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violence/sex duality and my relentless projecting by Wesley Smallson - Sat, 24 Feb 2018 05:19:19 EST ID:4hBEIt21 No.522495 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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do you guys ever feel tempted by faint echoes of impulses to commit random acts of violence or sexual acts? i do but not in a malevolent way like I wanna fuck everything up. it's like that feeling you get when you look down a chasm and your legs get weak while you think about jumping. sometimes when i'm talking to someone, my brain feels like it's caught in a snare by their energy, and I can't help but associate sexual or violent thoughts with them. it's usually sexual. like i'm not even remotely aroused or turned on when this happens, actually I get very uncomfortable, it's like I can't stop associating them with sex and in a way it feels like I've slept with them and I feel ashamed about it. do I have a disorder or something or is this more along the lines of intrusive thoughts? because the weird thing is that they're not explicitly sexual thoughts, and they're not feelings of genital arousal, it's like it's hitting on an associated neuron cluster that pertains to sexual/violent feelings.
Eliza Gozzlefod - Sat, 24 Feb 2018 05:24:35 EST ID:wJavO91C No.522496 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I suppose it does sound kind of like intrusive thoughts. I have intrusive thoughts myself, because of a mental illness.
Edwin Sacklewatch - Sat, 24 Feb 2018 20:32:07 EST ID:4hBEIt21 No.522507 Ignore Report Quick Reply
it's almost like intrusive feelings. like deeper than thoughts
Walter Shakelock - Sat, 24 Feb 2018 21:42:05 EST ID:o/mRPhYl No.522508 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Were you at one time an alcoholic?

I used to be very much one and I was like that for quite some time. If I drink even a single beer it comes back when I'm sober. It takes two lsd trips to nullify it.
Edwin Sacklewatch - Sat, 24 Feb 2018 21:49:54 EST ID:4hBEIt21 No.522510 Ignore Report Quick Reply
nah. basically a green addict tho. i know, i know, it sounds pathetic. but yea i cannot live without my weed
Isabella Demmerfoot - Sun, 25 Feb 2018 03:21:03 EST ID:kPK7t16O No.522511 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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I've been into Jungian psychology for a while (in a very secular, applicable way). I believe it's necessary to acknowledge the shadowy presence beneath our awareness and anticipate your deeper ideas or aspirations.

I trained in combat sports and have lived in bad areas. While I hesitate to hit hard in the ring, I've barely avoided jail for serious injury following an assault against a man who raped my ex-girlfriend. It's taken a lot of training and reflection to realise that my violence should be channeled and that fighting is a failure in more meaningful intervention.

I was very sexually repressed for a number of years and somewhat addicted to pornography. It wasn't heinous, but I felt my sexuality was becoming perverse and less mutual for my partners. I was also very quick to flirt back and inevitably, cheated on partners. I did this out of selfish lust, but also a desire to meet the expectation of whoever was tantalising me; rejection can be hard to give and take.

Whatever your motivations, consider what it boils down to; a potent, intense desire that holds a will of its own. To resolve my own violent/sexual instincts, I confronted the beastly nature of my animal side. I devote my violent tension to sport/martial arts, and my sexual tension to my partner who I feel loyally and spiritually connected to. With this aspect of my nature so accepted and integrated within me, I feel calmer, I read and study more and I see more than just what these basic, intense feelings would allow me to see.

a person other people avoid by Charles Chishcocke - Sun, 18 Feb 2018 09:43:20 EST ID:Tknlirnx No.522348 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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The only friends I have only see me twice a month for a drink, never invite me anywhere, never introduce me to other people and it's really clear it's all out of pity. I'm a pity friend, they see me as charity.

I'm considering killing myself soon. I'm 28 and I never had a relationship. I'm very low status in every way. No job experience, bad degree, can't get a job.

Why should I keep living? Life doesn't have anything good in store for me.
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Eugene Blackshaw - Fri, 23 Feb 2018 23:03:43 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.522491 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Nobody is retarded enough to come here for a circlejerk because you bickering monkeys can't agree on the color of the sky anyway in any given thread.
Emma Pupperbon - Sat, 24 Feb 2018 16:20:38 EST ID:XblwQTB3 No.522504 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>They've experienced all that life has to offer, and still wanna die. You, on the other hand, have unexplored horizons, new adventures await.
that's actually a really good point.
OP hasn't had a good job and lost it, OP hasn't been in love and have his heart broken, OP hasn't suffered. OP hasn't lived.
OP is waiting for his life to begin because he's too afraid to start it himself. he fears FAILURE.

listen OP: unless you live on a farm, the friends you currently have arent the only friends you're capable of having. if you think your friends aren't providing friendship, cut them loose. go buy drugs and share it with hobos (don't share needles ofcourse). go to a bar alone and get drunk with other loners. get out there and makes stories.
Walter Shakelock - Sat, 24 Feb 2018 21:43:39 EST ID:o/mRPhYl No.522509 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Find a place to volunteer.
Esther Soblingshit - Sun, 25 Feb 2018 13:48:16 EST ID:COAX7aNZ No.522516 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP doesn't need everyone to agree for a circlejerk, just a couple of people like him. He can shut himself and the world out, he just needs a couple of external voices to reassure him that they're sure that what they're doing is right even as they all agree they're suicidal and life sucks but he's failing to find them because most people who get out of OP's rut do so by not being like him any more.

I agree that the range of opinions here just means more advice is wrong. I hope you realise that just bitching about it in a thread where it's mostly in agreement is unhelpful at best though. nb
Nigel Seddleson - Sun, 25 Feb 2018 21:22:04 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.522524 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>all this babble

Why do monkeys like you come on here to "vent"? I never understood this. It's almost as if you're projecting situations you despise in your real lives on this screen... That's why you associate me with every asshole you interact with on here. Because I'm not a person to you. I'm a symbol of hatred.

Carry on luser lyl.

Opportunity Not To Be Missed by Oliver Blunnerfield - Sat, 24 Feb 2018 16:43:27 EST ID:V84tonLB No.522505 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Oliver Sullerheck - Sat, 24 Feb 2018 19:33:33 EST ID:FwheuJ8x No.522506 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>Madagascar has disconnected from the internet

Medical Systems Suck by Hugh Brookman - Wed, 17 Jan 2018 23:23:30 EST ID:RDJpW3uZ No.521585 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So i'm a young 20 something male, i've been suffering from terrible recurrent bowel issues (Every one in the book) and this all started about over a year ago.

I smoke alot of weed, and i vape nicotine but never really did any other drugs past experimenting.

I was living with my GF at the time of over a year, i started violently vomiting and consistently being nauseous pretty much every second of every day, it was intense and world-ending at first with how bad it was, i would sit down and just craddle back and forth in tears, this went on for about 1 -2 months straight and i lost over 40lbs. Of course, i went to the hospital... 8 times in three months in the ER, being sent away being told i'm too young for issues and that it's "Just muscle pain"

This lead to a diagnosis of Cannabis Hypertheremis Syndrome on the basis i smoke a gram of weed a day, previously a gram of shatter a day. This lead to another diagnosis of IBS and a host of other things, unsatisfactory as my tests and reports kept coming back fine.

After the 5th time, i was sent over to a GI specialist, did every scope and every test possible and a singular CT scan (I've had instruments up every crevice) and the GI specialist told me that it "Definitely isn't a GI Related Issue." and he's been the only doctor to really help at this point.
I've been through now something like 12 ER doctors, 1 GI specialist, 1 Adrenal Gland Specialist, three CT scans that have resulted in nothing up to this point and i'm in a constant disarray (Although not nearly as badly as the first two months of which the pain was so intense, i contemplated suicide as Opiates didn't curb the pain past absolutely numbing myself to sleep, and i was vomiting 4 -5 times atleast daily and NO medications were helping my vomiting or nausea, no matter the strength of medication.)

It sucked so bad i lost my GF within a month cause she couldn't deal with me at the time, my job and career went in flames and pretty much every hobby i had ended up becoming swallowed up by the constant pain and discomfort, anxiety i've been dealing with.

So, two weeks ago after my fourth CT scan after the last 1.4 years at this point i get a call from my GI doc and he tells me i might have mesenteric venous thrombosis or some kind of blood clots in the arteries and veins that supply and drain blood from the intestines... And i'm to go immediately to the hospital ER and get a CT scan that day again immediately as he planned everything for me to go in and get hopefully more information on this development.
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Augustus Povingville - Fri, 23 Feb 2018 02:59:12 EST ID:RDJpW3uZ No.522481 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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But i have some positive things from what i've seen, things i wouldn't really trade for the world. I'm not afraid of death or an end, i'm compassionate with people to the point of self destruction if intentions even mean anything which i am constantly reinforced with the idea that they do not. I really believe if somebody wants to fix something, they can and if they don't within an area of themselves and their capability related (No other factors.) That they can enfact accomplish it, the only thing stopping an individual is themselves. "Talent" is not a thing, it's a concept, Skills are real.

I really believe people when they say they want to do something, i've been flat broke and i'll buy the dude i met on WoW through my guild a new computer halfway across the planet new computer parts because their GPU failed and their already eating rice and beans because their diabetes ate their fuckin' feet. Mostly because if i'm as worthless as everybody else seems to be, some people maybe deserve to be made to feel special, feel good. Maybe that makes us a little more worthwhile?

I really believe that intentions should matter more than the outcome most of the time. And its really like i feel like a baby sheep amongst a pack of wolves.

I like to think if everybody spent their first 10 years strapped to a bed bleeding from every limb that we'd be kinder, more compassionate. Probably not this stupid to produce so many people with such high standards of living that it cuts off the rest of the world from a sense of equality. But, that's just my opinion and viewpoint.

Am i negative? I guess so, but that idea of negative just seems so... Played out of fear. Not by truths. When i ask myself "Am i a negative person?" I'de have to say no, although i can see how somebody could think so, and i act in ways that definitely would tell you i'm not "Positive" but i really couldn't say i'm negative as a person, i'm negative about my environment, but me myself am pretty happy.

I'm a really different sorta dude. Call it whatever you want, but genuinely, i am so analytical i think there's no way i wouldn't be disappointed with the world and my environment. I can however, and have, found happiness solely and only through myself and the things i have and haven't decided to do. I'm proud of myself extremely, probably an unhealthy amount i admit, everything is "Do it 100%, or die trying because nobody is gonna give a shit unless you do it."

That's honestly a complex set of questions. At this point if it is just my mental health being so diminished my body is failing -- That would almost seem more unfixable than if it was Cancer or something physical. And there isn't any definitive "Well you got this" so it isn't a calming thought, although i've thought it alot.
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Augustus Povingville - Fri, 23 Feb 2018 03:02:51 EST ID:RDJpW3uZ No.522482 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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It's a lot like a old mythological story in nature. I like reading, i like typing, i like discussing things and i think the world could be beautiful. I can't say me myself am negative, i think on the contrary to say i'm negative... Really is a stark showing of how words have changed. I am not lifeless, constructiveless. I am not the opposite of "Positive" if anything, the qualities i lay out are the definition of Positive.

But, people as groups get to decide. And if my intentions are negative by their interpretation as a majority, then who am i to argue? If the world worked the way i wanted it to -- people would all be vulnerable to fuckery and probably end up like i'm feeling now. But i look around at all these things other people think are accomplishments, it makes me feel the absolute same thing. That this is negative, did you know your physical well being is linked directly to your mental well-being? did you know your mental well being is linked directly to your physical well being?

It's a two lane road, like pretty much everything we say or do -- it's a two lane road that goes both ways. Everything goes both ways. It is in my experience that things become immoral and damning as soon as you try to make it any other way.

Anyways, maybe you are onto something. Something to ponder for sure. But, clearly i ponder a lot.

In many ways, i guess me even writing is a lot like most things in my life. Clearer to me than glass, things and topics, mental roads that interest me. That a majority of people couldn't give a rats ass about and my intentions, even if it's that somebody else maybe who likes to read and write a lot knows they aren't entirely alone.

Or i want to express myself, or i just want to feel like i'm not alone. This all to me is a cry for help in a dark place and i'm open, ready to go and face whatever this is. Maybe i just want the pain to stop.

But the reality is i'm just writing -- probably to a uncaring, nicetoyourface audience. Just like i played music for uncaring people wanting some entertainment in a nostalgic way. I just made music man, i'm just writing man. This is just me. If not my words, if not my life and if not my interests and intentions...

What the fuck would i be?
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Eugene Honeystone - Fri, 23 Feb 2018 12:30:10 EST ID:COAX7aNZ No.522483 Ignore Report Quick Reply
A lot of illnesses get a lot worse if you're negative. Depression has physical effects and they do not make you healthier or tougher, they do not encourage you to heal physically they do not bolster your immune system. They make you weaker. Some illnesses are particularly exacerbated by it too.

Its possible that the illness is hugely exacerbated by how badly you have taken everything which made you miserable which made you worse and so on.
Barnaby Cellytudge - Sat, 24 Feb 2018 13:28:53 EST ID:r6wcYT/n No.522501 Ignore Report Quick Reply
try all meat diet
seriously join a group on fb called principia carnivora

main thing is to avoid carbs, histamine and salicylates,

i also have chronic disease, this is what has helped me, i recently tried the all meat diet and now i can eat whatever again. i duno man worth a shot, im pretty balls deep in health stuff but i just cant think wtf is going on with you
Nigel Nickleshit - Sat, 24 Feb 2018 15:00:22 EST ID:cbaTdYwW No.522502 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Perhaps it was genes from inbred europe

How to go back by Ernest Geshhall - Sat, 24 Feb 2018 05:43:22 EST ID:5yZRcMRq No.522498 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I have accidentally stumbled upon a hyper awareness of my own consciousness and I cannot escape the terrifying feeling that it is to be a combination of sensory experiences. I have no human frame anymore that my experience is fitting into, when I focus on my experience I almost lose all sense of time and space.

Can I get any tips on how reintegrate with the normal world?
Edwin Chemblelick - Sat, 24 Feb 2018 16:14:13 EST ID:B/1t3ZFg No.522503 Ignore Report Quick Reply
soothe yourself with soothsaying.

I Dislike Everyone;With Few Exceptions by Augustus Menderwater - Wed, 21 Feb 2018 06:33:01 EST ID:ApD5b+Tp No.522455 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Personally I'm not one to make excuses for myself anymore. I try not to become upset at the bad behavior of others or wantonly place blame on others in order to justify my own bad behavior. I see this as some semblance of maturity. I also try not make assumptions about others because its not really necessary. As a private citizen if someone is behaving badly I try not to become involved with them unless I am forced to.

I've been working little dead end jobs and getting nothing but heat for it. Personally the little paycheck is enough for me. But isnt enough for those around me. At this point it seems like the system and the people around me are chronically dysfunctional. So it doesnt even matter that Im trying to be productive because Im contributing to a dysfunctional and destructive system. So its become what they call a zero sum game.

At this point I am unsure of how to proceed. Because its seems to be a loosing situation. The system has no clear agenda and contradicts itself to no end. It empowers its enemies and destroys its allies for the sake of its own existence and power leading to its own destruction.
Ian Gishstirk - Fri, 23 Feb 2018 17:26:12 EST ID:2IRx5to/ No.522488 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Can't swim against the tide even when you know it's draining into a sinkhole, at least not with great personal cost. Submission to the system is the easiest way to happiness. You will feel the same sort of happiness that everyone else feels when they get a promotion and a bigger paycheck because that's just how we've evolved. It doesn't matter if society is fucked up, we still feel good when we support it and bad when we don't. If you're not living up to your potential you won't be as happy as you would if you had a job that really challenged you and really rewarded you.
Hannah Drettingman - Fri, 23 Feb 2018 18:24:47 EST ID:qQGp8jFk No.522490 Ignore Report Quick Reply
most people are losers, except for those who challenge themselves to do the absolute best they can in life.

If you are sick of being surrounded by losers, step up the ambition. Go find a charity to do work for, buncha wholesome folks out there planting trees in the forest or working at a soup kitchen for the homeless. That is, if you really wanna be around respectable wholesome people. Maybe not, maybe just learn to accept that most folks are shitty and "Yarr Harr, the life of a scoundrel for me!". Scream "I'm a piece of shit, and so are all of you." with a smile on your face.
Barnaby Sirringmog - Sat, 24 Feb 2018 04:12:11 EST ID:COAX7aNZ No.522494 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Honestly dead end jobs are usually worse in every way though. If you want to do a job that offers more than just subsistence wage you can often do so while contributing less to an evil system. So currently I make more than the dead end jobs I did, I get progress and yes while I have had to compromise I've compromised less. I work fewer hours and yes I work harder but I LIKE my job. I hate being bored at work. And the organisation I work for is a positive one. I am surrounded by people like me who believe in what they're doing and want to foster each others's development. I'm happy to have traded in what I traded in for my work. They weren't worth being miserable 40 hours a week (I work 37 now) and poor for the rest of them, and as I said, I believe in what I do.

There is a point where you have to trade between one thing and another, and that trade forms a curve. A possibility frontier. OP is likely well inside that though. You can have more money, more job satisfaction, enjoy your work more AND probably feel you're having a better impact.

OP you aren't a bad person or worse person for doing a dead end job but if you can do more you're hurting yourself by staying at that level.

Question for you guys. by Hamilton Mubberwell - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 06:07:39 EST ID:CxCtCvYn No.522380 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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For those of you with depression and related issues like low self worth etc.

Did you have anything traumatic happen to you when you were younger or perhaps you have something going on currently that is influencing your mental state?

Only asking cause I've kind of slowly self destructed my life over the past 7 years but there is no specific cause as there is with some people.
Often times when i've met people and got to know them on a deep level and they have issues they often have some base reason or turning point where (even if not immediate) could be considered a root (if not the only root) of their problems.

It makes me ashamed cause I do not feel that there is any legitimate reason for me to feel depressed.
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Simon Smallham - Fri, 23 Feb 2018 16:11:23 EST ID:h99WlKHO No.522484 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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hey man, you're me.

just turned 24. my dad left my mom when i was about 6, mom dies when i'm 16. i watch her die slowly from cancer then see her take her last breath.

i read a lot afterwards, made effort to move past it and i have, however in some ways it still affects me. I have to force myself to care about most things or even take them seriously. I don't find satisfaction in anything, and it can get frustrating at times. I eventually have to tell myself to relax and nothing matters just to deal and be what my idea of a man is - someone who can just soldier on despite everything.

all i care about is money. fuck everything else.
Simon Smallham - Fri, 23 Feb 2018 16:14:42 EST ID:h99WlKHO No.522485 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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also life's good and if it wasn't for the shit i've experienced, I would not be able to be the man that i am. it's all a matter of making the best of what you got dealt. recognize your issues, cry it out first, then adapt and accept and keep moving forward.
Simon Smallham - Fri, 23 Feb 2018 16:31:25 EST ID:h99WlKHO No.522486 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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i'm actually going to ramble because this is getting me thinking and i am also very high and wired and drunk.

my best quality is my easygoing nature, and i know this because it's what attracts others to me. if anyone here has read The Fall by Camus, they should know what I mean - other people will misinterpret all the signals that I need help as a good quality. i want to be closer to others, i am absolutely desperate for a connection, for something real, for something that matters, for something i can take seriously.

however, at the same time i know it doesn't matter either way. i am definitely someone that should not get married because even other people's serious feelings for me are something i see as totally ridiculous and absolutely fucking absurd because they will never know me.

I've always felt that I knew the words and everything to say yet I can never feel the emotion behind most of it. I'd rather not drop the facade because if i did, the only thing i would think afterwards is that everything the woman i'm with would do was a lie and they were lying to me and I'd have to let go of them. I've tried this once just to try it, and it happened as i expected - once i became truthful, i started to care and distrust.

tying back to OP's original topic: there's no escaping the way i am now due to what happened when i was younger. I'm still learning how to best make it to where I'm content and satisfied with myself. everyone else is irrelevant. even my closest friends, who I know love and care about me so much. I feel guilty for nothing I do, and no regret.

If anything, I feel pissed sometimes at the world and everyone in it for what happened to me, and I don't want to share all the love i have to give for something that has hurt me so much before. It's weird.
Simon Smallham - Fri, 23 Feb 2018 16:42:37 EST ID:h99WlKHO No.522487 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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for anyone who might read this, thanks, and also, if you can relate whatsoever, look at your shit as a challenge. there's a reason i have so much damn confidence - the only person that has the power to fucking instill fear in me is myself. I'm not scared of any motherfucker. I can meet anything, and failure is nothing to me.

walk talll and kick ass lol woo!
Hannah Crunningfit - Sat, 24 Feb 2018 12:44:10 EST ID:ROGlj1oY No.522499 Ignore Report Quick Reply
gaaah she's so cute

I can't seem to make any new [female] friends. by Reuben Dackledine - Thu, 22 Feb 2018 01:21:07 EST ID:Ph7M9Iii No.522463 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So I've been in a downward spiral and trying to get out of, what feels like, a serious rut and hivemind/echo chamber mentality that I've been "stuck in" from hanging out with the same people, same mentality, etc. and really want to make new friends especially a female friend, for a female/differing perspective. Especially since I've been hanging around too many dudes, and I haven't been progressing as a person, I just needed a breath of fresh air. Especially since I'm a very sociable kind of person, I was in a serious depression period for a while when I didn't go to college because I wasn't making any friends since graduating high school.
And over the last few months, I thought I had a chance of making a new friend since high school when a mutual friend of mine had posted on Facebook that her job was hiring for a seasonal position, and sure enough, I got the job and I wanted to share my gratitude for this person I barely knew (other than her being friends with me on Facebook/Instagram, and being a friend of a friend) from this person by asking her if she would want to hang out sometime. Especially since my time at the job was very limited.

First time, was a midnight showing of Blade Runner at the local cinema and maybe grab a cup of coffee at the café next door and talk about the philosophical undertones of the film (which we discussed with other films in our previous shifts), which she said she'll just meet me there. Yeah, not a problem. Day came, she wasn't there, no biggie, as I brought another friend along. Wasn't a huge loss.

Second time, I had offered of she wanted to join me in going to the museum for this exhibit that was going to be there for a short time. Granted, I had been scrounging up any friends that I could before her for this but I figured it was worth a shot (I mean hey, she follows me on Instagram, friends on Facebook, 'liked' my shit, I 'liked' her, common interests in what we've shared). I asked her, and turned she gave me another maybe, and "we'll see what I can do." This doesn't seem too farfetched, right? Well, as days go by, the exhibition is nearing its end, and I hastily message her on Inst…
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Simon Grimfield - Thu, 22 Feb 2018 01:28:02 EST ID:ROGlj1oY No.522464 Ignore Report Quick Reply
you prob came on too hard
aint no biggie, try with another one or a group?
Nigel Pegglekedge - Thu, 22 Feb 2018 04:28:57 EST ID:XblwQTB3 No.522466 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>I'm just not interested in being around any straight dudes right now

lol who says that? that's like a guy saying "I don't want to be around gay dudes right now".

anyways it's not like she sought you out to personally offer you a job. she broadcasted on social media an open position, and you answered. she didn't do shit for you, so you have nothing to be thankful for.
your mistake is trying to invite her a second time after she flaked on you the first time. if you invite someone and they confirm that they'll show up, and then they don't show up without letting you know, and they don't a good reason afterwards, it shows you how little she respects you. shit like that makes me angry.

so fuck her (not literally). she's got issues she doesn't want to share with you. she probably never wanted to be your friend. you probably already know this but it helps to remind yourself that facebook friends and instagram likes don't mean shit. all your facebook friends are good for is to show your other fb friends "look how well-connected and successful I am!".

you want to grow as a person? delete your facebook or at the very least remove anyone that you haven't seen in person in the last 2 months. I did the latter years ago and all the anxiety I had about not having enough friends disappeared overnight.

also maybe accept the fact that most girls don't believe you when you say you only want "their friendship". you probably don't even believe that yourself.
Emma Soddlewill - Thu, 22 Feb 2018 13:31:24 EST ID:r2KV+Wm0 No.522472 Ignore Report Quick Reply

That's the thing, I have no other group. I've been hanging out with the same group since high school. I have been trying to get out and make new friends (like this) only to get thwarted.

Fair points, but I honestly have connect to people other than these social media sites; and I honestly (I guess with my stupidity/ignorance) thought we were cool, or at least want to be associated with. And yeah, maybe I didn't read the signals correctly, but I honestly think that's because I've been stuck in this echo chamber of my loneliness that I didn't know better, and how am I expected to be better if I don't branch out and try to make new friends like this. I just feel like I was getting mixed signals regardless from a maybe (50/50) to "I'll let you know 'bby boy'" (75/25) to this absolute red light (0/100). I just don't understand why shit is bubbled up these days, like I said, I never had a problem with making friends of the opposite gender or varying orientations but lately it's been hard because there aren't any social groups around me anymore other than what's online and is my only connection to the outside world (sadly). I feel like if I were to delete my accounts it'd shut me out even further from the world.
Priscilla Pittbanks - Thu, 22 Feb 2018 14:39:45 EST ID:COAX7aNZ No.522473 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I found that making new friends involves being shot down a lot. People in their cozy groups often don't want a new face coming in.

You probably did come on too strong but that's okay. Next time you find a group stay around for a bit then find someone else and so on. it's better to be that cool person they met briefly than overstay your welcome. You just come by and say hello and chat for a few minutes a few times and gradually build it up until it's obvious you're welcome. Then you probably play it safe but slowly hang more or invite them to something.

It's completely different from befriending a friend of a friend because with the latter you have an in and the new person knows someone whose opinion they value likes you.
Lydia Granddale - Fri, 23 Feb 2018 00:47:54 EST ID:uNHQ+1vM No.522478 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Just join a female centric group of some sort. Yoga, whatever. Figure it out.

Afraid and Anxious by Wesley Hasslestock - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 17:27:32 EST ID:99iemco+ No.522401 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Whenever I get in relationships I feel afraid that they will leave me for some arbitrary reason even if it's going good. I don't think this is a confidence issue, just that something will happen and ruin it all. How can I overcome this?
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Fuck Hevinghodge - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 20:07:38 EST ID:wJavO91C No.522439 Ignore Report Quick Reply

I'm not a normal case of "I don't want to even try relationships anymore."

I'm damaged goods. My last relationship, he kept me in the relationship via threats of homicide and suicide, as well as emotional manipulation and even physical restraining at points. He even threatened to kill my cats. After the homicidal and suicidal threats point, all the sex was just rape. This went on for years.

I would be a bad partner because I can't even give a hug or be touched without feeling intensely uncomfortable and possibly having flashbacks, or freaking out, like panic/fight-or-flight mode. When my friends try to hug me I start to panic and push them away.

My sex drive is dead. My desire for sex is dead. I would thus be a shitty partner because I literally wouldn't even be able to do any girlfriend stuff at the moment. No kissing, no cuddling, no hugging, no sex... what would the point even be? The thought of having sex fills me with disgust, revulsion and fear.

If I tried being in a relationship right now I'd only hurt myself.

I'm not even afraid of the end of a relationship, anymore. I was the one who ended my last relationship, in a very nuclear way. Previous to that, I was broken up with once, and did the breaking up for my first relationship. I'm afraid of the course of it. I don't want to wind up with another abusive psycho.

I used to be very afraid of the end of relationships, I'd have things going on like what OP is describing. The time I had a boyfriend of 2 years break up with me really fucked with me, kinda ripped my heart out. Trying to plug that hole got me stuck with a psycho.
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Phineas Gushshaw - Wed, 21 Feb 2018 00:30:15 EST ID:wkx+P0M+ No.522446 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You're putting relationships on hiatus until you can heal enough to be able to be in one.

Bravo to you. Honestly that's awesome. I believe that you'll be healthy enough to be in a healthy relationship eventually. It worked for me.

I think the guy you responded to thought that you had resigned yourself to be forever a spider monkey's butt forever.
Martin Serrywell - Wed, 21 Feb 2018 01:37:46 EST ID:80efJqSX No.522449 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>I would be a bad partner because I can't even give a hug or be touched without feeling intensely uncomfortable and possibly having flashbacks, or freaking out, like panic/fight-or-flight mode.

While you're doing the right thing not wanting to be in a relationship if you don't think you can handle it, I can say from experience that those panic feelings can and will subside if you have a partner that goes slow and respects your boundaries.
Cyril Turveyspear - Wed, 21 Feb 2018 01:37:57 EST ID:Eran93BT No.522450 Ignore Report Quick Reply
get money problem solved
Cedric Greenham - Thu, 22 Feb 2018 00:30:39 EST ID:wJavO91C No.522462 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Thanks for posting that, it made me feel a little better about the whole relationship future thing.

wake up in the morning and I ask myself is life worth living should I blast myself? by Basil Collylock - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 22:32:28 EST ID:qQGp8jFk No.522442 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've had a weird year.

12 months ago I was a compsci student on track to have a bright future. I had my own apartment, I was eatin good, I played vidya with my friends. But I was sad cause #NoGF, so I went to a rave. I found an oz of coke on the floor and took the party back home. I went on to steal my homie's girl, drop out of school, and start a big ole farm up in the hills. This chick was a model, straight up, the way she sucked my dick was like a legend.

After one too many days where I'd leave to go do business deals with my homies, the lady left me for some random meth dealer who DJ'd bar shows. Distraught with grief, I crashed my car. Then, I brought a new chick in to help around the farm... my old acid dealer, real nice girl. Except then, her boyfriend showed up and stole thousands of dollars from out my house.

So I left to a rainbow gathering and had my other friend go water the crops. When I came back, there was a bunch of police and all my clothes and TVs and computers and everything had been taken. I guess my waterer blasted the gangsta rap too loud.

Having voided my lease for that spot, I went and camped out on the lake, and made some extracts. That was fun until my best friend brought out a custie had robbed my hobo camp.

I got adopted into a trap house with some 8 foot tall ganja plants. Shit was El Dorado. Except then, both me and the farmer got busted on various driving missions. He got charged with DUI and no license with a hit and run. I got charged with possession - intent to distribute MDMA + magic mushrooms + hash.

To try and distract myself from the fear of impending prison, I hit up a cute girl I used to know in my hometown. Turns out she smoke meth every day now and basically just turned me into a pimp sort of fellow, driving her around to various dudes houses where they pay me for being the transporter.

Now I've been basically sober except for doing lines and occassionaly DMT, which I reckon doesn't really count. I need to make some new friends or find a new girl or something, but I've been having a hell of a time meeting new people, because I got all this past bullshit on my mind. Hence, why I chose to vent here.
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Fuck Hevinghodge - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 23:46:01 EST ID:wJavO91C No.522444 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I figured out your problem: you've made some pretty stupid decisions.

Get your life back on track instead of killing yourself.

Awe !!vVWR8L52 - Wed, 21 Feb 2018 09:09:30 EST ID:B/1t3ZFg No.522456 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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figure out what you wan to do and deduce where there might be people like-minded. You have good attitude OP, your a winner already if you keep it up, just stick to dmt and acid. Bro love here.

About to go live with 2 girls as flatmates by Edward Sellersig - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 17:07:17 EST ID:pvGvcjln No.522399 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I kinda suck with women. Should i try something with them or...

pic unrelated, just wanted the opportunity to say this is a shit show.
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Martin Serrywell - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 23:32:05 EST ID:80efJqSX No.522443 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I'm pretty sure people like you are the ones who produce bitter incels.

Being a good person who doesn't feel entitled to sex and has useful skills is pretty much the quickest way to find a good mate in this world.
Phineas Gushshaw - Wed, 21 Feb 2018 00:21:49 EST ID:wkx+P0M+ No.522445 Ignore Report Quick Reply
So do you want him to become an overnight player? All of a sudden a guy who's never had sex is going to become a stud and fuck one of two flatmates and they'll become an item and get married?? Or he'll shag her and she'll be chill and then he'll shag the other one, so she'll be cool. And they'll do that off and on for the rest of the time they're roommates with absolutely no feelings involved?

Be reasonable. It's common sense that if he pursues a flatmate he'll most likely be looking for a new apartment sooner rather than later. He hasn't got the skills or the nature to non creepily do it. He probably would chicken out anyway and then would end up cakefarted while watching the roommates partners stream through the place while he's doing the dishes, depressed and full of rage.

Instead of giving him ideas and setting him up for failure, we are trying to give him the skills and mindset that will get him ahead with women and that will actually work with his kind of temperament.
Cedric Soggletut - Wed, 21 Feb 2018 00:59:10 EST ID:0PJ7z1R+ No.522448 Ignore Report Quick Reply
just wait til their periods sinc. you're gonna be living at the bar 1 week out of the month.
Eugene Duckgold - Wed, 21 Feb 2018 01:48:49 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.522452 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>blah blah blah ur not good enough

This is the blabbering of plebs who don't go anywhere in life. They tell themselves they aren't good enough because they enjoy being 2nd.
Martin Serrywell - Wed, 21 Feb 2018 01:53:34 EST ID:80efJqSX No.522453 Ignore Report Quick Reply
And your advice is...?

Girl Problems by Lillian Munderson - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 10:00:55 EST ID:NbD72wTZ No.522429 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Girl of years broke up with me on new years, one of her best guy friends added me that night on Facebook out of the blue. Found out today they're publicly dating, after girl and I had to hide our relationship for 3 years because her parents are super traditional and wouldn't allow her to have a boyfriend, but I guess this guy is fine. Fuck
Phineas Gushshaw - Wed, 21 Feb 2018 00:47:32 EST ID:wkx+P0M+ No.522447 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Why would he add you to Facebook? That's super weird snakish.

But yeah she sucks. 3 years of hiding a relationship isnt on. How do you plan to deal with your loss? Do you have a plan of some sort?
Martin Serrywell - Wed, 21 Feb 2018 01:39:58 EST ID:80efJqSX No.522451 Ignore Report Quick Reply
That's pretty rough OP. However, if the breakup was inevitable/deserved, then why not just be happy for them?

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