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im a stupid attention whore and i cant stop making threads by Nicholas Dibbleputch - Tue, 25 Jul 2017 17:10:51 EST ID:6jfGNFOb No.517661 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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31/f
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Oliver Pugglefield - Tue, 25 Jul 2017 17:47:06 EST ID:iKPa+Mgz No.517663 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517661
She might have made 2 threads. The first thing I did when I saw the second was check IDs they don't match. Which is inconclusive. I think your jumping to conclusions and jumping into a blind rage this quickly reflects poorly on you though I do understand why you'd come to the same conclusion. Going from a failed relationship to existential ennui is even a pretty consistent progression. I hope this thread gets shitcanned though.
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Henry Pimmertune - Wed, 26 Jul 2017 11:53:02 EST ID:bwJOb6Ln No.517673 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>517661
I started the thread about not being important, I'm in a happy long-term relationship with a 37 year old so I am very sure that I didn't post the thread about breaking up with a 28 and then forget about it.
Then again, there can't be that many 31 year old females around so your evidence seems pretty water tight.

Posting two threads is definately something only an attention whore would do. Two whole threads. On one advice forum. I would really like to know if I am being such an attention whore.

Can a mod check to see if I have an alter ego that I am not aware of?

Thank you!
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Matilda Bonningcocke - Wed, 26 Jul 2017 13:56:01 EST ID:C2LZTezo No.517683 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517673
The report buttom actually works
Im not being snarkey, I was really suprised the first. Time I realized it worked.
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Hamilton Birringweck - Thu, 27 Jul 2017 13:07:00 EST ID:iKPa+Mgz No.517701 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517683
It didn't work for me in this case. If often doesn't.

However what blowjob probably should have noticed is that No Bump does work reliably as long as you actually check it.


Toxic Love by Emma Beckleham - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 14:22:23 EST ID:Uc3v3vtk No.517526 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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TL;DR I'm 31/f, recently ended a 5 year relationship with a 28/m. We're talking about getting back together, but I'm not sure if we can overcome our issues.

I broke it off for five reasons:

1.) We had been engaged for a year and a half and still hadn't set a date.

2.) He changed his mind and said he didn't want kids.

3.) He has a problem with alcohol.

4.) He lies and says mean things when he's drunk.

5.) His mom doesn't like me. My dad doesn't like him. Quite a few friends think we should stay apart.

I'm not perfect either. As a result of his lies, I have gone through his phone, which I know is wrong. I also started flirting with another guy a few days before I broke up with my ex. Nothing physical happened, but I know it was still wrong.
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Sophie Hisslebane - Fri, 21 Jul 2017 23:18:31 EST ID:XS6JMhmD No.517574 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>517569
>I deleted him off facebook. I deleted all of our pictures. All of our texts.
>I should probably block his number.
I don't know why but that made me think of this. I guess because you're trashing all his information and shit.

That sucks man, I'm sorry. I'd say don't go full scorched earth just yet, sit on it for a few days and if you still feel the same then block him. I mean, I don't think your opinion will change (and it shouldn't tbh), I'm just saying don't do anything rash.
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Nigel Gellytot - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 04:21:33 EST ID:dsMwXAUB No.517578 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517569
Can't fix them addictive personalities bro. Can't do it. Tryin to tell ya m8.

inb4 OP goes back to him and tries to make it work for the 38th time.
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Henry Picklock - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 06:26:28 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.517579 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517578
I'm going to have to disagree man. It's definitely a challenge and for most people it's highly unlikely they will be able to overcome it, but it's definitely possible to overcome an addictive personality.

That said, I agree with you. This nigga isn't at a point where he's gonna get better
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Barnaby Drovingham - Mon, 24 Jul 2017 14:53:08 EST ID:CnqM0pw2 No.517641 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517574

Yeah I would hesitate to go scorched earth. I've done that in the past and regretted it.
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Ernest Clablingmet - Tue, 25 Jul 2017 00:30:54 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.517653 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517526
Dude, you're 31. Marry him already.


Am I An Asshole? by Sophie Sashmadging - Mon, 24 Jul 2017 18:46:45 EST ID:eIQ5+IFG No.517647 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I don't have the mental energy to yellowtext this properly.
As you're going to figure out very quickly from my reactions to unwanted social contact in this story, I'm diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder.
I've been going through emotions for a while and today was supposed to be my "day off" from that. Nothing too special, but I cleared my schedule to ERP with a friend in the afternoon. For about 10 minutes, they and I were having a ton of fun, and then I get a knock on the door to my apartment.
I answered because occasionally my property manager comes around knocking, but rather than her, it was a very, VERY friendly neighbor I have. This old fuck in his '60's or '70's. Now, I say that because I'm seething with rage at him right now, not because he's actually a bad guy. I THINK that he really just came by trying to be friendly, but he did it in such a confusing way. He started teasing me asking when I was going to invite him over for dinner and make him cornbread. to which I looked uncomfortable and stammered.
I don't remember what sentence he found in my stammering, but he thought I was forming a sentence, and tried to respond to it. In the moment, I couldn't process what statement he thought I was trying to make or how he responded to it, because all I could think was "Oh my god why are you acting like I'm talking that wasn't speech why would you think I would speak like that."
What followed seemed like he was trying to ask if I...like him or not? Or something? Like, he was pressing me about whether I wanted to "be sociable" or not, and then invited ME over to his apartment, to which I forced out the words "I'm in the middle of something." Then he KEPT QUESTIONING ME. I don't know WHY. Asking me if I had friends over much or something? I went back into upchucking-words mode and managed to get out the sentence "I'm a hermit!" 2 or 3 times before shutting and locking the door.
I'm not proud of this, but after that I just stood in the center of my living room and screamed "FUCK" a few times until I felt good enough to run back into my bedroom and basically hide. My poor RP …
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George Drongerchork - Mon, 24 Jul 2017 22:20:28 EST ID:I0fHH0wW No.517650 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Your neighbour came over to ask you to make him dinner? Thats pretty weird, should have said "im busy" and closed door.


Why is she upset? by Betsy Crandersig - Thu, 13 Jul 2017 08:12:59 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.517425 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I have trouble understanding people.

Please help me understand this; me and my ex have maintained a friendship, it was fine then one day I realised that I really wanted to fuck her again I kinda figured that this was a bad thing to do and so I told her and said that maybe we shouldn't be friends. She said no to the fucking as expected but then got very upset about the whole thing, she hasn't got in touch with me since.

Now why would she become so upset about it? I outright said it was a bad idea and the reason I brought it up was for transparencies sake so that she could decide whether to keep the friendship.

So is she upset cause she still has feelings? Is she upset because i've destroyed the friendship?
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Eugene Cammershaw - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 11:24:47 EST ID:AurREd88 No.517520 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>517486
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Betsy Bigglehudge - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 14:39:47 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.517527 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>517510
I just put the moves on her
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Ernest Nollerwedge - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 15:05:25 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.517528 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517510
ITT: u jelly
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Hugh Crallyhare - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 18:59:39 EST ID:7fC8LtQw No.517541 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517486
congrats my boy
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George Goodford - Sun, 23 Jul 2017 18:47:03 EST ID:ytJDq8aL No.517625 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517425
I guess people are just different. I've been friends with one of my ex for many many years ever since we broke up. We have still sometimes arguments because two clashing personalities never change, but we're still friends, talking about personal things and doing some things together weekly. We have periods of also having sex, when neither is involved, and sometimes perioids of no sex, for example when I was in a new relationship for a while. Some ex on other hand totally cut up all contact, and some hurt you so bad you never start talking with them again because you dislike them so much forever.


loneliness and self harm addiction by David Buvingstock - Sun, 09 Jul 2017 22:48:27 EST ID:/9qNwBG1 No.517330 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've become addicted to my self harm and I feel so alone and scared.

I can't and never will tell my family or GP about this, I have a friend who knows I cut myself badly recently but I don't want to push her further away by telling her how much it has escalated this week; I'm cutting deeper and more frequently, I've made three or four cuts a day(or night I guess, since I'm waking up midday and sleeping around 8am lately)for the last five days I think. I love the excitement of it and then the calmness afterwards, laying on my bed watching the blood flow out along the cuts on my thighs is happiest thing in my life right now, I can even get a little turned on by it...I have zero sex drive, so I guess the dopamine release is just so overwhelming it's causing that to happen?

Anyway, no matter how bad this gets it's never enough for me, hours after when I look at them I can't help but think how pathetic I am for not going further across or deeper etc. This is scaring me because although I want to die, the thought of leaving my suicide behind for my mam to find and deal with is heartbreaking and something I said to myself I'd never do, but with this new addiction of punishing myself further and further may well result in that awful scenario in the end; if I ever cut into an artery I honestly don't think I'd call for help, I'd accept that it was time for this pain of mine to end- but who knows what adreneline will do to me, I hope that I will call for help.

I don't want "help" from any of you, but it feels so good to write this out for the first time and get it out of my head without fear of pushing someone away. I'm so alone and feel so stuck. Maybe some of you have had similar experience in the past, or are going through this too? It would be "nice" to hear your side.

Picture is one of my four cats, who I'll be leaving someday :(
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Isabella Shittingbanks - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 16:39:34 EST ID:C2LZTezo No.517604 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517603
Oh, you already have 4 cats? Go smoke pot and pet your kitty. Fuck everything else NB
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Shit Pallyset - Sun, 23 Jul 2017 13:46:53 EST ID:7fC8LtQw No.517615 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517594
>I'm a disgusting and selfish bitch
Contradictory, because there could be nothing more selfish than trying to get the best for your SELF. So killing your self is really not a selfish thing.

I think everybody can be happy. Why? Because I've got a lot of people high on mushrooms and I have see their faces shine with joy, people who were miserable suddenly were jumping around , laughing, pointing at the trees and finding joy in small things.

And this is caused only by activation of different parts of our brain , I think happiness is a skill we learn, as we grow up those who have a normal childhood acquire experiences of joy and they become the muscle of happiness for the later years, but those of us who have had mediocre and depressive lives don't have any good experiences to compare us to, or we think that the good experiences we had will never repeat themselves.

Happiness is hard work, but the effort is worth it. Have you done anything to try to cheer up? Or to address your self-esteem problems, you need to get back on your feet and start loving your own self, doing stuff like hugging yourself or writing "I'm the best, I'm valuable" etc

Yeah it sounds like dumb children exercise, but that is how you build your happiness muscle

>>517596
>I'm reaally sorry for what you've been through
I'm not, I think the conflicts I went through have allowed me to build better tools to confront reality and to understand emotions and brain functioning. I would not be aware of the beauty of life if I hadn't been thrown into the darkness of emotional hell.
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Barnaby Pockway - Sun, 23 Jul 2017 16:19:09 EST ID:/9qNwBG1 No.517623 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>517603
What a happy doggo :) Once I finish my to-do list I'll see how I feel after that. You're right about gaining control. I'm sending SLAYER your way to help you work through the issues that effect you- you can do it :)

>>517615
You're spot on about happiness and positive psychology in all your posts. I just don't want to be happy though, I don't want to live on. When I fantasize about the things I wanna do in the future that make me feel warm and happy inside I realise that can never be me. I often just zone out imagining things I'll be doing in the future, who I'm with, what we're talking about and doing etc, it's so real, this can go on for ten minutes sometimes and when I come out of it I notice I'm actually smiling to myself, I missed a loud notification on my phone and a cat is now on my bed next to me...(I don't take anything anymore, besides pot every once in awhile, this is all just daydreaming) Then I immediately start crying because I know non of this will ever happen; I'm modest too, most of these daydreams are just me hanging out with someone or whatever. I don't really want them to happen, I want to die most of all.

My paranoia and anxiety(+ its many forms) are a lot less potent these last couple days, this black hole of hopelessness and suicide stuff has meant theres no room for them in my head. I'm happy things are changing this way, the more hopeless I feel the closer I get to death.
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Barnaby Pockway - Sun, 23 Jul 2017 16:22:52 EST ID:/9qNwBG1 No.517624 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517623
>I'm sending SLAYER your way
I forgot this was a thing, you know what I meant :)
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Ernest Grimdock - Wed, 26 Jul 2017 00:37:07 EST ID:FwheuJ8x No.517669 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>517330
| :(
Here is a picture of a kitten to cheer you up


Suicidal Ideation by David Bobbledet - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 23:10:08 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.517607 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm not really after any help on how to improve my situation, just looking for a little input on what this means and why it happens. I don't really think there is much advice that can be given on the subject except the general advice which is always offered.

In the past i've often considered suicide, mostly during the depths of my drug addictions and more recently due to being alone.
i've never actually attempted it but I have planned it out, I don't think i'm really going to do it so what does this mean?

Surely this must be suicidal ideation but if I know i'm not going to do it then why does my mind make me focus on these things? I've become used to these thoughts and hardly notice anything wrong with them until I got drunk right now and thought "a normal guy or gal wouldn't be having these thoughts".

Post your experiences.
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Martin Nicklewell - Sun, 23 Jul 2017 10:48:45 EST ID:7kvkmXJf No.517611 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Heyo,

I have a psych degree I don't work with, multiple siblings with lifelong major depressive disorder and bipolar 2 and multiple suicide attempts between them

Lookin for a "why" might end up more painful than anything. The short answer is that your brain is messed up with its production and balancing of neurotransmitters and chemicals and stuff. The long answer just uses verbose academic vocabulary to express that in depth.

You can follow the general lifestyle guidelines for happy primates, get some therapy, and maybe take meds.

Eat well, sleep 8 hours, exercise daily, try to maintain positive social relationships, and keep a fulfilling job and hobbies. Try to remember that it's not permanent or your fault when you can't stop thinking about killing you self for a while. Best of luck!
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Shit Pallyset - Sun, 23 Jul 2017 14:12:26 EST ID:7fC8LtQw No.517616 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Same reason why lots of religions have a "messiah" figure: we want to believe that there is something that can instantaneously fix all our problems. In religion, the son of god who will come and bring peace. In depression, probably suicide is seen as the sure fix to all your problems, because after all if you're dead you can't feel sadness so the problem is solved.

Even if you don't really think about committing suicide, it's always like a romantic idea, the evocation of a possible solution when everything else fails. I think the best is not to think about it at all, even if your top personality thinks that you are not going to, other underlying personalities might be weaker and you might end up committing suicide when you find yourself depressed and lacking will power
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Albert Genkinshit - Sun, 23 Jul 2017 14:35:46 EST ID:bwJOb6Ln No.517619 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I have a theory that suicidal ideation lowers blood pressure in the same way self harm does. That's why people picture themselves on train tracks, no one pictures themselves taking sleeping pills.

If it is calming you down it is calming you down, your brain has leaned that this works so it uses it. Rather than trying not to do it ("try not to think of a white bear") try to find some other thought that can calm you down (think of a red Volkswagen instead of a white bear). Your cave and power animal, or whatever works for you
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David Bobbledet - Sun, 23 Jul 2017 14:49:08 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.517620 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517619
>If it is calming you down it is calming you down, your brain has leaned that this works so it uses it.

Although that sounds retarded to me I think it might hold some truth, even when i'm not feeling depressed if something bad happens I just think about ending it. I have the willpower to face problems when they come up but I do think about the easy way out and maybe that does calm me a bit.
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Albert Genkinshit - Sun, 23 Jul 2017 15:06:02 EST ID:bwJOb6Ln No.517622 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517620

Yeah! I know the feeling.

It is hard to cut out a rewarding behaviour, even when you want to. If I am in a stressful situation like a job interview I visualize myself diving feet first into a wood chipper or having my bones crushed in a combine harvester. No part of me -absolutely no part of me- wants to do this. But it calms me right down.

There is definitely science to point to the need for more research in this:

"Franklin then turned to the pain literature to see if he could gain more understanding. There, he discovered something described by psychologists 70 years ago: a phenomenon called pain offset relief. According to this concept, virtually everyone experiences an unpleasant physical reaction to a painful stimulus. Removing the stimulus does not return the individual to their pre-stimulus state, however. Rather, it leads them into a short but intense state of euphoria."


I think ethically you wouldn't get permission to sit people like us in a chair, stress us out, and scan our brains then ask us to think about killing ourselves and see what happened.

Anyway we don't need that, if you can kind of understand it you can gradually work on replacing it with something else, right? And you know what else, maybe you don't need to. I mean self harm is dangerous for so many reasons, and it leaves scars. Considering killing yourself is also very serious and you should go to a doctor when it happens.. .but if we are just visualising it and not actually considering killing ourselves... is it harmful?


How do I stop my father from being a miserable, pessimistic bastard? by OP - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 12:45:43 EST ID:dc+oeNfU No.517521 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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My dad is a very negative person. He's always complaining, whining or moaning. 90% of what he says falls into one of these categories.

He lives alone. I live with my mother and we see him roughly once a week. I don't have any friends or a social life, so the only people I speak to are him and my mother. My mother is great, she's very positive and optimistic. My dad is the complete opposite. Sadly, he also has no social life or friends.

I feel sad for him because I know what it's like being lonely and feeling depressed. But I can't handle it anymore. The 1 day in the week I spend with him is becoming too much of a strain. I feel completely drained after he's visited. His negativity and pessimism are a really bad influence on me, but I can't say anything about it to him because he can not handle criticism whatsoever. If I was to say something, he'd throw a tantrum and be even more bitter for months and months before he'd "forgive" me.

Anyway, is there anyone in a similar situation? What are subtle ways of making him happier or at least less fucking miserable. Thanks.
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OP - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 18:21:04 EST ID:dc+oeNfU No.517538 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517536
You're right. I know that I have to confront him about his behavior. But I am too afraid to for a number of reasons.

Firstly, he is very touchy and it could backfire big time, leading to even more friction. Secondly, I don't know how or even if he can "heal" himself. He's so bitter, so stuck in his habits and own patterns and way of thinking that it would take a tremendous amount of willpower and discipline and self-knowledge and emotional understand (all things he doesn't possess) to even begin to change. On top of that, I don't know if he wants to change nor am I sure there is anything to change to. Maybe he really just is a pessimistic, bitter person whatever situation he's in.
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OP - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 18:28:04 EST ID:dc+oeNfU No.517539 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517536
Thanks for taking the time to post, by the way. I appreciate it, I hope that's clear.
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David Fonnerway - Thu, 20 Jul 2017 06:30:41 EST ID:zzgztlb9 No.517551 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517539
The pleasure is mine. I've spent half my life in depression, so I can only imagine what he's been going through and how unsufferable it must seem for his immediate family.
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Phoebe Clesslebanks - Thu, 20 Jul 2017 19:40:29 EST ID:iKPa+Mgz No.517559 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517538
If you're old enough to post here you can confront him and if he creates more "friction" simply avoid him. There's no friction between objects that are not in contact.

I think you should focus on improving your own life. Increase your independence from him and if your mother is dragging you along because you are still a dependent then you need to be more independent from her. Plus when you no longer need her but still keep seeing her that'll be nice.

As someone else said about their life. Don't pay the price for someone else's shit. It doesn't help anyone, it just makes more suffering.
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Martin Dartstone - Sun, 23 Jul 2017 12:17:59 EST ID:gisR9XXm No.517613 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517536
Don't kill him!


what am i doing wrong? by whiny mcbitchs alot - Fri, 21 Jul 2017 21:30:46 EST ID:3knwzPbK No.517572 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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my wife has to drive her mom to a town about an hour and a half away, every weekend. i am so tired of it. her mother has been nothing but a leech since the day i met her. she basically wants her daughter to be her cartaker, & has since she was 12 years old. she lives off welfare checks. i am so goddamn done with this women being a part of my life, but apparently telling your wife its her or me is a little over the line. i just want a good weekend without my wife having to drive this fat bitch wherever she wants. well anyways, rant done. i guess i will go deal with life now.
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Cedric Churringgold - Fri, 21 Jul 2017 23:20:15 EST ID:6jfGNFOb No.517575 Ignore Report Quick Reply
i got some bad news for you hombre, the mother-daughter (throughout adult life) relationship is the 2nd strongest of all human bonds, only weaker than mother-child. a neurotypical female will always choose her mother over you if pushed to it, it is simple biology. this is why jokes about in-laws being pieces of shit have existed for thousands of years, because sometimes we fall into the trap of having shit in-laws which we tolerate because we like our partner enough. so if to you, your wife is worth putting up with the fat mother in law, just accept this negative facet of life. if it isn't, be real with yourself and with her and fuckin divorce her if it's really so terrible. what else you want me to say dude
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David Dundergold - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 09:36:32 EST ID:KgGW3Hbz No.517582 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517572
respect your elders you literal subhuman hedonist.
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Caroline Fuzzleworth - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 12:11:19 EST ID:jjpiyv0q No.517585 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517575
Who the hell would choose their mother over their lifelong partner if pushed to it?
Also, not everyone is a blind retard who can't see past some primitive blood bonds and realize that their mother is a selfish dumb cunt.

Hating your in-laws in general is natural because you essentially just adopted two new parents who were never your parents, are still never your parents, but they like to think that they're also your parents now, or, at least, they are still the parents to your other half. And that's annoying as shit.
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James Dabbershaw - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 13:04:54 EST ID:bwJOb6Ln No.517588 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517575
it's not simple biology, if my parents hadn't done a good job raising me then I would pick my BF over them, and I have friends who have made such decisions.

My parents are awesome though, and yes, I would put my mom and my dad both above my boyfriend in a heartbeat.
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Nicholas Ficklefuck - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 20:41:56 EST ID:iKPa+Mgz No.517606 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517582
Sometimes your elders aren't shit. But there's a thread about that just below. We don't know what the case is really from OP's post. Maybe her mother did her best but is a cripple or maybe she is just a lazy piece of shit and from 12 just expected her kid to do the work, we don't know.


I always feel like i have something important to say, but i can never think of what it is by Ebenezer Greenhall - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 10:04:26 EST ID:V+3hE0wp No.517583 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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i always have that weird feeling in my stomach and my head that you get when you forget what youre going to say, and it feels like i have something i need to say to someone but i literally have nothing like not even something unimportant to say im like fresh out of shit to say lol, but yea its gone on for a while now and i hate it i really do, i do forget things a lot an i have a lot of tiny fleeting thoughts but none of those are even important things and i get like a stomach turning/butterflies/anxiety feeling in my stomach and my brain feels like its tight and is going in overdrive trying to think of shit and it just sucks, does this happen to anyone else? does any one have any solutions?
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David Dundergold - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 11:57:03 EST ID:KgGW3Hbz No.517584 Ignore Report Quick Reply
try nofap
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Isabella Shittingbanks - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 16:26:46 EST ID:C2LZTezo No.517599 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Try fapping more


Dealing with giftedness by Ian Gozzlebury - Wed, 12 Jul 2017 09:10:48 EST ID:zzgztlb9 No.517372 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Other gifted persons here? I was a considered an extremely gifted child, scored 155 on an IQ test (WS3) when I was 9 then I got to skip a class because I was bored in class.

Eventually graduated from high school but never really could succeed in the academic fields because of how hyperspecialised everything feels. I was wondering if others always felt somewhat different from typical people, in the way you think or perceive things. Keep in mind who normal people "normies" are.
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Caroline Gengerpore - Fri, 21 Jul 2017 17:36:00 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.517567 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517514
Mine is apparently 127 according to a test I took for the state along with a cognitive impairment screening because two concussions I've had, and I typically feel the same way and I'm really not much more than above average.

To be honest, I really just think feeling estranged from the rest of society is a common phenomenon in modern society. Just think about the differences there are in life even just between now and 50 to 100 years ago. Read up on some existentialism and shit mane (particularly Nietzsche and even some Jungian Psychology, especially as it relates to Jung's ideas on Nietzsche's philosophy).

The way interaction and belonging to the community has changed, the ways socialization (especially in the last 20 years) has changed, the lack of feeling like you're needed at all to contribute to society (and not just a cog in a machine whose function is such that you can easily be replaced by someone else), etc. Social interaction is at such a surface level now that it's easy to believe that nobody is capable of real conversation or deep, intellectual thought, but I highly doubt that is the case. Investing the time in actually speaking at length enough to properly discuss those kinds of ideas isn't something most people are ready to do at any given time, and initiating that kind of discussion is very difficult and even kind of awkward to do because it tends to feel like you're rambling (the truth is you might actually be, but it's hard to tell because it isn't often that people get practice talking that much and taking proper turns speaking and whatnot is something that requires experience to do well).

All in all, I think it's just too easy to be able to assume people just aren't on your level because of a myriad of factors that really come together in such a way that it makes it almost impossible not to. I feel like it's a bit intellectually lazy and even a bit immature to buy into that idea though without really giving it all a serious second thought. None of us are really that special, even if we have been labeled as "gifted" at some point in time. If you buy into the idea that you are somehow special and gifte…
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Doris Shakefoot - Fri, 21 Jul 2017 21:28:42 EST ID:iKPa+Mgz No.517571 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517567
>Just take the time to ask yourself right now, what exactly does having an IQ of 132 or 155 do to make you all that different from anybody else?
It means you're 2 to 3 and a bit standard deviations above the average at the tasks IQ measures. It will usually translate to being better at certain things but how to then translate that into success is different. And it's not what IQ measures. Anyone who's really as clever as their 3 SD IQ indicates realises the limitations of this measure but also that that doesn't make it completely irrelevant. It does after all measure a skill set. However it only measures those skills. IQ is a purely relative measure. It tells you where you are compared to the rest of the population at certain skills. Nothing more but also nothing less.

I think some people know they're fairly bright about most stuff and in a way a lot of people are, when you can easily grasp concepts others cannot even get their head round you know you're above average. But I agree with what you're saying. I won't waste words by going over it but yes, nail on head there.

I've also met far too many people claiming to have a 150+ IQ for them all to be right. Most people that claim to have something like that are usually pretty clever but the really smart ones don't need to tell you their IQ. You can tell a genius in action. They grasp everything you struggle with easily. Some go from Cambridge to MIT and some live as bums the latter will be far more useful in an /fo/ situation though, high minded maths is nice and all but this other guy could probably get us reliable electricity, probably even CAD and stuff like that using scrap metal

Anyway there's a lot more intelligence than IQ. And none of it, not even those other forms of intelligence matter if you're mentally ill because of a shitty upbringing or you were bullied, or you got unlucky or whatever else that stops you getting opportunities to leverage it or just cripples you. That's the only thing I'd pick out in your post really aside from some people clearly being more or less intelligent. A lot of intelligent people fail not because it's worthless but because you&…
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Henry Picklock - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 01:59:12 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.517576 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517571
>I've also met far too many people claiming to have a 150+ IQ for them all to be right.
Same here

> It tells you where you are compared to the rest of the population at certain skills. Nothing more but also nothing less.
I feel by your entire paragraph explaining this here that you took what I said more literally than I meant it. All of this is obvious provided you have any knowledge about what IQ represents and how they go about getting meaningful information out of your results. Granted, I'm sure some people aren't aware of this but I explicitly stated I got how the whole thing generally works.

I mean, I know you said you agreed with me, but I just found the fact you explained it all to me a bit odd and I can't really tell if you misunderstood some of what I meant or if I'm just misunderstanding you myself.

In any case
>Anyway there's a lot more intelligence than IQ
Definitely agree. This was more or less the majority of the point I was making. Like you said, IQ is a measure of a rather specific set of skills, and it usually winds up being the case that being more intelligent in an intellectual sense winds up leaving people unbalanced and stuff like street smarts, common sense, and social sense have a tendency to be noticeably lacking.

I'm too lazy to check IDs, so I don't know if you're the one I was responding to with that post, but given he was relating to OP about being very distant and unable to connect with people of more average intelligence, that was obviously the case there.
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Shit Mabblefield - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 02:02:30 EST ID:SvrL9OfC No.517577 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>it's impossible to be intimately related and connected to other people
Meant to say to NOT be**
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Doris Shakefoot - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 07:28:35 EST ID:iKPa+Mgz No.517580 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517576
Nah I'm not that guy. I've can connect with people and some of them obviously aren't as good as me at things I'm good at.

I was musing on your post mostly rather than arguing though and if you consider that my only post on this thread previously was actually directed at that guy saying he's obviously further ahead in some areas than others as evidenced by his failure to use his smarts I don't think you need to presume anything like as much.

However while it's unclear if you buy into it, the idea of the "absent minded professor" irks me. So I'm going to go ahead and further agree with your point by talking about stupid people.

Plenty of people fail to grasp common sense and street knowledge and many of them are stupid. Plenty of clever people either don't get exposed to the experiences that would give them the knowledge or they do and they get it. Similarly plenty of stupid people also fail to connect socially, autism for example does not correlate with IQ (well high functioning doesn't, low and medium functioning autism usually comes with a low IQ). Meanwhile if you want to see that tonnes of stupid people lack common sense and use facebook go look at "U OK HUN" which is basically pictures of illiterate people displaying either a complete lack of self awareness, no common sense or no understanding of other people/self centred entitlement. I suspect also some of it is fake though. Stupid people can be every bit as dumb and isolated as "clever people".

Which actually also undermines any "I'm isolated because I'm special" the only difference is that someone with a 150 IQ might be more likely to notice how isolated they are.


Most Sexually Frustrating Night of My Fucking Life by Hedda Clirringleg - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 02:11:07 EST ID:uy3JDE2/ No.517512 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So, I had met this girl that just came back to my City after being in Alabama for like 2 years. She was staying with her cousin because she left an abusive relationship and me and her cousin happened to be very good friends and so she tried to set me and her up. I hit it off with this girl immediately despite her being 28 and me being 23 and her having 2 kids. One day, my friend(her cousin) tried to get her to do H and told her it was coke when she wanted to experiment with a little. I happened to just get off H and be on the Vivitrol shot. She ends up showing me the baggie her cousin gave her and said she sniffed a little and felt weird and I told her it was H(I recognized the design on the bag too from the area) and she moved out of her cousins like 2 days later and claimed to be living with "friends" for about 2 weeks and we dont speak at all. She texts me saying she was trying to fuck, so I went over and we did our thing and a few days later she tells me she's living with her ex-husband who she has an indefinite injunction against and told me she had to move out because she didn't like the fact her cousin was selling drugs, etc and she didn't want to raise her children in that environment. About 3 weeks pass and her cousin gets killed in a car accident and so she's basically trapped at her abusive alcoholic ex-boyfriend's home and both her parents are deceased. This guy beats the shit out of her when he gets drunk and she's really just trying to escape. She's called me, put the phone in her pocket, and told me to listen. I listened to her getting her ass fucking whooped and got extremely upset. I think any man that beats a woman isn't a real man at all. So, we both mutually agreed we have feelings for eachother and we made plans to actually become roommates in a house together and split rent and utilities. So, I am over at her house tonight, her ex-husband is about 2 hours away for work and she invited me to stay with her. I hangout with her the whole day, we were all over eachother all day but didn't do anything considering her kids were around. Like I almost have blue balls because of it. She claimed she wanted weed, I got a friend of mine to smoke us out on d…
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Ebenezer Fuckinglock - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 09:39:51 EST ID:V8Zyw7UU No.517518 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517517
Ok I read it now

You are her backup-plan and my only advice is to not only get the fuck away from her but also from any other people of that kind if its the kinda crowd you usually hang with.

>H
>Getting high & fuckin around while having 2 kids
>bringing her kids around an abusive alcoholic
>Living with H dealer with her kids
>Wanting to do coke while having kids
Shes bottom of the barrel scum and you will regret starting anything with this girl.
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Simon Duckwell - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 10:18:36 EST ID:iKPa+Mgz No.517519 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517518
Those poor kids.

I don't feel anything for you OP but she's a piece of shit and so is almost everyone she knows. You might not be but if you're willing to chase a woman like this in denial of what a fuckup she is I think you need to take a look at your own life.
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Ernest Nollerwedge - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 15:15:47 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.517529 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517512

tl;dr

You know what a paragraph is?

>>517517

Read this one.

I think OP should go for it.

She has 2 kids, a violent abusive husband, doing heroin/cocaine, probably has no source of income other than putting out, I mean, what could go wrong?

Stuff that snatch OP, save her because you're the only one who can.
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Shitting Honeybury - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 23:07:31 EST ID:s+dE+qb3 No.517545 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>has kids
>future junkie
>moves in with her abusive ex husband under the excuse that "but muh cousin was doing heroin!!!"
L M A O
You and Emma Beckleham from the other thread should date. You're both dealing with people who you really really want to believe are total good souls in bad situations, but really, they're just two faced pricks. Nobody fucking moves out of their cousin's place to live with their fucking physically abusive ex husband just because their cousin snorts some heroin. She's a clinger who needed a male in her life so she put up with the punches for a while, but now you're here and she's ready to intrude on your life next.

You're still young, OP, don't get stuck in this kind of rut.
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Doris Porrylut - Fri, 21 Jul 2017 19:38:40 EST ID:CFSPhP33 No.517568 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517512
run nigga


Getting ready to pack my bags and LEAVE by Jarvis Gublingham - Sun, 02 Jul 2017 13:36:22 EST ID:JsQi4/8G No.517225 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Everything is making me feel shitty and I can't take it anymore.

  1. Hate my job. I'm in a dead end job, where I see no opportunities to better myself. My boss tries to take advantage of me, by paying me less for the work I do. I've had several arguments with her about it.

2. Can't wait for the weekend to come, just to drink until I'm wasted, smoke weed, and find someone to have sex with.

3. That! Happened and I had sex with a guy I met at a bar. We saw each other several times, then he started to ignore me and slowly disappeared. I would go on more in detail to get your opinion about the situation, but it was just that he might have lost interest. I kind of fell for him, but just wanted someone to have a good time with and smoke.

3. Talking to this guy that lives across the world, but really there's no future there. He lives far away, with a 9 hr difference.

4. My closest friends have their life together with kids, stable job, and don't want nothing to do with partying, go randomly to the beach and shit.. Been trying to find people that have the same interests as me, but no luck.

5. My family has always had money, and now we are basically broke. My mom never worked a day in her life, and now she is looking for a job. My dad has parkinsons, a bad knee, and bad back. I live with them, haven't moved out because I've been helping them financially and emotionally, but it's seriously taking a toll on me.

6. My mom is a nervous wreck, and that has rub off on to me and my dad just walks like a zombie asking random questions with no meaning.
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Augustus Hovingpork - Sun, 16 Jul 2017 00:51:55 EST ID:D6Nw402O No.517475 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517418
JEEEEZ a fellow colombian is so rare around here

have you thought about going back, even just to travel? what city are u from? paisa here!
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Phoebe Blackfuck - Sun, 16 Jul 2017 08:12:13 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.517479 Ignore Report Quick Reply
There's an easy solution for falling for guys you have sex with who then leave you: you just have to wait to have sex with someone until you love them and think they love you too. People act like it's impossible to wait, but it's not. If you make guys wait, only the ones who are truly interested in you will keep pursuing you. The extended courtship is what allows for a deeper bond to form. A lot of guys assume that if you fuck them easily and quickly then it means you'll do that with anyone and they lose interest. Men still do not like sluts as long term partners no matter what people tell you, and they will assume you are a slut if you fuck them right away. Women who don't understand this end up getting hurt over and over and end up thinking that it's something fundamentally wrong with them. Their self esteem takes a hit and they feel less able to resist the sexual advances of a guy they like for fear of him losing interest. In fact the thing most likely to make him lose interest in you is sleeping with him too quickly.

This won't fix the problem of guys being really nice and engaged and then losing interest because men do that to get sex, it's just an act and it doesn't reflect on you. If you want to know if it's real or not, make them wait. The men who are just putting on a show will disappear, but the ones who actually like you will stick around and a real romance can form.


Also, I think you will regret abandoning your family if they really are in a situation where they can't get by without you. Make sure they are taken care of and will be fine without you before you leave.
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Nigel Baddledock - Sun, 16 Jul 2017 13:38:15 EST ID:iKPa+Mgz No.517482 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517225
All my friends who are my age are at a stage where they're moving on from to where I'm trying to get in life now so I know how being behind goes. Backpacking might find you perspective or you might just be running from your problems and letting the gulf grow.

I don't think you should run away from your family. I think you should try to change things. The current situation isn't sustainable and it's not fair to expect you to look after your kept mother and sick father when you're young.

Okay so as for your job, look for a new one. You have mastered a dead end job and that means you've got a lot of skills and experience that will help you do other jobs.

>>517479
Love takes months. You don't need to wait for months. But weeks. Make them know you have to be comfortable, win their respect, get to know you. A lot of guys will not put up with it but will be happy because they enjoy your company and can see things moving forward. If they don't enjoy that process then they aren't long term relationship material. A lot of guys will still try to have sex with you even if they want a relationship though.

All that said, a lot of people who want a serious relationship also want more than just get wasted and fuck. So I hope you have actual interests to share with that person or maybe they're bailing because you're shallow. I don't know, I suspect you have interests and at worst just hide them because we're all made to feel ashamed of what makes us weird. And with most people their secret shameful passion is the most exciting thing about them in my experience.
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Hugh Crallyhare - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 19:02:04 EST ID:7fC8LtQw No.517542 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517475
not the op but i'm also from Colombia. Guaviare. fucking colombians
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Archie Blogglekirk - Fri, 21 Jul 2017 13:24:55 EST ID:bwJOb6Ln No.517564 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I don't know how much guys want to stay with a girl they know will sleep with a guy on a first date... Did you even want to do that or was it just part of your general Thanatos?

ANYway, do a CELTA course, and you'll never have to go home again if you don't want to. Just live in beautiful places for a year at a time, and all your friends with babies will look miserable in comparison and envy you with every fibre of their knocked up beings


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