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Not Sure by Archie Giblingforth - Sun, 20 Aug 2017 04:23:33 EST ID:y6mZLcQE No.518192 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Never posted in /qq/ but I've been having an issue and online resources are scarce.

Quick background as it's relevant

>Grew up in a shitty household
>Mom had an /opi/ problem and mental health issues
>Never really present in my life
>Stepdad was an alcoholic
>Fall into petty crime, and generally shit bag stuff
>Kicked out at 18
>existential crisis
>Moved cities and made a life for myself
>Fresh start
>Lot's of hard work and 4 years later
>Have apartment and job, trade certificate
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Archie Giblingforth - Sun, 20 Aug 2017 05:02:15 EST ID:y6mZLcQE No.518194 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Thanks for replying. I get what you're saying, that this is just kind of the expected outcome of my circumstances. It's just refreshing to hear that, because I've never mentioned this to anyone; so thank-you

Maybe I'll look into some therapy options.

I guess this is more of a vent post than advice asking post. Just needed to get it out there you know?
Hopefully its something that can be moved past.
Archie Giblingforth - Sun, 20 Aug 2017 05:03:57 EST ID:y6mZLcQE No.518195 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Double post here so NB. But "hyper aware" is the best way to describe it, you hit the nail on the head
James Feblingmudging - Sun, 20 Aug 2017 07:50:08 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.518199 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Honestly I feel like it's probably a good thing you're able to appreciate the full weight of those behaviors. Other than it maybe opening you up to manipulation by shitty people, I mean. Aside from that, I don't see how this could be a bad thing.
Martin Hivingchire - Mon, 21 Aug 2017 13:05:27 EST ID:2nSSPmZN No.518229 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Maybe one day you'll have kids and you'll know to give them the affection you never really had, and they'll be better off for it.
Ebenezer Bardforth - Mon, 21 Aug 2017 14:57:26 EST ID:bJ2LE8mc No.518238 Ignore Report Quick Reply
What you are referring to as /hooch/ has since be properly rebranded as /drank/ by out lorde and saviour Kirt.

>Please use proper board labels as such.

forever alonem and I think I deserve it by Lillian Sellerville - Mon, 21 Aug 2017 00:28:40 EST ID:1MI+DpWt No.518210 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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My love, my girlfriend of tle last year and a half just told me she can't keep pretending any longer. That she loves me as a friend, and nothing more anymore. My life's in tatters, because of this, and because of many other things. I know her, and I know she tried her best, but that only makes it hurt more. Too drunk to hurt myself ATM, so might as well seek help. So help me if you can, 'cause sure as hell I'm not going to help myself right now.

Maybe I provide some details when I sober up.
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Matilda Drushstone - Mon, 21 Aug 2017 09:35:28 EST ID:6yal9B1C No.518224 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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You can do it Lillian, I believe in your ability to bluff your way through the first week or so.
Lillian Sellerville - Mon, 21 Aug 2017 09:57:40 EST ID:1MI+DpWt No.518225 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Thanks, really.

Strange as it may seem, I appear to be getting a hang of myself. Which is weird, because normally, the combined breakup, stress from new work, as well as the rest of my (not so fun) life would send me to the pits of despair. Phoned an old friend of mine, he said he barely recognized me, in that I'm calm (well, relatively) and try to get help and plan for solutions instead of bashing my head against the wall wailing about lost hope and bottomless despair, as usual.
I'm not going to complain. This may be the only opportunity for me to spring back to life before my depression and problems kill me.

Still, I never had that sort of a sudden outbreak of common sense, so I don't really know how to go about it - besides "doing my best" of course.
Archie Credgetadge - Mon, 21 Aug 2017 11:17:23 EST ID:rvyG5k56 No.518226 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You're acting like it's the end of the world and she's the only girl out there. Jeez, a little change won't hurt, will it?
Lillian Sellerville - Mon, 21 Aug 2017 11:38:57 EST ID:1MI+DpWt No.518227 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>You're acting like it's the end of the world and she's the only girl out there.
I'm kind of a monogamist, y'know. That's the person I have very, very strong feelings for. So yea, until these feelings die, and that may take quite some time, I'm not going to consider anyone else. That's how it works with me.

Besides, this happened at the ass end of a chain of misfortunes that I didn't lay out, so it's not like it's the only thing that brought the misery about. And through it all, I kind of began depending on her for mental comfort. Once that was gone, the rest started falling down on me hard.
Jenny Bummlelet - Mon, 21 Aug 2017 13:04:48 EST ID:JKkiuuyh No.518228 Ignore Report Quick Reply
So you've loved one girl and think it's until you die?

Monogamy just means one at a time. People love and sometimes it doesn't work. It sounds like you're as much in love with the idea of the relationship (and the whole dependent thing, that's bad) as with her. And she deserves better. You can have a relationship that doesn't work and not hate the other person but that doesn't mean they were the one. There's no "one" there's just people with varying degree of compatability. Hers was one of the higher ones. The bright side is you can find someone just as great in a different way and have the whole new experience of loving them. And either it fails or you find someone else. or option C

Don't get me wrong, it's going to suck and hurt but it will get better. Accept it will suck, accept it will get better and then just try to live as much as you can (I don't mean fuck whores, I mean just make your life good, get help work on friendships and a career get in shape) until the pain has gone enough you can find someone else and love them fully.

Pragmatic paths to suicide and extreme planning: by Isabella Tootstock - Mon, 21 Aug 2017 07:08:36 EST ID:gXAN/XTh No.518220 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Howdy /qq/

So I'm probably a bit off my rocker to begin with however I would like to see if anyone else shares the same sentiment. I will proceed with a completely straight forward and relatively jocund tone given the subject matter.

So in my 20 something years of life on Earth, (only remembering that past 12-15 of it mind you.) I've suffered daily with self-loathing, perpetual unexplained misery, and endless levels of existential dread. In addition, being a social creature as that I'm am human; I destroy all friendships before they could even start. I'm also guilty of being a fucking weirdo. After many years deliberating and ultimately accepting my fate of lifestyle depression as I will call it, I've resorted to a bucket list of means to complacency or maybe we shall call it content.

As such, I've exhausted a number of things on the list I reasonably could suppose as answers to life's torment.

>Helping people/charity. (Sorta.)
>Personality changes. (As best I could at least.)
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Fuck Blythegold - Mon, 21 Aug 2017 07:40:52 EST ID:5cdUlzH1 No.518221 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Who knows indeed.

Cotinine test by Augustus Grimdale - Mon, 21 Aug 2017 01:08:57 EST ID:aBGPEYJp No.518211 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Just looking for anyone with info or an educated opinion.

I'm taking a cotinine piss test for my health insurance to prove I'm a non smoker.

I've quit smoking cigarettes for a week or two to pass, but I'd like to know if insurance companies will shell out the extra money to test for marijuana in their applicants.

Im insured through my job at a hospital.

I'd like to know so I can either keep smoking pot or cut it out.

Pic unrelated.

Sluts by Doris Pockgold - Sat, 10 Jun 2017 10:49:37 EST ID:RLopCwes No.516834 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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How do I avoid girls that have

>had promiscuous sex
>rape victim
>taken dick in the mouth a ton of times
>did hook ups
>lived on a college campus
>had fwb
>lots of sexual partners

I literally refuse to date these girls. How do I o ow a girl is a slut before I get attached to her because once that happens you're fucked.
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Martha Pickleford - Tue, 15 Aug 2017 18:33:30 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.518100 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It's alright dude, you don't have to be hostile and talk about how much more you fucked her, she's not yours anymore so you should just not give a shit and move on, not make these weak ass comments which show everyone how jealous and insecure you are. You didn't get stallioned, no reason to swing your 100 mile long epeen around.
Jarvis Manningkid - Wed, 16 Aug 2017 18:42:46 EST ID:eEwc9MSC No.518108 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>rape victim

Wow I was happy until I read this thread. I wanted to come here and spread the love but fuck you OP. I've had friends who were raped at knifepoint in their own apartments. They are not sluts.

Go fuck yourself.
Fanny Sushdale - Sat, 19 Aug 2017 00:50:02 EST ID:dSDg1rmn No.518166 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>or you get the clingiest girls fucking ever dude.

I dunno, that seems nice

>When I was in college I had this 4 ft tall 80 pound tomboy 20 year old following me around and hanging on to me literally everywhere I went. It seriously could have been stalking or sexual harassment. She was "nice" and kind but it was so fucking annoying. She learned my class schedule, my car and parking spots, places I went to eat, my house etc. Bitch was a loon. Be wary of what you wish for.

If she's cute, I wouldn't have a problem. Even if she isn't too cute she's fuckable and you have a yandere who you can do stuff with (train her to be a killer...like Yuno)
Nicholas Bibbleham - Sat, 19 Aug 2017 15:30:26 EST ID:UjNuOR6B No.518187 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Oliver Gurrystutch - Sun, 20 Aug 2017 06:02:18 EST ID:RFeevcYx No.518198 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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You know, I never seen men who get a lot of sex complaining that women are all sluts.

Maybe you should stop putting women on charge of your own morality? I mean, as long as you stay honest to your beliefs, let other people have theirs. If you find a girl who loves to fuck and she fucked a lot before she met you, and you love her and she loves you, then why the fuck not just enjoy your time together? She won't be around forever, you won't be around forever. Make the best of what you have TODAY.

Also I don't think liking sex a lot necessarily means that you're a bad person. And most men just want to fuck and dump, so that also helps to create so-called "sluts", obviously there are women fucking but if the guys just don't want to stick around, it's not their fault, it's just that most men are not looking for anything serious when they approach an attractive girl.

depth therapy trauma borderline psychosis #allthatjazz by Ian Gonningfield - Sat, 01 Jul 2017 14:59:30 EST ID:iyUDEqG0 No.517199 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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about two weeks ago I had a psychosis I think where I wanted to kill myself because I felt I am hunted by agents and I am trapped in a reality where I have to kill myself in order to become free.
Now I am in a clinic where I have to stay 2 month in the "psychosomatic" department doing once a week depth therapy, namely talking about the trauma happed in my childhood. (Like child molesting parents)
My problem is, that I feel highly manipulated by the psychiatrist the way they talk and move their bodies, the way they control the communication, their understanding what I need etc.
For example they ask a general question, I answer it by interpreting it for me, the psychiatrist says: classic misunderstanding! You only understand what you want to understand. Now I wonder, why giving me the option understanding it how I want it in the first place and using my trust against me?

There is also another doctor who wants me to "lose" and "stop fighting".
But I feel they are trying to break me.
I don't feel they deserve my shit. And I feel I cannot trust a manipulative system, regardless of how much it is supposed to help me.

I am afraid of this method. Also I feel its a bit sexual tensioned, like the doctor is excited when I give him some fight. The other doctor would like to "chastise" me.
I really don't know if this setting is right for me. I need therapy, thats for sure. But I am hell of afraid of letting them break me. Makes it sense? Should this happen??? what is your opinion on it?
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Esther Peppernone - Sat, 12 Aug 2017 13:39:51 EST ID:dDopddsV No.518053 Ignore Report Quick Reply
so I I have 2 weeks to go and Im done. I was a nice patient, opened up etc. and here is the thing I don't understand:

it is a power constellation in which I have to talk about intimate details while they are stirring in my head and brain. I am not allowed to do the same to them. The amount of trust I am giving while talking, laughing, ENJOYING the power constellation is the amount of integrity I have within myself. WHY THE FUCK should I do this???
striptease towards the others as a sign of healthy sexuality. promiscuous sex as a sign of healthy self worth, enjoying power games while loosing as a sign of not feeling vulnerable. WHY THE HELL SHOULD I PLAY THIS?
WHAT FOR??? FOR "AUTHENTICITY" . How come they drive for authenticity? They just don't want to be repelled. And what is the costs of this authenticity? My limits. FUCK. TGAT . THIST. FUCK ALL OF THE GOOD SOULS OUT THERE TRYING TO SELL ME THIS SHIT. FUCK YOU.
Clara Fazzleludge - Sun, 13 Aug 2017 07:46:14 EST ID:8tAx6kVt No.518064 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You're still crazy OP. Power constellations?

And yes it seems unfair that you have to open up and they don't, but if ever doctor was examined alongside their patients how long would it take? Plus then they'd need to be examined by someone qualified as well. So they'd need a doctor. Who'd need a doctor. Fairness is important but it doesn't always give symmetry. You give up some privacy but get peace of mind. Except you haven't had peace of mind, you're still incoherent.
Emma Navingwotch - Sun, 13 Aug 2017 21:14:07 EST ID:eEwc9MSC No.518077 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Hey OP
fellow crazy person here: I've had psychoses except they were much more fun than yours.

If your psychosis led you to behave and act better they would humor you.

In a few months this will seem like just a crazy dream.

All of this will pass.

Stay strong, take your meds, talk even though it hurts.
Martha Bunwill - Sun, 20 Aug 2017 05:04:54 EST ID:71ezaDMR No.518196 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Dude. You do know, that doctors take so called supervisions, right? Its basically a doctor for a doctor and and any doctor should take this into account. Its proven to work well enough for everybody. Cunt. Thank you.

Im not taking any meds and it seems like I am not having a psychosis regarding to the doctors.
The chemistry between me and my therapist does not work. He misuses the words I am saying and does not mention trust issues me and my room mate had to his boss. I don't feel he is caring. And I feel I should have had a more individual setting because I am way under my potential regarding my progress. Lesson learnt: don't trust anyone with whom the chemistry does not work.
Barnaby Fapperpot - Sun, 20 Aug 2017 05:26:21 EST ID:f+dkZbsN No.518197 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Now that makes perfect sense. It's well measured and articulates things perfectly.

The previous post did not.

I would disagree with some of it, not massively but I actually understand it now. If the chemistry with a therapist does not work it shouldn't come down to trust. If the chemistry does not work you cannot make progress and need a new doctor/therapist. Therapy is in your head, if you do not jive with their approach then it's not about trust, it's just utterly futile.

Well that and power constellation is not something that really describes a supervision. They're supposed to be checks and controls on the doctors to ensure they're not completely off track. If anything it's supposed to weak the power.

You get a shit therapist/doctor then yes it's going to fail. It doesn't mean the system is set up to abuse you. It does mean the system is fallible and sometimes it does break down and become entirely unproductive or worse.

Well.. by Charles Mocklelan - Sat, 19 Aug 2017 11:57:35 EST ID:qgSlhkvl No.518177 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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If someone fell for a fake mystery shopper scam and cashed a check sent to them, then spent the money. If the check came back bad, what would happen? Could one just get off with it since they didnt write it or slowly pay their way out?
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Nicholas Drorrykodge - Sat, 19 Aug 2017 13:53:23 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.518182 Ignore Report Quick Reply
... then it wouldn't be a bad check?
Ebenezer Menningfield - Sat, 19 Aug 2017 14:52:43 EST ID:bwJOb6Ln No.518184 Ignore Report Quick Reply

worst scammer ever "I'll send people checks!" "That's great honey, better make sure you've got enough money in your account!" "Oh, right!"

Are you trying to money launder, OP? Are you planning on setting up a fake mystery shopper that sends out friends and family checks?
Charles Mocklelan - Sat, 19 Aug 2017 16:01:00 EST ID:qgSlhkvl No.518188 Ignore Report Quick Reply
A cashiers check can be forged and the bank can only hold it 7 days. It can take longer than that for it to come back unpaid. Christ you guys are dense
Nicholas Drorrykodge - Sat, 19 Aug 2017 16:07:23 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.518189 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Christ you guys are dense
I'm not the one asking about cashing a check I got scammed into cashing, or otherwise trying to somehow get away with cashing one I knew beforehand was a scam.
Charles Mocklelan - Sat, 19 Aug 2017 17:09:38 EST ID:qgSlhkvl No.518190 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Whatever. So what can they do about it?

I don't know by Ernest Dregglechetch - Sat, 12 Aug 2017 03:47:28 EST ID:Bzabghvi No.518046 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So, I got raped when I was a kid. Not gonna bother with details but I'm hung up on committing violence and/or murder. All of me wants justice for what happened, same time don't want to ruin my life.Have a girlfriend, brothers etc. Live in a small community, not much in the ways of escaping that, not that I entirely want to. Any advice?
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Beatrice Pennersetch - Fri, 18 Aug 2017 23:52:35 EST ID:o3vIoRWZ No.518164 Ignore Report Quick Reply
What is the difference between revenge and justice?

Serious question.
Nicholas Drorrykodge - Sat, 19 Aug 2017 11:55:41 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.518176 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Motivation, methods employed to enact said revenge/justice, how people in general perceive things and react during the fallout, etc. Sometimes what certain groups of people find to be "justice" can wind up being tantamount to revenge, but the two seriously differ in execution and their consequences depending on the level of refinement some particular group's concept of justice is.
Nicholas Drorrykodge - Sat, 19 Aug 2017 12:06:28 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.518178 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Because OP is talking about doing something that can help them get better, personally. They expressed no desire for advice about helping other people. You had no actual rebuttal for any of my points then? The fact that you had to try and make me out to seem like I'm a cold piece of shit for not wanting to prevent future rapes by telling OP to indulge in violent and homicidal urges tells me you already know you're wrong and the only way you can think to win this argument is to make it seem like you some how care more about OP and rape victims than I do or some other such trite bullshit. You clearly don't have OPs best interests in mind, you're trying to send him down a path that winds up fucking things up worse all for some pathetic power trip they might get for feeling like they hold this guys' life in their hands.

If you're going to reply back, please drop any illusions you might have about holding the moral high ground here. I really couldn't give a fuck less about what's moral or not, all I really care about here is keeping OP from doing something stupid that's going to make things worse. I really couldn't give less of a shit what happens to that guy or how right or wrong killing or brutally beating someone is, I just know none of that is going to help OP. At the very fucking least it's going to get him into trouble with the law or wind up causing large amounts of stress from all the planning and shit and OP doesn't need any of that shit.
Polly Gottingwell - Sat, 19 Aug 2017 12:53:09 EST ID:/tHrh2GZ No.518179 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Calm your tits Nicholas.
OP posted 3 sentences. There is no way for us to know what kind of guy he is and whether doing something would help him or give him PTSD or whatever.

I don't give two shits about morals either. OP would have the moral high ground if he did something by the way :). I'm just stating my honest opinion and that is if somebody rapes you it's your duty to yourself and society to make sure that person either gets dealt with by the law (preferred) or you do something else. I know I couldn't live a decent life knowing my rapist is out there possibly committing more rape.

Also what points do you think you made my man? All answers to your rhetoric questions are entirely dependent on what type of person OP is. Only OP can answer them.
Nicholas Drorrykodge - Sat, 19 Aug 2017 14:11:40 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.518183 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>moral high ground if he did something by the way
As long as you're talking about fighting a legit legal battle or something when talking about revenge then this is true, otherwise being a victim doesn't suddenly give you a pass to do something that would otherwise be considered evil or wrong in Western society. OP won't get a free pass unless somehow winding up extremely lucky.

If all you're saying to do is report the guy and defer everything to the authorities then I've been overreacting to what you've been saying, without a doubt. But statements like:
>Either ruin the guys life by going public with the accusation or do something else...
>For thousands of years violence / revenge was part of the human experience.
>if someone rapes you, you have a free pass to get revenge just be smart about it.

make my reaction seem pretty justified to me. You aren't necessarily telling OP what to do in particular, but you're still very open to the idea of "do[ing] something else" and are encouraging him to go through with whatever he chooses to do (be it hurting, killing, or even torturing him), and that is specifically what I'm arguing against in my subsequent responses to you. So, if you think I'm telling him that reporting the guy or pursuing some kind of legal action is pointless or even bad to do, I'm not. Sorry that wasn't clear. Now that it is though, I really wouldn't understand it if you still had problems with my position on this.

People suck by Nathaniel Manningnirk - Sat, 19 Aug 2017 06:59:03 EST ID:3Ljp8Jsm No.518169 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Had a bachelor party today I really didnt want to do. Yes, I may have posted about this here before.

I'm the best man and I dont really approve of the wedding. The wife is awful, the groom has said many times that hes only getting married to please his parents. The groom is a 25 year old man child, i grew up with this kid and hes always been my best friend but i just think his antics these days is bullshit.

So the bachelor party is at this dive bar in this shitty town I live in, we sat around and played poker all night. It was fine, I won some money in poker and than in slots. It seems like everyone here thinks their more mature than me and its annoying. The grooms cousins are legit but some of the other groomsmen are just full of themselves and kinda push me around and treat me like a kid. I feel like I have to lie about shit with my job and my life to try to fit in. I like going out to some nicer bars in the area to try to party and talk to women, I suggest this. I get a huge "No". At one point the groom asks if were going to the other bars, and I say yea if he's down, and he starts bitching and screaming at me and saying absolutely not, were going back to my house to play cribbage.

So we go back to my house, i have like 6 beers in the fridge. I give some to my fellow groomsmen, they roll up a joint (i dont smoke atm, have too much other stuff going on in my life), and i say theres 1 beer left and that its for me. I get a bunch of shit for this. So this dude thats been a dickhead to me all night goes in the fridge and grabs the beer and hands it to me. I thank him and he leaves shortly after, after saying all this shit about how I cant get bitches because my house is trash and connrected to a business.

So pretty much as soon as he leaves i notice that he also ate a bunch of wings i had in the fridge that was basically the only food in my house, and threw the box in the trash. I got so fucking pissed, it isnt about the rings, its about being basically forced to do shit for other people and getting pissed around.

I dont know if anyone here can relate to me, and i post here alot, but i just came here to vent. I think that society is complete bullshit the more and more i read in…
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Nathaniel Manningnirk - Sat, 19 Aug 2017 07:22:51 EST ID:3Ljp8Jsm No.518170 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I mean, christ, the dudes parents set up his bachelor party, i had no involvement, and when I suggest we go bar hopping, I get basically shunned because these are lames who still follow the "Thats what jocks/chad/meatheads do" mentality, even though nightlife has been a big part of my life for years now and is part of who I am at my core. Originally I wanted to do alot more for this (Casino/strip club/drugs) but I knew that was unreasonable, I just wanted to go out and be rowdy. Nb.
Nathaniel Manningnirk - Sat, 19 Aug 2017 07:47:34 EST ID:3Ljp8Jsm No.518171 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Another thing, last one, nb.

I sit up and think about it and these people make me want to puke. It actually keeps me up at night. They are literally man children to the point where its an embarassing joke. I would never tell anyone what these people do on their free times, its fucking sad. It makes them happy though. They also enjoy being dominated, by their obese landwhale girlfriends. Its fucking sick.

I'm not concerned with them though, why would I be. My concern is that I let myself go for this long. These people have been my friends forever, but I should have cut them off after highschool or a few years later. Its not them, its for me. How'd i let myself go like this? This isnt going to end, this will continue my entire life. I can never let go.

No wonder I never hung around the girls I dreamed of, the people im friends with are fuckin losers, and it gives me a loser attitude and makes me a bullshit loser person.
Molly Cremmerwell - Sat, 19 Aug 2017 08:34:03 EST ID:f+dkZbsN No.518172 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I think part of your problem is you. You tell yourself you are trapped and society victimises you but then make excuses for not changing things or just don't see how you can change things.

Society isn't bullshit you just take bullshit for granted. I would not have put up with this shit. I'd have kicked these guys out when they knocked your place, said you're going to theirs then. You didn't.

You say you can only afford fast food but that's bullshit. It's not the cheapest option. You say you haven't got time for the gym but you spend your time and money at shit dive bars.

If you want to change your life you may have to make sacrifices. Absolutely move town. if you can find a better career path take it. if not then look at what you could do potentially, then drop going to bars to pay for the training or get the experience or whatever. I think you want it all but aren't willing to sacrifice anything. As a result you've got a little bit of everything but not a lot of anything. Unfortunately the truth is you cannot have all the things you want all your life. And if you had them you'd get bored of some of them. You've got to prioritise or get a load of stuff done then move on. These guys are probably still happier than you though because they made sacrifices, they married "ugly feminists" but they have stability and their wives are feminists they probably fend for themselves, or try to out of pride and if they're ugly they're not going to be whoring around. Some guys like the woman to take charge because it's easier than being the one who is responsible for everything. The truth is you probably get a lot more done than them and are responsible for more but they are happier. Not that happy though because they sacrificed too much for too little and take it out on you. But society isn't binary. You work out what you want to get, what you're willing to give up and you negotiate ith yourself. They folded, you're holding even though you haven't got shit.

You feel entitled to a lot of shit but you have absolutely nothing to offer and have not made any attempts to do that. You know what you need and want but yo…
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Molly Cremmerwell - Sat, 19 Aug 2017 08:35:34 EST ID:f+dkZbsN No.518173 Ignore Report Quick Reply
One more thing though OP. You do have one thing over these guys. You can always renegotiate how much you trade with society, but they're in a position where the trades they'd want are costly. They're locked in. It's a situation you can avoid or at least be careful with and it's not one you're in yet.

What the fuck even by Simon Blummerwidge - Fri, 18 Aug 2017 21:26:37 EST ID:oudCRWwU No.518159 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I don't really have a place to talk about things that happen in my life I just feel like I need to get some things off my chest and this is a pretty low key place to do so. To preface this I cannot seek professional help I would if I could but it would end my career professionally.

About a month ago my best friend a person I was very close with a lover of sorts I would even say committed suicide, she texted me the night she did it telling me she felt suicidal but I got the message late since I was at work. I was mad at her about some dumb bullshit so I just wrote it off (she talked about suicide alot usually if she was having actual issues she would call me or talk to her mother or call 911.) I should have called her, I should have replied as soon as I read it. but I didnt I dont know why I just was tired from work I guess and mad at her and I didn't feel like dealing with it. I know she was having issues about the death of one of her friends who died in a car accident they were both in. I should have put two and two together and realized she was being serious this time. anyway its been a few weeks since it happened my personal life isnt much to speak of she was the only person I really talk to on a daily basis (sometimes weekly) that wasnt someone I worked with. The first few days I just felt empty inside I would get random spikes of anger or serious depression some days I would just stare at a wall. that went on for a while and I thought I was over it but for the last few nights I cant sleep. Well I can sleep but every time I do its the same type of dream. Im sitting on a beach with someone I know usually my grandfather or a teacher I knew from school. they say things but I cant understand then I start hearing my dead friend talk to me and I get up and walk into the ocean and as I do her voice gets louder then I start sinking into the water start drowning and die then I wake up. Last night alone that dream happened 3 times I woke up 6 times that night every two hours or so.

I have no idea what the fuck is wrong with me and I really dont have anyone to go to about this so Im spilling my guts here.
Isabella Hobblelock - Fri, 18 Aug 2017 21:32:54 EST ID:/brn2RiX No.518160 Ignore Report Quick Reply
it is not your fault. it was her choice. i am sorry for your pain. it will never disappear but it will reduce over time.

Asexual or just sad by Cedric Drodgefoot - Fri, 18 Aug 2017 18:05:52 EST ID:C2LZTezo No.518148 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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IDK if know if I'm asexual, or have no desire for sex because I'm I depressed. I've had one year+ relation and I was for sure in love with her but since we broke up I've had no serious desire to be with other people. I'm not hung up on her so that's not it. I had a fair amount of fuck buddies before I met her too, so I know what I'm missing on both ends. I just feel like... idk, it's over rated? Animals make much better company really, so my plan is to just do that. I still fap sometimes, but it's just mechanical. It's not like sex/love revolt me, I'd just don't care

The question: Should I care about my lack of care for romantic human contact? I haven't really in the last 2 years, but I saw a therapist recently for my life long depression. I've stopped seeing her because she was dumb and expensive, but I feel like I got asked why I don't have a girlfriend a lot and I would explain as above. Her opinion was that I was just waiting for someone right but idk if I was able to explain it right (or if I still am).

Going to my cousins wedding soon so was kinda thinking about this sort of stuff (it's at a camping ground in Colorado, so fucking stoked)
Barnaby Sackledale - Fri, 18 Aug 2017 18:47:13 EST ID:2cRqUGEL No.518151 Ignore Report Quick Reply
do you have sexual desire at all?
i.e. do you feel lust for someone? Do you watch porn and (somewhat) enjoy it? Could you go your entire life without sex (even if you're in a relationship with someone) and be completely fine/happy with it? Do you/have you enjoyed sex?

Asexuality is more than feeling "meh" about sex, it's just the sheer lack of drive. Emotional connections can still be formed, but it's when you NEVER feel a desire to bone/be boned no matter what the circumstances. I personally dislike sex a lot of the time for my own reasons, but I am in no way asexual because I still have some desire on rare occassions, and even if the actual result is unpleasant the idea is nice.
You're probably just sad. depression kills sex drive. No desire to be with anyone could be a combination of not being ready and not caring because you're in a bad place.

Also obligatory
>maybe you're gay?
Edwin Claywell - Fri, 18 Aug 2017 20:58:48 EST ID:xq9X5xB/ No.518157 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Just don't rest on your laurels man. You're happy being alone? Fine. Just don't let it slip. Keep working on yourself. Keep working on your depression. Build intimate honest friendships and have novel experiences and you'll be awesome even if you have no desire to bust a bit inside someone.
Shitting Winnerdot - Fri, 18 Aug 2017 21:13:48 EST ID:vfShsVuP No.518158 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>dat webm
>aww, whats it taste like? farts mostly farts
>teens are calling it butt hash.

Fuck, I had a good lol..

Anxiety attacks around people by Jenny Packlebug - Thu, 17 Aug 2017 07:19:28 EST ID:MoLhhJRI No.518114 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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For a long time I was seriously depressed and suicidal, mostly because I realized that I will be forever a spider monkey's butt.

I learned to deal with that by retreating from society and avoiding contact with people, mostly women. I mentally blocked that whole dimension of life from my brain and for the last year or so I never had a really bad day or suicidal thoughts.

But now I have another issue. Whenever I'm out in pubic I get anxiety attacks and an overload of emotions. I don't really have the mental fortitude to revisit those dark thoughts again but they come flooding back every time I'm out in public.

How am I supposed to deal with this shit?
Archie Tootcocke - Thu, 17 Aug 2017 10:46:04 EST ID:XPZ1UiOm No.518116 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You need to give more info
Henry Dedgefield - Thu, 17 Aug 2017 13:28:29 EST ID:f+dkZbsN No.518122 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You're going to have to learn to face them. You can't run from anxiety, that makes it stronger.

I've found dealing with the realisation that you can't approach women and they avoid you is easier if the rest of your life is A1 or as close to it as possible. Stop hiding and get everything else in order. Accept you're going to feel like shit sometimes but try to make as many good times as possible. In the short run you have to metaphorically eat shit to get a better life. But first come up with a plan, one with tiny manageable chunks that starts slowly and builds up as each level gets easy.

Maybe you'll even enjoy love for a bit. It's not the be all and end all of life. I won't lie it's pretty fucking good if you can get it, but being in a toxic relationship is worse than being single so even if you die a virgin others had it worse than you.

Also anxiety feeds on anxiety over anxiety. You're also afraid of the anxiety. You probably need to a) start confronting those emotions in private and b) making short trips in public so you they're not as strong when they come out. Most emotional shit is only half and half curing the problem and learning to live with the rest.
Jenny Packlebug - Thu, 17 Aug 2017 13:35:06 EST ID:MoLhhJRI No.518124 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Well it all started when I moved to another city and started a new life. It was a horrible decision, in retrospect. I befriended a new group of people that seemed cool. I didn't get close to them but we could hang out during off hours at the university.

At this point I was 18 and completely inexperienced in matters of love, mostly out of choice (or so I thought). Well as the months went by I saw that my new group of friends provided ample opportunities to meet up with girls. Well I tried. I think I do well enough in the personality department because everyone was receptive and kind and took interest in me and women especially seemed keen to befriend me without any effort from my part. Alas, they all turned me down when I tried to date them. Well at that point I was starting to get really depressed about the whole ordeal. The I tried Tinder and got basically 0 matches, without even being selective. Then I started realizing just how unattractive I was. See, the problem is that I'm short, like a real short ass (5'3), but up till I was 18, the fact never bothered me. I was never bullied or anything. Nobody ever told me that being short is bad. But apparently in dating, being short is a complete deal breaker. Great. Whatever, I got depressed. Realized my life is going to be way harder than I ever anticipated. It got really bad. I was suicidal before going to university but after realizing just how bad I had it, it got to the point were I was afraid I would impulsively leap in front of a bus or jump outside of my balcony.

Anyway, I basically got angry and bitter and withdrew from society. Barely ever leaving my apartment unless I really had to. But this turned out to be a good move. The less I interacted with people the less I remembered how shit of a situation I found myself in and eventually I go to a point where I was just happy to consider my future alone.

Yesterday happened to be a really nice sunny day and I happen to love nature and the outdoors but my leg was hurt from a previous cycling trip (sometimes I go on cycling trips, alone) so I decided to go to the city park instead of the usual secluded areas amongst the fields.

Well BIG MISTAKE. I just was alone in this …
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John Clommlesore - Fri, 18 Aug 2017 00:01:48 EST ID:o3vIoRWZ No.518138 Ignore Report Quick Reply
First, stop making excuses that mask the underlying problem. Your loneliness is completely self-imposed. Nothing to do with your height. None of us are perfect partners, we're all flawed in one way or another.

Second, accept the fact that life is HARD, listen friend, NOBODY of us was prepared for it being so fucking terribly unbelievably hard, oooh nooo, we weren't, no more than you. Fuck no.

But we learn to love our imperfect selves and always strive to be better. But we learn to enjoy the sunlight and people's laughter even when the weight of the world is pressing our shoulders. You learn to fight. You learn to stop and smell the roses.

You think that those people laughing in park are different than you? You think they are better or have it better than you? You are oh so mistaken.
John Clommlesore - Fri, 18 Aug 2017 01:27:37 EST ID:o3vIoRWZ No.518139 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Just because I've get nothing better to do, let me illustrate my last paragraph.

That smiling chick sharing an ice-cream with her friend? Her mom's dying of cancer. That enthusiastic jogger that just passed you? He just got laid off, and still has the majority of his mortgage to pay. That happy couple you just saw kissing? His ex cheated on him, and her ex beat her.

Dude, life is scary. Life is hard. I... I wish I could give you courage and strength. I can't, not this way. I can just try to assure you you're not alone.

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