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Hit a spot, need a advice from people who missed a similar fate by Fanny Possledale - Thu, 02 Mar 2017 21:13:01 EST ID:zOfwhgti No.513918 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I pretty much quit my job a month ago and have been unemployed since. The job itself was a major cause of my depression but not my lack of financial security has be feeling worried. I'm a stoner and I smoke pretty heavily. Not as much since I quit working so no drug tests.

Imagine a giant ball. Let's say for every thing that I do right and make a gain that ball of negativity just gets bigger and bigger. It's mostly comprised of all my worries and all my doubts. That drug test and that not having a job right now made that ball much bigger than it was before.

Really I am worried about there being a long period of this. Sure it's as simple as doing applications right? It's not because of the system designed to prevent us from working and keeping us as slaves. I have very little hope of finding any kind of decent job at all. What the fuck should I do man?
Phineas Pimmerdock - Thu, 02 Mar 2017 22:32:32 EST ID:9vn86lM+ No.513919 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Just dont spend your entire week doing fuck all smoking watching tv, playing vidya chatting on the internet. go do something productive in your spare time.
try to limit your exposure to leisure as much as possible, dont wake up and smoke, wakeup, shower, dress nicely and go to the library or something for a day, go do things that doesn't involve flashing colours.

You'll get a job eventually, just keep applying for things and figure out what you really want to do and how to do it. Maybe apply for jobs for places that fit your schtick, like you say you're a "stoner" maybe work in a record store or a cafe or something? bartender?
Walter Drudgebanks - Fri, 03 Mar 2017 01:57:16 EST ID:7P3XR8Tl No.513922 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Jus stay in and beat ur dick til you find a job. Easy dopamine switch til u can get those receptors back up
Barnaby Posslehall - Fri, 03 Mar 2017 07:15:00 EST ID:zH0RJFed No.513932 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I've felt that way for nearly my whole life. Being uncertain about my future. I thought no way they would hire me because I don't have job experience. So I started volunteering at my local church. I still don't have a job but everyday I worry about my uncertain future and it's cause me a lot of depression. Just remember the longer you're out of work the longer it is to get back in. So just get in there and keep trying. That's all you can do man.

Bear with me QQ: This is going to make me sound likes total asshole probably but idc by ASDF - Thu, 02 Mar 2017 00:25:29 EST ID:XavT3kV2 No.513903 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>Any advice? Also: wall of text incoming:
So firstly, i would like to say I've been seeing this girl I met on Facebook for like 2-3 weeks now about. it's long distance unfortunately, like ~700miles away long distance and I can't legally leave my state due to probation. Anyways, I've kinda felt like deep down I just can't genuinely love people in an intimate romantic way any more. A lot of the time I question whether or not I ever have tbh. I know I'm no fucking Prince Charming myself but I just can't seem to be attracted to people on an intellectual level anymore, that is to say, I only feel lust and I honestly just don't like people in general for their personalities, and im bisexual, so it's not a question of men or women. Sure some people can be nice, some can be smart, some can be really down to earth, some can have stuff in common with me, most are not all these though and generally I always seem to find something I don't like in the other person whatever it may be, and try to not let it bother me and make it work regardless. Still, to this day I have never had a relationship last more than like 3 months at most, I doubt whether or not I've ever experienced mutual "true" love before in my life. I haven't gotten laid since about October and haven't had an official relationship since about July or August last year. I can count the number of times I've gone all the way with a woman on both my hands. I'm 21 and should be like at the peak of my love life or sex life or whatever. I feel fucking pathetic, I attend community college and still live with my fucking parents and two friends who my parents and I took in because they were basically homeless otherwise. My life isn't bad it's just like never enjoyable really or exciting or interesting anymore, I'm too busy with school, probation, roommates, and shit like that to get a job rn because ever since I started talking to this chick my grades have been slipping and I've been lacking sleep more than usual. I'm not sure if any of that was really useful information pertaining to my concern, but anyways, I just feel like I don't know what actual love means anymore, I can…
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Nell Buzzfield - Thu, 02 Mar 2017 07:08:45 EST ID:STF3ejnn No.513910 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Well hmmm…I sometimes find myself feeling the same, I appreciate the sight of a female body but I just don't really care about making friends. I can go outside every night and pick up random girls but I just want them because they have hot bodies, I don't really care much anymore about connections, I would say I care but I have started finding it more difficult to establish those special connections.

I guess what I find attractive in a person is the discovery of a new personality, or a new collection of ideas, just the fact that they are other people that I don't know. Like maybe riding a new car? You eventually get used to it, and then it becomes routine.

You could try doing things that excite you, for example if you have a passion for hiking then join a hiking group and try befriending those people who find the same things interesting. Perhaps there you will find a woman that makes you feel in love again

Surreal Feelings toward Exes by Simon Croffinghood - Tue, 21 Feb 2017 10:53:45 EST ID:QVcoJ6HE No.513634 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey /qq/

I had a girlfriend in high school for about a year. We broke up and she began dating a friend of mine. I lost touch with her for about 9 years, was glancing at a friend's online profile when I saw her in his pics, apparently they are dating. Went through to her profile, saw that she had dated like 4 of my friends from high school lol.

But here is what my thread is about: not longing for an ex or heartbreak, but just that "... woah man ..." feeling you can sometimes get about an ex. Three of my ex girlfriends are married now. Two of them have children now. Isn't it just kind of strange to think that people who were once your mate, are now completely off in a completely different world, like life just moves through chapters and things are always changing. It's just weird to think about, I guess I'm just rambling. Not even nostalgia is what I'm feeling, just... Camus-like amusement at the absurdity of the human experience, or something, man.
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David Grandway - Sat, 25 Feb 2017 18:44:33 EST ID:+lpBvEqu No.513830 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>It's so strange to think that someone who practically took part in every decision you made every day, can suddenly become a complete stranger and be completely irrelevant to your everyday life. Just like if you'd never met her.

Charles Choppernog - Tue, 28 Feb 2017 00:43:53 EST ID:EjIWkbUT No.513870 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Henry Wizzlesudge - Tue, 28 Feb 2017 12:49:45 EST ID:7pfwTMOa No.513878 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you stop being an individual. Sharing every decision with another person? That's sounds pretty unhealthy to me.

Then again, I don't attach to people like others do.
Ian Buzzfuck - Tue, 28 Feb 2017 19:06:42 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513892 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Depends on whether you're choosing to share or being made to share. Choosing to share is healthy. Also, they didn't mean literally every decision. I assume you recognize that, but at the same time, your comment that it sounds unhealthy doesn't make much sense given that information. What about it sounds unhealthy?
Hugh Puckleridge - Wed, 01 Mar 2017 11:13:27 EST ID:UrQwPY3E No.513901 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I meant it like the other person being on the back of your mind. Not like actually actively taking part in every decision, but being relevant to whatever you choose, since you're sharing your life with the other person (if the relationship is serious enough). Of course you choose stuff on your own, but even when you do, you take into account your partner and his/her feelings and time.

anxiety and social anxiety by Cornelius Fullyhood - Mon, 27 Feb 2017 14:29:17 EST ID:NoKU4Mj+ No.513855 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I have such chronic anxiety and social anxiety that it does not respond to regular treatment. SSRIs, therapy, meditating on the summit of Mt Kilimanjaro, what have you.

My social anxiety is particularly bad and being outside in public is very challenging sometimes.

I want to start taking benzodiazepines but I'm shitscared of becoming addicted as I've seen firsthand how the addiction ruins lives. I have poor self discipline so I'm scared I couldn't follow doctors guidelines.

What the fuck am I supposed to do?
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Cornelius Numblechick - Mon, 27 Feb 2017 14:50:48 EST ID:821ft5+E No.513858 Ignore Report Quick Reply
smoke more, chill out
Thomas Sevingwit - Tue, 28 Feb 2017 11:04:37 EST ID:35+jbzpY No.513876 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You should consider smoking more
Lillian Mucklewater - Tue, 28 Feb 2017 12:53:21 EST ID:NoKU4Mj+ No.513879 Ignore Report Quick Reply

I currently smoke 5+ joints per day.... how many is enough?

(yes i know it doesn't help but i need some kinda crutch)


Yea, I just feel like all of this conceptual knowledge does nothing to quell the actual phsiological response. Like I think in my mind I have a rational perspective on it and rationally comprehend the extent to the problem... but in no way does this help lessen the intensity of debilitating nature of the problem :/
Charles Dinkinstone - Tue, 28 Feb 2017 16:25:31 EST ID:QVcoJ6HE No.513881 Ignore Report Quick Reply
kilimanjaro is only 2k feet tall? thats bitch nigga shit

>edit: just re-read and i saw it 20k feet... thats some badass shit and im sorry for calling kilimanjaro a bitch nigga
Shitting Pockham - Tue, 28 Feb 2017 20:09:06 EST ID:zbKXnohS No.513893 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Ignore those two and smoke less, excessive cannabis use reinforces anxiety over time.

Anxiety problems are always two fold. Physical symptoms, and mental symptoms. Some people get more physical symptoms increased heart rate palpitations sweating panic attacks etc and some people are more cognitive.

For the physical symptoms, beta blockers are non-addictive and are used by many to ward off stage fright.

The cognitive symptoms are much more difficult because they are unique to the individual. We all know what a racing heart is like, not many of us can tell you what cognitive biases are stripping you from becoming social.

Anger by Reuben Drunningcocke - Wed, 22 Feb 2017 22:13:23 EST ID:6Y23Um/F No.513705 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Holy shit /qq/ I am always angry over such stupid shit and it's so god damn damaging. What do I do?
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Jack Clangerstud - Mon, 27 Feb 2017 07:18:25 EST ID:6Y23Um/F No.513850 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I don't hate myself
I hate other people because they're constantly trying to convince me to hate myself for their amusement or some other fucked up purpose and I hate the fact that I'm here
It's like everything, literally everything, is my enemy, everything is painful, everything is a double-edged sword
I try to keep it down, mostly to keep up appearances and not cause unwarranted excitation
But damn sometimes I just snap
And it's true that specific things become the target of my very generalized anger. Then I end up in nonsensical, hateful relationships that are centered around emotions that have nothing to do with anything. And I want them to dissolve because they aren't even real.
Eliza Cammerstore - Tue, 28 Feb 2017 16:20:56 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513880 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Your issues sound exactly like the ones I used to have, and I came to the same realization as the anon you quoted. It had a lot to do with having low or no self-worth, which translated into subtle hatred of myself. I had already dealt with a period of hating everyone, everything, and myself more than anything else, so for a long time after getting over that specifically, I believed I had come to accept myself and everything, so it blinded me to the fact that how you see and treat others is a reflection of how you view yourself, usually regarding your standards for judging everybody and their worth. As it turned out, I had an incredibly low tolerance for fuck ups, mishaps, or generally being at a stage in life or regarding a specific issue I've had to overcome. If I saw somebody who was anything less than I considered myself to be (and considering I viewed myself in low esteem for the most part, I was the bare minimum for what you had to be to pass), and on any given issue or situation, then I would get angry and it would lead to rage.

It took realizing this and actually training myself not to call literally everyone I saw in front of me a fucking retarded piece of shit for every little thing they did. I stopped myself as much as I could, which could be pretty hard, and it took a long time. Eventually though, I got myself to stop flipping out at people on a conscious level every time I saw them, and with time I stopped automatically doing it too. I trained myself not to be a hateful piece of shit that honestly, deep down, wanted to hate the people around him, despite having it drive me crazy as time went on.
Barnaby Bunwater - Tue, 28 Feb 2017 17:25:11 EST ID:bVffch1B No.513884 Ignore Report Quick Reply

> and actually training myself (...)

How? I have this problem. I know I hate myself and I'm easily set off by shit other people do, having low tolerance or exacerbating stupid shit, half(just half?) of all that is going on around me may very well be just running in my head straight to under my skin and i cannot shake it off, my eye is ugly, very very ugly, and i want it to stop, this skewed view that only brings me down.

Then again tbh and not to be dramatic, but i wonder if this is even where the problem begins...i feel i have some gap with what would be a convenient reality, live in fear and eventually will just live alone in all senses of the word.
Eliza Cammerstore - Tue, 28 Feb 2017 18:29:09 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513885 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I caught myself in the act of doing it, told myself to stop, and that it's the reason why I'm getting so pissed off all the time. It took 3 months before any real change started to happen and more like a full year before I realized I wasn't doing it any more and had basically been "cured".
Eliza Cammerstore - Tue, 28 Feb 2017 18:32:11 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513886 Ignore Report Quick Reply
And yeah, that basically meant I was catching myself and telling myself to stop within minutes or seconds of just having done it previously at times. When you catch it, you tell yourself to let it go, and that it's stupid or doesn't make any sense to be angry over whatever it is.

just wanna talk by Fuck Bugglecocke - Sat, 25 Feb 2017 23:15:30 EST ID:whZm+REk No.513835 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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hey /qq/
just wanted to get some things off my chest.
I want to kill myself. I want all of these things to end.
I'm a drug addict. I know I should quit, but fuck that just seems impossible, even when everything in my life says I should quit.

Im a mtf trans but I still look like a dude so much even after starting hormones. Noone wants to date me, at all. (Gay) Men want me for sex, women find me grotesque. Ive had women laugh in my face when they found out. People say I'm a good looking man, but I'm not a man :(.

I cant even have casual sex if I wanted to (which I dont, at all). My ass is messed up from being raped, so its crazy tight and bleeds all the time, even when I poop, much less something going inside it. And trying to be the penetrative partner is usually a clusterfuck, either I cum super fast or I dont cum at all and cant keep it up.

Its hard being alone, but Ive been getting used to it. At this point I'm so much of a weirdo freak I cant imagine anyone actually being with anyone. Only God knows how I managed to meet women in the past, but I can't fuckin do it now. Sigh, I'm such a freak. I miss my exs all the time, wish I hadn't broken up with them. But I did, and now theyre both way happier, they both got married in the past 6 months (to men) and they seem much much happier. Certainly happier than theyd be with me. So I'm glad for them (honestly).

I dont really have any real friends. But I guess thats just cuz I'm an asshole and a piece of shit. Honestly its probably better for people to stay away from me.

I'm not totally broke now, so at least I have that going for me. But ugh its been such a shitty weekend, spent so much money and its all because of drugs.
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Augustus Brabblekerk - Sun, 26 Feb 2017 02:12:27 EST ID:zbKXnohS No.513838 Ignore Report Quick Reply
if long-term psychotherapy, HRT, psychiatric drugs, meditation, bullshit self-help books/groups, fad diets, credulous nootropics, seeking god etc. doesn't work rec drugs are the only thing that will salve the pain on this earth

sorry, OP. practice harm reduction and disregard self-righteous faggots.
Charlotte Duttingham - Sun, 26 Feb 2017 03:40:30 EST ID:Lga8AOAo No.513839 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Honestly, it's going to take a lot of work for you to be happy again.

You need to feel comfortable with yourself first.

Make yourself feel pretty again, if youre trans, I recommend a low calorie diet in addition to cardio and leg exercises. Also, yoga!

Depending on what drugs you use, stop or switch. Most opioids and stims are shit. Find something cheap and easy on your health.

Most importantly, stop having anal sex until you heal. If a guy only wants you for that, he's prob just going to leave. Start a real relationship.

This is all easier said than done, but just working on yourself a little bit every day can make you feel happy even if youre not getting results. Making an effort shows you aren't just giving up.

Hope everything works out, I feel for you.
Nicholas Gengerchetch - Sun, 26 Feb 2017 23:30:54 EST ID:whZm+REk No.513849 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Thank you so much
Things are looking better :)
Eliza Cammerstore - Tue, 28 Feb 2017 16:28:43 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513883 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Idk how long you've been using hormones, but I think a big part of this might just be from getting used to that. Anyway, you're not really alone in being alone, people who aren't trans can often feel like a weirdo or a freak just the same. I know that shouldn't be something you take comfort in really, others' suffering isn't something to feel better about, but it's nice knowing you aren't alone in how you're feeling even if you are physically. Give life and yourself some time to transition. I know relationships are important to most people, but finding good ones that last can take a lot of time and entail a lot of loneliness until you find someone worthwhile.

I know saying tough it out doesn't really help things, but hang in there regardless. Things always seem really bad at the time, but later on you look back and feel as though you could've endured more if you had to. Given enough time, given we aren't talking about a traumatic experience, usually the mind prunes out enough of the bad that you find some things you actually miss. This isn't something you can't handle, even if it's endlessly tiring and demoralizing. It'll pass and you'll be glad you waited.

tfw by Rebecca Crandertat - Sat, 18 Feb 2017 13:01:32 EST ID:bmlptvuc No.513541 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>tfw no hot, drug friendly gf
>tfw will never have mind blowing sex on psys or mdma
>tfw nobody to talk about past trips as you cuddle under the blanket smoking a spliff
why even live
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Hugh Hidgeway - Sat, 25 Feb 2017 14:37:58 EST ID:9B6U+M4D No.513826 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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They're tryna bring them back. I think cursive still posts very occasionally.

It's a way to maximize the effects of DXM. Say what you want about cursive, but that particular thing xe made was well put-together.

Yeah it was a stupid time.
Augustus Bardway - Mon, 27 Feb 2017 12:18:31 EST ID:sFkKVhrT No.513854 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Yeah, OP, you would just love some drug hungry little slut that sucks all your friends dicks behind your back, wouldn't you?

Not that I personally have experienced that, but that's pretty much how it goes 90% of the time based on the people I know IRL. Unless she's not hot. If she's hot like you want then chances are she's not going to be loyal. Of course you could pimp her out to suck dick for drugs and then do the drugs together and make out with her, tasting her dick lips.

I mean, look at the girl in your pic. Is that seriously the type of person you want to date? Why would you waste your time with something like that? Get some sense, mon.
Cornelius Fullyhood - Mon, 27 Feb 2017 14:53:54 EST ID:NoKU4Mj+ No.513860 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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George Pittdock - Tue, 28 Feb 2017 02:33:15 EST ID:sFkKVhrT No.513872 Ignore Report Quick Reply

are you me
Blackie-Chan - Wed, 01 Mar 2017 05:28:08 EST ID:YSgLqHnY No.513899 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>still trying to find a drug-friendly girl instead of finding a girl on the fence and breaking her into drug culture
>still wanting something you don't get until you stop wanting it
>smoking a spliff under a blanket

living with a cunt rommie, god help me by Martin Lightshaw - Mon, 27 Feb 2017 14:52:07 EST ID:c7hkHH7V No.513859 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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But I do want to fucking pound her.
And not in a sexual way.

It's concerning. Look, I guess in the end she's just rude, inconsiderate, narcissistic two faced daddy's girl even though in her mind, she's a queen and in her full right, god forbid any inconvenience. Everything is an inconvenience.
ANd I know, i'm just letting her attitude get to me. Like it's the little things. You can imagine, it's pointless dumb stuff, but it just stacks and you start to tell a pattern where you're somehow being placed under... I don't want to have my skin turn everytime i have to cross a room. It's getting exacerbated actually, and i'm pretty sure it's going to build up even further in my mind. I have no idea what to do, i seriously don't want to hide in my room out of fear of doing something stupid, or be on the edge to try and fuck her over somehow.
It's a waste of time but it's really driving me, i don't even have time for this shit.

This is more of a vent than anything, I know it's stupid but i'm hoping at least writing it down will put me slightly at ease.
Cornelius Benderforth - Mon, 27 Feb 2017 21:13:33 EST ID:zbKXnohS No.513865 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Develop a hatefuck fetish and pound her in a sexual way.
Emma Cissletutch - Tue, 28 Feb 2017 05:06:18 EST ID:01v0Ev6L No.513875 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Maybe talk to her in an assertive way.

Where you talk about your feelings and not just blame her.

So not "You're a cunt" but "when you do this it makes me feel that so can we do compromise"

Nof of the times by Matilda Gallerhidging - Tue, 21 Feb 2017 09:30:26 EST ID:TX3Ezud6 No.513633 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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How do you deal with being very monogamous in these days? I'm not christian, but essentially I carry the morality of biblian relationships, if I could have chose it I would have wanted to be with only one person. And I'm not one of those glasshouse people who wants girls to be pure but wants to fuck around themselves, I've only been with three people at my now age of 22, all of them only because I liked them alot and would have been prepared to stay with them permanently. But as now the morality is that everybody should fuck around and be slutty shamelessly, and it keeps fucking me up when I fall for a girl and of course she has fucked around the world. It's not special to me anymore, they become meat. I can't change, it's deep in who I am. What is a conservative mind to do in modern proud slut mentality times?
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Matilda Gallerhidging - Tue, 21 Feb 2017 17:54:06 EST ID:TX3Ezud6 No.513657 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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But that's kinda where I think the bible got it right. About the purity / ignorance. Magic is what you don't know how it works, and likewise a relationship based on ignorance, exploring and getting to know everything together feels magical. And when you think about it, the part about two becoming one makes sense, since only one of you need to fuck up, to lose your key to heaven, heaven being able to trust and share yourself with that special someone fully, losing that magical place that is your first real relationship, where there is no emotional baggage, no kneejerk reactions left from previous runs. Now when I say bible I should say that I haven't actually ever read the bible, but it's kinda common knowledge, the basics of christian marriage and such.

I assume by physically caught between you mean attracted to two girls at the same time? Or actually fucking around with two at once? If the former, of course people are attracted to people outside of the relationship, what matters is if they actually want or feel like they need to act on it. I've been flirted with by chicks whom I held attraction for, without feeling a need to threaten the relationship I was in.

The same with looking at all those people in a sexual weighing way, of course it's done, of course she'll do it too. I have no troubles with that. It's the same as with porn, you don't become a slut because you have a pornographic interest, and I'd have no problem with finding a GFs porn stash folder. I have trouble with the looseness, it's not anything special she's giving me, it's just something she does. A massage would be more intimate. In short, I have no trouble with my other someone having a sexuality and exploring it on their own, I have trouble if having it shared with you isn't anything special.

But your last sentence really struck me. I'll have to ponder on that one.

I know trolls should not be fed, but so what? I said in the OP I know more standard well adapted inviduals have no trouble with the world as it is. Women more loose, you get more flesh. I don't care if you get or don't. But I don't want just flesh.
Sophie Brellystone - Fri, 24 Feb 2017 20:00:32 EST ID:DO2XU782 No.513821 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Do what I have, devote yourself to a life of celibacy
Fanny Ferringford - Sat, 25 Feb 2017 21:54:02 EST ID:4IE9Wl/L No.513834 Ignore Report Quick Reply
How do you like your ego stroked? Soft and gentle? Hard and fast?

It's always those who throw out numbers, notches on the bedpost, that are truly insecure and likely embellishing. Christ.
Ian Clannerpit - Sun, 26 Feb 2017 19:16:23 EST ID:tllzdcmm No.513847 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I've only ever had serious relationships with girls and they did't have the mentality of fuck everyone and neither do I. Idk tho the people I surround myself with have never been super promiscuous, we're the type that want to at least get to know someone and be compatible with them first, even if its just to hookup up for a bit. Idk how common finding people like that is but I don't think its that hard dude, have you been outside lol. And if your looking for somone like that in places like bars then thats the exact opposite of a place you should be trying to meet them. If you cant get over the fact tho that somone you like and they like you back has had a slutty past, thats on you dude. Either sit down with yourself and sort yourself out or accept that you will have a harder time finding someone to be with. Think about the fucked up shit you have done in life that you regret, how would you feel if your potential partner was judging you for it? I'm not saying that someones past can't bother you sometimes, its a valid human emotion to be jealous about that stuff, but you have to realize that 1, that was in the past and 2, sex feels great and given the right conditions both you and I and almost everyone would be a huge slut as well. If you care about the person enough and they have committed to you it shouldn't be an issue
Ian Clannerpit - Sun, 26 Feb 2017 19:25:40 EST ID:tllzdcmm No.513848 Ignore Report Quick Reply
also your making a huge mistake by saying that the girls are getting used and that they are only fucking everyone so they can feel whole. Dude, thats sexist as fuck, you realize sex feels great for women too? Girls don't just "get fucked", they fuck you back and get their nut as well. Sure, there are loads of mislead girls with issues who just fuck everyone because they think they need to or whatever, but thats not the whole picture, and its pretty easy to tell which ones are just dumb sluts because they just give off a vibe that can be picked up on.

Does anybody else fantasize about death/suicide? by Shitting Nondleham - Wed, 22 Feb 2017 16:10:30 EST ID:gsWNvXfE No.513693 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I wouldn't say I'm suicidal and would most likely shit myself in the face of death but I find myself constantly thinking about dying and killing myself. It's just something I do when I'm feeling pretty low (which is more often than not) or often just because I'm bored. It's like a sick fantasy I play over in my head; I picture everybody at my funeral and I picture my last thoughts. It doesn't make me happy nor does it make me sad, it's just a place I go to from time to time on a daily basis.

Like I said; I wouldn't actively kill myself. I just like to think about it, maybe a little too much though. Does anybody else do this?
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Edwin Happermere - Thu, 23 Feb 2017 22:08:42 EST ID:6Y23Um/F No.513792 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I actually really hate the idea of dying when I'm at a low point
It's when I'm at my high points where I feel like I should die right then and there before I fall back down again
I don't give a shit about funerals and whatnot, I just hope people will wish me well while I'm on my way instead of feeling unhappy
Nicholas Sarrydock - Fri, 24 Feb 2017 06:13:21 EST ID:qDgNA3C6 No.513799 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Maybe probe a little deeper. When I'm very stressed thinking about dying, right this instant, vividly imagining my final moments, is actually very centering. Perhaps it's a soothing reminder that this moment is all we actually have, that our strifes and worries pass like clouds across the sky. I feel like it tunes me into what matters again, pulls me out of my bullshit.

When I'm just bored though I just fantasise about hot babes, dunno what your problem is lol
Phyllis Lightgold - Fri, 24 Feb 2017 06:48:49 EST ID:jq0HRzVy No.513800 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Yes, I imagine myself jumping to my death in detail, the descent, the force of the impact. I'm generally dissatisfied with life so I guess I imagine these things as a sort of defence mechanism from complete depression because it makes me feel that there's an emergency exit available whenever I want which would nullify my existence. It calms me but it's obviously a symptom of a negative mental condition.
George Clanninglock - Sun, 26 Feb 2017 01:47:48 EST ID:W5RktZIh No.513837 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Multiple times a day, every day, for long periods of time. Lately I've been trying to figure out how to do it and still have life insurance payout for my girlfriend if she hasn't left me
Sidney Woddlelig - Sun, 26 Feb 2017 18:55:49 EST ID:Po5ClFtn No.513845 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It's been a constant thought for years now. Nothing too QQ I just really dont want to do the human experience but who cares I'll die anyway. Make death work for it and try to ignore ddramatic thoughts when they come.
My former counselor told me to think of it as foreign thoughts, like a radio that's between frequencies. I guess she was trying to say that even if it's often, it's just temporary. Idk
But even if people aren't loud about it I think the feeling is common. Just human shit

Do I cut them out of my life, or continue to attempt to build a relationship? by Jenny Clottingridge - Thu, 23 Feb 2017 23:17:22 EST ID:P0U35MoQ No.513795 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>abused as a child
>physically, helicopter parenting, private school as well as emotionally thrashed daily)
>move out at 18 once father assaults girlfriend
>make 700$ month and get a shitty 400$ apt (400$...in LA)
>build self a business
>living pretty nice actually
>reach out
>they are housing, feeding, and clothing 8+ bible college students
>dont even address me when I am there
>wont admit to any wrongdoing
>see and hear from my sister that he basically buys them shit, takes them out to do shit

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Frederick Cruddlestock - Fri, 24 Feb 2017 11:33:11 EST ID:RJiIWOVn No.513805 Ignore Report Quick Reply
How the fuck did you get a $400 apartment?
In Los Angeles.
Samuel Gillyfoot - Fri, 24 Feb 2017 12:25:40 EST ID:KveR7zNs No.513808 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Cut them out but leave the door open. They're either taking you for granted or don't give a fuck.

Parents are people, you don't keep making an effort if they're shits. It validates them. Leave a line open if they won't harass you and let them pick the phone up. Move on with your life never expecting them to call. If you can't handle that perhaps wish them goodbye and good luck in case they don't. Openly if need be.

I think there's a point where you should walk and there's a point where your dad should have gone to prison but I'm sure he's a "fine upstanding member of the community". They've got a few years to decide they care to have enough time to at least start to make it up to you still.

Also if they do reach out make sure it's not a token effort. No ultimatums because they give exact minimum standards.
Jenny Clottingridge - Fri, 24 Feb 2017 18:15:39 EST ID:P0U35MoQ No.513815 Ignore Report Quick Reply
every contact with them, which was 1x-2x a year would make me get into a depressive state.

I told everything to my psych and they are iterating what you guys are: if you are negatively effected and they show no signs of reaching out, fuck them and move on. Dont do some grand "FUCK YOU IM LEAVING FOR GOOD", just leave like a ghost.

even making plans to cut them off feels good.

But the dark side of my wants to hire random community college actors to pretend to be relatives that dont exist so I can fool my dying parents into thinking they have dementia as they dwindle into the abyss
Jenny Clottingridge - Fri, 24 Feb 2017 18:19:04 EST ID:P0U35MoQ No.513816 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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5x5 room.
No access to kitchen. Bathroom is in a community center's pool that is 50 feet from the door.
Illegal immigrants renting the place to me
2 couples with newborns living in living room
drunk day laborers that give me shit when I drink water from the sink
Alice Honeyham - Sun, 26 Feb 2017 16:04:19 EST ID:otuAKgFp No.513844 Ignore Report Quick Reply
So you were subletting a shitty apartment?

Reverse Elitism by Cyril Punkinham - Sun, 26 Feb 2017 00:47:37 EST ID:xQY7/x+6 No.513836 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Venting here

I moved to a lower income area a year ago to relax and lead a new hobby. It's been fantastic for the most part.

One thing bugs me every now and then- I'm an outsider and some locals treat me like shit.

Most of the people here grew up in the area and that's cool and all. Problem is they have this guard up about me because I have a college degree and traveled a bit. Like, I'm not allowed to join any "serious" conversations or I get the "see that's why I hate you stuck up college kids" or (sarcastically) "well listen to him he's BEEN there so he knows."

I don't force ideas or anything, I don't talk down to people! I feel like if I'm not making a joke or keeping conversation casual, I'm making someone feel insecure. Dammit I just want to be friends and chat!

Fuck it I'm moving again, I tried guys
William Gaffingwore - Sun, 26 Feb 2017 10:58:08 EST ID:KveR7zNs No.513841 Ignore Report Quick Reply
How do these people even know all these things about you OP? That doesn't come up in casual conversation most of the time. Also surely you moved to a cheaper area and those just happen to have communities with average lower incomes?

I've been talking about saving up and buying a house and it's to an area a lot of people who live in my town are considering moving to because we're priced out the market here and everything is expensive. Everyone says it's "less expensive" or "cheaper" because they're moving where costs are lower not where people are poorer. I mean people are poorer there but that's irrelevant. It's most being able to buy a nice house for £50-100K less than a box house in the sticks, cheaper shops and council tax and it's easier to get to the nearby big city but only 5 minutes further from London. My office is 5 minutes walk from the train station and everyone I work with makes that commute it seems.

Anyway that does make me wonder. I mean maybe they ask, but if they're that fixated on status that they pry it from you and then vet you based on it find other locals to talk to. Perhaps you just read something about how income affects standard of living or some socio economic news item or report or journal. But if there's no reason that term should be on your mind maybe you really do project your status hard.

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