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Bag over Head? by Eugene Cerrybanks - Mon, 13 Nov 2017 14:33:00 EST ID:JsQi4/8G No.519991 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey guys,

I've always been into older men, the whole underage and adult roleplay really turns me on. However, I don't the whole voice changing thing or start acting like a child.

I recently found out it has as a term for it. Daddy/Little Girl, but not a lot of people that I've met or been with are truly into this.

I recently met this 43 year old guy, I'm 25 and he is really into it, we have mostly talked about it and been on 2 dates. I thought we would fuck on the first date, but he told me he really likes me and wants to move slow. That turn me on even more, shows like the caring side of the whole thing.

Anyways.. The only issue I find is that I'm not 100% physically attracted to him, but I dont know if to just go for it, to play out my fantasy or wait. Have you guys ever push asides good looks for a good fuck?

Sorry if this is not the right space for this matter...
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Edward Sadgefit - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 06:44:02 EST ID:JI9kO00V No.520010 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519991
I mean, I don't know about the other stuff. But if you won't sleep with someone simply because you aren't 100% attracted to them, you're kinda cheating yourself by forgoing something good because it isn'the perfect. Kind of like seeing this lady on Dr. Phill (all my grandmother watches when I visit). This lady was talking about the stress of going from an annual salary of 1 million to 100k. To the point she has attempted suicide, and sees her life as nothing but awful in her "tiny 3 bedroom house". And people sympathized with her.
Despite 100k still being a great income, she denied herself anything good about it simply because it wasn't her ideal setting.
Life seldom will be, or ever is ideal. Most you can do is weigh the pros and cons, and pick the side that makes you happiest. Otherwise everything is shit despite the fact.


Tl;dr: hey, if he isn't disease ridden or a fucking asshole, go for it op. You'really both adults.
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Oliver Drendertodge - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 10:15:25 EST ID:KbKvqV7e No.520011 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520010
>100% attracted to them
Depends what 100% means. If you mean 100% of the maximum possible attraction you can feel then yeah that shit doesn't matter. If you mean 100% as in 100% enough that's different. If someone isn't attractive enough you're not going to want to look at them, kiss them, fuck them spend time with them. They don't have to be perfect, just enough that you're not going to have to make extra effort to be turned on enough to fuck them. So what if OP's problem is a 3 bedroom house but rather going from independence to being a lodger in someone else's house.
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Edward Sadgefit - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 11:49:27 EST ID:JI9kO00V No.520013 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520011
My point was more, don't pass something up simply if it isn't perfect. Not sure what else is really playing into it for OP outside of sexual desire. Obviously have standards. But realistic ones.
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Ernest Bropperbury - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 12:51:27 EST ID:4uGF5XEv No.520014 Ignore Report Quick Reply
you sound so vapid
so yeah, go for it
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Beatrice Pemblekire - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 19:33:29 EST ID:JsQi4/8G No.520021 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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OP HEREEE

>>519993

Pff.. did u not read what I said? lol..lame ass...

>>519995

Yea, this guy and I have really good chemistry, he is sort of a nerd, which I enjoy at times, I've dated many assholes. He does biology research for autism kids - which is pretty awesome..not so much the fantasy of getting fucked by a business man lol jk.

But yea.. we laugh, we flirt, he is sort of creepy in a horny way, but it turns me on a lot. I'm weird af, and I think he could satisfy that side of me. I have thought that maybe that's why I cant sleep with him, because he is sort of weird and creepy and I like it, but cant act upon it. If that makes sense.

I might just go on 2 more dates and see how everything unfolds, and see if its worth staying. Thanks :)

>>519997
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Goodbyes? by Cornelius Pittman - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 03:07:08 EST ID:KOWpnCki No.520005 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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How do you deal with goodbyes, /qq/ ?

I have had girlfriends that I consider to be really good friends, but the relationships never went anywhere so I broke up with them (or they broke up with me) but I am really bad at not talking to them because to me they have become good friends , and I feel like I always want to know how they are or what they're up to. Even if they tell me they don't want to talk to me I always leave that door open, and sometimes it is painful to think that a person really doesn't want to talk to you every again.

How do you know when to stop saying Hi? How do you know if your friendship is benefiting them or if it's time for you to move on? How do you move on?
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Walter Sammernotch - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 10:17:45 EST ID:jQZ803QM No.520012 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>520005
>How do you know when to stop saying Hi?
when you don't have anything to say and your conversations always seem to be "hey, what's going on?" "not much, you?" "nothing" and then that's about it

>How do you know if your friendship is benefiting them or if it's time for you to move on?
if you have to ask yourself that question, it's probably time.

>How do you move on?
just stop getting in touch with them and drift apart.


op if the relationship was important to them they'd get in touch with you. stop texting them to see what they're doing out of habit and if they never hit you up, then it's better for your relationship to die naturally than to force it along like some sort of zombie for a few more months. if it's dead, let it go with some dignity.
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Charles Cliggleham - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 15:34:45 EST ID:Svgtf+UD No.520016 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520005

>How do you deal with goodbyes, /qq/ ?

Well, >>520012 is what you should do.

>How do you know if your friendship is benefiting them or if it's time for you to move on?

You should probably turn your brain off on this one and just go with things. It's good to think of other people, but if the friendship is no good for them they ought to be able to recognize the fact. If for some reason it was bad for them yet they kept speaking like normal instead of being honest with you/themselves, that's not your fault and not something you should spend your life considering.

>How do you move on?

For me, dealing with goodbyes requires some closure sometimes. There are three people in my life where if this classic drifting apart happened I would have a dramatic conversation with them regardless of how stupid it might make me look.

But conversation or not, moving on is just taking the hit to your feelings and letting it slowly feels normal again. Treat it exactly as physical injury(being unable to move on completely could be like arthritis pain from a bone break). I think this mindset speeds up the process.


Roomate's ex-girlfriend taking advantage of him by Jake Roscoe - Fri, 03 Nov 2017 23:42:56 EST ID:/0Ftn4AA No.519809 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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My friend's ex-girlfriend cheated on him when they were dating. He found out because she gave him chlamydia.

He suffers from PTSD and childhood abandonment trauma, as well as major depressive disorder. One of the ways he copes is by spending time with former lovers (all of whom have cheated), the presence of whom he does not appear to be able to cope without.

His ex-girlfriend visits our home multiple times per week, spending the night, and watching TV with him. They re-enact patterns of behavior that were present as their relationship declined for 1.5 - 2 years prior to their breakup about a year ago. They are frequently bitter and negative in their interactions with one another. It's as if she sucks the energy and happiness from the room. He feels as if he can't go on without using her presence as a coping mechanism, even though she is just taking advantage of his abandonment issues in order to secure herself resources and support. My friend is very financially well off.

They have very little in common intellectually, and my friend remarked that he felt, since going out and meeting other women following their breakup, that he didn't realize how much he had been settling. I.e. implying that he could never be content with being in a relationship with her ever again, at least to the extent that he would ideally want. She does not share his interests, his disposition, and does not appear to show genuine empathy or affection for him.

When I am present in the house, such as when I am in the kitchen or when I talk to my friend from time to time, she glares at me and acts pissed that I am there. I pay my own hard-earned money to live there, she shows up to take advantage of my mentally ill friend, and treats me like I'm the one imposing or doing something wrong.

I cannot bring this up and reason with my friend about it. At one point following their break-up, I told him that he deserved better than a two-bit whore who would cheat on and deceive him. He became upset, told me that they were on good terms, and that subsequent conversation of the sort would result in our friendship diminishing or ending. This is a guy I've been best friends with for over 6 years.

He realizes that his need to be around her is fueled by abandonment trauma, realizes that he and she are far from ideal relationship partners, and realizes that, minus the temporary relief her presence brings from his trauma, that she brings little value to him. Yet, he needs relief from his trauma so badly, that I'm sure to attempt to have a discussion with him about it would more than likely damage our friendship because he needs relief from his trauma more than he wants to be friends with me.

How can I help my friend, safeguard us from this awful, manipulative woman, and somehow get my message across? Or should I even try?
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KurtsonDurtson - Sat, 11 Nov 2017 19:55:54 EST ID:fXpc3paZ No.519954 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519809
You've tried to help your friend but he's to much of an asscrack to take advice from someone who genuinely cares about him as he'd much rather talk to a piece of shit. Fuck him, he doesn't deserve a good friend like you. If he want's to wither away in his feelings then just let him. He obviously doesn't respect you as a friend if both of you can't even have a proper conversation about his general wellbing.
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Samuel Crabbernig - Sat, 11 Nov 2017 20:28:38 EST ID:+hHCQmMo No.519956 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519954
many people of this day and age simply don't understand the difference between criticism and outright disrespect...
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Phyllis Crobbleridge - Sun, 12 Nov 2017 05:23:40 EST ID:vqQ+KZYo No.519962 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Your friend has set a clear limit so no luck there, it is probably very painful for you but like you said, the pain for him is bad enough that he allows such a controlling and negative person into his life in order to relieve it, slightly.

Your best bet would be to confront her directly, just the two of you. It would take planning to catch her by yourself and if you're not the assertive type, this may not go over well against her aggression. Scaring her off could leave your friend in an even worse place, though, so it's up to you if you want to get involved.
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Jenny Clashhood - Sun, 12 Nov 2017 09:58:12 EST ID:KbKvqV7e No.519965 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519962
If you confront her she will lie about what you said and he will believe her because he's proven that's where his loyalties lie.

Move out OP. Just move out. If he asks why tell him she constantly glares at you and you know it's destructive and the whole atmosphere is fucked and you hope you will find being friends easier if you're not facing that. I know two guys whose friendship went from best buddies to being okay with each other over several years. one moved out and it's back how it was within weeks. Being friends doesn't make you good housemates.
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Cornelius Pittman - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 02:53:45 EST ID:KOWpnCki No.520004 Ignore Report Quick Reply
offer to help him find a new girlfriend, maybe take him out to a bar and try to get him to talk to other girls


Pro Wrestling training is causing me to put myself under immense pressure by Sophie Fugglefuck - Thu, 02 Nov 2017 16:39:25 EST ID:VlXGR1pf No.519783 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I started training summer last year. I injured myself quite severely after I finished the inital 'beginner' phase and was out for 6 months. I returned in March this year and have been training once a week (sometimes twice) ever since.

At the same time however I've been incredibly depressed for the first time in a while. I had about two years (18-20) where I was on top of my mood and living a relatively decent life. The thing that kept me going and kept me optimistic is that I had my goal of becoming a pro wrestler in sight.

Now that I'm neck deep into training my old behaviour patterns and emotions have returned from when I was 16-18. I'm depressed, suicidal but overall anxious about everything.

On one occasion, when I was returning to the wrestling gym for the first time since I injured myself for an in-house show I had a panic attack just outside it before entering. Nobody saw luckily but that's been my relationship with the gym since.

I distinctively remember the feeling of breathing intensely, feeling dizzy and almost collapsing after seeing a haze of light. Next thing I remember I was leaning up against the wall nearby scared to death.

I still get the intensely nervous feeling and shortness of breath when I got there for a session. The only thing that gets to me when I analyse it is my poor cardio and my otherthinking during certain drills and situations.

Both of these things can be improved out of training quite easily however I'm at a pount now where, when things get to me and upset me in my day to day life it makes it harder and harder for me to motivate myself and really work hard on my weaknesses.

The more real life gets me down the more pressure I feel to become a wrestler, the more pressure I feel to become a wrestler the worse I feel about my ability and potential to actually be a wrestler and then it creates a feedback loop of negative emotions that keeps me in the place I am now.
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Angus Suffinghood - Wed, 08 Nov 2017 20:38:23 EST ID:qnpf4h+M No.519888 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519783
hey man. it sounds like you'd like elliot hulse
give this a shot before you try meds. take a look around his channel
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=biFfR2sZGvA
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Nicholas Drusslehood - Sat, 11 Nov 2017 08:46:07 EST ID:VlXGR1pf No.519939 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519888
I actually love Elliott Hulse. I'll watch this. Thank you.
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Phyllis Hucklededge - Sat, 11 Nov 2017 13:54:52 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.519944 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519869
I agree and also think it would be better for OP. Pro wrestling seems like a lot more stress because you have to coordinate with the other guy and be perfect so you don't hurt him. MMA is much easier to relax because it's competitive instead of cooperative so you just have to try your best and if you get beat down you just have to work to improve and you will see real results in the sparring and not get beat as badly and eventually you can improve and start beating other people. It would be much harder for me to be doing these intricate choreographed moves with a partner vs just trying to beat someone up anxiety wise.
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[name redacted] !6fGmhrVKuE - Sun, 12 Nov 2017 22:06:35 EST ID:0l8Nya5O No.519973 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519868
That sounds like it's not that great of a gym, like the other guy said before, I'd definitely start looking for a different place to train.

Don't let other people picking up faster than you get you down, everyone trains at their own pace. I used to train with this kid, started competing in BJJ about a year after starting, and never won a match for 2 years straight despite competing every 2-3 months. He had his first win about 3 years ago and now the kid's won the world championship in his weight group, won his weight group and open weight as an adult at nationals despite being 15 and actually gets hired for seminars around the country. As long as you keep training you'll eventually get good.

Sparring between experience levels is something that's pretty common, but a lot of the gyms I've trained at have a standard of fighting down, ie, fight at your partner's level if they're lower, and let them set the pace. If the head coach was seeing that you weren't being too confident, he definitely shouldn't have hit you hard enough to drop you.

A better option for people who are a bit new to hitting someone and getting hit is for the more experienced guy to throw slower punches and kicks lightly, and for the newer guy to focus on blocking them and countering them. Once they start to get the confidence up, then you can speed up a bit, and they'll be more comfortable with blocking.

Don't let their shit practice discourage you if that's what you want to do
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Eliza Deckledock - Mon, 13 Nov 2017 05:36:37 EST ID:Evz4feKy No.519983 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>519783
>>519868
Exercise and physical exertion cause a chemical reaction that can make you feel better. But like any chemical or drug you can build a tolerance to it. Depression/anxiety/whatever also have a chemical component to them. You can experience withdrawal because to your brain it feels good to feel bad.

Without therapy this cycle will endlessly repeat. Meds can help some, but the side effects can be a bitch. Meds should ideally be treated as a temporary treatment.

Congrats to both of you for doing something and not just sitting in a rut. Even if only for a little while.


please to be saving my job by George Padgeshit - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 12:28:06 EST ID:5yYYR0y+ No.519918 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>tfw you wake up and you think you have the day off and you're all jazzed to do nothing and then you find a missed call on your phone and you find out you were scheduled today but you didn't know because last time you checked the schedule you weren't and you didn't think to check again because you're dumb and thought the schedule went up on sunday

i don't have any way to get there because i didn't think i fucking needed to so i'm gonna go in tomorrow bright and early and explain that i'm a idiot who managed to complicate something as uncomplicated as a schedule and it won't happen again. on a scale of 1-homeless, how much of a job do i still have?
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George Padgeshit - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 13:34:33 EST ID:5yYYR0y+ No.519926 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>519919
>If your boss thinks/knows you're hard working and dilligent and believes you give a fuck then you'll might get a laughed at for being an eejit who cost yourself some cash and you won't get money for the shift but you'll be fine as long as you don't make a habit of it.
i'm pretty sure they think i'm at least a decent worker, i work at a movie theatre and people give me cash tips fairly regularly (which is still weird as hell to me, i've never heard of anybody tipping the popcorn dude) and the other day i got some sorta award thing for "excellent service".
i mean, it's a minimum wage gig while i'm in college so i try but it's not like i put everything i possibly could into it you know? what's freaking me out is this would've only been my fifth shift so they could fire me because i sneezed funny because probation and shit.

>If you have already phoned up and appologised great, if not do that AS WELL as turning up tomorrow and groveling.
yeah, you're probably right. i thought about calling but i didn't wanna pour more gas onto the fire by ringing them up after i just fucked them only to go "whoops my bad, no sorry i can't actually make it there today okay bye".

i also absolutely fucking despise not speaking to people in person because it's impossible to gauge how the conversation is going / just generally makes it harder to express yourself because they can't see you and the last thing i needed was for them to get the impression that i didn't give a shit or wasn't taking it seriously or whatever
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Samuel Gellerstone - Sun, 12 Nov 2017 00:23:21 EST ID:h/1sxUpj No.519958 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519926
>the last thing i needed was for them to get the impression that i didn't give a shit or wasn't taking it seriously or whatever

Uh, so did you communicate with them at all? Because not showing up for a shift and not explaining yourself or apologising at all is definitely how you lose a job because it seems like you give zero fucks.
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Jenny Clashhood - Sun, 12 Nov 2017 07:24:39 EST ID:KbKvqV7e No.519964 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519926
Well it's tomorrow now, but if you still have your job, generally it's better to phone up because it shows you give a fuck than turn up the next day. Hopefully you kept your job but you justified the wrong decision because you wanted to avoid the situation not because it was rational to do so.

It's not about "whoops my bad" it's more "oh shit I have just realised, do you want me in for the second half of the shift, I am sorry and embarrassed". It shows you take them seriously, in your absence they may actually worry about you, and it shows them some respect. "Hey I fucked up but at least you know not to expect me at all, or when to expect me". It allows them to plan their shift.

If you lost your job then it's probably that you didn't call that put you over.
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Lydia Bupperham - Sun, 12 Nov 2017 19:36:13 EST ID:TV+1Xc0l No.519971 Ignore Report Quick Reply
No call no show no job
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Sophie Hondledale - Mon, 13 Nov 2017 12:14:48 EST ID:jQZ803QM No.519990 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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op here, wasn't planning on coming back because i expected the thread to just die but yeah everything's fine. when i got back into town later that night i went and talked to them in person because like one guy said i was definitely rationalizing it so i wouldn't have to deal with it for as long as possible, but i really do genuinely hate phonecalls so i met myself halfway.

happy hanukkah and merry kwanza everybody


Erectile Dysfunction and Acid by Sidney Singerway - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 13:23:37 EST ID:vsRAbcxo No.519923 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've been a heavy porn abuser for about 10 years now. I've never really been able to have sex because I can't get or maintain an erection. I have a girl that wants to come over this weekend and "get fucked up and fuck". This is my dream tbh. To do some hard drugs and have sex with a sexy girl. She wants to do acid and xanax.

But I'm worried that I won't get it up. I've told her that and the first time we fooled around some months ago I wasn't really able to. I'm worried that I might fall into a bad trip if I'm unable to perforn, which would make it twice as worse. I don't know what to do, should I try to postpone and see about getting some medication for ED before I do this? Is there anything I could get over the counter that would help me within the next couple of days? Everything I've researched is either prescription or takes weeks. Or could acid help me fuck this girl? I need answers.
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Sidney Singerway - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 13:36:40 EST ID:vsRAbcxo No.519927 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519925

How am I gonna get Viagra in a day
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Edwin Gobberham - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 19:31:55 EST ID:1gmJgkIr No.519933 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519927
Go to the doctor and tell him everything you've said in this thread.
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Walter Nullyham - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 20:02:36 EST ID:V7JGOwDJ No.519934 Ignore Report Quick Reply
try a cock ring. If you can get semi-erect it'll restrict the blood from flowing back out of the penis, while allowing more to flow in. It's essentially a hydraulic solution.

Don't leave it on for more than 30 mins at a time though.

You can get them in most supermarkets/pharmacies here (UK), next to the condoms
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Thomas Closslestat - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 21:34:52 EST ID:YfFC3Utr No.519935 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519923

Try Betel nut
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Eugene Herrywell - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 21:37:50 EST ID:yEiqtiKT No.519936 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519923

If you can't get viagra in a day, maybe try supplements like L-Arginine, Maca, Ginkgo Biloba, etc.


How by Clara Medgetit - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 13:43:40 EST ID:UZC9gHak No.519928 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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How do I move across the country if I have the money for it but my parents refuse to help me and they won't give me a ride to the airport 15 minutes away or anything
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David Dezzlefudging - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 14:37:46 EST ID:UjNuOR6B No.519929 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519928
you pay a taxi or uber or have a friend drive you
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George Tillingshit - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 18:50:18 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.519932 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Or even just walk, how much stuff are you trying to pack nigga? Fuck, lol

I mean if its something you are planning to do and its as big as going across the entire country, why would a ~45 minute walk bother you?

By the way
>How do I move across the country if I have the money for it but my parents refuse to help me
Do what an adult who isn't financially dependent on parents would do. Figure it out for yourself. If you need help finding a way to get to an airport only 15 minutes away how exactly do you plan on being able to functionally sustain yourself?

I agree with your parents dude, you need to just stay home. By the sounds of things you're either going to wind up on the other side of the country and become homeless or you expect your parents to be willing to bail you out and pay for any of your debts that you've accrued and transportation back home, on top being back in the same position they were in before and stuck housing, feeding, and financially supporting you.
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Charles Pombleford - Sat, 11 Nov 2017 04:12:45 EST ID:h/1sxUpj No.519938 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519928
Fuck off and stop asking this same question every few days.
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Esther Nublingshit - Sat, 11 Nov 2017 10:02:53 EST ID:LZcwMVpc No.519940 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519928
I'm certain that you'll find the answer after you make just a few more threads


Hook ups vs relationships by Clara Pabbledit - Mon, 06 Nov 2017 09:30:42 EST ID:lP21wv30 No.519853 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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How do I signal to people that I'm looking for a long term relationship, not a quick fuck? Is Tinder good for that?

I am clueless.
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Albert Dammerstack - Wed, 08 Nov 2017 15:39:58 EST ID:V7JGOwDJ No.519882 Ignore Report Quick Reply
if you're having this kind of difficulty signalling that you want to get into a relationship, let me just warn you of something that won't seem like a big deal now, but is worth thinking about now before it applies to your situation:

How will you get out of this relationship if/when it becomes undesirable?

Before I'd been in a long term relationship I never thought about this at all, I was only interested in "getting a girlfriend". Then, after I'd acquired the thing I'd wanted for such a long time, and the relationship turned out to be something I didn't actually really want (but she did), I had no idea what to do. So I ended up in a 3+ year hellscape.

How could I have avoided this? Honesty. If I'd been honest about my misgivings early on, I could have saved us both a lot of pain. But instead I pushed them to the back of my mind, and put it off til later, eventually culminating in a very unpleasant scenario.

Just something to think about. Consider your exit strategy, and where possible speak your mind and be honest and open.
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Cornelius Wommerwater - Wed, 08 Nov 2017 18:10:35 EST ID:fD0FqsRl No.519885 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519881
You don't need to wait months but if you put out in the first handful of dates you will be playing fuckboi roulette.

I pulled a stranger on friday and I'd happily see her again. I'm not sure she feels the same way, and in if that's the case oh well. I had fun. Nutted. I wasn't looking for anything specific, just to enjoy the evening and see where it goes. If I'd been dead set on commitment I'd be a bit bummed. But also stupid. It works both ways and plenty of guys post here because they get fed up with the hump and dump treatment too.

I think the thing that stops most people leaving shit relationships when they're "must have a girlfriend" is that investment, self esteem and the fact they love the idea of a girlfriend more than the woman so her being /pureshit/ isn't a deal breaker. I don't think it's the signalling, it's the attitude. Just remember, people in happy relationships live longer and are happier than everyone else, but people in shit ones die younger and more miserable than single people.

Don't settle. Even if you're shy and struggle. If you do not enjoy yourself it's not worth pursuing. If you enjoy yourself even if she bails early then you had fun. See above.
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Caroline Snodfield - Thu, 09 Nov 2017 10:16:26 EST ID:1gmJgkIr No.519896 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You just keep having sex with them until you both get emotionally attached. It can be a while sometimes, but hey you get to fuck your way up to it.

You're both young and have trust issues. There'll be a few or many sexual partners along the way. It's a bit degrading, but your body loves it, and if you do it enough you'll be attached to the genitals of your new long term partner.

Win win. And without having to awkwardly express your feelings until it's 100% certain. Yesssss. It's true love. Mmmm hormones.

Oh and if you can't or don't want to have sex, just fake confidence and do it anyway. I literally laughed in the face of the second person I slept with when she said I had tricked her. I told her any experience was good so I had already won. We had sex for half a year after that.
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Eugene Blatherfuck - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 17:42:46 EST ID:V7JGOwDJ No.519931 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>519896

>I literally laughed in the face of the second person I slept with when she said I had tricked her. I told her any experience was good so I had already won. We had sex for half a year after that.
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Shit Hicklehot - Sat, 11 Nov 2017 11:54:26 EST ID:dJGuoqo1 No.519942 Ignore Report Quick Reply
you are all underestimating how fun and sexy it is to agree with your potential partner to wait a few months before having sex

soooo hot


Dropping Back In by John Dommerville - Tue, 07 Nov 2017 02:18:53 EST ID:fyNSW+7M No.519864 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So, it was nice to get away from the flashbacks and the depression that comes with them. It was nice to run away from the horror for awhile but I can feel it all still dancing in the background and the sober moments of clarity make it all so much more painful when it hits me. I can't dose in my sleep and before I wake up so it's all been concentrated in those few moments when the medication wears off and it nags at me all the more because of that.

I'm supposed to resolve it somehow but it never goes away no matter what I try; therapy, psychiatrists, meditation, self-medication. It doesn't want resolution, it wants to possess me again and again, sucking the life out of me constantly every chance it gets. I will let it possess me again because it's getting impatient with my wandering from its grip. I'll let it have its way with me at least the majority of the time. Maybe if I make a compromise and suffer for 5 or 6 days out of the week and break away for 1 or 2 days I can figure out some way to heal. It'll be like living in an asylum but every so often i'm allowed to go out on passes, maybe that's something I can get used to.

Does anyone know personally if it's possible to heal from PTSD, rather than just putting a band-aid over it temporarily? Constant medication doesn't work out well because it's all still playing in the background and it starts to amplify. Constant sobriety doesn't work either because I end up feeling depressed and suicidal when i'm stuck reliving the traumatic experiences at random. I do the therapy thing and it isn't much of a help. Meditation only helps temporarily too, unless I was to meditate 24/7 it's pretty much the same as medication, it's all there waiting for you when you get up to take a piss or when the drug wears off.

I'm not to my breaking point and haven't given up yet but I have to figure out another plan and think of another way to heal. I would appreciate any input as to what approaches have worked for past PTSD sufferers if there is indeed any of you on these boards. Even if it's just finding an effective way to come to terms with it and i'll never truly heal fully, I need to know t…
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Eugene Fittingshit - Wed, 08 Nov 2017 16:52:33 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.519884 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519864
Every time you get a memory, make sure to focus your mind on it and pay attention to how the memory makes you feel. Try to sustain that feeling for as long as you can while holding the memory in your mind for as long as you can. Eventually you will still be thinking about the memory but the emotions will fade and you can get some distance from the emotions. You have to engage with the memories not try to run from them and escape them and then they will lose their power over you. Enduring the memory and the emotions that come with it for longer and longer periods proves to yourself that you can do it and once that happens you stop being so afraid of it.
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Angus Shittingstock - Thu, 09 Nov 2017 14:05:11 EST ID:fyNSW+7M No.519897 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519884

Has this worked for you personally? The thing with flashbacks is you can't help focusing on them and feeling the emotions because it's like in that moment you're completely blind to anything else. I guess I could try to consciously bring them up rather than having them attack me at random.

The thing is I went about a year with no medication just letting the flashbacks happen and hoping it would run its course and trying to process them without running from them and even after all that time I was still having random flashbacks during the day and nightmares at night. I finally got fed up and went to a psy-doc who put me on some PRN's and I was using benzos and Kratom on occasion to get some relief.

I'll do as you say and consciously recall them and begin trying to process them again as it's all coming back to haunt me and medication is becoming less effective anyway. I get feeling like I need some respite from them sometimes as having them hammer me constantly gets tiring but I know it isn't a solution in the long term.
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Shit Widdledit - Thu, 09 Nov 2017 21:24:37 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.519906 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519897
I have had some success with this method, but sometimes no amount of processing will solve the problem entirely so you can just switch to distraction. It helps to recite a mantra in your head while the memory is trying to invade your mind, it helps to detach you from the situation and refocus and remind you that you're in control and it's just fear and it can't hurt you. Personally I like:

>“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”

Anything that helps to refocus the mind and encourage you works though. If you can't stop having flashbacks you can still distract yourself and calm yourself down. Practice reciting your mantra while focusing on your breathing, it can be long or short but if it's longer you should train yourself to instantly relax your breathing and all the muscles in your body even at the first word of the mantra so you can use it when you're out and about. You have to practice when you have the time any time a flashback occurs. You should be so busy paying attention to your breathing and your muscles and the mantra that you don't have time to be traumatized. You can just set the erratic brain process to terminate quickly and move on to relaxing and gaining control by effortfully initiating the process each and every time the memory happens. Eventually it will become second nature and you will only have brief moments of emotion that you can bring under control and move on.

It's not really a perfect solution, but it's something. And yeah, I got this idea from a science fiction book but it's actually very closely related to things they do with dialectical behavioral therapy and mindfulness meditation. One other tip is that you can also train yourself to focus on your external surroundings rather than (or ideally in addition to) internal sensations like your breathing or a mantra. You just have to train yourself to truly put all of your focus on your external surroundings w…
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Samuel Feblingfidge - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 07:20:37 EST ID:Qv7MWzDJ No.519912 Ignore Report Quick Reply
What happened?
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David Dezzlefudging - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 14:41:05 EST ID:UjNuOR6B No.519930 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519864
look into MDMA therapy for PTSD. only thing that seems to permanently work.


Shit parents by Clara Medgetit - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 13:05:54 EST ID:UZC9gHak No.519920 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I want to move and my parents won't let me what the fuck do I do? My parents won't do anything for me. I finally have money to support yaelf and shit and I want to move and my parents just won't take me to the airport to move across the country. Like I finally did everything and they are just fat lazy pieces of shit that won't do anything.

I can't fucking live with them I hate them so much. We live in the shittiest oldest crumbling house I've ever seen. I literally have nothing here it's such a small town I don't have a single friend. Today I woke up because my body won't fuck off and stop being thirsty and have to piss and my dad was in the bathroom (he literally lives in the bathroom he just shits ALL DAY literally he shits 40 hours a day so I had to go outside in the snow and piss do you fucking know what it's like to wake up with no sleep and have to go piss out in the freezing cold bare foot seeing your breath and shit.

They automatically assume I will fail and I have ok way to the airport without them and I have a cat too. I fucking hate them and I just want to leave and never speak to them again. I am no longer they're son. They want me to die in this small town cold and alone and poor like they are. I fucning hate them. They are my greatest enemies and I will not stop until they are dead or out of my life.
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Archie Pamblegold - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 13:21:34 EST ID:4uGF5XEv No.519922 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>I finally have money
>my parents just won't take me to the airport

yeah, can we get a ban here? it's pretty much spam across boards now
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Samuel Crabbernig - Sat, 11 Nov 2017 20:23:11 EST ID:+hHCQmMo No.519955 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519920
you get your shit together, find the proper services you need, move the fuck out and prove them wrong...

If you cannot do that yourself,yore not an adult.

whining here isn'tgonna fix it, nb


Humor me on the analysis of this situation by amatuerhour - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 08:59:45 EST ID:Z5h/lYPz No.519913 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Paradox of logic and spirituality and the dichotomy of self


He's on a path that cant be reversed and we can't force a river to bend, it has to flow to its natural whims. As this
cycle he has is about to end, we have to find the catalyst that hold together his psyche in an unhealthy manner. This is his defense mechanism of equal parts dismissive and destructive, meaning when he feels threatened he tries to defuse and disassociate the meaning of the consequences of his actions that is conditioning him in a negative way.

This defensive mechanism is the thing that has tricked him that he can survive like this, in perpetual self-destruction
affecting the people around him. The pain of losing what HE think he has lost and the loves and passions associated is
what is keeping him from the final catharsis and becoming his true self. Cody is in a sense reversed his negative and positive selves(which are in every way equal, one and the same and also the greater sum of their parts as a whole) to their positions.

I picture codys energy and form that is as inverted being yet thats is just as much as cody as the all badass parts of
cody, because his natural instinct (again this is all an initial summation) is to protect the things and emotions and passions he values the most. Like a black hole or as an abyss I described earlier or a living organism of emotion that has form and is formless. This energy around him that is controlling his actions to accept the wrong kind of energy
that festers and feds this almost parasite that rejects everything and everyone

Its appearent this feeling/form/energy has become more and more tangible in a sense that it has spread to you guys
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Making friends. by Albert Duckshit - Thu, 09 Nov 2017 15:10:50 EST ID:c9pdmXdd No.519898 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I live alone now and I have no friends, not that I had any before but it's just that now I don't even get to see my parents. I've decided to sell some weed to this girl because that's the only surefire way I know that she would want to see me for a few minutes.
Now, you're probably thinking that this is me being a beta male stallion who can't approach girls, which is true, but however, thats not the only problem. Becoming friends with this girl is literally unfeasable, because she's a total hate machine. I've seen her fuck on people brutally for being incels, which I am, she constantly tries to ram it in how she hates being approached by people, whether it be male or female friendly or flirty. She's that kind of edgelord, and she knows about how much of a loser I am. Now, she's seems to mostly play up the edge of her personality and has hung out with people worse than me as early as one year ago, how do I show her that I've matured as a person and maybe get her to do some drugs with me even though she has a boyfriend?
I'm meeting tonight probably.
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Ebenezer Hannershit - Thu, 09 Nov 2017 17:09:15 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.519902 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Find guy friends instead of hitting up a skank for cheap fucks.
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John Wazzlelock - Thu, 09 Nov 2017 17:23:11 EST ID:4uGF5XEv No.519903 Ignore Report Quick Reply
youre really desperate if you want to give drugs to a hateful girl that won't even fuck you and will degrade you

stallion
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Henry Pedgegold - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 03:56:18 EST ID:c9pdmXdd No.519910 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519903
Yeah I get what you're saying. Now I'm losing my shit thinking about whether this was obvious to her or not.
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Edward Brobbershit - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 07:09:04 EST ID:pZ8h+be2 No.519911 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519898
She sounds like the kind of girl who would be turned on by implications. Give her some...... implications. Make her heart race. Make her...scared................OF HER PASSION THAT SHE DIDN'T EVEN KNOW WAS INSIDE HER! You must entrance her with your eyes mi amigo!!!!!!!! You must look at her with the intensity that says "I am a MAD MAN, MAD WITH LOVE! AND PASSION! AND RAGE! And you, YOU are my FLOWER!" and then she will play hard to get, she will spit in your eye. You must not hesitate! You must not react foolishly! You LOVE her spit! You LOVE that she is judging you! And challenging you! You must MEET her challenge mi picante chulupe!!! You must say to her after she insults you; "Come on, you don't REALLY feel that way ;)". But do it with authority! YOU are the MASTER! YOU are the BULL who is wild and free!!! Yet to be tamed! A force of nature!!! You must say to her in this way, "I see through your tests mi amor." but do not say this one literally!!! It must be said with body language and ATTITUDE! The attitude of not a child frightened boy! But the attitude of a man in control! A man who makes things happen and who controls the fates of others! You are a big incharge man!!! And she? She is just an OPTION! She should be flattered that you have even entertained the idea of bedding HER! If you believe it, she'll believe it. Now get out there, and show this ho that you have demands, not requests, and if she doesn't meet them, then you are passing her over for the next girl in line, of which you have THOUSANDS. You must have that abundance mindset if you're ever going to get anywhere in life let alone anywhere with girls. Girls want the guy who has options, because by virtue of his value he is given those options. Now, what is valued? In general, it's personality for men, looks for women. They will gravitate towards the man with the biggest personality. Not the loudest, not the meanest. The biggest personality. Abundance. Personality. Demands.

Remember, alternate between hard and soft approach when appropriate. Don't be creepy. Don't be rapey. Be cool. And don't be a bitch if the whore …
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Shit Hicklehot - Sat, 11 Nov 2017 11:59:17 EST ID:dJGuoqo1 No.519943 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>519898
I am completely in love with the girl in the second picture. The fact she did enough of something to lose consciousness means she has known pain and suffering and I could help her. I love her. Girls like that are never gay. Girl, I love you. We can get married in several countries now. Let's.


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