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codependence? by Frederick Secklewater - Mon, 14 Jan 2019 13:45:52 EST ID:2tEykgWu No.528766 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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i am a 30yo recovering opiate addict (3 years clean) and i have bipolar, ptsd, and adhd. I recently got married to my gf of two years.

i have always struggled as an adult with self care. i dont go to the doctor, dentist, etc. i never get my taxes in on time, cant find the title to my car, almost never have health insurance for more than one billing cycle because i just procrastinate and forget and self sabotage blah blah blah.

this woman is amazing to me. she helps me stay organized and even put me on her health insurance. she takes care of most of her shit and somehow still has energy and the desire to help me with mine.

sometimes i wonder if its healthy for her, and i always tell her i dont want to take advantage of her, or give resentment a chance to develop.

does this sound codependent?
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Nathaniel Goodhall - Mon, 14 Jan 2019 14:20:48 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.528767 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528766

Kinda sounds like get your shit together and stop being a burden.

I’ve known a now recovered opiate addict who went hard on his teens before cleaning up for maybe 3-5 years depending on how you count.

Essentially gave himself a lot of passes for shitty behaviour and self destruction on the grounds of some abstract web of “oh I used to do heroin”. Kinda selfish, narrow minded dude whos actions most of the time were really ultimately was a thinly veiled excuse for his own prerogative most of the time.

Whatever your deal is boss, do something about it because it’s hideously unfair to capitalise on the kindness of those around you to carry your weight.
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Angus Sommlelet - Tue, 15 Jan 2019 12:04:05 EST ID:2tEykgWu No.528776 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528767
>Kinda sounds like get your shit together
thats been my goal for a decade, and i am always making progress, albeit never as rapidly as i want. no matter how much i will it, i am still crazy lil me and i have to work with that regardless of who is in my life.

>Essentially gave himself a lot of passes for shitty behaviour and self destruction on the grounds of some abstract web of “oh I used to do heroin”

a lot of addicts are told its better to be a shitty dysfunctional person than a dead person and take it to heart. i wont judge them, but im not one of them.

>it’s hideously unfair to capitalise on the kindness of those around you to carry your weight.

im not sure i agree with your assessment of whats going on in my case. i typically dont ask for help until i hit some kind of bottom, and that hasnt happened for me in a few years, since before i met her. she asked me a few times before i agreed to let her help me with this stuff.

in the past i have been in a toxic state while with other partners and realized this. when i went to a therapist and asked them "would it be better for her if i left, is it unfair for me to allow her to hurt herself by being adjacent to me?", the answer was always "its unfair for you to assume you know what is in her best interest and make that decision for her".

a few more details to give you more context
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David Panningstot - Tue, 15 Jan 2019 14:18:33 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.528786 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528776

I don’t think I understand tbh. You painted a different picture in the OP, or at least, I saw a different picture.

If you don’t feel you aren’t making progress, carry your own weight, carry some of hers, aren’t over relying on her... where is the room for an issue in the first place?
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Angus Sommlelet - Tue, 15 Jan 2019 14:43:23 EST ID:2tEykgWu No.528793 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528786
>where is the room for an issue in the first place?
IDK!

i feel bad about accepting her help/ relying on her. after i go through all the rationalization in my head i am stumped but still left with this feeling of insecurity. "im a failure for not being 100% self sufficient" "im a failure for relying on the kindness of those i love".

or even scarier the dual hypothesis "if i were single i would have this shit on lock because the alternative is complete collapse"/ "by accepting this relationship and the support it brings i am stunting my ability to self actualize"

however if i am honest with myself going it alone hasnt really done anything to guarantee a higher level of functionality. if i were single right now id be worse off probably. im not a disaster anymore and i havent been for years, just really dissatisfied with my productivity/ functionality. i can do really amazing things every day and i do, why the fuck cant i just get the taxes paid and my teeth cleaned without feeling like the world is going to end.

ill do shit like dig a 30 yard trench for my neighbor for free, till my hands are bleeding and my back is aching, but when it comes to getting signed up for health insurance, ill avoid it at all costs, sometimes distracting myself by causing other problems like say, getting so day drunk that i vomit all over and black out. i have no problem with hard work for others, but id rather hurt myself than do certain basic shit.


Sexual Compulsion for Younger (18-21) Women by Edward Gillylud - Tue, 15 Jan 2019 14:15:18 EST ID:BBoyFziJ No.528783 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm 32, have a good career, am a published author who has won a few awards in my field. I "adult" quite well (except image boards, one of my few remaining guilty pleasures from my 20's).

While not exclusively attracted to them (and am in fact more attracted to women my age) and finding sexualization of minors to be morally repulsive, I can't help but feel an immense amount of sexual attraction to and fantasies about much younger women (18-21, "barely legal"): legally adults but inappropriate for a person within my age range.

A year ago I had sex with a 19 y/o woman and not too long ago allowed a 21 y/o woman to perform fellatio on me. If allowed the chance again to have a sexual encounter with a woman in early adulthood, I probably would succumb to it.

It makes me sick. The power dynamics are inherently unequal, I have experiences and understandings of the world that a woman that age doesn't have yet, and it just, I dunno, feels weird/immature/wrong.

Anyone else here have paraphilias or at least inappropriate desires that they struggle with? How do you keep it in check? I don't want to be a creep, I'm not a bad person, I don't want to screw with someone's head. If it came out that I've had sex with women 10 years younger than me a good bit of my friends would be sickened by me and think I'm a sexual predator.


Still thinking about the girl that died at the end of 2017 by Augustus Pockbanks - Sat, 12 Jan 2019 04:54:13 EST ID:ApvoIuSE No.528720 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I am not sure, I know she was bad for me.
I know that she tricked me into buying her drugs more than once.
I know she kissed random people in the street.
But she was still my friend. I am not sure, I miss the girl incredibly, and I still haven't found another partner.

Her friends are a nightmare and still asking for money, I haven't delivered though.,as I am literally on the other side of the country and I couldn't if I wanted to.

The real question is why do I feel so bad about this all?
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Martha Crunkinmire - Sat, 12 Jan 2019 23:39:34 EST ID:ApvoIuSE No.528741 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>528734
>re you some kind of superhero or something? Why is it you think you could've kept this from happening? D
I could have easily gone back and checked on her, but I didn't want to be a creeper.

>Why is it you felt the need to fix this girl so much?
she seemed like a magical person who just couldn't get it together. She was like a manic pixie dream girl, but more magical,she was always doing something and socializing with people.

>e done to stop her from using drugs and eventually overdosing like she did.
I just felt as though if I met her three years earlier, I could have influenced her not to do any of that. Idk

I saved her from overdosing at least twice

>Your feelings have gone from sounding like grief over her dying to sounding like you're pitying her for the life she had

I wanted her to have a better life and have to worry about all that fucked up shit
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Martha Crunkinmire - Sat, 12 Jan 2019 23:39:34 EST ID:ApvoIuSE No.528742 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>528734
>re you some kind of superhero or something? Why is it you think you could've kept this from happening? D
I could have easily gone back and checked on her, but I didn't want to be a creeper.

>Why is it you felt the need to fix this girl so much?
she seemed like a magical person who just couldn't get it together. She was like a manic pixie dream girl, but more magical,she was always doing something and socializing with people.

>e done to stop her from using drugs and eventually overdosing like she did.
I just felt as though if I met her three years earlier, I could have influenced her not to do any of that. Idk

I saved her from overdosing at least twice

>Your feelings have gone from sounding like grief over her dying to sounding like you're pitying her for the life she had

I wanted her to have a better life and have to worry about all that fucked up shit
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Esther Dromblelock - Sun, 13 Jan 2019 05:26:14 EST ID:THNi/hHd No.528745 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528720
why would you stop caring about someone after a year? especially if they are dead and can't make you angry. I'd be surprised if you weren't still in mourning tbh. I think it's even harder when you don't have a lot of happy memories to think about with the person
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Oliver Ponningdale - Tue, 15 Jan 2019 08:21:49 EST ID:ApvoIuSE No.528773 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528745
Everyone here and Irl told me to find someone else and that she was using me.
I just felt so bad, everyone had given up on her, I thought I could do something to make her life better.
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Barnaby Penderpitch - Tue, 15 Jan 2019 10:45:58 EST ID:m3Ht1bWr No.528774 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528773
You cared about her really deeply, that's what really matters, not what everyone else's opinion of her was. You really really cared about her and you are mourning her.


my life is fucked and i tapped the last nail into the coffin of unfixable fuckedness by William Giddledale - Thu, 20 Dec 2018 04:37:59 EST ID:+eu7fILs No.528246 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>born poor as fuck
>in the middle of nowhere
>live in broken down 300 year old house
>have ptsd from family abuse ill never recover from
>all my parents have are bills and money problems
>have lifelong depression
>got fat and lost weight so ill always have stretch marks and look like shit
>its really fucking hard for me to stay skinny
>im trapped in the middle of nowhere and cant do anything
>live in a freezing cold climate
>I could never have a car in my entire life because my parents are shit and poor
>no job opprotunities where I live literally nothing
>my house is so god damn cold I cant even leave my room or go do anything
>literally every day of my life is non stop agony
>I cant even have friends because I live in a cold poor rural shit hole
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Phoebe Posslekone - Mon, 14 Jan 2019 04:47:06 EST ID:FqTA4Qrp No.528760 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528246
At first I thought that you aee russian before i read about 300 y.o. house
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Edward Bazzlestin - Mon, 14 Jan 2019 09:15:11 EST ID:Wd+3htEn No.528761 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528246
You are blaming your parents for all your problems when it sounds like you dont have the courage to improve your life.
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Clara Honeydale - Mon, 14 Jan 2019 10:40:44 EST ID:UIEZ/mgw No.528762 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528752
sorry i wasnt trying to defend OP at all, I think he's an absolute retard. I was just correcting the assumption about the military because I recently planned on joining and had a very rude awakening when I realized its a privelage and not a right, especially the Coast Guard. the military isnt desperate for people.

and OP is probably one of those self-proclaimed entrepreneurs when he says his 'businesses'. he probably set up an LLC and a gmail and calls it a business. he might even have an instagram account for it. fuck people like that, the word entrepreteneur is completely butchered and is a cringey word now when it used to have a real merit to it.
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Simon Grandford - Mon, 14 Jan 2019 12:43:37 EST ID:EHcMDYpR No.528764 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528756

God what a shitty troll

>I have no money and no car and I can't drive to the airport and I'm stuck in my town
Meanwhile:
>Fuck you I'm a business owner and I have a car that I drive around in while benz'ed out of my mind, I even got a DUI for it!
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Walter Chobblelotch - Mon, 14 Jan 2019 21:52:03 EST ID:+eu7fILs No.528771 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528764
its all true. i want to leave my god damn town and it wasnt my car


ocd by Hamilton Dreddlebane - Fri, 14 Dec 2018 02:12:24 EST ID:ZNiUUzn9 No.528142 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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how the fuck do i help my obsessive compulsive disorder?

also anyone know the story behind this meme? is this real life? i wasn't around when it was a meme...my ocd wants to know
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Graham Blenderbock - Fri, 14 Dec 2018 17:44:44 EST ID:nrs1TIWF No.528150 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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i have ocd, not ocpd. i also have dermatillomania; my main bad spot now being on the inside tip of my nostril, fml. compulsions take up so much time. im always late and dont care anymore that i am. i also have trouble with not being present. im always focused on the present, so there's no planing for the future even though i got shit to do. everything has to be just right until I can move on. some of it includes contamination, and thats odd dealing with when i regularly deal with gross shit at work. im trying to work on identifying the obsessions, but it seems to be constant repetitive thoughts that are either illogical or self sabotaging or unrealistic suicidal. i know the thoughts don't make sense and are just beating me down; i should be strong enough to mind over matter those thoughts, but they drill in my mind and pierce the subconscious. It's been a decade since i was diagnosed, and after that, Ive been letting it fester. no meds, no counseling, yes drug abuse, yes isolation. I have lots of mental issues and enjoy falling down the pit that occurs when I don't keep my mind sharp. as other issues are improving, the ocd is worsening. i want to talk to professional but i wouldnt take their advice. i don't want to actually get better. i am trying to find ways to switch to productive compulsions, like art maybe.
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Graham Blenderbock - Fri, 14 Dec 2018 17:52:29 EST ID:nrs1TIWF No.528151 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528143
With OCD, the only behavioral modification that is going to help any will pretty much be made by the people who help take care of the person with OCD, so that the worst triggers for the patient can be avoided.

I don't want to be the person that needs people guarding triggers from me. Most of that probably comes from somewhere inside myself anyway. I always want to be able to face the truth no matter what it is, and have no fear of expecting triggers. the word trigger probably triggered me, sorry nb
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Beatrice Blythewell - Sun, 13 Jan 2019 23:16:40 EST ID:ZNiUUzn9 No.528755 Ignore Report Quick Reply
anyone know the story behind the meme though?
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Nicholas Sankinville - Mon, 14 Jan 2019 02:38:45 EST ID:ZQ4kCwTl No.528758 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528755
sorry, couldn't tell you. try googling "know your meme monkey is this real life in water" or something
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Beatrice Clissleway - Tue, 15 Jan 2019 14:12:57 EST ID:3EANp1gT No.528782 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>528755

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=txqiwrbYGrs


Mood swing by David Seckleville - Wed, 09 Jan 2019 15:39:42 EST ID:H53rgD4s No.528660 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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In the last few days I've been doing absolutely nothing but sleeping. I did something here and there, had half a meal a day, went to bed and rinse and repeat, basically been feeling really down. It's a common occurrence followed by short lasting ups such as now, on a whim, I simply dressed up, took the car and went to the store to buy some snacks, a couple of beer cans and energy drinks feeling all nice and "happy" like a little kid who gets a chocolate bar from his mom so I could stay up all night to call the employer because he told me he'd call me the next morning which was today but didn't. I know I shouldn't have expect nothing from such statement but I'm going to be persistent this time and call him instead tomorrow morning and have a chat. And if that doesn't work out then I'll start pursuing jobs outside my interests and occupation as long as they're safe and not too difficult.

I haven't posted on /qq/ for about a year and wasn't sure whether to post here on /b/ but users are all kinds of wacky there and this has always been the most civilized and safest place on this site. I have plenty of issues but I don't intend to bother anyone with those, I've been feeling suicidal for a couple of years which isn't too much considering how pathetic my life has been this decade. And I've come conclusion I'd never off myself (except in some extreme situations), it just isn't worth losing a life because some brain chemicals are mixed up, and that's not even including the loss others would feel, there aren't many people who'd mourn for me but they're still there. I believe there is a small percentage of my life going into right direction but that is better than nothing and I will hold onto that belief.

Basically I'm typing out my thoughts but I know this positive feeling won't last too long and I'll feel like a complete worthless, useless, pathetic and sad sack of shit again. Can't wait for the day when I'll finally get out the first gear and start working on myself. This year is going to be another waste of time, I know it no matter how much I am going to delude myself into thinking otherwi…
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Cyril Bunlock - Fri, 11 Jan 2019 20:30:37 EST ID:K1RNjacv No.528716 Ignore Report Quick Reply
just want to say this thread is very relatable
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Priscilla Pellerman - Sat, 12 Jan 2019 11:11:50 EST ID:ibXCcm3b No.528729 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528660
Since New Years Ive been like this too. I dont feel like theres a point to any of this, Ive ridden all my dreams to the end.

>Nothing can save me now, its what I believe, no visions or dreams about you, came true for me

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NJbvSmRuV_w
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Cornelius Blackwater - Sat, 12 Jan 2019 22:18:57 EST ID:4Kj1UCJE No.528738 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528683

hey I liked this post, I think you are on the right track when it comes to your thoughts, you just need to keep thinking the good stuff and ignore the derailing reality.

but are you a dog? your terminology ("treats") and the photo makes me believe you are a dog

or maybe a god
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Ben Cartwright - Sun, 13 Jan 2019 06:35:27 EST ID:hBEhmcBg No.528746 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>528738
Well, at the very least you have to try. If you're getting stuck in a ditch, you certainly won't get up by only presuming that this is okay, and that you're not interested in making any effort. And if you're like OP, or myself, you'll eventually be bound to find out that you'd rather be moving. And then it's even more insane to just keep sitting in the car. Understandably it isn't always easy to get unstuck, but then you have to call a professional that can help you get moving again.

You simply have to make a effort. While it's commendable and perhaps somewhat admirable of a leaf to be able to get where it wants without doing anything at all, that understanding only comes from the belief that the leaf is happy with where it's blowing. At least apes have the ability to resist simply drifting without purpose.

Life is undeniably harsh, and sometimes it take a incredibly amount of courage to keep living. Because let's not kid ourselves, staying alive is one of the bravest things to do. But that courage is completely misplaced if it isn't used at anything you find inherently worth living for, then it's just a completely futile drive to keep on being miserable!
It's just basic Kierkegaardian existentialism, because you're bound to feel angst and you're bound to ponder, so you might as well use that energy into doing something you enjoy and find purpose in. It could be basically anything, so just another reason to finding something you enjoy. Haven't found it? Good thing you can just keep on looking, but it requires determination and effort!

It's all just my humble opinion obivously, but I sometimes find that the harsh reality of nature and the scary prospect of existence is the spice, or fabric of happiness. It IS the very thrill of chasing a garbage truck, or the comforting joy of chewing on a cured sausage. I'd just lay around sleeping all day without it. And to be honest, the last seven years I have been doing just that, plus abusing treats.

But I've contacted help, and soon I'll hopefully have the tools and energy to live. But I had to pick up the phone and realize something had to happen, and that …
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Nell Gibbledack - Sun, 13 Jan 2019 20:06:37 EST ID:ux+4Rp+2 No.528753 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Holy shit op that pic is funny as fuck. I love that dudes comics. Did he died?


Baldness gave me severe BDD, impotence and ruined my looks by Cornelius Goodwell - Wed, 09 Jan 2019 11:46:09 EST ID:5+Jc91Dl No.528649 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I am 28, started losing hair early in life, hopped on finasteride for four years and was so happy for a second chance.

Then bam side effects kick in, I lose my libido and solid errections. Now, 9 months later still no recovery.

Lose hair in a norwood 7 pattern almost slick bald. Am afraid of facial changes to add to the shitty look. Month long insomnia and compulsive mirror checking (40 times a day or so) did the trick.

Now I look maybe 15 years older with deep wrinkles and eye bags, a look in the mirror literally turns my stomach. I lost all my friends and suffer from severe social phobia, since I can see the disapproval of strangers interacting with me.

Soon I will do rehab but I am not optimistic that it will help me to cope.

Every day is a fucking torture with no joy, anxiety and deep depression. Any idea apart from lift and get a tan? I am already doing that and it's not fixing my face.
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Nicholas Brookshit - Wed, 09 Jan 2019 19:12:02 EST ID:vthZxwjg No.528677 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528649
lol, im balding fast at 22, wake up everyday with hair on my pillow. cant wait for the endless bald jokes for the rest of my life. it could always be worse, being a balding woman or becoming disabled, count your blessings.

SLAYER in this thread, i'd just add that it makes you look more mature. it actually looks good if you can keep it short and fully shave the sparse areas.

being self conscious 247 sucks. your obsessive mirror checking is burning you out emotionally. that obsession will spiral into crippling social anxiety, so keep it in check by achieving meaningful goals in your life. complete that project, hit a new max for a lift, organize your room, go for that extra mile hike, and have good interactions with new genuine people to get your confidence back. break that cycle.

>finasteride
why the fuck are you taking drugs for something as trivial as hair loss man. it's too much of a health risk, you're probably feeling numerous intangible undocumented side effects right now. if you were dying and badly needed drugs, take em -- otherwise, no.

>>528652
>Get some tattoos to offset the old man vibes.
bad idea
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Nigel Nickleshaw - Thu, 10 Jan 2019 04:36:04 EST ID:LUMBEv8P No.528684 Ignore Report Quick Reply
grow a beard
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Lillian Duckgold - Thu, 10 Jan 2019 05:24:25 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.528687 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>528662
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=clKAdQnwJ7A
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WziA88-n02k
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fwJazZIWNgg
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Shitting Wanningwell - Thu, 10 Jan 2019 09:19:28 EST ID:q3oxJ8fG No.528692 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528662
Hmm. Sucks you feel that way about yourself.

What I'd have to ask next is why you care if people see you as having the aura of brokenness, ugly, or not very approachable? What benefit has this decision to continue caring about that kind of thing been to you? What do you lose by not caring anymore?

There are over 7 billion people alive on this Earth, and 99.9% aren't aware of you and even if they were they wouldn't give a fuck about you or any of your life issues, your accomplishments, your opinions/beliefs, or your failures. They don't care about yur family or any of their lives either. Why on earth would you value their opinion if they are negative and about such a pathetically shallow issue? What kind of person would they have to be to see you that way? Why would that kind of person be anybody you would want to associate with, or seriously consider the opinions of?

What does it even matter if you ARE broken, ugly, and unapproachable? People are what they are. Unless what they are is evil or shitty, then it's pretty honestly ridiculous to treat somebody as lesser for both what they can't help as being beneath or any worse than anybody else, or in particular, one's self. People that can't help but see others that way aren't doing you any good for caring about their opinions on this matter, and is in fact doing bad.

I'm a fairly ugly dude myself who happens to be fairly broken, although I'm pretty approachable though. I don't just not care about if others see me that way, but I don't even think to address the fact that they see me that way. I assume most people are capable of seeing reality, and therefore assume anybody I talk to is also of the opinion that I'm ugly, and if they got to know me more personally, "broken". Sometimes rarely I'm surprised and a random girl finds me to be a solid 8/10, but most others probably see me as a 3, or maybe, optimistically, a 4. I've got chronic symptoms from 2 concussions that pretty much all but have me be emotionless beyond anger or irritation and heavily depersonalized. I'm not capable of experiencing the feeling of grief anymore. As a result, it's extremely eas…
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Nathaniel Turveybury - Sat, 12 Jan 2019 16:06:06 EST ID:THNi/hHd No.528736 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528649
i worked with a guy like this, if anyone in the office said the word bald he used to blush. he was really smart and funny and laughed easily and he was nice and read good books and i had a massive crush on him and he had nothing to be insecure about

Or like famous bisexual christopher hitchens said once "I was so ugly at this point that only women would sleep with me anymore"* seriously, women want someone who can make them laugh and talk to them about their interests, we do.not.give.a.shit.about.hair. And I bet you look better than Hitch anyway


*can't remember exact words


Getting life back together by Broke - Fri, 11 Jan 2019 20:13:24 EST ID:9S4LZ31I No.528715 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Heres the scoop.
I'm 27 and trying to pay off my debt so I can finally move on with my life as an adult.
After Child support and Rent I have 100-200$/month for food and anything else I need to pay.
I would get a second job but I'm already carpooling to my first job and I live miles from any place that I could work besides that. I owe 8k on a claim that I have to pay before I can get my license reinstated.
My 6yr old daughter is also going through school so once a month I'll send her mom an extra 50-100$ for supplies/new cloths.

I eat ramen mostly. So I cant cut my food budget.
Oh, and I have 2k In back child support from the time I had jobless while moving states to move back in with my mother. So I guarantee I wont be getting any tax returns.

I. Feeling totally hopeless, but I'm keeping my chin up and looking for any possible option to get out of this mess.
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Thomas Porryhick - Fri, 11 Jan 2019 22:54:59 EST ID:U99A5Mm4 No.528717 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Quit smoking and drinking. Yes it sucks but it's the easiest way to save money and get ahead without selling drugs or finding a better job.
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Nathaniel Gecklechidge - Sat, 12 Jan 2019 01:57:00 EST ID:0onX6cvX No.528718 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Military.
Military.
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Hugh Forringstock - Sat, 12 Jan 2019 04:42:11 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.528719 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528715

Developing some sort of hustle outside of the world of employment might help a lot.

My girlfriend is a live at home mother and she goes around charity shops buying clothes to resell on eBay for a profit and promotes through social media. She’s also working on her embroidery skills to begin selling little things.

I sell artwork occasionally and do a bunch of stuff to do with customising clothes.

There’s a lot of digital skills you can teach yourself which can also generate money such as graphics and coding. Building websites or graphics for small businesses can be a good hustle.

Finding some sort of product you can buy to sell on can really work well too. Being some kind of entrepreneur selling your wares via online can keep your costs low. Yes it takes time, yes it takes upfront cost, but the profits do come in if you’ve backed a winning horse.

It’s mostly about picking a niche and executing the presentation properly.
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Angus Fabberfoot - Sat, 12 Jan 2019 05:41:31 EST ID:rTQzzI7S No.528722 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528715
OP do you like your job? If the answer is yes then the next question is are you good at it. If not ask your manager how to improve, do those things. If you are good and like working there (ie you enjoy some of it, you don't mind almost all the rest, you would probably quit if you won the lottery but you don't wake up and groan every weekday) tell your manager that and say you'd like to make a career of it, what do they need to do to move up (if there's several people at their levelanyway, if not then "when you get promoted") start doing those things. This won't work if you hate your job, suck at it or work somewhere awful with shitheads. It's not a quick solution but it's one way to do things.


man i am so fucked by Angus Pillywutch - Thu, 10 Jan 2019 05:41:35 EST ID:OWx1ClP7 No.528688 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>27
>20+ grand in debt
>lived on my own for the past year
>Had crazy girlfriend come in and completely fuck up my life
>lose my job, girl ends up in jail
>basically unemployed with small stints of odd jobs from october until next monday, got a machinist $15.50 an hr job, on the verge of homelessness, credit decimated.oo
>now some emo kid i went to highschool with is living at my house
>hes also unemployed but starts a new job tomorrow
>lazy fuck
>got offered a job at panera bread, they offered him either a starting position for $8 or a manager position for $14, he took the $8 cuz the manager position "Sounds too stressful"
>my lease is up april 1st
>Supposed to move in with emo kid and some other dude
>They keep pressuring me to move april 1st and not get a lease extension, they dont know shit about how leases work
>Most renters want 2-3 times rent being made
>The other dude were moving with is a pizza delivery stallion, hes like 23, lost his license because of a dui. So he has someone else drive his car and he runs the pizza out and he gives them half the money he makes, makes like $200 a week doing this.
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Nathaniel Sishmin - Thu, 10 Jan 2019 13:31:26 EST ID:rTQzzI7S No.528695 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528688
Spareroom.com maybe? Find a random? It might suck but you might find someone not completely awful. I'm not sure these guys won't simply be a liability rather than an asset.
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Angus Pillywutch - Thu, 10 Jan 2019 14:22:20 EST ID:OWx1ClP7 No.528697 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528695
I looked, theres not even any in my area except a $500 a month in a families house an hour outside of the city
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Clara Bommletick - Thu, 10 Jan 2019 22:28:18 EST ID:0onX6cvX No.528706 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528697
>the city
Found your problem
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Angus Fabberfoot - Sat, 12 Jan 2019 08:42:29 EST ID:rTQzzI7S No.528727 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528697
I meant look for a person. If no rooms are going then find someone new to share with in the same boat.


"Friends" disapearing because of their crotchfruits (and still demanding favors) by Megalo Nakapacifist - Sat, 17 Mar 2018 03:29:18 EST ID:DZIUR4rS No.522843 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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A very good friend of mine managed to breed and now has two crotch-fruits squeezed out of his soon-to-be wife.

He gave up his job,
just to move to his wifes home to breed there,
without even considering the dangers of missing money and missing spare-time! We were still best friends at the time.

Its been 3 years now and despite him promising meet-ups we never seen each other again, only some shitty pics of his crotchfruit over social-media.

The meetings we had with my GF and his fiance just stopped slowly. No more going to concerts, no more driving to the beach, no more gaming together, no more watching movies together, no more parties, no more crazy shit.

Now he has no job, no money and no friends.

It just sickens me I lost a good friend I could talk and laugh about everything!

AND NOW THE WORST PART:
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Cornelius Sonkinson - Tue, 17 Jul 2018 00:34:59 EST ID:TEx/3Mtm No.525581 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>525580
It's like they are on a beach with a stranded whale slowly dying.
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Crapes Housing - Sun, 19 Aug 2018 08:22:55 EST ID:fdUcm8bq No.526264 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>522843
Hope you'll read this.
I had a truly amazing girfriend (just friends) who was kinda a soul-friend.
I discovered so many things in this world through her, so many great experiences.

Then she moved away and we didn't see each other for a long time.
When I met her recently she had been turned into a breeding mombie with no more personality.
I was kinda terrified.
All she had to talk about were disgusting child-related things like poop, snot and puke
while beeing interrupted by her screaming vag-demon.

My advice to you is:
Ghost that person and find new friends!
People that can't make you feel good on the inside are not worth your time!
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Player Zero - Wed, 09 Jan 2019 15:46:53 EST ID:BfQPvhKL No.528661 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>525503
>>522843
Imagine having a kid a t even 25!
Then you’ve got to hope it got a job/got into uni/has the foresight to clean its room before taking a gap year. If the kid is unmotivated or whatever, I don’t think I’d have the heart to kick it out just because it’s a legal adult… so no uni means another (few) year(s) living with me. Similarly, even if it does get a job immediately, most of my friends between 18 and 25 who don’t make a tonne of money just live with their parents. If you make £800 each month, blowing £500 on rent, £100 on bills, and £120 on food seems silly when mum and dad pay for it anyway.

At best I would be 43 when the kid finally leaves. That’s not old, but it does mean losing the rest of my 20s and all of my 30s to kids. Exchanging weekend brunches and last minute holidays for piano lessons and football practice or whatever the kid wants to do. Then by the time I’m in my 40s I don’t have the money to do anything for myself because I blew it all on whatever the kid needed.

I moved out at 18, but I know I’m still a burden on my parents 5 years later. My brother is 20 and doesn’t even live with my mom, but she still makes him lunch a few times a week and does his laundry (he lives in dorms and by coincidence mom got a job 10 minutes away from him).

Kids are expensive for life, and a lot of people have them as “investments” hoping that when they retire the kid will be rich enough to pay it back and keep them company…

pic related,
this should hang in every class-room!
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Cyril Brugglenadging - Wed, 09 Jan 2019 18:32:45 EST ID:LUMBEv8P No.528667 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Cruel world.

All I want is kids, but I can't find a partner to save my life. Autistic manchildren like OP get all the fertile women they want, whom are wasted as OP would rather do bong rips whilst playing Halo with his friends until they're all 45 years old.
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Buttplug Jesus - Wed, 09 Jan 2019 19:23:30 EST ID:BfQPvhKL No.528678 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>528667
noone wants to play halo.

kids are fucking expensive and they are the cruel kind of lottery.
You don't know how they'll turn out, you can be the best parent and your crotchfruit can still become a sociopath.

There are enough people on this planet anyway.
If you want a kid so bad, adopt one!


I am so happy I lost my ex! by Medium Difficulty - Wed, 19 Sep 2018 18:13:48 EST ID:jFcb6uwf No.526719 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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First of all: Sorry for my bad english!

I just need and want to write this down and get off my chest.

While I said it occasioally to my current wife, its still something I need to speak / write up.

My last relationship nearly ruined me.
I had years of depression, couldn't find a job because I was suicidal, had friends who moved far away ( so I had literally no friends or fake-friends who only wanted to smoke pot or get drunk and needed help fixing their computers).

I was in a relationship with - in retrospect - an awful hipster-bitch.
In fact I only truly realized what hipsters are after the "relationship" ended.

Her parents didn't like me from the get-go. They made relatively clear, that I needed a better paid job (I worked at a farm, sold food and helped in keeping the house together - because the owners were really old.)

I loved my job. It was hard but I managed to get through.
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Nigel Blobblelock - Sat, 22 Sep 2018 14:21:34 EST ID:BgYDrKs0 No.526769 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>526719
thanks for sharing your story man. i'm really glad it all worked out for you. it's no good to let people treat you like that, so kudos to you for recognizing that
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Fucking Cuvingwell - Thu, 03 Jan 2019 18:26:44 EST ID:KD71R6q3 No.528497 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>526719
So glad for you that you could cut this awful person out of your life and found your soulmate!

I've dated this sort of person a few times and every relationship that involved these never-satisfied type of people was doomed from the get go

(some of them turned unsurprisingly into drug-addicts).

People who "need" to experience the whole world, no matter the cost are people I'd like to stay away,

because I've learned it the hard way too, that people who can't enjoy the moment, can't take it slow or breathe something wonderful that happens right in front of their face,

are people who are empty on the inside!

I am totally convinced that there is something really wrong with these people,
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Reuben Nimmledale - Fri, 04 Jan 2019 11:13:49 EST ID:THNi/hHd No.528509 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>526719
blame blame blame, maybe she was an asshole, but nobody can make you depressed. If you get depressed when they do shit, they didn't make you depressed. Holding onto blame might feel good in the short term but you were young and made a mistake and learned from it. do what you need to do to let this go.
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Ernest Blicklehane - Fri, 04 Jan 2019 18:56:32 EST ID:0+GuTKht No.528522 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I dated someone for 5 years, totally thought she was the one, tirelessly proved myself to her judgemental parents, she is beautiful, and we were both putting our own independent time into creating a better future for ourselves, professionally and spiritually. We both lived with our parents and were just introducing ourselves into adulthood.

She got pregnant around our 4 year mark. It was devastating. We decided to abort, especially because we were both "rational-minded adults" and concluded the child wouldn't be able to have a nice life with the two of us having to struggle to support it its whole life. This was a very dark time. We were there for each other throughout, holding hands as we waded through the thick misery. Despite her having an amazing insurance plan provided by her engineer-father, the procedure cost $1600 which we split evenly between us.

A few months later, she decided that we should take a break from each other. This was an agreeable thing to do considering such a recent hardship. We maintained contact but we ceased to be intimate with each other, opting for a more platonic relationship.

As dating goes, her friends became mine and vice versa. Her and a particular friend of mine became very close throughout our relationship. During our break/platonic time, she decided to travel and go visit this particular friend of mine in another part of the country at an organic farm he'd moved to. Concurrently, I had been confiding in another friend of mine about my relationship troubles. This friend is a mutual friend and was a polyamorous partner of the particular friend whom my (girlfriend?) was visiting. This friend -- how absolutely grateful I am of her, she is exactly the friend everyone should have -- told me that my (girlfriend? I don't fucking know) and this particular friend were hooking up during their stay at the organic farm. I fucking exploded in tears of betrayal and general heartbreak after hearing this information.

Side note: This trio [girlfriend, particular friend, and amazing friend] have gotten together exclusively throughout the years of our relationship and were very close; although I was very enthusiastic of their growing bond, in retrospect, all of it seemed kind of incestuous. My amazing friend and particular friend, who met through me, grew fond of each other and formed a very close, though open, relationship. Whether or not I can claim credit for that is entirely subjective. (I have also played matchmaker with some other of my close friends who met through me. Call me Cupid) The two of them and my girlfriend would get together frequently --and exclusively -- and have very intimate conversations about personal details, all for the sake of openness. Now, I strongly encourage openness in all contexts, and especially in this one I could not appreciate more, but with such openness comes some very caustic information if not filtered properly. Unfortunately, the figuratively forgiving sieve of filtered speech was not afforded to me.

After hearing from my amazing friend that my (girlfriend? I'm sorry for constantly parenthesizing this but to this day it still confuses me) and particular friend were hooking up, my amazing friend then goes on to tell me that my girlfriend-at-the-time had also been sleeping around, cheating on me throughout our whole relationship with various male friends of hers from high school. How naive was I to simply believe that her and they were just friends. I was told that she had been seeing a specific friend consistently for at least a year leading up to this news. Being told all of this at once forced me to hang up and immediately leave my house and just walk down the road, away away away.

I may be naive but I'm not ignorant. My ex-girlfriend had been sleeping with different men throughout the course of our relationship. She had been seeing a specific man for at least a year. She became pregnant only a few months ago.

Only a few months ago < at least a year
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Monster Trialis - Wed, 09 Jan 2019 18:39:16 EST ID:BfQPvhKL No.528668 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528522
for someone who never used Tinder:
Is it easier to get in a relationship over Tinder than meeting someone at a party?


Why the fuck am I so different all of a sudden? by Phyllis Bricklesack - Wed, 09 Jan 2019 01:26:35 EST ID:M0jaG8Fr No.528641 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Four years ago my parents made me go to university even though I wanted to stay home and study code in my limitless free time. Of course I went, and in my first year I learned that my case was a strange one and that I was socially defunct. I also attracted lots of manipulative people who could see my naivety. Stable people avoided me like the plague even before my drinking havits began.

At 19 I touched alcohol for the first time and almost immediately began drinking a bottle or two of wine every other night.

Anyway, I graduated (useless BA degree) because my parents wouldnt listen to me beg for a break and I didnt have any friends to fall on anyway.

In the five months since I graduated, it seems that things have made a remarkable change. I immediately got a shit cleaning job just so I wouldnt drink during the day, and 3 months ago started volunteering teaching immigrants to read and speak English. The supervisor at the volunteer center told me today she would talk to the local community college about a sorely needed job slot that I could almost certainly fill for bilingual academic support.

Why the fuck is my life becoming liveable all of a sudden? It just doesnt feel right. Im used to being perceived as the most autistic shitlord of them all.
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Nigel Fanville - Wed, 09 Jan 2019 05:10:50 EST ID:USUZpST+ No.528642 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You're a grown up now and dealing with other grown up people. Enjoy it.
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Basil Meggleson - Wed, 09 Jan 2019 10:50:09 EST ID:2I3LHtGv No.528645 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528642
This. College is extended adolescence. You're not a piece of shit teenager any more that doesn't care about anything or anybody else. You've got some real responsibilities and some real world experience now. It changes quite a bit.
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Phyllis Crodgefig - Wed, 09 Jan 2019 13:05:53 EST ID:rTQzzI7S No.528651 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528645
This and you've had practice at people shit. You fail and get better. Most mildly autistic people who aren't dumb learn the things that everyone else gets automatically well enough to get by at some point. Maybe you're fairly smart and other people can pick up on that and you've become functional enough that with a fresh start free of baggage people are willing to give you a fair chance and realise you're alright.

If you start as a bit of an oddball it can be weird to live down. You've learned some lessons and without that baggage you're able to establish yourself.

I'm going to offer a worst case, and that is that eventually it goes wrong. However if that happens your next attempt will be better still.
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Hugh Tillingstock - Wed, 09 Jan 2019 13:59:56 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.528654 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528641

Well you played those levels, earned the XP and moved on.

It's just gonna take a minute for your identity to fully let go of who you were.


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