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Come Brag by Little Taco X - Thu, 18 May 2017 21:38:54 EST ID:5iuMr5ZK No.516337 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Take no shame in boasting here. Speak the things that you're proud of. Indulge your ego- it's why I made this thread. Watch, I'll go first. Just kidding. PSYCHE- GET SMOKED!
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Fanny Senninggold - Fri, 19 May 2017 14:07:27 EST ID:i7wBrh9f No.516346 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I'm good at making (some of) my friends laugh, I have a good musical ear, a couple of people have told me I have a pleasant singing voice and I'm smart enough to do well but not so smart that I'm unhappy and lonely. I'm also very good at crying and being a fatass.
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Lydia Clonnerwell - Fri, 19 May 2017 15:12:13 EST ID:gmpdueKa No.516347 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I became a chemist at a company and in 2 years had a seat at the decision table where I could help shape and determine the future of that company with all the parties and treats included with it. I can deadlift twice my body weight, and I'm smarter than most people without trying. I'm also a very fast learner and trained in various martial arts over the years.
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Eliza Huffinggold - Fri, 19 May 2017 17:05:59 EST ID:TX3Ezud6 No.516350 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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I'm really good at bending my self view so much that I believe I am really good at things I don't have a clue about whatsoever. And the things I actually am good at I just regard as "meh" and I have no confidence in whatsoever. I also excel at trying out new interests and hobbies just to the point that I get invested enough to invest in material to make something real happen at which point I drop it completely. I'm also real good at portraying negative traits from a semi-positive perspective.

But for real, I'm truly very good at eating out girls asses. I don't pussy around, I ravage that anus sensually, teasing it up a bit first and going all in just when they desire it the most. I got a girl that was doubtful of anal all into it by the passion of my asslicking skills.
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Jenny Pittford - Sun, 21 May 2017 17:03:25 EST ID:0tc71WAj No.516388 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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I graduated from Nursing School a week ago and I already have a job. I'm only 22. Fuck yea for doing something right with my rocky life.
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Alice Pottingham - Mon, 22 May 2017 09:37:55 EST ID:13pkC2bm No.516397 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Most of my friends seem to suffer from some kind of brutal anxiety or depression.

I'm really, REALLY, glad that I don't. I do have my own insecurities and shit, but in reality I'm very happy and comfortable with who I am.


Starting college late in life? by Fuck Dagglepire - Wed, 17 May 2017 19:10:19 EST ID:GV9SUhOg No.516301 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey, folks. I'm a 27 year old male in the United States. I'd like to go to college in order to pursue a degree. I never took the sat or the act.

What do I need to know in order to not fuck it up?
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Charles Grandbury - Sat, 20 May 2017 19:16:59 EST ID:odI2jO9j No.516376 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>516374
Yeah sure, blame the victim.

The reality is, the economy ain't as good as President Trump would have you believe. There's more people than jobs that pay enough to buy a house and start a family. Automation is destroying the middle class, so the you're either one of the few super-elite or you WILL work in the service industry underclass. We live in 2017, not the economic bubble of the roaring 90s.
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Lillian Pockhall - Sun, 21 May 2017 00:18:15 EST ID:gu/lq3ms No.516377 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>516376
For real. I went into the trades (electrical) and even though The Trades™ is what people tell you to go into for a surefire gig, I can't find shit.

UBI when, jack me into the matrix I'm ready
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Nicholas Gebberhit - Sun, 21 May 2017 05:53:34 EST ID:WVSsaSHI No.516379 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516377
"The trades" is a bit of a meme. Though that said maybe you're in the wrong area. Also I've heard of people waiting for plumbers and builders but never electricians so maybe you picked the wrong trade.

The economy doesn't need to grow really. Most people who talk about economic growth don't understand the basic economic problem or what an economy is. The definition is a system of distribution of limited resources for unlimited wants and needs. Now personally I think that making a number of dollars higher isn't as valuable as satisfying needs but for the time being there will be no UBI and laughable welfare, and private healthcare and poor schools and expensive housing but some people have to have their gold plated toilets and 3rd sportscar and professional ball washers. Unfortunately the latter group are the ones with spare income to fund political campaigns.
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Cornelius Tillingville - Sun, 21 May 2017 06:52:18 EST ID:cZfLVpD1 No.516381 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516379
>>516377
I dunno man. I went to college for some trade programs. Dropped out and I'm highly employable just because I went to trade school, did awesome the first couple semesters and dropped out. I can go and work on shit and just make it happen or work so that makes me really employable. If I wanted to do trade work, I could find a steady full time job here in the US or in Europe. Dunno bout electricians but my fields are in high demand and have been that way for the past 70 years.

But I sorta feel you OP. I'm going back to college to be able to live my artsy fartsy "dream." I'm going in at 22 and will be out at 24.5ish. Feel like I'm substantially behind the curve at that point because most people started doing what I'm doing at 13-16. I started at 18 and they all went to college then. So I'm gonna be around 18 year olds who already have an upperhand and I don't do much social shit.

I can probably network with the instructors though to set me up pretty well after college. But, I'm sure it will be fine, even if the underage crowd is begging me to buy them beer and shit.

Just show up, do your work and keep a friendly demeanor with the professors. Ignore the partying and bro lyfe. When people say to network and be social in college, they mean with the people who have been in the field for decades. I was chummy with some of them in trade school and I still have an offer I could take up to work in Dusseldorf for 60k euro a year with free housing and transportation. Focus on getting as many A's as you can. Scholarships are dope as all fuck dude.
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Nicholas Gebberhit - Sun, 21 May 2017 09:39:53 EST ID:WVSsaSHI No.516382 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516381
My point wasn't that trades don't make you money but that it's become this sort of dumb meme. You need to still find your market and find the demand for your services and then offer those services to the interested parties. If you are in the wrong part of the country trying to find the wrong sort of clients you're going to be SOL, if you're unproven looking for big jobs you won't get taken by anyone who isn't desperate.

I also get the impresion this varies with trades. People wait weeks for plumbers. They wait months or years for a good builder in the right area, but then some places will have no demand for new kitchens and extensions by the nature of their demographic. Electricians are not a thing I've ever heard people talking about, I think they get the builder they waited 2 years for to do a hack job while they're there instead. However when you're working for a property developer electricians are top of the pile it seems. My uncle has been doing it all his life and he's nearing retirement age now. He frequently works 100 miles away on sites because I guess the city he's working doesn't have someone with his talents out of the million off people knocking around that is available. He has a nice house and last year took almost 2 months off work to go goof off in Thailand with his wife who was also off work (though she works in schools so she was on leave anyway) so it works but he obviously didn't just have that fall into his lap. He had to start by groveling to a property developer and prove to them just how good he was so that they started to give him a job like this.


I think i went insane by Beatrice Honeyham - Sat, 20 May 2017 07:30:05 EST ID:cajtEPh4 No.516360 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've wanted to kill myself before i even knew what drugs were, i believed all sorts of bullshit like religion/magic etc. Ever since i discovered drugs, life seems actually liveable and after 3 days of some sort of meth derived thing, i got all my shit sorted out, it permanently, it gave me this realistic point of view that would have been super usefull when i was a kid. Anyway, the whole 3 day thing was years ago, like 6 or 7 years ago, i think. Last year i tried acid for the first time, everything was pretty chill until i got this weird realisation that im somehow retarded or that im missing something that everyone else gets. Ever since i feel like im in hell, there is this weird feeling as if everyone knows what im thinking, like im making it obvious through my speach ad gestures, but really really specific. Mix that in with intrusive thoughts and bam, infinite guilt and paranoia. It was just half a stamp A YEAR AGO. Now i feel like its too late to kill myself, like i have to finish a bunch of personal projects but i feel im just trying to trick myself into keep on going even though most of the time i really wish i didn't exist. Weed chills me out a bit and i do x ocasionally, i either feel normal then or the same but really dont care. I dont have a job, i cant go see a shrink. Is this normal like that first time weed experience when you think they know? Some recomended taking acid again, others to just drop drugs alltogether, but if i have to go back to life before drugs, i think i prefer this feeling of hell and constantly being judged and shamed for my thoughts i have no control over. Sometimes i have to hit my head against a hard surface a few times to make them go away, but these thoughts were there way way WAY before drugs/alcohol. Its kinda like being tickled, you're laughing but you're not having fun. That is my life right now either im on or off drugs, this thing doesn't go away, and everytime it happens i just keep telling myself there's no way this is real and every time i try that, the discusions people are having around me become even more personal. It's as if im constantly being talked about but without fully understanding the double meaning of whatever they're s…
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John Smallwater - Sat, 20 May 2017 07:51:25 EST ID:u21ilOgA No.516361 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516360
You might have some kind of disorder, like depression or bipolar, its nothing to be ashamed of, and try not to care what people are talking about, chances are they aren't talking about you, even if they are it really doesn't matter.

Dont know if this helps, hope you sort this all out some day.
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Albert Beffingforth - Sat, 20 May 2017 13:49:35 EST ID:bcfV+ABm No.516368 Ignore Report Quick Reply
People can tell what you're thinking it's called body language, and maybe you are retarded if you think hitting your head against a wall is a solution. Stop worrying about it and go find a job or something to occupy your time
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Doris Fanstone - Sat, 20 May 2017 15:45:48 EST ID:jw/uuyaS No.516369 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Your story sounds almost suspiciously similar to mine. Been dealing with the same shite for ~10 years now. The guilt, paranoia, feel like an outsider (in a retarded way)... TBH with you, shit hasn't improved much over the years, but I've become better at dealing with it all (i.e. not giving a shit). Not to say you wouldn't get better though, never know. In the meantime, find something to distract yourself from your thoughts. And I mean really, focus all effort on this, what ever it takes, you need to stop this kinda thinking so it won't get a grip on you. Always remember: your mind plays tricks on you, recognize that and be a skeptic of your own thoughts. That's about all the advice I can give, good luck.


Am i fucked? by Nicholas Gizzlefoot - Fri, 19 May 2017 15:22:02 EST ID:ZPZ3zWdc No.516348 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey 420chan, im a newfag that came here asking for some quick thoughts, im going to the doctors soon because since i started heavily smoking weed (Most of the time out of a bong) i get a really bad cough and a wheeze, after a day of smoking my other days when im not, consist of more coughing for no reason, lots of phlem and more wheezing but this time with shortness of breath ( i cant take a deep breath without coughing)... I went to the docs once for a this prob couple weeks ago and all he gave me was antibiotics to take for a week and it did nothing. So i want to ask, am i fucked and wont be able to smoke regular like out of bongs, or is this actaully something a doc can do to help m
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David Bunwater - Fri, 19 May 2017 16:09:21 EST ID:b1UFhFdv No.516349 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516348

Stop smoking out of a bong. Buy a vaporizer if smoke is bothering your lungs?

How long has then been happening? Did you not take all the antibiotics or skip days like a retard?
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Hedda Wublingforth - Sat, 20 May 2017 06:57:23 EST ID:bpG5EuOk No.516358 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Smoking bongs may have triggered asthma you were unaware you had. Go to a real doctor, not some idiot who just throws pointless anti-biotics at you, and get it checked it out. Also stop smoking from bongs and maybe invest in a vaporizer.
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Hedda Wublingforth - Sat, 20 May 2017 10:35:34 EST ID:bpG5EuOk No.516365 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516358
PS I have asthma, which was onset by tobacco smoking (that I've now quit thank God), and it fucking blooows. Do not mess around with your lungs man, trust me on this one. I have had some really, really shitty asthma attacks that are just a world of pain, stress, inconvenience, fright and all around shit. Stop smoking bongs. Go to a doctor and get him to test you for any lung-related problems, ya don't wanna end up like me, enslaved to a goddamn inhaler.


Brittles by Ian Cimmerville - Tue, 16 May 2017 23:39:08 EST ID:EYC3ktS4 No.516289 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey /qq/,

Have had severe depression since I was 13. I am going to be turning 26 soon. I
only recently got on anti-drepressents and they make things tolerable but I still get suicidal thoughts all the time. Therapy i'snt really helping anymore and most of my friends have moved on with their lives (moving to other states/deep in careers/having kids/etc) so I am very lonely. I have never had any sort of relationship and am still a virgin because i never wanted to hurt anyone with my toxic mindset. Everything I've tried to improve my mindset to a more positive one has failed. I use to be able to use physical self punishment and self-hatred to motivate myself to change behaviors but I am beginning to burn out. I feel like after 13 years of never being really happy I am just going to have to accept that nothing will ever feel good and this is just the negative reality I have to live in whether I like it or not.

Any Advice?
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Priscilla Hoppergold - Wed, 17 May 2017 13:11:37 EST ID:WVSsaSHI No.516293 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516292
Being a barely functional mess probably won't hurt other people but no one who wants a healthy relationship will be interested in you. You will attract equally broken people and worsen each other or more likely abusive partners who don't want healthy, they want victims. In short OP's right but it's mostly OP being protected.

Okay so as for your questions OP. Two things.

First of all maybe try a different antidepressant. Maybe this isn't the best one.

Two that alone will not fix you. It's just a band aid to stop your guts falling out while you heal. The reason negativity doesn't work is because it's reinforcing your problems, it never works. Negativity is a self reinforcing feedback loop because it makes you feel bad so you feel bad and are more negative.

Positivity is also a self sustaining feedback loop. When the shit hits the fan you are more resilient. Being negative is going to the market to sell some apples and taking 15 in your crate because you're worried you might have an accident, then you fall over, drop them and throw your hands up in the air and storm off home after breaking your crate in a fit of rage. Positivity is taking 20, but when you fall over you think "maybe I can save some" then you make it to the market with 8 apples and your family doesn't starve and you feel better. And if you're really practiced at positivity you think about how you would have handled that and feel good. Positivity is taking opportunities, when shit happens the opportunity is often to minimise how bad it is and salvage what you can.

We will always feel bad and miserable. You cannot change it. Shit will happen. Existence is suffering. However you can increase the amount of good in your life and maybe that is the approach you should consider. I mean some suffering is avoidable and should be avoided but it isn't all suffering. Which also is why a lot of people who seem to cruise through shit aren't cruising, they just have more protection from the bad times.

Anyway you can't create positivity with negativity. That is what you tried. Creating a new better positive feedback loop requires sustained effort though. It's har…
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Edwin Craddlewidge - Wed, 17 May 2017 13:33:36 EST ID:ibzykhIS No.516294 Ignore Report Quick Reply
There is tons of research now on mental disorders and their links with our genetics.
Mutations in our genes cause certain pathways in our body to become overloaded, we can treat them semi-effectively with simple supplements. Note I don't meant a multi vitamin, I mean precise supplementing to correct simple pathway blocks drastic effects.

Look up "MTHFR" gene and CBS pathways to get you started, good luck

Personally I have not had much fortune but I let it go to long, my depression and ADHD symptoms eventually turned into ALS type condition.

But they're all related, the human genome has been mapped and if you want to feel happier you must try and understand why your constant state is one of dysphoria.
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Alice Crudgefield - Thu, 18 May 2017 20:23:15 EST ID:EYC3ktS4 No.516334 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516293
I have tried a lot more positive reinforcements but they tend to help for only a short period and then collapse no matter how hard I try. Its just that self punishment always worked for immediate relief/ results. I know that bad stuff will always happen, thats not my issue nor really what affects depression. Its a false view of Depression. Depression is not based in reality, it's based on the chemicals In your head.
I am also very good at coping with failure but thats also not my issue.
My issue is since it has gone on for so long should I come to terms with these feelings and accept my issues or should I continue to beat my head against a wall in hopes of becoming an individual worthy of actually having an existence?
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Edward Sullyford - Sat, 20 May 2017 07:07:54 EST ID:WVSsaSHI No.516359 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516334
If you're taking the right corrective action then what should happen is positive action results in nothing for a while. Because the energy is going into disrupting the existing cycle.

I found the opposite, no benefit initially, it was worse as I put more effort in for nothing but as things improved it became self sustaining and eventually easier.

It's not just about positive reinforcement but making sure you're reinforcing stuff which pays off long term. Picking the most superficial but easiest example to explain from my own experiences, I started dieting and losing weight and I was miserable and hated it. But after a while I lost about 40 pounds and someone said "You're looking very svelt" now I was still fat at that point but it felt good and it made things that much easier. I redoubled my efforts and the compliments poured in. Now I work out and maintain my diet and it's still hard work but every day I don't feel self conscious, all physical endevours are easy, I fit into normal clothes, when people stare I don't feel disgusting, my athsma doesn't bother me any more when it would cripple me and this means my life is better for those effort. But for a long time I gave up things I loved eating for no return at all. I just felt bad
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Hugh Ganderhod - Sat, 20 May 2017 08:14:46 EST ID:WCiWyIpM No.516362 Ignore Report Quick Reply
hey, try exploring this website for awhile

http://www.cyquest.com/pathway/emotional_processors.html


Girlfriend and I had a big fight... by Jarvis Bunhood - Thu, 18 May 2017 16:53:25 EST ID:3sZOqXrm No.516323 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey /qq/, long time no see.

Basically, I've been dating this girl for about a year and a half. She's fantastic. Smart, beautiful, funny. Normally I'd consider her a little bit out of my league, but here we were, 19 months later, still going strong.

Or so I thought.

She started a new job on the other side of country recently, maybe 2 months ago. Before she left, I thought things were going great. We had some rough patches, where the give/take dynamic would get skewed from time to time, but it seemed manageable and not that big of a deal. We would "play house" all the time and constantly bolster each other up. It seemed healthy at the time.

Things were going as great as it could have gone for that first month of long-distance. Daily calls, weekly video sex, all that. I was genuinely interested in her day and she was with mine. Yes, it was a lot of small talk, but we enjoyed it and the possibilities were there for even deeper discussions made possible because there was nothing else to do.

She became distant over the last couple weeks. Not responding to texts, leaving our phone dates early, all that. Not a big deal as isolated incidents. She's busy and I respect that, just like she does with me, and the time difference between EST and PST sort of mandates that the timing is more awkward for her than for me.

I bring this up a couple of days ago, just saying how much I miss talking to her and hope that we can be more consistent in the future. This brings about the biggest and nastiest fight of out time together, though.

She comes in ready for a fight. Being extremely hostile, bringing up events and incidences from months ago. Her points are valid and things we've talked about before that I've been trying to change with her to make myself better and her more happy, since they're recognized faults within myself. She says she we got too complacent in our relationship and how she felt she was always the one putting in more work. I disagree, but I didn't argue the point.
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Graham Pockwater - Thu, 18 May 2017 17:57:09 EST ID:WVSsaSHI No.516327 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516323
Long distance relationships like this are not viable long term. If you don't have a time when you will be united, if you can fix this get one or you're wasting time. Medium term ie for a long time but you actually know when you'll be reunited is viable if you aren't super far away. You are super far away.

There's a chance she's found someone else. Or maybe she just misses the fuck out of you and is expressing it poorly. I dunno. But if you do save this, nail down the date or a time frame, or a realistic plan at least.
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Augustus Bomblelock - Fri, 19 May 2017 17:37:42 EST ID:FhYLtx4F No.516351 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Find someone else, she obviously did.
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Simon Blublingwell - Fri, 19 May 2017 18:16:44 EST ID:AkBTpOns No.516352 Ignore Report Quick Reply
everyones just got their own nonsense to deal with. shes probably struggling with something totally unrelated

its really hard to treat someone like an actual human being when they come this far off and distant, virtual presence. i dont know. youve got more heart than me for trying to put work into a long distance relationship. id probably let it die through lack of communication, simply because i hate "trying" and unless someones in my life and my day-to-day, i just...feel no desire


I am going to do something today by Jack Trotbury - Fri, 12 May 2017 12:37:07 EST ID:0VxQSvb/ No.516159 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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After spending some time here, reading yous helpful posts, I have decided to sit on my bicycle, ride to the cottage through nature and spend a night there. I know this isn't board related but I'm just letting you know, I think I've been getting a very slight bit of hope which might ease up my depression a bit. Just letting you all know, I like you people.
pic is just a random cottage
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Shitting Drablingtudge - Tue, 16 May 2017 06:54:05 EST ID:GnmIsrNn No.516276 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516253
>>516260
You have basically answered everything I needed to know. Thank you guys.
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Cedric Pecklepog - Tue, 16 May 2017 19:55:40 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.516286 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I decided to ride my bike across the US to help with my depression and internet addiction and I got hit by a truck and broke my arm on the second day of the trip lol. Somehow I still have the feeling of hope and I haven't been discouraged though. Amazing what a little activity will do for you. Keep it up man.
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Clara Worthingstone - Thu, 18 May 2017 06:52:48 EST ID:TIp+AfB7 No.516311 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516286
Damn, is your arm okay now? Talk about luck.
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Doris Murdfield - Fri, 19 May 2017 11:39:18 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.516343 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516311
I'm going to have to have surgery to put in a metal plate but I'm sure it will be fine after that.
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Lillian Doffingpork - Fri, 19 May 2017 12:15:35 EST ID:WVSsaSHI No.516344 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516343
I imagine the brush with death and weird balance of endorphins helps.

Also having something you were looking forward to. A goal. A purpose. Going round America, having that thing to live for and that challenge to overcome felt good. If you're still planning it (and you should do it one day even if you get better without it) then it probably still feels good.


Family gone by Hedda Drinkinham - Thu, 18 May 2017 05:15:03 EST ID:Svgtf+UD No.516310 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So I have no relationship with my family and haven't since 2012. The back story isn't an important aspect, I'm a tranny from the middle of nowhere so that's why. I figured it out and survived.

How does a person move on? I'm 24 now and 5 years ought to be enough time but it still agonizes me at times. I try to be a reasonable person but always feel genuine envy when I talk to friends with a family, I don't outwardly show it or take it out on them but I get so pissed off when they talk about their mom or dad doing anything for them. I feel selfish because I can't feel happy for people when they have parents who obviously love them, I deeply want them to lose it all and sob. That is not okay to think like that about people.

I just feel too old for this shit but it doesn't go away no matter how much time passes. I'm currently doing EMDR therapy for an unrelated issue and this is one of the things she wanted to deal with. She had us do a session on this last week and told me to imagine an ideal mother in a very high detail, her personality, appearance, how she felt, clothing and hair and weight and everything. She has me close my eyes and imagine this as vividly as possible, then started doing the EMDR left/right firm patting on the sides of my thighs while talking in a soothing voice telling me to feel her embrace.

Every time she has done this before for things it has had results. It was emotionally overpowering, my heart swelled up and I felt incredibly happy. After 7-10 minutes she stopped and asked me how I felt and I told her. I walked out feeling okay but hours later I imagined that imaginary mom figure and felt the feeling of heartbreak(if you've been through a breakup it felt like how that does in my chest), I know when I was in her office I didn't want that moment to ever end but it did. I've felt such a longing for it since.

I've tried reading stoicism to get past things. When Epictetus wrote

>Duties are universally measured by relations. Is anyone a father? If so, it is implied that the children should take care of him, submit to him in everything, patiently listen to his reproaches, his correction. But he is a bad father. Are you naturally entitled, then, to a good father? No, only to a father.

it sounded nice, but I didn't absorb his wisdom. I try and try to reflect on it but no luck, maybe I'm too immature at this point.

I searched around for advice on dealing with this and could only find some fruity shit about "loving yourself 3 times as much!". I only cry about it on holidays and this advice is for sad people that had this happen a week ago, not someone stuck in the past.
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Hedda Drinkinham - Thu, 18 May 2017 17:53:20 EST ID:Svgtf+UD No.516325 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>516322

That sounds rough. Sorry. Stuff like that probably did toughen you up and force you to grow up.

Do you have any stories on how you met those friends? In the past I think I was too self centered to nurture much of anything.

Reading your post though I realize how lucky I am to have 2 people like that.

>and if you're lucky you might find your soulmate in a best friend.

I wish for this very hard.

>>516324

Okay, how would people with shorter sticks reduce their envy? I don't think any part of this has come off as "woe is me" but a request for advice on how to get rid of this emotion. Understanding people have it worse doesn't make feelings go away, if it did this board wouldn't have any traffic.
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Hedda Drinkinham - Thu, 18 May 2017 17:54:54 EST ID:Svgtf+UD No.516326 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>516325

I have no idea how to spoiler on 420chan anymore. It has been so long oh well.
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Graham Pockwater - Thu, 18 May 2017 18:02:50 EST ID:WVSsaSHI No.516328 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516325
>how would people with shorter sticks reduce their envy
I assume the intention was to help you realise that maybe the glass isn't quite as empty as you thought. Albeit marginally. My situation is better than yours by a long way sorry, I'm just being honest but I envy others all the same so I know it won't have much effect. It probably will help a little. It does for me.

At the end of the day I can't make you not care but life is lost to you if you focus on what you cannot have rather than what you can. So while it's unrealistic and likely unhealthy to ignore how you feel, you should not feed it, don't go out your way to ruminate, make sure you're taking whatever opportunities and things life does see fit to throw your way.

I will give you one less thing to be jealous about. it's percentage signs with /% to end it. Oh and square brackets. [thetag][/thetag] sort of deal does that make sense?
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Hedda Drinkinham - Thu, 18 May 2017 18:38:33 EST ID:Svgtf+UD No.516330 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516328

>At the end of the day I can't make you not care but life is lost to you if you focus on what you cannot have rather than what you can.

> you should not feed it, don't go out your way to ruminate, make sure you're taking whatever opportunities and things life does see fit to throw your way.

You described that really well. You're right I've been acting like a retard and probably focused on it too much.

>I will give you one less thing to be jealous about. it's percentage signs with /% to end it. Oh and square brackets. [thetag][/thetag] sort of deal does that make sense?

That rings a bell, thanks m8 I forgot about the %.
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Lillian Doffingpork - Fri, 19 May 2017 12:19:39 EST ID:WVSsaSHI No.516345 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516330
And if you have a bad day and go back to being a "retard", just remember it's a bad day we all have them. Just remember the sooner you pick yourself up the better.


Dad Taking Antidepressants by Shit Sundernedge - Thu, 18 May 2017 09:57:43 EST ID:tz1JbDMx No.516312 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Well, as I went downstairs this morning I found out my dad was taking Lexapro cause he left the blister next to the water filter. I've taken medication for years now, but I've never thought my dad needed those. He does seem to be feeling heaps better, though, but I still don't know what to think, and mostly because I just found out.

It's probably not too important but still, I don't know what to think about it.
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Cedric Pecklebot - Thu, 18 May 2017 15:24:48 EST ID:f2s1tn1u No.516317 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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something like 8 of the top 10 medications prescribed are for psychiatric issues. over 70% of Sweden is on antidepressants. Taking lexapro is super normal

Most SSRI's vary in effect by person. I was on prozac at the max dose for 3 years and never felt much of anything
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William Worthingstock - Thu, 18 May 2017 16:03:23 EST ID:b1UFhFdv No.516320 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516317

70% of Sweden is on antidepressants? I'm going to have to call bullshit on that. Where do you get your news?


Happy Thread by Barnaby Cevingbore - Wed, 17 May 2017 16:40:08 EST ID:2cRqUGEL No.516296 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I know this is /qq/ so we're all miserable sods here, but this is a happy thread because holy shit something in my life is going right. Lets not focus on the negatives and tell me anything you've achieved in the last month or two. Literally anything large or small, whether you've kept your room tidy or painted a cool thing you're proud of.

>I got a job today
>scientific glassblowing
>gonna be an apprentice and learn all kindsa cool stuff
>pay's a bit shit but it's clear the company will want to keep me as soon as my skill level is up
(ps not making bongs for you degenerate fucks sorry)

So happy I'm going into a job that I can really see myself doing for the rest of my life. It's gonna be a tough learning process but I think I'm ready

Love you guys
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Martin Duckstock - Wed, 17 May 2017 17:02:11 EST ID:n1yNxChx No.516298 Ignore Report Quick Reply
good job man, hope it goes well for you
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Sophie Dadgefit - Thu, 18 May 2017 14:14:24 EST ID:m4L3j2bR No.516315 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Happy for you, in a rough spot myself, but sending you some positive energy


Blow Jobs by James Dobberfuck - Wed, 17 May 2017 16:50:18 EST ID:FhYLtx4F No.516297 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I have no problem banging my gf or getting hard whenever we do anything, but for some reason I always loose my erection when she blows me.

I have had multiple partners over the years and banged thousands of times and gotten a lot of bjs and hjs but for some reason I now just lose it whenever she starts sucking.
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Martin Duckstock - Wed, 17 May 2017 18:35:43 EST ID:n1yNxChx No.516299 Ignore Report Quick Reply
maybe she just *sucks* at it
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Reuben Serrypark - Wed, 17 May 2017 18:49:18 EST ID:l+HAJ0+u No.516300 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Good blowjobs are hard to come by. I've had maybe six or seven different girls lips around my penis and blow jobs just suck. Like they're no good. Hand job/titjob/sex is where it's at.


HOW TO NOT BE A LOSER by Eliza Clellywell - Tue, 16 May 2017 14:21:26 EST ID:n1yNxChx No.516281 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Ok can I get some real talk here?
I'm 24 and I'm a big fucking loser. I don't want to be a loser any more.
How do I not be a loser? I've never not been a loser.
Is the secret really discipline? I waste all my fucking time

Please help, I'm gonna fucking blow my brains out.
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Nigel Sonkinteg - Tue, 16 May 2017 16:20:52 EST ID:Rfvv4nVT No.516283 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516281
>I'm gonna fucking blow my brains out.
Um please don't! There ARE people who will miss you.
Why do you feel like a loser?
Do you work, do you study? There's always something to work on or learn about.
Do you have any personal projects going on?
Are you exercising?
What do you find rewarding?
Are you comparing yourself to other people all of the time?
Just go at your own pace, you're not other people, you are you and it's okay to be where you are. But try to move forward a bit faster than the conveyor belt that is moving you backwards.
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Rebecca Sunnermot - Tue, 16 May 2017 20:28:12 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.516287 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516281
Just stop worrying about it. Automation is changing the game, not everyone can contribute something significant to society anymore. It's only going to get worse and worse and more and more people will feel like you as a result. The cost benefit analysis to most things in life just doesn't pan out favorably anymore so motivation is hard to come by. My advice is to simply focus on your social life as that's the last remaining bastion of meaning and joy that will remain to people in the coming years.
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Ebenezer Fiddlefun - Wed, 17 May 2017 02:23:37 EST ID:/+/u/pN5 No.516291 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Is the secret really discipline? I waste all my fucking time
Yes. 100%.

Build discipline and everything else comes. You need to be able t to what you know you need to do & when you need to.


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