke - Tue, 16 Oct 2018 13:04:39 EST ID:xeQtH2nf No.527216 Ignore Report Quick Reply

So you're legitimately convinced everyone cheats? And they're all lying about it in anonymous studies? And similar numbers (round 16%) were found in pretty good studies from the University of Denver, etc? Most polls are bullshit, yes, but these numbers are consistent and have been for years and years. They followed over a thousand people studying infidelity in one study, and found that among those who were in a relationship, broke up, and entered another serious relationship, 44% of those admitted to cheating and 30% believes their partner cheated.

That is to say, even among a group where the relationship ended and a new relationship started over the course of the study, only 44% cheated, and that's not anywhere near the way you would study the actual rate which is closer to 16 - 20%. Even if you believe a good chunk of these people are lying in these studies, or are retrospectively looking at things with rose colored glasses, or whatever, it seems very unlikely that the number is any higher than maybe 50%. And that seems like a big stretch to me.
Barnaby Surryhood - Tue, 16 Oct 2018 14:50:56 EST ID:IV9dlIIT No.527226 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Im convinced that polling married people if they cheat is absolutely not "probably the most accurate figure you'll come across." Your all or nothing is a false dichotomy.

If lies are consistent, it doesn't make it true. Couples will cheat, and just say "it doesn't count". With tinder, bad communication, and such factors, you don't think there is more than 20%? You think everyone on these image boards are honest since it's anonymous? Use your brain.
Alice Henningnedge - Tue, 16 Oct 2018 14:55:21 EST ID:USUZpST+ No.527227 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Judging by
>You think everyone on these image boards are honest since it's anonymous?
It's probably safe to ignore everything else he says because he's probably lying. I guess. Big Brain right there.
Barnaby Surryhood - Tue, 16 Oct 2018 15:45:15 EST ID:IV9dlIIT No.527229 Ignore Report Quick Reply
nobody cheats in relationships. keep deluding yourself, while i get hit up by cheaters.
Alice Henningnedge - Tue, 16 Oct 2018 16:46:29 EST ID:USUZpST+ No.527233 Ignore Report Quick Reply
lol sure you do

Childhood Realization by John Clumblewill - Mon, 15 Oct 2018 03:50:30 EST ID:vUaVEVlD No.527170 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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As an adult I'm starting to realize how utterly naive I was as a child, even as a teenager.

In school I would put myself around other kids who treated me like crap, but I didn't even realize it. I think I just desperately wanted to fit in and have friends.

Even in highschool my 'friendgroup' wasn't kind to me at all, and I have no clue how I would consider them friends or even spend time around any of them.

I only truly realized this in the last couple years running into old classmates, now as adults. I was really friendly to them but in return I could tell they were intimidated by me. And it stings a bit considering how many of them still are friends and hangout with eachother on a regular basis.

Now that I'm older reflecting on how I was treated it freaks me out a bit and I'm wondering if this is normal?
Bird Keeper Dane - Mon, 15 Oct 2018 09:05:40 EST ID:LaNkGmSc No.527171 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I think those social dynamics are normal. I had people I hung around with that didn't treat me well, and eventually I stopped hanging around with them. I also used to treat some people who hung around me poorly, and they stopped hanging out with me eventually.
George Namblelock - Mon, 15 Oct 2018 10:38:41 EST ID:fFqdWlVJ No.527173 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Sounds pretty normal to me. We trade youth for experience as we age, etc.

I also got treated like crap by my high school posse. But idgaf, I moved away a decade ago and haven't talked to any of them since.
Hedda Dreppermin - Tue, 16 Oct 2018 13:48:38 EST ID:PMiKxfAC No.527219 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I dropped out of highschool after I got sick mentally. But, the friends I did have from the time we were kids, to the time when we were in our 20s, treated me like shit. Had a fallout with all of them because their sister is a cunt. Haven't seen or spoke to any of them in 5 years.

Entitlement by Shit Billingdale - Tue, 16 Oct 2018 09:23:10 EST ID:FzibHVoI No.527206 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Women complain constantly about men feeling entitled to them just because they're attracted

But if a woman "chooses" a man and he says fuck off im not interested, she sics a gang on him, he's a massive asshole, he's gay, he's picky, something must be wrong with him, and they get other dudes to shame the fuck out of you. Other people will encourage it with "she really likes you anon, give it a shot"

Does my desire and opinion not fucking matter? You can't rape someone into wanting you. This goes both ways.
Hedda Dregglestock - Tue, 16 Oct 2018 10:15:57 EST ID:jeyD+EBD No.527208 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Hashtag not all women
Shit Billingdale - Tue, 16 Oct 2018 10:26:32 EST ID:FzibHVoI No.527210 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Walter Blasslehall - Tue, 16 Oct 2018 10:39:48 EST ID:eUNsGCnf No.527212 Ignore Report Quick Reply
That's obviously wrong regardless of which gender does it but man that's never happened to me

1 year later by Ebenezer Brapperfield - Sat, 13 Oct 2018 06:07:34 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.527141 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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October 2017
  • deep in the void of 6 months into unemployed, isolating myself, no chicks, no social life, no nothing not even weed, would wake up and porn, Netflix & Xbox (not even forums), contemplating suicide because I got sectioned for the 2nd time. I was moving so little that I’d lose my balance walking and my hands hurt from Xbox. Didn’t think I was going to move on from my ex.

October 2018
  • been working out, had sex / mini relationships with a few chicks this year, been drawing a lot, got a job that gives me 20-30hrs a week, social, confident, doing fun things. Still broke, still a bit of a loser for my age / level of education but fuck it.

Idk, I remember some of my posts here last year and felt like celebrating. Things are better, things got better. Things are going to continue to get better.

If u going through something, give yourself the time required to make a change. Small steps lead to big progress n all that.
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Nicholas Bennerbanks - Mon, 15 Oct 2018 13:17:31 EST ID:vYe3Po+d No.527177 Ignore Report Quick Reply
i'm currently ingesting a bunch of movies/art so this is nice to read, i too kinda got out of a depressive state last year, not nearly as sharp as yours but my mindstate definitely changed positively, what worked for me was being present and grateful for all the shit i have, everyday i'd look around and find shit i'm grateful for, kinda cliché but it really worked
Betsy Hepperkut - Mon, 15 Oct 2018 13:30:53 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.527178 Ignore Report Quick Reply

100% dude. One of the biggest "breakthroughts" I've had this year was to actually appreciate a cup of tea and not bother myself with worry when I'm trying to just enjoy a cool breeze from an open window in my bed at night.

I wonder how many years of my life have been lost to poor thinking.
Rebecca Fanhood - Mon, 15 Oct 2018 13:43:14 EST ID:NJkLq9MW No.527179 Ignore Report Quick Reply
congrats my lad
Charles Fendlebury - Mon, 15 Oct 2018 18:05:02 EST ID:jnas4L6T No.527187 Ignore Report Quick Reply

yes my lad, this year i am also learning the power of tea. want a coffee/cigarette/beer? slow your roll buddy, and have a nice cup of tea
Hedda Dreppermin - Tue, 16 Oct 2018 10:34:12 EST ID:PMiKxfAC No.527211 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I'm currently starting a new chapter in my life and getting my life together. I'm tapering off opiates, lost 85lbs, working out in the gym again. I'm looking into getting my GED too.

I have been in a dark place for a couple months in terms of depression. But, I know that the only way things will change is if I work for it. No magical event is going to happen that's going to make your life turn 180* and everything is good. That's what I've realized.

Theirs always light in darkness. You just have to look for it.

Relationship shit by Henry Clibblesatch - Mon, 07 May 2018 09:13:56 EST ID:A8o246TI No.523917 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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How does one deal with the fact knowing the girlfriend/fiance has sucked other various cocks with the same lips that kiss you, has been dominated by other various men before, has been cummed in her mouth by various other cocks in the past?
This is killing me lol, as funny as it may sound. I will never love her truly and it sucks. To make things worse, she was the one who literally told me about all this stuff in the start of our relationship.
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Spicy Meat - Mon, 01 Oct 2018 22:11:50 EST ID:+Dxwg5ZQ No.526905 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Sounds like overcompensating

Desperate times call for desperate measures
Edward Wackleville - Tue, 02 Oct 2018 03:33:36 EST ID:20tVjWfD No.526908 Ignore Report Quick Reply
This thread was both entertaining and highly depressing because it is a pure exemplification on human nature. Everybody is both right and full of shit at the same time, and it is all just so ultimately petty.

I've only known of sexual conquest working to get dudes out of that kind of mindset though. So maybe you need to break up OP and go and have your fun then come back to her or someone else when you're more mature and have grown more. Otherwise, I don't see how the relationship will work if you are a boiling pot of insecurity and jealousy. You're going into the relationship not as equal or superior but as an inferior to her. You're going to get the shit end of the stick at some point.
Matilda Gazzlelerk - Mon, 15 Oct 2018 23:16:44 EST ID:bHQi7ZX+ No.527195 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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shit like this about my girl wouldn't bother me 1/10th as much as it does if we had any sort of regular sex. she's told me about how sex was always a daily thing in all her past relationships and to talking about how much she even just enjoyed giving head. meanwhile here it's a hot month if anything happens twice in four weeks. in a near 3 year relationship I can count on one hand how many times she's blown me.
it feels like I must be the least attractive man in the world by a long shot. i feel pathetic and humiliated and retarded for even caring but at this point im so frustrated I can't fucking help it at all. i cant sleep for hours laying in bed like a god damn pussy mulling over all this shit ive got in my head
Augustus Mattingcocke - Mon, 15 Oct 2018 23:55:16 EST ID:xeQtH2nf No.527197 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Take her on dates. Keep dating her, forever, like once a week or once every other week. Change things up every once in a while. Communicate, ask her why she isn't interested in sleeping with you as much as she's talked about enjoying sex? Try to find out what's wrong. Initiate sex more. Maintain more confidence.

Start trying to identify and solve the problem, because there's a problem mang. My first guess is you're too comfortable in your relationship and she's not really getting emotionally fulfilled enough right now. The couple that has more fun together will have more sex. Don't just live day in and day out and treat her like a roommate. Twice a month isn't going to cut it. Studies show happiness keeps going up from more sex until you hit the once a week mark.
Shit Billingdale - Tue, 16 Oct 2018 10:18:30 EST ID:FzibHVoI No.527209 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Girls have told me about their sexual past and the shit they've done.

I used to care. Then I went out of my way to get my notch count into the 70s and had degenerate sex involving peeing, threesomes, BDSM, swinging, fucking peoples wives and girlfriends, cheating on women. I did a deep dive into degeneracy and honestly I could always do a little more.

Anyways I'm pretty unphased now solely for the fact that I've done more fucked up shit than a lot of "sluts" have. Sure there's the occasional turbo slut with a 100+ notch count who will best me but I really could give two shits if some college girl let a dude she just met cum inside her mouth--I've actually peed on a girl before so that shit is amateur to me.

I conquered the disgusting monster by being an even worse monster.

Being a selfish manipulative asshole has its perks aye

Habromania by Lillian Drizzlewell - Mon, 15 Oct 2018 12:52:53 EST ID:sQDM5bBX No.527174 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Heres some help for those depressed
Whenever you're feeling down just think of the word Habromania. It's a psychiatrist condition from the past where you're so happy that the doctor decides you must be insane Seems a whole lot like the opposite of whats being treated to the masses these days doesn't it?
Lillian Drizzlewell - Mon, 15 Oct 2018 12:58:19 EST ID:sQDM5bBX No.527175 Ignore Report Quick Reply
If happiness is a Disease, and Depression is a disease
What is the Human Condition?
Alice Cipperbun - Mon, 15 Oct 2018 17:57:19 EST ID:eUNsGCnf No.527182 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Heres some help for those depressed

Whenever you are feeling down, set an alarm on your phone and when it goes off feel happy instead. On modern phones you can set multiple alarms a day
Jack Honeylock - Mon, 15 Oct 2018 18:03:56 EST ID:XiY1yiVU No.527185 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Are you English?
Graham Gishchot - Tue, 16 Oct 2018 09:38:29 EST ID:b2U4Jslk No.527207 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It is perfectly healthy so long as your thoughts, feelings and behavior never vary. One day we will all become stable and predictable, and we will look back at our ancestors with shock and horror.

I am worried people are only nice to me because they think I am retarded. by Eliza Droblingstock - Fri, 12 Oct 2018 18:01:18 EST ID:Snkz6Zsi No.527136 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Albert Brookhood - Sun, 14 Oct 2018 06:58:20 EST ID:USUZpST+ No.527153 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It's a really common paranoia though. Ask around.
Cyril Herrystock - Sun, 14 Oct 2018 07:15:41 EST ID:eUNsGCnf No.527154 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP doesn't seem retarded
Lillian Drizzlewell - Mon, 15 Oct 2018 13:03:03 EST ID:sQDM5bBX No.527176 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I lost a best friend because, while I was picking up LSD from my dealer at walmart my tripping bud wandered off, not wanting to get seen ina LSD deal

Was completely my fault, I told the workers at Walmart that I was missing my retarded little brother and the workers were running around looking for him. I wound up finding him at Mcdonalds across the street.He's not retarded btw.
I had plenty of fun running around Walmart with workers while coming up on 4 hits of Acid.
Rebecca Fanhood - Mon, 15 Oct 2018 13:49:21 EST ID:NJkLq9MW No.527180 Ignore Report Quick Reply
imma be real with u
i had a long time where i just wanted to die and so i isolated myself and got high. years of not doing much, i had a fucked childhood, etc etc.
im 26 and fairly childish, socially. i still look good so.. people sympathize. i think that<s the conclusion ive come to.
maybe that's you too and maybe not, but don't let it get you down because you are not worse than they are. most people are fairly lame anyhow. find your tribe by being authentic

or maybe you jack it to tranny porn too much
peace nigga
' God !!Bwteoy2D - Mon, 15 Oct 2018 16:16:15 EST ID:H0lOb7XI No.527181 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You are so nice

Seeking help by William Claywill - Sun, 14 Oct 2018 17:52:38 EST ID:TZiiBsES No.527164 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Ever since I started smoking I've had this feeling that I couldn't get rid of.
While trying to get high I only worsen the feeling and literaly throw up every single time.
Its as if feeling as a disappointed,paranoia,anxiety,depression,humiliation,shame,fear,guilt mixed up all together with constant negative thoughts.
It was bearable until I did coke and weed and now its that times thousand. I can't enjoy any high anymore, I always throw up.
I don't want to die I want to fix this but I don't know what to do please help me.
Please help me
Wesley Donnerspear - Sun, 14 Oct 2018 18:00:25 EST ID:vYe3Po+d No.527165 Ignore Report Quick Reply
stop it? it's just weed
Molly Beshstet - Sun, 14 Oct 2018 18:09:43 EST ID:BMrBkVc9 No.527166 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Yeah stop smoking weed. Take time out for several months or more and if that doesn't work just quit. It's likely not a purely physiological reaction so it should go away if you can just let the connections break.

Of course if it is a physiological reaction then it's important you do it less. So Time out and then not using it for ages/ever is probably for the best if you experience this. It's pretty hard to get mentally ill smoking weed but if you experience symptoms while high and keep smoking, it's not unheard of (I've seen people say it's happened on /qq/) that they get worse and last longer until one day you get high and then sober up and they're there.

Don't smoke weed until next spring. And I mean when it actually gets warm, not the 1st of March. I'd say avoid coke and don't step up other substances to compensate. If possible be sober for a while. If you can't be sober for a while DEFINITELY be sober and sort out the root cause because that's what's making you feel like this whether it's brain problems or just trauma or anxiety
Walter Clenninghall - Mon, 15 Oct 2018 02:01:31 EST ID:TZiiBsES No.527169 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Thank you my man

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Hey /qq/,

Just needed to type this out and shoot it off to the interwebs. Sometimes it helps to put down swirling thoughts into words. This year has been one of the most tumultuous and up heaving of my life, in good ways and bad. I'm not trying to whine or complain because I know countless people have it far worse than me, I'm more just trying to identify what I am feeling so I can work on changing it.

In May I got out of a 5 year relationship with a girl who I lived with. We were essentially married without being married, shared vehicles and condo that we were paying off, went to family things together, etc. However we would fight all the time and sometimes the fights would get extreme, hours of screaming, etc. The last two years were particularly hellish. Finally I had the means and the will to break things off so I got a new car, new apartment, and moved, all within a week.

I then began dating as rapidly and voraciously as possible to mask the pain and loneliness I felt (this is my first time living alone) and went through a couple girls with whom things quickly deteriorated for mutual reasons. However, I met a girl who I dated for a couple of months that was the most compatible-with-me human I have ever met. We had numerous hobbies in common, impressed each other constantly with things we knew or skills we had, made each other laugh non-stop, always made each other feel better, and of course the sex was out of this world.

Surprise, she is also an alcoholic, benzo addict, and worst of all, an IV heroin addict. After multiple crazy episodes (I made some threads about them), she ended up ghosting me. We met up for dinner to talk things over a couple weeks later but I was so angry at how she had left me like I was worthless after the intense love and passion that we had shared, that I just walked out and left her there. We haven't communicated since, over a month I guess.

I'd been drinking a lot to suppress my feelings, and continuing to try to date, even though I had little to no love left to offer, I just wanted companionship I guess. Now I have two very nice, very sweet girls who both want to date me exclusively, no matter how many times I try to say I need time or I'm not ready they are both so eager to make things serious. I feel guilty to keep seeing them (and of course, guilty that I am seeing them simultaneously) because I know they are almost definitely going to end up hurt in the end.

I don't want to hurt people, but I am realizing this little junkie adventure has really crushed my heart and soul. I put so much into trying to make it work with her, she filled me with so much joy, that when things fell apart it's like I just can't do it all over again. After such a long years of hell she was like a beacon of hope that things can get better, and then the beacon just burned out and disappeared.

I know I sound like a cunt probably but that's what I'm dealing with. Got a bunch of lovey dovey texts from them I need to respond to but I can barely bring myself to shower or eat let alone woo another person's heart. I dream about this girl every night, all night long, and just wake up feeling so sick and miserable. Why can't I just logic away the feelings?
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Hamilton Drumblestine - Thu, 11 Oct 2018 18:58:41 EST ID:jeyD+EBD No.527108 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Yeah that's the thing hey, if you were to follow your heart you'd almost have to be even more jaded and cynical than you are now because that's the kind of mindset you'd need to be able to accept her behavior. You cant close your eyes anymore and the pain on going back to her would be immense and persistent.

So yeah, you will have pain no matter what you do my friend. That's the price of infatuation. It is intoxicating.
Eugene Giffingcocke - Fri, 12 Oct 2018 13:17:29 EST ID:Pwq0Fy/H No.527131 Ignore Report Quick Reply
> you will have pain no matter what you do my friend. That's the price of infatuation. It is intoxicating

sorry just regurgitatingbuttt
Nell Henningbanks - Sat, 13 Oct 2018 06:46:37 EST ID:BMrBkVc9 No.527142 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Your relationship failed, instead of growing or learning or coming to terms you jumped into a series of relationships. You will continue to hurt others and yourself unless you stop drinking, stop running and face your shit like a real adult who wants to grow. Start with working out why your long term relationship failed. Why did things deterioriate? Why didn't they get fixed? Could you avoid it? How much was you and how much was just you picking the wrong person. The list goes on, it's 5 years there's a lot of things to learn. The goal isn't to beat yourself up but to look at bad decisions you made, actual mistakes not things you that were right given a flawed information set either. Stop dating, stop drinking. Actually do something that is good for you.

Your life has the potential to get worse but not to get better if you just keep doing this dumb shit OP.
Reuben Blackville - Sun, 14 Oct 2018 18:12:29 EST ID:6VelNwAJ No.527167 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Very good post!
I also was in a very long relationship that ended like a year ago. There are some other parallels too, the failed ltr was also quite like a marriage, then afterwards a fast cut with lots of dating amd drugs/alcohol. Now i'm in a better relationship, but not with a borderline girl - doenst matter.
Maybe look at it this way: could it be that ypu were not at all over your long term relationship when you dated the junky girl? Possibly you projected your desire for intimacy and the warmth of your lost relationship in your new girl (?). So when you miss her smile you actually miss the smile of your ex girlfriend before. So with this in mind it might be helpful to learn to "not love" your ltr partner. This way the feelings for your junky gf might also disappear.
Often borderline personality disorder partners seem to be perfect in the beginning of a relationship because they tend to lie. Therefore it might be quite difficult to forget them or stop loving dem despite them being very toxic partners.
For letting go of an ex look into the recent research of sandra langeslag and michelle sanchez missouri (there was a recent paper, covered in mainstream media)
Eliza Winnergold - Sun, 14 Oct 2018 20:27:09 EST ID:EAInNdJP No.527168 Ignore Report Quick Reply
She is a dopehead. She will consistently put her needs over yours every single time.

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how do i stop masturbating iv been faping since i was 11
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Edwin Blackdale - Mon, 08 Oct 2018 13:08:54 EST ID:RO4g+pTF No.527047 Ignore Report Quick Reply
have you ever tried to continue fapping so much that eventually you just can't anymore?

not actually joking realty. over consumption of porn and overmasturbation causing men to get erectile dysfunction is actually fairly common these days. can't really keep fappin wit a flappy fapper. so good news buddy, just keep goin until you literally can't anymore
Hedda Hingershit - Mon, 08 Oct 2018 16:17:28 EST ID:42wGzjUi No.527054 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Nicholas Dartwell - Mon, 08 Oct 2018 22:01:10 EST ID:42wGzjUi No.527057 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Find better uses for your time. Maybe... learn proper grammar and punctuation.

How old are you anyway?
Shit Drollywat - Thu, 11 Oct 2018 13:59:56 EST ID:sQDM5bBX No.527105 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Burn your hands so that it hurts trying to jerk off. Might turn you into a sadomasochist but there ain't nothing better than finding new kinks
Reuben Blackville - Sun, 14 Oct 2018 17:09:08 EST ID:6VelNwAJ No.527162 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Hey bro! Same boat here... so i want to give you some constructive advice... i struggled with porn addiction and masturbation and of course i came across the whole nofap thingy. That was like five or six years ago. My longest (!) Nofap strike was three weeks long and i have not achieved longer abstinence times ever since. The three week abstinence was quite at the beginning of my nofap experience. I also was in a relationship most of the time, sometimes having weak erections, but really seldom actually, so i thought that the three week nofap streak and regular sex with another human being was enough to "reset" my brain.
However, when not in a relationship/dating i always went back to porn and masturbation.
I dunno but after all these years i came to the conclusion that nofap just isnt for me.
BUT what i have found also was that the real problem is not the masturbation but the porn. And i cant stress this enough: dont beat yourself up because you cant keep your fingers off of yourself. It really just makes the whole situation really bad, destroying your self confidence. It makes you believe that you are weak. But you are not weak just because you masturbate, nofap just isnt for everyone. I find that i can masturbate daily and have strong desire for my partner, also having sex daily, with strong erections. There are just some people with an extremely high sex-drive, maybe get your testosterone levels checked ;D
Just cut out the porn. Nofap is a bit of a fad i guess. I really believe there are people who greatly profit from doing nofap, but dont forget that people are different. For my part, my confidence doesnt suffer _at all_ when i ejaculate daily (be it from masturbation or regular sex - quite the contrary. When i cum daily i sleep better, have no desire to watch porn and since i stopped beating myself up because i cant do nofap my confidence actually got better. And i fuck my gf like a madman.
Porn is the problem, not masturbation.

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