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Need friends to hate me by Oliver Sillyfield - Mon, 11 Sep 2017 09:17:17 EST ID:EqtGtJcf No.518726 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So basically, I'm going to leave my state and never look back. Not for me, but the people around me. I have a new house and everything lined up. But I need to find a way to make people hate me, without being malicious about it. Just need to make sure nobody looks for me. No family to speak of. I was thinking of stealing money from them, and than sneaking it back into their wallets after they catch me.
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Nell Monnerdin - Mon, 11 Sep 2017 12:19:26 EST ID:JI9kO00V No.518731 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518730
Problem is. My friends are the ones that "believe", I'm not a bad person. I need to prove to them, that I am. They are the type of people that will only see the good in people. I'm trying to make them realize that everyone is not worth saving.
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Nell Monnerdin - Mon, 11 Sep 2017 12:20:56 EST ID:JI9kO00V No.518732 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518727
I actually like this idea. Make them fed up with me. Less chance of them trying to seek me out.
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Hugh Gugglewudging - Mon, 11 Sep 2017 12:43:12 EST ID:WV91K+Uu No.518733 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518731
Everyone is worth saving.

Not everyone is worth the effort of trying to save them.

If they don't want saving then the effort is wasted. Just duck out their lives, disappear in the night. Anything else might backfire. You burn them hard enough they might come for vengeance or you might cross paths with them down the line.
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Nell Monnerdin - Mon, 11 Sep 2017 14:09:37 EST ID:JI9kO00V No.518736 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518733
lol trust me, no they aren't. And I'm fairly certain we won't be crossing paths again. I need to make certain they will be ok with these facts.
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Hugh Gugglewudging - Mon, 11 Sep 2017 14:50:36 EST ID:WV91K+Uu No.518737 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518736
People have a weird habit of turning up in weird places. If they're close enough to find you on purpose they're close enough to find you by accident. I've come across many shards of my past in places neither of us expected to meet over the years.

But that aside then don't make them hate you because hate can drive them to action. The being an annoying shit approach might be good if you make it so you're insufferable and abrasive but not fully offensive. Just fun sucking to be around. If they are irrepressible bleeding hearts then you need to make sure that comes with progression and success so they can be like "he's doing alright now, but he's an asshole, oh well good for him I guess".

I also think you should get therapy for your personality disorder but I know you won't so I'm just going to say that and then let it go. As I said, you have to want to change. You don't right now, you may never.


how to deal with grief by Nat - Mon, 04 Sep 2017 02:28:07 EST ID:n5oMJfqR No.518578 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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This is the time of the year I fell in love with my ex who died this February. We have been broken up a little over a couple years but I grieve about him regularly. I've been crying about him extra because of the time of the year- plus the location. I moved away from my hometown for a while and now that I'm back, I keep experiencing more memories of him. I try to cherish any ripple of him that I can get. I even formed friendships with his mom and grandma. Family and friends are confused why I have all these intense feelings for someone who treated me terribly. Now I feel like the level of grief I'm experiencing is inappropriate. I could be spending my time doing something else. Maybe they are right and it's disrupting my life. I had a problem with ambien for a while. One thing that pushed me deeper in continuing to use it was the night I woke up and felt like he was next to me. I'm too sick to work on music sooo I'm in bed listening to music. I made a whole playlist of songs that we listened to a lot, he loved, or remind me of him. I have another boyfriend now and we became "official" on the same day of my ex which made me feel like I made a small step forward but obviously I still have a lot of moving on to do. But how?
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Shit Dushsedge - Sat, 09 Sep 2017 14:28:09 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.518704 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Something else I think that helps is to keep in mind that it's practically human nature for us to make a big deal out of things going on in our present, but typically not even a few days or weeks later we go about our lives like none of that ever even happened. When it comes to bigger problems, typically, at the very least, years later you act it never happened too. I mean hell, a lot of the time we forget they even happened until something random causes us to recall that part of our life briefly, and then you remember again for a short time.

Let the grief do it's natural thing while avoiding letting it dominate your thoughts and feelings entirely, and just let the days go by without getting hung up on what's going on. The more quickly the time passes, the more quickly you stop thinking so much about him, and are able to maintain your composure and to control your emotional reaction to his loss when you happen to.
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Shit Dushsedge - Sat, 09 Sep 2017 14:31:56 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.518705 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518704
Another way of saying things is that you should just focus on living your life right now. Focus on the thing you need to do that day and what you need to do tomorrow--do what you need to in order to thrive and to achieve personal success. In other words, focus on something productive like that, something that requires some level of your attention and benefits you in the long run. This is the best way to make time pass by in my experience while minimizing how often you have hurtful and negative thoughts that keep you from progressing in your life, all while keeping your affairs in order at the same time as a result.
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Hannah Clevinghen - Sun, 10 Sep 2017 06:54:55 EST ID:4BI4Zt+M No.518711 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518705
A woman is running from a tiger that’s chasing her. She runs through the woods until she gets to the edge of a cliff. The tiger is still behind her, so she climbs down a vine. The tiger reaches the top of the cliff and paces back and forth, licking its chops. Midway down the cliff, hanging onto the vine, she sees another tiger below her, pacing back and forth, licking its chops. As she’s hanging there, two mice come out and start gnawing on the vine. She tries to shoo them away, but they won’t go.

Just then she sees, growing out of the face of the cliff in front of her, a wild strawberry. She picks it and eats it. It’s delicious.

life ahead of you and behind you is always filled with tigers. go eat some strawberries
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Martha Himblecocke - Sun, 10 Sep 2017 07:22:30 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.518713 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518711
I'm a little confused why you quoted/responded to me. Are you arguing against what I said or something? It doesn't really sound like you are, but I can't think of another reason you'd quote/respond to my post other than because you disagree with what I said, otherwise you'd think you would declare that you agree from the outset.

Honestly I'm having trouble relating your analogy to her situation as well. In this specific instance, are the tigers representative of her grief? Or are you referring more to the nature of existence in general and the consequences of that nature (like the fact that people grow apart or die, etc.)? If the tigers are representative of her grief, why exactly are there multiple tigers?

I guess if in this scenario you're actually viewing the mice gnawing on the vine as the grief and the tigers more or less other forms of adversary or obstacles to overcome, the analogy makes more sense... but it still required enough thinking to interpret the message you intended to communicate through the use of that analogy that it's questionable if it's effective enough to be considered useful as a means of conveying meaningful ideas or facilitating your audience's understanding regarding the subject matter.
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Hannah Clevinghen - Sun, 10 Sep 2017 07:27:27 EST ID:4BI4Zt+M No.518714 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518713
I see tigers and mice as thought, strawberries are the current moment. cherish it or keep focusing on (negative) thougt about future or the past and never actually be. it's a buddhist story about living in the now.


Trying to Deal With It by Hugh Fumblestone - Thu, 07 Sep 2017 20:32:19 EST ID:3Ljp8Jsm No.518664 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I remember a time when I wasn't struggling. My life at one point was good. My mother was good parent and my dad was a fun bachelor dad. Then she got married to an asshole who happens to be my sisters father. I can't ever respect my grandparents for letting him get away with his wife beating. They should have done something about it, my father said he didn't know how could he?

Now twenty years later I'm underemployed trying to get my degree in Art. My existence is a surrealist nightmare of which I want no part. I live with my grandmother, fucking kill me. While my sister is at a liberal arts college about to get a Bio degree. She resents me and secretly despises my mother who pampers her. She's a passive aggressive two-faced cunt. My sister is on her way to being a piece of shit like her father a bully and a liar.

And I'm living in this surrealist hell trying to carve out an existence. It's not really that bad but fuck how could I ever live with this shit. The future was so bright.

I'm not really here asking for solution.
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Martha Chocklepot - Sat, 09 Sep 2017 11:40:13 EST ID:twMAaV8o No.518700 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518664
i wish i'd never gotten my art degree
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Phineas Serrywater - Sat, 09 Sep 2017 21:17:15 EST ID:wNxC1M/7 No.518706 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518700
I wish I didn't quit my job to pursue my artistic endeavors and my art degree.
But I did.
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Poor faggot. - Sun, 10 Sep 2017 05:08:07 EST ID:2M7pN1vG No.518707 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518700
Holy fucking shit. I have never met a person who said they regretted an education. I really hope I don't regret mine. When I actually get it. If I actually get it.
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Poor faggot. - Sun, 10 Sep 2017 05:08:07 EST ID:2M7pN1vG No.518708 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518700
Holy fucking shit. I have never met a person who said they regretted an education. I really hope I don't regret mine. When I actually get it. If I actually get it.
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Caroline Hemmertore - Sun, 10 Sep 2017 07:01:05 EST ID:twMAaV8o No.518712 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518664
I should have gotten either no degree, or a degree in something that would have gotten me a job that I liked and allowed me free time to practice art on the side.


People who just shit things up and how to deal with them... by Molly Smallshaw - Thu, 07 Sep 2017 17:59:01 EST ID:VcXGmDDU No.518655 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So, I have this couple of friends. Married. She is really super-chill and cool to hang with. Her husband is basically an extra from a 1980s cocaine film. The guy is a serious stim head and just your typical Essex raised cunt.

Anywho, had this chill party with like 30 people over the other weekend. This guy's wife shows up and is lovely as always. Then, two hours in, Captain Cunt shows up.

First off, he is blasted on coke. And it wasn't exactly with the vibe of the party which was weed and wine for the most part. Mellow.

So, he rolls in talking a mile a minute. Within 30 minutes he managed to insult and confront two of my guests. One is this cool chick I know whom he just rolled up on and accused of sabotaging his friend's work. His only basis for this was that like 5 years ago they went on two dates. But, somehow she was behind some secret cabal to get his buddy fired. Keep in mind, his buddy is in trouble because he let a professional license expire and kept practicing. How it is the fault of some woman he dated is beyond me. She starts getting defensive, and he keeps banging on about how she is just trying to destroy his life because they used to fuck. Which, apparently they never did, it was two dates.
Then he rolls over to my other buddy and starts hassling him about something he said on FB or something.

Basically, this guy just shit all over the place and my friends.
His wife slunk away during this to hide.

So, how the fuck do I deal with this piece of human trash? This is pretty typical of what he does now. He loves cocaine, and loves starting shit while on it. But, how do you kick half a couple to the curb? How do I say, "you fuck off, but the wife is fine?" I'd hate to kick both because he is being a cunt. She is awesome.

Any help with this social minefield?
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!scyTheNg3k - Thu, 07 Sep 2017 19:53:22 EST ID:zqVntDEA No.518660 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518655
correct decision is to kick them both out. you may like her, but she picked him, and she has to take responsibility for her own choices. it's not your place to try to insulate her from that
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Polly Worthingstock - Fri, 08 Sep 2017 00:06:58 EST ID:VcXGmDDU No.518673 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518657
Pretty sure calling an English dude "nnnniiiiiiiiiiiggggggaaaaaa" would undermine my point.
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Martha Chocklepot - Sat, 09 Sep 2017 11:37:22 EST ID:twMAaV8o No.518699 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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stop being friends with both of them, she probably expects to lose some friends over this guy, she has decided he's worth losing all you guys so you shouldn't think getting rid of him isn't worth losing her
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George Blythedale - Sat, 09 Sep 2017 13:35:35 EST ID:94uHFygY No.518702 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518673

then just substitute "oooolllll chaaaaaaap"
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Angus Fublingbanks - Tue, 12 Sep 2017 14:10:19 EST ID:Ikm6SAhz No.518753 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518660

I'm with this guy. They both need a similar reality check


Riddle me this by Esther Bellerstut - Wed, 30 Aug 2017 01:29:37 EST ID:KGNn4P0B No.518453 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Are you expeted to emotionally support someone who hurt you, who is upset because they hurt you?

I dont understand, am I crazy to think that's not something to expect when you hurt someone? Expecting somoene to support you after you hurt them is weird enough, but the reason you need support is because youre upset you hurt them? Thats retarded...right?
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Jenny Chesslefine - Thu, 07 Sep 2017 16:36:00 EST ID:KGNn4P0B No.518652 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518651
While insightful and interesting, I do not know what to take away or apply to myself.

This is my attempt

>my relationship with her was purely dependant on an identity forged as a good husband and lover. She brought good out of my and was supportive.

>she identified as a homemaker, wife, and lover. She has no careers or aspirations, and once she joined a sorority a new identity presented itself, and she could not decide which one to choose, so she played two lives.Part of the life was lying to her coworkers and sorority friends that I was an abuser, negligent and terrible. Once I found out about the other, she continued to keep the two lives separate until I confronted it again, where there was non stop self-hatred on her part that she projected onto me. She was left with the identity she sold me early in the relationship, the woman I wanted to marry, but for reasons unknown, she would rather her identity as a sorority girl - a graduated sorority girl.

Back story
She would party, hang with couples "never alone and never did anything physical" but would do things with sororities circling around drinking and partying. I never cared, I encouraged it because I trusted her. But then she did it without telling me. She joined a fraternity without telling me. When I asked her why she would lie about it, hide it, and why she would join, her response was "because it was fun". When I asked why it was fun, she would say "Because its just fun". I believe that was her forging a new identity and keeping it separate. When I made an effort to forgive her, the very night she did that, she lied to me and went to a frat party a day after she graduated. She claimed I left her, and broke up with her when that was impossible to misinterpret. She attempted to hide her actions, and after I found it, she just projected self-hatred and self-loathing and basically said "Why date me? Why do you want me? Im shit. I messed up. You should leave me" ad infinitum. She hurt me, and I let her back in. She then said that I would emotionally abandon her. where the OP was started. How am I supposed to emotionally support someone who hurt me? I took away her false id…
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Jenny Chesslefine - Thu, 07 Sep 2017 16:41:33 EST ID:KGNn4P0B No.518653 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518651
I would say that, while I had an escapade where I sought other women seeking the perfect sexual moment, I realized that seeking empty sex is not fulfilling. I was miserable. I wanted emotional connection with another human
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Jenny Nankingold - Thu, 07 Sep 2017 20:17:58 EST ID:zqVntDEA No.518661 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Nobody can truly say of himself that he is filth. Because if I do say it, though it can be true in a sense, this is not a truth by which I myself can be penetrated: otherwise I should either have to go mad or change myself

-Ludwig Wittgenstein

>I will delicately avoid all jargon: this is understood as a) defining yourself based on who you hate ("I'm not like those sluts"); and b) secretly believing that only you have-- deserve-- free will, other people (Tucker Max, the women who like Tucker Max) are just too dumb to handle it. I could say that that a) and b) are causes of totalitarianism or characteristics of narcissism, but it's more useful to say that a) and b) are why you are not happy, and it's more useful because that's the only thing you really care about anyway.

-Alone

It really sounds like you're just not compatible, and you're both interpreting this as a flaw within yourselves. Being in a relationship means giving stuff up, like I don't drive drunk or use cocaine anymore. And it's not which path you take that makes you a good person, but whether you do so honestly. I don't know what you did and I know well enough that you can't expect anyone to honestly report their own mistakes on the Internet, but, list time:

things you need to understand:

  • lying is basically an attempt to control stuff you shouldn't have control over

  • self-loathing is always, always, always a cry for help
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Jenny Nankingold - Thu, 07 Sep 2017 20:19:40 EST ID:zqVntDEA No.518662 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518661
clarification: when I say "being a good person isn't for you, it's for other people", that means: the act of being a good person, on your part, isn't meant to help you, but to improve your impact on others. and this applies to everyone.
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Albert Blatherwill - Thu, 07 Sep 2017 23:26:03 EST ID:JjCIWimW No.518672 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518661
I encouraged her to go to said parties, its when she went without telling me, lying about where she was and also joining a frat without open communication, then lying trying to cover it up. I understand a social life is needed.


Break uo by Goodbye 6years - Wed, 06 Sep 2017 09:25:01 EST ID:EISCZ3zY No.518625 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey guys, my 6year relation ship has ended and idk how to get back into the teal world. I was so happy where I was that I didn't want to change anything and that lead to my demise any suggestions on starting my new life?
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Basil Honeyhood - Wed, 06 Sep 2017 12:53:46 EST ID:T2acLeMx No.518631 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518625
So far this shit is working for my friend who was in this situation a year ago. It seems like common sense when you're removed from it but I suspect it's not when you're caught up in the events.

0) Damage limitation. Don't be a dick but if the relationship ended in a flash of drama and she's spiteful then make sure you talk to your friends first. If she's anything less than really nice make sure she doesn't seize lots of your financial stuff or otherwise stiff you. If the relationship's over you're both entitled to a decent chance at a new life so you should compromise and be fair. And if she can't do that then secure the things you absolutely need.

1) Accept it's going to suck but also that it will get better in time. You must accept both these things.


2) Look at what you did wrong and what you can avoid given what you now know, but also don't forget sometimes you did what was the right thing given what you knew and it turned out wrong. Make sure you recognise the times your knowledge was at fault and not your decision.

3) Start working on your life again. Get therapy if you need it. Take care of your health and diet and career.

4) Go out more. Make more effort with friends, reconnect with ones you didn't have much time for due to relationships, practice hobbies you let languish or just go try stuff.

5) At some point you'll realise you have a life.
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Goodbye 6years - Wed, 06 Sep 2017 15:30:23 EST ID:EISCZ3zY No.518637 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518631
I really appreciate your post... I've lost most friends and the ones I can get a hold of are probably worse for me. I plan to get therapy and probably a lot if my insurance covers it. If it didn't I'm screwed because without her check I'm going to struggle for rend and food
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Eugene Chevingfield - Thu, 07 Sep 2017 19:45:11 EST ID:vATdGl2v No.518659 Ignore Report Quick Reply
How much did you depend on her? Emotionally, financially, socially?
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Advice please - Thu, 07 Sep 2017 20:50:04 EST ID:EISCZ3zY No.518666 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518659
Entirely I'm 100% co-depentant...thats why we broke up....i make my own money and pay bills but pretty much didn't want to do anything without her.


Idk what to do by Advice please - Thu, 07 Sep 2017 19:39:19 EST ID:EISCZ3zY No.518658 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I have been in a relationship for several years now and I don't even know how to meet new people anymore. I don't want to just go "hook up" with people. I just need some friends. I thought about bars but I don't enjoy drinking....how do you build a friendship off somthing that you don't do often?


How to make money? by Doris Forryworth - Mon, 04 Sep 2017 15:42:20 EST ID:nqt8JuN/ No.518593 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I didn't know which board to go to so I went here. What are some tips or ways to make money? I never seem to have enough. Thank you!
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Ian Blackstock - Mon, 04 Sep 2017 18:44:01 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.518596 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I posted a thread for a board about getting money but it had no takers.

Guess stoners don't care about cash.

But to your question, what are you good at? What can you do that someone else would pay you to do?
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Molly Bozzleheg - Mon, 04 Sep 2017 22:59:31 EST ID:16crph// No.518601 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Well there are a few ways. The first, obvious, and easiest is to apply for a jerb. There are tons of Now Hiring signs across the country and while we are nearing the tail end of it, it is still high times and really easy to get a job at some low wage spot. Not quick at first but the money does come in.

Second would be learn or take your current skills and market them on craigslist or just reply to classifieds. Lots of quick work where there are no taxes, no background check, no anything just you show up, work for a day or two and leave. I've made some limited money when I was hard up this way. Helping some loner move or cleaning an old lady's yard or whatever. I've done everything with my skills from help frame barns and shit to welding. Farms are a really good place to get back breaking work but paid and paid tax free without any background check or wait. Just be sure you are going to get your money. I'd tell everyone that I only will work for 4 hours and will take my pay for that amount of time before I did anything else. That way everyone stays honest and usually I'm not fucked out of a day's work if they are like, uhh I don't got anything or whatever bullshit. Be ready to walk at some jobs. No drug tests usually either. But this kind of under the table shit can be REALLY SKETCH! Guard yourself fam.

Join military. No matter how stupid you are, you'll get a paycheck. French Foreign Legion is also another option to look into but it ain't no cakewalk like the military. And the military ain't a cakewalk itself.

Back alley blow jobs starting as low as 10 bucks.

Sell drugs.

Buy and flip shit. This requires good handy man skills, upfront capital, and an endless amount of patience because basically, you are running a business. Basically from your phone. I've done it and made some but this is the shittiest and most annoying way to make money. Unless you turn big ticket items like flipping houses or vintage cars, it is a struggle. And a nickle and dime deal. I'd usually make 20 dollars per item I bought cheap or fixed. But only after spending as much or more in gas/shipping. It is tough doing the yardsale scout thing.

Those are all sorta legal means.…
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Nigel Mevingville - Tue, 05 Sep 2017 08:39:38 EST ID:O3FYm2dt No.518605 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518593
Well man you have to get a job and stop spending so much money
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Hannah Herringshaw - Tue, 05 Sep 2017 23:04:46 EST ID:94uHFygY No.518621 Ignore Report Quick Reply
(legal) sales, drug dealing, real estate, executive positions, fraud, grand larceny, bank robbery, hitman, stock brokering (as a full time pursuit, not hobby), austere lifelong saving into compound interest accounts which reap rewards of a comfortable retirement as a reward for a modest lifestyle


Fuck by Ian Seddledotch - Mon, 04 Sep 2017 17:46:32 EST ID:a0EoQjH4 No.518595 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I feel completely lost and anxious about life. For background, I'm 24, live in the US and I'm female.

I graduated college last year. I wage slaved my entire way through college, so I didn't come out with any debt. I ended up graduating with a degree in history. Although I don't really regret my course of study, it isn't something I want to pursue for a career. I have a job right now working for a historical non-profit through a national service agency, but the work is isolating and I'm not making much of an impact at all. The position also requires me to work and live in a very rural part of the state without any supervision or support.

I thought my dream job would be working abroad in development work. As soon as I graduated, I joined a humanitarian organization in Africa. But I encountered some of the same problems; where I was poorly supported, given minimal training, and expected to live out in isolation in a village of about 500 people. I've honestly felt like shit because I quit that job. My self-esteem is super low, and when people learn about my experiences I feel an overwhelming sense of shame.

I just feel sort of defeated and directionless. On top of all of this, I really don't have any friends or people that I can spend time with. My best friend of the last 9 years recently got tired of putting up with my shit, and the friends I had in my hometown have moved on doing their own thing. I feel a horrible anxiety that I am always going to be this alone and fucked. I'm turning 25 soon. What I'd really love more than anything is to feel a sense of stability, for once, something I can draw confidence from, a support system, and friends.

My current contract job ends in January. I'm currently taking some core classes at a community college that I didn't take in undergrad. I really think that my strengths are genuineness and care for other people, so I've thought about changing careers and getting into healthcare.

I'm sort of thinking about just caving in and moving back to my hometown. I still have a couple of friends there, but I'm anxious that even if I do change my environment, that things will stay the same. Right now, it just …
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Wesley Handleford - Tue, 05 Sep 2017 12:56:34 EST ID:T2acLeMx No.518609 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518595
Theres some parts of you that cannot be escaped but some that can. I think you need to work out what really makes you happy, your priorities and pursue it. You might be compromising the wrong things.

At your age I was at least as bad off as you and I'm happy with 3/4 of my life following a new start. I went "home" while I found a new place so retreating for a few months if you can get a job to save for a new start might not be a bad option.

Healthcare is absolute fucking brutals but it's in demand and a growing market with a shrinking supply, however you will be under paid. You're always going to be under supported in most organisations because that's efficiency. However you can look at all the winging it you've done and what you've learned and proven. I'm happy doing a job I believe in but I am not on the front line, I actually do finance for healthcare professionals and you should consider what you enjoy doing and your skills and how you can actually use them well rather than necessarily being front line. But then that said maybe those skills ARE exactly suited for being a carer, nurse or whatever. You will need to be patient, hands on, calm and able to tolerate shit flying everywhere, probably literally though.

As far as new friends go, it takes time, failure and getting out there. As a woman you need to befriend women first because if you approach men assumptions will be made, sorry that's how it goes. Some of them will be cool even if you don't want to fuck them don't get me wrong but you'll have to barge through crowds of thirsty dudes (and we are always thirsty).

A new environment really helped me though. A new career too. I would also recommend exercising, and working on other self improvement rather than getting fat and playing WOW or shitposting. I mean you can do those too but you're at an age where you will stop being "young" very quickly if you don't start maintaining yourself and the same applies to your mind. Hell I know plenty of old farts by your age because they stop exposing themselves to new things. Eat well, sleep properly and do cardio and weights, go for walks, explore music, read philoso…
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Sidney Blythefield - Tue, 05 Sep 2017 15:32:22 EST ID:twMAaV8o No.518610 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518595
Does Africa need historians? Have you got some medical training? You know how to build a house from scratch? You're a plumber?
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Esther Gablingfock - Tue, 05 Sep 2017 18:51:12 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.518615 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518606

>learn regular science

Dude, careful what you wish for. I did /chem/ and am wishing I did CS.
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David Wannerspear - Tue, 05 Sep 2017 21:35:41 EST ID:pU47oATc No.518617 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518609

Thanks for the sound advice. Yeah, I'm going to take the time to sort through things. I might move back home for a little while to save up some money and start getting some priorities in order.

And yeah, it's hard to make new friends. I'd love to make some girl friends, but most of the interactions I have are with guys since the female to male ratio where I currently live is about 20 to 1. I haven't met many guys who want to be friends with me.

That last part is kind of what worries me. I want to maintain my positive outlook and love for life, but a lot of people around me are incredibly jaded. I think that might be part of the reason it might be a bit difficult for me to make friends. I really care, and I'm pretty passionate about things once you get me going.

Thanks.
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Beatrice Wullerstock - Tue, 05 Sep 2017 22:06:50 EST ID:hEbL5W/9 No.518619 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518602
I worked lots of shitty min wage jobs moved out a few times, failed at college a few times, drove my car around the US finding jobs in random places. I was 25 with nothing to show so I bit a bullet.


jdimsa by Jack Sushmon - Sun, 27 Aug 2017 00:23:55 EST ID:qzNA9/lB No.518369 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hi, I've got a few little lot of things on which I would like to hear external insights, if you will.
I'm 19 years old and completly lost in life. I don't know what to do, every path seems either delusional or miserable. Everything in modern society causes me repulsion. I know this sounds edgy as fuck, I hope I could put it in better words, but please bare with me.
I don't really fit anywhere. I'm not schizoid but I usually avoid anything that requieres social interaction because I'm simply tired of it. I feel like I'm never in the same page as everyone else, there is a wall that blocks communication. I experience some sort of unavoideble instrospection trip several times in a day everyday and sometimes these end up becoming strong derealization. The only way social stuff seems "ok" is when there is alcohol involved. I don't really relate with my family and they, as pretty much everyone else, interpret my lack of focus on the present as if I was somehow looking down on them, which is not true, because regardless of my feelings of detachment I do love and care and respect my family and other people. I try to be nice and helpful to people by, just for example, picking up something someone dropped and handing it to them, or stuff like that, but I do not like to fake interest in stuff related to them simply because I don't like people being fake to me. Most of the stuff related to what is going on in people's life is related to the world that I fail to connect with.
All this garbage being said, I'm supposed to follow some kind of path or career, right? Well, I don't see the point. I don't want "succes". I don't understand why is life understood like some kind of goals-archiving-game. Is impossible to not see that is all a chasing the carrot on a stick sugar riddled cycle. Once you get and eat the carrot, once you reach your objective, the blindness in which you were bullshited in by culture becomes evident. Why is reaching objectives and archving goals stand as some inherently-sacred life method? How are people able to define objectives and goals without defining on which values the game should operate?
Everytime I start beliving I som…
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Frogman - Tue, 05 Sep 2017 16:30:58 EST ID:BkckucLk No.518613 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Coming from a diagnosed schizoid 23 years old
It sounds like you might be schizoid
A. The depersonalization
B. The emotionlessness
C. And feeling like the world is passing by

My best advice would be to find your own success and explore the world on your terms and not the worlds terms of success
Good luck dude
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Wesley Handleford - Tue, 05 Sep 2017 16:58:35 EST ID:T2acLeMx No.518614 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518613
Could also be depression and just depersonalising. But I'm not saying you're necessarily wrong either.

OP about career path. The way I see it your goal isn't an end point but just to be in a position where you can do something good every day. You don't eat the whole carrot, you plant the top and wait for another to grow and another. You eat carrots regularly. Success is just achieving what makes you happy, doing something you believe in and are proud of and ideally living off it. When other people impose a different standard it's usually their own version of success (or someone else's that they bought into) imposed on others under the assumption it's applicable. Success is worthwhile but only if you consider it to actually be a success.

Also the world isn't changing just your understanding. I personally am a bit of an existentialist. I don't think that's an absolute goal just relative values so that makes the above a bit easier to reconcile. People who are "living" either accept something like this or believe in an absolute value and truth and work towards that. In the end though everyone has just found a yardstick that works for them.

Also most people aren't as careless and happy as we seem. We project this outwards because negativity usually attracts negativity but the truth is most of us are reconciling the things we are happy with against all the things that make them miserable. Life is misery, but you can eke enough joy to make it worth living anyway. Most people are not carefree but instead just have to work fucking hard to ensure their joy outweighs their misery (which includes the misery of working hard sometimes) by a decent margin.

Maybe you've already considered and discounted these thoughts or presently lack the perspective to appreciate them or both, or maybe you never will have that, but I'm putting them there for you anyway.


I'm a virgin at 21 and it makes me suicidal by Rebecca Wusslesine - Sat, 02 Sep 2017 10:47:19 EST ID:VlXGR1pf No.518506 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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And it makes me feel as pathetic as it sounds.

I have been dealing with major issues with self-worth and insecurity for 5 years now.

When I was 16-17 I would self harm over the fact.

It really drives home the fact that I have no balls and no one really wants to spend an extended time with me.

This is the first time I've shared something like this. It's my biggest shame.

I feel like half a person, like someone that hasn't accomplished anything.

It's not even like I'm someone that desperately wants to be in a relationship, to depend on someone else for support.

All I want is validation that I'm someone that's worth spending time with.
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Priscilla Buzzridge - Sun, 03 Sep 2017 22:30:12 EST ID:16crph// No.518575 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I dunno m8. I think there is some kind of special kind of stupid for us nobodies. I got fit, cleaned up, wore nicer clothes, change my attitude and acted nice and shit, I did all the right things from having a decent car, to a job, to a small but okay house, etc. And even still, looking fit, wearing good clothes and having a decent haircut, women just ignored me. Same as ever before. For all the glitz, glamour, and charisma in the world, it was still all for naught. So I just quit worrying about it and did whatever I wanted to do pretty much. I'm still depressed as ever but not anymore about women or any shit. When family or associates tell me I need to get laid or chase puss, It just rolls off my back now instead of hitting home.

I think there is a certain level of social prowess developed during teenage years during and directly after puberty and those who miss the class are just fucked for life. I mean, I know dudes who are so fat they can't even find their dick and piss on their legs half the time who live in a trailer and look like hell smoking all day and getting drunk and angry. And they get new pussy every month and keep women around frequently. Yet I've never even gotten a date after all the work I've put in or even a fake phone number.

Just quit OP. You'll be better off in the long run when you give up. And don't get into doing all this shit just to get women, it is a waste of time and money. I sold the nice threads, weight lifting shit, downgraded to a cheap car, and just let my appearance be unkempt again. I would have rather put that money and effort into skills or the lottery. Better chances there tbh. Broken people do exist no matter what any self-help guru says.
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Edwin Gongerbanks - Mon, 04 Sep 2017 12:22:06 EST ID:twMAaV8o No.518588 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>518575
I think your attitude now is perfect. Honestly, I am 31 now and I don't know good guy who didn't end up meeting and marrying the love of his life. I see it with older guys I work with as well, the good ones find people, even if they aren't funny or charming or handsome or any of the things you associate with getting a partner on TV or when you're younger. So yeah, don't fret about it, if it happens it happens. If it doesn't, it's no great loss.
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Rebecca Blythelock - Mon, 04 Sep 2017 13:03:55 EST ID:T2acLeMx No.518591 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518588
I'd say go for the self improvement but only if that's going to benefit you. Build a good life for you.

When this thread was posted I was midway through having a mental breakdown from the complete collapse of my self esteem. Dating sites are just a place for well adjusted people with the skills we lack now. I'd be lying if I said I was a tonne better but I had a vent to a friend, at least the work I've put into that is worth it. I went to work and enjoyed my job so the work was worth it and I feel about as good as you can physically while saddled with depression so the taking care of my diet and exercise has been worth it.

I found out one of my friends has actually given up for real. She is a little big but she's pretty and she works out so she's not about to balloon, she's smart as fuck, owns her own house in the second most expensive city in the country, has passionate hobbies, is a great conversationalist, smart and yes I'd date her in an instant but she's given up and has been a few years. I think I don't meet her idea of a good guy and in her case she did meet a few guys who treated her like shit. I think she had this dumb idea of what she wanted and it was too focused, so she'd be ignoring great guys and then putting loads of energy into denying what pieces of shit she dated. Actually it was a double whammy because what she wanted was not conducted to the sort of person who'd actually appreciate her. She got used. it's kind of her fault but we all fuck up and make mistakes you know?

I'm not ready to do that but it made me think. There's women out there, good ones who have just done the same as us. I mean they got laid because they're not chasing women (though plenty of lesbians probably suffer the same shit as us) but they essentially feel unloved, not taken seriously as a person, undervalued, overlooked and there's not even anything actually wrong with many of them except their choices. Just maybe we should beat ourselves up a bit less about this anyway.
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Hugh Pittfuck - Mon, 04 Sep 2017 16:16:20 EST ID:hSKTwMjR No.518594 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Get on tinder, dummy. Seriously. It's way easier to meet people when you put yourself somewhere where everyone else is specifically trying to meet people...somebody will take the bait, and if they don't, adjust your standards until you're casting a wide enough net. Also steal somebody else's girlfriend. The psychology at work in that situation makes it especially easy a lot of the time, and you'd be amazed how many dissatisfied women with lazy, stupid, ignorant and abusive boyfriends are out there waiting for you to swoop in and win them over. I've had a girl dump her bf and move across the fucking country for me, before. And it became a three year relationship where we lived together, eventually. It works.
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Sidney Blythefield - Tue, 05 Sep 2017 15:34:27 EST ID:twMAaV8o No.518611 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518594
lol weirdly, that's a good idea. If she is in a good relationship you won't be able to steal her anyway, so it's not REALLY wrong, is it?

No sex till they're broken up.


Afraid by Help - Sat, 02 Sep 2017 19:24:37 EST ID:CL/VT/Nm No.518519 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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My girlfriend of 6years (fiance) of the last. has just requested me to go spend two weeks with my friend. So she can decide if we can keep going.
Some back story for the bored forum reader.
I've been pretty clingy and have a habit of accusing her of cheating because I'm super insecure and the past few months she has been talking to a group of people in another room and avoiding me. And I've accused her of cheating before even though I know she never would. So I started doing things wouldn't normally do to help her out. To hopefully open up space for us time. But when I try she said I was too co-dependant and she needed space.
Witch made me feel like she was trying to get over me intirly.

And another big no no on my part I snooped through her phone and found out she's been talking to a guy for 3weeks that calls her baby and when confronted she got mad about personal space and told me he's been their to comfort her and to let her vent about me.

I've fucked this up...so bad...but I would do anything in the world to make it right please help me 6years of memorys are tearing me up please please please help me fix this.
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Sophie Shittingdale - Sun, 03 Sep 2017 17:52:53 EST ID:Ikm6SAhz No.518557 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518554

P.S. if I sound insensitive, it's because I am a male who has put himself in similar situations with significant females. It feels like the world is crashing down around you, like a compete and total nightmare, but it's actually just the reality of your personality setting in. nb
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Martha Pucklewill - Sun, 03 Sep 2017 18:06:39 EST ID:LoDjme4P No.518561 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518557
what this guy said, though im afraid you will have to live through this to learn as you will be just thinking about her much too much to truly work on yourself for the sake of yourself and not just to "get her back"
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Clara Semmletit - Sun, 03 Sep 2017 18:32:33 EST ID:ia37Z8cL No.518564 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518556
That's bullshit because the narrative that he's implying is it is impossible to have your masculinity intact AND be a good person at the same time. I'm not even trying to make this political (unlike the poster who posted the image and everyone who responded) but to suggest that people who are "intellectuals" or "left fags" or w/e are incapable of disagreeing with the bullshit on their political spectrum (which can never be truly defined anymore cause "muh postmodernism") and being real men who work hard labor or live a masculine life is not just fucked up and wrong, it's insane. Like present me the fucking litmus test of thinking the way you believe i should think so i can see if i'm a fucking stallion or not, even if i have never been the bitch like OP about my relationships, because i was under the impression i was my own person with my own life to reflect whether i'm a stallion or if i have self respect, but i guess i have to go up to my black coworker and bludgeon him to death with a 2x4 tmrw or i'll instantly lose my self respect and sexual prowess.
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Eliza Snodlock - Sun, 03 Sep 2017 22:01:04 EST ID:FzwxKZsc No.518573 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>518564

Insecure much?

Being a beta faggot has nothing to do with political beliefs. Although they tend to be femenists and white apologists. I just think if you're okay with having your bitch banged by another stud then you're not a real man, probably a closet homo who wants to get closer to cock through his woman, though shes not really his if she's the town bicycle.
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Matilda Semmlesotch - Mon, 04 Sep 2017 06:15:37 EST ID:ia37Z8cL No.518585 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>518573
you completely missed the point of what i am saying. I'm not the one making this political, believe it or not there was once a time when stallion was just a pathetic fetish and nothing more, now its a cultural phenomena (which i admit some so called "feminists" and other neo-liberals online tried to embrace) used as a political slur. I find being a stallion pathetic and unattractive but also believe that encouraging more pollution and letting multi-billion dollar corporations control everything is fucking stupid and destructive for everyone at the same time. It's not that hard to understand


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