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roommate problems by Barnaby Bigglestone - Fri, 30 Dec 2016 16:06:01 EST ID:HxsrKWsI No.511994 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey /qq/,
I've been having some problems recently with the person I live with. A little backstory:
I moved to a different city with my girlfriend since she got a decent job here and decided to take it due to recently graduating from uni and not having any work experience. Her family lives in this city as well, and they're very nice people. They bought a duplex and she moved in to the first floor, where they live on the second. Now her uncle also lives on the first floor, and therefore we're to share this 3 bedroom 1 bathroom floor.
I moved here despite not having been done university, so I transferred because I knew it would make her happy to have me here with her.
Now her uncle is a nice guy and all, but I've come to find out he's extremely selfish and inconsiderate of others.

He's single and likes to spend the majority of his free time watching TV on his desktop computer, which is in the living room. The living room is connected to mine and my gf's room.
He has earphones and puts them in when me and my gf go to bed, since we wake up earlier than him and thus go to bed earlier. However, when we're not sleeping, he prefers to watch TV out loud, and when I mean out loud I mean really loud to drown out any outside noise. This is incredibly irritating because when she and I are in the kitchen (which is openly connected to the living room) cooking, we have to talk really loud to hear each other. He constantly is watching shit like two and a half men and big bang theory which have those annoying laugh tracks.
Now I never made a big deal out of it, and have not complained to him at all because we're sharing common space. However, whenever I have exams, which is basically the only time I study during my semesters, I politely ask him if he can put in his earphones so i can concentrate. Now I've tried using earplugs (which I use at night to prevent me from hearing him moving around, which works fine), but he watches TV so loud that it gets through, thus why I ask him to use earphones.
Now 2 weeks ago I was in the middle of my exam period, and he didn't have work for a week so he was staying up really late. I had asked him if he could turn off the lights because it was 1 in the morning and the light gets through these cracks of our door due to it being crooked, and considering how he was only watching TV, I figured he didn't need light. He got upset, telling me how he needs light, so I said fuck it and went back to bed.

Like two days later, I was about to study and asked him to put earphones in. He completely lost it, telling me that I'm constantly complaining (I don't actually complain, I honestly just ask), and that I'm "bringing everyone in the house down because I always need it to be quiet", and how "he's single and wants to enjoy himself without considering others", and then told me that I'm a guest in the house and that he gets priority over me, because I don't pay rent (my girlfriend pays rent to her father, and she pays for me, as we agreed that when she graduates and gets a job, she'll support me just as I supported her when I had a job and she was in school).
Anyways, I told that to my gf, she had a discussion with her parents and they talked it out, and he came to the "reasonable" solution that he'll watch with earphones in the week, but on the week end it's fair game to be loud, and that if I need to study quietly, I can go to my school library.
I asked him if he really thought it was more fair for me to have to leave and travel up to an hour and a half to get to school so I can study, rather than him wearing earphones only on week ends when I have exams. He constantly argued saying that this was what was fair for him, and I told him we'd figure it out later, because I was still in exams and didn't feel like stressing out more than I already was.
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Fucking Wankinstone - Fri, 30 Dec 2016 16:56:07 EST ID:E97U6TTS No.511996 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Your roommate sounds like a complete dickhead. This is exactly why I moved out of shared houses and got my own place, even though it costs me a lot more money.

Anyway, you should have a serious talk with him and discuss these issues. These things bottle up and one day one of you is going to let it all burst out and it won't be nice.
Sit down with him, have a couple of drinks and discuss what's fair, and which kinds of compromises you can both make. You're living together and that's always a challenge and to make things amicable comes from both sides.
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Jack Bullerfot - Fri, 30 Dec 2016 17:37:43 EST ID:mu8hf6Xw No.511998 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I know he doesn't seem very cool or respectful but unless you can talk it out there's not gonna be anything you can do about it. He doesn't exactly seem very chill. If you can get a little more ambivalent about him and his stupid small shit? That could help. Not sure that's gonna be easy to manage. Your girl ain't gonna be able to fix it though. So unless you figure out a way to get along with the dude yourself, you're stuck.Might just have to wait it out and find a way you and your girl can have you own place once you gotta enough dosh.

>>511995
This is also a real possibility. I mean its not option a. But sex really can bring people together. I'd keep the other uncle out of it though. All three of you are gonna need to come together in some of major harmony to really work out all this tension. But I mean it really could turn around and make things better. And at the worst he'll feel so awkward from there he stops talking to you. Which in this case could be a total success. Consider this as a backup plan I guess.
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Polly Cimmleson - Fri, 30 Dec 2016 20:40:14 EST ID:ZunogzLE No.512002 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511998
That sex thing is pretty gross considering he's 15 years older than me and is my girlfriend's uncle.

The reason I'm being so passive is because I don't want to cause tension in the family. Same reason my gf is being passive as well, considering how she's usually very outspoken and often defends me.

Here's some more shit he does:
Several times, when I've come home from school or something and he's been home for a while, he'll see me come in, and before I get a chance to remove my coat, he'll run in the bathroom. This wouldn't be so bad if he just went to pee, but he often goes to shit when he does that, and he doesn't just shit and finish, he'll literally sit for 45 minutes reading stuff. Last time he did it he took a shit, clipped his nails and showered. Took like 2 hours, yet didn't ask me if I had to go even though I just got home.

Also, just today he showed his rule for being loud on weekends only applies to him. I was playing some Xbox and he was watching TV in the living room, where my game console and TV are in my room. I could hear his TV and needed to turn mine up to drown out the sound and so I could hear the gameplay. Apparently he went and complained to his sister (my mother in law) upstairs that I was being too loud on purpose to try to make him mad.

I'm sorry I'm just complaining but there's not really anything else I can do since he ain't listen to reason and my girlfriend won't want to take it up with him to avoid family drama
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Cornelius Shittingham - Fri, 30 Dec 2016 21:29:44 EST ID:HxsrKWsI No.512003 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512002
Meant to write won't listen to reason, don't know why phone corrected to ain't
Nb
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Martin Fovingwill - Sat, 31 Dec 2016 03:21:59 EST ID:mu8hf6Xw No.512006 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512002
The sex thing was a joke. I tend to relate my ideas and advice in the same way that I do in real life. So I tend to try and relate to one thing with a bit of comedy or an off idea, or something to give it a little zest and the rest of it I try and relate more directly.

Look, it sounds like this guys too selfish to live with long term. I truly do believe that the only thing that you can do is suck it for now. Now while you're sucking it up, make real attempts at talking this out directly with him. Don't go through other people. Go and try and do it face to face. Its probably not going to work. But keep at it, you might break his barrier. But in the long term plan for you and your girl to have your own place.

Or; the alternative you could also set up a big ban theory club with him and really dig in for some of marathons of that. Could even invite people from around the neighborhood, have a whole big ban theory club.

At the very least try and relate to the guy in some way. If you can do that, and he can to you, then you're on a much easier path to making things work out. And if you could get there you'd forge an understanding and you two wouldn't have issues ongoing. I still see that not working but I'm going off of what've you said.


TFW you know it's just beginning... by Hedda Pibbertere - Fri, 30 Dec 2016 07:32:13 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.511989 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uDy4ozCbQHY

Happy 2017


Degeneration by Lillian Blapperworth - Mon, 26 Dec 2016 17:01:40 EST ID:6JfoQx75 No.511931 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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What if one day you would realize, that you are a great example of a degenerated human being.
All of your hair falling out as a kid, your IQ is shit, you've had episodes of psychosis, you think psychedelics are a tool for spiritual growth and you're constantly depressed. Every little fuck-up feels like the end of the world.
Even half of your family has already committed suicide.

I know people around me see this

I don't feel like i have a place in this world anymore, except in being a part of it's destruction.
The honourable, strong, intelligent white european man is mostly gone and this is what is left.

I just wanted to vent, what i've been thinking and maybe even hear someone say something
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Molly Ballyket - Tue, 27 Dec 2016 08:18:05 EST ID:6JfoQx75 No.511948 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511940
I think there might be some truth to what you're saying too.
Some outside influence might've been taken too seriously
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Sophie Dammersore - Tue, 27 Dec 2016 09:53:35 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.511949 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>511947
>my ancestors
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Emma Shakeworth - Thu, 29 Dec 2016 01:15:00 EST ID:yCtZszH5 No.511967 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Removal of selective pressure + explosive population growth means more people with bad genetics and more with good ones too OP. I'm sure if you look deeply at your issues you'll see you're a little new with a lot of old mixed in. Once I understood that my ancestors lived harder lives and that made them better people I started throwing away my crutches. Take your pills, work, adapt to the new. Things will make more sense as you get closer to their way of life. There is honor in survival! GL OP and ignore these caricatures shitting up your thread. Having pride or humility about yourself and your heritage is natural and normal and will lead to understanding
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Jenny Duckstone - Thu, 29 Dec 2016 03:22:43 EST ID:DVEkpOzU No.511970 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511967
Thank you for what you have written. I am not the OP; I did not follow the thread.

I have taken something from your words, however, and it's a gift of hope that I was too weak to give myself today.
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Augustus Claywill - Thu, 29 Dec 2016 03:24:45 EST ID:mu8hf6Xw No.511971 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Shouting that everything is lacking doesn't really make you much of a thinker. It just makes you bland and as tired as your argument is.
>degenerated
> honourable, strong, intelligent white european man
Too many buzzwords come up with something of your own honestly.


How do I change? by Lydia Dullyfield - Wed, 28 Dec 2016 02:27:52 EST ID:MMzMHDKM No.511952 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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At heart, sometimes, I just want to back a bag and go. See somewhere little and new, do odd jobs and make friends, stay awhile and then move on.

Is it just because I basically am doing the opposite of that right now? Well im better than I was a few months ago, but not where id like to be. I feel trapped in a life I dislike, but getting out of that would mean saying goodbye, if only for awhile, but still. My parents are getting old, and it scares the hell out of me. In a few years my closest friends will more than likely be out of the country, or into busier adult lives. I have 10k in student debt and growing. I seem to be my own mortal enemy when it comes to trying to improve myself. I'm dating my room mate and that was a mistake I'm ending today. Donald Trump is president and if he dismantles Obama care I may well be without health insurance.
I'm not living the life I want to live, but I've been doing it so long I don't know if I can change.

My problems are manageable, but good Fucking god I don't know where to find motivation to actually be proactive.
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Charlotte Buncocke - Wed, 28 Dec 2016 12:03:11 EST ID:SwxeG+Tj No.511956 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511952
No need to be proactive, just do what you want dude.


I don't think I believe in love anymore by Beatrice Henningsane - Thu, 22 Dec 2016 18:52:35 EST ID:oR9xz1nr No.511869 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've lived such a confusing life guys. I spent most of my adolescence addicted to drugs, going out with a girl I secretly despised because I didn't think I could do any better. I finally dumped her after 4 and a half years, had a fling with a married woman, then entered an intense relationship with a girl I truly thought was the love of my life. We lived together for a year and a half before she started fucking my work colleague in our flat. The whirlwind of emotions and anger and bitterness and sadness and confusion and fear that I felt was like no other, and like nothing I ever want to go through again. Probably didn't help myself by clouding my brain with benzodiazepines.

In October last year, 9 months after all that shit went down, I got with the nicest, most down-to-earth and beautiful girl I've ever been with. The ex who cheated on me then decided she wanted me back and threatened to kill herself if she didn't get me back. All while she was still with my old colleague. Thankfully I wasn't having any of it. She didn't kill herself. But it still helped to fuck up my new relationship. My relationship with the new girl was great.. or so I thought. Just because we never argued doesn't mean there wasn't so much going on under the surface. Of course she fucking dumped me. I was a mess. Broken from the events of my past, witnessing me steal for my addictions then watching me try my hardest to overcome a four-year-long benzodiazepine addiction, which inevitably made me an unbearable nervous wreck.

I think I maintained a pretty positive outlook on life up until shit blew up with the girl I lived with. Ever since then it's been a bleak downward spiral of nihilism, self-defeatism and disbelief. I can't bring myself to believe that any relationship I ever enter again will stand the test of time. That any love or passion I feel for a new girl is just falsified, intense chemical reactions in my brain that will inevitably peter out over time. My relationships failed. My parent's relationships failed. My friend's relationships failed. They all fucking fail, and even if they don't they're shrouded by fostered resentment. Why bother getting with someone in or…
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Graham Hellyfield - Fri, 23 Dec 2016 10:39:21 EST ID:iNxhxDvV No.511880 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Are you THAT dude? The most recent chick, was she a vocalist in your band or whatever?

This is like your 6th thread my man
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James Fimblefat - Fri, 23 Dec 2016 14:37:00 EST ID:+NDlZJAa No.511883 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Just chill out man. Thinking that something should be something it isn't is the problem.
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Frederick Gooddock - Sat, 24 Dec 2016 04:29:01 EST ID:6wj5m/Zy No.511894 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>511869
there's no definitive goal in life, relationships simply aren't compatible with every brain out there.

not being in one does not mean you are 'less successful'.
Find something else you enjoy that is not tied to what you have taught yourself that society expects of you.
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Nathaniel Bicklefoot - Sun, 25 Dec 2016 18:02:56 EST ID:YA0MiqNO No.511916 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511894

This is feel good nonsense that only serves to detract from the point. Relationships are biological. It is entirely understandable to feel misery when you are alone.

All you are telling OP is to be content alone because he isn't as lucky as you are. It is a self-perpetuating cycle that creates more and more social isolation, more and more depression, more and more school shooters, and more and more successful suicide attempts as we enter the 2020's. To brush all of that aside as "hurr wel some people are just ment to b alon!!!!!" is nothing more than shouting "STOP COMPLAINING BITCHES" at the peasants from your lofty tower.
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Molly Suddlehood - Tue, 27 Dec 2016 04:22:56 EST ID:6wj5m/Zy No.511942 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511916
it is more than 'stop complaining bitches' and i entirely understand your thoughts.

most people need people, but some get caught up dating again and again simply because they see everyone else doing it.
some people find that they are happier when they are alone if they learn to let themselves embrace it. these things were explained to me by people much smarter than i, most psychologists will tell you something along these lines. they'll give you examples of patients who they helped treat , only explained way better and suited to the individual.

op may or may not be able to benefit from that, maybe he really does need someone else, but you can learn so much about yourself if you see a shrink over anything really, including ops issues. You should never be too shy to visit one. A few visits isn't going to break the bank and they're worth the lessons imo.

I don't consider myself lucky, like you say. I consider myself more aware of how the mind / my mind works due to things i've allowed myself to learn over the years.


Frustated w/ Life by Wesley Buttingstork - Tue, 26 Jul 2016 22:24:05 EST ID:WvFkAJFO No.506659 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm a senior comp sci major at a respectable Uni, but I kind of hate computer science at this point. I have no motivation to program anymore. I got into it because I was "good at fixing computers" and used amphetamines and fear of failure to get me this far. I think I'll probably stick it out for this last year and graduate, it just kind of sucks. I don't even know what else I could have done, though.

I've never had a girlfriend. Some girls have been interested in me, but my social skills are basically nill. I've always been so afraid of rejection that I've literally pre-emptively rejected myself. Like, girls who would have went out with me and more or less were asking me out, I thought it was some cruel joke or something and I ruined it for myself. I've always been terrified of coming off as weak or like I'm not in control.

Anyway, I met this girl like 2 months ago. She invited me to her party when I ran into her. My brother met her first and brought her around and stuff. One night she came over and we got pretty drunk, and she like got a little intimate, like layed her head on me and all this. At that point I thought my brother had a thing for her, so I got kin of distant. But we talked about anxiety and she brought up a bunch of stuff from her childhood and shit, and I felt like we connected a lot.

Anyway, I asked to hang out with her before then and went to her house twice, and she had other people over and I was pretty awkward. But then she came over and that was the night we got drunk. Fast forward, we end up at our mutual friends parties together and I pussy out repeatedly, until one night when we connect and talk for hours again. So then I ask to hang out again like last week, and she's like alright. She goes to a music festival and comes back, and when she got back I texted her or w/e and so far no response. I mean, she'll probably text me at some point because I doubt she wants it to be awkward between us, but idk. Part of me can't help but think she doesn't really feel like dealing with me, or like she had some experience at the festival that changed her mind or something idk. I guess that's paranoid? Idk. I feel kind of like …
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Hugh Happerdore - Sat, 24 Dec 2016 20:14:25 EST ID:VsDJH5Vs No.511907 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>511829
Welcome to youth enjoy your stay.

I've been in your situation and from my perspective now it wasn't worth it to continue hanging out with the girl. Either you put her in her place when she does it or you continue to let it happen and end up miserable for it. Are you really gonna let her have her cake ( your friend) and eat it too? (keep you on a leash so you're miserable) doesn't sound like a very good or mature friend to me but relationships are weird for some people.

>>Literally since this thing started, all I've done is 1.) not make a move, 2.) tell her I'm into her and if she's not into me we shouldn't talk anymore. I don't think either of these are particularly egregious, and since number 2 we partied together 3 or 4 times and she gave me a hug and it's fine. We're basically just friends now. I shook dudes hand too and gave him a hand yesterday. Like there's no hard feelings.


>There's no hard feelings
People can put on a face you know. Her actions clearly speak louder than the words of forgiveness that have been exchanged between the two of you. As long as she can get away with her behavior, keep you from fucking other people and keep hanging out with you all as if nothings happening, there are "no hard feelings" on her end.


>>Ugh. Also I think her friend might be into me a little. That *might* be why she was cockblocking me

>> She's been doing it for months.
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Jack Clobberdale - Sun, 25 Dec 2016 12:35:44 EST ID:KV6/afg2 No.511913 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511907
agreed dude. if some girl kept coming to my place cockblocking me id be like yeah fuck off you aint coming in.

she sounds like a manipulative cunt mate just lock the door and fuck that other girl loudly when she comes over
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Beatrice Gembleworth - Sun, 25 Dec 2016 22:07:30 EST ID:ODmxY438 No.511923 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>506772
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Sidney Geddlecheg - Mon, 26 Dec 2016 05:11:39 EST ID:bSbyvfvC No.511926 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511913
do this op you faggot
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George Murdstock - Mon, 26 Dec 2016 07:00:59 EST ID:CxhWYPtU No.511927 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511768
This tbh. Reminds me of this dude:
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sisyphus


Aging by Oliver Lightham - Tue, 06 Dec 2016 11:28:31 EST ID:ytKSzWUl No.511344 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I had a 1 on 1 breakfast at ihop with my mom this morning. She's nearing fifty but has always tried her best to look young. She even gets ID'd sometimes. However, the lighting at this restaurant was different. Her hands are old and worn. Her face is wrinkled and tired. She's starting to look like how I remember my grandma looking. And she's still busting her ass doing laborous jobs to supports my younger siblings. I feel bad that she doesn't have any grandchildren on the horizon anytime soon.

As the chipmunks sang a nostalgic Christmas tune, I was on the verge of tears. I tried so hard to hold them back. I eventually squirmed over to her side of the table and held her as tears ran down.

How do you with the merciless hammer of time? I don't know if I can take much more of this.
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Caroline Blatherwill - Tue, 06 Dec 2016 14:58:48 EST ID:zWRCuWNo No.511353 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511352
I stopped taking my mum for granted when she fucked off. She stopped taking me for granted when I basically all but ignored her as a result. Things are better now.

Life is imperfect and finite. As long as you're doing it right now then you should be happy with it. If you are not you should be working on changing it. Your mum knows she'll die, she raised you knowing she'd die before you and had kids knowing she'd get older having them. If she gives a fuck she had you because she enjoyed her life and wants you to as well.
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Wesley Meffingham - Tue, 06 Dec 2016 19:41:27 EST ID:eSiTpAsT No.511356 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511353

I don't talk to my mom much. My parents divorced when I was 8, and it really fucked me up. My mom was always poor, working shitty minimum wage jobs and stuff, and my dad had custody so that my mom got to keep us every other weekend. About three years later she moved several states away to stay with her parents and save up some money, so then I only got to see here once or twice a year as she's been living up there now for the past fifteen years or so, on and off with her parents/boyfriends.

It kind of sucks because a couple of years ago I learned from my dad that he used to be badly addicted to heroin when he was a few years younger than I am now. He also told me that he and my mom used to live in a house full of junkies and addicts when they were first together, so that leads me to assume that she too was addicted to heroin. Since learning about my dad's past drug use, it basically ruined his life for a long time, I've kind of put together the pieces and have an idea that my mom is still using hard drugs, at least occasionally.

The fact that she's always worked shitty jobs, hardly had money for anything at all, when I live completely on my own right now working as a gas station attendant and have money saved up. It's like she pretty much gave up on me and my older siblings. I know my mom smokes weed, I smoked with her actually last year when she came down to visit. It just sucks because I used to have such high opinions of her.

She definitely taught me a lot, and she always trusted me to know how to take care of myself while my dad always coddled me and wouldn't let me do much. My mom taught me a lot of useful life lessons, and she was very sweet and loving to me, but I resent her a little now for not being around for me. She left at a really vital time in my life. Our house burned down when I was 7 and by that point my parents would already get in to arguments with eachother.

The following year was the worst with them shouting and cussing at eachother every week and throwing dishes. One day my mom just grabbed a few of her things and disappeared without saying anything and drove to Florida to stay with a guy she was friends with. My dad got our neighbors to baby sit us and left to follow her to Florida and beg her to come back, but it didn't work. They got divorced shortly after that when I was 8. For about a year after I used to cry myself to sleep because I missed my mom so much. It was really only in the last year or two that I've come to realize how much that actually affected me growing up.

To make things a little worse my mom called me last week and told me she only has $28 to her name and that, "nobody wants her." I feel really bad because after concluding that she basically screwed her own life up I don't want to support her. She left us. My dad was so depressed after she left that he started going to a therapist for years. He was stuck alone taking care of three children by himself. I'm really proud of my dad for doing as good of a job as he did. I used to hate him a little bit when I was younger, but I had no idea what he was going through.

My dad did so much for us, and went through so much because of my siblings and I, and he still managed to pay for all of us to go to college, universities at that, and my mom was basically non existent in my life like she barely tried and then eventually gave up on being around. Within the last year she mentioned wanting to find a place down here where we live so that she can be around us, but I doubt it's anything more than wishful thinking and an empty promise. I would shit my pants if she actually got around to moving down here again because I just wouldn't believe it.
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David Murddale - Wed, 07 Dec 2016 02:59:56 EST ID:SvrL9OfC No.511368 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Most of this boils down to the fact that you embrace an attitude of ceasing any kind of resistance toward a natural and utterly unavoidable phenomena. Aging and dying happen. I don't know if you're a man or a woman, but I feel like women are at a disadvantage when it comes to accepting these things in developed/first world countries. The idea of trying to stop aging (and keeping a youthful appearance) and the purchasing and consumption of all kinds of anti-aging products reinforces the tendency to fret, worry, and feel anxious about getting older constantly and on a consistent, regular basis. On top of that, old sayings and ideas about not asking women their age, and ideas surrounding beauty and age all play a hand as well. Then there's the fact that men, up until more recently, have always been viewed as disposable in a sense... at least in ways that women and children are not. When it comes to emergency situations where women and children escape first, combat and military service traditionally being male roles, and physically protecting women and children using any means necessary (including sacrificing one's own life), the idea that you are going to die and you should accept it is something men have more exposure to in general.

Now, none of this means it's actually all that much easier or harder for either sex to deal with the prospect of getting older, dying, or losing loved ones necessarily. I just think it is something to take into consideration when it comes to a topic like this, because what you think about, how often you think about it, the way you think about it, and how you look at it when thinking about it all play a huge role in being able to deal with these things. When it comes to loved ones dying, I can't do anything more than know it's as much a part of life to die than it is to live. When people die, you grieve over the fact that you won't be able to create new memories with this person more than the fact that they've died itself. It sounds like a dick thing to say, but honestly it's more of a... I don't want to call it selfish really, but it's definitely a more self-centered reason than anything else. You lament the fact this person who mean…
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Henry Muzzleworth - Wed, 07 Dec 2016 08:13:54 EST ID:+dhYUbHM No.511369 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I'll miss mom my mom when she dies, no one else that much. Grandkids comment hurts since my aint got none either and probably wont.

I intend to kill myself with a gunshot to the head when the big cancer comes, or some disability or pre dementia starts taking over my mind - all of these are inevitable. That makes things clearer in my head and as the little ailments in my body build up my resolve only becomes stronger.
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Lillian Gashwater - Sun, 25 Dec 2016 21:22:30 EST ID:5FNqOByj No.511921 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Not sure if you're still reading this, but I get similar thoughts each year on Christmas for some reason.

My mom is in her early 60s now and my dad is 74. They both still hold up pretty good for their age, but I realise the moment of their dissolve is coming nearer.

Try to develop a broader perspective on life in general. The fact you're posting on this board is an indicator of a privileged life. There are a wide population on this planet who live in poverty, famine and war. They don't know if they'll see the next day and take every morning as they go. Hell can be a place near you. Enjoy these moments you have and the many more years to come. Live resourceful and plan ahead. Take time-outs to just form your mind to accept death. Try to imagine your mom is already dead and do your daily business to see how much it affects you mentally. I know it sounds stupid or macabre, but ultimately it is all in your head + YOU are the only one who can alter these ghosts in your head.


Ruined relationship by Fanny Blurringmire - Thu, 22 Dec 2016 01:01:34 EST ID:4RP4/OCW No.511840 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Tonight my relationship has been finally ruined after much suffering and a week of warnings and damn stupid mistakes. It’s all my fault. I am to blame, because I was already broken from the beginning and could never adapt to a meaningful relationship.

So I’m fucked up, but it wasn’t until now I really knew how dangerous this is for me. Now I know I’m proven not to be able to hold a relationship and I also know I’ll never again get a chance like this one.

I fucked it. I’m so sorry, and I really hope for forgiveness someday.
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Fucking Savinghig - Thu, 22 Dec 2016 22:12:12 EST ID:IpccH+D5 No.511874 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Now I know I’m proven not to be able to hold a relationship and I also know I’ll never again get a chance like this one.

Yeah, no. You don't know dick, because you can't see into the future. Nobody can.

Identify the issues that arose during the course of this relationship, learn everything you can from everything that happened, improve whatever aspects of your personality or life need to be improved, and move on. Love is still out there and will just manifest itself in a different person in the future, and by then you'll be better prepared for it. You'll be fine.
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Awe' God !!vVWR8L52 - Fri, 23 Dec 2016 12:12:24 EST ID:SwxeG+Tj No.511881 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511840
they told me I could become anything I wanted so I chose
>I’m proven not to be able to hold a relationship and I also know I’ll never again get a chance like this one.
good job OP, I hope you take your hand out of the fire before it's a stump. which is to say I hope you feel the burn. the more sensitive you'll be now, the less intense the pain will have to become before you decide it was a bad choice and change your mind. FEEL THE PAIN BRO, QUICK!
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Augustus Trotfoot - Sun, 25 Dec 2016 05:10:21 EST ID:SvrL9OfC No.511909 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511840
Sounds like you're feeling pretty sorry for yourself, and now you have to convince yourself that you're incapable of loving someone the right way or really at all, and to make sure it happens you've decided for yourself ahead of time that if you can even get in another relationship, it could never be as good as this one.

You're just making excuses for giving up and because you feel guilty about what happened. Hurting yourself to temporarily save face and feel better about having at least somewhat "atoned" for what happened isn't something that can help you, nor is it something you deserve. Destroying yourself winds up hurting others as much as it hurts you, so it's explicitly the wrong thing to do no matter how you look at it. Don't ask to be forgiven, just go ahead and forgive yourself and do your best never to do what you did to ruin things again.


crybaby at work by Hannah Blatherman - Sat, 24 Dec 2016 11:48:37 EST ID:28NI7ySB No.511900 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've been working at this job for a couple months now. I have a supervisor who stays in the office and I basically just work in a warehouse running a machine with one other guy who is my age.

He's pretty funny and at first seemed cool, just kind of arrogant.. We had beers a couple times and smoked. Basically we get along pretty well. But he's turned into the most whiny, emotional dude I've ever met. He doesn't like anything anyone else likes. Food, music, people. All the nice people at work to him are "so fake". Everything sucks. He's mentioned many times now that he is "just an emotional guy". He always complains about work, the weather, his girlfriend, other employees. He's really argumentative. On almost every subject.

I'm a pretty positive guy but damn this dude is annoying. I've been befriending him less so maybe he will stop unloading negativity onto me. I'm not a pushover and can stand up for myself, but I have a feeling he's literally the only guy I have to get along with so I'm trying to be as cool as I can.

I don't make that much, but I really like the location and the people. I fit in really well, but fuck this dude.
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Hannah Blatherman - Sat, 24 Dec 2016 11:51:13 EST ID:28NI7ySB No.511901 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511900
>but I have a feeling he's literally
>but I have a feeling

typo
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Fucking Dollershit - Sat, 24 Dec 2016 17:09:05 EST ID:O2N5OX9U No.511905 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>supervisor at work
Suck it up mate. It's just good business.


i fear that my lack of motivation will doom me to a life of reprehensible worthlessness by Charlotte Shittingstock - Fri, 23 Dec 2016 19:07:50 EST ID:dHQmNJ0B No.511884 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I often think about leaving my parents house and living on the streets. I'm 21, but I feel like an entitled child, and i suppose my hope is that homelessness would beat the child out of me, but i'm so fundamentally lacking in motivation that i would probably just end up staying in the gutter till the day I die.

a concrete prison of my own making is probably what i deserve though: my lack of energy brings everyone around me down with me. i can see it their eyes when they are forced to rouse me from my natural state in order to do chores and and tasks. they know how much i could do with this life, and they resent my broken spirit just as much as I do.

i wish it was just depression. something as simple as that would be almost a comfort in the face of what I truly am. but the fact is that I can keep myself satisfied in almost any circumstance. ive even discovered methods of manipulating my nervous system to dispense euphoria at will. depression is something I've battled before, but this is not something I know how to fight. I don't even know if it can be fought.

the only thing that's kept me from disowning myself and leaving my family and friends behind is the crippling fear that I'll never change if I do so, and even that is now slowly drifting away from me. time is running out, and in the coming months, i will either become a productive member of society, or i will rust away like the scrap that i've become.

truthfully I don't know why im writing this. ive searched for years for a way to help myself up, and i don't believe that anyone can help me, so i suppose this is all just an expression of the fear gripping me as i enter this critical phase.

I don't know why you would, but please don't feel bad for me. no matter what happens i'll be fine. trust me, i know: that fact is what started all this to begin with.
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Walter Simmerwut - Fri, 23 Dec 2016 21:00:23 EST ID:EobUULgn No.511886 Ignore Report Quick Reply
sometimes you gotta feel yourself out of that feeling of entilement of the child qualities

nudge around the edges of those thoughts dude, drink a bit more liquids of the best kind

maybe find out how you relate your mind to your body in relation to your circumstances which the life you live are currently placed, and see where your at
if your not feelin right make some changes and see how that makes ya
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Rebecca Waffinglock - Sat, 24 Dec 2016 01:36:04 EST ID:mu8hf6Xw No.511892 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511886
This. You've got to change your circumstances bit by bit till you get yourself out of your comfort zone. Just staying the same forever is going to leave you with this same sense of dissatisfaction, you've got to do something. Take some chances to change your life. And to change your life the biggest start is changing your mind and perspective around.

I know its hard, but it seems like you've got all the opportunity, so use this time to grow yourself. Place yourself into different scenarios learn. Once you learn about yourself some more you can get more on a path to being happy.
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Martha Nobberdat - Sat, 24 Dec 2016 07:02:45 EST ID:SvrL9OfC No.511896 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You're not entitled so much as suffering from a negative self-worth that you feel like an unnecessary person. The lack of motivation itself plays into the laziness, but can also feed your self-worth in affirming that you are indeed as shit as you believe yourself to be. Someone like that takes the path of least resistance, which means expecting others will simply do what you don't, or they at least are going to bug you about it because there's not much way you could actually care.

The problem is that you're accomplishing the bare minimum when it comes to virtually everything. Normally for people who are simply having doubts about life in general, you'd say that things like your job or whatever other impermanent thing doesn't really matter and you have to learn to love yourself. For someone in your position I think it's important to say that the jobs you hold, the things you do, etc. are things you need because you haven't accomplished a single thing. The job or the thing itself you do isn't as important as the fact you actually did it, proving unequivocally you're capable of being something, whatever being a something means according to your worldview.

Those kinds of accomplishments, that actually leave you feeling fulfilled, involve a lot of acting toward a goal that won't see you any personal gains (other than experience) for quite a long time. You have to force yourself to keep going despite not knowing if what you're doing is a waste of the time you were going to, in all honestly, waste anyway. That's the kind of goal you reach and you feel like means something, because anybody can do something that they can finish in a month or two and see it as it progresses. For once you told your self pity to go fuck itself , and did something because it was something that needed to be done.

In turn that builds confidence about your perceived weakness as a human being. Before getting anything like that done, how long it would take, how much you didn't want to be there, what you'd rather be doing, etc. would be thoughts you were able to think, but actually overcome. Instead of saying "fuck this, this is stupid" in reference to the job or t…
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Absolute pieces of shit sucking they life out of me by Sidney Gooddock - Sat, 24 Dec 2016 02:21:32 EST ID:zvRCip5t No.511893 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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How do I ditch this annoying ass couple? So, I met this trailer trash(30 years old) lady at the gas station close to my house. She has this piece of shit husband that walks her to work everyday and he just got out of prison doing this like 5 year stretch. One day I was desperate for some money and ended up selling 2 suboxone to this lady. My gf rations two a day out to me. Everyday for about 2 weeks after I did that her husband would hit me up asking for more and more for ridiculously low prices and I would tell them no as I needed. Well, eventually it just so happened I weened down to 1 sub a day and was able to sell to them more frequently. Some days I can do it and somedays I can't though. They expect me to drop one off to them daily(Even on days they ask for a front) and if I cannot they act like the biggest bitches(her husband specifically). They blow up my phone and for like every 20 mins I don't respond to the text her husband keeps texting me "hello." "hello." "hello." "you dont have to be rude and ignore me." and then when I tell them I'm busy and cannot sell them one that day he flips out saying I'm a liar and I'm this and then I'm that and then proceeds to say some shit to soften the blow like "You're my friend and I appreciate what you do for us." so anytime I want to tell them to fuck off and that I want to stop selling them they hit me with this sob story that they really need it. Anytime this man sees me at the gas station he fucking has to pull me aside and act like we're having a big ass business deal over 1 fucking suboxone daily. I would've normally just told them to fuck off and ignored them but I see them at this gas station so often and I need to go there almost daily for cigarettes, blunts, beer, and gas. How can I tell them that they're too annoying to sell to and I don't want to deal with them anymore? I Just feel like I'm going to put up with heaps of shit daily whenever I go to the gas station though. God dammit I Fucking hate these parasites.

They don't respond to reason either, I will tell them exactly why I can't come that particular day to sell them one and it's lik…
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Cornelius Nallerdag - Sat, 24 Dec 2016 06:15:52 EST ID:KV6/afg2 No.511895 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511893
literally just tell them to fuck off and block the numbers


Ahm fuuucked by James Fittingmutch - Wed, 21 Dec 2016 14:03:15 EST ID:oz1kd5XL No.511828 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Had my shit fucked in half so bad and dropped into a hell I could hardly escape even when I'm by myself.. Too fucked to even put into words so nothing really makes any sense.. So this won't.. Not sure why people get so much interest in me.. People are like fascinated and can't figure me out and I try not to be all about me n shit.. But that defensiveness seems to attract people.. I don't even mean the shit I say and idk people act so insane.. But I still listen to people too.. Everyone just liked me so much and it was a burden I could handle.. Even though everyone is either going on about nothing or just seeing things through their own eyes.. Then I found someone that actually intrigued me.. Turns out she had the same way with people.. Maybe it's just hot chicks with issues idk.. There was one just prior to this one who was really into me but I wasn't gonna put down my guard.. Neither could keep their eyes off me but this one broke my focus.. It's always hard working in a kitchen with a bunch of girls.. They got so many feelings and the job was just too bottlenecked.. So somehow me doing my job, people just loved watching me but they'd comment too.. Feel like I'm just a musician.. Everything is a dance.. This other guy had it too but idk I was the guy.. But I showed interest back in this girl and somehow couldn't fucking escape.. Got close ish to her and my boss was already setting fucking traps.. Kinda came outta my shell a little to fill the void between whatever defensiveness she had and me but I try to stay in the same spot with her kind of and existence just flipped inside out and she's pissed at me and annoyed by everything and shit went from playful teasing to her just being annoyed by my presence and an accusation like I'm being an asshole or a direct insult to my personality.. Was always able to keep the energy of the place positive and high and once I could no longer do that, people thought I changed or was on drugs or something.. Stopped sleeping completely and was shaking like a motherfucker.. The one sane person came back right before I got fired and was like wtf is going on and why haven't you quit.. I really liked the girl but somehow she cataly…
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Wesley Chimmledodge - Wed, 21 Dec 2016 19:31:39 EST ID:bzR4nFmb No.511832 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511828
I read the whole thing and damn that was trippy. I wish you the best man. You're smart enough to know how you have to be but the actual mechanism to get there is what's tripping you out. It makes you ask yourself just how 'good' you are since you're not even 'good enough' to get to that point where you'll be 'good' with everyone. As if it was just a destination you reach in your self and with the world and where everything is hunky dory.

But the fact of the matter is is that that's an over-cognization of the way the world is, and it's an awareness that's housed in terms of emotional interaction with the outer world and the inner. I'm not sure if it's obvious to you (or whether the fact that it's obvious to me lends itself any credence) but the fact of the matter is is that being more at home in the present, when you can be in control of your actions without being over-burdened by the responsibility, when you can simply be, is the best place to be.
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Shitting Ganderlut - Thu, 22 Dec 2016 00:46:17 EST ID:fh02z0OB No.511839 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511832

Is right. Once you start building up this character you think you are, you start to become captive to your own history. Your history doesn't even exist right now, things are just now. Not saying it'll all magically get better over night, but you can really decide your internal view of things, with work, and that's how successful people keep going.
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Awe' God !!vVWR8L52 - Fri, 23 Dec 2016 12:17:59 EST ID:SwxeG+Tj No.511882 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511839
Wisdom
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John Channerson - Fri, 23 Dec 2016 23:06:13 EST ID:hRDPwd/f No.511888 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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