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Character by Charlotte Forrywell - Sun, 05 Feb 2017 12:40:50 EST ID:KBelwzLF No.513089 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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How do you become a better person?
I'm a miserable irritable prick. But how do I improve?
Nicholas Cegglehall - Sun, 05 Feb 2017 13:00:38 EST ID:F816NGn4 No.513091 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Identify the patterns of behavior that make you a miserable irritable prick and work to exorcise them
Thomas Brambledare - Sun, 05 Feb 2017 20:33:45 EST ID:wyXHXpFm No.513098 Ignore Report Quick Reply
This. I used to viciously berate people in my thoughts constantly simply for existing in front of me and I realized it was causing my anger and rage issues. I got myself to stop when I was doing it and changed how I thought of people and after a year, my thought patterns themselves changed completely and I don't have the problem any more.
Martha Nicklecocke - Mon, 06 Feb 2017 00:10:01 EST ID:kOck0sPG No.513105 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Weed solves it for me.
People are genuinely retarded tho. Like putting 20 emojis after a sentence... or like using retarded slang. That kinda stuff. It's what literally 99% of 14 to 30 year olds do and it's fucking irritating and retarded. Like why do you have take the extra effort to make yourself look like a fool. Stuffs beyond me.
What you have to do is to stop judging people over this. They can still be nice, devoted, honest, great people. They're just a little irritating and retarded. But it's okay. The thing is it's okay. People do irritating and retarded stuff but it doesn't mean that's what you should judge them for and they can still be very valuable and faithful people. Once I accepted this I don't really get irritated over checking my Facebook feed or driving my gfs friends to college. I'm less salty when I look at things this way. Just cause people do things that you find retarded, unnecessary or irritating, it doesn't mean they're inferior to you, they're just different.

I'll try and keep it short.. by Nigel Cremblecocke - Sun, 05 Feb 2017 04:51:32 EST ID:iqFsMrLH No.513059 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>live in the burbs whole life
>be 20yrs old
>have a episodic rise and fall (not bipolar in the traditional sense)
>one week of organized-ambitious thoughts/vision
>next week be indifferent to everything except coffee and actively acknowledge pessimistic realities
>always had bohemian/gypsy fantasy of adventuring the states
>also have anxieties of being societal failure
>recognize my happiness shouldn't be linked to others expectations/perceptions
>but perhaps a healthy, successful individual should be concerned with outside opinion
>but i ain't no fucking sheep
>cognitive dissonance
>think about adventuring/running away some more
>slowly burn bridges to the point where im forced to make my pilgrimage
>or am i being a self-destructive twat who needs help
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Nigel Cremblecocke - Sun, 05 Feb 2017 11:28:00 EST ID:iqFsMrLH No.513084 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Thank you for sharing! A beautiful, well timed post. It's kinda what I've needed to hear, I essentially have to do what I feel is right. And the idea's been in my heart for a long time.
Nigel Cremblecocke - Sun, 05 Feb 2017 11:32:12 EST ID:iqFsMrLH No.513086 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I was aware you weren't countering me out of your own personal belief, but rather for the sake of challenging mine. I never meant for my counters to be malicious but rather for the sake of continuing discourse
Charlotte Smallstock - Sun, 05 Feb 2017 16:27:54 EST ID:N4C7HfN0 No.513093 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Hey OP, you sound a lot like me. It sounds like you need out of the house more than anything. Student debt is shitty, but those pessimistic realities are right. You're going to die anyway. It doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things. Worst comes to worst you don't pay them back. Find something like an Associate's Degree that you want to go to school for, find a school, and get it done.

Alternatively, find a warehouse/distribution center, apply and hopefully get a job, bust your ass for a few months to earn your spot, and then move out and be as frugal as possible and make a nice savings bed with your income. From there you're free to be your own person and do your own things on your own time.

tl;dr find a way to get out of your house. You can't grow an adult in the garden of family security.
Shitting Clerringfuck - Sun, 05 Feb 2017 17:59:26 EST ID:fFco0KOe No.513096 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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you are doing just fine right now. your good days, your good weeks, and your bad ones. this is exactly how life is. you are doing a great job and it is great to be self aware of what's happening.

>successful individual
since we write the rules of our own existence, you decide what is successful and what is failure. if we follow the path which someone else lays ahead of us, we will be miserable, caged. it takes a certain price to be happy and most often I find that the price is accepting that people will look down on you, or you will lose (potential) friends for following your path. most of all, you will be told you are stupid and that your ideas are stupid. carry on, Nigel.
Jenny Hoshbore - Sun, 05 Feb 2017 18:09:12 EST ID:wyXHXpFm No.513097 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Sorry, I didn't make it to sound wrong that you were. I was trying to say that I understand now that your response of "you just wouldn't understand" isn't nearly as uh... something you're telling yourself to ignore others input so much as the way you specifically stated what you were talking about because the dynamics of our personal interaction. I was saying I acknowledge your point of view about why you said that being an explanation and not a total denial of entire realm of people's thoughts on your situation to embrace a kind of state of comfortable willful ignorance.

Alcoholic? Nah?? by Samuel Nackleshaw - Sun, 05 Feb 2017 01:45:59 EST ID:j5RL5m1u No.513052 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey guys. The rest of the general internet isn't helping me out with this one, really, and that usually means you folks can (at least a little).

So long story short, my dad is a pretty hefty alcoholic. Somehow he still has a job and a really nice long-term girlfriend, but he has a problem for sure and it affects all aspects of his life. He gets drunk probably every night.

Growing up, I didn't notice this as an actual issue until about my mid-teens (around the same time my mother divorced him because he drank too much). To deal with this, I basically just got stoned all the time and also got drunk on occasion. Fast forward to now, I'm in my mid-twenties and I think I go through a little more than a 1.5 L bottle of wine a week (wine is definitely my thing, and I always go for the 13%). I also go out with my friends 1-3 times a week, depending. Let me clarify one thing: I don't drink to get drunk. The few times I have actually gotten drunk were accidents and I hated the feeling; I do what I can to avoid it. I like being tipsy, anything beyond that is no fun. Regardless, I have some pretty solid paranoia about potentially becoming like my dad. I don't ever want to become like that. But, I do really fancy me a good glass of wine or two a night.

TL;DR is basically: I drink about 2 glasses of wine a night, or about 2-3 beers on my "out" nights and I literally have no idea if this is normal, or what to look for as far as signs that this could develop into a problem like my dad has. Also, are there health issues involved with this amount? What are your perspectives? (BTW, the pic is irrelevant, I just think snails are fucking adorable)
Thomas Clibbleshaw - Sun, 05 Feb 2017 04:14:11 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.513056 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I also drink every day. Started with my full time job. At first because i could afford to, and later to cope with the job.

I dont get drunk either, only on a special occasion.

Its alcoholism, not sure how bad i am compared to others, but i calls it like i sees it.

Dont know how to help, in the same boat. I guess, just, you're not alone out there.
Hamilton Sindershaw - Sun, 05 Feb 2017 04:50:55 EST ID:KveR7zNs No.513058 Ignore Report Quick Reply
My dad was like this (like your dad). He died at 54 of a stroke.

If you are worried then the sensible thing to do is not drink for a couple of weeks. I suspect there is a tiny bit of interaction with your brain going on but at the same time you won't get delirium tremens. You drink an amount which is alternately good and bad depending what the newspaper thinks will make for good headlines. I don't believe it's good, it might be unhealthy and the odd night off even the slight buzz you don't even notice is probably for the best.

If you never get drunk the amount you drink is not too bad, however you should take a couple of nights off a week and the odd week or two off. I would say just don't drink for a couple of weeks. Go for a run or something. If you are fine then maybe have one night off a week and one week off every 2 months.

You say you get "tipsy" though which means you're affecting your brain's chemical balance and general emotional state. If you are regularly doing that you are already a step down the path. My dad rarely got drunk either. By the end he was like red and shaky. My sister's last words to him were along the lines of "You're fucking killing yourself". If nothing else regular nights and weeks off will prove to you that you aren't developing a habit but I would definitely take a couple of weeks completely dry.

My dad didn't just hold down a job, he was extremely respected. He went from a temp to a guy opening new offices in 3 years and was known throughout a multi national as a guy who got shit done well. He had no problems with women either (well okay he was awful at picking long term partners, his relationships all failed spectacularly but he could always find another) This never changed and aside from my sister no one saw the death coming (though I admit he was red faced and a bit shaky the last time I saw him). He was a very functional alcoholic but he slowly escalated what he drank.
Jenny Hoshbore - Sun, 05 Feb 2017 07:45:28 EST ID:wyXHXpFm No.513066 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I wouldn't call your drinking habit alcoholism. I know lots of people that drink that amount daily. I know that fact in itself doesn't mean it isn't alcoholism, but you also expressed concern for how normal it was or wasn't to do. My friend is an alcoholic but has curbed his use to acceptable levels and still drinks more than you on a pretty regular basis. He used to drink anywhere from 16-28 beers a night, but for the last year or so he drinks 4-6 a night max except one night on the weekend, where he has 12 max. If you were drinking amounts more like that, I would think your concerns with maybe becoming an alcoholic would be more validated (the 4-6 a night and 12 one night a week habit, not 16-28 daily obviously).

Right now, I wouldn't be worried of being, nor really even of becoming an alcoholic. If the habit changes significantly, then start to worry a bit more. The self-awareness helps, it's definitely good you're thinking about this. I just don't think you need to be overly worried or anything.
Henry Greenhall - Sun, 05 Feb 2017 08:28:38 EST ID:za6zf3bm No.513071 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Three drinks a night is fine and normal especially for people in their 20 s. As long as you stay safe,, stay hydrated,handle your responsibilities, and save the drinking for the end of the day.

small by Alice Gerringworth - Fri, 03 Feb 2017 23:59:35 EST ID:zIQ/gRBt No.513028 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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i gotta small dick yo
Rebecca Tillingville - Sat, 04 Feb 2017 00:35:49 EST ID:Jwd0QahJ No.513030 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I only have one and a half testicles. Other half got eaten by my twin in the womb. He didn't make it out
Shit Chollyledge - Sat, 04 Feb 2017 18:24:59 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.513043 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Eugene Wallercocke - Sun, 05 Feb 2017 07:23:14 EST ID:pso6apAS No.513063 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Triforce podcast yeh?

Quit my Shitty Restauraunt job. by Quitter McQuittington - Sat, 31 Dec 2016 04:15:44 EST ID:i5MJCSVV No.512008 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Ok so I worked at a restauraunt where the swipe card system didn't work for fuck because the managers were either lazy or incompetent and thus I never got hours, however their rebuttal was "just get a supervisor to swipe you in" and I'm like this place is fucking huge I'm not wasting twenty minutes of my shift to fix your idiot problem.

From working jobs with computerized shedules, I learned that if I'm not scheduled, I'm not working, case closed. I'm not self imposing wage theft because someone didn't RTFM on the workbrain machine.

To top it off, my associates were a Filipino with poker skills, a guy with a business degree, a bartender and a lady who could talk you into a good mood, and here we were, setting up kegs and cleaning up vomit.

Ass backwards restauraunt.
Martin Fovingwill - Sat, 31 Dec 2016 17:14:34 EST ID:mu8hf6Xw No.512010 Ignore Report Quick Reply
They didn't have any option for you to fill out a time card or something? That would've been workable at least. But hey, it sounds like a low level job and you can most likely find something like it if you just put a little work in. So I don't think you've made that horrible of a decision.
Betsy Wishbit - Sat, 04 Feb 2017 22:29:43 EST ID:LcZZCFTS No.513049 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Ding-dong, theyre obviously punching numbers
Cyril Nimmerbanks - Sun, 05 Feb 2017 00:56:40 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.513051 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Do what must be done. Do not hesitate. Show no mercy.
Simon Heppergold - Sun, 05 Feb 2017 06:31:57 EST ID:o1pNBrov No.513061 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Get a lawyer. Document the wage/hour discrepancy. File class action for back wages. Fuck up their whole restaurant.

>During the entire time, SPEAK ONLY WITH YOUR LAWYER about the case. Don't tell anyone you are suing them. If it becomes class action, your lawyer will handle it properly. Most will do something like this pro-bona if you show you can certainly win.
Archie Pittson - Mon, 06 Feb 2017 15:45:36 EST ID:rjFQA/Ol No.513119 Ignore Report Quick Reply
This isn't even necessary. Simply file a claim with the Department of Labor, they don't fuck around with this shit. The entire operation could be shut down at the snap of a finger.
If you think it would work, you could contact the business and tell them that you expect to be paid for your work or your will be contacting the DoL. That could either scare the shit out of them and they'll pay you right then, or it could lead them to try and destroy evidence of you having been there for the hours you are claiming. Use your best judgement.

Am I being too beta? by Hamilton Drudgelock - Sat, 04 Feb 2017 18:16:14 EST ID:qsWhrwjU No.513042 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I was fuck buddies with this girl for two months. I was really into her and all. We were also really close friends and it was like...just sex. We did fuck every time we hung out though even though that seems contradictory. She was always good at that.

She ended our thing and told me she didn't want to hang out with me or talk to me anymore. I found out later on she got back with her ex.

We haven't talked since September and I never really moved on. I thought about texting her but I don't know if she would even respond to me.
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Charlotte Blackford - Sat, 04 Feb 2017 18:35:11 EST ID:JmukeKk9 No.513045 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Dude she was using you for sex. Nothing wrong about that if you were using her too tho.
Hamilton Drudgelock - Sat, 04 Feb 2017 18:42:04 EST ID:qsWhrwjU No.513046 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I absolutely was not using her for sex. I actually had feelings for her but yeah sounds like it. I was supposed to get a house but it didn't fall thru. Shortly after was when she broke it off. She needed a place to stay and chose to go back to her ex. Really I just want to talk to her. We were really good as friends until we started having sex on a regular basis and it just go to be too much for me. Im not really sure how she feels about me. She never told me much other than she day dreamed about us fucking so it sounds like you're prob right
Reuben Guzzleledging - Sun, 05 Feb 2017 00:50:18 EST ID:sueiY012 No.513050 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Yea, you got used and sounds like your personality prevented a long-term thing.
Jack Fiblingbury - Sun, 05 Feb 2017 02:46:19 EST ID:qsWhrwjU No.513053 Ignore Report Quick Reply

She hung out with me all the time I dont ever remember her flaking even once or showing restraint with the sex. Maybe you're right though. She didn't really give me any real reason or talk with me about it.
Jack Fiblingbury - Sun, 05 Feb 2017 02:46:19 EST ID:qsWhrwjU No.513054 Ignore Report Quick Reply

She hung out with me all the time I dont ever remember her flaking even once or showing restraint with the sex. Maybe you're right though. She didn't really give me any real reason or talk with me about it.

broke up with someone I like because of rational reasons, but still feel pain by Nigel Gundleridge - Sat, 21 Jan 2017 13:02:44 EST ID:AS7jtk7m No.512605 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I see most people asking for advice regarding break ups, are on the rejected side.

no one ever breaks up with someone they like because of the odds.
there is a girl I have been going out with for some time (we knew each other for years). we have been flirting for years and she complained about her bf all the time to me. I spent a lot of time ignoring her because of that bf. for me, she wanted a beta orbiter. the flirting got pretty strong, we made out once, she broke up with him one week after that. I don't want to make this too lengthy, but she tried to manipulate me and told me lies plenty of times. I started really, really liking her. she was very passionate and beautiful, probably the prettiest girl I have been with.
however, because of all that manipulation thing she tried to do with me, some childish stuff she did like rejecting my offering to go out because I was busy the time she asked me out and whatnot, tons of lies, being selfish as hell while pretending to be selfless... I broke up with her. even though I still liked her. I saw too many redflags. I couldn't see myself being with someone I didn't trust. she stressed the hell out of me everyday.

I felt immense pain with that breakup. even though I know I did the right thing, I wonder how the fuck you hardly see people going through the same thing. breaking up with someone they like. THIS FACT makes me ask myself if I did the right thing, specially because I feel like I will never be with a girl as pretty and that liked me as much as she did.
now I'm dating another girl, she's much more mature and nicer and I feel I can trust her. sex is better. we don't fight. I barely get stressed at all... but the same happens for every other emotion.

I don't even know what advice I'm seeking anymore. maybe the answer is just keep looking for someone else? swipe on tinder, meet more people? I'm so tired of this. really tired.
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Polly Horringfidge - Sun, 22 Jan 2017 21:36:29 EST ID:lC4u5xZY No.512639 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Consider this OP: doing the right thing usually hurts a hell of a lot more than doing the wrong thing.
Lydia Wellyforth - Sun, 22 Jan 2017 21:53:07 EST ID:L+FHpvgj No.512640 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I started dating a girl and tgen went to break up with her two or thrre times during thw first few months of our rational. She always burst into tears and begged me not to leave her, so I stayed. I felt sketchy about her for the majority of the relationship and ended up finding out that she had cheated on me for several months with her manager at work.

I knew deep down from the draft that we wouldn't work out, should have just stayed away from her. It definitely sucked more staying with her and finding out the hard, absolute way. I'm such a depressed mess now. God why did I screw up everything??
Barnaby Dreblingstone - Mon, 23 Jan 2017 08:35:49 EST ID:hhQhcuad No.512651 Ignore Report Quick Reply
As the other guy said, if people dump someone they like it means they're usually doing it on their terms and before the drama and bullshit reaches as high a level. It happens but there's less drama. If you barely hear about a lot of breakups, they just quietly happen that's good.

If god were real the answer would be "You didn't". You found out she cheated and are not with her. Sometimes you can do everything right, or at least make the best decisions with the information you have and still get fucked over. It's life, look at what you could have done different WITH THE INFORMATION YOU HAD THEN that is not absolutely stupid and then learn from it. Move on and be better/smarter.
Simon Honeycocke - Tue, 24 Jan 2017 07:48:25 EST ID:7cac9OY9 No.512679 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Several years ago i broke up with my girlfriend although i still was really into her... it was due to other reasons though (no cheating whatsoever, and she was actually very nice - the problem was actually me being immature and inexperienced since i was just 18 back then). However it was really a hard time for me and it literally took years until i was able to begin a new relationship. But nevertheless, i still consider it as one of my best decisions i ever made... i was really happy for her, when she found a new boyfriend some months after our breakup. A breakup because of rarional reasons is really harder i guess than breaking up because someone hurt you. But it really is worth it, under those circumstances
Graham Sabblesen - Sat, 04 Feb 2017 21:16:49 EST ID:u/ycNVVY No.513047 Ignore Report Quick Reply
as time goes by and I as I don't manage to find a new relationship I actually like the person, it's starting to feel worse. I'm starting to lose hope of finding love with someone else and thinking about her. when classes start she's going to be there. I have no idea what she's doing with her life. if she's with someone while I'm alone, it's going to hurt pretty bad. and everyone in that class hates me, and my friends are away. all I got going for me right now is work and studying... this year is going to be one hell of a ride.

Extreme things that changed your life by Hyodo Kazutaka - Sat, 04 Feb 2017 13:27:50 EST ID:UAOoyk5x No.513038 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Thing is that there are some books, movies, comics, internet websites, hobbies, etc that made you change radically or motivate you to live to the fullest or explore more about the world.

I'm talking about radical, extreme and proved things that worked. That hit you un the face, made you clash with reality, reconsider your worldview, your worth as person.

For me It was some anime called Kaiji. About a guy with no destination in life who suddenly was immersed in the middle of some fucked up gambling that could take his life or his freedom if he lost in some of the gambling.

Anyways. I started to reconsider my way of life. I'm applying for jobs, avoiding junk food, I'm drug free and I started to approach to girls that I like. I'm going to the gym the moment I get paid.

Also... I want to contribute to society leaving something immortal.

So I wanna know what things changed you, made you want to explore the world or made you have an epiphany.

Recommend me somethings too.

I am at No End by Ebenezer Snodlock - Fri, 03 Feb 2017 02:25:21 EST ID:TtwU0Fna No.512984 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I worship the Demiurge.
Ptah the creator of the Universe, some say Lucifer some say Promtheus.
I am not enough illuminated to know which divine spirit he is.
I am not evil, bad or mean.
But I worship the God of the Material Universe.
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James Mottingshit - Fri, 03 Feb 2017 20:12:38 EST ID:9hkV7fQO No.513023 Ignore Report Quick Reply
James Mottingshit - Fri, 03 Feb 2017 20:21:15 EST ID:9hkV7fQO No.513024 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>the ultimate redpill is that there is an external God

All this Atheist Nihilism is really messing society up. It's a form of religion at one point. They don't have a church but they have a Bible written by Richard Dawkins. There is LeVeyan Satanism as well which is a form of Atheism as well. Religion is a problem look at Islam, that shit is a destructive force.

Religion is man trying to define God. A true believer knows that God defines man through creation. Id est the Big Bang, Physics, Evolution, Biology, etcetera

But thanks for adding to my thread.
Rebecca Tillingville - Fri, 03 Feb 2017 23:41:53 EST ID:Jwd0QahJ No.513025 Ignore Report Quick Reply


"Neither shall they say, Lo here! or, lo there! for, behold, the kingdom of God is within you."
Polly Bapperson - Fri, 03 Feb 2017 23:43:12 EST ID:GE8WHIOP No.513026 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Thanks for confirming this whole thread is a troll. I encourage you to bring it to a board that isn't intended to actually bring help to those who need it.
Nigel Pashforth - Sat, 04 Feb 2017 03:24:40 EST ID:c5noXXoX No.513034 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I have trouble dealing with religious issues.

-FUCKED-I need help but I've never asked for it before-FUCKED- by George Wublingtire - Fri, 03 Feb 2017 10:27:31 EST ID:KBelwzLF No.512993 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I need help but I've never asked for it before.
I've been battling with depression and mental disease since I was 16. I'm 27 now.
So the situation is this. The landlord has hired some guys to do some once a decade maintenance and I haven't cleaned my apartment for 2 years. For real.
You can probably imagine the shame and depression this causes in itself, but I really need help with cleaning it.
I want to ask for help from someone close or the people who are trying to deal with my issues but I never do that.
The only reason I went to ask for help for the mental stuff because I was literally losing my mind and needed meds.

My social skills are normal and I have no problems with anything but asking for help. How the fuck do you do that without losing face and living in shame? I feel like I'd rather kill myself.

I have 2 weeks to get the apartment in shape or I'll be evicted for sure.
I can't move back to live with my mother because I'm a fucking mess and she's of the very worrying type and I have to constantly lie to her about my situation.

TL;DR how to overcome shame?
Rebecca Hasslemick - Fri, 03 Feb 2017 11:18:31 EST ID:w5xDM4Q+ No.512994 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Just straight up admit it to somebody. The shame is not worth the crime. You have been in a bad place and anyone would be put into the same position in your situation.

I've dealt with this kind of thing before and the blowback is never as bad as the mental torture and fear that you inflict upon yourself every day imagining what other people will think.

So yeah. Life beats shame every day. Throw shame in the bin.
Caroline Drenningwater - Fri, 03 Feb 2017 11:38:59 EST ID:wyXHXpFm No.512997 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Gotta ask yourself if you want to deal with more shame later or not man. If shame is the problem here, it's clear that asking for help now will lead to less shame felt than if you don't. There's a reason there's a bunch of gay little sayings like "to ask is a moment's shame, to not is lifelong". It's time to stop the bleeding mang. You gonna really sit there and hide the fact your guts are hanging out and you need help sewing that shit back up because it embarrasses you? Someone might go "dude, your guts were fuckin hanging out" and chastise you a bit for not saying something sooner, but is that really all that hard to listen to? As long as you act like you're aware your lifestyle isn't normal, at the point of asking for help, people are more interested in getting things fixed up than viewing you poorly. Afterwards you even feel better that you a) got things done, b) somebody actually knew for once what you are going through, and c) you were able to gather the courage to ask for help and talk about it.
John Drenkinspear - Fri, 03 Feb 2017 14:06:04 EST ID:gyD9VDjB No.513003 Ignore Report Quick Reply
do you have money? you could pay for a cleaner, there's probably someone in the area who'll do one off jobs like this, search for deep clean, things like that.
Molly Drummleford - Sat, 04 Feb 2017 02:17:03 EST ID:KBelwzLF No.513033 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I think you're right. Losing the apartment would involve more shame.
It's really fucking weird though. I feel like someone has something to use against me if they would do something out of even pure kindness.
I'm fucked up.

I'm so lost by Polly Claywater - Fri, 03 Feb 2017 23:51:08 EST ID:vKvaev27 No.513027 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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This is pretty long, but I hope someone out their will listen.

I have no idea what i'm doing with my life or where i'm going. I've been posting here off and on for years.

>I'm 24
>I'm on my 2nd semester in school, I pass my classes but I'm not very good at >juggling school and adult life
>I'm on probation for the next year
>I was saying for the past few weeks that i'm gonna drop out of school and get a trade as an electrician (i may have made a post on here within the past few days but I can't find it now)
>I don't even have a car. I'm borrowing my parents until tax return
>I live very close to Milwaukee, WI. There is literally nothing here for me. Since highschool I have gained nothing except about 20k debt, a criminal record, and a bad reputation.
>My seasonal depression gets worse every winter
>I've burned all my bridges, I don't make new friends
>hot chicks and some ugly treat me like shit for no reason, and i'm passed the point of caring, but its really annoying when you dont even want to fuck them and just work with them and they act super bitchy just because theyre good looking.
>I'm really into drug culture and music festival culture but have been limited to expand my horizons with festivals
>I've wanted to leave the state since I was 19 but theres always something holding me back
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Polly Claywater - Sat, 04 Feb 2017 00:32:37 EST ID:vKvaev27 No.513029 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Tl;dr i'm stuck in midwest hell hole with lots of debt and societys expectations, I'm also on probation. I want to leave to go somewhere with cool people and drugs, im pretty much having a mid life crisis at 24
Frederick Finnerpod - Sat, 04 Feb 2017 01:09:34 EST ID:9lxOzQJ0 No.513031 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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I am kind of in a similar spot OP, twenty four and trying to figure things out. I think it is fairly common. More of a quarter life crisis in my opinion. Mid twenties is a weird time for a lot of people I think, still "young" but not really young enough for your age to be a valid reason for you not to have your shit together.

I also have been considering the electrical trade, actually doing a 10 week introductory training program in march. I actually just got out of rehab, and am living in a sober house in an area I just moved to. Definitely feel like I squandered a lot of my youth on drugs and alcohol, not even enjoying it that much.

Keeping this about you though, I think you are in a position to be optimistic. You are, as I am sure you have been told (I know I have) "still young". There is a whole lot of opportunity out there. I think having a positive attitude is one of the most important things you can do right now. I know it is easy to feel stuck but if you really want to get out you can, and once you do you will think "why didn't I do this 6 years ago". I am not going to go into my story too much but I have pretty much dealt with the same thing, and I have come out the other end. IDK man I am not all the way there but maybe a little bit further along than you and just wanted to say, you can do it man, not to be cliched but just believe in yourself, there really is a whole lot of opportunity out there. Also, with the drug thing, especially a drug like MDMA if you were using it all the time your hedonic system is probably out of wack and it will take a year or so before you start enjoying life again at its fullest. Anyway dude I am signing off keep the faith
Polly Claywater - Sat, 04 Feb 2017 01:17:32 EST ID:vKvaev27 No.513032 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Stay strong brotha

go for second date or don't bother? by Lillian Pittham - Thu, 02 Feb 2017 21:13:36 EST ID:NoKU4Mj+ No.512960 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So I have chronic social anxiety and I went on a date with a girl from Tinder last night. While it could have gone worse, it was bad. There were lots of awkward moments that keep making me flinch when I recall them. Basically here's what happened

>meet girl at pub
>buy drink, chat for 1.5-2h
>conversation is quite fucking awkward a lot of the time
>several bad awkward silences that she kinda rescued
>no sexual tension or flirting
>after a while she asks to go for a joint (of my weed) and suggests her place simply cos it was closer
>go back to hers and watch some show and smoke up and colour for an hour and a bit until she declares she's kicking me out cos she has work in morning

But before I left she asked me what I was doing the next day and what time I was free, then says (words to the effect of) we can maybe continue where we left off. Then after telling her she say something like "I have work till 7.... I might be free afterwards.... *brief pause* actually naah may well be busy. We'll see" (with a tone of reluctance in her voice)

Trying to work out whether her offer was genuine or whether she was just trying to let me down as nicely as possible. It feels more like the latter but I don't fucking understand why a chick would offer to hang out again if she explicitly didn't want to. Thoughts? Obviously I haven't contacted her today but considering it on the weekend.
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Phyllis Shakestone - Fri, 03 Feb 2017 15:29:56 EST ID:n9NCGcXe No.513011 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Oh, I totally agree. The thing is we both know doing the right thing isn't that easy. Relationships would be infinitely easier and better for everyone involved if we could just be honest. But we're emotional things for better or worse. No doubt she just doesn't want to think of herself as a bad person, but I'd bet you that she's also concerned for you. I don't mean to be preachy but nothing is worse than seeing somebody lose their faith in humanity because of a bad relationship or what have you.

And hell yeah dude, right on. Go out with this other girl and see where it leads.
Phyllis Shakestone - Fri, 03 Feb 2017 15:54:54 EST ID:n9NCGcXe No.513013 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Your value as a human being involves a lot more than your physical beauty.
Lillian Pittham - Fri, 03 Feb 2017 18:14:10 EST ID:NoKU4Mj+ No.513020 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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> I don't mean to be preachy but nothing is worse than seeing somebody lose their faith in humanity because of a bad relationship or what have you.

Lol this is me right now. My relationship with me ex has crippled me to the point where the world seems like an infinitely darker and more hostile place. All the positive qualities I had before her seem to have evapourated and what's left is a bitter, empty, jaded broken shell of a human being. Still love her with all my heart though

This isn't to do with relationships... its Tinder... last thing I want is a relationship. I just wanna see if I can actually have some good sex for once in my life and the occasional netflix and chill partner.


And sexual attractiveness involves more than physical beauty.
William Wundersere - Fri, 03 Feb 2017 19:11:43 EST ID:4RIQr7Ju No.513021 Ignore Report Quick Reply

As long you put those walls up they'll be there to hold you back. You're playing it out in this thread like you don't give a shit about this. It really comes down to two choices; did you make this thread to share your depression with strangers and ignore their advice, or did you make this thread to garner motivation to take a leap and be brave.

We've all been awkward man, it's fucking awful, I know. But I can tell from your responses that you don't have any real limitations. Your engine is sound, it just needs to get warmed up. If you really think this chick is a no-go, fine. But don't use it to tell yourself a story! Don't make this another bad story to support your idea of "not being good enough". Tinder is full of potential for getting more comfortable in these situations. Do it man. Grease the wheels. Keep at it until you like yourself, until you feel confident.
Sidney Finderstune - Fri, 03 Feb 2017 19:27:07 EST ID:NoKU4Mj+ No.513022 Ignore Report Quick Reply

>did you make this thread to share your depression with strangers and ignore their advice, or did you make this thread to garner motivation to take a leap and be brave.

Literally both. I'm a bit of a child.

>But I can tell from your responses that you don't have any real limitations

Can I ask what makes you say this? I'm genuinely intrigued but skeptical as to how you can possibly say this

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