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#qq on IRC by Mintzs !GD3wBpep0Y - Sun, 13 Aug 2017 12:14:49 EST ID:d5kHsYag No.518069 Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hi folks,

If you're looking to talk to someone immediately about any problems you have in your life and have nobody close to you, come and speak to us!

Join us on IRC on #qq. Most of us have different time zones but if you stay there, one of us will be there.

Don't be afraid to speak up.
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Fuck Honeyforth - Wed, 05 Dec 2018 12:31:23 EST ID:Pwq0Fy/H No.528004 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>527924
love how admins delete everything everything else but this
love autismdot
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Frederick Wonkinstock - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 23:15:00 EST ID:35DhZFiY No.528121 Ignore Report Quick Reply
do tinder dates every really work out?
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Martha Buzzdale - Thu, 13 Dec 2018 10:02:00 EST ID:/XvieVYl No.528131 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528121
ive been together with my tinder date for 3 years. wife material, although at the time she was a hoe, but since we're together she's stopped her hoe ways, and seems happy to me.
thing is, everyone is a thot there, but some thots are just normal women with daddy issues.


I think... by Jarvis Duckcocke - Sun, 09 Dec 2018 00:13:19 EST ID:EDcy2Khy No.528034 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I have some issues with self esteem. I kind of need a thread to vent and just write shit out i guess. Im trying to work on it, have been looking into self help recently. I am trying commit to meditation but its not the easiest.
Like right now i was wondering why i feel this need to be part of a big social group when actually i dont want to be part of it. Why do i feel such a need to be included? I am just trying to be conscious of my emotions and feelings. I feel like i have everything i need to be happy at the moment but still i am not enjoying it and i feel lonely as hell. I have plenty of people around me but they are boring as hell to me for some reason and just tiring to be around. I dont really want to give too much detail of what im doing and where i am but its basically its shared accommodation for work and im living with a big group of twenty somethings. Theres next to no privacy and i feel like ive built up this wall around me to not let anything in, but actually i barely know my inner self. I feel like ive been distracting myself with shit. Boring stuff like shit video games, youtube, masturbation, chan sites, weed, porn. Sometimes i like it but right now it also seems that im forced to be with myself and i hate it. I guess accepting yourself without judgement is the best way forward.
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Shit Fablingted - Fri, 14 Dec 2018 20:37:05 EST ID:2I3LHtGv No.528153 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>528145
being alone is more natural and preferable to me than being with others. at one point in time i used to be awkward, lacking confidence, and had terrible social anxiety, but even now that I find interacting with others to be quite easy, don't really ever feel social anxiety, and am comfortable with myself and pretty confident, i still find myself reluctant to spend any time with my only real and best friend and my family more than one or two saturdays or sundays in a month. otherwise, i simply wake up, go to work, go to bed, and when the weekend comes, browse the web, play video games, and some other combination of drawing, 3d modeling, or 3d sculpting, and then just repeat the process all over again.

a long time ago, perhaps--long enough i no longer can really remember when--i used to feel lonely and like i needed contact and social interaction with others. for the last several years, this routine of mine is all i really feel like i want to bother doing. i don't feel lonely, i don't miss being around others... even the people i actually really like and supposedly love. interacting with others just feels like a lot of effort and time i don't want to spend. i honestly enjoy it when i do hang out with my family or my best and pretty much only friend once in a while and often wonder afterwards why i don't do it more, but after the work week starts up and ends all over again, i'm back to avoiding having to not be alone at home again.

a lot of the time i wonder if i don't feel lonely from being alone all the time anymore because i can't help but believe there's never a point of time where, despite potentially being surrounded by people, you aren't truly alone anyway. we can connect with others, but that doesn't make us less alone in our conscious experience, it's just a distinct type of experience to have alone in your conscious experience of reality. because such a perspective means there is no state of existence that i can experience other than utterly alone, then the concepts of being alone and of loneliness lose all meaning. there is no other way of existing, so being alone is just existing. so rather than consider my existence in the rather m…
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Martin Nubblefuck - Fri, 14 Dec 2018 23:02:10 EST ID:LxgzPLXv No.528155 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528153
SPD
>sounds worryingly accurate
but i dont think i'm crazy or dysfunctional or have an illness, i'm really reluctant to call it a disorder. What are the typical treatments for this?

Something about the social isolation rings true, being very detatched. I lived like that for a long time but i wasnt really happy about it. I changed my lifestyle and "forced" myself to interact socially alot more and I was happier for it. I think its more likely that i have mild social anxiety and being just generally introverted - I can have a great time in small groups of people but become sort of invisible in big crowds or groups of people. I actually worked with a guy who openly identified himself as suffering social anxiety. We didnt hang out much but got along really well when we did, I felt like we were very similar people so i can feel thats more accurate for me too.

I've been looking for something in my past that could clarify my current state, possibly a traumatic event, but i honestly dont think ive been srsly traumatised in the past. When I was 6 or 7 my parents broke up and i was moved around between two different countries untill i was ten. Thats all i can think of, right now. It was maybe a bit like a rejection but on a subconscious level... How can you develop this SPD? Is it natural and are there tell-tale signs?
I watched this video and I cant really choose 4 of the signs she mentions at 1:16 -2:30
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D3adRM3w7Y8
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Shit Fablingted - Sat, 15 Dec 2018 00:13:55 EST ID:2I3LHtGv No.528156 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528155
Well, as the wiki page says,Schizoid Personality Disorder, despite its name, isn't related to Schizophrenia, Schizotypal disorders, and though it doesn't explicitly state it, by extension, Schizoaffective Disorder. They all include hallucinations, delusions and the like, but not Schizoid Personality Disorder. The "schiz-" prefix means "split". Schizophrenia roughly means "split personalities/mind", schizoaffective is more or less the same in meaning but "affect" as a medical/psychological term refers specifically to the expression of emotions, and schizotypal disorder includes a far number of subtypes and otherwise is closely enough related to schizophrenia and schizoaffective disorders that it warranted keeping the "split".

Schizoid personality, on the other hand, means more "split connection between the mind and emotions/experience". "Split" in this case does not refer to multiple of something with schizoid as it does with schizophrenia et al., but rather refers to a division or dissociation between something.

Trauma or significant stress isn't necessary for the development of a mental illness or personality disorder, it's just extremely common for it to be a major contributing factor. There's a large amount of evidence that genetics are highly complicit in the development of personality disorders. Bipolar, Schizophrenia, Borderline Personality Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, iirc Clinical Depression, many more, and indeed, SPD all have evidence supporting genetics being linked to their development.

Here are some more symptoms and typical experiences of people suffering from SP
>SPD is a personality disorder characterized by a lack of interest in social relationships, a tendency towards a solitary or sheltered lifestyle, secretiveness, emotional coldness, detachment, and apathy. Affected individuals may be unable to form intimate attachments to others and simultaneously demonstrate a rich, elaborate, and exclusively internal fantasy world.
>People with SPD are often aloof, cold, and indifferent
>Difficulty expressing their feelings meaningfully
>may remain passive in the face of unfavorable situations
>not able to develop accurate impressions of how well they get along with others
>challenged to achieve self-awareness and the ability to assess the impact of their own actions in social situations
>When someone violates the personal space of an individual with SPD, it suffocates them and they must free themselves to be independent. People who have SPD tend to be happiest when in relationships in which their partner places few emotional or intimate demands on them. It is not people they want to avoid, but negative and positive emotions, emotional intimacy, and self-disclosure
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Eliza Gandlehood - Sat, 15 Dec 2018 12:22:40 EST ID:bsJHZU6x No.528162 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>528156
>1 Neither desires nor enjoys close relationships, including being part of a family.
[x] I actually fucking hate it.
>2 Almost always chooses solitary activities.
[x]
>3 Has little, if any, interest in having sexual experiences with another person.
[x]
>4 Takes pleasure in few, if any, activities.
[x] I like making music alone and taking a long drive through empty roads listening to music.
>5 Lacks close friends or confidants other than first-degree relatives.
[x]
>6 Appears indifferent to the praise or criticism of others.
[x]
>7 Shows emotional coldness, detachment, or flattened affectivity.
[x] I don't really have flattened affect though.
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OP - Sat, 15 Dec 2018 17:23:49 EST ID:LxgzPLXv No.528167 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528156
Of those last 7 I would strongly agree with none of them, but could see 2, 4 and 5 as being mildly applicable.


How do I stop being hateful, bitter and sad and start making it? by Spooky boi - Mon, 03 Dec 2018 20:49:45 EST ID:qxiIbX09 No.527988 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Always stuck in the past and angry and sad. Always think about what a loser I was when I was young and what could've been. Moved somewhere new trying to start over and live the life I always wanted but it hasn't really been happening so far. Went back for thanksgiving and saw old crush that strung me along as an orbiter and banged a bunch of my friends. I cut her out of my life and she looked sad to see me. All that motivates me is to have these people regret ever looking past me or looking down on me. How do I start over and build a social circle and get the life, friends and girls I want? How do I stop being so full of hate, sadness and negativity all the time? Any of you start life over and start making it? Should I cut friends that made me insecure or have hurt me in the past? Was I right in going no contact on crush?
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Jarvis Dabberdale - Tue, 04 Dec 2018 00:02:13 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.527990 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>527988

I can relate. Been there a few times in a few ways.

Start with nothing and continue sincerely brother. People from the past can limit you, if they are keeping you locked into some obligation to continuity of character because “that’s who they know”.

Establishing new people overnight doesn’t really happen. But you could try your luck on tinder, meet a girl nearby with similar vibes and interests as your genuine self. Find someone who lets you just be yourself and express yourself comfortably, honestly etc. You will meet people through her too. I’d say that meeting a larger flock of people would require some targets - clubs, education, jobs, whatever. Places were other people are and you can talk to.

If you are stuck for ideas, large scale hospitality is a constant revolving door of new faces. Get a job, meet people on the shifts, make friends longer term.
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Jarvis Dabberdale - Tue, 04 Dec 2018 00:07:39 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.527991 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>527988


Narrowing your context helps a lot with dealing with the past. Rather than trying to problem solve it, just reframe the timescale within which you contextualise your own existence. Who you were, the moves you made etc do not define you. Rather than holding yourself to that time you were bullied in 2006, realise that is not you anymore, but rather an older, outdated iteration that you have long since evolved out of.

Rebuilding your mind is a lot like demolishing an old building to put in foundations for a new one. These attitudes, perspectives and etc etc are all going to be bleeding through into the way you perceive the world, right down to things like time or sensory input. Try to come up with some sort of placebo effect style logics to help motivate and encourage you. “By doing these things I am free of my obligation to worry about the past, since I am now living right”

You are here, now, begin right action and you will receive peace of mind.

Remember, it doesn’t matter how far you run, where you hide or what you do. You can never put maneouvre your own truth.
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Martin Droffingfin - Thu, 06 Dec 2018 12:33:54 EST ID:ogGEfQN1 No.528013 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Work on yourself. Get better at stuff. Exercise. Make yourself think "yeah, I'm the fucking man."

Your scorn will turn to pity, and strain through like a sieve.
You may never hear an apology but you'll choose to forgive.
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Lydia Honeyfuck - Thu, 06 Dec 2018 13:30:53 EST ID:IhsaKBVd No.528014 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>527988
I don't know, I've been stuck in the same rut forever. Moved out when I was sixteen, never been able to stay at the same place for more than two-three years since then, and always end up back on the wagon or whatever, resenting people and myself, not being able to come to terms with my life.

I don't have any tips, but I have a good song, maybe you'll relate.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uM3YROq_cLY
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Spooky boi - Sat, 15 Dec 2018 17:01:23 EST ID:qxiIbX09 No.528166 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528014
Thanks, I like that song and old country in general. Came back to this thread to see if anyone posted anything new cause I was having those feels again.


Are druge treatment programs bs? by Graham Segglewedge - Sat, 15 Dec 2018 03:26:09 EST ID:SFFKjDFq No.528159 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TA3Xy53hMMY

"When somebody comes to me for treatment many times they've had prior treatment. Their success or failure at treatment is not a function of who treated them. It's a serious illness. Failure rate is twice the success rate, everywhere."

That's pretty fucking sad. Is this true though? Considering the rampant use of the 12 steps and other things which don't always work for people
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Fucking Wankinville - Sat, 15 Dec 2018 05:25:03 EST ID:USUZpST+ No.528160 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It's not BS it's just not as effective as people might like. Chemo doesn't always work, is that BS?
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Ernest Trotshaw - Sat, 15 Dec 2018 12:24:04 EST ID:lA5uRpTd No.528163 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528160
That's some pretty specuous thinking there.
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Graham Segglewedge - Sat, 15 Dec 2018 14:29:08 EST ID:SFFKjDFq No.528164 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528163

I completely agree as the one who originally posted it and the fact that I've delt with numerous close ones that have delt with a cancer related illness. I understand youre analogy but how does it have anything to do with treating the effectiveness of our treatment centers and such?
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Fucking Wankinville - Sat, 15 Dec 2018 16:55:15 EST ID:USUZpST+ No.528165 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528164
thanks nj


Don't know anymore by Wesley Domblehun - Tue, 11 Dec 2018 22:07:44 EST ID:PMiKxfAC No.528082 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I honestly feel like my heart has turned into ice and it's hard as stone. I have no love for anyone anymore because I feel so disconnected from reality and people. My life has been nothing but a black hell I've been trapped in since I was born. Nothing good has come out of anything I've tried to do for myself to improve upon my life. I don't even know who I am anymore. I become darker and darker as time passes. I don't love my own mother anymore even. I was physically abused for years until I had a nervous breakdown at 16yrs old and was diagnosed with full blown schizophrenia and depression. Things have just gotten worse for me over the years since then. I don't think I'll ever be able to recover from what the abuse did to my heart and mind. I feel so lonely and unwanted. Sometimes I wish I was never born and my mom did have a miscarriage with me like she almost did when she was pregnant with me. Why the fuck am I even here?

You guys are the only people I talk to period since I have no friends. You people are the only ones who I feel I can relate to. Other than that, I have nothing left in my heart except for darkness and hatred. I cant do anything to fix this. I've tried getting help and nothing seems to work.

Can someone help me?
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Molly Sibberstock - Thu, 13 Dec 2018 04:14:20 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.528127 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>528082
>I cant do anything to fix this.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u-Y3KfJs6T0
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Molly Sibberstock - Thu, 13 Dec 2018 04:43:19 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.528129 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>528099
>I dropped out of school because I was bullied

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e_04ZrNroTo
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5oX-8TbQhk0
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Molly Sibberstock - Thu, 13 Dec 2018 13:17:21 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.528135 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>528082
>I don't think I'll ever be able to recover
>I feel so lonely and unwanted



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e4PzpxOj5Cc
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Molly Sibberstock - Thu, 13 Dec 2018 14:34:09 EST ID:F6BBbLXR No.528136 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>528082
>Why the fuck am I even here?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BNi93kG5OuE
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aicOJcZutK0
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_5Ocz04H8EY
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pfGOkXXFAHg
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QXyXO88NaEs
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AsKsvKQJDU0
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DQ7w_tvo4VY
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I5jLGUw7VnA

Welcome home.
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Martin Fuckingfield - Sat, 15 Dec 2018 08:06:33 EST ID:jtCm1J5l No.528161 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>528082
>I don't even know who I am anymore.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=2gbgmOnrE7s


is ethical non-monogamy actually a thing? by Jarvis Shakeham - Tue, 30 Oct 2018 16:04:40 EST ID:OhXZg5XK No.527501 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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because yeah, i get all the theory. everything looks good enough on paper. but in practice i have only seen it fuck up peoples lives/ relationships.
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Lydia Bruffingwell - Fri, 14 Dec 2018 04:45:47 EST ID:MNHclNNX No.528144 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Ethics are a codified compilation of moral opinions and beliefs. Which ethics you subscribe to determine whether or not non-monogamous relationships are actually capable of being ethical or not. The consideration of whether or not it is possible for these relationships to work out, as well as how often or likely they do and do not work out is entirely related to pragmatism, and really only serves to temper how rigidly you believe in your opinion on how ethical such relationships are and whether or not they are worth pursuing.
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Priscilla Dugglenitch - Fri, 14 Dec 2018 06:27:23 EST ID:w2+tSRsS No.528146 Ignore Report Quick Reply
On a semi-related note, I've been very good friends with a couple I met at university several years ago who are getting married soon. I myself am married. A few weeks back me and the other girl were hanging out, doing our usual day drinking thing and the conversation went down a weird route and we realised we love each other. Genuine lovey dovey love, something beyond simple lust. At the same time though, we love our respective partners and we know they wouldn't be down with sharing.

I've never been in a situation like this. I never imagined being in a situation like this. I don't know what to do. We both really fucking love each other and just want to cuddle up with each other on the couch whenever we have the chance, but at the same time I don't want to hurt my wife, and she doesn't want to hurt her partner (who is also my best friend).

Anyone got advice for dealing with this shit? Do we try and keep it secret forever? Do we eventually sit everyone down and talk it out and deal with whatever comes from it? Or do we just agree to pretend none of this happened and go on the rest of our lives, knowing but ignoring how we feel?

I can't see any future path that doesn't suck dick.
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Frederick Simmerweck - Fri, 14 Dec 2018 07:01:27 EST ID:USUZpST+ No.528147 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528146
I'd go with not doing anything about it. You love her, she loves you back, you don't need to bang all the time or run away together. What else do you need? You love your family, don't you? Your friends? You can be non-sexually physically affectionate with them can't you? Provided you don't get greedy and actually betray your partners, I don't see why you can't just get along happily.
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Cornelius Bricklebun - Fri, 14 Dec 2018 18:36:34 EST ID:1A7Faisa No.528152 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528146
Start a cult

Dose LSD and fuck in a grand orgy on wednesdays
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Molly Sommlekodge - Fri, 14 Dec 2018 21:06:57 EST ID:U99A5Mm4 No.528154 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528146
Do you love each other or are you in love with each other? There's a difference.


ocd by Hamilton Dreddlebane - Fri, 14 Dec 2018 02:12:24 EST ID:ZNiUUzn9 No.528142 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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how the fuck do i help my obsessive compulsive disorder?

also anyone know the story behind this meme? is this real life? i wasn't around when it was a meme...my ocd wants to know
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Lydia Bruffingwell - Fri, 14 Dec 2018 04:41:30 EST ID:MNHclNNX No.528143 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528142
are you actually obsessive-compulsive, or are you one of those people that mistakes being impulsive and being also rather compulsive in nature as being OCD? I ask because there is a difference between the two nearly as distinct as night and day.

In one case, you feel a desire to do or know something and not being able to do or know it bothers you, case closed. In the other, you feel a desire to do or know something, and not being able to do or know it is tantamount to the world ending. Not doing or knowing whatever it is means you are going to die, or even something worse. At times, there's never even a desire to do or know something, you just do it or pursue knowing it before enough time is allowed for the self-reflection required to become aware of needing to do or know it is possible. In other words, with the former, you have poor self-control and/or poor mastery over your emotions, emotional reactions, and desires. With the latter, you are obsessively and compulsively compelled to act a certain way, or else... and else is never an option. You act on it, period.

The reason I ask is because the methods of overcoming or (in the case of legit OCD) coping with it are entirely different. With OCD, you see a psychiatrist or specialist of some kind along with a therapist, and work with them about things (whether it's talking or medication). With anything else, the you can choose to see a psych/specialist of some kind and/or a therapist if you want, as well as take medication to treat it, but it isn't necessary. The biggest difference here is that with it not being legit OCD, behavioral modification becomes possible (or at least successful results, anyway), along with attitude and world outlook adjustments, and there actually exists hope of even not having to be so compulsive all the time any more and becoming pretty well-adjusted/normal/healthy. With OCD, the only behavioral modification that is going to help any will pretty much be made by the people who help take care of the person with OCD, so that the worst triggers for the patient can be avoided.
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Graham Blenderbock - Fri, 14 Dec 2018 17:44:44 EST ID:nrs1TIWF No.528150 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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i have ocd, not ocpd. i also have dermatillomania; my main bad spot now being on the inside tip of my nostril, fml. compulsions take up so much time. im always late and dont care anymore that i am. i also have trouble with not being present. im always focused on the present, so there's no planing for the future even though i got shit to do. everything has to be just right until I can move on. some of it includes contamination, and thats odd dealing with when i regularly deal with gross shit at work. im trying to work on identifying the obsessions, but it seems to be constant repetitive thoughts that are either illogical or self sabotaging or unrealistic suicidal. i know the thoughts don't make sense and are just beating me down; i should be strong enough to mind over matter those thoughts, but they drill in my mind and pierce the subconscious. It's been a decade since i was diagnosed, and after that, Ive been letting it fester. no meds, no counseling, yes drug abuse, yes isolation. I have lots of mental issues and enjoy falling down the pit that occurs when I don't keep my mind sharp. as other issues are improving, the ocd is worsening. i want to talk to professional but i wouldnt take their advice. i don't want to actually get better. i am trying to find ways to switch to productive compulsions, like art maybe.
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Graham Blenderbock - Fri, 14 Dec 2018 17:52:29 EST ID:nrs1TIWF No.528151 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528143
With OCD, the only behavioral modification that is going to help any will pretty much be made by the people who help take care of the person with OCD, so that the worst triggers for the patient can be avoided.

I don't want to be the person that needs people guarding triggers from me. Most of that probably comes from somewhere inside myself anyway. I always want to be able to face the truth no matter what it is, and have no fear of expecting triggers. the word trigger probably triggered me, sorry nb


Where to meet dateable women? by Charlotte Dellerford - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 08:42:18 EST ID:ZBd6lcme No.528097 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Where does one find dateable women? I spend all my time at work, at home on the computer, or out biking. I have to go elsewhere to find them, obviously, but where? (Btw, don't tell me to try to find a woman at work. All the women at work are old, fat, married, and/or incompatible culturally/religiously (wears a hijab, barely speaks english, etc).)

I admit that I've never had a serious relationship. I've been told to find someone who shares my interests, but is that actually important? Thinking about it, I'd rather have a relationship with a quiet, calm woman who likes, say, keeping centipedes as pets, than a loud, crazy woman who likes programming and biking. Furthermore, just because they share your interests doesn't mean they share your values. What's a man to do?
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Fucking Pittingforth - Thu, 13 Dec 2018 07:16:39 EST ID:ZBd6lcme No.528130 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Thanks for the advice everybody.

>>528105
>I dunno, man. My personal view is that it's a numbers game. You just have to keep looking until you find someone you're willing to settle, live and grow with. Most people meet women through friends and friends of friends, so I'd start to get cozy with whoever you can really to introduce you to more and more people.
I hardly ever go out with friends, much less friends of friends. I guess I gotta change that.

>>528108
>Tindr/Facebook.
>
>If you don't want to go digital then you're going to have to go to bars/clubs.
I'm not interested in hookups; I want something long term. Also, I don't drink alcohol, am terrible at dancing, and hate loud music. Perhaps I should try the bookstore/bookclub instead?

>>528110
>This. It's all statistical. You can't determine any of what you're concerned about without just dating despite not knowing. Even if you are supposedly compatible and should be, a sustainable relationship may still be impossible with someone. The only way to win is to keep playing the game. At some point, if you play enough, you will come across someone good for you.
Keep playing the game. Got it.
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Alice Fozzlehark - Thu, 13 Dec 2018 12:59:08 EST ID:oGhTgflo No.528134 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528097
In terms of compatibility it sounds like... well you don't really want answers but confirmation of your pre existing opinion really.

Still I'm going to offer mine in the hope I'm wrong: There's a middle ground.

You need to have some things in common so you can enjoy time spent together and you need to have values and general priorities well aligned. There will be conflict no matter how alike you are but being completely different is asking for trouble. Someone who will push you gently out your comfort zone sometimes is good in moderation. Someone who goes and does their own thing keeps their mystery too. If you hold radically different values and will not compromise or question (either of you) them or if you have totally different natures it will be unlikely you'll last very long. The loud girl might drag you constantly to parties and always want to go to shitty clubs where they can't even get playing chart music cheese shit right and never enjoy a quiet night chatting with friends or maybe she'll occasionally drag you out dancing or to a cool party but be able to enjoy the quieter nights.

It's not a case of one or the other. There's usually only one way you know the real measure of all but the most extreme people and that's to give them a chance. And to find someone who'll do the same for you probably thins the herd quite considerably anyway. And if you're signalling right it thins it to a group slanted to be more like you.

Where to actually meet them is beyond me though. People who say it gets easier as you get older are full of shit.
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Hugh Blatherridge - Fri, 14 Dec 2018 07:13:02 EST ID:ZBd6lcme No.528148 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528134
>In terms of compatibility it sounds like... well you don't really want answers but confirmation of your pre existing opinion really.
I don't want confirmation, because I wasn't asking about it. I was asking about where to meet dateable women, not how/why to expand what I consider dateable.

>Still I'm going to offer mine in the hope I'm wrong: There's a middle ground.
>You need to have some things in common so you can enjoy time spent together and you need to have values and general priorities well aligned. There will be conflict no matter how alike you are but being completely different is asking for trouble. Someone who will push you gently out your comfort zone sometimes is good in moderation. Someone who goes and does their own thing keeps their mystery too. If you hold radically different values and will not compromise or question (either of you) them or if you have totally different natures it will be unlikely you'll last very long. The loud girl might drag you constantly to parties and always want to go to shitty clubs where they can't even get playing chart music cheese shit right and never enjoy a quiet night chatting with friends or maybe she'll occasionally drag you out dancing or to a cool party but be able to enjoy the quieter nights.
>It's not a case of one or the other. There's usually only one way you know the real measure of all but the most extreme people and that's to give them a chance. And to find someone who'll do the same for you probably thins the herd quite considerably anyway. And if you're signalling right it thins it to a group slanted to be more like you.
I appreciate your response. I'll try be more open to experiences that I wouldn't normally do.

>Where to actually meet them is beyond me though.
Darn.

>People who say it gets easier as you get older are full of shit.
I am somewhat "older", and I agree. Back in university I had so much time to hang out, and it was so easy to do so with friends and friends of friends. (Furthermore, everybody is about your age and unmarried!) Now that I'm working full time, I have less time, most of my university friends have …
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Phoebe Hobblebadge - Fri, 14 Dec 2018 07:26:12 EST ID:p3X7gAtH No.528149 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528130
Nah I mean there are people that are different to you on the surface that are the same as you, with the same values and shit. It's just that they seem a certain way because they have to front to their people and parents. What you envision as wanting to raise children differently might just be acting slightly different when you're at their parents house to what you do normally.
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Edward Cossleman - Sat, 15 Dec 2018 01:14:53 EST ID:cwlV+B3h No.528157 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528097

church. nb


my personal issue by Nicholas Fishpidge - Mon, 10 Dec 2018 06:16:53 EST ID:WcunFWgg No.528057 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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i came here to read about other peoples situations as a way to put everything into perspective. not to mock or insult or "feel better about myself" but to see what other people are dealing with, out of curiousty and misery wanting company

theres bullshit about girls and dating. Don't give a FUCK about that. so this baord is failing me. Help !
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Isabella Hoppernudging - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 10:23:37 EST ID:8r2zCse/ No.528100 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528077

Why do you not do something about it then?

Why do you come here for negative affirmation?

If you wish to stay where you are, continue doing as you are.
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Walter Crossletadge - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 10:50:17 EST ID:dlP99jBc No.528101 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528079
nah i get you, that's actually how i "beat depression" (i still get on very shitty moods) about a year ago, gratitude and perspective helped me a lot
what books did you read? gotta admit i find most philosophy useless but i'm willing to try it
i've been going out of my way to try and experience new shit but failing miserably, it gets frustrating
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Graham Trotwell - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 17:05:20 EST ID:WcunFWgg No.528109 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528080
i feel you


>>528076
appreciate your effort but not a fan of your posts
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Alice Clunnernirk - Thu, 13 Dec 2018 02:49:20 EST ID:U99A5Mm4 No.528126 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528101
I did read a lot of books but I cant abide pure philosophy. The purely philosophical shit was like myth of sisyphus and meditations of Marcus aurelius, but also a lot of fictional shit like dostoyevsky, satre, and a few gulag/ concentration camp accounts. But yeah basic stuff.
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Ian Brandlespear - Thu, 13 Dec 2018 10:41:11 EST ID:WcunFWgg No.528133 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528126
I would add EM Cioran to that list, hes one of my favs in that category


How to suggest a FWB deal with my female friend? by Lost And Confused - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 16:15:07 EST ID:p51D9vng No.528106 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've been single for a few months now, with next to no action besides the odd date that's gone nowhere. I'm heading into winter session at my university, and I've got next to no prospects going for me.

Now, one of my female friends is thirsty as hell, constantly trying to get laid at parties but always getting too drunk to score. Tells me a lot how nobody wants to get with her, etc. etc. She wants to hang out with me more often because we haven't seen a lot of each other this semester, and she'll also be around a lot in the winter.

The question I guess I have is, is there any way to bring up the thought of her fucking with me over winter without it being weird? She's really tried to fuck everyone but me, including a roommate of mine, but I don't know if it's because she only sees me in a platonic sense or if I've given off the vibe that I didn't want her like that.
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Clara Niddlefack - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 16:36:01 EST ID:fFqdWlVJ No.528107 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Usually when girls talk to you about how much they wanna get laid, it usually also implies that they specifically don't want it to be with you. Otherwise they wouldn't be telling you about it.

Sorry bud.
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Graham Mondlespear - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 23:15:15 EST ID:IJylBavY No.528122 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528107
This guy is just jelly.

She wants to hang, be friends, get fucked and have a good time
Set it up man, if she wants to see you more anyways it'll be all good.

Girls aren't that complex; they just like you and me
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Alice Clunnernirk - Thu, 13 Dec 2018 02:36:52 EST ID:U99A5Mm4 No.528125 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Get her alone. Set the mood. See what happens.

A few months is weak though.


Started to hate children by Intricate Urology - Thu, 16 Nov 2017 03:21:33 EST ID:uDCgIcJL No.520066 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've been working as a pediatrician for 5 years and enjoyed my job
but burned out at some point
due to too inhumane working-hours and not enough time to relax.

Then my parents got badly injured in a car-crash, both got bedridden and unfortunately died maybe a month later due to complications in their spines and internal organs.

I was devastated. Couldn't work anymore and needed 3 years to somehow recover.
I quit my nursery job because it took its toll on me
and tried to get a foot into IT-tech, but had zero luck.

At some point I got a call from a state-funded youth-office and they've been looking for social workers.
A good friend of mine suggested me!

So, yeah.
It started really great.
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Cornelius Focklespear - Sat, 17 Nov 2018 05:50:01 EST ID:zH7c2B0S No.527752 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>520066
>>525502
children are stupid devilish monsters.

"but you were a kid too once!" I hear you say

Yes, so I was and I was a stupid shit-dooer.
So I know how horribly stupid and agonizing children are nowadays!

I want to slap every kid in the face that dabs, screams for no reason and just exists for talking bullcrap all day with his flat cap on his head.

Let all the sleep-depraved masochists deal with these shitstains.
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Hedda Dartbanks - Sat, 17 Nov 2018 06:46:48 EST ID:wVwbY1G3 No.527753 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>527752
The truth is some kids are worse than others and some are so bad that even as adults they should just be killed. We didn't choose to have you, we didn't risk unprotected sex but here you are shitting on our stuff.

I don't want kids, I'm not having any but I'm still dealing with this shit flinging tantrum phase that has lasted 4 months already. At least you won't pass your defective genes on nb.

Though actually given this revelation I might have kids. I mean if people like you will ruin everything they touch and we can't keep away from you what's some kids on top of that?
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Frederick Blanningwater - Mon, 19 Nov 2018 13:54:23 EST ID:3A/9rSkO No.527787 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>527753
>>527752
you're both retarded cunts
>waaah i can't handle anything that shouts
>waahh I can fuck all I want and have no responsibilities for it
>waaahh modern life is so hard
>waaah I'm such a millennial
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Missima Hmgulf - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 18:26:19 EST ID:YRfNeQu5 No.528111 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>527787
breeder with crotchfruit-regret detected.
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Henry Fapperford - Sat, 15 Dec 2018 02:17:37 EST ID:AX+/sznq No.528158 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528111
bitter antinatalist loser detected


Trouble with finding god. by Ian Sissledat - Wed, 12 Dec 2018 14:34:49 EST ID:/v57NAtH No.528103 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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People, do you believe in god? I do, i do believe there's a divine force. But how do I know his will and commandments. I sat and debated this with myself along the way, and wrote down my thoughts (if you have the mental strength and will to read through it all, can you perhaps give me some answers or personal views? It'd be greatly appreciated):


"We must not let the imagination of man decide our gods and religous faith. Rather we must worship and see god in the things which are not a product of our imagination, things that are a certainty. A naturalness. So therefore we must find god and the word of god in nature and within ourselves, for they are products of the divine, not of man."

Further thoughts:

Now, like some religions state; if you don't worship this and that you will never go to heaven and will be punished with eternal suffering, bla bla bla.

To you, would a righteous god punish all of the people who does not believe in a certain god or believes in a certain way? A righteous god knows the nature of man, for he is the creator and he knows that for all of time the imagination of man will always create gods and god will be expressed in different ways. How can you say that these people will go to hell and at the same time claim your god is righteous?

I believe that the important thing is not which god you worship, whether you keep kosher or not, or some other uninmportant thing. Although musn't we enlighten the masses that they shall not believe in man-made gods? Yes, for they are believing falsness otherwise, and obviously it is not good to believe in anything which is false.
The thing which I believe is important is that you realise that there is a divine and that you try to be good in life, then the almighty, the righteous god should not judge how you express your faith in god.

But then what will define good?
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