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WHY CAN'T I LIE TO MY DICK by anon - Mon, 13 Mar 2017 21:16:59 EST ID:8SYj4jqr No.514388 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hi pals
a psychologist is too many calls and hours away, a priest would not understand, a bartender would not take it seriously. A diary would give me answers, but hell, you could too.
So, I've got this problem.
I've grown up as a weirdo in a nice town in the countryside, good student, good grades, good brain.
Then I grew up kinda handsome, kinda weirdo and with an 8 inches dick.
While attending university, I spent a few years learning all I could about girls.
You know, in the years of messaging you have to start from group writing of messages for the girls.
You study answers, you learn how the chat speaks over the words.
A crazy friend of mine then introduced me at the study of deeper and deeper knowledge of seduction. It was like we were writing out own
"Book of Seduction". It worked.
[FREE PRO TIP: start from Kierkegaard]
Some of the best years of my life. I learned how to pick any woman I'd liked and how to get her crazy for me.
I started tutoring other shy guys to help them with girl issues.
Shy often means smart; smart people just need to UNDERSTAND HOW IT WORKS. And the work is done.
I do swear that while teaching this, I never treated women as objects or preys.
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Betsy Hicklematch - Sun, 28 May 2017 16:02:36 EST ID:2cRqUGEL No.516570 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It's hard to get ingrained habits away from you. So set up a new goal. Pour as much charm as you can into your single gal. The one that means the most to you. I'm sure you do anyway, you need to get out of the thought pattern of "on to the next girl" if you truly believe she's the one.
With other girls, be the guy that looks out for them, not tries to fuck them. You can make them smile when they're feeling down, you can comfort them and charm them, but just know when you're doing it too much, and be aware that you might have to say no when they want to fuck you. Men are kinda conditioned to accept any form of sex when it's offered up to them on a silver platter, especially someone like you that's pretty much made it his hobby, but seriously man don't even allow any other girl to kiss you.

Make the other girls jealous of your relationship, make the other girls jealous of your girlfriend, make the other girls jealous that they can't have you and there's only one girl in your life. It'll drive 'em crazy and you'll still get your fun with flirting, but keep it at that. Maybe find pleasure in the denial of what they want, and then go home and fuck the brains out of the love of your life, because there's no greater feeling than that.

I mean to the average person this is terrible advice, don't do that. But if you're narcissistic, if you like playing games and fucking with people (and in your case fucking people), then that personality trait is gonna be a long hard journey to get out of. Embrace it and channel it elsewhere for now. Be a better person. Work on yourself and work on getting out of the "must fuck everything" mindset, but until then, play the game for fun, not to win a prize at the end.
Betsy Hicklematch - Sun, 28 May 2017 16:04:35 EST ID:2cRqUGEL No.516571 Ignore Report Quick Reply
also I'd advise talking to a sexual therapist if you can. It doesn't sound like it's the worst case in the world but it'll be something to think about if the thoughts get worse because that is indicative of some form of addiction to sex/the chase/etc.
Oliver Pabberchot - Tue, 30 May 2017 14:15:57 EST ID:PIDKMkeC No.516611 Ignore Report Quick Reply
If she's "the one" then monogamy should be celebrated, not hated.

Perhaps she isn't the one?
Cyril Chettingford - Tue, 30 May 2017 15:07:31 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.516613 Ignore Report Quick Reply

OP is doomed until he gets too ugly for the women he normally wants.
Clara Crenningfuck - Tue, 30 May 2017 16:35:28 EST ID:e1ptL1WV No.516615 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Go to the next part of kierkagarrd.

Becoming an artist.

2 girls, 2 rejections, same goddamn reason by Lydia Grimwell - Fri, 26 May 2017 17:27:40 EST ID:pUH3gQw7 No.516514 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey, help me. Am I a worthless piece of shit?

>Know a girl, as a friend
>Start hanging out with friend, she is awesome
>Hang out more and more
>Become very close
>Catch feelings
>Ask her out on a date

She says she needs to think about it. She then comes back to me and tells me in no explicit terms that she loves me, she loves hanging out with me, she would totally fuck me, but she can't. She can't because we are friends and doing that would change the dynamic of 'us'. She's scared I may fall to deep with her and then she'll hurt me if she ends it. I tell her time and time again she's overthinking it and we should just date for a while. She doesn't budge. Every time we've spoken about it, she apologises over and over. She feels bad every time she thinks about it.

>New girl
>Know her through a social group of friends, but we are not close
>See each other in person once every couple of months
>We never talk outside of these meetings
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Hamilton Tootridge - Tue, 30 May 2017 09:20:05 EST ID:gmpdueKa No.516604 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Yeah, this guy.

I dunno how OP asked them for a drink, but you don't start attaching strings to these things right off the bat. You'd be asking for too much commitment.
Hamilton Tootridge - Tue, 30 May 2017 09:25:52 EST ID:gmpdueKa No.516605 Ignore Report Quick Reply

You could always chase after college girls in your late 20s and older; just keep your body desirable, dress like you're attractive, and use that experience to land them in bed!

You could be curing daddy issues all around campus.
Polly Nendleputch - Tue, 30 May 2017 13:39:05 EST ID:pUH3gQw7 No.516610 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Even i can tell, this is really wrong


The first girl was a little complicated because i couldn't just say 'Would you like to go for a drink?' because we do that all the time as friends. So i said 'Hey, if you haven't realised yet - im into you, and im wondering if you feel the same way?'. She responded 'I dont know im bad at this' and then two days later she sent me about 5 paragraphs explaining how she loves hanging out with me, she would totally fuck me, but we cant because we're friends and she wouldn't want to hurt me if things went wrong and bla bla bla.

The second girl, i had never messaged before. We hadn't talked outside the occasional time our social circles would get together. On the last occasion our social circles got together, we spoke a lot during the night and then spent the last hour in the club just making out with each other. The next day i texted her and we had a short conversation saying she had a 'Really fun night'. A day later i texted her simply: 'Hey, if you're free this weekend, come and see me for a drink?'

She then sent me 4 paragraphs explaining how she's into me, she doesn't regret the night, but she's worried that i will make things weird on the occasions our social circles get together, and shes worried if it 'goes wrong' she'll no longer be able to hang out with the group on the occasions we do.

Idk guys... I've tried to be as relaxed and casual as i could. Im asking for a single date. Ive not asked for a relationship with either of them and im just so frustrated that they've assumed i want that, then they've assumed it wouldn't go well, and then they've assumed that if i want that and it doesn't go well - I'd make it weird?

Am i wrong for wanting to date people i at least somewhat know and have met before and care about? Am i going to get this 'We cant because it may make things weird with mutual friends' everytime?...
Cyril Chettingford - Tue, 30 May 2017 15:04:28 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.516612 Ignore Report Quick Reply

I can see how the first one went wrong; you pronounced your feeling for her. Girls like that 'chemistry' thing to happen where there's just a natural flow into a relationship. Of course, that flow can be directed subtly.

The second one, I dunno how the whole conversation went, obviously, but you don't ask if she's free, you tell her to meet you at x on y o'clock because it'll be fun.
Hannah Worthingstone - Tue, 30 May 2017 18:16:44 EST ID:9vn86lM+ No.516617 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Hey OP have you considered just organising dates with these girls and have them come along? why doy ou need to make a big thing out of "going on a date?" just go "hey i want to see x movie? keen?". Whenever she does something you're going to be there and just dont be the "beta male" that people say, just always act like you and her and potentially going to be in a relationship, act like a boyfriend would act, you want her to message you and go "hey, what are we doing this weekend?" or "hey, doing x want to come?"

This is how you get these girls, like it or not but going on a date means a lot, it means A LOT, so just "want to go see this local band at this local bar, come with me?" "have you ever done karaoke? we should totally go do it!" etc. i mean ive streamlined the conversation a lot, but you get the point i hope?

This is how my previous partners have got me, because im shy as hell and have a propensity to say no when people want me to make a commitment.

If shes worth it, then shes worth it, if you just want something to move incredibly quickly then tinder.

I CANT SLEEP by Isabella Gubberwid - Mon, 29 May 2017 05:49:51 EST ID:qkOc6AWo No.516585 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Can't even sleep, you fucking faggot. What the fuck am I supposed to do, retard fuck.
Phyllis Cracklepot - Mon, 29 May 2017 06:28:05 EST ID:xhbAA6TQ No.516586 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Have a beer and tug yourself off.
Wesley Sublinghall - Mon, 29 May 2017 07:29:02 EST ID:gXEOxC68 No.516587 Ignore Report Quick Reply
you just told us what is, not why it might be. try figuring out which thoughts keep you awake or of you had some substances recently that might inhibit sleeping or whose withdrawl keeps you from sleeping? if so, meditate on your decisions and then go back to bed. at least thats what I would be doing
Henry Nucklefit - Mon, 29 May 2017 16:42:09 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516593 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I assume that you do not know the cause of your insomnia. If that is the case, you need to think about what might be causing it the list of factors goes on and on. In the meantime i'd reccomend medication to sort out your sleep cycle, make sure that this is a temporary fix cause getting addicted would suck, melatonin would be my first choice for sleep but benzos also come to mind.

Some general sleep advice that everyone knows;
  • No tech at bedtime
  • strict bed time and morning wake up time
  • dim lighting before bed
  • Don't do things in the room you sleep in except sex or sleep (if possible)
  • eat healthy
  • exhaust yourself during the day with exercise or work.
David Billingville - Thu, 01 Jun 2017 10:35:31 EST ID:AkBTpOns No.516651 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>thats what i would be doing

no. you wouldnt be "meditating", youd be "spending some time dwelling along a specific vein of thought"

why do people need to pose it as though spending time in thought is some sort of enlightening, profound, spiritually-cleansing experience.

Boredom, breaking the habit. by James Cresslecocke - Sat, 27 May 2017 15:03:31 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516540 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hi guys, I've never kept that many friends and frankly never wanted many of them but i'm finding it hard to adjust to having none. I've recently broke up with a girlfriend of 3 years, during the relationship i lost contact with all of my friends. I am completely broke, I couldn't even afford a bus ride at the moment and so i'm stuck in my local area which has pretty much nothing to do in it, nothing at all. I am going to University in september and i'm sure i can make some friends when i get there but how can i stop the boredom of pretty much being stuck in the house due to having no money.

I realise a lot of the suggestions are going to tell me to do whatever my hobbies are or to look harder for things to do in my local area but i'm starting to loose all motivation to do any of the things i used to enjoy, instead i just browse the internet waiting to go to sleep

So pretty much what I want to know is, how can i get some drive back to do the things I used to enjoy and how can I do that without spending money.
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Cedric Seckleridge - Sat, 27 May 2017 21:41:58 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516548 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Sounds cool but i just realised that the dating thing would probably suck, cause nobody goes on a completely free date, I cannot afford anything at all even buying one coffee would fuck me at this stage, won't be getting any spare money for at least a few months
Cedric Seckleridge - Sun, 28 May 2017 10:27:57 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516565 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>new problem
So this is a new thing, i just didn't want to have double threads on the front page, hopefully someone sees this and can offer advice.

My ex recently moved out of my house, she's been in her new place for about 5 days. She took the essentials of her stuff that she needed when she moved out and I said she could keep the rest of her stuff at mine until the next day when she'd come collect some more. When she went I lent her a pretty nice suitcase which I would like back.

Anyway the day after she moved out she never showed up and I later found out she'd decided to go to the bar with her new boyfriend instead this kinda fucked up my plans for the day as i'd stayed at home to help her with her stuff. She was working on the following days and apparently couldn't come over to get it. Today comes along and due to not having a phone i hit her up on facebook messenger and explained i'd like her to come get her stuff tomorrow, she wouldn't reply past "i can't" and she said it was a bad time, i asked her when i could get in touch and she didn't know then blanked me. I'm paraphrasing that last bit but i got the vibe she just didn't give a shit.

How do i get her to come get her stuff and how do i get my snazzy suitcase back.
Betsy Murdford - Sun, 28 May 2017 10:47:32 EST ID:n1yNxChx No.516566 Ignore Report Quick Reply
put her stuff in a box in a corner and forget about it. you can't make her come get it, so don't inconvenience yourself.
did you tell her you wanted the suitcase and that it's important to you? maybe go get it yourself sometime and be careful about who you lend things to in the future
Cedric Seckleridge - Sun, 28 May 2017 10:49:30 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516567 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Yeah she promised to return it when she left, she knew the value of it, it was my grandads.

I can't put her shit in a box in the corner, it literally fills my entire spare room and part of another, she has so much stuff it's insane
Martin Pozzleput - Mon, 29 May 2017 04:37:12 EST ID:zbYXBcnx No.516582 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Didn't read thread but throw the shit in the yard. Pour lighter fluid on it. Ignite. Enjoy your choice of vice while it burns. Go to bed for the night, knowing you have free space and a well deserved victory at the hands of the mighty flames of destruction.

help is on the way by Reuben Bardgold - Mon, 29 May 2017 02:36:52 EST ID:lC4u5xZY No.516578 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Dear /bb/

I am drunk, and I know all the answers to your problems.

Ask me anything, and for the next 20 minutes I will tell you what I know until I pass out and fall asleep on my keyboard.
Ernest Blatherfuck - Mon, 29 May 2017 02:58:19 EST ID:ihovPNql No.516579 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Reuben Bardgold - Mon, 29 May 2017 03:00:16 EST ID:lC4u5xZY No.516580 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Phyllis Cracklepot - Mon, 29 May 2017 04:12:48 EST ID:xhbAA6TQ No.516581 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Can you help me overcome my sexual perversion and my problem drinking?

How to let shit go by Polly Chattingway - Fri, 26 May 2017 16:48:17 EST ID:mv6CynSU No.516511 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So I fell for this girl and then she fucked my friend so I told her not to talk to me again and shit, which is a very short version of a year long drama, but basically she's still around because she's in my friend group or whatever, and now it looks like she's fucking her ex's best friend. Tbh this is kind of greasy and I've lost a bit of respect for her, but it still stings for whatever reason.

Basically there's no way to get her out of my life entirely (I've been trying) so now I need to kill all of my feelings for her so I don't even care when she's around or not. Has anyone successfully done this? Like I'm hooking up with another girl anyway but idk, I get mad and/or depressed whenever she's around and I need my brain to fuck off with that weak shit.
John Blinderford - Fri, 26 May 2017 17:14:05 EST ID:n1yNxChx No.516512 Ignore Report Quick Reply
you need to accept that you've been hurt by it, and then genuinely feel that hurt
stop trying to make it not hurt
feel the hurt instead
gotta feel it to heal it.. little nigga
Polly Chattingway - Fri, 26 May 2017 17:18:42 EST ID:mv6CynSU No.516513 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Yeah but it's been like 3 months since I talked to her, then she pops up and it all kinda comes back. I felt the shit out of it when it happened. I just want to stop caring now. Like there's a point when "feeling it" is just torturing yourself with rumination, no?

Mainly it just pisses me off because she's fucking every guy in town but me, and in the beginning she couldn't get enough of me. I just fucked things up to the point where I guess she doesn't feel that way anymore which is fine, I just wish she'd fuck off out of my life now. I can do better than her anyway idk why I care at all.
Ebenezer Sazzlehit - Fri, 26 May 2017 17:46:10 EST ID:mB3oAGCi No.516516 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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John Blinderford - Fri, 26 May 2017 19:55:45 EST ID:n1yNxChx No.516521 Ignore Report Quick Reply
it seems like you're trying yo push it away though. with, like thoughts like "idgaf about her", and so forth
Shitting Semblelatch - Sun, 28 May 2017 21:13:48 EST ID:mv6CynSU No.516577 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Yeah true, muh ego I guess?
Idk I guess it's hard to accept things that hurt my confidence or whatever idk.
I guess it is what it is or whatever but dam I wish I cared less.

sex by afraid of sex and intimacy - Sun, 21 May 2017 15:23:12 EST ID:Pj3LHr36 No.516386 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hi, i haven't really told this to anyone so i wanted to get it out and maybe get some advice or something. Im male 23 and I having pretty big problem with getting close with anyone. I usually slow to get to know to, but i have a few good friends and some social life. I'm super anxious when it about relationship with girls. Im well looking and interesting person. I have kissed a long time ago and did some other stuff, but My only sexual experience was with a prostitute.
I can hang out with a girl and go to a date but when it comes down to being intimate or even close to anyone i kind shot off.
I think i have some kind of performance anxiety.
I'm afraid of sex and intimacy.
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Archie Greenshit - Wed, 24 May 2017 22:37:37 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516471 Ignore Report Quick Reply
The OP is worded badly i'm not 100% sure of the problem, If you can get a girl into bed OP but you struggle to perform viagra works wonders seriosuly get to the doctors. It happened with me, i met a girl and we got together then my dick would just fail to perform, i thought it was some kinda performance anxiety and the doc got me some viagra. I only had to take it a couple of times before my dick would work perfectly normally.
Lydia Sashfield - Thu, 25 May 2017 21:07:19 EST ID:ujVLnpKy No.516497 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I'm exactly the opposite OP. It is difficult for me to be genuine or smooth or w/e with girls on dates and stuff when normally I'm a charismatic, fairly attractive guy. When I have had girlfriends though, or sleep with a chick, I always get comments as to how good of a fuck I am.

As a pervy kid I watched porn (which is not a great way to learn about sex) which got me interested in researching how to go down on girls, how to have good sex, what to do, what not to do, etc.

So I say research it! Get information and learn about intimacy and sex. Also, over time and with experience in sexual encounters, it'll get easier. If you're with a girl that you've been dating and it gets to that point, maybe mention something to the effect that you're a little awkward with sex/intimacy. It's weird, but good chicks really dig honesty and being vulnerable.

Also, just practice. I'm fucking SHIT at dates but I force myself to go to them because each time with a new chick is a little easier, a little better, and a little less awkward. I have such insanely bad anxiety around it but you just gotta get out there and take your lumps, cringe at things you did, and move on. Eventually you'll be at ease and click with someone.
Beatrice Gubblehitch - Thu, 25 May 2017 21:12:43 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516498 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>chicks really dig honesty and being vulnerable

Yeah i agree, if it's not a one night stand the girl will be alright with whatever.
afraid of sex and intimacy - Sun, 28 May 2017 18:28:31 EST ID:hmthINqD No.516573 Ignore Report Quick Reply
The main problem is massive anxiety and lack of experience, tnx for sugestions.
afraid of sex and intimacy - Sun, 28 May 2017 18:30:52 EST ID:hmthINqD No.516574 Ignore Report Quick Reply
tnx for the reply

???? by Graham Seckleworth - Sun, 28 May 2017 04:12:15 EST ID:08b1uP9I No.516559 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm chronically depressed & anxious, have no friends, no job, no car, only income from govt. My family live on the other side of the country, I moved here to be with someone that later dumped me.
I don't talk to many people irl, and now even online I have no real connections anymore. I go to school but people in my class only talk to me if they have to. I never fit in anywhere.
What do? How to get friend? I don't know how to stop isolating myself
Reuben Clollerdock - Sun, 28 May 2017 05:17:22 EST ID:PhlR3Lle No.516560 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Who pays for your college?

You must have some connections to fall back on if someone can be arsed to pay for your college
Cedric Seckleridge - Sun, 28 May 2017 05:24:11 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516562 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Sounds like you've fell into a rut, It's a difficult situation being completely isolated but at least you have school.

Firstly what type of schooling are you doing, how much free time do you have? The easiest fix in my experience is to get a job or at least find some way to earn extra income. You'll get some new people in your life who will hopefully be chill but at the very least will be some more social interaction, spending your time working will reduce the time you feel bored or depressed and you'll have extra money to spend on doing fun things.

As for not isolating yourself in general, you need to look at what you like, if you have some sort of niche hobby you're in luck cause all you need to do is find a group of those people. If your hobbies are a bit more general e.g vidya games you might struggle a bit more so you could try finding something else that might interest you or just persevere.

Since nobody really knows what you're like from your post and we'll never really get a full picture no matter how many posts you make you'll have to look hard at yourself to see why people may not want to talk to you much. Make sure to be objective and don't let your emotions skew your image of yourself, think of examples of everything you come up with.

Do you perhaps act in a way that breaks social etiquette? or maybe you're just far too shy. Think for yourself and then try to improve on it.

Nearly just hung myself. by Lydia Blenkinduck - Thu, 25 May 2017 20:43:43 EST ID:XBteWUdI No.516491 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Just tied myself to my light with a metal wire and it broke just before blacking out. Fuck did I just attempt suicide? What do i do from here out i've never done this before. Carry on with the slower drug based death?
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Fanny Soddlebick - Fri, 26 May 2017 13:38:39 EST ID:2c08/Cs/ No.516509 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Just tied myself to my light with a metal wire and it broke just before blacking out.
>Fuck did I just attempt suicide?
You tied a noose around your neck and you dont know what you're doing??

>What do i do from here out i've never done this before
Get stronger rope, obviously
Beatrice Gubblehitch - Fri, 26 May 2017 19:22:26 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516517 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I was addicted to benz, I managed to get through it although I didn't have much social anxiety or other problems that drive many people to benzos. Why did you start taking benzos? Do you want to quit them?

Anyway I didn't find quitting too hard cause i spread it over a very very long time, i took a low dose for sleeping and to stave off the worst of the withdrawals while following a strict taper over a year and a half.

I still dabble but i'm not going to withdraw or anything.

Just wanted to say that in case you thought quiting benzos always had to be very hard.
Doris Becklepitch - Fri, 26 May 2017 23:45:22 EST ID:XBteWUdI No.516527 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I was incredibly wasted and in shock when i wrote that post, it was a curtain cord, and I tied it properly, the cable on my light broke.
It's nice to hear from someone who came through the other side, good for you. I started benzos as an accidental discovery that remedied my health anxiety and a lil bit of social anxiety, and as I didn't understand the consequences and with the availability via RC back when it was legal it was a miracle drug. Now I'm fully dependent, not addicted. I feel I need professional help to get off them but it's just not available for somebody who took them non prescribed. Lend me your strength bro.
James Cresslecocke - Sat, 27 May 2017 10:56:21 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516533 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Alright, know that your anxiety issues may increase if you start coming off the benzos but also know that the increased mental health problems are completely temporary and can be mostly avoided with a good taper. Do you still have easy access to benzos? If so you should switch to one with a longer halflife and then reduce the dose as much as you can without ill effects, it's from this point i'd start tapering down your dose, take a week or longer at that dose to be sure it's bearable.

Check this out and adapt it to your needs; http://www.benzo.org.uk/manual/bzsched.htm
You can make it last longer or shorter and switch up the doses etc it's just to give you a decent idea.

Anyway as for support do you have any close friends or even family you could admit this to and get some support that way? If not you could always get support from the internet, there's plenty of places that can help and give you some outlet to express how you feel.

Finally though you really need to be sure you want to quit benzos, if you are doing it half heartedly it just won't work, same with any drug. As you know benz are pretty harmless physically aside from the addiction and you can support a habit for many many years without many ill effects, although i must admit they do affect your life in more ways than you know. I feel mentally sharper since i quit and also my memory retention is finally getting to a more acceptable level (after 3 years).

It's probably better for you to quit but like i say if it's not something you see as a big problem you'll probably not do so well unless you find it easier than you thought somehow.

Oh and a quick bonus point; you could always switch your addiction to another drug, taper the benz down and smoke more weed or something. I couldn't do that cause weed puts me in a bad place and I avoided alcohol just in case i got some new and worse addiction but lots of people seem to say smoking weed or doing some other drug helps a bit. Bear in mind that shifting addictions around like this is probably terrible advice but I think it could be better to be smoking too much weed than taking too many benz.

too much weed? Is such a thing even …
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Graham Seckleworth - Sun, 28 May 2017 03:50:26 EST ID:08b1uP9I No.516555 Ignore Report Quick Reply
What you could do from here is be thankful as hell you didn't injure yourself in some irreversible, debilitating way during your half-assed attempt. You could let it remind you that your life can get MUCH worse if you let it, and find some small steps to take towards getting help for yourself so it doesn't.

She won't talk and it could be life or death. by Nell Packlebig - Sat, 27 May 2017 22:39:52 EST ID:5Yrwit8X No.516549 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I met this girl while we were both homeless. I was good friends with her husband. In fact he told me if he ever went to jail that I should take care of her. That's what I did and she ended up coming on to me. But first she lay clear the fact that she was not married to him and that g was being beat by him badly. In fact she was forced to stay with him because she believed lies about are legal problems.

I end up inviting her over when I get a place to stay and months pass. I don't have a job yet I do everything I can to feed her and buy her drugs. She manages to come up with money two and as always being loyal and honest.

I believe her when she says she doesn't prostitute. I believe she does with a select few people but that is not an issue to me. I need her extra income to fill the gaps. We both discuss needing to get lives together before we get in a relationship with anyone. I want her to know I won't hold her back if she gets in a better situation with another guy.

She has been beat up several times when she goes to do odd jobs. I protect her as much as i can despite she never tells me where she is or what she is doing.

This last time she borrowed 20$ and disappeared for 2 days. She calls and says everything is ok and that she made a lot of money and she's coming home in a few hours. another day passes and she says the same thing. I ask WTF is going on and she can't answer. She keeps responding with the question "What do you want me to do? " despite me saying drop the fucking job if they aren't paying you or letting you go when you want to.

In the last 4 days she showed up once and conned me into believing she needed a change of clothes but will be back in the morning. She mentioned there is a tent she can sleep in which is everything I thought I was saving her from. I can't call her and the phone she calls from belongs to a shady guy according to reverse number look up.

Last time we talked i suggested she take her shit and leave. I feel like she won't admit that is what she wants to do.

I think I might love her. I think she conned me. Or she could be kidnapped. I don't know the truth.
Cedric Seckleridge - Sat, 27 May 2017 23:26:10 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516550 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Look at it from her perspective, she was with a guy that may or may not have mistreated her and she was in a situation where she needed to look out for herself. So she stayed with him for the opportunities and security, probably while doing her own thing for extra income etc. Then that guy went away and she told you exactly what you needed so that you would provide as much as you could for her and now she has found someone else. I think she may be going through the same process again, she may even downgrade her living situation to do this for a number of reasons; it could be possible she doesn't want you to get too attached or she may be doing things she doesn't want you to know about.

Don't hold it against her, in a situation like that people will do anything for security but it's pretty obvious from my perspective that she used you for emotional and financial stability.

A little bit of extra advice that i doubt you'll take; stop the drugs, sure we all love them but your current situation does not allow for an addiction or even occasional use and it just opens up the possibilities that people will use you for them. It can be a bitch but i got through it.
Cedric Seckleridge - Sat, 27 May 2017 23:31:51 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516551 Ignore Report Quick Reply
As for how to handle the situation;
Ask her to tell you the truth, make her understand that it doesn't matter if she's been doing shady stuff, cheating, hiding money / drugs from you, prostitution etc etc
Explain that none of this matters now and that you just need to know what's really going on, finding out the truth could open up new possibilities to sort this out, at the very least it will make it easier to move on if what she has done is too much for you to deal with.

Don't let yourself be used and i'd probably consider that a relationship in which a person prostitutes themselves might not be able to become a healthy relationship.

Do everything you can to get yourself to a better place and surrounded by better people.
Graham Seckleworth - Sun, 28 May 2017 03:42:48 EST ID:08b1uP9I No.516554 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Sounds like pretty typical junkie behavior, man. You can't help her and she can't help you. I'd get a lot less involved with her if i were you, before things turn real ugly.

Dealing with the fact that you're an unrepentant freak and nobody will ever want you by Hugh Samblehood - Sat, 27 May 2017 20:41:06 EST ID:zbKXnohS No.516544 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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is an hero the only solution?
Cedric Seckleridge - Sat, 27 May 2017 20:53:38 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516546 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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OP don't feel bad, you just need to work on yourself a little bit, I think I have a pretty good idea of why you feel this way and why people probably think you are a bit of a freak. Also before i go on i'm sure freak is probably a bit of a strong word and i'm not so sure anyone actually thinks you're that bad. Anyway though i think your problem and what you need to work on is your ability to construct a half decent thread.
Charles Hadgeforth - Sun, 28 May 2017 00:04:46 EST ID:6Wnvue0u No.516552 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It pretty much is but I guess I should probably chant the, "It might get better for some unknown reason so just keep living in misery." mantra but in all honesty, I'd kill myself if I had the courage to do so.

Being a complete outcast that can't function with people when you are a social creature by nature is torture. Also, health issues and having your body go to shit in your 20's is also a for real buzzkill. Such is life. Mental torture along with physical pain.
Isabella Dricklefad - Sun, 28 May 2017 03:42:39 EST ID:odI2jO9j No.516553 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Nope. MGTOW, brother. Women are trash in the first place.
Nicholas Bangerridge - Sun, 28 May 2017 08:39:46 EST ID:1hqogB9q No.516563 Ignore Report Quick Reply



not this
Hugh Samblehood - Sun, 28 May 2017 17:12:53 EST ID:zbKXnohS No.516572 Ignore Report Quick Reply

you people lose hope very easily

get out of my thread nb

Porn Drugs Apathy and Suicide by Cyril Farringham - Sat, 27 May 2017 11:32:54 EST ID:3hagcIhi No.516535 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I am not sure why I am even writing this since. I am 22 currently. I developed a severe internet/porn addiction when young which only got worse and worse throughout my late teens. for most of my teen years I had planned to kill myself after school/college as I could not see myself ever being in some form of work.

I also developed a fear of intimacy with women and with internet and porn destroying my life social skills I have had the belief that I could never really have a successful relationship with a woman. This further motivated suicidal ideation since I guess even though it is probably a delusion, I have viewed most of my happiness to come from having a healthy relationship and sex life. Now I am not completely autistic and can talk to women somewhat and managed to land a girlfriend at one point but it didn't last long and I dissapointed her sexually which really damaged my masculinity. Porn addiction had numbed me so I could not get into sex and just had performance anxiety throughout the act. I struggled to get hard and came quickly as a result of not being able to get hard. This really destroyed my confidence in future relationships and has fueled the porn addiction further out of fear of opening myself up to a woman again.

Add drugs into the mix as since I was depressed when not numbing myself with porn I always felt like I had a bland personality when not drunk or on drugs. I began to more mentally sober and eventually dropped alcohol and weed since they didn't do what I sought from them. I eventually started using all the dissociatives, psychedelics and various other drugs including a bit of amphetamine. For a time I quit porn but eventually fell back into it cuz drugs eroded any motivation I had. I am currently about to be sober as of both for good now.

My problem is the hole I feel I have dug myself through not developing myself due to apathy and suicidal ideation along the lines of "idc I will just kill myself later so it doesn't matter". I have also only believed that my teens and early twenties will be the only part of life worth living. The one chick I have an interest in pursuing is interstate but it's not like that matters cuz if she was here she would see …
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Cyril Farringham - Sat, 27 May 2017 11:46:44 EST ID:3hagcIhi No.516536 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Ugh sorry for all the mistakes I am on little sleep. I guess the tl;dr is I feel like I have wasted most of my life.

I have some teen love romance thing I feel like I'll never get with the girl I am interested with who is out of reach. I can't see myself being able to maintain a relationship with someone since I can talk to them but my anxieties and fears don't make me a fun person when not on drugs and I just feel like I'd run out of stuff to say if I had to keep constant contact with a gf. I feel like I'd never be able to sexually satisfy potential female interests in my life so I'd never engage into a relation with them, not to mention not having a job or car further reinforces the fact that I am not ready for one. It comes off really pathetic since my problems are all self created and in reality there is really nothing stopping me from going out there and finding a part time job and getting over fear of driving and anxiety but I really just feel so fucking burnt out all the time. I have begun cutting out all processed foods and am eating real clean and want to start exercise and get good sleeping patterns to try and fix the damage i have done through drugs and sexual addiction. I'd cum so many times a day I hardly even feel anything anymore. The main problem is the damage I have done to myself feels like it will take years of repair and I don't want it to take years I feel like I should be in the prime of my life right now but I'm a pathetic burn out
Cyril Farringham - Sat, 27 May 2017 12:06:07 EST ID:3hagcIhi No.516537 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Does anyone else here feel like in terms of relationships with people they're the type of person who is socially better in small groups of people? I feel like I am cool to talk to once in a while because that gap has given me enough stuff to talk about but if I were to be with someone a lot for example in a relationship I just struggle to find anything of value to say? It fucks with my head so much since I am a somewhat pretentious person as well and I don't really have many things to talk about outside of drugs or psychedelic experiences. This is not a problem online since conversation flows differently and I can talk to the chick I like all day about everything from random topics to playing around with pretend scenarios, deep issues and I feel like I can be a naturally witty and humourus person online. Why do I fall to pieces in person ffs. It's like I can't think on the spot or struggle to think of a word or how i want to say something on the spot so i get anxiety which makes it worse. I feel dissociative and weed abuse has made this flaw in myself noticeably worse. And I was not even that aware of it before I started using, though I was a less conscious person before i used drugs. Fuck does anyone have this problem?
Eugene Duttingmin - Sat, 27 May 2017 13:19:39 EST ID:UrQwPY3E No.516538 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Wow dude you're a handfull of anxieties. I am/was a lot like you. Try to cut off the porn. Not jerking off, just watching less porn, or watching it less on drugs, or watch rather normal stuff. That will already make a diffence for you.

Training and doing less drugs (aka not smoking everyday) will also make a huge difference (at least it did for me). Also, training can be sort of a drug, running a lot for example leaves you with a great high. You could try that.

The other stuff it's just you overthinking. Do you have friends? Having a stable relationship you'll talk about the most banal stuff. Some old dude you ran into a while ago and seemed funny, or some thought that crossed your mind or whatever bullshit you're thinking of. That being said, you should find yourself interesting. I mean if you think you're boring well... you should do something to change that. Start doing some activity or hobby. I personally don't like people who can only talk about drugs (I used to be like that). Find stuff that interests you. In regards to sex well... it takes practice to get better. Maybe you can watch some porn tutorial? I've taken a couple ideas from online videos. But still you'll need to actually do it to get better. If it makes you feel any better, there's a lot of dudes that don't give a shit if their partner is satisfied, so you're already at an advantage there
Nicholas Crillybetch - Sat, 27 May 2017 13:52:31 EST ID:n1yNxChx No.516539 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>"idc I will just kill myself later so it doesn't matter"
Yeah. I know what you mean.
Two things, I think, if you're anything like me. Try to think about what it actually means.

The first is "having a life", and the second is "living in a healthy way". What do those things mean? I think that the former is having stuff to do, and the latter is, well, exploring the world, breaking down barriers, building things in your life. It sounds like, and again, if you're anything like me, your vices have taken over your waking life and you find that your life is this amorphous purgatory.. And the vices act as, well, a vice, trapping you in this state. Drugs were fucking me up big time, and I know I would've committed suicide if I didn't manage to stop. Like, 100%, no doubt. I didn't even do it on my own; it literally took an act of God to get me to stop. I was living in this wonderfully manic dream world, but my real life, the life that would actually sustain me and make being alive worth it was so undeveloped that I was starving to death. There were and still are glaring problems that I was ignoring, and there were and are still things I do did to stay there, things that I knew were fucking me.

Another thing, I have a lot of pain in me from my past.
>"idc I will just kill myself later so it doesn't matter"
This is sort of what I use to cope. I'm 24 and things aren't wonderful with me, but I have to admit they are improving, despite me doing things to sabotage. I went to bed at 5am yesterday, for instance. Shit like this just makes me fucking tired all the time and I hate it because I'm tired of living this way. I want to actually be a human being, you know? I want to have a life. I think my pain and my vices, which still exist but are not nearly as powerful today, take up the space that would otherwise place new things, new people and constructive, life-giving things.

Regarding being a healthy person, I think that a person's life is a reflection of who they are inside. The state that they exist in on a day to day basis. When I say state, I mean how you feel. Things like exercise and proper diet and nutrition are real…
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