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Where to meet dateable women? by Charlotte Dellerford - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 08:42:18 EST ID:ZBd6lcme No.528097 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Where does one find dateable women? I spend all my time at work, at home on the computer, or out biking. I have to go elsewhere to find them, obviously, but where? (Btw, don't tell me to try to find a woman at work. All the women at work are old, fat, married, and/or incompatible culturally/religiously (wears a hijab, barely speaks english, etc).)

I admit that I've never had a serious relationship. I've been told to find someone who shares my interests, but is that actually important? Thinking about it, I'd rather have a relationship with a quiet, calm woman who likes, say, keeping centipedes as pets, than a loud, crazy woman who likes programming and biking. Furthermore, just because they share your interests doesn't mean they share your values. What's a man to do?
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Fucking Pittingforth - Thu, 13 Dec 2018 07:16:39 EST ID:ZBd6lcme No.528130 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Thanks for the advice everybody.

>I dunno, man. My personal view is that it's a numbers game. You just have to keep looking until you find someone you're willing to settle, live and grow with. Most people meet women through friends and friends of friends, so I'd start to get cozy with whoever you can really to introduce you to more and more people.
I hardly ever go out with friends, much less friends of friends. I guess I gotta change that.

>If you don't want to go digital then you're going to have to go to bars/clubs.
I'm not interested in hookups; I want something long term. Also, I don't drink alcohol, am terrible at dancing, and hate loud music. Perhaps I should try the bookstore/bookclub instead?

>This. It's all statistical. You can't determine any of what you're concerned about without just dating despite not knowing. Even if you are supposedly compatible and should be, a sustainable relationship may still be impossible with someone. The only way to win is to keep playing the game. At some point, if you play enough, you will come across someone good for you.
Keep playing the game. Got it.
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Alice Fozzlehark - Thu, 13 Dec 2018 12:59:08 EST ID:oGhTgflo No.528134 Ignore Report Quick Reply
In terms of compatibility it sounds like... well you don't really want answers but confirmation of your pre existing opinion really.

Still I'm going to offer mine in the hope I'm wrong: There's a middle ground.

You need to have some things in common so you can enjoy time spent together and you need to have values and general priorities well aligned. There will be conflict no matter how alike you are but being completely different is asking for trouble. Someone who will push you gently out your comfort zone sometimes is good in moderation. Someone who goes and does their own thing keeps their mystery too. If you hold radically different values and will not compromise or question (either of you) them or if you have totally different natures it will be unlikely you'll last very long. The loud girl might drag you constantly to parties and always want to go to shitty clubs where they can't even get playing chart music cheese shit right and never enjoy a quiet night chatting with friends or maybe she'll occasionally drag you out dancing or to a cool party but be able to enjoy the quieter nights.

It's not a case of one or the other. There's usually only one way you know the real measure of all but the most extreme people and that's to give them a chance. And to find someone who'll do the same for you probably thins the herd quite considerably anyway. And if you're signalling right it thins it to a group slanted to be more like you.

Where to actually meet them is beyond me though. People who say it gets easier as you get older are full of shit.
Hugh Blatherridge - Fri, 14 Dec 2018 07:13:02 EST ID:ZBd6lcme No.528148 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>In terms of compatibility it sounds like... well you don't really want answers but confirmation of your pre existing opinion really.
I don't want confirmation, because I wasn't asking about it. I was asking about where to meet dateable women, not how/why to expand what I consider dateable.

>Still I'm going to offer mine in the hope I'm wrong: There's a middle ground.
>You need to have some things in common so you can enjoy time spent together and you need to have values and general priorities well aligned. There will be conflict no matter how alike you are but being completely different is asking for trouble. Someone who will push you gently out your comfort zone sometimes is good in moderation. Someone who goes and does their own thing keeps their mystery too. If you hold radically different values and will not compromise or question (either of you) them or if you have totally different natures it will be unlikely you'll last very long. The loud girl might drag you constantly to parties and always want to go to shitty clubs where they can't even get playing chart music cheese shit right and never enjoy a quiet night chatting with friends or maybe she'll occasionally drag you out dancing or to a cool party but be able to enjoy the quieter nights.
>It's not a case of one or the other. There's usually only one way you know the real measure of all but the most extreme people and that's to give them a chance. And to find someone who'll do the same for you probably thins the herd quite considerably anyway. And if you're signalling right it thins it to a group slanted to be more like you.
I appreciate your response. I'll try be more open to experiences that I wouldn't normally do.

>Where to actually meet them is beyond me though.

>People who say it gets easier as you get older are full of shit.
I am somewhat "older", and I agree. Back in university I had so much time to hang out, and it was so easy to do so with friends and friends of friends. (Furthermore, everybody is about your age and unmarried!) Now that I'm working full time, I have less time, most of my university friends have …
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Phoebe Hobblebadge - Fri, 14 Dec 2018 07:26:12 EST ID:p3X7gAtH No.528149 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Nah I mean there are people that are different to you on the surface that are the same as you, with the same values and shit. It's just that they seem a certain way because they have to front to their people and parents. What you envision as wanting to raise children differently might just be acting slightly different when you're at their parents house to what you do normally.
Edward Cossleman - Sat, 15 Dec 2018 01:14:53 EST ID:cwlV+B3h No.528157 Ignore Report Quick Reply

church. nb

my personal issue by Nicholas Fishpidge - Mon, 10 Dec 2018 06:16:53 EST ID:WcunFWgg No.528057 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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i came here to read about other peoples situations as a way to put everything into perspective. not to mock or insult or "feel better about myself" but to see what other people are dealing with, out of curiousty and misery wanting company

theres bullshit about girls and dating. Don't give a FUCK about that. so this baord is failing me. Help !
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Isabella Hoppernudging - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 10:23:37 EST ID:8r2zCse/ No.528100 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Why do you not do something about it then?

Why do you come here for negative affirmation?

If you wish to stay where you are, continue doing as you are.
Walter Crossletadge - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 10:50:17 EST ID:dlP99jBc No.528101 Ignore Report Quick Reply
nah i get you, that's actually how i "beat depression" (i still get on very shitty moods) about a year ago, gratitude and perspective helped me a lot
what books did you read? gotta admit i find most philosophy useless but i'm willing to try it
i've been going out of my way to try and experience new shit but failing miserably, it gets frustrating
Graham Trotwell - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 17:05:20 EST ID:WcunFWgg No.528109 Ignore Report Quick Reply
i feel you

appreciate your effort but not a fan of your posts
Alice Clunnernirk - Thu, 13 Dec 2018 02:49:20 EST ID:U99A5Mm4 No.528126 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I did read a lot of books but I cant abide pure philosophy. The purely philosophical shit was like myth of sisyphus and meditations of Marcus aurelius, but also a lot of fictional shit like dostoyevsky, satre, and a few gulag/ concentration camp accounts. But yeah basic stuff.
Ian Brandlespear - Thu, 13 Dec 2018 10:41:11 EST ID:WcunFWgg No.528133 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I would add EM Cioran to that list, hes one of my favs in that category

How to suggest a FWB deal with my female friend? by Lost And Confused - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 16:15:07 EST ID:p51D9vng No.528106 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've been single for a few months now, with next to no action besides the odd date that's gone nowhere. I'm heading into winter session at my university, and I've got next to no prospects going for me.

Now, one of my female friends is thirsty as hell, constantly trying to get laid at parties but always getting too drunk to score. Tells me a lot how nobody wants to get with her, etc. etc. She wants to hang out with me more often because we haven't seen a lot of each other this semester, and she'll also be around a lot in the winter.

The question I guess I have is, is there any way to bring up the thought of her fucking with me over winter without it being weird? She's really tried to fuck everyone but me, including a roommate of mine, but I don't know if it's because she only sees me in a platonic sense or if I've given off the vibe that I didn't want her like that.
Clara Niddlefack - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 16:36:01 EST ID:fFqdWlVJ No.528107 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Usually when girls talk to you about how much they wanna get laid, it usually also implies that they specifically don't want it to be with you. Otherwise they wouldn't be telling you about it.

Sorry bud.
Graham Mondlespear - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 23:15:15 EST ID:IJylBavY No.528122 Ignore Report Quick Reply
This guy is just jelly.

She wants to hang, be friends, get fucked and have a good time
Set it up man, if she wants to see you more anyways it'll be all good.

Girls aren't that complex; they just like you and me
Alice Clunnernirk - Thu, 13 Dec 2018 02:36:52 EST ID:U99A5Mm4 No.528125 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Get her alone. Set the mood. See what happens.

A few months is weak though.

Started to hate children by Intricate Urology - Thu, 16 Nov 2017 03:21:33 EST ID:uDCgIcJL No.520066 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've been working as a pediatrician for 5 years and enjoyed my job
but burned out at some point
due to too inhumane working-hours and not enough time to relax.

Then my parents got badly injured in a car-crash, both got bedridden and unfortunately died maybe a month later due to complications in their spines and internal organs.

I was devastated. Couldn't work anymore and needed 3 years to somehow recover.
I quit my nursery job because it took its toll on me
and tried to get a foot into IT-tech, but had zero luck.

At some point I got a call from a state-funded youth-office and they've been looking for social workers.
A good friend of mine suggested me!

So, yeah.
It started really great.
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Cornelius Focklespear - Sat, 17 Nov 2018 05:50:01 EST ID:zH7c2B0S No.527752 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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children are stupid devilish monsters.

"but you were a kid too once!" I hear you say

Yes, so I was and I was a stupid shit-dooer.
So I know how horribly stupid and agonizing children are nowadays!

I want to slap every kid in the face that dabs, screams for no reason and just exists for talking bullcrap all day with his flat cap on his head.

Let all the sleep-depraved masochists deal with these shitstains.
Hedda Dartbanks - Sat, 17 Nov 2018 06:46:48 EST ID:wVwbY1G3 No.527753 Ignore Report Quick Reply
The truth is some kids are worse than others and some are so bad that even as adults they should just be killed. We didn't choose to have you, we didn't risk unprotected sex but here you are shitting on our stuff.

I don't want kids, I'm not having any but I'm still dealing with this shit flinging tantrum phase that has lasted 4 months already. At least you won't pass your defective genes on nb.

Though actually given this revelation I might have kids. I mean if people like you will ruin everything they touch and we can't keep away from you what's some kids on top of that?
Frederick Blanningwater - Mon, 19 Nov 2018 13:54:23 EST ID:3A/9rSkO No.527787 Ignore Report Quick Reply
you're both retarded cunts
>waaah i can't handle anything that shouts
>waahh I can fuck all I want and have no responsibilities for it
>waaahh modern life is so hard
>waaah I'm such a millennial
Missima Hmgulf - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 18:26:19 EST ID:YRfNeQu5 No.528111 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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breeder with crotchfruit-regret detected.
Henry Fapperford - Sat, 15 Dec 2018 02:17:37 EST ID:AX+/sznq No.528158 Ignore Report Quick Reply
bitter antinatalist loser detected

Trouble with finding god. by Ian Sissledat - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 14:34:49 EST ID:/v57NAtH No.528103 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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People, do you believe in god? I do, i do believe there's a divine force. But how do I know his will and commandments. I sat and debated this with myself along the way, and wrote down my thoughts (if you have the mental strength and will to read through it all, can you perhaps give me some answers or personal views? It'd be greatly appreciated):

"We must not let the imagination of man decide our gods and religous faith. Rather we must worship and see god in the things which are not a product of our imagination, things that are a certainty. A naturalness. So therefore we must find god and the word of god in nature and within ourselves, for they are products of the divine, not of man."

Further thoughts:

Now, like some religions state; if you don't worship this and that you will never go to heaven and will be punished with eternal suffering, bla bla bla.

To you, would a righteous god punish all of the people who does not believe in a certain god or believes in a certain way? A righteous god knows the nature of man, for he is the creator and he knows that for all of time the imagination of man will always create gods and god will be expressed in different ways. How can you say that these people will go to hell and at the same time claim your god is righteous?

I believe that the important thing is not which god you worship, whether you keep kosher or not, or some other uninmportant thing. Although musn't we enlighten the masses that they shall not believe in man-made gods? Yes, for they are believing falsness otherwise, and obviously it is not good to believe in anything which is false.
The thing which I believe is important is that you realise that there is a divine and that you try to be good in life, then the almighty, the righteous god should not judge how you express your faith in god.

But then what will define good?
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My best friend, a cat, dies tomorrow. by Angus Sinkinwure - Fri, 23 Nov 2018 22:19:45 EST ID:DYZrq7y2 No.527871 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Rainy was found, mauled by a dog, in a rainstorm, half-dead.

We took him in, nursed him back to health, where he lived for 15 years as my best friend, sometimes my only friend in the entire world.

He eventually developed some kind of gut disease, which is leading to kidney failure. He can no longer stand, or eat, or drink, he dies tomorrow, put down at the vet's office. We tried our best, special diets, injections, even weekly IV bags.

Tomorrow he sleeps, forever.

An entire day of crying, I'm still crying, while typing this, I have nobody else to talk to. I don't know what to ask for, I don't fucking know, I've drank more alcohol than what's healthy, he disappears tomorrow, I've said my goodbyes, I still hurt.
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Cornelius Micklekere - Thu, 29 Nov 2018 10:14:16 EST ID:WByFVGHu No.527938 Ignore Report Quick Reply
psh you did a great thing
Priscilla Hillerfere - Fri, 30 Nov 2018 16:17:22 EST ID:gpFSSZ6j No.527950 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I feel you man. My dog was my best friend during my years getting bullied at school. The day we had to let him go is still the saddest day of my life. Stay strong OP
Jarvis Napperville - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 05:57:00 EST ID:SNXcRWOR No.528091 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I remember when my cat died in my arms after being put down. RIP Johnny.

But there are other cats. I have a new cat now that didnt exist when Johnny was alive. Good ol' Roncat.

Both were adopted. More cats need to be adopted.

Adopt em all.
Hannah Chinnerlotch - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 09:26:56 EST ID:kHsAdsUo No.528098 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Don't try and escape the pain, feel it. All of it. Don't look away, do not avert your gaze. Bear witness to it--.but do not judge it--do not consider it in terms of negative or positive. Instead, accept it, exactly comes to you, as itself; nothing more and nothing less..

Yes, the pain hurts, but it is okay to hurt. The hurting doesn't have to be a bad thing. Let go of the pain's control over your emotional reaction to experiencing it. The pain is a testament to the bond you had with your cat. To try and thoughtlessly escape it is to deny how real and special everything you shared together was, do not dishonor his memory that way.

Over time, the pain will change in nature. It will hurt less immediately, less viscerally. This hurt you feel now is like the pain of child birth. Eventually it will end, and what is born will grow and evolve into the warm nostalgia of fond, cherished memories of the time you spent together and how good what he meant to you makes you feel.

Trying to escape the pain will turn your heart and memories of him into cold, lifeless stone--totally devoid of feelings. This pattern of avoidance will turn you plastic and hollow, incapable of feeling anything save for the ennui and boredom that comes from continuing to exist, along with anger, irritation, and utter loneliness.
Hannah Chinnerlotch - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 13:50:19 EST ID:kHsAdsUo No.528102 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Instead of trying to escape the pain, try appreciating it instead... in the sense that your bond was of such a caliber that the loss of him can and does hurt this bad.

after 2 concussions and some major fuckin anxiety, social withdrawal and isolation, and extreme depression and self loathing that i've only really gotten over in the last 3 years, i'm practically an emotionally vacant husk save for rather pervasive boredom, and still being able to get angry and irritated just the same. i can't even feel fear or terror from shit any more. i've lost the ability to form emotional bonds/attachments to others and things, and it's a large stretch to say i'm even capable of truly caring about just about anything, let alone love. its been long enough i dont even really remember what loving feels like aside from some vague, very aloof sense of the concept, so really i don't even care that i can't feel it or remember it anymore. i think oddly enough (at least from an outsiders perspective), what i truly and deeply miss and regret not being able to experience is grief over the loss of loved ones or things that are special or important to you (or would be anyway). not being able to feel any other emotions bothered me a bit for a good while too, but that too has changed because i forget what that was like, yet all the same i deeply long for and miss being capable of grieving.

i don't mean to hijack your thread by saying all of that about myself, i just felt it was necessary to give some background to explain why i think you should appreciate and cherish the fact that something was able to have such meaning and importance to you that it has without question significantly and irrevocably changed your life experience forever, and to such a degree. your cat represents the best that the human experience has to offer in the way of legitimate and touching connection with another living being.

he was something remarkable, unique, and special, and the pain is merely a testament to that fact and the legacy of your relationship with one another. it hurts, but its one of the only beautiful things that exists in the world, and that isn't something you should try to hide a…
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parents by Doris Tootford - Tue, 20 Nov 2018 09:56:05 EST ID:dJEw/uJZ No.527793 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I smoke weed in my room and whenever my parents come in they start sniffing really obviously.. like they don't know that there's obviously weed in here I'm high basically all the time. How the fuck do I move out making 100 dollars a week? I'm a grown adult wanting to do my own shit but my parents are fucking psychos and are treating me like a kid
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Martin Droffingfin - Thu, 06 Dec 2018 14:08:47 EST ID:ogGEfQN1 No.528015 Ignore Report Quick Reply
This argument is invalid because the income reference frame has been consistent USD
Shitting Shakebanks - Thu, 06 Dec 2018 14:31:41 EST ID:oGhTgflo No.528017 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Who the fuck doesn't know the rough exchange rate to dollars in their native currency? It's considerate and allows us to converse in a simple universally understood measure. I know most Americans use farenheit despite literally no one else using it and don't extend the consideration (is this why you've never considered this is what happens when we use dollars?) but we're not just doing it for them, we're doing it for eachother. I don't know my currency in rubels, or yen, or pesos or whatever but I know it in dollars, and everyone knows dollars.
Ian Duckham - Mon, 10 Dec 2018 20:20:02 EST ID:/UPCnfrT No.528067 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Holy shit OP, you sound like my little brother. You like emo-rap and have crazy parents lol. You have an email?
Charlotte Dellerford - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 07:32:52 EST ID:ZBd6lcme No.528096 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Get a job that pays more than 100 buck per week. Also, wtf are you doing that pays so little ? I could make more per week doing amazon mechanical turk.

Protip: If you don't got any skills, try working for the post office to get a decent wage. But be warned, you have to pass a drug test to get in.
Martha Buzzdale - Thu, 13 Dec 2018 10:04:24 EST ID:/XvieVYl No.528132 Ignore Report Quick Reply
this, yall fucking retarded
I used $ so everyone understood what's what, not because it's the default currency all over the world. If i was saying Euros or CZK or some shit like that everyone would be just asking how much is that. "income reference frame has been consistent usd" and he thinks he's smart, my jimmies are fucking rustled. no bump.

Psychotic whore by Priscilla Brookwell - Sun, 11 Nov 2018 23:02:06 EST ID:OWx1ClP7 No.527690 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I’ve posted a little bit about this woman on here and a few other various image boards around the net, but I’ve come to a conundrum, I’ll give the short version

>start dating this psychotic bitch, she moves in immediately
>October 29th, she starts fight with me in my parking lot and punches me 3 times and herself a bunch of times
>neighbor calls the police, she goes to jail with domestic abuse charge
>can’t pay bail, her sentencing date is December 19th

Some dude told me he could pick up her stuff, should I just trash it? It’s literally mainly just a bunch of random Knick knacks, she has a huge collection of spiritual stones and shit (she claims if I get rid of these karma will bite me in the ass) and all her clothes, literally if I trash it when she gets out she will have nothing except her clothes and her wallet and her broken cell phone. Part of me says I should just say fuck it and trash it all, another part of me says I’m not that big of an asshole and I’ll just have dude come scoop it

Pic related, it’s all her shit, unorganized tossed into boxes, this pile has doubled in size since this photo was taken and I still haven’t went through most of her clothes.
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Eugene Siblingham - Fri, 23 Nov 2018 02:30:57 EST ID:7pCBxxy6 No.527853 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You probably had already taste it, don't you?
Jarvis Napperville - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 06:44:00 EST ID:SNXcRWOR No.528092 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>woman gets new man to raise her child
>he acts like it's a victory

I hate to say it bro but if you don't knock her up you're just another genetic dead end continuing the grand joke of stallionoldry.
Ernest Greenbanks - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 06:57:40 EST ID:U99A5Mm4 No.528093 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Lol yeah brah let your kids enjoy the apocalypse if you ever manage to convince a woman that you are remotely worthy of breeding.
Jarvis Napperville - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 07:28:21 EST ID:SNXcRWOR No.528094 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Already did.

"the end is near" is a meme from time immemorial.

My girl was a ho too but at least she knew how a condom and birth control worked. It is not that hard.
Jarvis Napperville - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 07:32:43 EST ID:SNXcRWOR No.528095 Ignore Report Quick Reply
How come every time someone says something on the internet, someone else turns it around on the responder and implies they are unworthy of breeding?

I didn't say this guy needed to kill himself or call him a stallion or whatever, I just said that if he doesnt reproduce then he invested all that time in her for nothing. She's basically trading sex for security without giving him anything besides sex.

This might be shocking but most people on this website are not virgins and have a genetic future.

Do I need to seek out new therapist? by Hamilton Bevingwell - Tue, 11 Dec 2018 07:12:41 EST ID:fqoaHH8i No.528070 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Can my therapist terminate my case without providing notice? Last I had contact with her was shortly before Thanks Giving, she was leaving for vacation. The next appointment we made interfered with intake with the psychiatrist, so we postponed our next session. The psychiatrist is through another agency, and they are requiring I see a psychologist until my meds are stable. I've tried to contact my therapist both by email and phone; twice through both mediums. I've yet to hear anything. Do I start looking at a new therapist, and is she required to get back to me?

I can provide more details if needed, but I've only seen her 5 times with no outbursts or moments of extreme tension.
Alice Bliddlewill - Tue, 11 Dec 2018 14:56:49 EST ID:NzPSygsx No.528075 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Yeah dude they are people and can do whatever they want. Ive had therapists quit or move. Don't worry too much cause it's mostly voodoo psuedoscience anyway.
Nathaniel Midgeman - Tue, 11 Dec 2018 23:57:25 EST ID:7ssMDUYE No.528083 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Why would you want to go in to get yelled at and belittled for a 6th time?

Have they not assigned you a label yet? Have they not told you to keep a journal of your "symptoms" (thoughts, emotions)?

Nothing they say is going to make it go away. They're only going to talk you into believing there's something wrong with you. They can't fix it. The meds won't fix it, and talking won't fix it. You're going to feel how you feel about the things you have in your life that you feel feelings about, no matter what. There are no answers. If you can't change it through your own efforts, the only thing you can do is get used to feeling shitty about it or stop trying to change how you feel about it and focus on other things instead. There's no solution.
Doris Crandlestock - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 02:08:24 EST ID:SFhkw9D+ No.528086 Ignore Report Quick Reply
She might be on vacation. Why the fuck would she be checking emails on vacation?

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Does anyone else feel like the world is a significantly less innocent place than it was 10, 15 years ago, even maybe like 2012? Is it from the media and political division, The internet taking over everything, or is it a personal thing from me growing up and getting older? Or is it from frying my shit on psys, maybe going through my early 20d and seeing friends die from drugs or be in and out of rehab etc?

I don’t know, I just think back to growing up, staying up late at my parents house watching Seinfeld on basic cable. Those times will never come back. Or listening to white stripes records and talking about comic books in my friends parents basement.

Is the world a different place, or did I just get old?
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Matilda Blittingman - Sun, 09 Dec 2018 12:47:25 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.528043 Ignore Report Quick Reply

How often do you actually see this shit in real life?

In my 25 years of living, about as crazy as it has gotten, are random dudes standing with microphones and occasional organised marches.

Your world is not real and ironically, you've bought into the power of SJW more as somebody who resents it, than I do as someone who has left leaning support within them.
Priscilla Grandforth - Sun, 09 Dec 2018 19:28:41 EST ID:uRrQH3kc No.528047 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I have never seen this shit irl,
Only online, but it's fucking everywhere.
I am just trying to enjoy 4-chan, and whatever, and everything has to be about bs alright politics or whatever.

I met anita once at a Blizzard party at GDC she wasn't half as bad as people said she was going to be.
Nigel Chingerman - Sun, 09 Dec 2018 21:17:50 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.528049 Ignore Report Quick Reply

It’s not really everywhere man. My Facebook is pretty devoid of this shit and asides from a few particular boards on here, most of this stuff exists in fairly abstract realms. I catch the occasional bit of politics or gender issues of the month through social media and boards but other than that, nah. Maybe some of my YouTube content gets it.

What you choose to surround yourself with online makes a big difference.
Graham Manderchire - Mon, 10 Dec 2018 16:16:17 EST ID:ApvoIuSE No.528065 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It's really when we come to 4-chan or sites like that.
What bothers me about it is that it ruined the chan sites.
Ian Bardfield - Mon, 10 Dec 2018 16:54:56 EST ID:SvrL9OfC No.528066 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>did I just get old?
Pretty sure this is what's going on. Feeling like the world is a less innocent place seems like a pretty natural consequence of aging, especially when you take a look back at history and the level of inhumane brutality that we exhibited toward one another not even more than a couple hundred and up to a thousand or so years ago.

I think this awareness of our lack of innocence as a species, or even as a society in first world countries here more recently, is compounded by the widespread and common access we have to near instantaneous forms of information communication and storage platforms, with most of us even having remotely connected devices to interface with these platforms carried on our person.

Then there's all kinds of cognitive biases to take into account that work to create the perception that times are no longer as simple or safe as they used to be. Think about how literally every generation of old person or adults in general complains about how the world is changing for the worse (despite also saying they had it harder back in the day, and kids today have it easy), and people are getting less social and more dangerous/creepy/perverse/fucked (even though a lot of the time that just translates to people being bigoted or opposed to newer lifestyles in one way or another).

A lot of the perception that people are less innocent or that the world is full of more creeps, sociopaths, etc., comes from the type of news stories that generate web traffic or viewership on TV, movie and TV show tropes, pop culture, pop culture references and highly skewed societal views on various things reinforcing personal perceptions via a feedback loop.

The world only ever seemed innocent because the level your parents and various societal institutions sheltered you from the reality of the world we live in. Any time the world seems less innocent than it was before is actually just your perception being modified to more accurately reflect the truth. The world hasn't necessarily changed, your perception of it and your beliefs about it have; in other words, you've grown up/gotten older.

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dont wanna be single anymore, not sure what to do at my age about it, really bums me out by Martin Sodgewater - Mon, 10 Dec 2018 05:44:52 EST ID:PZWxRmko No.528056 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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aIm 27 year old dude that cant seem to get a girl or date and it bums me out from time to time....

I moved around a bunch over the years and every time I end up in another state, I do worse at meeting people (mostly females), the older I get, the harder it seems to make friends in my age group, it seems even more daunting talking to girls my age too, I think maybe because im a virgin and idk but that one thing feels like its a burden and a curse and its something I feel people can sense about my being and just that I get treated or reacted to differently from others because of it?

I just don't know what I can do in order to not feel like this and find out what im doing wrong so I can not feel shitty about not being able to be romantically involved with somebody when all I ever hope for is to be somebody's significant other

Ive been on tinder since I moved to the last place I live in currently, I managed to get a "date" from using the app, things went well, but I got a feeling things weren't gonna go anywhere so I didn't follow up...not like the girl wasn't cool, she was chill and fun, we even play Overwatch on PS4 together from time to time, just didn't seem interested, so I lost interests but sometimes I feel like whenever it gets like that, that I probably messed something up? idk, I just want to not feel incapable of getting gf or ever getting married or being truly happy? Seems like every year of me being single just makes me feel inadequate to not be even when I feel like although shy, my efforts do mean something and thought I would be somewhere life having experienced the ups and downs of being in a monogamous relationship at least once. No wonder why I have nothing to say whenever people talk about sex around me, or that once in a while question about my sex life, which doesn't exist, its just really awkward, annoying, and deprecates my self-esteem further, so that's one good reason why I don't end up really going out and trying to make friends, how or what should I work on in order not to walk up in the morning not feeling up fulfilled in life???
Priscilla Fuvinglock - Mon, 10 Dec 2018 10:34:41 EST ID:dlP99jBc No.528060 Ignore Report Quick Reply
well how many girls have you asked out this month?
yes they can smell your insecurities, fake confidence and talk
Hugh Sunderkene - Mon, 10 Dec 2018 13:52:34 EST ID:HK/2j0ZR No.528061 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Do you admit that you are a virgin or do you try and sweep it under the rug?
Martin Sodgewater - Mon, 10 Dec 2018 14:54:29 EST ID:PZWxRmko No.528063 Ignore Report Quick Reply
One, I barely get matched, most of the time, messaging doesn't go anywhere, usually from not getting a response, not sure what to say in these messages anymore
Martin Sodgewater - Mon, 10 Dec 2018 14:57:02 EST ID:PZWxRmko No.528064 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I have before in the past year's ago but stopped cuz I hated getting lectured, it just ended up being a group of guys saying I need to get laid and being puzzled about why I'm a virgin, just got annoying so I just don't say anything anymore
Cyril Goodfield - Mon, 10 Dec 2018 23:55:49 EST ID:HK/2j0ZR No.528069 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Hmmm makes sense. Dudes suck. I was a virgin until 22 and I remember the shit I used to get from the old hometown friend group. It was fucked because it made it worse.

I think I owned up to being a virgin for the ladies the first time though. It was a long time ago but I was in the stage of self acceptance. Acknowledging my mental illness had held me back meant not being ashamed of the side effects. The chick was ugly, and it was not good, but it was sex and I was inducted in the eyes of the patriarchy. Also talking about said sex cockblocked me from the chick I had a crush on so fair warning about that. Be discreet.

I lied to the 2nd woman. That went okay because I laughed about tricking her afterwards when she cottoned on. After that I was just honest again. Who cares?

At the end of the day it's about self confidence. What is a narrative that makes you confident about your lack of sex? It sounds like you are miserable and ashamed about it, but you really needn't be. How can you reconcile yourself with the world?

You seem kind, but so did I haha. I was an anxious asshole too afraid to be my mean self. So dont assume you are a nice guy.

How to talk to female? by Ian Pablingworth - Wed, 14 Nov 2018 21:31:56 EST ID:ZHxB44Gj No.527742 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So I'm a 29 year old kissless virgin. Come a LONG way in the last year since I moved out of my parents house. I've been going on hikes and done some carpools. Last time there was this QT who seemed at least marginally interested in me but I'm just so un-talkative I couldn't get anywhere.
Going to be in another group and likely carpool with her again, its like a 2 hour drive so plenty of time to chat.

The fuck do I do? I just can't talk unless people are asking me direct questions. I just have no ability to "bullshit".
Nicholas Soblingdale - Wed, 14 Nov 2018 23:46:50 EST ID:Hu5948WJ No.527743 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Ask open question. Listen. Ask follow up question.
Charlotte Brammleched - Thu, 15 Nov 2018 04:45:02 EST ID:8w17xgn7 No.527744 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Well the good news is that you can learn through trial, error and study. Practice makes perfect etc.

The art of bullshit is mostly about making pretty flexible comments that remain open and invite further comment. Sometimes this does require putting a bit of filler content inbetween but if you can learn how to construct your replies in a way which doesn’t shut the convo down, it can continue for ages.

Flexible relating ideas, subjects, concepts, stories. If someone talks about something loosely relevant, you’ve basically had the stage set for you. I guess the actual stuff you talk about should be tailored to the person. I’d never try chat philosophy with someone who I feel wouldn’t be turned on by it.

I’d recommend you get the opening moves done with as soon as possible when introduced to new people. Otherwise it becomes a Mexican standoff and you end up sitting in silence because neither part is willing to break the radio silence.

Wear a smile, say hello, tell them your name, ask any innocuous contextual questions or just pretty routine stuff like “how you doing, what’s the latest, what you been upto, what you gonna be upto, any plans for...” are all dairy standard issue. When meeting new people you’ve got an opportunity to ask away fairly stock issue questions about their upbringing, life, interests etc.

All it really takes is a mild spark and an interest on their part to pass the time through conversation for even fairly incompatible people to courtesy a chat.

Tone of voice plays a big role too. If you seem like one of those monotonous, short, dry types it’s not gonna work out. It’s not what is said but how it is said.
Nigel Fubberson - Sun, 09 Dec 2018 20:32:07 EST ID:Vw6L6x8D No.528048 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Yes, the most success I've had with women (up to them and the people around me saying that I should've closed the deal already) has always been when I've had a "I'm just gonna keep saying shit with a smile on my face and ask some questions so she doesn't get sick of my voice but she wants to hear it because come on, it's dope" vibe.

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