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I'm bad with relationships and I don't know why. by Albert Cattingwater - Thu, 29 Jun 2017 19:46:31 EST ID:yPQegY8a No.517144 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I seem to get along well with my coworkers, and I don't really experience any personal/professional conflicts. I regularly have amiable interactions with the people I'm around a lot, but I never get past the "friendly acquaintance" stage of interaction with anybody. I have few friends, and we've been friends since middle school. We are good friends and hang out often, but I have other interests that aren't shared with them, yet I have no other friends that I can share those interests with.

I made zero friends during college, which disturbs me because of how many people say some of their best friends are from college. I simply went to class, did the work, and went home every day for four years. I worked well in groups, but never stayed in touch with classmates.

I'm 24 years old, and I have never been in a romantic relationship or had sex. The closest I've come was a few dates and makeout sessions with one girl when I was 19. Several times I have realized too late that a girl was interested, but I guess I'm bad at picking up on signals. I'm not exactly a cover model for Men's Health, but I'm not ugly either, and have been complimented on my looks before by complete strangers (though these are usually older women who are very forward).

Social anxiety definately plays a role, though I think I'm more functional than many people who seem to have more rewarding social and romantic lives; I've seen borderline catatonics with no personality that are married. I don't like pointing fingers at anyone else about my problems, but I don't understand what is so damning about my personality that I'm in this situation. I know I can't expect people to always come to me with plans to hang out, but it seems like I never get invited to do anything that isn't just a general invitation to everyone in the workplace. I would invite others to do things, but since I've never had friends to hang out with I don't really have any hobbies or good suggestions for things to do.

I've been to a therapist before, but it was a waste of time and money. She was literally printing things off of yahoo answers, and her suggestions for romance led to me …
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Archie Duvingdale - Thu, 29 Jun 2017 20:24:57 EST ID:gu/lq3ms No.517146 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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DICKS EVERYWHERE
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George Buffingdock - Thu, 29 Jun 2017 20:39:31 EST ID:UrQwPY3E No.517147 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Well... you seem nice. The only thing I can think of is that you're taking too much of a passive stance. Like, what are you actively doing to meet new people and become friends with them? Join clubs and activities, talk to people, try to find things you have in common with them. If there's any event that you're interested in going, mention it. And I know this is general advice for almost every thread in here, but it really does help: you should work out. It will make you feel better, and make you more attractive.

> A general question would be how do I develop my personality and hobbies when I have nobody to share things with?
As I said before, join some kind of group or activity you're sort of interested in. There's almost nothing that you can't do in groups. Even writing, or meditating or running, I don't know. You can find a group for everything.

> In my romantic life, how do I broach the subject of my lack of experience without sounding like a pathetic loser?
Well... I was in a sort of similar situation, not that bad, but similar nonetheless, and I just didn't mention anything about it. A friend of mine had sex for the first time when he was 20, and didn't say anything until after they were done.
You don't have to say anything if you don't feel like it. You can lie a little if it makes you more comfortable/confident. And it doesn't (and probably shouldn't) be your first topic of conversation. You may crash against a wall on your first date(s), but you gotta learn sometime, and better sooner than later.
Besides, it seems like other than that you've got your shit together. You finished college, you got a job, you've got friends. If your only problem is that you haven't gotten laid that's not that much of a problem. You can say you didn't find someone you acutally liked, or that the opportunity never came up or whatever
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Phyllis Snodman - Thu, 29 Jun 2017 20:43:38 EST ID:5y07sGwW No.517148 Ignore Report Quick Reply
The point of having interests is not simply to share them with others, your interests are meant to be for you to be interested in them. Spending time on them. Develop hobbies and interests, or throw yourself into your career/studies and friends and relationships will follow. It might not sound helpful but you need to just do what you need to do and don't worry about what everybody else is doing, or comparing yourself to them. When it comes to relationships, regret doing things rather than not doing things. That's how we grow.
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Simon Cremmlestone - Thu, 29 Jun 2017 21:28:05 EST ID:yPQegY8a No.517149 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517147
Thanks for the response with practical advice. I think I'll start working out, it's something I've always been averse to, but I gotta try something.

>Join clubs and activities, talk to people, try to find things you have in common with them.
I go out and do stuff on occasion, but I'll ramp up my efforts and try to be better about following up when people mention some event they plan on going to.
As for the virginity thing, I guess I'll just play it by ear.

>>517148
>throw yourself into your career/studies and friends and relationships will follow.
You're right, this doesn't sound helpful. The one thing I've done with my time is devoted to my studies, career, and my personal interests. This has done nothing for finding new friends or dates. I'm not trying to be a dick, but this is the kind of advice I've heard and followed for a long time and it really hasn't been productive to essentially "hope for the best". If this has been your strategy and it's worked for you than good on ya, but I don't think it counts as good general advice.
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George Buffingdock - Thu, 29 Jun 2017 22:28:26 EST ID:UrQwPY3E No.517150 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517149
I didn't meant on occasion. Rather join something where you have to go weekly and meet the same people over and over again. It may take a couple tries, but you'll eventually find a cool group who go out together and do stuff and whatnot.

Not just an 'on occasion' thing. Join something where you go once, twice, three times a week. Get used to seeing the same people over and over again. Do something where you're sort of forced to interact. I remember an ex (who got laid really often) told me every adult that starts taking acting classes as an adult does it to get laid. I started this year and haven't been lucky so far, but it's a pretty good bet. You have to be really close with women and like declare to her. It can get pretty intense. I still haven't gotten laid from it, but I'm keeping my hopes up


Shit parents by Nell Wagglefod - Wed, 28 Jun 2017 22:50:40 EST ID:RLopCwes No.517123 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Is it weird to leave home and never talk to your parents again? My parents give me a shit life and they never cared about me and only act like they do when it's convienant. They don't do shit but sit in their room and get drunk even my friends say how shit they are and not good parents. They ignore shit like when I need medical attention at a hospital and they just get drunk and ignore me and they never feed me and they treat me like shit and they'd rather buy cheap liquor then buy me something I need.
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Phineas Blacklegold - Thu, 29 Jun 2017 00:26:34 EST ID:UrQwPY3E No.517126 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517123
I talk to my father twice or three times a year. Mostly just for birthdays and holidays. And he wasn't all that bad to begin with, just kind of an asshole. i've got friends who haven't talked to their parents in years and they were less horrible than what you're describing.

I think you'll miss'em, but maybe is better to lose parents like that than to have them? It's certainly not weird. The world is filled with shitty people, and some of those happen to have kids.
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Angus Lightdock - Thu, 29 Jun 2017 01:07:25 EST ID:e1ptL1WV No.517128 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Well you're friends aren't being supportive either when they do this they are most likely caustically being the center of attention by judging you for being sad or being a person who cries. Which as a person you probably stopped thinking that was healthy, I respect that.


Strange rapey situation with female friend by Molly Himblefetch - Mon, 19 Jun 2017 13:36:22 EST ID:+60HqRp0 No.516972 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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My friend admitted to me that she has fantasies about me raping her. She's not entirely comfortable with these fantasies but they're there all the time, even when she's having sex with her boyfriend - she's just thinking I could do better. She says she's always had a weird inner demon with regards to being choked and having rough sex that leaves her feeling used and abused, and she sees in me a sadistic horrible person who can do just that to her, someone who can be horrible to her and not care afterwards. Someone who, in her eyes, can just disregard her after using her.

I once told her half-jokingly nearly a year ago while we were drunk that I could rape her if I wanted to (dumb shock humor is our forte) and apparently that set her off about it ever since - finally, here was someone who could meet her fantasies and achieve them. She's been thinking about me like that ever since.

We tried talking about it, for quite a lengthy time, but she isn't sure why she has these thoughts or how to get rid of them. She just wants to feel like worthless trash undeserving of anyone's respect (I'm still not sure how I feel about her thinking of me as the right person to do that when we've been such close friends for such a long time. Strange how you're seen through the eyes of other people.). We spent probably close to two hours talking about this. So eventually I gave up on patience and decided to be a terrible person and listen to my own inner demon, that inner voice that says you should do bad things, and indulged her fantasies and leapt on her.

Despite token resistance, she was actually enjoying it (she admitted this to me afterwards), to a point. I was choking her, getting all touchy feely, had forced her legs apart. Then I start groping her tits and she immediately gives me her 'no' signal. Whenever we're drinking and doing dumb shit (hitting each other, burning each other with cigarettes, etc) and going too far, she'd claw my face as a way of saying 'stop', 'too far', 'nope'. As soon as I started getting a good handful of tit, she clawed my face and then levered me off her with her leg.

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Henry Duckstone - Tue, 20 Jun 2017 20:17:48 EST ID:lXjUaJuo No.516999 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Sounds like a pretty fucked up situation that little good will come from. But we all know that you're probably just gonna follow your dick anyway (let's be honest I probably would too). The only part of this that actually rubs me the wrong way is her boyfriend getting hurt by this, but I imagine if you were to tell him you'd lose any chance with your friend.

Anyway I guess my point is that this is a scenario that will probably not play out well for anyone involved and that you and your friend are both aware of that on some level, I guess that's part of what makes it so kinky too.
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Hannah Creshhet - Thu, 22 Jun 2017 00:20:50 EST ID:E10J/1rQ No.517003 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>strange rapey situation with female friend
Awww yeah.
>My friend admitted to me that she has fantasies about me raping her.
AWWWW YEEEAAHHHH.
>I'm such a sadistic fuck who gets off on "causing suffering to others around me in a variety of ways" that I stopped without question when she told me to and feel bad about hurting my friend
Ohhh, fuck you, you little pussy.
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Angus Gurringshit - Thu, 22 Jun 2017 12:55:24 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.517010 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516986
If she agrees on a safeword than it officially becomes her deciding to cheat on her boyfriend with his best friend. But it also puts it in a mental category of rape for her which is playing with fire if she later decides she wants to rationalize it as actual rape and not cheating.
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Betsy Dickleshit - Thu, 22 Jun 2017 15:04:58 EST ID:0ZGYnx1f No.517015 Ignore Report Quick Reply
wait till she and her BF break up.

don't be a prick

You know why you didn't feel guilty? Because you still feel horny / desire. Once you have both done it all that will be left is guilt. Not worth it.
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Nigel Brollerwin - Wed, 28 Jun 2017 19:22:43 EST ID:1/SIQzph No.517117 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Be a prick, fuck/rape her immediately!


Lonliness by Hugh Sashfoot - Sun, 25 Jun 2017 18:08:26 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.517072 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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hey guys a girl came into my life things got pretty serious over the years we were together but I had to end it, unfortunately she kind of sucked the life out of my life and now I have no friends and i'm not back at school until september so i have nothing to occupy my mind.

In the past i've been heavily into drugs and fortunately managed to stop that but now it feels like the urge is coming back since i'm so bored and have nobody to take my mind off her.

I'm not really making the thread for advice cause it's obvious what to do, i'm just making it cause 420chan is one of the few places I can get some semblance of social interaction and i wanted to hear about your stories, times that you've been in a similar situation.
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Shit Shittingdock - Mon, 26 Jun 2017 13:09:49 EST ID:erhGJy4z No.517079 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517072
Take our advice anyway. Get the fuck in shape. If you are not a fatass you have enough time to be ripped by the time you meet all the new girls in September. Lose a little fat gain a load of muscle or something.

You've just got to cope. I am lacking a replacement for my last girlfriend but I'm not about to be surrounded by single women my own age so fuck basically that was it. But hey, Amy guy posted a thread and it reminded me that it could be worse.
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Shit Blanderwell - Tue, 27 Jun 2017 17:54:54 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.517098 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517079
Yeah I workout anyway, it really did help me move away from drugs and stopped my depression and that's kinda what led to me getting that girl in the first place.

I still work out and keep in shape and although it seems to make me happier it doesn't do as much as it once did, it has become a maintenance chore whereas when I first started years ago it was more fun cause you constantly saw new improvements.

Anyway that's getting off topic working out does help me but it's pretty much all i've got. Time to grit my teeth and bear it till september.
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Alice Greenwater - Tue, 27 Jun 2017 18:49:42 EST ID:GoZz+UFM No.517099 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Time is probably the best way for it to all heal. Otherwise keep yourself distracted by learning about a new hobby, preparing for some goal you can achieve (a marathon, an open mic night, something that will give you a sense of accomplishment), or possibly finding more peace within yourself through meditation and soul-searching. While all this sounds pretty bogus - it definitely helps if you go at it honestly. It's hard to avoid those invasive thoughts sometimes, but at least trying to will help a shit ton. You don't want to be caught dwelling on the situation you're in.

There's plenty of other girls out there man, I like to fuck around on Tinder to re-affirm I'm attractive, not really intending on seeing any of them. But it helps my ego and self-image knowing girls find me attractive and it wasn't just "her".
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Charles Summlebanks - Wed, 28 Jun 2017 00:24:42 EST ID:e1ptL1WV No.517101 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It's hard but nice to get friends in college.

I would suggest that being alone, is tough but there are many things about it to appreciate, that are great that you need to pace yourself(by your'e own timing) to have energy for when you have loniliness.

In other situations with many people you have to worry about what they want to do and when, you can't always get in the state of mind you like to get into for the things you love to do, that you need that state of mind to do.

Kind of like you get to really know you're life.

Solitude is very important. it's gonna give you quite the basis for memory attention focus. And the findings of reality.

But so is sociality. Both exist. And to some extent, what could be bugging you that you might be ethically dealing with is bitterness.

As in it could be taking longer for you to integrate a bitter world view as an exitant narrative about this situation. Because in a very agent way you are like i don't want to be bitter.

So when you get to the ideas creeping in that create conflict along your goal that you outline in logistical terms it's crazy.
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Hugh Worthingbury - Wed, 28 Jun 2017 16:26:44 EST ID:Po5ClFtn No.517109 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517072
What is this chick wearing, what's the meme?


Suicidal/Homicidal Thoughts by Betsy Drurrywill - Sat, 24 Jun 2017 21:19:11 EST ID:Uc3v3vtk No.517053 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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TL;DR: Despite being completely happy, loving life, and loving others, I sometimes have random thoughts about hurting myself or others. Ongoing for several years. No diagnosis of any psychological disorders. Never even come close to hurting myself or others.

I first noticed this issue a few years ago. It mostly happens late at night, particularly when I'm falling asleep. It does occasionally happen other times though. The first instances were in my mid-20s, picturing jumping off the balcony. Imagining cutting my wrists in the bathtub. Thinking about taking a bunch of pills. Etc.

Then after watching the paranormal movies, I had nightmares of killing my loved ones. Then I had daydreams of the same scenario, again usually while falling asleep. I go through phases where it happens more than other times (I imagine it's due to stress or depression, but I'm not sure).

An ex once wanted to get a gun. I told them I just didn't want one, but part of me was just worried I would hurt myself or someone else. Basically any scenario involving a deadly weapon or situation, a thought might cross my mind. Usually suicidal, but occasional homicidal. It's not constant, but obviously it's bothering me.

I don't know what to think. Am I crazy, or are random terrible thoughts normal? I'm practically a pacifist, I love life, I'm generally happy and outgoing. I'm successful. What gives?

I have always struggled a little with self-esteem issues, trust issues, and mild bouts of depression/anxiety, but compared to the rest of my family, I've always felt like the normal one. (My mom is a mess, bipolar, depressed, anxiety, etc. but she was abused and had a fucked up childhood. My brother has anxiety and once tried to kill himself, but he just took a bunch of Tylenol so they say it was just a cry for help).

To be clear, I don't hear voices or anything like that. Just like mini-daydream type thoughts. And I always feel terrible and sad during/afterwards.

I have decent insurance, but if this isn't something to worry about I don't want it on my record. So is this normal? Should I be concerned and go see a psychiatrist?
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Jenny Duckfuck - Sun, 25 Jun 2017 06:14:59 EST ID:FwheuJ8x No.517061 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Chop some wood or something
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Rebecca Bunnerstadge - Sun, 25 Jun 2017 16:20:10 EST ID:+dh3eEfF No.517071 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I think what you're describing is pretty normal, as long as it doesn't get further than simple thoughts. If you start to get more of an urge type of thing you should probably seek help.
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Barnaby Clenninglack - Mon, 26 Jun 2017 01:43:11 EST ID:e1ptL1WV No.517076 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I think what you are describing is head space. Why is it that when people took acid they did that. Or when you hallucinate you're body and to a certain extent a piece of logic rebels and acts practical. It's because you have thoughts that take up space or pay rent. And when extra effort is needed sometimes you yourself act even when stressed. Despite being under duress. When you are going to sleep that's you're mind saying i'm free. That it runs into terrors and abuse however imagined upon itself or others that you as a conscience detect as unhealthy. Is more stress for you to create.


I don't neccesarily think you need help any less than any person does. I think this is almost a physical need articulating itself in your concious ego about the belief we need help. you need a talk or self talk to understand you wouldn't do this. And whatever part of your thoughts that deals with horror and fear. Is almost literally an issue for depth psychology.

But it's somewhat the idea that the jungian psychology pointed out. It's additional work on your self.

It's not neccessarily your concious or rational psyche or the part of the water that became ice that made it out of the water that you can see in the light of day.

It pretty is a vivid extended terror from paranormal activity.

nightmares and night terrors are things you almost experience. And it's odd people don't talk about experiencing fear and the supportive way through that. BUt you are a thinking thing, i would suggest thinking through this, and try not to put yourself through distress. Unless you think there is some spirtual reason to go that is apart of this ineffable heart you are experiencing.
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Augustus Fonkinhood - Tue, 27 Jun 2017 09:54:11 EST ID:Oc0QiVvJ No.517092 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>I'm practically a pacifist, I love life, I'm generally happy and outgoing. I'm successful. What gives?
When you consciously define yourself in manner that rejects "negativity" like this it often comes at the cost of self-deception or delusion. Everything else is denied so often that it grows like a cancer that seeks outlets to express itself where it cannot be denied- your dreams and the like, and it grows in intensity so that it cannot be ignored.

Aggression is usually a sign that you are desperate for change. Remember that "coping" is something that is fairly new, in the evolutionary sense. It is always a betrayal of either the part of our will we cannot manifest or the part of our will that another part of us is uncomfortable with manifesting, it's inherently dishonest, it's the superimposition of an external will over an internal one, although this is not necessarily a bad thing. This kind of "splitting", the unconditioned self versus the conditioned self, creates your own internal enemy (who you may come around to see as a friend), who is quietly oppressed and, therefore, fights as someone who is quietly oppressed, through terrorism and guerilla warfare.

I think what you need to do, instead of reinforcing this belief that you are a pacifist, that you love life, and that you're happy (all of which may be true, but seems a little too dutiful and socially accepted to be entirely true, no offense) in hopes that it will make your aggressive thoughts go away, is to think about what you hate, why you might be angry or why you would want to kill yourself or your family without recoiling from those thoughts. Those could also be symbols of a more generalized anger, and probably are, so a more generalized question might help, such as "what do you want to change?" Compared to many of our ancestors we spend our whole lives so locked down that we almost believe we cannot change anything without going through approved channels (an insult to the self who always seeks to act with or without approval). When you can see those reasons clearly, without having a reflexive impulse to withdraw from them, you can try to solve them from a more rational persp…
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Augustus Fonkinhood - Tue, 27 Jun 2017 10:08:51 EST ID:Oc0QiVvJ No.517094 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517092
And if you want to approach the "what do you want to change?" question from a more positive angle, you could ask yourself "what would make you happy?" without coming from a position where you assume that you already are because you think it's "right" or you're afraid of being "unhealthy", or because you "should be" considering all of the things you "have" that others do not. Go to a place where you do not judge the answers to these questions. If you ask yourself "what would make you happy" and something that is morally questionable pops up, that's okay, you're now at a point where you can take the root desire and attempt to compromise with your morals, a kind of internal diplomacy, rather than deny that desire outright, or you can go deeper and dissect that desire (everything is made of smaller moving parts) so you can figure out why you have it and try to disassemble it from there.

You got some mind reunifying to do. Most people will dismiss these things as "normal" but normal does not exist, and if something is causing you pain, its supposed normalcy does not justify it.


Waves of madness by Jarvis Dreddlestat - Mon, 26 Jun 2017 13:20:01 EST ID:sA+NYDBw No.517080 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey 420chan,
Havent posted for a while but i am hoping that someone can share some advice.
I am 23 yo male who has not accomplisehd to much in life. Most of my life has been party. Like the lyrics in ''Kazantip - Drugs''.
I am not by any means ugly or the kind of person who keeps sitting at home thinking no one likes me. I have a really REALLY pretty and smart girlfriend who is supportive and i ´have alot of people in my ''circle'', altough around 2-4 good friends i can rely on. I have IT education and have never been in a state where i dont have any money but that is only thanks to my dad.
At the moment i am looking for a job but for some reason i am in a deep depression. Finished military this summer (was there for 1 year, you have to go before the age of 27 here in Northern Europe) and i cant take the lifestyle anymore that i had. Everything feels like dead end. I dont want to see any of the people that i used to hang out with. I am quite sure that i have done parament damage to my mental health anyways so party party pary, work ,party ... seems so so pointless and bad for me.
I have 2 homes, one near the capital, other near seaside in the countryside. I cant stand the city life anymore. But at the countryside there are only low level jobs and i know i can do better than that. I want to get somewhere in my life not just hang out like most of the people around me.
At the moment i get these waves of depression or madness. At one point i can think that everything is up to me and i can change things and be happy than i feel like everything is pointless. I mean so pointless that i feel like the only thing important to me atm, my girlfriend, shouldnt be with me since i am such a failure and am jealous of everything and destroying this releationship ... But than again in like 1 sec period i can get hold of myself and everything is fine. I have constant headache because 1 sec is enough to change my mindset completely. And this can happen 3-6 times in a day.
I have had these kind of things whole my life.At the moment it is just peaking again. Could be because i have been abused many times or atleast i have tought so . I am that kind of guy who alot of girls like but alot of g…
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Shit Shittingdock - Mon, 26 Jun 2017 13:32:52 EST ID:erhGJy4z No.517081 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517080
I think you know a lot of what you need to solve.

I would also suggesting finding a career. Shop around a bit, try jobs. Try to find something that uses skills you like using, does something worthwhile and allows you to grow and progress. When you find it be prepared to put time in.

Your drug addiction is probably a coping mechanism. Just bear this in mind. It's not working properly AND it's stopping you actually fixing shit and seeing how bad things are. Be prepared for therapy (not necessarily meds but just learning to cope with your shit).

What do you actually enjoy aside from "Partying"?
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Jarvis Dreddlestat - Mon, 26 Jun 2017 15:25:31 EST ID:sA+NYDBw No.517082 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517081
That is one of my biggest issues. There arent any sports that i am interested in (Except maybe rally) but that takes huge amounts of money which i dont have.In the past did photography. Still have my nikon d3100 which i havent touched in 2 years.
My only real deep interest in life would be something physichs releated. I am sure we have free energy everywhere around us. Working for something similar etc. My dream would be to make a difference. Not to stay in the history books but to somehow help this place...
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Shit Shittingdock - Mon, 26 Jun 2017 18:23:55 EST ID:erhGJy4z No.517083 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517082
Well I don't like sports but I exercise and enjoy walking. It sounds like you need to get a library book and start researching physics. Maybe trying to make a career of that.

Nothing wrong with shallow interests though as well, like music, cooking, art, drama or something else along those lines. Creating or just getting into. Arts need patrons.

Same goes with the physics too. If you're not a natural physicist you shouldn't stop learning about it, but you may make the best contribution possible by instead advocating it. Lobby for solar energy, or save money and research then invest in a viable new way of generating power. Find a career working supporting physicists maybe you're better cut out to be an engineer making the ideas real, or maybe nothing so mighty. Remember not everyone can be the guy to make the big difference. Take Hawking for example, if we didn't have the societal structure in place that we did, he'd have had to build a house and hunt for game instead of going learning to read or going to Cambridge. He'd have died within a few years without carers and people making food and everything from the people in the hospital carrying the tray to his bed, to the people who designed his wheelchair, fuck to the people who sell them their dinner you know?

What I'm saying is try to live your dream. It's great you have one. But if you can't live it don't lose heart, you can still work towards it. I mean we all work towards it indirectly as long as someone is doing it but go one better and do it directly. Use your talents to contribute in whatever the most positive way you can is. Strive towards it. First figure out your options and capabilities and then work at the most effective path you can take.
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Cedric Cottingfere - Tue, 27 Jun 2017 02:18:01 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.517088 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You remind me of myself when I was your age Jarvis.

I still have a bit of it in me, but it's been diminishing due to the situation I've found myself in.

I also want to make a difference, make the world a better place, be somebody noteworthy, influence my environment with my own hand and earn the respect of my peers. Look on my works ye mighty and despair!

Digressive quote, popped into my head.

Anyways, at my best I believe I can make the world bend to my knees and force progress through sheer will. I've had great success early on as a chemist in my field; progress made in 4 years that some never see in a decade. But where I'm at right now is at my worst, where I can see the paths and the ways to move forward towards and progress on them, but I'm afraid to make the wrong choice. I spend too much time deliberating on them, and I let that time slip away. The more time I let slip away, the more paths close to me, and my options grow fewer. And then I start to justify this behavior with existential futility; I'm going to die anyways, humanity will cease to exist long before the universe collapses in on itself, and existence is meaningless.

So I dunno, I think I'm depressed. I didn't have a drink today. That was a step in the right direction. I'm not going to drink this week and see how I feel. So far, I have more energy and I am coherent right now even though it is 1 AM. I will start exercising again tomorrow, and get start solving my problems.

Maybe I just need to feel like I'm in control of my life again. Maybe that's what you're lacking in your own?

By the way, I was abused at a young age as well. Nothing pedoish, just, abused. It took me a while to get my head on straight after leaving that mess, but I did it. What I want to say about that is, don't wear that abuse on your sleeve. It's not you. You make you, they don't.
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Betsy Blythestock - Tue, 27 Jun 2017 12:51:56 EST ID:UEiL/fUz No.517096 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517084
Well I was being slightly facetious/conceding that not all people see it that way.

Basically when I'm not at work I live for music.


Sex so good it made me think by Ernest Grandstone - Mon, 26 Jun 2017 06:27:33 EST ID:jk+N8PCX No.517077 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So my ex-girlfriend broke my heart it was really fucked but hey look it's not like I was a saint and it's not like I didn't think I'd be fine and so she fucked a bunch of guys that hurt. And anyway we came together after 6 months and it was a reunion of sorts before she left to follow her dreams sure I said, I'm following mine, I can follow mine anywhere and right here is just fine but she's coming back and while she's been gone she's been saying how much she loves me.

I told her I would hold to no code while she was gone I said look it hurt that you fucked that many guys and frankly I kinda didn't I had this thing with this one girl and we fucked a bunch of times but there it ends for me.

So anyway I just fucked my ex-girlfriends long time friend or old friend you might say, they haven't spoken in years and I really liked it and as strange as this girl is, definitely strange, she was enthusiastic you know and very engaged with me and I actually want to text her again I'm trying not to right now and actually I won't but 2 things:

  1. I feel guilty and I think I should, would you?
  2. I wanna fuck this girl again and I actually think like oh fuck I might like her and I don't wanna text her because I think it's pretty clear she's not into that so I guess really it's either text her or not but I think if I don't that like nothing will happen ever again and I don't want that...


Chick wants a sperm donor, how to suggest my dick instead? by Angus Dockleham - Mon, 26 Jun 2017 00:26:26 EST ID:pXo6ANrc No.517074 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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What's up /qq/

The astute shitposter may recognize my ID, I've posted before about a couple girls I've been interested and everybody just keeps wanting to talk about Amy. Well, I was at her apartment last night and she's fucking gone, man, she moved in with her abusive stallion boyfriend in a different city. So IDK, she's out of my world at this point, I will always love her but at this point I need someone who actually doesn't hate me, I'm going to a festival with a couple beautiful chicks, one is the same one I made the first thread about her old roommate, hopefully something happens, I really need someone.

ANYWAY THATS NEITHER HERE NOR THERE.

So there is this girl, she is a friend of the family, her mom is BFFs with my mom, my mom's her godmother and her mom's my godmother, idk if that makes us anything but I've known her for years, since I was a little kid. She's around 10 years older than me, I'm 25 she's in her mid 30s, and she has some serious health problems, she has cystic fibrosis or something maybe not as bad as that but she's been in the hospital twice this year, and of course she's reaching that age where the clock is ticking. She's a really sweet girl, doesn't do drugs or anything but she is pretty weird and super disorganized, she's been single most of her life.

Anyway I heard from my dad that she is considering going to a sperm bank to get pregnant. This just seems like the silliest thing ever to me, I mean why use a sperm bank, it's so unnatural, it's skipping over the best part! I have some pretty high tier genetics, I'm good looking and have a high IQ but I'm also healthy, free from any genetic illnesses and have perfect teeth and eyesight. And I'd be more than happy to help her get pregnant the natural way. I just don't really know how to begin to bring it up.

I have her mom on facebook, but I don't have any direct way of getting in contact with her, she just talks to my mom. And if I did get in touch with her, what would I say? Hey, I heard you're trying to get pregnant, can I help you out?

She doesn't have a lot of money, but I trust her to do her own thing and not really depend on me, it wouldn't be like a relationship thing just helping her out, I'd be fine playing a distant role in the kid's life, better than just having no father at all anyway. And please don't get me wrong, it's not a sexual attraction thing, really, she's like 10 years older than me and has health problems, she's cute but not nearly as hot as the kind of girl I'd hook up with. I just think it makes a lot more sense and would be a lot better to knock a baby up in her naturally than to go to some clinic and use some stranger's sperm. She does live pretty far away from me but it would be worth the trip to help her out.

And I mean, not to be egoistic or anything just being real, it'd probably be the best sex of her life.
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Priscilla Crubberwotch - Mon, 26 Jun 2017 00:42:23 EST ID:NRaT4THS No.517075 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517074
Yeah man hit her up, ask for her number because you're interested in her illness or something. Pretend she's Amy and name the kid Amy
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Shit Shittingdock - Mon, 26 Jun 2017 13:02:12 EST ID:erhGJy4z No.517078 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517074
Don't pass on your defective genes you delusional fuckwit.


bad by Rebecca Billynug - Sun, 25 Jun 2017 21:52:19 EST ID:oDTPSWsG No.517073 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I decided that my story is so sick and depressing that it would be wrong for me to post it here. This can't be real life. I must ommit graphic or identifying details.

The woman I love is being raped and tortured right now and there is nothing anyone can do because she protects her captor. If the law got involved she would likely be imprisoned. Her fear of police was one of the things that fuel her situation.

I don't know where she is any more, but I do know the man that took her. Her father and I are ready to do anything to get her back.

Most of all I am frozen and afraid.

I cannot grasp the mistakes we are capable of as people. I am both stunned and restless now feeling existence is a snowball of chaos collecting ever more errors only ever increasing. There is no opposite of corruption for humans.


Alone by Graham Shakespear - Thu, 22 Jun 2017 13:22:53 EST ID:Gt9Uwuno No.517012 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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My 26th birthday was yesterday. I had an opportunity to see a bunch of free music shows downtown because it was a city-wide event. But instead I sat around at home alone because going out to enjoy myself felt awkward without anybody to join me. I only have one friend anymore, we don't normally have time to stems together. I've never had a boyfriend or a girlfriend, and I'm beginning to feel like my own social awkwardness and hesitation to put myself into social circumstances will keep me lonely and isolated for the rest of my life...

I don't even know if I'm trying to ask anything here. I guess I just wanted to vent in the most appropriate place.
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Jenny Duckfuck - Sun, 25 Jun 2017 06:13:21 EST ID:FwheuJ8x No.517060 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>I had an opportunity to see a bunch of free music shows downtown because it was a city-wide event. But instead I sat around at home alone because going out to enjoy myself felt awkward without anybody to join me. I only have one friend anymore

Woo, sounds like me the entire time I was 26. And the couple months I've been 27....
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Cornelius Pickbury - Sun, 25 Jun 2017 08:46:39 EST ID:1gW4Jdzu No.517063 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517059

Thanks man, I was actually starting to tear up and cry a little writing that message last night. Just you reaching out to me like that means that much more. God I need someone like you. I really feel like message boards and you amazing group of people are the only one's wiling to listen and give good advice.

Whenever I try to speak about my problems with parents/so called friends everyone always says, "Ryan, no one wants to listen to your problems, it drives them away and makes them less interested in you." So what? Am I just suppose to talk about boring hobbies and shit in life that really makes no difference, change or effect on the way we live?? fucking MENTAL HEALTH does and is becoming a MASSIVE problem in our world today. Fuck the ignorance and the people that shame Mental Health talk.


Its how we work through are problems you fucking retards.
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William Fandlelutch - Sun, 25 Jun 2017 09:04:16 EST ID:9vn86lM+ No.517064 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517063

I think the main thing is everyone has problems, everyone but they dont talk about them because its kind of a shit conversation, i mean if you want help then by al means, but if all you talk about is your problems then thats kind of awful so yes, talk abou tboring hobbies because to some people those hobbies arent boring.

Just take responsibility and mayeb if you went and did stuff you would have other things to talk about to people, so maybe you should go to music things alone, maybe you should go do things by yourself and maybe make some friends doing things you enjoy?

Also you already answered this question but i think you took it to mean what are your friendships like currently, but what are your ecpectations of a friend? talk every day? talk about deep feelings and emotions? do things together all the time?
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William Hirrylutch - Sun, 25 Jun 2017 12:04:52 EST ID:sgAknKwL No.517067 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517064
Oh, you're asking me (OP)? Well... When it comes to expectations of a friend, I guess it depends on what level of activity/interaction said friend would prefer. I try not to impose on people, mostly because I know what it's like to be imposed on. Ideally, of I weren't dealing with a lot of personal stress or verbal harassment, then I think if like to hang out with my one friend more often than I do (which is about once every 2-3weeks these days since they work). I don't expect friends to communicate with me every day or do things with me all the time, only really at their convenience.
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William Hirrylutch - Sun, 25 Jun 2017 12:06:52 EST ID:sgAknKwL No.517068 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517067
Then I think I'd like to*

Nb spelling correction.


Why My Dick Is Brown and My Hands Grew 3 inches wider In 3 Months by Nicholas Sopperfone - Mon, 15 May 2017 05:33:07 EST ID:Cj19AF5d No.516244 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Anyone know why this would happen to me? If you saw my dick and hands you would say wow. And Im afraid to show girls and other people too. I showed one girl my dick and she got very confused and just sat with it in front of her for what felt like hours. Situations like this make me second guess everything and now My hands are so big I can't even reach in my pocket to get chapstick or anything else. Last week I was in a room with 3 girls and no guys and we all wanted to smoke weed. We were all waiting for me to pull the weed out of my pocket with a pipe and lighter but I reached and reached but nothing happened. Everyone got real quiet and all the eyes in the room slowly turned to me and I still couldn't pull my hands out of my damn pockets. I felt like such a dumbass because I hate when that happens and I really want to do something about it and change my life but What the fuck am I supposed to do in this situation. I thought about telling my dad but he gets super pissed whenever I bring up the discoloration of my dick so I can't really do that again. It was so hot yesterday I almost fell down while mowing the lawn and I could hear the neighbor kids laughing at me and people would not help me up for a couple hours. I don't think that is related but I really don't know. If anyone thinks they can solve this problem please tell me how and I will do it. Anything.
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Sophie Duttingsedging - Fri, 16 Jun 2017 05:16:23 EST ID:Cj19AF5d No.516924 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Can anyone please come up with the solution and please tell me why this is still happening to me. Yes I am the OP. Yes this is still happening to me, and my dick never seems to stop getting brown. I saw an episode of mtv true life where a white man has a brown dick. This is just like me. If you have seen this episode or know the answer to this situation please tell me as soon as possible. Does anyone know if there will be a discharge that is accompanied by my discoloration.
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Martha Lightwell - Fri, 16 Jun 2017 06:22:05 EST ID:FvO+8Y5G No.516925 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516924
honestly some guys have dicks pigmented differently from the rest of their body. mine is a little darker too. if you've got discolored cum though you need to see a doctor. bloody cum is srs bsns.
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Hedda Herringforth - Fri, 23 Jun 2017 19:43:00 EST ID:FucrEdSx No.517036 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516924
Why don't you go to a god damn doctor op?
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Caroline Clummerridge - Sun, 25 Jun 2017 10:05:14 EST ID:AmB+bPnM No.517065 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Idk man, get our dick bleached like Michael Jackson and buy clothing with bigger pockets?
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Charlotte Sebberson - Sun, 25 Jun 2017 11:45:40 EST ID:gXEOxC68 No.517066 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>516244
how old are you? mens hands grow before their arms follow up growing, because of testosterone. which is why most men growing up have their hands in their pockets, they are unnaturally big and it feels weird.

>I almost fell down while mowing the lawn and I could hear the neighbor kids laughing at me and people would not help me up for a couple hours

why would anyone help you up when you only almost fell down? are you delusional? dumb question, but maybe you are hallucinating this? any major drug abuse recently?

the situation with your fiends seemed kind of like it could happen in my head too. people just look, they don't always judge, take it easy! not as easily done as said, but try not overthinking..


Despair by Nicholas Dartville - Sat, 24 Jun 2017 21:18:02 EST ID:UrQwPY3E No.517052 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So... I have two issues going on. I broke up (rather was broken up) by this girl I dated some months on March/April (things looked sour a lot sooner, but that was the date it ended). Since then I've been rather depressed, sad, lazy, and an overall fuck up (failed every subject, training much much less, buying/doing drugs again, drinking more often). I've been out with three girls and fucked one since then (I've actually fucked like one time since january, the last time I had sex with my ex)

Basically most of the stuff I was doing lost it's meaning, because I was partially giving meaning to them through the eyes of my ex. Now I find myself in despair and I don't know what to do. I feel everything I do is an attempt not to fall into nothingness. Everything stems out of a desperate need to feel better, not to feel alone, and not to think about her. I just don't do things out of enjoyment anymore. Everything I do is out of necessitiy. Necessity of escaping, of moving towards something different, of changing places and positions. I just feel I'm hanging from a cliff clinging to the rocks with one finger, and desperetly trying to climb up, but I never get to the top, and I'm always on the verge of falling

The other issue is rather banal, but it's obviously related. I feel alone. I have a ton of friends, and I see them pretty much everyday. That's not the issue. I just want to really like someone, and be liked by her/him. But I can't find anyone. I have a couple girls that have shown interest in me, but I don't feel like just having sex. I want to be with someone I actually like. Now, I don't know if I'm listening to myself, or if I'm simply shutting off frome the outside. I mean, It'd probably do me really good to have sex, I haven't gotten laid in almost 4 months, but I just don't want to do it with someone I don't like or at least find really attractive. I dunno... should I bang everything that crosses my path? Is that a better way to get better? Or should I keep doing what I'm doing until I find someone I like?
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Betsy Drurrywill - Sun, 25 Jun 2017 00:08:49 EST ID:Uc3v3vtk No.517057 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>517052

There's no right answer here. Everyone is different. I just got out of a two-year engagement (together for four). I live hours away from all of my old friends/family, so when I found myself pursued once I was single, I went with it. The first date (after a couple weeks being alone) was horrible. I wasn't ready. They were too forward and pushy. I ended it early and cut them off. The second date (after a couple more weeks) was still a little awkward, but the chemistry was better so I went with it. Had sex four times in 24 hours. Had fun, but it did nothing for me except make me realize I still miss my ex.

So naturally, I decided to try and get back with my ex. They're open to the idea, but not yet. So that was a rough rejection.

Anyway, if you think you're ready, go for it. Get laid. See if it helps. Go on some dates, even if you're not sure about them. But more than anything, take care of yourself. Work out. Eat right. Be productive. Stop doing drugs/drinking heavily (moderation is okay, but if you included it as a problem, then it is). Go to class. Talk to people. Enjoy being single. Flirt. When you meet the right person, don't hesitate. But don't force it either.


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