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Most of it starts with fixing your head. Just have to cut your losses, start with nothing and continue. Believing that you are capable of getting to where you need to go, is essential. If you don't, you just quit without entering the ring. It won't always feel like it, especially at the time, but it's better to be a bloody mess on the floor getting your ass kicked, than a pussy quivering in the corner, pissing themselves raw with fear at the idea of trying because "I JJUSSTT can't". So yeah, accept you are about to fight and get your shit in line.
Then you've got the usual self-improvement drive. Get your health in order via diet and exercise. Get some hobbies to keep your shit occupied when you ain't working. Go places. Do things. See people. Read books. Find new music. ETC. Not only are you gaining life XP, but this shit scores points with women in conversation - it gives you more to talk about. Hobbies which grow with your commitment are useful too, ie bodybuilding, art, music, martial arts, cycling etc. You might suck now but a year from now, you will be bigger, stronger and motivated to continue. Also, it should be a given that you begin sorting out all your shitty features like jerking off to anime, sleeping till 5pm after a late night video game binge and only being able to talk about youtube videos.
Acquire some basic grasp of social interactions, conversation and confidence. Practice on co-workers, random people, friends etc. Just get yourself to a stage where it's alright to walk into somewhere unrehearsed and feel natural.
Then it's just a case of improving your presentation. This is a pretty subjective and controversial area. I'd say if you want to play it safe and assure the highest probability for yourself, then it's a case of get in shape, wear basic clothing and get a haircut which doesn't suck. Stay clean, basic and look fresh. This way, you don't alienate yourself from a mainstream audience. Sooner or later, being an average looking guy will work out, if you do it right. If you are after someone more specific, then you have to be more specific. You still need to know how to have a decent haircut but style wise there is a lot more room to explore. For instance, wearing band tees will get the music chick. Geeky TV references will get you the pop culture nerd chick. Having a sleeve of tattoos will spark the attention of chicks who dig it, who probably also have tattoos. This list goes on forever. Point being, if you leave breadcrumbs, birds will follow. But if you do this, you are going to alienate yourself from a lot more potential women. Depends on the price you are willing to pay.
Get some good fucking photographs of yourself, looking on point and create a tinder profile or whatever location-appropriate dating app / website is going. Sooner or later, someone will match, make some small talk, don't mention sex and then ask if they want to do something at the weekend. Pick a fun thing, do a fun thing. Never hear from them again or hear from them again, who cares. You did a thing.
Idk, I've kinda ran out of steam at this point. Just do it man. Fuck being a forever a spider monkey's butt when you've reached 30.