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ear that change shape or just an asshole by Wesley Nicklehall - Sun, 17 Dec 2017 04:16:18 EST ID:62A+cndb No.520685 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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can your ears change shape without any reason when you are older since i've cutted my hair and i noticed my ears are really protunded and i never noticed this before
Cedric Doddlefield - Sun, 17 Dec 2017 05:17:25 EST ID:+7RQKJal No.520686 Ignore Report Quick Reply
First page of google "Bones, stop growing after puberty and muscle and fat cells also stop dividing. But cartilage - that's the plastic-like stuff in ears and noses - cartilage continues to grow until the day you die. Not only does cartilage grow, but the earlobes elongate from gravity. And that makes ears look even larger.Dec 15, 2009
Noses and Ears Continue"

And this belongs on /med/

White knight pushed past limits. by Charles Currynidge - Fri, 15 Dec 2017 14:23:16 EST ID:ZpcyH4pC No.520668 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm recovering from an absurdly jacked up relationship finally. Let me walk you through the basics of how it started.

We were both homeless and we helped each other but it was tremendously one-sided of course. I kept her safe from guys who harass women on streets what should I found out to be apparently all of them except for me. We both had a drug problem and funded it 99% the time.

We go through all kinds of check them shit but I really do or at least I did and I was open to the possibility that she love me and Son tremendously fucked up way. Most of all, there was pity. She had an outrageous bad attitude and a negative attitude that made me look like a life coach despite me being tremendously depressed.

Then there's this guy she used to do legit work for her. He sent her home one day with extreme pornographic violent scars and bruises from head to toe. She insists that he raped her which I responded my being on the verge of killing him every time he tried to contact her. Somehow there was always a way or an excuse 4 her to end up talking to him. I have been through the most convenient and upsettingly pathetic lies about why she still talks to him. I begged her to admit that the reason she maintained with him because of a consensual fair and/ or because things are well to have sex.

We broke up over some petty shit because of her having in absurd episode because she felt like I wasn't sharing enough to drugs with her. Of course, not even within 2 days of me breaking up with her, she is living in an RV park in his yard where his wife and kids live.

Deep down inside I love her and she is a pathetic, pitiful case and it's tremendously hard to watch her become the sex slave slash pet of some guy cost us our relationship when I was willing to do anything to save it.

She wants me to get a second Facebook account and sneak around and see her to talk to me just the way she used to do to him. I pity her so much and I am considering meeting her just to see that she is better off and not getting hurt despite the fact that I have gone to extreme lengths and they passed to have the whole situation investigated. She is a vehement liar about Wings Things.

Between my pity and anger that I…
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Sophie Chezzlesodging - Fri, 15 Dec 2017 17:44:06 EST ID:0PJ7z1R+ No.520670 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Find another girl.

Stay away from this Deliverance trailer park shit.
George Drummleshaw - Fri, 15 Dec 2017 17:49:14 EST ID:wklHn48x No.520671 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Call the cops on them and wash your hands of the whole situation.
Priscilla Sucklepune - Fri, 15 Dec 2017 23:39:27 EST ID:lXjUaJuo No.520672 Ignore Report Quick Reply
This person is completely toxic, they are not worth 'saving' and are probably beyond that point anyway. If you're too stupid to see that then you probably deserve them.

Burning Alive! by Basil Sollerdon - Fri, 15 Dec 2017 05:26:25 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.520663 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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What do I do?! Help me, /qq/... I got problems!


d e p r e s s i o n by Shit Snodford - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 21:51:48 EST ID:O+joIlT1 No.520619 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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how do you care about yourself
Emma Mollywadge - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 22:07:03 EST ID:lXjUaJuo No.520620 Ignore Report Quick Reply
With effort. Other people only make it look effortless because you're on the outside looking in. However the more you put the effort in the easier it gets, which means less effort required.
Charlotte Blatherfield - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 22:07:11 EST ID:0PJ7z1R+ No.520621 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Get yo dick sukkd

Or just do something.

Break everything into steps and do it.


1.) Hear alarm clock
2.) Feet on floor
3.) Walk to bathroom
4.) ???

Seriously though, just getting up in the morning can be challenging. Sometimes it is for me. You just have to do it. I feel better when I'm working on something.
Basil Sollerdon - Fri, 15 Dec 2017 03:09:55 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.520661 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Any other questions?

~~~~ + ~~~~ by Rebecca Dallerway - Wed, 13 Dec 2017 15:23:40 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.520647 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Merry Christmas ;)

Edwin Gottingway - Thu, 14 Dec 2017 16:28:45 EST ID:o3vIoRWZ No.520653 Ignore Report Quick Reply
And a happy New Year!

~ A+ blood donor
Basil Sollerdon - Thu, 14 Dec 2017 23:48:16 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.520658 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>A+ blood donor


ugh by N7IX4 !!aUW3ymB7 - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 00:26:17 EST ID:V8lIvZw5 No.520601 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I can't find anything on diverticulitis friendly sex positions but I had sex with my friend with this condition (untreated) and he grew nauseated afterwards- I suspect because he was on top a lot of the time. Should I just stick to him sitting back on the couch and letting me ride him? I was wondering what else we could do. I want cuddling tips too. I tried to lay on him when we were cuddling but it hurt is tummy. He's okay laying on me though.

Anyways, with that aside I don't know how to convince him to go on antibiotics. He keeps making excuses and putting em off. Probably because they make him feel sicker? When he comes and visits this winter, maybe he will let me take him to urgent care. (Some of you might remember my previous thread? If not, don't judge him. He's only 18.)

I'm experiencing some sadness after said sex because it happened too soon for me (my original plan was to not get sexual with him) and there's plenty of issues I could go on about but two of my smartest friends said what's going on between me and him is wrong/unhealthy and I need to leave him.

My intentions seem good but I'm actually being selfish. I don't feel like explaining how it is but it is.

I don't want to leave. I want to help.

The sex was beautiful and I had hopes and dreams of making him healthier and happier. I do care for him but it's a long story. I feel like I might be grieving for my dead ex and wasted youth through him.
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N7IX4 !!aUW3ymB7 - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 01:06:41 EST ID:V8lIvZw5 No.520606 Ignore Report Quick Reply
lol uh....
I'm okay. I used to be an escort/dom until I moved in with a rich old man
Phoebe Dungerstone - Tue, 12 Dec 2017 03:30:47 EST ID:JI9kO00V No.520626 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Urgh, are you really here for advice. Because 95% of the advice in the thread resounded with what your friends told you... And to add, you started this thread looking for different sex positions.

Your desire to change him, and have sex with him are odd. You identify the relationship as unhealthy, yet dive into it by saying "fuck it". I wouldn't be surprised if somehow you saw turning him into a healthy man, of whom you were sexually engaged with, as a way to valdate, or redeem sexual trauma or guilt from the past.

OP seriously. If you really do give a fuck about changing for the better, and really want him to get better as well, you need to stop this foolishness now! I only get frustrated, because you will acknowledge and agree with the negative side of this, and how it isnt healthy to begin with, and just toss your hands up and say "fuck it". Cant expect people to feel anything else for you when you keep shooting yourself in the foot.
N7IX4 !!aUW3ymB7 - Tue, 12 Dec 2017 07:40:15 EST ID:V8lIvZw5 No.520627 Ignore Report Quick Reply

I'll work on a letter explaining why I need to leave him soon.
Charlotte Wobberbet - Tue, 12 Dec 2017 12:02:54 EST ID:SorQd36M No.520629 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Well make sure he is taking care of is diverticula otherwise, not drinking wine or any kind of alcohol, no matter how mild, etc.

It must be awful being into anal sex and having diverticulitus, I never even thought about it... Blow jobs? What's it called, when you have sex with someone's thighs?

You don't just take antibiotics constantly when you have diverticulitus, and it is chronic, it will never go away. You take them when you have an infection, which is not often, and if you have an infection that requires antibiotics and don't take them you can die. Mostly antiinflamatories are better.. maybe take ibuprofen before hand? That's a very mild anti-inflamatory.

This is a question for his doctor, not qq

Does he know what a stoma is? You get it when you don't take care of your diverticula and you don't do what the doctor says. It is not sexy or fun.
Wesley Crirryhall - Wed, 13 Dec 2017 09:17:36 EST ID:RLper1nr No.520643 Ignore Report Quick Reply

How is this dude fucking with diverticulitis? Just speaking from experience, shit is unbearable to the point of tears. Antibiotics will not do shit either. Dude needs a complete overhaul of his life stemming from diet to mental satiation. Anyways I am just speaking of his inability to confront a pretty serious condition. Your problems are another breed. Someone already said it but you should really look into why you are diving into relationships that you objectively identify as being unhealthy.

Best of luck

Wtf is life man by Archie Brookbury - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 19:07:58 EST ID:II827PG4 No.520616 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Being a person is fucking boring, like the more I think about it the worse it gets its like it's all the same everything's the fucking same, everyday, everything we do, no one's special no one's doing anything different all my want a and the shit I think is cool isn't any more, my only fucking dream in th3 world was to be a fucking king pin but that's not even cool any more I feel nothing talking to my friends is just like an annoyance, I have no real redeeming qualities, my gf controls like everything I do, i feel like a little bitch constantly, and then my brain goes completely apathetic and nothing matters like my gf literally gets mad arguing with me bc I don't care enough, about anything, like some one could tell me about the war and try to talk time about it but I just think it's stupid and doesn't matter, like not even from a peace perspective I think it's dumb people are dieing but I just think it's all dumb, like life is so fucking monotonous man, it's horrible, I love my gf so much I'm a fun
creative person but it's all getting dull to me and I feel like I'm just done I need my life to change big, I want my gf to go with me I feel like she's my soul mate, but she hates everything I do and every time she just blames depression and I don't know what to do anymore I can't do shit literally it seems like everything I say i like she hates it and literally gets losses that i even try to talk about it and I feel selfish af being mad, and I just don't know what to do anymore man, I thought I had it figured out and now I hate it all, I just feel like a waste of a person.
Emma Mollywadge - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 20:37:20 EST ID:lXjUaJuo No.520617 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Your relationship sounds draining. Try taking a break from her; even if you feel in love and that she's "the one". Or if you're feeling stuck in a routine then try doing some new activities with her, if she's not willing to join you then do it by yourself or with some good friends. I get that apathy will make doing anything seem like a chore but if you really want to break from this rut then you need to muster the energy to do something. It starts off hard but only gets easier if you keep at it.

Are you sedentary most of the time? Do you get out in the sun very often? What about exercise? Doesn't even need to be rigorous, just make sure you go for a 20-30 min walk every day. Sunlight provides vitamin D which is hard to obtain through foods, just don't get too much sunlight in one hit or you'll be left feeling pretty drained. Plus it also bolsters your immune system.
Not saying this will make you feel immediately better or solve all your problems but you'll probably notice a difference around the 2 week mark if you can keep it up.
Are you a reclusive sort of person? Maybe you're not getting that crucial solo-time to recharge your batteries if that's the case.

You need to really want to get better if you hope to break this bleakness my dude. Don't expect others to push you or for it to magically go away. It's on you and only you to better yourself.
Archie Brookbury - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 22:19:50 EST ID:II827PG4 No.520622 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I will try idk I'm thinking about the break thing, like man you have no idea if I did that shot by myself she'd get so mad man idk she's like a control freak, she's moving in with me soon and idk man, as much as I love being with her I need my independence I need to have a sayin what I do, I mean she doesn't like tell me I cant do shitbut she like 2ont talk to me or anything if I do, like idk I almost feel like my happiness is tied to hers and she's never happy idk a lot of its herdepression which I don't wanna abandon her in on th3 middle of but man lik3 I told her I might goto welding school, bc ya kno2 quick school good pay shit like that but I have no interest in it, i like brought up one time I wanted to get my marijuana license and she acted like it was the dumbest shit ever, and like I can't live my life not following my passions man, but I don't feel like I can just leave her, and I don't exercise but I have a p physical job and I goto school so I'm p fucking tired a lot but nah I'm p extroverted idk man ik most of my problems stem from her but it's been a year idk I just wanna be in control of myself without feeling bad about it and if I told her that shed act like it was dumb, like idk sh3 tells me about her depression and I listen and an understandingI never he or get mad at her about it but when I express I have shitand tell her about feeling apathetic and wanting to do things she still just is like no I don't wanna and gets mad that I'd even bring it up and then she tells me all my shits 100% my fault and I can fix it if I just tell myself th3 opposite and offers no help and idk man sorry for ranting I have no one to talk to this shit abou5 all of our friends are the same I just I fucking am losing it I'll try to go outside more, I'll just start telling her what I'm doing and that this is what I'm doing idk I'll try it
Edward Fiddleridge - Wed, 13 Dec 2017 00:16:55 EST ID:lXjUaJuo No.520633 Ignore Report Quick Reply
No need to apologize for the rant; it's pretty much what this board is for.

Going from what you've just said it really sounds like you need to get away from this girl. It's shitty to abandon someone but even shittier to tie yourself to a sinking boat. Sometimes people need to be hurt like that to allow them to reflect on their behavior. Otherwise she's just going to keep pinning all the blame for her problems on you until something bad happens. Rip the band-aid off; don't agonize over it.
Alice Tootdock - Wed, 13 Dec 2017 08:26:00 EST ID:eUln1WLQ No.520642 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Man you could stand to break your paragraphs and sentences up, shit was hard to read OP

Three of my ex girlfriends have been real controlling like that. It’s emotional abuse. The atmosphere they push is that you should always feel the way they feel (which is mostly angry) every second of the day. Fuck that. Now I know what to look out for and avoid crazy women... I’ve been single for three years since I promised I would only date a sane, emotionally stable woman.

As for the boredom, I feel ya there. Life is pretty fucking boring. I go out and do stuff all the time. I have hobbies, a job, social circle. I’ve uprooted and gone on adventures in other countries, backpacking, hiking, you name it. All I can recognize is within the thrill of experiences, I’m still just another person eating and sleeping until I die.

No advice on that one, the melancholy is real.

Feel like people don't give a shit about me as a human being by Jack Shittingbanks - Wed, 13 Dec 2017 00:21:32 EST ID:vPXIYoJk No.520634 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So thing is, i failed my last college project, i dunno how this is called in english, but the project you have to do to finish the course and stuff.
Thing is, i felt incompetent, emotionally drained and depressed during it, during my last week, i gotta kind of a mental breakdown, had problems with stupid shit, and gave up.
Thing is, suddenly, everyone started asking me if everything is alright, people started flinging shit at me, telling that i went this far and shouldn't give up and stupid stuff, telling me im running from my problems, people i never talked with, coming to talk with me.
Last year, i had a suicide attempt, that thanks to some loudmouths, went really public, i tried to OD on amphetamines, while taking some downers to not feel the panic attack, the downers basically made me enter a two days induced coma, i expent some good days in intensive care, had to talk to a psychiatrist, and when i went home, i felt really bad, that almost nobody cared, even through lots of folk heard about it.
Why do people suddenly care, if its about work? I feel like all my values are based only on what i do, if i fail as a student, everyone tries to cheer me and talk sense to me, butt when i failed at having hopes in living, nobody besides family and two friends really gave a actual fuck.
Sidney Crengermet - Wed, 13 Dec 2017 01:10:51 EST ID:/eaIiSK7 No.520637 Ignore Report Quick Reply
People in most societies aren't equipped to talk about and help with mental health issues. They don't know what to say as it is embarrassing to them and because it's not "normal". They are trying to discriminate against you or anything. They just aren't equipped emotionally and intellectually to help. It's outside their bubble. The best people can usually do is say "loom on the brightside".

Now when it comes to degrees and studying, well there's definitely some common sense, cultural advice that everyone can chime in with like "Never give up", "It'll pay off in the long run" etc.

My point is that everybody knows the common sense that studying will pay off in the long term and therefore is a good idea, but next to nobody knows how to react to you when you have a mental breakdown and are in need of emotional support.

They don't hate you. They're just dumb.
Clara Dippershaw - Wed, 13 Dec 2017 01:19:41 EST ID:JI9kO00V No.520638 Ignore Report Quick Reply
To start, maybe you were looking for "Final exams"?

Anyway, this isnt english class.

To start, one thing suicide attempts have taught me, is that it can usually push irrelevant people away, and show you who your true friends are. "People who matter, stick around, the ones that leave, don't".

It's tough OP. Tough only in ways you can perceive. And a lot of people, lack the empathy or understanding to offer help, or even care to.

And this will suck to hear OP, but outside of being politically correct, not many people will do the right thing when nobody is watching. This includes understanding for mental health. And it sounds unfair, but it isnt anybodies job to be your healer. You gotta find a way to be happy with the people who care, and ignore the peanut gallery.

One thing to start is finding reasons why you like yourself as a person. Only persons validation you should need, is your own. And this process will be difficult and tiring. But white lie if you have to.

I'm not going to say my advice will work, I cant say it will even help. But OP, I am terrificly happy you made it through the coma. You might not be happy to be alive now. But a desire to change, and effort, will carry you a long way. And remember, you may be the most perfect apple, but not everybody likes apples.
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Priscilla Sucklepune - Sat, 16 Dec 2017 00:48:34 EST ID:lXjUaJuo No.520673 Ignore Report Quick Reply
This is going to sound harsh but you need to get over yourself. For the most part people don't give a shit about anyone but themselves and you, nor I, are any different in this regard. Sure there's family and close friends but even that link can be tenuous. What I mean is that you'll never know how deep that caring runs until it's tested and chances are it never will be tested.

>telling that i went this far and shouldn't give up and stupid stuff, telling me im running from my problems, people i never talked with, coming to talk with me.

That sounds like caring on some level. You're just having a knee-jerk reaction to some tough love. At the very least these people don't want to see you waste the effort you've put in to your course or your potential.
Stop expecting everyone to give a shit about you as a person because it is completely unrealistic. Everyone has their own shit going on in their life and don't have the time or energy to constantly be there as your support. Stand on your own two feet or face a lifetime of feeling constantly let down by others because of your over-inflated sense of importance in other peoples lives. It's a cold thing to say but it's true my dude.

Save money and Stay Off the Internet. by Basil Wisslehall - Fri, 08 Dec 2017 18:36:30 EST ID:OCwtUy6R No.520562 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Is the internet for recreational and social purposes a waste of time? I think so, there is so much time I waste to cancel out any productive time I have. Its really becoming a problem and I think Im just going to quit. Im also working but its honestly not enough and Im just kind of spinning my wheels.
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Ebenezer Chuffinghood - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 00:16:31 EST ID:OCwtUy6R No.520599 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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God take me painlessly.
Hugh Greenshit - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 00:24:42 EST ID:hzUsxH14 No.520600 Ignore Report Quick Reply
could be art, a software, a board game, a wood chair
Graham Dadgestone - Tue, 12 Dec 2017 00:00:05 EST ID:OCwtUy6R No.520623 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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God why is porn the worst thing ever?
Charlotte Wobberbet - Tue, 12 Dec 2017 12:04:56 EST ID:SorQd36M No.520630 Ignore Report Quick Reply
yes, quit it, it ireally is a shit. go to the library when you need it for things like applying for jobs, research etc.
Basil Sollerdon - Fri, 15 Dec 2017 03:01:25 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.520660 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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I KNOW you remember this one. by Hedda Blillerhig - Tue, 12 Dec 2017 02:37:54 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.520624 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Released in 1997... now word-for-word my life:


How about you?

Am I A Bad Person / What's Wrong With Me? by Hamilton Derringspear - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 05:17:23 EST ID:YKSHCSG0 No.520610 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I would never cheat on my gf, or I mean physically cheat on her and I do love her. We've been together for 2 years now, well a little over 2 years. I have been in several long term relationships so I am no stranger to them.

However, I recently have started having borderline cyber relationships with 3 women. I have not been going out of my way to meet these people, they come to me through my line of work which puts me in contact with people online. I simply cannot help myself, I know I am doing something bad and I can'r help but to flirt and enjoy their company.. I don't know what the fuck I'm doing or why, and I know it isn't going to go anywhere. One of the girls wants to meet up later in 2018 and I am trying to work out how to get out of it.

>why do I allow myself to get involved with these people? It starts off as innocent but it soon becomes a lot more.
Alice Fosslefotch - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 14:24:46 EST ID:7oTdIRwW No.520615 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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You're not a bad person, it's not like you're smothering babies for fun or pulling the USA out of the Paris-agreement. But depending on what you're actually writing to these women, you might be hurting your girlfriend, and obviously you're already hurting yourself. Remember, it's okay to be flattered, and it's okay to have other female friends. But there is a limit with how intimate you should be with people behind your girlfriends back, obviously :-)

The best thing you can do, and this is honestly stupid simple, is to explain to that girl that you don't know if your girlfriend would be comfortable with you meeting another girl that you barely know. Or just be honest, say that you don't think you'll be comfortable, because that seems to be the lay of the land.

Is there something you feel that you miss in your relationship that you feel you're getting from these other chicks?
Emma Mollywadge - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 20:49:16 EST ID:lXjUaJuo No.520618 Ignore Report Quick Reply
There's nothing wrong with harmless flirting but you need to make sure it remains as that. I'm guessing that your relationship has lost some of its spark, which is natural in a long term thing, so figure out a way to bring some of it back. Maybe come up with something new to do with your partner or spend some time away from her.

I've made a huge mistake by Archie Sollygold - Sun, 10 Dec 2017 01:20:50 EST ID:ubB7Dt1h No.520580 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I thought I was in love (maybe I still am) so I asked this girl to move in with me after 3 months we're together
turns out that she occasionally has mood swings and acts compulsively sometimes. The reason I fell in love with her in the first place was because she was so comfortable to be with, now it's like this shitty side of her I suddenly start to see too much of.
Doesn't help everyone I talk to basically tells me this is part of any relationship.
I got into the whole dating scene at 22 so I have that perspective of distant observer and it seems to me people put in the effort or stick with it because it's "worth it". I thought that with time I'll feel the same way like I'd learn to enjoy "the game" dimension of dating - well I'm almost 28 and if anything the opposite if happening. Given that the same people who tell me what I'm going through is inevitable are also telling me I haven't found the right girl I'm very skeptical of the whole thing.
I've started studying about survivalism - currently my solution is to quit society completely in a few years, live in a caravan.
Any other advice?
Nigel Seblingspear - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 06:18:44 EST ID:FEr2++Vj No.520611 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>mood swings
>acts compulsively sometimes
This is every woman ever. Just smoke weed together
Esther Fammerchitch - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 06:54:07 EST ID:FS21mRLq No.520612 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>This is every woman ever.
if this is true then what's the fucking point? how can you just casually say this like I'm supposed to accept this as fact and be ok with it?
Hamilton Derringspear - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 07:16:32 EST ID:YKSHCSG0 No.520613 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It's pretty much people in general, guys get mood swings and I know plenty of guys who are compulsive as heck. But granted women tend to be this way more so in general. Nobody is perfect OP, maybe you need to stop focusing on the bad traits of this person and focus on the positive, if you fell in love with her then there are probably more positives than negatives.
However 3 months you say, is that of knowing you entirely?
Have you never heard of the 3 month rule? You don't even know somebody after 3 months, I would suggest 6 personally and even then you won't know them fully.
It's funny though, one of my ex's just married a guy she's known for 10 weeks, and they'd only met once for 8 days, and that was when they got married!
Phineas Ferryridge - Mon, 11 Dec 2017 08:28:12 EST ID:lC2OSmvU No.520614 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Yeah it's normal as fuck. Give her a chance mate. Maybe you'll come to love that side of her too.

You definitely rushed it but yeah, you're past the infatuation stage and onto the real love stage. You can notice her flaws now and you will shit her to tears with your own bullshit as well. The point is to wait it out and see if the infatuation can mature into real love. Like the guy above said, you don't actually know her at all yet.

Who knows, in 3 months time your escape plan might seem like an immature overreaction caused by intimacy issues and you just might be happy to finally have a true connection with somebody who loves you for the real you, and not the facade you've been wearing to help you deal with society. Maybe not.

It's time to get real though.

I got in the game at the same age, am 28 now, living with my partner of a year and her kid, have the same issues as you but worse, and am happy as fuck. But that's just me.

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