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Mental instability/going off the tracks by Hamilton Gudgefidge - Fri, 09 Mar 2018 06:41:52 EST ID:aihSHCgR No.522716 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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It's been almost 6 years since this nightmare started. Have numerous problems with depression/anxiety that keeps me in an unhealthy situation. I have problems with sleeping, motivation and finding general happiness in day to day life. Thought that everything started to become okay so I ditched SSRIs and mood stabilizers but everything came back to me. I don't want to go back to my previous situation when I couldn't sleep at night and slept a lot during the day only to wake up and feel like shit. Also I don't want to go back to the daytime mental ward, I just want to be a functioning human being.
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Martha Worthinghall - Sun, 11 Mar 2018 01:36:03 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.522756 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522753
>he thinks I make shit help threads on this loony hole

KEK2u lad go take a walk straight back up your mom's cunt
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Phineas Grimwater - Sun, 11 Mar 2018 08:45:04 EST ID:B/1t3ZFg No.522759 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>522716
look man if you really want to see some improvement in your situation you will inevitably have to start taking walks - in parks in nature, hell even in your back yard, otherwise you will be just wasting your time with all the other "supplements". Ask any pro bodybuilder, walking is key. Just do it fam.
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Martha Worthinghall - Sun, 11 Mar 2018 19:10:31 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.522771 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522759

HEY GUYS

DO YOU KNOW AN AMAZING SECRET?

OMG NOBODY'S EVER HEARD OF THIS

HAVE YOU EVER HEARD OF HTIS????

BASIC EXERCISE!

IT'S SO AMAZING GUYS I JUST READ ABOUT LIKE

ALLL
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mr biglisworth - Sat, 24 Mar 2018 17:34:12 EST ID:i0LaCE4I No.523024 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522716
be responsible and if you think you need med for your benefit then do it. dont let yourself be your own personal time bomb. dont forget man there's more people that want to help then dont. much love homes.
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mr biglisworth - Sat, 24 Mar 2018 17:37:00 EST ID:i0LaCE4I No.523025 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522716
be responsible and if you think you need med for your benefit then do it. dont let yourself be your own personal time bomb. dont forget man there's more people that want to help then dont. much love homes. >>522716


Dr. John #puffpuff by STDs General - Mon, 26 Feb 2018 03:20:17 EST ID:ZrkrauS5 No.522529 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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The name says it all. I'm a man with herpes simplex 2. I know you out there have stories to share and I chose STD general instead of herpes general because they exist in all forms.

I invite you to share your personal stories related to STD's. It's a huge stigma to have one, much less talk about it, so I suppose an anonymous imageboard is a fantastic place for such a discussion.
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STDs General - Mon, 26 Feb 2018 03:21:43 EST ID:ZrkrauS5 No.522530 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Also, end of the tripcode

NB
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Charles Brookdock - Mon, 26 Feb 2018 05:07:10 EST ID:XTu1t4oN No.522531 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I have a strain of HPV, because my long term girlfriend has it. It doesn't mean anything to me but there's a high probability that she might get cancer because of it. Welp
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mr biglisworth - Sat, 24 Mar 2018 17:11:57 EST ID:i0LaCE4I No.523022 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522531
well shit im questioning this myself i think i might want a check up just to see if i have anything. i dont find the need currently becuase im not stable enough for a woman.


hold me by GodLovesUgly - Wed, 21 Mar 2018 02:11:49 EST ID:kPX2FQ+C No.522949 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Im highly neurotic I think. It sucks. My thoughts are big and loud. I'm easily stressed and terrified. I can only talk to myself and even then, only sometimes. Its hard as hell to control my emotions. Sometimes I'll speak with my body language in a manner because I feel that people are watching and it feels awkward as fuck. If someone calls me on the phone I don't have shit to say, to anyone.

Its hard to make friends...and this year I've been trying to work on myself but all that happens is I'm torn between self-improvement and self-acceptance. I hardly associate myself with my own physical body image. Don't even know where I'm going with this.

Undesirable things youre going through? I'd like to pathetically relate to someone.
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Nell Billingfoot - Thu, 22 Mar 2018 14:03:51 EST ID:Wfv6QysO No.522980 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522949
I'm similar with doing shit feeling like people are watching. If I'm doing something that can be seen as criminal or devious from the outside eye (with my own things), I speak out loud or gesture to portray my intentions or something. Out of fear of the .00001% chance someone rigged my apartment with spy gear, or a hacker is listening in on my phone.
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William Gushbury - Thu, 22 Mar 2018 14:34:19 EST ID:DUyNNEh3 No.522983 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522980
I knew I didn't do it for no reason.
Nb
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GodLovesUgly - Fri, 23 Mar 2018 13:45:45 EST ID:kPX2FQ+C No.523004 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>522980
lol wtf thats a step further?
you are 100% alone, and before doing something illegal, you change your behavior? hmm

is there any solution to this shit
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Hedda Grimway - Fri, 23 Mar 2018 15:59:31 EST ID:B/1t3ZFg No.523005 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522980
that is fucking cool.
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Albert Billinghood - Sat, 24 Mar 2018 04:38:17 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.523014 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522980
Nice developing OCD you've got there, lad.


I need to feel safe by Phoebe Chirrynog - Tue, 20 Mar 2018 02:35:31 EST ID:880uPBt/ No.522910 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I have been tortured by mental health care workers and am in a psyche ward at the moment I don't want to freak out can you guise keep me calm there is quite literally nothing go wrong with my mind mental health care really is the mills don't go seek help from them or they will ruin your life in so many dastardly evil ways
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Shitting Cronnerchetch - Thu, 22 Mar 2018 09:41:21 EST ID:HBEjJHln No.522979 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522977
You need to go for a walk
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Awe !!vVWR8L52 - Thu, 22 Mar 2018 14:06:10 EST ID:B/1t3ZFg No.522981 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522975
> I didn't even know my delusions were delusions
WoW dood, that's some next level shit.
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tiberg - Thu, 22 Mar 2018 19:46:01 EST ID:wJavO91C No.522995 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522981
Well there were parts where I was like "okay I'm going kind of wack" and had my delusions, but I'd realize they were delusions after a while.
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Hedda Grimway - Fri, 23 Mar 2018 16:01:03 EST ID:B/1t3ZFg No.523006 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522995
i see your point. So it's delusions that don't immediately or otherwise in short notice show their face.
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Albert Billinghood - Sat, 24 Mar 2018 04:15:56 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.523012 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522978
>>522979
lol, the soft signs of a pseud... nb


Back to Basics at 25 by Aranciata Rossa - Wed, 21 Mar 2018 18:44:26 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.522965 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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The power summary is that over the past few years, my character has decayed. For every step I took forward with my university and career, my social / personal life and mental health would take a step backwards. Over time, the cracks began to form and eventually collapsed the structure. Here I stand in the rubble, with no allusions about the current state of my life. I spent 4 years away at university and returned to a ghost of a life.

A once social, confident, attractive, intelligent, funny guy with a solid network of friends and great girlfriend. Now a reclusive, recovering from depression/psychotic episode, kinda 6/10 with a less is more approach to conversation, not nearly as good at expressing thoughts as before and hasn't so much as kissed a girl in 13 months. I'm fortunate that many foundations are still there. My appearance is recoverable, it's not that I'm ugly - it's just I've let myself look like shit for a while. If I maintain a haircut/shave, work out for a few months and dress well, I should have no problems.

I spent 4 years in a different city, gradually fading out of the lives of a lot of people I called good friends. I do still "know" a network of people, it's just that over the years I've gone from being a "full member" of the group and a friend of many, to a downgraded "friend from the past that I haven't seen/spoken to in a while". My facebook and phone inboxes rarely get messaged, only really getting messages off of people who are very close to me and have been for years. It's kinda like if you know a group of 20 well but you had a closer bond with 3 of them, only those 3 are left now.

The biggest hurdle for me, is my mental attitude. I don't feel that lust for life after years of numbing myself, being reclusive and focusing on work. The whole idea of me being a fun, confident and relaxed guy with a good work/life balance seems very foreign. Going from this robotic, dry, kinda forced person to the opposite end, is going to be difficult. It requires a big perspective change, the type of thing you can't fake but will have to, in order to even reach that place genuinely. How else can you pull it off?

T…
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Ian Dartcocke - Wed, 21 Mar 2018 19:39:50 EST ID:WivHpoVG No.522966 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>522965
We're very similar, only you seem in a bit better in terms of quality of life (you have a degree, I flunked) I won't go into me, as it this isn't about me, but lets just say right now we're both individuals looking into a proverbial black mirror in terms of everything; reduced friends, mentality and that whole "waking up" and feeling like the odd man out.

Us humans give great advice to those who are afflicted with the same problems, a curse that we almost never sing from the same hymn sheet and apply that advice to ourselves:

Get your appearances sorted first. This, while being the easiest, is instrumental at the path to recovery. Once you start looking in the mirror at the person you like to be, then things start falling into place. Get that work-out going and give yourself some serious me-time. And by me time, I mean go out and do shit you like but on your own. It will allow you to be introspective while enjoying yourself, this is important for positive thoughts.

As for your friends, the 3 core friends are all you need as you age into the world, but if you're a socialite (not like myself) then you need to branch out and make new ones. This is hard, and I'm not fully there myself. At age 26, making new friends is actually hilariously hard as everyone is in their own clique. It's possible, but not until you that appearances and exercise is knocked on its head first.
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Aranciata Rossa - Wed, 21 Mar 2018 20:48:51 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.522968 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522966

I got my degree, before deciding I'd rather be a tattoo artist. So it was somewhat redundant a move that wasted time, money and landed me in this situation to begin with. I agree about sorting out my appearance and getting a work out. Same for outdoors me time. These things are all important to getting comfortable in my own skin. The thing is, I'd say it's not important than working on the friend's situation. Truthfully, they don't care whether or not I'm doing 20 push ups or if my facial hair is clean. The longer I put off trying to get back in the mix with everyone, the harder it will get.

I hope you figure out something. The cliques are difficult. It seems like if you really wanna go and integrate with another group, you need your way in via certain people. Not necessarily gate keepers of the clique, but people who are inviting and open to having new people cut it up with them. It's difficult with the clique bullshit because I feel like I got voted out of mine. Once you are on the outside, that status will be hard to shake. I'm pretty skeptical that it will work out for me with my old friends. It seems like I had a place at the table, but over time just lost it. Now all of them have stopped including me, most of them would never message me again in my life. I'm not sure what you can even do about that. I think people don't like it when you try and insert yourself back in. Sometimes people reunite, but to actually let someone back in - especially as the group get's older and strengthens it's insular nature.... it just feels like it might be a stretch too far. I would just really like to see it reach a stage where friends message me first, with innocuous chit chat and an interest in seeing me. To actually have people who see me at the weekend and don't just forget about my existence as soon as I'm gone.

It's fucking annoying tbh. All this reflection. A part of me just feels like, fuck all these people. It's really just some insular clique bullshit where because I don't validate whatever it is they are looking for, they just ignore and exclude me. Even though, in person we all get along just fine. I mean what the fuck i…
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Hamilton Puffinghall - Wed, 21 Mar 2018 22:41:06 EST ID:C+6NY20y No.522971 Ignore Report Quick Reply
cant read that whole wall of angst, but did you at least get your degree? if so you are a huge leap ahead of where i am in life. i am having my 3rd go at college in my late 20's.
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Reuben Drellernot - Thu, 22 Mar 2018 01:51:51 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.522974 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522968
"Normal" people are assholes. Everyone is taught to be mini-Machiavelli and this is the end result. A borderline all-or-nothing culture that tries to eat itself alive in the name of St. Darwin and his merry men. When it's all up in mushroom clouds and we're doing Fallout IRL I want you all to know you deserved this.


How to plan for a life alone? by Shit Chimmlebat - Tue, 20 Mar 2018 14:12:21 EST ID:Gv6L3eDw No.522926 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I don't want to get too into the details of my situation. Let's just say I'm of a certain age (>30) and it has become clear that dating, relationships and marriage are not on the horizon.

At the same time I've grown distant from my few friends and now meeting up with them or even talking to them over social media feels like a chore at best and leaves me feeling bad at worst. They were never close friends, not the kind of friend that would actually help you out when shit hits the fan or you're in deep trouble.

It's very clear I will continue to live and eventually grow old alone. I am currently employed in a marketing agency at a junior level (I graduated university late due to mental and personal problems).

What are some practical steps to take so that I don't find myself penniless and homeless as a I age out of the workforce? I will not have children or a partner to take care of me (I'm gay). Maybe it is too early to ask now but I want to be prepared and at least feel secure knowing I won't end up a bum when I hit 60.
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Edwin Sicklefoot - Tue, 20 Mar 2018 17:36:49 EST ID:Po6uY38Z No.522935 Ignore Report Quick Reply
have you come out to your family?
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James Poddlewire - Tue, 20 Mar 2018 17:46:14 EST ID:ROGlj1oY No.522937 Ignore Report Quick Reply
uhh... save up some of that work money?
this reads like a thinly veiled forever a spider monkey's butt thread
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Shit Chimmlebat - Tue, 20 Mar 2018 17:48:33 EST ID:Gv6L3eDw No.522939 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522935
I'm out to everybody. My lack of dating and relationships is not because I'm in the closet. I don't know why I can't get a boyfriend but I just can't seem to. I don't think I'm especially ugly or fat, I've certainly seen less attractive men in relationships. I don't do creepy or needy shit on dating sites, I don't cyberstalk people or act like a NiceGuy. I just can't seem to click with anybody on both a physical and mental level.

So I have to conclude that there is something deep in my personality which isn't available for my conscious mind to change that drives people away. Something they just feel, subconsciously or whatever. I don't know. I've tried many different approaches, I've tried being forward, I've tried acting coy, I've tried being funny, flirty, direct. Nothing ever changes.
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Doris Chuttingnock - Tue, 20 Mar 2018 18:00:41 EST ID:i/+Y9url No.522942 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Being a gay male in your 30s when you're oozing test from every pore is like being a raw sex diety. Just work out and hit the scene fool, you'll find someone.
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Edwin Sicklefoot - Tue, 20 Mar 2018 18:43:15 EST ID:Po6uY38Z No.522944 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522939
> I have to conclude that there is something deep in my personality which isn't available for my conscious mind to change that drives people away.

well said. that aside... post a pic plx


Texting insecurity by Ebenezer Mecklefield - Sat, 17 Mar 2018 15:10:04 EST ID:GYTQ2ak7 No.522850 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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If a girl indefinitely doesnt respond to a text, is that it? Am I supposed to assume she made a conscious decision not to talk to me or is it okay to try to start another conversation in the future?
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Phineas Foshnure - Mon, 19 Mar 2018 23:02:04 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.522901 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522876
The game is rigged from the start monkey: you don't will yourself into not being born genetically fucked. Continue feeding yourself bootstraps mythology like the rest of the libertard stallions ITT.

It'll only change when society changes.
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Awe !!vVWR8L52 - Tue, 20 Mar 2018 16:21:03 EST ID:B/1t3ZFg No.522932 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>522901
well in the mean time we can remain the same i guessed.
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Thomas Pitthall - Tue, 20 Mar 2018 16:29:44 EST ID:WivHpoVG No.522933 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>522901
>Libertard stallions
nb
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Doris Chuttingnock - Tue, 20 Mar 2018 17:40:09 EST ID:i/+Y9url No.522936 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522933
>>522932
Willing slaves.
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Rebecca Claydale - Tue, 20 Mar 2018 17:54:19 EST ID:B/1t3ZFg No.522940 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>522936
tricked the trickster...


Medical Help? by Edward Chabblelare - Fri, 16 Mar 2018 01:02:14 EST ID:33tDF11U No.522826 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Anyone know what this may be? Appeared awhile ago, its a bit squishy to touch but doesn't have any pain. No Medical..
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Phoebe Dartwater - Mon, 19 Mar 2018 03:51:10 EST ID:42wGzjUi No.522884 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>522826
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Esther Maffingworth - Mon, 19 Mar 2018 21:41:38 EST ID:42wGzjUi No.522898 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>522826
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Thomas Pitthall - Mon, 19 Mar 2018 21:48:36 EST ID:WivHpoVG No.522899 Ignore Report Quick Reply
/med/
Is that your knee? Squishy how? Is it lumpy? Do you have stiffness? What are the contributing factors? How long is a while?

So many questions where the answers should of been in the OP to begin with. You suck OP.
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Esther Maffingworth - Tue, 20 Mar 2018 05:49:52 EST ID:42wGzjUi No.522917 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>522826
It's like a "mini-you".
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Rebecca Claydale - Tue, 20 Mar 2018 16:07:43 EST ID:B/1t3ZFg No.522930 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>522826
I'd pound that booty


Moving by Eugene Greenstock - Thu, 15 Mar 2018 20:09:01 EST ID:mKLF8TfC No.522821 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I really really want to move. I am really sick of my hometown, I don't want to act like I'm better than where I come from, but it's time for me to make my own way, and the challenge of the big city seems so thrilling.

But I can't get a job. My degree is is full BA spec, it got me a decent job here but it's difficult to make a case as to why someone should hire me and wait for me to relocate (well it has been so far anway).

Can I get some advice about moving and moving on? I've saved up heaps of money and I want to move for the experience not any job. I am thinking about taking a different job like in a warehouse or something to get me there. I just really feel like shit that nothing is coming to fruition.

How did you guys move? What challenges were there? Any success stories? My parents are very supportive but they have me convinced that taking a low rung job will destine me for lower-classdom my entire life.
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Sidney Bloddlehut - Thu, 15 Mar 2018 23:50:57 EST ID:xZCNc04+ No.522823 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522821
>BA
>Decent job
>Saved heaps of money

What do you do for work? Curious.

If you have a source of income and are net+ and adding to your savings, the next challenge to moving is psychological. People in big cities have adapted to being psychopaths and trust no one by default for their own safety, so join a club, painting, climbing, hiking, a church group even to meet genuine people who will introduce you to more genuine people.

Pack light to keep your freedom to shuffle if you're uncomfortable, and use airbnb to scope out new places. You can cut airbnb out (saving 100$+ per mo) and sign a contract once you're comfortable with the place.
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George Seckledit - Fri, 16 Mar 2018 07:09:44 EST ID:9TiDIgvM No.522829 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522823
Just an entry level govt. position. I did Political Science but no honours or anything.

I think I am well past the psychological barrier. I want to go, I dream about it every day. I guess I am just wondering if it's stupid to pick up a shitty job in the meantime. I feel like moving is the next step that I need to take to grow, but I could be wrong, is it really such a big deal, would the risk of getting a low paying job to tide me over actually be worth it?
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Ian Sungerspear - Tue, 20 Mar 2018 01:30:22 EST ID:xZCNc04+ No.522908 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522829
Yes, it's worth it to get the fuck out and get a shitty job. If you have savings it should be even more relevant, since you can be more comfortable and confident knowing that you have a financial cushion if in case anything happens.

Sorry man, you got fucked in the ass and given a BA in return. That means out of college you either rent seek (gov) or start shoveling shit. Keep your eyes open & stay light to take advantage of new work opportunities. Right now you have your foot barely on the first rung of the job ladder, hustle and bounce around until you've secured your spot.

The good news is that, if you're strong willed and youthful you can work with your hands and earn a decent wage. Whatever you do, don't idle. If you worked instead for the last 4 years where would you be now? Debt less, experienced, and some savings. second best time is now


Seriously close to ending a relationship two months in by Cedric Buffinghall - Sun, 18 Mar 2018 14:05:27 EST ID:eOVAQpDG No.522866 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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For what I consider to be understandable reasons based off the fact that each time it happens my trust for her lowers. I am dating a Co worker. I know the potential horror of doing so but this one in particular seemed different. She did lose her virginity to me.

Right after we started dating the manager, found out she had a boyfriend, but we agreed that we wouldn't reveal it to anyone. I could tell her was trying to flirt with her and she would do it right in front of me. I'd get upset with her and we'd talk about it. She would act like it wasn't happenin but it seems like we've had an instance where there would be flirtatious behavior going on aND she would get defensive about it every time instead of fixing the problem.

The boss is married to a woman in another state with two kids. I know what he's doing and he surely knows I am her boyfriend at this point.

I just so happen to walk upon them and she didn't know I was around. She was crouched down next to him with a smile on her face. She saw me and her face changed immediately. I ignored her for the rest of the day because I didn't want to say anything I would regret.

We talked about it and fucked for two hours after she promised it wouldn't happen again and she finally acknowledged that it was going on when before she wouldnt. At this point I don't know. This boss I don't like him not only because he flirts with my girlfriend but he is an asshole so that makes it worse.

What do you think? I see that as an indicator that I can't trust her. I see a lot of people staying in shit relationships and noticing red flags and when something happens they are shocked.

What should I do?
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Molly Hingerworth - Sun, 18 Mar 2018 15:43:08 EST ID:ScMqfiUh No.522877 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522875

>One of the times I first confronted her about it I was sure it would stop. The next time we work together I notice she got a little too close and he called her out on it. Then she literally presses herself upon him and says "no this is getting in your space" and was laughing about it. This happened in front of me. The flirting and one and personal conversations have continued to happen.

Oh you should have said this before. Yeah she's a nasty little slag and clearly doesn't respect you. She will probably cheat on you with this guy (if he is even willing, it sounds like she is more up for it than he is), it doesn't sound like she has even one tenth of the self-control needed to remain faithful to you in this scenario. It sounds like you want to dump her right now, so go ahead and do it. Explain you demand a higher standard of respect from your partners and explain what this means.
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Polly Pitthall - Sun, 18 Mar 2018 17:13:20 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.522878 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522875

You get good ones and bad ones.

This is a bad one. That's just bad behaviour. Some people just prey on and exploit weakness. This same chick is capable is a lot bro.
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Caroline Doshnodge - Sun, 18 Mar 2018 20:18:14 EST ID:eOVAQpDG No.522880 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522877

I'm not gonna dump her right now. I'm giving it another month before it does end though because I honestly don't believe I can trust her anymore.
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Shitting Bliffingkack - Sun, 18 Mar 2018 23:23:45 EST ID:IaTqRtaT No.522881 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Congratulations OP you ruined your job to have sex for a few months when you could've kept your job normal and still had sex for a few months with any other girl but a coworker.

I'd start looking for a new job if I were you.
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Clara Blackshit - Mon, 19 Mar 2018 00:20:28 EST ID:C+6NY20y No.522882 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP you have embarked on Mister Boner's Wild Ride. The ride never ends. The only solution is to date another female coworker. You have to play the stronger hand.


Managing Bipolar Disorder by Nigel Duckshit - Tue, 13 Mar 2018 06:13:15 EST ID:TUgPV7Lr No.522787 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey /qq/. I've been diagnosed with BPD/Manic depression as a child, and again as an adult. I have had 10+ traumatic experiences in my childhood alone, which they called compounding trauma I believe (he said it matters a lot in developmental years).

Adult Trauma is bad too. But in both regards, I've really been able to move on with my life. But my BPD has seemingly gotten better when it comes to breaking my shit (haven't hit a wall or broken my stuff in over 4 months), and worse when it comes to those bad moments. Best I can explain is this:
>Be sitting in class (college student).
>Happy, enjoying lecture (I LOVE school)
>See woman that slightly reminds me of another that always plays mind games, and always looks to put me in my place.
>"Oh my God I am a pathetic piece of shit", "god sure wasted resources on you"
>Literally only want to die, nothing else. Life gets pointless and hopeless.
>This infuriates me. I don't want to die. I'm lucky as it is to just have it.
>Begin various forms of self deprecating and self loathing
>Ends after either minutes or days.

I have a lot of social problems as well when it comes to attention seeking behavior. But I've been having good luck controlling it.

It's those crashes that really wreck me though. I can physically feel hoplesness. To me, it feels like a blanket of numb with an haze of terror and anxiety.
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Polly Cunkinridge - Fri, 16 Mar 2018 19:47:20 EST ID:pMKk6f4f No.522839 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522830
Borderlines are horrible at spotting symptoms in anybody so I'm not surprised.

Current consensus is that borderlines share genetic etiology with the affective but not the interpersonal symptoms of biplolar disorder i.e. the mood swings come from the same source more or less but the way the individual reacts to them is quite different, usually as a result of severe childhood trauma leading to deleterious attachment patterns in adulthood. Both share noted symptoms of impulsivity and affective liability (it is a myth to assume most bipolars go through complete intraepisodic recovery and neurological testing demonstrates noted task-related/affective impairment even during so-called 'euthymia'!!!), dissociation, pronounced social anxiety, and tendency toward psychoticism or schizotypal traits.

Episodic length is not as big a factor as you'd think. There are noted bipolars who ultradian (hours to days) cycle, as well as the diagnosis of cyclothymia which does not specify an episodic length requirement at all but only requires that non-episodic mood cycling be present at a chronic course for at least six months. This can very easily develop major depression and thus bipolar 2 later in life. Couple that with the above symptoms, and the fact that 100, yes, 100 fucking % of borderlines qualify for major depression, and it's not hard to see to see how normies conflate the two. You take a bipolar 2 (note: probably 2-3x as common as bipolar 1s. There is a lot of evidence to indicate cyclothymia is underdiagnosed and may run 5+% of the gen pop) who mostly goes through shitty fleeting mixed episodes compared to the multiweek psychotic orgies 1s go through and major depression with noted intraepisodic mood liability and impulsiveness with a borderline who pretty much presents the exact same way, it's hard even for a trained psych to distinguish the two. The DSM has been criticized for being too obtuse with its length requirements in the past, but in truth this is simply the consequence for having labels that don't match where the genes line up. Thus many so-called different conditions share similar genetic profiles and because of that mismatch overlap in symptoms will always …
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Fuck Bligglebanks - Sat, 17 Mar 2018 04:57:03 EST ID:tiBuSQx/ No.522844 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>522839
Okay, fair enough about variable episode length, mixed states, etc. Personally, hearing descriptions of mixed states, hypomania, etc, it does not seem like my own experience. Perhaps I haven't heard from enough people with bipolar. and the misdiagnoses I'm speaking of are anecdotal, and from providers who genuinely made them in one session based on not much info.

>Borderlines are horrible at spotting symptoms
I don't know where this is from--maybe you mean the empathy thing? Idk, I think I have about as good a chance as the next goof
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Fuck Bligglebanks - Sat, 17 Mar 2018 04:58:32 EST ID:tiBuSQx/ No.522845 Ignore Report Quick Reply
*at noticing anything.
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Basil Gonningdedging - Sat, 17 Mar 2018 20:16:00 EST ID:TUgPV7Lr No.522856 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP here. So reading the conversation thus far. I have questions.
So I've been diagnosed with both bipolar and borderline BPD at various times in a hospital setting.
I feel a lot of empathy for other people. To the point I get used and mistreated a lot. Not going to sit here and act like an angel. I've said and done shitty things. But I've never used someone to my benefit.
This is why I believe the borderline BPD (cluster B) diagnosis was a bit off.

My past is FUCKED. Not like I have a record or anything. But my entire family scapegoats and ostricizes me. They can't see the concept of family past their pride, and need to feel better than other people.

I hate that, and have told them so (in a fucked up yet truthful way). Basically, I have no family by means of association anymore.

It's making me angry. I'm alone. But I'm not weak.

I know I can beat this shit and be a better person for myself, and others like me. Just... I don't know if it is how I act, otlr look. But nobody takes me seriously. I'm avoided, unincluded, and manipulated.

This makes me very angry. I know I look scary from all the combat scars. But I do my best to treat people with respect. And have a genuine interest to meet other people, and hear their takes on life.
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Albert Billinghood - Sat, 24 Mar 2018 04:33:52 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.523013 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522844
All mental illness colors life in such a way to cloud sound judgement, even simple anxiety. Borderlines contrary to popular belief do not have a deficit in emotional empathy, not even severe cases like Dahmer (though deranged in numerous other manners, he did obviously feel sorry for what he did). They have deficit in cognitive empathy like someone with autism spectrum disorder. This is not the same thing, and many people make such a mistake with autism spectrum cases as well. Cognitive empathy is raw perspective taking. It's the ability to "inhabit" the shoes of other people or other animals. Splitting, black and white thinking, is a common reaction to cases when cognitive empathy is in deficit. People who cannot appreciate the nuance that goes into another's eyes cannot see beyond black and white. Autists (and schizoid personalities) simply retreat into their own and develop complex obsessions or rich fantasy worlds, whilst borderlines express themselves impulsively and oftentimes violently. Both are reactions to severe cognitive empathy deficit and the splitting it produces, they are merely different paths taken at the same starting point, with the idea that one is 'biological' and one is 'psychosocial' (though this is proving not as true as they wish as we continue to unravel the genetic etiology of PD and how they relate to DSM Axis I disorders).

Thus, while a normie may be bad at spotting mental illness, the already mentally ill are even worse at it, and often become prey for other mentally ill as a result. Severe cognitive empathy deficit makes it even harder to come to accurate conclusions about matters of human personality. It also makes treatment compliance difficult, for building a rapport is limited in such cases and the chance of transference or countertransference is high. That said, borderlines are still easier to treat than any other personality disorder. Another reason I suspect there is significant bipolar genetic interplay in borderline personality. A personality disorder, a disorder of the fundamental tenants a person is built off of from the ground up, should never be easy to treat. All other personality disorders have treatment rates of…
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Is tinder worth it? by Ebenezer Gaffinghidge - Sun, 25 Feb 2018 20:38:43 EST ID:VfdAO0Sb No.522522 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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What have peoples general experience been with using tinder?
I go to uni in a fairly big city and am considering downloading the app. I'm not really sure that I'm into random hook ups with people I dont know.. Not saying I'm looking for a long-term relationship through this app, but it seems kind of awkward connecting with someone only under the pretense of sex and not knowing alot about them.

I'm not too much of a turbo autist where its not like I don't talk with girls and network IRL, but turning that type of interaction into something more intimate has been slow and kind of random.
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Lillian Tootman - Wed, 14 Mar 2018 17:14:05 EST ID:CxCtCvYn No.522811 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522798
I'm completely out of the loop with online dating but asking friends to take good photos of you for tinder just seems weird to me.

Glad you're having success though, keep on keeping on man.
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Charles Funderforth - Thu, 15 Mar 2018 11:17:34 EST ID:TUgPV7Lr No.522817 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522811
It was merely that she's a photographer. I dunno why it's weird though. Sex isn't a new concept.
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Sidney Bloddlehut - Fri, 16 Mar 2018 00:01:19 EST ID:xZCNc04+ No.522825 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522522

if you want to feel reduced to a dopamine seeking rat whos self esteem is directly tied to others approval of his looks who also fantasizes about getting an std tinder is right for you bud
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Cyril Bucklewat - Fri, 16 Mar 2018 23:07:30 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.522841 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522825

Meh let me get the vicarious thrill a hunt without actually hunting. Tinder is fun to see what sort of girls quantifiably found you attractive.
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Phoebe Brablingforth - Sat, 17 Mar 2018 03:23:39 EST ID:TUgPV7Lr No.522842 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522825
You just have to not be a dumbass and look out for the ones gaming you


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