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Canadian Military by Matilda Sollerwater - Fri, 03 Feb 2017 17:03:00 EST ID:g4Y8Yc7O No.513015 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Wondering if anyone has any experiences with it or if they recommend it.

I'm young (only 19) with no real short term direction in life, aside from wanting to be away from family. I want to have my own property to farm on later down the road but aside from that I have no idea what I want. Any jobs I've tried feel pointless and I don't want to go to school. I haven't done any drugs in over two years now.

I'm not really an aggressive person or anything, so staying out of actual combat would be ideal.
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Angus Wocklepadge - Fri, 03 Feb 2017 17:22:35 EST ID:WCiWyIpM No.513018 Ignore Report Quick Reply
what are your interests?
Jenny Sankinsturk - Tue, 07 Feb 2017 20:24:23 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.513160 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>only 19
Matilda Blidgespear - Sun, 19 Feb 2017 16:23:13 EST ID:cDzx5H/r No.513588 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I know some people in the navy, the pay is good and you get a pension. I don't think they have ever done anything particularly dangerous either just maneuvers and such. But you live on a boat for a long time so take that into consideration. Apparently there are jobs in the navy working with computers and engineering and such as well. Maybe you get a good taste in the reserves, but I don't know
Lillian Goodwell - Sun, 19 Feb 2017 18:16:10 EST ID:KveR7zNs No.513591 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Logistics maybe? Armed forces still need accountants, payroll, procurement and shit. Admittedly that just sets you up for more office work but it might be better than a lot of office shit as you know what you're achieving. Then again the same goes for any public sector stuff if that's good enough. You might work in an office but soldiers can't just appear on a battlefront, someone has to get them equipment, supplies, transport, facilities, training, communications and so on. They then need to make sure those supplies are in sufficient quantities but not over provided (because if you spent too much money on boots and hats you are wasting money that might get more dudes out there). Being a cog in a machine that does something.

Of course if you want to do something hands on and different the army isn't the only way either. Build roads and schools. Work in a hospital.

I guess really if none of that strikes a chord, what exactly makes a job "not pointless" to you?
Phineas Debblewill - Sun, 19 Feb 2017 19:28:28 EST ID:n1yNxChx No.513592 Ignore Report Quick Reply

try this guy. he's legit.

Do people even care about others anymore? by Alice Gibberdig - Mon, 13 Feb 2017 10:52:02 EST ID:D/nVTUgt No.513359 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Why is human interaction such a fucking commodity now? People are so fucking content with ghosting each other, moving away from family, friends, "lulz you outgrow people all the time" or "dude just be stoic people come and go live for yourself and your Netflix account and your dog"

What the fuck? Each interaction you have with someone shapes who you are, and as much as MTV and sex in the city and house of cards or tinder and Facebook and whatever tells you- nobody is disposable. Emotions are real and meaningful. How the fuck can you just look at someone else and view them as a copy? Were humans meant to interact so with so many people in a lifetime? By the time someone is in their mid 20s- how many friends, SO's, family members, or whatever will they leave behind?

People aren't people to each other. This shit is so fucked up. To thrive in today's society one has to completely discard all empathy.
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Betsy Gallerhood - Sat, 18 Feb 2017 19:46:49 EST ID:z2/FukLH No.513551 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It wasn't huge families raising people, it was relatively small communities. This was true up until The Nuclear Family model arrived on the scene after WW2.
Phyllis Pittridge - Sun, 19 Feb 2017 12:04:58 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513575 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Well a dysfunctional family that doesn't respect each other us not a family
So why are you calling it one?

>n the traditional sense

You just want to impose your standard for what constitutes others on the whole of society, nice cover up by adding "in the traditional sense" at the end there.

Look mango, you've got this concept of an ideal family worked up in your mind, and all other families that don't live up to it aren't counted as families in the same sense to you. When you say your peers and community should be your family, you're talking about your idealized family, which even back when we had stronger family values, no such family really existed outside of people who deluded themselves into thinking their childhood and whatnot was perfect and happy.

If your peers and community acted like a family, a realistic family that has flawed people who have petty fights and bicker at each other over stupid shit (because that's inevitable when you live everyday in close proximity of another human being). At the end of the day, with your actual family, you're still able to love them... almost specifically because you don't have that type of relationship with anybody else. If you try to cram an entire community or set of peers into your family, why would you give a fuck about any of their shit? The type of relationship you have with them wouldn't be special, and they would go around invading your privacy, imposing their values on you (quite verbally), and try and force you to go the direction they think is in your best interests... only these people haven't raised you since you were a child, grown up with you in the same house as a child, or know you well enough to have any kind of right to feel certain they know what's best for you. Having your entire community or peers act like a giant family would fucking suck.
Charles Hallerlot - Sun, 19 Feb 2017 12:14:51 EST ID:uCFR9p1r No.513576 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Having your entire community or peers act like a giant family would fucking suck.
I think you are misunderstanding that post, brotendo.
It clearly meant families used to be huge because people used to have 5+ kids and because family relations were more important because no welfare system existed. Not that you should make friends act like family.

In the past people were much closer with their families and kept contact, often living in very close proximity. It was like that for tens of thousands of years and evolution molded us for it.
The concept of living in an apartment somewhere and only mingling with non blood-related friends and calling ones parents every couple weeks is very new.

That's why OPs assertion of people not caring about each other is true. Humans inherently care more about blood relatives, which is something most people have removed from their day to day acquaintances.
Phyllis Pittridge - Sun, 19 Feb 2017 12:19:31 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513577 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Oh yeah, wanted to touch on this as well:
>The demise of the family is to blame. Your main peers are supposed to be family members, and families are supposed to be huge.

How special do you think you and the time period you live in are? This is a serious question. If you actually look back at what's happened throughout history, talk to people that are like 80 years old, 60 years old, and 40 years old, and read about social norms and expectations during the time periods that you can't get a direct opinion from somebody on, don't you think they all had these exact same kinds of thoughts?

I mean really man, with all the conflicts and revolutions people have, how much religion and your presentation and image affected you, and how conservative views were in general, how can you possibly think that this here is the straw that broke the camel's back?

Societies go through cycles of upheaval and stability because the human condition almost necessitates it. Some people who were born during the stable period want something more, even though what they have is pretty good, and they push to get it. They meet resistance, and the things they do to resist are labeled as the reasons for the crumbling of society they feel like they're experiencing (even though they're just a symptom of something, not a cause in their own right). At some point things really start to erupt, and bad things actually do happen, the people who always wanted something more get disillusioned and eventually to learn to accept things as they are, while the children that were around when they were young adults were raised by scared old people who because ultraconservative and bound to tradition, so you see a surge in that again and a period of supposed stability because the hysteria caused by people everywhere suddenly wanting to push the boundaries has subsided, when really nothing all that different has happened at all.

The reasons I hear for society turning to shit these days is always the breakdown few the nuclear family or facebook. In Victorian England, it was sexually expressive young women, in the 60s it was also a sexual revolution and general hippie faggotry, and as many places there are and in as ma…
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Charles Hallerlot - Sun, 19 Feb 2017 12:39:11 EST ID:uCFR9p1r No.513579 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>How special do you think you and the time period you live in are?
Me personally am not very special. Yes you are right people always ranted about the times changing, but the changes and advancements of technology our cycle of civilization experienced over the last 100 years is unprecedented.
Changes before this past 150 years were slow and steady. For instance you could take some peasant from 1430 and beam him to the year 1630 and he would for the most part understand whats going on and be able to adjust quickly.
But take a dude from 1817 and beam him to 2017 and you are dealing with a dude who thinks hes in purgatory or heaven or something.

So yes the times we live in truly are very special. Never before has our way of live changed faster and its still accelerating exponentially. These changes have not been going on for Milennia at this pace as you suggest..
Also let me note I'm 38 and experienced the most recent changes myself. The 90s were literally like another universe.

>The reasons I hear for society turning to shit these days is always the breakdown few the nuclear family or facebook.
I touched on this in >>513576
All I'm saying is our genetic makeup hasn't changed much in the last thousand years. And our DNA has developed in times where family structures were different and we lived in nomadic groups of ~150 people.
How we live now is simply different from what we are hardwired to live like and thats why I think feelings like those OP has are so common. A big aspect of that is family.
And I'm not saying society is turning to shit, only that its very different from what our bodies expect and that discrepancy will widen even more in the coming decades out of necessity. Humanity will have to learn to deal with it and eventually will.
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I have gone back into some unhealthy thinking in the past couple of days, help? by Caroline Nickleforth - Thu, 16 Feb 2017 19:39:47 EST ID:zOfwhgti No.513492 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Girl I was dating last summer blocked me on facebook after she went to my page and saw a post I made regarding a comment she made towards me without directly referencing her? Childish? Probably but there are usually some sore feelings after a breakup.

We have mutual friends and I saw she left a comment on a friends new picture. I thought it was weird but yes it would appear she has unblocked me. After she broke up with me she got back with her ex before me and the've been dating again since last Summer right after she left me.

I started to fall back into unhealthy thinking patterns. Not necessarily expecting to hear from her as she told me she never wanted to speak to me again. I thought it was strange she did it so close to Valentine's Day. From what I've gathered a lot of people have had an ex do this to them.

I was thinking she was probably sitting around wondering why she hadn't heard from me,and unblocked me to "remind" me of her so to speak but ironically I haven't stopped thinking about her since I met her. Then again it also made me wonder if she really did miss me or was thinking about me to some extent because I don't think anyone just unblocks there ex in a gesture of "im over this person so they're not on my ignore list anymore" While I get the nature of doing so would mean you no longer care, I just don't see someone caring enough to unblock an ex just because. Maybe this is just wishful thinking that deep down there is a part of her that knows she treated me like crap at the end. That deep down she still cares about me and wishes to see me live a good life. I don't know but I don't like that it's what I've been thinking about the past couple of days.

Hearing from her I don't know how I would react. We had a really angry break up and we were unable to talk to each other without fighting for two months after. I thought about blocking her. I kept checking after the 48 hours to see if she was still there and she was.

TLDR; Ex unblocks me on facebook after four months. Just think it's a bit weird, and now I'm constantly worrying about why she did it. Need help.
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Martin Blathershaw - Thu, 16 Feb 2017 22:53:17 EST ID:+KI8TEZL No.513499 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Yeah the timing is very suspect. I saw similar posts the people have made on other sites regarding this same issue and a lot of people seem to think it just means nothing at all and that it means she's moved on. Given the timing of it I just feel like there's something more to it. Logically I don't think anyone would care to remove a ex from a block just because you had gotten over them. I doubt the logical person would care to remove them unless specifically they had a reason in doing so be it curiosity or to reconnect. As I said before not that she necessarilly wants to speak with me again. Maybe out of boredom as the other guy said. I also thought that yeah she's just doing this hoping I'll contact so she can ignore my messages and block me again.

You're right really. No one knows what her intentions were except for her. it's been six months since we were together. If her and I could have a conversation with each other I would be suprised. she did say she wanted nothing to do with me at all so I just find it a little odd I'm now unblocked right before valentines. What could she be thinking?
Jack Billerford - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 07:47:10 EST ID:5FBdGBh+ No.513514 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Unfriend her. Yeah, that'll show her.
Lydia Worrystock - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 08:03:17 EST ID:WCiWyIpM No.513515 Ignore Report Quick Reply
dawg try to realize what kind of dumb shit youre hung up over
William Cabbercocke - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 09:54:15 EST ID:Ehj68sSG No.513516 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Yeah op is for real hooked up on some dumb shit. Girl he has feelings for unblocks him and of course it would fuck with him as it would anybody. Why do I even come to this section anymore. It's a fuck in joke these days nb
Hannah Cingerson - Sat, 18 Feb 2017 21:30:59 EST ID:ZG17Dtrj No.513555 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Making your move by Fuck Cruffinggold - Thu, 16 Feb 2017 19:06:38 EST ID:vaYDaUnY No.513489 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I don't pick up on social ques. Maybe I'm autistic or something, idk. I don't understand anything about starting a sexual relationship with someone, and unless someone straight up tells me they want to fuck I won't pick up on their hints. I'm a good looking guy and girls throw me hints all the time, I just don't ever fucking notice them no matter how hard I try, the comprehension just isn't there.

Every time I try to get close to someone I become really good friends with them. I know you're all gonna give me the "don't expect things from girls and manipulate them", but I literally don't know what else to do. By the end I value the friendship too much to make a move and risk losing it, and with my fucky views on sex I can't do random hookups, it just makes me feel like trash.

So how do you do it? How do you take things to the next level, what are some common signs of interest I'm probably missing? Any advice is appreciated.
Shitting Wuddlestore - Sat, 18 Feb 2017 17:24:59 EST ID:0QaYPxEF No.513550 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Make a move and take the risk. It's that, or continue waiting for them to straight up tell you they want to fuck.

There is no other way around this. You're not missing social cues and advice, you're missing balls.

Getting a job by Jack Sacklemot - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 14:18:22 EST ID:vKvaev27 No.513519 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>Work at shitty gas station
>Trying to get a job at warehouse, starts at $15.50 an hour, plus incentive pay, is unionized
>A bunch of my friends got jobs there with little experience
>Walk in interviews every wednesday
>Went last wednesday
>Got an email saying I didn't get hired because other applicants have more experience than me
>They are constantly hiring people and often times hire people with less experience than me

Should I just keep going back every week until they hire me?
George Gankinhood - Sat, 18 Feb 2017 03:16:54 EST ID:pss+dE21 No.513536 Ignore Report Quick Reply
dude. so it didnt work the first time right? what happened? try to figure out where you went wrong and improve upon that. i help people with job search all the time. do you have a resume?
Henry Mebberkere - Sat, 18 Feb 2017 12:40:45 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.513540 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Do what must be done. Do not hesitate. Show no mercy.

How to talk to my own sister? by Edward Punderway - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 23:01:48 EST ID:4SKHWbu2 No.513530 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Kinda of blew up at my younger sister(only a couple years younger), and not really sure how to approach her her again and apologize. Grown rather distant from her over the past several year or more, despite living with her. But she's turning into just a passing face that I never really talk to, let alone say hi to, despite her technically still living here(she closes at work, and stays at friend's on the weekends.
Been feeling like my OCD has been really been coming back, and I've been having a lot of panic attacks. Couple that with feeling like shit all from a cold I can't shake, and then throw one shit month of endless emergency expenses and large purchases. I just can't help but feel like exploding at anyone that crosses me. So I tend to handle it by being a generally abrasive asshole. Unfortunately I can't handle myself around ever family anymore.
Really just can't determine how to even approach her about it. She just feels like a friendly stranger, and I'm a stubborn asshole.
Martin Hennerlune - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 23:05:24 EST ID:n1yNxChx No.513531 Ignore Report Quick Reply
the truth will set you free.
just be honest with her, tell her why you did it and that you're sorry, or whatever.
maybe ask to hang out idk
Edward Punderway - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 23:59:21 EST ID:4SKHWbu2 No.513534 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Feeling to chicken shit to even approach her when I see her(probably Sun.\Mon.). Maybe I just got to sleep on it. If I think about it to much I'll just fuck my own head over.
Edward Punderway - Sat, 18 Feb 2017 00:38:13 EST ID:4SKHWbu2 No.513535 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Partly I just feel bad about it due to her learning she has a high risk of cervix cancer, and her going back to her moron ex-bf. All of which things I wouldn't really know without my mother being a blather mouth. So the timing is certainly bad, and makes it more delicate than necessary.
John Fuckingridge - Sat, 18 Feb 2017 09:01:56 EST ID:6PIOhE09 No.513539 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Family is all that matters

Ego and Women by Lydia Beffinggold - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 05:52:03 EST ID:pXo6ANrc No.513437 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Man I don't even know what to think anymore.

Way TL;DR ahead, scroll past my life story for the point of the post
There aren't a lot of girls in my life, but there aren't a lot of guys, either, really, for how few people I know the quality of the chicks in my life is more than I could expect even if they don't really care that much.

So I've been talking to this girl for a while, she's been horrible at messaging back the entire time, just doesn't show much interest but then every time I see her she really seems to like me, and I really like her. I'm not really trying to just go all in, shit's a bit fucked up, I'm in love with her roommate but that's beside the point, I really like her, I want to get closer to her. I hung out with her a few times, she stopped messaging back, I got kind of fed up but I have so few friends let alone girls and she is so attractive I kept talking to her.

I finally took her to New Years, it was great, it was an awesome time, I really liked hanging out with her, she dipped out on me so I didn't get to kiss her at midnight, but we hooked up a little bit later. I guess she was kind of embarrassed and didn't want to tell her friends. At this point I honestly couldn't tell if she's a hoe, or what, she acted like she wasn't, wouldn't let me fuck lol, she's so sweet but she does all kinds of drugs and kept being vague and sketchy about other dudes in her life. Since then I really tried to get with her, but the only 2 times she hung out with me she had me bring her cash in exchange for paypal, pretty obviously so she could buy drugs. She just stopped texting back completely about a month ago, I hit her up a few more times and kept sending her snapchats but that was it.

Anyway so last week, I was going out to a show, by myself of course, and figured I'd hit her up, she'd snapchatted about going and I wanted some molly. She started telling me she wanted to go but only had $7, trying to get me to take her. This pissed me right the fuck off, I mean she fucking blows me off, doesn't even try to hang out unless she wants money or something from me and now she wants me to buy her a fucking ticket? But I thought about it, realized there's no win for me, I'd be alone all night without her and have a better time hanging out with her for sure, so I told her I'd buy her a ticket if she could find me some molly.

Well, tickets were sold out but she managed to get into the show, and she ended up taking a bunch of my molly. We didn't really dance at the show, I like to go hard as fuck and she isn't really on that level. We went out to a house party after, I didn't want to follow her around or be weird so I let her do her thing but after a while I completely lost track of her. Next time I saw her like 40 minutes later she was kissing our friend on the cheek, and when I found her she was in a side room listening to some guy play guitar. At this point I just got my molly from her and dipped, her roommate was there so I just let them find a ride together.
Sorry for the TL;DR

Anyway on one level, looking at this stuff from the perspective of 'me', as a dude, through the lens of my ego, this bullshit really pisses me off. This girl disrespects me, keeps using me for my money and doesn't give a shit when I'm alone and need someone to hang out with, doesn't even bother to text me back. I finally hang out with her and she takes my drugs and ditches me anyway. She acts so sweet and innocent and acts like she likes me but at this point it seems like she's really a complete whore.
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Edwin Shittingstock - Thu, 16 Feb 2017 23:57:19 EST ID:9vn86lM+ No.513502 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP you need to understand perception, you are probably nothing more than an aquaintence to her, why dont you just ask the girl you are regularly talking to (her housemate) about her and what her deal is, or better yet why dont you ask the girl youre in love with out with you?

This just doesnt make sense at all, you love this girl so you go out with her housemate who is a fucking addict who will probably end up spending her life in some den surrounded by guys who she will fuck for drugs and you just give her drugs and get upset and write about it online.

Are you a man? do you have a backbone? You are so lonely you'd rather hang out with some drug addict who has 0 interest in you than you asking out the girl whom you actually like.

You just dont make sense to me at all. you couldve had such a better time if you mingled in the party with other people rather than think you'd be getting something from this girl who is clearly unattached to you and knows she can abuse your lonliness.

This has nothing to do with her and everything to do with you.
Betsy Cendleworth - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 16:19:33 EST ID:pXo6ANrc No.513520 Ignore Report Quick Reply
lol so once again yall completely misunderstand the situation because youre beta af and have never been in my perspective

i understand this is the idea from the perspective of my own ego. but i am trying to rise above my ego, i spend enough time outside it. like who cares if i spend more time alone and miserable, if i help out someone who needs it. ill be fine either way. i do know at least that she does not want to hurt me

>she shouldnt feel like she owes you anything. you calling her a "whore" because she doesnt is just a total disgrace.
im calling her a whore because im pretty sure she hooks up with drug dealers and they give her drugs

like im obviously not being judgmental, i still like and care about her, im not holding it against her, most chicks do this shit. i just dislike it when girls i am interested in fuck around with a bunch of different dudes and play games because it causes me pain. yes maybe i should not use a negative label. but maybe she should stop fucking playing games and figure out what she wants to do and if shes interested in me stop being a hoe and let me know and if shes interested in whatever other guy i can only assume is in her life then dont fucking make some dude take you out til 4am buy you a ticket and take his molly. and she would get better results.

as far as attractiveness or me being a creep, that isnt an issue, i pretty much ooze sexuality and she is clearly attracted to me, but there is a huge difference between being attracted to someone, and actually hooking up with them.

She has a boyfriend dude, he's terrible for her and I think she sees that and if she ever gets fed up with his abusive ass I'm here but she made it clear she doesn't want to talk about it, I'm legitimately trying to move on but if you've ever been in love you know it's not as simple as just deciding not to care, and she is one of my best friends and we know all the same people so just cut all contact and run away is not an option.
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John Chegglemudge - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 16:51:17 EST ID:c7hkHH7V No.513521 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Nathaniel Pockshaw - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 23:53:59 EST ID:cXZFYbD6 No.513533 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Well if it is the way that you describe it, she likes drugs more than she likes sex, or at least relationships. Shes not about it. What she is about is getting high. All real addicts display the same behavior, and it is up to them to change that. No one can change someone who really just wants to get high more than anything else.
Barnaby Sevingpere - Sat, 18 Feb 2017 06:48:02 EST ID:KveR7zNs No.513537 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You're obsessed with your ego. You're not rising above it right now and you never were, you're just using it as an excuse.

There's more to you than your ego. There's the bit of you that says "I want to do the right thing" and then there's the bit that reconciles that with reality and says "wasting time on this chick won't help". You are too prideful to give up on a lost cause. If you're a decent compassionate guy or want to pretend you are don't waste time on someone who doesn't want your fucking help. I mean I'm sure you'll say "but my ego" so you can "help" someone you want to bang because you "love" them.

Spend less time with her. She's friends with a lot of friends but it sounds like you could still reduce your Amy time. Stop daydreaming about the thing you can't have. Being obsessed with a relationship that only exists in your head is awkward teenager shit not something someone who is supposedly attractive and can actually into girls should do.

You have paid lip service to Amy's friend. Spend time with her, getting to know her, building moments with her. Or is that another completely reciprocated set of feelings? I'm not sure you know what love is.

>Amy guy
At least you're not full blown delusional any more though. At the current rate if you stay off the drugs (and you need that because you cannot handle them, not because drugs are automatically bad) you be functional by 2019. Or if you keep fucking with your brain chemistry even though you cannot handle sober then by 2025 you'll either be completely out of touch with reality or have found your way back home the long way.

Been feeling shitty lately by Jack Bunworth - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 04:45:07 EST ID:cXZFYbD6 No.513510 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I have a question for you all. This would be best answered by someone here who is currently employed or has in the past been employed in upper management in the production or distribution department of Frito-Lay, Inc., or Pepsi-Co I suppose if you know your stuff. However I'll take guesses from random anonymous's if you think have a good guess.

How come I can't buy "Hint of Lime" sat in a can or jar? I would pay real money cash credit btc whatever for some sprinkle salt that would make my food super delicious whenever I want. This doesn't seem very unreasonable imo

Frito-Lay, Inc. Executives/CEOs: Thank you for your time, your response is greatl appreciated.

All other 420chan reply-ers: Thanks for nothing, and please try to find out the answer to my question and then post back with your results. Thanks a million. for nothing
Henry Dizzlefield - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 05:01:52 EST ID:Q2DNzdKw No.513511 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Frito-Lay CEO here.
Well we figured that people would just use the flavoring on chips they make themselves, that would mean huge losses for us. A bag of chips is consumed (on average, according to our studies) in 4 minutes. A can of flavoring powder though? That could last for a month, maybe more. Definitely would be a dumb decision according to our economics department.
Esther Wondledetch - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 21:43:18 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.513527 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Frito Lay QC Manager here:

We kept detecting unacceptable levels of insect parts in the batches; over 800 ppm. Our imported lime sources were often times exposed to weathering and rot which, near the end, resulted in a reevaluation of our companys standard for acceptable raw material use. This was after a handful of customers complained of being ill after consuming Pepsi Lime.

Due to the payouts, health violations, and relatively low volume of interest in the product, the big heads decided to discontinue it instead of spending money reformulating it.

My department was actually the one who first caught the large amount of insects in the batches; our solution was to filter it through several fine mesh filters which removed most of the insect parts while leaving the flavor intact. Our taste testers couldn't tell the difference between a lab batch and a plant batch. Of course that was just one of several fixes our department has managed to make over the years.
Nathaniel Pockshaw - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 22:41:32 EST ID:cXZFYbD6 No.513528 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Well yeah I thought about that, and while realizing that I don't have access to the sugars or binders or glues required to make the flavoring salt stick to the chips even if I decided to make my own, I would still probably end up sprinkling the Hint of Lime powder all over everything I eat, and possibly the stuff I don't eat too and sell it to the public, creating a huge demand for leftovers shit that I would sell out of my van. An operation like this would require large amounts of Hint of Lime salt flavor. And who would the supplier be? Sure I'd love to stick to the clearnet and buy straight from the source. But if sunnyfish is offering me at retail for what you are charging a premium for, then what's there to think about?
Nathaniel Pockshaw - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 22:47:06 EST ID:cXZFYbD6 No.513529 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I will gladly buy your tainted Hint of Lime flavoring for 50% MSRP of untainted flavor, no questions asked.

Making your move by Fuck Cruffinggold - Thu, 16 Feb 2017 19:07:18 EST ID:vaYDaUnY No.513490 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I don't pick up on social ques. Maybe I'm autistic or something, idk. I don't understand anything about starting a sexual relationship with someone, and unless someone straight up tells me they want to fuck I won't pick up on their hints. I'm a good looking guy and girls throw me hints all the time, I just don't ever fucking notice them no matter how hard I try, the comprehension just isn't there.

Every time I try to get close to someone I become really good friends with them. I know you're all gonna give me the "don't expect things from girls and manipulate them", but I literally don't know what else to do. By the end I value the friendship too much to make a move and risk losing it, and with my fucky views on sex I can't do random hookups, it just makes me feel like trash.

So how do you do it? How do you take things to the next level, what are some common signs of interest I'm probably missing? Any advice is appreciated.
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Beatrice Fanson - Thu, 16 Feb 2017 19:39:47 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513493 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I'm the same way with social cues. Typically everything just flies right over my head, even in more sensitive situations where it isn't outright obvious that you should or shouldn't do something, but still requires you not to be an oblivious retard. Honestly though, you just have to find ways to cope.

As far as forming a relationship, sexual or otherwise goes, there's a difference between being manipulative and trying to get what you want... in the positive sense. You're allowed to want things for yourself, and when it comes to that, you really can't and shouldn't rely on others to give it to you. Not saying to go rape someone, I'm saying it's okay to want these things and to try to get them. The moment it becomes manipulative is when you stop respecting someone else's rights as a human being and forego treating them with that decency in mind.

Then again, if you actually did have the idea of trying to go out and manipulate some girls just for sex, then never mind. In that case, don't be a dick, nigga. Anyway, you said yourself social cues aren't something you get, so honestly I don't know if you'd be capable of pulling anything like that off anyway.

The way you pull it off is by putting yourself out there and taking a risk man. It's scary but there's no way around it. Unless you're going to approach the situation with zero tact and straight up ask for sex, if the girl is actually friends with you, your friendship probably won't be ruined. She probably wouldn't even feel that weird being around you. If she rejects you, then unless you're giving off some weird vibes, then she probably figures you want to stay friends and value your friendship.

Then again, she could react all weird and you could lose a friend (although really you might've dodged a bullet being associated with them in that case), but if you really want some poon you're gonna have to have some balls mang. If friendship is more important to you, then accept your decision not to act the consequences of doing that.
Fuck Cruffinggold - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 01:29:19 EST ID:vaYDaUnY No.513509 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I definitely don't manipulate, I said that as an inb4 because I figured everyone else would. I don't expect anything to be given to me, I just don't know how to go about letting people know what I want. And yeah haha, I couldn't be manipulative if I tried.

The last two paragraphs make a lot of sense though. I've been struggling to get over really intense paranoia lately and a lot of it has to do with my image of myself and how people look at me. Hearing someone else say they won't hate me on the spot or even really care about it helps a LOT. Up until now I've thought failing something like that would absolutely 150% guarantee a ruined friendship/reputation, all I need to do now is continue to beat it into my head that I'm the only one having these thoughts/the only one that would react that way. As simple as it is just having someone say something contradictory to my thoughts is enough to snap me out of it.
Jack Bunworth - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 05:16:47 EST ID:cXZFYbD6 No.513512 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP reading your posts I see parallels in myself and can relate to you in many ways you have described. But don't take what the other poster said to heart, thats just one opinion and a kinda bleak one at that to be honest. I was 21 when I finally had sex and it was a hard 21 years. This was mostly due (as you can probably guess) to social anxiety/dissonance and caused day after day depression/self loathing/etc and very negative thoughts to say the least. Drugs didn't help lol, especially not the weed every day since 16 but I digress.

Anyway man I want to tell you that you are not hopeless. If you are anything like me, you have realized at this point that loneliness after years of exposure can lead to substantial independence and the ability to sustain one self in isolation, and many times to even thrive. This is essential for personality and inner-self growth. It was only after I found my a stable footing in my isolation and became truly comfortable being myself as a semi-adult that I was able to calmly interact with females. It really really helps if they are younger than you, because they look up to you for lack of a better term, i.e. they put themselves in a position of inferiority. Same exact thing with heavier or less attractive girls which are actually better at the beginning stages of learning how to interact sexually with the opposite sex because they are more mature, though not as appealing as a hotter younger more naiive/ignorant girl.

Ok all of that can be a little circumstantial, for me I had the right job at the time which put me into contact with many females, my environment was not static. I highly recommend working in a restaurant...

Anyway good luck man. Main point is develop your self in your solitary time, it will be the most useful resource you will ever have in your life and you will learn ways of applying it in your future.
George Bluddledock - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 10:39:03 EST ID:nj/9ZEXo No.513517 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I'm in the same boat. Here are some books that've helped me:

The Rational Male
The Way of Men
48 Laws of Power
How to Win Friends and Influence Others

A good deal of it is just forcing yourself to make a move and is trial and error. Stop placing others, your friendships, above your own needs and wants. If things aren't going that way then move on, you're going to be an emotional tampon and most friendships with women are shallow, one sided, and an unfulfilling waste of time.

Don't get at mad at women, either, it's YOU who has the deficit. Thinking the world should conform to your interpretation of Should is egotistical and will only hurt you.

You have to die to live, friend.
Hamilton Gibblekene - Fri, 17 Feb 2017 10:39:05 EST ID:GV9SUhOg No.513518 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I'm in the same boat. Here are some books that've helped me:

The Rational Male
The Way of Men
48 Laws of Power
How to Win Friends and Influence Others

A good deal of it is just forcing yourself to make a move and is trial and error. Stop placing others, your friendships, above your own needs and wants. If things aren't going that way then move on, you're going to be an emotional tampon and most friendships with women are shallow, one sided, and an unfulfilling waste of time.

Don't get at mad at women, either, it's YOU who has the deficit. Thinking the world should conform to your interpretation of Should is egotistical and will only hurt you.

You have to die to live, friend.

Long rant about why I hate everything (including myself). by Alice Bammerhene - Tue, 14 Feb 2017 14:22:46 EST ID:5JYKa3yb No.513398 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've been sober for over a year now, I used to have a "complicated" relationship with clonazepram and was also high pretty much 24/7 for a couple of years. About half a year ago, I was referred by my therapist to a drug-rehabilitation senter of some kind, which I accepted because he phrased it as just "free therapy" which was sorely needed because paying for that shit left me fucking broke and I had to move home to my parents.

My parents live in the middle of fucking nowhere, complete godforsaken swamp-forest taken out of The Hound of the Baskervilles, where there isn't any form for transportation. Ergo, I couldn't land a job since how the fuck would I get there, also just meeting people would be like I was five years old again where I had to "plan" visits because I needed to make sure my parents would be home, wouldn't drink wine or pop a beer, or wasn't busy with any other shit. The plan I originally had which was studying high school because I never graduated, also fell into the dumps because once again, there was absolutely no way I could actually get anywhere and I really wasn't interested in taking up yet another loan just so I could rent some super shitty box in another city right after I moved back here and use 20 years paying that back. So naturally I began the process of getting my driving-certificate.

Stupidly, I told my new therapist about this while I was talking about how I finally got some hope and self-esteem back with actually doing something with my life. She then called my local doctor and the "county-doctor", which proceded to call the police which proceded to take my license because I was at risk of driving under the influence. And I have been sober for a fucking year, with people snorting shit and smoking like crazy (because everyone I know is more or less doing -something- and would most likely just not invite me instead of just drinking) and I never did shit.

But I'M being treated as a criminal, even if they give out opiates to people with backproblems and benzos to people with anxiety, and don't think there is even the slightest possibilty that some of them might drive under the infuence. But me? Oh, I'…
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Martin Pummerbick - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 12:19:32 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513457 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I definitely think she fucked you over too, but at the same time she's probably obligated by law to report what you said if it involves the potential for you to kill or maim somebody, including yourself. At the same time, she just ruined the trust between you two and the only way something like that relationship works is if the patient trusts you. It's really a catch-22 mane, it's unfortunate but I don't think that could've gone any other way. If you truly believe you need something like your license and you aren't going to hurt somebody (which you really do need it), even in situations where you're supposed to be perfectly open, you have to censor yourself. Obviously if you censor yourself too much, you can't get anything out of it, so it requires you to exercise some well thought-out judgment on what you can and can't reveal. You can't live without a job, so obviously mentioning things like this in the future should be something you only do if you believe you truly are so far gone with your issues that you may injure somebody.

unfortunately, it's now gone on record, so it's going to be known if you allow any future therapist to view your medical files or request informaiton from any previous therapists. This is why even though I see a psychologist I've only opened up about small bits of my drug use, and made sure it seemed like my abuse was only of OTC drugs like DXM or legal supplements, because at least then they know I have the drug problem but it isn't with popular or illicit drugs and they don't find the need to cut me off from certain medicinal prescriptions because of it. This information is going to stick around for pretty much ever, and even though I've got a problem, it's under control well enough now that my gamble of not telling them about the other drugs I have abused paid off. I knew I was committed to getting better, and I already had a diagnosis for what was wrong with me, so I didn't need them to know things that would limit treatment options in the future forever (if they need to establish a diagnosis or whatever though, you withholding information can definitely obstruct things in that regard, so it…
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Samuel Gapperdale - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 16:01:43 EST ID:TS/LM6vV No.513468 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Well... I guess if you are too afraid to drive without a license you wouldn't be game for cutting that cunts throat. Kinda lame bro. But I guess that is like your life and all. Europe sounds really gay tbh fam
Augustus Shittingstock - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 16:24:23 EST ID:V7etnEfJ No.513470 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I would recommend switching to a Lacanian psychoanalyst if possible. It's harder for you to get this deep in shit, most probably you would be told not to do any substance before or while driving, but not to the point of fucking you over with the law (assuming you reside in the US, analysts shouldn't have to disclose on such stuff).

You can try to locate one in your proximity, although from your words it's very unlikely there may be a clinic nearby. In such case, I'd recommend calling the nearest agency and speaking with individual analysts to ask if they do phone call analysis. This is what I'm currently doing myself since I have no means of getting there in presence.

Just do it. I don't think you will be given drugs, since in my experience they are only used when the analysand is really endangered (extremely suicidal thoughts/anxiety).

God bless you anon, you can make it.
William Dridgeshaw - Thu, 16 Feb 2017 00:05:37 EST ID:XPXXTXPP No.513477 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Bah, que psicólogo cuzão, tchê!
Nathaniel Fundleneg - Thu, 16 Feb 2017 14:05:12 EST ID:c7hkHH7V No.513483 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Puto, aqui fala-se inglês, não sei se reparaste.

girfriend issue by Edwin Duckletug - Tue, 14 Feb 2017 23:04:54 EST ID:F0BX6Etq No.513428 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So I was in a relationship for over 5 years , we broke up ( reason Is that she left me and I cheated on her on multiple ocasions and eventually she found out ). The I didnt heal properly and ended in a rebound relationship. I have been with this new girl for at least half a year . The problem that I cannot stand ( I expect h8 for my simplistic and retarded view on woman ) is that this girl is way uglier than my ex. Dont get me wrong she is a much better person , but her apperance strikes me down every time ; every time we have an argument I think in my self wtf im I doing with this dog........... ffs. And even when I tell her how I feel she just ignores it , doesnt seem to quite get me serious . I dont know where to go I dont have any friends , since the break up (1 yr ago ) , some of my friend have moved abroad and others have just disapered from my life. Thanks for the advice PEACE
Hannah Wegglefoot - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 00:28:01 EST ID:004PzrlT No.513429 Ignore Report Quick Reply
So you aren't that attracted to her and it's not even a good relationship

Why are you with her?
Edward Clussleshaw - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 09:21:45 EST ID:JHxaDUEb No.513444 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Tbh you sound like a shit person so maybe work on yourself. Maybe alone, maybe with her. Whatever you want to do. But I mean all of your problems are about you.

You cheated on your ex
You're unable to accept your gfs appearance
You have no friends

Start with making some friends and seeing what is going on with that. There's a reason you have no friends that isn't that they all went away.
Martin Pummerbick - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 10:37:28 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513448 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Start with making some friends and seeing what is going on with that. There's a reason you have no friends that isn't that they all went away.
This. I'm sorry man, but this is what happens when you put all your eggs in one basket. This is why you have to establish a support network, not rely exclusively on one person. You don't have to have many friends, but you need somebody whose friendship and support won't suddenly go away if things go wrong in something as volatile as a relationship. Make time for people mang
Sidney Mocklefuck - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 20:38:58 EST ID:9He+zGlS No.513475 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I do have friends but dont feel the sam way towards them since my best friend left me for my ex . Have some trust issues
Matilda Grandfuck - Thu, 16 Feb 2017 08:27:50 EST ID:KveR7zNs No.513478 Ignore Report Quick Reply
On one hand that's fickle behavior. On the other you were pretty terrible to this ex. I mean one thing I've found is that you don't want to be friends with terrible people. Your friends probably had trouble trusting you.

On the other hand if they knew about this the whole time and didn't kick up a fuss until she dumped you then they were actually terrible people as well. Either way you were awful, your friends might have been awful, don't let that stop you trusting good people. Though as I said, good people won't stand for your shit as you are now. The good news is you need to sort it. Why did you cheat? Why did you settle into a relationship you don't want to be in? Look at why you do these things and see if you can find better ways to cope with whatever it is.

Weed errday by Martin Drenderhall - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 13:21:23 EST ID:6PIOhE09 No.513460 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've seen threads where people lament their daily consumption of cannabis. Is it a thing or is it some broscience?
I smoke daily just because I feel mad depressed without it, but I'm considering a smoke break. Maybe I should socially isolate myself for a week without weed or nicotine just for fun :/ Maybe I'm not in such a good place right now.
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Martin Pummerbick - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 15:11:09 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513462 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Smoking everyday always helped me. Weed, back when I could smoke it, always had nothing but positive effects so long as I wasn't trying it for the first time after a long break. Sometimes doing that could lead to those times where you're infamously violently too high for a while.

But if I was smoking good shit 3-6 times a day, I was more easily able to deal with and think about my problems--usually feeling instantly better about anything bothering me a lot instantly after smoking and realizing I was taking things way too seriously and thing were how they were and I needed to approach things in a way that benefited me most even if it was uncomfortable. I also didn't suffer from near as much social anxiety and stopped hating people for merely existing in front of me (had severe anger issues). I don't have these issues really any more so things are fine, but I'm one of those people who never had negative effects from smoking all the time except for blowing all my fuckin cash on it.
Martin Pummerbick - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 15:14:17 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.513463 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Also, it's not uncommon to feel depressed after quitting a drug that seems to help with it, weed was the ultimate antidepressant for me too. In my experience, quitting for well over 2 months allows your brain to adjust back, but before then it's not wise to judge how depressed you are and say you need to smoke because it's helping. It's been the case with many of the drugs I've done that I've thought that way and it turned out the drugs were making me more depressed after regular usage than I was giving them credit for. I was 100% convinced I was just like that, and things at least got somewhat better after being off for an extended period of time (the only thing was I rarely used to stop drug use for any kind of extended period of time). At least, far more manageable than I thought it'd be.
Polly Blatherridge - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 18:22:20 EST ID:5+e2llCv No.513472 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Weed made me happier, more social and a more well-rounded person for the first couple years. Over time it just started to enable my anti-social tendencies and helped me not give a shit that I was going absolutely nowhere in life. It affects everyone differently and you have to find what is right for you.
What I can say is that imposing social isolation on yourself is literally always a bad idea and cannot possibly lead to anything good.
Matilda Grandfuck - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 19:20:27 EST ID:KveR7zNs No.513473 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Weed is rarely the cause of the problem however OP you practically spelled it out in your OP.

It is an anti depressant and people smoke it instead of actually dealing with what's making them miserable. It doesn't make you lonely as much as make being lonely easier so you're less motivated to fix it.

I very suddenly lost my connect 9 months ago and went from smoking every day to dry. I was only smoking it in the evening after I got back from the gym and I can see it didn't affect me negatively. It did however make it okay to be as antisocial as I am and it shouldn't be okay to have such a nonexistent social life. Of course since then my efforts have failed and I feel like I could really use it in the short run. But odds are I'd neglect my duty to myself to double the fuck back down and start arranging more shit.
Cyril Sagglespear - Wed, 15 Feb 2017 19:30:54 EST ID:6PIOhE09 No.513474 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Aw, man, I know all about social isolation. Going months without social contact is rough. I can handle weeks, but I slip when it's longer than that.

>instead of actually dealing with what's making them miserable
I've spent years on introspection. I know what's going on but it's nothing I can really change

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