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My sister hates me out of nowhere by Jenny Buttingnere - Sat, 30 Sep 2017 02:13:57 EST ID:j5RL5m1u No.519112 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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This is going to be a lot to read, but it's tearing me apart and I would like advice or just some peace of mind.
My backstory: 22 y.o. student at a state university (double majoring in physics and math), hobbies include piano/guitar/painting. My sister's backstory: 19 y.o. student at a different state university (majoring in.. I don't think she knows yet, either neuroscience or art), hobbies include piano/painting. Let's call her Z.
From this comparison you can gather how alike Z and I are. That used to work in our favor; we used to be SO close. She was one of my best friends. She used to look up to me. Now.. it's totally flipped. She hates me. And we live in the same house together (with my dad), so that adds extra stress to the situation. Honestly everything that's happened has made me want to move out, which I won't comfortably be able to do until I get my degree (I'm a year away from graduating).
This hatred of hers has been going on for a year now, maybe a little longer, but I was only made aware of it about a year ago. Before it turned into full-blown hatred she started acting out of character, in ways that kind of felt like she didn't respect me at all. For example, I borrowed something of hers once and she wanted it back. It was a paintbrush. I had borrowed it for a week. Instead of asking me for it back, she told other people about it until they confronted me as if I had actually stolen the paintbrush. I gave it back right away and tried to talk to her about it but she didn't really have the capability of explaining her behavior to me. Since that incident I haven't borrowed anything from her at all just because of how weird she was acting about it. That was also around the time she started stealing stuff from me, though. I think it had been going on for awhile before that but I noticed anything she borrowed of mine went suspiciously "missing". The first few times I tried confronting her about it, and she didn't react well at all to that so I started letting it go unnoticed and slowly stopped lending her my things.
That isn't where this started, that was just the base example of the trend she's acquired. When it more noticeably starte…
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Clara Billingshaw - Sat, 30 Sep 2017 16:33:54 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.519120 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519112
Daww, she's mad that her big brother is spending so much time away from her, that's so cute. Seriously though, this is the sort of stuff a child pulls when their parents are ignoring them. They act out to get attention just like she is. She seems to have attached herself to you and you are her primary source of support and this is a response to you abandoning her in some way in her mind (or just threatening to do so). I'm guessing this all started around when you started going to college or got a new job or got a new girlfriend or something in your life started taking you away from her and it freaked her out and possibly drove her to seek out a boyfriend to compensate for the lack of emotional support she normally gets from you but couldn't because you were less available. I wouldn't be surprised if her boyfriend contributed to this if he sensed how she felt about you and got jealous and possessive and started turning her against you. It's likely that the adjustment to college life was hard on her and she needed you more than she let on.

If I was you I would just address her attitude change towards you and tell her you don't understand what's causing it and you wish she would tell you. Then I would stress that whatever it was it couldn't possibly be a big enough issue to erase all your long years of history together. Remind her that the bonds you have formed over time are far too deep and strong to be easily cut and remind her that your relationship is for life because you are blood-related siblings so that means you will always love her and support her. Tell her the relationship is important to you and you want to mend it going forward in life. Don't press her to make up right away, just let her know that the door is always open for her to walk back through.

This just really seems like it's mostly her projecting her own insecurities onto you. She doesn't want you to hurt her so she pushes you away first. She only thinks you will end up hurting her because of worries about her own lovability and she's trying to break the bond as much as possible so that if you turn on her or abandon her like she fears, it will hurt less. You have to ease…
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William Pogglenick - Sat, 30 Sep 2017 17:37:54 EST ID:UjNuOR6B No.519121 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519120
she sounds like a mentally ill nutcase with borderline personality disorder, not any of this freudian psychoanalytical shit.

just move out man. youre at uni. you should be living in a dorm.


Lonely 20s.. what the fuck is life now? by Eugene Brollermane - Sun, 17 Sep 2017 22:36:32 EST ID:V4Eoq0lt No.518848 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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How do I cope with being alone like this? I'm 24, live alone, car, job, in a big city across the country from my family. I have no friends here, and I find I'm too depressed and anti-social to make new ones.

The only regular interactions I have with people are my coworkers, my parents via phone, my long-distances friends via facebook, and sex with girls from dating apps.

I exercise and play rec sports very regularly, and i cut out video games and TV for self improvement and to not get sucked into WoW and netflix. It's the norm for me to spend friday and saturday nights at the gym, reading by myself, or staring at the ceiling in my quiet apartment not knowing what to do with my life. I'll go out to concerts and clubs sometimes (alone) just to get outside and the experiences have all been meh.

I'm too scarred from losing friends and relationships over and over again (i've relocated a bunch in my life) to form any new ones only for people to move somewhere else, get married, or whatever and leave me behind. I'm antisocial because after dealing with shit from "acquaintances" I've cut a bunch of people out of my life all together and only make an effort to contact people who have proven to me that they value my prescence and what i have to say- they can be counted on literally one hand.

I've come to accept that I'm probably going to live the rest of my like this, alone, maintaining my life from a fucking iphone always wishing for something greater, to not push papers in khakis 50+ hours a week.

Is this what "adulthood" is supposed to be?
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Jenny Nubblefield - Tue, 26 Sep 2017 20:16:11 EST ID:1kbRpa3f No.519023 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Use your abundant free time and disposable income to learn Magic: The Gathering. Once you learn the game and build a deck pop into a local game store on a friday night for some FNM action!

Seriously, I got balls deep into magic when I was a lonely single corporate wage slave.
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PeePee - Wed, 27 Sep 2017 20:22:39 EST ID:V4Eoq0lt No.519042 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Nigel Duffinghall - Thu, 28 Sep 2017 08:02:59 EST ID:tcvrvCf9 No.519063 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518848
Just find people who enjoy doing what you do. Talk to people at the gym you regularly go to, and at the library, too.
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Emma Hirringspear - Thu, 28 Sep 2017 09:57:36 EST ID:baVr2HAu No.519072 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518981
>can just easily be modified and corrected if someone makes you aware of the inaccuracy of your life's self-evaluation and you make an honest attempt at a reappraisal.

The first thing negates the second more often than not. You can't force awareness on people, if they don't own it by themselves it won't go anywhere. Who do you think you are, that people should change for your sake? Because when you expose someone's situation to that someone, that's what you're implicitly asking. If they were able to believe that you were a santa-like figure helping them just out of the goodness of his heart, well, they'd probably not need your help in the first place, would they?


Only when that someone will realize that changing has benefits for themselves, they'll truly be motivated to change. And they're the only ones really able to convince themselves in a complete manner, since they're the only ones with all the information. Not being in their head, you're incompetent at that job, and always will be. Trying to act against that truth, will achieve momentary change at best, at the cost of diminished self-awareness. Or, even worse, them being more entrenched in their positions than before.

If you don't know how to help, just don't help. No one needs more noise.
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Beatrice Drubbermedging - Fri, 29 Sep 2017 23:34:51 EST ID:tqkwh8Iu No.519111 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519023
i've been considering this at my company as well. i played back in like middle school. seems like run and a good way to connect.

would suck of you have shit coworkers but mine are mostly chill, so maybe.


Fake problems by Jarvis Dundleman - Sat, 16 Sep 2017 13:34:08 EST ID:5KPS//to No.518824 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm officially selling out. Paid training for my Monday through Friday, 10 to 7 life-sentence at a mortgage company starts next week.

I've been in school for and working in music for the past few years, and it's been the the most joyous, constructive, social and romantic relationship building time in my life. I've had so many crazy awesome opportunities and met so many great people.

I'm about to turn 25 though, and soon will have to start paying for all the various bills that an independent adult life entails in America. I can make $100-300 a week with gigs, and get $500+ weekend wedding gigs like maybe 1-2 weekends a month, but I've never wanted to performing as a career and I've met too many old musicians who've done it for 30 years and I don't want that for myself. The half-baked idea//goal I had of ending up in collegiate music education requires I go into like $100k+ debt and it would all have to be private student loans at this point.

Also a masters in music and starting a doctorate wouldn't guarantee me a position anywhere, and I'd almost definitely have to move out of state if I did get a position at a university somewhere. I do not want to leave the state, as my large family and all of my friends are here.

So I'm gonna go work at a mortgage company with my brother. The salary is 24k/year, which is kinda shitty, but with commission the average person in the position I'm going into makes 70-90k after 18 months, and 150-200k after 3 years. I know the guy who makes the most in the position I'm going into, and he gets 70-90k commission checks every month.

I'm still gonna practice, play, and perform. I know that. I've always known that. I'm just not gonna live and breath music or depend on $50 dinner gigs that I drive 90 minutes to so I can eat.

I'm not going to miss parts of it. I know that. Not having to stress about hustling for gigs so I can eat will be nice. Not worrying that blowing a tire on the way to a gig means I choose between rent and a car payment will be nice. Not having to get a food service day job when a weekly gig falls apart will be nice.

I don't know. I feel so weird right now in my life. I don't feel depressed. I don't feel dread. I feel optimism tempered with expectations that are born out of this narrative of a sad old suit who regrets wasting life and passion for money and stability. I know I can be content and even enjoy my life as a business man, but I've also never done it so I don't really know shit.
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Nell Clagglechetch - Sun, 17 Sep 2017 12:33:27 EST ID:hSKTwMjR No.518844 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518843
*apprenticing...
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Fanny Niffingspear - Mon, 18 Sep 2017 13:28:28 EST ID:WV91K+Uu No.518851 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518841
I think you are not without your vices and you maybe have an inkling of a realisation. You talk a lot about ego but seem to have a lot of self confidence in your world view being right

Family can be a pretty pathetic cop out but it can be the opposite of materialism. Giving up creature comforts, sleep, money, time to make someone else happy or give someone else a chance to be happy and being happy about that is the opposite of materialistic.

I think you have a lifestyle, it's all you can imagine living and so you've built up this narrative that everything else fucking sucks and used justifications with little to no basis to support it. I think a lot of it is right but I am surprised someone so unable to even see shades of grey can be good at a form of art. You talk a lot about bits of life being toxicity but honestly it's most coming from within.

I've seen people chewed up and poisoned by life and family and career and I've seen the opposite. Do something that creates a value you believe in and that's fine, but don't assume that just because you see no value in a thing that there is no value there for others and or even yourself (though again you'll often be right about the second thing).

I think you know this. The last part of my post makes it clear you realise you're not like most people. But I think your fatalistic the glass will be half empty, might as well tip it down the drain approach is your biggest obstacle. If you can overcome it I don't think you'll work a 9 to 5 for Montesanto Uniliver Arms co but maybe you'll find stuff you enjoy until you die.

I think I can explain why people chase money though. And I think you know it really too. Scarcity mentality and societal conditioning. If they don't grow up actually needing things, they lack something someone richer takes for granted and if they're in the super elite it's drilled into them they must retain position. It's how our economy keeps turning, demand for shit we don't need or shit we shouldn't have to fight for at all depending on your social class. I live in a 2 bed flat with another person and I can feel that conditioning, a room so I c…
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William Mecklewen - Fri, 29 Sep 2017 01:14:49 EST ID:FlHNemOO No.519091 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP here to update.

Almost through the first week of training. It's been great. I like the people and the place, and they seem to like me. Haven't really started the job in earnest, but the people who've been doing it well for a while are telling me I'll do well. I'm taking the smoke blown up my ass with a grain of salt, but feeling confident and better about my decision.


>>518840
That guy is literally the top earner in the position. He's an outlier. There are hundreds of people in the sales team, and most are pulling down ~100-200k a year between salary and relatively consistent commissions. You can have a 40k comiasion check one month and a 600 dollar one then next if you blow up an account or have bad luck.

I was really incredulous at first and have been doing my homework to sate my curiosity and satisfy my suspicions.
The reality is that if you work hard, follow instructions, and develop good relationships with a client representing an account, they'll send you business every month and you're commissions just grow.

I also have some gigs this weekend, so that's nice
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Shitting Summlemire - Fri, 29 Sep 2017 02:32:03 EST ID:6eOXXeo2 No.519092 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518851
Well, I do have some experience in just working towards nothing. After I got out of high school, I went to working and did that a couple years. Working full time in my health and doing the kind of jobs that are available around here left me with no time to do really anything. I just worked, got home tired as fuck, and went to sleep. To work again. I did that for a couple years before I couldn't do it anymore. I was just saving money for the future while hating existence in the moment. But I couldn't see working 25 years, retiring, and then sitting around doing nothing at 40-50 until I died and have health issues along the way. Life is finite after all. And youth won't be on your side forever.

I guess if I had to relate it to you, life becomes absolutely dreadful for me, and I mean unbearable when I have no direction or anything to dump my mind and ambition in. I can't even begin to describe the smothering feeling of knowing you have nowhere left to go. You just have to be at work by this time and have to stay there until that time. There is no joy or anything in life. You dissolve into the grey as your bank account swells and you loose your life. It isn't anything that I want.

With doing anything artistic there is never a wall or ceiling. You just go until you die or give up. It is something that no matter how much time you sink in it, you'll never graduate or retire. It is comforting in that aspect alone. I went to a really, really, shitty school system so I'd literally just sleep through every class all day and barely even do any school work. Only when I felt bored enough to do it. I was basically retired from Middle School until I graduated. Staying up all night playing video games and sleeping through school. I guess most people haven't done it but retirement is boring. It isn't some nice leisurely picnic, it is just sit around doing nothing. Which is almost as bad as working.

Most people have an end goal to life. Or some bigger thing they can chase until the very end. Mine is some form of art. Others are owning their home or having kids. The status quo of work for 40 some odd years, buy buy buy, spend spend spend, and retire doesn't work f…
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William Gongerfotch - Fri, 29 Sep 2017 19:21:17 EST ID:WV91K+Uu No.519106 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519092
I understand your viewpoint and understood it.

I wonder if your use of the word "you" when describing your worries about certain lifestyles is intentional or not. You can legitimately hate and worry about that lifestyle but that's really "me". When I read this and see
>you dissolve into the grey
Do you mean actually mean this?
>I feel like this would be dissolving into the grey for me
If so you're probably right. it's a risk a lot of us face. Then yeah, it's a risk. A lot of people work shitty jobs they hate and get lost but most of them could avoid to it. Disclaimer though. My life:

I work a 9 to 5 and I love it though. I do have ambition and I see what my work does and the value it adds to the world. I've still got room to move up (though I like what I do I'd like to take it up a notch or two when I've got a little more experience, and if I tire of it I could move within the organisation I work in. Every day I go in and I'm doing something that has to be done. This is not a job which will kill me either, unless I'm managing a whole service at which point I better fucking love that shit.

Also I love music and most of my favourate artists work jobs and produce music in their "spare time". Some can play to go tour and play a festival to 30000 people sometimes but they're all just amateurs and a lot of professionals are just boring. Some of these bands actually prefer it this way. I think most of them would suck if they weren't raw labours of love by hobbyists and that to me is the charm. Some of these guys are masterful artists but they're all untethered and free and I suspect most of them don't hate their day jobs either. Mine would leave me enough time to produce music if I could find any like minded people around here.

I suspect most commercially successful artists are very tightly walled in and you know it, they need to make music and they need it to sell so they can eat. In the end we all have to face a wall and some limits though. You can't be totally free. However by taking a job which ensures you have enough to live and make music and leaves you enough energy and time to play you&…
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What do by Sidney Blythefield - Tue, 05 Sep 2017 15:43:02 EST ID:twMAaV8o No.518612 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Here is my situation. I have a degree in art and some savings and no debt (thanks, Europe). I work teaching Engish as a Foreign language and I don't want to do this forever. The wages are okay and the work isn't bad but it doesn't feel meaningful or particularly enjoyable or challenging.

I would like to do something more useful, like be a physiotherapist (called physical therapist in US) , but I'd have to get a loan of about 27,000 euro. (second time isn't free). maybe I'd fail the course and be financially fucked for the rest of my life, and even passing it would take a long time to pay back and I'm 31.

What do?

Do I just suck it up and accept I fell into an alright job and just try and get more qualified in that? and.. you know.. enjoy my hobbies instead of studying all the time... Or do I take this risk of something I might be too stupid for and am definitely too poor for?
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Nigel Duffinghall - Thu, 28 Sep 2017 19:04:34 EST ID:tcvrvCf9 No.519086 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518612
How long would you have to work at your current job to be able to afford to go back to school with no loans or a reasonably lesser loan?
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Molly Chommleturk - Thu, 28 Sep 2017 21:10:49 EST ID:o3vIoRWZ No.519089 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518880
Jarvis here, I'm 36, and indeed I ended up being a Jack of all trades, which served me unexpectedly well.

I can always get a job, if not in one area then in another… but what's crucial is that people with a combination of skills are rare and highly valued in the workplace. I do not have competition in the way other people do.

So I not only always managed to get by, but prospered. And I also finally found my passion at one point.

You mistake fear for risk. There is realistically nothing you gamble here, all your investments bring rewards, and cumulatively, they bring double. The barrier is in your head, not in the workplace.
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David Bribberway - Fri, 29 Sep 2017 15:40:36 EST ID:3qSLtzLv No.519105 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519089

well I am 5 years younger than you and this attitude has completely fucked me over and I don't see anything changing in 5 years unless I pick something NOW.
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Basil Shakeham - Sat, 30 Sep 2017 21:33:58 EST ID:o3vIoRWZ No.519124 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519105
This is going to sound extremely douchey, but do you know your IQ?

I was thinking about all the possible differences in our experiences (still am, no conclusion because no info), and I need to first eliminate this as a possible discrepancy, because this is the only factor that cannot be changed. I don't want to advise people to do stuff they can't, like I may have done ITT. There are surely multiple factors, but if this is one of them, my advice to other people will change drastically, and I don't want to be going around carelessly giving inapplicable advice. If this is not one of the factors,
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Basil Shakeham - Sat, 30 Sep 2017 21:39:03 EST ID:o3vIoRWZ No.519125 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519124
Sorry,
If this is not one of the factors, I stand by my advice.


where do you go, where is higher ground by punished maggot - Thu, 21 Sep 2017 22:47:28 EST ID:yCtZszH5 No.518901 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Well I've done it again. Managed to alienate the closest thing to friends I've had in a long time. People gradually disassociating from me is becoming a trend. I precipitated this by my negligence and laziness, like I always have. I've been seeing a doctor as treating this problem is evidently beyond me. I'm fucking crushed that it happened again, and I thought things were going well. I'm impoverished, with half-finished software and now... probably going to be living out of my car.

The urge to flee is overwhelming. I can't stay in this town anymore, it's too painful with or without drugs. Where do you go to start over /qq/? I just want honest work in a place where no one knows who I am and I'll be left the fuck alone by police. Not to the southern states, not urbanized high-cost-of-living areas, east coast out of reach. I don't even care how podunkt don't care how terrible the work, I think.

So /qq/ you're dropped into the body of a 26 year old recovering borderline/add/aspie (truly a power combo) who hasn't held a job longer than a month in 5 years, destined to lose every friend they make, has a car but a suspended license, mounting debt, and is slowly losing the will to survive.

Where do you turn? Where's your sanctuary in a world seemingly hell-bent on watching you grind to dust? Do you have any experiences?
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Wesley Blackwill - Fri, 22 Sep 2017 16:58:56 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.518908 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518905
Am I wrong? My entire life's experience has shown me that what I said is the truth... quite painfully, might I add. It's not something all that easy to accept.
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Fucking Fopperdere - Sat, 23 Sep 2017 05:18:19 EST ID:94uHFygY No.518921 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Osu (japanese) (v.): to push through; to endure
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Sophie Sodgeridge - Sat, 23 Sep 2017 05:45:07 EST ID:WV91K+Uu No.518923 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518905
Sometimes you've got to start over but largely you need to be doing somewhere new not fleeing an old place. If you're just looking for shelter your old problems will resume. If you are the problem you cannot escape it.

A new start can be powerful, if you are poisoned from your life or have made some changes but need to start again to benefit from them it's a good thing to do.
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punished OP - Sat, 23 Sep 2017 13:16:39 EST ID:yCtZszH5 No.518933 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Thank you guys, I will. I calmed down and thought it through- a more careful appraisal tells me that I can still salvage the relationship. I was just one clever idea away actually. I have to rely on my own resourcefulness it seems, with no help where you would expect it. I can't hold my breath for the doctors around here- they're so paralyzed by regulations and crackdowns.

I need a new start in some place without the pathos. I actually think that the problem is not just me I think it's this shithole too. I've lived in quite a few places and the people there were very different. NorCal especially was... therapeutic.

I still plan to leave but only after I lay the groundwork to make sure my problems stay in the past.
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Nigel Duffinghall - Thu, 28 Sep 2017 10:09:36 EST ID:tcvrvCf9 No.519073 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518933
So, basically, what does this groundwork consist of? And what about that mounting debt?


I think I can't stop running away from myself by Fucking Bipperridge - Thu, 24 Aug 2017 00:40:20 EST ID:/dqI8T0n No.518292 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I broke up with my fiancee after 7 years
I moved back in with my parents
I am 30/m.

I feel like I am regressing to where I was when I was about 19. I don't have a car and live in my mom's guest bedroom. I get around everywhere I go by bike and foot. I also lift and eat well so I do stay very fit and healthy and I look young. But I waste all my free time and struggle to accomplish anything. I need to prepare an appeal to get back into college, I keep putting off dealing with that. The main reason we broke up is because I was taking too long in school trying to bring my grades up so I could try to get into grad school, and now all of the sudden I can't bring myself to keep trying. I read circlejerk, the future a lot. I watch a lot of pornography. I'm not saving my money. I'm working part time and every paycheck I get I goes to concert tickets, weed, and alcohol. I try to chat up girls a lot.

I don't want to live like this. I wanted to be a physicist.
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Barnaby Brookhood - Thu, 28 Sep 2017 09:46:19 EST ID:3qSLtzLv No.519067 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518292
you need routine.



Make a commitment TO ANOTHER PERSON, not yourself, to get up at 7 o'clock every morning. For example: Have your parents got a dog? What about an elderly neighbour who can't walk their dog anymore? A shelter might need you to foster a dog. Another idea is to volunteer for the first hour of the day somewhere. Work in a charity shop for an hour or two in the mornings, tutor a kid, etc.

You are thinking "that will give me LESS time" . You are wrong.

Make a detailed study plan on a calendar with a set amount of work you have to do every day and a schedule.
When you get back from whatever your morning work is, sit down and study for an hour, take a 20 minute break, study something different or the same thing in a different way for an hour, take a 20 minute break. Keep doing this until 7 o'clock at night.
Now you are free to do what you want until 10 o clock, when you will go to bed because you have to get up in the morning.


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Edwin Derringham - Thu, 28 Sep 2017 13:38:36 EST ID:wT5IMEgn No.519079 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519065

Lol because it's your profession pops?
Nb I'm fucked in the head
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Isabella Pockwell - Fri, 29 Sep 2017 22:25:12 EST ID:wT5IMEgn No.519108 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519065
I actually hardly do anymore thanks.
And so what if I don't? What difference would it make lmfao
Nb, still head fucked lol
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Isabella Pockwell - Fri, 29 Sep 2017 22:25:12 EST ID:wT5IMEgn No.519109 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519065
I actually hardly do anymore thanks.
And so what if I don't? What difference would it make lmfao
Nb, still head fucked lol
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Isabella Pockwell - Fri, 29 Sep 2017 22:29:09 EST ID:wT5IMEgn No.519110 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519067
Didn't make myself a pathetic loser, not the one that withheld my pay (stole). Or the one that didn't pay rent ( stole, again).
And your reasonS going against both are bullshit so don't even. You know it too.
Nb, head fucked


How to make it better by Cornelius Bardman - Wed, 20 Sep 2017 11:02:38 EST ID:GoZz+UFM No.518878 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Alright /qq/, I need some advice on fulfillment and not feeling isolated because of stress/being busy constantly and what should be my priorities.

I have a good job at a certain package delivery company, and within a year I'll be driving for them making ~65K. I'm like by management and have good rapport with management, as well as being the most senior person looking to become a driver. So, while not a guarantee, I still have a rather secure good job for where I live within a year. I work 4AM-10AM M-F.

I also am going to college for Pharmacy and am in my sophomore year, after this coming spring semester, I will have my associates. I'll then be looking at pharmacy schools and possibly having to move, or taking a bachelor's in a related field online or at the four-year here. At least until I am in a position to transfer at my job to a place where I can attend a true pharmacy school.

While this is all great, and I feel I have quite a bit going for me as far as my future is going, I don't feel fulfilled at all. I don't have any friends in the town I live in, no one really keeps up with me either, despite me trying to stay in contact. I work, come home, shower and change, and have class at 11AM and am in school until 3-5PM depending on the day. After that I go home and watch a couple episodes of a series and go to bed. Rinse and repeat week after week.

I don't feel like I have the time to go out and socialize, and while I talk to a few people at the school, we are just acquaintances. I'm not bad looking, but the girls on Tinder are either completely out of my league or beat up junkies looking for someone to fund their addiction. There are a few decent girls who I have talked to but have never gone further than that.

My hobbies are playing guitar & singing, and digital art (drawing/photo manipulation). I've neglected them totally since starting this job and college and my skill has significantly decreased, so when I try to start them up again I get frustrated and quit and go back to laying in bed and watching TV or playing an hour or two of a game.

This doesn't feel like a full life. I used to work a shitty job 45-55 hours a week, come home and play my guitar all day, or go to a party and hang out. Get smashed and have a blast, play with a band of people, or go to festivals. I used to have an active social life, I used to date and have girlfriends, I used to be passionate about my hobbies, I used to really enjoy who I was. Now I feel so hollow inside and distant from the me who used to love himself to where I am now. I "grew up" and lost all the magic I had in my life. And now I don't have the energy or passion to get back to that place in my life. The grind has really tore down my spirits in a sense.

Is this life really worth it /qq/? Is it really worth giving up everything that you enjoyed to have a successful career, a promising future? To grind day in and out just so you can buy the things you want, not have to worry about money? Will that truly fulfill me? I don't know the answer.
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Angus Pundlemot - Wed, 20 Sep 2017 12:30:42 EST ID:3qSLtzLv No.518879 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518878
professional drivers will only be around for another 10 years, tops.

You are just lonely, you feel isolated, and this is making you undervalue the cool stuff you are doing. the best thing about high paying jobs isn't the money, or the stuff you can buy with the money, or even the respect, it's the fact that you can save up and take a few months off and travel the world, or just work part time and still pay your bills and live it up. Make friends and you'll be able to appreciate everything again.
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Nathaniel Funningkit - Thu, 21 Sep 2017 22:57:01 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.518902 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518878

It all really depends on what you want out of life. If you want to get married and have kids then it's probably worth it. If not then it's not worth it to rush so much and kill yourself with both work and school at the same time. It's worth it to get an education and a stable career because everyone needs to pay the bills, but unless you're really trying to get that family started soon, you should take your time and balance work and leisure better so you enjoy life more.

I see lots of guys whose social lives basically almost entirely die out at this age. They focus on work and find a woman and get married and have kids and hang out with their other married friends from time to time but their social life never really recovers and most of their life revolves around work and family. Without the family to keep you going I just don't see how it's worth it.
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Nigel Duffinghall - Thu, 28 Sep 2017 09:39:39 EST ID:tcvrvCf9 No.519066 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518878
It sounds like you probably arent interested in raising a family. is it possible for you to go to school without working as many hours? I would get a bachelor's at a second-rate college just so you can be employable when self driving cars and trucks take over.


suicidal by Archie Singerlack - Tue, 26 Sep 2017 12:22:37 EST ID:asvLTzvV No.519017 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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tldr: my mum blames herself for my condition and im super depressed
how do i find direction in life without a penis?

hey gaiz.
about eight months ago I got really sick and lost cognition, started slurring speech, loss of balance, dick stopped working etc

So i figured it was a problem with my nerves
I did a ton of research and figured out I have a genetic deficiency in an enzyme
So i changed my diet and put myself on a ton of supps and most importantly put myself on the thing I have a genetic problem with, hoping that in the six month window i have to regenerate nerves I could do it

So today 8 months later my dick is still not working and I have realised that my mum - who was helping me while im retarded was not giving me the medication that I was supposed to be getting. Now we both know and I feel like utter shit because Ive missed taking the most important supplement in the six month window and she feels like its her fault

Shes really stressed Im worrying shes gonna have a heart attack or something
and im completely depressed, this doesnt feel real and I really just want to die
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Archie Sinkinford - Tue, 26 Sep 2017 14:26:30 EST ID:omX2BDyl No.519019 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Do you still have a libido?
If you don't then the dong isn't a problem but I don't know what to say the rest.
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Clara Clorrystock - Tue, 26 Sep 2017 15:34:01 EST ID:tR/Txr9r No.519020 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Just surround yourself with sjws until you are convinced you were born in the wrong gender.

A la chris chan.
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Nigel Duffinghall - Thu, 28 Sep 2017 08:58:13 EST ID:tcvrvCf9 No.519064 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519017
What condition is this? What enzyme are you lacking? And do you have the opinion of a medical professional?
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Barnaby Brookhood - Thu, 28 Sep 2017 09:49:09 EST ID:3qSLtzLv No.519069 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519020
brain gender is fucking biological, you can see it on scans, and it doesn't always match chromosome, which in turn doesn't always match genitals. Get over yourself, you prick. No one can be converted to trans


Autistic First Time by Jenny Pannerwater - Mon, 25 Sep 2017 00:38:17 EST ID:dqvsb3Wv No.518978 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>Be me, 21, no real or close friends but trying to sort things out. Things seemed to be significantly improving.
>Meet girl, let's call her Jill.
>Similar interests, we hang out a few times.
>She has just become legal. Father died when she was very young. Kind of neurotic, but I decide she's alright.
>She wants a relationship, but I suddenly see the crazy, needy side of her after we've fucked 3 times.
>I tell her I don't want a relationship, she thinks I used her, I try to remain friends because I can't stand to make people feel bad.
>Maybe I read too much of the shit pill, but the idea of a false rape accusation seriously scares me.

Jill comes over tonight. Sulks for an hour. We drink. She urges me to forget what I said and give into desire. I tell her that would be unwise and tell her I need her to leave. She walks out looking suddenly like a wounded animal and urging that we hang out tomorrow.

What do I do from here and what's the worst that could happen?
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Reuben Bonderworth - Mon, 25 Sep 2017 20:42:45 EST ID:USUZpST+ No.519006 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518995
>I've been completely fucked k holing and still remembering and cognizant that I had family and recognized people around me.
you weren't that fucked if you still understood what any of those things were.
that said, nobody's going to have sex in the state i'm thinking of
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Ernest Bisslehig - Mon, 25 Sep 2017 21:20:41 EST ID:ZE7ihgTe No.519009 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Be honest.

Tell her you want to take things slow.

Also, getting someone drunk and having sex with them after with an 18 girl at your house is just a bad idea in general.
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Hugh Blackshit - Tue, 26 Sep 2017 01:59:35 EST ID:YAbHAXqQ No.519012 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519006
Guess you're one of those immigrants here who hasn't actually used drugs much. You don't become some bath salts zombie with most all drugs. You do know most recreational illegal drugs are basically the same but renamed pharmaceuticals that all your family uses legally right? Do they all forget who you are and that they are married? I seriously doubt it.

Skrub
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Henry Fublingridge - Tue, 26 Sep 2017 18:25:04 EST ID:WV91K+Uu No.519022 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519012
You can definitely forget who you are on a lot of drugs. However usually this goes after the ability or will to move physically. I've lost all of existence except my sense of self before but you can't get out of a chair if you don't know that you have a body and it's sitting in a chair. So cheating is pretty fucking difficult.

A lot of people recommend a trip sitter for salvia so you're sort of wrong but I doubt you'd cheat during a 15 minute dissociative trip unless you picked the wrong trip sitter and most of the time you'd know what you'd have to lay most of the groundwork to complete an act like that while off your tits. You wouldn't just magically fly into their vagina while in another dimension.

I don't think he's necessary an outsider who doesn't do drugs. However I think you're both sort of right. You absolutely can lose touch with reality, but it's also usually accompanied by a massively diminished ability to cheat. You don't become a bath salts zombie and fuck, in almost all situations you're either with it enough to be culpable, or you're incapable.
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James Wunningham - Thu, 28 Sep 2017 03:29:40 EST ID:CUQ6SJOn No.519053 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518978
OP you gotta tell her the truth. That you didn't realize sex would mean this much to her, and you are stupid for making that mistake.


Pleasuring people by The Giver - Sat, 16 Sep 2017 17:17:23 EST ID:/ISKNR9D No.518829 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So I have 2 random topics I was wondering if anyone else could relate to.
I'm a straight mail that likes to play with butt toys is that odd? Can anyone relate?
And,
If I want to have sex I cum way to fast but I font care about my pleasure in the least. I'm 25 and get turned on my the other persons pleasure. My favorite thing in the world is going down on her and the more she likes it the more I want to give it. I can actually get off if I can bring her enough pleasure without ever being touched only playing/licking her. Is that weird? If I don't care about my pleasure than why do I cum soon after entry? I really think I get a much better orgasm when I just tounge fuck her unroll she's orgasmed multiple times? Is it normal? Can anyone relate?
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Hamilton Blacklewell - Sat, 16 Sep 2017 21:04:26 EST ID:WV91K+Uu No.518830 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518829

Plenty of people can relate. Do you have an actual problem or do you want validation that your sexual experience is within the bounds of normal?

The things you experienced are the result of a) the prostate being in your butt, this is not something I have experience with but yes I'm sure lots of people have put things up there and enjoyed it because that is a result of the way normal male anatomy is. And b) state of mind being massively important to the sexual experience. For both men and women a lot of sex is in your head. Again this is the way almost all healthy people are.

Your phone has the most awful autocorrect. That is the most unusual thing about you.
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Martin Funkinlid - Sun, 17 Sep 2017 10:32:24 EST ID:NwCOZb4P No.518842 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Just don't cum while you're fucking her. Hold back your orgasm and let her feel good, just don't fucking cum. Cumming soon after insertion is kind of rude, you should at least wait a bit. Don't cum.
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Frederick Fimmerworth - Sun, 24 Sep 2017 10:32:16 EST ID:eTvQfb9H No.518971 Ignore Report Quick Reply
When you feel like your going to cum just think of naked old ladies or shitting, anything like that. It worked for me for a long time and now I did too many drugs so that's not a problem anymore. Mabye you should just do a bunch of drugs too. As for the butt stuff I just let a chick give me a rimmie the other day for the first time in my life because I wanted to know how it felt, and I know im not gay. Our butts are just another way to feel guud and if its a chick helping you feel guud theirs nothing gay in that
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William Bravingfadging - Mon, 25 Sep 2017 17:43:19 EST ID:UrQwPY3E No.519002 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518829
Yeah man, I relate to both things. I recently started doing butt stuff and it feels really good. Like, I don't understand why I'd never done it before. It's just another pleasure center in the body, there's nothing gay about sticking something in your butt (and there's also nothing wrong with being gay).

I also love going down on girls. I also cum way to fast, so I always make my partners cum (or almost cum) by going down on them and only after that penetrate them.

I dunno if it's normal, but I think it doesn't really matter either, as long as you and your partner have fun.


CV the subject is too short by Priscilla Fuckingman - Mon, 25 Sep 2017 14:13:27 EST ID:aKEX1nV0 No.518997 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So I'm looking at job offers and there are some nice jobs that fit me, but I have to write a CV. What the fuck does a person write in their CV that has never worked a legitimate job? I've only done a couple of odd jobs here and there but nothing worth mentioning. Granted, it's a delivery service that only requires a driving license and no previous delivering experience is required but still, I have to write something.
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Nicholas Senningbun - Mon, 25 Sep 2017 14:51:17 EST ID:3qSLtzLv No.518999 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518997
you aren't going to get this job, do some volunteer work and maybe you'll get the next one. ha ha.. oh no, i am being pessimistic.

Is anyone in your family a business owner? Could they pretend you worked for them? Any friends? Character references at least? Your school principal or tutor from high school can also give you a reference.
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Priscilla Fuckingman - Mon, 25 Sep 2017 15:47:15 EST ID:aKEX1nV0 No.519000 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518999
I could make someone pretend I worked for them, but isn't that kind of stuff checked? And I could make someone give me a reference, thanks for mentioning this.
Damn getting a job is proving more difficult than I imagined.


A proper response by Nicholas Dunderfoot - Sun, 24 Sep 2017 07:41:13 EST ID:fLoh9Pmc No.518965 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Here is a situation. You are a guy, who is after a girl, right. But you have only known her on the internet. You talk and you talk and you talk, then you get her number and you have a couple of conversations on the phone. During one of them you ask her out on a date and she agrees. Overall everything seems fine, but she refuses to meet you right before you were set and ready for the date. She says, that she had plans with hEr friends and just happened to forgot about them. Then again everything is fine. You talk on tHe phone and ask her out again and she says yes, but before the actual date, she, like, looses interest. She doesnt say that, but you just feel. And again she ditches you right before the date time. In a couple days she writes you an email in which she asks for forgiveness and says, that it's gonna be fine next time, but again you feel, that she did this out of guilt.
Your actions?
And in general, what do you do if a girl stood you up repeatedly, but says, she was just busy?

I will tell, how this story ended, in a couple of days/hours.
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Nicholas Brookfoot - Sun, 24 Sep 2017 08:18:19 EST ID:WV91K+Uu No.518966 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518965
If you meet a girl on the internet don't develop feelings. When you break this rule or feel like you're in danger of it, meet her. If she flakes on you then maybe give her 2 chances.

She probably won't turn up. If a girl stood me up I'd be annoyed. if it was someone I'd never met I'd assume she was just fishing for attention. Stop giving her it if this doesn't work. Don't say a word just stop talking to and block her.
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Ernest Lightgold - Sun, 24 Sep 2017 11:54:56 EST ID:DPYvSaTs No.518972 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518966
So, there is absolutely na chance for a sucessful outcome?
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Nicholas Brookfoot - Sun, 24 Sep 2017 17:56:16 EST ID:WV91K+Uu No.518976 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518972
I would say the chances are very low. People make mistakes but I think she probably isn't interested. If you want to be sure give her this one last chance but if she misses the third chance then there's only two possible outcomes those being you don't believe her or that you're a bitch and she can string you along forever.

Draw the line. I would think you optimistic giving her this final chance, however more chances would make you a complete fucking moron.

If her persona is cool enough that you've given her this much leeway odds are she will keep talking you around to wasting more time so she can get validation from a stranger if you talk to her. if you just cut contact or don't contact her when she doesn't show then it's not like she'll need an explanation. It'll be pretty obvious that you've had enough and quite probable it's what she wants.


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