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I have too many women by Frederick Clomblefidge - Fri, 03 Mar 2017 15:45:40 EST ID:8ZGXI+3c No.513961 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey guys, I posted like a year ago about how I'd meet girls to cuddle with because I was lonely. I'm an introvert and while Im not shy, Im not good at flirting or anything like that. That said, I'm tall, very fit, educated, and handsome. Anyway I did put myself out there more and since that year old post I now find myself seeing 4 women at the same time.

The first is an 18 yo girl who really wants my dick and I think next time she's over Ill give it to her. So far we just cuddled and I grope her ass. The second is a 22 yo Muslim girl who I now see once/twice a week and we have the kinkiest sex you've ever seen. The third is a friend's 24 yo girlfriend(they are open, no he doesn't watch.) And the 4th is a hot 47 yo Japanese MILF.

The 22 yo muslim girl is in love with me. She knows Im seeing other women and we kind of had this agreement that we were open. For her, she is the most kinky/sexual person I have met and I like her more than any of my other girls because she's fun to hang out with and she's beautiful. She is inching to being exclusive. The love on her side is real and she feels hurt when I get with my other girls.

Here is the thing....I'm seeing 4 girls at a time and living it up. Men dream of being in this position and I'm having a lot of fun(although it can be stressful). I also can't officialy "Date" her since she's Muslim and her family would blow my apartment or try to cut my head off. And even though she's a lovely girl and would make a perfect Stepford wife, I can't have a child raised as a muslim. That said I really enjoy my time with her.

If the 22 yo Muslim girl goes away, I'll get sex from my other 3 girls, but I dont really like going out to dinner ect with any of them. Even if I can attract girls well, I find myself becoming personally interested in very few. And weeding through women is hard because of my looks and status. When girls meet me they want to start seeing me all the time and trying to tag along with everything I do.

I really want the muslim girl to sleep with another man and maybe after that be willing to be in an open relationship. Although she is insanely sexual(anal, BDSM, pee, ect...) s…
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Alice Greenforth - Fri, 03 Mar 2017 20:45:19 EST ID:TmVLUmiX No.513976 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Watch My Little Pony Friendship Is Magic.
Not only will you have a great time and learn lots about friendship (which will help you figure out the situation you're in), but you'll instantly be cursed and women will avoid you at all costs.
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Cornelius Pudgegold - Sat, 04 Mar 2017 00:14:08 EST ID:uoA4QU5R No.513983 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>513961
>I can't have a child raised as a muslim.

if you raise a child together than you can decide not to. clearly she isn't muslim muslim
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Lydia Shittingshit - Sat, 11 Mar 2017 01:03:40 EST ID:vNkiRJtJ No.514306 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Bring them all together for an orgy, OP. Sounds like you're all set for creating your very own harem. You could wear a kinky turban for your muslim girl and pretend to be an Ottoman sultan, with her as your main wife and the other three as your concubines. Her parents could probably respect that.

Problem solved.


Besides illegal Government mind control, my life is boring by Oliver Funnerforth - Fri, 10 Mar 2017 21:19:01 EST ID:ZdYDgngH No.514302 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Besides illegal Government mind control, I'm pretty boring. And you can't really talk about eh illegal Government mind control, so I have nothing to talk about. It's kinda depressing. What do?
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Molly Hannerridge - Mon, 13 Mar 2017 12:18:17 EST ID:zbKXnohS No.514369 Ignore Report Quick Reply
schizophrenia is hardly boring nb


How to prepare for social life? by Buck Buttgun - Sun, 05 Mar 2017 16:01:30 EST ID:znuD1zKS No.514045 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hello,

I'm quite a lonely person. The only two people I regularly see are my parents (I live with my mother). I don't have a social life and as such I barely communicate with people. However, I plan on changing the situation I am in and hopefully I will get more of a social life as a consequence.

My question is: how do I prepare for that? I notice that when I go a long time without meeting and talking to people, I feel like I'm a little rusty and awkward.

Is there any way I can prepare myself for meeting new people and making a good impression or being able to hold a good conversation? In other words, to not come across as if I don't speak to anyone for months at a time.

Thanks /qq/
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Walter Brungerspear - Thu, 09 Mar 2017 05:23:45 EST ID:GCRzmhoF No.514242 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Many people have been used this book for advice on how to learn to be social, it was written over 70 years ago, quoted by many famous speakers, and translated into many different languages. I have it to my brother as a gift before he entered highschool as a coming of age gift with the belief that it would help him.

It's called How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie and if you search the reviews on the book yourself you may find that there are benefits for your life of you decide to try it.
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Emma Sillyhood - Thu, 09 Mar 2017 11:59:02 EST ID:64dyEkvW No.514251 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514242
Everybody ought to read that book. The title sounds kinda sleazy but it totally isn't, although you do have to keep in mind that some of it does sound superficially very dated. A modern translation of the title would probably just be something like, "How To Not Be An Ineffective Douchebag 101."
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Wesley Crimblelock - Thu, 09 Mar 2017 12:49:34 EST ID:QVcoJ6HE No.514253 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Well first try to stop living with your mother.
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Martin Pungersotch - Fri, 10 Mar 2017 11:43:46 EST ID:ngLYHpR4 No.514277 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP, I have a panacea for you.
I'm an introvert. Yet there is something that makes me become an extrovert.
microdosing shrooms.
Try it. Go out to an event you're interested in (alone) after ingesting like 0.5G of shrooms. Suddenly you'll feel significantly more-inclined to be active and talk to people without tripping.
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Augustus Domblehood - Fri, 10 Mar 2017 12:40:56 EST ID:plr4U7Rg No.514280 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Take care of body (and mind), be confident, don't need anything from them, and relax.


What to do when you have lost the one thing by Alice Nillerdit - Mon, 06 Mar 2017 02:42:45 EST ID:ktHn/Vfz No.514077 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've been through so much shit in my life, that I truly plan to write a book some day.
Was in a relationship for 5 years
We had too many issues, but now I realize how meant for each other we were or are.
He cheated on me with like 3 girls online, many times. So I took the immature way to do the same, but I got out of control.
He started to put up with my shit, instead of the other way around like it began.
I became this bitter and enraged person that just wanted him to feel the pain I was feeling. I felt unappreciated, ugly, not desired, disrespected, etc..
So I was on a mission to insult his character, family (I had issues with his mom) I basically treated him like garbage right to his face.
The mind is some fucked up shit. I kept thinking that I was winning by doing all of that shit.
All I did was pretend I didn't care, I didn't love him (I know many would say, there was no love) believe there was. On the other hand, he was slowly drifting, slowly detaching himself from me.
After 6 years ( our last year was the worst, he barely had sex and barely saw each other) I found this guy, who I believed was the one. The one that was going to finally make me happy.
Without thinking, I told my bf, at the time, that I physically cheated (first time, all others were online) He still sounded like he wanted to make things work
I told him I didn't want anything to do with him anymore. I literally saw him leave my house with the few things he had in my house and his head down.
Like a total selfish bitch, I didn't care.
I started to realize that week that the new guy was not the one, and my ex and I kept talking as friends.
My opinion to him was extremely important when taking life decisions, so he would always call me to ask me what he should do or get my input in stuff and talk about his issues. I did the same.
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Jarvis Nommlespear - Tue, 07 Mar 2017 13:00:56 EST ID:KveR7zNs No.514197 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514196
I have to say it does sound like he's leading you on. People do this a lot.

Cheating and what happened can be forgiven but at the same time you don't have to if you can't. He gets what he wants from you OP, validation, support and attention. He has no need to ever give you what you want.

Walk away. Realise this. There is no one. He fucked up and you piled on the shit. If you both can forgive and commit then good. But if not then the relationship is over and was always over. By now he's either forgiven you, he hasn't, or he carries on punishing because he feels he should. The latter two mean you should get the fuck out of dodge.

His family are on his side. Just remember that. They may not realise what he's doing but that doesn't mean they're not deep in denial and fighting for what is good for him but awful for you.

Also hell yes did you fuck up and do bad things. But beating yourself up and punishing yourself just increases the misery, it doesn't make things better. Instead you should look at why you did the things you did and how to not do them next time and take any steps you need to help with that. Also probably build a life without him. Force him to take a shit or get off the pot.
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Nicholas Sorringdale - Tue, 07 Mar 2017 14:17:11 EST ID:ktHn/Vfz No.514203 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514197
Everything is extremely hard to read, but all true. And it's something I have tried not to think about, but I know it's happening.

I know why I did what I did, because I was completely hurt.

The hardest thing for me was when I was hospitalize for a month, where I was in danger of losing a kidney. And he never wanted to visit me, I was in my country, but he had the money to go. Specially given the condition that I was in, I had to receive two blood transfutions.

When I finally got home, I was dying to talk to him on the phone, because when in the hospital we could only talk for like 5 - 10 min.

The first night I got home I called him, and he started to tell me "you must feel tired, you should go rest" Me: "I want to talk to you I've missed you" he: "We can talk tomorrow, I think you should rest you must feel exhausted"

When I got back to US, I saw his calls and realized that he wanted to hangup to talk to another girl, and they talked until 7 am.

You are totally right, I do feel extremely bad for what I did, but I know why I did it and hope to never do it again.
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Jarvis Nommlespear - Tue, 07 Mar 2017 14:50:24 EST ID:KveR7zNs No.514205 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514203
I'll start with what I hope is constructive criticism.
>I know why I did what I did, because I was completely hurt.
And you also know to handle it differently? Revenge just gave him leverage against you. Cheating is often an option, it's actually sometimes a very relatable option but there's always a better choice. In this case I'd say get a sincere appology and forgive, and if you cannot do both move on. In this case you could forgive but you never got that apology. Cheating or no... well.

There's a lot of situations and things you could have done differently throughout the whole relationship. you won't spot them all but make sure you learn what you can so you can handle all the fuckups (from both parties, because fuckups will always happen, hopefully not on that scale though) better next time.

What matters is making the right decisions going forward because the past is now unchangeable. Good luck.
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Lydia Findleford - Wed, 08 Mar 2017 22:19:03 EST ID:Lsu2uvaQ No.514234 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>online cheating vs physical cheating
lol millennials.
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Fanny Honningridge - Fri, 10 Mar 2017 03:19:47 EST ID:JsQi4/8G No.514269 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514077


I've decided to move the fuck on

Yesterday.

I talked to him, and told him every bit of truth.

That hanging out with him all the time, just having him depend on me, and having to always include him in my plans and if I don't he makes me feel bad about it. Just doesn't let me move on.

I've done a lot of thinking and it's like we are together minus the sex and love, just w/e the fuck he wants from me

Any time he needs to get something done, he follows it by "you are going to help me right" "I want you to help me" with a sweet voice. He knows whats up and what his doing.
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wrote this while i was blacked out drunk. i always think of suicide but its getting louder by Isabella Chullyridge - Wed, 08 Mar 2017 08:47:58 EST ID:+m/lG0b+ No.514222 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I just want to give everything i have to someone, i just want to emotionally give myself to someone and know they feeel the same way about me. I would give anyhting to love someone. But i get too attached too easily and that is unattractive, and shows mental weakness on my part.

Its sad i believe i can gain something to gain love; Weather it be wealth or a different knowledge. I will never be good enough on my own, or as myself.

Is it who i choose or myself?
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Esther Bovingshaw - Wed, 08 Mar 2017 15:41:33 EST ID:zOfwhgti No.514226 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514222
Make yourself a slave to something other than a woman who will leave you.
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Oliver Clanningbury - Thu, 09 Mar 2017 15:37:25 EST ID:wCRGDGFf No.514262 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514222
Awful rape thread is causing a serious lack of posts in other threads why hasn't the other thread been closed yet?
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Doris Congerstone - Thu, 09 Mar 2017 23:02:55 EST ID:tDogmvzg No.514267 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514226

Or a slave to nothing at all!


crazy chick by Cedric Pumblehutch - Mon, 06 Mar 2017 02:04:08 EST ID:vKvaev27 No.514072 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>havent gotten laid in 2 1/2 years, used to a few times a year, had crazy anxiety after fucking a hooker (used a condom still felt dirty as fuck)
>skinny, average looking
>have been talking to this girl
>started sending me pics of her in her swimsuit the other day
>Asked for more
>Started sending me some skanky pics in her swimsuit
>snapped one of them, she got pissed, stopped talking to me for a few days
>just open up my snapchat, 45 mins ago she was sending me vids of her in her bed dancing to music
>reply "looks cold"
>Pretty sure she went to sleep

Some info on the girl:
>my age, graduated in my class but didnt come to my school til senior year, graduated in 2010
>only started talking early 2016
>She had a boyfriend for most of it so we didnt talk and started talking again recently
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Cedric Pumblehutch - Mon, 06 Mar 2017 02:36:40 EST ID:vKvaev27 No.514076 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Also my place is trash, theres random shit all over the place and my roommate is a scummy anime collector who i've posted about on here before. I'd do it at her place
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Charlotte Fallerpun - Mon, 06 Mar 2017 04:10:28 EST ID:6p1GctXy No.514078 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Go for it, easy sex, why not. Don't get involved in any way (like help her with stuff), she has a kid so she's always looking to use sex to exploit and trap a new provider, don't fall into it.
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Henry Chunderdale - Wed, 08 Mar 2017 22:43:14 EST ID:9kDuEtyA No.514236 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514072
Make sure you use a condor
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Ian Sobberdale - Wed, 08 Mar 2017 23:26:02 EST ID:4D3dcOG1 No.514238 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>514236
Yeah if you don't bring your own condor she'll def turn you down hard. It's also known that their majestic appearance protects it's owner from std's and stabwounds.
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Clara Sidgesodging - Thu, 09 Mar 2017 15:29:23 EST ID:htL0lErB No.514261 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>she pops xans all day (prescribed) and gets drunk off wine before noon regularly
>kinda looks like a ligh drug addict

That's because she is a drug addict and a borderline alcoholic.

I think you should try and work out what she really wants, companionship, fun, sure.. but if she want's a babydaddy and you're not down for that don't fuck her and fuck her until she bonds hard to you and ends up more beaten up than she was before.

Leave her better than you found her, if you can't, don't fuck her.


Anxiety induced bladder and bowel DOOM by Hamilton Deffingnitch - Wed, 08 Mar 2017 21:25:03 EST ID:TX3Ezud6 No.514232 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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To get right to the point.
I am a NEET, but about to crawl out of my hole soon, get back into education and such. But that is not my problem. My problem is, that any time that I'm about to get out and meet people, either for fun or work/school, my whole digestive system goes haywire. Standard scenario is essentially, in the hours before I leave, I am in a constant feeling of that I need to void my bowels or have a piss, but when I go to the bathroom I can't let anything out, and half the time I only need to stand up from the toilet to feel the need to shit again. Same with the piss, I feel like I need to piss, but when whether I stand or sit at the toilet, I can't get anything out. Or when I do, when it feels like the dams finally gonna break, just a couple of droplets come out at the most and then the dam is shut once more.

I finally decided that I have to do something about it today, when I went out, and my body just would not let me have a fucking piss, but oh my, when I'm at the bus I need to pee so bad I'm almost pissing myself. It used to be mostly just the bowels that got fucked, but lately the piss has gotten worse too, and that is much harder to handle when I need to travel places, as it's much harder to hold your bladder, and the bowels usually calm down when I'm actually on my way.

The bowel part has almost always been like this, in elementary school it was like that every morning, though in a milder way, but still the same. And in some ways it's actually a part of why I've ended up a NEET.

When I'm not going anywhere, in the evening or at weekends, or well most days now since my neethood, all systems work fine. Pissing? No probs. Have a shit? Fine regular once/twice a day shits with no problems whatsoever. So it's not actually a physical problem, it lies in some deep anxiety. Because most of the times it happens I don't even feel anxious to begin with about going out, I get annoyed and anxious when my system fuck sets in and I don't know if I will be late because of having to sit down on the toilet one time more, or try to have a leak so I don't need to have a mild panic attack at the bus when it feels like I'm gonna soak my pant…
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Rebecca Picklock - Wed, 08 Mar 2017 22:58:24 EST ID:Aa4pCEiK No.514237 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514232

Have you ever actually sort of had an accident where you could not keep it in?

As you said you're anxious and this is the cause and something you need to work on. I don't know you so the only advice I can give is to socialize and exercise.
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Hamilton Blythefoot - Thu, 09 Mar 2017 00:46:56 EST ID:o3vIoRWZ No.514240 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I had this feeling once very strongly, long ago. You brought back a nice memory. (Skip to last two paragraphs for actual advice)

It was 199something. I was in my late teens. My country was under isolating sanctions. No foreign bands were allowed to play in my country, for the entirety of my youth I listened to the same three or so bands on stage. My dad lived abroad. He took me to the concert of one of my favorite bands that I never dreamed to see live. While we were waiting for it to start, I felt the urge to piss constantly, and went to the toilet so many times my dad started worrying and asked "are you ok?"
Needless to say, when the drums started rolling, the guitar started stringing, the rock started rocking, my mind was not on my bladder anymore.

Also, last year I read fantasy books by Joe Abercrombie, a psychologist-become-writer. He's got a character who every time before a battle gets this urge to piss. I identified so much with that character because of this silly urge. Needless to say, when the axes started swinging, spears started flying, people started dying, his mind was not on his bladder anymore.

I think it's got to do with, well, anxiety and excitement yes, but also with preparing yourself for something important. Taking care that nothing distracts you when the crucial moment comes. I don't know if this can be overcome in any other way than "just do it! go for it! you're as prepared and ready as you'll ever be!" and plunging into it.

>I am a NEET, but about to crawl out of my hole soon, get back into education and such. But that is not my problem.
Yes it is. That is your problem. You have been stalling too much with too many important things for too long. I'd focus on that rather than your bowels and bladder. They are just a symptom.
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Reuben Fancocke - Thu, 09 Mar 2017 07:47:37 EST ID:vATdGl2v No.514244 Ignore Report Quick Reply
My professional opinion is that OP needs to smoke more
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Hamilton Deffingnitch - Thu, 09 Mar 2017 08:19:27 EST ID:TX3Ezud6 No.514246 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>514233
I do have that problem too, being too self conscious when using the bathroom when not at home. Hearing every single sound people make outside of the bathroom, tensing me up. But that is getting better since the last past years, since I have learned more not to give a fuck. But it was troublesome when in my early education, since I would not be able to void my bowels until I'd get home.

>>514237
It hasn't lead to any accidents yet. As I said it was mostly just the bowels before. It's been just this last month that my bladder has started acting up on it too, and that has created way too many close calls.

It's just that it's hard to work with, the anxiety that is. Because it's not appearing in the shape of thought loops or worried thought patterns, that I could deal with. It appears only as a vague weight in my bowels, and a looming sense of unrest. So I don't know how to get at it, so to speak.

>>514240
It's not really a symptom of my neethood though, as I wrote in the OP, this has been a problem of mine long before I got lost in a hole. And now when the bladder has entered the equation it has changed the way it affects me. Because with the bowel situation, it'd be that I just sit on the toilet alot before I leave, but then when I'm actually on my way, it'd calm down and be out of my mind. The bladder continues to torture me, even when I'm already where I was supposed to go.

Also, when I say I'm about to get out of neethood, I mean that I actually have made plans and everything, decided on the school etc. That is up and running. Therefore I'm trying to make sure that I have as little as possible that could be in the way when it's actually in the present.
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Wesley Crimblelock - Thu, 09 Mar 2017 12:51:30 EST ID:QVcoJ6HE No.514254 Ignore Report Quick Reply
sounds like you have intestinal cancer and it has metastasized to your bladder. next stop: the brain. RIP, op


Addicted to emotional pain by Barnaby Cankinbidge - Sat, 04 Mar 2017 20:42:08 EST ID:UHZ3DMbt No.514025 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Is there some thing where you keep self-sabotaging yourself because the emotional pain it gives you kinda validates you? I keep doing shit that makes me feel bad because, I don't know, it makes me feel alive. It's fucking weird. I know it's bad but I keep doing it. I keep trying to rationalize myself by saying it's to "toughen me up" but in reality I know it's because I'm somehow addicted to this sort of emotional pain of feeling like shit.

How the hell do I stop this?
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Ernest Murddock - Mon, 06 Mar 2017 17:27:27 EST ID:zbKXnohS No.514141 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You are a masochist. Consider picking up BDSM as an outlet.
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Simon Dranningkick - Tue, 07 Mar 2017 14:04:32 EST ID:0QaYPxEF No.514201 Ignore Report Quick Reply
No, you're not doing this because "it validates you" or "you're addicted".
By viewing it as such you're taking away responsibility for your actions.
You're retroactively trying to justify them and assign them value they do not have.

Which is also the real reason why you're self-sabotaging - to avoid responsibility for your own happiness.

You're not a masochist, on the contrary, you're vulnerable and afraid of effort and failure.
It does not make you feel alive, on the contrary, you're doing this because you're afraid of life.
It's a hard thing to accept, which is why you're doing all this mental gymnastics instead.

>How the hell do I stop this?
First thing first, set your mindframe straight, no more mental gymnastics, face yourself, tell it like it is.
Take responsibility.
Only then can you start doing things about it, becoming more confident, more strong, and working towards giving yourself a good life.
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Wesley Nunkinchark - Wed, 08 Mar 2017 10:35:06 EST ID:QVcoJ6HE No.514224 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514053

hey man, wanna give me a blowjob?
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Nicholas Femmlesure - Wed, 08 Mar 2017 14:17:51 EST ID:+12cwO4s No.514225 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514201
This, well done
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Edward Fammerwill - Wed, 08 Mar 2017 18:55:11 EST ID:37Cn1fpV No.514229 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514201
>Which is also the real reason why you're self-sabotaging - to avoid responsibility for your own happiness.

Something happened to me a few years ago that made me believe that my own happiness was hurting others. But that's basically an excuse as well. It was a pretty convenient excuse to delude myself.

You're right. Even deep down inside I knew all this stuff was excuses excuses excuses. Still the temptation to believe in these delusions is extremely strong. Not an excuse but just shows how much work I have to do.


No woman has ever loved me. by John Berryfuck - Tue, 07 Mar 2017 13:49:53 EST ID:MoLhhJRI No.514200 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm 25. I don't think many men can relate. I don't see the point in living. I for sure have no desire to keep slaving away for nothing. I don't really know what to do. I'm lost.

I find in myself an intense desire to retire from society, but being human I also get lonely. But then, every time I try to socialise, I end up getting reminded of who I am and returning home, feeling like shit.

Today was such an occasion.
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Edwin Brennerdane - Tue, 07 Mar 2017 14:20:18 EST ID:UrQwPY3E No.514204 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514200
That sucks man, it really does. I know it's no consolation but a friend's love is also very cherishable. The moments I was more heartbroken it was them that were there to support me, and it was them I could count on the most.

Who you are is not absolute. I've seen people change a lot over the years. So you should try to work out the stuff you don't like about yourself. Maybe even try therapy.

Perhaps you should try to change the setting you're socializing in? Everytime I go clubbing I end up feeling like shit. It's something I've wanted to change for such a long time without much progress. After a while I discovered other places to socialize in (college, pubs, film projections, concerts, etc) where I feel much more comfortable, and I don't (always) come home feeling like shit.

Anyway, you can share what happened today. Maybe it'll make you feel better. Best of lucks OP
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Charlotte Ponningman - Tue, 07 Mar 2017 15:02:44 EST ID:zOfwhgti No.514208 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514200

I know how you feel. I think about some of the things women have said to me over the years and become so bitter that I don't want to bother with them for awhile. Then I usually end up meeting someone randomly and forget whatever I had let myself build up.

I've been told things like "I am never going to fall in love with you" and my favorite "I like you a lot more than I thought I would" both kind of seem kind of insultory right? The last one kind of matches up with how I feel about myself, that generally women like me at first until they start getting to know me then they lose interest which is what has happened several times.
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Polly Sankinridge - Tue, 07 Mar 2017 16:23:28 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.514211 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Did your mom die or hate you or something? She's a woman. If you mean romantically, a lot of guys have been dealing with this kind of thing. I doubt a majority have, but the world population is over 7 billion and 49% of that is men. It sucks man, I know it. I'm in a similar boat myself, mostly of my own design. Don't get so down thinking you're experiencing something few people deal with though. You don't necessarily need a woman, even though it sucks not having somebody like that to love you. Don't give up, your attitude is part of what's preventing you from finding anybody.
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Clara Drebberford - Tue, 07 Mar 2017 19:19:53 EST ID:tDogmvzg No.514213 Ignore Report Quick Reply
What happened OP? What other occasions were similar? I bet you can extract something from them that could be educational.

Also, it's the same for me. Most of the time I'm fine but it gets me down sometimes too.
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Oliver Niblingmen - Wed, 08 Mar 2017 16:58:17 EST ID:eMxKLL8y No.514227 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514200
sounds like an easy fix for you would be to find yourself a girlfriend.


relationship of five years just ended I feel fed up by William Finkinforth - Mon, 06 Mar 2017 08:29:20 EST ID:YzSTqX1L No.514083 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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This is the second time we have broken up and it's probably for good this time. We broke up last year and she started fucking a black guy. after we got back together I forced her to block him on Facebook and delete his number and never talk to him again.

She claims that he wanted to date her but she didn't want to date him and we're just having sex. I found out she had unblocked him because I saw his name in the browser history (we live together ) I click and it's a link right to his facebook.

I didn't bring it up immediately but soon after I did she told me she was breaking up with me and that she wasn't changing her kind again.

Basically I'm pretty much shocked. She ended a long term thing so she could go back to a fling. I should've seen it coming But as this all un folds I can't help but grow further detached from everything.
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Clara Sebblebury - Mon, 06 Mar 2017 17:43:34 EST ID:xwrH56GN No.514147 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514137
You seem a bit bothered by the fact he's black am I wrong? If it was a white dude she fucked would it bother you as much or is it just because of the fact his dick is bigger just make you uncomfortable. Imagine he probably fucked her better than anyone else ever has. Black bucks love white women. She's hooked bro. Your relationship is over she had her mind on her while you guys were together she probably wanted him the entire time and lied to you so she could have some security. You did say you live together does she work or pay her own rent? What was your sex life like before and after you broke up the first time?
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Polly Goodshaw - Mon, 06 Mar 2017 18:22:17 EST ID:t4VoEyxe No.514148 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514120
>>514121
Why would you date someone you don't trust enough to not constantly have to babysit on Facebook and make decisions on who she's allowed to talk to?
You only have you to blame if you decide to couple up with people that shitty.
>>514137
If she didn't like him she wouldn't have slept with him. Casual sex is a two way agreement.
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Cedric Nonkinlock - Mon, 06 Mar 2017 18:31:27 EST ID:zOfwhgti No.514150 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514148
That's just an example of hamstering. People do it when they have to make a decision so they tell themselves a lie that lines up with the decisions they have to make. She likely needed op for beta bucks but doesn't want to date a black guy. Liked them both but chose op because he could give her a stable life. She added him on Facebook again? What does that tell you about her honesty regarding about "not liking him that much". Anytime someone adds extra words like I wasn't that into him or I don't like him very much they are more than likely lying
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Eugene Denkinlock - Tue, 07 Mar 2017 15:04:22 EST ID:dtsUxcbn No.514209 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514150
I don't think k you know what that worder hamster actually means
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Phineas Gebbletan - Tue, 07 Mar 2017 15:46:41 EST ID:ve5Fc3by No.514210 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Damn, I thought I escaped people getting unironically 'BLACKED' on the future


Therapy student problemz by James Chuffingbanks - Mon, 06 Mar 2017 13:37:01 EST ID:GjGOKHAN No.514115 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Here's a weird problem. No idea if anyone can empathise here, though it might be a bit specific due to things i've done in my life.

I studied criminology and substance misuse interventions for 2 years, in which my studies totally opened my eyes to how emotions work, taught me a lot about therapies and the way our upbringing can help us....but usually royally fuck us up haha.

Okay so i had a mental breakdown of sorts and changed my degree. But up until very recently i've been putting most of my energy, for several years into studying and practicing how to be a supportive, authentic, and therapist-like human being not just for work but in my personal life to.

So, like an absolute idiot i ended up getting even more emotionally open, and intimate with my two best friends, who i live with, whom i've known for about 5 years.

HERE'S THE PROBLEM
now i'm coming to realize that maybe...maybe those kind of super real, super open, super deep conversations...should be left for therapists...in the therapists office. Because i've kind of invited a level of emotional intensity from my friends that i can't cope with, i have intimacy issues as it is, but now they rely on me emotionally...and to tell them to back off is out of the question because by this stage i've already let them in, repeatedly, on my crazy depressive bullshit.

Fuck.
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Fanny Boddlestock - Mon, 06 Mar 2017 15:17:24 EST ID:+12cwO4s No.514125 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514115
Here's where you have to be a man and take responsibility.
I'm not saying be their therapist forever, I'm saying withdraw slowly and responsibly
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Ernest Murddock - Mon, 06 Mar 2017 16:08:41 EST ID:zbKXnohS No.514132 Ignore Report Quick Reply
What you are describing is transference/countertransference. Your feelings and your patient's feelings are becoming intertwined, and difficult to sort through. An actual therapist would analyze these feelings in the context of their practice and use the insights from such feelings to better provide for their patients.

This is the problem with playing armchair. You don't have a dedicated practice, you don't have a silent place to reflect upon your emotions or your patient's emotions and how they might impact the therapy. You don't have colleagues to confide in. You probably aren't even taking notes. You admit you have intimacy issues. All of these factors impact the quality of therapy you're providing. Combined with the typical strains of friendship, and you're likely hurting them more than you're helping.

If you want to be a therapist, be a therapist. Major in psychology. Build a practice. Get clients, clients that aren't your fucking friends (though if they want to, they can still come in for therapy. In a dedicated practice, with structured sessions and detailed note taking). Don't half ass people's mental health. They won't appreciate it in the end, even if they appreciate it now.
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Jarvis Nommlespear - Tue, 07 Mar 2017 13:16:20 EST ID:KveR7zNs No.514199 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514132
I disagree with the bit about friends. The distance the therapist has is important. I suspect being a third party is practically an ethical concern. They can grow to like their patients but having a pre existing or non professional relationship with patients is almost definitely unethical not least of all because it's dangerous and either side can exploit it.

But otherwise yes.


Ex-Gf Completely Cutting Me From Her Life by Eugene Crallyfore - Sun, 05 Mar 2017 07:14:52 EST ID:M/70DA86 No.514035 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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It's been a week since we broke up and I'm finding it hard to cope with not being in her life anymore. We've been together 2 years but half of that has been long distance. We met in college but I dropped out and we kept it going. Since leaving college I started working in a city 2 hours away from where we went to college, ironically which is closer to where she's from.
She says that she hasn't been happy for months for a few reasons, mainly that she wants 'more' from our relationship and that she's drained from worrying about me due to me going through my own shit. The thing is that I've spent a lot of time going to see her on weekends and sometimes even during the week but it's not enough to her. I'm probably skipping over a few things but it's just a rough summary. I don't want to be completely cut from her life and i want to stay and try salvage and work at this relationship but she doesn't want to right now. Am I wasting my time trying to get her back?
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Molly Greenford - Sun, 05 Mar 2017 07:31:33 EST ID:9vn86lM+ No.514036 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514035

Havent you listened to any adele songs? they can help loads with breakups.

Most relationships end with the dumper usually cutting ties with the dumpee. Ive done it and its been done to me.

Just... Adele songs. Heres some links for you.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rYEDA3JcQqw
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hLQl3WQQoQ0
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YQHsXMglC9A
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Graham Clabberdetch - Sun, 05 Mar 2017 13:44:05 EST ID:UrQwPY3E No.514042 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514036
I've had it the other way around. I mean I cut ties when I was dumped, and my ex-gf cut ties with me when I broke up with her.

If it's only been a week then there's good chance you can get back together. Have you asked her exactly what does she want from the relationship? Maybe staying away can also work as a way to get back together. I mean, if she realizes she misses you enough, she'll ask to get back with you, but that's taking a chance. I think you should first ask her what is it exactly that she wants from a relationship.

Staying friends with your ex-gf has proved very difficult for me, at least in the short term. Maybe some time from now you can talk again, but if you're breaking up, I'd suggest you set some boundaries yourself. Better to set them yourself than to be left out without a say in it.
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Nicholas Clodgekudge - Sun, 05 Mar 2017 20:08:13 EST ID:M/70DA86 No.514060 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I've been doing some thinking since I made this thread and my ex has told me to stop trying to contact her. It's almost as if she's a completely different person from who I fell in love with. I just want her back and to make this work but she won't take me on at all.
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Polly Bunford - Sun, 05 Mar 2017 20:40:08 EST ID:UrQwPY3E No.514062 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514060
As sad as it may be, I think you should let go man. If you've gave it your best, and she's still been clear about it, then there's not much to do. I'm sorry mang.


Here's a thread about exes, maybe it'll give you some sad comfort.

http://boards.420chan.org/qq/res/513634.php


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