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#qq on IRC by Mintzs !GD3wBpep0Y - Sun, 13 Aug 2017 12:14:49 EST ID:d5kHsYag No.518069 Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hi folks,

If you're looking to talk to someone immediately about any problems you have in your life and have nobody close to you, come and speak to us!

Join us on IRC on #qq. Most of us have different time zones but if you stay there, one of us will be there.

Don't be afraid to speak up.
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Hedda Sidgekedge - Mon, 18 Mar 2019 07:04:57 EST ID:ffVpGLbu No.528432 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528430
There's a larp thread on /tg/ and by larp it's a mix of
>people talking about armour and fighting styles
>people wondering about larp
>people who have actually larped: only horror stories and warnings

nb tho
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Lillian Hullerson - Mon, 18 Mar 2019 10:47:55 EST ID:6LKG4JTv No.528433 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528432
Hahaha I think one or two of those horror stories are mine. I really had to vent.
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Simon Sittingshit - Mon, 18 Mar 2019 14:42:02 EST ID:CZVvW8PV No.528435 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528433
im gonna have to check that out.


Seen this one yet? by Molly Trotdock - Tue, 12 Mar 2019 10:57:54 EST ID:tuHeryy1 No.528358 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I suck at video games. Of course this isn't the problem, I just need a way to explain this.

I was told by the man at a very young age I had superior intelligence, which still isn't that cool but it did make me smarter than everyone I knew or had any opportunity to meet. Naturally I was held to an incredibly high standard my whole life and I have never once lived up to it. Something is wrong with me but I don't know what it is. I'm 27 and I live with my girlfriend who is cool, if a little bitchy. I pick things up, I take to them well, but then I never get any better. I start everything at a very high level and you would expect that I would grow at a high rate to the pinnacle of skill but I just don't. I have never seen anyone struggle with anything. Everybody seems to just instantly be perfect at everything (or at the very least way better than I am).

Do you know I have played soul calibur for the entirety of the series? It's my favorite game. How good are you at your favorite game? I am the worst player left on any server. I can double-perfect somebody and they will still get three unanswered wins to finish the match, somehow. It will always happen.

I failed out of college because I couldn't finish an assignment, quit every job out of shame at my inability to excel, and my house is always a ridiculous mess because I can't finish cleaning.

I'm only getting more depressed as time goes by. Should I just kill myself? Would I fuck that up too? I have a family that loves me but I can't begin to imagine why. I just can't do anything and I've tried it all. If you can think of it, you can be better at it than me, period. Every waking second I'm embarrassed and I can't really take it anymore. What does a worthless piece of shit like me do to succeed?
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Walter Snodwill - Tue, 19 Mar 2019 03:00:57 EST ID:mX27lD5h No.528444 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528358
Sounds to me like basic insecurity. Only yours it about your intelligence. I know what point of reasoning you're coming from because I'm a loser working a dead end job with no friends, 1-2 hobbies that I constantly deride and can't enjoy, and no relationships on an intimate level.

Let me tell you a bit about it OP, and you'll maybe see it.

>I've been playing a couple instruments for years. My main going back over 10 years now. In my genre, I can play and create music that maybe 5-10% of other musicians can do.
Yet I still think, "I can't play as fast as this guy who clearly used software to edit his performance and never plays this live so I suck, I hate myself, I hate this fucking instrument and I just want to sell all my shit."

>I've written thousands of short motifs and maybe turned up 1 albums worth of songs in 4 years worth of writing for multiple instruments.
While recording absolutely nothing of it because it isn't as good as X and I think it won't match up to what I need it to for it to be acceptable. I have thousands of dollars in recording equipment and have released a sum total of zero music officially. After producing something, mind you hundreds of hours of work into a single song; I say, "This fucking sucks, I suck, I fucked up this tiny part here, here and here, and I basically want to set my studio on fire."

>I've had very attractive and high quality people in my life want to be in a relationship with me on a couple occasions but I've spent my entire life having never known what it is like to have a long hug with someone I find meaningful.
Why? Because I think, "My 7.5" dick is too small. What if so and so fucked someone I wouldn't like? What if so and so had their fun and I've just missed out and now I'm just some loser with someone who is abusing me for a steady and stable life? I can't be in a relationship, I need to lose 20 lbs when I am already at a health weight but I'm pale so I look skinnyfat. What if they are just out to get me and take half my shit?

>I had people want to be friends and hang out.
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Shitting Pullermetch - Tue, 19 Mar 2019 18:29:11 EST ID:YgBmNGwp No.528450 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528444
Hey man, can you do something with all these useless bass riffs I've been sitting on?
https://m.soundcloud.com/the_shocktopus
I have no idea what the fuck to do with them and they're just collecting dust. If you're going to continue to produce and record, please use some of this shit and don't think about how it sucks because it doesn't, well maybe my shit sucks a little bit but I think it's cool.
Idk maybe this could give you some motivation or some shit, just please steal my bass riffs. Don't even credit me, I don't give a shit
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Betsy Mazzlemag - Wed, 20 Mar 2019 02:26:38 EST ID:7lK4qvIR No.528451 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528444
For what it's worth Walter, despite certain similarities I don't actually think we have the same problem. I feel like insecurity is one issue I've been mercifully spared in my life. I think insecurity is probably why it crushes me so much but in this case I think it secondary and symptomatic of my inability to see the way up and get better at things. I only say so because what you have described is an issue I have personally witnessed a lot of. I don't have my shit together either but my advice to you would be to join/start a band. You can get acknowledgement and criticism, possibly make real supportive friends, and keep your own perceptions in line with the truth.


did you ever have a personal issue and think: hey that's a pretty good personal issue by thread portfolio - Mon, 18 Mar 2019 06:28:59 EST ID:MMgFnP4v No.528431 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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if so what was the personal issue
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Hedda Trotham - Mon, 18 Mar 2019 19:05:10 EST ID:USUZpST+ No.528439 Ignore Report Quick Reply
is it unethical to be baseline nice to someone who's clearly insecure or unhappy enough to likely develop an unrequited crush on you for it?
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Edward Shittingworth - Tue, 19 Mar 2019 15:54:22 EST ID:Lny7/LNo No.528448 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528439
No, but the way you handle said unrequited crush will determine whether you're a piece of shit or not.
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Charles Pecklenodge - Tue, 19 Mar 2019 16:56:51 EST ID:VixL4yV0 No.528449 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528439
this is literally me if the roles were reversed


A pity to envy by Bruno - Mon, 18 Mar 2019 17:09:37 EST ID:33P85GSG No.528436 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I got stalked by some organization with incredible technology for posting shit on tinfoil in 2013.

They're into crazy shit. Fringe shit. They say I am going to get shot in the head if I don't stop posting about it. But they did bad things and it's wrong. Like anti-christ wrong.

I don't think it's a hill worth dying on.

I've learn a lot about their capabilities and now any job or profession I could get would seem utterly meaningless compared to the study of the human mind that could be done. So I just sit around painting wires coming out of my head.

No one will ever believe this.
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Walter Snodwill - Tue, 19 Mar 2019 02:32:20 EST ID:mX27lD5h No.528443 Ignore Report Quick Reply
So... scientology right?
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James Chittingforth - Tue, 19 Mar 2019 09:45:19 EST ID:BsaC9DIW No.528446 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528441
Yeah people experiencing delusions usually do. Your psychosis is a dime a dozen my friend
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Awe God !!Bwteoy2D - Tue, 19 Mar 2019 11:40:37 EST ID:Hk18xYib No.528447 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528442
what sort of organization was stalking you?

what kind of study of the human mind could be done?


Mental health and anti depressants by Royce Coolage - Sat, 02 Mar 2019 10:56:18 EST ID:0DW75voH No.528264 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So Im 28 and Ive had an inconceivable amount of shit happen in my life over the last few years and now I feel I'm reaching breaking point.

My partner of many years and I had a beautiful daughter born in 2017 but unfortunately when she was born there was no heart beat and we left the hospital with empty arms and completely broken

It was our first child and we were brave enough to decide to try again and fell pregnant last year, had a million and one extra scans, tests, doctors appointments it was all pretty intense

While we were pregnant the second time we were both already in a bit of a fraglie state of mind, we had autopsy results and knew exactly how it happened and knew things would be closely monitored this time

3 months into this pregnancy I was in a road accident mowed down by a car and fucked my arm and shoulder up pretty bad, very low times and poor state of mind, healed now but the memory lingers

It became clearer as the pregnancy progressed that things were going well and we were expecting a beautiful boy this time

7 months into the pregnancy I found out my mum had cancer, they'd missed these massive tumours on scans the year before and now they had found them it was too late to do anything about it

Baby boy delivered and safely with us now since last December, so much joy so many profound feels, so many tears, so much laughter
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Oliver Drillyhood - Sat, 16 Mar 2019 23:15:25 EST ID:/VMtALgL No.528414 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>528264
The first time I tried anti-depressants they helped me save my life. I was a mess, with a lot of stress and disappointment surrounding life events. The wellbutrin kicked me into getting off my ass and taking responsibility for my outlook on life. It helped a ton.

The second time, I was feeling generally depressed 24/7 so I went to the dr and got wellbutrin again, it had been a few years. It triggered psychosis that lasted quite a while. I had anxiety and paranoia through the roof for a few weeks after stopping.

However, my life did significantly improve within 2 months after that 100% of my own self motivation and doing.

So I can only say there is a correlation of me seeking anti-depressants, taking them, and then improving my overall mood and well-being
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Ian Fabblebanks - Sun, 17 Mar 2019 08:44:51 EST ID:se6i3Lfx No.528416 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528264

Did I say this already? Don't let anyone but a psychiatrist or maybe a regular doctor give you advice on meds. I think it's valuable to hear from other people about their experiences, but don't let anyone give you advice in one direction or the other. What matters is you feel and what path you take, because as long as you take the path that feels right to you you are taking the right path for you at this time. The problem is you are probably feeling so much at the moment that it's hard to even discern how you feel about the different paths, does that sound right? Anyway, I hope you are doing OK, OP, you have been through so much.
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Walter Snodwill - Tue, 19 Mar 2019 03:07:10 EST ID:mX27lD5h No.528445 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528308
I know where you're coming from, feeling pretty alright when someone is eyeing you down when they are attractive and then suddenly someone says something as insignificant as you look tired and it all being a mad spiral down into 3 weeks of deep depression and trying to sleep away all waking hours.


Mummy Blues by Cedric Dannerstire - Sat, 16 Mar 2019 05:09:24 EST ID:DoK4cjeL No.528402 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I am a part-time working mother with a toddler. I live 3 hours from any family and most all of my good friends work full-time. I love my child more than life itself, but having him has made me lose the last of myself. My partner is a good man, and treats me right, but he lacks empathy and doesn't understand. when i try to talk to my mother i get comments like "well at least you didnt have to raise 3 kids on your own" as though i am a shit cunt for having the audacity to be upset about my life. I honestly have a fairly good life, but i constantly feel lonely and like i am being a fake version of myself
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Barnaby Pengercocke - Sun, 17 Mar 2019 13:21:48 EST ID:MnhSzLT7 No.528418 Ignore Report Quick Reply
There is always murder-suicide
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Augustus Choblington - Sun, 17 Mar 2019 19:23:38 EST ID:NJkLq9MW No.528421 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528402
eat the child and reclaim what has been lost
try again another day
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Edwin Fuckingman - Sun, 17 Mar 2019 21:50:31 EST ID:Bf3O3806 No.528426 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528421
I heard some say this on /420/ to if tbis is true. Holy shit lmao.



Crazy Ass Woman by Isabella Gallerham - Mon, 11 Mar 2019 15:18:49 EST ID:OuQCp+w8 No.528348 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So, I'm with this girl and my parents like her and stuff, she looks out for me, gives me rides but I'm not attracted to her at all. I've been speaking to her for a few months and instead of taking things slow, she tries to rush everything and that's all she does is seek constant affection and validation. I'm kinda forced to crash at her place until I get a job and my parents let me move back in and all it is is her constantly up my ass. Because I have a drinking and drug problem she doesn't allow me to drink or do drugs and is constantly suspicious of me. I want to break it off with her but she is such an emotional trainwreck that it's going to be real tough. She always is texting back and fourth with my dad giving him updates and shit about how I'm doing. I'm real sick of this, I shouldve never hooked up with her when I was drunk that ONE time. That's all it's been is her stalking me on social media and trying to make life decisions for me since. I fucking hate it.

Quick Example: I sit down on the couch, just get comfy, and shell want me to get up to show her affection like every fucking 15 minutes if not she'll bitch and moan about how I dont like her.
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Frederick Lightlock - Sat, 16 Mar 2019 06:06:43 EST ID:USUZpST+ No.528405 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528392
>I know how you feel and understand you unlike these posters before me.
Fuck off. Nobody's saying she's entirely stable or not controlling. She pretty clearly isn't quite right.
But OP's being a little bitch refusing to take any responsibility for what is his fault.
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George Fankinspear - Sun, 17 Mar 2019 19:52:47 EST ID:JCATCBbz No.528423 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528392
You could even build on this one, OP. Make it clear to the girl that she's micromanaging you, you don't like it and will leave her if she continues. That way, when she continues you can leave without guilt. TADAA I SOLVED IT
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George Dallerdot - Sun, 17 Mar 2019 20:38:42 EST ID:6002AjTj No.528424 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528348
You have become her project. The whole relationship is built around her fixing you. If you can't grow a pair and tell her to GTFO (hard to do when living with her and being supported by her) you're only hope is to fox yourself. Get a job, control the drug use, keep in touch with your parents, manage your life like an adult. She doesn't want an independent man at this point. She wants a project. You're basically Mom training for her.


Money by Martin Mongerway - Sun, 17 Mar 2019 16:56:29 EST ID:VMWI2UQi No.528419 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>SO I need a new computer to start a business ....
*Have no job .
*cant sell blood right now .

OMG...
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George Fankinspear - Sun, 17 Mar 2019 19:47:42 EST ID:JCATCBbz No.528422 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528419
Drop your standards yo.
Get a used computer. Time to call in familial and friend favors, too. Mooch and beg if you have to. If you can't sell your blood or plasma at the moment sell something else.
Don't steal people's shit to sell. I've done it and you feel worse than a chronic plasma donor. Maybe start a gofundme and just beg. I've heard rumor that there are folk who donate money to people like yourself. Eh, good luck regardless being broke blooooowwwwws. If you get a job make it self-employment that way you can work when you want to.


Bad impulse control by Fucking Buckleson - Sat, 02 Mar 2019 05:15:45 EST ID:rcQ4DkqY No.528256 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey ya'll,

Ever end up in a situation that if it were ever exposed it would be the most shamefully carrer ending cancelation of your life?

If so how do you deal with the pressure of whether oor not it was noticed?
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Beatrice Femmlefud - Mon, 11 Mar 2019 06:55:04 EST ID:hPe+PGxO No.528347 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I told a few people about some stuff I was ashamed of. Some of them went on to semi avoid me, maintaining a polite distance. That's fair. One close friend was just flattered I'd confided in him and that strengthened our friendship. Another instantly saw it in the most positive light imaginable. She didn't even stop to think about it, didn't see it as something to be ashamed of but noble even. I guess my point is that even if this thing is worrying you and seems career ending, not everyone will interpret it the same way. Just look at all the idiots on the news defending themselves for having said horrendous things; to them they've done nothing wrong but in reality they've done something truly career ending. What seems like the end of the world to you may not be at all.
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Eliza Trotspear - Sat, 16 Mar 2019 11:34:44 EST ID:OfJhx+DI No.528410 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528256
Just about all of it. Nobody who doesnt deal with you on a daily basis actually gives a fuck about you and only judge you when it's topical to do so and then you go back to being a total afterthought.

I don't really ever give a fuck because I don't feel like putting in the amount of effort required to do so, and see no reason to. What do other people know? Why would I, why should I care? Even if they knew it all, same question.

Life just happens, and it's always happening. The details of my life or anybody else's for that matter only mean what you believe they do and in the context of the interaction between and consideration of human beings. Life has all sorts of consequences and meaning outside the specific context of our interactions with one another, and potentially even more so. I don't naturally subscribe to the meaning things have specifically in the context of my interactions with others or their interactions with one another.

By a similar token, I have no immediate reactions when it comes to the things people say or admit to feeling that they believe is fucked up, weird, awkward, disgusting, morally wrong, bizarre, or whatever. People often wind up following up statements I have absolutely no problem with or real reaction to with some kind of qualifying statement or precede it with one (such as "alright i know this is gonna sound really fucked but", etc.). I just don't conceptualize/see the world that way. It's borderline if not outright autistic in a lot of ways.

Sometimes I will choose to see something in a negative light/wrong or weird or something like that, but it's always an actual choice of mine. I never get any kind of unconscious reaction to what they say, i never actually feel anything about it. Because of that, I'm easily capable of accepting people unconditionally. I really couldn't give less of a fuck how people think about things or especially how they feel about things. This includes whether they like me, whether they first thought i was a crackhead or an annoying douchebag when we first met, or if they like something they like, etc. People can feel how they want to feel about things, th…
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Eliza Trotspear - Sat, 16 Mar 2019 11:44:50 EST ID:OfJhx+DI No.528411 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I guess the best way to describe it is definitely that I lack any sense of shame when it comes to anything I don't deem to matter.

Also, I see things in a way that I suppose echoes Christian views, even though I definitely don't really draw my ideas from that. People suck. Not just some, everybody does. We're all pieces of shit, at least from time to time. Doesn't matter how much somebody actively tries to be good or is always shitty, even though I take that into consideration, it doesn't absolve us of anything. We're all disgusting, we're all pathetic, we're all gross, we're all total fucks, we're all biased, we all hurt each other (even without meaning to), we all do fucked up things, we all hate somebody, we all feel all kinds of different ways about things, we all have our personal opinions and beliefs about things. If I am capable of disregarding the beliefs and opinions of some people, why wouldn't I be capable of disregarding the beliefs and opinions of everybody? I choose when I want to regard others opinions, beliefs, and feelings.

It's not that I have some kind of haughty/cocky/arrogant attitude of contemptuous disregard for others or their opinions, a la Awe God's attitude of "fuck everybody else", I just simply don't care or regard what they have to think or say in the first place unless I want to and choose to do so. They aren't me, I'm not them, we all think, believe, and see things differently, and that's not an issue for me; I accept that and am at peace with that fact.


I think I'm losing my mind by Phoebe Bullyfure - Tue, 12 Mar 2019 15:13:20 EST ID:Y2w8xxhJ No.528365 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've always been kind of like this but it's only gotten worse since last year, I'm always feeling nervous and worried that something awful is going to happen, I cant sleep very well, my heart often beats too fast and I feel a pressure in my throat, even spending a little money makes me feel that way because I can't stop thinking I'll lose all of it soon.

It's made much worse by the fact I'm not so straight and despite they being nice, the people in my area love ultra-conservatives and homophobes, it makes me feel I'm being surrounded and threatened all the time, so I never talk about sexuality, quite often I get so angry I feel like punching people to save myself.

I'd like to talk to a psychologist or psychiatrist but I'm scared of being locked in the nuthouse or sounding so stupid they won't understand me, give me ideas or something.
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Jack Wicklekut - Fri, 15 Mar 2019 20:27:16 EST ID:ffVpGLbu No.528400 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528394
What you practice is a form of mindfulness that is known as "acceptance and commital" when I did therapy this is the approach my therapist helped me with.

That was definitely one of the things I beat my anxiety with but I recommend hitting it from as many angles as possible. It's very much a problem that exists in your mind so overkill is particularly effective. Understanding what causes it and that you're more scared of the anxiety itself most of the time helps. Realising that what you're afraid of isn't that scary or real a threat helps too. Mindfulness is a good way to bring that together. Sometimes I get the physical effects but I know it's just my body reacting and don't engage.

We can definitely change the way we relate to our emotions. Sometimes it's good to feel something, it reinforces the right behavior. One of the first steps in making your emotions work for you rather than being their slave is realising that they can work for you and you don't have to be their slave.
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Betsy Fendlebury - Fri, 15 Mar 2019 23:39:33 EST ID:dJEw/uJZ No.528401 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528400
I wish my therapist brought that up with me, I learned about mindfulness, and separating emotion from thought from the book the power of now by Tolle. Which I consider a great self help book despite what some may say. But I never realized or thought at all that I could use my emotions as a tool instead of just trying to separate myself from them.. You really just made me think... as stupid as that may make me sound... But on my journey of dealing with anxiety, which is ongoing in the present I just haven't realized yet that the end goal is to work with my emotions for good. I've kind of gotten to the point where I'm just trying to separate myself from the negative ones as well as I can and not really put any thought into my emotions other than that.

So what do you mean when you say I can make my emotions work for me?
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Jack Wicklekut - Sat, 16 Mar 2019 06:06:48 EST ID:ffVpGLbu No.528406 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528401
What I mean is the idea that you have negative and positive emotions. Simply just chasing those feelings leads to people taking the short term gratitude at the expense of the long term then being stuck in a rut. You can't just kind of ignore negative feelings, you can encourage the positive though.

When you make a good long term decision you can allow yourself to feel extra good. When the rewards start to come in from that short term sacrifice you can explore and fully experience the good feelings that come with it. By doing so you reward long term thinking and your emotions pull you towards better decisions.

I lost 40% of my bodyweight, I remain mindful of my new ease of movement and physical confidence to this day. Getting out of bed and doing a thing rather than being a useless piece of shit all day is not immediately rewarding but later today when my bathroom is cleaner I will feel some comfort in it being fresh and free of mould (it's a cupboard bathroom so it's a real issue in winter), when I studied my vocational course and passed exams I felt good about all the times I'd spent 30 minutes an evening and 2 hours a day at weekends not playing video games and just forcing myself to work on, re read, test myself (the hardest bit tbh) on the knowledge I learned to make it stick.


Forever wizard by Samuel Budgeville - Sat, 23 Feb 2019 22:54:08 EST ID:UpdFegT9 No.528186 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Any advice for a guy who can't get a gf, advice on how to make peace with being forever a spider monkey's butt? im not looking just looking to stop sex needs, i also need to curb the need for a meaningfull, loving relationship
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Priscilla Heddleped - Tue, 12 Mar 2019 01:07:45 EST ID:v1KBCftA No.528356 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528344
I have tried bro, didn't work out so far
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Awe God !!vVWR8L52 - Wed, 13 Mar 2019 07:45:32 EST ID:qsLoK+yS No.528377 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528356
There's no other way. Even if you get a GF it would only serve to distract you from the fact that you are unhappy with yourself and from doing stuff about it. You'd just think, oh I simply have to improve the relationship in this and that way and then I'll be happy, but what the real benefit lies is in getting comfortable and happy with yourself. IMO
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Clara Fanstock - Thu, 14 Mar 2019 17:19:13 EST ID:Lny7/LNo No.528393 Ignore Report Quick Reply
While I agree with the "Become happy with yourself first" guy, I get how that can seem like a pretty impossible option. Especially without someone to serve as an outside source and confirm your credibility as a person.

Honestly? My last romantic attempts were when I was 18, so around 13 years ago. It backfired pretty fucking hard, by the way. Girl was a complete cunt, cost me more money, time and hours of sleep than it was worth. Everything after that was just more of a disaster, I don't think my heart's really in it any more. I've witnessed so many relationships, engagements and marriages fall apart in spectacularly destructive and painful ways that I'm starting to think real negatively about the concept of love. It's just chemicals in your head at this point, easy to replace with intoxication (drugs, I recommend weed but a few tries with shrooms could clear your head out as well), conversation & masturbation.


Drunk dad by Basil Blonnershaw - Sun, 03 Mar 2019 16:19:41 EST ID:aHljEXIz No.528286 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I’m 26. Live at home out of financial necessity. Have lived with an alcoholic father who gets aggressive and unpleasant on a fairly unpredictable but cyclical basis.

Me and my brother have both had to defend our mother on several occasions.

He recently fucked Christmas up, stayed off booze 6 weeks, picked this weekend to start fucking things up again. Tried to fight my mum and my brother. Also was found unconscious and had pissed his pants lol.

Mum seems afraid to leave him, compared it to escaping Scientology.

I’m just looking for outside opinions on gameplan, strategy and insights. I can throw my dad around easily so it’s not a true physical risk but my mum is a different matter.

Idk really, I’m conditioned to this, so it’s sort of underwhelming for me now but I know that something needs done. He rejects counselling, hates everybody and thinks he’s too smart to be told anything.
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Cyril Fuffingtark - Thu, 07 Mar 2019 13:25:17 EST ID:jnas4L6T No.528314 Ignore Report Quick Reply
i wish you the best of luck OP. you have righteous intentions.
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Ebenezer Crobberson - Tue, 12 Mar 2019 12:25:33 EST ID:1ZN3eOkX No.528360 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>OP update

For the last week my dad took the piss. He was amazon prime ordering litre bottles of vodka. A lot of shouting whenever anybody was in the house.

My brother and mother spent a week in a hotel. I’ve been living at my girlfriends with her 3 year old since last Monday whilst waiting for the havoc to blow over.

He’s been issued a restraining order style court notice.

He’s also, after a whole week, stopped drinking. He has admitted he has a drink problem and other family members posited the idea he has paranoid personality disorder, which he needs help for.

We are collecting keys for a flat tomorrow, although my mother and brother don’t want to move out the house.

My dad is supposedly going to do some expensive rehab which we will sell his car to pay for.

For me, it’s been a rough week. Totally disturbed my freelance work, my stress levels have been high enough to get a facial tick at times. I feel pretty tired.
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Ernest Chirringmat - Wed, 13 Mar 2019 03:54:41 EST ID:USUZpST+ No.528373 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>528360
That's some real shit you're going through. Stay strong friend.


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