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am I a bad person? by Phyllis Gackleford - Wed, 15 Mar 2017 14:24:15 EST ID:aeplqru4 No.514446 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Last night I told my boyfriend that I have been cheating on him in our apartment. He was shocked and then he became angry. He left and I haven't talked to him since yesterday but I have a feeling he's coming back to get all of his stuff to leave.

We haven't dated long but I have been unhappy and it started shortly after we began living together. he never gave me enough attention sometimes I feel like he cares more about his video games than he does me. It got so bad we completely stopped having sex and I wait til he left for work to invite a friend over to have sex.

We haven't had any real problems other than a lack of a sex life with each other. I had asked him if we could have an open relationship before and he wasn't very open to the idea even though I said he could sleep with whomever he wanted to.

Really like I feel kinda bad and I don't want to lose him right now. I shouldn't have cheated but I wasn't happy.
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Phineas Dodgespear - Thu, 16 Mar 2017 12:03:48 EST ID:HBK97BJ7 No.514498 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514489
Urge to take bait...rising..
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Hedda Clusslebury - Fri, 17 Mar 2017 22:06:48 EST ID:ByaHbKp1 No.514561 Ignore Report Quick Reply
na ur a good person op
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Reuben Creblingwun - Sat, 18 Mar 2017 18:03:07 EST ID:SwxeG+Tj No.514582 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>514474
>desirous
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Jenny Brumblewater - Sat, 18 Mar 2017 18:56:54 EST ID:S8/3nVvW No.514586 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514446

I like how a woman posts a thread on here and reveals herself to be a piece of shit no one wants to call her out on it and you got beta stallion puss is saying it's a troll because it's a woman and women don't do anything wrong.
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Cyril Brambletudge - Sun, 19 Mar 2017 08:38:07 EST ID:2cRqUGEL No.514610 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514586
like it's clearly a troll though?
If it isn't then yeah that woman's a real piece of shit because she shows no remorse and has lame excuses that just get worse the more people probe, but fucking hell it just sounds like a virgin's make-believe on what happens in a girls mind when she cheats.

>Really us breaking up is gonna be his fault beca use he just seems like he doesn't care at all.
I mean if that sentence doesn't scream "TROLL TROLLL TROOOOLLLL IN THE DUNGEON!" then either you're fucking stupid or the OP is.

nb for shitposting


Girl gave me the cold finger by Reuben Pinnerdale - Sat, 18 Mar 2017 17:26:41 EST ID:LP7sXigx No.514580 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I haven't did anything wrong to her she had an attraction to me but still decided to give me the cold finger because she wanted somebody more whiter than me that works at mcdonalds. lmao. little does she know I got cash saved up in bank and could have went on trips. but if that's all she cares about is skintone forget about her!
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Reuben Creblingwun - Sat, 18 Mar 2017 18:05:34 EST ID:SwxeG+Tj No.514583 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514580
so like is there a problem here dude?
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Jenny Brumblewater - Sat, 18 Mar 2017 18:54:49 EST ID:S8/3nVvW No.514585 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514580

Is she a black girl?

Black girls will date a white guy with no car and no money just because he's white. To them the white skin is an upgrade.
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William Gettingforth - Sat, 18 Mar 2017 20:32:19 EST ID:j5fiPK2O No.514589 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514585
I knew a black dude, who when I was almost morbidly obese swore he could set me up with a black girl who was gorgeous just because "white guys don't cheat", he was a total psuedo fuckboi mind you. It seemed appealing but even in the nadir of my life and self esteem I wanted more than to just be with someone who wanted me purely to be in a relationship where they weren't cheated on.
>>514580
I have a lot of mixed feelings about this OP. I don't know enough about this for them to be a bunch of different theories though.

Firstly if she actually told you or clearly turned you down just because he was white then it's her loss.

However I would be careful about assuming. I hope that having some money saved up and not working a bottom tier job are not the best you can offer. I mean you could have a career path and ambition and that'd be more, or maybe you're responsible stable, kinder, funnier whatever.

Lastly you're mixing your idioms up. Cold shoulder man. You can give someone the finger but that's just flipping them off. Or the cold shoulder. Still at least you didn't declare women like her are a diamond dozen.

Oh wait, if you just want to get laid go somewhere really white and be a respectable black guy. You'll get women throwing themselves at you. Truth be told it's kind of vile because they're just objectifying you but if you just want to get laid it's a fair exchange. If you want someone worth a relationship, worth going on those trips for it doesn't matter where you live or who you are, you're going to find a lot of wrong people before you find the right one.


staying chill by Ian Blidgeham - Fri, 17 Mar 2017 01:07:13 EST ID:Zu1IwOob No.514538 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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How do you keep your cool through daily life?
I often let stress and worry control my life and it's not cool.
When that happens I try to meditate more.

What works for you when your mind starts getting hairy?
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Hannah Webberhood - Fri, 17 Mar 2017 01:12:13 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.514539 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I try to rationalize all the reasons why I shouldn't in a very meticulous, deliberate manner so often that I essentially wind up learning not to. It works for me. The only problem is being able to convince yourself to look away from things that need to be seen, and avoiding feeling things that need to be felt then becomes a serious issue.
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Clara Shakeville - Fri, 17 Mar 2017 17:46:51 EST ID:qDgNA3C6 No.514550 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514538
I imagine I'm a much less anxious, confident person with their shit together and pretend I'm them to try and find a better headspace, breathe, and remind myself I can control my mindset (mosty)
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David Fadgeshit - Sat, 18 Mar 2017 11:29:21 EST ID:KhOSe0X6 No.514571 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I get an injection of b12
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Reuben Creblingwun - Sat, 18 Mar 2017 16:18:51 EST ID:SwxeG+Tj No.514579 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514538
what works is stopping sowing the seeds and stoping being bothered by the seeds that are already sown, and that way stop watering em', just let them wither away, just ride it out and enjoy what is. Stop being bothered even in the slightest and it won't become really big and uncontrollable.


I feel like an useless loser. by Shit Blacklepitch - Fri, 17 Mar 2017 18:33:02 EST ID:P1CXh/N6 No.514553 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I feel like an useless loser. In 24 years of my life i haven't achieved anything meaningful. I didn't create anything, didn't finish my novel. Went to really shitty institute. Have a few friends, but sometimes I feel like they don't care about me. Girls never liked me much, had only two of them. Had quite a few failures in professional life. Was fired two times. Never had much money to experience life to the fullest. Never was outside of my country.

Right now i'm really struggling with job searching. I got fed up with office full-time life. I don't want to sit in an office every day. I have been trying to find anything else, but with no luck yet. I feel like I don't have anything to offer to this world. Like I do not fit in it.

I don't see any good future for me. It looks like only bad things await for me further. With passing time my lack of success in life will bother me more and more until I will pass some point of no return. I can't imagine having a wife or a family or a job that wouldn't crush my soul every day. And what's the point of living without a direction?
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Shit Blacklepitch - Fri, 17 Mar 2017 19:27:49 EST ID:P1CXh/N6 No.514556 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>514554
T.hanks
Don't you feel like you are running out of time though? I'm so scared of being 24, let alone 28.
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William Clinningbury - Fri, 17 Mar 2017 21:11:48 EST ID:QVcoJ6HE No.514559 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>1. Choose skill.
>2. Practice, study, train, research this skill far beyond most people.
>3. Use your talents for self-fulfillment and/or monetary gain and/or self-actualization.
>4. Do you want to add another skill? If Yes, start over at step 1 with new skill. If No, start over at step 2 with old skill.

You are a sentient earthling with vast neural and cognitive capacity. There is unquestionably something in this world you could become exceptional at. The REAL question is, do you really want to offer anything to this world?
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Mark Dingleberry - Sat, 18 Mar 2017 13:25:01 EST ID:RP3XrBMl No.514575 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514556
Don't worry about "running out of time" .
Time is not real,there is only now
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John Honeyham - Sat, 18 Mar 2017 14:06:23 EST ID:4D3dcOG1 No.514576 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514575
I'm running out of now
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Reuben Creblingwun - Sat, 18 Mar 2017 16:13:43 EST ID:SwxeG+Tj No.514577 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514576
NOW IS ETERNAL, IT'S ALWAYS NOW.

YOU MIGHT BE RUNNING OUT OF SMTH, BUT IT CERTAINLY ISN'T NOW.


Fuck Em All by Henry Godgedet - Sat, 18 Mar 2017 03:01:29 EST ID:E2a2ZttP No.514567 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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My mother is eating my soul along with my sister and my dying grandmother.
My mothers ex-husband is obsessed with me because he feels like he can trust me.
My evil aunt is pretending to not know me because she came to my house when I wasn't home and tried to spread her shitty religion. My lawyer wants to kill me because I owe him $4400 because my mother stopped paying him. My mothers political connections have the cops monitoring me for no reason fucking up my relationships and employment. Ruining my life and landing me with two misdemeanor convictions one a completely fucked situation and the one felony is a vehicle code violation. My dad is cognitively dissonant to the whole situation.

Finally Tyler Durden and I share the same sick sense of humor and I'm on probation.

I'm still pushing through.
It fucking sucks.
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William Clinningbury - Sat, 18 Mar 2017 12:39:13 EST ID:QVcoJ6HE No.514572 Ignore Report Quick Reply
sounds like you are the snowflake victim and everyone is teamed against poor you


i suppose you should kill them all
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Fucking Bucklestidging - Sat, 18 Mar 2017 12:51:02 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.514573 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Your mom's ex-husband has faith in you and somehow he's bad for that? The rest sounds like bullshit hyperbole


How to Cry by Jack Hedgechodge - Fri, 17 Mar 2017 18:17:47 EST ID:n1yNxChx No.514552 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I have reason to believe that I have a lot of emotion that I haven't dealt with. I find it very hard to express emotion. I had a bad childhood.

HOW DO I CRY

I can feel the abscess of sad energy in my chest and IT HURTS

HELP ME PLEASE
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Ian Grimman - Fri, 17 Mar 2017 22:07:57 EST ID:CFSPhP33 No.514562 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514560
this. i didnt cry from like 4th grade up until i turned 20

stay true to yourself homie and you'll find what you feel about
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Clara Shakebury - Fri, 17 Mar 2017 22:18:06 EST ID:LwDdrKTU No.514563 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514562
I cried for the first time in 11 years just a few months ago when my cat died. It wasn't until hours after I had buried her that I even did.
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Sidney Goblingford - Sat, 18 Mar 2017 00:11:47 EST ID:n1yNxChx No.514564 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514560
>>514562

I can't force it, but I believe that I can set the intention.
I'm fucked man, this isn't funny. There's this pit in my chest and I swear it's killing me. My life is suffering immensely, and always has. I need to find out if this is healing. And if this is all true.
I've also been told that suppressing emotions is a learned thing, and a way to survival, but when you block out the sadness and bad feelings, you block out the good.
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Fucking Bucklestidging - Sat, 18 Mar 2017 06:29:39 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.514568 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514564
i think the fact that you're fixating on it is actually half of why it's bothering you so much. i was the same way when i virtually lost all my emotions after a concussion. i convinced myself for 2 years that something was really wrong and i needed to find a way to get better (unfortunately dissociatives could give me my emotions back temporarily, which led to some addiction issues). eventually i got over it, and i realize most of my problem was created by me, for being so fixated on how i need to be able to feel emotions again.
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Albert Gonningworth - Sat, 18 Mar 2017 06:31:02 EST ID:j5fiPK2O No.514569 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514568
This is how depersonalisation and derealisation work too I think. Though that's just from reading people posting about it over the years.


Under survaillance by Phineas Sinnerhall - Sun, 12 Mar 2017 16:43:00 EST ID:htL0lErB No.514339 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Been followed, friends acting strange. Work is acting strange with me.
Don't even know what I've done to warrant so much attention, what do I have to do to make it stop? If its law enforcement it's not like I can turn myself in if I don't know what for?
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Shit Lightman - Mon, 13 Mar 2017 23:07:37 EST ID:fznrdWQq No.514395 Ignore Report Quick Reply
There's only two real responses to your issue. You either have a psychosis from family history or drug abuse and you're delusional, or you're doing some illegal shit that you should probably stop doing (drug/sex/arms trafficking, making bombs, threatening people).
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Nell Brookham - Tue, 14 Mar 2017 15:05:12 EST ID:M/bNxUra No.514414 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514395
So gangstalking is legit?
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Beatrice Pellyfoot - Tue, 14 Mar 2017 15:40:59 EST ID:KveR7zNs No.514419 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514392
He also asked "Do you have tinnitus" it's been a while since I've seen someone ask that here. I think for a while it was an insta ban.
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Martha Blepperhall - Wed, 15 Mar 2017 22:07:32 EST ID:LP7sXigx No.514472 Ignore Report Quick Reply
At least you got people that care about you.
All I get is cold stares and mean looks.
In this strange world.
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Edward Dupperdale - Fri, 17 Mar 2017 21:09:12 EST ID:zbKXnohS No.514558 Ignore Report Quick Reply
move. if they're so dedicated that they'll continue after a change in locale you're already fucked


Can't cum, and condoms make my dick droop. by Ian Bunfuck - Wed, 15 Mar 2017 19:15:53 EST ID:4SKHWbu2 No.514466 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So 24, never cared for sex. Thought of it either bores me, grosses me out, or forget about it by the time I jerk off in the evening.
I mean I've been offered to fuck by a lot of chicks over the years, so it's not like I'm an ugly beast. Just never cared to try it.
Kind of does make me feel like some alien at times, when guys are all talking real thirsty, and telling me to check out some super hot chick that's been near us the whole time, and I didn't even remotely notice. Then I got to act like I give a fuck, even if I really don't.

But I've been bored recently and coming on 25 soon, decided to fuck some sluts to pop the cherry. And I can't cum... Like I could be getting head and death gripped for a half hour and not cum. And I don't know if most condoms are just to damn tight, but it feels like being squished to death, and after entering I'll just go flat after a couple thrusts...

I've taken long enough of a t-break from BHO to know it's not that anymore. Don't drink anymore either. wtf.

I got to wonder if it's low T. I've got man tits, suffered from derealization for years, took anti-depressants as a kid-youngteen, and feel very asexual. A lot of sources seem to point at that. So maybe?

I don't know it's kind of grating on me now. Didn't care as much till I couldn't do the act.
I'm glad that I tried it, but at the same time depressed because of it.
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Cyril Febberdock - Thu, 16 Mar 2017 21:58:34 EST ID:4SKHWbu2 No.514526 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>514493

Will certainly get another size. Thinking I'll give it all another go once or twice more at some point.
Maybe packing some xanax bars from the doctor.
Certainly a consideration to try something of a closer relationship. Now I just got to not be an on edge asshole all the time.

>>514496

I'm thinking it might help to not do it the day before, as good measure.>>514493
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Eugene Fanlock - Thu, 16 Mar 2017 23:18:08 EST ID:pCPQRsXK No.514531 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Some people say this

if you ever try pulling out

you best better best believe you are playing with fire

work with condoms till you find what works
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Hannah Claffingway - Fri, 17 Mar 2017 08:02:19 EST ID:eMxKLL8y No.514545 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514495
Don't do this OP. It's a scam and people like this are viral marketers.
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Hedda Bengerstere - Fri, 17 Mar 2017 10:31:48 EST ID:KhOSe0X6 No.514546 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514545
stfu dickhead
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Hannah Webberhood - Fri, 17 Mar 2017 10:35:25 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.514547 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514546
that's exactly what i'd expect a viral marketer to say


I've seen insanity but this takes the cake by Ebenezer Blabberkirk - Mon, 30 Jan 2017 11:12:05 EST ID:SPpwuYvJ No.512870 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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know girl for years
>has a drug/psychological problem
>dates a beta male but constantly cheats on him
>in and out of town dependent on whether or not her parents kick her out
>shacks up with Chinese restaurant owner
>exchanges sex for rent for a year
>the living conditions are squalid at best
>uses self medicated heroin everyday to cope
>tells no one of this but me until the end
>she claims that the dude was a psychopath
>who tried to drug everyone with a special date rape syrum
>not sure if she is telling the truth
>two months ago she goes dark
>calls me to meet her in the slum part of the county
>tells me she has been living between an abandoned house and warming station with a 45 year old dude who is a heroin addict
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David Clommlestudge - Thu, 16 Mar 2017 22:05:45 EST ID:SPpwuYvJ No.514527 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514524
Shit dude, my condolences.

I looked more into hep-c and it's no laughing matter.
I got in confused with Hep-A, fuck the situation is much worse than I thought it was. Dammit, there was nothing I could have done to save this poor girl.
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Walter Bammermet - Thu, 16 Mar 2017 22:24:27 EST ID:KitOIXFs No.514529 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514524
Eh, a Hospice is where they specifically inject you with shit when you are dying to kill you off. It is basically legal assisted suicide/murder. If you end up in a hospice, you ain't getting out unless by a miracle. Most of them aim for about 3 days in my experience. They keep ramping up the dose of liquid shit until you go into a coma and die.

It is a necessary evil though, you could theoretically extend someone's life for quite some time if you pour mountains of money into them. Much to the burden of everyone but the person about to die. It is basically a highly civilized way of putting down "ole yeller." Only with people.
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Polly Sillytere - Thu, 16 Mar 2017 22:59:47 EST ID:UjNuOR6B No.514530 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514529
uhh...

hospice is just where dying patients go to receive consistent doses of pain meds and such to ease their final days. they dont fucking kill you off lol. its to ease the pain when youre already dying.
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Floyd !lEVA02JLzI - Fri, 17 Mar 2017 01:01:17 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.514537 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514511
Notice I said "if OP actually fits the profile"
>if

I was replying specifically to what I believed was a misunderstanding that guy had about someone with that kind of psychological profile. I never made a definitive statement about you either way because I don't know shit about you and haven't been following the thread all that much.
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Sidney Clallyshit - Fri, 17 Mar 2017 01:16:14 EST ID:7CB9nVw4 No.514540 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514529
>>514530
You two are saying the same shit, dude. The euphemism is 'they give you pain meds to ease the transition', the dysphemism is 'they load you up with drugs so you die faster'.


I got stood up by Martha Blepperhall - Wed, 15 Mar 2017 21:55:08 EST ID:LP7sXigx No.514471 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Girl made plans and she flaked on me. It would have been better if she didn't make any plans with me if she didn't like me. I mean damn. I would have been cool with it if crap didn't work than don't reinvite me to hang out with you. the fuck is wrong with you? Waste of my God damn time.
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Henry Pudgecocke - Wed, 15 Mar 2017 22:09:49 EST ID:zOfwhgti No.514473 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514471
Misogyny!!!!!! You are a misogynist!!!!!!!!!
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Martha Blepperhall - Wed, 15 Mar 2017 22:12:02 EST ID:LP7sXigx No.514475 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514473
At least you are loving to let me know and label me you care about me.
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Samuel Grimdock - Thu, 16 Mar 2017 12:55:32 EST ID:fh02z0OB No.514501 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Usually a girl will give you signs she doesn't want to go out with you ahead of time. Like, "call me back before the date to make sure" or "I might be open that day I'm not sure" instead of setting an actual date and time. If she starts to get wishy washy about it, usually they're gonna pull out at the last minute. But all in all, it happens, just move on and find another one. You never *really* know until you've got her on the date, but just watch out for indicators that she's only half-in or uninterested.
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Basil Blonningchadge - Thu, 16 Mar 2017 19:30:15 EST ID:EzXVpmDm No.514521 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Happens to me all the time, girls on the internet are super flakes. I'm not sure anything makes me angrier. I think most of them do it on purpose so I get insistent or angry for dat bdsm sex but no ty maam.
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Ebenezer Furringtick - Thu, 16 Mar 2017 23:37:07 EST ID:LP7sXigx No.514533 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514521
She made plans. lied about her phone being dead. I mean I get it if she wants to be strictly friends she should say so that's fine. I don't get her deal. she is just toying with me. I am down to be her friend. I am down to date her. It's whatever.


So QQ I got a problem. by Ebenezer Furringtick - Thu, 16 Mar 2017 23:34:00 EST ID:LP7sXigx No.514532 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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My problem is females that want to hang out but act distant and disconnected when it comes to human connection. hell even my own rivals were more interconnected with me on a human level. But this girl is so disconnected it's cringeworthy. She invites me to hang out with her but than she acts like I don't exist. I don't get her deal than she bothers to lie about her phone being dead or something. I mean damn. why bother even hanging out with me? If you don't want to be friends that's fine. if you aren't attracted to me that's fine (we can still be friends) if you got issues with having male friends that issue is on your own.

anyways. peace out this is a QQ rant.
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Hannah Webberhood - Fri, 17 Mar 2017 00:56:31 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.514536 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514532
why the fuck did you make a second thread for this

nb


Mommy issues by Molly Nanderforth - Mon, 13 Mar 2017 11:09:44 EST ID:HNwu+VYY No.514368 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I have an underlying hate for women. I've tried to get over it but it ends up with me being really really distant with a girlfriend, a fuckbuddy who wants more, or even during the dating phase. I always have in the back of my mind "this cunt is going to screw me over" so I keep my distance from women- they pick up on this and write me off as emotionally unavailable. In general I'm very vindictive towards women and I have no problems walking out on a girl even at the slightest disagreement (coping with the fear of abandonment)

The connection goes back to my childhood where my narcisisstic mother would hit me with a phone book and tell me she regretted the day I was born- and then feel guilty about it later and buy me shit so I didn't grow up hating her.

This was her strategy- yell and berate me then do a 180 and be nice and sweet or buy me something so I'd forget that she just told a 10 year old how great her life could've been if I wasnt born.

People say "oh work out your mommy issues be a man" but what the fuck am I supposed to do? This shit is still affecting how I relate to people specifically women and I just want to have a normal life.
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Charlotte Lightridge - Tue, 14 Mar 2017 00:04:51 EST ID:UrQwPY3E No.514396 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>514390
It's not like you can do a lot over the internet... it's just so slow and distant.


OP you look like you've got things pretty clear. That's really really cool. I suggest too that you go to a specialist, a psychoanalist or whatnot. Also talking to some friend you really trust would help you a lot, given you're not completely clueless as to what is going on with you.

I had a sort of violent father (well he did hit me and insult me as a kid), and a way too pasive and permissive mother to compensate it. It sort of fucked me up in my relation with women as well. I did therapy for a lot of time and it did get a lot better. I do still have some issues, but It's really helped me a lot.

Practical advice other than doing therapy would be to try to get some female friends. Build a relationship with them slowly, don't give it that much importance. Eventually they'll be able to help you, and girl friend's help is not the same as dude friend's help, she'll be able to give you another perspective on stuff. You could also read some textbooks on feminism, that will probably lessen your hatred towards women (read some classic please, i.e. Simone de Beauvoir). You could try having a 'real' talk with your mother. I did it with my father and it was completely useless, he's as dumb as they come, but at least I know I did my part on trying to fix that relationship. I also noticed I could relate to women a whole lot different when I was travelling through Europe. Like every place I went I made lots of female friends, and every girl seemed to like me. Sadly it's not the same in my home city, but at least I know I have it in me to talk to another girl just as human being, and like them and be liked by them like it's no big thing. So if you've got money to travel through some random place in the world, far away from your home, I'd say go for it.
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William Deshstut - Tue, 14 Mar 2017 00:21:42 EST ID:QVcoJ6HE No.514397 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Betsy Nicklebury - Tue, 14 Mar 2017 10:07:35 EST ID:e6BfsyfZ No.514404 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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I had the same upbringing. Fixing it is a two step process. You have to let go but then you have to replace. Your mom fucked you up and you feel affected by women. My take on women, and this may just be totally schizo or something but they are the ones paying attention to you if that makes sense. If you pay attention to a woman they have zero interest in you. They want to pay attention to you. But when they say some shit and you get mad and shit that means you actually care about what they say. You're just being a baby. Just smile and nod. You're the guy and you're doing you and they're busy being a woman. To be a woman is to use you. You are you and they talk at you and you offer your thoughts but you are not actually taking it personal. Girls are off in their own land and it's actually pretty hilarious how they think about things once you've put up your emotional wall and allow them to discharge all their crazy.

You gotta build up enough of a you to be able to come back with something related to what they say. They're never talking about you, they're talking about the subject. And if you are that thing and that thing is bad you're gonna have a bad time. Just take things less personally. Be emotionally detached. You probably think you need to be more attached but the whole women only like dicks thing is completely true. They also hate dicks but the opposite of love is not hate it's apathy. They hate when a dick disagrees because a dick disagrees the same way a parent would. There's no budging and they just get mad like kids. They may just run off. And you can go chase them if you want and bring them back but just like a parent you wouldn't lower yourself to them you would just make them feel good. Change the subject, change the tone, don't apologize or justify just get them ice cream.
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Doris Sollybury - Tue, 14 Mar 2017 10:07:47 EST ID:F0AUWVRW No.514405 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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I had the same upbringing. Fixing it is a two step process. You have to let go but then you have to replace. Your mom fucked you up and you feel affected by women. My take on women, and this may just be totally schizo or something but they are the ones paying attention to you if that makes sense. If you pay attention to a woman they have zero interest in you. They want to pay attention to you. But when they say some shit and you get mad and shit that means you actually care about what they say. You're just being a baby. Just smile and nod. You're the guy and you're doing you and they're busy being a woman. To be a woman is to use you. You are you and they talk at you and you offer your thoughts but you are not actually taking it personal. Girls are off in their own land and it's actually pretty hilarious how they think about things once you've put up your emotional wall and allow them to discharge all their crazy.

You gotta build up enough of a you to be able to come back with something related to what they say. They're never talking about you, they're talking about the subject. And if you are that thing and that thing is bad you're gonna have a bad time. Just take things less personally. Be emotionally detached. You probably think you need to be more attached but the whole women only like dicks thing is completely true. They also hate dicks but the opposite of love is not hate it's apathy. They hate when a dick disagrees because a dick disagrees the same way a parent would. There's no budging and they just get mad like kids. They may just run off. And you can go chase them if you want and bring them back but just like a parent you wouldn't lower yourself to them you would just make them feel good. Change the subject, change the tone, don't apologize or justify just get them ice cream.
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Reuben Turveywill - Thu, 16 Mar 2017 21:49:26 EST ID:NcSBOxK9 No.514525 Ignore Report Quick Reply
i feel you op

i hate myself


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