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Anxiety and Lack of Motivation by Steve Fuddy-Duddy - Fri, 06 Jan 2017 16:15:24 EST ID:FO3wrxBb No.512197 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm at the point where I have a bunch of important deadlines for college and internships but the motivation to go through with all of it is really low.

I'm not contacting people because I'm worried that I've waited too long to contact them, or that they'll think I'm dumb because I waited until the last minute before an important deadline or whatever.

I'm gonna try and force out some communication but I need to find a way to make some long term changes.

Thinking of getting one of those lamps that treats seasonal depression and seeing if that works.
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Ebenezer Deshpadge - Fri, 06 Jan 2017 16:26:11 EST ID:Svgtf+UD No.512198 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I live in Alaska and I think getting a SAD lamp to cure your current issues is like a bandaid on a broken bone.
lay off the drugs a bit maaaan
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Phyllis Marrypock - Fri, 06 Jan 2017 17:14:26 EST ID:ehhnNOgT No.512199 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512197
Why is your motivation low? What are your long term goals in life? Does the stuff you're doing not advance you towards any of them?
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Lydia Tootfuck - Sat, 07 Jan 2017 01:34:55 EST ID:YqLZri7D No.512207 Ignore Report Quick Reply
So yeah a lamp might help but also get some help for the psychological aspects
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Steve Fuddy-Duddy - Sat, 07 Jan 2017 17:17:48 EST ID:FO3wrxBb No.512218 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512199
A part of it is that some of the things I'm applying for are back-up options that I don't want to pursue like different grad schools and career paths. What I actually want to do has a deadline that's probably 6 months away.

I also have a tendency to make a big deal out of little things, put them off because they seem overwhelming, and then get to them at the last minute.

>>512207
>>512198
I need to go out and get a new desk lamp anyway, so I'll see if a SAD lamp comes in a reasonable price. Wouldn't hurt to try it.

At some point I want to see a therapist but my schedule, health insurance issues, and other medical conditions make that less immediate than I'd like. Might actually try using all that stress as a reason to make an appointment


No real friends by John Grimfoot - Thu, 05 Jan 2017 18:07:55 EST ID:zOfwhgti No.512164 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I don't have any real friends at all. Well there are at least 2-3 "real" friends like people that I can talk to for hours about anything. Other than that I don't understand this phenomenon where people tell others that they don't have any friends like it's an insult. Friends as it is are hard to come by in this day and age, "real" friends more so.

What the hell is a "real" friend supposed to be anyway and why are there all these categories that we group our relationships into like they are really all that quantifiable considering how quickly people come and go into your life. I'm lucky that I have two friends in my life that I've known for more than two years currently. One I've known eight years and the other is going on five. They are awesome people.

The reason I made this thread is because I heard that insult a lot "Everyone knows you don't have any real friends". It kind of annoys me in the sense that, listen to yourself you ignorant motherfucker, what is it that you have to makes those people want to be your friends? Oh yeah you're a drug dealer. Thats why you have friends.
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John Bullerlock - Thu, 05 Jan 2017 18:15:51 EST ID:hhQhcuad No.512167 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512164
A "real" friend is one that is not a made up story.

People have all sorts of friends and all sorts of labels, some people have tonnes of "best friends" and some have tonnes of "friends" they barely know. But you know what matters about friends.

Are you happy with the ones you have? Do you have enough?

If the answer is yes then it doesn't matter what anyone else says. Just laugh if they try to accuse you of being friendless because it's clearly a lame cheap shot stab in the dark insult.

One could argue that friends who barely know you, wouldn't miss you if you were gone or who would sell you out are not "real" friends I guess. But it doesn't matter. Are you happy with your friends? It's no one's business except you and your friends.
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Cedric Turveyworth - Thu, 05 Jan 2017 18:20:17 EST ID:PP6wg+TW No.512168 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512164
>I don't have any real friends at all. Well there are at least 2-3
People don't normally have more than 2-3 close friends. In your life, there will only be 6-7 individuals that make up your true circle. Those will consist of your parents, your 2-3 friends, your significant other, and your kids.

Everyone else you meet lies outside that circle. That's the way it is for everyone.
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Debbie Downer - Sat, 07 Jan 2017 06:25:17 EST ID:STF3ejnn No.512213 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I believe they refer to "social" friends, sort of the people you meet in clubs and you know they exist, like facebook friends which you just have for the sake of having, but you really don't care about them.


How do I get help? by Nell Snodhall - Wed, 04 Jan 2017 17:11:52 EST ID:rwBgp9sw No.512134 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Depression, the really bad kind.

Do I just call a psychiatrist from my health insurance carrier's website and t make an appointment? Should I go see a GP first? Do I need to hurt myself so they take me seriously? Am I wasting my time?
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Phineas Pumblemat - Thu, 05 Jan 2017 22:51:34 EST ID:S2VQz0+A No.512180 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512169

Referencing past to justify present.

Just let go of the idea that the past defines your present bro. Fine u spent every waking moment till this second as whatever it was I just read. But just suck it up, fugetttaabboowwtt it and live ur life with a clean slate. By now there must be no helping you for such an aimlessly childhood embedded life story.
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Wesley Blarringtodge - Fri, 06 Jan 2017 02:07:38 EST ID:SvrL9OfC No.512183 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512169
Random fits of crying from a young age that can't be explained are an enormous red flag for something like bipolar or something else really serious. The way you get the hook up with a psychiatrist or psychologist is to go see a counselor and tell them you need a recommendation to a psychiatrist for an issue. They'll probably give you some kind of questionnaire to fill out and have you describe the best story of things so far.

From there, the counselor will give you their opinion and give you the official recommendation. They might have someone they'd specifically prefer to send you to, but it really depends on your financial situation and insurance who you go to. Once you pick who, you can make an appointment with the psychiatrist or psychologist you chose and say you've got a recommendation from a counselor, etc. Then you go to the appt, probably take the exact same or some variation of the same questionnaire, repeat all the same stuff about your problems, etc. From there the train is rolling and you can receive an official diagnosis.
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Wesley Blarringtodge - Fri, 06 Jan 2017 02:09:05 EST ID:SvrL9OfC No.512184 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512183
i have no idea how the word "best" got in there when i said "best story of things so far", sheeiiit
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Sophie Dubberhood - Fri, 06 Jan 2017 18:08:52 EST ID:OQywja9k No.512203 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>512134
Be wary of anti-depressants. I took Celexa for 6 months and stopped taking it a year ago because i felt emotionally numb and my dick didn't work. It took another 2 months for my dick to work after I stopped taking it, and I'm more depressed now than I was before I started taking it. I've had especially bad bouts with suicidal thoughts lately and can't help but suspect that celexa contributes to it.
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Debbie Downer - Sat, 07 Jan 2017 06:23:38 EST ID:STF3ejnn No.512212 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512203
In contrast, I took Paxil for 1 or 2 years, felt awesome and had a blast. It also made my dick numb but that was great because I could have sex for a long time and sometimes I didn't even cum, which was great because I'm somehow convinced that it is a waste of some form of spiritual energy, so I don't like ejaculation but sex is amazing.


things rnt looking 2 gutt by Sidney Fankinridge - Thu, 05 Jan 2017 17:25:09 EST ID:Iu2FMeOV No.512155 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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so basically im 21, i got arrested for drugs, had my room raided and am going to court and my family is on the verge of kicking me out. too many times ive promised to do good or stop getting high only to end up fucking up again. this might be the last straw, my dad lets me stay but my older sister and mom are the breadwinners/ have more say in the matter. i dont know what to do, im afraid of what's going to go down in my trial, afraid of being homelesss and on my own because im a nonfunctioning social retard. i dont even really wanna talk to anyone i know irl about it so that's why im posting here. i dont know, anything advice or general positive vibes?? i really might just end up killing myself
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Doris Blunkinman - Thu, 05 Jan 2017 18:51:55 EST ID:DEgtejJD No.512172 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>512157
that is the thing, im not really sure how to go about finding a place on my own and having a budget or something. maybe if i really tried i could i pull it off but i basically rely on xanax to even get motivated/not be afraid of the world which also in turns me going a litttle too hard on it and getting myself in well, these bad situations. i also live in california and rent is pretty high here so i dont know really but im just having a hard time being a responsible adult. thank you for the court advice, it is my first time getting wrapped and it's a misdemeanor so i dont think it will be too bad. only thing is i was super barred when they interrogated me and i sort of incriminated myself

anyway thank you all it is really nice to even have a place to share my troubles


>>512158
i dont know if i dropping acid right now would make things better or worse but itd most likely be a bad trip altho i feel im an experienced enough tripper to be able to enjoy the trip even when things are bad in my life (kind of like a euphoric, hopeful boost, give life another chance)
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Doris Turveywater - Fri, 06 Jan 2017 08:07:48 EST ID:WCiWyIpM No.512186 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512171
do you?

>>512172
god pepe really is dead. no don't drop acid you goose
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Martin Mopperworth - Fri, 06 Jan 2017 15:22:30 EST ID:Iu2FMeOV No.512195 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>512186
ok i wont but it really is uncanny how accurate it is to my life hehe, have a pic of JLH instead

love u guys

i think im just going to straight up ask my mom if she wants me to leave when I get the chance, theyve been avoiding me/busy with work. (also i think theyre a bit afraid of me since i get a bit aggressive on xans, in my defense my mom slapped me first whilel i was barred tf out and i didnt even really hit her i just kind of pushed her down or something like that i dont know im horrible and deserved it) which really sucks because i use to be a PLUR af person. i shudve just kept smoking weed all day, atleast then i was docile. altho then i was too lazy and never able to do anything with my life

also seeing a psychiatrist literally the day before the court hearing. i wish i couldve gotten an appointment earlier (it was right before holidays when i made app) so i guess they didnt really have space/time for me until now. atleast maybe then i wouldnt have messed things up but i dont know what good does dwelling on the what ifs do
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Barnaby Niggledock - Fri, 06 Jan 2017 17:43:45 EST ID:5JYKa3yb No.512201 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>512155
Do you have any relatives that you are somewhat close to? If so, move to them to leave behind your current environment and focus on getting sober from pills with the help of a local doctor. If you think you could do so at home, then that's nice, but I'm guessing you have a plug nearby.
It's easier if you DON'T have a plug nearby.

Don't take acid, stop doing a surplus of drugs and start doing some growing up. Being lazy and docile isn't a good thing and drugs do that, the real unadulturated world can be a living hell if you don't start to take steps to make life enjoyable while sober. Also, ruminating on shit isn't good, but that'll stop after a while and be filled with pride when you finally accomplish something in your life.

Or maybe you'll always think back to what a dickhead you were, but would you rather think about what a dickhead you were in your teens, or would you think back on what a complete fucking degenerate you grew up to be since you never quit popping pills? Because most of us fucks up one time or another, lucky for us we fucked up somewhat early so we still have a chance to live a long and fulfilling life. A little trouble with the law won't fuck up the rest of your life, most likely it won't have any other affect than creating a bit of ruckus the next year or so and creating some extra expenses for a little while.

I'm where you are at man, been sober for half a year now, it hasn't really gotten that much better, I still have periods where I'm depressed and anxious, I don't have any of my old friends any longer and shit sucks. BUT, I have regained the trust of my parents, I have a good relationship with my family, I almost took a driving license until the feds said I had to go on bloodtest for a year before they'd let me and I might start educating myself soon.

It's been the shittiest year of my life in many ways, but, I no longer have to push drugs to keep my shitty lifestyle, I no longer have being high and getting food as my only things to do in my life, I have gained hobbies which I enjoy greatly when I am able to motivate myself and I have gained an ambition to no longer confirm my existence by being in a shitty environment based on being fucked up.

It's a long and shitty road my friend, but if you wanna catch a glimpse of the world from top of the mountain you'll actually have to expect getting soar feet. But when you're at the top, sitting down will feel so incredibly much better and hopefully you'll want to keep going upwards instead kicking rocks at the bottom.

I hope this is somewhat encouraging and somewhat discouraging, you would really hit a brick wall if anybody gave you the impression it was going to be easy. But I truly believe that it's going to be worth it in the end.
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Fanny Drebberhune - Sat, 07 Jan 2017 14:25:48 EST ID:/tsqJUh9 No.512216 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>512172
>i feel im an experienced enough tripper to be able to enjoy the trip even when things are bad in my life
"I am so addicted I can enjoy the escapism of non-physically-addictive life-introspection-feels drugs despite the overwhelming reality of my situation."
That is the saddest thing I've seen in a while. It's so real. OP drugs should be the icing on an already-functioning existence. I would definitely have a bad trip if I were in your shoes. Put away the suicidal pepes, work more, support yourself, then have fun with your surplus.


job by bobby - Fri, 06 Jan 2017 10:16:30 EST ID:JBe2YHvu No.512188 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I dont know how to handle things at work right now
Maybe some of you know what i shoud do
Actually im a normal guy with a familiy two children a dog and a 2 fishs.
Recently I got promotet in my comany and i got in a new section of my company (i live in Brasil so here everything is a bit old and old fashioned)
At my new position i got to know that we make experiments on dogs with our products (in brasil the Goverment givs zeroooo Fucks bout animals) its not like im a naturtard but Belive me or not when i nstarted in my new postion at work my dog started to look with eyes full of sorrow at me and it dosent let me pet it anymore
igot really stressed and my wife is thinks i have an affair or something cause im so strange...
so guys what shoud i do cause i cant just quit my job i need that money (my wife does not work)
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Sophie Peckleford - Fri, 06 Jan 2017 12:29:12 EST ID:gjpsVbfG No.512190 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512188

Volunteer your dog to be experimented on, that way you can get rid of the dog and cope with your cognitive dissonance in one fell swoop, embracing your role as a mad animal scientist. With your new found self confidence and joy in your day to day evil activities, your wife will find you a new man. Soon you will have a reinvigorated sex life, and your male pattern baldness will be stopped in its tracks. Good luck OP.
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Phoebe Widgehuck - Fri, 06 Jan 2017 14:06:37 EST ID:OMrNONpW No.512191 Ignore Report Quick Reply
i think that if you get inclinations like that, you should honour them.
only you know what that means to you.


I fucked up! by Fuck Brucklelag - Mon, 19 Dec 2016 04:16:15 EST ID:0crraI6o No.511733 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I don't know if this is the right place for this, but I really need advice!

I was at a party last Friday and got super trashed. I went to the bars after and this guy offered me a bump of what I thought was blow. Really drunk I took a huge bump. It wasn't what I thought it was! I passed out in the snow outside. I was completely confused and fucked up and couldn't figure out where I was. Very soon after, this girl I had been talking to earlier got me up and guided me to her apartment. I woke up and she was blowing me. I left soon after, still pretty fucked up and confused.
I'm in a relationship and I don't know if I can tell my girlfriend. I also want to get tested for STDs now, and don't want to have sex with her until then. What do? I love my girlfriend and don't want to ruin things with her.
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Cornelius Nesslehood - Fri, 23 Dec 2016 22:18:13 EST ID:9qpZVuQa No.511887 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511879
The fuck are you even talking about, weirdo?

How is this related to OP being a rape victim?
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Augustus Sangerlad - Sun, 25 Dec 2016 13:30:55 EST ID:J5wIcS7O No.511914 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511887
>he didnt reverse the genders
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Nathaniel Bicklefoot - Sun, 25 Dec 2016 18:07:26 EST ID:YA0MiqNO No.511917 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>get drunk
>do blow
>fuck a bitch as a result of your lack of inhibitions
>is too afraid to man up and accept responsibility for his problems

No, it doesn't work when women claim rape either. Quit doing fucking drugs if you're too scared to face the potential consequences.
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Emma Dasslebone - Mon, 26 Dec 2016 10:12:35 EST ID:xorMz/zL No.511929 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511917
Lol what kind of date rapist are you? 4chinz is thataway --->
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Hamilton Pundlekore - Fri, 06 Jan 2017 01:22:10 EST ID:9Sj9yKnw No.512182 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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She took advantage of you, an inebriated person, and performed oral sex without your consent. She raped you. File a report. If your girlfriend isn't complete garbage she will understand and support you. If she does leave you for being raped, you dodged a bullet.


A Treatment for Epilepsy by Rebecca Worthingham - Thu, 05 Jan 2017 12:00:59 EST ID:PNc0guCE No.512147 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hello all, thought I'd give you guys the story about my epilepsy and how I rid myself of it (for now). If anyone has an epileptic friend or family member, pass this along.

I was first diagnosed with a form of epilepsy called JME at the age of fifteen. I have been medicated with Zonegran, Depakote, Keppra, Lemictal, and Clonopin. All of these medicines did their job as far as preventing me from having seizures as long as I'm taking it. However, it's been eight years and I know that if I stop for 2 days, I begin to seize nonstop until medication is delivered and working.

During my time as an epileptic, I've done mushrooms, LSD, E, Cocaine, and many narcotics and benzos. Out of all of these things, soda was my worst enemy. The others? A ball park game with toddlers. The point of this is, sugars are to an epileptic as kryptonite is to superman. Savvy?

So I hit a rough patch in my life. I've been homeless for about a month now and I took a substantial financial hit during these times and I was forced to space out my medicine as much as I could to save it and I was also unable to eat. So I applied everywhere and anywhere and once that was all done, I only woke up to drink water, talk to potential employers, and nothing else. Well, I've got my steady supply of meds back and life is on track. But during this time of being homeless and starving, I slept most of the day away and never left my spot other than to urinate somewhere. It's been eight days almost since my last dosage and I feel fine. I'm not saying this will work for everyone. But if you rest a lot, drink nothing but water, ween yourself off the medicine, and avoid ALL unnecessary sugars... you will be in better shape. Look at the ketogenic diet and how it simulates starvation. I personally snack on protien and carbs once or twice a day every couple of days and drink water. Now I can walk without my meds for extensive periods of time. Use a climbitization method to slowly gauge what your body can take and slowly reduce the amount of everything you use except for water.

I hope I helped someone some day with this information. Epilepsy medicine is a prison of the mind and body that can be escaped through self torture. T…
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John Bullerlock - Thu, 05 Jan 2017 12:44:01 EST ID:hhQhcuad No.512148 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512147
My half sister has epilepsy. There's two possible explanations for her current condition.
1) She found meds that worked for her
2) She had a vitamin A deficiency and wasn't able to take it up in certain forms and taking certain supplements has cured it

Given that epilepsy is still a fairly poorly known illness and that modern medicine is still learning what the fuck it is, just blindly taking meds for it is stupid. But then blindly takings meds is always bad. I wouldn't warn people away from any medicine entirely but you should always pay attention to if they help and if there are side effects that might warrant you at least trying something else. The side effects don't have to be worse than the disease it cures, because another medication may cure you without them.

People often just take their meds. As a kid it's very natural to do that especially if our parents pressure us into it. Those of us who ever have kids should make sure our hypothetical children never go through the same shit so many people did like OP.

The keto diet is one method of control. Just not eating isn't a good plan. Keto may also not work and if you do it wrong you make yourself ill so it's best to get advice from a dietician or at least a large number of reliable resources in agreement if you insist on using the internet.
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Cedric Turveyworth - Thu, 05 Jan 2017 17:59:23 EST ID:PP6wg+TW No.512159 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512147
thank you for the information, crazy homeless person.
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Nicholas Monderfuck - Thu, 05 Jan 2017 19:02:15 EST ID:PNc0guCE No.512173 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512148
What I posted is not the be all end all solution. The ketogenic diet isn't even warranted for most types of seizures and can often make someone's seizures worse due to the inflammation of the brain and not having enough cranial capacity to withhold the brain when swelling. However, in conjunction with supplements, starving ones self rids the body of any excess stress which is a huge deal to an epileptic. Or so it has been in my studies...

I was able to pull off what I did due to constant sleeping and not exerting myself for the time I was down. Although I don't recommend what I did for everyone, if the person trying this can take the time out to do it and not suffer financially or lose stability, then nonsugary supplements and rest is what I'd recommend. Skip the food and blah blah blah. Eating isn't even that necessary anyways depending on your physical life and so on.

None the less, this post was only to inform others of what fixed my eight year struggle with epilepsy. I am sure I would have been cured long ago if I had parents who cared more about me rather than the trouble they'd incur with the law. Instead I got the boot and stick.

And on the note of blindly taking medicine, I didn't have a great health insurance plan, and I was raised by lemmings who took me to idiot doctors, who ended up getting cancer and picking a doctor who gave them a diet that would kill them. Love me some America.


Job Decision by Albert Conderstock - Tue, 03 Jan 2017 22:45:08 EST ID:YCWkXpPv No.512124 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm a teacher. I've been fed up with it for a long time. I've taught in several districts and always feel like I work very hard with little recognition from the administration, and there is a lot of micromanagement and state stuff which takes the joy out of the actual teaching part.

Recently I made some applications to much higher paying jobs on a whim, not really thinking about it much. I've had three interview offers. Now I'm faced with the specter of whether or not I'd really quit mid-year for an uncertainty.

On one hand actually having surplus money would be nice, especially since I'm very financially conscious and am trying to step up my investments for retirement. On the other hand quitting mid-year would be kind of a dick move to my department (and of course the kids) and would make me a pariah if I ever tried to apply to another school in the future. Also looks bad on a resume in general.
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Edward Pubberridge - Thu, 05 Jan 2017 18:05:21 EST ID:WCiWyIpM No.512163 Ignore Report Quick Reply
LITTLE NIGGA YOU AINT HAPPY
REMEMBER THAT U GONNA DIE
YOU'RE GOING TO DIE SOMEDAY

seriously you're going to die someday
go try to get happy, little nigga.
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Emma Clezzlewetch - Thu, 05 Jan 2017 21:56:28 EST ID:M+WnTWTA No.512177 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Interview offers? Doesn't sound like a definite thing yet. From what you've said it seems like you should just get through another semester then start looking for other jobs.


To FWB or not to FWB by James Chonkinhood - Tue, 03 Jan 2017 11:40:27 EST ID:j5RL5m1u No.512095 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey /qq/! Happy new year, hope you're all doing fine.
I've got a small-scale dilemma on my hands, I'll try and keep it short-ish and sweet.

A couple months ago I started to go out with a guy my age (mid-twenties, I'm female) and after awhile of going out on 'dates' I realized I did not have romantic feelings for him. I am attracted to him physically, but that's about it. No idea why, he's great and has no red flags, which I think is really rare. Anyway, I talked to him about my lack of real feelings for him last week, because he wanted to be in an official relationship. So, told him I don't,and he brought up the idea of a FWB type deal. However, he has never done anything casual like that.. I have, and in my experience if one person has feelings and the other doesn't, that's how it gets messy. I tried to get him to understand that but he insists it would be better to take a chance and see what happens than to always wonder.

Of course, I am human and I wouldn't mind keeping our relationship purely sexual but I know his feelings for me run a little deep, and unless I develop 'feelings' for him just because of hormones, we would only ever be casual. He said he understands that but I still don't know what the right move is here, even with his decision to do this I still feel like I'd be using him somehow. What do you guys think, should I just call it off or let him learn?
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James Chonkinhood - Tue, 03 Jan 2017 20:56:33 EST ID:8mitiDFw No.512120 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Thanks for the input. I do see truth in all of the viewpoints presented here. The posts saying that it is definitely worth it to try sound a lot like what this guy was saying to me when I expressed doubt in the FWB thing working out; he really just wants the chance.

But as other people have stated, I am pretty sure he will just get hurt through this and I have been on the receiving end of this situation so I am aware of the consequences. However that doesn't make me any more comfortable just making the decision basically for him that it won't be worth the hurt he will likely experience. He seems to think it would be worth it.

I think I'm going to talk to him more about this, and really accentuate the possible effects. If he is still stubbornly stating that he will always regret never having this chance, then fuck I guess I'll go in head first. He will have had full warning and I know there is also chance that feelings could come about and possibly make us work. Only time will tell. Thanks as always guys, go smoke some and chill out now
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Wesley Bisslelock - Wed, 04 Jan 2017 10:18:09 EST ID:zOfwhgti No.512129 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512095
I do not agree with other posters that you should "give it a chance". You're wasting his time already if you do not see a future in it. Nothing will change your mind because you've already seem to have made it that you just wanted your relationship to be purely sexual.

It will end ugly, and he will be hurt. You will probably be called all kinds of things when you have gotten to the point where you don't want to have sex with him anymore or there's someone else. Then you will tell all your friends how crazy/psycho he is. He will probably stalk you on social media. He's crazy/psycho but technically he's not really in the wrong for feeling the way he does. He's a fuck boy and he's going to get his feelings hurt, and will continue to if he allows himself to be that.

If you don't want anything more than sex with the guy and he's already admitted to having feelings just tell him the truth plain and simple. Don't have sex with someone that you know wants more than you do. More than likely you'll be "giving him a chance" and meet someone else you really like then you'll have to make a choice. It only gets worse from there, no one should have to reassure you about anything.
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Molly Sottingworth - Wed, 04 Jan 2017 18:05:06 EST ID:hRDPwd/f No.512136 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Fuck it OP, if you have candidly discussed the rational likely outcomes of this scenario and shared from your own experience your predicted prognosis, it is his own free choice at that point. If he's never been burned by this sort of flame but wants to reach out and touch it, why not with you, someone that will at least be respectful about the whole thing, rather than some potentially more cruel experience down the road. At least the blows of heartbreak can be delivered mercifully by you. Ten years from now how do you think you might look back, what choice would you wish you had made? I always say follow your gut.
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Matilda Dartway - Thu, 05 Jan 2017 08:18:35 EST ID:OJZP9kWv No.512141 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You could just do what most chicks do in your situation, OP: fuck they guy a few times and then flake on him completely, never to speak to him again.
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Debbie Downer - Thu, 05 Jan 2017 10:29:49 EST ID:STF3ejnn No.512146 Ignore Report Quick Reply
As a man I have sometimes found that after sexing a woman I lose a lot of interest in her and eventually realize I just wanted to "own" her in that sexual way, and once it's done I just feel like a lot of the mystery is gone.

If I were you I would not shower or shave for a few weeks, then have horrible sex with him , for example insist on putting a finger up his arse when he least expects it and then maybe slap him, or if he likes just that then be as boring as you can be. If I like a girl but the sex is bad then that really changes things


Fuck this Shit! by Sidney Hoddlefedging - Sat, 08 Oct 2016 01:31:15 EST ID:5i2xOTBc No.509542 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So here I am drinking half of bottle of wine and smoking the little weed I have. I am completely destroyed! I met this guy that I thought would be my forever, my savior, my everything. My everything he was, I did anything for him and to him. He said he wanted a confident woman, when I was, he would shut me down making me feel like shit. He wanted someone that would be attentive, so I cooked for him prepared him snacks or lunch to take to work, give him and sneak in little love notes; it wasn't enough. He wanted great sex, so I did things I would never in my life do, I worked out more so I could be better, that to him was AMAZING. He wanted honesty, I told him every detail of my past, plans for the future and my present. He used my past against me, kept bringing past hurtful memories (like when I was raped and an abusive relationship) over and over. My future was always criticized and my present was always questioned. He wanted unconditional love, after 2 months together spent $1,000 on a trip for his friend's graduation (who I had never met) Would tuck him in to sleep (LITERALLY) I would sweet talk to him, sing (even though I really cant) to him, until he would fall asleep, it wasn't enough. He had skin problems and asthma, everytime he would get sick, I would make him soup, make sure he was taking his medicines, sing him to sleep or until the pain would go away. I would drive one hour and fifteen minutes every weekend to go see him (he did not have a car) it was not enough. He made rules of telling him everything I do during the day and whenever he would get angry at something I would do and I would tell him I didn't think there was a problem because he did it too, he would say that him doing it was different. He would tell me he would never do something and later tell me that why he told me that was because he did not want me to do it, and that he change his mind, and that he thought I was worth it. Thinking of all of this just makes me angry and sad with myself. I moved the earth for him, put myself second and it was never enough because, you know why? because he did not want me, that's why it was never enough. With his accusations, critics, and mind games he drove me into insanity. We …
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Cornelius Futtingstodge - Thu, 20 Oct 2016 00:08:07 EST ID:vd2yESJy No.509985 Ignore Report Quick Reply
lol good luck "maneater"
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ProjectBurn - Thu, 05 Jan 2017 03:46:23 EST ID:ldH8Wz2L No.512138 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You got one thing absolutely right, he did not want YOU. He liked the idea of having someone around well enough to take advantage of everything you offered him, but he wasn't into you for you. And it sucks. It absolutely sucks. But the worst thing you can do for yourself is take it personally. Hear me out before you get all wtf in response. There's a reason he played these games with you and was more than willing to take everything you offered but wasn't able to see the phenomenal situation he was in. And that reason is because he is still a child. He is still too into himself to ever be able to really look at anyone else and see the efforts they put forth and the affection they share. To him, it's all a game of, "How much more will she let me take before she breaks?" and the worst part of it is that as a child, he's probably not even aware he's thinking this. Most likely, he's just aware that you give him a world without him working for it or investing in it and it feels good but it doesn't have any real value. And when he's feeling that loneliness that will be all the things you gave to him now gone, he'll come begging back for it, but not for you. What he wants is just the control and the spoiling and the feeling of being mothered. And that's the biggest difference between children and decent people: children still see the world and others in what they can provide for them. Decent people, instead, see others for who they really are and ask themselves what they can do in return.

Do yourself a favor and don't play the same game. Yeah, you're angry now, but you now know what it feels like to be victim of a child. Why would you go and do that to someone else in return? Did you deserve it? No. So do they? No. Instead, save yourself the heart ache and see him as a kid and move on. Find someone else who actually will see you for you, not what you offer and do, but who you really are. Until then, love is gonna suck.

Best o luck.
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Edwin Cezzleman - Thu, 05 Jan 2017 04:04:00 EST ID:EMOdP0XC No.512139 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>509542

Itt 420chan responding to attention bait
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Samuel Dartford - Thu, 05 Jan 2017 10:24:30 EST ID:bqlidi7o No.512144 Ignore Report Quick Reply
If you'll consider the notion that you "fit" each other, I think you'll find it to be very true.
I'm sorry for your troubles, but you want to lash out because you see not your own part of the responsibility in what happened. Evidence for this is that you'll find someone just like him afterward. Also, that you say that you now want to be exactly like him to other guys.

Don't live with this toxicity in your heart. You'll find that you will keep the feelings alive.

Food for thought.
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Debbie Downer - Thu, 05 Jan 2017 10:26:28 EST ID:STF3ejnn No.512145 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>I've been abused
>therefore I will become the abuser

yes there are still a lot of people this stupid


becoming aware of your own mortality by Thomas Blythelock - Wed, 28 Dec 2016 02:14:38 EST ID:22QWcvOX No.511951 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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To make a long story short: been living the NEET life for a while. I want to make changes. This "awareness" happened after I decided to make changes because of the health implications that my NEET life has potentially incurred due to my sedentary life style and such. I also recently quit smoking weed and enjoy the sober life. You know when people go through a near death experience and they are more grateful and humble, and will most likely do things that they didn't before? This is me (minus the near death experience) except while I am more grateful for being alive, making myself aware of my own mortality and how easy it is for me to die at any instant has had the opposite effect for me in terms of doing things when I wasn't aware or conscioursly thinking about it. I'm actually MORE withdrawn to things (despite wanting to DO things) because of the nagging feeling of my own mortality. It's kind of a vicious cycle where I remain in my old ways (lose motivation to do things) except now I think about my own mortality and mortify myself while at the same time not doing anything about it. Does anyone know what I mean?
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Augustus Claywill - Thu, 29 Dec 2016 14:45:23 EST ID:mu8hf6Xw No.511977 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511955
Focusing on death sure isn't gonna help, thats true. Even if you aren't working you can give yourself purpose. Drive yourself into art, or music, or writting. Its not as though there aren't lots of great succesful people who where missing a job at one point or another ya know? You could invent something or strike oil. Just get your hope up, and don't ever just quit. Passion is a big fucking thing my man.
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Fucking Donderworth - Sun, 01 Jan 2017 12:35:55 EST ID:bqlidi7o No.512025 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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hey man. if you're still here i know where you're coming from. at least somewhat, not so much with the mortality but more that gutter mentality. anyway, i hope i can help you. i'm 24 and my life just started getting good, because i managed to.. solve.. the problem that neets have. i was at the bottom of the barrel with depression, anxiety, and whatever other problems of that nature. i had taken unto myself many mistaken notions of how things are, and those you could say were the bars of my cell. now, nobody is perfect, least of all myself, but something has happened that got me to living. put it like this: the difference between moving and moving a little bit more, is much much much less significant than the difference between moving and not moving, even if they are both the same theoretical length. so i've basically started moving. at times it's a little bit intimidating, but all problem i believe will be solved when i obtain, or rather genuinely embody, genuine belief in myself. in fact, i think this is the best of all possible worlds. listen man, you don't want to get caught in some of the traps that are in the material world. this society is indifferent to your happiness and fulfillment, and even from there it's.. not going in a healthy direction. many things await you. there is truth, there is meaning, you can find your vitality. may you find your vitality. but enough of this talk.

ultimately this is a journey that you must figure out yourself. in fact, it IS a journey in figuring out yourself. you must rise and become an individual. not leaning on any external notions, anything other than what YOU are, but finding your personhood. mm, if you're looking for objective things that WILL help you (discerning from the higher, subjective meaning that is tailored to only you, that you will come to realize), start with your health. a very significant thing that happened to me is that i started eating better, exercising, GETTING PROPER SLEEP (STILL WORKING ON IT), no drugs (coffee definitely included, STILL WORKING ON IT) no alcohol, NO FUCKING DAILY WEED HABIT. use your judgement. what is it that's fucking you? don't pay attention to your fucking friends that can smoke we…
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Fucking Donderworth - Sun, 01 Jan 2017 12:39:06 EST ID:bqlidi7o No.512026 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>512025
cont. dunno why my puppy is upside down

death? geez. that's something that you have to figure out.. i mean, nobody can do it for you. but even so somehow i don't think there's anything to it at all. i'm from somewhere different. i'd been starving for so long, i was brutalized by despairs so badly and so thoroughly that i would have welcomed it, insofar as anyone was capable. having nothing to lose is embraced for what it is, which to me is knowing what's good and what's not, and so being able to let go of some of the more conventional things. i don't want to glorify it, because that's not it. i still fear death, i still fear not being able to find what it is that i need to sustain my spirit, but i can try to face it because i'm convinced there is something higher. i think that there is something for me to die for now, though it remains to be seen what life will do and how i'll react; i'm no glorious hero, but it's the qualitative beauty that is important to me. a fear of death.. geez. i don't even know what to make of that man.

i used to have another fear though. the conspiracy theory mindset. i'm quite convinced now that these are traps of the material world, to keep you in a paranoid or suspicious state, entirely disconnected from the good. this past summer i was genuinely terrified that everything that i believed in was the work of demons. yes, i'm not kidding. it kept me up at night. things were very, very dark. what did i do? maybe you should consider doing this as well. i took a step back and stopped caring about it, in short. by that i mean that i stopped feeding my energy into this thing that was scaring the shit out of me. this dilemma of fundamentalist christianity, the nature of reality, the threat of demons, hell, and evil.. absolutely terrifying. seldom have i been so obliterated in will and spirit. however, this notion constantly conflicted with my internal compass. life, i felt, wasn't supposed to feel this way. not so rigidly stiff with fear, that i couldn't even move lest i be, quite literally, damned. still, the fear was extremely powerful. it fucked me up real bad.

so here's the thing. there…
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silent protagonist - Tue, 03 Jan 2017 15:42:50 EST ID:Na1U7ohO No.512108 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512025
>>512026
Good posts. Glad to see the frequency elevating on the whole. Stay positive, everybody. Do what is right for you. Take baby steps to accomplish anything and soon you're past the goal and wonder how you got there.
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Lydia Gannerforth - Wed, 04 Jan 2017 15:23:24 EST ID:ngLYHpR4 No.512132 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP, I'm excited to live, and I'm excited to die. You don't have to fear mortality rather than enjoy it.


gf probs by Edward Mammleridge - Tue, 03 Jan 2017 14:36:36 EST ID:cZPS+aPn No.512102 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I love my girlfriend and want to be with her for as long as possible but I also like being alone and just smoking potunski and playing vidya, but she's really insecure and thinks I don't care for her as much because of this. How do I explain to her that I need my alone time and it has nothing to do with me losing affection for her?
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Clara Honeycocke - Tue, 03 Jan 2017 15:14:06 EST ID:8yc2UuLQ No.512105 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512102
Tell her what you told us bro. If she is insecure, being honest with her is the best way to diffuse this shit. If she's a good gal, she'll understand.


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