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fucking it up with her by Samuel Dollydale - Tue, 29 May 2018 10:22:56 EST ID:mv6CynSU No.524471 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Started dating this girl. Last night was our second date. We went to two parties. She likes me, clearly. I'm didn't escalate physically because I'm dumb. If I don't next time we get together, I'm pretty sure she'll do the let's be friends schtick. There's been a lot of innuendo and some touching, but I just haven't gone for it. I feel retarded.
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Cedric Snodman - Thu, 31 May 2018 13:08:02 EST ID:8h45733S No.524521 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524515
G A M E O V E R
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Cornelius Birryridge - Thu, 31 May 2018 22:45:48 EST ID:aUdigX5R No.524529 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524515
If the situation arises attempt something. It will be too late if she rejects to go out with you to like a party or something. If she agrees to get drunk with you, then it's not too late
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Ernest Fugglewot - Thu, 31 May 2018 22:56:21 EST ID:QvcxQVsf No.524530 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524515
Don't listen to the meme. You're actually perfectly positioned.
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Phoebe Nenningteg - Fri, 01 Jun 2018 07:18:41 EST ID:vC63hpUS No.524538 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524515
Look man in the end if you stay friends with her but don't solely fixate on her as your romantic conquest, there will be chances.

cakefart is bullshit. Sexually compatible friends will fuck given the circumstances. You just have to be horny and good enough friends.
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Hedda Turveystock - Fri, 01 Jun 2018 07:20:50 EST ID:mv6CynSU No.524539 Ignore Report Quick Reply
ya'll was right :)
didn't go exactly as planned but it went alright
didn't quite fuck but almost, then it was getting bright out so I didn't try again
all in all a great date, but I think she thinks I'm inexperienced af
which is true
i kinda rushed a bit but it's fine I think


I used a NJ quote but it was too long by George Blemmledit - Wed, 23 May 2018 18:40:11 EST ID:WFZ/uYDo No.524278 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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A problem I have is overanalyzing things I've done / conversations I've had and to that end I'm coming to you lot for an opinion.

>Ask girl out
>She says yes
>Next day says she's gonna be busy and maybe we can reschedule another day
>Take this as her changing her mind, say I'm free on these two days if you still wanna go otherwise I'll see you around


Unsurprisingly I'm not very good with people so I figured I'd throw in two alternative days in case she really did wanna reschedule and I was reading too much into it, but now I'm worried that she thought I was hitting her up for some kind of bootycall with how specific I was. I mean don't get me wrong I don't think she would have said yes otherwise or anything I just don't want anyone to get that impression of me because word inevitably gets around and that's not who I am.

Am I being super neurotic or do you think that's actually something she could've taken away from my text? I was just trying to get across that if you really do wanna go I'm still interested and if you don't that's fine man, no hard feelings I'll see you around.
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Esther Mupperstone - Wed, 30 May 2018 01:46:58 EST ID:cBYQH4Mo No.524493 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524360

Explain?
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James Wemmlespear - Wed, 30 May 2018 06:51:37 EST ID:qOMObJz1 No.524497 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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I see flute girl tomorrow boys wish me luck, its now or never
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Graham Dartspear - Wed, 30 May 2018 18:47:53 EST ID:pp0dbESC No.524509 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>524497
good luck my man, don't be too down if it doesn't go how you hope
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Jarvis Cruttingworth - Thu, 31 May 2018 23:59:04 EST ID:qOMObJz1 No.524532 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>524509

I finally manned up and talked to her, she couldn't hang out with me after class because she had a meeting but I asked her if she wanted to hang out with me again and she said "I would like to" and I got her facebook and walked with her to the train station.

Feels good
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Esther Dripperbanks - Fri, 01 Jun 2018 01:53:37 EST ID:cBYQH4Mo No.524534 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524532

positive indicators and no red flags noted thus far. proceed.


Sensorimotor Breathing OCD by Jarvis Brubberkire - Fri, 01 Jun 2018 01:52:16 EST ID:YmQCOQRU No.524533 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Anyone else gotten over Sensorimotor Breathing OCD? Basically, this is a type of anxiety/OCD where the sufferer can't stop focusing and manually breathing, and their breathes feel harsh and it spirals into anxiety as they begin to worry about improper breathing leading to a health problem.

I know it's logically stupid, but its something I can't stop doing. If I am at home in my house and get one of these episodes, I do something else and I get over it---I go play a video game, or write, or watch a movie, etc. But the times I can't just "do something else" are when I'm driving my car and when I go running. When I'm in a car, I can't just stop....I have a destination to get to. So, until I get to that destination all I can think about is manually breathing every single breath. Same thing with running. I ran for years with no issue, then got this shit all of the sudden....what am I supposed to do so I can drive and run without worry? I really don't want to get on any meds for this since it only happens occasionally when I drive, but 100% of the time when I go running...I could just stop running, and power walk instead I guess for health.

Any advice for this shit? I think it may be related to usage of a legal high called "phenibut". I on'y did it once a week for a few weeks, but I'm dropping that shit now.


Am I mentally ill or is this normal by Caroline Middlewill - Sat, 26 May 2018 08:08:59 EST ID:ajFqgR3U No.524347 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Basically, at any given moment I either feel good about everything, or bad about everything. It's not extreme, I don't think I could be reasonably described as bipolar, although I did have one manic episode after a prolonged DXM binge about 6 years ago.

I just can't shake the feeling, when I feel down about stuff, but I know logically that I will feel totally different quite soon. Right now I feel good about everything, but yesterday I felt like shit.

However it occurs to me that this might be a totally normal function of human emotion, like, there's only so much in the tank, chemically speaking, so you can't feel good all the time, gotta recharge.
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Isabella Fettingcocke - Wed, 30 May 2018 00:49:15 EST ID:AfG3Rwxg No.524485 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524480
Cyclothymia is simultaneously the most common (>5% of the general population) and least diagnosed/recognized form of bipolar disorder, as many cyclothymics don't go through the same experiences as BDI/II. They don't have psychotic mania. They don't suffer severe depressions. They're just chronically and endlessly mood swinging, and the mood swinging seems to resemble normal variants of mood i.e. happy or sad rather than manic or depressed. Cyclothymic hypomania is not the same as BDII hypomania, it's not an episode and can come or go multiple times during a single day. This means most clinicians don't recognize it and diagnose the person with borderline personality or regular BD instead, which leads to problems with treatment compliance (ineffective treatment = no patient compliance = patient ceases to come in at all). There are very few published studies on effective treatments for cyclothymia, even though it has been studied for over a hundred years.
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Thomas Pumblelere - Wed, 30 May 2018 14:35:42 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.524502 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524485

The thing is I fit the role of cyclo, but yet have also had 3 psychosis episodes... am I some even newer hybrid of bd not yet know?
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Beatrice Barddale - Wed, 30 May 2018 18:10:19 EST ID:ZrxaJUlX No.524506 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524485

interesting stuff my dude, thanks.
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Betsy Henningkure - Wed, 30 May 2018 21:37:02 EST ID:AfG3Rwxg No.524516 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524502
No, it's quite common for cyclothymia to evolve into full bipolar disorder or schizoaffective disorder. The cyclothymia remains, as it is a baseline personality trait, but the episodes superimpose upon it.
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Phineas Pummermotch - Thu, 31 May 2018 22:15:31 EST ID:o+cAXKgw No.524526 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Potentially relevant to my situation. Good stuff. You might be interested to know that increasing my testosterone into the 900 ng/DL range dramatically decreased the severity of the negative emotions. Right now I should be on a rollercoaster but I'm not, just feeling a little quieter inside. Very low-key depression. I feel like I can work with this.


Recurring obsessive thought pattern by Thomas Pumblelere - Wed, 30 May 2018 17:05:21 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.524505 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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For over a decade plus my mind has been generating some sort of obsessive mental tick. Certain women who crossed emotional thresholds (sex/love/feels) would be the subjects of this. There have only been perhaps 4 names that qualify, but each one definitely occupied my head for a long time. I have been hanging out with a good girl for a month now and noticed this bullshit, fully... Let’s use “Betsy” as an example.

My brain will randomly generate the opening of a sentence “See Betsy...” or “see the thing about Betsy”. There is no specific trigger, but throughout my day I will have this type of thought occur anywhere between once and every few hours. Sometimes I just stop after the name, because I know myself that this was triggered unconsciously and that I do not infact have any observations, analysis or any other statements to make. But the “see Betsy” line is enough to trigger waves of anxiety, insecurity, worry or better yet just a reminder of feelings of loss.

If i do not stop at the name, i usually stagger about dwelling on particular areas of their character. Rarely positive but not explicitly negative. It occupies a kind of murky area where fear and lust blend into a confusing sludge. I cannot place the feeling.

All I really know about this mental tick is that it definitely stems from an early pre-teen obsession with one girl. One of those “love at first sight, cakefarted for years, hooked up and disappointed” stories. I no longer identify with these outdated relics of my mental programming as a fucking idiot 12 year old. But clearly something has fucked up inside, im not sure what.

The only coping strategy i have came up with after 13 years of this shit, is to either stop myself after the name. Or to then say the sentence “see the thing about MYSELF” in order to try counter, challenge and maybe even grow by fighting back.

Is it anxiety? Is it OCD? Is it stupidity? Any and all advice, opinions and insults are welcome. I just want to try and gain any additional insight, because my self awareness is at such a fucking blind spot here. This is one of those, really deep, core to your system processes that i just cannot seem to really get a close look at because my perspective is not detached eno…
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Angus Chunderstone - Wed, 30 May 2018 18:28:07 EST ID:L+3lKxw/ No.524508 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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I don't really know how to answer this, but I do have a suggestion based off of a similar mental tick I had for a while.

Basically my depressed ass developed this thing where after a conversations, my brain would be yelling "..AND!?, AND!?" as if there was more to the story that the person was telling.

It developed from an abusive relationship where my GF at the time was robbing me, cheating on me and basically being a huge piece of shit behind my back. Any argument she would give me always fell short, to the point where I was not satisfied with any answer she gave me. A normal man would've walked away, but I being proud man I was at the time, I wanted to know answers.

..hence the "AND!?" part of it. The relationship ended on very poor terms (I ended up taking her to a small claims court for stealing) and I developed this mental tick that every story, no matter how benign, felt lacking on how they REALLY felt.

How I fixed it? Hypnotherapy.

A few sessions and I changed my thought process. It didn't help my depression (the hypnotherapist said these kind of things need far more sessions, combined with normal therapy and CBT), but it was a much needed salve on my mental health.

Basically the hypnotist encouraged me in my persuadable state to bring forth my inner monologue. Basically to speak what I am thinking, in a diplomatic manner. So instead of thinking "and!? I would often say, for example, after laughing at a joke "is it that it?", or if I had an intense conversation I would say "Is there more to this?" or "If you want to speak more about this, i'm here"

It was a simple change, but it was one I needed a helping hand in.
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Shitting Blatherson - Thu, 31 May 2018 00:04:03 EST ID:RjIe9qeh No.524519 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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That's interesting OP. I used to do the same thing. Whenever I had a crush on or got into a relationship with a chick I would end up repeating her name in my head over and over. I think it was an attempt to make her the sole focus of my affection. (Being a believer in monogamy due to upbringing, despite my parents bitter divorce when I was little. A part of me wants to find my soul mate and never let her go thus correcting my parent's mistakes.) I haven't done it in a few years because I haven't been in a relationship or interested in one.

>>524508
This seems like the solution. I will have to try it for a different one. Despite being a tolerant person, I get flashes of racist and misogynistic language pop into my head when seeing people of other races and women in everyday life. I think it's from being around intolerant family members and spending too much time on the internet. I'm not saying I'm perfect, but I really don't want those people to rub off on me. Inb4 "it's because women and jolly African-Americans are inferior." Just stfu.


loneliness by Nell Sindermune - Tue, 29 May 2018 19:39:32 EST ID:fHILlDGQ No.524479 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>28 years old
>never had a gf
>used online dating apps, hardly get matched

what does one do when he is unwanted?
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Frederick Pittlock - Tue, 29 May 2018 19:58:39 EST ID:cBYQH4Mo No.524481 Ignore Report Quick Reply
become wantable.
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Oliver Chiddledock - Tue, 29 May 2018 23:06:50 EST ID:aUdigX5R No.524482 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524479
Go to the gym? Go out more?
I'm really asking, I'm sort of in the same situation as you.

If it's any consolation, I have a friend who's 33, really good looking, really smart, sort of fit (rather skinny though), funny, and has pretty much never had a girlfriend (he had a girlfriend for less than a year when he turned 30, and she was like 8 years younger, I seriously believe it doesn't count).

I don't know man, I really think it's about how you carry yourself and how willing you're to accept other people. I bet sometime, someone has wanted to be with you and you turned him/her down.
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Esther Mupperstone - Wed, 30 May 2018 01:42:23 EST ID:cBYQH4Mo No.524491 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524479
>>524482

Read my advice in this thread

>>524278
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Reuben Chovingspear - Wed, 30 May 2018 12:39:09 EST ID:jc8oLiVY No.524500 Ignore Report Quick Reply
do something you are passionate about. and dont do it because you want to get someone, do it for yourself. you would be surprised how much that shit makes you radiate. there is something magnetic about people who have their own thing and are willing to put everything into it. not being uptight about yourself helps a lot, too. if you have things you consider faulty about yourself, learn to laugh about them, gentle, loving, self-deprecating irony shouts confidence without being a smug cunt about it. i dont know, worked for me.
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Thomas Pumblelere - Wed, 30 May 2018 14:34:13 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.524501 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524500

Could you give an example of this irony being executed?

Asking for a friend


help. by Nell Sinkinnirk - Wed, 30 May 2018 01:45:11 EST ID:OWx1ClP7 No.524492 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm 26, i live on my own, make a decent living, have a decent car, but get no bitches. i got no game. I'm skinny but have been going to the gym for 3 months, it doesnt help my work schedule is 2-10, im pretty ugly but im not fat and slowly will get jacked so im not worried about that. I've fucked maybe 10 women since i was 17 or so, had a few relationships but haven't in a bit. The last girl I fucked told people i raped her but it was consent, that was back in april

I live in wisconsin and everyone is ugly as fuck, maybe 10-15% (or less) of women are actually attactive unless you live in milwaukee or madison, and in milwaukee you'll either prob get an std. Most people are obnoxious drunks.

Moving isn't really an option, its very unrealistic right now. What should I do?
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Matilda Siblingbodge - Wed, 30 May 2018 02:32:32 EST ID:J8AAoAKI No.524494 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Lower your standards
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Cyril Gengerhood - Wed, 30 May 2018 05:18:40 EST ID:QvcxQVsf No.524496 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>The last girl I fucked told people i raped her but it was consent, that was back in april

Did you happen to post about this at the time?
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Nell Sinkinnirk - Wed, 30 May 2018 12:37:29 EST ID:OWx1ClP7 No.524499 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524496
Probly, i post here pretty often


Shitting Where You Eat by Basil Hemmlehood - Tue, 01 May 2018 18:31:11 EST ID:C+6NY20y No.523793 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Sup /qq/

So here's the deal. My life is going through a major transition as I exit a relationship of 5 years. I have onegina so bad I feel like I am going to explode. I went out with a coworker who has been a friend for like 2 years a couple nights ago for the first time and man did we get along. We have basically everything in common, and it was only due to our mutual professionalism that we went home separately. But I am certain if we go out a couple more times things could get physical. There was so much tension between us you could have cut it with a spoon. Now at work we have the same job title so there would be no issue in terms of fraternization, however it is technically against company policy for two employees to engage in a relationship. I really really need this job, I have built myself a successful and stable income here, and losing it for any reason would be a tremendous blow to my current life changes (paying the bills). It is the most income and stability I have ever had with a job. However I have adored this girl's ass for 2 years and I want to eat it out at least one time and I think she would like it as much as I would.

Please tell me what I already know, that this is a treacherous road and that I should pursue other females and avoid shitting where I eat. But I gotta shit so bad. I GOTTA SHIT SO FUCKING BAD HELP
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Beatrice Clayspear - Tue, 29 May 2018 18:07:25 EST ID:fh5xuZgB No.524478 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524476
moody 18 y/o senior confirmed
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Isabella Fettingcocke - Wed, 30 May 2018 00:59:28 EST ID:AfG3Rwxg No.524486 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>524478
at least you stopped posting circlejerk memes, now neck yourself. nb
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Molly Doshchere - Wed, 30 May 2018 01:34:07 EST ID:fh5xuZgB No.524489 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>524486
Are you upset with me for some reason?
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Cyril Gengerhood - Wed, 30 May 2018 05:17:17 EST ID:QvcxQVsf No.524495 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>524489

It seems that you're being somewhat of a faggot. I would imagine that's the issue they're having with you.
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Molly Doshchere - Wed, 30 May 2018 07:45:23 EST ID:fh5xuZgB No.524498 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>524495
You should roll your eyes and slam your bedroom door, that'll show me


Approaching guy on bus? by Martin Dillerlock - Sat, 26 May 2018 00:46:14 EST ID:sM5nvTHu No.524337 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So i was sitting behind this guy on the bus yesterday and i could see him flicking through tinder, he was swiping on all these pretty blonde girls who were at the beach or doing something quirky. I am a chub with brown hair and i was about to start talking to him because lonely friday night but he got off the bus.

How would this have gone down? he wasn't a ryan gosling he was just a pretty regular looking dude and im a pretty regular gal, if this happens again should i just talk to him?

Cheers.
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Fuck Cheblinglock - Tue, 29 May 2018 08:30:32 EST ID:USUZpST+ No.524470 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524435
It's not exactly a limited resource. There are plenty of nicely chubby chicks for both of us.
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Samuel Pammleluck - Tue, 29 May 2018 10:42:55 EST ID:zXYjKqIG No.524472 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Idc what you look like. Hold me.
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Jarvis Pipperpit - Tue, 29 May 2018 12:59:16 EST ID:7J8o2xTW No.524473 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524429
OP would have more success in talking to men if she actually talked to them though, that's key.

I'm sure this thread is a garbage fire but I lost a lot of weight after I flubbed it with a great girl. I was not "a chub" I was almost morbid. I'm athletic now. Anyway it helped a bit, not with that girl, but I probably could have landed her despite my physique but it helped. However it didn't help very much. Because I'm still shy and poor at approaching women, after a while you just know failure and end up in a situation where even just finding single women is a huge effort so why not do something else?

Anyway last time I got laid it was with an overweight girl and I regret nothing. I had fun and she was cute and had nice tits (actually nice, not just big) but I think I can bring something useful for OP beyond just self indulging. I'm going to criticise this girl a little because it will give OP some perspective. I am not Ryan Gosling however I'm reasonably attractive and all that.

My biggest compaints with this lady were 2 things. One, she was a smoker and only smoked once we got back to hers. So it was like HAHA TRAP and then kissing tasted rank. The other is that she was shy about her body. I knew she was a bit flabby, at several points during the evening I had stood very close to her and the most forward part of my body was at stomach height. So I knew. What was disappointing was she was trying to hide from me so I got shit all eye contact/kissing and didn't get to enjoy her tits either.

Oh but she approached me and she didn't fuck around. Or she did fuck around, I don't know. I'd have seen her again as she was interesting enough to be worth meeting but she humped me and dumped me because I was a dumb slut lol. Oh well. But as a guy if a woman approaches you, you're already way more receptive. Just make sure you don't a) do 100% of the work, b) throw yourself at them or c) put out easily if you're doing that because a lot of guys will see you as a potential easy lay. Unless that's what you want, in which case just go be straightforward. Society still expects men to do most of the approaching but it won't las…
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Henry Duvingbet - Tue, 29 May 2018 13:23:09 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.524474 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524337

Talk to whomever you feel like. It's a free country. It's not like anything bad will happen.
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Oliver Chiddledock - Tue, 29 May 2018 23:21:45 EST ID:aUdigX5R No.524483 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Holy shit poor girl, why did this thread turn into this shitstorm?

I think you should try it. In all honesty, the few times a girl talked to me I was too dumb to realize she was into me and got really nervous.

One time I was sitting waiting for the bus smoking a cig (it was really early) and I see this this cute girl who just got to the bus stop. I look at her (because she was cute) and she sits next to me but she like crashed into me (and there was plenty of space to sit there). She seriously almost pushed me off the bench if it was a dude I would've pushed him the fuck away). I was so nervous when she did that that I accidentaly swallowed my cig's butt lol. Dude I'm the worst. Anyway, she just sat there glued to me for about two minutes, and when I didn't do anything she moved away and didn't say anything.

Another time in a show some girl told me "Hey! how you doing?" and I answered "Hi, do I know you?" and she responded "Hnnng, sorry, I'm to high". I was completely alone and bored there, I really regreted that answer. I was also really high though.

Anyway, do it, if the other person is not as dumb as I am he'll probably answer. As a basic rule, it is flattering when someone talks to you.


Mental illness by Dale Earnhardt jr - Mon, 28 May 2018 20:44:25 EST ID:g9t4tORB No.524448 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey all,
recently I have been seeing and hearing shit that isn't there.
This started a couple days ago with me hearing a beeping noise while over at my friends that no one else could hear, I thought I just had good hearing until it started changing frequency at which it beeped and then I realized that it was probably in my head. I've had pretty intense auditory hallucinations in the past but this one was just so real. these past 24 hours have had even more hallucinations both visual and auditory and I have been incredibly paranoid about everything.

what the fuck should I do?
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Ernest Wuzzleson - Mon, 28 May 2018 20:50:21 EST ID:OHp7Bid0 No.524449 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524448
See a professional. A doctor or a psychologist or psychiatrist. Get some help. I think with mental illnesses it's best to get it diagnosed sooner than later.
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Martha Cicklefuck - Mon, 28 May 2018 21:20:41 EST ID:3A/9rSkO No.524450 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Take antipsychotics ASAP getting out of the episode as fast as possible is crucial to recovery. You are killing your brain the longer you stay in this state, like a ketamine addict.
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Dale Earnhardt jr - Mon, 28 May 2018 23:27:24 EST ID:g9t4tORB No.524463 Ignore Report Quick Reply
called a state run health line and they told me to go to my local doctors, they forwarded me to a Councillor and I've been booked for next week.
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Ian Saffingsune - Tue, 29 May 2018 00:14:16 EST ID:JWUlcM+k No.524467 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524463
That's good news, man.

All I can say is eat good, get some exercise and fresh air and try to occupy your mind with good, positive things such as reading or drawing.

Good luck buddy


Cutting someone off by Thomas Doddleridge - Mon, 28 May 2018 16:15:55 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.524436 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I’m in an awkward situation. I met a dude called Bob like 8 years ago through floating about high school stoner circles In my area. Bob was never a guy I fully liked but he was alright so whatever, let’s smoke weed. Over the next few years he would be a kind of on/off presence as a result of him attaching himself to some of my close friends at different times. Outside of when I saw him in groups, he would occasionally ask to meet up and smoke, so I did, whatever.

As the years went on, I started to dislike hanging out with Bob. He hasn’t committed any particular crimes, I just find his vibe off putting and not someone I would choose to be around. I didn’t have the heart to tell him no, so I kinda courtesied a meet up every 6 months and would reply occasionally on Facebook.

In 2016 I had enough. I stopped replying to his messages, bailed on meet ups and wouldn’t answer my phone to him. He does shit like call you three times consequetively until you pick up. The messages continued, he would pop up every time I dared to be online for more than a few minutes. So I stopped opening them. Then I blocked his number in April 2017 after he acquired it. He showed up at my house in August 2017 because he had not heard from me in a while. We hung out that night. I kept him blocked, didn’t reply and just got on with my life. Over the last while he slowed down but randomly tries his luck. He started whatsapp calling me because he wasn’t blocked on that.

I don’t use Facebook much, but the other day I interacted with it and showed interest in attending an event. Within a few hours he messages me all “hey man it’s been ages let’s meet up I miss you” with a mix of angry and happy emojis. I’m just like, fs cunt go away stop this. It’s been over 18 months and you just push it right up to my nose.

He has forced my hand. I want to kill this off but don’t know how to in a way that doesn’t damage him needlessly. I don’t think he deserves a full critique of his personality because that shit hurts. I also don’t think he needs some “it’s not you it’s me” shit because I’ve had that off an ex before and it’s useless. I don’t have a PROBLEM with him, I just don’t wanna hang with him, at all, ever.

I know I want to block hi…
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Ebenezer Hiblingcocke - Mon, 28 May 2018 19:19:51 EST ID:USUZpST+ No.524445 Ignore Report Quick Reply
A segway is a machine for not walking. You mean a segue. It's pronounced the same.
And just tell him you don't feel the same way and to go away.
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Isabella Pondlenudging - Mon, 28 May 2018 20:30:13 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.524447 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524445

Haha thanks man I really appreciate the heads up. I’ve only ever heard the word spoken and assumed the brand had stolen the word.
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James Fubbledale - Mon, 28 May 2018 22:57:21 EST ID:/pl3Lein No.524462 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524441
Seconded. Stop being like this dude.
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Fuck Cheblinglock - Tue, 29 May 2018 08:29:23 EST ID:USUZpST+ No.524469 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524447
They did steal it, sort of. A segue is a smooth transition from one thing to another, they thought it'd be a neat name for their roller-thingy but they spelled it differently for whatever branding reason.
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Molly Doshchere - Wed, 30 May 2018 01:27:46 EST ID:fh5xuZgB No.524487 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Block him and forget about it. Who cares? Are you this worried about sparing his feelings after you ghosted him for like two years? Shit aint even worth the effort boi


What is inattentive ADHD like? by Graham Corrygold - Thu, 24 May 2018 19:27:23 EST ID:Bjoteuri No.524312 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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What is inattentive ADHD like? I haven't been able to commit my concentration to reading a book, watching a movie, or playing a non-arcade vidya (arcadey would be a match of dota2/cs) in years. I'm 28 and it's getting a lot worse than when I was 20. I haven't read a single book in about 5 years.

Trying to start a freelance business and work on my music and I can't finish anything. Even starting it is almost mentally painful to do. Usually I now gravitate towards things that provide the most gratification with the least amount of effort, and I'm impulsive.

I have a lot of trouble prioritising daily tasks as well. Often I'll just start pacing around the house with a million different things in my head instead of committing to one easy task. I tried dexamphetamine from a friend (the Australian variant of Adderall) and it basically fixed the prioritisation problem.

The thing is, I don't fit all of the criteria for the DSM symptoms. In particular, I don't have a huge amount of trouble concentrating on what a person is saying if the person or subject is interesting to me. I'm also almost never late to things. I'm also getting a lot better at not losing things than I was (maybe out of necessity though, I used to constantly leave my wallet at places and accidentally leave my ID at home when going out)
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Albert Fuckingfuck - Sat, 26 May 2018 11:15:31 EST ID:7J8o2xTW No.524356 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524312
DSM symptoms are usually a huge list with "the more of these the patient displays and the more severely they display them the more likely they have the problem" they are not (or should not be) a list of things you have to meet.

I have a friend with similar ADHD and either his is less severe or his meds work pretty well. Have you actually tried to get a diagnosis?
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Clara Clarringwit - Sun, 27 May 2018 00:05:01 EST ID:kPK7t16O No.524363 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>524312
I really feel you OP, in fact I'd say we're akin on this. I scored ritallin a few times and also dexamphetamine. I admit that I got a LOT of work done in the day, but I cannot put this down to neurochemical responses; It was like talking a lot of coffee and if I didn't do things then I'd tense up and wanna burst. I've achieved a far more stable focus by customising my own approach, but it also depends on me staying grounded.

For me and the times I am attentive and focused, it's owing to a strong reverence to a schedule. I put up a whiteboard and write out a day if I need it to be productive, ie: errands/chores. For a more personal practice/self-development, I begin the day writing a list of things I should try to do, divided into two categories:

>Stimulation: Read; Write; Music; Exercise; Draw; Study; Audiobook/lectures; etc.
>Relaxation: Meditate; Listen (podcasts, music); Gaming; Cleaning (this helps me greatly with not losing stuff); etc

I can still game or indulge in vices that would distract. The key is avoiding excess. By the end of the day I'd journal some of the experiences or what I learned and try to reflect on what took the most of my time. As a result I spend a lot less time gaming and generally more time on tasks that don't gratify me immediately.

Remembering to apply a practice is harder than developing one, but forgiveness is crucial. When I become sloppy, I turn up my routine and remember that this is in service to myself. I have succeeded enough times now to trust that I have two separate sets of desires; my childlike/playful ones, and my deeper, meaningful ones.

Thank you for this thread, it has also reinforced my own efforts to improve.
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Emma Bossleshaw - Sun, 27 May 2018 05:02:05 EST ID:6P6u/bAq No.524366 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>524312

About 11 months ago, I procrastinated myself into a career-destroying disaster. In that procrastination I watched a lot of Twin Peaks. This was my gateway into Jungian psychology, specifically, Jung's idea of the shadow. After reading some wikipedia, I decided to try and look at my own `shadow` and `the work` has never stopped. I haven't been able to operate at my full potential for more than a few days at a time, but I have been able to enter those states of high functionality more frequently and consistently. Maybe one day they'll just be `states of regular functionality`.

At first it felt like opening my eyes and realizing I had been living in a condemned building for years. Now that I was aware of it, I could start taking care of it. As the months go on, I learn more about me and every repressed part of myself which I accept makes life a little easier.

So based on that experience, I recommend you try the same.

look at yourself. Really look, and just accept whatever you find without judgement or criticism. Do you wish your parents would take care of you forever? Are you just using your partner for sex? Do you create massive inconvenience for people who hurt your feelings? Is there a part of your personality that you wish was NOT part of your personality?

When you start finding the things you hid from your conscious mind: don't call them good or bad. Just accept them and let them be a part of you. You've always been this way and had these parts, and your behavior has always been unconsciously driven by them, despite your conscious protests.
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Angus Ginnerwell - Sun, 27 May 2018 14:42:40 EST ID:4T9g/hB1 No.524371 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>524366
I like your words on accepting and not judging yourself. Any content I can read further on this? Not op but I need to learn to not judge the things I don’t like about myself

Also OP I’m literally the exact same way. Can’t do vidya unless they are stimulating like an FPS, I have like 30 books I haven’t read. But when I’m really into something I can do it for a while. Stopped doing adderall because it became an addiction. Taking a break from weed to see if it will help with anxiety and self esteem but it’s been the only thing in my life to slow my mind down and concentrate
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Jack Pittingman - Mon, 28 May 2018 18:50:28 EST ID:nSbw+4Be No.524444 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>524366
I think that last part is important. I think of those thoughts like boners, it's okay to have them but it's not like you have to do anything with them.


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