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Getting a job by Jack Sacklemot - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 14:18:22 EST ID:vKvaev27 No.513519 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>Work at shitty gas station
>Trying to get a job at warehouse, starts at $15.50 an hour, plus incentive pay, is unionized
>A bunch of my friends got jobs there with little experience
>Walk in interviews every wednesday
>Went last wednesday
>Got an email saying I didn't get hired because other applicants have more experience than me
>They are constantly hiring people and often times hire people with less experience than me

Should I just keep going back every week until they hire me?
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George Gankinhood - Sat, 18 Feb 2017 03:16:54 EST ID:pss+dE21 No.513536 Ignore Report Quick Reply
dude. so it didnt work the first time right? what happened? try to figure out where you went wrong and improve upon that. i help people with job search all the time. do you have a resume?
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Henry Mebberkere - Sat, 18 Feb 2017 12:40:45 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.513540 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>513519
Do what must be done. Do not hesitate. Show no mercy.


How to talk to my own sister? by Edward Punderway - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 23:01:48 EST ID:4SKHWbu2 No.513530 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Kinda of blew up at my younger sister(only a couple years younger), and not really sure how to approach her her again and apologize. Grown rather distant from her over the past several year or more, despite living with her. But she's turning into just a passing face that I never really talk to, let alone say hi to, despite her technically still living here(she closes at work, and stays at friend's on the weekends.
Been feeling like my OCD has been really been coming back, and I've been having a lot of panic attacks. Couple that with feeling like shit all from a cold I can't shake, and then throw one shit month of endless emergency expenses and large purchases. I just can't help but feel like exploding at anyone that crosses me. So I tend to handle it by being a generally abrasive asshole. Unfortunately I can't handle myself around ever family anymore.
Really just can't determine how to even approach her about it. She just feels like a friendly stranger, and I'm a stubborn asshole.
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Martin Hennerlune - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 23:05:24 EST ID:n1yNxChx No.513531 Ignore Report Quick Reply
the truth will set you free.
just be honest with her, tell her why you did it and that you're sorry, or whatever.
maybe ask to hang out idk
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Edward Punderway - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 23:59:21 EST ID:4SKHWbu2 No.513534 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513531

Feeling to chicken shit to even approach her when I see her(probably Sun.\Mon.). Maybe I just got to sleep on it. If I think about it to much I'll just fuck my own head over.
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Edward Punderway - Sat, 18 Feb 2017 00:38:13 EST ID:4SKHWbu2 No.513535 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Partly I just feel bad about it due to her learning she has a high risk of cervix cancer, and her going back to her moron ex-bf. All of which things I wouldn't really know without my mother being a blather mouth. So the timing is certainly bad, and makes it more delicate than necessary.
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John Fuckingridge - Sat, 18 Feb 2017 09:01:56 EST ID:6PIOhE09 No.513539 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513530
Family is all that matters


Ego and Women by Lydia Beffinggold - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 05:52:03 EST ID:pXo6ANrc No.513437 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Man I don't even know what to think anymore.

Way TL;DR ahead, scroll past my life story for the point of the post
There aren't a lot of girls in my life, but there aren't a lot of guys, either, really, for how few people I know the quality of the chicks in my life is more than I could expect even if they don't really care that much.

So I've been talking to this girl for a while, she's been horrible at messaging back the entire time, just doesn't show much interest but then every time I see her she really seems to like me, and I really like her. I'm not really trying to just go all in, shit's a bit fucked up, I'm in love with her roommate but that's beside the point, I really like her, I want to get closer to her. I hung out with her a few times, she stopped messaging back, I got kind of fed up but I have so few friends let alone girls and she is so attractive I kept talking to her.

I finally took her to New Years, it was great, it was an awesome time, I really liked hanging out with her, she dipped out on me so I didn't get to kiss her at midnight, but we hooked up a little bit later. I guess she was kind of embarrassed and didn't want to tell her friends. At this point I honestly couldn't tell if she's a hoe, or what, she acted like she wasn't, wouldn't let me fuck lol, she's so sweet but she does all kinds of drugs and kept being vague and sketchy about other dudes in her life. Since then I really tried to get with her, but the only 2 times she hung out with me she had me bring her cash in exchange for paypal, pretty obviously so she could buy drugs. She just stopped texting back completely about a month ago, I hit her up a few more times and kept sending her snapchats but that was it.

Anyway so last week, I was going out to a show, by myself of course, and figured I'd hit her up, she'd snapchatted about going and I wanted some molly. She started telling me she wanted to go but only had $7, trying to get me to take her. This pissed me right the fuck off, I mean she fucking blows me off, doesn't even try to hang out unless she wants money or something from me and now she wants me to buy her a fucking ticket? But I thought about it, realized there's no win for me, I'd be alone all night without her and have a better time hanging out with her for sure, so I told her I'd buy her a ticket if she could find me some molly.

Well, tickets were sold out but she managed to get into the show, and she ended up taking a bunch of my molly. We didn't really dance at the show, I like to go hard as fuck and she isn't really on that level. We went out to a house party after, I didn't want to follow her around or be weird so I let her do her thing but after a while I completely lost track of her. Next time I saw her like 40 minutes later she was kissing our friend on the cheek, and when I found her she was in a side room listening to some guy play guitar. At this point I just got my molly from her and dipped, her roommate was there so I just let them find a ride together.
Sorry for the TL;DR

Anyway on one level, looking at this stuff from the perspective of 'me', as a dude, through the lens of my ego, this bullshit really pisses me off. This girl disrespects me, keeps using me for my money and doesn't give a shit when I'm alone and need someone to hang out with, doesn't even bother to text me back. I finally hang out with her and she takes my drugs and ditches me anyway. She acts so sweet and innocent and acts like she likes me but at this point it seems like she's really a complete whore.
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Edwin Shittingstock - Thu, 16 Feb 2017 23:57:19 EST ID:9vn86lM+ No.513502 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513437
OP you need to understand perception, you are probably nothing more than an aquaintence to her, why dont you just ask the girl you are regularly talking to (her housemate) about her and what her deal is, or better yet why dont you ask the girl youre in love with out with you?

This just doesnt make sense at all, you love this girl so you go out with her housemate who is a fucking addict who will probably end up spending her life in some den surrounded by guys who she will fuck for drugs and you just give her drugs and get upset and write about it online.

Are you a man? do you have a backbone? You are so lonely you'd rather hang out with some drug addict who has 0 interest in you than you asking out the girl whom you actually like.

You just dont make sense to me at all. you couldve had such a better time if you mingled in the party with other people rather than think you'd be getting something from this girl who is clearly unattached to you and knows she can abuse your lonliness.

This has nothing to do with her and everything to do with you.
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Betsy Cendleworth - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 16:19:33 EST ID:pXo6ANrc No.513520 Ignore Report Quick Reply
lol so once again yall completely misunderstand the situation because youre beta af and have never been in my perspective

>>513487
i understand this is the idea from the perspective of my own ego. but i am trying to rise above my ego, i spend enough time outside it. like who cares if i spend more time alone and miserable, if i help out someone who needs it. ill be fine either way. i do know at least that she does not want to hurt me

>>513495
>she shouldnt feel like she owes you anything. you calling her a "whore" because she doesnt is just a total disgrace.
im calling her a whore because im pretty sure she hooks up with drug dealers and they give her drugs

like im obviously not being judgmental, i still like and care about her, im not holding it against her, most chicks do this shit. i just dislike it when girls i am interested in fuck around with a bunch of different dudes and play games because it causes me pain. yes maybe i should not use a negative label. but maybe she should stop fucking playing games and figure out what she wants to do and if shes interested in me stop being a hoe and let me know and if shes interested in whatever other guy i can only assume is in her life then dont fucking make some dude take you out til 4am buy you a ticket and take his molly. and she would get better results.

as far as attractiveness or me being a creep, that isnt an issue, i pretty much ooze sexuality and she is clearly attracted to me, but there is a huge difference between being attracted to someone, and actually hooking up with them.

>>513502
She has a boyfriend dude, he's terrible for her and I think she sees that and if she ever gets fed up with his abusive ass I'm here but she made it clear she doesn't want to talk about it, I'm legitimately trying to move on but if you've ever been in love you know it's not as simple as just deciding not to care, and she is one of my best friends and we know all the same people so just cut all contact and run away is not an option.
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John Chegglemudge - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 16:51:17 EST ID:c7hkHH7V No.513521 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>513520

lol'd.
nb
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Nathaniel Pockshaw - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 23:53:59 EST ID:cXZFYbD6 No.513533 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513520
Well if it is the way that you describe it, she likes drugs more than she likes sex, or at least relationships. Shes not about it. What she is about is getting high. All real addicts display the same behavior, and it is up to them to change that. No one can change someone who really just wants to get high more than anything else.
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Barnaby Sevingpere - Sat, 18 Feb 2017 06:48:02 EST ID:KveR7zNs No.513537 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513437
You're obsessed with your ego. You're not rising above it right now and you never were, you're just using it as an excuse.

There's more to you than your ego. There's the bit of you that says "I want to do the right thing" and then there's the bit that reconciles that with reality and says "wasting time on this chick won't help". You are too prideful to give up on a lost cause. If you're a decent compassionate guy or want to pretend you are don't waste time on someone who doesn't want your fucking help. I mean I'm sure you'll say "but my ego" so you can "help" someone you want to bang because you "love" them.

Spend less time with her. She's friends with a lot of friends but it sounds like you could still reduce your Amy time. Stop daydreaming about the thing you can't have. Being obsessed with a relationship that only exists in your head is awkward teenager shit not something someone who is supposedly attractive and can actually into girls should do.

You have paid lip service to Amy's friend. Spend time with her, getting to know her, building moments with her. Or is that another completely reciprocated set of feelings? I'm not sure you know what love is.

>Amy guy
At least you're not full blown delusional any more though. At the current rate if you stay off the drugs (and you need that because you cannot handle them, not because drugs are automatically bad) you be functional by 2019. Or if you keep fucking with your brain chemistry even though you cannot handle sober then by 2025 you'll either be completely out of touch with reality or have found your way back home the long way.


Been feeling shitty lately by Jack Bunworth - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 04:45:07 EST ID:cXZFYbD6 No.513510 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I have a question for you all. This would be best answered by someone here who is currently employed or has in the past been employed in upper management in the production or distribution department of Frito-Lay, Inc., or Pepsi-Co I suppose if you know your stuff. However I'll take guesses from random anonymous's if you think have a good guess.

How come I can't buy "Hint of Lime" sat in a can or jar? I would pay real money cash credit btc whatever for some sprinkle salt that would make my food super delicious whenever I want. This doesn't seem very unreasonable imo

Frito-Lay, Inc. Executives/CEOs: Thank you for your time, your response is greatl appreciated.

All other 420chan reply-ers: Thanks for nothing, and please try to find out the answer to my question and then post back with your results. Thanks a million. for nothing
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Henry Dizzlefield - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 05:01:52 EST ID:Q2DNzdKw No.513511 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Frito-Lay CEO here.
Well we figured that people would just use the flavoring on chips they make themselves, that would mean huge losses for us. A bag of chips is consumed (on average, according to our studies) in 4 minutes. A can of flavoring powder though? That could last for a month, maybe more. Definitely would be a dumb decision according to our economics department.
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Esther Wondledetch - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 21:43:18 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.513527 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Frito Lay QC Manager here:

We kept detecting unacceptable levels of insect parts in the batches; over 800 ppm. Our imported lime sources were often times exposed to weathering and rot which, near the end, resulted in a reevaluation of our companys standard for acceptable raw material use. This was after a handful of customers complained of being ill after consuming Pepsi Lime.

Due to the payouts, health violations, and relatively low volume of interest in the product, the big heads decided to discontinue it instead of spending money reformulating it.

My department was actually the one who first caught the large amount of insects in the batches; our solution was to filter it through several fine mesh filters which removed most of the insect parts while leaving the flavor intact. Our taste testers couldn't tell the difference between a lab batch and a plant batch. Of course that was just one of several fixes our department has managed to make over the years.
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Nathaniel Pockshaw - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 22:41:32 EST ID:cXZFYbD6 No.513528 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513511
Well yeah I thought about that, and while realizing that I don't have access to the sugars or binders or glues required to make the flavoring salt stick to the chips even if I decided to make my own, I would still probably end up sprinkling the Hint of Lime powder all over everything I eat, and possibly the stuff I don't eat too and sell it to the public, creating a huge demand for leftovers shit that I would sell out of my van. An operation like this would require large amounts of Hint of Lime salt flavor. And who would the supplier be? Sure I'd love to stick to the clearnet and buy straight from the source. But if sunnyfish is offering me at retail for what you are charging a premium for, then what's there to think about?
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Nathaniel Pockshaw - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 22:47:06 EST ID:cXZFYbD6 No.513529 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513527
I will gladly buy your tainted Hint of Lime flavoring for 50% MSRP of untainted flavor, no questions asked.


Making your move by Fuck Cruffinggold - Thu, 16 Feb 2017 19:07:18 EST ID:vaYDaUnY No.513490 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I don't pick up on social ques. Maybe I'm autistic or something, idk. I don't understand anything about starting a sexual relationship with someone, and unless someone straight up tells me they want to fuck I won't pick up on their hints. I'm a good looking guy and girls throw me hints all the time, I just don't ever fucking notice them no matter how hard I try, the comprehension just isn't there.

Every time I try to get close to someone I become really good friends with them. I know you're all gonna give me the "don't expect things from girls and manipulate them", but I literally don't know what else to do. By the end I value the friendship too much to make a move and risk losing it, and with my fucky views on sex I can't do random hookups, it just makes me feel like trash.

So how do you do it? How do you take things to the next level, what are some common signs of interest I'm probably missing? Any advice is appreciated.
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Beatrice Fanson - Thu, 16 Feb 2017 19:39:47 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513493 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I'm the same way with social cues. Typically everything just flies right over my head, even in more sensitive situations where it isn't outright obvious that you should or shouldn't do something, but still requires you not to be an oblivious retard. Honestly though, you just have to find ways to cope.

As far as forming a relationship, sexual or otherwise goes, there's a difference between being manipulative and trying to get what you want... in the positive sense. You're allowed to want things for yourself, and when it comes to that, you really can't and shouldn't rely on others to give it to you. Not saying to go rape someone, I'm saying it's okay to want these things and to try to get them. The moment it becomes manipulative is when you stop respecting someone else's rights as a human being and forego treating them with that decency in mind.

Then again, if you actually did have the idea of trying to go out and manipulate some girls just for sex, then never mind. In that case, don't be a dick, nigga. Anyway, you said yourself social cues aren't something you get, so honestly I don't know if you'd be capable of pulling anything like that off anyway.

The way you pull it off is by putting yourself out there and taking a risk man. It's scary but there's no way around it. Unless you're going to approach the situation with zero tact and straight up ask for sex, if the girl is actually friends with you, your friendship probably won't be ruined. She probably wouldn't even feel that weird being around you. If she rejects you, then unless you're giving off some weird vibes, then she probably figures you want to stay friends and value your friendship.

Then again, she could react all weird and you could lose a friend (although really you might've dodged a bullet being associated with them in that case), but if you really want some poon you're gonna have to have some balls mang. If friendship is more important to you, then accept your decision not to act the consequences of doing that.
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Fuck Cruffinggold - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 01:29:19 EST ID:vaYDaUnY No.513509 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513493
I definitely don't manipulate, I said that as an inb4 because I figured everyone else would. I don't expect anything to be given to me, I just don't know how to go about letting people know what I want. And yeah haha, I couldn't be manipulative if I tried.

The last two paragraphs make a lot of sense though. I've been struggling to get over really intense paranoia lately and a lot of it has to do with my image of myself and how people look at me. Hearing someone else say they won't hate me on the spot or even really care about it helps a LOT. Up until now I've thought failing something like that would absolutely 150% guarantee a ruined friendship/reputation, all I need to do now is continue to beat it into my head that I'm the only one having these thoughts/the only one that would react that way. As simple as it is just having someone say something contradictory to my thoughts is enough to snap me out of it.
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Jack Bunworth - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 05:16:47 EST ID:cXZFYbD6 No.513512 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513509
OP reading your posts I see parallels in myself and can relate to you in many ways you have described. But don't take what the other poster said to heart, thats just one opinion and a kinda bleak one at that to be honest. I was 21 when I finally had sex and it was a hard 21 years. This was mostly due (as you can probably guess) to social anxiety/dissonance and caused day after day depression/self loathing/etc and very negative thoughts to say the least. Drugs didn't help lol, especially not the weed every day since 16 but I digress.

Anyway man I want to tell you that you are not hopeless. If you are anything like me, you have realized at this point that loneliness after years of exposure can lead to substantial independence and the ability to sustain one self in isolation, and many times to even thrive. This is essential for personality and inner-self growth. It was only after I found my a stable footing in my isolation and became truly comfortable being myself as a semi-adult that I was able to calmly interact with females. It really really helps if they are younger than you, because they look up to you for lack of a better term, i.e. they put themselves in a position of inferiority. Same exact thing with heavier or less attractive girls which are actually better at the beginning stages of learning how to interact sexually with the opposite sex because they are more mature, though not as appealing as a hotter younger more naiive/ignorant girl.

Ok all of that can be a little circumstantial, for me I had the right job at the time which put me into contact with many females, my environment was not static. I highly recommend working in a restaurant...

Anyway good luck man. Main point is develop your self in your solitary time, it will be the most useful resource you will ever have in your life and you will learn ways of applying it in your future.
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George Bluddledock - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 10:39:03 EST ID:nj/9ZEXo No.513517 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I'm in the same boat. Here are some books that've helped me:

The Rational Male
The Way of Men
Warrior,King,Magician,Lover
48 Laws of Power
How to Win Friends and Influence Others

A good deal of it is just forcing yourself to make a move and is trial and error. Stop placing others, your friendships, above your own needs and wants. If things aren't going that way then move on, you're going to be an emotional tampon and most friendships with women are shallow, one sided, and an unfulfilling waste of time.



Don't get at mad at women, either, it's YOU who has the deficit. Thinking the world should conform to your interpretation of Should is egotistical and will only hurt you.


You have to die to live, friend.
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Hamilton Gibblekene - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 10:39:05 EST ID:GV9SUhOg No.513518 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I'm in the same boat. Here are some books that've helped me:

The Rational Male
The Way of Men
Warrior,King,Magician,Lover
48 Laws of Power
How to Win Friends and Influence Others

A good deal of it is just forcing yourself to make a move and is trial and error. Stop placing others, your friendships, above your own needs and wants. If things aren't going that way then move on, you're going to be an emotional tampon and most friendships with women are shallow, one sided, and an unfulfilling waste of time.



Don't get at mad at women, either, it's YOU who has the deficit. Thinking the world should conform to your interpretation of Should is egotistical and will only hurt you.


You have to die to live, friend.


Long rant about why I hate everything (including myself). by Alice Bammerhene - Tue, 14 Feb 2017 14:22:46 EST ID:5JYKa3yb No.513398 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've been sober for over a year now, I used to have a "complicated" relationship with clonazepram and was also high pretty much 24/7 for a couple of years. About half a year ago, I was referred by my therapist to a drug-rehabilitation senter of some kind, which I accepted because he phrased it as just "free therapy" which was sorely needed because paying for that shit left me fucking broke and I had to move home to my parents.

My parents live in the middle of fucking nowhere, complete godforsaken swamp-forest taken out of The Hound of the Baskervilles, where there isn't any form for transportation. Ergo, I couldn't land a job since how the fuck would I get there, also just meeting people would be like I was five years old again where I had to "plan" visits because I needed to make sure my parents would be home, wouldn't drink wine or pop a beer, or wasn't busy with any other shit. The plan I originally had which was studying high school because I never graduated, also fell into the dumps because once again, there was absolutely no way I could actually get anywhere and I really wasn't interested in taking up yet another loan just so I could rent some super shitty box in another city right after I moved back here and use 20 years paying that back. So naturally I began the process of getting my driving-certificate.

Stupidly, I told my new therapist about this while I was talking about how I finally got some hope and self-esteem back with actually doing something with my life. She then called my local doctor and the "county-doctor", which proceded to call the police which proceded to take my license because I was at risk of driving under the influence. And I have been sober for a fucking year, with people snorting shit and smoking like crazy (because everyone I know is more or less doing -something- and would most likely just not invite me instead of just drinking) and I never did shit.

But I'M being treated as a criminal, even if they give out opiates to people with backproblems and benzos to people with anxiety, and don't think there is even the slightest possibilty that some of them might drive under the infuence. But me? Oh, I'…
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Martin Pummerbick - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 12:19:32 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513457 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513423
I definitely think she fucked you over too, but at the same time she's probably obligated by law to report what you said if it involves the potential for you to kill or maim somebody, including yourself. At the same time, she just ruined the trust between you two and the only way something like that relationship works is if the patient trusts you. It's really a catch-22 mane, it's unfortunate but I don't think that could've gone any other way. If you truly believe you need something like your license and you aren't going to hurt somebody (which you really do need it), even in situations where you're supposed to be perfectly open, you have to censor yourself. Obviously if you censor yourself too much, you can't get anything out of it, so it requires you to exercise some well thought-out judgment on what you can and can't reveal. You can't live without a job, so obviously mentioning things like this in the future should be something you only do if you believe you truly are so far gone with your issues that you may injure somebody.

unfortunately, it's now gone on record, so it's going to be known if you allow any future therapist to view your medical files or request informaiton from any previous therapists. This is why even though I see a psychologist I've only opened up about small bits of my drug use, and made sure it seemed like my abuse was only of OTC drugs like DXM or legal supplements, because at least then they know I have the drug problem but it isn't with popular or illicit drugs and they don't find the need to cut me off from certain medicinal prescriptions because of it. This information is going to stick around for pretty much ever, and even though I've got a problem, it's under control well enough now that my gamble of not telling them about the other drugs I have abused paid off. I knew I was committed to getting better, and I already had a diagnosis for what was wrong with me, so I didn't need them to know things that would limit treatment options in the future forever (if they need to establish a diagnosis or whatever though, you withholding information can definitely obstruct things in that regard, so it…
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Samuel Gapperdale - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 16:01:43 EST ID:TS/LM6vV No.513468 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513423
Well... I guess if you are too afraid to drive without a license you wouldn't be game for cutting that cunts throat. Kinda lame bro. But I guess that is like your life and all. Europe sounds really gay tbh fam
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Augustus Shittingstock - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 16:24:23 EST ID:V7etnEfJ No.513470 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I would recommend switching to a Lacanian psychoanalyst if possible. It's harder for you to get this deep in shit, most probably you would be told not to do any substance before or while driving, but not to the point of fucking you over with the law (assuming you reside in the US, analysts shouldn't have to disclose on such stuff).

You can try to locate one in your proximity, although from your words it's very unlikely there may be a clinic nearby. In such case, I'd recommend calling the nearest agency and speaking with individual analysts to ask if they do phone call analysis. This is what I'm currently doing myself since I have no means of getting there in presence.

Just do it. I don't think you will be given drugs, since in my experience they are only used when the analysand is really endangered (extremely suicidal thoughts/anxiety).

God bless you anon, you can make it.
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William Dridgeshaw - Thu, 16 Feb 2017 00:05:37 EST ID:XPXXTXPP No.513477 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Bah, que psicólogo cuzão, tchê!
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Nathaniel Fundleneg - Thu, 16 Feb 2017 14:05:12 EST ID:c7hkHH7V No.513483 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513477

Puto, aqui fala-se inglês, não sei se reparaste.


girfriend issue by Edwin Duckletug - Tue, 14 Feb 2017 23:04:54 EST ID:F0BX6Etq No.513428 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So I was in a relationship for over 5 years , we broke up ( reason Is that she left me and I cheated on her on multiple ocasions and eventually she found out ). The I didnt heal properly and ended in a rebound relationship. I have been with this new girl for at least half a year . The problem that I cannot stand ( I expect h8 for my simplistic and retarded view on woman ) is that this girl is way uglier than my ex. Dont get me wrong she is a much better person , but her apperance strikes me down every time ; every time we have an argument I think in my self wtf im I doing with this dog........... ffs. And even when I tell her how I feel she just ignores it , doesnt seem to quite get me serious . I dont know where to go I dont have any friends , since the break up (1 yr ago ) , some of my friend have moved abroad and others have just disapered from my life. Thanks for the advice PEACE
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Hannah Wegglefoot - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 00:28:01 EST ID:004PzrlT No.513429 Ignore Report Quick Reply
So you aren't that attracted to her and it's not even a good relationship

Why are you with her?
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Edward Clussleshaw - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 09:21:45 EST ID:JHxaDUEb No.513444 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Tbh you sound like a shit person so maybe work on yourself. Maybe alone, maybe with her. Whatever you want to do. But I mean all of your problems are about you.

You cheated on your ex
You're unable to accept your gfs appearance
You have no friends

Start with making some friends and seeing what is going on with that. There's a reason you have no friends that isn't that they all went away.
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Martin Pummerbick - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 10:37:28 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513448 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513444
>Start with making some friends and seeing what is going on with that. There's a reason you have no friends that isn't that they all went away.
This. I'm sorry man, but this is what happens when you put all your eggs in one basket. This is why you have to establish a support network, not rely exclusively on one person. You don't have to have many friends, but you need somebody whose friendship and support won't suddenly go away if things go wrong in something as volatile as a relationship. Make time for people mang
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Sidney Mocklefuck - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 20:38:58 EST ID:9He+zGlS No.513475 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513448
I do have friends but dont feel the sam way towards them since my best friend left me for my ex . Have some trust issues
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Matilda Grandfuck - Thu, 16 Feb 2017 08:27:50 EST ID:KveR7zNs No.513478 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513475
On one hand that's fickle behavior. On the other you were pretty terrible to this ex. I mean one thing I've found is that you don't want to be friends with terrible people. Your friends probably had trouble trusting you.

On the other hand if they knew about this the whole time and didn't kick up a fuss until she dumped you then they were actually terrible people as well. Either way you were awful, your friends might have been awful, don't let that stop you trusting good people. Though as I said, good people won't stand for your shit as you are now. The good news is you need to sort it. Why did you cheat? Why did you settle into a relationship you don't want to be in? Look at why you do these things and see if you can find better ways to cope with whatever it is.


Weed errday by Martin Drenderhall - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 13:21:23 EST ID:6PIOhE09 No.513460 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've seen threads where people lament their daily consumption of cannabis. Is it a thing or is it some broscience?
I smoke daily just because I feel mad depressed without it, but I'm considering a smoke break. Maybe I should socially isolate myself for a week without weed or nicotine just for fun :/ Maybe I'm not in such a good place right now.
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Martin Pummerbick - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 15:11:09 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513462 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Smoking everyday always helped me. Weed, back when I could smoke it, always had nothing but positive effects so long as I wasn't trying it for the first time after a long break. Sometimes doing that could lead to those times where you're infamously violently too high for a while.

But if I was smoking good shit 3-6 times a day, I was more easily able to deal with and think about my problems--usually feeling instantly better about anything bothering me a lot instantly after smoking and realizing I was taking things way too seriously and thing were how they were and I needed to approach things in a way that benefited me most even if it was uncomfortable. I also didn't suffer from near as much social anxiety and stopped hating people for merely existing in front of me (had severe anger issues). I don't have these issues really any more so things are fine, but I'm one of those people who never had negative effects from smoking all the time except for blowing all my fuckin cash on it.
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Martin Pummerbick - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 15:14:17 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513463 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Also, it's not uncommon to feel depressed after quitting a drug that seems to help with it, weed was the ultimate antidepressant for me too. In my experience, quitting for well over 2 months allows your brain to adjust back, but before then it's not wise to judge how depressed you are and say you need to smoke because it's helping. It's been the case with many of the drugs I've done that I've thought that way and it turned out the drugs were making me more depressed after regular usage than I was giving them credit for. I was 100% convinced I was just like that, and things at least got somewhat better after being off for an extended period of time (the only thing was I rarely used to stop drug use for any kind of extended period of time). At least, far more manageable than I thought it'd be.
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Polly Blatherridge - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 18:22:20 EST ID:5+e2llCv No.513472 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Weed made me happier, more social and a more well-rounded person for the first couple years. Over time it just started to enable my anti-social tendencies and helped me not give a shit that I was going absolutely nowhere in life. It affects everyone differently and you have to find what is right for you.
What I can say is that imposing social isolation on yourself is literally always a bad idea and cannot possibly lead to anything good.
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Matilda Grandfuck - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 19:20:27 EST ID:KveR7zNs No.513473 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Weed is rarely the cause of the problem however OP you practically spelled it out in your OP.

It is an anti depressant and people smoke it instead of actually dealing with what's making them miserable. It doesn't make you lonely as much as make being lonely easier so you're less motivated to fix it.

I very suddenly lost my connect 9 months ago and went from smoking every day to dry. I was only smoking it in the evening after I got back from the gym and I can see it didn't affect me negatively. It did however make it okay to be as antisocial as I am and it shouldn't be okay to have such a nonexistent social life. Of course since then my efforts have failed and I feel like I could really use it in the short run. But odds are I'd neglect my duty to myself to double the fuck back down and start arranging more shit.
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Cyril Sagglespear - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 19:30:54 EST ID:6PIOhE09 No.513474 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513472
Aw, man, I know all about social isolation. Going months without social contact is rough. I can handle weeks, but I slip when it's longer than that.

>>513473
>instead of actually dealing with what's making them miserable
I've spent years on introspection. I know what's going on but it's nothing I can really change


Valentines Day by Alice Cibblefuck - Tue, 14 Feb 2017 20:23:58 EST ID:5EayfceF No.513415 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Let's kill ourselves. No but seriously.

I cant tell the one I still like, I like her, cause 3 years ago I tried to kiss her and havnt seen her since. We get on and were talking online the other night. I get this 'Im fucked up and dont want to fuck your life up' vibe from her, maybe she likes me too but I dont know, she's so aloof. The thing is, she reminds me of the love interest of the main character in this story I wrote years ago, before I met her. Over time I have become this person, and meeting her, its like we are the same characters in an alternate reality. They have this kinda just friends thing going on in the story too. If only I could read her the story and see if she'd see the similarity. Then maybe she'd realise how I feel about her, and that we too can be saved.
She wont message me today, I know.
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Basil Baffingkutch - Tue, 14 Feb 2017 20:36:03 EST ID:+pDU0OrR No.513417 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Dude, just get over her. And don't tell me you can't do it; just have some self control and don't look at pictures of her or interact with her. You'll get over her sooner than you think. And don't show her that story to her unless she's the kind of person who would be into that. It might come off more creepy that you're projecting a fictional personality onto her than it will come off romantic, if that makes any sense.
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Alice Cibblefuck - Tue, 14 Feb 2017 20:47:57 EST ID:5EayfceF No.513420 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513417
yeah. I had forgot about her, quite often she pops up when Im meeting someone else I might be interested in. I dont know why I still like her. She is so far away, in many ways. I laid my cards on the table and well, Ive never had a girl act so offended when tryin to kiss her b4.
I probably am projecting but yeah, shes gotta come to me and I dont think thatll happen.
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Basil Baffingkutch - Tue, 14 Feb 2017 21:12:31 EST ID:+pDU0OrR No.513422 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513420
Yeah, if she acted really offended when you tried to kiss her then you probably don't have much of a chance. I don't think I'd want a prudish girl like that anyway TBH. My best advice is to try to get on with your life, and if you meet enough people then you will just forget about her. Don't try to find girls that imitate her; _replace_ her with someone better.
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Martin Pummerbick - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 12:01:26 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513454 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513415
I think if you still like her, definitely periodically reach out to her, but don't get your hopes up. If she is coming from that perspective, it's possible she won't respond well for a while even if she does kind of like you. I'm actually in the middle of being that way with a girl that likes me, mostly because we already went out once and I'm pretty sure my inadequacies at the time are what led to how short our relationship was. Even though she's acting super flirtatious and interested again, even though I'm mentally in a better place now, I'm not with my life and it keeps me from actually wanting to try again, especially since she's never been someone I've had a real crush on or anything. I like things about her and she's physically attractive, but right now I don't know how well I could commit to anything and that stops me from showing interest again beyond being "friends".

So, if she's in a similar place, unless you show some overwhelming interest and really let her talk to you about her problems or something and she just kinda realizes one day you literally don't give a shit and she's not saving you anything by not being with you, she's probably going to remain aloof. The girl that likes me would listen if I talked, but doesn't try very hard to actually keep contact necessarily (which I might have taught her to do with my own behavior, and she's a bit more traditional in the sense that she relies on the guy showing interest in her to really keep up contact), so right now I keep the thought of being with her again out of my mind. She isn't all that aware of how things are for me now, and I'm afraid it's a lot worse than she knows or expects, so again it only reinforces my decision not to pursue her.


I done fucked up by Basil Drozzlestane - Mon, 13 Feb 2017 09:12:48 EST ID:qmWJrJ6y No.513357 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Doesn't feel right being on the giving end of an emotional shitstorm. It's usually me getting fucked over. Couple of months ago, just after moving the city I live in now, I started talking to this girl online. I thought she was pretty cute, was into the same stuff as me, had a good sense of humour. So for a few days I went for it. Until (and this makes me feel awful in itself) we video chatted and I realised she wasn't nearly as attractive as her pictures made her look. She's fairly overweight and as much as I want to find her attractive, I can't force myself to. And upon getting to know her slightly better I've realised that her personality isn't as attractive as I thought it was either. I just don't see us ever being a good couple.

So from then I started trying to systematically withdraw from the situation. She was, and to some degree still is crazily into me, always telling me how gorgeous and funny and cute I am with me hardly ever returning the compliments. I told her multiple times that I don't want a girlfriend, but she insisted on coming to my city to meet me. Being the sex-starved piece of desperate shit I am, I slept with her. She brought me a PS4 game when she first properly met me and has lent me £300 towards a car I'm meant to be buying in a week (which I'd like to add whether she was my friend, girlfriend, enemy because I broke her fucking heart I have every intention of paying her back every penny and then some). And I wonder if this generosity is characteristic or she's just using excessive generosity to try and make me want to be with her. We're still not together, but I think she's just saying she's okay with a casual sex type situation in the hope that I'll eventually wanna get with her. But I don't even want that. I want it to stop, I feel guilty and wrong for last time and I don't want it to happen again. I'd gladly be friends with her because she's a nice girl, but that's all I want. But I can't think of any words I can use to say this without hurting her. She'll be hurt and confused and upset wondering why I slept with her if I'm not actually into her.

I'm such a cunt. I'm not loo…
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Martin Fettingworth - Tue, 14 Feb 2017 11:21:02 EST ID:7PrK/G+3 No.513392 Ignore Report Quick Reply
hey man, just keep being nice to her man, maybe dont bang her but just be a friend,
I dont mean you have to talk to her everyday, but just be nice when you do talk

Its not your fault, these things happen and cannot be helped and theres no way your a "piece of shit" for this.
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David Brerringworth - Tue, 14 Feb 2017 13:47:53 EST ID:qmWJrJ6y No.513395 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513392

Thanks bro. That's a nicer answer than I was expecting. But I just can't help but feel cruel because I'd probably totally wanna be with her if she was thinner and prettier. I wish I didn't care about physical appearance but I do and it's annoying :( I'm doing more or less exactly what you said at the moment but I don't know how to tell her I don't want sex again without hurting her or making her self-conscious..
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Basil Baffingkutch - Tue, 14 Feb 2017 20:32:40 EST ID:+pDU0OrR No.513416 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513357
Don't sweat it man. Just try to let her down easily. If she keeps contacting you then just give her short answers and cut off the convos after a couple of messages. Not much else you can do without making her feel bad. She'll still probably be hurt/confused, but it's better than stringing her along and doing more damage. Plenty of people get into situations like this, and you're not really asshole for doing that. I've been much more of an asshole to girls I've slept with before, trust me. I have reasons to feel guilty; you don't.
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Esther Budgepadging - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 11:42:30 EST ID:KveR7zNs No.513452 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513395
I would say this, beating yourself up achieves nothing. Sure you feel bad, you fucked up. But everyone fucks up. What's important is you learn from this. First of all try to make the best of this situation for all concerned. Secondly try to work out what you could do should events start to play out like this again, to avoid this.

Don't be one of those people who berates themselves then just keeps doing the same shit. It's far more important that you sincerely want to get it right next time than you wail and gnash your teeth. A lot of people make all the noise but when the times comes to act they don't.

As far as your "shallowness" goes the thing about this that most people actually care about physical attraction. And you have to be honest with yourself. You both deserve better than a relationship in which one partner does not want to have sex. I'm not saying everyone should be aiming for the hottest thing ever but you've got to want to fuck, kiss and generally press yourself up against a person. What makes someone shallow is when they become too hung up on this, they ignore things like whether they enjoy hanging out and if that person is a decent or healthy individual or turn down people who are great but only "attractive enough". It's not easy to get entirely right even if you wan to though. It's just what people. I don't like it but it's us. I lost 140 pounds because I had to accept the truth. Then I realised it wouldn't save me from myself and would always be repulsive to women but hey at least my athsma's gone, I fit into normal clothes, don't feel self conscious in public and EVERYTHING is easier.

Interestingly usually the first rule of internet "dating" is meet someone before getting attached. Usually because they won't want to meet if they're fake but in this case it's her who would have been protected so it protects the other person too.

Anyway what the other guy said about let her down gently. Don't be too gentle. Dragging shit out, giving her false hope, giving her anything remotely ambiguous or "this might change" even that could be interpreted that way under cert…
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Martin Pummerbick - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 11:54:32 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513453 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513395
The fact you feel bad about it means you aren't a shit person. There's nothing wrong with having preferences, but it's different if you go about this feeling there isn't anything wrong with just shitting on somebody for their appearance and don't respect her as a person. You obviously have a healthy level of respect for her as a human being, but you can't change how you feel. Someone isn't entitled to sex or being with you, you know? I think you're perfectly fine in this situation, even if I may have personally handled it differently (not saying I necessarily would have, everybody's different though so it's just likely I probably would have, and same goes for everyone else--it's okay for you to be you mane).


Form of release by E.S.P - Tue, 14 Feb 2017 18:51:40 EST ID:5/88HMUm No.513404 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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The things I do; nobody really needs to understand why I do them. As long as they just understand that I did what I did for the sole purpose of satisfying my own carnal desire.
An urge that I was brought into this world with. The sole reason for an existence such as my own can be summed up as a "want".

The root of my irrationally hedonistic mentality is unknown to myself, but maybe an individual looking at me would be able to discern its cause. Maybe this is why I limit my interactions the the bare minimum, I think I might be scared of finding out about myself.

My thoughts are jumpy. I feel electrical, well my brain does. It's not very comfortable.

They often say that it's imperative to see from another perspective from time to time. Who's they? I don't have the faintest idea. I just know that I say "I" a lot, and I don't understand why it causes me so much frustration. Okay, I'm going to vent, I hope it works.

Maybe my lack of diligence when it comes to things like research and self improvement has caused such a disgusting habit.

I don't know why I'm writing this shit on a bbs board right now, but every time I press in a key I feel a bit lighter inside. It's 6:31pm right now and I should be studying beacause... At this moment, out there in the world, some young adult is thinking about how he or she wants to attend school and receive a proper education, for the purpose of bettering their life. And here I am, the little shit, squandering my opportunity at a better future. Or maybe I just said that to trick myself into thinking that I'm able to adopt an ethically correct mindset like that, but it would only be for the purpose of gaining approval? How like me. I'm a mass of restless energy that can't help but sit still.

TLDR, I think I need someone to reccomend a way of coping with my own energy, so I can continue with my life and stop doing all the drugs, and wasting all the time.
Do physical activities relieve this feeling for anyone, they haven't done me any good yet.
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Martin Pummerbick - Tue, 14 Feb 2017 19:20:45 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513408 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513404
> nobody really needs to understand why I do them
Why do you care what people think about what you're doing. In a majority of cases (save those people who are in a personal relationship with you and are simply worried about you), they might make a snap judgment but for the most part they couldn't give less of a shit about you. What are you to them, other than someone they saw or heard did something once or a few times? They honestly don't give it more than a single thought, so why do you care what they think? I think most people understand perfectly well that what most people do, especially when it's dumb, is for the sole purpose of satisfying their own carnal desire. They're also aware it's a desire you were brought into the world with, because they have the same basic desires themselves. Everybody's existence is a filled with desire, lol. You can rest assured people already assume all that about you m8
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Martin Pummerbick - Tue, 14 Feb 2017 19:23:27 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513409 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Fuck I accidentally hit enter before I was done. In any case, yes, rigorous physical activity helps. If you're just doing 30 minutes a day or something, you're going to be a bit healthier but it's not going to actually do much in helping stop drug abuse. A big part of quitting is being determined to quit though. Don't be expecting an easy way to stop, it's going to be a fuckin grind the entire time. You're going to have to learn to cope with reality in an entirely different way and to seek and derive pleasure and joy from other methods. Honestly those methods are highly personal and it's hard to give advice on what to do for that. It's really something you have to find out for yourself by putting a solid effort into not being a drug fiend any more. I deal with it on a daily basis nigga
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E.S.P - Tue, 14 Feb 2017 19:37:08 EST ID:5/88HMUm No.513413 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513408
You're right, its the insecurities riling me up, must be.

Putting yourself down is a full time job and I've been working overtime for way too long, thanks brotha.
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Martin Pummerbick - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 10:57:36 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513450 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513413
Any time man, I'm glad you responded in a positive way though, it means you're definitely interested in getting better. This shit isn't easy. I was a bit harsh in how I put it, but it's how I had to first start convincing myself before it really sunk in and I can just admit no one really cares in a jovial manner. I basically had to chastise myself into realizing I was making myself the center of attention in people's lives in my mind.
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Martin Pummerbick - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 11:01:45 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513451 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Also, regarding what I said:
>, it's going to be a fuckin grind the entire time
It's true, but I should've mentioned it's got a ridiculous learning curve. Once you're past the curve, it's much easier to manage, but the fact remains you'll be managing it most likely all your life. Addiction is some weird shit, because it literally changes neurological functions in a way that causes ridiculous cravings out of nowhere that happen repeatedly and then go away sometimes for a little while, making you feel like you're better. On top of that, the executive functions involved in impulse control are compromised, making the cravings that much harder to deal with. Same thing can happen with brain injuries too, so if you've ever had a concussion or multiple, that can play into things. It's definitely not an excuse and doesn't waive liability for relapse, but it's nice knowing there's something going on and you're not just a total fuck up.


My entire life is falling apart by Cornelius Shakedale - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 01:39:44 EST ID:vKvaev27 No.513432 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>On probation, its kinda sketch
>Work at a shitty gas station job where everyone hates me
>Insurmountable debt from school loans and random legal bullshit and just debts from over the years
>About to drop out of school, probably have missed about 1/3 of my classes this semester
>Found out i'm getting sued today, just blew my student load reimbursement on a bunch of heady bullshit (grassroots california hats, harem pants, third eye pinecones, etc)
>Drive a shitty car, it isnt even mine, im borrowing it from my folks,
>Have an interview tomorrow


I'm literally about to drop out of school to go to this job, but i'm not even concerned. I miss manual labor, I miss having money. But I am in so fucking far over my head its not even funny. If I dont get this job, I have literally no idea what I'm going to do. My plan is to pay off all this shit, get off probation, learn forex, get in decent shape, save up 10-20 g's, and leave this state once and for all. But thats 3+ years ahead of me.

Yea I make alot of dumbass decisions but I don't know how to cope with life. I see a therapist but it doesn't really help and never really has. I got off all drugs and booze and i'm still a major fuckup.
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Simon Murringgold - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 01:57:37 EST ID:fFco0KOe No.513433 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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You're clean and sober, you are looking forward at least 3 years into the future, you even seen a therapist (for all the good you feel it does you, I know). You have some definite future plans and I like the sound of them. Whoa there, and take a deep breath right now and appreciate your struggle to be where you are, who you are, and who you will become. You're not a dumbass, you're a beautiful, messy person who is figuring out life.

Nail that interview tomorrow, you are putting one foot ahead of the other and changing your life to where and how you want to live it and I am proud of you.

Your entire life is coming together.
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Cornelius Shakedale - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 02:09:19 EST ID:vKvaev27 No.513434 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513433
Thank you simon, cool pic btw
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Eugene Blinderham - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 02:31:02 EST ID:XPUdLOGC No.513435 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>513432
I sort of know the feel. I already dropped out of college, have quite a bit of debt.
Like 20k keeps rising by like 300 a month just from interest raping me.
just keep werking and stay happy. i guess idk. ..its what i do
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Martin Pummerbick - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 10:33:09 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513447 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513432
Hey man, I'm in a similar place minus the shit with the law. A lot of it is self-inflicted, and a lot of it you'll get yourself out of, even if it takes a while. Again, same as me. I've felt completely out of my depth for the last 3 years but I've been making solid progress even if it's hard to tell from the outside looking in. Eventually there'll be something to show for it.

The kind of stuff you're dealing with is the kind of stuff that takes years to recover from, because whether it seems like it or not it took years to get there. The drug and alcohol stuff is mostly what I'm talking about, but I'm an addict dealing with having to be sober too. Even if it got to a tipping point all at once, this is a problem years in the making, and it's gonna take at least as long to really get out of. That's just how it is, it's not as unfair as it seems either really. It sucks ass, especially since you were using drugs because you didn't know how to deal with reality either back then, and having to learn to cope with shit a healthy way without them can be a huge ordeal. However, it's insurance for the future, because most people are liable to lose more later on for not having something as big as this erupt when they were young. You're basically dealing with a big problem right away when you aren't liable to lose something like a real high up position at a good job or breaking up a family you've built and been a part of for years, where things would truly seem hopeless. Right now it sucks, but you're at a point where you can actually rebound if you try hard enough to get your shit together. When you actually do, you'll feel that much better about yourself for having been able to do it and to know how to deal with those kinds of problems in the future.


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