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How to go back by Ernest Geshhall - Sat, 24 Feb 2018 05:43:22 EST ID:5yZRcMRq No.522498 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I have accidentally stumbled upon a hyper awareness of my own consciousness and I cannot escape the terrifying feeling that it is to be a combination of sensory experiences. I have no human frame anymore that my experience is fitting into, when I focus on my experience I almost lose all sense of time and space.

Can I get any tips on how reintegrate with the normal world?
Edwin Chemblelick - Sat, 24 Feb 2018 16:14:13 EST ID:B/1t3ZFg No.522503 Ignore Report Quick Reply
soothe yourself with soothsaying.

I Dislike Everyone;With Few Exceptions by Augustus Menderwater - Wed, 21 Feb 2018 06:33:01 EST ID:ApD5b+Tp No.522455 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Personally I'm not one to make excuses for myself anymore. I try not to become upset at the bad behavior of others or wantonly place blame on others in order to justify my own bad behavior. I see this as some semblance of maturity. I also try not make assumptions about others because its not really necessary. As a private citizen if someone is behaving badly I try not to become involved with them unless I am forced to.

I've been working little dead end jobs and getting nothing but heat for it. Personally the little paycheck is enough for me. But isnt enough for those around me. At this point it seems like the system and the people around me are chronically dysfunctional. So it doesnt even matter that Im trying to be productive because Im contributing to a dysfunctional and destructive system. So its become what they call a zero sum game.

At this point I am unsure of how to proceed. Because its seems to be a loosing situation. The system has no clear agenda and contradicts itself to no end. It empowers its enemies and destroys its allies for the sake of its own existence and power leading to its own destruction.
Ian Gishstirk - Fri, 23 Feb 2018 17:26:12 EST ID:2IRx5to/ No.522488 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Can't swim against the tide even when you know it's draining into a sinkhole, at least not with great personal cost. Submission to the system is the easiest way to happiness. You will feel the same sort of happiness that everyone else feels when they get a promotion and a bigger paycheck because that's just how we've evolved. It doesn't matter if society is fucked up, we still feel good when we support it and bad when we don't. If you're not living up to your potential you won't be as happy as you would if you had a job that really challenged you and really rewarded you.
Hannah Drettingman - Fri, 23 Feb 2018 18:24:47 EST ID:qQGp8jFk No.522490 Ignore Report Quick Reply
most people are losers, except for those who challenge themselves to do the absolute best they can in life.

If you are sick of being surrounded by losers, step up the ambition. Go find a charity to do work for, buncha wholesome folks out there planting trees in the forest or working at a soup kitchen for the homeless. That is, if you really wanna be around respectable wholesome people. Maybe not, maybe just learn to accept that most folks are shitty and "Yarr Harr, the life of a scoundrel for me!". Scream "I'm a piece of shit, and so are all of you." with a smile on your face.
Barnaby Sirringmog - Sat, 24 Feb 2018 04:12:11 EST ID:COAX7aNZ No.522494 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Honestly dead end jobs are usually worse in every way though. If you want to do a job that offers more than just subsistence wage you can often do so while contributing less to an evil system. So currently I make more than the dead end jobs I did, I get progress and yes while I have had to compromise I've compromised less. I work fewer hours and yes I work harder but I LIKE my job. I hate being bored at work. And the organisation I work for is a positive one. I am surrounded by people like me who believe in what they're doing and want to foster each others's development. I'm happy to have traded in what I traded in for my work. They weren't worth being miserable 40 hours a week (I work 37 now) and poor for the rest of them, and as I said, I believe in what I do.

There is a point where you have to trade between one thing and another, and that trade forms a curve. A possibility frontier. OP is likely well inside that though. You can have more money, more job satisfaction, enjoy your work more AND probably feel you're having a better impact.

OP you aren't a bad person or worse person for doing a dead end job but if you can do more you're hurting yourself by staying at that level.

Question for you guys. by Hamilton Mubberwell - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 06:07:39 EST ID:CxCtCvYn No.522380 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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For those of you with depression and related issues like low self worth etc.

Did you have anything traumatic happen to you when you were younger or perhaps you have something going on currently that is influencing your mental state?

Only asking cause I've kind of slowly self destructed my life over the past 7 years but there is no specific cause as there is with some people.
Often times when i've met people and got to know them on a deep level and they have issues they often have some base reason or turning point where (even if not immediate) could be considered a root (if not the only root) of their problems.

It makes me ashamed cause I do not feel that there is any legitimate reason for me to feel depressed.
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Simon Smallham - Fri, 23 Feb 2018 16:11:23 EST ID:h99WlKHO No.522484 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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hey man, you're me.

just turned 24. my dad left my mom when i was about 6, mom dies when i'm 16. i watch her die slowly from cancer then see her take her last breath.

i read a lot afterwards, made effort to move past it and i have, however in some ways it still affects me. I have to force myself to care about most things or even take them seriously. I don't find satisfaction in anything, and it can get frustrating at times. I eventually have to tell myself to relax and nothing matters just to deal and be what my idea of a man is - someone who can just soldier on despite everything.

all i care about is money. fuck everything else.
Simon Smallham - Fri, 23 Feb 2018 16:14:42 EST ID:h99WlKHO No.522485 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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also life's good and if it wasn't for the shit i've experienced, I would not be able to be the man that i am. it's all a matter of making the best of what you got dealt. recognize your issues, cry it out first, then adapt and accept and keep moving forward.
Simon Smallham - Fri, 23 Feb 2018 16:31:25 EST ID:h99WlKHO No.522486 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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i'm actually going to ramble because this is getting me thinking and i am also very high and wired and drunk.

my best quality is my easygoing nature, and i know this because it's what attracts others to me. if anyone here has read The Fall by Camus, they should know what I mean - other people will misinterpret all the signals that I need help as a good quality. i want to be closer to others, i am absolutely desperate for a connection, for something real, for something that matters, for something i can take seriously.

however, at the same time i know it doesn't matter either way. i am definitely someone that should not get married because even other people's serious feelings for me are something i see as totally ridiculous and absolutely fucking absurd because they will never know me.

I've always felt that I knew the words and everything to say yet I can never feel the emotion behind most of it. I'd rather not drop the facade because if i did, the only thing i would think afterwards is that everything the woman i'm with would do was a lie and they were lying to me and I'd have to let go of them. I've tried this once just to try it, and it happened as i expected - once i became truthful, i started to care and distrust.

tying back to OP's original topic: there's no escaping the way i am now due to what happened when i was younger. I'm still learning how to best make it to where I'm content and satisfied with myself. everyone else is irrelevant. even my closest friends, who I know love and care about me so much. I feel guilty for nothing I do, and no regret.

If anything, I feel pissed sometimes at the world and everyone in it for what happened to me, and I don't want to share all the love i have to give for something that has hurt me so much before. It's weird.
Simon Smallham - Fri, 23 Feb 2018 16:42:37 EST ID:h99WlKHO No.522487 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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for anyone who might read this, thanks, and also, if you can relate whatsoever, look at your shit as a challenge. there's a reason i have so much damn confidence - the only person that has the power to fucking instill fear in me is myself. I'm not scared of any motherfucker. I can meet anything, and failure is nothing to me.

walk talll and kick ass lol woo!
Hannah Crunningfit - Sat, 24 Feb 2018 12:44:10 EST ID:ROGlj1oY No.522499 Ignore Report Quick Reply
gaaah she's so cute

I can't seem to make any new [female] friends. by Reuben Dackledine - Thu, 22 Feb 2018 01:21:07 EST ID:Ph7M9Iii No.522463 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So I've been in a downward spiral and trying to get out of, what feels like, a serious rut and hivemind/echo chamber mentality that I've been "stuck in" from hanging out with the same people, same mentality, etc. and really want to make new friends especially a female friend, for a female/differing perspective. Especially since I've been hanging around too many dudes, and I haven't been progressing as a person, I just needed a breath of fresh air. Especially since I'm a very sociable kind of person, I was in a serious depression period for a while when I didn't go to college because I wasn't making any friends since graduating high school.
And over the last few months, I thought I had a chance of making a new friend since high school when a mutual friend of mine had posted on Facebook that her job was hiring for a seasonal position, and sure enough, I got the job and I wanted to share my gratitude for this person I barely knew (other than her being friends with me on Facebook/Instagram, and being a friend of a friend) from this person by asking her if she would want to hang out sometime. Especially since my time at the job was very limited.

First time, was a midnight showing of Blade Runner at the local cinema and maybe grab a cup of coffee at the café next door and talk about the philosophical undertones of the film (which we discussed with other films in our previous shifts), which she said she'll just meet me there. Yeah, not a problem. Day came, she wasn't there, no biggie, as I brought another friend along. Wasn't a huge loss.

Second time, I had offered of she wanted to join me in going to the museum for this exhibit that was going to be there for a short time. Granted, I had been scrounging up any friends that I could before her for this but I figured it was worth a shot (I mean hey, she follows me on Instagram, friends on Facebook, 'liked' my shit, I 'liked' her, common interests in what we've shared). I asked her, and turned she gave me another maybe, and "we'll see what I can do." This doesn't seem too farfetched, right? Well, as days go by, the exhibition is nearing its end, and I hastily message her on Inst…
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Simon Grimfield - Thu, 22 Feb 2018 01:28:02 EST ID:ROGlj1oY No.522464 Ignore Report Quick Reply
you prob came on too hard
aint no biggie, try with another one or a group?
Nigel Pegglekedge - Thu, 22 Feb 2018 04:28:57 EST ID:XblwQTB3 No.522466 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>I'm just not interested in being around any straight dudes right now

lol who says that? that's like a guy saying "I don't want to be around gay dudes right now".

anyways it's not like she sought you out to personally offer you a job. she broadcasted on social media an open position, and you answered. she didn't do shit for you, so you have nothing to be thankful for.
your mistake is trying to invite her a second time after she flaked on you the first time. if you invite someone and they confirm that they'll show up, and then they don't show up without letting you know, and they don't a good reason afterwards, it shows you how little she respects you. shit like that makes me angry.

so fuck her (not literally). she's got issues she doesn't want to share with you. she probably never wanted to be your friend. you probably already know this but it helps to remind yourself that facebook friends and instagram likes don't mean shit. all your facebook friends are good for is to show your other fb friends "look how well-connected and successful I am!".

you want to grow as a person? delete your facebook or at the very least remove anyone that you haven't seen in person in the last 2 months. I did the latter years ago and all the anxiety I had about not having enough friends disappeared overnight.

also maybe accept the fact that most girls don't believe you when you say you only want "their friendship". you probably don't even believe that yourself.
Emma Soddlewill - Thu, 22 Feb 2018 13:31:24 EST ID:r2KV+Wm0 No.522472 Ignore Report Quick Reply

That's the thing, I have no other group. I've been hanging out with the same group since high school. I have been trying to get out and make new friends (like this) only to get thwarted.

Fair points, but I honestly have connect to people other than these social media sites; and I honestly (I guess with my stupidity/ignorance) thought we were cool, or at least want to be associated with. And yeah, maybe I didn't read the signals correctly, but I honestly think that's because I've been stuck in this echo chamber of my loneliness that I didn't know better, and how am I expected to be better if I don't branch out and try to make new friends like this. I just feel like I was getting mixed signals regardless from a maybe (50/50) to "I'll let you know 'bby boy'" (75/25) to this absolute red light (0/100). I just don't understand why shit is bubbled up these days, like I said, I never had a problem with making friends of the opposite gender or varying orientations but lately it's been hard because there aren't any social groups around me anymore other than what's online and is my only connection to the outside world (sadly). I feel like if I were to delete my accounts it'd shut me out even further from the world.
Priscilla Pittbanks - Thu, 22 Feb 2018 14:39:45 EST ID:COAX7aNZ No.522473 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I found that making new friends involves being shot down a lot. People in their cozy groups often don't want a new face coming in.

You probably did come on too strong but that's okay. Next time you find a group stay around for a bit then find someone else and so on. it's better to be that cool person they met briefly than overstay your welcome. You just come by and say hello and chat for a few minutes a few times and gradually build it up until it's obvious you're welcome. Then you probably play it safe but slowly hang more or invite them to something.

It's completely different from befriending a friend of a friend because with the latter you have an in and the new person knows someone whose opinion they value likes you.
Lydia Granddale - Fri, 23 Feb 2018 00:47:54 EST ID:uNHQ+1vM No.522478 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Just join a female centric group of some sort. Yoga, whatever. Figure it out.

Afraid and Anxious by Wesley Hasslestock - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 17:27:32 EST ID:99iemco+ No.522401 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Whenever I get in relationships I feel afraid that they will leave me for some arbitrary reason even if it's going good. I don't think this is a confidence issue, just that something will happen and ruin it all. How can I overcome this?
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Fuck Hevinghodge - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 20:07:38 EST ID:wJavO91C No.522439 Ignore Report Quick Reply

I'm not a normal case of "I don't want to even try relationships anymore."

I'm damaged goods. My last relationship, he kept me in the relationship via threats of homicide and suicide, as well as emotional manipulation and even physical restraining at points. He even threatened to kill my cats. After the homicidal and suicidal threats point, all the sex was just rape. This went on for years.

I would be a bad partner because I can't even give a hug or be touched without feeling intensely uncomfortable and possibly having flashbacks, or freaking out, like panic/fight-or-flight mode. When my friends try to hug me I start to panic and push them away.

My sex drive is dead. My desire for sex is dead. I would thus be a shitty partner because I literally wouldn't even be able to do any girlfriend stuff at the moment. No kissing, no cuddling, no hugging, no sex... what would the point even be? The thought of having sex fills me with disgust, revulsion and fear.

If I tried being in a relationship right now I'd only hurt myself.

I'm not even afraid of the end of a relationship, anymore. I was the one who ended my last relationship, in a very nuclear way. Previous to that, I was broken up with once, and did the breaking up for my first relationship. I'm afraid of the course of it. I don't want to wind up with another abusive psycho.

I used to be very afraid of the end of relationships, I'd have things going on like what OP is describing. The time I had a boyfriend of 2 years break up with me really fucked with me, kinda ripped my heart out. Trying to plug that hole got me stuck with a psycho.
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Phineas Gushshaw - Wed, 21 Feb 2018 00:30:15 EST ID:wkx+P0M+ No.522446 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You're putting relationships on hiatus until you can heal enough to be able to be in one.

Bravo to you. Honestly that's awesome. I believe that you'll be healthy enough to be in a healthy relationship eventually. It worked for me.

I think the guy you responded to thought that you had resigned yourself to be forever a spider monkey's butt forever.
Martin Serrywell - Wed, 21 Feb 2018 01:37:46 EST ID:80efJqSX No.522449 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>I would be a bad partner because I can't even give a hug or be touched without feeling intensely uncomfortable and possibly having flashbacks, or freaking out, like panic/fight-or-flight mode.

While you're doing the right thing not wanting to be in a relationship if you don't think you can handle it, I can say from experience that those panic feelings can and will subside if you have a partner that goes slow and respects your boundaries.
Cyril Turveyspear - Wed, 21 Feb 2018 01:37:57 EST ID:Eran93BT No.522450 Ignore Report Quick Reply
get money problem solved
Cedric Greenham - Thu, 22 Feb 2018 00:30:39 EST ID:wJavO91C No.522462 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Thanks for posting that, it made me feel a little better about the whole relationship future thing.

About to go live with 2 girls as flatmates by Edward Sellersig - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 17:07:17 EST ID:pvGvcjln No.522399 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I kinda suck with women. Should i try something with them or...

pic unrelated, just wanted the opportunity to say this is a shit show.
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Martin Serrywell - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 23:32:05 EST ID:80efJqSX No.522443 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I'm pretty sure people like you are the ones who produce bitter incels.

Being a good person who doesn't feel entitled to sex and has useful skills is pretty much the quickest way to find a good mate in this world.
Phineas Gushshaw - Wed, 21 Feb 2018 00:21:49 EST ID:wkx+P0M+ No.522445 Ignore Report Quick Reply
So do you want him to become an overnight player? All of a sudden a guy who's never had sex is going to become a stud and fuck one of two flatmates and they'll become an item and get married?? Or he'll shag her and she'll be chill and then he'll shag the other one, so she'll be cool. And they'll do that off and on for the rest of the time they're roommates with absolutely no feelings involved?

Be reasonable. It's common sense that if he pursues a flatmate he'll most likely be looking for a new apartment sooner rather than later. He hasn't got the skills or the nature to non creepily do it. He probably would chicken out anyway and then would end up cakefarted while watching the roommates partners stream through the place while he's doing the dishes, depressed and full of rage.

Instead of giving him ideas and setting him up for failure, we are trying to give him the skills and mindset that will get him ahead with women and that will actually work with his kind of temperament.
Cedric Soggletut - Wed, 21 Feb 2018 00:59:10 EST ID:0PJ7z1R+ No.522448 Ignore Report Quick Reply
just wait til their periods sinc. you're gonna be living at the bar 1 week out of the month.
Eugene Duckgold - Wed, 21 Feb 2018 01:48:49 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.522452 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>blah blah blah ur not good enough

This is the blabbering of plebs who don't go anywhere in life. They tell themselves they aren't good enough because they enjoy being 2nd.
Martin Serrywell - Wed, 21 Feb 2018 01:53:34 EST ID:80efJqSX No.522453 Ignore Report Quick Reply
And your advice is...?

Girl Problems by Lillian Munderson - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 10:00:55 EST ID:NbD72wTZ No.522429 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Girl of years broke up with me on new years, one of her best guy friends added me that night on Facebook out of the blue. Found out today they're publicly dating, after girl and I had to hide our relationship for 3 years because her parents are super traditional and wouldn't allow her to have a boyfriend, but I guess this guy is fine. Fuck
Phineas Gushshaw - Wed, 21 Feb 2018 00:47:32 EST ID:wkx+P0M+ No.522447 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Why would he add you to Facebook? That's super weird snakish.

But yeah she sucks. 3 years of hiding a relationship isnt on. How do you plan to deal with your loss? Do you have a plan of some sort?
Martin Serrywell - Wed, 21 Feb 2018 01:39:58 EST ID:80efJqSX No.522451 Ignore Report Quick Reply
That's pretty rough OP. However, if the breakup was inevitable/deserved, then why not just be happy for them?

Advice by Charlotte Hackletuck - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 15:57:20 EST ID:veLZVns+ No.522397 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey guys.

I'm currently 22 y/o and am working hard labor making okay money for the time being. I'm an apprentice in a skilled trade. It's hard on my body/ the hours are long and i often turn to drugs when i get home. It's a good paying trade but i constantly worry about the damage i'm doing do my body. I've always turned to drugs for my issues in my short life. Have been smoking weed constantly since i was about 16 and have always had problems with anxiety and depression. SSRI's have never helped me and now i'm on 1mg clonazepam a day and 30mg of vyvanse. I do a lot of drugs and don't have much support or honest genuine friends.

I honestly feel like both these medications help my life but i know its not long term. I've been on clonazepam a year and i know i need to slow it down cause im already going to have painful w/d's and its already starting to impact my anxiety when i don't take it. The vyvanse too i feel like it helps but i also feel like i could have found ways to cope without it.

I'm finally at a point in my life where i'm tired of my drug use and my mental health problems and i finally want to take action. I've always avoided seeking help but I think i'm finally ready to help myself. I really still have a lot of issues i'm just putting off because i'm working so much and making good money. I'm starting to notice my stim addiction and my lack of energy when not taking my dosages during the weekend. I smoke marijuana like a chain smoker and my benzo usage is bad. I abuse opi and other drugs.

I'm stuck because i have no time or energy outside work to better myself. I can gain a lot from work but i worry about the damage to my body and the constant drug regime i must keep up with to keep this job. It's tough because the money is tempting and I don't want to have to start from the bottom again. I really do want to go back to school though, i'm not retarded. My parents would support me I just have to actually follow through or else i'm in big shit.

I don't know what to do. I know if i quit my job and try to get my shit together and quit drugs i'll go through hell and i really like to av…
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David Crobblenadging - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 01:45:21 EST ID:icZw5k41 No.522418 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Don't get too ahead of yourself. A career change will take time, as will addictions and mental health, so get it out of your head that everything will go to shit if you make one mistake.

Learn self-forgiveness and put it into practice. You've done things in the past you are uncertain about today. Go over the things you've learned during your experiences. It made you feel certain ways - why? There are things you've found you value more or less than before now. Why? Is it because other people do? Should they? Should you? Does it help bring you closer to your goals?

Don't swear off medication for your ego and pride, if that's where it's coming from. Lots of things "damage" our bodies, but in many cases the effects are not lasting or permanent. Search for a balance that reduces risk and helps you feel your best. Opioids can start controlling you, so decide if you're willing to live as a slave to them or lead a more self-determined life. It depends on what principals you value and what direction you want to go. Are you happy to drift wherever or do you have a destination in mind? A course set? When is it okay to take breaks? How often? How long?

You're young, but you seem pretty self-aware. Don't stop learning about yourself, your strengths, opportunities to improve, or even places you can't (mental health). You've got lots of time ahead to put it to use and learn more lessons along the way. And don't try to compare yourself to anyone else, there's too many factors and you'll never know them all.

Hugh Secklebanks - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 06:26:54 EST ID:7oTdIRwW No.522425 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Clonazepram will fuck your life up, son. If you want to avoid pain in your life, clonazepram is like a navigator who moves your fleet gracefully between rocks and icebergs, while he simultaneously lights a fuse connected to hundred barrels of gunpowder and hell, waiting for it to detonate and burn you alive.

In need of personal relationship advice by Veraux - Fri, 09 Feb 2018 18:32:16 EST ID:nC1t5fCy No.522033 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've always been emotionally intelligent or so I think at least.
Always tried to keep a balance between being too emotional or being too rational. I tend not to let my emotions get the besr of me. I consider myself a very patient and empathic man. I almost always excuse peoples actions.

For this reason people tend to walk all over me and take advantage of my good will but that's fine.. usually. I've been hurt on relationships. Been cheated on. Hell, even been hit and beaten. I've always tried to be the best boyfriend and I know I'm not perfect and I've also made many mistakes and even though many girls have broken me and some have cheated I try to go into a new relationship clean and without prejudice and without any grudge. Every girl deserves the chance of meeting the best me I can be....but I am tired of being stepped on, of being the nice guy because the outcome is always very similar. But I think "what if this time I meet the one? And what if this time I behave like a jerk? 'The one' doesn't deserve the punishment of my previous failures" I don't want to be hurt anymore.

-The deceit-

I've been dating this girl for almost 4 years now. Giving her my all. She used to beat me, yeah I admit it and I've never laid a finger on her, she's burned me with a cigarette and many other hurtful things both physically and emotionally. She's hurt me very deeply. However I am not a victim because I've allowed this to happen and I am sure I've also hurted her.

She stopped this behaviour probably about a year ago and we've been very happy this last year we've grown together and we've learned to respect eachother. We know how to deal with eachother and we don't fight anymore, our communication is amazing we tell eachother if something bothers us and fix it and sort it out in the moment.

Last month she met a guy at a familly reunion and they've been texting a lot since. It bothered me but I trusted her. Today I saw something very unsettling and perhaps very stupid. He texted her "thanks cutie (kissing smiley)" and I just lost it.. I am not usually jealous but I felt horrible at this and talk to her about it like we usually do. I asked to see her conversation with him and she agreed but hesitated when she was about to hand me her phone and deleted the conversation in my face arguing that
It was just going to start problems if I read it. It started problems anyways.
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Jarvis Badgebut - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 02:15:16 EST ID:wJavO91C No.522213 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Gonna weigh in with this:

I was in an extremely abusive relationship, and your post reminds me of the shit that I said while I was in it.

You wouldn't be making this thread if she was a good gf. You wouldn't be mentioning her hitting you and shit like that if she was a good gf. If this person you're with is anything like how I imagine, you'll probably feel relieved instead of sad, when the relationship does end.

Nobody sane beats their SO, and burns them with cigarettes. Your perception of her is warped, cut the connection and you'll be like "wow holy shit I am so glad to be free of that!" and start seeing all the red flags you should have seen the whole time.
Veraux - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 02:30:39 EST ID:acoBm2jR No.522419 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Thank you. I can seee what you mean. You should know then that taking the blindfold off can be difficult. How did you manage?
Veraux - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 02:30:40 EST ID:acoBm2jR No.522420 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Thank you. I can seee what you mean. You should know then that taking the blindfold off can be difficult. How did you manage?
James Pisslemutch - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 03:15:09 EST ID:Q3TQO9f4 No.522421 Ignore Report Quick Reply

This. No normal people abuse their loved ones like she did to you, OP. What she did should tell you something about her character. Leave that chick and find yourself a girl that actually treats you well instead of making you feel miserable.
James Blettingline - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 06:06:04 EST ID:wJavO91C No.522423 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>how did you manage
He tried to kill himself (for the 4th time) and I abandoned him at the ER, got a restraining order as soon as I could. At the end I was absolutely terrified of him. As I was walking out of the ER I had to resist the urge to run.

I'm not going to go into what he did to me, but it really fucking did a number on me. Years worth of shit I wish I could delete from my brain, so badly.

Just cut all contact with her, go for the nuclear option. If she's living in your place, evict her, do whatever you need to do to legally get her the fuck out ASAP, involve police if you have to.

Became President of club by William Brankintire - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 03:59:45 EST ID:sM5nvTHu No.522422 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Although i have no idea what im doing and its totally fucking crazy.

I think ill just try my best and see how that goes. If i fail i tried, if im pushed, i tried, if i do a good job, i tried.

I think im freaking out over nothing really.

The saddest story you've read online? by Jack Turveyhood - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 00:54:33 EST ID:LIb3qSHO No.522415 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Jack Turveyhood - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 00:57:16 EST ID:LIb3qSHO No.522416 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Last year a guy suddenly noticed he had serious memory problems. Months later, he took his own life. Links to his social media were archived and posted here https://redd.it/7y31sk

In trouble with college due to drug use by Phineas Darringseg - Sat, 10 Feb 2018 09:26:05 EST ID:uvByzCWV No.522070 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I called 9-1-1 after taking too much acid and panicking. Even though I'm not being legally prosecuted, the dean of students of my college wants to meet me to open an invesitgstion into my Code of Conduct which could lead to expulsion at worst.

How fucked am I? Is there a way to talk myself out of this? Is he going to call the campus police to search my apartment while I'm meeting with him? If I admit I did the acid but I wasn't on campus is he gonna send it to the city police? I'm allowed to bring a lawyer to the meeting so I will probably consult with one today but what is my best course of action here?
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Sidney Hunderfield - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 06:08:51 EST ID:jAXGvxDa No.522316 Ignore Report Quick Reply
How much do they need to know? How much do they know? Can you pretend you had a little incident because of stress and just go to counselling for a few weeks? A lot of people call 911 when they first experience the symptoms of a panic attack, you could look them up and pretend that's what happened. Just say the studying or something else in your life is getting to you, use a real stressor so it will be easier to lie

Am I too late with this advice? fuck
Martha Bardbury - Sat, 17 Feb 2018 09:16:10 EST ID:45sWs9FC No.522324 Ignore Report Quick Reply
yeah hes dead
Fucking Wallywater - Sun, 18 Feb 2018 12:46:29 EST ID:Yq+XEe0p No.522354 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP here.

I'm in prison now.

Ebenezer Brookcocke - Mon, 19 Feb 2018 18:03:47 EST ID:ZMDYtLUz No.522403 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Ergot poisoning from store bought breads in this day and age is unheard of. Food poisoning from other molds yes, but ergot is specifically controlled for at the processing plant. Before those rye berries even hit the mill they're already ergot-free.

You would need to grow your own rye, let it get infected with ergot, and then grind down those infected grains and make bread with the ergot rye in order to come down with ergotism these days.
Simon Clopperpitch - Tue, 20 Feb 2018 00:28:04 EST ID:H/A2r+Uk No.522412 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Did they let you take your phone or something?

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