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I wish my girlfriend would lose some weight by Fanny Goodstone - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 00:53:25 EST ID:sauTrkls No.522206 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So I'm dating a really great girl who I'm in love with - this is my first real serious relationship with love etc. (I'm 27)
only problem is she's 185 pounds/5.1 feet
good tits/ass, very beautiful face, we have sex almost every day so I AM attracted to her. I just find myself looking at thin women on the street and wishing she could wear what they wear and look like this because looking like a slut + the fact I love her so much would make my dick and maybe whole being explode with pleasure
she knows she's fat she's not one of those fat acceptance feminists but she doesn't actually make effort to change this because of laziness
she half tries... it's just not enough
I don't really know how to approach this because it's not a deal breaker, like I said she's not obese I do enjoy her physically very much
just wish that with all the other good stuff she could also be hot thin slut sonetimes y'know?
if she keeps getting fat it's gonna be a real problem
on the other hand I hate dating, don't think that "hot" women are good partners in general and have experienced sex with hot women (escorts though)
idk these feelings are bothering me - would be unfortunate if the relationship suffers from something she could relatively easily change but doesn't because of laziness
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Sidney Hunderfield - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 06:18:18 EST ID:jAXGvxDa No.522318 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522206
I think you have serious psychological issues with women. I think you need to go to therapy. I don't think you are emotionally mature enough at present to have a girlfriend.

Yes, if you want a thin girl that is a legitimate want, there is nothing wrong with a sexual attraction to an adult. The problem is everything else you said besides that.
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Ernest Gugglelad - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 08:26:13 EST ID:qjsN1w3c No.522321 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Just tell her. Good communication is key for any relationship. Physical attraction is also key.
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Caroline Hembledock - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 09:40:04 EST ID:63ccNEDg No.522325 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522318
can you elaborate? would make sense because I started dating relatively late (when I was around 23) and between 19 until then I fucked trannies and prostitutes (first experiences of everything from kissing to sex was during that time)
so I don't have a "normal history" regarding my sexual/romantic development.
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Fuck Gagglestone - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 14:16:27 EST ID:ilcXZXCD No.522331 Ignore Report Quick Reply
wow the white knight faggotry in this thread is far beyond what i expected. why defend fat people? it is their own fault. if OP wishes his gf wasn't so fat that's reasonable. doesn't mean he has "problems" lmao
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Lillian Worthingspear - Sun, 18 Feb 2018 23:30:43 EST ID:r6RDja3H No.522371 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Lead by example!
If you're getting super in shape and eating healthy she will join in.
Promise.


Mama Drama. Manipulative, argumentative by Sophie Finninglodging - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 02:28:54 EST ID:tvB2UcJP No.522312 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Alright so I got dooped into moving across the country out of the state I grew up in to live closer to my family and it turns out it was all based on lies and a motherly need to control me by getting me away from all my “”bad”” friends who my mom always got the wrong idea about to be a point of wrongfully blaming all my friends for shit they werent actually responsible for. I am set to move back, after a year of being homeless out here and no help from my mother or sisters or brother-in-law who live out here. My mom is drinking again for the first time in my life after being sober 25 years. I cannot speak with her without her becoming irrational and argumentative and whenever I make a solid point and call her on her bullshit she either hangs up the phone or just sighs and scoffs makes me leave after telling me I dont realize. All this, and she still has the nerve to say “oh youre going back there (my home state) now for what? Youre just going to fail it wont be any different than here.” While I tell her that ALL of my friends there have already offered me jobs and places to stay, and that I would actually be supported and helped if I ever ended up like here instead of being denied their spare bedroom and told none of them know anybody hiring or with rooms to spare. She just constantly tries poisoning my plans to leave and isnt supportive in the least of any of it. I havent been able to have a real conversation beyond your typical “ oh i did this last week, work was ___, this shows on tv next week, etc” without her getting upset and shutting down over any critical thoughts. Her being drunk attacked me last year when I refused to leave after making a solid point on her behavior not knowing she was just drunk and I ended up getting an assault 4 misdemeanor charge and on probation this whole time for restraining her wrists / putting my hands on her on their property. They’ve all pretty blatantly screwed my life up by making me move across the map only to have me living in my car and shit. Im going back home in a couple months, but I just dont see why my family is acting like they did nothing wrong and that im wrong for bringing up how they actively ruined my life since I moved here. I get that I am responsible to a…
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Ian Chashshit - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 05:28:19 EST ID:COAX7aNZ No.522314 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522312
Sometimes you've just got walk away from family. In a few years your mother will either be gone or she'll realise what she's lost and come to you and then you only engage on terms that suit you.

You have issues too though.
>attacked me last year when I refused to leave
Well who cares if she was drunk. You were fucking tresspassing on her property. People get shot for less.

Make sure you let go. You obviously struggle with it. You need to walk clean away and ensure any communication is made on your terms but remember she can decline. "My way or nothing" allows her to chose nothing. I'd probably take a good clean break entirely once you're set up. Don't tell her your address or even town. Move when you can. Ensure you control the contact. Maybe let her have an email address if you're okay with not knowing about stuff that happens to your family (maybe ever). One thing I'd bear in mind is that your mum probably poisons the minds of your family. That's a lost cause most likely.

You need to just let go. You're getting out so just let go. She's not worth it. Her punishment is you walking out. For genuinely bad people they lose a lot of people that way. They suffer the consequences of their actions without invading their home.
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Hugh Turveylock - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 17:20:05 EST ID:zX0tz+c+ No.522333 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522314
> trespassing
I was invited over and she just went off about all her kids stressing her out the moment I got inside. I didnt leave because she was making a self fulfilling prophecy involving her kids and I wanted to talk with her about it more before leaving. Any critical thought required makes her flip out. I under If told to leave then go but when its not coming from a sane frame of mind its kind of more sensible to address their craziness and help them sort it out.
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Hamilton Cegglecocke - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 19:59:50 EST ID:COAX7aNZ No.522335 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522333
Okay, fair enough but the moral remains the same. You can't help her but you can lose a lot. Or you can get the fuck out and enjoy your life.
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Ian Blackham - Sun, 18 Feb 2018 14:18:22 EST ID:GiCOfox9 No.522359 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Go get whatever job your friends were offering you, and live a good life. You can Skype or something with your mom from time to time without it being a drag, but you have to keep your distance.


lack of focus by bubbles - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 08:09:17 EST ID:2z+67FzY No.522319 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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-I was pimping and felt guilty, tried to stop but the main girl didn't want to give me up.
-I ended up getting sentenced and charged with home detention for smacking her after she hit me / kicked my $30,000 car as I tried to drop her to a friends house and end the relationship.
  • now i'm in a state of reflection thinking how I let myself get into this situation in the first place and I think it's because I lack the concentration/focus/anxiety which causes procrastination for my semi successful legitimate business.
-I really want to treat people well and be a great member to society but I'm afraid i'm going to fall into my old ways as soon as I reattain my freedom due to my inability to do anything which requires me to maintain any more attention than would be required for a conversation or a computer game.

Not sure what I want/expect from you all but
absolutely any comment is helpful.
so please post something.
Thank you.
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Ebenezer Senkindock - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 11:07:31 EST ID:ApD5b+Tp No.522329 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Being a pimp doesn't seem like a good lifestyle.
Considering you have to control the girl and deal with potentially dangerous clients and the police who will try to put you in prison.
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Blackie-Chan - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 13:08:54 EST ID:tI0iknXy No.522330 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522319
This user has been ignored
This thread has been hidden
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William Serryhood - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 15:06:16 EST ID:B/1t3ZFg No.522332 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522319
Well you could start by treating yourself well and when you are overflowing you will want to treat everyone else well.

But the best advice is to just don't fuss about it, that is treating yourself well. Godspeed.
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Cyril Clunningfot - Sun, 18 Feb 2018 08:42:33 EST ID:iRI1qsEa No.522345 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>522329
I enjoyed the life style to a degree, Nice things, Hotel rooms, Woman who adored me and a lifestyle that involved learning how to foster more adoration from people all the time.
dangerous clients and police were never a problem for me just main issue was letting one of the girls get damaging information about me which she decided to use to black mail me into continuing with her and stop with a few other girls.
It's not that doing what I did is a good option but with my lack of for seen ability to do anything else as successfully it may be my only option I don't feel like a complete loser.
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Cyril Clunningfot - Sun, 18 Feb 2018 08:45:40 EST ID:iRI1qsEa No.522346 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522332
I do treat myself as well as I can, and I do my best to treat girls/people well when I can too granted it didn't impact on business too much.
but how can you look after yourself besides the superficial things?
eating well, looking nice etc.


In a new relationship, she has already broken my trust by Priscilla Heffingnidge - Thu, 15 Feb 2018 22:45:46 EST ID:IOxG/ldg No.522283 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm dating someone I met a uni. It's been close to a month and there's already visible problems that I'm finding hard to easily forgive and overlook. I would like advice on whether or not I'm over thinking this situation.

So there's a guy in one of her classes that she's befriended. I ran into him showing her something she did for class. I already had a long talk with her that if we're dating were exclusive to each other. She agreed and directly after this gave her number to that guy.

We talked about it and she said she did it as friends but I'm just not buying it because she didn't tell the guy that she had a boyfriend. I'm already thinking this is a deal breaker for me because she just didn't see it that way and willingly gave her number to someone else and didn't tell him she was in a relationship.
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Isabella Snodwell - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 03:30:44 EST ID:ef6bmTJo No.522313 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You might as well break up because it's uni and she's going to have male friends and there's no way you can handle that.

You suck. You've barely even started to get to know this woman and you already expect her to not talk to members of the opposite sex. You are acting like a big male gorilla, hording some ovaries. She's not just a puss mate. She's a human being.

Are you not talking to any single women at all now? You probably aren't . That's why you're so sad. You have such a small slice of life experience that you don't even know what you're losing.

In short, this won't last and you're wasting your uni experience by having a shitty attitude. It's going to suck later on.
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Matilda Bablingsudge - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 10:18:30 EST ID:TNGxHAKH No.522327 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>522306
Correct. Allow me to elaborate on this:
>It's always a sex thing, even when it's not a sex thing.
This sentence is elegant although it's a bit cryptic. It means that even if both parties (your gf and her boy friend) enter into the friendship with no ulterior motives, one will inevitably become attracted to the other. Repeated exposure (hanging out alone together) and shared trauma (talking to each other about problems) both lead to feelings of romantic attraction. The only scenario in which this could possibly work is if you were friends with the guy first. The fact that you're some nameless boyfriend all but guarantees she will cheat on you with him.

Don't listen to the s0yb0ys. Women sleep around when they're young, hit the wall, then start being monogamous with whatever [email protected] bucks she settles down with. Dump her and next time try to find a girl who "only gets along with boys". They are always sluts.
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Matilda Bablingsudge - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 10:19:57 EST ID:TNGxHAKH No.522328 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522327
>find a girl who *isn't the type who* "only gets along with boys"
nb
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Jarvis Bashridge - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 18:17:31 EST ID:dXxrhQ2T No.522334 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Did you tell her that it makes you uncomfortable that she gave a guy her number without even mentioning that she has a boyfriend?

I have a lot of experience dating, and there's nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex, but she needs to be aware that there are certain things that might be seen as questionable.

I see people in relationships do things all the time that they know their partner would not be okay with. It happens all the fucking time. I've been single for the last two years by choice simply because I don't feel like dealing with the bullshit right now. It takes a special kind of person to be in a healthy relationship.

Also, do not expect anything to last out of a relationship when you're under 25. Like, the point of dating when you're under thirty is to learn how to navigate a relationship so that when you are mature and responsible enough that you know what you're doing.

Most relationships last for less than two years.
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Walter Murdshaw - Sun, 18 Feb 2018 03:50:44 EST ID:lyfsSDpA No.522341 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522313
lol dont listen to this idiot


Got played by a heroin addict gang member. by Cornelius Cillyfudge - Tue, 13 Feb 2018 00:35:31 EST ID:Km7nxoPl No.522175 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey /qq it's been a while. I just need to vent. I posted this on circlejerk but have gotten no replies. I think people think I'm trolling. But hopefully here I can get some conversation or comfort.

It's a dumb story. It all starts with my childhood best

I had a best friend for 10 years on and off. We were best friends when we were really young before anything bad ever happened so that's why I have stayed by her side and trusted her ignorantly throughout what I'm about to tell you.

She dropped out of school in 10th grade and started doing heroin. That's when things got really bad. I ended the friendship several times due to her drug use and her sleeping with my boyfriend(s) over the years. I kept accepting her back into my life because she would claim to be sober and say how she always loves me and needs me.
Surprise! She's never been sober and she has never loved or needed me. She has severe bipolar disorder and doesn't love anything deep down.

She ended up getting married to a heroin addict and having a son. This son became my godson. I met him in the NICU where he stayed for 6 weeks due to methadone addiction.

I cared for him for 2.5 years before the bff showed me once and for all that she is not sober and doesn't plan on it. I am, was, her only sober friend. She likes to only be around other addicts and known pedophiles.

She is now an escort and has a pimp who tells her who to service.
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Matilda Bablingsudge - Fri, 16 Feb 2018 22:35:43 EST ID:TNGxHAKH No.522307 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>522277
>I never get laid
>am literally a pimp's whore
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Ebenezer Senkindock - Fri, 16 Feb 2018 23:44:33 EST ID:ApD5b+Tp No.522308 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522265
>fuck pimps
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Sidney Hunderfield - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 06:12:08 EST ID:jAXGvxDa No.522317 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522175
> He was completely naked other than his bandana.

rofl
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Ernest Gugglelad - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 08:15:19 EST ID:qjsN1w3c No.522320 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522175
This has to be a troll. This is the definition of a trashy dumb hoe but she's trying to claim she's better than this other trashy dumb hoe she knows by saying she's sober (on a fucking website dedicated to drug use). It's like it's designed to piss off the people here.
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Matilda Bablingsudge - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 09:10:22 EST ID:TNGxHAKH No.522323 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>522320
Given my centuries of extensive shitposting on imageboards, my internal heuristic algorithm tells me this is the real deal If not, bravo troll. Bravo.


Friendly Advice From Your Suburban Homeboy by Henry Buvingpug - Fri, 16 Feb 2018 18:17:11 EST ID:ApD5b+Tp No.522301 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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My recommendation to all of you young guys is to stay away from girls with drug habits,mental problems and rich guys. If you even offend them slightly they will lie to no end to ruin your life and steal all your shit. I've had this experience far too times and its a miracle I'm not dead or in prison.

I offended a rich Azerbaijani girl who has mental problems and is on prozac or some shit. I offended some fat annoying Jewish chick who eats too many burritos and is on Klonopin+Antidepressants. I told her that I am gay because she literally wouldnt stop talking about eating burritos and I couldnt even respect myself for being with that. I offended some racist Belgian chick and she is acussing me of being a Jihadist and stealing her worthless artwork. Most recently I offended a Russian girl who apparently is some oligarchs daughter. I assumed that she is a rich Arabs sex slave and she became offended; I'm probably right about that.

So you know my life basically sucks now and I cant even look at porn without a Federal Agent coming out of the faucets in my house.

So I'll be buying a sex doll and I'll probably go to prison or some shit for buying it.
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Henry Buvingpug - Fri, 16 Feb 2018 18:19:08 EST ID:ApD5b+Tp No.522302 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522301
>and rich dads*
Stay way from girls with rich dads.
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Henry Buvingpug - Fri, 16 Feb 2018 18:23:57 EST ID:ApD5b+Tp No.522303 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>522302
Fuck my grammar.
Fuck my attention span.
Fuck my spam.
I just want to get back to my baseline.
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Blackie-Chan - Fri, 16 Feb 2018 20:13:11 EST ID:Vjzly2wb No.522304 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Ebenezer Senkindock - Fri, 16 Feb 2018 21:14:30 EST ID:ApD5b+Tp No.522305 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Also never trust a therapist. I mean I never did and I still managed to get fucked. I mean I told the one peabrained stick bitch that I wanted to marry a guy and she started making up all sorts of bullshit. I told the fat old gay pedophile that I wanted to be a chick and he started making up all sorts of bullshit. The worst part is he's a known asshole in every circle he runs in. I mean I never gave them full disclosure and still manged to get fucked.

Not that the truth is that bad.
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Ian Chashshit - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 05:31:53 EST ID:COAX7aNZ No.522315 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522305
I had a counselor and he was fine. However I actually trusted him and resonated with his style and values. The truth is that if you don't feel that about therapy it WILL fail and you shouldn't just not trust you should find someone else regardless. A good therapist is a guide and sounding board and they can't do that if they hear your words and hear different meanings to the ones you intend.

These were people with different values and worldviews and it was doomed.


I'm Stuck by Molly Sundlelone - Fri, 29 Dec 2017 02:29:42 EST ID:dFYU0iAz No.520918 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So she's sleeping next to me right now. I've known her for about a month. We started hanging out often pretty quick. She told me she was pre-med but her mom revealed to me that was a lie. She confirmed it was a lie. So she lied to me for a month. A few days after that we talked about what she wants to do with her life and that was painful. She doesn't know, she's depressed, she was talking about her gramps dying and abusive ex and was snappy and defensive when offered solutions. So she has no job no money no car and today she moved in after she took me to get her stuff from her mom's cuz they were arguing yet again about whatever. We were talking about it kinda but I was unsure and never said yes but today it happened. I feel like I was hustled.

I have ED. I rarely get an erection and when I do it doesn't last long. She's aware and has stuck around despite of it. I give good head so there's that. I feel like this is the biggest reason I deal with her because most girls don't even text back after I can't fuck them. She's not the best conversationial partner. She loves to smoke weed and I'm in the military. She lied for a month. She doesn't do any chores. I've asked her why she likes being over here she said cuz she doesn't like it at her moms. I said why do you like me she said because I take good care of her. Is that what this is? She's 19 I'm 28.

Plz help.
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Archie Duckshit - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 06:58:13 EST ID:ef6bmTJo No.522226 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522159
Nah forget the getting buff and the being a higher form of yourself bullshit. Do it if you enjoy it but don't feel like you need it. The point is chill out and don't let your emotions and your dick lead you around like you're in a dog show.

Romance is best when it slowly unfolds, ideally after a fuck tonne of sex. If you're getting drunk off just being near a chick then stay the fuck back until you sober up. If you get nervous around her so much that you can't control yourself and you can't stop fantasizing about her or imagining the worst when she's not around it's going to be hard to have a good relationship at all. Get away from that kind of needy love for a bit. You don't need to have your world cave in over a chick mate. You're pretty cool. You still have a good life by yourself.

Tbh you sound like a dude that doesn't have much platonic intimacy. Get closer to your friends.
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Nicholas Gerringway - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 10:23:06 EST ID:xn5WBdes No.522232 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520918
She is a parasite and will dump you.
Fix your penis and get rid of her.
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Nicholas Gerringway - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 10:40:22 EST ID:xn5WBdes No.522234 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521165
damn niqqa get your shit together. Have some self respect. I'm not the kind of guy who would usually say something like this but: werent you in the military? dont they teach you to have some balls in there?
why did you even started to talk with her again smh
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Nicholas Gerringway - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 11:04:58 EST ID:xn5WBdes No.522235 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522111
you are clearly some sort of psycho because of obsseing so much with this hoe
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Martha Doffingtut - Fri, 16 Feb 2018 10:45:09 EST ID:dFYU0iAz No.522296 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522232

That's what happened. I got manipulated and used and discarded when she got bored. The second month when she unblocked me was blatant use and that's why she kept pulling and pulling. Because I wasn't just letting her do whatever, I was either saying no or confronting her when things weren't adding up.

>>522234

The military has taught me how to keep my house clean, be on time for work, and not do drugs. It's not as life changing on a personal level as you think. It's mostly just a stable job with benefits. These situations are learning experiences, and I have a lot of learning to do because I had a very late start.


>>522235

I'm not a psycho. I was the victim of incessant psychological abuse. She wanted me to like her and feel comfortable so she could be in my house. She played off that later with intermittent attention to maintain deoendency. I'm not a psycho. I don't use people, lie to them, or manipulate them into doing what I want them to do with no regard for their feelings or mental health. She's the psycho. A psycho wouldn't stop just because someone threatened police involvement. A psycho wouldn't just accept no contact when there are still avenues to have contact. I am more in the realm of some sort of self-love deficiency and abandonment trauma. Hence the difficulty to just let it go despite overwhelming clues. And I'm letting her go. But it's hard. I have issues to work out in therapy for sure.


I just want to thank everyone for their advice. I'm sorry I didn't heed it sooner. I was sprung asf. The thought of her being just a hoe was damn near impossible to accept. I'm putting the pieces together and finally realizing it though. This was a valuable experience, however hurtful. Thank you for your support.


The Diamond Ring Debate by Albert Blytheshaw - Thu, 15 Feb 2018 22:40:40 EST ID:iqT3e1/3 No.522282 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Well, just had my night fucked because of arguing with my girlfriend about the concept of diamond rings. Pretty obvious who's on what side. I don't think I need to go over the reasons why a "diamond" ring specifically trivializes the concept of commitment, or how her want for it was indoctrinated by a corporation. This is probably like the eighth time we've had this debate, except this time it ended with her crying and saying if it was brought up again it would be over, and that even when I do propose with a diamond ring, there won't be any joy in it since she knows I don't actually like the concept. So what do now? Did I fuck my romantic future? Honestly, it seems like much of the relationship has steered me further from my non-conformist ideals that I've held since adolescence. I always figured it was just part of growing up, but I'm afraid I'll wake up in 20 years and hate myself and my place in life. That being said, it's not like I'm on the "wrong" track by society's standards. We've been dating 3 years, we're both going to law school together, and there's potentially a great future ahead (if wearing a suit and tie to work everyday counts as great to people, fucking kill me). It seems like this debate is just a symptom of a larger issue, which I hope won't come back to bite me in the ass. Any thoughts or opinions would be greatly appreciated
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Hugh Smallbanks - Fri, 16 Feb 2018 01:22:05 EST ID:NvFCBHp0 No.522286 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>how her want for it was indoctrinated by a corporation

While I agree with you on this one, I think after having the argument/debate 8 times you should either split up or give in and get her a ring. It's obvious that it's important to her as a sign of love - how she got that idea isn't really important, in her mind. It could be a symptom of a larger problem (maybe she feels like you aren't expressing love in other ways?) but only you can really answer that.
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Sophie Wullerwill - Fri, 16 Feb 2018 01:43:13 EST ID:u+WSCYdp No.522287 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Well yeah. Values and worldviews generally have to align enough to keep the peace in couples for the relationship to last the distance. It's a bit concerning that it's come to the point of crying about it.

I'm engaged and my fiancee and I both laughed about the idea of a diamond ring. Her engagement ring was $100 and you can change the rock to a different coloured one. Simple. It took one conversation and we already agreed at the beginning. Then again we're not entirely compatible in every area.

You guys should at least learn to talk about it in a way that doesn't have you screaming about it afterwards. Or if it does end up that way you guys should talk about it the next day when you're both calmer.

Also consider a career that you enjoy and that aligns with your values.

In other words THOSE ISSUES ARE GOING TO COME BACK AND BITE YOU IN THE FACE SOONER THAN YOU EXPECT IF YOU DON'T CONFRONT THEM!!!!!
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Fucking Fuckinghood - Fri, 16 Feb 2018 14:58:42 EST ID:COAX7aNZ No.522299 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522282
A lot of stuff will be said about your relationship and questions asked regarding your values and priorities (both of you). No doubt. I'm going to focus on something else.

About the law degree. Do you enjoy the subject and the craft? You can always do law for someone worthwhile.

Now I appreciate a non conformist who does what they feel is right, but if you refuse to conform unbendingly you're as bound by the rules as everyone else. "Growing up" isn't abandoning your principles but actually having them. Instead of saying "does this align with society" you should always look at what you actually believe.

Anyway if you like law then maybe look for something worthwhile to do with it. One of my old uni friends is a human rights lawyer because she's an enormous social justice warrior (though not too much of a negative stereotype now she's a real adult) and she loves it. I'm an accountant and the idea of working for a big exploitative corporation or a shifty bank makes me sick, but I love the work. Fortunately I work for an organisation I believe in. They also have lots of lawyers.

I do have to wear a tie but whatever. That's the other part of compromise. Pick your battles. Wearing a tie to work (or the 9 to 5 which is one of the least fucky work patterns to work) is not a hill worth dying on. Saying "I help people who are a positive effect on the community" rather than earning more money elsewhere is one I'd be prepared to end a relationship over though (because there'd be a huge values gulf then).

What I'm saying is that if you can do a job you enjoy and achieve something worthwhile then "wearing a suit" is a not giving up your happiness. Life is compromises and trade. The key is getting a lot out of what you sacrifice. Let the unimportant things go. You start with nothing, if you have to wear a tie to gain making a positive impact and you can live of it, do it. If that's not a sacrifice you'd make then fuck your dumb principles. They suck.


Fuck Everybody by Nigel Buzzfuck - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 17:30:32 EST ID:y0iK7Iy7 No.522241 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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On my phone contacts list.
Alsi fuck everyone from the last six years.
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psych - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 23:37:05 EST ID:NG2TT/iW No.522249 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522241
nice pic
nice post
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Dr. Tempo Benzo - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 23:40:53 EST ID:fhf6mHzA No.522250 Ignore Report Quick Reply
skirrrt


Pointless thread, just noticing... by Nigel Dremmerson - Wed, 07 Feb 2018 12:53:56 EST ID:VNZRIbJT No.522010 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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What happened to all the forever a spider monkey's butt threads? I used to take some sort of comfort in the fact I wasn't the only total loser around these parts. Well maybe it worked out for some of you, so for that I congratulate you!
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Shit Drussletud - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 11:55:22 EST ID:VNZRIbJT No.522236 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Sorry for no responses I was just kinda driving by one day.

>>522023
Eh, I often think this too. I mean I'm not full blown retarded or anything. Things are bound to work out but it's just taken it's damn time.

>>522029
I meant to respond to this Friday night but I got home way to messed up. This was honestly encouraging, it usually comes down to "being single has it's advantages" but to get more in depth, I do see what you're describing at my age. People are stuck in relationships due to children, some financial commitment and most often just because of normality. I got a co-worker that just bitches about his girl all the time and he's been dating her since I've known him. I'm fine for the most part I just get "bitch triggered" sometimes. See intimacy IRL or in media that makes me feel like garbage... Likely why I'm responding on today of all days.

>>522034
Used to drink a lot in college, had some hookups I can barley remember. I don't think I'll get powers when I turn 30 which is a shame...
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Basil Gibbershit - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 16:40:08 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.522238 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Most of it starts with fixing your head. Just have to cut your losses, start with nothing and continue. Believing that you are capable of getting to where you need to go, is essential. If you don't, you just quit without entering the ring. It won't always feel like it, especially at the time, but it's better to be a bloody mess on the floor getting your ass kicked, than a pussy quivering in the corner, pissing themselves raw with fear at the idea of trying because "I JJUSSTT can't". So yeah, accept you are about to fight and get your shit in line.

Then you've got the usual self-improvement drive. Get your health in order via diet and exercise. Get some hobbies to keep your shit occupied when you ain't working. Go places. Do things. See people. Read books. Find new music. ETC. Not only are you gaining life XP, but this shit scores points with women in conversation - it gives you more to talk about. Hobbies which grow with your commitment are useful too, ie bodybuilding, art, music, martial arts, cycling etc. You might suck now but a year from now, you will be bigger, stronger and motivated to continue. Also, it should be a given that you begin sorting out all your shitty features like jerking off to anime, sleeping till 5pm after a late night video game binge and only being able to talk about youtube videos.

Acquire some basic grasp of social interactions, conversation and confidence. Practice on co-workers, random people, friends etc. Just get yourself to a stage where it's alright to walk into somewhere unrehearsed and feel natural.

Then it's just a case of improving your presentation. This is a pretty subjective and controversial area. I'd say if you want to play it safe and assure the highest probability for yourself, then it's a case of get in shape, wear basic clothing and get a haircut which doesn't suck. Stay clean, basic and look fresh. This way, you don't alienate yourself from a mainstream audience. Sooner or later, being an average looking guy will work out, if you do it right. If you are after someone more specific, then you have to be more specific. You still need to know how to have a decent haircut but style wise there is a lot m…
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Alice Clankinwill - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 19:00:40 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.522246 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522029
>>522032
what single ppl tell themselves to cope down the feeling of being single

it's so sad! j-just i-improve m-my life, maybe someone will come eventually... ;_; i want to hug all of you
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Betsy Pickhall - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 20:30:18 EST ID:COAX7aNZ No.522248 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522246
You're not very literate. Stealth guy was also joking you jabroni.

Improve your life because it's worth doing. It helps a bit but it doesn't change who you are. It does however make your life much better. So soldier on, one foot in front of the other. Do it for you not for "her".

Additional food for thought: If massive self improvement doesn't massively improve sex life then your worth/value and sex life aren't strongly linked. I know it's valentines day and the feeling of "why can't I crack this?" but a this guy probably gets laid more than me and he just wrote a serious post about a guy with a "stealth addiction" without making a single pun or hint of irony.

Don't wizardchan. Don't MGTOW. Just get on with your life. Also if you did make yourself a good partner and no one took that up at least you can lay that to rest. People tell me to get out there but no one I know meets good partners through "out there" or dating sites. They find them at work or through friends. So again make good friends, get a nice job. They might get you laid but if they don't you won't regret it.
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Edward Drebbleshaw - Thu, 15 Feb 2018 19:48:51 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.522280 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522248
>I was j-just joking!

That's what I thought, perma. nb


College is anti-social and sexless, want to get laid more by Hamilton Domblehare - Sun, 11 Feb 2018 17:48:51 EST ID:GYTQ2ak7 No.522125 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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It seems like millenial autism has turned my university into a place where most people mind their own business and don't bother to have relationships or sex. It's also partly a commuter school so a lot of people aren't here at all on the weekends. Supposedly it gets better Sophomore year but I find that hard to believe. How can I find some nice mentally and sexually healthy girls who will actually be dtf and not just want to show off how morally superior they are and judge people?

Also wouldn't finding more guy friends who want to have adventures and not stay in their rooms all day.
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Nell Biffingstork - Tue, 13 Feb 2018 00:17:29 EST ID:8D47oOiy No.522173 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522172
Also, it's not like I'd typically spend all day, everyday in my room anyways.
Just a certain stretch happens and everybody busts your balls, forgetting before that etc.
I'm fucked and ranting.
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Matilda Dredgeson - Tue, 13 Feb 2018 02:43:27 EST ID:lWJpEuws No.522180 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522144
I can make a better book with two sentences.

Step one: be handsome and funny. Funny is more important than handsome, though.

There you go.

As for OP: yeah people who come fresh out of high school have that high school mentality. Just be the person you'd want to be friends with and more people will gravitate to you. As for adventures and whatnot, join a club.
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Sophie Hisslekack - Tue, 13 Feb 2018 12:23:27 EST ID:GYTQ2ak7 No.522186 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522173
I can tell
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Nigel Fanworth - Tue, 13 Feb 2018 13:36:49 EST ID:ROGlj1oY No.522187 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522180
>people who come fresh out of high school have that high school mentality

this. find events/parties by older college ppl, be active

then again, i worked at a uni recently and people don't party nearly as hard as i did when i went. OP is partially right
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Nicholas Gerringway - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 10:18:10 EST ID:xn5WBdes No.522230 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522126
>mans


Is getting clean just overrated? by Isabella Nickleforth - Tue, 30 Jan 2018 05:44:26 EST ID:eWZRExCl No.521852 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I was clean for a year of everything just beers now and again. Then my gf left (she was anti-drug) so I went back to doing my old dirty habits again. However, this time instead of going overboard like I usually did I can do some pretty addictive drugs in moderation without fiending and shit.

Plus it helped me recover from the bad suicidal and depression vibes I had from the breakup. Tbh I can't remember the past few months or even what I did last week though. So I just forget what I was sad about until I'm sober for a few days then I get high again.

But I hardly spend any money on anything due to being good at finding deals and "savoring" my drugs like one would savor the taste of chocolate for example rather than eat a full box in one setting.

Not sure where to post it so I put it here.

Since a lot of my friends think I have a problem with drugs and I ended up in the hospital not too long ago on an overdose (accidental though). And my work and family kind of thinks something is otg but they can't really place it.

What do here? Am I blind to my own problems? Most people I know are anti-drug and only think drinking is safe though and some of them think weed is safe thats it.
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Edwin Nummlehall - Mon, 05 Feb 2018 22:08:51 EST ID:GiCOfox9 No.521992 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521966
yeah, your days of moderation are an illusion.
you don't end up in the hospital for savoring fine chocolate.

but who am I to say, I've tripped on all manner of dangerous narcotics and they've helped me to become the fine person that I am today.
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Henry Goodhall - Mon, 12 Feb 2018 14:42:23 EST ID:Yq+XEe0p No.522166 Ignore Report Quick Reply
As a current drug abuser I think getting/staying/being clean is fine. I like to abuse because I'm a degenerate at heart that wants to see more pretty colors when I play video games but at the end of the day I think I can/should go clean and I wouldn't recommend anyone doing a psychadelic or anything that they don't already have a desire to do.
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Awe !!vVWR8L52 - Mon, 12 Feb 2018 16:42:42 EST ID:B/1t3ZFg No.522169 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522166
i think heart thinks otherwise.
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Hugh Brebberkon - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 04:54:54 EST ID:DWaLMotX No.522220 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521852
>No recovery is not overrated:
There are vitamins that you can take that will help your brain physically recover from years of alcohol and or drug use.
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Martin Sirringkit - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 06:21:17 EST ID:TUgPV7Lr No.522224 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521852
In my opinion. An overdose, even accidental should be a wake up call. Think, how many people due from overdoses? You think all if them were trying to do it (die)? And not just trying to get nice and high?

I'd kick the alcohol too and stick with just weed. People go on about kratom, but you gotta pound like 15 gel caps and it can make you throw up this nasty gritty powder.


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