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help is on the way by Reuben Bardgold - Mon, 29 May 2017 02:36:52 EST ID:lC4u5xZY No.516578 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Dear /bb/

I am drunk, and I know all the answers to your problems.

Ask me anything, and for the next 20 minutes I will tell you what I know until I pass out and fall asleep on my keyboard.
Ernest Blatherfuck - Mon, 29 May 2017 02:58:19 EST ID:ihovPNql No.516579 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Reuben Bardgold - Mon, 29 May 2017 03:00:16 EST ID:lC4u5xZY No.516580 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Phyllis Cracklepot - Mon, 29 May 2017 04:12:48 EST ID:xhbAA6TQ No.516581 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Can you help me overcome my sexual perversion and my problem drinking?

How to let shit go by Polly Chattingway - Fri, 26 May 2017 16:48:17 EST ID:mv6CynSU No.516511 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So I fell for this girl and then she fucked my friend so I told her not to talk to me again and shit, which is a very short version of a year long drama, but basically she's still around because she's in my friend group or whatever, and now it looks like she's fucking her ex's best friend. Tbh this is kind of greasy and I've lost a bit of respect for her, but it still stings for whatever reason.

Basically there's no way to get her out of my life entirely (I've been trying) so now I need to kill all of my feelings for her so I don't even care when she's around or not. Has anyone successfully done this? Like I'm hooking up with another girl anyway but idk, I get mad and/or depressed whenever she's around and I need my brain to fuck off with that weak shit.
John Blinderford - Fri, 26 May 2017 17:14:05 EST ID:n1yNxChx No.516512 Ignore Report Quick Reply
you need to accept that you've been hurt by it, and then genuinely feel that hurt
stop trying to make it not hurt
feel the hurt instead
gotta feel it to heal it.. little nigga
Polly Chattingway - Fri, 26 May 2017 17:18:42 EST ID:mv6CynSU No.516513 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Yeah but it's been like 3 months since I talked to her, then she pops up and it all kinda comes back. I felt the shit out of it when it happened. I just want to stop caring now. Like there's a point when "feeling it" is just torturing yourself with rumination, no?

Mainly it just pisses me off because she's fucking every guy in town but me, and in the beginning she couldn't get enough of me. I just fucked things up to the point where I guess she doesn't feel that way anymore which is fine, I just wish she'd fuck off out of my life now. I can do better than her anyway idk why I care at all.
Ebenezer Sazzlehit - Fri, 26 May 2017 17:46:10 EST ID:mB3oAGCi No.516516 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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John Blinderford - Fri, 26 May 2017 19:55:45 EST ID:n1yNxChx No.516521 Ignore Report Quick Reply
it seems like you're trying yo push it away though. with, like thoughts like "idgaf about her", and so forth
Shitting Semblelatch - Sun, 28 May 2017 21:13:48 EST ID:mv6CynSU No.516577 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Yeah true, muh ego I guess?
Idk I guess it's hard to accept things that hurt my confidence or whatever idk.
I guess it is what it is or whatever but dam I wish I cared less.

sex by afraid of sex and intimacy - Sun, 21 May 2017 15:23:12 EST ID:Pj3LHr36 No.516386 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hi, i haven't really told this to anyone so i wanted to get it out and maybe get some advice or something. Im male 23 and I having pretty big problem with getting close with anyone. I usually slow to get to know to, but i have a few good friends and some social life. I'm super anxious when it about relationship with girls. Im well looking and interesting person. I have kissed a long time ago and did some other stuff, but My only sexual experience was with a prostitute.
I can hang out with a girl and go to a date but when it comes down to being intimate or even close to anyone i kind shot off.
I think i have some kind of performance anxiety.
I'm afraid of sex and intimacy.
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Archie Greenshit - Wed, 24 May 2017 22:37:37 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516471 Ignore Report Quick Reply
The OP is worded badly i'm not 100% sure of the problem, If you can get a girl into bed OP but you struggle to perform viagra works wonders seriosuly get to the doctors. It happened with me, i met a girl and we got together then my dick would just fail to perform, i thought it was some kinda performance anxiety and the doc got me some viagra. I only had to take it a couple of times before my dick would work perfectly normally.
Lydia Sashfield - Thu, 25 May 2017 21:07:19 EST ID:ujVLnpKy No.516497 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I'm exactly the opposite OP. It is difficult for me to be genuine or smooth or w/e with girls on dates and stuff when normally I'm a charismatic, fairly attractive guy. When I have had girlfriends though, or sleep with a chick, I always get comments as to how good of a fuck I am.

As a pervy kid I watched porn (which is not a great way to learn about sex) which got me interested in researching how to go down on girls, how to have good sex, what to do, what not to do, etc.

So I say research it! Get information and learn about intimacy and sex. Also, over time and with experience in sexual encounters, it'll get easier. If you're with a girl that you've been dating and it gets to that point, maybe mention something to the effect that you're a little awkward with sex/intimacy. It's weird, but good chicks really dig honesty and being vulnerable.

Also, just practice. I'm fucking SHIT at dates but I force myself to go to them because each time with a new chick is a little easier, a little better, and a little less awkward. I have such insanely bad anxiety around it but you just gotta get out there and take your lumps, cringe at things you did, and move on. Eventually you'll be at ease and click with someone.
Beatrice Gubblehitch - Thu, 25 May 2017 21:12:43 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516498 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>chicks really dig honesty and being vulnerable

Yeah i agree, if it's not a one night stand the girl will be alright with whatever.
afraid of sex and intimacy - Sun, 28 May 2017 18:28:31 EST ID:hmthINqD No.516573 Ignore Report Quick Reply
The main problem is massive anxiety and lack of experience, tnx for sugestions.
afraid of sex and intimacy - Sun, 28 May 2017 18:30:52 EST ID:hmthINqD No.516574 Ignore Report Quick Reply
tnx for the reply

???? by Graham Seckleworth - Sun, 28 May 2017 04:12:15 EST ID:08b1uP9I No.516559 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm chronically depressed & anxious, have no friends, no job, no car, only income from govt. My family live on the other side of the country, I moved here to be with someone that later dumped me.
I don't talk to many people irl, and now even online I have no real connections anymore. I go to school but people in my class only talk to me if they have to. I never fit in anywhere.
What do? How to get friend? I don't know how to stop isolating myself
Reuben Clollerdock - Sun, 28 May 2017 05:17:22 EST ID:PhlR3Lle No.516560 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Who pays for your college?

You must have some connections to fall back on if someone can be arsed to pay for your college
Cedric Seckleridge - Sun, 28 May 2017 05:24:11 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516562 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Sounds like you've fell into a rut, It's a difficult situation being completely isolated but at least you have school.

Firstly what type of schooling are you doing, how much free time do you have? The easiest fix in my experience is to get a job or at least find some way to earn extra income. You'll get some new people in your life who will hopefully be chill but at the very least will be some more social interaction, spending your time working will reduce the time you feel bored or depressed and you'll have extra money to spend on doing fun things.

As for not isolating yourself in general, you need to look at what you like, if you have some sort of niche hobby you're in luck cause all you need to do is find a group of those people. If your hobbies are a bit more general e.g vidya games you might struggle a bit more so you could try finding something else that might interest you or just persevere.

Since nobody really knows what you're like from your post and we'll never really get a full picture no matter how many posts you make you'll have to look hard at yourself to see why people may not want to talk to you much. Make sure to be objective and don't let your emotions skew your image of yourself, think of examples of everything you come up with.

Do you perhaps act in a way that breaks social etiquette? or maybe you're just far too shy. Think for yourself and then try to improve on it.

Nearly just hung myself. by Lydia Blenkinduck - Thu, 25 May 2017 20:43:43 EST ID:XBteWUdI No.516491 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Just tied myself to my light with a metal wire and it broke just before blacking out. Fuck did I just attempt suicide? What do i do from here out i've never done this before. Carry on with the slower drug based death?
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Fanny Soddlebick - Fri, 26 May 2017 13:38:39 EST ID:2c08/Cs/ No.516509 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Just tied myself to my light with a metal wire and it broke just before blacking out.
>Fuck did I just attempt suicide?
You tied a noose around your neck and you dont know what you're doing??

>What do i do from here out i've never done this before
Get stronger rope, obviously
Beatrice Gubblehitch - Fri, 26 May 2017 19:22:26 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516517 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I was addicted to benz, I managed to get through it although I didn't have much social anxiety or other problems that drive many people to benzos. Why did you start taking benzos? Do you want to quit them?

Anyway I didn't find quitting too hard cause i spread it over a very very long time, i took a low dose for sleeping and to stave off the worst of the withdrawals while following a strict taper over a year and a half.

I still dabble but i'm not going to withdraw or anything.

Just wanted to say that in case you thought quiting benzos always had to be very hard.
Doris Becklepitch - Fri, 26 May 2017 23:45:22 EST ID:XBteWUdI No.516527 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I was incredibly wasted and in shock when i wrote that post, it was a curtain cord, and I tied it properly, the cable on my light broke.
It's nice to hear from someone who came through the other side, good for you. I started benzos as an accidental discovery that remedied my health anxiety and a lil bit of social anxiety, and as I didn't understand the consequences and with the availability via RC back when it was legal it was a miracle drug. Now I'm fully dependent, not addicted. I feel I need professional help to get off them but it's just not available for somebody who took them non prescribed. Lend me your strength bro.
James Cresslecocke - Sat, 27 May 2017 10:56:21 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516533 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Alright, know that your anxiety issues may increase if you start coming off the benzos but also know that the increased mental health problems are completely temporary and can be mostly avoided with a good taper. Do you still have easy access to benzos? If so you should switch to one with a longer halflife and then reduce the dose as much as you can without ill effects, it's from this point i'd start tapering down your dose, take a week or longer at that dose to be sure it's bearable.

Check this out and adapt it to your needs; http://www.benzo.org.uk/manual/bzsched.htm
You can make it last longer or shorter and switch up the doses etc it's just to give you a decent idea.

Anyway as for support do you have any close friends or even family you could admit this to and get some support that way? If not you could always get support from the internet, there's plenty of places that can help and give you some outlet to express how you feel.

Finally though you really need to be sure you want to quit benzos, if you are doing it half heartedly it just won't work, same with any drug. As you know benz are pretty harmless physically aside from the addiction and you can support a habit for many many years without many ill effects, although i must admit they do affect your life in more ways than you know. I feel mentally sharper since i quit and also my memory retention is finally getting to a more acceptable level (after 3 years).

It's probably better for you to quit but like i say if it's not something you see as a big problem you'll probably not do so well unless you find it easier than you thought somehow.

Oh and a quick bonus point; you could always switch your addiction to another drug, taper the benz down and smoke more weed or something. I couldn't do that cause weed puts me in a bad place and I avoided alcohol just in case i got some new and worse addiction but lots of people seem to say smoking weed or doing some other drug helps a bit. Bear in mind that shifting addictions around like this is probably terrible advice but I think it could be better to be smoking too much weed than taking too many benz.

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Graham Seckleworth - Sun, 28 May 2017 03:50:26 EST ID:08b1uP9I No.516555 Ignore Report Quick Reply
What you could do from here is be thankful as hell you didn't injure yourself in some irreversible, debilitating way during your half-assed attempt. You could let it remind you that your life can get MUCH worse if you let it, and find some small steps to take towards getting help for yourself so it doesn't.

She won't talk and it could be life or death. by Nell Packlebig - Sat, 27 May 2017 22:39:52 EST ID:5Yrwit8X No.516549 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I met this girl while we were both homeless. I was good friends with her husband. In fact he told me if he ever went to jail that I should take care of her. That's what I did and she ended up coming on to me. But first she lay clear the fact that she was not married to him and that g was being beat by him badly. In fact she was forced to stay with him because she believed lies about are legal problems.

I end up inviting her over when I get a place to stay and months pass. I don't have a job yet I do everything I can to feed her and buy her drugs. She manages to come up with money two and as always being loyal and honest.

I believe her when she says she doesn't prostitute. I believe she does with a select few people but that is not an issue to me. I need her extra income to fill the gaps. We both discuss needing to get lives together before we get in a relationship with anyone. I want her to know I won't hold her back if she gets in a better situation with another guy.

She has been beat up several times when she goes to do odd jobs. I protect her as much as i can despite she never tells me where she is or what she is doing.

This last time she borrowed 20$ and disappeared for 2 days. She calls and says everything is ok and that she made a lot of money and she's coming home in a few hours. another day passes and she says the same thing. I ask WTF is going on and she can't answer. She keeps responding with the question "What do you want me to do? " despite me saying drop the fucking job if they aren't paying you or letting you go when you want to.

In the last 4 days she showed up once and conned me into believing she needed a change of clothes but will be back in the morning. She mentioned there is a tent she can sleep in which is everything I thought I was saving her from. I can't call her and the phone she calls from belongs to a shady guy according to reverse number look up.

Last time we talked i suggested she take her shit and leave. I feel like she won't admit that is what she wants to do.

I think I might love her. I think she conned me. Or she could be kidnapped. I don't know the truth.
Cedric Seckleridge - Sat, 27 May 2017 23:26:10 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516550 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Look at it from her perspective, she was with a guy that may or may not have mistreated her and she was in a situation where she needed to look out for herself. So she stayed with him for the opportunities and security, probably while doing her own thing for extra income etc. Then that guy went away and she told you exactly what you needed so that you would provide as much as you could for her and now she has found someone else. I think she may be going through the same process again, she may even downgrade her living situation to do this for a number of reasons; it could be possible she doesn't want you to get too attached or she may be doing things she doesn't want you to know about.

Don't hold it against her, in a situation like that people will do anything for security but it's pretty obvious from my perspective that she used you for emotional and financial stability.

A little bit of extra advice that i doubt you'll take; stop the drugs, sure we all love them but your current situation does not allow for an addiction or even occasional use and it just opens up the possibilities that people will use you for them. It can be a bitch but i got through it.
Cedric Seckleridge - Sat, 27 May 2017 23:31:51 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516551 Ignore Report Quick Reply
As for how to handle the situation;
Ask her to tell you the truth, make her understand that it doesn't matter if she's been doing shady stuff, cheating, hiding money / drugs from you, prostitution etc etc
Explain that none of this matters now and that you just need to know what's really going on, finding out the truth could open up new possibilities to sort this out, at the very least it will make it easier to move on if what she has done is too much for you to deal with.

Don't let yourself be used and i'd probably consider that a relationship in which a person prostitutes themselves might not be able to become a healthy relationship.

Do everything you can to get yourself to a better place and surrounded by better people.
Graham Seckleworth - Sun, 28 May 2017 03:42:48 EST ID:08b1uP9I No.516554 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Sounds like pretty typical junkie behavior, man. You can't help her and she can't help you. I'd get a lot less involved with her if i were you, before things turn real ugly.

Dealing with the fact that you're an unrepentant freak and nobody will ever want you by Hugh Samblehood - Sat, 27 May 2017 20:41:06 EST ID:zbKXnohS No.516544 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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is an hero the only solution?
Cedric Seckleridge - Sat, 27 May 2017 20:53:38 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516546 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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OP don't feel bad, you just need to work on yourself a little bit, I think I have a pretty good idea of why you feel this way and why people probably think you are a bit of a freak. Also before i go on i'm sure freak is probably a bit of a strong word and i'm not so sure anyone actually thinks you're that bad. Anyway though i think your problem and what you need to work on is your ability to construct a half decent thread.
Charles Hadgeforth - Sun, 28 May 2017 00:04:46 EST ID:6Wnvue0u No.516552 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It pretty much is but I guess I should probably chant the, "It might get better for some unknown reason so just keep living in misery." mantra but in all honesty, I'd kill myself if I had the courage to do so.

Being a complete outcast that can't function with people when you are a social creature by nature is torture. Also, health issues and having your body go to shit in your 20's is also a for real buzzkill. Such is life. Mental torture along with physical pain.
Isabella Dricklefad - Sun, 28 May 2017 03:42:39 EST ID:odI2jO9j No.516553 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Nope. MGTOW, brother. Women are trash in the first place.
Nicholas Bangerridge - Sun, 28 May 2017 08:39:46 EST ID:1hqogB9q No.516563 Ignore Report Quick Reply



not this
Hugh Samblehood - Sun, 28 May 2017 17:12:53 EST ID:zbKXnohS No.516572 Ignore Report Quick Reply

you people lose hope very easily

get out of my thread nb

Porn Drugs Apathy and Suicide by Cyril Farringham - Sat, 27 May 2017 11:32:54 EST ID:3hagcIhi No.516535 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I am not sure why I am even writing this since. I am 22 currently. I developed a severe internet/porn addiction when young which only got worse and worse throughout my late teens. for most of my teen years I had planned to kill myself after school/college as I could not see myself ever being in some form of work.

I also developed a fear of intimacy with women and with internet and porn destroying my life social skills I have had the belief that I could never really have a successful relationship with a woman. This further motivated suicidal ideation since I guess even though it is probably a delusion, I have viewed most of my happiness to come from having a healthy relationship and sex life. Now I am not completely autistic and can talk to women somewhat and managed to land a girlfriend at one point but it didn't last long and I dissapointed her sexually which really damaged my masculinity. Porn addiction had numbed me so I could not get into sex and just had performance anxiety throughout the act. I struggled to get hard and came quickly as a result of not being able to get hard. This really destroyed my confidence in future relationships and has fueled the porn addiction further out of fear of opening myself up to a woman again.

Add drugs into the mix as since I was depressed when not numbing myself with porn I always felt like I had a bland personality when not drunk or on drugs. I began to more mentally sober and eventually dropped alcohol and weed since they didn't do what I sought from them. I eventually started using all the dissociatives, psychedelics and various other drugs including a bit of amphetamine. For a time I quit porn but eventually fell back into it cuz drugs eroded any motivation I had. I am currently about to be sober as of both for good now.

My problem is the hole I feel I have dug myself through not developing myself due to apathy and suicidal ideation along the lines of "idc I will just kill myself later so it doesn't matter". I have also only believed that my teens and early twenties will be the only part of life worth living. The one chick I have an interest in pursuing is interstate but it's not like that matters cuz if she was here she would see …
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Cyril Farringham - Sat, 27 May 2017 11:46:44 EST ID:3hagcIhi No.516536 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Ugh sorry for all the mistakes I am on little sleep. I guess the tl;dr is I feel like I have wasted most of my life.

I have some teen love romance thing I feel like I'll never get with the girl I am interested with who is out of reach. I can't see myself being able to maintain a relationship with someone since I can talk to them but my anxieties and fears don't make me a fun person when not on drugs and I just feel like I'd run out of stuff to say if I had to keep constant contact with a gf. I feel like I'd never be able to sexually satisfy potential female interests in my life so I'd never engage into a relation with them, not to mention not having a job or car further reinforces the fact that I am not ready for one. It comes off really pathetic since my problems are all self created and in reality there is really nothing stopping me from going out there and finding a part time job and getting over fear of driving and anxiety but I really just feel so fucking burnt out all the time. I have begun cutting out all processed foods and am eating real clean and want to start exercise and get good sleeping patterns to try and fix the damage i have done through drugs and sexual addiction. I'd cum so many times a day I hardly even feel anything anymore. The main problem is the damage I have done to myself feels like it will take years of repair and I don't want it to take years I feel like I should be in the prime of my life right now but I'm a pathetic burn out
Cyril Farringham - Sat, 27 May 2017 12:06:07 EST ID:3hagcIhi No.516537 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Does anyone else here feel like in terms of relationships with people they're the type of person who is socially better in small groups of people? I feel like I am cool to talk to once in a while because that gap has given me enough stuff to talk about but if I were to be with someone a lot for example in a relationship I just struggle to find anything of value to say? It fucks with my head so much since I am a somewhat pretentious person as well and I don't really have many things to talk about outside of drugs or psychedelic experiences. This is not a problem online since conversation flows differently and I can talk to the chick I like all day about everything from random topics to playing around with pretend scenarios, deep issues and I feel like I can be a naturally witty and humourus person online. Why do I fall to pieces in person ffs. It's like I can't think on the spot or struggle to think of a word or how i want to say something on the spot so i get anxiety which makes it worse. I feel dissociative and weed abuse has made this flaw in myself noticeably worse. And I was not even that aware of it before I started using, though I was a less conscious person before i used drugs. Fuck does anyone have this problem?
Eugene Duttingmin - Sat, 27 May 2017 13:19:39 EST ID:UrQwPY3E No.516538 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Wow dude you're a handfull of anxieties. I am/was a lot like you. Try to cut off the porn. Not jerking off, just watching less porn, or watching it less on drugs, or watch rather normal stuff. That will already make a diffence for you.

Training and doing less drugs (aka not smoking everyday) will also make a huge difference (at least it did for me). Also, training can be sort of a drug, running a lot for example leaves you with a great high. You could try that.

The other stuff it's just you overthinking. Do you have friends? Having a stable relationship you'll talk about the most banal stuff. Some old dude you ran into a while ago and seemed funny, or some thought that crossed your mind or whatever bullshit you're thinking of. That being said, you should find yourself interesting. I mean if you think you're boring well... you should do something to change that. Start doing some activity or hobby. I personally don't like people who can only talk about drugs (I used to be like that). Find stuff that interests you. In regards to sex well... it takes practice to get better. Maybe you can watch some porn tutorial? I've taken a couple ideas from online videos. But still you'll need to actually do it to get better. If it makes you feel any better, there's a lot of dudes that don't give a shit if their partner is satisfied, so you're already at an advantage there
Nicholas Crillybetch - Sat, 27 May 2017 13:52:31 EST ID:n1yNxChx No.516539 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>"idc I will just kill myself later so it doesn't matter"
Yeah. I know what you mean.
Two things, I think, if you're anything like me. Try to think about what it actually means.

The first is "having a life", and the second is "living in a healthy way". What do those things mean? I think that the former is having stuff to do, and the latter is, well, exploring the world, breaking down barriers, building things in your life. It sounds like, and again, if you're anything like me, your vices have taken over your waking life and you find that your life is this amorphous purgatory.. And the vices act as, well, a vice, trapping you in this state. Drugs were fucking me up big time, and I know I would've committed suicide if I didn't manage to stop. Like, 100%, no doubt. I didn't even do it on my own; it literally took an act of God to get me to stop. I was living in this wonderfully manic dream world, but my real life, the life that would actually sustain me and make being alive worth it was so undeveloped that I was starving to death. There were and still are glaring problems that I was ignoring, and there were and are still things I do did to stay there, things that I knew were fucking me.

Another thing, I have a lot of pain in me from my past.
>"idc I will just kill myself later so it doesn't matter"
This is sort of what I use to cope. I'm 24 and things aren't wonderful with me, but I have to admit they are improving, despite me doing things to sabotage. I went to bed at 5am yesterday, for instance. Shit like this just makes me fucking tired all the time and I hate it because I'm tired of living this way. I want to actually be a human being, you know? I want to have a life. I think my pain and my vices, which still exist but are not nearly as powerful today, take up the space that would otherwise place new things, new people and constructive, life-giving things.

Regarding being a healthy person, I think that a person's life is a reflection of who they are inside. The state that they exist in on a day to day basis. When I say state, I mean how you feel. Things like exercise and proper diet and nutrition are real…
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Social life instructions by Jenny Buzzway - Mon, 22 May 2017 16:33:58 EST ID:UrQwPY3E No.516411 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Don't you ever get the feeling everyone else's got like... a booklet or some kind of instructions on how to behave socially, and your's got lost or didn't arrive on time? I get the feel most people know how to handle certain situations gracefully, like, with good taste, where I just blank or space out. I get the feeling I'm missing a basic social guideline most people have. It sucks. It's not like I don't have friends or don't go out, and It has gotten better with time, but I still feel like this deep strangement with many social situations, or some things going sour or taking a lot of effort when I feel it should be a lot easier. I mostly didn't feel like this when I spent some months travelling though, dunno what that means. Well, I don't know where I'm going with this really, I'm just a bit down.
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Graham Brocklestat - Thu, 25 May 2017 18:17:38 EST ID:UrQwPY3E No.516487 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Yes, after the other posts I guessed your questions were going in that direction. If I understand what you're meaning correctly, a good question would be: Is a really shy/akward person actually distinguishable from a really high functioning autist? I don't really feel as an autist, but I guess it doesn't matter that much either... I've done therapy many years and worked a lot that stuff. It was never outspoken treatment for autism but interpersonal relationships were always what the sessions were about.

I've just been really depressed and feeling like a loner lately, these last couple of months have been really tough. I'm finding an absolute lack of meaning in everything I do, and therefore having a hard time actually doing the stuff I oughtta be doing

Last week I ran twice into my ex (I hadn't seen her in a year), she walked past me as if I were a ghost (she hates me though). Last sunday a girl I'd went out with a couple times suddenly stopped talking to me, like, out of the blue. Then, the next day, I was going through Tinder and I found the girl who shattered my heart to pieces a couple months ago (this girl is what triggered my depression and despair, I still don't know what to do about her and think about her constantly). The next fucking day, I walk out of my house, and find a girl I'd dated, and really liked, but who'd only talk to me when she needed a favour or something, making out with some dude: she says hi to me, and introduces me to her new bf. Fuck. Then, to cope with it all, I went out with this really ugly tinder girl yesterday, it was honestly just to feel a bit more wanted, we were making out on the street and I was telling her to come to my place, then out of nowhere this bum shows up and tells us he doesnt want to hurt us and to give him our phones (we didn't). Like, how much worse can this get?

What's that about podcasts and stand up comedy?

Thanks everyone for all your answers. It's nice having a supportive community, someone outside daily life one can go to for help and support. I've signed up for two acting workshops, one starting next week, the other one starting a couple weeks from now, I'm doin…
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Archie Greenshit - Thu, 25 May 2017 19:24:59 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516488 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Is a really shy/akward person actually distinguishable from a really high functioning autist?
No don't worry.
> but I guess it doesn't matter that much either...
>I've just been really depressed and feeling like a loner lately, these last couple of months have been really tough
Things will get better, i've been through it what's your age and living/work situation?
>bum shows up and tells us he doesnt want to hurt us and to give him our phones (we didn't). Like, how much worse can this get?
Just a shitty situation that will pass and you've gotta build up your own self esteem/worth, a self confidence that doesn't require others to reinforce it to move past these other girls. You don't need to be very self confident just have a little more faith in yourself, we're all human.
>or simply stop caring about that and focus on my stuff
generally i'd reccomend this since i don't know too much about you or your feelings but this option is often better, work on yourself and do you first, girls come later and it will be better.
Archie Washshit - Thu, 25 May 2017 19:59:06 EST ID:p2R/PlmZ No.516489 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Its a trick: In every movie which stars everyday situations you have the male leads being socially awkward about stuff while the normal people are normal. However the viewer is being made to identify with the main character.
Everybody watches this propaganda from an early age and slowly becomes that dude who gets weird when "asking the girl to prom"
Eugene Duttingmin - Sat, 27 May 2017 01:42:13 EST ID:UrQwPY3E No.516529 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Tomorrow I'm going to a film projection/party with a couple friends (actually two friends who are a couple), where I was invited by this girl I'm sort of dating, who sort of told she sort of didn't want to actually date me, but also sort of wanted to keep seeing me.

I was thinking of doing just threshold dose of md tomorrow, just to, I don't know, be more lively there, and not get so nervous around her (she's gonna be painting a mural, and all her friends are gonna be there, I'm gonna be rather the loner). Good idea? Bad Idea? My friends may leave early and I might end up alone on md in this party, or leave with them and just be high and alone in my house, which might be even worse. The chances of leaving with this girl are close to cero, given she's one of the organizers of the event and sort cold, she probably wont like being seen leaving with someone.

I'm 26, living with my parents, and have a really fun job I really like but it doesn't pay well. Kindda sick of living with my parents, but it's really common where I'm from, at least untill people finish college (next year for me)
Nicholas Hivingstock - Sat, 27 May 2017 10:57:59 EST ID:/+/u/pN5 No.516534 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Do it. My life improved by a lot once I realized going to things on your own is amazing Look at it like an adventure and talk to people you wouldnt otherwise

My friends girlfriend irritates the everloving shit out of me hardcore by Sheriff of Noddingham - Wed, 24 May 2017 06:56:14 EST ID:FucrEdSx No.516442 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey qq, i have a problem that i never thought i'd have but here i am having it.
First some backstory. Me and my best friend are really close, we're best friends and have been for a long time. We know eachother really well and have been through some shit. I value his company and our friendship a lot and we always have great conversations.

Last year he started seeing a girl who managed to make herself a part of his everyday life. There is never a moment when this girl is not with my bro. Not only do they now live together, but she is extremely clingy. In the past whenever he went to hangout with me, or with our group of friends by himself, she would blow up his phone and create the stupidest most insignificant of problems in an effort to get him to come back to her or to be sucked into a long conversation with her. Eventually i'm guessing he got tired of that happening, so to spare himself the annoyance, he now never does anything without her. And i mean anything. She is with him every waking moment of his life. I don't know how he does it honestly. He has no where to go aside from living with her so its probably more out of necessity than anything i think.

Let me be clear, if this girl was was a cool girlfriend, i wouldn't mind at all. I enjoy spending time around people that are cool. But being around this girl is like nails on a chalkboard to me and i have to endure it any time i want to hangout with my best friend. I just don't know what to fucking do. This girl being around anytime i want to hangout with my friend is so grating on my soul its not even funny. I have to force myself not to say things like how fucking absurdly clingy/needy to the point i can't have a conversation with my friend since that means his attention will be off her. It honestly nauseates me sometimes. But i can't say anything out of respect for my friend since it is his girlfriend and all.

What really irks me, is that when this girl is around, its actually hard to just have a conversation with my friend. She is so clingy and in need of constant attention that if i have a conversation with my friend for longer than 2 minutes she'll start saying "babe, babe, babe" over and over again trying to bring his attention away from the conversation back over to her. Then she'll bring up something completely unrelated to the conversation. When she starts talking about something it is literally nonstop, and she does it pretty much just for the sake of having my bestfriend listen to it, thus paying attention to her. Its also always in a whiney baby voice, the same tone a child uses when they want their parents to buy them something at the grocery store. One time while my friend and i were talking either about how all sugars are dextrotory isomers instead of the leveratory isomer versions, or ayahuasca, one of those things, she started pulling on his sleeve saying babe over and over again until there was a millisecond pause in the conversation we were having, and in the manner of not being able to contain these insightful words in her a second longer, she started talking to him about painting a wall earlier that day and described it in great detail. That tangent went on for a solid 10 to 15 minutes. When she was done, my friend brought the topic back up we were talking about before, and she got angry at him saying "babe why do you always interrupt me, i hate it when you do that". Then the topic changed to him interrupting her and that went on for longer than the last conversation. This is just one of the many examples to try to showcase what this girl is like to be around.

One night since my friend was talking to me instead of his gf, she was getting irritated. She kept asking my friend to come to bed with her, over and over and over again. She had to get up early for work, so she needed to go to bed soon. She complained she had to get up early and she reaaally needed to go to bed urgently. She framed is as if she was unable to go to bed unless my bro went to bed with her. My bro said he wanted to keep hanging out in the living room and told her she should go to bed without him so she can get up early. She was not having that, so she decided to complain to him. Eventually he cracked and said he'll go to bed with her when he finished his beer and smoked a cigarette. What followed was fucking brutal for me to witness and made me sick. She asked him over and over again if he promised he would go to bed with her. "You promise you'll come to bed with me when your done smoking" "yes babe" "okay, promise me again you'll come to bed when your done. please don't lie to me, come to bed with me. i have to get up sooo early i should have been in bed 2 hours ago why didn't you come to bed with me". Shit like that. While he was smoking his last cigarette before the end, over and over again she told him to hurry up.

At the climax of the night, the three of us were outside, my bro and i smoking a cig talking about something i don't remember. Everytime he finished his sentence, his gf would pull his sleeve and say, babe stop talking hurry up and smoke, i have to go to bed. Over and over and over again. After she said that we would resume the conversation, and she would get more whiney and say "baaaaaabe stoooppp talking and smooke" interrupting him mid sentence making it impossible for us to even talk. She was acting like the 5 extra minutes he was taking to smoke his last cigarette was like the veil between like and death. It was so disgusting i can't even describe it. Me and him were trying to talk for the last few minutes we had before he had to go lay down with his gf, and she would interrupt him every single time he tried to respond to what i was saying because him talking meant he couldn't be smoking his cigarette. I'm not even exaggerating at all. It sickens me honestly lol. I feel bad about saying such mean words about another person and writing what feels like a novel on how much they bug me but its how i really feel.
After that day, she started subtly saying some nasty stuff to try and drive me and my friend apart. Things like "you'd rather spend time with him than me" Or things like "He might as well be your boyfriend." This was a week or two ago she started making those kinds of comments. On top of of being a needy whiney annoying girlfriend, she crossed a line into making personal insults and started actively making comments meant to put tension on me and my bros friendship. Though subtle and keeping the jokes in a half joking manner, its still clear what she's trying to do and it bugs me even more.

This honestly makes me feel kind of bad and mean writing such a long rant and using some of the harsh words i did about another person that i see often, but its how i feel. To be fair other than the stuff i described she's not really a mean person and has never done anything bad to me.
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Sidney Drunderforth - Thu, 25 May 2017 11:00:12 EST ID:G6vsBNGP No.516480 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Doesn't she have a job or something?
Lydia Sashfield - Thu, 25 May 2017 20:54:25 EST ID:ujVLnpKy No.516495 Ignore Report Quick Reply
If he is your best friend can't you just be honest with him and tell basically tell him what you told us? Just get him alone and tell him that you are happy for him and his girlfriend but you'd really like to hang out with him like you used to.

If that doesn't work then your best friend probably isn't as invested in your friendship as you are. I absolutely get it man: I was your friend for awhile but most people liked my girlfriend, she was just everywhere with me and where I went. Eventually some of my friends asked if maybe we could just chill together even though they liked her and I didn't even realize that was an issue. They were very cool about it and things worked out for the best! I started hanging out with them without my gf sometimes and sometimes still with, and everything was good.

Just be honest with him! That's what friends do, man.
Ebenezer Sazzlehit - Fri, 26 May 2017 17:42:16 EST ID:mB3oAGCi No.516515 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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give her a task that makes her feel important. Do you have a girlfriend? If you do then drag her along as a distraction for your buddies girl. If not then even better, mention casually how you wish you had a relationship like theirs (lying is ok sometimes) she will probably pounce on that pretty quick and try to hook you up with someone (it may take some navigating to get to this point) and the goal here is to either A) she finds herself a friend that is down to bang you and will keep her entertained while you hang out with your buddy OR better yet B) she involves someone who she has a different social standing with and this behaviour stops while she is around. IT would be wayy more ideal if already had a girl or you could get one on your own. LOng story short find her a friend or alternatively find some way that makes her feel as if she is valued by you so there's no need for her to be in competition with you when it comes to your friend.
James Cresslecocke - Fri, 26 May 2017 20:17:56 EST ID:RWMYdvNQ No.516524 Ignore Report Quick Reply
That's actually a decent plan
George Perryford - Sat, 27 May 2017 06:48:58 EST ID:tldOIKN9 No.516531 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I cannot relate fully but I am often forced into being a third wheel when I want to hang out with my only boy. I feel you, it fucks the vibes.
Anyways, talking to your homie about it is difficult since he might tell her about it and then she'll convince him to cut contact with you. Girls fucking up friendships is fucking real, man. Beware that he might value that clingy bitch over you

What to do with this chick by Cedric Wannerdock - Wed, 19 Apr 2017 01:38:56 EST ID:rq2JgAzW No.515587 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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What up /qq/ last time I posted you guys gave me a bunch of bs because you couldn't possibly fathom that I'm not a beta nerd but I have no one else to turn to so here goes

So I let this chick move in with me last week, she is my best friend's ex, she recently split up with her fiance and just got out of jail and had no place else to go and no one to stay with but a bunch of horny guys who just wanted to have sex with her.

This girl is incredibly fucked up, she has been through so much fucked up shit there is literally no way for me to process it but laughing at it, she's a mess, she's got really bad PTSD, anxiety and depression and HPPD from acid and comes up with a new insanely fucked up story every day. Like, I've been through some shit, but I've had a pretty good life, my parents are together, I went to college, I generally hang out with hippies who are good people and somewhat have their shit together, I just can't deal with this shit, she is too crazy and fucked up for me to handle. I really like her, I'm willing to listen to her talk as much as she needs to and be there for her but I just can't really understand it and I don't know what to do, you know?

She's also rather low energy, she's very shy and doesn't meet new people well which neither do I which is a bad combination, and she can't keep up with me when I'm partying and going all out which I don't do that often but is my main purpose in life at the moment. She doesn't really like my kind of music and can't handle festivals. She also has a kid, and like... she's a really sweet person and has a cute face but her body's like a 4/10, she has literally no ass and I'm a good looking guy and I like curvy blondes.

Anyway, at first she kept telling me about other dudes she stayed with trying to fuck her and she kept her distance at first but she doesn't really know anyone in town except me and my roomate and has been hanging out with me and following me around pretty much the whole time while messaging her ex and it's pretty clear that she likes me. She has made quite a few comments about the kind of guys she likes to be with and I'm pretty s…
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Eliza Blopperpat - Mon, 08 May 2017 04:57:47 EST ID:Umzpjfv8 No.516071 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Why bump this?
Ian Nengermadge - Mon, 08 May 2017 18:32:59 EST ID:n1yNxChx No.516086 Ignore Report Quick Reply
i hope she doesn't get all clingy little nigga
i hope entering her bear doesn't end up hurting anybody
entering the bear is a good thing
if she's a cute one, then entering her bear is a good thing because us guys like to enter the bears of cute girls

translator's note: bear means vagina
Angus Wurringwill - Mon, 08 May 2017 21:08:51 EST ID:I2FTZEKQ No.516090 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP, that's a corgi, not a girl.
Ebenezer Bazzlehitch - Thu, 25 May 2017 14:30:29 EST ID:pXo6ANrc No.516483 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Well you guys she left.

I went to New Jersey and did acid and decided I didn't want to be with her so we should stop hooking up. So she stayed for a week but got more and more miserable and bitchy. Then last weekend I went to Tipper at Suwannee and did a lot more acid and some ketamine and when I got back she was gone.

Also shes not pregnant.

So I got laid for a while, got to not feel so lonely and hopefully helped her get over her piece of shit ex and not get raped by meth heads. If she was down to up and dip and found someone who would give her a ride with all her stuff I guess she probably found a place to go. So hopefully she is ok. I did spend all my money on her but eh, thats what moneys for, i got a new job yesterday, didn't really have all that much in the first place. I'll bring her to a music festival sometime when she's off probation.

Anyway yeah, just wanted to let you guys know that sometimes there is a happy ending.
Jack Clebblepad - Thu, 25 May 2017 16:16:45 EST ID:PhlR3Lle No.516484 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Being called a nazi by Basil Billertotch - Sat, 13 May 2017 16:02:12 EST ID:qnjaZr5e No.516205 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I don't know where else to post this.
So I was walking around the supermarket with my dad. I rarely see him, I think he kinda turned out to be an asshole.
Anyway, at some point a woman's baby car blocked the way. My dad gently pushed the cart inside and the woman screamed: "hands of my child!" I thought my dad shouldn't've done that, but the woman was obviously crazy. After that I saw my dad say something pretty aggressively. I don't know what it was but she exclaimed he had said she had to go back to where she had come from. She called him a nazi. Now, my dad might be an asshole, but I just couldn't believe he'd said that. He walked away but I confronted the lady and said he would never say anything like that. She said I was a nazi too so I walked off. After we came out the supermarket, she filmed us. I feel fucking horrible, why does this happen? I hate my father even more, I don't want to speak to him ever again, because i kinda believe the crazy woman. Why would she call me that though. I know It's weird to put this here, but I'm ashamed for all my friends to tell this. I feel I should construct a fake reality for them. What should I do? Why do people call me a nazi? I'm a socialist for God's sake. Pic unrelated.
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Fucking Clindergold - Mon, 22 May 2017 11:47:30 EST ID:omX2BDyl No.516399 Ignore Report Quick Reply

OP seems to have the average politics of this site so that's probably real.
Fucking Clindergold - Mon, 22 May 2017 11:48:54 EST ID:omX2BDyl No.516400 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Actually most alleged nazis just think that you should have your own nation that's separate from theirs.
Simon Bottinggold - Mon, 22 May 2017 11:59:51 EST ID:XOLTuy53 No.516402 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You guys are all fucking faggots. LIbertarianism is best.
Beatrice Chinkinman - Mon, 22 May 2017 12:10:54 EST ID:WCiWyIpM No.516403 Ignore Report Quick Reply
no you are naive
Alice Blenkinlock - Wed, 24 May 2017 23:57:45 EST ID:XdSbe0YD No.516474 Ignore Report Quick Reply


internet historians/political professors

Crazy people call sane people nazis all the time. Get used to it.

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