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Educated minority by Doris Sillynuck - Thu, 20 Apr 2017 21:52:26 EST ID:LP7sXigx No.515639 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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And girls don't give me any chance anymore, maybe when I was youthful. but now being close late 30s girls don't bother to give me a chance hell even a mutual friendly encounter. Even fat chicks who nobody wants anything to-do with. I am not even a beta male. I am just a decent well put together guy who manages to survive despite losing the company I worked for. I feel depressed. I smoke hash on my days off. I feel alone. All my friends are busy with their families and having more babies and I am stuck all alone in my home smoking hash oil. I tried to go out and meet new people but I get bullshitted all day.
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Cyril Clamblecocke - Thu, 20 Apr 2017 22:46:14 EST ID:o3vIoRWZ No.515642 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Adopt a kid.

Boom - family! Responsibilities, no more time for whining, someone to love and who'll love you, more than you ever thought possible and more than you ever deserved.
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Hedda Hebberputch - Fri, 21 Apr 2017 01:20:12 EST ID:XuzeqXAg No.515643 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Well my buddy got divorced yesterday and he's been acting cheerful. You never know, you know?
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Charlotte Bomblestock - Fri, 21 Apr 2017 05:24:52 EST ID:HXgn8b9h No.515649 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515639
Tldr
I like your taste in music tho nb/nonproductive


I realized learning was meaningless by Ernest Sottingkat - Tue, 18 Apr 2017 06:53:11 EST ID:LP7sXigx No.515562 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Because life is giving you directions but it doesn't seem to change the current situation to a positive if life is just what it is. An experience. Women I had love for turned away. But that's not the problem. The problem is I practice doing things and learning but what is it all for? It seems like we're aliens. Maybe it's all an illusion?
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Shitting Bishwill - Thu, 20 Apr 2017 16:02:48 EST ID:YtpWG7m7 No.515630 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I feel that OP. It seems like the more we learn, the deeper the hole gets. You learn one things to help you in one situation, then another situation rises forcing you to learn something new. Perpetually, till we die. I'm like, well great. Still feel a general net loss in joy for life.
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Shitting Bishwill - Thu, 20 Apr 2017 16:08:54 EST ID:YtpWG7m7 No.515631 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515597

great, but what are all those things for in the end?
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Phineas Gazzleway - Thu, 20 Apr 2017 21:11:43 EST ID:pCPQRsXK No.515637 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You secretly save those directions for when they are applicable or make sense.

Secretly your becoming resourceful.

And that's basically anthropomorphically the equivalent of a squirell.
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Cyril Clamblecocke - Thu, 20 Apr 2017 22:35:26 EST ID:o3vIoRWZ No.515640 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515631
For this.

Neat, innit?
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Charles Nambleham - Thu, 20 Apr 2017 22:41:39 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.515641 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515631
Do I really have to explain to you why people do things at all? Nobody does things because what they're going to mean for them once they're dead, because they'll be dead. People do things for how they're going to affect them in the present and the foreseeable future. Unless suffering or tediously going through the motions of living in endless boredom sounds like something you're interested in, you have to take steps to make sure that isn't what your current and future existence leads to. Was it really necessary for me to spell something that obvious out to you?


How to make roommate leave by Priscilla Snodwell - Tue, 18 Apr 2017 21:23:01 EST ID:vKvaev27 No.515577 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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My roommate is shit. Im not gonna get into it. I've posted about here more than enough times over the past 2 years.

But I can't move out. My lease is up in september...I have 15 grand in collections from school loans and shit, and i have another $4000 i owe because I just got sued. And even though I could still afford a place by myself and be actively paying for my shit, my credit score is 520 and i'm on probation. Nowhere is gonna accept me thats not hood.

I fucking hate my roommate. No one here understands no matter how much I post how much of a pos this kid is. I work 3rd shift and he insists on watching political news for 6-8+ hours a day on 70 volume when I sleep. I offer to buy him a meal and he orders an appetizer and 3 entrees, one of them being steak.

So I was pretty miserable knowing I would have to live with this fuckface again for at least another year, until my lawsuit is paid off and im off papers. Than I heard him talking to his gf the other day, i could hear what she was saying over the phone and she was asking if he had talked to me about him leaving my apartment yet. He said no and that he still "had to think about it"

My entire mood changed after that. I lit up like a christmas tree. Finally-an opportunity to get this fucker to leave, and have this apartment to myself.

But hes hesitant and I can tell. And I don't blame him. He doesn't make much and hes an entitled college student that thinks the world owes him free school and housing.

How can I make this kids decision for him. I want their to be no questions asked him moving. I need the extra room and the peace of mind I can't stand this motherfucker im gonna go completely berzerk. A few weeks ago I came home drunk and ripped the tv out of the wall and he threatened to call my PO. I haven't drank or talked about drinking or anything with drugs since than, im not going to jail i'm doing this smart.

How do I get this kid to move out? I stopped cleaning months ago and I havent washed my dishes in over a week, and when I do its gonna be in the bath tub. I stopped doing basic chores like washing my sink (we each have our own sink) and taking out the garbage, and I can tell he noticed because it wasnt taken out for a week and he made a big scene when he finally did it. He also asked me to buy some paper towel and I told him no.
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Phineas Gazzleway - Thu, 20 Apr 2017 21:23:46 EST ID:pCPQRsXK No.515638 Ignore Report Quick Reply
you have to work on communicating outside of favor in the mutual need that you to are actually in.

This is why it annoys you because secretly it's a detail from the beginning that is being neglected.

And anger isn't actually just anger, or hate. It's also a mental note of what needs are not being respected in tototallity.

Notice how often radicals, idealists, pessimists, and eternal optimists when they get upset sound angry.

you have to accept each other sounding angry and still be able to communicate as if you were in a anecdote of an old married couple.

Technically, the boiling in side is liner notes for you to be able to communicate more directly to a person that obviously does communicate more directly.

Honestly the only thing he can then do is storm off in a huff. Which may upset you more but leaves you time to sleep.


I secretly went through something like this a year ago and it revolves around every body else's schedule and arrangements working out, and you being a patient person who is indiscrete enough to not begrudge them having them, but hope that they would understand that you need the sleep implicitly when it's needed without that being a conversation that broaches the subject of no more television because that's another restriction


Hope by Hannah Fammerchire - Thu, 20 Apr 2017 19:21:50 EST ID:Ki1qQY1h No.515634 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I hope moxi has another stroke


Ridding Dildos For Money by Oliver Bellybanks - Thu, 13 Apr 2017 04:06:51 EST ID:OOsn0vqT No.515414 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I think I'm just going to wax my bodyhair and start riding rubber cock for a living.
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David Lightdock - Fri, 14 Apr 2017 14:55:52 EST ID:jPpWgI0N No.515464 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515461
Well I have no friends and my mother loves me unconditionally and I don't care what strangers think. So yea, I'm all set.
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Charles Guggleridge - Sat, 15 Apr 2017 10:17:19 EST ID:ivgDi1vU No.515485 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515464
start a cam whore book club!
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Eliza Grimlock - Tue, 18 Apr 2017 14:12:20 EST ID:RWPr/6OH No.515569 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515485
I'm working on something like this.
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Martin Huvingchore - Wed, 19 Apr 2017 02:56:47 EST ID:UHQ5Fpvu No.515592 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515569

Interested am a guy how would I go about signing up?
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David Fimmersetch - Wed, 19 Apr 2017 15:00:58 EST ID:w+XXs7My No.515605 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515592
Start caming as a guy.


Being hard to look at by Matilda Cimmledidge - Tue, 11 Apr 2017 17:38:06 EST ID:HXgn8b9h No.515386 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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What would you do if you had an ugly face? Like, ugly in a subtle, inexplicable way way to where people dont like to make eye contact with you? Like theres just something about the way your face is? And you also had a smile that made you look like a rapist? Would you learn to avoid smiling? Would years of not smiling because of this issue give you an emotionless, even more creepy? Do you think that a lifetime of avoiding smiling and having people unable to look you in the eyes for more than a few seconds could have any other developmental/psychological repercussions?
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Fanny Blenderway - Fri, 14 Apr 2017 20:39:01 EST ID:qgSlhkvl No.515472 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515470
wait.. your name wouldnt happen to be sky would it? because..
Anyway.. I find so to speak "battle scars" attractive, especially if you have a strong look. Wear it with pride and just kick ass and stuff. I would probably like you
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Fanny Blenderway - Fri, 14 Apr 2017 21:00:50 EST ID:qgSlhkvl No.515473 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515448
I need to work on this.
I have got to be like 1/2% of the entire world for my ways and I practically ooze charisma. I can befriend anyone anywhere at all, but once they get to know me they usually start saying stuff like "wow youre smart" which later turns into short answers of agreeance because they dont get what im talking about and have nothing to add.
I am an anarchist, buddhist, physically fit, artist as others might describe me.
I just be myself though and my biggest two goals in life are to A) Be as free as possible B) Grow and become as virtuous as possible.
I am very used to solitude as a result because so many people live their lives in a standstill working for things that dont really exist or make them happy and I just want to enjoy my time here without being chained to stuff
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Clara Sammlewutch - Mon, 17 Apr 2017 18:31:31 EST ID:HXgn8b9h No.515547 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515448
I feel you. Ive been fired from both my jobs and i just started my own little business doing peoples lawns, but because im so ugly/creepy, most people stand on their porch watching me work. Ive been told its because i look like "the kind of person that would peek in their bathroom window" or steal their gnomes or some shit. Makes it hard to work with people eyeballing me like their defending their family from some nefarious tweaker. And when youre trying to work and some asswipe is staring at you every time you turn around, it makes it hard to do a good job. Not to mention the ones that whisper to eachother while looking at me and laughing. Ive never had a girlfreind, never had any freinds that could stand me for more than a month, and have about 20 contacts in my phone, the only ones being used are mom/dad when they need a favor. I swear being ugly is a hell i wouldnt wish on my worst enemies.

People are strange when youre a stranger. Women seem wicked when youre unwanted.
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Ian Bleddlespear - Mon, 17 Apr 2017 23:47:08 EST ID:hEMwIYhY No.515557 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515547
Just imagine working retail for a living. And getting cussed daily and reported to management every week by fat angry white trash rednecks.
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Cedric Sezzlelark - Tue, 18 Apr 2017 22:05:45 EST ID:HXgn8b9h No.515578 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515557
Implying i dont get cursed at and reported by fat rednecks
Its funny because the guy called the number on my truck, which is mine, and i got to lead him on for a good minute telling him how to file a complaint and stuff before telling him id look into it personally. Im thinking about downloading shitty music so i can put them on hold next time


best way to make someones life a living hell by Priscilla Crabberstock - Sat, 15 Apr 2017 14:51:30 EST ID:ZtBAcACE No.515489 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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My buddy got scammed out of $1000. It's a long story but basically the guy who scammed him is a druggie fuck and a complete waste of human life.

Here's the info we have on him

>Past addresses
>Name
>Phone number
>Ex wife's name/number (also hates him)
>Facebook
>Family members facebook

We've accepted he's not getting the money back. So what's the best way, with this information, to make his life a living hell? Nothing is off the table.

inb4 any moral shit/don't do it/whatever

Any advice you have would be awesome.
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Frederick Heblingbane - Mon, 17 Apr 2017 19:34:01 EST ID:FwheuJ8x No.515551 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>best way to make someones life a living hell

Give birth.
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Esther Blackdale - Mon, 17 Apr 2017 19:49:58 EST ID:qgSlhkvl No.515553 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515551
LMFAO THIS
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Ebenezer Trotfuck - Mon, 17 Apr 2017 23:44:03 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.515556 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515550

Well, I guess I'm just drawing links between his guy and mine.

If you rip off a dude for a grand, I mean, that's quite a bit of damage you're doing to an average person. You have to do some big mental gymnastics to come away from that and think you're a normal person. I guess there's no reason to assume this bottom feeder is violent, but you gotta know what you're getting yourself into whenever you straight up con someone like that.

Unless OP's 'friend' is such an easy mark that he didn't fear any sort of retribution. I guess I don't know any thieving addicts, cept for one, but he never came trying to rip me off.

Well, I guess I was just projecting. But when you meet a predator, it's hard to see past the shell it puts forward.
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Ian Bleddlespear - Mon, 17 Apr 2017 23:54:19 EST ID:hEMwIYhY No.515558 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515545
Don't start shit with people that have nothing to lose. Some dude that is trapped forever in banging heroin until he dies of sepsis isn't going to care about dying 6 months sooner than he already likely would have. I doubt he is some "sociopath;" more like a product of his environment.

I've met plenty of people who have literally nothing in life and basically just lack the balls to shoot themselves. You don't want to be surrounded by them unless you are on their level. Mostly because you can't really touch them or affect them. Throw in crippling addictions and you make the situation 100x worse and you get the stereotypical addict that will cut your balls off for a line of coke.

Not much more dangerous than a man seeking a way out at every chance.
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Isabella Pittshit - Tue, 18 Apr 2017 14:13:28 EST ID:tldOIKN9 No.515570 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Beat him up? Violence is a great relief.


Coma by Archie Demmerfen - Sun, 16 Apr 2017 00:08:07 EST ID:sK/cqzqY No.515501 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I think I slipped into a coma years ago when doing drugs and every once in a while I hear voices telling me I have to kill myself in order to wake up.
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Nigel Shittingwill - Sun, 16 Apr 2017 02:41:56 EST ID:75sBUhBz No.515504 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515502
Dude that's really scary..
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Fanny Greenridge - Sun, 16 Apr 2017 07:35:35 EST ID:Olo57w3f No.515508 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515501
is this your attempt at trolling? you did not even put in any effort.

idiot
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Wesley Higgletidging - Mon, 17 Apr 2017 13:41:41 EST ID:ivgDi1vU No.515543 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515501
i am real so you can't be in a coma. I am so sure I'm real. If you are in a coma you won't be able to read and write, write an essay or something, then read it back, and you'll know you aren't in a coma.
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Nigel Sisslefot - Tue, 18 Apr 2017 01:09:15 EST ID:TbiG7EZV No.515560 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515501
I get this idea in my mind from time to time.
I've had several near death experiences.
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Matilda Bupperstat - Tue, 18 Apr 2017 07:48:20 EST ID:35+jbzpY No.515564 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You're actually a part of my personal coma. Sentient beings such as yourself have been mustered up through my subconscious and given life by my imagination.


kinda want to kill myself and kinda not by Phineas Pillerpere - Sun, 26 Mar 2017 07:38:08 EST ID:omX2BDyl No.514802 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I have wanted to kill myself for many years now. I'm a lazy coward so it's unlikely that I'll ever do it but I can't stop wanting it.

Mostly I want to kill myself because I can't think of a better option.
I know approximately how my life will turn out because I have found out my capabilities.
There are many things I don't really know about my future but there's like a set of different things where it's almost entirely certain that it will be something like that.

My life is kinda half decent now and I can get by but it will just get worse and my life isn't good enough to keep for several decades more, I'll just be more and more miserable.

Now I'm 25 and work a very simple job (part time) and live with my mom. 0 friends or girls or anything.
I can get by fine with my low salary as long as I keep living here but I really don't want to stay here for too long.
I won't be able to move out for at least a few more years because of the housing situation here and once I moved out I would be poor becuase of the higher costs.
I also won't be able to get a better job, I might be able to find something with 40 hours per week instead of 30 but it will still be the simplest shit possible. I might go crazy after many years of being stuck in a dead end like that.
My current job doesn't provide valuable experience and will never lead to anything new.

I'm pretty sure I will never have a friend and unless I can move to another country I will also never have any romantic love.
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Clara Fidgewock - Mon, 17 Apr 2017 11:23:33 EST ID:9nXTcGAJ No.515539 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515537
You've already been given a lot of excellent suggestions in this thread.

You can change yourself. It's just going to be the hardest thing you've ever done.
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Barnaby Dartson - Mon, 17 Apr 2017 12:01:37 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.515541 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515539
He isn't OP, not that you're wrong.

>>515537
Plenty of advice for OP you can follow in the thread. Ignoring that, I don't have to provide you with a solution for your life's problems to be right about everything I said. You're being a crybaby cunt who'd rather dwell on all the ways he's a victim and how impossible it is to fix his situation than actually attempt fixing things.
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Esther Blackdale - Mon, 17 Apr 2017 19:53:23 EST ID:qgSlhkvl No.515555 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515541
Fuck you, I am handling it in a calm and forward direction. I only broke it down so OP dont feel like he is the worst off here.
I will gladly enjoy every moment of my days under the sun without a single ounce of regard to what the conditions are
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Ebenezer Carrystone - Tue, 18 Apr 2017 01:08:28 EST ID:5XOScZZe No.515559 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515541
>Plenty of advice for OP

Getting the genes tested and getting appropriate supplements and going to trade school are the two ones i find.
To me it seems unlikely that the gene stuff would produce significant results but I guess it might be good.
Trade school would mean better jobs and more money but everything else would still be the same such as the social situation.
There's a lot of text but not a lot of advice (if don't count the stuff that can't be done or where the reasoning behind the advice is just wrong).
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Ebenezer Carrystone - Tue, 18 Apr 2017 03:02:00 EST ID:5XOScZZe No.515561 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514998
What your saying sounds like it can be correct but I've spent a lot of time and effort trying to meet people. During all this my social skills got a lot better but I've still never been able to make connections other than just having acquaintances.


I got rear-ended for the second time this week by Oliver Greenshaw - Fri, 14 Apr 2017 21:25:19 EST ID:U16Ylai0 No.515474 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Both times COMPLETELY STOPPED on a two-lane road with my blinker on, waiting to make a left onto another road. One of the roads I was about to turn on (today's accident) was my own street, and this man plows into me. What the fuck? I was driving two separate cars too, so now I have one totaled car and probably another, since the one today is 19 years old. I just need to vent, I feel so alone. Honestly I'm really anxious that it's going to keep happening while I drive, and every time that I stop I'm going to see someone crash into me in my rearview. Been driving 5 years and fucking nothing until this week. Hell of a week. Anyone experience anything similar? Advice for getting over it?
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Oliver Greenshaw - Fri, 14 Apr 2017 21:56:10 EST ID:U16Ylai0 No.515476 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515475
Thanks will be sure to ride a bike 20 miles to work each day on the highway. I'm sorry someone hurt you
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Fanny Blenderway - Fri, 14 Apr 2017 23:35:23 EST ID:qgSlhkvl No.515479 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515476
Get a closer job you gas wasting asshole
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Sidney Sengerbatch - Sun, 16 Apr 2017 09:20:37 EST ID:2cRqUGEL No.515511 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515474
I had a job where I literally drove on the road every day. Literally the day I put in my notice I had some guy go into the back of me while I was exiting the car park at work. He then put in a claim against me saying I reversed into him.

At least on the road there's almost a guarantee that the other party will be found at fault (and btw put in a claim as soon as possible if you haven't done it already man), but yeah it fucking sucks. It's been a few months and I'm still chasing insurances up, with my manager trying to scam £400 off me for "excess", which was 100% bullshit as I talked to the area manager afterwards and he said he doesn't know what the fuck my manager is talking about. My manager never even put in the claim himself, when it happened literally in the carpark at work, I told him literally as soon as it happened, and he was just too fucking lazy and useless to sort it out. (my manager puts in the claim because while working I'm covered under their insurance policy, not my own).

I got a claim through my personal insurance company to begin with too, so they know about the accident now that's not even anything to do with them, and even that insurance company wouldn't pass on the new information until the 4th or 5th fucking try.

It sucks, but no accidents for 5 years is something to be proud of. not many people go through driving without some stupid knock or scrape. It was the other parties fault both times, so the rise in insurance should be minimal to none, you were stopped and rear-ended so you probably won't have to go through a lengthy process trying to explain why you weren't at fault, and it's a clear-cut accident.
It sucks, but it should only take a couple of weeks to sort out hopefully, as long as you got the other parties insurance details and number plate.
Just breathe, take things one step at a time, and speak to a claims rep that actually knows what the fuck they're doing so you can ask questions and they can help you through the process a bit easier. Make sure you take notes so you know what to ask for if you have to phone up again for an update. You'll be fine, and just remember that almost every sin…
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Samuel Buzzcocke - Sun, 16 Apr 2017 15:20:27 EST ID:omX2BDyl No.515515 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515475
Far from everyone can live in the middle of a city and get a job wherever they want so they can pick one close to home.
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Clara Drosslefield - Mon, 17 Apr 2017 19:19:07 EST ID:ZBbNyWa4 No.515549 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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If its really not your fault you should be fine, not right away cuz you are still shocked which is normal.
Just try to realize with time that it was just a random turn of events that happens to be in a small period of time.
It doesn't mean its gonna happen ever again but it might happen in a week again lol, stranger things have happened but... you'll be fine.


Therapy by Polly Domblestone - Sat, 15 Apr 2017 22:01:45 EST ID:ZiUqoAvG No.515499 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Has anyone tried therapy? I've been seriously considering it lately. I just want someone to talk to and someone adding perspective just seems helpful.
My whole life is and has always been a serious of bad choices and self destructive behavior though. I don't have a declared income or very much money but I saw a few listings for some therapists with 50-100 dollar fees near me that I could definitely afford a few times a month. I spend more than that on drugs and alcohol ffs. Just not sure how I'd explain it, specially considering that the entire point is that I want to be completely open and honest with someone for the first time in my life.

Also the desire to do it comes in waves and later my self sabotaging mentality kicks in and I justify not doing it.

Anyone done it? What was it like and how did it impact your life?

I did get forced to see a psychologist when I was like 12 or 13 and she just asked me questions for like 30 minutes that I answered in brief few word answers because I was an angsty bitter kid and I actually liked it though. Afterwards I felt great and was outside waiting as she talked to my mom alone. My mom came out angry as shit at me, saying the therapist said she couldn't help me if I didn't open up.
That certainly left a bad impression that's contributed to my reluctance.
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Angus Sennerdale - Sun, 16 Apr 2017 20:25:20 EST ID:wcR9wfzO No.515529 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You were only around 13 at the time; you were too young to know anything about yourself that you could seriously talk about, especially if it was solely your mother who thought that you had "problems".

A lot of parents use psychiatry and therapy to manipulate their children and put all the blame on them. It is called being the "designated patient" of the family. If either one or both of the parents is abusive, then it will fuck up the kid for life, and ironically they will have to go to therapy in their adulthood to talk about all the trauma they had to deal with from that. This happened to me from 16 to 26, and I still haven't fully recovered.

Be wary of psychiatrists in larger cities who are "popular", especially surrounding a particular diagnosis. They will dope you up and think nothing of it. It can permanently damage your brain and/or body. Some will practically fall asleep during the session, or they will say one thing during one session and then the exact opposite in the next. Despite what many will tell you, the popular ones who have many patients tend to be idiots who don't have the time or the interest to invest in their patients in depth and usually follow trends. This is particularly true with ADHD and autism, although this may have passed over time.
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Isabella Bocklebick - Sun, 16 Apr 2017 21:36:11 EST ID:U0vRG2V5 No.515530 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515529
We've had similar childhoods. For me it was about ages 8 to 18, at which point as an adult I refused to put up with mind games and moved out. I'm still very fucked up from it.

>Be wary of psychiatrists in larger cities who are "popular", especially surrounding a particular diagnosis.

This is a good thing to point out. The worst are the ones who write books about their specialty diagnoses, claiming to provide lots of insight to parents, but really these are just thinly veiled advertisements, offering affirmation to parents who don't want anything to do with the therapy process, and neither does the doctor. Parents flock to these doctors, and these doctors make nice livings handing out the same diagnosis over and over.

I'd also always be wary of any *psychiatrist* who offers talk therapy. Psychiatrists are medical doctors, they prescribe medicine but they are not required to have any background in psychotherapy to obtain their license. The division between psychiatry and psychotherapy is not coincidental or arbitrary. These are two separate fields, two separate approaches, and they treat different things. Psychotherapy isn't going to effectively treat repetitive behaviors of OCD, for example, but SSRIs and certain second generation antipsychotics have proven very effective. On the other hand, something like PTSD has a variety of associated symptoms which can be managed with medication, but the painful thoughts persist, because the trauma is a cognitive construct without a simple enough neurochemical basis to target with a drug, but psychotherapy seeks to manipulate this construct into something you can reason with, and eventually live with or move past.

Anyway, child and adolescent psychotherapy, and family therapy, is all a crock of shit OP. Don't let it color your perceptions of adult psychotherapy, because it's a whole different world where you can be heard, where you can advocate for yourself.
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Lydia Brookfoot - Mon, 17 Apr 2017 00:00:01 EST ID:zPu+Cn1i No.515532 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>515499
It's a good sign you're asking. I can relate to the self-sabotage in a way, but I think something as simple as posting a thread on /qq/ is a good start. Hopefully I can contribute to the valuable experiences shared.

To address some of those points, the cost of medications is far more financially efficient than hours of therapy, and public healthcare systems seem to favour it. Their effectiveness is (very) debatable and I think what >>515529 wrote nails the point; it can be good for immediate symptoms like a psychotic episode/panic attack, but useless or even a detriment to actual progress. I also don't doubt the strong influence of business models driving for profits, over progress.

The two schools/methods of mental health are often called 'bio-medical' and 'recovery'. The first is self-explanatory, and comes from a symptom-based approach with an emphasis on medications. The 'recovery' can be thought of as a personalized and individual approach, which is centered around working with your views, strengths and support systems to create an approach to your problems. It comes down to personal rapport, frequent updates, and other things that cost more time/resources than pharmaceuticals. Having worked with children for three years who experience major psychotic episodes, I regretfully admit that there aren't enough resources to ensure the best approaches are available. I don't know your specific problem/s but I would doubt any bio-medical interventions are necessary.

As for therapy, everyone could probably use one at some point in their life. Some stats indicate that 1/5 of us will suffer mental illness (largely depression) and the biggest problem for people who provide service is the stigma. I hope your doubts about seeking help disappear soon; the therapy I sought continues to help me today. I can say the best features of (her) practice was that she comes from a mindfulness and CBT background, and was an active listener. She directed me back to myself, and I now know to work on my self-deprecation/self-sabotage. Life's constant state of change is something of a double-edged sword. Just like how we physically navigate this world, we have…
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Archie Baddleville - Mon, 17 Apr 2017 17:47:04 EST ID:JJzRfxeF No.515546 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Wow I didn't expect this many thoughtful and helpful replies. Thank you guys. I'm going to start seriously looking for a therapist that I feel can assist me.
Talking to even a bad therapist is probably better than continuing talking to no one and just self-medicating with booze and drugs I suppose.
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Walter Braddletat - Tue, 18 Apr 2017 22:58:14 EST ID:zPu+Cn1i No.515581 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515546
Great to hear dude. I guess a bad therapist might offer some insight compared to the other method, but I really hope you remain vigilant and find what works for you. nb.


Not suicidal, but I think about a world without he a lot by Lydia Bremmerwater - Mon, 17 Apr 2017 04:47:18 EST ID:R/4Hqmxs No.515536 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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When I was little the kids were mean to me at school.
I moved and a teacher made fun of me in class my first year in my new school.
That bullshit followed me into adulthood. I have almost no friends from elementary-high school, aside from a few assholes who friended me on facebook just because we used to live together.

Anyway, with a lack of basic social skills, adulthood is a bag of dicks and the only reason I don't kill myself is that my brother has depression and I'll eventually need to financially support him.
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Wesley Higgletidging - Mon, 17 Apr 2017 13:39:38 EST ID:ivgDi1vU No.515542 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You think maybe you might have depression too? You know paxil is great for sadness AND social anxiety in most people.


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