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help by Molly Brookgold - Thu, 17 Aug 2017 06:22:27 EST ID:w/0OYgpr No.518113 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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theres this girl who cheated on me when we were younger

fuck, i had better pussy than her before, far better.

but i was obsessed with this girl when we were kids, and we were friends for a bit, and i fucked around with her eventually and got fucked over. we didnt talk for 4 years. i got way better pussy after.

We met at a party this past spring, i took her home and we laid together and talked for hours. she told me that she had been straight up drinking every day since we broke up basically and was a hardcore drunk. She started hanging around, she'd come to my house on the weekends and she'd watch me play super nintendo and my clown show of friends would come over.

She ended up leaving the state to get clean from drinking. she did and shes prettier now. But it isnt about that

i want to cum in this girls pussy so hard, i want to make love, i want to spend hours fucking and making love to this girl and giving her everything. I know I can make her orgasm, when we were kids she never felt it but in recent times she said she did. And than she was a dirty drunk, but shes clean now.

I cant describe how i feel, i want to lay with this girl for a weekend and make her orgasm and cum inside of her constantly. I can't tell her about this over the internet, it'd be creepy and she'd laugh, and i can't leave the state atm due to extenuating circumstances and insufficient funds. what do i do?

I think she has another dude now but it doesnt matter, the thing between us is unreal
Phoebe Drinderstone - Thu, 17 Aug 2017 12:14:11 EST ID:emFb8tOL No.518117 Ignore Report Quick Reply
sounds pretty toxic. I'd forget her if I were you.
Alice Huzzlegold - Thu, 17 Aug 2017 20:03:35 EST ID:xq9X5xB/ No.518134 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Pretty much when you have feelings for somebody and the other person is flakey about returning those feelings, your body decides to double down and give you even more feelings to make sure you fuck her.

That's what's happening.

cant sleep wont sleep by Fanny Pabblenut - Sat, 29 Jul 2017 01:28:36 EST ID:XS6JMhmD No.517751 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm pretty drunk so this is almost certainly gonna turn into a stream of consciousness shitpost, so apologies for that in advance. Still if anybody bothers to read through it and has any advice I'd love to hear it because I don't know what the fuck.

Where in the good goddamn do you meet people? I'm 23 and these apps or dating websites won't work because anybody on there my age is either just looking for a quick fuck or is insane and wants a family now RIGHT NOW GODDAMNIT NOW. I want something serious insofar as, ideally, we'd just stay together and get married and do all that shit. That's not The Plan™, I'm not looking for a wife or somebody to have a family with, but I'm not just looking to fuck somebody either, you know? It's this weird middle ground that I don't know where to go for.

I can't go to the pub on campus because A) nobody goes their alone and trying to pick up girls there is both impossible because niggas just wanna hang out with their friends, and creepy because people are just trying to hang out with their friends. Dating sites and apps and whatever are off the table for reasons I already went through. The problem is what's left? Work? People you meet through friends? Russian mail order brides?

I know every asocial weirdo since the dawn of man probably felt like this but fucking A, I'm too weird to be normal and too normal to be weird. I'm stuck in this limbo where I don't entirely fit in with regular people but nor do I fit in with the outcasts, which ironically makes me more of an outcast than them.

I forgot where I was going with this. Anyway, yeah, anybody have any advice on meeting people?
Basil Tootworth - Sat, 29 Jul 2017 22:50:21 EST ID:buDodtmC No.517775 Ignore Report Quick Reply
id give advice but your post echoes my thoughts all too well. the problem is that nobody is normal, everyone is weird, and everyone thinks everyone else is normal.
Caroline Suvingnine - Sun, 13 Aug 2017 12:03:12 EST ID:bOn4EGil No.518067 Ignore Report Quick Reply
So, do you actually do stuff with your time? Not to be condescending, particularly bc I'm in your boat too, but I think that's your problem. Too normal to be weird and vice versa? It sounds like you haven't developed yourself such that you actually have a life. Maybe I'm wrong, but consider asking yourself some hard questions. I think you can figure out why you can't seem to meet people on your own.
Like I said, I'm in your boat but I think the key difference is that I don't blame the world.
Rebecca Denderwell - Sun, 13 Aug 2017 14:50:08 EST ID:6yal9B1C No.518071 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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OP here, maybe I'm reading into your post too much but I don't blame the world. Blame implies wrongdoing or fault. It is the way it is because that's the way it is, there's no fault. I don't blame the world anymore than I blame rabbits for eating shit in my garden even if they ate all my fucking kale those cunts .

I do what I wanna do with my time; I sit around reading, listening to music, writing shitty stories, playing video games, working out, whatever. I'm not a social guy, I don't particularly like other people. I mean, I like them fine, I just don't wanna be around them. I wanna move way up North where I can be close enough to the city to get what I need but far enough away that I can go as long as I want without seeing another person. People are exhausting, I'd rather be home alone than out partying. Doesn't mean I don't still get lonely sometimes. The only person I think I could seriously be with is somebody like me, who I'll obviously never meet because they're like me. That's a bit of a kick in the dick but again, it's hardly anybody's fault. Luck of the draw and that shit.

Anyway thanks for the advice man but this thread should really just die. Lonely drunk-me gets these ideas that sound great to him, like trying to pick up chicks because he's lonely and not because the relationship would actually be any good, but when the booze runs out suddenly they always end up being totally fucking horrendous plans.
Graham Snodspear - Thu, 17 Aug 2017 02:18:34 EST ID:o3vIoRWZ No.518112 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>The only person I think I could seriously be with is somebody like me
You think wrong. And at the root of this damaging preconception lies the *fear of not being accepted for who you are*. This is why you are looking for someone like you. This is why you shy away form other people and spend your time entertaining yourself alone.

It's ok though, we're social creatures, we've ALL got that same fear deep down. Just don't let it cripple you like that. Open up. Our arms are waiting for you, even though they quiver slightly from the fear of not being accepted by you.

Did I dun fugged up by James Bunspear - Tue, 15 Aug 2017 14:57:04 EST ID:JjCIWimW No.518094 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>In relationship for 5 years
>girl joins a sorority
>lies about parties she goes to, hides hanging out with people alone, joins a fraternity without telling me, even down to the point of saying "If Im in a living room with a guy (in which we are drinking and smoking) but there are people in another bedroom (with the door shut) then we are not alone".
>she apologizes for her actions
>lies to me and goes to a graduation party hosted at a hotel in the middle of me finding about her lies
>tried to build trust again
>filled with feelings of anxiety and restlessness.
>the sex is AMAZING though. Always was.
>decide to break it off because feelings of anxiety never go away
>6 months later
>in new relationship
>feelings of anxiety are still there
>starting to miss my ex
>the new girlfriend is simply amazing
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Edward Blackfuck - Tue, 15 Aug 2017 16:31:03 EST ID:f+dkZbsN No.518096 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Anxiety, your ex whatever are feelings. You cannot control emotions any more than people which is to say you can control your reaction.

Also you're probably missing the glory days of your relationship, the girl that was and not the girl she became, and the things that sucked. The girl you miss does not exist. You simply miss the feeling of first love.

However you are not the same person either. Each love is different and now you are able to experience your second love, wiser and better, something that would not be possible if you were with your ex. Who is a shitbag anyway.
Hedda Smallway - Wed, 16 Aug 2017 23:14:17 EST ID:rFH3rjGe No.518110 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>the sex is AMAZING though. Always was.

uhh who said that?

When you want to live, how do you start? Where do you go? Who do you need to know? by Cornelius Nivingdale - Thu, 10 Aug 2017 22:03:48 EST ID:dYl1dlye No.518024 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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All through high school I had crippling personal issues, mostly anxiety (actually diagnosed, but I'm not one of those people that goes throwing stones at people who self-diagnose mental illness). I had the usual experience for someone like me, never had a lot of friends and the ones I did have had similar problems, didn't go through the usual milestones, etc. Had a particular difficulty working out whether people legitimately liked me, which was compounded by the fact people could figure this out and so I got a lot of the kind of bullying where people pretend they like you and throw it in your face. I turned away no fewer than five opportunities to have meaningful relationships because of this that I only realized were sincere after it was too late.

Anyway, my senior year I got involved in drugs because I had a death wish and thought that would be the most fun way to annihilate myself but to my surprise my situation improved rapidly. I made lots of friends, worked through a lot of my personal issues (most of them in fact) and my anxiety all but went away. I had my own apartment for my first 2 years of college and let in anyone who would come in to do drugs, which quickly turned into having wild parties every weekend and doing drugs with an ever-expanding group.

The problem is, while I made countless friendships and became a fixture of a very large social circle just being myself, I never got better at building intimate relationships, that is to say, I didn't have any. I found that an unwillingness to open up was replaced by an ignorance of what to do once I got a point where I was having a meaningful conversation with someone I'd like to get to know better.

So that's where I'm at now, I don't even know what advice I'm looking for here, I'm just frustrated because I'm at a roadblock progressing past the problems I made for myself when I was younger when I thought I was almost home free. I decided to move into a dorm for my second two years of college to maybe facilitate building these relationships I desperately want but I'm starting to think I might've thrown myself into the deep-end without knowing how to swim. Not to mention I'm really going to mis…
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Hedda Bloblingridge - Sat, 12 Aug 2017 18:59:37 EST ID:/brn2RiX No.518057 Ignore Report Quick Reply
the next thing to do after having meaningful discourse with a human is to engage in meaningful activity. whether this is netflix n chill, butt stuff, hiking, swimming, butt stuff, going out to eat, going out for drinks, or butt stuff, the choices are endless. human connections grow deeper with shared experiences
Clara Pittingham - Wed, 16 Aug 2017 17:46:13 EST ID:wT5IMEgn No.518106 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Like butt stuff

Building an exit bag. by Shitting Hassleham - Sat, 12 Aug 2017 09:55:20 EST ID:JI9kO00V No.518048 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So befire I run down to the store. Has anyone had a failed attempt with one? I'm going to use inert gas so I don't panic and rip the bag of my head (one bit of advice I got). No family or loved ones, so don't really care about voided bowels. Just really not looking to wake up again.
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Dunkirk - Tue, 15 Aug 2017 04:36:29 EST ID:HXgn8b9h No.518090 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Is it that common? I just joined and said i went to a behavioral hospital for trying to hang myself. The recruiters said to not mention it again because "it would look bad on us if those thoughts came back and you ended up trying it again"
Oliver Clallyhall - Tue, 15 Aug 2017 09:13:50 EST ID:dIFWQvnm No.518092 Ignore Report Quick Reply
don't go. eventually the doctors will bring it up right before you graduate and then stick you in discharge unit for about a year (because they have to make sure you are 100% healed before they release you) good news is you get paid during that time but still.
Oliver Clallyhall - Tue, 15 Aug 2017 09:17:29 EST ID:dIFWQvnm No.518093 Ignore Report Quick Reply
also if you want to get out with only a dishonorable discharge you'll have to write an essay about how your recruiters never knew of your affliction or convinced you to not speak of them. don't trust recruiters.nb
Thomas Fanderchare - Tue, 15 Aug 2017 16:30:46 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.518095 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>don't trust recruiters
This. Recruiters are shady used car salesmen, they'll say anything to get you to join (they have quotas and shit), will inform you of the ways to answer the questions you're asked correctly so you aren't disqualified, and then do shit like say not to mention things like that because it comes back looking bad on them. If it's found out you lied when getting in changes are you'll get some kind of less than honorable discharge, and it's not really like you're going to be able to prove that the recruiters knew about and even recommended that you lie to get in.
Thomas Fanderchare - Tue, 15 Aug 2017 16:34:08 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.518097 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Also yes, it was that common when I was at Ft. Bragg. Again, it could've been that Bragg and being Airborne Infantry was just especially shitty or something, but you should probably consider against your decision to join.

apathy by Fanny Goodforth - Wed, 09 Aug 2017 00:46:22 EST ID:tUH6IwKZ No.518004 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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its not that i'm really dead inside, its just i feel like i have no drive other than these short bursts (usually thanks to weed for making things tolerable and more fun) but mostly as of late I've been just cruising in life not really caring where i'm headed, like sure i want to continue getting my degree so i can get a career and live, and sure i would love a significant other and earn thousands or whatever but i'm totally okay with sustaining the life i already have currently. my mother thinks this is depression talking, like i feel like have no aspirations, because i feel like i got shot down too many times to even care at this point, even tho i do have dreams i just don't hold them as tightly as i used to or i just don't really care for anymore other than me, and even then i don't really care.

i just feel numb unless i'm high
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Fanny Billingville - Sat, 12 Aug 2017 03:28:41 EST ID:tUH6IwKZ No.518044 Ignore Report Quick Reply
[OP] i know what you mean, i feel most genuine and quicker on weed, probably because it helps my ADD/mental handicaps but there is that level of complacency it creates but for me i've created it into a motivating system at times when i went to the gym or trying to focus on a project, but me being ADD I can't stick with anything because I always find something else that might be cool to do, so I end up having a ton of side projects.
Ernest Dregglechetch - Sat, 12 Aug 2017 12:15:32 EST ID:Bzabghvi No.518052 Ignore Report Quick Reply
This is probably gonna sound stupid, every life comes with a death sentence. So make it what you will and if you want to sit around and smoke weed all day, that's fine.
Could be you need to cut back or take a break from the weed, re-evaluate what matters to you. Spend a few days thinking what's your end-game. What do you really want and who do you want to be. Even if it sounds unrealistic. Make small steps and celebrate every time you get closer. Life doesn't come with a purpose, we make it what we will, you can choose to be apathetic and depressed every single day and nothing will ever be handed to you. Motivation is key, find something that motivates you, maybe pussy, or finding "true love", or money, status. Whatever it is find that motivation and grab it by the balls.
Emma Lightdock - Sat, 12 Aug 2017 21:11:53 EST ID:tUH6IwKZ No.518058 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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[OP] I value what you say, but at this point and time (up until I get my degree) I don't think I can think of next big goals, right now I will say I am going to try and volunteer at this local radio station and hopefully that fuels something because while I agree that re-evaluation is a very powerful and key thing to do, and i always had places to go/a dream, but that was, what felt, quickly dashed away from me by outside forces and realization that I have mental handicaps.

Basically, I really wanted to go to any liberal arts school and try at anything, as I was getting into behind the scenes in production in high school from learning about music production to self-teaching myself film to volunteering at a local station and always wanting to be part of entertainment in any degree since i was a kid was my fuel and a lot of key interests in that umbrella, but it was up until speaking with the parents on college they really just pushed me into a corner emotionally and mentally, and sorta physically, just by slimming my choices of where to go by my dad basically every chance he got would talk shit about my sister's choice of choosing a Liberal Arts out of state private school "wasting our money" and my mom would be like "oh no dear, you can't go out of state" or "oh no dear, not a private school, that's way too expensive" and even "oh no dear, don't forget you have ADD, dyslexia, dysgraphia, and a bunch of other brain chemical imbalancement issues like depression, bipolar, schizophrenia handicaps" and on top of me not having the best HS GPA (I was a solid B- student) and SAT score I wasn't going anywhere and every time being just being reminded of all of that just felt like another blow to the chest to me. I just took everything so goddamn personally that I just gave up. But like I said, I'm doing different things especially now mixing volunteering + school, I'm just hoping this doesn't just make me buckle under the pressure.
Reuben Sanderspear - Sat, 12 Aug 2017 23:03:44 EST ID:ehhnNOgT No.518059 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Yeah, I have ADD and bipolar II (although I am very rarely hypomanic) and this all sounds very familiar. It's fucked up how your parents knocked down your self esteem like that. I never had to deal with that. The depression, the apathy, the lack of motivation and emptiness, dropping out and restarting college (and dropping out again in my case), that I know well though.

All I can tell you is that it's depression and you need to do something to stave it off or it will destroy you. when I get depressed, my mind and body start slowing down and I stop moving and lay in bed and do nothing but browse the internet. Don't let it get that bad. You need to keep busy and not give in to the apathy or else you will reach a tipping point and it will take you. You're on the right track, don't give in. Eventually it will pass if you keep yourself in an environment where it can pass. The only thing that solidifies the depression is stagnating.
James Brookforth - Sun, 13 Aug 2017 15:43:18 EST ID:s6mTMbsc No.518072 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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[OP] thanks man, it is a little reassuring to me that I am not alone because one thing I always had growing up was that I was just like everybody else because I was able to meet the average expectations of the "normal kids" too, and sure I knew I had ADD growing up (and slowly let out being known I had other learning disabilities) but to just be held down like that after years of flourishing and progressing it just felt like an immediate halt on everything, like i had hit a brick wall or that the paths felt way narrower and felt more enclosed.

And I agree that I do need something to putoff the depression, I was numbing it with weed but didn't care for anything else up until recently and having to do/trying other things and somehow trying to step out of it.

Another problem I have is that I'm in my head a lot, and I don't outwardly show emotion or at least suppress anything negative (which is also why I super appreciate the internet + this board/site in particular because you can stay anonymous and vent through while also connecting to other bodies who want to chime in). I grew up in a very courteous home of knowing your place and if you do take a stand you might as well back it up or expect some recoil, so I just always minded my own business and stayed in my own confines out of respect of others, because I felt like my baggage would become a burden of others as that soon became too real to me when I lost 2 of my best friends because first one felt like I was burden to being around with to the point of sending me a tirade of a text about it (like 3-4 text paragraphs about how he hates being around me) and then years later losing another friend because he had his own manic breakdown and decided to go into hiding and just avoid me for whatever reason and haven't really confronted me since flatly telling me we're no longer friends in a text even tho I tried my best in texting him back trying to rope him back in with some goof memes like we used to, but now I've accepted the first friend just turned into an asshole and the second one has his own issues and just wish I could continue our friendship because I've honestly never had long term frie…
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bunch of fucking bullshit by Hedda Wundermodging - Fri, 28 Jul 2017 09:56:28 EST ID:8j33xjOy No.517729 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Due to anxiety issues I haven't had any physical romantic interaction until 19. After that prostitutes and hookups with trannies until 25 when I decided to make some changes in my life. I'm much better today mentally and in a lot of others ways too.
I still haven't completely got rid of my habits, and had two relationships with girls I wasn't really attracted too in the last two years (both lasted about 3 months). 27 atm.
In the last month I met twice with a girl who I was attracted to, and who seemed to be attracted to me. She said from the start she wasn't looking for anything serious and we did drugs (mdma) when we met for the first time then the second time smoked weed and watched shows. We kissed but nothing beyond that even though she told me she was attracted to me and we talked about our sexual fetishes.
We were supposed to meet today. I sent her "good morning :) how are you?", she replies "fine, you?", I reply "I'm good. Currently at work, I'm free after 8. You?" at which point she blocked me.
So now I'm feeling like what the fuck is even the point of all these "positive" fucking changes exactly? I know this is just some 21 year old girl who met with other men at the same time and who because of more experience fucked her after two hours of talking to her because they know how to make a woman REALLY feel good and sexually attracted to them. I suffered less with the prostitutes you know? Those feelings of guilt and "I'm not a man if I pay for sex" well big fucking deal. This doesn't compare to it. I know what I lack and how the fuck am I gonna make up for 11 years or so years of lost experience? Shit's important. Crucial actually, I am COMPLETELY FUCKED.
Why put myself in these situations? All those changes that supposedly got me to have an attractive girl come over are nothing if I don't know what to do with her right? This will just keep happening. I thought I was on the right track but this existence is hell.
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Polly Cherrystone - Fri, 11 Aug 2017 17:35:21 EST ID:OPF34NwC No.518034 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I am going through similar problems myself. Although, I never used prostitutes or hooked up trannies. I'm trying to get in shape and take up more hobbies but I feel nothing will make up for my lack of experience and social awkwardness. I really wish there was something I could do. Also, it sucks she did that to you. Why can't people just be more straight forward?
Fucking Shakeworth - Fri, 11 Aug 2017 22:06:49 EST ID:mv6CynSU No.518042 Ignore Report Quick Reply
A lot of people on here seem to overestimate the importance of sexual experience. There are millions of dudes out there who genuinely believe they are great in bed, but suck. They jackhammer fuck a girl for 5 minutes and cum, then ask her if she enjoyed herself... Or there's guys who believe they have *the* technique down that works on every woman. Protip, the same technique is definitely not going to work on every girl.

There are very experienced people who are very bad at sex. You're creating this story in your head about your inexperience and you're using it to explain your failures with women. Who cares if some random girl you hung out with twice ghosted you? On to the next one. Keep at it. I have a friend who busted within 30 seconds in his current gf of 1 1/2 years. It's not the end of the world if you fuck up in the sack lol. Happens to everyone sometimes. Just chalk it up to experience and try again.
Nell Honnerstad - Sat, 12 Aug 2017 00:57:09 EST ID:MUKKLYzW No.518043 Ignore Report Quick Reply
On the one hand they know other people on the other it's taking up a lot of time and it still leads to comittment and commitment where you can't satisfy something outside of the same communication. Even with yourself it's often how people end up in this state because it's like a comparison in commitment being filled so they often don't pursue other things because of how much time this takes.
Ernest Dregglechetch - Sat, 12 Aug 2017 11:59:56 EST ID:Bzabghvi No.518051 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Are you insecure around women? Not trying to be a dick but they can smell that shit like a dog smells fear. You almost have to treat them like shit alittle to keep their interest, the ideal is to have them to feel how you do now. Keep stringing them along and eventually they will chase you. No smilies either till you've atleast got to first base, be the one to message her minimally then reply hours later saying you were 'busy' with whatever explaniation you need to further the goal of her believing you to be of high status/importance. Bitches love to feel important, it reflects in their choices in guys i.e. "chads"
Fucking Shakeworth - Sat, 12 Aug 2017 15:31:45 EST ID:mv6CynSU No.518056 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Eh, it's not so much that they need to "feel important", or that they can "smell fear", it's just that they want a masculine presence. Not like a dick waving chad type, necessarily, just someone who's not intimidated by them. Think about what it'd be like to be feminine, you want someone masculine who can take control sorta and lead things. If you're not that, she doesn't want to have to teach you to be a man and lead.

On the other hand, girls tend to fall in love slowly over time. They get freaked out if a guy comes on too strong. Like, wow, I just met this guy and he's already catching feelings. He barely knows me and he's getting all attached already... Slow your roll. Hang out, have fun, hook up, and don't worry about anything relationship-like. That's her job. She'll let you know if she wants to get serious. Your job is to just facilitate fun and sex.

I've heard recommendations that you should only hit a girl up to hang out like once a week, and only more than that if she starts texting or calling you first. Which is an okay rule I think, because it prevents you from over-pursuing.

my brain is broken by Nicholas Saddlefoot - Thu, 03 Aug 2017 18:10:51 EST ID:NoKU4Mj+ No.517876 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Help me. I have a seriously neurotic preoccupation with sex and romantic relationships. I literally spend a large proportion of my waking day tormenting myself by repeatedly telling myself that I'll *NEVER* have a satisfying/happy sexual or romantic relationship, that I can never even vaguely hope to please a woman physically or emotionally, that I'm alone and will always be alone because I'm a useless impotent pathetic loser with no redeeming qualities, and reinforcing this to myself by comparing myself to what I think women find attractive and noting how I have none of these qualities.

I.... I genuinely have many other concerns, hobbies, interests, aspirations, desires in life that I consciously recognise as more important... but it won't go away and it sucks the motivation to engage with these things.

Had a gf *once* who I only got because we shared a property and eventually fell in love... to this day I still find myself genuinely telling myself that I only got her because I unwittingly utilised some kind of 'magic' or supernatural force because I was so desperate to have her.....
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Fucking Shakeworth - Fri, 11 Aug 2017 21:54:19 EST ID:mv6CynSU No.518039 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Pretty much this. I'm not saying you should disregard the girls pleasure, but if you're not enjoying yourself it's gonna be pretty hard for it to be a good experience for either of you anyway. Half the fun is getting into a sort of "flow" state where you're enjoying it for you. I've had multiple girls tell me they get off a lot easier when they can tell the guy is enjoying eating her out. Just have fun. Spend less time penetrating her and more time with the buildup and anticipation aspects.

Most girls can't even get off from penetration alone, so if that's your only problem then calm the fuck down lol. Just learn how to use your fingers and mouth.
Fucking Shakeworth - Fri, 11 Aug 2017 21:57:46 EST ID:mv6CynSU No.518040 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Oh and I'd recommend changing your masturbation habits. Consider quitting porn for a while and jerk off for no less than 15 minutes at a time. If you're getting close, stop and calm down and then keep going. This is called edging. I'd also recommend getting a fleshlight. Maybe the stamina training unit. Practice on that. When you find yourself in an intimate situation, try to calm way down and release all the tension. If you can't get it up, just starting sucking her tits and making out and focusing on the sensations for your own pleasure, and you'll get it up in no time. It's the anxiety that's killing you...
Beatrice Blackfuck - Fri, 11 Aug 2017 22:03:13 EST ID:T7a0Mglx No.518041 Ignore Report Quick Reply

>How do you have no sensitivity and premature ejaculation?

most of the time when i would put it in i'll start pumping and then after like 10-20 seconds notice that i can't really feel anything, then i'll keep trying, but nope, still can't really feel anything, then i'll notice that because i can't really feel anything and it just feels like i'm fucking air, my dick has gone soft and i'll pull it out in a floppy state. this is totally bareback btw, my ex hated condoms so we never used them.... i'm not sure how i never got her pregnant but i honestly wonder whether she was infertile...

with regard to PE, on the odd occasion that i did manage to maintain an erection, as soon as it started to feel vaguely pleasurable (just like "oh this feels kinda warm and nice i guess" not "OMG MUH DICK MMMMM") i would pretty much always cum within 5-10 seconds. most of the time i wouldn't cum and would just lose erection very quickly and be unable to get it back up

>Anyway I suggest one night stands, possibly with hookers

not a bad idea but i'm in a lotta debt with fuckall income and simply can't afford them. with regard to pulling girls, i'm a turboautist w/ severe social anxiety with basically no friends or social skills and have recently moved back in with my parents, so that's basically a no go. plus i don't think there's anywhere i could meet women to pull that wouldn't have social repercussions for me (i.e. the girls being friends with people i know).

i think i have a genuine phobia of sex so i don't think more sex would help (especially bad sex). it's kind of a catch 22. i will cross the road to avoid attractive women or anything that reminds me sex is a thing.
Charlotte Blarringbury - Sat, 12 Aug 2017 13:44:42 EST ID:8tAx6kVt No.518054 Ignore Report Quick Reply
My previous comments were related to a post I thought I'd made but hadn't. I wasn't even on drugs. Shit

But I think some of this is in your head. I mean maybe the circumcision was utterly botched because it reduces sensitivity, not destroys it. But I feel it's more likely you are so hung up on this and sex that you cannot get in the zone. I think a lot of people never enter certain states of mind or rarely do and never realise the power it has over your dick.

See a doctor, make sure you are pushed down a path that eliminates or identifies causes, be persistent.
Samuel Wazzlechedging - Sat, 12 Aug 2017 15:01:49 EST ID:ehhnNOgT No.518055 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>just like "oh this feels kinda warm and nice i guess" not "OMG MUH DICK MMMMM"

hate to break it to you, but that's all pussy feels like for everyone. It's just warm and wet and not really very tight (unless you have a giant dick I guess). Almost everyone I know was disappointed by what pussy feels like. It doesn't stimulate you nearly as much as your hand does. I usually cum after a short time too but I just chill for a few minutes and we go again and I last longer. Women don't mind if you cum quickly because it just makes them feel hot and sexy and if you've done plenty of foreplay they will be satisfied, especially if you're up for round 2 after a few minutes. I could never fap twice in a row but with a girl it's different.

I really don't think that your issues are going to be that big of a deal to a lot of women as long as you're open with them, many of them would be happy to help you through them, especially if they've already developed feelings for you. Don't let this put you off pursuing a girlfriend by convincing yourself that every girl is going to reject you because of your hangups because that's just not true. Many girls don't even like having sex that much and would rather just make out and cuddle, and many girls especially don't care for penis in vagina sex since many of them feel pretty much nothing from it. You are definitely making this out to be a bigger deal than it actually is. Once you get used to it and the nerves go away you probably won't have any issues staying hard and you'll begin to enjoy yourself. Don't give up hope.

Estranged from family by Thundercunt Jackson - Sat, 15 Jul 2017 20:23:11 EST ID:GV9SUhOg No.517470 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've more or less decided that it's for the best if I disappear from my family. My siblings were the only point to stick around any of them, really, but it's becoming clear that they don't want me around.

For those of you that left your families:

>Why did you do it?

>What impact did you have on you in the short term?

>Long term?

>Do you regret it? Why?

>Any advice in general.
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Isabella Lightville - Thu, 20 Jul 2017 08:04:49 EST ID:jPpWgI0N No.517553 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>Why did you do it?
They're horrible people. Won't have civil arguments to hash out ideas. They don't have the spirit for that. They just shut down if you challenge their ideas, but not until after screaming at you for a while and then go "Really *your name here*, you're so RIDICULOUS sometimes.". Only one I talk to still is my mom, and even she's a stupid, arrogant, manipulative, short sighted bitch. But she gives me money so I put up with it.

>What impact did you have on you in the short term?
Anxiety. Anger. Confusion about why they acted like they did. I knew if I asked I would never get an answer. Because I had already tried. They gaslit me "I have NO idea what you're EVEN talking about right now. You're being absurd. Where is this coming from?" etc. etc. Finally I accepted it like how I accepted when my friends died. It's like an early death. I might see them again one day, but I really, really doubt any good would come of it, I think it would just be another massive, gigantic disappointment. A soul crushing one.

>Long term?
It's been about 4 years since I cut contact. I still think about my family sometimes. I'm still bitter. They planted a malice in me, a hatred. Many lessons of rage were learned through my exposure to these people. Getting over that is hardest.

>Do you regret it? Why? Sometimes. But like I said before, I think regretting it is stupid when I believe that reconnecting would be a disappointment. A soul crushing one.

>Any advice in general. Stay strong. Oh, and no one is coming. No one is coming to help you. So you better help yourself. I'm serious, get this through your head. No one is coming to help you.
Hannah Hangerdon - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 09:26:37 EST ID:ElgF+aL7 No.517581 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Why did you do it?
They are vehemently anti-drug and drugs are a major part of my life. They don't respect a single word that comes out of my mouth despite being a self-sufficient contributing member of society for nearly a decade.

>What impact did you have on you in the short term?
Didn't have to call them a couple times a month.

>Long term?
Didn't have to call them on holidays.

>Do you regret it? Why?
Not at all. They didn't really contribute to my well-being in any way. In fact, they actively tried to harm and hinder me most of my life.

>Any advice in general.
Cut toxic people out of your life. If some of those people happen to be blood relatives, cut them out of your life.
Emma Dunningtock - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 13:02:12 EST ID:FWuws5/2 No.517587 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Why did you do it?
They left my cats outside during the winter and they froze to death, their reply was "Well you should have had your own house for them" (I was 19)

>What impact did you have on you in the short term?
Unlimited freedom, and nightmares

>Long term?
Too much righteousness. Too big of an Ego. I really thought I was doing it, I really really did.

>Do you regret it? Why?
The entire shape of my fathers head changed because of the stress it put on his frontal lobe, and half of my moms face is droopy now that I've talked to her again.

>Any advice in general.
Don't spitefully abandon. Remove yourself if you need to, deny contact if you need to, but never abandon. Keep tabs, Keep the love of the family in your mind. Even if they are not taking the responsibility to keep the thing together, you can state yourself as a mentor that watches over them and hopes for the best.
Cornelius Hasslemick - Fri, 11 Aug 2017 19:43:03 EST ID:EjIWkbUT No.518036 Ignore Report Quick Reply

dont have my own experience to add but I just wanna say this is a really level headed and good way to look at it imo.
Hannah Buzzspear - Fri, 11 Aug 2017 21:12:08 EST ID:AyQAwRmK No.518037 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Why did you do it?
My step father didnt want me there.

>What impact did you have on you in the short term?
Not much, I just said to my self better grab my self from my boot straps. And took the plunge with just 200 dollars in my pocket and a shitty job at the beginning.

>Long term?
It's been about 5 years.

>Do you regret it? Why?
No, it made me a better person. First two years were hard, but I worked and had some support from my mother and siblings. Bought a 2015 Mazda 3, and now I am in good terms with my step father. But, it seems my other siblings are having trouble with him now.

>Do you regret it? Why?
No, I dont. When you're stuck in corner and have no other options and you look back a few years, you say to yourself how far you have come and look back that you did it.
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Working with Depression by Beatrice Gunderforth - Thu, 10 Aug 2017 22:23:31 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.518026 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey guys, long time lurker, occasional asshole.

I've been learning alot about depression this year, as I've had a lot of time on my hands. I was 'let go' this year in January from a company that I had invested 4 years in. Started a relationship around the time I started working there, first career job I ever had, got it before I graduated from college.

At first everything was pretty sweet. Then the mandatory overtime happened, I learned that the company was built on government contract fraud, it was part of my job to continue the fraud, and my relationship went toxic after about a year. In the last year, the company was sold, 20% of the company either left or was fired including the majority of my friends, and I was trying to leave.

I hated working there but I kept doing it. I hated my relationship but I kept doing it. Well they helped me out the door in the end, and I eventually got the balls to tell my gf that I didn't love her anymore and that I was done with the relationship. Which is weird because I'm currently living with her and we're friends now.

Anyways, I hit the gate running, I was really good at my job and was absolutely sure I was going to land on my feet. I got a ton of interviews and was excited to get my offers to all the greener grass on the horizon. Then I fucked up the first one. Then I didn't get an offer on the next. Then that business was failing and didn't offer health insurance.

Dozens of interviews later, I'm playing video games all day every day and paying the bills with my unemployment checks. I stopped caring about my hobbies, I stopped showering regularly, I stop eating regularly, I stopped caring about others, I stopped caring about myself. Everything took too much effort to start, except for cracking open beer after beer and turning on the ps4.

Well, one day, when the unemployment was ready to run dry, I found a side job to work; on a construction contracting job. It paid well and was off the books, and with no income, I jumped right into it. I'm not accustomed to manual labor so it was slow going at first, but after a week, I was becoming a machine. So now I'm doing construction every day, I come home dirty and sweaty as shit, but I feel great, I'm showering every day, I'm eating regularly again, I'm getting interviews again, and my gaming time dropped off the map.

Then one day, the head contractor get pancreatitis and liver failure due to his drinking problem. I can't do the job without his knowledge, so the job ends. Plus I get sidestepped on my best interview ever for someone with 15 years experience over me. I start gaming all day every day again, I stop eating, showering, caring about shit, I'm back at square one.
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Edward Cranninghutch - Fri, 11 Aug 2017 00:46:59 EST ID:/brn2RiX No.518028 Ignore Report Quick Reply
i have a friend who is chinese who told me a nice little story that is thousands of years old.

there was once a man who lived a life more or less similar to yours. depressed, disheveled, unmotivated, frustrated. one day, on his birthday, his friend gave him a houseplant with pretty flowers. he took it home and placed it on his table. however looking at the plant, he thought to himself, "this plant is so pleasant to look at, but the messy table it is on spoils the view." so without much thought, he cleaned and tidied the table the plant was on. he then thought, "well the table is neat and the plant looks good, but this dirty room makes the table look bad." so he tidied up the whole room. so it went with the rest of his house, and eventually, other aspects of his life such as socializing, advancing in work, and so on, until he became a happy and productive man, achieving his goals.

i dont mean to sound condescending or disrespect your depression, but this little story is one that i think about often. i didnt tell it very well but you get the basic gist of it. this is the same as when military men talk about the importance of making your bed, because you are accomplishing that first tiny task of the day, which gives you the satisfaction and confidence to complete others.

so my advice to you would be to work on the tiny things and just focus on those. you mentioned your hygiene and diet had begun to slip, focus on just making those better, then once that is in line maybe work on reinvolving yourself with hobbies, or whatever you think would be the "next-smallest thing".

maybe its cliche but i find this type of thinking helpful when i feel stuck
Lillian Grandwill - Fri, 11 Aug 2017 01:38:38 EST ID:MUKKLYzW No.518029 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You.re leaving out the part where the flower is there and he does that to help the flower.

Or else we would be moralizing against the old man the whole time
Beatrice Gunderforth - Fri, 11 Aug 2017 10:15:06 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.518030 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Nah man, what I was trying to say was that finally doing something for myself, keeping active, is helping me cope with something that's probably never going to go away.
Beatrice Gunderforth - Fri, 11 Aug 2017 10:21:04 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.518031 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Thanks for the story, I'll have to look it up. It does seem obvious, but I don't find the idea condescending. I think the metaphor will speak more if I internalize it.
John Puddlestit - Fri, 11 Aug 2017 12:34:52 EST ID:8tAx6kVt No.518032 Ignore Report Quick Reply
There's some truth to it. When you're depressed because you have frail self esteem and your life sucks which is not all depression but definitely a big chunk of sufferers tiny steps is usually the way out.

The other half is resilience though. Not just coasting on your ego. I mean knowing how to pick yourself up is probably the realistic compromise. You'll never be rid of the problem but you can get good at putting it away and suffering less from it.


Good diet, sleep and exercise will always help with anything. They won't often cure it without being part of a bigger plan but they are always worth it.

Loving someone with imposter syndrome and depression by Samuel Surringdock - Mon, 07 Aug 2017 02:02:23 EST ID:PGt0SF4C No.517966 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I know the basics of depression, just looking for general tips for helping them.
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Lydia Nicklelock - Thu, 10 Aug 2017 00:16:33 EST ID:PGt0SF4C No.518017 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Shes been alone for about 4 years.
I know, I usually only do it normally, not excessive. She tells me the compliments do nothing but I more or less just reinforce it by supporting her, not with words, which she also has a hard time accepting or feels like she doesn't deserve it.
Lillian Murddale - Thu, 10 Aug 2017 12:35:10 EST ID:8tAx6kVt No.518020 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I wonder if it's possible encourage without praising her directly and thus avoid her imposter syndrome. Like tell her she's doing well, or that such and such a thing is good or that this was a good choice. I'm not an expert on it and I doubt you can be heavy handed but you might be able to at least encourage her to keep taking the right actions and feel good about herself more by not directly complimenting her. I mean she can't imposter actions she did. I'm not sure where the line between low self esteem, self doubt and thinking everyone's opinion of you is too high and impostor syndrome is drawn but I've definitely experienced the former and feeling proud of my achievements and values helped me diminish it a bit.
Lydia Nicklelock - Thu, 10 Aug 2017 14:06:49 EST ID:PGt0SF4C No.518021 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I praise objective ideas, actions and accomplishments that can't really be argued against, she likes that part about me because she feels she can actualize her accomplshments when I list them and show them in a measured fashion :)
Cornelius Nivingdale - Thu, 10 Aug 2017 22:05:31 EST ID:dYl1dlye No.518025 Ignore Report Quick Reply
*bad advice
John Puddlestit - Fri, 11 Aug 2017 12:37:50 EST ID:8tAx6kVt No.518033 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I think it's bad advice that might be good advice in a 6-12 months if she has made no change at all.

i hate existance by Doris Clayhall - Sat, 05 Aug 2017 11:40:46 EST ID:bwJOb6Ln No.517904 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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  • I learned we all fight very hard to change ourselves and then only change when our hormonal or neurotransmitter levels allow us to anyway. Alex could have spent time trying to become a more peaceful person, or the government could have tortured him into it, or he could have just left himself do whatever he felt like, and whatever anyone done he'd always have ended up peaceful at the end of a Clockwork Orange. I knew that was true for violence, because I took the book literally, I didn't realize it was true of everything.

  • I learned you don't actually have a choice about all that shit you hate. If you try to get out someone will latch onto you and drag you down with them and you'll end up watching TV on a Saturday afternoon like every other moron who thought there might be something more to life. And then I guess at some point you figure, what is more horrible, spending my free time doing this or wiping shit off the back legs of a tiny human, so you decide to start a family.

  • teenage angst turned out not to be a phase, it just takes on a form that is easier to hide and thus more socially acceptable

I don't need help. This is a rant. Fuck all of us.
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Jarvis Bummlefag - Sun, 06 Aug 2017 20:10:07 EST ID:eyDxli5a No.517961 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Sounds like you need to read some more books, if just Clockwork Orange sat with you that heavily. I wholeheartedly support a fellow misanthrope in their descent into isolation, so I'm going to recommend you read some EM Cioran. Philosopher who wrote extensively about misanthropy. Also look up Eugene Thacker. Good luck OP.
James Tillingworth - Mon, 07 Aug 2017 08:06:06 EST ID:bwJOb6Ln No.517974 Ignore Report Quick Reply
blow job OP? What? I've never made a thread about a blowjob.. you realize IDs constantly change, right?
John Shittingshit - Wed, 09 Aug 2017 05:21:07 EST ID:1gcsG7N9 No.518005 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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I like your last point, but I think your first point is trash and the second one requires a bit more explaining.

It seems like you're confusing your own personal observations with some sort of objectivity. You might find someone else in the world that you agree with about a few things, then try and share these opinions IRL. You will be surprised how effective it is at helping you cope with the sad joke that is human consciousness.
Thomas Sasslechut - Wed, 09 Aug 2017 12:17:27 EST ID:MUKKLYzW No.518006 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Psychdelics would be good for anyone in this case because it realizes plurality. Effusive and diffusive is accepted.

Weed however is not as easy and often starts this after being a particular boon to it.

Because being stuck in a scenario takes meanings and effort to notice possibilities within that lead to development or escape or possibilities from the outside. or fresh eyes.

But it tends to open up one side of you to broad strokes and infinite customization. But while it's a gift for wedding practice to habit and knowledge to second nature giving you wings. It also causes aches and overthinking from preference the angst becomes more angsty.

You experience the same deconstruction of an answer but the opposite tightening of a conclusion of categories to keep you in one answer.

it's not the best for dealing with social dichotemy and the culture isn't always the best at realizing the psychdelic part of form and void, that could get you stuck in one side or the other of all or nothing black and white thinking. They often do become nihilist to just be trending one extreme to the other. But you have to constantly think conciously to realize a third perspective between the poles or a method of deferrence in the constant introducing of a platonic ideal as symbol and then the problem of it as a means of chatty kathiesm.

qq is more trying to go on the voyage and collect the notes, but it's important to not categorize so easily.
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Jack Soblingshaw - Wed, 09 Aug 2017 12:23:12 EST ID:PGt0SF4C No.518007 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Nothing has an inherent meaning which means I can assign meaning to it.

I assign meaning to my life by doing what I want and becoming the best in what I wish to.

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