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I Look Like An Arab by Hamilton Hoddlefark - Sun, 23 Apr 2017 00:59:27 EST ID:w+XXs7My No.515678 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I look like an Arab I am a product of 250 years of on off racemixing. My Dad is Italian-French and Black so he looks like a Iraqi-Jew. My mom is French/Black and looks like a dark Mexican or something. People misidentify me as Indian,Brazilian,Arabic, North African, etc. Depending on how I wear my hair or how dark I am.

This wasn't a problem growing up; before I entered Public School.

But in recent years my city has a lot of immigration from Muslim Countries and Europe. I swear the racist Eurotrash at my school literally thinks that I'm from the Middle East and that I'm some kind of foreigner. It's really disheartening and it's like a problem because they think that they can be nasty to me because of this.

It's also a problem because the cops also think I'm a Muzzie. In fact I used to work at 7/11 that's how advanced the problem it is.
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Nell Grimgold - Sun, 23 Apr 2017 14:15:10 EST ID:583UPQsG No.515703 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Now you feel the alienation that a lot of foreigners feel.
Hamilton Hoddlefark - Sun, 23 Apr 2017 14:54:19 EST ID:w+XXs7My No.515704 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Except the foreigners have more money.
In fact even the thugs drive around my city in Maseratis with big rims.
Russians,Koreans, Persians, Pakis, Mexicans, Thugs they all have more than I do.
Charles Suddlechirk - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 18:22:34 EST ID:s+dE+qb3 No.515742 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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  1. try not to tan in the summer, and wear a lot of sunscreen (good advice for anyone)
  2. wear your hair in a way that doesn't make it too frizzy or poofy or wiry but also not some weird flat shit that Muhammad would be rocking either. Keep up with the hygiene and you're also probably much better off keeping your face clean; a mustache will make you look like some sort of pajeet or luiz and a beard will make you look like some sort of generic militant sandnigger. Keep your eyebrows from unibrowing or becoming too thick, and if you really wanna go one step further, lighten your hair up with lemon juice and sun or heat. GooGle that shit to see what i mean. stay trendy with whatever fashions that your white buddies are into, etc

tldr you can't win too much but there are ways to adjust; most importantly though is to not be some sort of weird quiet kid. Speak with your perfect native accent to show that you're ONE OF US and just act like a native dude like you really are. remember that the one benefit here is that you can get in good with minorities, at least.

at the end of the day just remember that the real niggas won't be up your ass about this shit; people who get to know you for a day will realize you're not some sort of refugee or 2015 immigrant or something. also, if you brush up and get good at the pussy game, white bitches will find you exotic

-darkskin italian
Emma Hecklecocke - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 19:49:34 EST ID:Gtrn9hV4 No.515745 Ignore Report Quick Reply

>how to deplete your vitamin D levels: the post
Phineas Lightdale - Tue, 25 Apr 2017 19:05:07 EST ID:w+XXs7My No.515795 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I live on the same latitude as Morocco so I'm going to be brown. But I definitely work on my appearance as much as I can. Hair/Facial hair, clean clothes. I don't speak like a goon and I try to be respectful.

Quieting the internal monologue by Edward Gabblededge - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 07:40:42 EST ID:rNN7/CPM No.515721 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I am 26. My internal monologue is extremely self critical to the point of it being crippling. I overthink everything and sometimes feel like I'm going to worry myself to death, that everything is hopeless. I over-analyse every action of people towards me as being negative and can only pick on myself for my negative actions, whilst simultaneously criticising positive actions for not being good enough. I am my own worst enemy and there is seemingly no escape from it. There have been moments in my past where I've been into various drugs (namely LSD) to such a level that I almost felt like I'd externalized the internal monologue and was at risk of giving myself schizophrenia.

My only respite from this stupid voice is dissociatives and alcohol. Ketamine is expensive here in Australia, MXE isn't really available anymore, and I can recognise the terrible effects that alcohol has on my health in the long-term. I don't drink huge quantities but I do drink practically every night, typically a 6-pack or a bottle of wine. Once every 2 weeks or so a bottle of spirits. When I drink it seems to put the voice to sleep or at least slow it down/turn down the volume so that it's bearable/ignorable. Of course, besides the effects of physical health, it's not exactly practical to spend the rest of my life in a state of inebriation, contrary to what /hooch/ might think.

What alternate options would you suggest? Benzos, perhaps? Or maybe seeing a psych? I've heard good things about CBT and would be interested in anyone else's experiences with it.

I just want to shut this thing up or at least get it in control. It's talking all day in my head constantly without interruption, a constant barrage of criticism. Sometimes I almost feel like it's another personality that wants to take over and be me. I'm terrified of the idea of spending the rest of my life with this thing rattling around in my brain shitting all over everything I do or say or think.

I don't want to die but in my worst moments I have honestly contemplated suicide just to get some god damn peace and quiet. It's like having the world's worst and most malicious backseat driver in your brain.

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David Blatherwater - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 11:51:13 EST ID:ngLYHpR4 No.515726 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Dear OP,
It sounds like you've got a healthy mind. Being extremely self-critical is important. Be critical of yourself. Improve yourself constantly.
Do not fear these criticisms, fear not working on the things you criticize yourself for.
James Pickdale - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 21:18:06 EST ID:FcwZX0yP No.515749 Ignore Report Quick Reply


Not that bullshit quiet the mind and maintain concentration bullshit. Relax the body, take a step back from yourself. Don't try to quiet the thoughts...just watch them with no attachment, like you would watch a river flow. Focus on your breathing if you have to, it keeps the monkey brain busy. Keep doing this everyday, for seconds, for minutes, for hours if you have to. Eventually thoughts become just that, thoughts, they're only noise unless you decide to grasp them and focus your attention onto them.

Qigong breathing exercises help foster this state of mind.
Frederick Fibblenun - Tue, 25 Apr 2017 02:04:59 EST ID:pCPQRsXK No.515755 Ignore Report Quick Reply
i suggest through the rhyme at the end. You were once a creative trail blazer and had inspirations and aspirations who used humor as a bridge between all uncomfortabilties and contradictions and to highlight positive ones. As you got older you realized just how much academia starts from a negative critical point of view that is just that close to our heads. Learning and growing did push you this far, because it actually is told from a dial within self criticisms but we would probably have a hard time pointing out exactly where it is in a model of phenomenology.

The man in the glass is no ass, but rather a bottom. The same one in mid summer nights dream. He actually stars within the play within a play. And he actually is a great actor. However he is literally a worker. He isn't supposed to be able to act in a play in the kingdom that takes center stage away from everything else.

Usually we are telling tales of a concept within a concept that we are looking at from the outside, hence the man in the glass, hence inception. The reason it gets all crazy is. You actually are also the man within. You come from that guy through a concept that's within a concept.

That's several layers of chicanery you manage. That in heidegarian terms is "toward" you're own language thus making you seem the part of an ass or a clown. The language we get that puts him in a glass, is along or idle. This is the interpretation that gives ambiguity.

Now as a living being you naturally have both thus making your self critical inner monologue quite upset at you for not being able to get along both quite ineffable and quite directly. That's not unheard of, it's un ontologically certified in a very rational scientific world. That gap in ontology is understood or wove together by you through your own special creativity. That in a more worried category no one one intrude upon. Thus respect for individuality being created by the individual we often say "these are his own demons."

Meaning they are your own unresolved matters of ambitions and satisfactions that come from the one who lived it.

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Ernest Deblingwog - Tue, 25 Apr 2017 03:29:51 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.515757 Ignore Report Quick Reply

>bullshit bullshit bullshit

>my way is right everyone else is wrong
Simon Clenderwill - Tue, 25 Apr 2017 18:19:18 EST ID:tldOIKN9 No.515794 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Try xanax

Hey guys by Charlotte Gublingdidge - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 15:41:45 EST ID:6Y23Um/F No.515733 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Where do you go for help when you have no friends, your own internal compass is busted, no one else cares and you don't trust therapists?

>inb4 someone trolls me over being stupid/crazy
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Augustus Bennerchadge - Tue, 25 Apr 2017 04:35:04 EST ID:jPpWgI0N No.515759 Ignore Report Quick Reply
The worst is when they bully you/pressure you to open up more, when you obviously aren't comfortable enough to open up more, and are instead focused on building repertoire with them. But they don't fucking care. They just want you to spill your guts and turn into an infant before their eyes so they can judge you and punish you with imprisonment if they find you guilty of some ethereal sin.
Sophie Wimmleforth - Tue, 25 Apr 2017 09:18:35 EST ID:XoBFtXHJ No.515770 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Many social workers offer counseling, it's much more casual and comfortable knowing the person listening to you doesn't specialize in trying to categorize you. It's still therapy anf they're still acting as therapists but you are allowed to trust them more considering they're more of a part time therapist.

That's pretty twisted bro
Augustus Bennerchadge - Tue, 25 Apr 2017 10:36:41 EST ID:jPpWgI0N No.515773 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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If you think that's twisted, you've never met any of the psychs I have. The majority of them were genuine sick fucks, they'd look at me with creepy fucking eyes, at least two males did this. I was young. The way they spoke, in hindsight it was sociopathic. They got a glee out of messing with me. Now, as an adult, every person I've known who has gone into the mental health profession, has had a sadistic streak to them. People who seriously should not be anywhere fucking near an unstable person, ever. But what can I do? What can any of us do? Report them? No one will fucking listen, no one will fucking care, best case scenario they get scared off, scared of being found out, and they retreat from their profession. Worst and most likely case? Not only does nothing happen, but if they ever find out it was you who reported them, your life is over. With the stroke of a pen and a few choice words they can have you locked up. Never said anything that would require you to be legally hospitalized? Doesn't fucking matter. They can make anything up they want, and because they have the social status, they will be believed over you (Unless you have some serious clout in the social hierarchy of your community).
William Snodridge - Tue, 25 Apr 2017 11:47:02 EST ID:L/df1m8J No.515774 Ignore Report Quick Reply
If you feel like you need someone to hang with, just hang out in btube man

Buncha degenerates but you'll learn to appreciate em

If its not populated at the time, dont worry, theyll eventually trickle in. You dont need even say anything if you like. Just chill man
Jack Hallerlun - Tue, 25 Apr 2017 13:25:23 EST ID:Gtrn9hV4 No.515776 Ignore Report Quick Reply

btube is full of stupid assholes who listen to shitty music. this has been agreed upon in like 20 threads

Bills by Reuben Duckwill - Tue, 25 Apr 2017 05:20:00 EST ID:I2FTZEKQ No.515760 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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How much are your bills every month all total?

Not including gasoline, food, intoxicants or petty purchases.

Strictly include utilities, various insurances, phone bill, internet bill, loan payments, mortgages etc.

For me it's less than 500 bucks a month but only after a very odd set of circumstances. I'm still not making ends meet and I feel pathetic. The job market in this town is trash.
Henry Porrynotch - Tue, 25 Apr 2017 05:32:11 EST ID:dIFWQvnm No.515761 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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i just cancelled my phone bill of 70 a month. but other than that I got about 1000 a month in bills...car payment and the rest is mostly credit cards...but tbh I haven't paid bestbuy in like 3 months
William Brimbleham - Tue, 25 Apr 2017 10:36:34 EST ID:Ps7vhoAq No.515772 Ignore Report Quick Reply
When I lived alone...

>450 a month for a trailer on some land. Not in a trailer park but barely any land. Renting.
>100 dollars every 3 months for car insurance. So like 33 monthly.
>Well water and I personally had a solar generator installed for about 1500 but I used no electricity so a 100 dollar a month electric bill was stupid when I only ran the well, a small fridge and a light and computer.
>About 250/mo for food.
>40/mo gas.
>A cellphone would be like 20-30 a month if I had one at the time.
>Factoring in unseen expenses, car costs and all that shit, about another 100 a month. This is a "rainy day" fund basically.

I know I'm forgetting some shit as I'd figure about 900 on this but in reality it was more along the lines of 1000-1050 a month.

Make a budget bro. It will save your ass in a million ways. I worked for 11 dollars an hour and didn't really have any money left over. I could say I lived on my own but all that meant was a vacant trailer with nothing in it that I didn't own anyways and then risking not getting 40 hours a week and losing everything.

I wouldn't go back to living on my own unless I made at least 16-17 dollars an hour. At 11 dollars an hour full time, I'd have maybe a single 100 dollar bill a month to enjoy or put back for myself. God forbid I had a medical emergency or a car that shat out its engine on the highway. I'd be fucked and homeless nearly overnight.

Medical by Samuel Brookstock - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 20:28:35 EST ID:y8ars7P0 No.515747 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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One of my front two teeth is a crown that is loosening and I cannot afford insurance and I have zero clue what to do. What should I do? Some dentists do a first-time visit for free but how do I find those?

While I'm here, I have a misaligned jaw and if there is some magical way to get corrective jaw surgery for a low / no free, tell me. I am desperate.

I hate living in a country with monetized healthcare.
Edward Darryfield - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 20:34:30 EST ID:37djlT33 No.515748 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I feel ya bro and I don't believe you will be able to find corrective jaw surgery for anything that is considered cheap in the USA. The lowest you'll find is prob around 15k for the surgeons job, and the rest needs to be covered by insurance.

Your next best option is to go out of country to have the operation done.
Jack Hallerlun - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 21:41:22 EST ID:Gtrn9hV4 No.515751 Ignore Report Quick Reply
if there is one thing 420chan hates it is dentists. i have seen threads derailed with 20 or 30 post long chains about how the american dental system is a huge scam filled with quackery, little to no oversight, and suppression of cheaper alternatives wherever possible
Eliza Muddlebanks - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 21:50:36 EST ID:lfaq5WNU No.515752 Ignore Report Quick Reply
dude, fuck that. keep your grill lookin GOOD
do whatever you gotta do. get a job, 2nd job, government insurance, ask family for loan, what the fuck ever. but im with tom segura on this, get yo shit fixed! good luck.

Whats your (realistically achievable) dream? Whats standing in the way? Your solution? by Nigel Sibberbick - Tue, 18 Apr 2017 22:20:33 EST ID:L9x3lDju No.515579 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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DREAM: My own home, and I mean OWN. Not with roommate(s). I just want to fucking masturbate in peace without fear of someone coming to bother me.

PREVENTING: Money, location. I make $11/hr ($1400 on a good month with overtime) and everything in my area is $1000/mo Minimum not including utilities.

SOLUTION: Guess I got to move elsewhere so I'm slowly saving money.

Ok now you comment on my shitty dream and post yours!
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Polly Sollerlick - Sun, 23 Apr 2017 23:55:23 EST ID:Ps7vhoAq No.515715 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>DREAM: To be freed from myself. I guess making music as an outlet because nothing else suffices to even stem my own mind from churning.

>PREVENTING: The unknown of being dead. Otherwise, I'd probably kill myself if I knew what happened. Making music is just an endless cycle and a really cheap and far less lethal version of escapism.

SOLUTION: Smoke PCP and start punching shit and shouting in a made up language until someone shoots me... repeatedly. Or keep making music until I die homeless so that I don't end up banging heroin for 4 months and dying of OD or sepsis or some other terrible death.
Wesley Lightshit - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 00:29:59 EST ID:HVLVBb2N No.515716 Ignore Report Quick Reply
But death isn't unknown, remember the time before you were born?
Matilda Claylock - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 01:51:49 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.515720 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Make a living doing something I enjoy.


Don't know what I enjoy.

Kinda kidding, I like alot of shit, but devoting my life to a set of skills is a biggie. Not sure if there's anything out there that I wont get sick of.


Find something I can spend the rest of my life doing, work in that industry for a couple years, start putting together a business plan to work for myself.
Alice Gurringhood - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 12:16:46 EST ID:tldOIKN9 No.515728 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Why the YPG? They're an interesting group. But why travel to the Middle East to fight somebody else's war?
My mother is kurdish, I grew up with awful stories of kurds under the rule of Saddam. Not only am I kurdish but I'm also a socialist. It's a mix of ethnic, moral and political motivation. This is not some conflict long a way that has no meaning for me. I also despise the narcissistic lifestyles in the west, how most people have an opinion about everything despite being very ignorant and pretentious, how people live absolute meaningless lives in their isolated bubbles, how people motivate their bodies with caffiene just to get through the week so they can drink at the weekend. I don't want to spend my life working 9-5 for 50 years, even if I graduate university. I'm very cynical to the aspect of marriage and kids.
I figure we're all going to die anyway, so I can only recite Muhammad Ali's Attica Prison poem and hope I can do something selfless and kind with my life. Everybody is afraid of dying on an instinctive level, but dying for something seems way more rational than living a lie and being unhappy. It's not about the war itself, I'd go still even if it meant rebuilding the war-damage.
Martin Tillingwell - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 17:56:23 EST ID:PDdE4MZF No.515741 Ignore Report Quick Reply
That's a pretty good justification.
Be careful anon.

What is right by George Crottingfitch - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 00:36:53 EST ID:UZwBOJeJ No.515717 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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For a year I've been conscious of my own ineptitude but I just can't work it out even what it's about. The closest thing I can describe it to is the concept of onwii. That scary idea of is it even there. I can't put all the different information together and I find I often over react just trying to make sense. It's horrifying because sometimes it's the fear that I will that makes me do.
Henry Bigglehood - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 01:18:45 EST ID:tDogmvzg No.515718 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Beatrice Fettingmick - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 09:20:15 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.515722 Ignore Report Quick Reply
p sure op means ennui, unless you were just pointing out that they spelled it wrong. also, i have no idea what you're trying to say, op.
Shitting Crumblestock - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 17:31:23 EST ID:wHuwYhgv No.515738 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I was I heard this spoken in a lecture three years ago about having so much information and so many world views you can't comprehend things past diffuse or things seem to not make sense.

Bad day thread by Alice Gurringhood - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 13:00:05 EST ID:tldOIKN9 No.515729 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Basically /BWQQ/

>woke up early
>no breakfast
>long ass classes
>rained all day
>even my lunch at the food court got fucked up lol
>girl I've been talking to for 3-4 weeks just told me "forget about me, I'm busy with school"

Shit, I ain't no bitch but. Life goes on, I guess.
Basil Drinderkag - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 13:34:22 EST ID:pUH3gQw7 No.515730 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Life sucks pal, hope yours gets better :)
Alice Gurringhood - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 15:43:00 EST ID:tldOIKN9 No.515734 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It's pretty incredible how chill I am now. Who gives a fuck?
Get in here you depressed fucks and enjoy some venting
Charlotte Gublingdidge - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 15:55:38 EST ID:6Y23Um/F No.515735 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Okay. Today I had a conversation with a stranger and it felt gratifying even though nothing of value was said, it was through the internet, and the entire exchange lasted fewer than a few minutes.

I felt pathetic when it ended because they probably didn't feel that the exchange was as significant as I did. But I didn't say anything so they'll never know.
Alice Gurringhood - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 16:05:57 EST ID:tldOIKN9 No.515736 Ignore Report Quick Reply
That's sad. There's a few times I've had nice brief conversations on the internet. I've made a lot of online friends, though.

Why do girls date thugs? by Isabella Padgeman - Sat, 22 Apr 2017 23:07:04 EST ID:YF4c6KMq No.515672 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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It seems women tend to date thugs or immature dudes, yet when a fairly decent human being comes around they pay no attention to the guy that has his life partially together. but when it comes to a thug living at home that smokes dope all day and doesn't do anything with his life but smoke cigs and drink booze all day. these girls throw themselves at these guys. I don't understand this shit bro?
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Oliver Dartman - Sun, 23 Apr 2017 10:36:59 EST ID:UHQ5Fpvu No.515695 Ignore Report Quick Reply
The jolly african-american op posted this same thread on b with 'that live at their parents House's. So what are you assuming people on QQ still live with their parents? Ever consider working on yourself?
Henry Bigglehood - Sun, 23 Apr 2017 20:23:32 EST ID:tDogmvzg No.515712 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Hmm, based on my observation of an incredibly small sample size relative to the world population of female humans I am going to try to make broad sweeping evaluations

Stop. This is never not stupid. Worry about your own life.
Matilda Claylock - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 01:44:26 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.515719 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I think it's a primal thing. Like, go for the alpha so my seed is strong. Or be attracted to something strong that can protect them.

High testosterone behaviors attract creatures that respond to those behaviors.

Plus there's the confidence aspect. Thuggy types tend to have balls and go after the girl rather than watch her from afar daydreaming about their future relationships.

And then there's the taboo aspect of things. "Can't bring this one home to the parents, better fuck him cause I bet he'll smash my pussy to death."

It's all speculation based on my own experiences.
David Blatherwater - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 11:51:56 EST ID:ngLYHpR4 No.515727 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP, only low-class women throw themselves at thugs.
Feel absolutely no envy for any of them and move on.
Rebecca Sudgeford - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 14:43:05 EST ID:FN1vBjSK No.515732 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Two options then OP
Become this "thug", get those girls, put on a facade, trigger /qq/ for being deceptive. Become an "actor" and either let your role become you, or become some sort of fucked up hybrid, depressed because his "alter-ego" gets more girls than he does.
Find other girls who aren't looking for thugs.

But even with the second option incorporate elements from
>primal attraction

>Thuggy types tend to have balls and go after the girl rather than watch her from afar daydreaming about their future relationships.
Nail. Head.

I'm a fairly average looking male by Eugene Dreffingdale - Fri, 21 Apr 2017 21:35:09 EST ID:LP7sXigx No.515660 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm already 30 years old and haven't had a girlfriend for over 8.5 years.
I've casually dated but nothing ever panned out or worked out right.
I really wish I could have a girlfriend or a wife and start my own family.
But let's face it life is hard, but I do notice that even scummy junkies have girlfriends who are loyal.
Every woman I've dated has either cheated on me or had feelings for another guy and straight up backstabbed me.
When will I ever find somebody that wants a real relationship or even a bang-buddy!?
Well I've worked hard to lose extra weight and accomplished it. I'm still aiming to lose more weight.
Today's music sucks. Society is fucked. Kids that are like 16 have fuck buddies...
Yet with me I don't got none of that. The females in my age range end up banging thug dudes who are on food stamps that snort coke.
What the fuck? Sure I use co2 hash oil, shatter, wax, flowers. But I am an upstanding citizen. I live in a legal state.
The point of the matter is I am not cringy. Girls have feelings for me but obviously it's not enough to stay committed to me.
I've my own hobbies, some healthy, some recreational. Most people tend to like me as a neighbor, friend, associate.
But I am lonely in terms of relationship. I am not gay. nor do people mistake me for a gay dude.
I just don't know why I can't have a serious relationship with a female?
I feel like I am a lonely bastard like Elliot Rodger.
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Nigel Sivingfoot - Sun, 23 Apr 2017 04:39:00 EST ID:9vn86lM+ No.515682 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Cyril Sandleman - Sun, 23 Apr 2017 17:34:01 EST ID:zbKXnohS No.515711 Ignore Report Quick Reply
you're probably just shit at hitting on people. a lot of guys go through it, not just autists and socially anxious. if you're just "an average looking dude" you probably don't stand out enough to give girls a reason to hit on you so all the pressure and impetus is on you.
Rebecca Sudgeford - Sun, 23 Apr 2017 20:40:13 EST ID:FN1vBjSK No.515713 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Polly Sollerlick - Sun, 23 Apr 2017 23:50:37 EST ID:Ps7vhoAq No.515714 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Go out.

I mean, that doesn't work necessarily. I've done it dozens of times, from major cities with hundreds of single women my age at in one crowded room to just simply eating dinner at a bar at Chili's.

I never had any luck but I don't think I'm very approachable either given my looks, mannerisms, and weirdly shapen sense of humor and methods of conversation. I doubt OP has all these though so he should have more luck.
Rebecca Sudgeford - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 14:38:29 EST ID:FN1vBjSK No.515731 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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The Game by Eugene Bavingbury - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 11:33:11 EST ID:r8BDKlIM No.515723 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Why's it gotta be so frustrating? Modern "Romance"..so now Ive resorted to Tinder most of the women have hardly anything to say about themselves and a strange amount list Gin as one of their interests. No hobbies, nothing but a pretty empty head.

Then if I actually want to meet someone I have to go out and party (trying not to be alcoholic) Everyone I chat up is taken. Then this girl I liked the look of comes up to me and says Hi, and I say something stupid, which could have worked but didnt, and she goes to hang with the 2 guys she came with.. Its a fucking mine field, say something they find mildly wrong and thats it!
Then most modern women have too many options coupled with not even knowing what they want. My friend whose wife is pregnant with second baby saying "what are you dong you should get on with it." like thats the be all and end all...and I come from a broken home. where I see what a woman can do to a man when you give them everything you can.
So yeah here's my shit social media, tfw no gf, /qq/ thread ...but Im not some never been kissed perma-virgin ..I think its hard for everyone.
I would move back to Asia if I could. Its more easy mode out there..I havnt had a sexual relationship with someone in over three years, a couple of prostitutes and cyber whores n thats it...I go out and drink n do drugs but all I really want is love...elusive and fleeting.
Not really expecting any advice I just need to vent...and sometimes want to die
David Blatherwater - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 11:49:09 EST ID:ngLYHpR4 No.515725 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>I think its hard for everyone.
It's not. Some of us have the pick of the litter and don't have to put in much of any effort.
Don't worry about finding love. Just become a better person, socialize more with women to understand how they think and feel, and just keep at those 2 things and eventually you'll get everything you want, assuming you tried hard enough.
But really, the weakest person in the dating scene is the most desperate and impatient. You don't wanna be that person.

Should I go to a therapy/counselling? by Jarvis Cluvinglock - Sat, 22 Apr 2017 15:05:57 EST ID:blQXt8L0 No.515666 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I guess it's an odd premise here but I'd appreciate your advice.
I suffered depression and substance abuse issues over the span of 4-5 years and really got caught up in hell. I knew so many times that I needed therapy but when I was in such a state I found no motivation to seek it and the short moments when I felt okay and up to doing things, I didn't want to think about it so I didn't arrange any.

I've been feeling incredible the past 6 months or so, officially over 6 months clean now, have had 3 days in total where I've felt depressed/dissociated to the extent that I was experiencing before on a near daily basis and have been very positive overall. I've been productive, lost weight and more comfortable with myself. I wouldn't say that I'm depressed or anxious any more.

Now, money is short and therapy is expensive, but I am wondering if it would be worth some of my ever-lowering funds to go and see a therapist/psych/counsellor during my free time over summer for some sort of closure or something, I don't know. I don't know if going and explaining all the shit I experienced will help, not such that I have been suppressing it - but that I just haven't made it a focal point or dwelled upon it since getting past things. Am I going to go and just reopen wounds? Am I going to be told a bunch of mantras which I'm already aware of/implementing? I'm just ignorant on the subject and would like some outside opinion.
Priscilla Brabblechuck - Sat, 22 Apr 2017 16:42:16 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.515667 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It's really up to you man. If you think it would be a worthwhile venture, I don't think something as important as looking after your mentally health is something you should look back on and feel like it was time or money wasted unless what you were doing was terribly unreasonable (like if you were a hypochondriac and blowing all your cash to seek new diagnoses).
Shit Henningstone - Sat, 22 Apr 2017 19:49:44 EST ID:GoZz+UFM No.515669 Ignore Report Quick Reply
My thoughts are yes you should. If you can afford it and actually will work with it. Find a CBT therapist and go. I have a history of Major Depression and GAD and this last 1 1/2 years I've felt better than I have in the last 7. I still have episodes of intense depression and anxiety where I use techniques I learned in therapy to cope.

These problems are never completely "cured" but with therapy you can manage episodes and especially with CBT reroute your brain so feeling sad doesn't = using or self-harm or crying uncontrollably. These problems WILL try to get their grasp back into you and being best prepared for them is what I would try to do.
Henry Gibblechine - Sun, 23 Apr 2017 15:52:19 EST ID:pCPQRsXK No.515707 Ignore Report Quick Reply
If you choose wisely some therapists are unconventional some are both academic and practicing. They may not believe in the concept of closure. Some just give you drugs which you have to pay more for. But the goal is real

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