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Forever wizard by Samuel Budgeville - Sat, 23 Feb 2019 22:54:08 EST ID:UpdFegT9 No.528186 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Any advice for a guy who can't get a gf, advice on how to make peace with being forever a spider monkey's butt? im not looking just looking to stop sex needs, i also need to curb the need for a meaningfull, loving relationship
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Priscilla Heddleped - Tue, 12 Mar 2019 01:07:45 EST ID:v1KBCftA No.528356 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528344
I have tried bro, didn't work out so far
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Awe God !!vVWR8L52 - Wed, 13 Mar 2019 07:45:32 EST ID:qsLoK+yS No.528377 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528356
There's no other way. Even if you get a GF it would only serve to distract you from the fact that you are unhappy with yourself and from doing stuff about it. You'd just think, oh I simply have to improve the relationship in this and that way and then I'll be happy, but what the real benefit lies is in getting comfortable and happy with yourself. IMO
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Clara Fanstock - Thu, 14 Mar 2019 17:19:13 EST ID:Lny7/LNo No.528393 Ignore Report Quick Reply
While I agree with the "Become happy with yourself first" guy, I get how that can seem like a pretty impossible option. Especially without someone to serve as an outside source and confirm your credibility as a person.

Honestly? My last romantic attempts were when I was 18, so around 13 years ago. It backfired pretty fucking hard, by the way. Girl was a complete cunt, cost me more money, time and hours of sleep than it was worth. Everything after that was just more of a disaster, I don't think my heart's really in it any more. I've witnessed so many relationships, engagements and marriages fall apart in spectacularly destructive and painful ways that I'm starting to think real negatively about the concept of love. It's just chemicals in your head at this point, easy to replace with intoxication (drugs, I recommend weed but a few tries with shrooms could clear your head out as well), conversation & masturbation.


Drunk dad by Basil Blonnershaw - Sun, 03 Mar 2019 16:19:41 EST ID:aHljEXIz No.528286 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I’m 26. Live at home out of financial necessity. Have lived with an alcoholic father who gets aggressive and unpleasant on a fairly unpredictable but cyclical basis.

Me and my brother have both had to defend our mother on several occasions.

He recently fucked Christmas up, stayed off booze 6 weeks, picked this weekend to start fucking things up again. Tried to fight my mum and my brother. Also was found unconscious and had pissed his pants lol.

Mum seems afraid to leave him, compared it to escaping Scientology.

I’m just looking for outside opinions on gameplan, strategy and insights. I can throw my dad around easily so it’s not a true physical risk but my mum is a different matter.

Idk really, I’m conditioned to this, so it’s sort of underwhelming for me now but I know that something needs done. He rejects counselling, hates everybody and thinks he’s too smart to be told anything.
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Cyril Fuffingtark - Thu, 07 Mar 2019 13:25:17 EST ID:jnas4L6T No.528314 Ignore Report Quick Reply
i wish you the best of luck OP. you have righteous intentions.
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Ebenezer Crobberson - Tue, 12 Mar 2019 12:25:33 EST ID:1ZN3eOkX No.528360 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>OP update

For the last week my dad took the piss. He was amazon prime ordering litre bottles of vodka. A lot of shouting whenever anybody was in the house.

My brother and mother spent a week in a hotel. I’ve been living at my girlfriends with her 3 year old since last Monday whilst waiting for the havoc to blow over.

He’s been issued a restraining order style court notice.

He’s also, after a whole week, stopped drinking. He has admitted he has a drink problem and other family members posited the idea he has paranoid personality disorder, which he needs help for.

We are collecting keys for a flat tomorrow, although my mother and brother don’t want to move out the house.

My dad is supposedly going to do some expensive rehab which we will sell his car to pay for.

For me, it’s been a rough week. Totally disturbed my freelance work, my stress levels have been high enough to get a facial tick at times. I feel pretty tired.
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Ernest Chirringmat - Wed, 13 Mar 2019 03:54:41 EST ID:USUZpST+ No.528373 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528360
That's some real shit you're going through. Stay strong friend.


Speech Impediment / Rhotacism by Nathaniel Dreddlechedge - Sun, 10 Mar 2019 14:27:28 EST ID:0WkEIzU6 No.528338 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So this is the first time I am posting on this board since I usually only stick to /wooo/, /cd/, and sometimes /1701/. But this feels like the appropriate place to ask this question.

Is there anybody here who struggles with speech impediments? More specifically Rhotacism? How do you deal with it? I often times have to make sure I slow down and try my hardest to, at least, make my R sounds somewhat resemble an R sound. But there are times when it becomes rough. Technology such as Siri or Alexa have a hard time distinguishing what I am trying to say and that also goes for humans as well.

I have often been asked where I was from because it sounds like I have an accent. The accents that people assume range from English (fair enough, I do have English in my blood) and German. Sometimes people think I have a Scandinavian accent and one girl who worked at Goodwill thought I had a Boston accent. I don't understand that last one at all.

I just wish I could pronounce my R's more efficiently and I have no idea what else I could do to work on this.
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Rebecca Blevingfield - Sun, 10 Mar 2019 23:40:03 EST ID:JCATCBbz No.528346 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528338
Practice reciting this song until you feel better. https://youtu.be/rZxQFn6vTQA
Also study the spanish "rr" sound. Things like corre, agarrale, etc. The "rolling r" sound of the "rr" is useful probably moreso than the Spose video joke link. Good luck dude. If all else fails, own your "accent."


Deeply lonely, cant move along due to years of living as shut in manchild by Nigel Semblewell - Sun, 10 Mar 2019 01:37:04 EST ID:td58CMlR No.528332 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Alright, guys. I’m 23 and work part time in retail. I also volunteer teaching english to immigrants, which means a lot to me. The problem is, I live in the middle of bumfuck nowhere and can’t find anything that will hire me full time, nor can I find any friendships to fill the void. I can see how everything went wrong, though. I’ve been a shut-in and weirdo up until this last year when I decided that the only way to stop feeling suicidal all the time was to step outside and do things. Things are now significantly better, but I still have a shit family and a car that I have to share.

Again, I live in the middle of nowhere, and it seems anybody I know to be creative or intellectual is either working extremely hard to go somewhere or has given up and become an alcoholic or something. I have nothing in common with either group. I feel that I should be with those in the former group, but they all seem to have freedoms that I can’t enjoy because it’s only been the last year that I’ve been driving and I can barely get out from under parents who need the car to do their own tasks. The advice that got me away from being an incel was that the only way to get a girlfriend is to stop wanting one. I see what that means and I see that the same applies to any kind of friendly relationship because before you find people who can care about and identify with you, you have to make your own life. I feel like my environment and circumstances don’t allow me to do much, though, and I don’t like any church or the NRA. Fuck this fucking dump, I have no options or mobility and am at my wit’s end.

How do I keep from blowing my head off in the time it might take to find things that work for me? Such things can probably only include more hours.
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Rebecca Sobbertetch - Sun, 10 Mar 2019 13:02:20 EST ID:lXsK4abP No.528335 Ignore Report Quick Reply
take up a sport? biking would be useful
you don't suddenly build a life in one year
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Rebecca Blevingfield - Sun, 10 Mar 2019 20:13:08 EST ID:JCATCBbz No.528341 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528335
Yeah this. Make new friends and talk about your problems. That's the easiest thing to start with. Then your mindset and life will change. Then you will feel empowered to go wherever you want, with a successful mindset.

That's what I'd think about doing. A day at a time, step by step. Bob style.
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Awe God !!vVWR8L52 - Sun, 10 Mar 2019 21:45:01 EST ID:ljMsEkv4 No.528342 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528332
just do what you can is all you need to do, relax, think less, enjoy. whatever bro, just be self sufficient as much as possible which includes food, waste etc. even if there is no easy way to do it, you can always stop thinking and meditate, even while doing things and that is pretty much self sufficiency right there.


how to deal with cognitive dissonance by Hannah Memblewill - Sat, 09 Mar 2019 11:59:40 EST ID:ewPMWP4d No.528326 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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imagine your background is in something quite black and white, where the scientific method was respected and maybe even adored, and anything unfalsifiable was met with rolling eyes but anything unproven would be tested if possible

Now imagine you are doing a post graduate in something like psychoanalysis, where there are a lot of unfalsifiable statements, e.g. "Adults are still effected by the trauma of being born, even though they don't remember the experience" and you are going out of your mind and getting really angry in class and having to sit there and stew while everyone else just accepts it all as fact... it's not fact... "IT'S NOT EVEN WRONG"... anyway... what do I do... how do I deal
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Martha Grandford - Sun, 10 Mar 2019 11:18:36 EST ID:2LWKnBXK No.528333 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528327

Ah that is interesting, I guess I'd need maybe 100 people like you, and 100 people who were born conscious, and then see if there were any levels of depression and anxiety. And I'd have to control for people who had difficult births specifically because their mother was very stressed, because anxious moms have anxious kids and anxiety and fear can lead to difficult births
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Ernest Dunderchore - Sun, 10 Mar 2019 14:16:52 EST ID:gyfg5L3C No.528337 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>freudian shit
>scientific
lel
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Nathaniel Dreddlechedge - Sun, 10 Mar 2019 18:53:59 EST ID:0WkEIzU6 No.528340 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528326
Tell them off and be like the realest nigga to exist, Aristotle. Maybe you could hurt your professor's ass like how Aristotle did to Plato.


FREDDY MUERKS FLAMEPOINT OR NA by Frankthetaco - Sat, 09 Mar 2019 22:28:28 EST ID:EE+rc4vW No.528329 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So I just adopted my new cat fred, was found feral in some BUSH town in Canada and the old owner only had him 2 weeks and there blue Russians bear his ass so bad he lived under a bed. Now he's pumped he purs so loud me makes audible skweeks, is did cat a flamepoint siamese / orange tabby check out my main man and tell me what you think my gf and me been trying to find out halp 420 Chan bros I know we got a brain's
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Frankthetaco - Sat, 09 Mar 2019 22:30:26 EST ID:EE+rc4vW No.528330 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>528329
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Frankthetaco - Sat, 09 Mar 2019 22:33:06 EST ID:EE+rc4vW No.528331 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Archie Sennerkag - Tue, 12 Mar 2019 14:32:33 EST ID:ffVpGLbu No.528364 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528329
there's an animal board, it's as slow as fuck but this thread belongs there (or actually in an existing thread) and it will get replies I think most users check by every couple of weeks but it beats drowning in idiots who can't even get close to the right board AMIRITE. Unless your cat is really old he'll still be alive when you get them.


Taking myself too Seriously/How to be my own age by Sidney Dommlestone - Fri, 08 Mar 2019 15:07:18 EST ID:yreJ2lMK No.528321 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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When it hits me that I'm only 23, something feels bizarre about it. I haven't gone through war or major trauma, but I've moved multiple times during my life and experienced a diversity of places and people. My closest friends are a few years older than me. This perspective seems to warp my own sense of time and how much more I have left to experience leaves me with an anxious feeling. I'm doing alright with my early professional life, but I've made a decision to settle down in one place and make that my home for the next decade or so. Will this help me bring my own age into the appropriate perspective? What should I do to further enjoy my youth? I've taken myself quite seriously since I was about 14 years old. I'd like to be more realistic about my expectations for myself. The whole "take it one day at a time" idea. Any advice?
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Clara Buzzfield - Fri, 08 Mar 2019 17:05:13 EST ID:3nsGoX3r No.528322 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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First of all, bro, good work so far. You need to remind yourself you're doing a good job. Secondly, yes, I can imagine that settling down for a while after a lifetime of uprooting and movement will bring you some much needed and well-deserved stability.

There's nothing wrong with taking yourself seriously. You just need to know where the boundaries about that seriousness lie. You can't be serious about everything, you know. Not every shoelace you tie will be a perfect knot.

Do you have long term goals beyond enjoying your youth? If so, you should definitely keep them in mind as you try to figure out how to chill. The key to chilling without rotting away is to find hobbies you enjoy and engage with other people that share those interests.

Have you ever wanted to learn how to play an instrument? Learn to paint/draw? Learn woodworking or some shit? Those are all great hobbies to choose, because they are rewarding, and they are also fairly grindy. By grindy, I mean they have high skill ceilings that you will be able to keep working at and keep getting better at.

Perhaps counter-intuitively, one of the best ways to advance yourself seriously is to take yourself less seriously. You have to figure out which aspects of your life matter and need to be tryharded, and separate them from what can be done with a more relaxed approach.

That lesson was one of the hardest things for me to learn when I got out of high school and went to college. I was on a prescription for Adderall, and I was constantly hooked on getting shit done... taking things seriously... Well, ultimately, I suffered a lot of stress over mundane bullshit because I was stimmed the fuck out for bullshit that didn't matter.

Another very important thing you have to watch out for is to not be a destination oriented kind of person. You have to enjoy (or at least try to enjoy) the process of self-growth and the journey of life. Otherwise, you're gonna end up working years and years toward some goal, you'll hit it, and you'll be left with a bitter taste of "Now what?"

Even though we evaluate each other's lives based on the achievements we have made, it is essential to evaluate your self through the growth and experience you have gained.
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Ian Crovingway - Sat, 09 Mar 2019 03:27:45 EST ID:xZLggaXc No.528324 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528321
Honestly I'm a bit confused by what exactly it is you mean, so sorry if I'm misunderstanding you.

What it sounds like to me is that you had some kind of expectation regarding what it would/should feel like to be 23/in your 20s when you were younger, but your experience so far as a 23 year old isn't really matching up with that expectation. I'm 27, and in my own experience, the older I've gotten, the more I've realized and accepted that being in my 20s or just my current given age in general doesn't actually feel like much of... anything.

What I mean is, you expect to start feeling old/older, but really I don't feel that way at all. Every once in a great while the fact that my 19/20 year old coworkers ask me certain things, like if I've ever heard songs or know of artists that I just assumed were well known or otherwise famous enough that basically anyone I work with that they could ask (no matter being 18 or older) ought to be familiar with who they asked me about. Stuff like "have you ever heard this song?" and they play "Gangsta's Paradise" or "Have you ever heard of LL Cool J?" I figured even people their age would know this song or who that artist is. The fact they had to ask if I had ever even heard of them before gave me the impression that the people their age/their peers wouldn't automatically be familiar with these things. I don't actually feel old because of that, but I become much more aware keenly aware of the fact that I'm nearly a decade older than these people.

That said, it's also been my experience that others my age say similar things to me about how it feels to be as old as they are. That is to say, that it's not at all what they thought it'd be like and in reality doesn't really feel like much of anything. After I turned 23-25 my feelings regarding my age haven't changed at all and my life has more or less become such a normal and mundane routine that time and its passage themselves have all become a blur and lost any of the meaning or significance they used to have when I was younger.

That said, while it's good to desire to be the age you are and live up to …
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About a girl. by Priscilla Punnerhall - Mon, 04 Mar 2019 07:52:04 EST ID:PJL4xgV4 No.528295 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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It's a weird feeling. She's my actual first kindof relatonship. I lost my virginity to her (she doesn't know)
I thought(think?) I really liked this girl i work with. And when i'm iwth her, it feels good. Time flies away and I can almost feel like begging for her not to go.
It's overwhelming.
But how can I want someone so bad, but oddly just not...care about what she has to say? Like, its not like she talks a lot. But when she does, I just...don't care at all sometimes. I find it hard to connect. Maybe I've been trying too hard.
I mean we're not in a relationship so to speak. We're a thing. She'll act like my girl when she's here. When she's out, we're just good friends or something.
I don't get that either.

I get the whole thing of keeping appearances when we go out with coworkers, im not saying that, just saying it feels disconnected, seems to be with everyone but me, and when we're here or together somewhere just us, it seems all she wants is me.
I recognize my mind may be overstating things as well.
And to be fair I recognize the hipocrisy in my words. What right do I have to demand of her anything when sometimes I really don't care?

I don't know how to deal with this.
I just wanted to put this out there. Feels good to write about it I guess.
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Esther Womblestock - Mon, 04 Mar 2019 23:07:12 EST ID:PJL4xgV4 No.528302 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528299

Not to remove value from what you linked, but I'm not into this just for the sex. It's not like i'm fucking her and then i'm done. Wish I was sometimes.

>>528300
>don't try to classify it, just roll with it if you're both comfortable

Yeah sometimes it is, sometimes it really isn't. When we're out, it definitely isn't. It doesn't help most of our friends here are our crew in the office(we both work in a very relaxed, tight-knit small office) - so when we're out, it's hard to approach her and be subtle about it. I just get lost and get out of the way, if she wants to show up later, she does, if she doesn't, she doesn't. but obviously i prefer it when she does it.


>>528301

>do either of you want this to a be a long term thing?

She's been pretty specific on this: No. She actually once said she'd be happy if i found someone else.
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Hannah Hittingdock - Mon, 04 Mar 2019 23:58:46 EST ID:K1RNjacv No.528303 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528302
you caught feelings and will be crushed when it ends
enjoy it while it lasts
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Caroline Fanningman - Fri, 08 Mar 2019 10:40:05 EST ID:sfF6vCxe No.528320 Ignore Report Quick Reply
if you really don't give a shit about what she says but feel this amazing draw to her it's probably because she's the only person who has properly listened to you talk

i don't think you actually care about her for her


Crippling anxiety, what do? by Albert Drivingwill - Thu, 07 Mar 2019 19:58:40 EST ID:OfFH82C5 No.528317 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've had terrible anxiety pretty much all of my life. I thought I was getting better but now it seems I'm getting worse. I could not ever see myself holding down a full-time job where I have to constantly be around people. Working absolutely alone I can handle, sometimes interacting with people one-on-one and things like that I can handle, but not anything dealing with the public.

What do I do? I've had this problem pretty badly for like a decade now. Exposure doesn't seem to be working. Nothing seems to be working. How long before I end up homeless?


I'm waiting for my prize by bruno - Wed, 27 Feb 2019 20:17:29 EST ID:HPlA0RXn No.528242 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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for outsmarting the NSA
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Angus Gombleridge - Fri, 01 Mar 2019 00:07:14 EST ID:wmsh6wr0 No.528251 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You only get prizes when you get caught by the NSA, numbnuts.
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Cyril Pickwill - Sun, 03 Mar 2019 01:28:38 EST ID:JCATCBbz No.528275 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528242
Why wait for your prize? Why not take it and document it for us to laugh at as we get higher and more paranoid? That's how I'D outsmart the NSA, if I publicly claimed to be able to.
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Hamilton Buzzwill - Mon, 04 Mar 2019 03:17:37 EST ID:lqlegVeX No.528291 Ignore Report Quick Reply
The NSA doesn't care about you unless you are plotting dangerous acts. They don't care about drug trade, that is FBI.


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