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Sexual compatibility and relationships by blah - Thu, 21 Sep 2017 10:11:58 EST ID:FpUomoa2 No.100036 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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How much of a role do you feel sexual compatibility plays in a relationship? I am a 28 year old guy and I've been seeing/dating a 22 year old girl for the last 9 months. I've got a pretty average size penis. 6 in length and about 5.25 in girth at my base and 5in through the shaft. So I can satisfy most girls. But with this girl I could tell right away after the first few times sleeping together that she had been with guys much, much bigger than me in size. And I know lots of people like to say that bigger dicks won't ruin or permanently stretch a vagina but i am a very firm disbeliever of that because i've seen it firsthand. Like this girl told me that was the case.

Anyways, we still have had pretty great sex. Its always been good for me and i always go down on her and make her have a clitoral orgasm and then fuck her and give her 1 or 2 vaginal (g spot) orgams. But I could always tell that I wasn't really like blowing her mind. Theres been a few times after sex where her eyes start to water and thats when i know she has had a really good orgasm, but she told me i've only done that to her like 3 times. in 9 months...

So now we are 9 months into this and we both have strong feelings for each other but we fight a lot and have been very on and off. she told me last night that a couple weeks ago on a night where she bailed on hanging out with me, that she had ended up sleeping with someone else. I made her tell me in detail and she told me that he had a much thicker dick than me and he made her come two times when they fucked. and that the orgasms were the strong kind that made her eyes water.

I guess what im getting at is this... Obviously this doesnt sound like a healthy relationship. But should I have just quit while I was ahead earlier in the relationship? Was it just a lost cause? If it bothers me that much to be fucking a girl with a looser vagina should I just opt out next time? or keep it casual? Like what guy would want to be with, or spend their life with, a woman who they couldnt truly satisfy? Like always knowing there were other guys who gave her really great orgasms/pleasure and knowing you wont even come close to that. Are there guys here that can comment on that topic? Or do I just have a small dick? Do you just push it out of your mind? Like sex is a big part of life. I know I don't want to be having sex i don't enjoy completely. So why be with a partner who you are not giving that same pleasure to?

She told me how with her past lovers she could feel their dicks pulsing when they were coming inside of her. She told me she has never felt that with me. Like how is this not supposed to be completely disheartening and spirit crushing. I know that at 28 the chances of me finding some untouched virgin are slim to none, but am I really doomed to feel inadequate in any future relationship? Is this all me being super insecure? I know I can't be the only one who feels this way...

I'm trying to open things up to the idea of toys and such that are bigger than me, with her. but she is young and i think she gets kind of weirded out by the idea. but she told me her fantasy is to fuck another guy and come with him while i watch. like a real life porno she said.
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Polly Grimbanks - Thu, 21 Sep 2017 10:28:32 EST ID:Tg2Mtxgc No.100037 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Dump that toxic bitch.
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blah - Thu, 21 Sep 2017 10:40:58 EST ID:FpUomoa2 No.100038 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>100037

im in the process of meeting new girls and moving on. but tbh i was kind of turned on by the fact that she came so hard w someone else. what does that say about me? is that fucked up? I find females orgasming to be really hot/erotic. I think from all of the years of porn. Ive always wanted to see the girls ive been with cumming really hard, because i feel like ive never been able to do it myself. except for maybe 1 or 2 girls (out of roughly like 24)

Since the relationship part is basically fucked, part of me wants to kind of pursue this whole threesome thing and see if it is something id enjoy, or if it is something that will fuck me up mentally/emotionally and i should just stay away.

And also what about the whole penis/vagina compatibility part? any comment there?
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Polly Grimbanks - Thu, 21 Sep 2017 11:51:51 EST ID:Tg2Mtxgc No.100042 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>100038
I dunno man, I am trying to be supportive with less judgment, I don't think I would do a MMF Threesome unless I knew the other dude real well or we were somewhat attracted to each other and I men like life long friends I don't have a bff that I would spit roast or dp a woman with so I can't relate being poly or threesomes are hard if you think your partner may intentionally be trying to make you feel inadequate. I don't like having the suspicion that my partner is trying to hurt me emotionally or sexually I'm not into that. I cant speak for you though. How does she treat you outside the bead room?
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blah - Thu, 21 Sep 2017 12:31:43 EST ID:FpUomoa2 No.100043 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>100042

She is very flirty and has flirted w my friends and the few times we go out I'm always on edge, i dont really trust her. she chalks it up to her age and many others ive talked with seem to be in agreeance that all girls go through a sort of "slutty phase" in their early-mid 20's but i think thats bullshit. i think its more an issue of bad morality, upbringing, confidence etc. but at the same time, i dont want to slut shame anyone. everyone loves sex and i dont think anyone should be put down for fucking who they want.

BUT, i think the relationship has pretty much run its course. We weren't 'officially' together when she slept with that guy but we were still sleeping together like every week and talking/texting all the time. i might keep sleeping with her but im going to pursue other people. i was hoping to get more opinions/thoughts on the whole compatibility part.

Im just wondering if i am crazy or a scumbag for putting such weight on the sex part. like am i an asshole for preferring a tighter vagina as opposed to a looser one? or am I weird for wanting that? sex is such a big deal and i feel like for any relationship to really work you have to be bonded and connected sexually. I know modern day US society has tons of divorces but i feel like the marriages that work are ones where the couple is healthy/active and has a great sex life (granted marriage may not be my end goal, not sure yet)
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Sophie Fuckingfuck - Thu, 21 Sep 2017 15:35:54 EST ID:zM5LnxwQ No.100044 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>100036
sex with current bf isn't the most orgasmic ever but I would never fucking cheat on him in a million gazillian years, no matter what, even if he cheated on me or hit me or any other unforgivable thing. She did not cheat on you because of your sexing she cheating on you because she is a WHORE.

Sex is a nice intimate game you play with someone you are fond of, whatever god gave you down there is irrelevant, there are many ways to skin a cat, you can make a girl come without a penis so you can certainly make a girl come while having one of any size.

You might not be as emotionally ready for a threesome as you feel like you are, a better route might be to be a threesome for a couple who are looking for another guy, a couple that already know the guy can make the girl come. That way there's no emotional torment
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blah - Thu, 21 Sep 2017 16:15:00 EST ID:FpUomoa2 No.100045 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>100044

thanks.. i needed that. this whole thing has been super toxic and i think i just need to find a 'nice' girl. and i hate to put it like that. i hate the way our society puts things. but at the same time i dont want to be with a girl who is a 'whore' or 'flirty' and who i have any doubts of her intentions or any doubts that i can trust her. i hope i can find and just try being with a 'normal' partner for a while...
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Fanny Gublingheck - Fri, 22 Sep 2017 09:15:09 EST ID:klyPN4Hg No.100048 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>100044

So do you ever miss sex with past lovers who were more orgasmic or had bigger dicks?
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Nigel Sallerwodge - Sun, 24 Sep 2017 14:28:37 EST ID:jQk/SBpP No.100062 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>100045
Remember, people can't be neatly put into two groups so it's not so much a "nice" girl as one who's just a bit less like the current one.

Also a lot of sexual pleasure is mental and I've heard lots of women say average sized dicks are better because the guys try harder. I think if she gets hung up on the size of the dick she'll never enjoy it as much. it's not that she's flirty and promiscuous, it's that she's petty, untrustworthy and probably insecure hence the seeking validation, she is definitely unreliable and probably a bit shallow (but maybe it's just the fixation on dicks, or maybe she just said it to upset you which is even worse). There's nothing wrong objectively (though for a lot of partners there is a lot wrong subjectively) with promiscuous or flirty girls (because that doesn't stop them being honest, faithful within the terms of your relationship or kind), however this girl is nasty.
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George Mommlecocke - Thu, 28 Sep 2017 13:38:25 EST ID:zM5LnxwQ No.100075 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>100045
Do be careful though, problem is that it's hard to know who the whores are, whether man-whores or woman-whores. For example, someone might have had a lot of partners and be quite kinky but still not ever be capable of cheating.

Then you might meet someone who has had very few or zero partners but some day she falls for some guy just because he called her beautiful the day after the two of you had had a fight and she is so innocent as to think that is romantic, and she cheats and yeah, then she is a whore.

I am not saying this to make you suspicious of everyone I'm saying it so you'll know that this mormon idea of what makes someone a whore does not necessarily correlate with infidelity.


I'll tell you what I did with men and hopefully this works the same for both genders. You want someone who is horrified by the idea of cheating. If people cheat on TV your partner should have no sympathy with them, regardless of the situation. You want someone who is absolutely distraught by the statistic that 70% of men and women would cheat on their partners if they knew no one would find out. You want someone who says that they wouldn't forgive you if you cheated... but not someone who says they would murder you, or someone who reads your phone messages when you are out.

You also want someone who, regardless of the number of partners they have had, is not easily seduced by you in the early stages of the relationship. You don't want someone whose brain switches off when someone touches her nipples, like I don't want someone whose brain switches off when someone rubs his crotch. Ideally, once the two of you are intimate the person WILL be easy for YOU to seduce b... but that's the risk!


>So do you ever miss sex with past lovers who were more orgasmic or had bigger dicks?
Maybe at the very beginning things like that may have crossed my mind maybe.. but I can't imagine ever being with anyone else now, so it's not possible to miss that because the idea that I was ever with anyone else is so strange and alien to me. It's like an alien implanted a memory of me fucking a giraffe. I might remember orgasming but there is just NO appeal.
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Jenny Snodson - Sat, 30 Sep 2017 06:54:58 EST ID:Tv/BEJO3 No.100080 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Stop sleeping with her. It will only make moving on more difficult since you're still getting that oxytocin boost from her(and she doesn't deserve it anyway). All-in-all she seems incredibly immature, selfish, and cruel. My advice would be to stay single for a little bit so you have some time to heal. Also, you have an average dick size. Don't sweat it. You also seem to mostly have a reasonable perspective on sex, such as you said you don't want to slut-shame.

>>100062 and >>100075 seem to know what they're talking about. Good luck, brother.


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