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I SEE IT COMING. by Cornelius Singershit - Mon, 18 Dec 2017 18:38:24 EST ID:HHQvW8eY No.520722 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm generally a mellow person. I get my bad moods, and sometimes my good moods (though good moods for me are generally short lived or otherwise are good simply because there's a total absence of bad in the moment. I love dissociatives cause they do just that).

But I feel like, for years now, my bad moods are getting badder and badder. These days they can happen out of the blue for without even a trigger, sometimes (more often now) they don't go away until I sleep it off, and I get a more dreadful outlook on life every time I'm in the mindset. I'm not suicidal, but I feel like it may slowly creep towards that path one day. These occurrences are not frequent enough to cripple my living/lifestyle in any significant manner, though it does suck to even have to happen.

Anyone in/have been in the same boat? I don't ask for a magic answer to fix it, but getting your 2 cents is nice to hear.


PS I don't intend to see a professional until this becomes an actually debilitating problem. I'm looking to divert from this path before that happens
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Shitting Bashridge - Mon, 18 Dec 2017 21:38:41 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.520723 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520722
I feel like we're headed towards complete societal collapse for a great many reasons. People just keep on heading down the same self destructive path, spurred on by selfishness and greed. Humans are cattle and we're being worked like slaves to satisfy the egos of a few psychopaths. Evil is destroying the world, quite literally. People just tune out the fact that global warming is actually set to destroy the Earth and they keep living their lives as if nothing needs to change. I don't know how you can live in this world and not be depressed unless you just stop thinking about anything that doesn't personally affect you. I guess that's what most people do, but that's precisely what's dooming us all. I don't think I could do it, not after going down the rabbit holes I've been down and thinking about the things I've thought about. I just want to save the world from itself, but how can a single speck of dirt ever hope to change the flow of the river?
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Archie Settingstock - Tue, 19 Dec 2017 00:59:41 EST ID:bq0BWImf No.520725 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520723
>>520722

Just about every human life is going to contain a whole lot of unavoidable suffering and there’s no real reason for it or any real sense to any of this. If your very depressed with human existence then it’s probably only because you’re seeing that it’s objectively tragic.

But you can learn to live with that knowledge and still find a degree of fulfillment or even happiness. Stuff like fine literature, philosophy and art all can help you learn how you might do that: Or at the very least get other people’s two cents from across the centuries and help you feel less alone in this.

It’s also always worth trying out therapy if you can afford it, there’s no shame in it, we all need someone to talk to about this stuff and the people in our lives aren’t always ideal for these sorts of problems.
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John Porringfoot - Tue, 19 Dec 2017 01:46:17 EST ID:HHQvW8eY No.520730 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520723
>>520725

Well, you guys definitely seem to be on to something here. Most of my bad moods end up with me sitting on the pointlessness and fleeting nature of reality itself and the magnitude of how insignificant this one life is in regards to literally... anything else. It's uplifting at certain times, and debilitating during others. Depends how I take it in that moment. Dunno.
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Cornelius Trotwill - Tue, 19 Dec 2017 14:32:51 EST ID:8E4SW0cF No.520732 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520730
If you want to work out how to deal with this problem you probably want to see if there's a pattern to how they start. I find that if I drink too often I have a mediocre time at some point and as the alcohol level drops it can hit me pretty hard. It sounds dumb and it's not the only trigger but I looked for things that linked my episodes then I looked for patterns in those and started to get a bit of a handle on my moods. Some of it was just not pointlessly mulling on things I can't change, stuff like that.

I did also get therapy and unpick some of my problems but you're not up for that yet. I'd stop before debilitating because I was damaging friendships long before that point.


Help with Histrionic Personality disorder by Phoebe Dungerstone - Tue, 12 Dec 2017 02:46:42 EST ID:JI9kO00V No.520625 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So, to keep it short. I'm 100% convinced I live with and indulge HPD(Histrionic Personality Disorder).
I'm urged to share my life story. But I will lie at some point.

Simply, it becomes easy to seek the thrill, because I've experienced some real trauma in life. So it's like having an infinite ammo cheat on a video game. Especially because I have suffered many levels of trauma in my life. Makes it easy to exaggerate or act I guess?

Sure, I have my depression and such. But it is fairly tolerable. In fact, my trauma only served to strengthen me. I can handle some really stressful stuff, and sometimes lack empathy as a negative result (I think I am attention seeking here, take it with a grain).

So what can I do, or should I do to better myself, for people around me? I've read the basic stuff you can find online, but now it even has me paranoid to open my mouth about anything more than general info. I think it's at least going to help me to keep my outbursts in check.

I guess, how can I train myself to be more invested in other people and their interests? Im not sure if I really care to begin with, or I like keeping people who give me attention around so much so that I dont realize I share little in common.

Is it possible to make up for being a bad person in this manner? Because I think all I've done all my life, is manipulate peoples feelings to give me attention. To the point I'd actually believe my symptoms were real.

Only time I've been genuine, is here on this board, once. I've come here before to seek that oh so good validation. And only broke down the details of my trauma honestly here, driven by feelings of suicide, generated by my sick need for attention. Sometimes, I dont know if any of my depression, or outbursts are valid. I can get so caught up in my performance, I begin to become confused on the trigger, and validity of my thoughts and feelings.
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Clara Dippershaw - Wed, 13 Dec 2017 01:02:30 EST ID:JI9kO00V No.520636 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520635
Also, please call me out on anything you think I'm doing that is bullshit. I need to know every thing I can about my faults, and my ego wont always let me become aware of them. Maybe my disagreeance with my doc is denying something wrong with me? He DOES have a lot of time on the job.
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Clara Greenbury - Wed, 13 Dec 2017 05:24:45 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.520640 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It's way too easy to self-diagnose a personality disorder based on mayoclinic and the DSM pdf you pirated.

Take it from someone who knows, you need professional advice before you can start declaring yourself fucked. Multiple opinions. Long-term talk therapy. It's the only way.

You sound like someone who's been traumatized, and your reactions are not dissimilar from most people who have been abused during development. People who get abused seek positive reinforcement very eagerly. And if society does not provide, they will learn to manipulate to get results. This isn't histronics, this is attachment theory. Everyone wears a mask, but they choose what the mask looks like.

You really don't understand. You don't want a major PD. Having a major PD in public record means you can kiss your career prospects, any hope for a good future, and any credibility in future court battles goodbye. It's like being a felon. You're monitored like a hawk, and nobody trusts a single word that comes from your mouth. And that's for life. nb
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Clara Dippershaw - Wed, 13 Dec 2017 06:21:12 EST ID:JI9kO00V No.520641 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520640
Well, these are issues I've been pondering for months. I got the Borderline diagnosis in a mental ward after destroying all my property (it was r/o bordeline personality disorder). So while I'm not 100% certain of that or my PTSD (diagnosed). Something IS seriously wrong with my behavior.

And to be VERY clear. I don't want any type of diagnosis, and a parade to celebrate it. I just don't want to be toxic anymore. I stick to HPD simply due to the large amount of escapades I've been on, and the explicit detail I seem to be able to relate to ANYTHING I've read about it. However, I am also not under the impression, that a dsm 5, and any journal or article I can find, would trump an educated proffesional.

What can you suggest I do or say next time I see my doc?

In order to avoid attention. Most I will say about my childhood. Was I was treated in such a way. That I felt inferior to existence. Sort of a (you grow up, go to school, get married... But I wont, that's for ok people). I used to breakdown a lot, and explode, due to a sort of pure carnal rage I suppose. And I didnt have a way to get rid of it I guess? Nobody to talk to to process things?

I guess I'll be honest. It has all made me hate society, and the simple perception of rejection, feels worse than hearing traumatic news. It cripples me to the point simple sentences are effort. I spend the next 2-3 nights awake, staring at nothing in my living room, stuck in my head. Sometimes I look up and see the sun, next thing I know, I am out of my daydream and the sun is down (maybe twice it got this severe). But it 100% vanishes if I ignore it long enough. They are actually the same feelings I get when I "explode". And indulging those thoughts = feigned explosion.



Sorry for text walls by the way guys. Just a lot I want to figure out without compromising threads integrity.
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Henry Breffingford - Sat, 16 Dec 2017 20:11:37 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.520676 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520641

If you're diagnosed BPD you're already fucked. Expect a lifetime of being a second class citizen, nobody trusting you, and having to convince prospective employers you won't snap/go psycho on them.

I would go for DBT.
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Hannah Pinderbore - Sun, 17 Dec 2017 12:16:59 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.520701 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520625
You sound quite a bit like me up until very recently after a concussion I got 11 years ago fucked me up bad for... well, like 9-10 years. In ways I guess I'm still fucked up.

I'm not capable of caring about anything on an emotional level whatsoever... as a matter of fact, nothing has any kind of emotional impact on me at all any more. I'm not really capable of forming emotional bonds or attachments to anything, and I'm almost utterly incapable of feeling fear (at least when it comes to physical safety/harm), and as far as I've been able to tell, I actually am just incapable of experiencing grief.

For a long time, the lack of emotions or emotional reactions to things caused me to wantonly lie and manipulate people myself. Although, I didn't ever go out of my way to manipulate somebody, I only ever did it to avoid some problem or negative consequences for myself. I simply did not care enough about anything at all and was amotivational enough to boot that it would've been supremely too much effort to actually go out of my way to manipulate people for personal gain.

I guess you could say I was always trying to take the path of least resistance through literally everything I could, so if it meant lying or doing something morally questionable or even objectionable in order to do it, I hadn't any fucks to give. I started to believe I was a sociopath or something of that nature based on how easy it was for me to lie and manipulate people without remorse, along with not being able to feel emotions. Truthfully though, I was just grasping at straws--I needed to find a reason for why I was the way I was beyond recognizing the concussion fucked me up. I found the closest fit to it and clung on to it, and it affected my behavior and self perception negatively as a result.

Today I've overcome pretty much all of my psychological issues, barring my general lack of emotions, lack of fear of bodily injury/harm, inability to perceive any experience I have as traumatic in any capacity (idk, shit just happens... the fact that it will happen to you sometime is an inevitability, and so when it does there's nothing to be all that surprised or upset about), and…
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my gf has a demonic family by Edwin Honeyson - Thu, 14 Dec 2017 22:53:54 EST ID:HI0/afS9 No.520657 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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my gf has an extremely abusive mother and a father with no balls at all. her mother is a narcissist and interestingly there are many books, forums and complaints about this kind of mother on the internet. she's jealous of her own daughter, hits her, calls her fat (the mother is way fatter than my gf) calls her a whore, says she's going to kick her out of the house, she hit her with a boot on the head, made her bleed and her father covered up the story saying my gf fell down the stairs. she hit her daughter because I didn't call her Mrs, I treated her as an "equal". She never does it in front of me of course. She's a coward, she pretends to be a nice person, tells her 5 year old son to be careful about what he says to the psychologist of his school to "not make her look bad". She never confronts me directly or anyone equal or higher. she does all that shit to "educate" my gf, according to her, but we know it's just torture. the father sometimes disagrees with her stupidity but the cunt makes him feel guilty and he takes her side and never intervenes. he's a complete bitch. my gf cleans the house, cooks, takes care of her younger brother, works during the afternoon and studies law during the night, and the old hag says she doesn't do anything and that she is lazy (the skank rarely cleans the house and works 4 hours a day, and makes her daughter do paperwork for her, she even made her daughter write the report of her "phd" lmfao. The mother frequently grabsthe money of my gf. when my gf was sick she made her pay for all the meds. my gf makes 400 a month, spends 50 just to get to work and every month the old hag makes up an excuse to grab her money.

the thing is, my gf (20) doesn't do jackshit. she thinks her mother loves her and deep down she loves her back, because her mother brainwashed her into thinking she's doing this for her own good. she is terrified of being kicked out, she acts like she's a teenager, she prefers do endure it. of course, they are quite rich, her father pays her university, the mother makes her feel like a child and dependent, didn't let her study in a different city even though the other universities wer…
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Basil Sollerdon - Fri, 15 Dec 2017 01:28:06 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.520659 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>I'm not american
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Basil Sollerdon - Fri, 15 Dec 2017 07:33:13 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.520665 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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My demonic family has a gf.
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Hannah Sonningstock - Sat, 16 Dec 2017 22:33:54 EST ID:lXjUaJuo No.520677 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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My demonic gf has a family.
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Polly Bunford - Sun, 17 Dec 2017 04:15:12 EST ID:2cRqUGEL No.520684 Ignore Report Quick Reply
why are people being dicks?

OP, it fucking sucks, but only take her out of that environment when you can support her. If you're doing undergrad, focus on that, get that paper done, then get her out of that shithole for as long as possible
If you interact with your gf's little brother a lot, emphasise the importance of honesty, how good people say the right things. Don't go "rat on your mother" because that will only end badly for the entire family

> She never confronts me directly or anyone equal or higher
So confront her about it. Do it when you know you can take your gf away from that place, and confront the shit out of her. The mother knows she's doing bad things, otherwise she wouldn't tell her son to not say anything. A lifetime of abuse normalising the situation for your gf, and her meek dad means that woman has probably never seen real confrontation and has used her shitty personality and abusive traits to make people back down.
Call her out completely when this happens. Fuck to save the son you could probably report them to child protective services, but honestly a wake up call should be enough fro a while. Stand your ground, don't get angry. If she swings for you whatever you do DON'T SWING BACK. If she causes bruises or scratches that's all the more reason for outside people to get involved
Oh and of course consult your gf about all this beforehand. Like seriously she also needs to know how fucked up this is. She's 20. That's still quite young but it's an age parents need to start treating their kids like fucking adults.
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Hannah Pinderbore - Sun, 17 Dec 2017 07:58:33 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.520694 Ignore Report Quick Reply
My mom had the same type of family and parents. My mom herself is pretty emotionally abusive and has a lot of other problems, but it pretty much all stems from her own parents.

They were pretty much always obsessed with at least someone needing to take the blame for something when things went wrong (not responsibility, but harsh and unfair blame, mind you), and that usually wound up being my mom since she was the oldest. Her entire family is basically a bunch of narcissists and believe themselves to be pious and good people, but are the type of to shame and turn their backs on friends whose wives die and they decide to remarry because it goes against their beliefs (an actual example). Their entire family worshipped their father/my grandpa and they seriously believe he was one of the greatest and just good men to ever live. My grandma was molested as a girl and became a slut in highschool or something and when she met my grandpa she claims he "saved" her, so literally the entire family saw him as the next Jesus Christ.

In any case, my mom absolutely loves her family and parents despite how disgustingly toxic and abusive their relationship was when she was growing up. Rather than claim they really love her though and they don't mean to hurt her, it's more of a case that she believed that was the appropriate and proper way to instill discipline and raise a family (which you can imagine caused me my own problems, lol).

Honestly man, I've tried to change my mom for a long time. The only reason I've ever even tried is because she's my mom. I had a lot of the same psychological issues as her (go figure, she used the same style of parenting as she was raised with), and I've been able to, and I can say this pretty confidently now, work through all of them and master their influence over me and my life. My mom on the other hand is stuck in her ways, and I don't know if it's how old she is or just how deep her problems run, but I feel like there's not that significant of a chance your GF is going to be able to change. I mean, I'm a perfect example that you can get better, but I'm like one of the only people I know of that has managed to actually really do t…
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ear that change shape or just an asshole by Wesley Nicklehall - Sun, 17 Dec 2017 04:16:18 EST ID:62A+cndb No.520685 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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can your ears change shape without any reason when you are older since i've cutted my hair and i noticed my ears are really protunded and i never noticed this before
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Cedric Doddlefield - Sun, 17 Dec 2017 05:17:25 EST ID:+7RQKJal No.520686 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520685
First page of google "Bones, stop growing after puberty and muscle and fat cells also stop dividing. But cartilage - that's the plastic-like stuff in ears and noses - cartilage continues to grow until the day you die. Not only does cartilage grow, but the earlobes elongate from gravity. And that makes ears look even larger.Dec 15, 2009
Noses and Ears Continue"

And this belongs on /med/


White knight pushed past limits. by Charles Currynidge - Fri, 15 Dec 2017 14:23:16 EST ID:ZpcyH4pC No.520668 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm recovering from an absurdly jacked up relationship finally. Let me walk you through the basics of how it started.

We were both homeless and we helped each other but it was tremendously one-sided of course. I kept her safe from guys who harass women on streets what should I found out to be apparently all of them except for me. We both had a drug problem and funded it 99% the time.

We go through all kinds of check them shit but I really do or at least I did and I was open to the possibility that she love me and Son tremendously fucked up way. Most of all, there was pity. She had an outrageous bad attitude and a negative attitude that made me look like a life coach despite me being tremendously depressed.

Then there's this guy she used to do legit work for her. He sent her home one day with extreme pornographic violent scars and bruises from head to toe. She insists that he raped her which I responded my being on the verge of killing him every time he tried to contact her. Somehow there was always a way or an excuse 4 her to end up talking to him. I have been through the most convenient and upsettingly pathetic lies about why she still talks to him. I begged her to admit that the reason she maintained with him because of a consensual fair and/ or because things are well to have sex.

We broke up over some petty shit because of her having in absurd episode because she felt like I wasn't sharing enough to drugs with her. Of course, not even within 2 days of me breaking up with her, she is living in an RV park in his yard where his wife and kids live.

Deep down inside I love her and she is a pathetic, pitiful case and it's tremendously hard to watch her become the sex slave slash pet of some guy cost us our relationship when I was willing to do anything to save it.

She wants me to get a second Facebook account and sneak around and see her to talk to me just the way she used to do to him. I pity her so much and I am considering meeting her just to see that she is better off and not getting hurt despite the fact that I have gone to extreme lengths and they passed to have the whole situation investigated. She is a vehement liar about Wings Things.

Between my pity and anger that I…
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Sophie Chezzlesodging - Fri, 15 Dec 2017 17:44:06 EST ID:0PJ7z1R+ No.520670 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Find another girl.

Stay away from this Deliverance trailer park shit.
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George Drummleshaw - Fri, 15 Dec 2017 17:49:14 EST ID:wklHn48x No.520671 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Call the cops on them and wash your hands of the whole situation.
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Priscilla Sucklepune - Fri, 15 Dec 2017 23:39:27 EST ID:lXjUaJuo No.520672 Ignore Report Quick Reply
This person is completely toxic, they are not worth 'saving' and are probably beyond that point anyway. If you're too stupid to see that then you probably deserve them.


Burning Alive! by Basil Sollerdon - Fri, 15 Dec 2017 05:26:25 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.520663 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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What do I do?! Help me, /qq/... I got problems!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XNVvRu7qmVA


d e p r e s s i o n by Shit Snodford - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 21:51:48 EST ID:O+joIlT1 No.520619 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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how do you care about yourself
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Emma Mollywadge - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 22:07:03 EST ID:lXjUaJuo No.520620 Ignore Report Quick Reply
With effort. Other people only make it look effortless because you're on the outside looking in. However the more you put the effort in the easier it gets, which means less effort required.
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Charlotte Blatherfield - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 22:07:11 EST ID:0PJ7z1R+ No.520621 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Get yo dick sukkd

Or just do something.

Break everything into steps and do it.

Example:

1.) Hear alarm clock
2.) Feet on floor
3.) Walk to bathroom
4.) ???
5.) PROFIT

Seriously though, just getting up in the morning can be challenging. Sometimes it is for me. You just have to do it. I feel better when I'm working on something.
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Basil Sollerdon - Fri, 15 Dec 2017 03:09:55 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.520661 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GBnGsCkJ4R0

Any other questions?


~~~~ + ~~~~ by Rebecca Dallerway - Wed, 13 Dec 2017 15:23:40 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.520647 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Merry Christmas ;)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6EWqTym2cQU
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Edwin Gottingway - Thu, 14 Dec 2017 16:28:45 EST ID:o3vIoRWZ No.520653 Ignore Report Quick Reply
And a happy New Year!

~ A+ blood donor
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Basil Sollerdon - Thu, 14 Dec 2017 23:48:16 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.520658 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>520653
>A+ blood donor

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M0TPfoxt7wI


ugh by N7IX4 !!aUW3ymB7 - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 00:26:17 EST ID:V8lIvZw5 No.520601 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I can't find anything on diverticulitis friendly sex positions but I had sex with my friend with this condition (untreated) and he grew nauseated afterwards- I suspect because he was on top a lot of the time. Should I just stick to him sitting back on the couch and letting me ride him? I was wondering what else we could do. I want cuddling tips too. I tried to lay on him when we were cuddling but it hurt is tummy. He's okay laying on me though.

Anyways, with that aside I don't know how to convince him to go on antibiotics. He keeps making excuses and putting em off. Probably because they make him feel sicker? When he comes and visits this winter, maybe he will let me take him to urgent care. (Some of you might remember my previous thread? If not, don't judge him. He's only 18.)

I'm experiencing some sadness after said sex because it happened too soon for me (my original plan was to not get sexual with him) and there's plenty of issues I could go on about but two of my smartest friends said what's going on between me and him is wrong/unhealthy and I need to leave him.

My intentions seem good but I'm actually being selfish. I don't feel like explaining how it is but it is.

I don't want to leave. I want to help.

The sex was beautiful and I had hopes and dreams of making him healthier and happier. I do care for him but it's a long story. I feel like I might be grieving for my dead ex and wasted youth through him.
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N7IX4 !!aUW3ymB7 - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 01:06:41 EST ID:V8lIvZw5 No.520606 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520604
lol uh....
I'm okay. I used to be an escort/dom until I moved in with a rich old man
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Phoebe Dungerstone - Tue, 12 Dec 2017 03:30:47 EST ID:JI9kO00V No.520626 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520601
Urgh, are you really here for advice. Because 95% of the advice in the thread resounded with what your friends told you... And to add, you started this thread looking for different sex positions.

Your desire to change him, and have sex with him are odd. You identify the relationship as unhealthy, yet dive into it by saying "fuck it". I wouldn't be surprised if somehow you saw turning him into a healthy man, of whom you were sexually engaged with, as a way to valdate, or redeem sexual trauma or guilt from the past.

OP seriously. If you really do give a fuck about changing for the better, and really want him to get better as well, you need to stop this foolishness now! I only get frustrated, because you will acknowledge and agree with the negative side of this, and how it isnt healthy to begin with, and just toss your hands up and say "fuck it". Cant expect people to feel anything else for you when you keep shooting yourself in the foot.
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N7IX4 !!aUW3ymB7 - Tue, 12 Dec 2017 07:40:15 EST ID:V8lIvZw5 No.520627 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520626

I'll work on a letter explaining why I need to leave him soon.
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Charlotte Wobberbet - Tue, 12 Dec 2017 12:02:54 EST ID:SorQd36M No.520629 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520601

Well make sure he is taking care of is diverticula otherwise, not drinking wine or any kind of alcohol, no matter how mild, etc.

It must be awful being into anal sex and having diverticulitus, I never even thought about it... Blow jobs? What's it called, when you have sex with someone's thighs?

You don't just take antibiotics constantly when you have diverticulitus, and it is chronic, it will never go away. You take them when you have an infection, which is not often, and if you have an infection that requires antibiotics and don't take them you can die. Mostly antiinflamatories are better.. maybe take ibuprofen before hand? That's a very mild anti-inflamatory.

This is a question for his doctor, not qq

Does he know what a stoma is? You get it when you don't take care of your diverticula and you don't do what the doctor says. It is not sexy or fun.
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Wesley Crirryhall - Wed, 13 Dec 2017 09:17:36 EST ID:RLper1nr No.520643 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520601

How is this dude fucking with diverticulitis? Just speaking from experience, shit is unbearable to the point of tears. Antibiotics will not do shit either. Dude needs a complete overhaul of his life stemming from diet to mental satiation. Anyways I am just speaking of his inability to confront a pretty serious condition. Your problems are another breed. Someone already said it but you should really look into why you are diving into relationships that you objectively identify as being unhealthy.

Best of luck


Wtf is life man by Archie Brookbury - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 19:07:58 EST ID:II827PG4 No.520616 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Being a person is fucking boring, like the more I think about it the worse it gets its like it's all the same everything's the fucking same, everyday, everything we do, no one's special no one's doing anything different all my want a and the shit I think is cool isn't any more, my only fucking dream in th3 world was to be a fucking king pin but that's not even cool any more I feel nothing talking to my friends is just like an annoyance, I have no real redeeming qualities, my gf controls like everything I do, i feel like a little bitch constantly, and then my brain goes completely apathetic and nothing matters like my gf literally gets mad arguing with me bc I don't care enough, about anything, like some one could tell me about the war and try to talk time about it but I just think it's stupid and doesn't matter, like not even from a peace perspective I think it's dumb people are dieing but I just think it's all dumb, like life is so fucking monotonous man, it's horrible, I love my gf so much I'm a fun
creative person but it's all getting dull to me and I feel like I'm just done I need my life to change big, I want my gf to go with me I feel like she's my soul mate, but she hates everything I do and every time she just blames depression and I don't know what to do anymore I can't do shit literally it seems like everything I say i like she hates it and literally gets losses that i even try to talk about it and I feel selfish af being mad, and I just don't know what to do anymore man, I thought I had it figured out and now I hate it all, I just feel like a waste of a person.
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Emma Mollywadge - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 20:37:20 EST ID:lXjUaJuo No.520617 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Your relationship sounds draining. Try taking a break from her; even if you feel in love and that she's "the one". Or if you're feeling stuck in a routine then try doing some new activities with her, if she's not willing to join you then do it by yourself or with some good friends. I get that apathy will make doing anything seem like a chore but if you really want to break from this rut then you need to muster the energy to do something. It starts off hard but only gets easier if you keep at it.

Are you sedentary most of the time? Do you get out in the sun very often? What about exercise? Doesn't even need to be rigorous, just make sure you go for a 20-30 min walk every day. Sunlight provides vitamin D which is hard to obtain through foods, just don't get too much sunlight in one hit or you'll be left feeling pretty drained. Plus it also bolsters your immune system.
Not saying this will make you feel immediately better or solve all your problems but you'll probably notice a difference around the 2 week mark if you can keep it up.
Are you a reclusive sort of person? Maybe you're not getting that crucial solo-time to recharge your batteries if that's the case.

You need to really want to get better if you hope to break this bleakness my dude. Don't expect others to push you or for it to magically go away. It's on you and only you to better yourself.
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Archie Brookbury - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 22:19:50 EST ID:II827PG4 No.520622 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520617
I will try idk I'm thinking about the break thing, like man you have no idea if I did that shot by myself she'd get so mad man idk she's like a control freak, she's moving in with me soon and idk man, as much as I love being with her I need my independence I need to have a sayin what I do, I mean she doesn't like tell me I cant do shitbut she like 2ont talk to me or anything if I do, like idk I almost feel like my happiness is tied to hers and she's never happy idk a lot of its herdepression which I don't wanna abandon her in on th3 middle of but man lik3 I told her I might goto welding school, bc ya kno2 quick school good pay shit like that but I have no interest in it, i like brought up one time I wanted to get my marijuana license and she acted like it was the dumbest shit ever, and like I can't live my life not following my passions man, but I don't feel like I can just leave her, and I don't exercise but I have a p physical job and I goto school so I'm p fucking tired a lot but nah I'm p extroverted idk man ik most of my problems stem from her but it's been a year idk I just wanna be in control of myself without feeling bad about it and if I told her that shed act like it was dumb, like idk sh3 tells me about her depression and I listen and an understandingI never he or get mad at her about it but when I express I have shitand tell her about feeling apathetic and wanting to do things she still just is like no I don't wanna and gets mad that I'd even bring it up and then she tells me all my shits 100% my fault and I can fix it if I just tell myself th3 opposite and offers no help and idk man sorry for ranting I have no one to talk to this shit abou5 all of our friends are the same I just I fucking am losing it I'll try to go outside more, I'll just start telling her what I'm doing and that this is what I'm doing idk I'll try it
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Edward Fiddleridge - Wed, 13 Dec 2017 00:16:55 EST ID:lXjUaJuo No.520633 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520622
No need to apologize for the rant; it's pretty much what this board is for.

Going from what you've just said it really sounds like you need to get away from this girl. It's shitty to abandon someone but even shittier to tie yourself to a sinking boat. Sometimes people need to be hurt like that to allow them to reflect on their behavior. Otherwise she's just going to keep pinning all the blame for her problems on you until something bad happens. Rip the band-aid off; don't agonize over it.
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Alice Tootdock - Wed, 13 Dec 2017 08:26:00 EST ID:eUln1WLQ No.520642 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Man you could stand to break your paragraphs and sentences up, shit was hard to read OP

Three of my ex girlfriends have been real controlling like that. It’s emotional abuse. The atmosphere they push is that you should always feel the way they feel (which is mostly angry) every second of the day. Fuck that. Now I know what to look out for and avoid crazy women... I’ve been single for three years since I promised I would only date a sane, emotionally stable woman.

As for the boredom, I feel ya there. Life is pretty fucking boring. I go out and do stuff all the time. I have hobbies, a job, social circle. I’ve uprooted and gone on adventures in other countries, backpacking, hiking, you name it. All I can recognize is within the thrill of experiences, I’m still just another person eating and sleeping until I die.

No advice on that one, the melancholy is real.


Feel like people don't give a shit about me as a human being by Jack Shittingbanks - Wed, 13 Dec 2017 00:21:32 EST ID:vPXIYoJk No.520634 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So thing is, i failed my last college project, i dunno how this is called in english, but the project you have to do to finish the course and stuff.
Thing is, i felt incompetent, emotionally drained and depressed during it, during my last week, i gotta kind of a mental breakdown, had problems with stupid shit, and gave up.
Thing is, suddenly, everyone started asking me if everything is alright, people started flinging shit at me, telling that i went this far and shouldn't give up and stupid stuff, telling me im running from my problems, people i never talked with, coming to talk with me.
Last year, i had a suicide attempt, that thanks to some loudmouths, went really public, i tried to OD on amphetamines, while taking some downers to not feel the panic attack, the downers basically made me enter a two days induced coma, i expent some good days in intensive care, had to talk to a psychiatrist, and when i went home, i felt really bad, that almost nobody cared, even through lots of folk heard about it.
Why do people suddenly care, if its about work? I feel like all my values are based only on what i do, if i fail as a student, everyone tries to cheer me and talk sense to me, butt when i failed at having hopes in living, nobody besides family and two friends really gave a actual fuck.
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Sidney Crengermet - Wed, 13 Dec 2017 01:10:51 EST ID:/eaIiSK7 No.520637 Ignore Report Quick Reply
People in most societies aren't equipped to talk about and help with mental health issues. They don't know what to say as it is embarrassing to them and because it's not "normal". They are trying to discriminate against you or anything. They just aren't equipped emotionally and intellectually to help. It's outside their bubble. The best people can usually do is say "loom on the brightside".

Now when it comes to degrees and studying, well there's definitely some common sense, cultural advice that everyone can chime in with like "Never give up", "It'll pay off in the long run" etc.

My point is that everybody knows the common sense that studying will pay off in the long term and therefore is a good idea, but next to nobody knows how to react to you when you have a mental breakdown and are in need of emotional support.

They don't hate you. They're just dumb.
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Clara Dippershaw - Wed, 13 Dec 2017 01:19:41 EST ID:JI9kO00V No.520638 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520634
To start, maybe you were looking for "Final exams"?

Anyway, this isnt english class.

To start, one thing suicide attempts have taught me, is that it can usually push irrelevant people away, and show you who your true friends are. "People who matter, stick around, the ones that leave, don't".

It's tough OP. Tough only in ways you can perceive. And a lot of people, lack the empathy or understanding to offer help, or even care to.

And this will suck to hear OP, but outside of being politically correct, not many people will do the right thing when nobody is watching. This includes understanding for mental health. And it sounds unfair, but it isnt anybodies job to be your healer. You gotta find a way to be happy with the people who care, and ignore the peanut gallery.

One thing to start is finding reasons why you like yourself as a person. Only persons validation you should need, is your own. And this process will be difficult and tiring. But white lie if you have to.

I'm not going to say my advice will work, I cant say it will even help. But OP, I am terrificly happy you made it through the coma. You might not be happy to be alive now. But a desire to change, and effort, will carry you a long way. And remember, you may be the most perfect apple, but not everybody likes apples.
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Priscilla Sucklepune - Sat, 16 Dec 2017 00:48:34 EST ID:lXjUaJuo No.520673 Ignore Report Quick Reply
This is going to sound harsh but you need to get over yourself. For the most part people don't give a shit about anyone but themselves and you, nor I, are any different in this regard. Sure there's family and close friends but even that link can be tenuous. What I mean is that you'll never know how deep that caring runs until it's tested and chances are it never will be tested.

>telling that i went this far and shouldn't give up and stupid stuff, telling me im running from my problems, people i never talked with, coming to talk with me.

That sounds like caring on some level. You're just having a knee-jerk reaction to some tough love. At the very least these people don't want to see you waste the effort you've put in to your course or your potential.
Stop expecting everyone to give a shit about you as a person because it is completely unrealistic. Everyone has their own shit going on in their life and don't have the time or energy to constantly be there as your support. Stand on your own two feet or face a lifetime of feeling constantly let down by others because of your over-inflated sense of importance in other peoples lives. It's a cold thing to say but it's true my dude.


Save money and Stay Off the Internet. by Basil Wisslehall - Fri, 08 Dec 2017 18:36:30 EST ID:OCwtUy6R No.520562 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Is the internet for recreational and social purposes a waste of time? I think so, there is so much time I waste to cancel out any productive time I have. Its really becoming a problem and I think Im just going to quit. Im also working but its honestly not enough and Im just kind of spinning my wheels.
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Ebenezer Chuffinghood - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 00:16:31 EST ID:OCwtUy6R No.520599 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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God take me painlessly.
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Hugh Greenshit - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 00:24:42 EST ID:hzUsxH14 No.520600 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520576
creating
could be art, a software, a board game, a wood chair
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Graham Dadgestone - Tue, 12 Dec 2017 00:00:05 EST ID:OCwtUy6R No.520623 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>520562
God why is porn the worst thing ever?
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Charlotte Wobberbet - Tue, 12 Dec 2017 12:04:56 EST ID:SorQd36M No.520630 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520562
yes, quit it, it ireally is a shit. go to the library when you need it for things like applying for jobs, research etc.
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Basil Sollerdon - Fri, 15 Dec 2017 03:01:25 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.520660 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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