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accepting responsibility by Samuel Fummlechig - Tue, 11 Apr 2017 02:17:01 EST ID:2cg9wqsf No.515365 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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tl;dr: My mother who is an alcoholic that has outright refused to get help for years now is dying and wants me to be a part of her life, but I don't want to be a part of her life. wat do?

I spoke to my mother tonight for the first time in years. She's a bad alcoholic and told me she has cirrhosis of the liver, and not long after attempted to blame myself and my siblings for her alcoholism. Claiming that her children had "thrown her to the side", implying that's the reason she drinks the way she does.

But that's bullshit. We've tried to get her help for years now. We've put her into rehabs and mental health facilities more times than I can count and it's never worked. I think it only goes to show that a person can only change when they're willing to. She's clearly not willing to and she never has been.

My siblings and I have put up with this for years. She's always wasted, talking complete nonsense, threatening to kill herself, etc. I mean, the woman is batshit insane, even before the alcohol came into the picture, and this stuff I'm talking about is honestly only scratching the surface. It's just a big fucking pile of stress and worry for everyone involved. Eventually I had to give her an ultimatum. Either she gets help and cleans her act up or I'm not going to have anything to do with her. It's far too stressful to deal with her and my attempts at helping her have only cost time and money, and after repeated attempts it still hasn't worked. In her current state (and the state she's been in for at least 15 years now) I'm a much happier person without her in my life, period.

Immediately after giving her the ultimatum, she says "well I'm not gonna stop drinking." That was the last straw for me. I just couldn't fucking do it anymore so I cut contact with her completely, until tonight.

She sent a message to one of my siblings and tells them I need to call her because she's going to the hospital. My wife was urging me to call, saying I'd regret it if I didn't, and to some extent I thought she may have been right, so against my better judgment I called. That's where the beginning of this pos…
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Albert Pollerstone - Sun, 16 Apr 2017 16:22:10 EST ID:CUxKd5AA No.515517 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I know it sucks and it hurts a lot man, but honestly you can't waste the time you've got on this earth worrying about someone that doesn't want to help themselves.
Caroline Cuttingpuck - Sun, 16 Apr 2017 16:33:36 EST ID:tldOIKN9 No.515518 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Tell this to your mother and not us. What advice could a person with a functional mother give?
If you're happier without her and she won't change then that's that. Another harsh reality of your life, I suppose.
Hugh Sengertat - Sun, 16 Apr 2017 19:38:25 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.515523 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Normally I'm the type that would tell you to give in and be there for her but it seems like a waste of time in this situation. Her dying doesn't really change anything, despite maybe seeming like it should. It's not like your mother and you merely had a few differences that you ought to be able to overcome in her time of dying, this is very different than that kind of situation.

Maybe you shouldn't ignore her entirely, but there's no sense in placating her or going very much out of your way to visit or comfort her more than is absolutely necessary. I'd make it clear that you're sorry she's dying in a sort of person-to-person sort of respect for her life, but otherwise you aren't really upset over it and don't feel pity for her predicament. Be as cold and aloof as you need to so that you aren't involved enough to cause inordinate amounts of stress... although it's fair to keep in mind that a parent dying is normally a stressful ordeal for most people. Even if it's just having to deal with setting up a funeral and having to take care of them or make arrangements for their care in their last days. It's going to be impossible to avoid stress altogether in a situation like this.
Angus Sennerdale - Sun, 16 Apr 2017 20:13:18 EST ID:wcR9wfzO No.515528 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Don't feel bad about it. I'd advise that you don't contact her again. You've tried to help her many times and she never took up. She just continued to slander you and use you. Many people here say that you'll wonder how it will be when you were never by her side; I'm here to tell you that if you stay by her side, you'll always wonder if you hadn't.

My father haunts me to this day. All my life I've supported him unwillingly. I came back years ago to be close to my mother who had cancer (she died); I do not blame my mother for anything and I do not regret being with her at her death, but my father never left, either. Despite promising on her death bed that he would never remarry, he did just that. He replaced her not even two years later, and destroyed the family. All of my mother's stuff given away to his new wife, or gone. Almost nothing remains besides her memory. I'd like to walk away, but even my sister (who disowned my father) tells me not to. My brother is a coward who can't accept reality, and sees my father as being normal when he never was, and never will be. It is very disheartening to see the ones closest to you behave like this, but the good news is that you don't have to have any of that crap in your life.

Just walk away. Leave it to your other siblings if they care enough. I used to think that mothers were entitled to love from their children, but that is only true if they were loving themselves. If she'd leave you by the wayside, you should do the same. Have some respect for yourself. I didn't, and now look at me.
Fucking Noggledad - Mon, 17 Apr 2017 04:22:51 EST ID:2cg9wqsf No.515535 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP here
>Tell this to your mother and not us. What advice could a person with a functional mother give?
It doesn't have to be a mother. I think anyone that's had to deal with anyone harboring serious addiction in their life could offer at least something here. Just looking for perspective on it all, I guess. But this was also a means to vent. I needed to get this off of my chest to someone that's not so closely related to the situation, I think. It's easy for views to become a little warped when you've been this close to the situation for so long.

I appreciate all of your responses. I think everyone has offered valid advice about it all. It's certainly given me a lot to think about, and to some extent it does make me feel a bit better to know that, in a way, I'm not exactly alone in wanting to give up on her. But overall I understand that this is a situation that I'll have to give some serious consideration to, and that it's not up to anyone else.

Anyway, thanks guys <3

The Reviving Dead by Something Forgotten - Sat, 15 Apr 2017 02:37:15 EST ID:bXKnmY5K No.515480 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've been stricken with a crippling neurological and physical disease for the last nine years which has progressively gotten worse. I have been deemed a safety hazard in the job market which ruined most of my chances for employment because I can injure myself or someone else unintentionally. Because of this, my nutrition slipped, and with it my body because I'd refused to take handouts. Even when I was homeless, even when I was considered disabled and eligible for welfare, I didn't take it. I'm still homeless to some degree and I haven't seen a friend for over three years and I gave up the love of my life.

However, I can no longer sustain myself, and my brain has slipped beyond repair. The only thing I can do is salvage it. In the beginning of February, I signed up for welfare, and today my case received a decision. If I don't get the mail tomorrow, I'll find out next week if I've been approved.

Most people would splurge with the money I'll be getting; however, I'll be getting a cerebral collotomy and isolating myself for even longer than I thought I would. I'll be stuck high in the mountains learning how to control each side of my body and brain individually.

But... I am almost giving up here. My mother died and my dad didn't want to help me. He pushed me aside and put money towards my sister's education because he thinks what prospects my life has to be forfeit. I haven't killed myself because he's still alive. I want to soar above my limitations and shit on his life.

But sometimes the line gets blurred after the amount of years I've been alone and I want to forget it all. Malice is what keeps me going and I gave it up before because its unhealthy. Nothing good came of it because I couldn't of found purpose to put in my dreams. I wanted to start a myriad of businesses with my family.

At the end of it all, this is the first time I talked about it. I've left it out of conversations with my friends because I might have felt better if what I thought was true. Which was putting it in a jar and saving it for another day. But maybe im just excited or anxious for the potential change coming my way.

The stem of it all? MERRF. I thought I had regular epilepsy. Turns out it was Ragged Red Fibers and nobody ever told me. I wonder if it was on purpose.

And I grow hateful every passing day.
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Something Forgotten - Sat, 15 Apr 2017 02:53:08 EST ID:bXKnmY5K No.515481 Ignore Report Quick Reply
He couldn't believe how easy it was. He put the gun into his face. Bang. So much blood from such a tiny little hole. But problems still have solutions. A lifetime of fucking things up fixed in one determined flash. Everything's blue in this world. The deepest shade of mushroom blue. All fuzzy spilling out of my head.
Hugh Sengertat - Sun, 16 Apr 2017 19:54:02 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.515526 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>I signed up for welfare
Why aren't you receiving disability?
Angus Sennerdale - Sun, 16 Apr 2017 20:00:03 EST ID:wcR9wfzO No.515527 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Since the disease is passed maternally, why would your father put all of his money into your sister? She might have kids with the condition, or she may have it herself. Did your mother have this condition?

list the shit things happened this week by Hannah Habbleshaw - Thu, 13 Apr 2017 11:04:03 EST ID:2VJDAiVv No.515420 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Ill start
Get robbed
Get crashed into by some idiot
Get a letter today for massive court fine ?? They sent previous letters to wrong address.
Get other letter saying my rent is going up

I cant seem to catch a break.
Have bad week? Make a list
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Molly Feddlebone - Sat, 15 Apr 2017 13:42:36 EST ID:wwCii2fz No.515487 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP here

something else got stolen out on the street whilst I was distracted dealing with some drunk fuckhead last night. I can only take so much bad luck in one week. I am officially depressed now.
Molly Purringford - Sat, 15 Apr 2017 20:06:19 EST ID:F26t8B89 No.515495 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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My dad got some test results today, his Dopamine production is at 40% and lowering at alarming rates.
Reuben Billingfoot - Sat, 15 Apr 2017 20:14:30 EST ID:h1AuFryA No.515496 Ignore Report Quick Reply
What does this mean for his mental health? Does he use any drugs?
Molly Purringford - Sat, 15 Apr 2017 20:41:33 EST ID:F26t8B89 No.515497 Ignore Report Quick Reply

It means he feels like dying every fucking day because of psychosomatic pains and the feel that he can't do much about it gets him depressed to no end.

He takes Clonazepam and Zolpidem so he can sleep (and it isn't that helpful, he just can't rest)

He can't use weed because he's very prone to anxiety attacks because of it and med-oil is pretty fucking expensive and doesn't help him much.

His wits are scalpel sharp as always but when you can't button up your shirt or piss straight or when you piss yourself because your brain gets in cahoots with your nervous system and they just feel like making you dance like a fucking circus bear I'd say your mental health is on the rocks.

Not fair man, not fucking fair. he worked for forty years straight in the mining industry, never called in sick and he wasn't called out for shit either because he's a fucking maverick with anything related to engineering. They chewed him up and gave him peanuts for retirement.
Barnaby Dellerforth - Mon, 17 Apr 2017 14:13:37 EST ID:nOFtdjrU No.515544 Ignore Report Quick Reply
More depression and paranoia. I'll be glad once classes end in May, but I'm still stuck trying to live with myself knowing that I'm incurably inferior and there's no point trying to go on. Like I really don't want to kill myself, I want to improve but the more I try to do so the more I can see how futile it is.

I don't really even want to put this here, but I want it off my chest somehow and I don't have anyone else to talk to. nb.

50mg zaleplon mundanestential crisis fuck you fuck me by mexxed !cDJp28xb8w!!CLeaAsfK - Wed, 12 Apr 2017 13:24:41 EST ID:U0vRG2V5 No.515399 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I hate you. All of you. And everything this site represents. Not in general, but to me personally. Don't take it personally. This isn't about you, it's about me and it's about me hating you while hating myself on 50mg zaleplon after being clean for like 2+ years impulsively taking it because my fiancee had another fucking autistic meltdown tantrum whatever you wanna call it. And is now in the psych ward.

Just hear me out, I'm 50mg of zaplon (Sonata), listening to Ecstasphere, and I have no idea what I;m doing. Why was this a good idea? Don't worry, it wasn't, I just want to get to sleep since it is 6 hours past my bedtime and I have an appointment tonight. OH IT'S A BLOG LETS ALL SHITPOST MEME ARROWS COMING THROUGH

The're fucking with her meds. Dopamax won't change, can't change, they help the migraines. The 24 hour long ones that never ever go away. In Prozac, out Paxil plus Buspar. Sure whatever. Two weeks later where the fuck did you get all those marks and scars on your arm?!

I've been picking.

It's getting worse.

Now back to Prozac, no more Buspar. Instead Trileptal. In additional to the Dopamax. Question mark?

It's getting worse. It's getting much, much worse.
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mexxed !cDJp28xb8w!!CLeaAsfK - Fri, 14 Apr 2017 18:04:28 EST ID:U0vRG2V5 No.515465 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I dunno if I feel "superior", though I'm sure I come across as contemptuous of just about everyone, and that includes myself. Often I put myself first, maybe it's self-centered, maybe it's part of avoiding dealing with others, maybe it's a legitimate way of prioritizing one's life; but ultimately I think very lowly of myself, and I don't think I'm better than most people. I know I'm smarter than most people. Or rather, I know my IQ is significantly higher than most people's, for what that's worth, but all that means is I'm better at recognizing patterns and understanding abstract concepts. It means I'm different, that I think differently than most people, and so it's one reason I can't relate to most people. Dissociatives made me operate on a "dumber" level, more short-sighted, only focusing on one thing at a time and feeling one emotion at a time, so it made it easier to receive the surface-level shit that constitutes daily interaction with people.

You're right that it's all the same processes and mechanisms, just expressed differently based on class and culture. I didn't find anyone in Trenton who I could sit down and have a long, involved discussion with, without it veering off into weird anecdotes, conspiracy theories, or general misunderstandings. Everyone was poorly educated, most people solved their problems with shouting and fighting, and generally venting at each other. I suppose the term "genuine" is misleading here. What I really appreciated about it was that it's more immediate and direct. It was *easier*. And people weren't engaging in long-term mind games to embellish their public image, most social interactions were forgotten two minutes later. In a middle class setting I find myself getting caught up in obsessive thinking. The same neurotic, obsessive thinking that most of my neighbors are probably doing too. I have to put up extra layers of bullshit because I don't have any positive traits, and it's exhausting. I find myself worrying about bullshit like did I park my car too close to my neighbor's car and does that make her uncomfortable? When I smiled and wav…
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Martin Fuckingford - Fri, 14 Apr 2017 18:34:52 EST ID:bAj8skhr No.515466 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Sorry, when I said you were delusional about yourself I forgot to type the word "not". You are not delusional because you realise you're just like everyone else. You're in the sort of misanthrope who doesn't think "everyone else is stupid just not me".
mexxed !cDJp28xb8w!!CLeaAsfK - Fri, 14 Apr 2017 20:22:15 EST ID:U0vRG2V5 No.515468 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I see, that makes more sense now. Yeah, I really don't think I'm any better. As I said above I might act like it in public, and it might seep out as I speak in private, but it's more of a defense mechanism, an unconscious attempt to avoid embarrassment and other unpleasant thoughts. Unfortunately, I think most people are at least emotionally competent enough to see through that. Maybe I'm wrong. I don't like to play guessing games over how smart or how perceptive people are, I just assume people can see through me or are going to judge me regardless, and then sometimes they prove me wrong. Guilty until proven innocent.

I *used* to think I was better than other people, but I quickly grew out of that after high school. That was more of a rebellious teenager thing than anything. It's easy to believe a lot of wrong things when you're a kid, because you simply haven't seen enough of the world, experienced enough, or dealt with enough people. You've got a very small frame of reference, and it works the same way the other way around where very depressed kids who think very lowly of themselves go and off themselves because their small world isn't treating them well at the moment, and if they'd had one more distraction or one more word of encouragement, they might have been able to tough it out and start an adult life of much more "interesting" mental illness.
Nathaniel Trotshaw - Fri, 14 Apr 2017 20:25:56 EST ID:zbKXnohS No.515469 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Get an animal. Cleaning up shit every day makes you reassess your place in the world.
mexxed !cDJp28xb8w!!CLeaAsfK - Sat, 15 Apr 2017 02:56:39 EST ID:U0vRG2V5 No.515482 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Okay this I really would never do. I thoroughly dislike keeping pets, it doesn't do anything for me. I'm likely to neglect them. I grew up with a dog and later a cat, my fiancee had ferrets, rats, geckos, and anoles, and currently has two snakes. I've tolerated these but I just don't really get it. And anyway with my fiancee's worsening symptoms lately I've felt like I've been cleaning up shit every day, metaphorically.

五次元スクールの吉田 真由美 先生のペルーツアー by 吉田 真由美 - Fri, 14 Apr 2017 23:16:48 EST ID:Go8pQQWf No.515478 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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drug tips by 420 blaze it - Fri, 14 Apr 2017 22:30:07 EST ID:/3G4nMeR No.515477 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Come in this discord for some drug tips https://discord.gg/tmchsT9

I think I have a hex by James Trotbanks - Thu, 13 Apr 2017 00:20:20 EST ID:rRMr7xq2 No.515411 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Is it possible to reverse the bad luck that just doesn't seem to go away?

I was born in New York City, lived in the Upper East Side with my drunken mom, failed stock broker Dad, and a former female advertising exec, who was born in 1913, but she died when I was 10, in 2000.

I went to a boarding school for bad kids, studied photography but never learned any life skills, such as love for myself because everyone was verbally abusive.we would hang out in Greenwich Village and fuck around sometimes.

When I graduated, in 2009, I moved to Florida to go to film school, which I completed in 2013. Still, I had to learn how to survive, such as cleanliness and consideration through humiliation. Like I didn't know how to take care of an apartment, people had to show me and I feel bad.

Then I moved to Hollywood to work for a promoter, who at one point had to teach me how to unclog a toilet. I left after a few years for Vermont. LA is very expensive. I stayed at this no tell motel called the Retan, but sometimes I slept in WeHo park, sometimes I'd turn up WeHo, lol.

Anyway, I now live in Vermont, work out of a public access chanel, I have 80 followers on instagram, can not sell a single print on the etsy link to my store, and the public access chanel could care less if I show up and seem reluctant to help me with the editing, when I am there.

Is it possible that I'm cursed? That no matter how good I am at something, I just won't surpass beginner? Is someone angry at me? Am I being haunted by a ghost? Are all my strengths actually bad things? Can anyone relate at all?
Lydia Dromblestone - Thu, 13 Apr 2017 13:10:03 EST ID:2DYHN+3R No.515424 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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curses and hexes aren't real. magical thinking is appealing but ultimately just leads you away from the real problem.
why do you sound so ashamed of not knowing basic cleanliness and hygene? if you didn't learn those things at home, then somebody had to teach you. most kids i know who move out go through a period of living in filth before they get their shit together.
and don't feel bad about going to art school, education is important and art is necessary.
you sound stressed by your current circumstances, though. do you have any goals or hobbies that you enjoy? you could start saving for a vacation if that's what you're into.
you live in vermont, do you like the outdoors? try going hiking or camping on the weekends. maybe take mushrooms in the woods. do you like fishing? have you ever tried?
you sound a little like you're giving up on your own happiness. but you get out of life what you put into it. there is no higher power dictating your circumstances; just yourself.
John Greenstock - Fri, 14 Apr 2017 19:20:05 EST ID:tldOIKN9 No.515467 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Stop trying to blame shit on spooks. We are all products of our enviroments. The key is to change your enviroment. Just today I read some bitch's facebook post. She said she sold everything she had and rented out her apartment. All of her possesions fit inside a 30kg backpack. No keys, no nothing. She's in Russia now or something. Ask yourself what you want in life. There can be several answers to this. Then figure out the best way to achieve it. Nothing will happen over night. You have to dedicate yourself to yourself and it will sure as fuck be hard, bro. You'll die one day. It might be tomorrow in an accident it might be in 40 years. Either way life's a bitch and then you die, that's why we get high!

financial shit fuckin with my love life by Cedric Lightspear - Fri, 14 Apr 2017 11:45:11 EST ID:p328CkaU No.515454 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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so i'm renting a room with my girlfriend. i wait tables and support both of us because she doesn't work. Won't work. She gets fired every few months from shitty jobs that get progressively shittier and pay progressively less, and I support both of us. I don't fucking care for that at all. The only things I want to take 100% care of are my houseplants and my fishtank. She won't apply for anything because her 'resume isn't ready'. It's been months she's been working on her resume. I finally get her to apply to a local Carrabba's where she'll have to eat shit but be able to make a living wage I worked there a while back, it turns steady volume and it's taken her 20 hours AND COUNTING to finish the application. This shit is pushing us apart and she knows it. We've discussed it. She gets whiny and starts talking down to herself whenever I bring up work and it's making me crazy. She NEEDS money because now it's gotten to the point where I'm paying off HER debts, making her rent payments, buying her food, weed, and it's looking like I'll be taking care of all the money when we move next month poor timing, but one of our room mates is a thief and a druggo so we gotta go . I'm starting to feel really resentful, since I can't break up with her over it because she'll end up homeless or something--she refuses to take care of herself. I care for her a lot and we've been together for a few years but this shit can't continue. It's gotten to the point where I'll bring up her getting work and she ends up storming off in tears. It leaves a bitter taste in my mouth.
Beatrice Fennerfoot - Fri, 14 Apr 2017 12:06:24 EST ID:75sBUhBz No.515456 Ignore Report Quick Reply
What does she do all day then?
If you're enabling her to have a free ride and then complaining about it, there's not much we can do about it.

20 hours to finish one (1) job application sounds like either procrastination or laziness. Not having a resume ready means either that she has poor planning skills, or she feels that it's not necessary for her to work.

She's your girlfriend, you live with her, and you are the one who knows if she's capable of pulling through her issues. Is the relationship worth it?
Cedric Lightspear - Fri, 14 Apr 2017 12:20:02 EST ID:p328CkaU No.515457 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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She sells her used panties to weirdos on the internet all day. brings in like 150 a month. sometimes she works on a local food truck. I don't know, man. The way she talks and behaves makes me think she's developed anxiety over working a steady job [and getting fired again]. I don't know how to stop enabling her without torching the whole relationship.
Martin Fuckingford - Fri, 14 Apr 2017 12:57:38 EST ID:bAj8skhr No.515458 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Speaking as someone who was unemployed for ages she probably has developed that anxiety. I was sending in job apps but I didn't want anyone to accept them after the first couple of months. In the end though I forced myself to overcome it because I had to. I failed a few times while I had savings but the moment I had to overcome it I just had to.

But I just had to suck it up, force myself and I also had to need it. I had to have a reason. The anxiety of losing all the progress I got while unemployed as a person did it for me.

Your girlfriend probably needs to know this is upsetting you. I'm not saying sanctions or blackmail, no yelling, no insults, just telling her that you feel this is unfair. She needs to feel that actually she can't just cry and go home. But at the same time if you deliver an ultimatum it's gg. So you've got to convey to her that you find this unfair and unacceptable and are unhappy and make sure she understands without telling her off or abusing her. Then one of two things happens. She wants to improve because she cares about you or she doesn't want to improve because she is a selfish bitch. When people say no ultimatums I think the important thing is that there is an ultimatum but only you get to hear it. She doesn't know anything except that you feel this has to change and you feel unfair and hard done by and you have to fight as hard as you can to encourage her to pull through. If that's not enough then you've drawn a line and you wont keep saying "oh no I can see she's trying" when she's not improved in years.

Anyway my point is. Make it clear. If she doesn't give a fuck dump her. Maybe instead of smoking your money she should get therapy. That's the third option.
Simon Gosslepag - Fri, 14 Apr 2017 13:27:05 EST ID:ivgDi1vU No.515460 Ignore Report Quick Reply

If your sister was financially supporting a guy who couldn't hold down a job what would you say to her? HEll, if your GIRLFRIEND was in the situation you are now, what would you say to her? You would say "You deserve better" or "You are not responsible for other people's happiness. I know you love this person but their life is fucked and they are dragging you down with them" You should be saving money for your future, not helping someone get by when they aren't trying.

Now, she is probably not trying because she is going through something awful. But you aren't a psychiatrist, you can't make someone happy while they make you miserable.
Cedric Clozzlelot - Fri, 14 Apr 2017 14:33:55 EST ID:2c08/Cs/ No.515462 Ignore Report Quick Reply
How does one get into the used panties business? Do skid marks and vaginal goo fetch a higher premium??

Currentlywithout a a means to go out and at a proverbial rock bottom by Rebecca Deblingwure - Fri, 14 Apr 2017 07:04:24 EST ID:9aH9/ci+ No.515452 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>became homeless in January after living in a care Home
>had to move in internet less house with mother and her younger kid
>I have no friends nothing to do aside from go on iPad dongle internet atm

I feel like I'm going insane , the buses are sparse today as is good Friday and younger sister is being fucking annoying with my detestable gibs me dat mother.what can I do right now? I wish I had friends to visit (thanks to years of incompatibility with autism and social anxiety )or another means to go out . Even the library is shut today , I really wish I could turn back time and tell myself that things would get this worse.
Beatrice Fennerfoot - Fri, 14 Apr 2017 11:56:33 EST ID:75sBUhBz No.515455 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Hello friend, let me teach you a spell!
The past has already happened and it can't be changed, but we do have the ability to set the course for the future!
Giving in to social anxiety protects you from bad experiences with people, but will also keep you from having good experiences with people. A double edged sword!
So here's the spell! From this point onward, you are in the now, the present! You should find a small charm or pendant or other type of symbol and use it to remind you of this spell! You're here, right now! Don't get distracted!
If your life is like a bookshelf and it's empty, let's find some hobbies and fun things to put on your empty shelves!
And once you fill your life with enough things that you enjoy, people are not far behind!

Here is a good one by Emma Sullernare - Wed, 12 Apr 2017 22:32:35 EST ID:qgSlhkvl No.515409 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I had a kid with a girl awhile back.
She cheated and got with one of my friends and had two kids with him.
It has been over three years since our breakup now and idek how long since her and the other dude split.
Well he isnt handling it well and called DCF saying some shit about how we use to beat my son who I only just recently have even been able to see much.
Anyway I guess he is getting an MRI to check for skull damage or some shit.
Obviously I would never beat my own kid and I think its crazy how he can even say that when it has been years since I lived with my boy.
The question is, because I know what a low down piece of shit he is and my kid used to live in his house, what if he did something to my boy only he could know about and is now trying to pass blame? Besides me wanting to kill the motherfucker, what would happen if something came up in the scan?
I barely even understand what is going on right now.
John Lightdock - Thu, 13 Apr 2017 17:01:20 EST ID:tDogmvzg No.515440 Ignore Report Quick Reply
If it really came down to any legal resolution, which it probably wouldn't, he'd never get away with trying to claim that you did it (assuming anything actually happened) when he's been the one who's actually been around the kid and you haven't at all. I'm sure you're fine.
Molly Goodford - Thu, 13 Apr 2017 20:25:54 EST ID:qgSlhkvl No.515447 Ignore Report Quick Reply
im more worried about them finding something and making sure he goes down for it.
I dont want anyone messing with my kid ya know?

Coping with severe and permanent sexual dysfunction by Wesley Pessleworth - Thu, 13 Apr 2017 14:47:38 EST ID:SkKdT5RW No.515429 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I won't get into the specifics but I'm male, early twenties, and I have lifelong sexual problems that started when I was 15. I cannot get a full erection, I can only get a semi in very specific circumstances and it disappears instantly. With Cialis I can get a harder erection that might work for sex, but it also goes quickly, and it's also smaller than my dick used to be when it worked which makes me worry it's going to keep shrinking forever. It looks physically normal, but stays flaccid. I don't really have a libido anymore either, but I wish I did.

Anyway it's horrible. I've been in situations where there's mutual attraction but I have to turn girls down because of this. The lack of sex I'm resigned to, but I'm scared I will never have a relationship in my life (I never have so far and I'm a virgin). It also fucks with my self-esteem constantly.

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Charles Buttingchuck - Thu, 13 Apr 2017 15:03:17 EST ID:JjS09sqw No.515436 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Find a girl with low libido, and when you want a kid take a bunch of Cialis

Go to a different doctor
Wesley Pessleworth - Thu, 13 Apr 2017 15:17:44 EST ID:SkKdT5RW No.515437 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Going to a different doctor would not work, there really is NO known treatment or cure anywhere. It is a very rare problem. There's forums dedicated to it with a few thousand members, and I'm among the most severely affected even there.
Nell Bankinman - Thu, 13 Apr 2017 15:19:03 EST ID:Wt8UMMMt No.515438 Ignore Report Quick Reply
if you live in Arizona check out Summit Male Medical, i hear their fucking ads on the radio all day every day. otherwise look for some sort of penis specialty clinic
David Sockleson - Thu, 13 Apr 2017 17:22:56 EST ID:jPpWgI0N No.515443 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I just got an idea OP. ANAL is FOR YOU. You don't even need to be hard to orgasm from anal OP. It takes practice though, and a strong manly will to get over societies gift of "guilt", but it might work.
Shit Bomblebuck - Thu, 13 Apr 2017 19:51:18 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.515446 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Can you get horny and orgasm? If you can then all you need is an understanding partner who isn't into penetration. That's really not that hard to find dude, lots of women fit the profile. If you can't and/or you have negligible libido, then you might as well start thinking of yourself as asexual and seek other asexual people. They're rarer but not so rare you're fucked forever.

worried by Samuel Crossleshaw - Mon, 10 Apr 2017 14:07:17 EST ID:o17OU1gQ No.515337 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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my girl friend is a little crazy
we've been together for a year now
when it's good, it's great. i can easily imagine spending the rest of my life with her.
but when it's bad..
she's said bipolar runs in her family, maybe it's just that. but it seems worse than that. a few days ago when she was in the midst of an episode she looked up at me wierdly calculatedly and said "i feel like an ape. i feel like you hate me." and when i gave her a look of disbelief, she quickly smiled and said, "i know you love me though". that really, really unsettled me. this was after she woke up feeling bad and cried for hours, i finally convinced her to get dressed and i took her out to lunch cuz usually when she gets like this she won't eat which only makes it worse.
she's said before when she feels bad that she feels like i hate her but she never pushes the point when i tell her i love her. this last time was so wierd tho and she seemed so convinced that i worry maybe she's starting to get psychotic breaks? where she feels like i'm a threat to her
i've been cutting her a lot of slack with her emotional problems cuz i got problems too, i'm dealing with ptsd and it's getting better every day. i understand having bad days.
also another thing, she gets overwhelmed easily which can lead to yelling or crying or blaming me. for instance if there's loud music playing and a phone rings loudly, or if she had a stressful morning at work and i wasn't able to meet her for lunch and there were too many people where she eats lunch, she won't eat and that makes it worse, etc. and of course this all has the potential to be way worse if she's drinking.
two or three months ago she was pretty drunk and i was telling a story about an old friend of mine and i confused her for my friend (i have a terrible memory) and she lost it on me, telling me i don't care about her, etc. we were with friends so she waited till we got home for it to get really bad. she yelled and screamed at me for hours. easily enough time to sober up. at one point i was so scared and mad about what she was saying that i was literally shaking, she was yelling and getting closer to me and acting aggressive. i tried walking away but she followed me.
anyways the next morning she was super apologetic and bought me breakfast. she promised she would get help. which is the only reason i'm still here. but she hasn't yet.
of course it's more complicated than that, first she had to get a job to afford therapy. i signed her up for medicaid and she got her card in the mail. but she still hasn't talked to anyone.
and like once a week or every two weeks when it gets bad she says she wants to dissappear or die.
i know how much mental illness sucks and i want to be there for her cuz i love her to death.
but i don't know how long i should wait fir hr to get help. all my friends think i should probably leave her. she doesnt trust me to go out with them, i mean she says she does but if i go out with them without her she has a melt down, and she won't go out with me and them cuz she doesn't like them, she thinks they disrespect her.
i feel like all this could be fixed with a lotta love and therapy but she hasn't talked to anyone. i feel like maybe she's stringing me on about it. i can't talk to her about it cuz she gets defensive. but she has told me she's scared to talk to someone, which i totally understand.
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Ernest Brookway - Mon, 10 Apr 2017 15:21:38 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.515342 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Someone in her family having bipolar increases the likelihood rather dramatically. My uncle has bipolar and I've got an ADHD diagnosis but bipolar has always been left on the table because there are significant levels of overlap between the two. Don't personally believe I do, but it sounds a lot like your girlfriend really may. Do you notice actual cycles to her behavior? You haven't really explicitly stated if that's the case. It could possibly be some other personality disorder as well.

The whole recurring delusion of you hating her and her feeling like an ape could be part of a psychotic break, but I'd take my saying so with a large grain of salt. Psychosis during a manic or mixed episode can involve a lot of strange things that are hard to identify unless it's glaringly obvious. I'm taking the ape comment to be her referring to her looks and otherwise simply stating that she can't believe in the possibility of you feeling anything but hate for her. That's not really too far out there as far as ideas go, it could be more of a reflection of her depressed state than of psychosis.

I would definitely find some way to get her to seek help. I don't know if there's something you can work out where you go with her or what, but even if you two weren't in a relationship, she needs help. This isn't a sustainable lifestyle for her, there's no way she could function as an indepedent adult. I hope something gets worked out and she winds up stabilizing. My uncle has been pretty out there all my life, going on and off medications and things. There have been several times he's spoken with my dad on the phone and told him he knows the family hates him and that my mom never wants us to see him, even though none of that is true. Reminded me of what your girlfriend was saying. As a result of not sticking with treatment consistently, he's had a pretty turbulent life. I wouldn't want that for anybody, so I hope you guys work something out.
Eliza Sesslebury - Mon, 10 Apr 2017 18:43:59 EST ID:b6NWvqxD No.515353 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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It's kind of hard to say if it cycles. She does have depressive episodes and then manic episodes, but they mix together confusingly and happen really quick. Like, she gets off work on a sunny day and feels great and decides to do a million things and see a million people and have a drink and forgets to eat, and suddenly at the end of the day she crashes and cries for hours and says insane things like "you don't love me, you haven't been trying" and when I reassure her that I love her and I've been trying to hold her and take care of her she says that she knows those things are crazy but she feels them.
Either the depressed part where she says she wants to die or the manic part where she tries to do too much and tires herself out, can happen at any time, or even kind of at the same time. Either way whichever one is happening she won't eat or sleep, which only makes it worse.

When she aknowledges that the thing she's thinking is crazy, that's something that at first gave me hope, if she knows something is illogical then she can logically fight it. But she seems incapable of that. Now it's something that worries me. If I feel an illogical surge of jealousy, I evaluate it, feel it, and let it go, recognizing it's a nonsensical feeling. But these things for her are so real, it's like she actually can't tell which is reality, because they still affect her so much. Like, if she really trusted me and knew that I am not going to cheat on her if I go out for a night with my friends, why would it cause meltdowns when I even just bring up the idea? She says stuff like "I know that's crazy, but that's how I feel" a lot and it's starting to worry me. Like... if she knows it's crazy...... I'm starting to think she maybe doesn't know what's crazy and what's not.

Any tips for how to encourage her to get therapy? I've tried telling her positive stories about how a psychologist helped me with my PTSD symptoms, and I've offered to go with her.
But every time I bring it up she says stuff like "you don't think I'm doing enough to get better" or "I'm reading a lot online about …
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Barnaby Greenfuck - Tue, 11 Apr 2017 04:28:24 EST ID:CMJjVefm No.515368 Ignore Report Quick Reply
my mom has bipolar and all this shit really hits close to home. though I don't think she's worried about my dad cheating or anyone thinking she's an ape. most of the other stuff is spot on. to be honest, if she was just an acquaintance and not someone who raised and cared for me, I would cut her from my life immediately but probably still feel bad about it. She did do pretty well when she was talking to her therapist, but when she stopped seeing him things got bad again. if your girlfriend finds a good one it could be a lot of help. but I also wouldn't hold it against you to dump her. It's the simplest option to preserve your emotional well being. don't let her suck away your happiness, but if she's willing to seek and accept help and try to get better, then support her.
Lydia Dromblestone - Thu, 13 Apr 2017 13:33:09 EST ID:2DYHN+3R No.515425 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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thanks for the reply. at this point i'm hoping it's bipolar because at least then it's not psychosis.
i got invited to a dnd group meeting this friday for the first time, i'm super excited i've always wanted to tabletop and my girl knows this. anyways so i tell her and she falls apart.
when she stopped crying / sulking she explained that she feels really bad. that hearing that made her feel insecure, controlling, angry. like she felt like telling me i couldn't go.
hearing that honestly freaked me out cuz that's unnacceptable in a partner! if she was acting out those feelings i would leave her ass so fast, controlling is no bueno
but she was aware of it and fighting it so that's good right?
i honestly don't know any more
sometimes she can't step away and analyze those feels, sometimes she just lashes out
and it's been months since that shitty night and she still hasn't even called someone

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