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How do you keep going? by Hannah Gublinglock - Wed, 04 Apr 2018 21:04:35 EST ID:JWUlcM+k No.523275 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I lack self-control, discipline and motivation. The only time I can bring myself to do anything productive is either when I'm so depressed about my situation that I get angry or when I'm really happy. These moments are rare, though, since most of the time I'm stuck in a numbed mood where I don't feel much at all.

The thing is, the moments I am productive I actually enjoy it because I feel alive and I feel proud of myself and I get closer to some of my goals. But this never lasts longer than a day or two. Then I just slowly slip back into doing nothing and feeling nothing.

I've done all the usual, breaking my goals down into achievable steps, writing down why I want to achieve them, keeping a journal of my feelings, etc. But I always find myself going up and down like a yo-yo.

So, if anyone knows some good tips and tricks on how to switch off your emotions and just rationally, logically tell yourself "this is what is best for me - so I will do this", I'd love to hear them.

Thank you.
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Nicholas Bleblingcocke - Thu, 05 Apr 2018 05:12:34 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.523281 Ignore Report Quick Reply
80% of the problem is just not getting started, as soon as possible. As soon as that "meh lets sleep in, lets not excercise, lets not do that productive shit" thought comes in. You need to overcome it. Push your mental limits each day, make yourself uncomfortable and filled with resentment for that split second before you actually just commit to the action.

Develop a longer term mindset. Instant results will disappoint and demotivated. Commit to the process and reap the rewards later.

You basically only need a week or two of brute-forcing yourself like this before you've made some pretty big changes to yourself.

Have contingency plans for super shitty days. Sometimes I get high first thing in the morning and then do my workout. It helps push through that malaise, although it does take longer to do the workout. But fuck it, would rather have wasted an hour or two extra being slow - than not do it at all.
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Hannah Segglenetch - Thu, 05 Apr 2018 07:54:22 EST ID:Bo2wHaQY No.523285 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>523275

I fuckin' burn, maaan. I burn it with fiah!!!
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Lillian Diffinglat - Sun, 15 Apr 2018 17:56:47 EST ID:VQ5wMZOH No.523475 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You've probably heard this before, but a hobby can give you a focus long enough to relieve your mind of worries.

Do Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. Just fuckin try it. Find a local gym and stop by, they'll have a first time loaner gi for you to try out. You don't need to watch a class first, just do it. It fills you with endorphins and pushes your body to the limit and causes you to be in a meditative state because when someones trying to choke you out, you can't think about anything in life but the present.

On days that I do bjj, I eat well, I do stuff I need to get done, because I know that when 6pm class starts I'm going to need the energy and hydration and after class I'll want to relax and eat some more. It causes people to be very self disciplined.
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Edward Chabbleford - Tue, 17 Apr 2018 06:18:13 EST ID:s+t7UVYh No.523506 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523475
Yeah I wouldn't start with jiu jitsu if you're coming from little to no activity level, that's like go from a kid's bike with training wheels to Tokyo drift racing

O.O I recommend setting limits for yourself. Limit the amount of time you spend on the computer. Limit the amount of time you spend indoors. Limit the amount of time you spend at home. Go to the library, go to nature, go to the bar. Sometimes getting out of your cozy cocoon consistently can manifest a change in your overall mindset. With a cleared head, it is easier to focus and not sink into low self-discipline and unhealthy habits, especially if you're not at home all the time.
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Polly Gurringhood - Tue, 17 Apr 2018 15:53:34 EST ID:HJRNf/XO No.523519 Ignore Report Quick Reply
numbness is a type of depression


My fat friend turned into a stupid skinny prick. by Ernest Wommlegold - Thu, 12 Apr 2018 07:32:43 EST ID:mSCFYKbp No.523414 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Ever since my severely overweight buddy (no longer buddy) decided to lose weight he's suddenly turned into this complete fucking prick. He looks like a fucking dick, wearing these slim shirts and shit, and he speaks in such a serious tone, whereas before he was like a jolly fat cartoon man. We used to make fun of him and poke him and cover him in flour and call him the pillsbury dough boy. He was the fucking fat guy. Like if John Candy was skinny he'd just have fucking sucked. Can you even imagine that?

He sits in the most rigid posture and looks like a stupid gay hipster, and eats fucking salad. He has a "routine" now, before we just used to walk in and find him stuffing his face with cheetos and mountain dew and laughing and wobbling and farting like the jolly giant he was. He's a fucking husk now. I hate this prick.

I've been trying to get the old guy back, taking him to fast food joints where he orders salad ffs, even getting a bunch of pizza in one night which he ate TWO slices of, before sitting looking mild and awkward. We used to laugh our asses off every time he ordered three meals for himself. It's just wrong. He doesn't look right. He isn't right. It got so bad with him sitting there all mild mannered and not stuffing his face with his hands clasped that one night we all just decided to teach him a lesson and throw him out of the car into a ditch.
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Charles Nummleburk - Sat, 14 Apr 2018 09:50:15 EST ID:/pl3Lein No.523451 Ignore Report Quick Reply
As a fat man currently shedding pounds I will let you in on a little secret: Being fat makes you less mentally unstable and more jolly.

Ever since I started losing weight, old mental issues have started to come back. Eating less and exercising is np, the fucking bipolar disorder or whatever the fuck it is, isn't.
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Molly Ceshsire - Sun, 15 Apr 2018 16:49:40 EST ID:q7NC3IuN No.523474 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523451
Nah, you've just lost your comfort eating coping mechanism. Your physical and mental health are not entirely distinct unrelated items. Though I'm not saying going for a run every day will cure severe mental illness. Just that feeling physically better makes everything a tiny bit easier. It's not unheard of for good food and diet to cure mild depression or make worse things a bit less severe. There's one guy who may rage that I'm not advocating a single shot magic bullet to cure your mental illness. There may still be one, however it's not mutually exclusive with your physical health and mental being correlated. If you are starving yourself though you may feel a bit more miserable because your brain produces less dopamine. Once you're averaging an intake on par with what you burn this will clear up. Once you've lost the weight you'll have the benefits of being healthier and the diet induced misery will go.

I lost a lot of weight and I'm much jollier now I don't feel like everyone is looking at me and thinking how repulsively fat I am. At worst I'm a bit scary/weird but there's a chance they're admiring me now.
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Samuel Dumbleville - Mon, 16 Apr 2018 12:45:51 EST ID:C+6NY20y No.523486 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523451

not feeling jolly? maybe you need to praise the sun
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Priscilla Snodspear - Mon, 16 Apr 2018 15:52:24 EST ID:HJRNf/XO No.523487 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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1/10 try harder next time

pic unrelated
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Martin Crengerwock - Tue, 17 Apr 2018 01:53:45 EST ID:Zi/8StCf No.523495 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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lol nice thread


Fucked up my life again, what do by Polly Blarrydock - Sun, 15 Apr 2018 05:44:44 EST ID:spVAhVgc No.523464 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So, I'm on heroin for a year now. Was 2 Months clean, relapsed and wasted 700 bucks on drugs. Heroin, Benzos, Cocaine. Well now I'm here in detox, weaned of 40mg of methadone to zero and wanna take naltrexone again, which helped a lot the two months.
Now to the problems: I can't pay my Internet and electricity bill, have found someone who helped with my rent. My parents don't wanna help me anymore, can't blame them. I have a job and get like a thousand bucks but I hate it and now I'm even more trapped in this treadmill.
I'm depressed as hell, I'm safe here in detox but when I get out I gotta clean up this fucking mess.
Dunno what I want here, maybe tips for getting money quick or to endure the life of a working bee in debt and staying clean.
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Simon Brookhood - Sun, 15 Apr 2018 10:49:04 EST ID:EIEtNyio No.523466 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523464

Like a marketable piece of salamander shit, you rule. However we can always remember what it exist.


BFF tried to fuck my gf, wut do?d by Archie Hibbletad - Sat, 07 Apr 2018 08:42:37 EST ID:tYB3DALw No.523310 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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My girlfriend went to a show with my friends without me cause I had gotten sick, and anyway she said before taking her home he tried to put his hand on her crotch and said some shit about how he likes her to and "feelings can change". I confronted him about it but he says she only said no cause she was on her period and made it seem she was much less resistant to hi advances than she had said. I know him p well and es not the best with women or respecting their choice to say no etc. but I also know she's a p sexually promiscuous girl historically,, I just don't know who to trust and they were alone together tonight and seemed distant and the fear of her cheating especially with him makes me actually sick.....
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Edward Dassleson - Sat, 14 Apr 2018 12:40:58 EST ID:uVyEpelP No.523455 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Gf seems cool about it, period was an escape tactic, simple as.
I've had that pulled on me before with a girl on a date, and shit it hurt because I knew that she just wasn't interested in me. It was no surprise that when I asked her on a second date that she said she went back to the states (she was on holiday here for an extended period, no doubt that she was still here).

But fuck back to topic, GF seems cool, but your friend is a total douche. He said no because she was on her period? What age are you OP, 16? This is not a good excuse in any sort of manner and my friend said that to me, I would've punched him in the gut. He did this knowing that this would hurt you and danger your friendship so he clearly has no respect for you.

Also that whole GF being a slut is bullshit. Don't judge her, especially when she comes out in the best light in this situation.
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Isabella Bullerwutch - Sat, 14 Apr 2018 16:59:50 EST ID:AchvFBPx No.523458 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523452

Not an expert, but a quick google search came up with conflicting studies. One claiming more sexual partners = less chance of divorce. One claiming unhappier marriages. I don't think there's a solid enough scientific consensus to be making life decisions on this. Or to form a worldview around.
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Frederick Clerringnore - Sat, 14 Apr 2018 17:11:24 EST ID:3A/9rSkO No.523459 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523458
>sociology
>reliable surveys

They're one step above PornHub polls. Don't expect any retard ITT to "know" what makes a relationship stick, they're just regurgitating what they learned from the blogspot because they were tricked into thinking 100% of everything knowledge related has to do with how much you read and not how well you comprehend and critique the information at hand.

Sad lot, but they're really easy to BTFO with the slightest modicum of critical thought. Because they don't apply it themselves.
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Priscilla Snodspear - Mon, 16 Apr 2018 15:59:15 EST ID:HJRNf/XO No.523488 Ignore Report Quick Reply
> sociology isn't a reliable science
> my opinion based on my gut and some people i know is a reliable science
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John Deddlewat - Wed, 18 Apr 2018 01:51:56 EST ID:3A/9rSkO No.523530 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523488
>falsifiability is just something toddlers play around with in their crib, LMAO


Fuck dirka dirka Muhammad jihad by Sidney Minningbury - Wed, 11 Apr 2018 14:11:41 EST ID:wTWHKEjH No.523389 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Yeah so basically the government has me on a terrorist to watch list because of my stupid Internet banter and my dark humor I don't think it's really fair but it's actually causing me a lot of problems even though I stopped. How do I recover from this. Im open to suggestion.

I sort of one of the want to just pay my taxes and just mind my own business like I used to.
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Samuel Dondlepod - Thu, 12 Apr 2018 18:45:12 EST ID:3A/9rSkO No.523426 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523413
Mental health watch lists doesn't real. The feds don't give a shit about your depresshun and they don't give a shit about your autism either unless you start petitioning them for $$$. Terrorist watch lists have the main purpose of policing the skies. It's not illegal to fly as a schizophrenic. It's not illegal to fly with antisocial personality disorder. So why would the feds care? All it would do is force an ugly expensive civil liberties lawsuit that could stand to dismantle the concept of watchlists in itself and they really don't want that.

You should be far, far, far more worried about what your insurance company learns about you.
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Fuck Pevingham - Fri, 13 Apr 2018 15:12:06 EST ID:9DmUMIXr No.523438 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523426
>you should be far, far, far more worried about what your insurance company learns about you.

I should try to get a Quote for life insurance see what happens.
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Fuck Pevingham - Fri, 13 Apr 2018 15:12:06 EST ID:9DmUMIXr No.523439 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523426
>you should be far, far, far more worried about what your insurance company learns about you.

I should try to get a Quote for life insurance see what happens.
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Barnaby Soshmack - Sat, 14 Apr 2018 07:59:28 EST ID:76Fxhy4v No.523447 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523439

stop with the fucking "self befriended" chicken soup shtick.
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George Blatherbanks - Sat, 14 Apr 2018 16:59:22 EST ID:Bsv/gCpO No.523457 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523447
What are you on about?
I should get a quote for life insurance.


what now by Martin Drirringhane - Fri, 13 Apr 2018 01:05:14 EST ID:4vnw1Jy2 No.523433 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I came to terms with my sexuality way too late in life. How I got where I'm at is a really convoluted story but at this point I'm 21 and the only "relationship" I've ever been in was with a really close friend who I spent an inordinate amount of time with. Looking back I can say I genuinely had feelings for him, but I was still in a weird place where I knew I wasn't straight but couldn't get myself to admit I was predominantly gay. I never even really saw it as a relationship but after coming out to a few people recently, everyone who I've described our situation to said we were a lot closer than friends usually are. I don't even know if he's gay, I'm almost certain he's at least bi but he's very deep in the closet and we'd probably stop being friends if I pushed it. Also I moved so I barely ever see him.

So QQing aside, my point is that I'm in a situation now where I'm finally comfortable with who I am (well my sexuality at least) but that didn't magically change anything like I had hoped. I never learned how to meet people, on top of the fact I'm painfully shy to begin with. I have 0 self-confidence and there's not a single picture of me that I like so meeting people in person or online seem equally daunting.

I don't even know what I expect to gain from posting this thread, I'm just at a loss.
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Eugene Lightwell - Fri, 13 Apr 2018 08:22:54 EST ID:rRR1cAAP No.523436 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523433
This flamboyant 22 yr old in a coffee shop, wearing makeup and short shorts, kept going on about how he was gay, about how his grandma didn't like it, about how he experimented and came to terms with it... it was fucking annoying and embarrassing for him.

By the time you hit 25 or so, you won't give a fuck. You'll move on with life and it'll just be another part of it like preferring flavored coffee or having an injured toe.

If it's messing you up so bad, try seeing a therapist. Talk to them. Try not to make it a big deal in your life, and try not to shove it down everyone's throat you talk to. It's only a big deal if you make it one.

Lastly, a lot of us here usually end up alone or miserable in a husk of a relationship anyways. So consider how does orientation even matter if in 6 years you're getting stoned alone, watching a caterpillar on the windowsill. Is who you fuck really the biggest problem you could have, when soon you might have crippling anxiety and depression with no friends to speak of?

Some stuff to consider OP. Also don't take my post too seriously, I guess what I'm trying to say is Bitch the fuck up.
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Nell Segglehon - Fri, 13 Apr 2018 17:21:08 EST ID:3A/9rSkO No.523440 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523436
>Lastly, a lot of us here usually end up alone or miserable in a husk of a relationship anyways

Why should we not question a society that's willing to sacrifice so many of itself in favor of the chosen few?
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Wesley Tootfield - Sat, 14 Apr 2018 00:26:45 EST ID:qjFm9y6P No.523444 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523440
Don't leave your choices to society then
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Edward Dassleson - Sat, 14 Apr 2018 12:04:40 EST ID:uVyEpelP No.523453 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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21 is not too old to come out of the closet.

Late 30's maybe, as you've probably passed your sexual peak, but society right now seems to be shifting, 30 is the new 20 and all that and people have a tendency to settle down and have (or if homo, adopt) kids in their very late 30's / early 40's. Hell even on a biological level this is true: Women are having their menopauses later and later with each generation.

But 21!? Come on OP you're still a baby in terms of sexuality.

So don't worry. Plenty of time to put things up your ass.
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Barnaby Soshmack - Sat, 14 Apr 2018 12:34:46 EST ID:76Fxhy4v No.523454 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523444

no problem about those "burnt horse definables" so-so.


Samantha Wheeler Bradley by Silas Carlsen - Sat, 14 Apr 2018 09:21:28 EST ID:itMozK9I No.523448 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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https://perfectmentalitypeanut.tumblr.com/post/172924438961/samantha-wheeler-bradley


Wanting to be lonley? by 18 year old autist. - Mon, 09 Apr 2018 23:45:01 EST ID:VacgdclH No.523357 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So, perfect girl, right? She seems to have a mild interest in me. But, it literally doesn't feel right. I'm not really looking for advice, but I'm really confused. Like, on one hand, I always wanted to not die alone, but on the other hand, I feel like I HAVE to die alone, or else the natural order of the universe.
Pic is me and my dog.
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John Blodgewud - Thu, 12 Apr 2018 02:31:23 EST ID:EV2TWz5A No.523410 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523409
OP’s username says “18 year old autist”
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Jenny Hettingway - Thu, 12 Apr 2018 13:02:40 EST ID:q7NC3IuN No.523420 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523409
You're barely literate but I agree on the picture. He looks 12.

His posts reeks of being really fucking young too. nb for 18 YO SENIOR BTW
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weiner - Thu, 12 Apr 2018 13:06:46 EST ID:IQzX0qFr No.523422 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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DICKS EVERYWHERE
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18 year old autist. - Fri, 13 Apr 2018 18:33:36 EST ID:/A6SGSGI No.523441 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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I was 15 in that picture. Now I look like this.

Fucking army haircuts.
Fucking puberty.
Fucking shaving cream dicks.
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John Wannerfield - Sat, 14 Apr 2018 04:39:57 EST ID:q7NC3IuN No.523446 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523441
Okay, so why the teen wangst "natural order" bullshit?

Lets be honest the truth is you think that if you can tell yourself that you're supposed to die alone that you can just give up and not fail. It's a way people cope with failure "Oh no I didn't want that" when really they were just afraid of failure reflecting on them. Some food for though.

>Failure is inevitable, everyone fails, there's no shame in it.
>You cannot succeed if you do not try. If you do try you may probably fail but that's better odds.
>Everyone dies alone, try to have some fun in the mean time
>If she does reject you just be cool about it, if she makes it a big deal its on her and her problem not yours
>HIFFWE


I think I have PTSD by Jenny Blackdale - Fri, 13 Apr 2018 18:55:42 EST ID:3JbSj1+z No.523442 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I don't know where to start... I've been diagnosed with a lot of shit over the years, BPD, major depression, anxiety disorder, body dysphoria and that's just off the top of my head. Never had any trauma like stuff though.

But September of 2017 I wound up arrested on a "mental health" hold. I don't want to go over the whole night again because I don't like remembering it. Basically a few of the guards in county beat the shit out of me. I was cuffed and shackled, I wasn't resisting or anything. One of the guards slammed my head against the concrete several times (maybe 7 or 8 times). I just remember blood running down around my eye sockets because by the end of it my browline along my forehead had been split open in four different spots. I remember when they were attacking me I was terrified. I thought I was gonna die just by how hard my head hitting the concrete. The whole night in jail I was scared, I was crying and trying not to fall asleep because I had enough of a concussion to where I felt almost drunk and was terrified I wouldn't wake up.

After I got out of jail I was in very bad shape. I cried the entire time I was awake so I popped Xanax enough to where I just slept for a week straight. After about a week I wasn't crying all the time about it at least. It still took a couple months for my hygiene habits to get back to normal and everytime after that I saw a cop I would have a panic attack. I lost my job after the attack because I was just too fucked up mentally to function at all.

I pretty much stayed hidden after that point. I thought I was getting better but in February I had a run in with cops again. They tried to catch me with drugs but I was clean. It ended with them threatening to lock me up without cause again. The whole exchange left me completely shook. I wound up getting back on heroin a couple days after the encounter. I had been clean 6 months. Anyways I been binging on Opiates since mid February but I've been in the process of kicking again for the past week.

Being sober again I don't think I can deny anymore what I've been trying to ignore since this shit with the cops happened. That I haven't been right since it happen…
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Nigel Bittingwock - Fri, 13 Apr 2018 20:47:18 EST ID:3Uzw56Hw No.523443 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Fuck the police. Cant even trust them anymore ffs.


My head's a mess by Edward Pipperden - Sat, 31 Mar 2018 11:27:13 EST ID:aUdigX5R No.523178 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I don't really want to do anything. Or at least I'm not sure whether I really want what I want, or whether I'm just setting a trap for myself.
Lately I've been spending all my time reading and training, studying and working (they're all sort of the same thing for me). I don't feel like drinking or smoking anymore, it just makes me less productive and I don't find any solace in it anymore. I also hang much less around with friends, unless it's for studying or training. I sort of don't see the point in it anymore, and also don't want to go out and drink and then be a useless fuck the entire next day. I've also gotten bored with tinder. I used to spend the whole day on that app, trying to find an ideal girl. Then I realized that even when I, eventually, after some time, matched with a cute interesting girl, I didn't even want to talk to her. Yesterday this cute girl that somewhat interests me invited me to watch her act at a play. I went, watched her, and left without even saying to her. I just didn't feel like talking to her, or playing like I liked her acting or what she did.

Now, what's holding me back? First off, I was in like, the best moment of my life last year, but got wrecked to pieces after the girl I was dating left from day to the next (partially my fault: I hinted that I didn't want any commitment. She took it way too seriously, got too desillussioned, and fell out of love). This was more than a year ago, but I still think of her everyday. I mean, I was probably fucked up before this happened, but this is still the manifestation of said issues. I don't know how to forget her. Even if it hurts less than last year, it's been over a year, and I haven't had any signifcant relationships since. I seem to not be able to like anyone else, always comparing everyone to a fictional ideal of what my former partner never was. And still, just forcing going out with someone to break free from said illussion isn't enough. I really don't feel like it. There was only one girl I had a nice time with and wanted to go out with, and she lived more than 2 hours away from my place, and wasn't really all that interested in me.
Then the…
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Charlotte Siddleman - Sun, 01 Apr 2018 19:13:34 EST ID:aUdigX5R No.523218 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>523190
Wow, thanks for such a long, dedicated post man. I don't know how to organize an answer so I'll just babble with everything going through my head right now. I think I need to chill a bit, and not force myself into going out with someone. I spent most of this weekend (it was a long holiday in my country) just reading in the library and studying. Although if I think of it thoroughly I actually did a lot of stuff. Nonetheless, no sex or women involved. And I had a great time. I don't know, I think I might just enjoy not having the pressure of having to go out with someone, and having to fuck someone. So long as my ex doesn't constantly intrude my train of thought I think it's doable.
As for the hobbies, it's a great advice. The problem is: first, I really don't have much time or energy left to do more stuff, I'm already way over my head with what I'm doing right now. Second, I usually incorporate everything I do to what I study or what I train. It's really difficult for me to just have something entirely separate. And if I do, I turn it into something serious, I absolutely have to get better at. Still I might have to go in that direction.
I probably will shoot myself eventually, sometimes it gets really hard to push through, or at least I've always kept that thought in the back of my mind, I really don't know what I'm doing, or why I'm doing it, other than that I somewhat enjoy it, and can't picture myself doing anything else. In any case, for the time being, I'd rather be alive, and that's good enough.
Lastly, I used to that math thing as well when I studied math hahaha. I do the memory thing now, but like I said, it makes it feel like a chore. It's hard, and I have to focus on not enjoying it. It just takes all the fun out of it.

Good luck on your tinder date man, I hope you have a good time with her.
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Ernest Pellerfed - Mon, 02 Apr 2018 03:53:22 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.523222 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523218

Your ex just fades with time. A lot of that is about asserting your authority over your own sense of happiness. Yes, you had a girl, now you do not - one can't exist without the other, so now I am whole again type attitude. No need to get with girls if you are too busy, just don't feel like you can't or are not capable.

You know your schedule and you know your interests. Arguably things like cooking, meditation and a pretty broad range of creative activities can be worked in efficiently and have a relatively good payoff/time ratio. Writing, drawing, music are the big 3 but there is a whole world of options suited to your skills. Even 30 minutes before bed builds up over time.

I understand why you say it, but killing yourself shouldn't be on the cards. Use that potential trajectory as encouragement to change yourself in the present. Empires are not built In a day. They also do not fall in a day either.

What you have right now, is an opportunity. This is the youngest you will ever be, take the time to build up and expand stable foundatoins that will help you throughout life.
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Eugene Grimshaw - Wed, 11 Apr 2018 01:40:38 EST ID:mv6CynSU No.523379 Ignore Report Quick Reply
In terms of the PE, I'd recommend learning how to relax your sphincter and PC muscles. There's a lot of shit online about how you should do kegels or whatever, but I think the main thing is basically just relaxation. Jizzing is caused by contractions. You don't need stronger muscles to squeeze and stop from jizzing imo, you just gotta learn to control and relax these muscles on command. I bought a book on it and I've been working on it lately. Fucking girls is a lot more challenging and I haven't gotten to test it in the past few weeks, but fucking my fleshlight I'm pretty fucking sure I'm getting more and more control. Hopefully within a few weeks I should be able to keep that shit relaxed until I decide I wanna cum.
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Fanny Lightson - Thu, 12 Apr 2018 23:29:53 EST ID:aUdigX5R No.523431 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>523379
Let me know how it went. Imma try these excercises out. Care to share the name/author for the book? I haven't found much info on this on the internet.
I may see a girl next weekend, I'll let you know if it goes well. Let me know if it had any effect for you. Also, I read you should be careful not to fart while doing reverse kegels lol.

>>523222
>What you have right now, is an opportunity. This is the youngest you will ever be
God, that's so depressing.

Still, I feel putting everything on writing here helped me a bit.
Thanks a lot.
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Nathaniel Wamblemat - Fri, 13 Apr 2018 00:36:49 EST ID:mv6CynSU No.523432 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523431


"Ejaculation freedom" by Dan Becket. So far feels like I've made a lot of progress. Not sure when the next time I'll get laid is, though. Could be soon if I stop acting like a pussy but I've been in a rut for a few weeks so I guess we'll see if this party on Fri pans out. The crux of it is being aware of your muscle tension in the PC muscles and sphincter, and relaxing them. You can feel them tense up when you get close to jizzing. So basically build up more and more stimulation and practice relaxing them entirely.

The book has lots more info though obviously. And specific exercises etc.


i cannot handle the confrontation that dating a woman brings... by Samuel Greenstock - Mon, 09 Apr 2018 12:33:09 EST ID:5KTKWz/H No.523348 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>be me, spaghetti spilling awkward turboautist with no social skills
>use the internet to meet a qt
>somehow fuck said qt despite the above handicap
>establish casual fuckbuddy arrangement with her
>fast forward a little while
>hanging out with her and 4 apparently close friends
>no specifics, but one of her friends takes a strong disliking to me and goes out of his way to make me as uncomfortable as possible and tries to assert himself as the dominant male in the room whilst making gestures towards the girl I'm seeing
>everyone in the room is baffled but finds it highly amusing and it keeps him going
>really stupidly raise the issue of his behaviour when we are alone
>she claims i am delusional (says he would never act like that) and starts to grill me on my views about social dynamics
>ohshitidungoofed.jpg
>i beg her not to tell anybody what i said
>stalk her facebook randomly a couple days later
>one of her female friends makes a post highlighting the hilarity of the incident and the girl i'm fucking calls him '#alpha' and he 'loved' the comment
>she wants to see me tonight
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Reuben Callerwill - Thu, 12 Apr 2018 16:35:32 EST ID:AFQAeJPA No.523425 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523424

And I'm "using" her for easy pussy, good company, free weed and a (quite nice) place to stay for free in the town I wanna live in 1-2 nights per week. You say it as if I'm getting a bad deal out of it lol. All she gets is me and my dick
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Samuel Dondlepod - Thu, 12 Apr 2018 18:47:29 EST ID:3A/9rSkO No.523427 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523425
Oh gee this is a relationship that'll last. Enjoy the mutual chlamydia.
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Reuben Callerwill - Thu, 12 Apr 2018 19:38:22 EST ID:AFQAeJPA No.523428 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523427

It's a textbook FWB setup. What else do you expect? This is a great asset for me at the moment because I have virtually no close friends living in my local area anymore and having little human contact hasn't fared well on my mental health. I get a girl to talk to who understands my issues in quite some depth despite knowing me for a short period of time, and I have the opportunity meet new people through her (literally every single person I've met through her has been incredibly warm and welcoming except this one dude). Plus I'm actually learning to get good in bed, and the sex is actually helping me to get over some of my (incredibly extreme and unhealthy) sexual insecurities.

Sure it's not a loving relationship but I still feel there's some human connection and thus value in it.
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Nathaniel Wamblemat - Thu, 12 Apr 2018 20:52:39 EST ID:mv6CynSU No.523429 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523428

My suggestion would be to keep this attitude, have fun, hang out, hook up, don't care or think about if she's fucking anyone else. It's not your business, you're not in a committed relationship. If you keep that attitude and just continue to fuck her and maybe date some other girls given the chance, there's a pretty good chance she'll fall for you and want to go steady.

Ime it takes a few months but most girls who fuck a guy end up falling for them, if the guy doesn't get clingy and scare her off before that can happen. Then she'll start asking things like, "what are we?" etc. If not then who cares, keep tryna date other girls in the meantime. Don't ruin it by getting insecure about other guys or she'll ghost.
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George Poffingten - Thu, 12 Apr 2018 21:25:43 EST ID:pfjdTtO2 No.523430 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Happy days my friend. But as poster above says, feels are inevitable, from either or both parties. Be prepared. I think that youre more likely to cop them tbh. Isolation breeds emotional weakness. It's the human juices that come with fucking. They change your brain and build attachment. Without other options the one source becomes your precious.

Fair warning. It might hurt. But no biggie. Keep it casual. In the end you'll part ways or double down.


Accused of rape I didn’t commif by John Lightbury - Sun, 01 Apr 2018 09:40:05 EST ID:dNNf+dHN No.523213 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>live in apartment, become friends with neighbors(male and female)take interest in their friend
>the female tells me I should date her friend
>I move a few blocks away
>they all come to see my new apartment
>we drink some beers, my neighbors get pretty fucked up off some hard booze that I don’t drink and leave, their friend leaves too
>”I’m comin back in a bit to tuck you in”
>she comes back 20 mins later, we talk for a few hours, end up having sex
>she’s riding me, rubbing my dick, telling me she knew she was gonna fuck me etc
>we go smoke a cig after and she asks if I want to date her
>I say not really but I’ll take her to dinner next weekend
>”I don’t normally do hoe shit”
>she leaves
>10 mins later her friend, my old neighbor, is calling me screaming at me calling me a rapist saying she’s gonna shove my dick up my spine

What do? I feel so humiliated, degraded, and disgusted. I can’t believe I actually liked this girl. Should be noted the girl I had sex with wasn’t even drinking.
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Hugh Nucklefuck - Sat, 07 Apr 2018 05:49:03 EST ID:XHfi7qC0 No.523307 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523213
>”I don’t normally do hoe shit"

ahhahahahahahahaha oh god OP that is hilarity.
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Jenny Heffingtere - Sun, 08 Apr 2018 06:23:09 EST ID:C+6NY20y No.523326 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523307

blowjobber's remorse
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Graham Doshcheg - Sun, 08 Apr 2018 13:39:49 EST ID:UHqFjXOq No.523332 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523307
Girls jimmies got rustled hard. Bahahahaha!!
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Caroline Sinkinwadging - Tue, 10 Apr 2018 20:47:10 EST ID:KdXpD9bZ No.523377 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP this is terrifying shit. Something kind of like this happened to me once, but luckily nothing came of it. This girl told me I could sleep at her house, and long story short we're in her bed kissing, and she grabs a condom, puts it on, and rides me into the sunset. When we broke up, she tried to tell me that I raped her! I was freaked out by the suggestion, and said, "but you put a condom on my dick and jumped on top of me." I told her that, if anything, she raped me.
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Eugene Grimshaw - Wed, 11 Apr 2018 02:00:25 EST ID:mv6CynSU No.523382 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>523377

What do you mean "when we broke up?" How do you break up. Why do the guys here tell girls they've just fucked they don't want it to be serious right after sex? That's probably why they have intense emotional reactions like this, you're essentially making them feel like it wasn't real. There are a good deal of girls, even thots, who won't really fuck a guy until they feel emotionally engaged with the guy. You're getting them emotionally engaged, then fucking them, then being like, oh by the way it doesn't mean anything. If it doesn't mean anything, you don't say that right after fucking them in bed lmao.

Not justifying it, but this is possibly where some of these accusations come from. Just don't say anything instead and maybe a few days later if you must, break it off with them.


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