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Setting up TAILS for a potential party van candidate by Hedda Bomblechure - Fri, 14 Jul 2017 23:49:25 EST ID:3WUBtv6t No.517461 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>as a kid found highly suspect child exploitation material on my dad's computer more than once (15 years ago or so)
>he has also travelled extensively to places in SEA known for child exploitation, which could be unrelated...
>never came to a conclusion about what if anything to do about this
>recently he has asked me to set up TAILS for him after I mentioned it in the context of DNMs
>claims he wants it to avoid the tax department snooping on his emails (I know he does own property overseas, probably other investments too)
>I can't help but think he's not just avoiding the tax department, but the party van too.
>what do?

I might make a second post with details, at the moment my post keeps getting flagged for banned words and I'm not sure which one it is.
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Wesley Dicklebodge - Sat, 15 Jul 2017 13:33:56 EST ID:fX99t0fX No.517466 Ignore Report Quick Reply
keep an eye on him via remote access account, if he starts to do CP related activities tell him to get therapy.
Thomas Sobberhall - Mon, 17 Jul 2017 09:23:36 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.517492 Ignore Report Quick Reply
well, you just got to ask yourself whether you want him to go to jail over this or not. If he's already seeking out cp, setting up TAILS for him isn't going to do anything but make him less likely to go to jail for it.
Reuben Sullytin - Mon, 17 Jul 2017 14:47:28 EST ID:TuR6hHE1 No.517493 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Yeah man, it's a really bad buzz. I found searches on limewire for CP when I was growing up with my brother. Never confronted him about it but told my sister and one time blurted it out when I was having an argument with my dad. Been a long time since I've thought about this and it's something I've only ever told 2 other people, one of them killed themselves so I guess now it's only my ex that knows outside of the family. I don't know if my sis thinks about it much but I have a feeling my dad is able to push it out of his mind.

My dad confronted him about it and my brothers excuse was that he just downloaded things at random. But what I found was searches, rather than videos. So I know it's exactly what he was looking for. As horrific as a bus that this was, I grew up spending WAY more time on the internet than my brother, and while I can say I never actively looked shit up, I DID spend time on motherless when it was a bit more oldschool than it is now, and loli hentai isn't my thing but it's hard to avoid it sometimes considering the age of most characters in anime. So despite growing up with some pretty shady stuff and loli hentai, that shit got left behind when I grew up a bit. I'm open to thinking that my brother is the same. He's married now. My pornography habits have kind of calcified and left all the proper weird shit behind, I have a feeling that the same thing has happened to him and he's not a true pedo. Maybe I'm wrong though.

When I was younger I used to make dumb little youtube videos myself, and one day I found out that basically 80% of my subscribers were pedos. Only subscribed to young boys, and all their favorites were videos of topless boys playing in pools and shit. I think both these things had an impact on me because I went through a phase of thinking EVERYONE was a pedo. Didn't really help that I was spending so much time on the future at the time which put "loli" shit on a bit of a pedestal. "Blind Mute Loli" and all that sort of stuff back then. I defo had a bit of a trivialized attitude to all that shit.

I do have some questions about what it was exactly you found on your computer, but if there's a…
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Henry Mamblefidge - Tue, 18 Jul 2017 13:09:29 EST ID:bwJOb6Ln No.517503 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Sonic is faster
Archie Blogglekirk - Fri, 21 Jul 2017 13:34:50 EST ID:bwJOb6Ln No.517565 Ignore Report Quick Reply
if you have family members who you think maybe he paedophiles, be vigilant.

It always astounds me that family members say they had no idea their nieces / nephews etc. were being regularly abused.

30% of people suffer some kind of sexual abuse as children and that can only be possible because adults like to pretend it isn't happening.

Don't go fucking stasi on your family, but yeah, almost. If we all do this then the government won't have any excuse for spying on us, will they? Keep it in the family!

post-neet: should i take the job? by Martha Brebbledotch - Mon, 10 Jul 2017 23:32:25 EST ID:n1yNxChx No.517345 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey guys, I'm something of a recovering neet (24/m) looking for work. So I got a call from a guy who needs kitchen help at a summer camp for the rest of the summer. Everything is provided for, work is nothing I haven't done before, there's just one problem. I'm going to be stuck with 11 other guys, apparently they all get along well. I've had problems with getting along with people, usually I just put my head down and do the work, and usually I end up resented for it. I don't mix well. However, I've been reading a lot about going out of my comfort zone, etc etc.. This is a big demon for me. I've been hurt by this sort of thing, quite badly. I wasn't a neet for no reason, of course.

Anyway, I got the call, it went well. He was offering me it pretty much, and I told him that I'd get back to him tomorrow. It might not be there as he said he was going through 20 or so other people, and it might get taken. I haven't decided. I'm scared of it because I've been burned, and though we'd all like to grow big and strong, and we've all been told these tales of overcoming, it is no guarantee, as the facts are the facts no matter what sort of flowers are braided around them. I could get burned, and it could hurt. That's real to me. I'm going to call him tomorrow and tell him either yes or no.

If it's available, should I do it?
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Martha Brebbledotch - Tue, 11 Jul 2017 14:03:25 EST ID:n1yNxChx No.517361 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Hi, OP here again. Thanks, I was going to ask for advice because I took the job. Boy, am I terrified.
A big thing with me is that I need to have good habits. Get enough sleep, eat well, exercise, etc etc. My last job I quit after two weeks because, as I said I'm bad bad bad at this, but I realize that I was in a very poor condition nearly every day, and I sperged it pretty bad pretty regularly.

Isn't it weird to just say hi and nothing else every day? Isn't that monotonous? It feels obligatory, forced. I overdid it in the past and it's obvious cause there's not much to say, it feels like. I have trouble differentiating this honestly. What's normal and fine and what's weird and forced?
Beatrice Buncocke - Tue, 11 Jul 2017 14:55:35 EST ID:iKPa+Mgz No.517362 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Say hello every morning, say goodbye when you leave.

But do more. If they talk to you talk back, engage with the conversation. When you first start you can always ask them a bit about themselves. It helps to actually give a fuck. But you're stuck with these guys for a couple of months and will work with them daily so you should be interested. Listen, see what sort of questions they ask. Ask if any have worked at this place before, ask them what they did before they were here that sort of shit. If they give you short low effort answers take it as a cue to not ask more. If they start going off on one, then you're getting it right. If they mention anything salient or cool, they did an interesting job, whatever ask about that.

One of my co workers asks everyone how their weekend was every monday and plans on a friday. That's what he does. When I was studying he would ask how it went. Nothing probing, very open ended questions that let the answered give a lot of detail or not much. I am awful at that but he's pretty good. I've finished studying, I've got a job interview tomorrow (internal) and I'm sure he'll ask how it went when I get back.

The right amount depends on the amount of time and room for socialising. But in most environments if you try to strike up conversation at least a couple of times a day and don't shut anyone down no one should hate you. Well unless you're actually in one of those shit dead end jobs where people put each other down to feel better about themselves and brew drama because they're not really adults and they also don't see any end to their current predicament. It's been a few years since I did one of those.
Eugene Hudgedale - Wed, 12 Jul 2017 20:39:39 EST ID:7fC8LtQw No.517395 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Usually when I ask people about their lives I try to remember a couple of details so I can later ask them again, for example "Hey what about that book you were reading" or "Did you go watch that movie after all?" , people like when there is a sense of familiarity and specially when you remember things about them , I think we unconsciously like being recognized and remembered.

If you feel a bit anxious around other people, could you try imagining that you're back in primary school? Not to remember how you behaved, but to bring your actual self to those years and imagine how would you behave if your actual self was in a class room which a bunch of kids. Would you be afraid of them? Would you stutter when you had to ask for something? Probably not, I mean adults are not usually afraid of kids , they're kids after all.

Well, can you try to have the same attitude around your new coworkers? Try to think of them as happy jolly children, they can't really judge you, everything is a class room, you're all here to learn. I feel much better when I try to remember the feeling of primary school , combined to how I feel being an adult. Try to feel that the whole world is like your school now, you're just walking around the school grounds talking to people, relax, take it easy, nobody expects you to excel, just to learn a few things.

Important thing here, ask people about things often, how things work (specially if you really don't know how they work). Most people seem to enjoy trying to explain things to you, as long as you don't make them repeat things over and over. If you're looking for the scissors and you know where they are but there is someone around you and you want to make some conversation , just ask "have you seen the scissors"? This is a good way of appearing relaxed, and feeling relaxed, just don't overthink things, you don't have to impress anybody.
David Fegglespear - Mon, 17 Jul 2017 05:40:54 EST ID:gXEOxC68 No.517490 Ignore Report Quick Reply
people probably realize you might be sperging when they employ you, don't overthink it
Thomas Sumblepeck - Mon, 17 Jul 2017 09:11:35 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.517491 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Try this:

You: "What's up?"
Them: "Nothin, you?"
You: "Same."

And if something like this happens:

You: "How's it going?"
Them: "Pretty bad, my grandma just died."
You: "Whoa, I'm sorry. You okay? My grandma died when I was 12, it sucks. When did it happen?"
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What do you do when your family is breaking up apart? by Augustus Brookcocke - Thu, 06 Jul 2017 19:14:00 EST ID:ESca1dIx No.517288 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>Brother has decided to cut off ties with my father, permanently
>I still live with my father

In a nutshell my brother is bitter for how our father treated him. Me too. My father's greatest sin that he was a massive coward and because of that he neglected us when we needed guidance from a him as a father.

I don't want to live with my father anymore but I feel like I am stuck because I have a part time job and still live with him.

I want to leave my father because I don't want to live in the same roof anymore. I feel sad and hopeless.
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Cyril Bardworth - Thu, 13 Jul 2017 11:44:34 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.517429 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Sometimes when you have a shitty parent, you need to get away to grow.

As for your brother, he's family. You two are, and should be, sticking up for one another and helping each other through shit. Not often you get to meet someone who was born into the same life as you.
Hamilton Goodstock - Thu, 13 Jul 2017 13:05:16 EST ID:iKPa+Mgz No.517432 Ignore Report Quick Reply

As long as you are sincerely trying to find an apartment and a job and make a go of it, then you should not feel guilty.

Don't appologise to your brother. Thank him. Be grateful. He will be happy to help you if you are sincerely trying, so try. Don't settle in a rat infested crack den if you know you can afford better but search in earnest for a suitable flat and get out. But don't feel bad about yourself, instead feel good about your brother.

Trust me on this. Being negative helps no one. being positive will make him feel better about himself too. I'm not saying turn on the sap but maybe at some point just say thanks for putting you up, helping you get on your feet and get free of your dad. He's the good sort of family and just telling him you appreciate what he's done will make all the (probably not too bad) sacrifices he's made worth while. Well that and you succeeding.

In the mean time be the best house guest you can.
Nicholas Ducklechat - Sun, 16 Jul 2017 09:48:15 EST ID:U8qlldS6 No.517480 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP again.

Currently staying in a hotel. I have 3 job interviews for a full time job. I'm kind of nervous because I have spent money even though it is for a good cause: travel, eat and sleeping.

I don't know. My dad told me that I am still welcomed to home but my brother wants him to make the first move. My dad also said that he supports me and wont interfere me on moving out. It's been crazy 2 weeks. I told my dad that I might go back home once all the interviews are done.

I know nothing will ever be the same again. I lashed out in anger and dad said I'm still welcome to come back. I fear that there will be bitterness in the home but my brother has a family and already "babysitting" his 7 year old daughter, his wife and newborn son who got out of hospital. If I get job and leave the home I feel like I'm helping everyone in this situation. Going back to my brother's balcony feels like I am overstaying my welcome.

PS: I made applications and they answered in 1-2 days.
Nigel Baddledock - Sun, 16 Jul 2017 13:22:21 EST ID:iKPa+Mgz No.517481 Ignore Report Quick Reply
As long as you can afford the hotel. You're probably pissing money away.

If your brother has a 7 year old daughter and newborn then there's a LOT of opportunity to make yourself useful. If you end up needing that balcony. Help his wife around the house especially making sure the 7 year old is alright. Do the chores, clean the house, fetch the groceries, fluff the pillows, cook stuff if you're not going to fuck it up, if you can look after kids then looking after yourself will be easymode when you move out.

I think you're ashamed or awkward or something because you are really evasive about staying. There's something you have not posted in this thread you won't admit.
Clara Denningstudge - Mon, 17 Jul 2017 01:07:20 EST ID:U8qlldS6 No.517489 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It's very hard for me to accept kindness from someone else. I'm 24 who lives with his father. I feel like I have to do all the job to get myself out of home.

Impending doom by Eliza Dronnerpuck - Wed, 12 Jul 2017 16:18:00 EST ID:qkOc6AWo No.517388 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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What causes that?

You might see it if you ever fill out a chat. I used to have no idea, but now I feel it and live it day to day.

Is that a symptom of depression or something else entirely?
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Cedric Connerstutch - Thu, 13 Jul 2017 03:54:34 EST ID:VYk6sT0w No.517421 Ignore Report Quick Reply
yep. that's a whole lotta depression and anxiety right thur. do you expect the worst out of every situation you encounter or try at or do you just get worried about seemingly irrelevant shit at random? like, you're in the supermarket and "oh shit my mom is gonna get eaten by a bear isn't she"?
Hamilton Goodstock - Thu, 13 Jul 2017 13:46:42 EST ID:iKPa+Mgz No.517435 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Yeah, you're probably regrowing faster.

What I did was suggest questions. But you immediately came up with answers. Stop jumping to conclusions. In all honesty though that's part of your toxic mentality. What you should have done was listed what else you experience.

Now this is actually useful to people.

Answer that other guy's question. I have some thoughts on it but I think your answer might be useful before I wall of text you. I'm a worrier and for a little while I was on your level.
Jenny Blagglestone - Thu, 13 Jul 2017 17:58:09 EST ID:qkOc6AWo No.517440 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It's the latter. I'll be struck with a thought at random like, "I bet my parents died in a car crash and I'm about to get a call from the police or hospital" or I'll just be relaxing and I think "I bet I'm going to get framed for a crime I never committed."

Really irrational shit will hit me seemingly at random. I try not to consciously put in expectations in the things I do, but if I'm suddenly called to do something I usually get hit with a wave of dread. Anything that interrupts my daily tasks my send me spinning.
Jarvis Fuddleshit - Sat, 15 Jul 2017 23:42:13 EST ID:vIrVdZ5B No.517473 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Thanks for the help you stupid fucking piece of shit
Jarvis Fuddleshit - Sat, 15 Jul 2017 23:42:14 EST ID:vIrVdZ5B No.517474 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Thanks for the help you stupid fucking piece of shit

Self-hatred by Cyril Blackfuck - Thu, 13 Jul 2017 19:07:38 EST ID:P1CXh/N6 No.517441 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I have been hating myself for all of my life. And today I realized that probably it is the main reason of all my problems.

Loneliness for example. Because of the self-hate I don't like being on my own, so I reach out to other people. Sometimes they help me and distract myself from me, but they obviously can't do this all the time.

So because of that I feel very lonely. Very painful feeling. But today I realized that if I would stop hating myself, maybe I would feel joy just being on my own and probably would lose the necessity of being around other people.

I don't know why I hate myself. When I needed a reason I just thought about my mistakes, failures and shortcoming. There are so many of them, it's very easy to pick. I just took any of them and told myself "See, you are worthless loser" or something like that. And after that mantra I always felt surprisingly better. And at the same time I felt like shit. It's hard to explain.

It has some obsessive and unconscious nature. During the day some memories of my failures appear in my mind by themselves. I don't manually think about it, they just appear. Usually it's memories of embarrassing moments when other people rejected me in some way. And I automatically feel the self-hatred. So basically I actively hate myself at least for a few times per day. It's kind of very strange coping mechanism that creates more problems that solves.

It also prevents me from doing stuff. Because when you do something new there is a great chance that you would fail. When I failed at something, I hated myself. I thought that I shouldnt even try to do anything.

But now I think that I should finally put an end to it. If I won't stop hating myself, I will never achieve anything. I won't find a good job, I won't find many friends, I won't find a girlfriend, I won't finish my art and blogging projects, etc

Enough is enough. I feel really weird after this realization. It's like I tried to remove a strangle from my neck. But I feel that it's still there. What I should do? I will go to a therapist soon, but I don't think that anybody can help me with that. Is it even possible to change your mindset af…
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Phyllis Sangerhet - Thu, 13 Jul 2017 19:18:22 EST ID:1qrvQOoV No.517442 Ignore Report Quick Reply
you have to learn to stop hating yourself. medication may help. a therapist may help. you should go to your appointment and dont hold anything back. they will help you.

why do you hate yourself?
what do you hate the most?
take that one thing and change it a little bit, one day at a time.

it is possible, but incredibly difficult.

i hate myself too, but i try to hate myself less and less every day.

maybe start by watching some peterson.
my cousin was in a big slump and basically did a 180 after discovering peterson
Ian Claywater - Fri, 14 Jul 2017 08:22:06 EST ID:7fC8LtQw No.517451 Ignore Report Quick Reply
If you made hating yourself into a habit now you probably need to make loving yourself into your new habit.
Think about all those moments when you say negative things to yourself and try just changing the words. Instead of "I'm so dumb" say "I'm so smart!" exaggerate, be like "I'm the fucking shit". Get yourself a catchy phrase. "I'm the shit baby!" whatever. Just say it all the time. Write it down on a piece of paper and tape it to the door to your room. Every time you walk in, say "I'm the shit, baby!" . Get a fucking tattoo.


Nigel Drinkinwill - Sat, 15 Jul 2017 19:15:55 EST ID:Oc0QiVvJ No.517469 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Would you hate someone else for all of the things that you hate yourself for, or that other people hate you for and make you hate yourself for?
There are some things that you may, but for the most part, all of those exaggerated "I can't believe I did that when I was ten, I'm such a faggot!" moments can be deconstructed this way. It will weed out the shit that you don't actually mind, but you think you do.
Now, the things that you really, legitimately hate yourself for, you can't punish yourself for those things. The punishment you get from the world and the people around you will be enough. It does nothing when you do it to yourself, negative associations are supposed to prevent you from straying back into the behaviors that that negativity is associated with, but when an obsessively self-critical nature IS the problem, you're not fixing it by turning yourself into your own whipping boy, if anything you feed it. Your guilt will never be alleviated by it in the long-term, and you do not see yourself clearly when you engage in this behavior. The truth is never so polarized. Put your failures in context, understand why they occurred. Don't make dumb character analyses like "I failed because I suck lol", that's simplifying it (at least give decent reasons for why you suck that aren't generalities or memes) and it ingratiates your already existing self-concept that needs to be changed. Stay objective. Once you understand the mechanisms behind your failures, perhaps you can change whatever created them, and once you do, your guilt will truly be alleviated.
Other people are abusive enough, you don't have to take on the mantle of being that way towards yourself as well. We're taught to be ashamed so often, and look at how the world is turning out. How can that be right, when taken to such extremes?

Is my home cursed or is it something more? by Angus Honeyforth - Wed, 12 Jul 2017 01:14:09 EST ID:SPpwuYvJ No.517368 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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It seems as though this house is trying to keep me here in place.
I lived here since 2004, lett for college and other events, but something keeps trying to pull me back here.
I keep getting amazing opportunities and some dumb shit happens

>dream game studio calls
>take their instructions for six months
>when it comes times to take the test I pass
> I get rejected because someone who worked at capcom in the past appleid
>I will get the next open position, but the US studio downs six months later

>Get offered job great job in overseas n at a party
>Get the interview, it's in Japanese but I muster my way through it
>They tell me they would have hired me right away if I wasn't nervous with speaking japanese
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Cyril Bardworth - Thu, 13 Jul 2017 12:03:35 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.517431 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Just keep at it brah. I was really good at my previous job. A few employees there legit thought I was a genius. It's flattering, but I feel like a genius would have his shit together and be able to get another fucking job.

If everything else falls through, and my unemployment runs out, then I'm gonna part time for uber or lyft. I have a nice car that I bought from my last job, and if you don't have one, I think they may provide one as well. But you should be able to make some living cash on the side if you play it smart; doing airport runs, planning your drive days around concerts and events, that sort of thing.
Fanny Nicklechatch - Thu, 13 Jul 2017 17:05:23 EST ID:ElgF+aL7 No.517439 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Don't get me wrong, it sucks. Kind of like trying to pick up a hot girl at a bar, except it's hard as fuck and you wanna just quit. But what happens if you quit? Move in with mom/dad? Move in with your gfs parents? Move into a box under a bridge? Spend the rest of your money to fly to south asia and join a Buddhist monestary?
I quit and I'm moving to Hawaii to be a beach bum. So far I am quite content with this plan.
Ian Claywater - Fri, 14 Jul 2017 08:29:09 EST ID:7fC8LtQw No.517452 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Yeah sometimes the effort I make to be happy makes me look kinda gay, with the positive thinking and all that crap, but it definitely works if you get serious with it. Have you heard about power poses? Apparently there are studies about how people tend to be more confident if they just adopt a body pose typically associated with success (like arms in the air, fists closed ) . It seems there is a side of our brain that we can't really control and tell "Hey stupid, be happy!" we have to trick it with affirmations and trigger words and subconscious crap.

If you work hard and try your best already, I guess there's nothing else you can do other than try to stay positive. Imagine someone throws you into a pool filled with human shit. You already know you're gonna have to swim in shit for some time until you get out of the pool. Now imagine there are some other people in the shit pool. And you have to interact with them. Okay so you're slowly moving out of the pool but you have to interact with these people. Will you let the shit dictate how you interact with others? Like, will you say "don't fucking talk to me, don't you see i'm neck-deep in shit?" or will you be "lol look at this fucking shit! lmao"

Just be open to new opportunities and try to keep a smile on your face, it helps
Barnaby Pungerridge - Fri, 14 Jul 2017 11:30:28 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.517453 Ignore Report Quick Reply

No, I mean how gay the caliper test was. I wasn't trying to make fun of you. It's a better way to live, I mean with a positive attitude.

Sorry, I wasn't trying to offend you.
Barnaby Pungerridge - Fri, 14 Jul 2017 11:41:26 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.517454 Ignore Report Quick Reply

That sounds awesome. Whenever I pictured myself being where I want to be in life, there was always a tropical beach nearby. I don't have the balls to do that, yet.

I am such a pervert. by Hamilton Finderman - Sun, 09 Jul 2017 22:45:53 EST ID:ZRYN7+dC No.517329 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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My dead exes mom added me to her secret sex/kink group on FB. They all share nudes and stuff. I saw a video of her giving a blowjob. Her husband told me he wants to tease me and see me naked.

I find it a very sweet gesture but surprising.

I don't know how to handle this. I'm going to only "like" pics of her in her underwear and nothing exposed because I don't want to seem like a pervert...

I can't believe she is ok with me seeing her sexual side.

I kind of want to get sexual with her.
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Eugene Hudgedale - Wed, 12 Jul 2017 20:45:08 EST ID:7fC8LtQw No.517396 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I don't think you're a pervert, I'm sure 95% of men in the world would totally go for that mother pussy
Lydia Domblesudge - Wed, 12 Jul 2017 21:11:34 EST ID:SPpwuYvJ No.517402 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Give it a try. She invited you to see these things.
They feel comfortable around yo.
You aren't being a pervert. Maybe this is their way of telling you, they want a threesome with you.
Esther Buzzford - Wed, 12 Jul 2017 21:33:58 EST ID:jDaIBnSg No.517408 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Interesting life. Shame this hasn't happened to me yet. I think some mothers around my area are very tasty and beautiful.
Esther Buzzford - Wed, 12 Jul 2017 21:34:18 EST ID:jDaIBnSg No.517409 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Interesting life. Shame this hasn't happened to me yet. I think some mothers/wives around my area are very tasty and beautiful.
Angus Hezzleville - Thu, 13 Jul 2017 01:27:44 EST ID:ZRYN7+dC No.517417 Ignore Report Quick Reply

You think? I'll start contributing to the group and saying hi to her every once a while. I am going to make some vids with the poly couple I joined soon

The concept of a male friend by Doris Hellerforth - Sun, 02 Jul 2017 22:27:50 EST ID:EfM1Bhn7 No.517242 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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What is the ideal of a male friend?

At what point does being a male friend to a female cross into the cakefart?

I pretty much emotionally support a woman I love who just fucks random dudes.

But at the same time, I dont want to be a bad friend.

I already know the fucking answer can you just drill it into me
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Henry Mundlebudge - Wed, 05 Jul 2017 17:11:11 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.517274 Ignore Report Quick Reply

If you're not holding your life up for her, then find another woman to fawn over.
Blackie-Chan !p8JJB0mQAo - Thu, 06 Jul 2017 04:13:14 EST ID:YSgLqHnY No.517282 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Just stop talking to her.
Its that simple.
Charlotte Clangerdock - Thu, 06 Jul 2017 19:40:03 EST ID:7fC8LtQw No.517292 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I would say just try to make her happy by making yourself happy? If she likes doing things with you then just do them, I think it's better to do things than to tell about those things. Like don't tell her you like her, just do things that express your feelings. Imagine she is already your girlfriend, what would you do with her? Try to do more romantic things, really things like walking in the sunset or a nice picnic work sometimes to set the mood for romance.
Betsy Pickhood - Fri, 07 Jul 2017 01:55:49 EST ID:EfM1Bhn7 No.517296 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I would 100% say I am already at that beach at night tier and I may have asked her to dinner and asked her to dress nice. Is this the cakefart?
Eugene Hudgedale - Wed, 12 Jul 2017 21:37:10 EST ID:7fC8LtQw No.517410 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Have you tried escalating? I think it's important for women to feel desire (lust) towards men, and this is imo important if you're trying to attract a lady. You said she fucks random dudes, what kind of dudes are these? Do you know them , could you try learning something from them that you could apply on yourself to be more her type?

Have you tried escalating things with her? Do you hug her? Do you playfully hold her hand or touch her back? You can watch some RSD videos on youtube about escalation for ideas. Have you asserted yourself as a possible partner, or are you just her friend?

fuck by Frederick Duckstone - Sat, 08 Jul 2017 22:08:01 EST ID:0taicTay No.517314 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So my plan for life when I was 13 was to be responsible and live until I was 18, then work and move out until I was 25, then pick up a hard drug habit until I died. I've never found life worth living, the only reason I stayed alive was for drugs and so I didn't dump the emotional burden of my death on my parents. I don't care about money or culture or sex or clubbing or celebrities or anything that most other people care about, and I hate the direction the world is going, and my inability to actually do anything about that.

When I was 15 I got with this girl and she made me want to live until I was old, or be immortal with her if possible. Changed my lifestyle, went to college with her eventually (which I never planned on doing, don't need a degree to pick up heroin and die at 27).

6 years later, today, she told me she wants to break up with me. I convinced her that we should stay together and try to fix things but I kind of want to just skip to the end and kill myself now. I think I can probably make things work and I know she still loves me but holy shit I kind of just want to die and I can't afford enough drugs to chemically preserve myself for now.

I won't go to a therapist and I have no one in real life, besides her, which I would tell anything personal to. I can only tell these things to people who will never know who I am, I hope. I have friends but I don't let people in like that. This just seems like it might be the end of my road.

I don't know why I'm posting this. Blog post or something. I don't know what input anyone can offer me. I'm in America with no criminal record so it won't be hard to just buy a gun and shoot myself if I decide to. I remember being 12 and looking at branches in my backyard, wondering if they'd support me by the neck. Maybe it's just amazing I lasted 9 years from that.
Eugene Hudgedale - Wed, 12 Jul 2017 21:26:05 EST ID:7fC8LtQw No.517406 Ignore Report Quick Reply
When I was 14 I was in love with a girl and thought she was the most beautiful girl in the world and I wanted nothing other than for her to be my bride and the mother of my children.
When I was 22 I fell in love with a younger cousin and I felt that she was the most delicate and sweet person in the world and that we should run away together and be a couple and have children and be happy forever
When I was 27 I feel in love with a Californian girl who unfortunately I am still a bit obsessed, I think she was the love of my life and to this day I have to fight myself in order not to bring her memory back constantly .

I'm 30 years old, and right now only one of these three girls matters anything to me. The feelings I had for all of them were equally strong, they made me cry, they made me feel anger, they made me depressed and suicidal. I thought my life could not be without them around. My point is: don't commit suicide, you're going to become a different person and you will not be the man who you are right now. If you survive this relationship, the next one will be better. And you will look back and think: Look at all those mistakes I made, but thankfully killing myself was not one of them.

Over simplify by James Sibbergold - Sat, 08 Jul 2017 23:07:32 EST ID:R4rLZ0K0 No.517315 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I have been in therapy and psychiatric treatment 4 over 15 years.

Not to say that I haven't received a plethora of useful skills and strategies for dealing with my depression and borderline personality disorder. I have nevertheless recognized rudimentary patterns in my life that ultimately overrule where I am with my feelings about life.

I am typically driven by desire and obsessive passion. This started early in my life with me being sent to foster care and my desire to be reunited with my mother. Later on I developed excessive obsessions with anime and video games to the point of me dropping out of school. Less trivial goals like joining the military also sat at the seat of my soul. There are a few more examples but you trust and believe me when I say that the things that have made me happy have been a very short and narrow list of things.

One of two results can only occur when a person is as obsessed as I am. I fulfill my desires and eventually become numb to the obsessing and I am left empty. My obsession maintains out of my reach and I am utterly destroyed.

Realizing these things and have left me to want to break the cycle. Wanting to feel good and even loving have become so intertwined with obsession that I conclude all of it to be equal to immense pain.

This is my depression and deep seated loathing for being alive. It drives me it drives me out early mad everytime I start therapy or counseling over again and have to God the other person to understand that I do not want to want. Following sessions succeed in tricking me slowly into wanting smaller and smaller things again and the cycle of obsession is reignited.

All of this being understood, please know that I have arrived. My addiction to opiates is a gloriously romantic Obsession to end all others. There is nothing left that will not be destroyed by this uncanny drive and it even helps supress needs. Knowing that this can also kill me has finally provided some semblance of order in my world.

I finally feel the least pain. Is there anything else I should consider other than the plight of masochists urging me to also carry the burdens of society and pick up more attachments?
Martha Snodford - Sat, 08 Jul 2017 23:14:36 EST ID:zS8ljWZ5 No.517316 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Sorry for derp spelling, grammar, and word choice. Used voice input.
Eugene Hudgedale - Wed, 12 Jul 2017 21:20:55 EST ID:7fC8LtQw No.517405 Ignore Report Quick Reply
If you're passionate about things, why don't you just follow your passion through? Even if it's only going to last a short period of time.

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My brain doesn't work. I'm stuck constantly in neutral going nowhere in life. I don't see any openings in my future. I live at a group home for the mentally ill. Nothing seems to be working for me. I am just stuck doing nothing all day. I would say I'm in a rut but I've been like this for many many years.
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Nicholas Gurrywell - Thu, 06 Jul 2017 19:42:47 EST ID:xDCMCIXO No.517293 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Create meaning where no meaning yet exists. Start blogging about your struggles with whatever mental quandary you have, write poems to string together any incoherent thoughts and create beauty out of that chaos, make some art, find a partner and fall in love. Love between two spirits can offer a tremendous opportunity for healing. You're not hopeless you just haven't decided on a path to follow yet, keep your head up and eyes open and keep on truckin'.
Hedda Surrybanks - Sat, 08 Jul 2017 10:23:44 EST ID:mz/+IBsA No.517306 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>hEY GUYS need sum help heer
>hav u tried summonin demons DDDDD
Hamilton Hebblegold - Sun, 09 Jul 2017 01:04:43 EST ID:N0VgDKoj No.517320 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Basil Pittville - Sun, 09 Jul 2017 04:57:02 EST ID:jUcmmF01 No.517322 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>stuck in a mental home
I recommend you read, do pushups (when nobody is around),stetch and socialize with others (I know you're in a mental home). Exercise and socialization got me through a month of shoe time.
Eugene Hudgedale - Wed, 12 Jul 2017 21:13:19 EST ID:7fC8LtQw No.517403 Ignore Report Quick Reply
there was probably a comment about divination or invocation and I felt like it was important to express my opinion that what are called "demons" these days in the past were considered to be on the same level as gods, it was just an off-topic discussion really.

And OP, I find that sometimes it helps writing some stuff, maybe even place yourself in a funny scenario and write a short story about it. It's funny how much better it feels when you read a story with a happy ending in which you are the main star (even if it's not real).

keepin mah head in the game, moving on up by Fuck Wemmerlun - Tue, 11 Jul 2017 10:27:35 EST ID:bu0Tv6bL No.517352 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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kinda just need to vent tbh
22 yrs old
>been having intrusive suicidal thoughts for just over 2 years
>never told anyone, kept it all to myself, felt weak for feeling this way and ashamed
>still a virgin, had a whole shame complex that too, was fapping to porn and "gooning" tons, made me feel even fucking worse ontop of already feeling suicidal
>was smoking waay too much weed as well as a temporary escape.

finally opened up about the suicidal thing with my auntie, literally just broke down crying in front of her, havent cried like that since i was a kid tbh
then opened up about it with my dad, we talked for quite while, he then admitted to me that he tried to kill himself when he was 16 and ended up i hospital, which i was pretty fucking stunned at.

Literally feel so much better right now, havent been fapping and havent been smoking either, been having nightmares but thats okay guess its just all that subconscious energy finally rising to the surface after all this time.

Want to keep this feeling going, dont want to relapse into fapping/smoking/thinking about hurting/killing myself.
Anyone have any similar experiences, and what did you do to keep yourself moving in an upward spiral?
Eliza Hevinglot - Tue, 11 Jul 2017 11:58:34 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.517353 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>what did you do to keep yourself moving in an upward spiral?

Let me know when you find out.

I know how to get back on my feet: exercise, perseverance, goal setting/completion, meditation

I just can't seem to get myself to do any of it. I'm lacking that fundamental motivation to to good on me.

I'm told having a reason to exist helps, possibly why so many people turn to religion. In seeking out a way out of this, I found some guy on a TED talk that divided motivation strategy into 3 parts:


Autonomy: Being free to do as you please
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Beatrice Buncocke - Tue, 11 Jul 2017 12:56:04 EST ID:iKPa+Mgz No.517355 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It sounds like your biggest problem was and still is shame.

Though you should look at what's causing this. Does your life genuinely suck? I had suicidal thoughts and that was part of it. So definitely fix it. They won't go away entirely but they'll be unintrusive and you'll usually be unhesitatingly glad you ignored them.

Upwards spirals are hard work. There's no easy answer. Look at what sucks in your life and start addressing things. Probably more than 1 at a time but maybe not all. Or start with one or two and increase the load if it gets easy. Once you make headway the feeling of achievement in that will make you feel a bit better. A lot of people don't make it that far even. That's the start of the spiral. To even get moving you have to hang in there and keep pushing for a while, life won't immediately cut you a break most of the time.
Eugene Hudgedale - Wed, 12 Jul 2017 20:49:14 EST ID:7fC8LtQw No.517397 Ignore Report Quick Reply
About the sexual stuff: literally once you have sex for the first time it will stop being a problem.
I didn't have sex or had a gf until I was 24 and before that I always thought that was the reason why I felt depressed or suicidal. Guess what? Six girlfriends later I still get depressed but no longer about being a virgin but about completely different reasons.

So…maybe the things that worry you at the moment are really not that big. Why do you feel suicidal? Anything in particular, any problem that you would like to see resolved? In my case I just am living through an existencialist crises so I try to forget that life ends and just occupy my time with small things that keep me busy until it's time to sleep.

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