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Almost died again by Cyril Drimmerneck - Mon, 13 Nov 2017 20:12:44 EST ID:0PJ7z1R+ No.520001 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I went to a concert with my gf and sister and her friends.

I took some benzos I never tried before.

The police found me outside in the parking lot with frost on my body. They brought me to the station to warm up and sent me to the hospital.

I woke up in the hospital and was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder and recommended to see a therapist. First session was today.

I came out here looking for a job, and now this happened. I probably have a police report on me now, though I will not have been charged with anything. I assume any company who looks at me will see it.

I feel like I just fucked myself for life. Probably the worst part about it is I don't even care that I almost died. It doesn't bother me at all.

So now what? What the fuck do I do?
Cyril Drimmerneck - Mon, 13 Nov 2017 20:14:55 EST ID:0PJ7z1R+ No.520002 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Some extra background:

Been unemployed for 11 months now.
Edward Sadgefit - Mon, 13 Nov 2017 21:49:50 EST ID:JI9kO00V No.520003 Ignore Report Quick Reply
If anything was recorded, it was done so in a medical record. Not even the government can dig into them. Let alone your employer.
Cyril Drimmerneck - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 15:41:15 EST ID:0PJ7z1R+ No.520017 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Thank you
Simon Sarrygold - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 16:38:13 EST ID:xRl6iQCM No.520018 Ignore Report Quick Reply
that situation sounds like a "wake up call" to me... but thats just what i feel
David Cleshfick - Wed, 15 Nov 2017 17:14:06 EST ID:Svgtf+UD No.520045 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Just reinforcing what >>520003 said.

You need to be charged with some kind of crime(innocent or guilty doesn't matter) for there to be a record of you in a court database that companies can see. Mental health stuff where the police get involved isn't going to do anything.

Unless you have some medical debt now you aren't in much of a different position than you were before this happened.

Bad Roommates by Basil Shittinglock - Wed, 15 Nov 2017 05:40:02 EST ID:qnpf4h+M No.520031 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey guys, so I need advice on how to deal with a bad roommate. Our rooms are connected in such a way where I can hear everything he says. He likes to go on the phone and talk to his Colombian relatives after I go to sleep and it keeps me up. I've talked to him a few times and he says he doesn't care.

What can I do? Is it a good idea to fuck with him back? I was thinking of knocking on his door repeatedly so he can't have his conversation, but that might backfire. He's probably in his early 30's, I'm 25. I talked to the landlord and she says she'll talk to him, but who knows if that will work. I need to move for January, but maybe I'll do it in December because of this. I like my landlord, she's a nice Chinese lady, the price is good, she's accomodating, etc. etc. so I want to avoid fucking her over. I told her I'd stay until January, but if this thing doesn't get solved I might have to. I'd feel bad for her.

I have this new place lined up that's available December, but I want it so I'm covering December's rent for the new place. I might, however, because of this problem, just move out in December. I'm not on a lease, legally I can just go and not pay December for the place I'm at now.

So what the fuck do I do? Any advice? I'd appreciate any shitty roommate stories if you have them.
Sophie Paddlesut - Wed, 15 Nov 2017 06:19:37 EST ID:6BzybYjN No.520034 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Get a fan or listen to music with good headphones or give him a trachiotomy
Rebecca Handletut - Wed, 15 Nov 2017 09:43:38 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.520039 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I swear to god we need a sticky on this board that says: "If you hate where you live or the people you live with, MOVE SOMEWHERE ELSE."
Martin Finderwell - Wed, 15 Nov 2017 10:24:24 EST ID:JI9kO00V No.520043 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Yeah, sorry OP. Best you SHOULD do is move if he doesn't give a shit. I know its not like its a simple matter to just move. But doing anything to mess with him just seems like things will get far worse. Just move and let him be someone elses problem. No need to sink to his level.

Why is it always about a girl? by Fanny Blimmerkit - Thu, 02 Nov 2017 11:49:07 EST ID:E0Rd8CeB No.519780 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey /qq/ it's been a really long time but I'm finding myself stuck between a rock and a hard place. I've recently been more interested and emotionally available for a relationship, my last one was really bad and left me rather jaded so it's a nice change of pace. Everything changed with a pretty decent acid trip. It was a really good day, weather was perfect, got a new skateboard, buddy who I told I would share with was available so we dropped. After a while of wasting time at the park we had to find somewhere else to take the trip, somewhere less public and obvious. He found someone I had never met before that lived downtown so we made our way down there and met up. We went back to her place because I don't do so great in public while under the influence.

It was love at first sight...I've never seen anyone so beautiful before in my life and as the trip started to ramp up and peak it only drove this feeling farther. We didn't do much while we were there, sat around and listened to music, watched Archer in a whole new way. We left her when she needed to pass out for work and started talking about her almost immediately. We were both rather awestruck at her captivating beauty and at some point we had a bit of a misunderstanding with each other and the whole situation but it's been cleared up. Somewhere along the way he made it seem like she was in a shitty relationship, like it wasn't going to work out so I jumped on it without any shame and told her upfront that I like her face. Much to my surprise it was well received so we started talking more, it was all pretty awkward but the details of feelings and such were explained clearly and with nothing but respect for her and the situation I thought she was in. She recently ended the relationship and this is where things take a turn, they are both still absolutely in love with each other. The only reason it ended at all is because they physically don't have a future together. It wasn't until after all this that I learned they were both first generation from England so he's completely stuck there and she can't leave, with Trump's new policies they're done for as far as a relationship goes. Now she's t…
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Betsy Mushridge - Thu, 02 Nov 2017 17:14:58 EST ID:jcyBhnZV No.519784 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You're not thinking logically at all. You don't know her so you just have a crush.

Go outside. Talk to a female.
Graham Hagglehood - Fri, 03 Nov 2017 10:51:49 EST ID:8t4SFLYE No.519797 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I have, this all happened over the course of a few months. I didn't literally mean in love jesus, I was just using the expression.The whole Trump thing is all within the details of the DACA change up. She has the option to leave but then she wouldn't be able to come back, however her whole life is here.
Sidney Shakespear - Sat, 04 Nov 2017 08:21:06 EST ID:/HAo1uaC No.519815 Ignore Report Quick Reply
send a dic pic. then she will either say "Haha no" or " lol wut" or "nothing".

If she says the first one that means she does not fucking like you like that, and she is too nice to just be straight up abrasive and shut you down like she should for sending her The dick pick.

If she says "lol wut" then she probably lieks you, but that does not mean that she liked your dic pic, but that does not guarantee she will actually start to like you like boyfriend girlfriend, and you will have to employ more tactics to get her to be your girlfriend next time.

Now if she says "nothing", then that is when Im not exactly sure what to tell you because those type of girls usually always have something to say and I really don't know what they think. This is a blunder to me as I usually have had much more experirience with LSD psychedelic drugs in general than most people, plus I know how to talk to all kinds of womoen whether I want t
John Sonnerbut - Sat, 11 Nov 2017 23:02:12 EST ID:oIKZCpHC No.519957 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Nell Shittingdock - Wed, 15 Nov 2017 06:49:37 EST ID:GKOsw8SK No.520035 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I think you should keep her in mind while at the same time persuing other women, but make no mention of it to her.

This is because if you wait for her and your heart is there for her to take at whenever she wants it (if ever) then you're hurting yourself. How long can you bear to hold out your hand offering your affection yet perhaps never get what you want in return?

Also if she sees you offering your everything (commitment only to her) and you've received nothing in return (sexual favors/commitment) you raise her up and put yourself in a position where you appear to be lower than her because if you were of high value you wouldn't offer yourself and tolerate receiving nothing return. accepting a relationship like this (usually by being tolerantly passive of it) very often does make you appear to be a low value man. You demonstrate an intolerance to it by not doing boyfriend things while she doesn't do girlfriend things, instead you leave her to herself if that's the way it's going.

Don't get caught agreeing to an unfair deal because it makes you look unattractive. Go chase other women and your mentality will change and you'll be more likely to get her and if not then so be it, because you're not a low value man who would be crushed about not getting that special girl, that's unattractive, you're a high value man who knows he can get other women so he doesn't put everything he has on the table right away, the woman you choose to be exclusive to has to earn that opinion of her, that's attractive.

I know it might sound strange to say don't tell her because that doesn't directly influence your situation but trust me, indirectly it will. Also, it will feel better focusing on yourself rather than her.

Lastly, if you're not physically escalating you're missing the point.

Pussy by Angus Bibbersat - Sat, 11 Nov 2017 17:25:13 EST ID:BOT0sC+s No.519948 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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WHat do I do if I'm a little butch and scared to fight? I always have people smaller than me talking shit to me and being ass holes and they're weak nerds and shit and I could kick their ass easy but I'm just too much of a pussy to do it and it's mostly because I don't like being mean and I don't want my nose broken and to be ugly forever and shit but this world literally kinda forces me to be an ass hole.

How do I do it?
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Clara Horringbury - Mon, 13 Nov 2017 17:59:21 EST ID:2XjOjk+J No.520000 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Maybe try not reacting to their bullying in a way that just makes them want to bully you more. Trust me, something you're doing is making the bullying a worthwhile venture for them. Often getting them to stop doesn't require violence at all and just requires you to gain an adequate understanding of how social interactions in the settings they keep happening in work and adjusting your behavior accordingly.

If you actually just pay attention for a while and observe how things work you'd be surprised how simple it is to slip right into the social role/position you want to be in
Edward Sadgefit - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 04:28:54 EST ID:JI9kO00V No.520006 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Use your size to your advantage. I'm the same way you are OP. Im a big guy, and Im physically imposing. It seems other men (especially short man complexes) need to challenge you to prove themselves. Thus got worse for me when I joined the military.

If the guys being an asshole, just call him out on it publicly. Point out the immaturity of what he's doing as if it were a 10 year old doing it, and you are trying to get them to understand why it is innapropriate behavior. If they threaten physical violence, spin the context to your favor. Say something like, "yeah, kinda dont fight others as an adult." "It's sort of pathetic". This will usually draw out one final "fuck you" or some variabt, and they walk away looking like a child.

On the off chance you get in a fight because someone gave you no choice. Go for the eyes, throat, and joints. Make sure they remember losing to you for the rest if their lives. People like to punch the face. I like to bite through tbe bicep. Trying punching with your muscles chewed apart.

Plus it left the guy a nice divoted scar to rememver me by.
Henry Bleddleshit - Wed, 15 Nov 2017 01:04:46 EST ID:37djlT33 No.520024 Ignore Report Quick Reply
> People like to punch the face. I like to bite through tbe bicep.

>Bite tbe bicep....

That's a good way to loose your teeth retardo maximus

How the fuck will anyone get that close to bite the other person is beyond me
Martin Finderwell - Wed, 15 Nov 2017 01:22:41 EST ID:JI9kO00V No.520026 Ignore Report Quick Reply
On the ground, inside their guard, shit I can try and bite a chunk out of the nape of your neck and kill you right there if I have your back, but Id have to be immensely lucky to get a kill right away. North/South is ideal because you can go for their eyes or throat (Its easier to go for an arm bar and break one of the limbs). It's amazingly easy to bite through flesh. It just all tastes like metal the moment you break their skin. However I did get grabbed when I tried to bite his windpipe.

Seriously, why the fuck do people forgo their teeth wehn they have an opportunity? Before man sharpened his first stick, he fought back with his nails and teeth. And they are amazingly effective.
Eugene Crenkinway - Wed, 15 Nov 2017 02:08:42 EST ID:esuyK5FE No.520027 Ignore Report Quick Reply

lol dude you forgot biting out the trachea, teeth move #1

Moral Quandary by Yeahboy Yeahstein - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 10:29:38 EST ID:poHe6t4p No.519914 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm stuck here. I've got a great girlfriend that I definitely love and have a totally healthy relationship with. She and I are coming up on a year together and have had 0 real fights or mishaps. Couldn't ask for a better relationship.
Issue is, I'm having a hard time not thinking about fucking other girls. It's fucked up and makes me mad, but the monogamy game is hard and I don't know how to hack it. There's bad bitches everywhere where I live and it's hard to just ignore my very real urges to take one home when I'm at a bar not with her. Any advice on how to keep my dick in my pants? Or am I lying to myself about how much I like my girl? I definitely feel like I love her, but why do feel the way I do if that's true? HELP!
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Angus Bibbersat - Sat, 11 Nov 2017 17:26:27 EST ID:BOT0sC+s No.519949 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Don't fight the urges if u settle down with a girl u get fat and go bald
Albert Hamblechick - Sun, 12 Nov 2017 12:40:49 EST ID:TV+1Xc0l No.519966 Ignore Report Quick Reply
People are somewhere on the spectrum between monogamy and polyamory. If you feel like you can't remain monogamous (which is what society expects of you), you probably tend toward polyamory. There's no right or wrong, there is only the knowledge of where you stand.
Nathaniel Hickleshit - Sun, 12 Nov 2017 17:10:02 EST ID:6y/BqvLB No.519968 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Im in the same boat as you OP. The way I see things is dont go looking for a hookup but if one comes knocking... you're only young once. Hookup but never tell anyone you did. Not even your best friend. Your sex drive gets lower every year so enjoy it while you can.
Fucking Clorrywill - Mon, 13 Nov 2017 11:19:33 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.519989 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Fucking Grandwell - Wed, 15 Nov 2017 01:07:12 EST ID:iU90/d39 No.520025 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Except for the fact that they're not married

Just do what you want, if you actually can't be happy without fucking other women at least understand that about yourself and work from there, if can be happy while staying only with her then understand that about yourself and work from there. You can't change your nature. Maybe you can't be happy without others, maybe you can, who you are is much more relevant than what should and what shouldn't be done

Bag over Head? by Eugene Cerrybanks - Mon, 13 Nov 2017 14:33:00 EST ID:JsQi4/8G No.519991 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey guys,

I've always been into older men, the whole underage and adult roleplay really turns me on. However, I don't the whole voice changing thing or start acting like a child.

I recently found out it has as a term for it. Daddy/Little Girl, but not a lot of people that I've met or been with are truly into this.

I recently met this 43 year old guy, I'm 25 and he is really into it, we have mostly talked about it and been on 2 dates. I thought we would fuck on the first date, but he told me he really likes me and wants to move slow. That turn me on even more, shows like the caring side of the whole thing.

Anyways.. The only issue I find is that I'm not 100% physically attracted to him, but I dont know if to just go for it, to play out my fantasy or wait. Have you guys ever push asides good looks for a good fuck?

Sorry if this is not the right space for this matter...
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Edward Sadgefit - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 06:44:02 EST ID:JI9kO00V No.520010 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I mean, I don't know about the other stuff. But if you won't sleep with someone simply because you aren't 100% attracted to them, you're kinda cheating yourself by forgoing something good because it isn'the perfect. Kind of like seeing this lady on Dr. Phill (all my grandmother watches when I visit). This lady was talking about the stress of going from an annual salary of 1 million to 100k. To the point she has attempted suicide, and sees her life as nothing but awful in her "tiny 3 bedroom house". And people sympathized with her.
Despite 100k still being a great income, she denied herself anything good about it simply because it wasn't her ideal setting.
Life seldom will be, or ever is ideal. Most you can do is weigh the pros and cons, and pick the side that makes you happiest. Otherwise everything is shit despite the fact.

Tl;dr: hey, if he isn't disease ridden or a fucking asshole, go for it op. You'really both adults.
Oliver Drendertodge - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 10:15:25 EST ID:KbKvqV7e No.520011 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>100% attracted to them
Depends what 100% means. If you mean 100% of the maximum possible attraction you can feel then yeah that shit doesn't matter. If you mean 100% as in 100% enough that's different. If someone isn't attractive enough you're not going to want to look at them, kiss them, fuck them spend time with them. They don't have to be perfect, just enough that you're not going to have to make extra effort to be turned on enough to fuck them. So what if OP's problem is a 3 bedroom house but rather going from independence to being a lodger in someone else's house.
Edward Sadgefit - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 11:49:27 EST ID:JI9kO00V No.520013 Ignore Report Quick Reply
My point was more, don't pass something up simply if it isn't perfect. Not sure what else is really playing into it for OP outside of sexual desire. Obviously have standards. But realistic ones.
Ernest Bropperbury - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 12:51:27 EST ID:4uGF5XEv No.520014 Ignore Report Quick Reply
you sound so vapid
so yeah, go for it
Beatrice Pemblekire - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 19:33:29 EST ID:JsQi4/8G No.520021 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Pff.. did u not read what I said? lol..lame ass...


Yea, this guy and I have really good chemistry, he is sort of a nerd, which I enjoy at times, I've dated many assholes. He does biology research for autism kids - which is pretty awesome..not so much the fantasy of getting fucked by a business man lol jk.

But yea.. we laugh, we flirt, he is sort of creepy in a horny way, but it turns me on a lot. I'm weird af, and I think he could satisfy that side of me. I have thought that maybe that's why I cant sleep with him, because he is sort of weird and creepy and I like it, but cant act upon it. If that makes sense.

I might just go on 2 more dates and see how everything unfolds, and see if its worth staying. Thanks :)

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Goodbyes? by Cornelius Pittman - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 03:07:08 EST ID:KOWpnCki No.520005 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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How do you deal with goodbyes, /qq/ ?

I have had girlfriends that I consider to be really good friends, but the relationships never went anywhere so I broke up with them (or they broke up with me) but I am really bad at not talking to them because to me they have become good friends , and I feel like I always want to know how they are or what they're up to. Even if they tell me they don't want to talk to me I always leave that door open, and sometimes it is painful to think that a person really doesn't want to talk to you every again.

How do you know when to stop saying Hi? How do you know if your friendship is benefiting them or if it's time for you to move on? How do you move on?
Walter Sammernotch - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 10:17:45 EST ID:jQZ803QM No.520012 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>How do you know when to stop saying Hi?
when you don't have anything to say and your conversations always seem to be "hey, what's going on?" "not much, you?" "nothing" and then that's about it

>How do you know if your friendship is benefiting them or if it's time for you to move on?
if you have to ask yourself that question, it's probably time.

>How do you move on?
just stop getting in touch with them and drift apart.

op if the relationship was important to them they'd get in touch with you. stop texting them to see what they're doing out of habit and if they never hit you up, then it's better for your relationship to die naturally than to force it along like some sort of zombie for a few more months. if it's dead, let it go with some dignity.
Charles Cliggleham - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 15:34:45 EST ID:Svgtf+UD No.520016 Ignore Report Quick Reply

>How do you deal with goodbyes, /qq/ ?

Well, >>520012 is what you should do.

>How do you know if your friendship is benefiting them or if it's time for you to move on?

You should probably turn your brain off on this one and just go with things. It's good to think of other people, but if the friendship is no good for them they ought to be able to recognize the fact. If for some reason it was bad for them yet they kept speaking like normal instead of being honest with you/themselves, that's not your fault and not something you should spend your life considering.

>How do you move on?

For me, dealing with goodbyes requires some closure sometimes. There are three people in my life where if this classic drifting apart happened I would have a dramatic conversation with them regardless of how stupid it might make me look.

But conversation or not, moving on is just taking the hit to your feelings and letting it slowly feels normal again. Treat it exactly as physical injury(being unable to move on completely could be like arthritis pain from a bone break). I think this mindset speeds up the process.

Roomate's ex-girlfriend taking advantage of him by Jake Roscoe - Fri, 03 Nov 2017 23:42:56 EST ID:/0Ftn4AA No.519809 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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My friend's ex-girlfriend cheated on him when they were dating. He found out because she gave him chlamydia.

He suffers from PTSD and childhood abandonment trauma, as well as major depressive disorder. One of the ways he copes is by spending time with former lovers (all of whom have cheated), the presence of whom he does not appear to be able to cope without.

His ex-girlfriend visits our home multiple times per week, spending the night, and watching TV with him. They re-enact patterns of behavior that were present as their relationship declined for 1.5 - 2 years prior to their breakup about a year ago. They are frequently bitter and negative in their interactions with one another. It's as if she sucks the energy and happiness from the room. He feels as if he can't go on without using her presence as a coping mechanism, even though she is just taking advantage of his abandonment issues in order to secure herself resources and support. My friend is very financially well off.

They have very little in common intellectually, and my friend remarked that he felt, since going out and meeting other women following their breakup, that he didn't realize how much he had been settling. I.e. implying that he could never be content with being in a relationship with her ever again, at least to the extent that he would ideally want. She does not share his interests, his disposition, and does not appear to show genuine empathy or affection for him.

When I am present in the house, such as when I am in the kitchen or when I talk to my friend from time to time, she glares at me and acts pissed that I am there. I pay my own hard-earned money to live there, she shows up to take advantage of my mentally ill friend, and treats me like I'm the one imposing or doing something wrong.

I cannot bring this up and reason with my friend about it. At one point following their break-up, I told him that he deserved better than a two-bit whore who would cheat on and deceive him. He became upset, told me that they were on good terms, and that subsequent conversation of the sort would result in our friendship diminishing or ending. This is a guy I've been best friends with for over 6 years.

He realizes that his need to be around her is fueled by abandonment trauma, realizes that he and she are far from ideal relationship partners, and realizes that, minus the temporary relief her presence brings from his trauma, that she brings little value to him. Yet, he needs relief from his trauma so badly, that I'm sure to attempt to have a discussion with him about it would more than likely damage our friendship because he needs relief from his trauma more than he wants to be friends with me.

How can I help my friend, safeguard us from this awful, manipulative woman, and somehow get my message across? Or should I even try?
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KurtsonDurtson - Sat, 11 Nov 2017 19:55:54 EST ID:fXpc3paZ No.519954 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You've tried to help your friend but he's to much of an asscrack to take advice from someone who genuinely cares about him as he'd much rather talk to a piece of shit. Fuck him, he doesn't deserve a good friend like you. If he want's to wither away in his feelings then just let him. He obviously doesn't respect you as a friend if both of you can't even have a proper conversation about his general wellbing.
Samuel Crabbernig - Sat, 11 Nov 2017 20:28:38 EST ID:+hHCQmMo No.519956 Ignore Report Quick Reply
many people of this day and age simply don't understand the difference between criticism and outright disrespect...
Phyllis Crobbleridge - Sun, 12 Nov 2017 05:23:40 EST ID:vqQ+KZYo No.519962 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Your friend has set a clear limit so no luck there, it is probably very painful for you but like you said, the pain for him is bad enough that he allows such a controlling and negative person into his life in order to relieve it, slightly.

Your best bet would be to confront her directly, just the two of you. It would take planning to catch her by yourself and if you're not the assertive type, this may not go over well against her aggression. Scaring her off could leave your friend in an even worse place, though, so it's up to you if you want to get involved.
Jenny Clashhood - Sun, 12 Nov 2017 09:58:12 EST ID:KbKvqV7e No.519965 Ignore Report Quick Reply
If you confront her she will lie about what you said and he will believe her because he's proven that's where his loyalties lie.

Move out OP. Just move out. If he asks why tell him she constantly glares at you and you know it's destructive and the whole atmosphere is fucked and you hope you will find being friends easier if you're not facing that. I know two guys whose friendship went from best buddies to being okay with each other over several years. one moved out and it's back how it was within weeks. Being friends doesn't make you good housemates.
Cornelius Pittman - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 02:53:45 EST ID:KOWpnCki No.520004 Ignore Report Quick Reply
offer to help him find a new girlfriend, maybe take him out to a bar and try to get him to talk to other girls

Pro Wrestling training is causing me to put myself under immense pressure by Sophie Fugglefuck - Thu, 02 Nov 2017 16:39:25 EST ID:VlXGR1pf No.519783 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I started training summer last year. I injured myself quite severely after I finished the inital 'beginner' phase and was out for 6 months. I returned in March this year and have been training once a week (sometimes twice) ever since.

At the same time however I've been incredibly depressed for the first time in a while. I had about two years (18-20) where I was on top of my mood and living a relatively decent life. The thing that kept me going and kept me optimistic is that I had my goal of becoming a pro wrestler in sight.

Now that I'm neck deep into training my old behaviour patterns and emotions have returned from when I was 16-18. I'm depressed, suicidal but overall anxious about everything.

On one occasion, when I was returning to the wrestling gym for the first time since I injured myself for an in-house show I had a panic attack just outside it before entering. Nobody saw luckily but that's been my relationship with the gym since.

I distinctively remember the feeling of breathing intensely, feeling dizzy and almost collapsing after seeing a haze of light. Next thing I remember I was leaning up against the wall nearby scared to death.

I still get the intensely nervous feeling and shortness of breath when I got there for a session. The only thing that gets to me when I analyse it is my poor cardio and my otherthinking during certain drills and situations.

Both of these things can be improved out of training quite easily however I'm at a pount now where, when things get to me and upset me in my day to day life it makes it harder and harder for me to motivate myself and really work hard on my weaknesses.

The more real life gets me down the more pressure I feel to become a wrestler, the more pressure I feel to become a wrestler the worse I feel about my ability and potential to actually be a wrestler and then it creates a feedback loop of negative emotions that keeps me in the place I am now.
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Angus Suffinghood - Wed, 08 Nov 2017 20:38:23 EST ID:qnpf4h+M No.519888 Ignore Report Quick Reply
hey man. it sounds like you'd like elliot hulse
give this a shot before you try meds. take a look around his channel
Nicholas Drusslehood - Sat, 11 Nov 2017 08:46:07 EST ID:VlXGR1pf No.519939 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I actually love Elliott Hulse. I'll watch this. Thank you.
Phyllis Hucklededge - Sat, 11 Nov 2017 13:54:52 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.519944 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I agree and also think it would be better for OP. Pro wrestling seems like a lot more stress because you have to coordinate with the other guy and be perfect so you don't hurt him. MMA is much easier to relax because it's competitive instead of cooperative so you just have to try your best and if you get beat down you just have to work to improve and you will see real results in the sparring and not get beat as badly and eventually you can improve and start beating other people. It would be much harder for me to be doing these intricate choreographed moves with a partner vs just trying to beat someone up anxiety wise.
[name redacted] !6fGmhrVKuE - Sun, 12 Nov 2017 22:06:35 EST ID:0l8Nya5O No.519973 Ignore Report Quick Reply
That sounds like it's not that great of a gym, like the other guy said before, I'd definitely start looking for a different place to train.

Don't let other people picking up faster than you get you down, everyone trains at their own pace. I used to train with this kid, started competing in BJJ about a year after starting, and never won a match for 2 years straight despite competing every 2-3 months. He had his first win about 3 years ago and now the kid's won the world championship in his weight group, won his weight group and open weight as an adult at nationals despite being 15 and actually gets hired for seminars around the country. As long as you keep training you'll eventually get good.

Sparring between experience levels is something that's pretty common, but a lot of the gyms I've trained at have a standard of fighting down, ie, fight at your partner's level if they're lower, and let them set the pace. If the head coach was seeing that you weren't being too confident, he definitely shouldn't have hit you hard enough to drop you.

A better option for people who are a bit new to hitting someone and getting hit is for the more experienced guy to throw slower punches and kicks lightly, and for the newer guy to focus on blocking them and countering them. Once they start to get the confidence up, then you can speed up a bit, and they'll be more comfortable with blocking.

Don't let their shit practice discourage you if that's what you want to do
Eliza Deckledock - Mon, 13 Nov 2017 05:36:37 EST ID:Evz4feKy No.519983 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Exercise and physical exertion cause a chemical reaction that can make you feel better. But like any chemical or drug you can build a tolerance to it. Depression/anxiety/whatever also have a chemical component to them. You can experience withdrawal because to your brain it feels good to feel bad.

Without therapy this cycle will endlessly repeat. Meds can help some, but the side effects can be a bitch. Meds should ideally be treated as a temporary treatment.

Congrats to both of you for doing something and not just sitting in a rut. Even if only for a little while.

please to be saving my job by George Padgeshit - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 12:28:06 EST ID:5yYYR0y+ No.519918 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>tfw you wake up and you think you have the day off and you're all jazzed to do nothing and then you find a missed call on your phone and you find out you were scheduled today but you didn't know because last time you checked the schedule you weren't and you didn't think to check again because you're dumb and thought the schedule went up on sunday

i don't have any way to get there because i didn't think i fucking needed to so i'm gonna go in tomorrow bright and early and explain that i'm a idiot who managed to complicate something as uncomplicated as a schedule and it won't happen again. on a scale of 1-homeless, how much of a job do i still have?
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George Padgeshit - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 13:34:33 EST ID:5yYYR0y+ No.519926 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>If your boss thinks/knows you're hard working and dilligent and believes you give a fuck then you'll might get a laughed at for being an eejit who cost yourself some cash and you won't get money for the shift but you'll be fine as long as you don't make a habit of it.
i'm pretty sure they think i'm at least a decent worker, i work at a movie theatre and people give me cash tips fairly regularly (which is still weird as hell to me, i've never heard of anybody tipping the popcorn dude) and the other day i got some sorta award thing for "excellent service".
i mean, it's a minimum wage gig while i'm in college so i try but it's not like i put everything i possibly could into it you know? what's freaking me out is this would've only been my fifth shift so they could fire me because i sneezed funny because probation and shit.

>If you have already phoned up and appologised great, if not do that AS WELL as turning up tomorrow and groveling.
yeah, you're probably right. i thought about calling but i didn't wanna pour more gas onto the fire by ringing them up after i just fucked them only to go "whoops my bad, no sorry i can't actually make it there today okay bye".

i also absolutely fucking despise not speaking to people in person because it's impossible to gauge how the conversation is going / just generally makes it harder to express yourself because they can't see you and the last thing i needed was for them to get the impression that i didn't give a shit or wasn't taking it seriously or whatever
Samuel Gellerstone - Sun, 12 Nov 2017 00:23:21 EST ID:h/1sxUpj No.519958 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>the last thing i needed was for them to get the impression that i didn't give a shit or wasn't taking it seriously or whatever

Uh, so did you communicate with them at all? Because not showing up for a shift and not explaining yourself or apologising at all is definitely how you lose a job because it seems like you give zero fucks.
Jenny Clashhood - Sun, 12 Nov 2017 07:24:39 EST ID:KbKvqV7e No.519964 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Well it's tomorrow now, but if you still have your job, generally it's better to phone up because it shows you give a fuck than turn up the next day. Hopefully you kept your job but you justified the wrong decision because you wanted to avoid the situation not because it was rational to do so.

It's not about "whoops my bad" it's more "oh shit I have just realised, do you want me in for the second half of the shift, I am sorry and embarrassed". It shows you take them seriously, in your absence they may actually worry about you, and it shows them some respect. "Hey I fucked up but at least you know not to expect me at all, or when to expect me". It allows them to plan their shift.

If you lost your job then it's probably that you didn't call that put you over.
Lydia Bupperham - Sun, 12 Nov 2017 19:36:13 EST ID:TV+1Xc0l No.519971 Ignore Report Quick Reply
No call no show no job
Sophie Hondledale - Mon, 13 Nov 2017 12:14:48 EST ID:jQZ803QM No.519990 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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op here, wasn't planning on coming back because i expected the thread to just die but yeah everything's fine. when i got back into town later that night i went and talked to them in person because like one guy said i was definitely rationalizing it so i wouldn't have to deal with it for as long as possible, but i really do genuinely hate phonecalls so i met myself halfway.

happy hanukkah and merry kwanza everybody

Erectile Dysfunction and Acid by Sidney Singerway - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 13:23:37 EST ID:vsRAbcxo No.519923 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've been a heavy porn abuser for about 10 years now. I've never really been able to have sex because I can't get or maintain an erection. I have a girl that wants to come over this weekend and "get fucked up and fuck". This is my dream tbh. To do some hard drugs and have sex with a sexy girl. She wants to do acid and xanax.

But I'm worried that I won't get it up. I've told her that and the first time we fooled around some months ago I wasn't really able to. I'm worried that I might fall into a bad trip if I'm unable to perforn, which would make it twice as worse. I don't know what to do, should I try to postpone and see about getting some medication for ED before I do this? Is there anything I could get over the counter that would help me within the next couple of days? Everything I've researched is either prescription or takes weeks. Or could acid help me fuck this girl? I need answers.
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Sidney Singerway - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 13:36:40 EST ID:vsRAbcxo No.519927 Ignore Report Quick Reply

How am I gonna get Viagra in a day
Edwin Gobberham - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 19:31:55 EST ID:1gmJgkIr No.519933 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Go to the doctor and tell him everything you've said in this thread.
Walter Nullyham - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 20:02:36 EST ID:V7JGOwDJ No.519934 Ignore Report Quick Reply
try a cock ring. If you can get semi-erect it'll restrict the blood from flowing back out of the penis, while allowing more to flow in. It's essentially a hydraulic solution.

Don't leave it on for more than 30 mins at a time though.

You can get them in most supermarkets/pharmacies here (UK), next to the condoms
Thomas Closslestat - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 21:34:52 EST ID:YfFC3Utr No.519935 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Try Betel nut
Eugene Herrywell - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 21:37:50 EST ID:yEiqtiKT No.519936 Ignore Report Quick Reply

If you can't get viagra in a day, maybe try supplements like L-Arginine, Maca, Ginkgo Biloba, etc.

How by Clara Medgetit - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 13:43:40 EST ID:UZC9gHak No.519928 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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How do I move across the country if I have the money for it but my parents refuse to help me and they won't give me a ride to the airport 15 minutes away or anything
David Dezzlefudging - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 14:37:46 EST ID:UjNuOR6B No.519929 Ignore Report Quick Reply
you pay a taxi or uber or have a friend drive you
George Tillingshit - Fri, 10 Nov 2017 18:50:18 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.519932 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Or even just walk, how much stuff are you trying to pack nigga? Fuck, lol

I mean if its something you are planning to do and its as big as going across the entire country, why would a ~45 minute walk bother you?

By the way
>How do I move across the country if I have the money for it but my parents refuse to help me
Do what an adult who isn't financially dependent on parents would do. Figure it out for yourself. If you need help finding a way to get to an airport only 15 minutes away how exactly do you plan on being able to functionally sustain yourself?

I agree with your parents dude, you need to just stay home. By the sounds of things you're either going to wind up on the other side of the country and become homeless or you expect your parents to be willing to bail you out and pay for any of your debts that you've accrued and transportation back home, on top being back in the same position they were in before and stuck housing, feeding, and financially supporting you.
Charles Pombleford - Sat, 11 Nov 2017 04:12:45 EST ID:h/1sxUpj No.519938 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Fuck off and stop asking this same question every few days.
Esther Nublingshit - Sat, 11 Nov 2017 10:02:53 EST ID:LZcwMVpc No.519940 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I'm certain that you'll find the answer after you make just a few more threads

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