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I'm Stuck by Molly Sundlelone - Fri, 29 Dec 2017 02:29:42 EST ID:dFYU0iAz No.520918 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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So she's sleeping next to me right now. I've known her for about a month. We started hanging out often pretty quick. She told me she was pre-med but her mom revealed to me that was a lie. She confirmed it was a lie. So she lied to me for a month. A few days after that we talked about what she wants to do with her life and that was painful. She doesn't know, she's depressed, she was talking about her gramps dying and abusive ex and was snappy and defensive when offered solutions. So she has no job no money no car and today she moved in after she took me to get her stuff from her mom's cuz they were arguing yet again about whatever. We were talking about it kinda but I was unsure and never said yes but today it happened. I feel like I was hustled.

I have ED. I rarely get an erection and when I do it doesn't last long. She's aware and has stuck around despite of it. I give good head so there's that. I feel like this is the biggest reason I deal with her because most girls don't even text back after I can't fuck them. She's not the best conversationial partner. She loves to smoke weed and I'm in the military. She lied for a month. She doesn't do any chores. I've asked her why she likes being over here she said cuz she doesn't like it at her moms. I said why do you like me she said because I take good care of her. Is that what this is? She's 19 I'm 28.

Plz help.
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Ian Blembleham - Fri, 29 Dec 2017 04:44:20 EST ID:4mBRTEqI No.520921 Ignore Report Quick Reply
28 w/ ED? Do you drink or take medication? Eating good? Exercising regularly?

She does sound like she's looking to freeload.

Really comes down to if you enjoy this person's company or not. If you do stick with it, if she still isn't doing anything in a few months just be blunt and tell her you can't keep taking care of her.
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Martin Mellerway - Fri, 29 Dec 2017 05:27:23 EST ID:hlZEHdKh No.520922 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520918
As a fellow service member. Lose the tag chaser bro. Before she evolves into a dependapotamous. Sounds like she is only a few levels away too.

Shit is only going to get worse/stressful. Take it from a dumbass who waited despite the signs. Think, will it be easier now? Or three years later?

You have a right to make your needs and wants stated. Tell her what you are feeling. And next time, don't let some needy teens walk over you to set up shop in your life. Use that spine damnit.
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Edward Pittbanks - Fri, 29 Dec 2017 08:18:46 EST ID:n/AytbVt No.520923 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520921

I've been addicted to porn for some 10 years now. I assume its tied to that. But I recently started seeing a doctor and he tells me to quit smoking and he's gonna check my testosterone levels. I don't eat as healthy as I should and I should work out more, but I do some of both. It's really depressing. As anxious as this girl makes me she has a really nice body and not being able to have sex with her leaves me feeling like shit most of the time. Even when we do have sex I can tell she's unsatisfied. We talked about it she claimed she can be patient and that its not a problem so far. But that doesn't do anything for my self esteem.
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Ian Blembleham - Fri, 29 Dec 2017 10:09:50 EST ID:4mBRTEqI No.520925 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520923
Yea, try quitting porn and smoking. Something is definitely causing it.
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Nicholas Haddledidge - Fri, 29 Dec 2017 17:59:58 EST ID:OAfeAZ05 No.520940 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520925
could be one of the experimental chemicals the military was sneaking into his bloodstream
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Augustus Hiffingdut - Tue, 02 Jan 2018 15:30:12 EST ID:dFYU0iAz No.521093 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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So just an update. On Friday we had a talk about why I didn't seem warm when I went to work that morning. I told her I'm like stressed because I would appreciate if she helped with chores. I'm the only one working and that's ok but I don't want to come home after that and still have to do everything at home. She says ok. She says she's not a lazy teen that doesn't wanna do chores. I also tell her ok you can smoke in here occasionally but I would appreciate if you hide your pipes and your weed instead of leaving it out on the open. She says ok.

That night she leaves to go out with friends and she didn't do any chores before she left or hide her weed. Saturday she comes back and is in and out all day hanging with friends. At this point In shutting down not really talking to her or trying. Still no chores, weed still out. Sunday she's gone all day so I decide to just do a thorough cleaning of my home. Even though the whole top half of the trash was shit she put in there and had been ignoring for three days. She texts me like wyd what's with you today I barely text back. She comes back at like 2 am and everything's clean so she folds her clothes that she had just thrown all over the couch. Hides her weed and pipes. Organized her shit on the table. Ok cool.

The next day I see that and I try to warm back up to her. She goes oh now you wanna associate with me. I joke at first like nah watchu talm bout. Then I tell her like yeah I've been upset because you didn't do the things that I asked even after we talked and you said ok. And I also threw in how it would've been nice for you to include me in your weekend considering you live here and were fucking etc. She gets super defensive, angry, yelling, eventually telling me were not boyfriend and girlfriend yet we still have separate lives. I'm like damn. But you're living here. She's mad and turning everything I say inside out for 30 minutes then I tell and leave the room like I I JUST WANTED YOU TO TAKE OUT THE TRASH AND HIDE YOUR FUCKING WEED. Downhill from there.

She leaves to go back to her mom who she claims she didn't have anymore. Told me I should understand how that feels because my mom is dead btw. Doesn't text me. Comes back later with friends they ignore me pack her shit and leave. She leaves stuff. I'm like yo you left some stuff. More arguing she claims she wants to talk it out just don't throw my stuff away I'm like cool. She comes in with her friend ignores me and gets her stuff and leaves. Now I'm blocked on everything. But there's still some of her stuff here... It's like damn you're incapable of cleaning up after yourself even with two separate trips to do so.

I get it. She's crazy. Irresponsible. Lazy. Inconsiderate. Used me 'til I started wanting effort in return. But she really made me feel like it's me. I'm not hearing her, I'm throwing shit in her face. All I wanted was for her to know how I felt and that was a problem. Now I'm feeling super fucking guilty, depressed, at fault, can't get this out of my mind. Feels bad man.
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Augustus Hiffingdut - Tue, 02 Jan 2018 16:10:20 EST ID:dFYU0iAz No.521097 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521095

I'm sitting here conversation with myself. Directed at her. And I'm realizing this. It wasn't me it was her. I did so much for her and in return she was just a lazy pothead that couldn't even clean up after herself. She was good at the guilt trip. Deflecting. And I'm a depressive so my anger has a tendency to be pointed inward. But honestly dude fuck her. I worked too hard to get to where I'm at in my life to have someone come in and get it taken away from me because their "friend" gave them weed and didn't put it anything and left weed residue in my car that she never even thought to clean. No.

House keeping is just appreciation 101. Effort. And I shouldn't have to ask, but I did. She wanted me to do what, ask again? Hound her about it? It's like no I told you what's up and you're still ignoring it fucking off with your friends, your actions tell me where I stand. FUCKING EW
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Charles Cleddlewill - Tue, 02 Jan 2018 21:35:54 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.521105 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Literally all you need is viagra dude. And don't let some girl you barely know weasel her way into your house next time. You'll be fine.
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Henry Gissleshit - Wed, 03 Jan 2018 13:09:16 EST ID:Wb85zBYx No.521129 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521093
>Now I'm feeling super fucking guilty
She literally just said whatever she thought would make you feel bad. She brazenly tried to manipulate you.

If you had not done this she'd keep breaking you down until you feel you deserve that piece of shit. She was an emotionally abusive, manipulative piece of shit. Take some time to enjoy the absence of the burden that is her and remember to avoid women like her in future. When you have a decent relationship you'll appreciate it and also how bad this way. But just take my advice, don't try another relationship until you sincerely feel that this was bad and you have an idea of all the warning signs you both acknowledged but went on past but also ignored at the time. I'm not saying the moment a girl says she's pre med (though that's a common "i'm a piece of shit" lie told by awful women to elevate themselves, seriously) bail, but don't get too emotionally engaged too quickly and keep an eye open for shitty behavior. Be ready to disengage and if bad signs keep showing up slow down, if she continues to exhibit piece of shit like behavior keep slowing down until you're in reverse. The accelerate the fuck out of there.


Your ED is probably 90% performance anxiety and 10% adverse circumstances when you try to fuck. There's no easy solution except making sure every bit of that 10% is entirely favourable and being with a girl who knows you might need an attempt or two. I mean even make sure you've slept properly and stuff.

Anyway OP. Congratulations. You escaped before it got any worse. Fuckin A. This thread delivered meaningful positive change. Fuckin A.
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Albert Mabbersturk - Thu, 04 Jan 2018 17:49:22 EST ID:PyczVLbJ No.521164 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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DICKS EVERYWHERE
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Matilda Pinningchack - Thu, 04 Jan 2018 18:21:14 EST ID:dFYU0iAz No.521165 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>521164

LMAO pointed edge outward.

But yeah another update. I put the rest of her shit in a bag and took it to her moms. She was the one that opens the door, I'm like heres your stuff I wasn't gonna throw it out. Shes like thanks. I say it's be nice if you unblocked me. She unblocked me on the spot and smiled etc. I leave, she texts me throughout the day about her sister stole her clothes, she just wants a blunt and a nap etc. I'm like yuck. She calls later she tells me about her weekend and all these parties she went to, all this weed she smoked and coke she did. Her friend had a gun etc. Internally I'm like yeah this is gross. She texts me later cuz we were gonna hang out and she wanted to know if she could borrow my car to help her friend sell weed etc. I literally just replied "No." I was super fucking proud of myself. She says ok I'll be by after that but she never came by. Claims she fell asleep after her mom made dinner etc.

Today I go take her Subway and a swisher so she can smoke. She came and ate with me on my lunch break it was ok. But I texted her after that she hasn't texted back. Called her she didn't answer hasn't called back. I'm realizing I'm being used you knkw, she's only friendly when she wants something. Story of my life.

So idk, I still wanna fuck tbh. I'll put in the effort to do that but all the rest of this shit is dead. She's irresponsible and her mentality towards life and lack of goals or ambition is unattractive. So I'm getting there. Just still getting played a little. But I'm getting there. She's not really a good fit for me, and even though its because she's this manipulative ass 19 year old pothead, it really just comes down to incompatibility.

Pic related. That's her. Fuck it who cares, she's probably deepthroating someone else's cock as we speak.
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Archie Nimblecocke - Thu, 04 Jan 2018 19:19:25 EST ID:Wb85zBYx No.521166 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521165
I would cut all ties asap. Not even the pussy is worth it for the way she's prepared to fuck with your head.

It's not that she smokes pot, or even that she's incompatable (though you're right she is) because her life goals are completely incompatible (this alone is a deal breaker). She's just a horrible person. Maybe she'll grow up but there's being 19 and a bit of a shit and that's normal. This is not that.

Being single blows ass but being in a shit relationship is worse. People who are in happy relationships live longest and happiest and healthiest but people in shitass ones have the worst lives, worse than single people and they're committed to this piece of shit and can't find someone good. Get this girl out your life so if someone good comes along she can't interfere.
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Clara Sirrytet - Thu, 04 Jan 2018 19:53:53 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.521168 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521165
Holy shit you're an idiot. Should have blocked her yourself, not go begging her for more. If you want to fuck, ignore her then randomly ask for a fuck some time. If she says no, keep ignoring her until she comes around. You're being a bitch and driving her to subway and shit, have some fucking self respect dude.
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Charles Wanderdug - Thu, 04 Jan 2018 20:15:08 EST ID:dFYU0iAz No.521170 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521168

I didn't drive her to Subway I brought her Subway ;_;

And yes I realize that now. Fuck her. These situations always feel better when I'm the one that did the rejecting, not the other way around. I'm sure she will try to text or call me at some point and that's when I'll have my opportunity to ignore HER and reject HER. I thought she was gonna at least be hanging out but she's not even gonna do that BUT STILL ask for shit. Nah son. At least I told her fuck ass "NO" when she asked for my car yesterday. A few dollars for a shitty sandwich is something I would spend on a homeless man if he asked. It's nothing major. She's a cunt.

It's fucking Subway and a swisher. She's still broke, finessing for sandwiches. I'm not gonna allow myself to be upset over some broke bitch that uses people for $7 combo meals. I've given women thousands of dollars in the past, this letting her borrow shit that's already mine for a few weeks was nothing in conparison. She can go eat a fucking dick.
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Ian Chillerford - Fri, 05 Jan 2018 00:03:36 EST ID:TUgPV7Lr No.521181 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521170
Yeah, it'll be a non-stop cycle of normalcy and attentiveness, and isolation and detachment when you deny her amenities.

She's a pre-evolution tag chaser. Once she hits lvl.21, it will upgrade to healthcare, and benefits.
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James Blackspear - Fri, 05 Jan 2018 12:18:02 EST ID:B9o+UJ3t No.521197 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521165
She's gross and dumb. For fucks sake don't fuck around with people that fucking stupid and obnoxious.
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Betsy Nollytud - Sat, 06 Jan 2018 20:44:14 EST ID:f4vEq2nO No.521230 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521165
jfc she's like a 6/10 at best. all this ado about that thot? come on man, other than you being a loser you sound reasonably chad (military and all) to be able to get a woman that isn't some dumb pothead cunt.
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Walter Pellydale - Mon, 08 Jan 2018 03:19:28 EST ID:cMzsHIx1 No.521265 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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As someone who suffers from ED, do yourself a favor and try one or more of the following:

1) Attempt to determine why you're having ED. Lack of blood flow? Lack of proper signaling from the brain? Is your ED caused by excessive porn viewing?

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/erectile-dysfunction-and-porn

https://www.erectiledysfunction.com/causes/




2) At the very least, get some viagra or cialis. This helps me 1000%, and takes away the anxiety of wondering whether or not I will be able to get it up.
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Polly Crammlesture - Tue, 09 Jan 2018 20:46:28 EST ID:eLRQSL1/ No.521325 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Dude just adding to the comments, you need to get away from this toxic cunt. One of these days she'll lie to her drug friends and they'll kick your ass or try to steal stuff from you. It's good that she's no longer in your house. You did the right thing.

Respect yourself, if you want to get laid then save for a month and get a somewhat decent hooker. No pussy is worth this much trouble
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Sidney Drinderstock - Wed, 10 Jan 2018 01:40:09 EST ID:UZC9gHak No.521335 Ignore Report Quick Reply
oh fuck you if i lost a boner one time a chick would go suck some other dudes cock
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John Bardway - Sun, 11 Feb 2018 11:00:54 EST ID:dFYU0iAz No.522111 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Update.

So January was just games. The Friday after I made this post, my best friend died in a car accident. He was 19 and pretty much my protege, but also my best friend. She met this man. Made holes in his jeans one day so he'd pay her and she could buy weed. I had to escort the body to Florida and meet his family and all this shit. Not once did she acknowledge this even hapoened. I got a "I'm sorry babe" the first night when I told her and that was it. Even went as far to tell me, upon being called out for it: "I have stuff going on too I can't just drop everything and come save you".

She kept playing games and barely hanging out and flaking a lot. Barely texting. The morning after she flaked and didn't even tell me she was no longer coming, she calls me first thing to come get her. That turned into me taking her nephew to daycare and bringing her home with me where she stayed until her friend got out of school and came and got her. I kept pressing "hey I like you what are we doing" and just got ignored or minimized or the subject changed. Eventually it got messy and I started texting way too much at a time, eventually tagging her in a FB post calling out all her manipulation and bullshit because I was blatantly being ignored (despite crumbs of ok we can talk this day, I like you, I told my dealer I really like you and he won't sell to me anymore). Then she wanted to argue, say this is why I don't wanna associate with you etc. I was just saying I'm done im done shit up. She blocks me. A few days later i hit her up on insta apologizing and saying "that's not how you walk away I'm sorry, i shouldn't be in your life you deserve a man that can handle you etc". She never accepted the message. Saw her Twitter a few days after that and she was giving attention to all these dudes all of January (telling me she wasnt), and she was just so hoodrattish nothing like how she was with me. I left a lot of DMs and was gonna delete them when I got back from PT but she had already saw them and blocked me. Then I saw a housekeeping ad she made and made a fake number offering her a job etc but I owned up to it the same day and said this is weird and too much Ill leave you alone. She called me a psycho said "THIS AND EVERYTHING YOU'VE DONE IS WHY I DON'T WANNA ASSOCIATE WITH YOU" and said if I ever contact her again she will call the police and tell my military advisors etc.

One of you guys said this is nothing compared to how this girl is about to fuck with your head. You were right. I got way too attached, she was always around always texting for a month. Moved in after three weeks. It was hard to let it go gracefully because I've never had that. I should've just fallen back when I saw that she was obviously just stringing me along but I couldnt. I left the situation with the upper hand to her, and the ammo she needs to make me one of the long line of "crazy exes".

I'm not a psycho. I'm not a stalker. I was hurting and begging and being pathetic. Now I'm just a mess. It's like I know she wasn't shit, she played the fuck out of me, she lied constantly, used me for whatever she wanted. I've been used my whole life going back to childhood and that's honestly the role I took: that of a caregiver. Now it's my mom dying of cancer despite my best efforts all over again. I'm back in therapy.

Is it normal to be so stupid when you're too invested in someone and they're determined to leave, pop in and out of your life with crumbs of affection, etc? I'm guilty about a lot that I did during the situation, letting her just cry and disarm me when I learned she lied about her whole identity, shutting down all weekend when I told her can you help with chores and hide your weed and she said ok and DIDN'T FUCKING DO IT, and then if course how I acted towards the end instead of being cool. Being cool was fucking hard, I was grieving my best friend and coming to terms with the reality that she never truly gave a fuck and just played with my mind to get what she wanted. Also I was way too generous too soon, allowed her in my space too often too soon. This is a learning experience of course but it fucking hurts and I can't differentiate between what was her being a shitty person and what was me not being a good enough man.
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Lillian Nickleson - Sun, 11 Feb 2018 13:13:02 EST ID:COAX7aNZ No.522116 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522111
First of all I'm sorry about your friend. The way events played out he was kind of watching over you in death. I mean who knows how long you'd have gone on wasting time on this awful person if you'd not had this shakeup?

Don't play the blame game. Just look at the situation and figure out how you can apply it going forward. There are signs that she gave, some of which you noted and ignored some of which you'd only know to look for that you didn't clock. There are reactions you had. You tolerated too much and you know this now.

It is normal to get invested and talk yourself into a sunk cost fallacy with relationships but it's not sensible.

Don't worry if it's you or her. Just think about how if it happens next time you can avoid getting in deep with a crazy bitch.

For example the fact she lied off the bat, moved in within a month because she argued with her mum. I mean at that point you shouldn't have let a girl you barely know and who has already told massive lies move in. You probably should have aborted the moment that lie came up but lets say you didn't, you should have slowed the fuck down and gotten to know her well before committing. No one's perfect and everyone brings up warning signs sometimes but when you see them you slow the fuck down. One of three things follows. Either they come out as a cunt like this one and you dump them. They disrespect your want to go slowly and get annoyed. Or they are okay with it and slowly you learn they're consistently alright. Only in the latter situation do you want to keep going. By going slowly you can also regularly ask yourself important questions
>is she actually making my life better?
>is she actually a decent person?
>does she actually care about me?

And even if the answer to the above is yes, there's still
>Does our relationship dynamic work or is it unstable?

Now on the bright side you've wasted 3 months on this sack of shit not 3 years. Cut her out quickly and thoroughly and get on with your own life.
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John Bardway - Sun, 11 Feb 2018 13:41:32 EST ID:dFYU0iAz No.522117 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522113

Like I said, I've never had this before. Some girl constantly at my house, moving so fast. I've never actually had a real girlfriend. The longest I've been involved with someone was a long distance that that lasted 5 months. I think I look ok, I definitely gotta lift weights though. And as far as how often do I get girls, 2017 was the most consistent I was sexually active ever and that was about 7 girls. I mainly use Tinder.

That's something she said. "You're throwing temper tantrum after temper tantrum". Which I don't see how trying to communicate is a "temper tantrum". But a couple of those instances at the end were driven by anger and frustration over how she was just being an abusive cunt.

I think she was probably the hottest girl I've been with so far. Fat ass. I loved giving her head. She would do cute things like sit in my car curled in the passenger seat and eat her ice cream right out of the container with a spoon. Always finding her hair everywhere. Got used to her smell. Fuck man.
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John Bardway - Sun, 11 Feb 2018 13:53:17 EST ID:dFYU0iAz No.522118 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522116

Thanks dude. I think back to the day I learned she lied a lot. I came home and she was there and she immediately confronted me making the issue that I talked to her mom. "You're not gonna be talking to my mom because your mom is dead". Then calls her mom to yell about how she's never loved her and she always does this and hangs up and crumpled in the chair crying. At this point I'm disarmed and its swept under the rug. That's why I say she was psychologically abusive because that was my moment to slow down and take control but she turned the tables and made me feel as though she needed me to "just understand*. I wish I had time to think before that all happened but I didnt. Didn't have time to seek counsel either. It just happened.

And the other big thing was me shutting down after I communicated to her what I wanted her to do to contribute to the home. I could've just cleaned up that night and saw if she cleaned up her shit the next day. Could've gotten up when she was here Saturday and cleaned and either asked her to help or watched as she just did it herself. No woman deserves to feel taken for granted or unwelcome because her man is ignoring her like a child. But it's also a lot on my mind at the time. This person lied, who is she. She is already moved in and gives me nothing. Why does she never seen to make time for me and I'm always chasing her. So shutting down can be normal right? But what about her response on Monday to completely devalue me and throw all these bullshit accusations at me and then just run away? That wasn't fucking fair.

You're right man. So right gotta slow down when they do shit that's weird or you don't like. Gotta pull back. Unfortunately for me I couldn't because I was so enamored with the level of attention, intinacy, and presence. Never had it before. I lost my damn mind.
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Lillian Nickleson - Sun, 11 Feb 2018 15:08:10 EST ID:COAX7aNZ No.522122 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522118
>Unfortunately for me I couldn't
You said I'm right but spent the whole post saying
>I couldn't.

No
>I didn't
And that's fine. But you could have and next time you will.
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Nicholas Brubberway - Mon, 12 Feb 2018 00:05:19 EST ID:8Z/GbSYU No.522146 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522111
You are a pathetic beta. How do you live with yourself?
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Walter Duckdale - Mon, 12 Feb 2018 05:38:44 EST ID:/RfNfJ0+ No.522155 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522111
Just own your actions buddy. You were the one who kept running back to her. Kept reverting to 100% commitment mindset. Kept cyberstalking her.

Why? Blame her shittiness on her but blame your chumpy neediness on none other than yourself. Why are you a chump?
What do you need?
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Caroline Waddlecheck - Mon, 12 Feb 2018 06:31:16 EST ID:dFYU0iAz No.522156 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522155

That's what I'm doing. Just trying to separate what I did wrong with what she did wrong. Because she was very good at passing blame and making me feel like the majority of the shit was my fault. I am needy and have traits of a codependent.

But I'm just trying to own MY actions. I'm not taking on the full burden of everything that was wrong because like most of you have said, she was crazy and she was shitty. Being guilty about what she was doing on her own doesn't help me move on.
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Caroline Waddlecheck - Mon, 12 Feb 2018 06:33:43 EST ID:dFYU0iAz No.522157 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522146

I was fine with every other girl in 2017. I was able to spot being unattracted, was able to spot crazy, able to spot who was just trying to use me and be up in my house. This girl was on another level when it came to the manipulation. I'm not a pathetic beta she just brought that out of me.
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Nigel Sipperville - Mon, 12 Feb 2018 07:59:28 EST ID:OjbqWJRv No.522159 Ignore Report Quick Reply
BUT LOOK RIGHT. No matter what, at the end of the day, I was a fucking simp. I was a weak little boy. I didn't establish boundaries. I constantly ignored red flags and accepted disrespect. I wasn't capable of being a good enough man to handle her, put her in her place, and be a leader in a relationship. That's it that's all tbh.

I have to lift weights. Take some boxing classes. Cooking classes. Do well in these last credits for my bachelors. Be more interesting, mentally vigilant. Be strong. I wasnt. I was stagnant and tried to bring a young woman into my stagnation.
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Archie Duckshit - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 06:58:13 EST ID:ef6bmTJo No.522226 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522159
Nah forget the getting buff and the being a higher form of yourself bullshit. Do it if you enjoy it but don't feel like you need it. The point is chill out and don't let your emotions and your dick lead you around like you're in a dog show.

Romance is best when it slowly unfolds, ideally after a fuck tonne of sex. If you're getting drunk off just being near a chick then stay the fuck back until you sober up. If you get nervous around her so much that you can't control yourself and you can't stop fantasizing about her or imagining the worst when she's not around it's going to be hard to have a good relationship at all. Get away from that kind of needy love for a bit. You don't need to have your world cave in over a chick mate. You're pretty cool. You still have a good life by yourself.

Tbh you sound like a dude that doesn't have much platonic intimacy. Get closer to your friends.
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Nicholas Gerringway - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 10:23:06 EST ID:xn5WBdes No.522232 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>520918
She is a parasite and will dump you.
Fix your penis and get rid of her.
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Nicholas Gerringway - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 10:40:22 EST ID:xn5WBdes No.522234 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>521165
damn niqqa get your shit together. Have some self respect. I'm not the kind of guy who would usually say something like this but: werent you in the military? dont they teach you to have some balls in there?
why did you even started to talk with her again smh
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Nicholas Gerringway - Wed, 14 Feb 2018 11:04:58 EST ID:xn5WBdes No.522235 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522111
you are clearly some sort of psycho because of obsseing so much with this hoe
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Martha Doffingtut - Fri, 16 Feb 2018 10:45:09 EST ID:dFYU0iAz No.522296 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>522232

That's what happened. I got manipulated and used and discarded when she got bored. The second month when she unblocked me was blatant use and that's why she kept pulling and pulling. Because I wasn't just letting her do whatever, I was either saying no or confronting her when things weren't adding up.

>>522234

The military has taught me how to keep my house clean, be on time for work, and not do drugs. It's not as life changing on a personal level as you think. It's mostly just a stable job with benefits. These situations are learning experiences, and I have a lot of learning to do because I had a very late start.


>>522235

I'm not a psycho. I was the victim of incessant psychological abuse. She wanted me to like her and feel comfortable so she could be in my house. She played off that later with intermittent attention to maintain deoendency. I'm not a psycho. I don't use people, lie to them, or manipulate them into doing what I want them to do with no regard for their feelings or mental health. She's the psycho. A psycho wouldn't stop just because someone threatened police involvement. A psycho wouldn't just accept no contact when there are still avenues to have contact. I am more in the realm of some sort of self-love deficiency and abandonment trauma. Hence the difficulty to just let it go despite overwhelming clues. And I'm letting her go. But it's hard. I have issues to work out in therapy for sure.


I just want to thank everyone for their advice. I'm sorry I didn't heed it sooner. I was sprung asf. The thought of her being just a hoe was damn near impossible to accept. I'm putting the pieces together and finally realizing it though. This was a valuable experience, however hurtful. Thank you for your support.


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