why

>>516579
BECAUSE

Can you help me overcome my sexual perversion and my problem drinking?

you need to accept that you've been hurt by it, and then genuinely feel that hurt
stop trying to make it not hurt
feel the hurt instead
gotta feel it to heal it.. little nigga

>>516512

Yeah but it's been like 3 months since I talked to her, then she pops up and it all kinda comes back. I felt the shit out of it when it happened. I just want to stop caring now. Like there's a point when "feeling it" is just torturing yourself with rumination, no?

Mainly it just pisses me off because she's fucking every guy in town but me, and in the beginning she couldn't get enough of me. I just fucked things up to the point where I guess she doesn't feel that way anymore which is fine, I just wish she'd fuck off out of my life now. I can do better than her anyway idk why I care at all.

>>516513

>>516513
it seems like you're trying yo push it away though. with, like thoughts like "idgaf about her", and so forth

>>516521

Yeah true, muh ego I guess?
Idk I guess it's hard to accept things that hurt my confidence or whatever idk.
I guess it is what it is or whatever but dam I wish I cared less.

The OP is worded badly i'm not 100% sure of the problem, If you can get a girl into bed OP but you struggle to perform viagra works wonders seriosuly get to the doctors. It happened with me, i met a girl and we got together then my dick would just fail to perform, i thought it was some kinda performance anxiety and the doc got me some viagra. I only had to take it a couple of times before my dick would work perfectly normally.

>>516386
I'm exactly the opposite OP. It is difficult for me to be genuine or smooth or w/e with girls on dates and stuff when normally I'm a charismatic, fairly attractive guy. When I have had girlfriends though, or sleep with a chick, I always get comments as to how good of a fuck I am.

As a pervy kid I watched porn (which is not a great way to learn about sex) which got me interested in researching how to go down on girls, how to have good sex, what to do, what not to do, etc.

So I say research it! Get information and learn about intimacy and sex. Also, over time and with experience in sexual encounters, it'll get easier. If you're with a girl that you've been dating and it gets to that point, maybe mention something to the effect that you're a little awkward with sex/intimacy. It's weird, but good chicks really dig honesty and being vulnerable.

Also, just practice. I'm fucking SHIT at dates but I force myself to go to them because each time with a new chick is a little easier, a little better, and a little less awkward. I have such insanely bad anxiety around it but you just gotta get out there and take your lumps, cringe at things you did, and move on. Eventually you'll be at ease and click with someone.

>>516497

>chicks really dig honesty and being vulnerable

Yeah i agree, if it's not a one night stand the girl will be alright with whatever.

>>516471
The main problem is massive anxiety and lack of experience, tnx for sugestions.

>>516497
tnx for the reply

Who pays for your college?

You must have some connections to fall back on if someone can be arsed to pay for your college

>>516559
Sounds like you've fell into a rut, It's a difficult situation being completely isolated but at least you have school.

Firstly what type of schooling are you doing, how much free time do you have? The easiest fix in my experience is to get a job or at least find some way to earn extra income. You'll get some new people in your life who will hopefully be chill but at the very least will be some more social interaction, spending your time working will reduce the time you feel bored or depressed and you'll have extra money to spend on doing fun things.

As for not isolating yourself in general, you need to look at what you like, if you have some sort of niche hobby you're in luck cause all you need to do is find a group of those people. If your hobbies are a bit more general e.g vidya games you might struggle a bit more so you could try finding something else that might interest you or just persevere.

Since nobody really knows what you're like from your post and we'll never really get a full picture no matter how many posts you make you'll have to look hard at yourself to see why people may not want to talk to you much. Make sure to be objective and don't let your emotions skew your image of yourself, think of examples of everything you come up with.

Do you perhaps act in a way that breaks social etiquette? or maybe you're just far too shy. Think for yourself and then try to improve on it.

>Just tied myself to my light with a metal wire and it broke just before blacking out.
>Fuck did I just attempt suicide?

You tied a noose around your neck and you dont know what you're doing??

>What do i do from here out i've never done this before

Get stronger rope, obviously

>>516505
I was addicted to benz, I managed to get through it although I didn't have much social anxiety or other problems that drive many people to benzos. Why did you start taking benzos? Do you want to quit them?

Anyway I didn't find quitting too hard cause i spread it over a very very long time, i took a low dose for sleeping and to stave off the worst of the withdrawals while following a strict taper over a year and a half.

I still dabble but i'm not going to withdraw or anything.

Just wanted to say that in case you thought quiting benzos always had to be very hard.

>>516509
I was incredibly wasted and in shock when i wrote that post, it was a curtain cord, and I tied it properly, the cable on my light broke.
>>516517
It's nice to hear from someone who came through the other side, good for you. I started benzos as an accidental discovery that remedied my health anxiety and a lil bit of social anxiety, and as I didn't understand the consequences and with the availability via RC back when it was legal it was a miracle drug. Now I'm fully dependent, not addicted. I feel I need professional help to get off them but it's just not available for somebody who took them non prescribed. Lend me your strength bro.

>>516527
Alright, know that your anxiety issues may increase if you start coming off the benzos but also know that the increased mental health problems are completely temporary and can be mostly avoided with a good taper. Do you still have easy access to benzos? If so you should switch to one with a longer halflife and then reduce the dose as much as you can without ill effects, it's from this point i'd start tapering down your dose, take a week or longer at that dose to be sure it's bearable.

Check this out and adapt it to your needs; http://www.benzo.org.uk/manual/bzsched.htm
You can make it last longer or shorter and switch up the doses etc it's just to give you a decent idea.

Anyway as for support do you have any close friends or even family you could admit this to and get some support that way? If not you could always get support from the internet, there's plenty of places that can help and give you some outlet to express how you feel.

Finally though you really need to be sure you want to quit benzos, if you are doing it half heartedly it just won't work, same with any drug. As you know benz are pretty harmless physically aside from the addiction and you can support a habit for many many years without many ill effects, although i must admit they do affect your life in more ways than you know. I feel mentally sharper since i quit and also my memory retention is finally getting to a more acceptable level (after 3 years).

It's probably better for you to quit but like i say if it's not something you see as a big problem you'll probably not do so well unless you find it easier than you thought somehow.

Oh and a quick bonus point; you could always switch your addiction to another drug, taper the benz down and smoke more weed or something. I couldn't do that cause weed puts me in a bad place and I avoided alcohol just in case i got some new and worse addiction but lots of people seem to say smoking weed or doing some other drug helps a bit. Bear in mind that shifting addictions around like this is probably terrible advice but I think it could be better to be smoking too much weed than taking too many benz.

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>>516491
What you could do from here is be thankful as hell you didn't injure yourself in some irreversible, debilitating way during your half-assed attempt. You could let it remind you that your life can get MUCH worse if you let it, and find some small steps to take towards getting help for yourself so it doesn't.

Look at it from her perspective, she was with a guy that may or may not have mistreated her and she was in a situation where she needed to look out for herself. So she stayed with him for the opportunities and security, probably while doing her own thing for extra income etc. Then that guy went away and she told you exactly what you needed so that you would provide as much as you could for her and now she has found someone else. I think she may be going through the same process again, she may even downgrade her living situation to do this for a number of reasons; it could be possible she doesn't want you to get too attached or she may be doing things she doesn't want you to know about.

Don't hold it against her, in a situation like that people will do anything for security but it's pretty obvious from my perspective that she used you for emotional and financial stability.

A little bit of extra advice that i doubt you'll take; stop the drugs, sure we all love them but your current situation does not allow for an addiction or even occasional use and it just opens up the possibilities that people will use you for them. It can be a bitch but i got through it.

>>516550
As for how to handle the situation;
Ask her to tell you the truth, make her understand that it doesn't matter if she's been doing shady stuff, cheating, hiding money / drugs from you, prostitution etc etc
Explain that none of this matters now and that you just need to know what's really going on, finding out the truth could open up new possibilities to sort this out, at the very least it will make it easier to move on if what she has done is too much for you to deal with.

Don't let yourself be used and i'd probably consider that a relationship in which a person prostitutes themselves might not be able to become a healthy relationship.

Do everything you can to get yourself to a better place and surrounded by better people.

>>516549
Sounds like pretty typical junkie behavior, man. You can't help her and she can't help you. I'd get a lot less involved with her if i were you, before things turn real ugly.

>>516544
OP don't feel bad, you just need to work on yourself a little bit, I think I have a pretty good idea of why you feel this way and why people probably think you are a bit of a freak. Also before i go on i'm sure freak is probably a bit of a strong word and i'm not so sure anyone actually thinks you're that bad. Anyway though i think your problem and what you need to work on is your ability to construct a half decent thread.

It pretty much is but I guess I should probably chant the, "It might get better for some unknown reason so just keep living in misery." mantra but in all honesty, I'd kill myself if I had the courage to do so.

Being a complete outcast that can't function with people when you are a social creature by nature is torture. Also, health issues and having your body go to shit in your 20's is also a for real buzzkill. Such is life. Mental torture along with physical pain.

Nope. MGTOW, brother. Women are trash in the first place.

>>516552

this

>>516553

not this

>>516546
dildos

>>516552
you people lose hope very easily

>>516553
get out of my thread nb

Ugh sorry for all the mistakes I am on little sleep. I guess the tl;dr is I feel like I have wasted most of my life.

I have some teen love romance thing I feel like I'll never get with the girl I am interested with who is out of reach. I can't see myself being able to maintain a relationship with someone since I can talk to them but my anxieties and fears don't make me a fun person when not on drugs and I just feel like I'd run out of stuff to say if I had to keep constant contact with a gf. I feel like I'd never be able to sexually satisfy potential female interests in my life so I'd never engage into a relation with them, not to mention not having a job or car further reinforces the fact that I am not ready for one. It comes off really pathetic since my problems are all self created and in reality there is really nothing stopping me from going out there and finding a part time job and getting over fear of driving and anxiety but I really just feel so fucking burnt out all the time. I have begun cutting out all processed foods and am eating real clean and want to start exercise and get good sleeping patterns to try and fix the damage i have done through drugs and sexual addiction. I'd cum so many times a day I hardly even feel anything anymore. The main problem is the damage I have done to myself feels like it will take years of repair and I don't want it to take years I feel like I should be in the prime of my life right now but I'm a pathetic burn out

Does anyone else here feel like in terms of relationships with people they're the type of person who is socially better in small groups of people? I feel like I am cool to talk to once in a while because that gap has given me enough stuff to talk about but if I were to be with someone a lot for example in a relationship I just struggle to find anything of value to say? It fucks with my head so much since I am a somewhat pretentious person as well and I don't really have many things to talk about outside of drugs or psychedelic experiences. This is not a problem online since conversation flows differently and I can talk to the chick I like all day about everything from random topics to playing around with pretend scenarios, deep issues and I feel like I can be a naturally witty and humourus person online. Why do I fall to pieces in person ffs. It's like I can't think on the spot or struggle to think of a word or how i want to say something on the spot so i get anxiety which makes it worse. I feel dissociative and weed abuse has made this flaw in myself noticeably worse. And I was not even that aware of it before I started using, though I was a less conscious person before i used drugs. Fuck does anyone have this problem?

>>516537
Wow dude you're a handfull of anxieties. I am/was a lot like you. Try to cut off the porn. Not jerking off, just watching less porn, or watching it less on drugs, or watch rather normal stuff. That will already make a diffence for you.

Training and doing less drugs (aka not smoking everyday) will also make a huge difference (at least it did for me). Also, training can be sort of a drug, running a lot for example leaves you with a great high. You could try that.

The other stuff it's just you overthinking. Do you have friends? Having a stable relationship you'll talk about the most banal stuff. Some old dude you ran into a while ago and seemed funny, or some thought that crossed your mind or whatever bullshit you're thinking of. That being said, you should find yourself interesting. I mean if you think you're boring well... you should do something to change that. Start doing some activity or hobby. I personally don't like people who can only talk about drugs (I used to be like that). Find stuff that interests you. In regards to sex well... it takes practice to get better. Maybe you can watch some porn tutorial? I've taken a couple ideas from online videos. But still you'll need to actually do it to get better. If it makes you feel any better, there's a lot of dudes that don't give a shit if their partner is satisfied, so you're already at an advantage there

>"idc I will just kill myself later so it doesn't matter"

Yeah. I know what you mean.
Two things, I think, if you're anything like me. Try to think about what it actually means.

The first is "having a life", and the second is "living in a healthy way". What do those things mean? I think that the former is having stuff to do, and the latter is, well, exploring the world, breaking down barriers, building things in your life. It sounds like, and again, if you're anything like me, your vices have taken over your waking life and you find that your life is this amorphous purgatory.. And the vices act as, well, a vice, trapping you in this state. Drugs were fucking me up big time, and I know I would've committed suicide if I didn't manage to stop. Like, 100%, no doubt. I didn't even do it on my own; it literally took an act of God to get me to stop. I was living in this wonderfully manic dream world, but my real life, the life that would actually sustain me and make being alive worth it was so undeveloped that I was starving to death. There were and still are glaring problems that I was ignoring, and there were and are still things I do did to stay there, things that I knew were fucking me.

Another thing, I have a lot of pain in me from my past.

>"idc I will just kill myself later so it doesn't matter"

This is sort of what I use to cope. I'm 24 and things aren't wonderful with me, but I have to admit they are improving, despite me doing things to sabotage. I went to bed at 5am yesterday, for instance. Shit like this just makes me fucking tired all the time and I hate it because I'm tired of living this way. I want to actually be a human being, you know? I want to have a life. I think my pain and my vices, which still exist but are not nearly as powerful today, take up the space that would otherwise place new things, new people and constructive, life-giving things.

Regarding being a healthy person, I think that a person's life is a reflection of who they are inside. The state that they exist in on a day to day basis. When I say state, I mean how you feel. Things like exercise and proper diet and nutrition are real…

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>>516486
Yes, after the other posts I guessed your questions were going in that direction. If I understand what you're meaning correctly, a good question would be: Is a really shy/akward person actually distinguishable from a really high functioning autist? I don't really feel as an autist, but I guess it doesn't matter that much either... I've done therapy many years and worked a lot that stuff. It was never outspoken treatment for autism but interpersonal relationships were always what the sessions were about.

I've just been really depressed and feeling like a loner lately, these last couple of months have been really tough. I'm finding an absolute lack of meaning in everything I do, and therefore having a hard time actually doing the stuff I oughtta be doing

Last week I ran twice into my ex (I hadn't seen her in a year), she walked past me as if I were a ghost (she hates me though). Last sunday a girl I'd went out with a couple times suddenly stopped talking to me, like, out of the blue. Then, the next day, I was going through Tinder and I found the girl who shattered my heart to pieces a couple months ago (this girl is what triggered my depression and despair, I still don't know what to do about her and think about her constantly). The next fucking day, I walk out of my house, and find a girl I'd dated, and really liked, but who'd only talk to me when she needed a favour or something, making out with some dude: she says hi to me, and introduces me to her new bf. Fuck. Then, to cope with it all, I went out with this really ugly tinder girl yesterday, it was honestly just to feel a bit more wanted, we were making out on the street and I was telling her to come to my place, then out of nowhere this bum shows up and tells us he doesnt want to hurt us and to give him our phones (we didn't). Like, how much worse can this get?

What's that about podcasts and stand up comedy?

Thanks everyone for all your answers. It's nice having a supportive community, someone outside daily life one can go to for help and support. I've signed up for two acting workshops, one starting next week, the other one starting a couple weeks from now, I'm doin…

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>>516487

>Is a really shy/akward person actually distinguishable from a really high functioning autist?

No don't worry.

> but I guess it doesn't matter that much either...

Right.

>I've just been really depressed and feeling like a loner lately, these last couple of months have been really tough

Things will get better, i've been through it what's your age and living/work situation?

>bum shows up and tells us he doesnt want to hurt us and to give him our phones (we didn't). Like, how much worse can this get?

Just a shitty situation that will pass and you've gotta build up your own self esteem/worth, a self confidence that doesn't require others to reinforce it to move past these other girls. You don't need to be very self confident just have a little more faith in yourself, we're all human.

>or simply stop caring about that and focus on my stuff

generally i'd reccomend this since i don't know too much about you or your feelings but this option is often better, work on yourself and do you first, girls come later and it will be better.

Its a trick: In every movie which stars everyday situations you have the male leads being socially awkward about stuff while the normal people are normal. However the viewer is being made to identify with the main character.
Everybody watches this propaganda from an early age and slowly becomes that dude who gets weird when "asking the girl to prom"

Tomorrow I'm going to a film projection/party with a couple friends (actually two friends who are a couple), where I was invited by this girl I'm sort of dating, who sort of told she sort of didn't want to actually date me, but also sort of wanted to keep seeing me.

I was thinking of doing just threshold dose of md tomorrow, just to, I don't know, be more lively there, and not get so nervous around her (she's gonna be painting a mural, and all her friends are gonna be there, I'm gonna be rather the loner). Good idea? Bad Idea? My friends may leave early and I might end up alone on md in this party, or leave with them and just be high and alone in my house, which might be even worse. The chances of leaving with this girl are close to cero, given she's one of the organizers of the event and sort cold, she probably wont like being seen leaving with someone.


>>516488
I'm 26, living with my parents, and have a really fun job I really like but it doesn't pay well. Kindda sick of living with my parents, but it's really common where I'm from, at least untill people finish college (next year for me)

>>516529
Do it. My life improved by a lot once I realized going to things on your own is amazing Look at it like an adventure and talk to people you wouldnt otherwise

Doesn't she have a job or something?

>>516442
If he is your best friend can't you just be honest with him and tell basically tell him what you told us? Just get him alone and tell him that you are happy for him and his girlfriend but you'd really like to hang out with him like you used to.

If that doesn't work then your best friend probably isn't as invested in your friendship as you are. I absolutely get it man: I was your friend for awhile but most people liked my girlfriend, she was just everywhere with me and where I went. Eventually some of my friends asked if maybe we could just chill together even though they liked her and I didn't even realize that was an issue. They were very cool about it and things worked out for the best! I started hanging out with them without my gf sometimes and sometimes still with, and everything was good.

Just be honest with him! That's what friends do, man.

give her a task that makes her feel important. Do you have a girlfriend? If you do then drag her along as a distraction for your buddies girl. If not then even better, mention casually how you wish you had a relationship like theirs (lying is ok sometimes) she will probably pounce on that pretty quick and try to hook you up with someone (it may take some navigating to get to this point) and the goal here is to either A) she finds herself a friend that is down to bang you and will keep her entertained while you hang out with your buddy OR better yet B) she involves someone who she has a different social standing with and this behaviour stops while she is around. IT would be wayy more ideal if already had a girl or you could get one on your own. LOng story short find her a friend or alternatively find some way that makes her feel as if she is valued by you so there's no need for her to be in competition with you when it comes to your friend.

>>516515
That's actually a decent plan

I cannot relate fully but I am often forced into being a third wheel when I want to hang out with my only boy. I feel you, it fucks the vibes.
Anyways, talking to your homie about it is difficult since he might tell her about it and then she'll convince him to cut contact with you. Girls fucking up friendships is fucking real, man. Beware that he might value that clingy bitch over you

>>516202
I was going to post basically saying not to bother with /qq/ posts if you just want people to say "sure you're fucked, you can't change anything". People do that for peace of mind so they can keep on taking the short term eays route.

Most of those people are their own worst enemy. Most have been genuinely fucked by life and have it harder than most but they're rarely the ones who had it worst. They'd probably start explaining they weren't "lucky" enough to go down that hard and bounce but a lot of people like them do bounce. I like to hope that most of them eventually pull through but who knows? until they do or they die we'll never know.

>>516208
I want to know them and I want them to know me. I want my silence not to be known as indifference, but I want to know when they can feel that and I want to know to feel it to.

No one is ever going to have it the worst, and they will say they were lucky sometimes without you or I to speak for them. I never have to put the words into their mouths that their silence may fill.
I like to hope too. I hope that I might know.

That might just be enough for you to know.

>>516208
oh wait, you were just talking about me and I was high.

okay, thread over. nb

"When a person can no longer shed tears for others, they should realize the time for their death is near"

>>516441
Huh. Where is this quote from? Feels like me in both respects. I've been thinking about necking myself for a bit now, but not with the same fervor that I used to possess. I keep making excuses though, family events, stuff like that.

>>516070
Why bump this?

i hope she doesn't get all clingy little nigga
i hope entering her bear doesn't end up hurting anybody
entering the bear is a good thing
if she's a cute one, then entering her bear is a good thing because us guys like to enter the bears of cute girls

translator's note: bear means vagina

OP, that's a corgi, not a girl.

Well you guys she left.

I went to New Jersey and did acid and decided I didn't want to be with her so we should stop hooking up. So she stayed for a week but got more and more miserable and bitchy. Then last weekend I went to Tipper at Suwannee and did a lot more acid and some ketamine and when I got back she was gone.

Also shes not pregnant.

So I got laid for a while, got to not feel so lonely and hopefully helped her get over her piece of shit ex and not get raped by meth heads. If she was down to up and dip and found someone who would give her a ride with all her stuff I guess she probably found a place to go. So hopefully she is ok. I did spend all my money on her but eh, thats what moneys for, i got a new job yesterday, didn't really have all that much in the first place. I'll bring her to a music festival sometime when she's off probation.

Anyway yeah, just wanted to let you guys know that sometimes there is a happy ending.

>>516483