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Shits just so fucked up lately by William Foggleham - Fri, 07 Apr 2017 11:15:51 EST ID:aEfaGquM No.515274 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Within the last few weeks, I've managed to have this life I worked really hard for, collapse from under me. I was in an unhealthy relationship, worked 12~ shifts, and was the only one paying bills/utilities.
I'm no longer with the fucking pos boy that constantly made me feel inadequate, and just plain worthless anymore. But he kicked me out when we split up.
I'm kind ofโ€‹ of freaked out, because now I have to find a new job, a new place to live, and just try to find people that don't hate me.
I'm currently staying at a friend's house, and it's her and her girlfriend. I'm very thankful to have a place to lay my head, I really am. But they're so toxic and abusive. They're always arguing, gaslighting, and just being plain Petty to one another.
Their house is so dirty. Kitty litter all over the apartment, trash, beer bottles, dirty dishes. I've been trying to help them get it cleaned up, but it's not working.
I just don't know what to do, and I wanted to vent.
Thanks.
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Jack Faddledale - Fri, 07 Apr 2017 12:18:13 EST ID:EdLOc0dr No.515275 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Fucking Choblingdidge - Fri, 07 Apr 2017 14:42:13 EST ID:6Y23Um/F No.515278 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Hasten the dissolution of your friends' relationship by leaving clues to fictional betrayals for one while pretending to be the other. If they distrust one another, it should work just fine.

Alternatively, you can do something similar where instead of sowing hatred you can alleviate their fear of one another. Shit like leaving out flowers or something. If they're selfish enough the one you pretend to be will take credit because it helps her even though she knows it's false.
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Betsy Hablingwet - Fri, 07 Apr 2017 16:39:32 EST ID:0QaYPxEF No.515284 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Shit's gonna keep getting fucked up often. Life crises and life changes are oh so many and oh so hard. They can lead to better or worse, but yours will lead to better this time, I feel.
You recognized and are moving on from what was wrong. You are so lucky and worthy to have had good, albeit broken, people catch you when you fall. (Such treasure! You have no idea!)

You are currently hypersensitive and hyper-reactive towards other couples and households in the light of your new insights gained by this recent relationship and breakup. You're angry and beating yourself up over things you did not know at the time but eventually realized, and projecting those feelings onto other people.

You're right to be thankful to them, you're right to be critical of them, you're right to try to help them. But you're not right in your desire to "fix" them.
All you can do now is catch them if/when they fall. And that is the best thing you can ever do or have someone do for you.

Give yourself and your golden friend a break and some leeway. Make peace with the idea that century after century, generation after generation, person after person, we all keep making the same mistakes and finding the same solutions when it comes to relationships.

Just please, please, don't start hating naivety, don't combat it by building and encouraging walls and armor. Embrace it and start stuffing pillows and mattresses.
We will, they will, as you will, keep making mistakes and bad judgments. We will fall time and time again, all of us. Make it so we hope we fall softly into your caring arms, like you had your friend's embrace to pick you up you when you fell.


I have a real problem, are my parents full of shit? by Shit Pondersine - Wed, 22 Mar 2017 00:09:04 EST ID:3kUD8XUY No.514675 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I have a brother that's a few years older than me. Our relationship is super fucked up but I stopped feeling bad about it after finding out that a lot of people don't have great relationships with family members. Our relationship is comparable to Seth and Pickles. He will do something fucked up and then tell his buddies that it was me to gain sympathy from them. We got into a fight three years ago, he hit me first and called the cops after I started fighting back. Told the cops and my parents I started but they didn't arrest me. They ended up talking to me for a good twenty minutes.

Recently though there was a girl I was dating and he pretty much had a hand in running her off by starting drama whenever she was around. He had texted the girls friend and said he "blamed her for introducing her to me and now he had no one to be lonely with".

On another occasion he got verbally aggressive with the girl after telling us he was going to kill himself. He accused her of laughing "at his pain" then he started punching shit.

My parents are basically like you should forgive him just forget it. I told them I'd be able to forgive but I can't forgive and my mom just goes into platitudes about how that's not really forgiving him. I'm a line in this. They accuse me of not letting it go but then I try to talk to them about it and they give me the usual brush off.

I have a text from my mom today and I had mentioned how she didn't really do anything about him saying he was going to kill me and how I fear for my life she's basically like ok.

Pretty much the fact I'm alone in this and he knows he can do anything and get away with it is causing me stress. I'm not really sure how to handle this situation...I know it won't change because my brother has always been like this I know he won't magically start being a brother at some point. Idk anyone have any advice?
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Nathaniel Cozzlestidge - Tue, 04 Apr 2017 20:02:05 EST ID:CDKxrZLO No.515160 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515068
I want t o but I'm still under their roof
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Polly Smallstone - Thu, 06 Apr 2017 05:25:28 EST ID:w+XXs7My No.515209 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515160
Then move away.
At least you can do that.
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Nell Nuvinglock - Fri, 07 Apr 2017 13:56:24 EST ID:hplX0+6A No.515276 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515209
Ita not so easy as moving away.
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Nell Nuvinglock - Fri, 07 Apr 2017 13:56:25 EST ID:hplX0+6A No.515277 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515209
Ita not so easy as moving away.
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Angus Drollyshaw - Sat, 08 Apr 2017 11:08:34 EST ID:UmsbgPLG No.515300 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515276
Well there are things stopping you moving away. What are they? Work out how to overcome them. Break down what's really stopping you and what's hard or intimidating. Then work out how to resolve every issue.


I NEED CASTRATION NOW by Alice Worthinggold - Thu, 06 Apr 2017 20:29:44 EST ID:NoKU4Mj+ No.515236 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Sex, or the thought thereof, is literally ruining my life.

I went through a really bad relationship where I discovered that I have chronic PE, ED, as well as a useless dick with minimal sensation thanks to circumcision and deathgripping. And the fact that I'm *REALLY* bad in bed. Despite being a social invalid/outcast with chronic social anxiety and facial aesthetics no higher than 6 maybe 7/10 max, I went out with a beautiful sexy young woman for about a year who was the object of desire of all the men she knew. You might be wondering how, it was because we lived in the same house and ended up being forced to spend a lot of time together. I'd only had sex once in my life before getting together with her.

A few months on from the breakup, I'm only feeling worse. I am madly in love with her to the point where I don't feel motivated to get on in life or do anything if I don't get to share it with her. To make things worse, I cannot fucking stop ruminating on the fact that the reason there was so much hostility between us was largely down to the fact that I left her constantly sexually frustrated (towards the end we only had sex 1-2 times per month despite being 21 at the time and seeing each other every day, and she *LOVES* to fuck and has a very high sex drive).

I keep asking myself if whether having regular good sex with her would've her relieved the tensions between us and made the difference between it working and not. I spend a good proportion of my day continually thinking like a fucking drone just how much I hate sex and how I think sexuality has an evil, insidious effect on the world and humanity. Despite this, I still get horny, and when I see something I like, including my ex (who I have to see and talk to every day), I go through a weird phase of initial excitement and arousal followed by a feeling of deep existential hopelessness and bitterness, followed by outright anger and the desire to either cry or smash something against a wall.

As far as I am concerned, I cannot have another sexual relationship in my life so I just want to find closure on the whole sex and relationships thing and put it behind me. I want physical castration (preferably in combination with a…
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Alice Worthinggold - Thu, 06 Apr 2017 22:05:11 EST ID:NoKU4Mj+ No.515257 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515256

Lol, she's already been there done that. She's just a horny bitch. I have to hear her whine daily about how frustrated she is and can't think about anything but sex. She's constantly grabbing my bum and saying how unfair it is. She really loves my ass for some reason.
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Graham Denderforth - Thu, 06 Apr 2017 22:11:35 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.515258 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515255
Well just make damn sure you can never enjoy sex before you permanently decide to cut it out of your life. You need a lot of data points before you can make this big of a decision. Also you should get a urologist to do an ultrasound to see how extensive the nerve damage is. It's still possible that your mental state is the issue. You can have normal testosterone levels most of the time but when you're anxious your cortisol can go through the roof and cause your testosterone to plummet which can reduce sensitivity and enjoyment. Also, buy a fleshlight. If you can get yourself off with a fleshlight you definitely know you can get off during sex. If not it still doesn't mean it's game over because your arousal won't be as high during masturbation. The more aroused you are the easier it should be to get off.

Castration should only be considered as an option when you've completely exhausted every other option.
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Alice Worthinggold - Thu, 06 Apr 2017 22:27:31 EST ID:NoKU4Mj+ No.515259 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515258

One step ahead of you again, I love my fleshlight. Yea, I can feel shit when using it but the pleasure is quite limited. The orgasms can be fucking amazing though. Wow. What I find with sex vs fleshlight is that with sex the stimulation of my dick is so limited that the awkward sensations of thrusting my body back and forth are more noticeable than the actual stimulation on my dick itself, so I suddenly feel retarded cos it feels like I'm fucking air and then I go soft. Plus, a fleshlight is considerably tighter than most pussies, and my dick is slightly on the thin side (about 4.8-4.9" circumference). Also, when fucking my fleshlight, I have the same issues with PE that I would having sex. Can't go for more than a minute whatever I do once it starts to feel nice.

And yea, I kinda agree castration should be an absolute last resort. I originally decided I would get it done at age 25 if nothing improved (I'm 22 now), but recently I've gotten so desperate I want it dealt with. The original point of thread was how I could possible convince a doctor to side with me on this, as I can see they would probably take the attitude of you guys and tell me to bugger off and get some therapy.
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Martha Blackham - Fri, 07 Apr 2017 06:25:27 EST ID:LUoCbE9z No.515268 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Gurl, I got castrated almost a decade ago and I am still a horny insatiable slut. Now it just takes more mental work to get it up, and I have (itty bitty) titties.

The way girls smell still drives me bonkers with desire, and I wouldn't say I'm *bad* in bed but I'm still pretty much just a jackrabbit minute-man with a slightly-smaller-than-average dick. I accept that and mostly focus on my oral game and kinky foreplay.

You will almost never hear me say this, but I really wouldn't recommend and orchi. Hire a sex-worker or a therapist and you will get *way* more out of that $3k you'd spend.
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Martha Blackham - Fri, 07 Apr 2017 08:02:51 EST ID:LUoCbE9z No.515272 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515257
She wants to peg you bro.


> Believe me, I tried. For months and months
> (I'm 22 now)
> closure

lol that's like tossing a brick onto a pile and saying you tried "really hard" to build a pyramid and walking away. Like, your pituitary has literally not even stopped growing yet. Why would you throw away decades of potential based on a couple of years?


Job Hunt by Alice Sellerdock - Thu, 06 Apr 2017 16:22:23 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.515227 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Got fired.

I got a ton of experience and have what I would consider a good background for 4 years, made my first company alot of money and such, and hit the gate running. Got alot of phone interviews and a few in person interviews in my field.

After 3 months, nothing went through.

It's hella depressing and shitty. Now whenever I even start looking for a new career, I just feel a sinking feeling and want to lay down.

Like a pavlovian response I developed from so much rejection.

I guess I just wanted to bitch about my feelings on the matter because I know I have to keep looking but it sucks.

Thinking about going back to school to get my bearings. Plus an advanced degree wouldn't hurt.

Can anyone relate?
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Edwin Trotson - Thu, 06 Apr 2017 17:04:08 EST ID:0FAYpyqM No.515229 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515227
Relate? I practically wrote the book.

This one time, George and me were on bean detail. The job included scraping off any bean residue left on the panels of the container they'd been shipped in. This meant scrubbing the panels with a broom like a maniac at temperatures of over 80 degrees, while the smell of rotting green beans shot up into our nostrils every time we took a deep breath. To top it off, the outsides of the containers would be hosed down at the same time. They'd use high pressure sprayers which caused an ear-piercingly loud screeching sound inside the containers.

Anyway, I look over my shoulder to see where George is. I catch a glimpse of his face. I can sense he's begging me to make eye contact. "Let the fucker rot, just like you're rotting" my mind throws at me. I shake off this thought and let my eyes align with George's. I see venom in them. "FUCK THIS SHIT!" I manage to lip read. Only the top half of his overall still showing the yellowish tint it came in, the rest of it covered in a mucous-like green.

What can I do? There's only so many beans a man is willing to endure. I signal for him to calm down. I tap my wristwatch, in an attempt to relay the message "we're almost finished, just hang on". Foolishly, I look down at my watch. Six more hours of this shit. I strengthen the grip on my broom and violently swing the brush around, bashing the panels more than I am brushing them. George and I clear up the first container. Straight onto the second. We finish it in no time, our bodies aching. Onto the third, then the fourth, the fifth, the sixth. "When will this END?" my mind howled.
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Edwin Trotson - Thu, 06 Apr 2017 17:35:42 EST ID:0FAYpyqM No.515231 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515229
There seemed to be some sort of rhythm to George's outbursts. He'd have at least two, but no more than 4 per container. They'd range from throwing the broom into the container's panels to taking off his gloves and throwing them to the ground in a dramatic way. It was when they stopped that I became weary of him. At first I gave it no thought. He might finally have understood that throwing tantrums didn't make the time go any faster or the job any less grim, although no man who's been on bean detail would condemn another for outbursts of despair.

I'd look at him every thirty minutes or so, fishing for eye-contact. I suppose as a sort of gesture, to acknowledge his presence and let him know that he could, if he so wanted, show his feelings of hatred towards these damned caves of left-over beans. He ignored my gestures. As the hours ticked away and my movements slowed down, I noticed his had become more fluent, almost like those of a man tending to his garden on a sunny, spring morning. "Is he enjoying this? He can't be. Joy is an emotion not present in these conditions, it simply can't be."

When I look back, I ask myself how I failed to realize these were the clear signs of stage one. It wouldn't be long before stage two symptoms took ahold of George. I noticed his eyes had begun to display that peculiar dullness where they no longer convey the feelings of the mind. His mouth would now settle into an eerie smile as he scrubbed away at the beans.

Anyway, I've rambled on long enough. Bean madness is a serious condition in my line of work. I should say in my previous line of work. I now roam the land, free of society's rules and customs. I occasionally bump into someone whom I suspect might have, at one time in their lives, come close to bean madness and I look away in an attempt to push back the beaneries.
I mean the memories.
Or do I?
THE BEANS...
THE BEANS..
THE BEANS!!!!
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Graham Denderforth - Thu, 06 Apr 2017 20:30:45 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.515237 Ignore Report Quick Reply
the industrial revolution was a mistake


Gf acting a fool? or am I? by Archie Blatherstone - Mon, 03 Apr 2017 18:51:34 EST ID:3ZA9F7LM No.515087 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>23, graduated
>girlfriend is 22
>posts pictures of herself with other guys that are "friends"
>posts pictures showing off her body
>is in a sorority and some "brother" fraternity as an additional proxxy
>will literally party and I get the make-up, no sexy dress left overs
>swears she has not and wont cheat on me

so am I being paranoid and anxious, or should I just bend over and let this shit happen?

Ive expressed countless times I fucking hate this asenine bullshit but she cries and says I dont support her.

In closing, I think frats and sororities were human trash collecting stations. Very few people were decent from them.

tl;dr
gf is acting in a way that I do not like, am I being too controlling in telling her to drop this new shit or am I justified in feeling weird
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William Brassleway - Mon, 03 Apr 2017 21:31:00 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.515104 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515102
>To be honest the fact that you're ribbing her friends for not doing harder drugs pretty much outs you as acting pretty self-righteous about the whole ordeal. If you make a bigger presence at the events she won't have an opportunity or the temptation to hang out with these guys that are threatening you so much.
I can definitely see your point, but I remember what it was like when I first got out of the military and was still going as hard as I was drug-wise and even my druggie friends in town were kind of weirded out when I showed up to drink on tons of morphine, 3-meo-pcp, and dxm. They'd all done DXM in the past, but everyone there was just trying to drink and smoke a little weed and no one around here had really heard of RCs, or hung out with anybody actively into anything with PCP in the name.

I was enjoying myself too much to really care, but I heard a couple of times where my one friend who was fairly of aware of the kind of shit I did was asked by the dude who owned the house we were at if i was gonna be good/alright (3-meo makes everything amazing and even though i dont like drinking i was drinking a lot of whiskey and some tequila straight at a pretty quick rate because it actually tasted enjoyable for once, something i otherwise would never be able to do). He replied saying "yeah, he's ONLY on PCP" and the other dude was like "oh shit, well fuck", but my friend was kinda fuckin around, he'd seen me a lot more fucked up plenty of times. I was fucked up but the stimulation and mania was making it so i was highly aware of how retarded i sounded, slurring my words and not making very coherent sentences and laughing a lot at stuff that wasnt that funny. i quite regularly got that level of fucked up regardless of whether i was home alone or hanging out with my friends. it almost always involved me getting so retardedly fucked that i just wind up passing out after getting totally illegible/unable to be understood. was business as usual for me but i realized afterwards everyone there probably was all like "what the fuck" and i stopped showing up at those parties and stuck to just hanging out with my two main friends. i neither wanted to…
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Martin Mapperdock - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 20:25:16 EST ID:3ZA9F7LM No.515198 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515104
lol, I seem like a little bitch compared to you. I only do acid and shrooms every blue moon.


and for the thread, this is why I dont go to the parties

>Work early mornings (4-5am), thurs to sunday
>most parties happen then
>cant be hammered or high at a large party full of people I dont know

So you can understand why I wouldnt want to party.

Oh, it's also like an hour drive from me. So I would drive for 2 hours to not get drunk or high and sit on a couch.

retrospectively, I am behaving selfish because I did not consider how she would enjoy me going to an event with her.
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Phoebe Grandcocke - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 20:39:06 EST ID:+N9MVCxQ No.515199 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515100
>None of them even do drugs beyond weed, lmao.

I know it's off topic but this is a pretty shitty attitude to take. I have plenty of friends who take hard drugs, myself included, yet there are many in our social circle who don't do any drugs and just drink and toke (I know alcohol and weed are technically drugs but w/e). In fact I even know one girl who's 25 who has never drank, smoked weed or done any drug (doesn't even drink caffeine), has no aspiration to ever, yet she's awesome, really energetic, fun, and will go to all the parties. Doing drugs does not make you instantly a cooler person. I would never judge someone or a group of friends based on what type of drugs they do, that's extremely shallow. You need to change that perspective.
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Nigel Puffingshit - Thu, 06 Apr 2017 15:38:13 EST ID:zbKXnohS No.515225 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515199
>not wanting to do drugs with other people

why are you even on this site nb
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Cedric Fivingspear - Thu, 06 Apr 2017 19:16:46 EST ID:34xwTbAU No.515232 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515225
Huh? Where did I ever say I don't want to do drugs with other people? Did you even read my post?


I Have Issues by David Funnerstudge - Tue, 04 Apr 2017 02:06:01 EST ID:w+XXs7My No.515121 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I live in Los Angeles and I'm a native there are so many people that come here from all over the world and North America. I meet a lot of different folks and some are really cool and some aren't. A lot of the people who are actually from here are the same way some are flaky douchebags and others are cool.

I posted on the dream board that I keep having recurring dreams (nightmares) that the western US has been invaded and conquered by China.

I was just thinking that I really want LA to get destroyed in a war between the US and China. I don't want a nuke to go off but I want this shit to get leveled. I can't get over how much of a dump this city is compared to other cities I've been to. Earthquakes have proven ineffective so I think Los Angeles should be leveled like a European city during WWII and rebuilt like those European cities were.

I don't hate the people so much I just can't stand how much of a dump this place is and how people act so fucking pretentious living here.
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Lillian Sebberbury - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 17:34:58 EST ID:jPpWgI0N No.515194 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515161
>white people
Mixed breeds like me have zero guilt and will stomp a chimps head into paste if needed. Whites need to get with it.
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David Mibbershit - Thu, 06 Apr 2017 01:20:31 EST ID:J81w78IN No.515205 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515194
Inb4 you get your head bashed in because the average fudd doesn't know the difference
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Eliza Sonnerstutch - Thu, 06 Apr 2017 04:22:23 EST ID:jPpWgI0N No.515208 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515205
I'm like Nicole Richie. I pass for white. Although I do look a little mexican...I hope I don't get sent to the other side of the wall by mistake...in a clerical error of some sort.
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Polly Smallstone - Thu, 06 Apr 2017 16:00:36 EST ID:w+XXs7My No.515226 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515208
Nicole Ritchie is Mexican not Black.
Do your research.
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Eliza Sonnerstutch - Thu, 06 Apr 2017 17:18:26 EST ID:jPpWgI0N No.515230 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>515226
>tfw the guy you're replying to did his research before posting
>tfw you didn't
>tfw your life is over


Fuck Bitches by Alice Tillingwater - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 18:02:55 EST ID:tCUBHGgk No.515195 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Is it wrong to just want to live my life smoking weed and fucking college-age girls/gay twinks? All of my friends are getting married and popping out kids these days and I'm like lol fuck that.

I have a good career going for me and have casual sex with people I meet on Tinder or with friends relatively regularly. I just don't see why I should be in a relationship like, ever again. Then again I've only been in abusive relationships before so I might have a skewed understanding of them. Anyone else in my boat? Sometimes I feel too old to be doing this but at the same time it's kinda nice fucking 19 year-olds and not having to worry about coming home to some bitch screaming and throwing dishes at me.
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Alice Tillingwater - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 18:34:54 EST ID:tCUBHGgk No.515197 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515196
Some of my guy friends express some envy of me. I'm like "I dunno, try polyamory, it's pretty dope"

I'm legitimately repulsed by monogamy. I've done it twice and I never will again.
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Phoebe Grandcocke - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 21:06:45 EST ID:+N9MVCxQ No.515200 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515197
Oh cool, it's one of those polyamorists who think they're enlightened and feel the need to chime in about how great polyamory is at every opportunity.

"Legitimately repulsed" Christ how fucking up yourselves some of you are. I have a few polyamorous friends and they also feel the need to just blurt in when someone's relationship isn't working "LOL AND THAT'S WHY MONOGAMY IS FAIL!!!21 XD!!" I mean I love them but I can't stand how they think they're so clued in above monogamists. I tried polyamory and it wasn't for me. People have different views on sexuality, I don't get "legitimately repulsed" by other people's perspectives on sexual relations. Do you realise how arrogant you sound?

OP there ain't nothing wrong with sleeping around and mindlessly fucking. However I would refrain from generalizing relationships as "some bitch screaming and throwing dishes at me". I'm sorry you've had shitty relationships in the past and I hope in time you can have positive ones. Me personally, I had sex with about 10 women (2 of which were other long time girlfriends) before I met my current gf and I admit for the first year of being with her I felt like I hadn't slept around enough and that I needed more random pointless sex, but I came to realise that forming a special bond with someone with whom I can confide all my trust, loyalty, hopes, aspirations and emotions above anyone else, someone who I can always rely on, have fun with, cry with, someone who will always be there for me, listen to me, support me, fuck me, someone who will be there with me until the very end, trumps any and all casual relationships. A long term, healthy loving relationship is something that can't really be put into words. But what I feel for my girlfriend is something sacred, ancient, something primordial. When I was polyamorous I never felt that I could get special connection with any of my girlfriends, and in fact my "girlfriends" just felt like glorified fuck-buddies.

What's important is that you have fun and feel positive doing what you're doing, and in the future, when you're ready and have found som…
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Fucking Around - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 21:50:38 EST ID:vIBB0KRo No.515202 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>515200
>OP there ain't nothing wrong with sleeping around and mindlessly fucking. However I would refrain from generalizing relationships as "some bitch screaming and throwing dishes at me". I'm sorry you've had shitty relationships in the past and I hope in time you can have positive ones. Me personally, I had sex with about 10 women (2 of which were other long time girlfriends) before I met my current gf and I admit for the first year of being with her I felt like I hadn't slept around enough and that I needed more random pointless sex, but I came to realise that forming a special bond with someone with whom I can confide all my trust, loyalty, hopes, aspirations and emotions above anyone else, someone who I can always rely on, have fun with, cry with, someone who will always be there for me, listen to me, support me, fuck me, someone who will be there with me until the very end, trumps any and all casual relationships. A long term, healthy loving relationship is something that can't really be put into words. But what I feel for my girlfriend is something sacred, ancient, something primordial. When I was polyamorous I never felt that I could get special connection with any of my girlfriends, and in fact my "girlfriends" just felt like glorified fuck-buddies.

And you're trying to say that polyamory is gay, hmm.
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Archie Clizzlestone - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 22:06:38 EST ID:tCUBHGgk No.515203 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515200

Dude chill, it's a joke between me and my friends. I apologize if I came off as arrogant or sanctimonious, maybe "repulsed" is too strong. I know the exact type of person you're talking about though, they are legit annoying: same with people who think that being into BDSM makes them somehow more "liberated" than "vanilla" people.

I'm just saying that how *I* am: if you have found a special someone that you want to be exclusive with, awesome! What you have with your girlfriend sounds wonderful, I just think it's not for me. I've never been in a monogamous relationship that wasn't emotionally and physically abusive.
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Phoebe Grandcocke - Thu, 06 Apr 2017 06:13:34 EST ID:+N9MVCxQ No.515211 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515203
That's fair enough, sorry for losing the plot then, but I just thought that repulsed was a very very strong choice of word, and like I said, I've had to deal with some of my friends who think they're enlightened and feel the need to jump in and "preach" at every opportunity. I just find that intensely fucking annoying, 'cos polyamory doesn't automatically fix everything and lots of people end up getting hurt by polyamory, certainly not liberated (not directing that at you). So I'm sorry again, and I'm glad that you've found out what works for you and what doesn't :)

>>515202
I never said anything along those lines. I have no problem with polyamory just the preachers, all I espouse is for people to try different things and to come to their own conclusions.


im a stinky dick by plsfuckmyface - Tue, 04 Apr 2017 23:10:49 EST ID:vATdGl2v No.515167 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hello drug dooers
I have really severe anxiety and depression and I want to go back on my meds. I also feel that benzos would be good for me since I suffer from borderline personality disorder and often get really anxious and act out sexually, dissociate, and become verbally combative with loved ones to see how far they'll go to prove they love me. I know its fucked up, but I only have control over myself when I'm not in that feelmode. I feel that xanax or something might help, but I dont want to go into the appointment straight out asking for any kind of anti-anxiety medication, get flagged as an addict, and told to fuck off back into my isolating hell.
what are your experiences here with these things? is anyone here just having fun with a legit script or ? sorry if im a retard or something, I usually only go on /psy/ and /del/.
i have had a legitimate script for prozac, welbutrin, and risperdal (lmfao mantits) in the past, but went off the medication becuase I dissociate and probably have really bad add too. my parents fucked me up and i think im probably repressing sexual abuse but idk lmfao.

much love
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Maya - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 08:57:58 EST ID:tCICQRX4 No.515187 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I have bipolar type 1 and had more success with mood stabilizers than benzos. I might possibly have borderline as well because I've acted out in some of the ways you described. I encourage you to explore mood stabilizers. Lamictal and Depakote are good ones.
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Frederick Buzzville - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 14:18:18 EST ID:AQ8GfNAq No.515191 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Go into the appointment, explain your symptoms and the negative ways that they affect your life, and list the medications you've already tried that didn't work for you and explain why they didn't work for you in detail. Ask for their advice in treating your symptoms and what medications they recommend. The doctor will go over medication options with you and you can guide the conversation towards benzos if that's your bag. It won't be hard as they'll come up naturally in the context of severe anxiety symptoms.

I advise you to be careful though. Benzos have a serious way of sneaking up on you even when you're using them completely non-recreationally; I started getting major brain zaps and other withdrawal symptoms after taking a very small dosage regularly to get through a crisis period and it wasn't fun.


Chasing Grills by Walter Sarringhotch - Mon, 03 Apr 2017 17:32:09 EST ID:rBfIrlAT No.515084 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Any tips for smooth operation? I have met a few girls through mutual interests and have asked them out in ways that result in us setting up a date to do something like playing guitar, going to a park, dinner etc. or something like that but they almost always bail on the last minute. Even when I talk to another woman the conversation is 100% driven by me, and even with a person that I have gone on 3+ dates with it's like talking to a AI, where I always am leading questions to drive the event despite giving them opportunities to go somewhere with it.

Basically I'm frustrated because I have gone out with 6 different women over the past year and more over the year before that, and it always comes to nothing and always I'm the driving force. Nobody puts any effort in to it, to set up events or something, and as soon as I ease off to give them a chance to maybe tell me that they want to have dinner or something they will disappear off the face of the earth, likely to someone else that is willing to be a workhorse and plan out everything.

Why is the average woman so passive? I know that if I can just stop responding to her messages and she never makes an attempt at contact she wasn't that interested, but I'm curious if you all have any suggestions.

Also fuck online dating. No way am I signing up for Tinder or OKcupid again, it is basically industrial scale rejection as everyone bails at the first glimpse of a slightly better catch. It's toxic. Maybe I'm toxic for expecting a partner to put in a modicum of effort, but I'd very much like to not be toxic. How do you all court?
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Charles Suffingshaw - Tue, 04 Apr 2017 19:26:01 EST ID:9vn86lM+ No.515157 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515139
Yes, ask them what they want, ask them how they're going to get it and then tell them to go do it.

Other than that, you're going to need to control some aspect of media, wether it be music or movies and television.

Women are placed in these roles by the media which makes it into the zeitgeist. Feminism is a "bad" word in modern society for this very reason, because men dont like women sticking up for themselves, men want women to want and need them, men want to feel needed like the woman's life would be over if she left, which is how divorce is such an insult it can lead to murder-suicide.

Most men cant handle strong willed outspoken women.
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Ebenezer Pockhood - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 01:11:13 EST ID:QIxqOilM No.515173 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515157
>Most men cant handle strong willed outspoken women.

Whatever. You sound caught up in this bull-dyke man hating stereotype that shout that you're oppressing them and have undercuts and triggered glasses. Women that do that shit are annoying and miserable and nobody likes them except for people exactly like them on their side.

Most men would prefer a strong and independent woman. Mainly because they wouldn't have to babysit them 24/7. Women that need 24/7 care fucking suck to be around and destroy relationships in record times.

>Either way, as for the OP, either move to another country where your accent and perceived wealth get you pussy or give up and stop worrying. I spent about 15 years trying to get any type of friendship or intimate relationship and it never happened no matter what I did. Some people are just fucked for life and are born solely to walk this Earth alone. Embrace it. Otherwise, you'll just brace a barrel in your mouth. Or wish you could do that anyways.

After about 3-4 years of the rejection and acceptance of solitude, you'll come around and settle in. Something most forget is that a pet will always be happy to see you and love you. Well, most real pets. But don't fuck your dog or whatever.
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Martin Blythestone - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 11:26:41 EST ID:plr4U7Rg No.515188 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>515173
>don't fuck your dog or whatever.
Don't tell me how to live my life.
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Hedda Sottingsteg - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 12:40:01 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.515189 Ignore Report Quick Reply
My sister met a guy who had a basic plan for all his dates. First was a picnic in the park, next was some museum or something, next was dinner or whatever; basically he planned out a general set of dates and used them on every girl he pursues that way.

Not a bad idea either, you can give them test runs on the girls and see how they respond, then switch it up if the approach didn't work out. Obviously every person is different and will react different, but in theory, you'd have a pretty badass date set up after you get into the swing of things.

Like, for the picnic, you both go to the grocery store and pick up stuff to eat, you have your aesthetically pleasing picnic basket and blanket that you test ran, you have the best spot in the park picked out, etc.

For the museum, you know all their best exhibits, you demonstrate knowledge, you demonstrate culture, etc.

Like, you become an expert at that particular date. I mean, if getting them into you means showing them you're fun, cultured, and knowledgeable, you can demonstrate alot of value through your well practiced dates.

Everything else though, like, getting them to like you on a deeper level and all that, that's up to you and your conversation skills. Getting them to dump their dreams out and stuff. Where they want to travel, what they want to do before they die, what they want out of life, where they visualize themselves in the future.

Of course, not everyone has all that figured out, maybe if you help them visualize these things for themselves, give them a dream to chase, they'll attach to you on an even deeper level.

Just some rambling thoughts.
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Frederick Buzzville - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 13:04:40 EST ID:AQ8GfNAq No.515190 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Seconding whoever said you just haven't clicked with somebody yet. I'm on my fourth relationship (all have been pretty reasonable length between 1-5 years) and with every single one we just sort of fell into it all-in I guess. Relationships happen when you aren't looking for the most part. My current partner and I met up casually for drinks as two people relatively new to our town who bumped into each other in the street and were like "hey you seem cool". I wasn't even initially physically attracted to him to be honest, I just wanted a new friend. He thought I was really beautiful but wasn't actively pursuing at the time either, although was open to wherever it went. First date ended up lasting three days; we couldn't stop talking and fucking and listening to music (and were both coincidentally briefly unemployed at the time so we had three days to spare haha). It's not that the "average woman is so passive", it's that they aren't into you. And they aren't obligated to be, although I certainly hope you do find somebody who is.

Also agree that online dating is toxic. I guarantee my boyfriend and I would not be together if we'd attempted to meet up that way, I had no idea he was my type until I spent time with him. I know they work for some people but personally not my thing.


will I ever get a second chance by Beatrice Finderdane - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 00:56:56 EST ID:+OFhbq90 No.515170 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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long story condensed, Ive been prescribed soma for like 6 years and genuinely need it. Ive abused drugs and been an addict but soma is something I truly can barely cope with out due to a an accident that fucked my neck.

I overdose on morphine and benzos. my doctor told me he cant prescribe it to me anymore. I offered to take monthly drug tests, but to no avail. will he or ANY doctor ever trust me with something like that again even though I used it for years and years with no incident? or is my only option the dark net..
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Beatrice Finderdane - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 00:59:05 EST ID:+OFhbq90 No.515172 Ignore Report Quick Reply
also, for whats its worth Ive been completely clean since that incident since it VERY nearly killed me. of course a doctor cant trust my word though : /
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Lillian Sebberbury - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 01:46:35 EST ID:jPpWgI0N No.515177 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515172
Blacklists are real. Admitting drug use to your doctor can get you blacklisted. Meaning any doctor that notices, will be extremely unlikely to prescribe to you. There are still pill docs around, though rare, who don't check and don't give many fucks.
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Beatrice Finderdane - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 02:07:18 EST ID:+OFhbq90 No.515178 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515177

I told the doctor I ordered some "natural" sleeping remedy online and have no idea what was in it or what happened. obviously bullshit...but I did completely deny taking opiates or any drug intentionally.
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Maya - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 08:52:44 EST ID:tCICQRX4 No.515186 Ignore Report Quick Reply
There is hope for you. I have an extensive record of substance abuse. My doctors know I am an ex heroin junkie. (I remind them how long I have been clean.) It also says "sedative hypnotic abuse," "ketamine abuse," and "ecstasy abuse" on my past records. Guess what? They give me ambien for my insomnia because nothing else works. My doctors also give me baclofen and lyrica for my fibromyalgia. You can get "high" with those too. I went to the ER with a migraine recently and they did not hesitate to use valium and dilaudid on me. They also directed me to a pain clinic that takes my insurance. I haven't tried the pain clinic yet but I have a good feeling about it. Some doctors have felt differently towards me and treated me differently but there are good, kind doctors out there who will take you seriously. I might have been blacklisted back in NM but here in NY, I am on my way to getting all the medicines I truly need. I even had all of my old records from NM faxed to my doctors here and it hasn't changed the way most of them treat me.


Losing friends by Beatrice Ceshwedging - Mon, 03 Apr 2017 11:28:08 EST ID:htL0lErB No.515072 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey guys.

Over the years I started noticing friends weren't getting in touch with me, I was initiating nearly all of the interactions etc. Now I've completely stopped receiving any contact from anyone. I don't know what it could be aside from them not having the heart to tell me what it is that I've done to hurt them, if anything.. I didn't have many friends to start, and I've struggled with maintaining relationships due to my own issues and generally not being too skilled socially either. Now I feel like I have absolutely no friends.

Has anyone been in this position? How did you deal with it?
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Charles Brarrystone - Tue, 04 Apr 2017 05:46:47 EST ID:PP6wg+TW No.515127 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515081
Only responding to your post.



I think you have to talk to someone when you're in pain. If it's a problem that you can't resolve on your own, I think it's better to be seek help.
I have tried both, and not talking definitely hurts worse.
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Lillian Wullernat - Tue, 04 Apr 2017 06:29:02 EST ID:K4QTRcmJ No.515128 Ignore Report Quick Reply
i feel you man, and i have been in a similar jot a couple of times. where i was literally friendless. even now i have only a small number of friends, and only 1 or 2 i would call a "true" friend. i just think of grizzled old mofos you see out there, like the biker guys with the beer guts who are hackin up a lung from smokin and drinkin whiskey at 3, but still got their close buddies to chill with and bullshit each other. i think, if such a gristly old blob can pull off meaningful friendship, then by the time im his age im sure i will have done the same, and i should not worry about it
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Nell Birringfoot - Tue, 04 Apr 2017 09:11:44 EST ID:omX2BDyl No.515129 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Has anyone been in this position?

Do you mean how you lost your friends or that you don't have any friends anymore?

I had some kids to play with a long time ago then when I was 11 I moved to a new town and never got that kind of social life again.
I'm not sure I could say that I have dealt with it in any way at all, I've been suffering for very long and it keeps getting worse.
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Clara Hudgehidge - Tue, 04 Apr 2017 15:01:11 EST ID:4Ky87Vjf No.515140 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It's not your fault (entirely). It takes 2 persons to make it work. It's never one sided.

Some friendships just eventually die off. Just don't do the same mistake like I did. I sent text messages to friends I knew weren't going anywhere anymore. Let those friendships die naturally, don't go for the overkill.
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Hedda Shakewell - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 07:43:07 EST ID:QeaTPwDi No.515184 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515140
You are a scumbag.


My Life Story by Fuck Gasslekare - Tue, 04 Apr 2017 21:45:56 EST ID:hCNZToAi No.515163 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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When I first went to high school, I was bullied physically and verbally. Eventually, my dad challenged my mom in court, won, and then took me in around Xmas time to start sophomore year at a private Catholic school. I got bullied there too but it wasn't nearly as bad as at the public school, where bullying was institutionalized. Starting in junior year, my dad would yell at me to do my homework and then yell in my face if I couldn't understand something. I cried a couple times because it was vicious. My dad had ruined my safe place from bullying. I started staying up all night on my computer and started sleeping at school. My dad would still yell at me and I still couldn't understand what I was learning. I developed a long-term form of depression that occurs in women more often. At halfway through senior year, I decided that I was too depressed to live with my dad and begged my mom to take me back in. I moved into my mom's house and started finishing senior year at the aforementioned public schoo!. There was no bullying but I failed every course and went to summer school. This was kind of good because I was in the same gym class with my childhood best friend. My brother and I would fight every day over his loud music. I got into a fight with him and his friend. The cops came and were going to take me to jail but my dad intervened and asked to let me move into his house. I was 19 at this point. My dad forced me to leave the house every day in the morning to go find a job and the cycle repeated. One day, instead of going to look for a job, I went to an army recruitment station. They talked to me about the army and gave me a backpack and pamphlets. I told my dad and stepmom I was thinking about joining the army. They were surprised. My dad wanted to go with me to the recruitment center every time I went and even went with me to MEPS (meps is where they make sure you're physically fit to join the military). I decided on a job I liked which was a interrogater. I found out I couldn't get the job because I had any kind of criminal history. My dad convinced me to take a job I didn't want. My dad called me a faggot and started kicking me out every day again because I was avoiding the recruit…
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Reuben Shittingham - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 05:52:04 EST ID:+N9MVCxQ No.515182 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Continue, friend. Let it all out.


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