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Friendly Advice From Your Suburban Homeboy by Henry Buvingpug - Fri, 16 Feb 2018 18:17:11 EST ID:ApD5b+Tp No.522301 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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My recommendation to all of you young guys is to stay away from girls with drug habits,mental problems and rich guys. If you even offend them slightly they will lie to no end to ruin your life and steal all your shit. I've had this experience far too times and its a miracle I'm not dead or in prison.

I offended a rich Azerbaijani girl who has mental problems and is on prozac or some shit. I offended some fat annoying Jewish chick who eats too many burritos and is on Klonopin+Antidepressants. I told her that I am gay because she literally wouldnt stop talking about eating burritos and I couldnt even respect myself for being with that. I offended some racist Belgian chick and she is acussing me of being a Jihadist and stealing her worthless artwork. Most recently I offended a Russian girl who apparently is some oligarchs daughter. I assumed that she is a rich Arabs sex slave and she became offended; I'm probably right about that.

So you know my life basically sucks now and I cant even look at porn without a Federal Agent coming out of the faucets in my house.

So I'll be buying a sex doll and I'll probably go to prison or some shit for buying it.
Henry Buvingpug - Fri, 16 Feb 2018 18:19:08 EST ID:ApD5b+Tp No.522302 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>and rich dads*
Stay way from girls with rich dads.
Henry Buvingpug - Fri, 16 Feb 2018 18:23:57 EST ID:ApD5b+Tp No.522303 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Fuck my grammar.
Fuck my attention span.
Fuck my spam.
I just want to get back to my baseline.
Blackie-Chan - Fri, 16 Feb 2018 20:13:11 EST ID:Vjzly2wb No.522304 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Ebenezer Senkindock - Fri, 16 Feb 2018 21:14:30 EST ID:ApD5b+Tp No.522305 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Also never trust a therapist. I mean I never did and I still managed to get fucked. I mean I told the one peabrained stick bitch that I wanted to marry a guy and she started making up all sorts of bullshit. I told the fat old gay pedophile that I wanted to be a chick and he started making up all sorts of bullshit. The worst part is he's a known asshole in every circle he runs in. I mean I never gave them full disclosure and still manged to get fucked.

Not that the truth is that bad.
Ian Chashshit - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 05:31:53 EST ID:COAX7aNZ No.522315 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I had a counselor and he was fine. However I actually trusted him and resonated with his style and values. The truth is that if you don't feel that about therapy it WILL fail and you shouldn't just not trust you should find someone else regardless. A good therapist is a guide and sounding board and they can't do that if they hear your words and hear different meanings to the ones you intend.

These were people with different values and worldviews and it was doomed.

I'm Stuck by Molly Sundlelone - Fri, 29 Dec 2017 02:29:42 EST ID:dFYU0iAz No.520918 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So she's sleeping next to me right now. I've known her for about a month. We started hanging out often pretty quick. She told me she was pre-med but her mom revealed to me that was a lie. She confirmed it was a lie. So she lied to me for a month. A few days after that we talked about what she wants to do with her life and that was painful. She doesn't know, she's depressed, she was talking about her gramps dying and abusive ex and was snappy and defensive when offered solutions. So she has no job no money no car and today she moved in after she took me to get her stuff from her mom's cuz they were arguing yet again about whatever. We were talking about it kinda but I was unsure and never said yes but today it happened. I feel like I was hustled.

I have ED. I rarely get an erection and when I do it doesn't last long. She's aware and has stuck around despite of it. I give good head so there's that. I feel like this is the biggest reason I deal with her because most girls don't even text back after I can't fuck them. She's not the best conversationial partner. She loves to smoke weed and I'm in the military. She lied for a month. She doesn't do any chores. I've asked her why she likes being over here she said cuz she doesn't like it at her moms. I said why do you like me she said because I take good care of her. Is that what this is? She's 19 I'm 28.

Plz help.
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Archie Duckshit - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 06:58:13 EST ID:ef6bmTJo No.522226 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Nah forget the getting buff and the being a higher form of yourself bullshit. Do it if you enjoy it but don't feel like you need it. The point is chill out and don't let your emotions and your dick lead you around like you're in a dog show.

Romance is best when it slowly unfolds, ideally after a fuck tonne of sex. If you're getting drunk off just being near a chick then stay the fuck back until you sober up. If you get nervous around her so much that you can't control yourself and you can't stop fantasizing about her or imagining the worst when she's not around it's going to be hard to have a good relationship at all. Get away from that kind of needy love for a bit. You don't need to have your world cave in over a chick mate. You're pretty cool. You still have a good life by yourself.

Tbh you sound like a dude that doesn't have much platonic intimacy. Get closer to your friends.
Nicholas Gerringway - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 10:23:06 EST ID:xn5WBdes No.522232 Ignore Report Quick Reply
She is a parasite and will dump you.
Fix your penis and get rid of her.
Nicholas Gerringway - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 10:40:22 EST ID:xn5WBdes No.522234 Ignore Report Quick Reply
damn niqqa get your shit together. Have some self respect. I'm not the kind of guy who would usually say something like this but: werent you in the military? dont they teach you to have some balls in there?
why did you even started to talk with her again smh
Nicholas Gerringway - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 11:04:58 EST ID:xn5WBdes No.522235 Ignore Report Quick Reply
you are clearly some sort of psycho because of obsseing so much with this hoe
Martha Doffingtut - Fri, 16 Feb 2018 10:45:09 EST ID:dFYU0iAz No.522296 Ignore Report Quick Reply

That's what happened. I got manipulated and used and discarded when she got bored. The second month when she unblocked me was blatant use and that's why she kept pulling and pulling. Because I wasn't just letting her do whatever, I was either saying no or confronting her when things weren't adding up.


The military has taught me how to keep my house clean, be on time for work, and not do drugs. It's not as life changing on a personal level as you think. It's mostly just a stable job with benefits. These situations are learning experiences, and I have a lot of learning to do because I had a very late start.


I'm not a psycho. I was the victim of incessant psychological abuse. She wanted me to like her and feel comfortable so she could be in my house. She played off that later with intermittent attention to maintain deoendency. I'm not a psycho. I don't use people, lie to them, or manipulate them into doing what I want them to do with no regard for their feelings or mental health. She's the psycho. A psycho wouldn't stop just because someone threatened police involvement. A psycho wouldn't just accept no contact when there are still avenues to have contact. I am more in the realm of some sort of self-love deficiency and abandonment trauma. Hence the difficulty to just let it go despite overwhelming clues. And I'm letting her go. But it's hard. I have issues to work out in therapy for sure.

I just want to thank everyone for their advice. I'm sorry I didn't heed it sooner. I was sprung asf. The thought of her being just a hoe was damn near impossible to accept. I'm putting the pieces together and finally realizing it though. This was a valuable experience, however hurtful. Thank you for your support.

The Diamond Ring Debate by Albert Blytheshaw - Thu, 15 Feb 2018 22:40:40 EST ID:iqT3e1/3 No.522282 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Well, just had my night fucked because of arguing with my girlfriend about the concept of diamond rings. Pretty obvious who's on what side. I don't think I need to go over the reasons why a "diamond" ring specifically trivializes the concept of commitment, or how her want for it was indoctrinated by a corporation. This is probably like the eighth time we've had this debate, except this time it ended with her crying and saying if it was brought up again it would be over, and that even when I do propose with a diamond ring, there won't be any joy in it since she knows I don't actually like the concept. So what do now? Did I fuck my romantic future? Honestly, it seems like much of the relationship has steered me further from my non-conformist ideals that I've held since adolescence. I always figured it was just part of growing up, but I'm afraid I'll wake up in 20 years and hate myself and my place in life. That being said, it's not like I'm on the "wrong" track by society's standards. We've been dating 3 years, we're both going to law school together, and there's potentially a great future ahead (if wearing a suit and tie to work everyday counts as great to people, fucking kill me). It seems like this debate is just a symptom of a larger issue, which I hope won't come back to bite me in the ass. Any thoughts or opinions would be greatly appreciated
Hugh Smallbanks - Fri, 16 Feb 2018 01:22:05 EST ID:NvFCBHp0 No.522286 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>how her want for it was indoctrinated by a corporation

While I agree with you on this one, I think after having the argument/debate 8 times you should either split up or give in and get her a ring. It's obvious that it's important to her as a sign of love - how she got that idea isn't really important, in her mind. It could be a symptom of a larger problem (maybe she feels like you aren't expressing love in other ways?) but only you can really answer that.
Sophie Wullerwill - Fri, 16 Feb 2018 01:43:13 EST ID:u+WSCYdp No.522287 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Well yeah. Values and worldviews generally have to align enough to keep the peace in couples for the relationship to last the distance. It's a bit concerning that it's come to the point of crying about it.

I'm engaged and my fiancee and I both laughed about the idea of a diamond ring. Her engagement ring was $100 and you can change the rock to a different coloured one. Simple. It took one conversation and we already agreed at the beginning. Then again we're not entirely compatible in every area.

You guys should at least learn to talk about it in a way that doesn't have you screaming about it afterwards. Or if it does end up that way you guys should talk about it the next day when you're both calmer.

Also consider a career that you enjoy and that aligns with your values.

Fucking Fuckinghood - Fri, 16 Feb 2018 14:58:42 EST ID:COAX7aNZ No.522299 Ignore Report Quick Reply
A lot of stuff will be said about your relationship and questions asked regarding your values and priorities (both of you). No doubt. I'm going to focus on something else.

About the law degree. Do you enjoy the subject and the craft? You can always do law for someone worthwhile.

Now I appreciate a non conformist who does what they feel is right, but if you refuse to conform unbendingly you're as bound by the rules as everyone else. "Growing up" isn't abandoning your principles but actually having them. Instead of saying "does this align with society" you should always look at what you actually believe.

Anyway if you like law then maybe look for something worthwhile to do with it. One of my old uni friends is a human rights lawyer because she's an enormous social justice warrior (though not too much of a negative stereotype now she's a real adult) and she loves it. I'm an accountant and the idea of working for a big exploitative corporation or a shifty bank makes me sick, but I love the work. Fortunately I work for an organisation I believe in. They also have lots of lawyers.

I do have to wear a tie but whatever. That's the other part of compromise. Pick your battles. Wearing a tie to work (or the 9 to 5 which is one of the least fucky work patterns to work) is not a hill worth dying on. Saying "I help people who are a positive effect on the community" rather than earning more money elsewhere is one I'd be prepared to end a relationship over though (because there'd be a huge values gulf then).

What I'm saying is that if you can do a job you enjoy and achieve something worthwhile then "wearing a suit" is a not giving up your happiness. Life is compromises and trade. The key is getting a lot out of what you sacrifice. Let the unimportant things go. You start with nothing, if you have to wear a tie to gain making a positive impact and you can live of it, do it. If that's not a sacrifice you'd make then fuck your dumb principles. They suck.

Fuck Everybody by Nigel Buzzfuck - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 17:30:32 EST ID:y0iK7Iy7 No.522241 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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On my phone contacts list.
Alsi fuck everyone from the last six years.
psych - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 23:37:05 EST ID:NG2TT/iW No.522249 Ignore Report Quick Reply
nice pic
nice post
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Pointless thread, just noticing... by Nigel Dremmerson - Wed, 07 Feb 2018 12:53:56 EST ID:VNZRIbJT No.522010 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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What happened to all the forever a spider monkey's butt threads? I used to take some sort of comfort in the fact I wasn't the only total loser around these parts. Well maybe it worked out for some of you, so for that I congratulate you!
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Shit Drussletud - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 11:55:22 EST ID:VNZRIbJT No.522236 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Sorry for no responses I was just kinda driving by one day.

Eh, I often think this too. I mean I'm not full blown retarded or anything. Things are bound to work out but it's just taken it's damn time.

I meant to respond to this Friday night but I got home way to messed up. This was honestly encouraging, it usually comes down to "being single has it's advantages" but to get more in depth, I do see what you're describing at my age. People are stuck in relationships due to children, some financial commitment and most often just because of normality. I got a co-worker that just bitches about his girl all the time and he's been dating her since I've known him. I'm fine for the most part I just get "bitch triggered" sometimes. See intimacy IRL or in media that makes me feel like garbage... Likely why I'm responding on today of all days.

Used to drink a lot in college, had some hookups I can barley remember. I don't think I'll get powers when I turn 30 which is a shame...
Basil Gibbershit - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 16:40:08 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.522238 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Most of it starts with fixing your head. Just have to cut your losses, start with nothing and continue. Believing that you are capable of getting to where you need to go, is essential. If you don't, you just quit without entering the ring. It won't always feel like it, especially at the time, but it's better to be a bloody mess on the floor getting your ass kicked, than a pussy quivering in the corner, pissing themselves raw with fear at the idea of trying because "I JJUSSTT can't". So yeah, accept you are about to fight and get your shit in line.

Then you've got the usual self-improvement drive. Get your health in order via diet and exercise. Get some hobbies to keep your shit occupied when you ain't working. Go places. Do things. See people. Read books. Find new music. ETC. Not only are you gaining life XP, but this shit scores points with women in conversation - it gives you more to talk about. Hobbies which grow with your commitment are useful too, ie bodybuilding, art, music, martial arts, cycling etc. You might suck now but a year from now, you will be bigger, stronger and motivated to continue. Also, it should be a given that you begin sorting out all your shitty features like jerking off to anime, sleeping till 5pm after a late night video game binge and only being able to talk about youtube videos.

Acquire some basic grasp of social interactions, conversation and confidence. Practice on co-workers, random people, friends etc. Just get yourself to a stage where it's alright to walk into somewhere unrehearsed and feel natural.

Then it's just a case of improving your presentation. This is a pretty subjective and controversial area. I'd say if you want to play it safe and assure the highest probability for yourself, then it's a case of get in shape, wear basic clothing and get a haircut which doesn't suck. Stay clean, basic and look fresh. This way, you don't alienate yourself from a mainstream audience. Sooner or later, being an average looking guy will work out, if you do it right. If you are after someone more specific, then you have to be more specific. You still need to know how to have a decent haircut but style wise there is a lot m…
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Alice Clankinwill - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 19:00:40 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.522246 Ignore Report Quick Reply
what single ppl tell themselves to cope down the feeling of being single

it's so sad! j-just i-improve m-my life, maybe someone will come eventually... ;_; i want to hug all of you
Betsy Pickhall - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 20:30:18 EST ID:COAX7aNZ No.522248 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You're not very literate. Stealth guy was also joking you jabroni.

Improve your life because it's worth doing. It helps a bit but it doesn't change who you are. It does however make your life much better. So soldier on, one foot in front of the other. Do it for you not for "her".

Additional food for thought: If massive self improvement doesn't massively improve sex life then your worth/value and sex life aren't strongly linked. I know it's valentines day and the feeling of "why can't I crack this?" but a this guy probably gets laid more than me and he just wrote a serious post about a guy with a "stealth addiction" without making a single pun or hint of irony.

Don't wizardchan. Don't MGTOW. Just get on with your life. Also if you did make yourself a good partner and no one took that up at least you can lay that to rest. People tell me to get out there but no one I know meets good partners through "out there" or dating sites. They find them at work or through friends. So again make good friends, get a nice job. They might get you laid but if they don't you won't regret it.
Edward Drebbleshaw - Thu, 15 Feb 2018 19:48:51 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.522280 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>I was j-just joking!

That's what I thought, perma. nb

College is anti-social and sexless, want to get laid more by Hamilton Domblehare - Sun, 11 Feb 2018 17:48:51 EST ID:GYTQ2ak7 No.522125 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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It seems like millenial autism has turned my university into a place where most people mind their own business and don't bother to have relationships or sex. It's also partly a commuter school so a lot of people aren't here at all on the weekends. Supposedly it gets better Sophomore year but I find that hard to believe. How can I find some nice mentally and sexually healthy girls who will actually be dtf and not just want to show off how morally superior they are and judge people?

Also wouldn't finding more guy friends who want to have adventures and not stay in their rooms all day.
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Nell Biffingstork - Tue, 13 Feb 2018 00:17:29 EST ID:8D47oOiy No.522173 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Also, it's not like I'd typically spend all day, everyday in my room anyways.
Just a certain stretch happens and everybody busts your balls, forgetting before that etc.
I'm fucked and ranting.
Matilda Dredgeson - Tue, 13 Feb 2018 02:43:27 EST ID:lWJpEuws No.522180 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I can make a better book with two sentences.

Step one: be handsome and funny. Funny is more important than handsome, though.

There you go.

As for OP: yeah people who come fresh out of high school have that high school mentality. Just be the person you'd want to be friends with and more people will gravitate to you. As for adventures and whatnot, join a club.
Sophie Hisslekack - Tue, 13 Feb 2018 12:23:27 EST ID:GYTQ2ak7 No.522186 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I can tell
Nigel Fanworth - Tue, 13 Feb 2018 13:36:49 EST ID:ROGlj1oY No.522187 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>people who come fresh out of high school have that high school mentality

this. find events/parties by older college ppl, be active

then again, i worked at a uni recently and people don't party nearly as hard as i did when i went. OP is partially right
Nicholas Gerringway - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 10:18:10 EST ID:xn5WBdes No.522230 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Is getting clean just overrated? by Isabella Nickleforth - Tue, 30 Jan 2018 05:44:26 EST ID:eWZRExCl No.521852 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I was clean for a year of everything just beers now and again. Then my gf left (she was anti-drug) so I went back to doing my old dirty habits again. However, this time instead of going overboard like I usually did I can do some pretty addictive drugs in moderation without fiending and shit.

Plus it helped me recover from the bad suicidal and depression vibes I had from the breakup. Tbh I can't remember the past few months or even what I did last week though. So I just forget what I was sad about until I'm sober for a few days then I get high again.

But I hardly spend any money on anything due to being good at finding deals and "savoring" my drugs like one would savor the taste of chocolate for example rather than eat a full box in one setting.

Not sure where to post it so I put it here.

Since a lot of my friends think I have a problem with drugs and I ended up in the hospital not too long ago on an overdose (accidental though). And my work and family kind of thinks something is otg but they can't really place it.

What do here? Am I blind to my own problems? Most people I know are anti-drug and only think drinking is safe though and some of them think weed is safe thats it.
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Edwin Nummlehall - Mon, 05 Feb 2018 22:08:51 EST ID:GiCOfox9 No.521992 Ignore Report Quick Reply
yeah, your days of moderation are an illusion.
you don't end up in the hospital for savoring fine chocolate.

but who am I to say, I've tripped on all manner of dangerous narcotics and they've helped me to become the fine person that I am today.
Henry Goodhall - Mon, 12 Feb 2018 14:42:23 EST ID:Yq+XEe0p No.522166 Ignore Report Quick Reply
As a current drug abuser I think getting/staying/being clean is fine. I like to abuse because I'm a degenerate at heart that wants to see more pretty colors when I play video games but at the end of the day I think I can/should go clean and I wouldn't recommend anyone doing a psychadelic or anything that they don't already have a desire to do.
Awe !!vVWR8L52 - Mon, 12 Feb 2018 16:42:42 EST ID:B/1t3ZFg No.522169 Ignore Report Quick Reply
i think heart thinks otherwise.
Hugh Brebberkon - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 04:54:54 EST ID:DWaLMotX No.522220 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>No recovery is not overrated:
There are vitamins that you can take that will help your brain physically recover from years of alcohol and or drug use.
Martin Sirringkit - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 06:21:17 EST ID:TUgPV7Lr No.522224 Ignore Report Quick Reply
In my opinion. An overdose, even accidental should be a wake up call. Think, how many people due from overdoses? You think all if them were trying to do it (die)? And not just trying to get nice and high?

I'd kick the alcohol too and stick with just weed. People go on about kratom, but you gotta pound like 15 gel caps and it can make you throw up this nasty gritty powder.

who dat by bluttee !!Jgw48AQJ - Mon, 12 Feb 2018 13:11:08 EST ID:0ZoAL1G0 No.522163 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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That chick who is the 420chan mascot? Is she real? I would totally date her even though I heard she or someone else I like on the internet is pedo...? People at Walmart were talking about her like I've interacted with...whoever she is. Some chick who got banned from conventions for being pedo. Sorry I just be thinking!
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bluttee !!Jgw48AQJ - Mon, 12 Feb 2018 14:46:33 EST ID:0ZoAL1G0 No.522167 Ignore Report Quick Reply

I want to meet her. It's against the rules to give contact info though.
bluttee !!Jgw48AQJ - Mon, 12 Feb 2018 19:25:25 EST ID:0ZoAL1G0 No.522171 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I'm trying to go to the hospital today. She can find me when I get out if she's interested in being friends!
Lillian Clenkinfield - Tue, 13 Feb 2018 06:58:25 EST ID:UC6lNBsj No.522184 Ignore Report Quick Reply
bluttee !!Jgw48AQJ - Tue, 13 Feb 2018 14:27:53 EST ID:0ZoAL1G0 No.522191 Ignore Report Quick Reply

it's not a joke

I wish I could find her.
Cedric Mankinserk - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 07:55:13 EST ID:COAX7aNZ No.522228 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You're insane. If you mean TCC tan some girl cosplayed as her a few years ago. Might have been a dude though. But who knows where they're at or what they'd want to do with the sort of person who sees a cartoon picture and meets to want someone who dressed up with them once badly enough they posted a thread about it on a personal issues board.

Bad month by Jenny Greenford - Sat, 10 Feb 2018 20:49:19 EST ID:eWZRExCl No.522088 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>kitchen fire third degree burns
>got robbed and jabbed with an IV (in process of getting AIDS test fml)
>8 months ago gf moved out left me, she called few months later has hep c I got tested was clean but I miss her and shes dying and can't afford treatment
>ex gf called few days ago to see how I was I cried on the phone and she won't take me back. she's still dying. now she continues to ignore me
>was suicidal since this summer relapsed into hard drugs and ended up in the hospital from an OD
>get new gf but still not happy, but we are long distance not meeting until spring
>lose career this summer
>live by myself no friends left. Lonely as hell

I've been clean now for a few days after using drugs to cope for a few months starting off on weak shit went back to full methhead mode again.

All I can do is cry.

When will things get better?
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George Pickbanks - Mon, 12 Feb 2018 00:10:46 EST ID:eWZRExCl No.522147 Ignore Report Quick Reply
My ex left me because I caved in to lies made up by so-called friends about her being a sloot and cheating. It was too little too late when I found out it was all nonsense. Likewise I lost that job due to one particular work superior who didn't like me. Basically forcing me to quit in lieu of actual firing and the people I worked with even other superiors say it was unfair and I could have fought it but didn't.

The fire was a freak accident and I never asked to be robbed I wasn't even in a bad area of town or doing any illegal I was just a regular guy on the street.

Hearing "friends" talk about your girlfriend in sexual terms over and over, hearing about her (supposed) past, etc until it breaks you down mentally and you cause her to leave you while being mentally broke down at work so you can quit because someone just didn't like you could be a sign of my own weakness of listening to others but it was concurrent until both areas just broke.

Slipping into addiction again was my own fault but it didn't cause breakups, or a fire or for me to get robbed.

Whenever I have friends or room mates they either prey on me mentally for fun and ruin everything I do or prey on me financially and ruin me there.

I haven't met someone yet who didn't fuck me over. That's why I'm a loner since this summer it was the last straw but its hard just only having yourself and I still got robbed and had a freak fire fuck me up.
Emma Pimbleban - Mon, 12 Feb 2018 03:27:03 EST ID:4OXydzGM No.522149 Ignore Report Quick Reply

I just want to say..... Fuck
Oliver Genningheck - Mon, 12 Feb 2018 05:13:46 EST ID:COAX7aNZ No.522153 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Those circumstances are more your actions than not. A freak fire and robbery are awful luck but they're you're wakeup call to the shit you could change.

Now I'm not saying you're an idiot for making the wrong decisions, we all have to learn. But there's things you could have done to avoid all those situations. I've had toxic life ruining friends and no career, I've been lonely I've run to addiction (though not drugs) and it was because I made the wrong decisions. I didn't become a better smarter person, I just got wise.

This is similar to what I told the abused boyfriend guy. You shouldn't be ashamed of making mistakes. You should be ashamed of refusing to own them and learn though. You chose the wrong friends, you folded at work without consulting HR. You probably always pick certain friends from certain areas or ignore/put up with certain shit. Pick a different sort of room mate, one who you can just coexist with drama free rather than looking for a bro. Your ex drama is because of the women you chose and the relationships you blew.

Look you're someone who can easily score meth, you are surrounded by scum. That doesn't mean you're scum or everyone around you is but you need to remove yourself from that environment and hang with different people. Being a loner isn't a bad step and the rest was the result of previous actions. I'm not saying feel bad, I'm saying look at what you could learn and do better next time. The fire and robbery are shit that happens to everyone (though maybe it's the pipes bursting or things breaking down or people dying), but most of us know that so we have some sort of cushion or backup. Once you're free of the destabilising influences that's your next priority, financial cushion and friends you can count on if all else happens.

Some of us get crappy hands and this is not all your fault. But there is only one sensible option. Do the absolute best you can with the shit you've been given. Life isn't poker though, you can definitely discard and draw more cards with your turns too.
George Pickbanks - Mon, 12 Feb 2018 11:11:01 EST ID:eWZRExCl No.522161 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP here. While I agree with what you are saying I am going to interject for a minute.

The guys who pulled off all this were cleancut beers only kind of guys in regards of my relationship and job. The robbery isn't surprising due to the amount of pillheads and crackheads in my city.

I scored everything online and I also have enough knowledge to produce my own. Without saying too much.

Most of the absolute scum I encountered in my life that I were friends with (violent cokeheads, opiate addicts who stole from their own mothers, etc) I've been out of contact with for years. IDK if they are even still alive or if they are in prison.

But yes the fire and robbery were wake up calls in themselves. If those hadn't happened I'd still be using.
Wesley Blackdale - Mon, 12 Feb 2018 19:00:25 EST ID:COAX7aNZ No.522170 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Well I'm sorry that shit has sucked OP but I know you're smart enough to make positive changes. Life is long and even if shit goes south again you get plenty of chances to have good times.

When I say about the guys I'm not just talking superficial shit like "cleancut beers only" there were probably other clues. I mean maybe not, but it's likely there were little things in the way they dealt with you and others that you overlooked. I know I said a lot of meth heads or whatever are scum but that doesn't mean it's that simple. There's usually clues we ignored before people screw us over. Maybe there's a handful of people who could perfectly fuck over anyone but if they're that smart they're still going to pick people are easier targets. It's easier and quicker to scan for an easy mark than to use a technique that works on anyone. If that's possible.

I'm not a Derren Brown fan but this is a great example. I know hypnosis only works on some people, but Derren Brown used to get people to answer a phone and reliably fall asleep, why? Because he knew that only certain sorts of people would pick up a payphone ringing in a public place. Most people would ignore it but that person who picks it up, if you bombard them with random information then just say "sleep" it'll probably work because they have that sort of mind.


Don't be the guy answering the phone whatever that phone looks like.

Friend is an awful 'boyfriend' by Priscilla Murdwell - Sun, 11 Feb 2018 13:02:45 EST ID:s3iFOuSi No.522115 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So this guy I know is dating a girl whos really cool. I like her a lot (not in a way I want to fuck her). Shes smart, pretty, rich and a genuine cool girl. However hes such an asshole to her. I told her how he was, and she stayed with him anyway, and I remember my friend fought physically with his ex gf a lot and I even stopped speaking to him because he beat her like twice (to be fair she hit him too) and only hung out with him because she told me to and he needs friends. I've been friend with him since 2009 so its almost 10 years. We been cool for a long time, we were losers, virgins, basement dwellers, people that lived for nothing who blossomed into lady killers.

I'm a hedonist as much as he, but I generally get more girls (although his are on average more attractive, my longer term girlfriends were much more attractive and my peaks and dips are much more extreme) but I am a NEET that just uses dating apps and he goes out IRL, except I have girls on tap because of how cool and nice I am, while his are revolving doors which he can do because hes much more attractive than me. If I am a 7, he is an 8.

I want to know how can I help him not be a dick to girls or at least stop him from gaslighting this girl? Last week I told him to go to an event with me because I knew girls that would be into him would be there, and his gf is bi so I thought they'd find a nice girl. Instead he told her he would cheat on her and she left with me and my friend I came with to her house and my friend was just salty I didn't pick him up (because the girls he was gonna leave with asked who's that girl and he said they weren't together and they didn't believe him) then he tried to blame me for not waiting for him despite that being exactly what he wanted (get rid of gf so he could fuck around). He even told her shit like 'you're only here to buy my drinks' and she was crying so much while my friend and I comforted her. Just a week ago she got him music festival tickets and plane tickets where he asked her to be his gf, and then did this to her. He living with her and she pays for everything.

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Phyllis Mishworth - Sun, 11 Feb 2018 15:06:23 EST ID:+K4J1GAa No.522121 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Woah man how about you mind your own business?
Geez who other people date are none of your concern. Shit
Ian Worthingridge - Mon, 12 Feb 2018 00:04:24 EST ID:UmjOnCWz No.522145 Ignore Report Quick Reply
This is a troll thread
Jarvis Blackshaw - Mon, 12 Feb 2018 04:42:23 EST ID:DCI2hK9s No.522150 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I've dealt with damaged girls my entire life and it's always BC of guys like him. I feel bad knowing it's going to not help him grow as a person and making the world worst. His ex gf moved several states away and he's still in love with her despite all the bad shit they did to each other. But maybe you're right. I told this girl. I told him. It's going to happen and implode and I just feel bad about it
Oliver Genningheck - Mon, 12 Feb 2018 05:04:59 EST ID:COAX7aNZ No.522152 Ignore Report Quick Reply
There's a lot of guys who get damaged by worse people than either him or the messes he makes. And most will recover. It sucks for those girls but they will eventually learn and recover.

That said if you find you do not respect your friend on some level that's an issue that makes me wonder how worthwhile your friendship is. No one's perfect but there's a point where they're a crap human and at some point they'll turn on you. You can either have it out with him, stop hanging with him or accept that otherwise he's decent and this is his weakness.

help everyone!! by bluttee !!Jgw48AQJ - Sun, 11 Feb 2018 03:42:26 EST ID:BKKz6Xjw No.522097 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm not sure how things will pan out because this is a long drawn out process and am wise enough not to count my chickens before they're hatched but it was suggested I'll come into uh....a lot of money. If this is true, is there a way I can donate to 420chan? With all the attention I've drawn to it, is that necessary? Even if not, I want to express my gratitude anyway. This is a fantastic community. I'm also looking for investment advice. I was told land and flipping houses are good. I agree.
Martin Dartville - Sun, 11 Feb 2018 05:29:06 EST ID:6LOyF6U2 No.522101 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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From what I understand, with the new ads, Kirt doesn't need to smokeathon anymore. If you are really interested perhaps get on IRC and talk to the man, but I think it's all good.

>land and flipping houses
yes and yes
also holding onto houses near universities, hiring a rental manager, and having a passive income as a landlord is top notch.

Good for you dude; if you feel really fucking froggy, maybe turn a hobby into a dream career once you figure out the passive income strategy.
bluttee !!Jgw48AQJ - Sun, 11 Feb 2018 05:52:02 EST ID:BKKz6Xjw No.522102 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Ahhh I'm never on IRC. I haven't had much computer access in years. I did for a while until the one I bought got stolen. I'm years behind on tech stuff and do everything from my phone.

It's funny how people are popping out of the woodwork to suck up to me which reassures me that yeah, lots of money is coming. Haha. I almost feel delusional.

I want to have the University experience and pursue music. I know that much. I wonder what kind of car I should buy. Sorry for gloating a little but finally I might have a life that works for me...if I can scrape by through the process.
Martin Dartville - Sun, 11 Feb 2018 06:38:23 EST ID:6LOyF6U2 No.522103 Ignore Report Quick Reply
it's all good
I don't know shit about cars except I shouldn't drive one even sober

Uni is cool but don't let other people set the pace, but you are probably old enough to understand that. Don't live in a dorm, they are trash and will steal your weed. Be sure to study something complicated enough that you couldn't learn about it online.

I guess that's what I have to say having had my own misadventures and mistakes doing Finance right out of HS.
Wesley Bavingfoot - Mon, 12 Feb 2018 03:18:15 EST ID:B/1t3ZFg No.522148 Ignore Report Quick Reply
land is in a bubble. Buy a little bit of crypto, but do your research first and invest the bulk of the money into silver. After dollar crashes you should invest in sustainable technology to save mother earth.

are you fucked if you didnt start off doing good in life? by Jenny Focklelag - Sat, 10 Feb 2018 02:51:37 EST ID:UZC9gHak No.522048 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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so i got pretty fucked my family was pretty poor i didnt really get anything growing up but everyone i know got cars really young, inheritances, everything else in the world/

they had successful parents that got them to focus on schoolwork and made it easy to get jobs with connections plus jobs to get there and all that stuff. i didnt really get stuff on graduation or anything like that my parents didnt get me a savings i was a typical fat slob fuck up my parents got me a job i fucked it up.

i started hanging out with the people in town and we live in the woods so there was nothing to but drugs and drive around. i got fucked got a dui over weed at like 19 and other people in my family got duis in my family we got even more poor and fucked.

it was hard to get ahead and then i lived in the middle of nowhere no license no car nothing jobs are crazy far parents are poor. i was trying to get ahead without working i was scared shitless of working minimum wage for the rest of my life i quit college cause i wanted a music career or something. i finally found a way to make quick cash online i was planning on moving starting somewhere new.

i got hit with another fucking dui. i fucking did a xanax and slid on some ice in the road slid off a little bit and now i have to pay damages to the car all my money, gotta keep trying to make money, gonna have a felony, dont know what the fuck is gonna happen, i have no job history now a felony on my record and i didnt get all that good grade honor roll shit my resume is literally shit forever. even if i go to college and got good grades now i got shit grades at first like 3.1 and 2.8 and im immediately at the back of the list for any serious job because ill have a felony plus other charges and shit.

im almost 26, about to lose my parents health insurance, still no car, now back to no money, no hope, now no license, 30 miles away from everything, no help from parents or anything, aaaaand im getting a felony and god knows what else probably a bunch of useless programs and shit and now even if i did move somewhere with public transit i can't find a fucking job because ill have a felony and a bunch of charges.

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Hamilton Cammerbanks - Sat, 10 Feb 2018 13:49:13 EST ID:TUgPV7Lr No.522076 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I'm glad you've been able to use religion to justify your life. But look at what you're saying man... So sick you vomit constantly, infections, struggling to stay warm and not starve. Your situation is fucked man... And you kind of give up on getting anywhere because you are too "broken", and have a psychiatric record. Just sounds like you are quitting life, using "gods plan" as a way to justify letting this continue.

I get so fucking sick of it sometimes. I get it, it's difficult to fit right into the big picture like a perfect puzzle piece. But there is always something you could fucking do.

>Apply for government living assistance, a lot of people found homes and subsequently jobs. Whilst some of them being sex offenders.
>Start working on a trade at a free community college (they are becoming a thing now), you spend all day trying to eat and stay warm, why not carry a book with you?
>Learn an instrument. Even open chords on guitar will tempt people to give you tips, and alternatively a way to eat and not go hungry.
>Ignore everyone, including yourself you can't. Because 9 times out of 10, you can.

When I was homeless, I'd stop at nothing to change what had happened to me. I was kicked out of my Dad's house at 16.
Most of the fucking homeless population will just get put their by some fucked up means (economy, banks, drugs), and kinda just shrug their shoulders and wait for someone else to put a goal path in front of them...

I'd say only a few other guys I knew, out of the hundreds of us shuffling around the streets, would show up to the Voc rehab office EVERYDAY to get a higher echelon job. Most people just quit, never tried, or couldn't get off the stuff long enough to make it through.
Hamilton Cammerbanks - Sat, 10 Feb 2018 13:56:31 EST ID:TUgPV7Lr No.522078 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Sorry for double post. But this goes same for you OP. Do 1 thing a day to improve yourself, and your surroundings. Even something as simple as, "made my bed this morning". "I cleaned my area and organized my stuff"...
John Bardway - Sun, 11 Feb 2018 16:09:16 EST ID:dFYU0iAz No.522123 Ignore Report Quick Reply
So OP, I will agree with you that some people had better beginnings than others. Some people have been properly socialized, don't have residual mental health issues due to abuse/neglect, etc. But that doesn't mean you are FUCKED, it only means you are BEHIND.

At 29, I finally have my own place, a car, a job, and school simultaneously. The road here has been largely none of the above with a few instances of maybe a couple at the same time. I am clueless when it comes to girls, never had a girlfriend, can't keep women around because I'm honestly a simp and don't think rationally once they show me they're gonna try. I can't function properly around strangers. I can't do things the way other people do things. But that's ok because I have qualities that a lot of people dont. We all do.

If you have to work harder, the fact that you're working puts you in a higher bracket than people that stay stagnant. If you have to trudge through phases of loneliness, you're doing better than people that run from relationship to relationship never learning who they are or how to be better for a truly compatible partner. If you have to scrape and dig at the bottom of a trash can (like I had to do), you're doing better than someone who is in jail right now with no opportunity to think of a plan that will transform their life in 5 years time.

I hate the phrase "it could always be worse", because that does nothing for me. What does something for me is celebrating the opportunities I have to grow, be better, and achieve using my own unique skillset. Your skill set may be shitty because your life was shitty. But we all have the tools to achieve something and carve out a piece of happiness and peace for ourselves. We are human beings capable of self reflection and unimaginable growth. You have to look at yourself and see how you can become the best version of yourself.
Samuel Cringerbanks - Sun, 11 Feb 2018 19:32:09 EST ID:DWaLMotX No.522132 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>are you fucked if you didnt start off doing good in life?
For most people yes.

>two minor mistakes and not doing good in school means fucked for life?
It just means things are going to take a lot of time to return to anything resembling normalcy.
Cedric Chittingworth - Sun, 11 Feb 2018 19:57:34 EST ID:PW4oOJOU No.522136 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Join the military
Fuck your cat

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