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Bills by Reuben Duckwill - Tue, 25 Apr 2017 05:20:00 EST ID:I2FTZEKQ No.515760 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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How much are your bills every month all total?

Not including gasoline, food, intoxicants or petty purchases.

Strictly include utilities, various insurances, phone bill, internet bill, loan payments, mortgages etc.

For me it's less than 500 bucks a month but only after a very odd set of circumstances. I'm still not making ends meet and I feel pathetic. The job market in this town is trash.
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Henry Porrynotch - Tue, 25 Apr 2017 05:32:11 EST ID:dIFWQvnm No.515761 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>515760
i just cancelled my phone bill of 70 a month. but other than that I got about 1000 a month in bills...car payment and the rest is mostly credit cards...but tbh I haven't paid bestbuy in like 3 months
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William Brimbleham - Tue, 25 Apr 2017 10:36:34 EST ID:Ps7vhoAq No.515772 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515760
When I lived alone...

>450 a month for a trailer on some land. Not in a trailer park but barely any land. Renting.
>100 dollars every 3 months for car insurance. So like 33 monthly.
>Well water and I personally had a solar generator installed for about 1500 but I used no electricity so a 100 dollar a month electric bill was stupid when I only ran the well, a small fridge and a light and computer.
>About 250/mo for food.
>40/mo gas.
>A cellphone would be like 20-30 a month if I had one at the time.
>Factoring in unseen expenses, car costs and all that shit, about another 100 a month. This is a "rainy day" fund basically.

I know I'm forgetting some shit as I'd figure about 900 on this but in reality it was more along the lines of 1000-1050 a month.

Make a budget bro. It will save your ass in a million ways. I worked for 11 dollars an hour and didn't really have any money left over. I could say I lived on my own but all that meant was a vacant trailer with nothing in it that I didn't own anyways and then risking not getting 40 hours a week and losing everything.

I wouldn't go back to living on my own unless I made at least 16-17 dollars an hour. At 11 dollars an hour full time, I'd have maybe a single 100 dollar bill a month to enjoy or put back for myself. God forbid I had a medical emergency or a car that shat out its engine on the highway. I'd be fucked and homeless nearly overnight.


Medical by Samuel Brookstock - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 20:28:35 EST ID:y8ars7P0 No.515747 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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One of my front two teeth is a crown that is loosening and I cannot afford insurance and I have zero clue what to do. What should I do? Some dentists do a first-time visit for free but how do I find those?

While I'm here, I have a misaligned jaw and if there is some magical way to get corrective jaw surgery for a low / no free, tell me. I am desperate.

I hate living in a country with monetized healthcare.
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Edward Darryfield - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 20:34:30 EST ID:37djlT33 No.515748 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515747
I feel ya bro and I don't believe you will be able to find corrective jaw surgery for anything that is considered cheap in the USA. The lowest you'll find is prob around 15k for the surgeons job, and the rest needs to be covered by insurance.

Your next best option is to go out of country to have the operation done.
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Jack Hallerlun - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 21:41:22 EST ID:Gtrn9hV4 No.515751 Ignore Report Quick Reply
if there is one thing 420chan hates it is dentists. i have seen threads derailed with 20 or 30 post long chains about how the american dental system is a huge scam filled with quackery, little to no oversight, and suppression of cheaper alternatives wherever possible
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Eliza Muddlebanks - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 21:50:36 EST ID:lfaq5WNU No.515752 Ignore Report Quick Reply
dude, fuck that. keep your grill lookin GOOD
do whatever you gotta do. get a job, 2nd job, government insurance, ask family for loan, what the fuck ever. but im with tom segura on this, get yo shit fixed! good luck.


Whats your (realistically achievable) dream? Whats standing in the way? Your solution? by Nigel Sibberbick - Tue, 18 Apr 2017 22:20:33 EST ID:L9x3lDju No.515579 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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DREAM: My own home, and I mean OWN. Not with roommate(s). I just want to fucking masturbate in peace without fear of someone coming to bother me.

PREVENTING: Money, location. I make $11/hr ($1400 on a good month with overtime) and everything in my area is $1000/mo Minimum not including utilities.

SOLUTION: Guess I got to move elsewhere so I'm slowly saving money.


Ok now you comment on my shitty dream and post yours!
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Polly Sollerlick - Sun, 23 Apr 2017 23:55:23 EST ID:Ps7vhoAq No.515715 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>DREAM: To be freed from myself. I guess making music as an outlet because nothing else suffices to even stem my own mind from churning.

>PREVENTING: The unknown of being dead. Otherwise, I'd probably kill myself if I knew what happened. Making music is just an endless cycle and a really cheap and far less lethal version of escapism.

SOLUTION: Smoke PCP and start punching shit and shouting in a made up language until someone shoots me... repeatedly. Or keep making music until I die homeless so that I don't end up banging heroin for 4 months and dying of OD or sepsis or some other terrible death.
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Wesley Lightshit - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 00:29:59 EST ID:HVLVBb2N No.515716 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515715
But death isn't unknown, remember the time before you were born?
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Matilda Claylock - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 01:51:49 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.515720 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Dream:

Make a living doing something I enjoy.

Preventing:

Don't know what I enjoy.

Kinda kidding, I like alot of shit, but devoting my life to a set of skills is a biggie. Not sure if there's anything out there that I wont get sick of.

Solution:

Find something I can spend the rest of my life doing, work in that industry for a couple years, start putting together a business plan to work for myself.
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Alice Gurringhood - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 12:16:46 EST ID:tldOIKN9 No.515728 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515710
>Why the YPG? They're an interesting group. But why travel to the Middle East to fight somebody else's war?
My mother is kurdish, I grew up with awful stories of kurds under the rule of Saddam. Not only am I kurdish but I'm also a socialist. It's a mix of ethnic, moral and political motivation. This is not some conflict long a way that has no meaning for me. I also despise the narcissistic lifestyles in the west, how most people have an opinion about everything despite being very ignorant and pretentious, how people live absolute meaningless lives in their isolated bubbles, how people motivate their bodies with caffiene just to get through the week so they can drink at the weekend. I don't want to spend my life working 9-5 for 50 years, even if I graduate university. I'm very cynical to the aspect of marriage and kids.
I figure we're all going to die anyway, so I can only recite Muhammad Ali's Attica Prison poem and hope I can do something selfless and kind with my life. Everybody is afraid of dying on an instinctive level, but dying for something seems way more rational than living a lie and being unhappy. It's not about the war itself, I'd go still even if it meant rebuilding the war-damage.
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Martin Tillingwell - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 17:56:23 EST ID:PDdE4MZF No.515741 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515728
That's a pretty good justification.
Be careful anon.


What is right by George Crottingfitch - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 00:36:53 EST ID:UZwBOJeJ No.515717 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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For a year I've been conscious of my own ineptitude but I just can't work it out even what it's about. The closest thing I can describe it to is the concept of onwii. That scary idea of is it even there. I can't put all the different information together and I find I often over react just trying to make sense. It's horrifying because sometimes it's the fear that I will that makes me do.
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Henry Bigglehood - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 01:18:45 EST ID:tDogmvzg No.515718 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Onwii?
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Beatrice Fettingmick - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 09:20:15 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.515722 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515718
p sure op means ennui, unless you were just pointing out that they spelled it wrong. also, i have no idea what you're trying to say, op.
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Shitting Crumblestock - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 17:31:23 EST ID:wHuwYhgv No.515738 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515722
I was I heard this spoken in a lecture three years ago about having so much information and so many world views you can't comprehend things past diffuse or things seem to not make sense.


Bad day thread by Alice Gurringhood - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 13:00:05 EST ID:tldOIKN9 No.515729 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Basically /BWQQ/

>woke up early
>no breakfast
>long ass classes
>rained all day
>even my lunch at the food court got fucked up lol
>girl I've been talking to for 3-4 weeks just told me "forget about me, I'm busy with school"

Shit, I ain't no bitch but. Life goes on, I guess.
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Basil Drinderkag - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 13:34:22 EST ID:pUH3gQw7 No.515730 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Life sucks pal, hope yours gets better :)
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Alice Gurringhood - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 15:43:00 EST ID:tldOIKN9 No.515734 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515730
It's pretty incredible how chill I am now. Who gives a fuck?
Get in here you depressed fucks and enjoy some venting
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Charlotte Gublingdidge - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 15:55:38 EST ID:6Y23Um/F No.515735 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515734
Okay. Today I had a conversation with a stranger and it felt gratifying even though nothing of value was said, it was through the internet, and the entire exchange lasted fewer than a few minutes.

I felt pathetic when it ended because they probably didn't feel that the exchange was as significant as I did. But I didn't say anything so they'll never know.
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Alice Gurringhood - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 16:05:57 EST ID:tldOIKN9 No.515736 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515735
That's sad. There's a few times I've had nice brief conversations on the internet. I've made a lot of online friends, though.


Why do girls date thugs? by Isabella Padgeman - Sat, 22 Apr 2017 23:07:04 EST ID:YF4c6KMq No.515672 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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It seems women tend to date thugs or immature dudes, yet when a fairly decent human being comes around they pay no attention to the guy that has his life partially together. but when it comes to a thug living at home that smokes dope all day and doesn't do anything with his life but smoke cigs and drink booze all day. these girls throw themselves at these guys. I don't understand this shit bro?
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Oliver Dartman - Sun, 23 Apr 2017 10:36:59 EST ID:UHQ5Fpvu No.515695 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515672
The jolly african-american op posted this same thread on b with 'that live at their parents House's. So what are you assuming people on QQ still live with their parents? Ever consider working on yourself?
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Henry Bigglehood - Sun, 23 Apr 2017 20:23:32 EST ID:tDogmvzg No.515712 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Hmm, based on my observation of an incredibly small sample size relative to the world population of female humans I am going to try to make broad sweeping evaluations

Stop. This is never not stupid. Worry about your own life.
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Matilda Claylock - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 01:44:26 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.515719 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I think it's a primal thing. Like, go for the alpha so my seed is strong. Or be attracted to something strong that can protect them.

High testosterone behaviors attract creatures that respond to those behaviors.

Plus there's the confidence aspect. Thuggy types tend to have balls and go after the girl rather than watch her from afar daydreaming about their future relationships.

And then there's the taboo aspect of things. "Can't bring this one home to the parents, better fuck him cause I bet he'll smash my pussy to death."

It's all speculation based on my own experiences.
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David Blatherwater - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 11:51:56 EST ID:ngLYHpR4 No.515727 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP, only low-class women throw themselves at thugs.
Feel absolutely no envy for any of them and move on.
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Rebecca Sudgeford - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 14:43:05 EST ID:FN1vBjSK No.515732 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515672
Two options then OP
Become this "thug", get those girls, put on a facade, trigger /qq/ for being deceptive. Become an "actor" and either let your role become you, or become some sort of fucked up hybrid, depressed because his "alter-ego" gets more girls than he does.
OR
Find other girls who aren't looking for thugs.

But even with the second option incorporate elements from
>>515719
>confidence
>alpha
>primal attraction

>Thuggy types tend to have balls and go after the girl rather than watch her from afar daydreaming about their future relationships.
Nail. Head.


I'm a fairly average looking male by Eugene Dreffingdale - Fri, 21 Apr 2017 21:35:09 EST ID:LP7sXigx No.515660 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm already 30 years old and haven't had a girlfriend for over 8.5 years.
I've casually dated but nothing ever panned out or worked out right.
I really wish I could have a girlfriend or a wife and start my own family.
But let's face it life is hard, but I do notice that even scummy junkies have girlfriends who are loyal.
Every woman I've dated has either cheated on me or had feelings for another guy and straight up backstabbed me.
When will I ever find somebody that wants a real relationship or even a bang-buddy!?
Well I've worked hard to lose extra weight and accomplished it. I'm still aiming to lose more weight.
Today's music sucks. Society is fucked. Kids that are like 16 have fuck buddies...
Yet with me I don't got none of that. The females in my age range end up banging thug dudes who are on food stamps that snort coke.
What the fuck? Sure I use co2 hash oil, shatter, wax, flowers. But I am an upstanding citizen. I live in a legal state.
The point of the matter is I am not cringy. Girls have feelings for me but obviously it's not enough to stay committed to me.
I've my own hobbies, some healthy, some recreational. Most people tend to like me as a neighbor, friend, associate.
But I am lonely in terms of relationship. I am not gay. nor do people mistake me for a gay dude.
I just don't know why I can't have a serious relationship with a female?
I feel like I am a lonely bastard like Elliot Rodger.
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Nigel Sivingfoot - Sun, 23 Apr 2017 04:39:00 EST ID:9vn86lM+ No.515682 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515671

xDlelzior!
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Cyril Sandleman - Sun, 23 Apr 2017 17:34:01 EST ID:zbKXnohS No.515711 Ignore Report Quick Reply
you're probably just shit at hitting on people. a lot of guys go through it, not just autists and socially anxious. if you're just "an average looking dude" you probably don't stand out enough to give girls a reason to hit on you so all the pressure and impetus is on you.
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Rebecca Sudgeford - Sun, 23 Apr 2017 20:40:13 EST ID:FN1vBjSK No.515713 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>515682
Zimbabwe!
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Polly Sollerlick - Sun, 23 Apr 2017 23:50:37 EST ID:Ps7vhoAq No.515714 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515664
>Go out.

I mean, that doesn't work necessarily. I've done it dozens of times, from major cities with hundreds of single women my age at in one crowded room to just simply eating dinner at a bar at Chili's.

I never had any luck but I don't think I'm very approachable either given my looks, mannerisms, and weirdly shapen sense of humor and methods of conversation. I doubt OP has all these though so he should have more luck.
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Rebecca Sudgeford - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 14:38:29 EST ID:FN1vBjSK No.515731 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>515714
lol weights bro
lol git gud bro
lol is easy bro
lol just b urself bro


The Game by Eugene Bavingbury - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 11:33:11 EST ID:r8BDKlIM No.515723 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Why's it gotta be so frustrating? Modern "Romance"..so now Ive resorted to Tinder most of the women have hardly anything to say about themselves and a strange amount list Gin as one of their interests. No hobbies, nothing but a pretty empty head.

Then if I actually want to meet someone I have to go out and party (trying not to be alcoholic) Everyone I chat up is taken. Then this girl I liked the look of comes up to me and says Hi, and I say something stupid, which could have worked but didnt, and she goes to hang with the 2 guys she came with.. Its a fucking mine field, say something they find mildly wrong and thats it!
Then most modern women have too many options coupled with not even knowing what they want. My friend whose wife is pregnant with second baby saying "what are you dong you should get on with it." like thats the be all and end all...and I come from a broken home. where I see what a woman can do to a man when you give them everything you can.
So yeah here's my shit social media, tfw no gf, /qq/ thread ...but Im not some never been kissed perma-virgin ..I think its hard for everyone.
I would move back to Asia if I could. Its more easy mode out there..I havnt had a sexual relationship with someone in over three years, a couple of prostitutes and cyber whores n thats it...I go out and drink n do drugs but all I really want is love...elusive and fleeting.
Not really expecting any advice I just need to vent...and sometimes want to die
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David Blatherwater - Mon, 24 Apr 2017 11:49:09 EST ID:ngLYHpR4 No.515725 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515723
>I think its hard for everyone.
It's not. Some of us have the pick of the litter and don't have to put in much of any effort.
Don't worry about finding love. Just become a better person, socialize more with women to understand how they think and feel, and just keep at those 2 things and eventually you'll get everything you want, assuming you tried hard enough.
But really, the weakest person in the dating scene is the most desperate and impatient. You don't wanna be that person.


Should I go to a therapy/counselling? by Jarvis Cluvinglock - Sat, 22 Apr 2017 15:05:57 EST ID:blQXt8L0 No.515666 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I guess it's an odd premise here but I'd appreciate your advice.
I suffered depression and substance abuse issues over the span of 4-5 years and really got caught up in hell. I knew so many times that I needed therapy but when I was in such a state I found no motivation to seek it and the short moments when I felt okay and up to doing things, I didn't want to think about it so I didn't arrange any.

I've been feeling incredible the past 6 months or so, officially over 6 months clean now, have had 3 days in total where I've felt depressed/dissociated to the extent that I was experiencing before on a near daily basis and have been very positive overall. I've been productive, lost weight and more comfortable with myself. I wouldn't say that I'm depressed or anxious any more.

Now, money is short and therapy is expensive, but I am wondering if it would be worth some of my ever-lowering funds to go and see a therapist/psych/counsellor during my free time over summer for some sort of closure or something, I don't know. I don't know if going and explaining all the shit I experienced will help, not such that I have been suppressing it - but that I just haven't made it a focal point or dwelled upon it since getting past things. Am I going to go and just reopen wounds? Am I going to be told a bunch of mantras which I'm already aware of/implementing? I'm just ignorant on the subject and would like some outside opinion.
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Priscilla Brabblechuck - Sat, 22 Apr 2017 16:42:16 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.515667 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It's really up to you man. If you think it would be a worthwhile venture, I don't think something as important as looking after your mentally health is something you should look back on and feel like it was time or money wasted unless what you were doing was terribly unreasonable (like if you were a hypochondriac and blowing all your cash to seek new diagnoses).
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Shit Henningstone - Sat, 22 Apr 2017 19:49:44 EST ID:GoZz+UFM No.515669 Ignore Report Quick Reply
My thoughts are yes you should. If you can afford it and actually will work with it. Find a CBT therapist and go. I have a history of Major Depression and GAD and this last 1 1/2 years I've felt better than I have in the last 7. I still have episodes of intense depression and anxiety where I use techniques I learned in therapy to cope.

These problems are never completely "cured" but with therapy you can manage episodes and especially with CBT reroute your brain so feeling sad doesn't = using or self-harm or crying uncontrollably. These problems WILL try to get their grasp back into you and being best prepared for them is what I would try to do.
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Henry Gibblechine - Sun, 23 Apr 2017 15:52:19 EST ID:pCPQRsXK No.515707 Ignore Report Quick Reply
If you choose wisely some therapists are unconventional some are both academic and practicing. They may not believe in the concept of closure. Some just give you drugs which you have to pay more for. But the goal is real


Finally met someone I feel chemistry towards by Oliver Blatherlock - Wed, 22 Mar 2017 08:58:04 EST ID:xUBClzqr No.514689 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Met this really, really cute girl (we’ll call her Ally) on a uni camp this past weekend. She was the person I talked to the most out of anyone there. I didn’t know anyone else going, just decided to sign up for the heck of it. Anyway, I made sure to introduce myself to Ally early when we were first getting on the bus to go to camp. We chatted and danced, drank, etc. on the bus (party bus). When we eventually got to the camp, it was late and time to set up tents. Ally suggested we put our tents next to each other for “protection” (inside joke, cbf explaining). So that was a good sign she may be interested but also there was an equal chance that she could just be interested in being friends, too early to tell.

Anyway, after setting up the tents we went and sat around the campfire and chatted with lots of the other uni campers. Ally struck me as a bit of a social butterfly, at least more so than my generally reserved , introverted, self. I did have some good chats the others as well around the campfire, made some new friends and so did she. I'm embarrassed to admit that I felt slight jealousy every time I looked over and saw Ally having a good conversation with another guy. Anyway, I was getting tired so I said my goodnights and heading to my tent. I fell straight to sleep so idk how long the festivities kept going, but I don't think it was for much longer.

Anyway, the next day was chilled. Did some drinking games and what not. In the evening we were all chatting and having quite a lot of drinks. After the festivities died down a bit, myself, Ally and another guy we both made friends with went back to my tent and had a few more drinks. It was getting late so our friend decided he was gonna go to bed. So then it was just me and Ally and we were lying down next to each other chatting for a good while about random shit you talk about after a solid drinking session. Then we were both starting to get tired and conversation was drawing to a halt so I decided, fuck it, my time is now. So I whispered something cheesy like “would you be offended if I kissed you right now?” and then she went in for the kiss and we made out for a while, rolling around in my tiny, uncomfortable tent lmao. Anyway, we got interrupted by the tent falling down on top of us because some of the other campers thought it'd be funny to pull the tent supports out on people who were sleeping. To be fair, they thought it was just me asleep in there. So at that stage we both went outside the tent to fix it up and we were both hella tired at this point, it being like half-three in the morning and us having just had a massive day. So we said our goodnights, she went back to her tent and I went back to mine.

The next day (final day) there was no awkwardness or anything, we both had another few good chats and laughs but didn't mention what happened the night beforehand.

Anyways, a couple of days after we got back from camp I was messaging her in a lecture asking if she was at uni that day. She said she was and had the same 2hour breack as me so she suggested we should catch up on campus. So we had a nice couple hour chat about more random stuff, mostly talking about our families and TV shows we watch, etc. Nothing sexual or anything of that nature. We both hugged goodbye and she said “I'll see you soon!” type thing. This is where I'm inexperienced. I've never had a GF so I'm not sure how one goes about progressing from casual meetups to something more, so I guess I’m asking for advice about that. I don't want to fall into the “cakefart” but I also want to somehow know that's she's into me. I know she's had 2 boyfriends in the past and me having never had a girlfriend, it's slightly intimidating knowing what to do and what not to do, etc.

I haven't messaged her since our meetup yesterday but I think we'll at least be meeting up at the same time next week because of our overlapping breaks between classes. Basically what I'm asking for is some advice because I'm inexperienced with girls and relationships in general.
This is actually the first girl I've ever met that I've actually felt chemistry towards. She's super cute, super funny and is really switched on and smart.

I'm not completely inexperienced with the opposite gender. I have some experience with women in mostly club/bar type places. In the past I've hooked up with several different girls at mostly clubs/bars and have had sex once before, but have never felt any sort of real feelings towards the girl and no urge to follow up with them afterwards. This just feels like a completely different thing, something I haven't felt before or been in the same position.
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Emma Guddlebad - Wed, 22 Mar 2017 17:18:08 EST ID:K2pLy7pX No.514704 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514703
Yeah I totally get you when you say don't let it go flat. I'd be making moves if I noticed strong signals from her but so far it's just been friendly chats with a lot of laughs. She might be slightly shy, idk.
Only problem is we live like 40 minutes away from each other so it's hard to pick a place outside uni.

Maybe next week when I see her I could try something, I'll have to figure out what.

Thanks for the advice
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Matilda Gickleshaw - Wed, 22 Mar 2017 21:46:40 EST ID:xUBClzqr No.514708 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Also I'm now doubtful that she likes me tbh. Leaving messages on seen, taking ages to respond, etc. I'll just leave it and see if she messages me, otherwise I'll cut my losses - takes 2 to tango.
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Fucking Dizzledale - Fri, 24 Mar 2017 00:49:50 EST ID:EQq/RDbk No.514750 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>514708
don't send anymore messages, just meet with her in person.
you'll learn the peace of not using the internet if you can chill for a bit
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Nathaniel Worthingstone - Sat, 22 Apr 2017 20:27:37 EST ID:+HYhDah7 No.515670 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP here updating. We kept chilling together on a weekly basis and I finally told her I liked her but she said she just wasn't looking for anything serious at the moment (cakefarted).
I'm obviously a bit upset but at least it can't be another one of my regrets because I actually ballsed up this time and told her how I felt.
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William Nabblewot - Sun, 23 Apr 2017 00:23:31 EST ID:FucrEdSx No.515675 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515670
You shouldn't have said you liked her, shoulda just banged her without trying to profess your love. Girls see that as a commitment.


am I judging this person too harshly? by Martin Huvingchore - Wed, 19 Apr 2017 02:45:16 EST ID:UHQ5Fpvu No.515590 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I have a friend and we are pretty close as friends. She's a girl and I kind of use her as an opportunity to learn more about how women think. I know that sounds bad but really our relationship works because I have no desire to sleep with her.

For starters she has a husband that is in jail, she is in "love" with him. They have been married for about two years and he hasn't supported her at all as he has been in and out of jail since they have been married. He's a gang banger and supposedly a crip.

She talks to me about her relationship I try to give her advice which she will agree with but eventually go back to wanting him back. She cheats on him every now and then with random guys on Facebook. I do my best to separate the stuff I don't like about her with the stuff I do. She frequently buys me dinner and beer if Iam staying the night at her place which is a very kind gesture of her one of which I never even have to ask, she just does it out of kindness, says she enjoys my company.

Anyway before anyone jumps to conclusion the gang banger who is your stereotypical bad boy type is a WHITE guy. Yesterday she said that she wants him to get her pregnant because she believes that children will suddenly convince him to change his life and get his shit together. I laughed at this because this thinking is purely based upon emotion, and I asked her what evidence she had to support this assumption.

You can't force someone to change, and children definitely aren't gonna do that. I realized what she was doing was making these assumptions about him based upon emotions which is something a lot of people do that think emotionally. I am a rather logical thinker, as I think most men are.

She even defends the fact that he burgalized someone's house she says "he was just doing what he had to do.". What happened to going out and getting a job like everyone else? This also is her hamster spinning defending a criminal based upon her emotions.

Part of me feels like perhaps I am judging her too harshly but the other part of me tells me I'm not wrong.
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Edwin Blerringbanks - Wed, 19 Apr 2017 15:35:23 EST ID:zbKXnohS No.515609 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515608
>being socially inept means you're an awful person
>autism may may

You sound like an awful person. nb
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Fuck Podgenedging - Wed, 19 Apr 2017 18:28:45 EST ID:xNATrwJM No.515612 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515608
Confirmed awful person.

Nothing wrong with using relationships with other human beings to learn about human beings. Plus how do you think all the tonnes of autistic but mostly functional people learn to function? Yeah they have to figure out how to compensate.

Anyway OP I will say this. Don't learn about women from just one woman and do not do it from this one.

She's not an awful human but she's naive, foolish and she's going to ruin a kid's life. She's clearly thinks she can change her husband and you should never be in a relationship on the basis you can fix someone. She's got a poor taste in men and she's a poor partner. She should have left the guy as he's never going to give her what she wants. She probably can do better, but she has to be a better person and the largest part is treating herself with more respect.

But you can't change that I suspect. You can offer an opinion but even that might blow up in your face. But I'm getting off topic.

Don't learn about women using this person. It's not that it's unfair on her but that it's unfair on a lot of women. When I surrounded myself with awful women I learned to distrust, disrespect and under estimate women. Eventually I moved towns and made new friends and befriended some better women and some of the girls I met were actually beyond the scope of what I thought possible for a woman. I had quite a few female friends before but all of them were pretty awful people. Then again they all worked in marketing. It genuinely poisoned my views on women for a while. I suggest making more friends who are girls get to know a whole bunch. Realise that while they are different they're also people and vary quite a lot you can't judge half the population based on one dumb girl.
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Angus Buddlefield - Wed, 19 Apr 2017 18:36:58 EST ID:vfShsVuP No.515613 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515590
OP, one thing you have to learn is that you never Judge your friends decisions. Be that see believes that this awful logic would help her husband change obvisouly is not the answer.

I never give my personal opinions to my friends shitty decisions. I just tell them, I cannot give you any feedback because at the end of the day no one really takes advised seriously, and people always end up doing the opposite. Just be there for her once shit goes down, that is the best you can do.

And dont listen to that jackass about austim just because you ask woman advised about other woman. There is not wrong about that, and I believe he is miss intrepeting your friendship. He assumes your are only her friend to get woman advised, which is not true and he's a fucking idiot because he cant read between the lines. Anyways, good speed OP and just be there for her, and tell her that if is that she believes that she should give it a good thought and whatever decision she makes you will stand beside her.
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Eugene Claydale - Wed, 19 Apr 2017 21:46:12 EST ID:UHQ5Fpvu No.515617 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515612
I've had girls as friends before but not many that wasn't based around sex. I'm not that great with people sure, but autistic nah.

When I say I learn from her I wanted to get more knowledge about how they think and female nature, that sort of thing. She can definitely do better and doesn't need the guy. She has her shit together but she's always bailing him out and sending him money even though he wasn't supporting her when he wasn't in jail.

For her though, I don't think it's really like that. I think it's about the tingles she gets from him. For her to turn him around would give her a rush, I see the excitement she gets when she thinks about them having a child together.

You're definitely right I shouldn't judge all women based upon this one. I actually told her that many women would have left his ass but in her eyes he is the strongest male she can acquire, why I'm not sure.

She got mad the other day when we were talking about this when I tried to explain to her she was thinking emotionally and she says she's not. I told her I wasn't gonna listen to her about him anymore if she's not interested in my opinion. She then said some thing completely irrelevant to try and make me jealous but I knew what she was doing so I deflected it by giving her the answer she wasn't expecting. Completely backfired on her and she got quiet the rest of the ride back to my house.

Really at this point I think the only way she'll get it is to have her plan with the kid backfire which I don't want at all. That kid is gonna be fucked up. For one he's not gonna have a positive father figure and he's gonna learn to be a scum from his dad and his mom who justifies robbing people because 'they did what they had to do'.
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Phineas Gazzleway - Fri, 21 Apr 2017 16:05:25 EST ID:pCPQRsXK No.515658 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515613
yes but also despite getting older and more cynical, you have to guage how serious long running ideas people talk about are. And how close they are getting to being carried out, if you really are worried.


Who Are You To Question The Word of Gods Servants? by Doris Sillynuck - Fri, 21 Apr 2017 03:13:18 EST ID:LP7sXigx No.515646 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I am tired of the way things go in my life. I am not suicidal. A friend threw pity towards me and hooked me up with some hash oil and a vape pen battery. I've been taking micro tokes from the hash oil. One tiny sip of the hash oil sends me into a full stoned feeling. I've analyzed myself with paranoia and anxiety and realized my whole life is almost like I am some sort of dumb ass that has brains but has all the wrong roads laid out for me to make it in life. I feel like I got a mental illness because I can learn, I can gain skills in things but nothing enough to make a living off of. I don't know why every relationship started off sweet with women but ended up on sour notes. Tons of infidelities occurred in the relationships and the exes always make up b.s. to associative friends in the circle. Yet I'm glad that some of those friends see thru the bullshit. But I feel like I am left out on certain activities because my exes are drama queens every single one of them. I really wish things weren't like this. I mean other peoples exes aren't full on drama queen. The very mention of my name sends them into a triggered state. My friends cannot even mention my name around my exes because they always get triggered. They act like if I killed their pets or something. I never did such a thing if anything I am pretty much a nice guy till you start messing with me. But I will never go to the extent of harming another person it's not in my nature I have better things to-do. I feel as if people are just having pity regarding my situation and tried to help me feel better about life. And I do appreciate them for that. But at the same time. I ask myself why doesn't self-help advice work, why doesn't the “dating guru videos work” It seems like these females are immune to it. The choices I've made with new females made things worse. I should have trusted my gut instinct and went with flow like I originally did when I've dated seriously other females and had relationships. I've tried new things. But at the end of the day it sort of worked but it wasn't genuine. I realized the truth behind it all the dating game is a vicious cycle of immature people keeping people on sidelines. I m…
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Shitting Murdshit - Fri, 21 Apr 2017 05:20:17 EST ID:gXEOxC68 No.515648 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515646
stop smoking, start meditation and work on not overanalyzing every single thought of yours. they are just thoughts and have no power over you unless you surrender to them.
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Walter Turveyhood - Fri, 21 Apr 2017 12:52:09 EST ID:zbKXnohS No.515655 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>515648
meditation is for hippies and new age faggots in lieu of drugs
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Eliza Durryfadge - Fri, 21 Apr 2017 13:25:41 EST ID:RXWXPxvI No.515656 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Can't you keep your walls of text in a single thread? You've already made three. Stop.
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Phineas Gazzleway - Fri, 21 Apr 2017 15:53:10 EST ID:pCPQRsXK No.515657 Ignore Report Quick Reply
take it to language, poetry, and mathmatics.

Theatre, and ideas involving suggestions. Ideas with suggestions and implications that you tie together to create the picture.

Write, film with your phone, or an old camera. Put your energy into what usually constitutes puzzle games or gambling. But only for gain only. Take the things you make and talk and put them into podcasts and youtube videos.

By connecting and playing the slots, stocks, and economics there you don't lose money, but you see actually what underpins success.

And you work with what patterns actually do and you don't have to take them into painful self medition unless you want to. You get the knowledge of them through practice. And you'll work out why it's taking it hard on you you can techinically work that out through practical thought without the constant stress and adrenaline, until you want it to get intense.


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