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#qq on IRC by Mintzs !GD3wBpep0Y - Sun, 13 Aug 2017 12:14:49 EST ID:d5kHsYag No.518069 Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hi folks,

If you're looking to talk to someone immediately about any problems you have in your life and have nobody close to you, come and speak to us!

Join us on IRC on #qq. Most of us have different time zones but if you stay there, one of us will be there.

Don't be afraid to speak up.
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Ian Bemmleridge - Tue, 13 Feb 2018 21:25:16 EST ID:Q3TQO9f4 No.522204 Ignore Report Quick Reply

That /lit/ thing was because of how nuking works (all your posts everywhere gets deleted), and I'll take Spunky's over-modding over too little modding any day. Remember the 2016 election? If Spunky wasn't around, /n/, /b/ and /pol/ would have been overrun with 15 year-old frogposting cunts and everyone else who weren't retarded or underage would've jumped ship.

The only thing separating this site from 4chodes is that this chan is actually moderated. People who get banned will always bitch and moan about it, however.
Martha Dinnerbury - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 04:20:19 EST ID:ilcXZXCD No.522215 Ignore Report Quick Reply

all im saying is criticizing spunky, does not mean someone is a frog
Simon Fanworth - Thu, 15 Feb 2018 09:43:42 EST ID:jmwR2CRr No.522260 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Can spunky please be unleashed upon /b/?

Also I felt like killing myself but I feel better now. #bipolarlife. Wonder how long it will last haha

Girl Problems by Lillian Munderson - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 10:00:55 EST ID:NbD72wTZ No.522429 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Girl of years broke up with me on new years, one of her best guy friends added me that night on Facebook out of the blue. Found out today they're publicly dating, after girl and I had to hide our relationship for 3 years because her parents are super traditional and wouldn't allow her to have a boyfriend, but I guess this guy is fine. Fuck

Question for you guys. by Hamilton Mubberwell - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 06:07:39 EST ID:CxCtCvYn No.522380 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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For those of you with depression and related issues like low self worth etc.

Did you have anything traumatic happen to you when you were younger or perhaps you have something going on currently that is influencing your mental state?

Only asking cause I've kind of slowly self destructed my life over the past 7 years but there is no specific cause as there is with some people.
Often times when i've met people and got to know them on a deep level and they have issues they often have some base reason or turning point where (even if not immediate) could be considered a root (if not the only root) of their problems.

It makes me ashamed cause I do not feel that there is any legitimate reason for me to feel depressed.
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Nicholas Sidgewell - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 18:24:15 EST ID:wJavO91C No.522405 Ignore Report Quick Reply
My depression and self worth issues are mostly due to traumatic experiences I had over the course of years, as an adult.
Hannah Wubblecocke - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 18:54:09 EST ID:Ed3TCSse No.522407 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Thoughts and feelings of shame and guilt are a symptom of depression. I can understand why you may feel compelled to legitimize your reasons for feeling how you do, especially when you compare yourself with others, but I don't think that is a healthy way for you to understand what condition you're in.It's perfectly fine to be depressed regardless of your personal circumstances, whatever they may be, and I hope you feel better someday.
Simon Clopperpitch - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 00:23:26 EST ID:H/A2r+Uk No.522411 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I kinda know what you mean. My childhood had a tonne of bullying and stuff and that fucked me up, but then I met a lot of people who were sexually abused as kids and well I was like what the fuck do I have to complain about?
David Crobblenadging - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 00:51:40 EST ID:icZw5k41 No.522414 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Seconding this. Depression does not require a "cause" It's important to remember that it's also poorly understood, so don't buy all of the chemical imbalance bullshit blindly, though meds can be useful.

Looking back I think I've been depressed all my life, even with some plausible "causes" and traumas, but thankfully nothing serious, I think: Bullied infrequently, almost mugged, very few friends all while growing up.

It's been odd being this empty kid, who doesn't seem to get what all the buzz is about, and knowing people are happy and expect you to be too. So I think I learned to act it, just to make other people feel comfortable and keep them from worrying. When really I've felt pretty much blah or meh towards approximately 99% of the people and activities they choose to invest their time in. TBH, my desires lie far beyond where I am today and what I'm "realistically" capable of rn. I work towards the goals and stumble on the way, then spend some time moping because it doesn't feel like I'm getting anywhere or what's the fucking point, but I've learned that it's okay to feel like that and give yourself breaks. I've spent lots of time beating my self up too. Took away vidya games in college so I could focus and save money. Instead I struggled to focus and spent a little longer in classes. I disallowed myself to socialize because I'd spend so much time online like here or circlejerk. At the time, I told myself I was wasting my oppotunities, money, time, but from another perspective, I was broadening my personal education in ways some courses never could. Had i rushed it, I would not know where to go for a job. But I took time off and when I returned, I was able to put forth a little more effort on an extra project. It was for a class I had already taken, but fucked up the final. I was familiar with the material and before I was done, an opportunitiy popped up. I interviewed, shared the project, and got a jerb. It sounded great, but really it was more of a joke, my management sucked, and my boss was gaslighting me. I have been feeling like shit, stressed out, trying to stay afloat, employed…
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Archie Bablingmot - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 08:43:35 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.522428 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Depression doesn't require a cause, but there is a preepisodic trigger about 55-60% of the time for MDD patients. This rises to 85-90% for the first episode. Oftentimes the first episode comes with a noted event that triggered it. That first episode is critical. As soon as you experience the first episode chances are you will re-experience. It is much like psychosis or mania in that way. Once you have crossed the threshold, it is a lot easier to breech it in the future. Preventing and easing first episodes should be the cornerstone to a functional, successful mental health service. Depression and mania and psychosis are all self-reinforcing, and the more they are left to muck in the darkness without the light of sanity to cross them, the more they entrench in the patient.

Just shit by Shit Suffingcocke - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 04:16:21 EST ID:Pvpire73 No.522377 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I turn 29 this year. That's not that old, but I feel old. It's hard to explain, but I feel like everything from my youth and younger years is so far away now. I haven't been doing much outside the last 5 years except working and drugs that I feel like I've lost parts of my personality. Memories are distorted. Some are just gone. I can't remember a lot of my high-school/early 20s, the friends I used to hangout with, shows I used to love I can barely remember the titles of, etc. I feel like I'm already done, that there's no coming back from this. I've mostly abused opiates, dissociates and cannabis over the years and I'm currently addicted to H. I want to quit everything and try to get back into some hobbies but I can't take the amount of time off work needed to go through withdrawals at the moment. I'm hoping to in the next month or so, though. I just want to feel like a normal person again.
Beatrice Fuckingshit - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 06:44:37 EST ID:B/1t3ZFg No.522383 Ignore Report Quick Reply
look into ibogaine
Clara Givinglock - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 06:32:50 EST ID:bfEqwYYY No.522426 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I've heard about it, seems kinda dangerous. I've seen reports of people having heart attacks on it and with the weird chest pains I've had over the last couple of years (probably from using Imodium when I've ran out of other opiates), I'd be pretty wary. I'll probably just go through withdrawals the regular way - get some clonidine, some pregablin, some weed, take some time off work and do a very rapid taper.

I'm feeling better today now that I've got my H. I got through yesterday with Imodium and weed, though the weed wasn't really any help. Just intensified all of my negative emotions. I'll get some strong indica for the withdrawals instead, that seems to be a lot easier to deal with when I'm in a negative emotional state.

Advice by Charlotte Hackletuck - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 15:57:20 EST ID:veLZVns+ No.522397 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey guys.

I'm currently 22 y/o and am working hard labor making okay money for the time being. I'm an apprentice in a skilled trade. It's hard on my body/ the hours are long and i often turn to drugs when i get home. It's a good paying trade but i constantly worry about the damage i'm doing do my body. I've always turned to drugs for my issues in my short life. Have been smoking weed constantly since i was about 16 and have always had problems with anxiety and depression. SSRI's have never helped me and now i'm on 1mg clonazepam a day and 30mg of vyvanse. I do a lot of drugs and don't have much support or honest genuine friends.

I honestly feel like both these medications help my life but i know its not long term. I've been on clonazepam a year and i know i need to slow it down cause im already going to have painful w/d's and its already starting to impact my anxiety when i don't take it. The vyvanse too i feel like it helps but i also feel like i could have found ways to cope without it.

I'm finally at a point in my life where i'm tired of my drug use and my mental health problems and i finally want to take action. I've always avoided seeking help but I think i'm finally ready to help myself. I really still have a lot of issues i'm just putting off because i'm working so much and making good money. I'm starting to notice my stim addiction and my lack of energy when not taking my dosages during the weekend. I smoke marijuana like a chain smoker and my benzo usage is bad. I abuse opi and other drugs.

I'm stuck because i have no time or energy outside work to better myself. I can gain a lot from work but i worry about the damage to my body and the constant drug regime i must keep up with to keep this job. It's tough because the money is tempting and I don't want to have to start from the bottom again. I really do want to go back to school though, i'm not retarded. My parents would support me I just have to actually follow through or else i'm in big shit.

I don't know what to do. I know if i quit my job and try to get my shit together and quit drugs i'll go through hell and i really like to av…
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David Crobblenadging - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 01:45:21 EST ID:icZw5k41 No.522418 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Don't get too ahead of yourself. A career change will take time, as will addictions and mental health, so get it out of your head that everything will go to shit if you make one mistake.

Learn self-forgiveness and put it into practice. You've done things in the past you are uncertain about today. Go over the things you've learned during your experiences. It made you feel certain ways - why? There are things you've found you value more or less than before now. Why? Is it because other people do? Should they? Should you? Does it help bring you closer to your goals?

Don't swear off medication for your ego and pride, if that's where it's coming from. Lots of things "damage" our bodies, but in many cases the effects are not lasting or permanent. Search for a balance that reduces risk and helps you feel your best. Opioids can start controlling you, so decide if you're willing to live as a slave to them or lead a more self-determined life. It depends on what principals you value and what direction you want to go. Are you happy to drift wherever or do you have a destination in mind? A course set? When is it okay to take breaks? How often? How long?

You're young, but you seem pretty self-aware. Don't stop learning about yourself, your strengths, opportunities to improve, or even places you can't (mental health). You've got lots of time ahead to put it to use and learn more lessons along the way. And don't try to compare yourself to anyone else, there's too many factors and you'll never know them all.

Hugh Secklebanks - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 06:26:54 EST ID:7oTdIRwW No.522425 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Clonazepram will fuck your life up, son. If you want to avoid pain in your life, clonazepram is like a navigator who moves your fleet gracefully between rocks and icebergs, while he simultaneously lights a fuse connected to hundred barrels of gunpowder and hell, waiting for it to detonate and burn you alive.

Afraid and Anxious by Wesley Hasslestock - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 17:27:32 EST ID:99iemco+ No.522401 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Whenever I get in relationships I feel afraid that they will leave me for some arbitrary reason even if it's going good. I don't think this is a confidence issue, just that something will happen and ruin it all. How can I overcome this?
Nicholas Sidgewell - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 18:27:50 EST ID:wJavO91C No.522406 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I just choose not to involve myself in relationships. I think I'm too at risk of getting into abusive relationships or relationships with a large power imbalance. Also, I don't think I'd make a good partner at the present time.
Simon Clopperpitch - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 00:31:28 EST ID:H/A2r+Uk No.522413 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Learn to deal with relationship breakdown?
Angus Semmertutch - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 06:20:40 EST ID:uUb+SnDs No.522424 Ignore Report Quick Reply
you are going the completely wrong way. thats like not using a bandaid with an open would in some infectious place just because ripping it off might hurt later on.

Relationships are there for you to grow, not be the perfect human being and finding your soulmate or whatever you believe.
Everyday confrontation with someone will mirror your own behaviour, thats why you always hate things in other people you don't like about yourself. Just see a relationship as a ladder to growing into the person you want to be.

And in the end: Everything that has a beginning, will have an end. don't think you found the one, he/she will die or stop liking you. those things happen but don't be fooled into never fully investing into the relationship because you are afraid of the end and being hurt.

Every time it happens it hurts less, as long as you allow yourself to feel the pain, not dulling it with new friends or drugs/whatever you like.
Archie Bablingmot - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 08:38:13 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.522427 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Nice narratives, new age twat. Question everything except your hippy trippy idealist nonsense, as per usual, while you in fact field no real solution to OP's issue or the issues of the person you replied to. You type all that fluff to say - what precisely? "Suck it up, moron?"

Why not just type suck it up, moron? Is it because you are afraid that we will see the real moron is you?

In need of personal relationship advice by Veraux - Fri, 09 Feb 2018 18:32:16 EST ID:nC1t5fCy No.522033 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've always been emotionally intelligent or so I think at least.
Always tried to keep a balance between being too emotional or being too rational. I tend not to let my emotions get the besr of me. I consider myself a very patient and empathic man. I almost always excuse peoples actions.

For this reason people tend to walk all over me and take advantage of my good will but that's fine.. usually. I've been hurt on relationships. Been cheated on. Hell, even been hit and beaten. I've always tried to be the best boyfriend and I know I'm not perfect and I've also made many mistakes and even though many girls have broken me and some have cheated I try to go into a new relationship clean and without prejudice and without any grudge. Every girl deserves the chance of meeting the best me I can be....but I am tired of being stepped on, of being the nice guy because the outcome is always very similar. But I think "what if this time I meet the one? And what if this time I behave like a jerk? 'The one' doesn't deserve the punishment of my previous failures" I don't want to be hurt anymore.

-The deceit-

I've been dating this girl for almost 4 years now. Giving her my all. She used to beat me, yeah I admit it and I've never laid a finger on her, she's burned me with a cigarette and many other hurtful things both physically and emotionally. She's hurt me very deeply. However I am not a victim because I've allowed this to happen and I am sure I've also hurted her.

She stopped this behaviour probably about a year ago and we've been very happy this last year we've grown together and we've learned to respect eachother. We know how to deal with eachother and we don't fight anymore, our communication is amazing we tell eachother if something bothers us and fix it and sort it out in the moment.

Last month she met a guy at a familly reunion and they've been texting a lot since. It bothered me but I trusted her. Today I saw something very unsettling and perhaps very stupid. He texted her "thanks cutie (kissing smiley)" and I just lost it.. I am not usually jealous but I felt horrible at this and talk to her about it like we usually do. I asked to see her conversation with him and she agreed but hesitated when she was about to hand me her phone and deleted the conversation in my face arguing that
It was just going to start problems if I read it. It started problems anyways.
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Jarvis Badgebut - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 02:15:16 EST ID:wJavO91C No.522213 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Gonna weigh in with this:

I was in an extremely abusive relationship, and your post reminds me of the shit that I said while I was in it.

You wouldn't be making this thread if she was a good gf. You wouldn't be mentioning her hitting you and shit like that if she was a good gf. If this person you're with is anything like how I imagine, you'll probably feel relieved instead of sad, when the relationship does end.

Nobody sane beats their SO, and burns them with cigarettes. Your perception of her is warped, cut the connection and you'll be like "wow holy shit I am so glad to be free of that!" and start seeing all the red flags you should have seen the whole time.
Veraux - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 02:30:39 EST ID:acoBm2jR No.522419 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Thank you. I can seee what you mean. You should know then that taking the blindfold off can be difficult. How did you manage?
Veraux - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 02:30:40 EST ID:acoBm2jR No.522420 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Thank you. I can seee what you mean. You should know then that taking the blindfold off can be difficult. How did you manage?
James Pisslemutch - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 03:15:09 EST ID:Q3TQO9f4 No.522421 Ignore Report Quick Reply

This. No normal people abuse their loved ones like she did to you, OP. What she did should tell you something about her character. Leave that chick and find yourself a girl that actually treats you well instead of making you feel miserable.
James Blettingline - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 06:06:04 EST ID:wJavO91C No.522423 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>how did you manage
He tried to kill himself (for the 4th time) and I abandoned him at the ER, got a restraining order as soon as I could. At the end I was absolutely terrified of him. As I was walking out of the ER I had to resist the urge to run.

I'm not going to go into what he did to me, but it really fucking did a number on me. Years worth of shit I wish I could delete from my brain, so badly.

Just cut all contact with her, go for the nuclear option. If she's living in your place, evict her, do whatever you need to do to legally get her the fuck out ASAP, involve police if you have to.

Became President of club by William Brankintire - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 03:59:45 EST ID:sM5nvTHu No.522422 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Although i have no idea what im doing and its totally fucking crazy.

I think ill just try my best and see how that goes. If i fail i tried, if im pushed, i tried, if i do a good job, i tried.

I think im freaking out over nothing really.

About to go live with 2 girls as flatmates by Edward Sellersig - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 17:07:17 EST ID:pvGvcjln No.522399 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I kinda suck with women. Should i try something with them or...

pic unrelated, just wanted the opportunity to say this is a shit show.
Jarvis Feggleware - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 18:17:52 EST ID:ef6bmTJo No.522404 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I'd say just friend them and use it to get a foothold on how to interact with and understand women. They'll have female friends to go after and will give advice etc.
However you'll probably get the feels for one of them which will ruin things.
Augustus Billerwater - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 19:14:43 EST ID:pvGvcjln No.522408 Ignore Report Quick Reply

>However you'll probably get the feels for one of them which will ruin things.
I dunno, its unlikely, ive never got laid so i guess its possible i may be weird in a way or another, and i kinda dislike the whole reggae/latino club/bar scene so not really outgoing and hard to get it going at like 90% of parties -- around my area anyway.
Now that i think of it, this is a silly thread, im just horny i guess. nb
Phoebe Gannerfuck - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 19:57:59 EST ID:TNGxHAKH No.522409 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Don't try something with them. Jack off regularly to get those urges out of your mind.
Fanny Fazzlewater - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 01:06:18 EST ID:0PJ7z1R+ No.522417 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Don't fuck a roomie dude. That opens a door to a whole lot of problems.

The saddest story you've read online? by Jack Turveyhood - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 00:54:33 EST ID:LIb3qSHO No.522415 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Jack Turveyhood - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 00:57:16 EST ID:LIb3qSHO No.522416 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Last year a guy suddenly noticed he had serious memory problems. Months later, he took his own life. Links to his social media were archived and posted here https://redd.it/7y31sk

In trouble with college due to drug use by Phineas Darringseg - Sat, 10 Feb 2018 09:26:05 EST ID:uvByzCWV No.522070 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I called 9-1-1 after taking too much acid and panicking. Even though I'm not being legally prosecuted, the dean of students of my college wants to meet me to open an invesitgstion into my Code of Conduct which could lead to expulsion at worst.

How fucked am I? Is there a way to talk myself out of this? Is he going to call the campus police to search my apartment while I'm meeting with him? If I admit I did the acid but I wasn't on campus is he gonna send it to the city police? I'm allowed to bring a lawyer to the meeting so I will probably consult with one today but what is my best course of action here?
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Sidney Hunderfield - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 06:08:51 EST ID:jAXGvxDa No.522316 Ignore Report Quick Reply
How much do they need to know? How much do they know? Can you pretend you had a little incident because of stress and just go to counselling for a few weeks? A lot of people call 911 when they first experience the symptoms of a panic attack, you could look them up and pretend that's what happened. Just say the studying or something else in your life is getting to you, use a real stressor so it will be easier to lie

Am I too late with this advice? fuck
Martha Bardbury - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 09:16:10 EST ID:45sWs9FC No.522324 Ignore Report Quick Reply
yeah hes dead
Fucking Wallywater - Sun, 18 Feb 2018 12:46:29 EST ID:Yq+XEe0p No.522354 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP here.

I'm in prison now.

Ebenezer Brookcocke - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 18:03:47 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.522403 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Ergot poisoning from store bought breads in this day and age is unheard of. Food poisoning from other molds yes, but ergot is specifically controlled for at the processing plant. Before those rye berries even hit the mill they're already ergot-free.

You would need to grow your own rye, let it get infected with ergot, and then grind down those infected grains and make bread with the ergot rye in order to come down with ergotism these days.
Simon Clopperpitch - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 00:28:04 EST ID:H/A2r+Uk No.522412 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Did they let you take your phone or something?

Is it possible to learn social skills later in life? by Ernest Gugglelad - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 08:51:17 EST ID:qjsN1w3c No.522322 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I always read people saying how social skills are super important when it comes to just about everything in life. Dating, making friends, getting a job, advancing your career, it all boils down to social skills. But let's say you've gotten to adulthood and your social skills are still shitty, you can't make conversation with strangers, you always have awkward silences, can't tell jokes, etc, is it still possible to learn these things as an adult or are you fucked for life?

Any success stories of people doing this would be appreciated along with an explanation of how they went about doing it.
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Eliza Blarringnerk - Sun, 18 Feb 2018 09:09:35 EST ID:h36swYSm No.522347 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Yes, it's so so possible! >>522338 is a good post

Personally I was a 27yo socially anxious guy who had never dated, you know the drill. I threw myself in by moving to southern california and going to music festivals, techno shows, etc., that's just what i'm really into but you can do whatever you enjoy.
it's been an amazing crazy ride and two years later I can hardly recognize that guy from my old journal entries, i'm fairly comfortable in my own skin, date around a lot and people like me! (thanks for letting me humblebrag)
For real tho. Like those other posts say the main obstacle is being afraid of fucking up. I get the impression from your post you're feeling slightly discouraged about this or that you're not good enough... and I say that with love, having been there myself.
In my experience, if you go into social situations with a pure heart and a good attitude, people will excuse any amount of awkwardness. There's a big difference between someone with poor social skills who is friendly and positive, and someone who's just a dick. The former is kind of endearing to most people. From that point you're golden, those positive interactions will increase your confidence and you'll keep refining your skills in a positive feedback loop.
The most important points for me were
  • Active listening! instead of trying to 'calculate' the 'correct' response just be present with whatever they're saying.
  • Being generally positive and interested. Connect with someone over something they want to talk about. It's seriously okay if you can't think of anything to say other than "that's really interesting" or "tell me more" if you genuinely mean it.
  • Having a general attitude of humility, openness and making people feel good. Not trying to be cool or a know it all. What's the purpose of this conversation? Hopefully for both of us to have fun and learn something.
-Knowing that 'mistakes' are NBD and seriously not even a thing if you have good intentions. Like, it's okay to be anxious, I can still get seriously tongue-tied on occasion, but we both just laugh it off. This was a big one for me, coming…
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Cedric Henkinnadge - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 04:22:49 EST ID:XblwQTB3 No.522378 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I was shy and awkward for about 22 years before I realized that there's nothing people want to talk about more than themselves.
you can be the most awkward, shy, beta virgin around and still manage a conversation if you just keep asking questions and by actively listening. act stupid if you have to.
if you don't know what 'actively listening' means, it's basically asking a question, getting an answer and going deeper on anything interesting. and if you feel the conversation is going nowhere, you can always joke about how awkward the situation is.
'actively listening' is not: asking one unrelated question after another.

"What did you study?"
"Oh, is that because you like to travel?"
"I guess you'd rather travel than talk"

also avoid PUA and social "gurus". talking to strangers as if you've known them for years or as if you have no shame at all is unnatural and off-putting. talking to strangers feels weird because it IS weird. it's in our biology to be wary of anyone not in our own social circle.
Beatrice Fuckingshit - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 06:43:20 EST ID:B/1t3ZFg No.522382 Ignore Report Quick Reply
youve seen nothing yet kid.

the best thing for you would be to drop your biases as much as possible, you can do that by realizing that indeed you know shit and that your judgements and preconceptions are extremely narrowing down what you are capable of experiencing.

also in regard to relationships only care about your part in the relationship, which is incredibly relieving and freeing. the benefit of others is to give you emotions and that way help you identify what kind of energy is still present in you and thus clarify the first point which is what you want to be for yourself and others.
Edward Sellersig - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 17:15:59 EST ID:pvGvcjln No.522400 Ignore Report Quick Reply

>What did you study
>Oh, is that because you like to travel?

What point were you trying to make? traveling and tourism kinda go hand in hand no?
I feel like i'm missing something here.
Hannah Bimmerson - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 21:12:49 EST ID:lXjUaJuo No.522410 Ignore Report Quick Reply
There's no point to the actual words themselves. It's just an example of idle chit-chat to help lubricate the wheels of the conversation.

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