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girl problem by Angus Fanson - Sat, 06 Jan 2018 03:09:33 EST ID:45sWs9FC No.521214 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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hi /qq/
A few days ago I got on tinder (for the first time in years) and matched some girls. One of them was really cute and we start chatting. She sent some pics and we're set to hookup on Tuesday. I don't really care though. It feels like the fun part is over.

I have the same problem with another girl I met recently. We hit it off, I put the idea in her head to abandon plans with some guy shes known for years, she sent nudes, and now I don't care.

This is really starting to bother me. I love the chase so much but as soon as it's over, I get bored. I mean I literally stop feeling all the enthusiasm and fun the moment I've sealed the deal.

This has fucked up my ability to keep girls I actually care about. I've let some great women slip past me over the years because I do this. I legitimately get angry at these girls sometimes when they continue reaching out to me. I try to apologize later, but the damage is done most of the time.

I can't stay monogamous and I get uncomfortable with intimacy. Kissing, cuddling, sex, ect. just disengage me so much.

I want a real relationship and a family and all that. I really do. But despite all my efforts, I always fall back to my old habits of gaming girls. I recently went a few months without doing this because I was determined to make things work with this lovely asian girl I met, but it was absolutely miserable after the first few weeks. So now I've betrayed her, pulled a different girl out of a potential relationship with a decent guy, and now I'm hooking up with another girl. Shit I've already hit up some other girls on tinder. I don't know why. It feels involuntary - like I occasionally catch myself in the act and have to steer my brain back on track.

I don't even feel guilty about any of this. The asian girls grandmother died recently and I tried so hard to console her and be there for her, but I've pretty much blown her off all day today and opted for the cute tinder girl.
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Charles Fudgewater - Sat, 06 Jan 2018 05:44:04 EST ID:SdNupqun No.521215 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I can relate to most everything you said. Obviously it sounds like sociopathy, but you seem to care about some things, also I'm not a mental health specialist.

Personally I have emotions, but they're very shallow and I can turn them off at will with ease. Thing is I used to be a pretty emotional kid, my mom left my pops for another man when I was like 6 and then psychologically abused me, I was bullied in school, etc. Without going into detail, to learn to cope with all of this I developed this I don't care attitude, which at first was fake, but now in my mid 20's it's definitely fully formed. Personally I found it to be liberating, because I don't take feelings from other people anymore and I feel like I'm being me.
As for women, I found that I love when they're very into me and I just leaved them, I guess it's some metaphorical revenge for my mother, whatever.
To be honest, I'm just rambling and I re-read your post and I see that your issues are quite different, you seem to genuinely not care, I don't see why you would bother with guilt and all of that, just be who you are, it's liberating. It's not like you're breaking laws or anything
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Esther Lightfield - Sat, 06 Jan 2018 08:41:09 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.521219 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Things like manipulative behavior, being easily bored, an addictive personality, dislike of intimacy, pursuit of many sexual partners, deficient conscience, few friends of the same sex, and bursts of anger over nothing are all traits of cluster B personality disorders. You sound closest to the Amorous Narcissist defined by Theodore Million thusly:
>Sexually seductive, enticing, beguiling, tantalizing; glib and clever; disinclined to real intimacy; indulges hedonistic desires; bewitches and inveigles others; pathological lying and swindling. Tends to have many affairs, often with exotic partners.
They're poorly differentiated though, there's a lot of overlap between categories and few people fit into any one category perfectly.

There's no cure, so just keep being you I guess. It might be a good idea to let girls you're getting involved with know what kind of a person you are from the start though. If they know you're not going to commit to them and they still go ahead with it, that's on them. Most probably think that there's a chance for an actual relationship though and end up being crushed when you discard them like trash.
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Angus Fanson - Sat, 06 Jan 2018 12:50:54 EST ID:45sWs9FC No.521223 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521219
been reading about NPD all morning. Yeah. That's me.
God what a fucking hideous way to exist.

I've been thinking about my childhood and how it relates. Dad was distant and cold and only ever addressed me when he was angry at me. Mom overcompensated with love and praise and toys and all that.
My older sister was the successful straight A student with weird compelling interests and a unique personality. Used to look up to her a lot but she was always really nasty and mean spirited with me.

I can roughly see how these things might have caused some damage.

I should be seeing my doctor on Monday to get a consultation to see a psychiatrist. Kind of rambling here but I really want to get everything straight in my head before I see a specialist. I have a really bad habit of lying and steering conversations without even realizing it; maybe typing out my thoughts here will help mitigate that.

I think I feel some guilt over what I've done to these girls over the years. I feel really icky at least. I used to overcompensate for this by obsessing over politics and social justice issues, but I realized over a year ago that I didn't care as much as I pretended to. I just wanted people to think I was a good person.

I dunno. I've just had this sinister feeling for a while now. I have nightmares of being murdered, or my family members telling me they actually hate me. I feel completely fucking evil. I can't even remember a time when I genuinely connected with somebody. I'm always steering the conversations and keeping distance between myself and others. I have such hateful mean-spirited thoughts swirling in my head all the time.
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Martha Greenforth - Mon, 08 Jan 2018 15:55:06 EST ID:mxbc77jD No.521288 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>I can't stay monogamous and I get uncomfortable with intimacy. Kissing, cuddling, sex, ect. just disengage me so much.

You're just autistic. Quit e-diagnosing yourself with harder and edgier labels. It takes involuntary commitment or criminal trials to solidly diagnose PD.


People love to paraphraise Wikipedia on this but they ignore the fact that all PDs by the DSM must meet a series of standardized criteria in order to be considered at all - and that's before any discussion of *what* PD you have in specific.

The very fact you demonstrate enough concern about your behavior to come onto here and admit what you did was wrong and it distresses you is a very strong argument against any PD diagnosis. PDs almost never present themselves. They get forced into treatment by the judge's gavel. That's called lack of insight, and it is one of the core criteria behind most PD.

We all fuck up, do self-centered things, and not care about someone else's feelings from time to time. It is the very fact that we can recognize this behavior - and work to change it - that separates us from the severe PD.


Intrusive thoughts when masturbating. by Oliver Honkinhood - Fri, 29 Dec 2017 11:47:16 EST ID:Hh7HAsrV No.520927 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've had this problem that has gotten worse in recent months where I get intrusive images when masturbating. Like my grandparents or men I know. They don't turn me on they just ruin masturbating for me. I've tried everything, trying to ignore them, trying to block them out but nothing works. Now I don't look forward to masturbating because I know I'll be disturbed by these images. It's a bit like the game (I just lost it) when you try not to think about something it gets worse. Any advice on how to stop these thoughts?
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Eliza Honeyhood - Fri, 29 Dec 2017 15:20:27 EST ID:YIFwAWat No.520935 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Any advice on how to stop these thoughts?

I got some advice from my ass. You gotta not stop them but replace them, in other words, just let them appear as a annoying visitor that has nothing to do with you.
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Caroline Smallwill - Fri, 29 Dec 2017 20:14:05 EST ID:NMtb1y2m No.520943 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Best way to get rid of intrusive thoughts is to accept them. Just go "thanks mind" and go back to thinking about sexy shit and Jack to completion
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Molly Blundlehood - Sat, 30 Dec 2017 09:20:03 EST ID:hQScIyLB No.520959 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520927
stop resisting it, don't immediately jump to the conclusion that it ain't sexy, instead look for sexy in the particular hand you are dealt with at the moment and you will automatically shift your attention to the right focus.

godspeed op
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Edwin Gipperfuck - Sun, 31 Dec 2017 05:36:12 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.521003 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Learn the fundamentals of meditation. You don't really have to meditate, but it trains you in a way that might help. The basic premise is to learn how to clear/silence your mind by practicing letting any thoughts that come up go as they pop up.

Trying not to think of something only accomplishes making you think about that thing. Passively observe that thoughts you don't want have come up and simply go back to silencing your mind by letting the thoughts pass like a fish swimming in a stream. The fish can stick around or it can continue downstream. Or perhaps a better way to conceptualize it is like water rolling off a duck's back.

Basically just realize your conscious thought patterns are like a stream and that there is a flow and rhythm to them. I don't know if you ever played in band or orchestra in highschool or anything, but like how it's better to never play a note than to play it too late or dwell on it because it interrupts the flow of the music you're playing in your mind or even out loud, the way you have to let that missed note go is the way you have to let your thoughts go.
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Graham Crurringchut - Sat, 06 Jan 2018 07:21:32 EST ID:/nosVCly No.521218 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520935
>>520943
>>520959
>>521003
Thanks! These all helped and I am having happy fap again!


Cuntbag at work by Beatrice Chevingled - Wed, 03 Jan 2018 15:48:31 EST ID:GqBWCvaL No.521135 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So there's a day shift and a night shift where I work. During the day, there is a woman who intentionally walks around and makes trouble for people, and apparently doesn't do her job very well. It's far from just me she picks on, but I've passively retaliated before so she takes extra special effort to fuck with me. She sends emails to my boss complaining about various aspects of my job - mind you, she isn't my boss, but she knows who to email to cause problems for me.

The boss directly above me laughs it off, he knows the score... But HIS boss is ridiculous and pretty much he hates the night shift and will always side with the day shift.

I'm getting real sick of this lady actively trying to get me fired. She always chooses something different to complain about, and this most recent time has chosen to straight up lie to get me a phone call.

I want to fucking ruin this ladies life without physically harming her, or circumventing the law. She doesn't work directly with the public, or I'd have my friends complain to her boss or something. I can't believe this person I have seen 2 or 3 times in my whole life is going out of her way to try to have me fired. I'm beyond disgusted.
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Henry Gissleshit - Wed, 03 Jan 2018 18:35:19 EST ID:Wb85zBYx No.521141 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521135
Why not have everyone else complain about the shit she does? Or bring it to your boss/hr that you feel harassed?
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Doris Turveystock - Thu, 04 Jan 2018 01:35:46 EST ID:ncp/wImi No.521157 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Document everything you do. Take photos, get witnesses, write stuff down with dates. That way when you get dragged up for the next complaint you have evidence.
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Ian Wazzlechudge - Sat, 06 Jan 2018 00:06:53 EST ID:GqBWCvaL No.521210 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521141

It seems like although she is a pain in the ass to the daytime hour employees she isn't a determining factor in their job security, like she is for the night time employees.

My boss is well aware that I am feeling harassed, but unfortunately HIS boss is a new guy, and widely in favor of the daytime staff over the night time staff...we are pretty important TBH, as we have proven to be responsible and have passed all state required background scans. Our potential replacements are probably fuck ups who may not pass these scans.

Fortunately my boss' boss took a cruise around the building and observed that this lady is absolutely nuts. I'm hopeful he recognizes this as a cry wolf situation.

That said, I'd still like to low key ruin this bitches life, if anyone has some suggestions that won't simultaneously get me fired. I considered kidnapping her kids but thats impractical and I'm drunk af.
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Charles Fudgewater - Sat, 06 Jan 2018 06:15:02 EST ID:SdNupqun No.521217 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521211
You posted the same thing in /psy/

What the fuck?


How often do you think about the difference between being sober and being drug affected? by Barnaby Blossledock - Tue, 02 Jan 2018 23:36:31 EST ID:qOMObJz1 No.521115 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I think about it every time I do a drug, because I have anxiety and other disorders.

I'm always trying to level my mood out, so to speak. Figure out life etc.
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George Hurringhood - Thu, 04 Jan 2018 23:58:40 EST ID:LHEQv9IX No.521180 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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I do think about it. I wish I didn't. I just want to enjoy my high. Prolly just need to smoke with other people more often, so I have something to distract me from anxious thoughts.
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Ernest Brarringbury - Fri, 05 Jan 2018 11:42:16 EST ID:ROGlj1oY No.521195 Ignore Report Quick Reply
i think a lot of people do drugs and just don't do shit but think so they get stuck mentally

do something you enjoy and distracts you from the struggles of real life
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Cornelius Hoffinglock - Fri, 05 Jan 2018 12:16:41 EST ID:B/1t3ZFg No.521196 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I think about it every day. Drugs are great, vacuum is probably even greater. Talk about clarity. Grabbing the bull by the horns.


I'm having difficulty believing there are any decent women not in relationships by Fucking Greenridge - Sat, 30 Dec 2017 21:43:22 EST ID:THKYnNtc No.520991 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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The good ones are taken. If a woman is single that's a red flag, it's easier for them to get laid anyway. Met a girl a few weeks ago we hung out once and I found out she was a single mom so I kind of paused on furthering it because I stopped doing the single mom thing after too many bad experiences dating single mothers. In tried and true fashion. The snake eventually reared it's ugly head and it's scaly armor. Asked her to hang out but she said that she couldn't pay (I bought her drinks last time so this was a red flag for sure). Said that she was getting paid tommorow so we could wait til then. I agreed that we should just wait til she had money because I wasn't gonna pay for her this time. Tommorow came and she never got back to me or told me she still wanted to hang out so I got my answer on what she wanted from me.

Fucking off from women for awhile til I sort my own life &self out. Suggest the lot of you do it as well. These women out here are soul suckers. I am NOT a god damn atm.
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Matilda Cheddlenure - Wed, 03 Jan 2018 18:14:24 EST ID:IOxG/ldg No.521140 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521039
How could I when I've only been in three "real" relationships. All of which didn't last longer than a few months. In the gap between them I just have had hook ups. The girls will sleep with me for awhile and move onto another guy.

One of them I fucked last year I wanted to date but she didn't want to date me. She kinda strung me along and kept sleeping with me and the entire time I thought we would fall into some relationship but the truth was she just didn't want that with me.

What's funny is that I had a friend basically spell it out for me and I didn't see it. She told me she had just gotten out of a relationship (which was true) and needed some time. She was just letting me down easy and didn't want to tell me out right she didn't she me romatically.

Anyway so she came back last summer and asked me if I wanted to be friends. Nothing really ever came of it. She didn't really try to be my friend and acknowledged that she didn't. She eventually started dating a guy and quit talking to me again without saying anythjng.


I have depression from years of loneliness and being single. I figured that chasing validation From women I'd what lead and it times I just say no thank you. Life is pretty rough and I feel like a lot of women just see men as atms or like a purse to show around and impress people. Theirs no getting to know you as a person. It's your all about social currency and that's no mating ritual friend. That's just society.
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Barnaby Chuffingteg - Wed, 03 Jan 2018 19:19:39 EST ID:TWMUuPtc No.521143 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>521140
>Life is pretty rough and I feel like a lot of women just see men as atms or like a purse to show around and impress people. Theirs no getting to know you as a person. It's your all about social currency and that's no mating ritual friend. That's just society.

You're right, but the inverse is also true for women. Not that it really helps you but just for perspective this isn't really a gendered issue. I mean, it is, but you get what I'm saying; some people are shitty people and we all have to deal with it regardless of what we're packing.

Anyway, the only advice I have is to learn to be comfortable being completely alone. Not because there are no good women but because waiting for someone decent is better than dating the kinds of people you've described. Obviously YMMV and shit but I've turned down women because our "relationship" would've been ugly and cheap. I think the whole hook-up / casual dating scene is cancerous and creates deeply unhappy people.
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Ebenezer Pickbanks - Thu, 04 Jan 2018 08:34:19 EST ID:t/5thURS No.521160 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521143

Yeah I feel like society deems the single man worthless. We're just not good enough for anyone. There's been studies that show the top 20% of men are the ones that get women. So that's a lot of average below average males that will be single the rest of their lives.

There's no lowering your standards. Because even your average looks aren't good enough for the fat ass you met online. It's bleak. It's depressing and dark. It's supposed to be because you've had the wool pulled over your eyes for so long and people telling you its not the way it is but they're lying to you. More and more men are waking up to how society REALLY works and dating is not in favor of the man. As you said being comfortable with you is the way.
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Eliza Bucklestick - Thu, 04 Jan 2018 21:55:55 EST ID:TWMUuPtc No.521173 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>521160
It's not really society's fault. At least they're not doing it maliciously, anyway. Just like everything else we've had hardwired into our biology for the past god knows how many thousands of years, it's not going away overnight. Men are expendable. Single men doubly so. We don't carry the kids, we don't feed newborns, et al.

>There's been studies that show the top 20% of men are the ones that get women. So that's a lot of average below average males that will be single the rest of their lives.
On a similar note, hypergamy is totally unnecessary these days but also not going away any time soon. Men tend to date across or down when it comes to social standing / wealth and women generally only go up.

>More and more men are waking up to how society REALLY works and dating is not in favor of the man.
It'll balance out. Guys are dropping out of dealing with chicks at a pretty alarming rate and even in the worst case scenario where nothing changes, eventually the shoe will be on the other foot because dudes just won't want anything to do with them and ladies will be the ones having to work and do all this shit to attract a man. Your guess is as good as mine as to when, but in the grand scheme it's really not a big deal.
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Augustus Nuttingtutch - Fri, 05 Jan 2018 05:42:59 EST ID:h/1sxUpj No.521189 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521160
>There's been studies that show the top 20% of men are the ones that get women

I'm pretty sure they say that those 20% sleep with most women, they obviously don't stay with them all - the numbers simply don't work. So if you can get over not being able to plant a flag and scream 'first' it's far from impossible to find someone.

I'm also pretty sure that statistic is from Tinder where most people are just looking for casual hookups, so how applicable it is to the world at large is another question. Bitterness isn't the most attractive quality.


My neighbour's car blew up by Sidney Tootbanks - Thu, 04 Jan 2018 15:46:00 EST ID:NJkePNSI No.521162 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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He owned a nursery.

Now I'm forced to wear a fat-suit.


Need advice immediately by Isabella Dishstat - Wed, 03 Jan 2018 20:12:24 EST ID:4XFrjiUC No.521144 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I found this notebook where my roommate talks about killing himself. It’s this big manifesto where he outlines shit with women going back to 2014 and how he wants to kill himself because of stuff relating to politics and society. He says he wants this thing distributed at his funeral and on social media. I haven’t read all this yet or even more than a couple pages because he came in when I was reading it and I had to put it away.

What should I do?
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Isabella Dishstat - Wed, 03 Jan 2018 20:56:49 EST ID:4XFrjiUC No.521147 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521146
Wtf is this? I am not in love with this guy, I also was planning on telling him I’m moving soon and not with him and now I feel obligated to stay after he did nothing but treat me like shit for years.
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Phineas Fapperman - Wed, 03 Jan 2018 21:57:18 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.521152 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521144
This seems like something you could pretty easily ignore. I'd go with that.
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Fuck Wungerdudge - Wed, 03 Jan 2018 22:41:32 EST ID:Oc0QiVvJ No.521154 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521147
I think basil means love him as an individual (who needs it), not romantically. Some of this disgruntlement towards society stuff can be an outgrowth of more personal feelings of being unloved. He probably is adversarial because he's past the point of being vulnerable as it has done him little good before, although I'm obviously armchairing.
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Isabella Claydale - Wed, 03 Jan 2018 22:55:24 EST ID:oOQyCzbT No.521155 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I ended up coming home and reading the entire thing. Its incomplete and from 2015.
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Doris Turveystock - Thu, 04 Jan 2018 08:25:58 EST ID:ncp/wImi No.521159 Ignore Report Quick Reply
If you don't care than just pass it on to one of his family members or something


moving to the city is impossible without being homeless by Augustus Cleshhall - Fri, 29 Dec 2017 20:10:17 EST ID:+eu7fILs No.520941 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Ok i took your guys shitty literally useless advice you keep claiming is perfect which is "lol just do it bro" nothing worked its literally impossible.

heres the backstory
>live in shit small town
>in a -30 degree town 7 hours from civilization with no car and snow banks that are like 8 feet tall with nothing or no one around for miles let alone walking distance
>only want to move to a big warm city
>go to LA craigslist
>spend a few days looking around
>answer like 10 ads tell them all my situation say im out of state have a savings and a side gig to earn cash and want a job there
>they all say they'll only do it if they see me first and i check out the apartment and shit

ok so what shit advice are you going to give me now?

Do i have to go be homeless just to get an apartment in LA? Can I just sleep in the airport and rob people around skid row and compton until someone gives me an apartment? I think I'm gonna thats the only way to go and i can't live in the country anymore
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Fanny Duckfoot - Tue, 02 Jan 2018 21:50:35 EST ID:OCwtUy6R No.521106 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520941

>Move to LA
>Can I just sleep in the airport and rob people around skid row and compton until someone gives me an apartment?

Dude are you crazy robbing people around Skid Row/Compton is a good way to fucking die. LA is off limits and we dont want you here. We already have enough idiots here, if you come youre going to end up getting your ass recked. As a LA native I can say I dont want you or anyone else like you here.
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Fanny Duckfoot - Tue, 02 Jan 2018 22:04:33 EST ID:OCwtUy6R No.521107 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>520941
You want to come to LA and rob people. Between the LA Police Sheriffs and all the rest of us psychos, you wana come out here and engage in fuckery. I wouldnt even recommend fucking with anyone in this city in any part of this city
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Charles Cleddlewill - Tue, 02 Jan 2018 22:35:51 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.521109 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521028
Go to a cheap hotel dude. Why the fuck are you such a moron. It's like you intentionally try to find the worst case scenario and ignore all the other possibilities. Not every hotel is $150 a night. You can stay in a hostel for around $20 a night in most cities. I just checked and there's one in LA for $18, nicer ones are like $40 a night. There you go. Stop catastrophizing. Stop being a pussy and just move already. It's not hard, it's not complicated, you just have to grow some balls and do it. Either accept that you're a pussy and can't move because you're scared or shut up and do it because this fucking delusional state you're in where the world is conspiring against you can't last forever.
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Fanny Duckfoot - Tue, 02 Jan 2018 22:42:02 EST ID:OCwtUy6R No.521110 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521109
All I know is I dont want that idiot coming to LA causing problems.
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Fanny Duckfoot - Tue, 02 Jan 2018 22:53:45 EST ID:OCwtUy6R No.521111 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521110
I already have to watch my back out here. Why do I need another dummy to fucking worry about?


I'm sad by Ernest Trotbanks - Sun, 31 Dec 2017 11:15:16 EST ID:aUdigX5R No.521018 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Well, I'm sad. Not depressed. Just sad. I've been sad for too long now, it's getting tiresome.

Since last January when the girl I was dating suddenly broke up with me I have been so fucking sad. At first I was depressed, desperate. Since july or so I've only been sad, but it doesn't get any better. Her thought still crosses my mind everyday, and no matter what I do I still end up my day feeling like shit. I need to do stuff constantly to be able to stand myself and my life. I train, study, and go out everyday. I've given up smoking and drinking everyday only so that I can train more, because lt allows me to think even less than drinking. I applied for a half year scholarship to go to Berlin and got the fucking second place, I'm stuck in this fucking life for another fucking year. I've dated some girls this year, some ugly, some dumb, some pretty and smart (no that many actually, but well, I've never dated so much anyways). No girl seems appealing. The only girl I actually liked this year lived like 3 hours away and sort of turned me down for a second date. I've got a lot of going on in my life, I started doing a lot of new stuff this year, got a lot of new experiences, met a lot of people, learned a lot of stuff, but I still end up feeling like shit. I don't wanna do therapy anymore, I've done it so many fucking years. But I still don't want to be this miserable. Why can't I fall in love with someone? I just hold the same monotone step while I pass along everything that happens in my life. Nothing seems to definitely affect me. Everything is transitory but my sadness, that stays even in my happiest moments.

I dont know, it was long since I'd written here, it's been long since I've written anything. I just wanted to runt. Still any advice or empathetic experiences would be welcome
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Nicholas Tillingway - Mon, 01 Jan 2018 21:30:19 EST ID:cG0vV5OZ No.521066 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521062
How old are you?
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For wines, my cousin Gant is the man to see - Tue, 02 Jan 2018 06:32:51 EST ID:TaHn706/ No.521074 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>521062

>'Manning up' and 'using your brain

yes they are meaningless rhetoric, so abstract they are just nothing. If you clench your fist and stand up and just "man up," you'll find that it doesn't work because there's nothing original, nothing behind it, just a meaningless gesture, it is for posers, however "just do it" does hold some weight. Same with "use your brain," as the brain is in use all the time, and the brain is not an organ that is generating its own power, it is in fact nothing more than a receiver ya get me? Physical strength. Ha! This puny matter. The force, that's it. Thinking the outline of your body with whatever clothes it wears is you. Ha! I have never heard such ridiculousness. Just separately man up and hold your shit in! We are not hard lines we are in fact perforated. Right. No, the cowards behind desks will not wake to the truth that is running blindfolded through busy traffic with shat pants. That's it. Just like the way there is more humility in saying "i am the best, i know everything, i am humble i am so great," than gesturing and speaking softly in a low monotone to convey your false meekness.

Blartones. Ya fuckin' with, switch?

GOt it
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Angus Nunderdale - Tue, 02 Jan 2018 09:13:00 EST ID:aUdigX5R No.521081 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521066
26, why?

>>521074
I'm sorry, I don't quite follow you. Cheers to you tho
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For wines, my cousin Gant is the man to see - Tue, 02 Jan 2018 09:39:07 EST ID:TaHn706/ No.521082 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521081

Always remember, for wines and spirits, my cousin Gant is the man to see.
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Phyllis Hedgewell - Fri, 05 Jan 2018 02:02:30 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.521184 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521074
Nice post-modernism faggot teenager. When will you realize life isn't like the Big Lebowski and loafing around doesn't solve shit?


Prozac/General ADs by Nell Sublingtedging - Mon, 01 Jan 2018 03:01:43 EST ID:YfFC3Utr No.521034 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey /qq/, hope you're all doing well.

I'm not sure if I should post this here or in /other/, so, sorry if this is in the wrong place.

I was wondering if anyone here has personal experience with prozac/ADs? I've never talked to a doc about stuff but I feel like if I do he's most likely to just try to give me either prozac or something similar. Did anyone here with experience find they actually helped? I've heard such mixed reports and it seems like such a long time you have to take them before they helped.

Thanks /qq/
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Sidney Sessleledging - Mon, 01 Jan 2018 11:54:55 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.521046 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521034
They work for some people but not for others. I tried many of them and none of them helped except for a MAOI but that gave me horrible side effects and eventually made me manic which ended up with me in a coma for four days from doing something stupid and impulsive, so in hindsight it wasn't worth it. Daily cardiovascular exercise has been shown to be just as effective as prozac though, and meditation is also effective so try that first if you haven't already because it's free and doesn't have the chance of bad side effects. If that fails, give antidepressants a shot and see if they work for you because no one person's experience applies to you since everyone is different.
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Nell Sublingtedging - Mon, 01 Jan 2018 18:03:13 EST ID:YfFC3Utr No.521056 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Thanks everyone, I really appreciate the input.

>>521042
Did it make you impulsive in the way something like alcohol would? How are you feeling now?

>>521043
You're probably right, it's hard to know exactly what affects how you feel as I imagine all those variables play into it. It seems to get progressively harder to do that stuff the worse you feel though, so it kinda feeds back into itself. Maybe I should try increasing nutrition/exercise again and see how I feel. Today hasn't been as bad so far.

>>521046

Thanks for the input, did you eventually find a single one that worked for you long term? I should probably start meditating again but at the moment the thoughts are pretty hard to ignore or be mindful of, so I'm a little hesitant to do much meditation until my head is in a little bit of a better place.

Thanks again everyone, hope you're all doing well.
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Nathaniel Hirringstock - Mon, 01 Jan 2018 20:05:03 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.521064 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521056
> did you eventually find a single one that worked for you long term?

No, I've given up on trying to have drugs fix my problems for me. I know I need to make some changes in how I conduct myself and how I live my life if I'm ever going to be happy. I was hoping the drugs would make it easier for me to make those changes, but they didn't so I know it's up to me. I've made a plan to change myself. I'm afraid and procrastinating, but I've set myself down the path so it's only a matter of time, it's too late to back out now.
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Alice Cundleway - Mon, 01 Jan 2018 22:45:50 EST ID:bWrFRxMV No.521068 Ignore Report Quick Reply
As an alternative, try 5-htp. It's a supplement you can buy at a vitamin shop and It's the precursor to serotonin so your brain will have everything it needs to make serotonin but it doesn't force a change in your brain chemistry. That and getting more sleep are a must before deciding to take antidepressants, but if you do take antidepressants don't take 5-htp.
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Henry Gettingbanks - Tue, 02 Jan 2018 02:23:07 EST ID:YfFC3Utr No.521072 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521064
It does sound like you're doing a little better/found the strength to keep pushing, which is good. Do you think it was worth taking them if even just to realize they weren't actually the answer?

>>521068
Thanks for this. I have actually tried 5-htp in the past and I found it hard to pinpoint whether it made me feel better or not. If it wasn't so expensive here I might try it again as at the time I was in and out of using PST as well as DXM. Using it now as I'm mostly sober would probably help with knowing clearly.


Another monster in limbo by John Blubblemidge - Sun, 31 Dec 2017 04:34:31 EST ID:hQScIyLB No.521002 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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OK well I'm not OP, but I have a serious issue. I can stop going against the grain and soothe myself, tell everything is gonna be fine and say "hey look, this is available to you and that's a possibility I could quite easily flesh out into reality etc", but If I look at what I really want instead of the mediocre possibilities that I believe are immediately available to me I am torn apart.

So I can simply look away from my dream life and focus on what I have, tell myself that it's step by step, that mediocrity is ok and it's better to avoid pain, but at the end of the day I'd be half empty anyway cause mediocrity leeds to exactly that - more mediocrity (dudeism)... Or I can burn my eyes out looking at what I would really like which I think is hardly possible and maybe even already passed me by. But feeling possibly more real, more myself at some level maybe even more optimistic although at surface I would actually be going to dark places instead of soothing myself and making myself feel better. I mean It's much easier for me to feel deep sadness and depression regarding my dreams in life rather enthusiasm and excitement which I have tried and it brought me some distance but it's like a mile out of 10,000 and I cannot really do it without getting frustrated, because I've tried for so long and barely progressed.

How about that crossroads I got myself into, how do I proceed /qq/? Focus on feeling better and looking for something more immediate to soothe myself, or shine the light on my inadequacies by looking at my dream and grieving. I mean I know feeling better is better, but I also have a feeling that by focusing on my true desires even if negatively (which can be just a phase right now) is actually more likely to help me create that reality rather than avoiding it for the sake of better emotion and yet negativity leads to more negativity, positivity to more positivity... Dunno this is pretty bad I've tried all those options for a while but the negative one led me close to death and I got scurred and ran straight to mommy and soothed myself back to mediocrity and I'm ok now, but soon enough I feel the craving for more again and am faced with my disbelief o…
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Fucking Chungerfoot - Sun, 31 Dec 2017 09:51:43 EST ID:Wb85zBYx No.521013 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521002
For one I would communicate in concrete terms rather than entirely in metaphor. Metaphors work well if people possess any context with which to ground them but otherwise they become vague.

The truth is that what is the right and wrong thing to do often varies with the details.
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Sidney Billingson - Mon, 01 Jan 2018 16:03:19 EST ID:B/1t3ZFg No.521052 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521013

I mean most of this quite literally, if you refer the burning eyes one I meant that I can look straight into the problem and thus feel pain, but at the same time it would allow me to get more in touch with the depth that I want to feel in my reality and by depth I mean realness, visceralness, intensity.
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Eliza Tootspear - Mon, 01 Jan 2018 17:59:31 EST ID:h/1sxUpj No.521055 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521002
>OK well I'm not OP

B-but you made the original post?
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Nathaniel Hirringstock - Mon, 01 Jan 2018 19:45:38 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.521063 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Commit motherfucker. Do it faggot.
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Frederick Sonderwill - Tue, 02 Jan 2018 12:57:25 EST ID:Wb85zBYx No.521086 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521052
Okay, so if you're planning on walking 10000 miles the key is to set realistic daily goals, if you're fit you can do 30 miles per day if it's by road, don't through fields, not only is that rice/wheat someone's crop but it's harder and it's probably not worth it even if it's a shortcut. Also if things pass you by they won't be in your vision for long most of the time. If you're on a road you should focus on the traffic.

However that will murder your feet so get good shoes. If you got a bike this would be more leisurely though. Make sure you have ways of dealing with punctures and a phone you can use. 10000 miles takes months or years to cover. Also you must be going from one end of a supercontinent to another through several seasons so ensure you have appropriate clothes and probably money to replace your shoes a few times (with stops to do so planned out). Ensure you can converse with the locals on every stop. Also reality is a model in your head and how high above the sea you are doesn't affect it. I wouldn't walk at night, a lot of us find darkness soothing but you can't see what you're doing and may fall over something or down a ditch or something and no one will be around.

If you can't pass a crossroads then you're fucked though. You should have a map and know the destinations along the way so you could read the signs there.


Probably works for your metaphor word salad though too (though it probably doesn't cover all the points I think you might be alluding to)


Nagging nag by Sidney Sessleledging - Sun, 31 Dec 2017 21:57:28 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.521031 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>mother nags me about something I was already planning on doing
>instantly feel disinclined to do it

How the fuck do I get through this shit? My mother nags me constantly and every time she does it it pisses me off and makes me not want to do the things I already want to do so I end up not doing them. I need to do the things I want to do man. Someone help me out with this shit.

>inb4 move out

I'm trying to move out in a few days tops, but my mother keeps nagging me about my preparations and it's taking much longer than it should.
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John Worthingville - Mon, 01 Jan 2018 14:43:19 EST ID:eLRQSL1/ No.521050 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Just have patience or learn to bite your tongue. Honestly in a couple of years this would seem to be such an insignificant problem that you're just gonna laugh at how angry you were about your mom nagging.

Learn to ignore criticism, you will encounter this through your entire life. It's not only your mom who's got a negative vibe, probably 40% of the people you'll encounter will be like "you're doing it wrong, you stupid!"


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