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How should I feel about the fact that I'm a shallow person? by Augustus Pittbury - Sat, 28 Jan 2017 11:33:59 EST ID:KQedAOUJ No.512802 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I just broke up with a girl I've been dating for the last 3 months. Now she wasn't ideal but if I'm being honest the main reason I broke up with her is because she's not sexually attractive enough (fat, doesn't really take care of her appearance beyond the basics, doesn't really care about how she looks). I thought about trying to do things like go on runs/walks together and learn how to cook at home instead of eating out but she doesn't have a strong enough will power for that, I know she wouldn't have been able to keep at it. I'm a good looking guy btw, the attractiveness "gap" between us was quite considerable. If she had the exact same qualities but was also hot I could see myself dating her for a lot longer, maybe even marrying her.
I thought I was the kind of person who could love someone for their personality but I guess I'm not. So am I douchebag who should try to change or is it fine and doesn't make me a bad person so I should just accept it?
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Esther Bemblebanks - Sat, 28 Jan 2017 12:15:04 EST ID:ehhnNOgT No.512803 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512802
Congratulations, this means you're a human being! Or maybe I should be saying my condolences in case you always wished you were an alien. In either case, don't feel guilty about not being attracted to what you're not attracted to because you can't really help it. Attraction is a big part of a relationship, and if you're not both attracted to each other in similar amounts, it causes major problems. You did the right thing.
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Rebecca Muddleway - Sat, 28 Jan 2017 13:58:11 EST ID:g8o4GfIn No.512804 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>I thought about trying to do things like go on runs/walks together and learn how to cook at home instead of eating out but she doesn't have a strong enough will power for that, I know she wouldn't have been able to keep at it.

That is part of her personality. You aren't being shallow if the thing you're attracted to isn't the body, but the will to get the body.
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Basil Lightway - Sat, 28 Jan 2017 14:32:51 EST ID:vwRkB4lV No.512805 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>I broke up with my girlfriend because i wasn't attracted to her

I dont see the problem


Hey /qq/ I need your help by Martin Fallynut - Wed, 25 Jan 2017 22:15:48 EST ID:WCiWyIpM No.512727 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So, I'm a guy rooming with two girls. It's normally ok.
Thing is, I'm jealous, because one of them is on a date right now and I can hear them talking in the next room. I think I "fall in love", for lack of a better term, too easily. Real talk: I'm coming out of loserdom, depression, anxiety, what have you. I don't do well with women, nor do I really try. I'm in my mid 20s. I know I'm jealous because of my own issues. More real talk: I haven't done the things in my life that I want to do, I'm feeling like a lesser person because I'm not striving for things. I've been holed up in my life, and I feel like garbage compared to other people. That being said, I'm not gonna be very happy if I can hear her blowing him and I have to bang on the damn wall.

I don't want to care about this shit. She's a cute girl but we don't even connect that well. I've got enough on my plate, school and whatever, but it seems I'm obligated to put up with this. Maybe it's for the best though, because it's showing me what's toxic in my being. Even still, what do I do?

I guess I can try to be out oh the house more often. And I guess I'm particularly upset about it right now because I got 4 hours of sleep last night; any bad habits of mine make my life hell so they're being cut out.
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Eliza Cleffingdick - Thu, 26 Jan 2017 09:07:24 EST ID:583UPQsG No.512743 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512738
Tbh I'd rather be gay
Too bad I want to the ass of every hot girl and I don't like penis :(
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Ernest Chinningtad - Thu, 26 Jan 2017 10:00:51 EST ID:qDgNA3C6 No.512744 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512740

I think it would be perfectly reasonable to just say basically what you suggested, but without the last bit. Just say, "Sorry if I was a bit unfriendly or rude earlier, I don't want you to think I hate you or anything, I was just having a bad day." Then you can apologise for being short with her without unloading baggage. Any reasonable person would be totally chill with that.
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Martin Fallynut - Thu, 26 Jan 2017 18:48:14 EST ID:WCiWyIpM No.512747 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512744
So I just did it, she said she didn't notice I was being any sort of a jerk.

wew

At least I was brave. Thanks for chatting.
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Frederick Futtingfuck - Fri, 27 Jan 2017 10:50:04 EST ID:f3p2z4Lf No.512756 Ignore Report Quick Reply
just befriend them, its a step in the right direction and this is the perfect opportunity
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Augustus Semmerchock - Fri, 27 Jan 2017 21:17:46 EST ID:UrQwPY3E No.512783 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512756
Yeah man, you're living with two chicks. If you become friends with them, you can met their friends, or they can set you up or something. Having girl friends is the easiest way to get laid


meh. by Hannah Blaffinghudge - Fri, 27 Jan 2017 13:06:07 EST ID:28NI7ySB No.512760 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I hate working so fucking much. It's so pathetic because I am a great worker but one day I will just wake and decide it's not happening. Maybe I'm not happy with my relationship and living situation. Maybe it's because I've gone so long without fucking up and getting high that I feel I need some sort of release and turning off my phone and fucking off my responsibilities is the only way I feel in control.

I feel like I'm becoming someone I used to loathe. I don't know who I am anymore or what I want.
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Ernest Turveywell - Fri, 27 Jan 2017 16:36:51 EST ID:buDodtmC No.512770 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I feel your pain. I cant fucking stand working, meanwhile I got a decent fulltime job a few months back thats dreadfully boring. I mean its not really that bad but its a fucking job and Id rather be doing anything but working. When nobody is watching me I will start pacing back and forth because I enjoy that a lot more.

I did the
>shits not happenin
once in highschool and that was enough to teach me that when you dont do things youre supposed to do the world doesnt automatically forget about it and give you free SSI. unless you want to leech off your parents till they die of course

you got any long term NEET plans? if youre working n makin dosh, you might as well be using your money to set yourself up in the future.
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Reuben Creblingstune - Fri, 27 Jan 2017 17:42:33 EST ID:IpccH+D5 No.512771 Ignore Report Quick Reply
How many hours are you working a week?
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Hannah Blaffinghudge - Fri, 27 Jan 2017 18:41:43 EST ID:28NI7ySB No.512774 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512771

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WTF is a relationship by Mass Debator - Thu, 26 Jan 2017 05:33:49 EST ID:Mex/QNR9 No.512741 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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21 year old raised by a single mom that never had a bedroom until I was 18.
This seems pointless to me and I bet you probably think this isn't a weird issue but here it is..
Moving on, i dont understand whats wrong with me. I was blessed with good genetics and am actually decent looking blue eyes good jawline (skinny af however). Growing up I had a fair share of girls that always start to initiate something with the Ole slap happy dialogue, but for some reason I could never buy in. The nonstop happiness, the blissful manic energy, it all seemed so stupid to me. I still can't now. I grew up a loner despite being able to have a conversation about anything with anyone if I REALLY wanted to and becausr of this i have never been in a relationship in my LIFE. i have had sex, however those that know the number will tell you it's not enough. The problem here is that I don't know how to emotionally connect with someone like that. I never learned how to tell someone you like them or how to start a relationship. I'm 21 and I feel like a child as everyone around me is getting into relationships left right and sideways and if they're not they at least had one in the past. I confidently can say if one got to know me and i got comfortable enough, id be a great boyfriend. But It's like I am too comfortable being by myself. Recent years there have been several girls that showed interest in me that I talked to, but I had no clue how to handle it or what to do moving forward and extreme anxiety kicked in and I stopped replying to their texts and started slowly pushing them away (of course after which they cut me off as they should probably thinking I'm a douche). The crazy part is they were pretty much sold on me I just didn't know what to do. I cry, I feel, but like not with anyone else, only by myself, I also get happy, but again rarely with someone else. It's not even that I'm depressed about, I just wanna know what it's like to just have someone to claim yours. The good girls I do see and instantly prematurely gain feelings for I feel like im not in their league mentally because of my lack of relatjonship experience, and I am afraid to be my normal self, and the not so goo…
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Eliza Cleffingdick - Thu, 26 Jan 2017 09:01:39 EST ID:583UPQsG No.512742 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512741
Nothing wrong with being alone, my dude. Society will paint and ostracize you as some nefarious depressed anti-social freak but its cool

It'd be dope to have some relationship that entails that 'soulmate' shit but that seems to be a hollywood romanticisation

do you bruh
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Shitting Druvingbitch - Fri, 27 Jan 2017 02:31:22 EST ID:rBZAFHJz No.512753 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512742

I lost my soulmate, he emotionally abused me then abandoned me and left me to die. I wouldn't be sad in the least if he got struck before I hang :)

Relationships are overrated, I can't even watch a show anymore without having intrusive thoughts, everything's a reminder, every emotion has been hijacked lol. Oh well ima CTB soon.
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John Tillingworth - Fri, 27 Jan 2017 06:14:57 EST ID:hhQhcuad No.512754 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512753
Soulmates don't exist. Souls don't exist. We're not destined for anyone though some people are VERY compatible with us and appreciate us. Anyone who abuses you and abandons you and leaves you to die isn't a soulmate.

I had a "best friend" do this to me a few years ago. My life since they cut me out has only gotten better and better. Get your therapy (and if you were willing to project this much significance on to a piece of shit you needed it BEFORE let alone now), sort your head, onwards and upwards.


/BWQQ/ by Rebecca Borryman - Tue, 24 Jan 2017 13:05:07 EST ID:583UPQsG No.512687 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Bump when /qq/ - gif very much related

Big thread for small problems that you all don't want to make your own threads about

S/o to that dude who posted Taylor Swift pics and started this shit
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Archie Buzzlegold - Wed, 25 Jan 2017 19:50:43 EST ID:z2/FukLH No.512725 Ignore Report Quick Reply
no money. no drugs. no friends. why live
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Hugh Gisslepin - Thu, 26 Jan 2017 00:45:21 EST ID:H1XDCk6P No.512730 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512725
All overrated.
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Samuel Bardfield - Thu, 26 Jan 2017 01:05:33 EST ID:wcR9wfzO No.512731 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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I feel like I have to move to a different town since I've been here for almost seven years and it is stagnant for me, but I have no idea where to move to. I am also not emotionally prepared enough to leave behind my two friends, who I have known for several years and I don't think that I can replace them. I'm at the age where you can't really make friends anymore, but I don't really want new friends anyway.

I'm a NEET, so I don't have to get a job (I'm not rich; just know how to live on very little money). That, and my father and his girlfriend live in the same town, and I get the feeling that I'm going to have to run away from that soon, because that whole thing has been causing me personal drama for years. But I really don't know what to do.
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Archie Buzzlegold - Thu, 26 Jan 2017 01:37:57 EST ID:z2/FukLH No.512732 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512730
I'm pretty sure homeless people don't think money is overrated. I don't think a drug addict would say drugs are overrated. And I bet a lonely young man could certainly do with some friends. People only say that shit is overrated if they have plenty of it... because you're taking it for granted. Next I bet you're going to say food and sex are overrated too.
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Ernest Turveywell - Fri, 27 Jan 2017 16:23:00 EST ID:buDodtmC No.512769 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512732
well, youve got people who go without them for so long they manage to convince themselves its overrated to feel better. really sad when people do that with having friends.


Rant by Hannah Genningridge - Sat, 21 Jan 2017 06:58:59 EST ID:5JYKa3yb No.512602 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I just have this feeling, that if I cry I'll be able to reset and turn everything around. Just like two hours of desperate crying, get all this fucking misery out of my system, roll around somewhat in pity and then.. Awaken.

But I can't, I'm so close, I might scream but I just can't fucking cry man!
Maybe I just need to get some likes on my instagram-account or something, and that'll make me feel validated and appreciated for a little while.
You know what? Maybe I'm just going a bit stir crazy, I haven't had the greatest time the last year and needed to vent a little bit again.
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Walter Fillyridge - Mon, 23 Jan 2017 02:06:19 EST ID:rBZAFHJz No.512644 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512642

No it doesn't. Crying is a healthy emotional release and can facilitate healing. Wtf mang?!
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Jack Pammerway - Mon, 23 Jan 2017 05:09:05 EST ID:HrwTH8ua No.512645 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Do you know any emotional songs, movie scenes or images that could cause you to cry?

Maybe if you looked at or listened to one, you could trigger yourself to open the floodgates.
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Augustus Battingham - Tue, 24 Jan 2017 06:21:35 EST ID:KaEGg9t0 No.512677 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Gabe the bork dog is dead.
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Sophie Blythestone - Wed, 25 Jan 2017 14:52:09 EST ID:nBfH6UBj No.512719 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Play that Dragon, Cancer
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Martin Fallynut - Wed, 25 Jan 2017 23:00:41 EST ID:WCiWyIpM No.512729 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Hey man. I'm not sure how you'll react to this, but I hope you'll consider it.

Try praying to God.


Sendin those signals at work by Hugh Pockledock - Wed, 25 Jan 2017 00:40:16 EST ID:NirWqON8 No.512707 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>Work at store like any other day for a year

>Customer calls in and complains I gave bad service, I don't remember who the customer was, it happened 2 days ago.

>I get yelled at from the manager on the phone.

>Supervisor is on the phone with the manager for 10 minutes. (My supervisor doesn't like me.)

>After the call the supervisor put up a 'now hiring' sign.

>Fuck.jpg

I was pretty shocked. I finished my shift strong with everything done correctly in a upbeat mood.

My frame was unshakable; I was ice cold.
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Cornelius Clayspear - Wed, 25 Jan 2017 17:14:13 EST ID:ehhnNOgT No.512723 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512707
If you have a college degree and you're working at a call center for minimum wage why the fuck would you ever give 2 shits about this job? You should be telling people to go fuck themselves and jacking it to hentai all day and if you get fired, who cares? You can easily find something better.


My Best Friend Died. Whoopdy Shit, why do you drink and ponder death? by Generic douche - Wed, 25 Jan 2017 03:36:02 EST ID:jgOjuUzW No.512711 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Best friend committed murder-suicide. He had his reasons. Don't care to rationalize his with anyone's. I just miss the bastard. He was my best friend.

I drink because its fun and easy and it distracts me from my purpose of helping those truly unfortunates by spending time and care on them.
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Martin Bladgesack - Wed, 25 Jan 2017 10:05:02 EST ID:+YBtGFdO No.512714 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Yeah, same here minus the murder part. Your situation sounds a little more extreme than mine.

Quit drinking op, you'll end up in rehab and fucking up your entire life, seek help
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Graham Murdford - Wed, 25 Jan 2017 11:49:18 EST ID:583UPQsG No.512716 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512711
Out of curiosity, what did he do?
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Emma Grandlock - Wed, 25 Jan 2017 15:27:39 EST ID:R+BAvHul No.512720 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512716
I talked about this here before when it happened and after

He was a heroin addict. He was also selling me sheets of acid for super cheap every week. We always had money and always were trippin

One night we dropped and had a drink. He went home and did some heroin and hung himself. His brother found him the next morning
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Generic douche - Wed, 25 Jan 2017 17:01:16 EST ID:jgOjuUzW No.512721 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512716
He played gutair, played chess and magic. He rode his custom-built motorcycle and toyed around with his guns that he knew nothing about. We built forts together and even though i was twice his size, we fought. And he drank and did drugs a lot.
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Generic douche - Wed, 25 Jan 2017 17:02:53 EST ID:jgOjuUzW No.512722 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512720
Fella, I think you're thinking of someone else. Tell your story anyways.


required by Esther Clayshaw - Tue, 24 Jan 2017 01:52:15 EST ID:OC+eiKg6 No.512673 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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My girlfriend can't find a job after over a year of searching, her visa is about to run out and she will be forced to leave the country and go home; She is incredibly smart and beautiful but she can't find a sponsor. She made it her mission to make me feel responsible and she is a little right considering we've been dating for years. I don't want to marry her and I've been biding my time for months because we can't seem to break up and leave each other alone. I thought she would have gone back by now but she's still here and every day is suffering for the both of us. She is continually anxious and on the verge of breaking down and going back to her home country is the last thing she wants to do. Nothing can make her happy and every day it's the same sad story, every week a new rejection letter from a company that can't afford to hire her. She wants my help but I'm powerless except for asking her to marry me. She keeps asking for reasons why I don't and then blames me for all the suffering she has gone through. I feel so stuck and the only thing I can do is wait for all this shit to go away so I can be myself again, she naturally feels abandoned because she is being forced to give up everything about the last 4+ years of her life.

It's hard for me to complain because of all the shit she has to go through. She's been rejected hundreds of times, she has to leave/sell most of her stuff and clothes, she has to leave her cat behind, she has to quit her internship, she has to leave her long term relationship. She will be making less than a livable wage. I feel so selfish and heartless I've had to tell her no countless times and find every reason to justify it. I hate it.

Every day feels like hell and I just want it to stop, I feel like such a piece of shit.
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Polly Banderpat - Tue, 24 Jan 2017 07:51:40 EST ID:35+jbzpY No.512680 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Just go down to the courthouse and get yourself a marriage certificate. It's not a big deal. If y'all separate then so be it. However, you you both choose to be together afterward and want a legit wedding with all the bells and whistles, you can have one of those "vow renewal ceremonies" which act just th3 same as a wedding and is just as lavish.
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Esther Clayshaw - Tue, 24 Jan 2017 14:15:46 EST ID:OC+eiKg6 No.512689 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512678
noted

>>512680
You're right but it's actually not that simple, my state requires we both have valid US identification that proves we live in the state which we do not, we would have to go to Vegas or some shit.

Because she already has a valid visa the process is typically a little simpler, we would file an I-130, I-485, maybe a work authorization form. These are not cheap and cost roughly $1300+ just to file.

Once they process the form we will be asked to do an interview where I will be asked to sign an affidavit of support. I will have to prove that my income is >20k a year, I will have to report to the immigration office every time we move, I will have to guarantee that she does not require government financial assistance up until she becomes a US citizen (5-6 years). If we divorce I am still obligated to uphold the affidavit. If in the next 6 years we decide to divorce her citizenship status will be put at risk although if she has a greencard we can still prove the love was real.

The biggest issue right now is that I simply don't have the money, we will probably consult an immigration lawyer just to double check the paperwork. If I get a new job in the next two months I might reconsider this entire thing.


insomnia by Maya - Tue, 17 Jan 2017 01:34:19 EST ID:tCICQRX4 No.512499 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I have really bad insomnia! Is there anything I can take to knock myself out? Tonight I already took 50mg meclizine, 50mg unisom, and 10mg ambien. I also took a dropper full of ashwandagha. I'm also on lamictal, latuda, baclofen, and lyrica. (I have fibromyalgia and bipolar type 1.) I wouldn't mind being up most of the night so much if I didn't feel aimless all the time. I'd like to work on music or do the dishes but it's hard to focus or stand up. I've been spending a lot of time in bed. All I could handle today was a couple hours worth of errands...

I bought sleep tea blend at a local herb shop. I also bought an energy mix because I'm tired ALL the time. I also got licorice root and kava. I tried too many herbs at once and something interacted bad with something else. I was sicker than usual for a few days....so now I am afraid to try the sleep tea again. It has a variety of herbs in it though. It was probably the licorice root and kava that interacted, a friend said. Plus I mixed California poppy with the sleep blend. It might be okay...

How do you guys get good rest? I can't take passionflower or valerian btw.
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Thomas Gondlekat - Mon, 23 Jan 2017 13:17:49 EST ID:WCiWyIpM No.512654 Ignore Report Quick Reply
no no no
you're doing it all wrong
first, grab a hold of your butt
i'm being serious by the way
grab a hold of your butt and just
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sok grab a hold there of your butto and
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TRUST ME THAT THIS WILL CURE YOUR PROBLEMS AND PROBABLY TAKE AWAY YOUR DEPRESSION AND ISOLATION AND CURE YOUR AIDS AND GIVE YOU SUPERPOWERS AND TWO STOMACHS BUT YOU HAVE
TO
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grab a ahold there of your butto and wait for a
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wait for a big ole
TRUST
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Cyril Goffingson - Mon, 23 Jan 2017 15:33:00 EST ID:xorMz/zL No.512659 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Well, this may be too obvious but, have you talked about this with your Doctor? What did they say?
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Cyril Foshbanks - Mon, 23 Jan 2017 22:48:48 EST ID:WCiWyIpM No.512669 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512659
a doctor will tell you the same thing
grab a hold of your butt and take a big whiff of your farts


I hate my life and my relationships, can't go on any longer by Simple Dids - Sun, 22 Jan 2017 03:36:50 EST ID:+J+WMFPt No.512620 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Sorry for my bad english, I will try to write as comprehensive as possible.

Its pretty straight forward for me, until its not.

I fought hard to "make" something out of the hellhole of my life I had
(parents died, brothers and sisters in a psychic ward),
stopped doing drugs after they nearly ruined my brain and threw me into depressions,
had suicidal thoughts nearly every day (but never the guts to pull it through) horriffic nightmares nearly every night, lack of sleep ...
Couldn't find a job and made mostly some slave jobs back then.

Now I finished my education and got a certificate two years ago and I have relatively relaxed work now (compared to the other jobs I did!)
Met a girl after maybe 5 failed relationshits, and we are together since 5 years now.
She was... well relatively fat when me met to be honest.
after maybe two years in our relationship she started to work out, doing sports in the early mornings and lost really much of weight!
We wanted to marry next year, but...
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Alice Bullybanks - Sun, 22 Jan 2017 22:10:21 EST ID:lmLP6M2/ No.512641 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512620
all you have to do is have physical discipline and you get a great life.. what do you want someone to tell you? youre lazy.
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Alphatae Meberine - Mon, 23 Jan 2017 14:44:39 EST ID:p4SA1+8o No.512658 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>512641
what a moron.
"Physical discipline" after a day of hard psychological and physical work my ass.

>>512620
Congratulations on what you HAVE accomplished! From where you were to where you are now is a huge accomplishment! I don't care if you have back slided a little, you are amazing! Losing weight is hard. I was fighting that myself. Keep at it one day at a time.
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Barnaby Dreblingstone - Mon, 23 Jan 2017 15:56:10 EST ID:hhQhcuad No.512660 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512620
Double down on your efforts to eat well and exercise. I know you lack energy but it'll get easier and well.. sometimes you just have to go force yourself to the gym. Diet is the most important part of losing weight but exercise will help ensure you keep a bit of muscle and accelerate the process.

Anyway if you pull this off the effort you made for your other half will be appreciated. I know this is a problem but it's also an opportunity. You've beaten much bigger problems. Beating yourself up for every mistake is not how you got here and not how you improved things. You grabbed on and pushed life until until it moved for you. Run at least a 500 calorie deficit. If you can do 1000 then do it. You'll be back in noticeably fitter within 6 weeks and back in shape in a few months.

I know it sucks that she's more concerned by looks than you. But you can't control how you feel, only how you react to them. Hopefully she's giving you a chance to do something by telling you before she's had enough not finding you attractive. Sex is something that she should be into and she can't help if if she needs to be physically attracted to the person she wants to have sex with, most people are the same. The thing is, you both accepted each other as you were. She made an effort to improve herself for you and you have gotten less attractive. Some people have this mentality that they stay in shape and once they "have" someone they let themselves go. She was fat but she improved herself despite you.

All that said there's a chance it's too late. But regardless do this. Get in shape. If she didn't tell you this was a problem until it was too late that's not a fuckup. Things go wrong. I have posted this twice today. Sometimes you do everything right given what you knew but things go wrong. At the end of the day OP you've achieved a lot and can keep achieving a lot. Life is never going to be easy for you but if you do the best you can for you, given what is within your reach and knowledge you can recover from the worst case and end up even further ahead eventually. Even in the absolute worst case scenario for this situation you have overcome worse…
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Can't make a decision because of fear and anxiety. by Eugene Sollyfatch - Sun, 22 Jan 2017 01:21:33 EST ID:N4C7HfN0 No.512614 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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This is going to be long winded, and I greatly appreciate any sort of perspective or advice received. My situation isn't a common one, and I'm praying someone here can relate. It all started a few years ago, when I was diagnosed with a skin condition called Rosacea. It's an inflammatory skin condition that causes my face to flush and burn, much like the picture. However, mine is highly related to anxiety, and I have developed a panic disorder around it. I can go from looking normal, and then in the next minute be red as hell and having a panic attack. I've withdrawn socially because of how tired I am trying to stop it from occurring. If I have plans for the day, I make sure to get up just an hour before, as my face is less likely to flush early in the day.

Well anyways, because of this condition I can't see myself doing anything. It's caused so much damage to me mentally. I've had girlfriends break up with me because they couldn't deal with the lifestyle I built around managing my rosacea. I can only stand to be in a job for a few months at a time before I can't handle the mounting anxiety of making sure I hide this condition from my coworkers. Luckily, I can find physical labor in the summers that lets me be mostly alone, and I do Mechanical Turk in the school year to make money. College is a nightmare as well. I have a presentation months from now and I'm having panic attacks thinking about it. Long, busy days stress me out, because the longer I'm awake the more likely I will get a flush reaction, almost to the point of inevitability anymore.

I can't make a decision about my life. The military is out of the question because of psychiatric care I received after I had a mental breakdown a few months after first developing the condition. I'm in school now, but I show up and duck out as quick as possible. I've thought of work-from-home careers, but those are a pipe dream. I have to start living my life despite this, and I want to take the first steps in becoming a functioning adult. I have to break out of this mental barrier that says I can't be a part of society. I have no idea what I want to do though. I'm thinking at this point, picking s…
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Darrington Runkle - Sun, 22 Jan 2017 10:01:54 EST ID:HrwTH8ua No.512624 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512623
Did you have the flushing brought on by temperature changes as well?
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Hamilton Sillerfield - Sun, 22 Jan 2017 10:39:45 EST ID:zbKXnohS No.512626 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512623
quit shilling your fad diet pseudoscience expert

>hurrr durr it werks 4 me so it'll werk 4 every1
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John Guffingteck - Mon, 23 Jan 2017 07:41:25 EST ID:WysDkaNi No.512650 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512626
what exactly am I shilling?
Dudes suffering from an auto-immune disease, he has to stop eating things that set off his immune system.. educate yourself
It will only improve his life, try it before you knock it, you have your whole life ahead of you to eat cheesy poofs, stop eating them for six months and see what happens, Jesus

My rosacea reacted to everything, heat, spicy foods, alcohol, random flushing throughout the day, embarassment, it wasnt as bad as yours sounds, but it doesnt happen anymore since i stopped eating crap and trying to heal my gut,
look up leaky gut syndrome and see if that makes sense
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Cornelius Sacklewill - Mon, 23 Jan 2017 19:18:35 EST ID:zbKXnohS No.512666 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512650
>i'm not shilling anything officer

nb
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Ian Mozzleway - Tue, 24 Jan 2017 05:46:13 EST ID:WysDkaNi No.512676 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512666
youll never get anywhere with that attitude.


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