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Dealing with AVPD by Rebecca Sunnerworth - Wed, 25 Oct 2017 18:49:12 EST ID:eH7FoqZP No.519635 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Does anyone else here have Avoidant Personality Disorder? Are any of you in 'remission' sort of speak? If so, how'd you do it?
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Graham Wombletidge - Sat, 28 Oct 2017 21:41:21 EST ID:7Ye4lt3c No.519683 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519677
This is childhood trauma, you can still get better just by going outside and talking to a stranger for at least 5 minutes every day.
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Caroline Billingfoot - Sat, 28 Oct 2017 21:57:48 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.519686 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519677
Yeah, the worst part is preemptively killing friendships out of fear of being rejected. I hate myself for doing it and I know I need to fight back against that fear primarily. It makes no sense to ensure the outcome that you are most afraid of (being alone) and yet I do it anyway. It is our curse.

I think you can get the kind of relationships you want if you keep struggling though, we both can. I have to hold on to that hope. I become discouraged and depressed when I start to believe that no matter what I do I will never be able to overcome my insecurities and anxieties and be close to someone, but I know where that line of thinking leads and I try to combat it because I know it's not true, there is always hope. Good luck in your struggles my friend.
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Caroline Dartfuck - Mon, 30 Oct 2017 17:14:10 EST ID:Svgtf+UD No.519726 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I recently wanted to make a thread about this, funny you made one about AVPD.

I don't think I'm in remission these days but rather hit some kind of plateau. This is a good outcome still because it's much more easy to handle than a few years ago and in comparison to those days this feels like a haven. When seeking help I was told this was more something to reduce but not eliminate entirely.

The first step I suppose was identifying the circumstances that led to being this way. A behavioral therapist can be really helpful in mapping out life experiences. This probably reads like empty motivational fluff but being fully aware of the sources of your avoidant conditioning are mandatory to be able to steer your mind and emotions in a better direction. At least for me this was tremendously helpful. Before getting to navigate my memories these issues felt like such a murky pond of impulses but now it's an organized graph of cause and effect.

But from >>519677 it sounds like you're in touch with that. But if I'm wrong and you don't have a clean understanding of what messages you received as a kid, you should start there.

The biggest thing was finding a relationship which felt impossible before attaining it. For most of our first year together I just wanted to bask in all this affection and intimate human interaction, I felt so starved for so long and suddenly I was attending a never ending feast. Slowly I developed such trust(and unhealthy dependence, separate issue though) that all of those intense insecure thoughts simply didn't exist being around him. I never went back through our conversations cringing at myself or worrying about what should or shouldn't have been said, I never felt embarrassed or even considered the possibility of his rejection. This was huge for the fact that it seemed to dull and sooth all of these issues.

That seems like a massive hill to get over though. Before him I worked a graveyard shift job and spent all of my freetime in my room, scared to even go to the kitchen or bathroom if my roommate was in the living room. Sometimes I would devise ways to go pee in my room and empty it out my window simply because she had guests over and the thought of walking past them was petrifying. Living there it was hard to function because I was this frightened rodent the entire time, but the graveyard shift made it feel like living alone 90% of the time.

So much forcing and going out of my comfort zone went into meeting him. No offense intended but it's probably a more difficult hill in your position purely based on social expectations. It's hard for a tranny to find romantic options but at least when a date finally happened it lacked the "you gotta be confident bro" aspect.

>>519677
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Simon Hobblepere - Tue, 31 Oct 2017 14:28:41 EST ID:qNSdqNw5 No.519745 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519635
I think I used to have it before but it seems like I'm more in the schizoid side. I think you just care less and less with time, and I actually like it this way.
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Simon Hobblepere - Tue, 31 Oct 2017 14:34:39 EST ID:qNSdqNw5 No.519747 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519677
Go talk to your HS friend you dumbo and explain to him your situation. If he stil wants to talk to you is because he cares. It is not HS anymore, he has very probably matured. Do it. DO IT!


My parents are possessed by demons by Beatrice Brommerpog - Mon, 30 Oct 2017 13:27:33 EST ID:UZC9gHak No.519718 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I know my parents are demons and it's driving me nuts. They time everything bad. I mean EVERYTHINF and BAD like down to a t.

After being rudely awakened by them I go downstairs because I have shit to do. I always have shit to do. I can't even sleep for a day I always have time stuff around their shit schedule and these small town hours.

This is like the 5th time it's happened this week. My ass hole is about to explode because of how bad I have to shit and my dad just charges right for the bathroom and takes it over and starts shifting. This happens EVERY TIME I HAVE TO SHIT.

One time I ran out of my room to take a shit and my mom wakes up from a dead silence and opens her door right as I have to shit and I'm walking down the stairs and don't even make it 3 steps before she says she has to use the bathroom. Like wtf bitch it really has to be this one minute time frame.

Every time I fap. Every time. Every single time. They come around the corner interrupt make a bunch of noise walk back and forth past my room. I just want them to fuck off. I don't care if they have to die or if I haveto pay but they need to fucking go somewhere. I'm trying so fucking hard to get the fuck away from them as far as I possibly can it's literally all I think about.

I would literally pay them $100 if they would just go away from a day.
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Edward Tillinggold - Mon, 30 Oct 2017 21:35:28 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.519734 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519718
So move out. Problem solved.
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Jenny Wezzlefidging - Mon, 30 Oct 2017 21:49:18 EST ID:JRyWjjSX No.519736 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519734

The best option. Unless op is an 18 yo senior
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Oliver Piblingwill - Tue, 31 Oct 2017 10:07:19 EST ID:ivmR6uBz No.519741 Ignore Report Quick Reply
you expect me to show pity or empathy when you are a little baby suckling off mommy and daddy? least you don't got bills, kid. hope you can move about before 30


Addicted to mortification? by Nathaniel Druvingshit - Mon, 30 Oct 2017 20:49:08 EST ID:V7JGOwDJ No.519732 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I seem to unconsciously engineer situations in which I will be acutely embarrassed; when I have already done something embarrassing my immediate instinct is to massively escalate the situation into an existential terror-inducing hellscape.

I used to think this was a side effect of substance abuse, and admittedly it has always happened more with the addition of drugs (especially alcohol but also stimulants, benzos), but I've been drinking/drugging a lot less and yet it still seems to be there at the core of things while sober. (maybe just revealed more with lowered inhibitions?)

For example, when I have a drunken argument, I quickly abandon any thread of reasoning and just say stupid shit that makes me sound like an asshole, not in the mistaken belief that I'm winning, but as like an automatic self-sabotage thing because in a weird way I get a buzz off the embarrassment/social suicide feeling? Like, I want to make myself look as bad as possible as a kind of fuck you to the concept of wanting to look good.

It's a weird trend that I'm only really noticing now, and I wonder if anyone can relate.
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Edward Tillinggold - Mon, 30 Oct 2017 21:47:41 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.519735 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Sounds like you may be a self-undoing masochist as defined by Theodore Millon
>Is “wrecked by success”; experiences “victory through defeat”; gratified by personal misfortunes, failures, humiliations, and ordeals; eschews best interests; chooses to be victimized, ruined, disgraced.

I don't know what to tell you because I'm basically the opposite as I have a deathly fear of being embarrassed and avoid it at all costs so I can't really relate, sorry.


ISTP by Ian Pandlechire - Sun, 29 Oct 2017 23:45:45 EST ID:PMkO/Z8a No.519708 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I was never a big believer in MBTI, but one of my friends was getting into it recently and I found myself looking at the memes and having a good chuckle. What really caught me off guard is that ISTP seems to be widely regarded as one of the least desirable personality types (pic related), and the one time that I took an official Myers Briggs test (I was in college and career counseling gave me it as part of a battery of tests), I got ISTP as my result. I scored almost exactly in the middle of the Extrovert/Introvert continuum but was to the extremes on the S/T/P parts.

I feel like whenever I see threads about MBTI, INTJ seems to come up a lot. Has anyone taken the test and scored as ISTP? In your opinion, is it really 'suicide tier'? Some of the stuff in the memes rings true for me, but I find it amusing that ISTP is supposed to be as bad/dysfunctional as INFP.
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Charles Hebberhall - Mon, 30 Oct 2017 05:17:33 EST ID:i632blqC No.519714 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I don't remember ever taking a meyers-briggs test, and always thought they were taken too seriously, but for whatever reason your post made me want to see what I'd score.
I was surprised, kind of, but I got an INFP today.
Describes me pretty well though.
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Eliza Sindlespear - Mon, 30 Oct 2017 13:27:47 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.519719 Ignore Report Quick Reply
ENTP BITCH
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Eugene Clayridge - Mon, 30 Oct 2017 16:41:30 EST ID:ZLhcWDoX No.519722 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_NQqSnkI32A

Fake and lame
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Molly Hedgemet - Mon, 30 Oct 2017 18:39:14 EST ID:jBDvFoJz No.519728 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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meyers-briggs tests have been critically discarded by a huge number of psychometrists for over 30 years now. The organization that sells the rights to schools and universities to run the test for their students just so happens to have funded almost 50 percent of the studies done on the effectiveness of the personality test. There is money involved, I would be highly suspicious of self-ascribing a personality type from this sort of test.
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Emma Bubberpidge - Mon, 30 Oct 2017 20:19:52 EST ID:S3kHOxGg No.519730 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I've gotten several different resulrs from that site.


How can I get mental health disability in America? by Caroline Sackleded - Sat, 28 Oct 2017 16:29:20 EST ID:FPD5kQT8 No.519680 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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My (rich) parents are finally taking me back after a couple years on the streets and are willing to pay for therapy. They still haven't accepted the idea that I'm unemployable (rather than merely lazy) but said they'd help with rent for a year.

So basically I have a year to start receiving welfare benefits. I tried getting a job for years but my parents kicked me out. I haven't exactly been bolstering my resume living on the streets and I have a much more substantial criminal record, so if I couldn't even get a mcjob before I obviously can't get one now.

Unfortunately I've read that it's pretty hard to get mental health disability in America. Do you really need a lawyer in addition to documented untreatable mental health problems (which I already have)? Has anyone successfully done this before? I have pretty much everything but schizophrenia plus a history of violence and getting fired. I think my odds are pretty good but the internet has been saying otherwise because I'm a white male from wealthy parents.
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Priscilla Sattingmirk - Sun, 29 Oct 2017 17:05:00 EST ID:37djlT33 No.519700 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519699

Yeah go ahead and be a retard and tell your physician you wanna go mass murder people if you dont get a free check every month.

You'll be better off doing that trust me fam

Actually just go kill them first and maybe then they will diagnose you as mentally ill. Then you can receive your welfare check inside of jail.
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Ernest Brookwell - Sun, 29 Oct 2017 17:12:44 EST ID:93IlhelY No.519701 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Op again.

>>519700
Thanks for the advice. I will lie to my therapist then and not tell them about my violent urges. I honestly did not know if that was in my best interest. Should l approach this from a more depressed/anxious perspective in your opinion? I have autism too and struggle to make conversation with people.
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Jenny Feshfield - Mon, 30 Oct 2017 03:16:49 EST ID:37djlT33 No.519711 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519701
Depression and anxiety might get you antidepressants(SSRI's) and benzodiazepines but I'm not sure it will do anything to help you with getting a welfare check.

If your serious about your quest I would look around google for examples of what other people have done to qualify for welfare.

Honestly your better off making up some bullshit if it's passable than trying to act on those violent urges.

And remember we all think those types of shit but the person who goes ahead and acts on those impulses is the one who will pay with years in the slammer.

I don't want you going away for a long time Op

I apologize for my harsh words. I hope you find help or figure out a way to get along in life.

Godspeed random internet brother.
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Oliver Micklekadging - Mon, 30 Oct 2017 03:26:00 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.519712 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519701
How old are you, buddy?
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Jenny Duckstone - Mon, 30 Oct 2017 13:56:08 EST ID:FPD5kQT8 No.519720 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>519711
Not harsh at all! I don't want to kill anyone most of the time. It's pretty much only when I'm employed. Thats why I know precisely what my trigger is. I'm just not one of tthose people who can function in society, but I only would commit suicide after killing someone else. Naturally been looking on Google but I haven't found much other than get a lawyer and be prepared to go at this hard for at least 2 years.

>>519712
Gonna turn 30 next month


Need to vent by Jack Feppershit - Sun, 22 Oct 2017 03:25:54 EST ID:h99WlKHO No.519560 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So i'm twenty three. I was in my car earlier tonight, after a night of bartending at a new job that i've started, and i started thinking about my life and how I got here.

i forget a shit load of fucking things until i bring myself to stop and think and recall them or something in my daily life signals a memory. at times, i feel like many different people at once. I feel that im incapable of change and that i will always return to the man that i am now - daily cocaine use, daily drinking, daily smoking, pushing myself hard. i make my life more difficult for no reason whatsoever.

does anyone else feel this? i know they do i only want them to tell me. I'm self destructive. i have a good job, i get paid good money, i got myself out of a terrible situation and life is good and i have this raging fucking urge to fuck myself up in the stupidest ways.

i'm angry, yet i'm not. i'm sad, yet i'm not. i dont find anything worth looking forward to, and i dont think that's a bad thing, it just is, and the indifference is painful sometimes. i only want a fucking hug man, and someone to tell me that everything is going to be okay and that i'm not a bad man.

i've gotten to where i am without hurting anyone intentionally. i don't like the man i am when i am constantly fucking doing coke and drinking. i want to be clean again and i feel that im trapped in a cycle because the total emptiness of everything kills me and i have to do something to fucking fight it knowing that i'm going to lose going into it.
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Nigel Carryfoot - Wed, 25 Oct 2017 07:39:45 EST ID:kcVbo4Uy No.519627 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519606

Jesus christ who's that girl? She's as close as perfect as possible, although it could be because of the bra. I'd need the name and/or more photos, in order to confirm the perfection one way or another. Also to beat it like a beast.
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Polly Manderken - Wed, 25 Oct 2017 13:12:50 EST ID:VNZRIbJT No.519632 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519624
I don't come here to get turned on! Since were here, name? Also name of big boob girl everyone talking about. Are they one in the same?
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Ian Pandlechire - Mon, 30 Oct 2017 01:17:04 EST ID:PMkO/Z8a No.519709 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>519622
Serenity now... insanity later.
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Ian Sennerpere - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 06:22:30 EST ID:t165pRuF No.519759 Ignore Report Quick Reply
the girl in the .gif file with the ass is one of the camilla sisters (twins) famous colombian models and they are fucking delicious
no bump you filthy animals
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Ian Sennerpere - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 06:23:53 EST ID:t165pRuF No.519760 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519759
sorry i actually meant
the DAVALOS sisters


I can't stay positive, I can't imagine change by Thomas Blytheshaw - Tue, 24 Oct 2017 14:28:35 EST ID:EW1SwjL/ No.519616 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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No matter what, I just can't stay positive for any period of time. Its always been this way.

I am very fucking neurotic. The slightest things can ruin my day and have me questioning whether I should even stay alive. I am stuck in the past and can't seem to move on, I'm still badly missing my ex even though its been years. I stalk her IG and it breaks my heart, Its compulsive behaviour and fucking pathetic but I hate change.

I've never stuck at anything, never acheived anything or followed through my whole life. I sometimes get motivated and vow to change with the absolute best of intentions. But time and time again I have failed and so now I simply expect to fail that I don't really try at all. I am so used to losing motivation and giving up that I can't ever imagine being able to change even though I want to so badly.

I'm hooked on porn and wanking and cant stop. I waste weeks, months at a time doing nothing. I expect the worst in life, it never ends and I'm so tired of being so pessimistic and sad.

Is this a self-esteem issue? What causes such deep rooted negativity and fear. Even though I know I have nothing to lose and everything to gain, I can still barely get anything done. And I'm not depressed either, I sleep like a baby and eat just fine. I just know what to do, hence why I would desperately post on a chan board for advice

tl;dr - how the fuck do you become a positive person after a lifetime of negativity, failure and years of built up regret?
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Alice Nablingsuck - Thu, 26 Oct 2017 12:27:09 EST ID:lIGmCb/T No.519649 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>519616
This sucks OP, I'm sorry that it is causing you so much stress. It sounds like you are in a bad place.

Maybe just go with it? There's a book called "Happiness for people who can't stand positive thinking" that might help, it goes through a few ideas and philosophies that mesh easily with people who are naturally pessimistic, you can then pick one of those if it sounds appealing and get more into it.
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Phoebe Sovingfud - Thu, 26 Oct 2017 19:19:43 EST ID:a0EoQjH4 No.519659 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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This video is highly helpful in respect to your reality. Watch it. There's nothing wrong with you.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R2lOWCT5oSE&t=435s

<3
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Awe' God !!vVWR8L52 - Sat, 28 Oct 2017 20:57:18 EST ID:hQScIyLB No.519681 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519616
fast and ride out the anger all the while accepting yourself as much as able. simple as that
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Ian Gannerkudging - Sun, 29 Oct 2017 15:59:21 EST ID:9ySjx6M5 No.519697 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519641
I'm going to tell you what I tell myself what I get into that mood: Is either this or suicide. I doubt you really want to kill yourself because you are still here looking for answers. I was at the border of suicide a few times but never did it, obviously. It seems like you already choosed to live so better get good at it.
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Nathaniel Chemmlesack - Sun, 29 Oct 2017 16:10:15 EST ID:jWKMyhYX No.519698 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519641
Is either this or suicide. Do you want to die? Then do it. I doubt you actually want to die because if you really wanted to: 1) You would had already done it. 2) You wouldnt be searching for answers and advide here.
Do whatever you can to get functional and working to some kind of goal, whatever the fuck you want, pills, psychotherapy, etc., whatever works for you. No one owes you anything neither do you owe anything to anyone. I like literature and music and I try to mold my life based to those two things. If you like anime do whatever you can to get yourself the time to enjoy anime the most time you can.
If you are clinically depressed nothing will make sense and everything will be a spiral of 0 energy and dispair, pills fix that to a certain point.
Change comes regardless you want it or not, the only thing you control is what you do about that.
tl;dr: stop bitching and do whatever
also eat healthy, stop watching porn, do not smoke weed and lift weights. this helps 90% of people, try it and if it doesnt work dont do it and keep searching for something that works.
bye, good luck


I miss them sometimes by Ernest Blemblewater - Mon, 23 Oct 2017 22:36:55 EST ID:jjpiyv0q No.519603 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Everyone comes and goes, man.
I've made friends with so many people through life that I wish I still talked to.
Elementary school friends, junior high and high school friends, undergrad friends,
friends from different online communities (that inevitably die out eventually),

I've got some longterm best friends who I've known for years but besides that and my gf, everyone is always moving on to other things in their lives.

Do you guys have people you still wish you were in touch with and hung out with once in a while?
There are so many people that have brought real good times but life seems to always push you apart. My current gradschool group who I see every day for the next two years are awesome people too, but again, we'll all be moving on too once we get our degrees.

Tswift unrelated
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John Sebblewock - Mon, 23 Oct 2017 23:43:18 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.519604 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>519603
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Rebecca Clittingcocke - Wed, 25 Oct 2017 10:58:59 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.519630 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519603
I wish I hung out with any of my friends but I just can't deal with the neurotic thoughts I get afterwards. Because I like them so much and care what they think of me and I don't want to lose them as friends, my brain goes into crazy mode and starts remembering all these tiny little details of our interactions where I might have done something I regret that makes a bad impression on me. I know how fucking retarded each and every one of these fears are when they happen, but they still happen nonetheless. After I interact with a friend for weeks I'll have flashbacks to these moments that cause intense negative feelings and no matter how much I try to think through them and reassure myself that no one is judging me over this stupid petty shit, it doesn't help and I keep having what are like mini panic attacks over and over. The only thing that helps is avoiding people I care about entirely so that's what I do.

I've tried and failed enough times to just power through it often with the help of various pharmaceutical drugs, so I'm taking a different approach now. I'm trying to raise my self esteem while living in isolation. Maybe if my self esteem was a little higher I'd get less irrational negative worries about how people perceive me.

Anyway, thanks for the opportunity to talk about myself. Sometimes I just have to reaffirm to myself that there is a path forward.
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Simon Munnermutch - Sun, 29 Oct 2017 01:02:43 EST ID:2aR2R3j2 No.519689 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519630
Hey, I posted cause I wanted to hear people's stories in the first place, so ty

Looking back, I felt that way about a lot of it too. I think a lot of why we stop talking to people after a while of not seeing them is cause it starts getting weirder and less comfortable to hang with them. Starts to feel more and more forced to me.
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Esther Fammertene - Sun, 29 Oct 2017 15:50:41 EST ID:sCrTtsfI No.519696 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519630
That happened to me a lot when I was smoking weed errday. I would over analyze every little detail about my interaction with other people and after a while I just isolated myself. When I stopped smoking that all stopped and I'm a lot happier now.


Need help making friends by David Sushpun - Tue, 24 Oct 2017 12:26:19 EST ID:sAwk6cCB No.519612 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm a 27 year old man and need advice on finding friend and relationships outside of work.

I suck at using apps and starting conversation in them. I live in NYC and feel like there is tons at my disposal but I'm too socially inept to take advantage of them.
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Shitting Brenningham - Sat, 28 Oct 2017 04:15:11 EST ID:WozaXgtK No.519673 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP I've never used apps to make friends. NYC is a megacity if it's a thing that happens there is a club or venue for it there. Go to places that do things you like, be it music, video games, tabletop, sports, okay maybe not hiking and do stuff and talk to people and if you go repeatedly you'll find people you hit it off with. Find interests you share outside the venue/event or go get food or drinks just going and eating at a place because it's nice to eat out is fine with them. Invite them to a couple of things. It may take a while before they reciprocate or they may invite you first. If this continues you have friends. Good deep special friends takes time. It takes luck and being the right person in the right place at the right time a few times. Just go do stuff that's fun for now.

>>519668
That's not quite true. Most people just have friends because most people offer something and almost everyone who doesn't has the potential to offer something to other people with a little work. I don't mean materialistic shit, I mean support, company, understanding, humour or some mix there of.
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Hannah Pockfoot - Sat, 28 Oct 2017 06:26:44 EST ID:RSV+7ccp No.519675 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519612
Go to the more laid back bars/clubs and live shows. Mingle with the crowd.

/thread
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Hamilton Chevingwell - Sat, 28 Oct 2017 07:57:35 EST ID:w1xq6GLK No.519676 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519612
Connecting with other people is difficult. It can even be painful, but the continual struggle to do so can bring meaning to our lives. Just get out there and try to make connections. Push yourself to talk to people and seee if you can relate. Nobody has to be friends but you’re bound to find someone worth your time and you worth their’s.

The main character in Neon Genesis Evangelion goes through this struggle. He fails to connect with those around him and lives through an internal battle with his own self discovery through broken human interactions. Watch it if you need some motivation.
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Phoebe Bumblebutch - Sun, 29 Oct 2017 09:57:56 EST ID:UrQwPY3E No.519693 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519612
Start an activity you like, one that sort of forces you to talk with people, practice every day and get good at it! Eventually there'll be a birthday or something and you'll get invited to it. Most of my friends come from such activities. (I think physical activities are specially good, since you get all worked up like you're high or something)
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Hugh Marryshit - Sun, 29 Oct 2017 21:43:47 EST ID:h/1sxUpj No.519706 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519676
>Watch anime if you need motivation

Is this a meme now?


Halloween Pickle by Edwin Siddlestone - Sat, 28 Oct 2017 12:20:01 EST ID:VNZRIbJT No.519678 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Things aren't so great right now. Not suicidal or anything but I at least fantasize about it some capacity every day or so. Nothing super unique here, getting older things didn't work out the way I wanted ect... and the longer time goes on and things don't work out the worse they get.

Tonight's Halloween party night and I'm feeling to anxious to even go the mall to pickup some ghetto costume materials by myself. I'm not sure if I want to go to a show because I feel like I've embarrassed myself around musicians that will be there. I'm not sure if I even want to go to this part because I'm socially awkward around strangers and get upset when I go home alone.

...But if I don't go out, I feel like I'm just going to loose my mind, do a bunch of addictive drugs by myself and just mope around. It's the day of, I guess this is more of a vent. I'm just really frustrated, when I'm supposed to be having fun.
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N7IX4 !!aUW3ymB7 - Sat, 28 Oct 2017 21:54:23 EST ID:V8lIvZw5 No.519685 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Aww, I feel you dude. I've been a mopey burn out lately. I haven't been to a party in a long time but I hate them. I doubt you've embarrassed yourself as much as you think you have. I thought I annoyed one of my favorites and then when he came back a couple years later, he seemed to still like me. Never discourage yourself from going to a music event. What was your costume idea? I want to make a spooky unicorn with black cheesecloth and wire--a mask that continues to drape down... I would wear it in the mountains for a video if I ever produce any music.


How do i be less pussy by Betsy Dettingcheck - Fri, 27 Oct 2017 09:12:17 EST ID:RnGarluI No.519665 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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How can I not be a pussy plus being high all day? I don't need to be like tough guy fighting everyone but I wanna be able to just walk up to someone I don't like and just beat the living fuck out of them like sucker punch and beat the shit out of them but I'm always high and it makes me more paranoid and passive plus that ahitis already for me. How do I just beat the fuck out of people randomly I don't even have to win fights and shit I just wannna be able to smash the fuck out of someone out of nowhere

For anyone wondering I just hate everyone and it's my only option. Everyone fucking hates me and treats me like shit everyone. I have like 3-4 people I wanna do this with when I see and I make cash now so I can make bail right away and shit and I don't care about fines but I'm not doing probation.
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Nathaniel Grandforth - Sat, 28 Oct 2017 03:01:19 EST ID:h/1sxUpj No.519671 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519665
Maybe you should just, you know, not be the kind of piece of shit who sucker punches people?
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Shitting Brenningham - Sat, 28 Oct 2017 04:08:58 EST ID:WozaXgtK No.519672 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519665
Your problem isn't that you can't win fights, it's that you're in a situation where you feel you need to beat people up.

It might be that you're surrounded by pieces of shit and just need a change of scenery. It might be that because you're so timid bad people (who are like sharks in a sense) swarm around you and push you around. Maybe it's because you've become so bitter that you repel decent people.

I suggest solving the base problem. Everyone hates you and you hate everyone. You probably hate yourself too. Therapy, a change of scene and stuff will bring you more long term happiness than punching a few shitheads.
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Nathaniel Grandforth - Sat, 28 Oct 2017 04:57:22 EST ID:h/1sxUpj No.519674 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519672
This.
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Martha Haffingwodge - Sat, 28 Oct 2017 12:58:04 EST ID:ivmR6uBz No.519679 Ignore Report Quick Reply
guess what bro the secret is that you are drinking the poison of resentment hoping that doing so will cause your enemies to feel guilt (the conjugate poison to resentment) but it only gives them amusement, or nothing at all. so you become like your op image due to your own choice to generate and consume resentment
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Simon Mattingbeg - Sun, 29 Oct 2017 19:11:57 EST ID:be+0kGLk No.519703 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519672
It doesn't, but keep stringing him along in the hopes his life situation improves somehow.


Move to la by Nell Gudgecocke - Wed, 25 Oct 2017 01:36:40 EST ID:UZC9gHak No.519625 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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How do I move to a big city from a small as fuck? I have a cat with me and that's it but his leg is fucked up and I need to pay for a surgery or something I think but it's hard as fuck as I have no car and my parents are poor alcoholics.

I want to leave like fucking now. I fucking hate this place. I have like 3-4K stashed and I made that in a month and a half and I can keep doing it. I don't need to be anywhere for employment I make the money off my phone. I just want to be in a big city because I fucking hate living in the broke ass country and shit ass midsize cities.

I just want to move to la I don't care about leaving my life behind or anything I want to start over in a place where I can actually meet people and chill and have shit that's actually important close by.

I already know how much rent is I looked on Craigslist for a year. I don't wanna live in a small town. I don't wanna live in the country. I don't want to move to a smaller city like Cleveland. I don't want to stay here and set up my life first. I don't want to move to a cheaper area outside of the city. I don't want to move to a city that's "like la" please don't offer advice if you're suggestion is related to that at all.
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!scyTheNg3k - Thu, 26 Oct 2017 16:08:06 EST ID:zqVntDEA No.519656 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519625

step 1: get a job in LA
step 2: rent a room in LA

what's so hard about that? you just have to realize that unless you're making loads o' money (and you're not) you're not actually going to be eating out and partying in LA every night. if you can cook for yourself and are okay with living in small quarters there's nothing that should prevent you from moving to Los Angeles. you do *need* to have money saved up because welcome to capitalism baby.

it's a lot cheaper if you either don't have a car or don't mind parking your car somewhere that might be far from your house, because off-street parking adds about $300/month to your rent. forgoing parking also makes it feasible to live in a shared unit which is pretty typical for cheap housing in LA. if you don't want roommates and you're not rich then you don't actually want to live in a city, sorry.

but, if you are okay with taking the bus and renting a room in a shared unit, or renting a very small unit, you can absolutely move to los angeles. you just have to accept the lifestyle. there are facebook groups that help you find roommates you won't hate. usually facebook/craigslist will offer cheaper rooms than zillow/apartmentfinder.

if you want privacy you have to either pay up or live somewhere less central. that's the cost of privacy.

honest advice though: don't just live in the city and party for years without doing something to move forward with your life. that's the mistake *I* made, and now I'm trying to get into graduate school and it's been years since I talked to any of my professors and I hated my job and I'm pretty sure everyone there hated me so it's really not good. whether you're in LA or not, you're still getting older, and you need to be preparing for that reality. most people, as they get older, get sick of not having a car and living with roommates. for now, you're you, you do you.
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Fucking Sabberham - Fri, 27 Oct 2017 04:48:03 EST ID:EcnEVJTp No.519664 Ignore Report Quick Reply
i stayed in LA recently for a few weeks. I had always wanted to visit since I was a kid from the midwest. Its expensive. literally everything is more expensive. after going there I found out from people in LA that if you are seriously considering moving there you should have a job lined up and at least $10,000 saved up as a fallback plan since rent is so damn high. Proving income with your phone job might be a problem as stated above. there were cool parts of LA but a lot of parts were shit and overrun with crackheads and schizophrenics. Maybe you could try visiting before you just make the jump to living there? The bay area is definitely more friendly but equally expensive. san diego is nice but it doesn't have as much personality as LA and SF. Im kinda curious as to why you are so set on LA? I was very excited to go but once the novelty of seeing hollywood and shit wore off i realized I was gonna be stuck there financially if I didn't leave when I did. Not to discourage you but I met other likeminded young people who had a dream and up and moved to LA who were not in a good position after being in the city (shit got stolen, realized they couldn't afford it, crackheads errywhere) so keep this in mind.That being said, Venice Beach is one of the coolest places i've ever been to and I would gladly live there if I could afford it.
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Hugh Fappersare - Fri, 27 Oct 2017 09:14:52 EST ID:UZC9gHak No.519666 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519652

Lmao peasant all I need is roommates and I'll pay 3 months rent up front I don't give a fuck I wanna live in the ghetto anyway and I know they'll take cash straight up like that

Disgusting ant. Who lets you people live just crouch as fuck poor peasants I'm so fucjing sick of your people's presence.
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Thomas Menkinstedge - Fri, 27 Oct 2017 14:54:52 EST ID:hRBYIF6G No.519669 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>519666
Is this a new thing where we lower post count by mashing two posts together?
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Simon Mattingbeg - Sun, 29 Oct 2017 19:13:51 EST ID:be+0kGLk No.519704 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519666
>wants to live in the ghetto
>calls anyone else peasant

lol villein


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