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THE FEMALE ORGASAM by Reuben Sucklelidging - Tue, 04 Apr 2017 20:56:36 EST ID:5GFsJBr0 No.99472 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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FUCK the female orgasam. Shit is hard as fuck to attain.

Here you're going thinking you're in the right direction, a couple of twitches and moan and then bam, it's not enough. What the fuck, why is this organ so complicated? Why are women fine with not having an orgasam every time they get sexual?
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Isabella Monningstirk - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 02:45:17 EST ID:E99Lg5MM No.99473 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Maybe it's just your girlfriend is the problem.

She could have some form of autism or have been molested at a young age.

I know a girl who has a form of autism and she's very un-cumm-able because she's childish.
Being molested can actually make you super sexual or the exact opposite and puts some people at an age in their state of mind.
If you ever hear a porn star with a really high voice like a childs; she was probably molested very young.
I learned that from Dr. Drew. example: https://www.xvideos.com/profiles/lucy-doll#_tabAboutMe

Also, some girls can only cum from rubbing the clit.
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Priscilla Necklehood - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 04:21:33 EST ID:bTnaSQX2 No.99474 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>99473
I managed to get her to cum once, after a heavy rubbing and petting session, I was about to give up and after a short break she rubbed herself on my leg and eventually came but just getting there was fucking impossible.

Yesterday we were at it for a long while and at some point she got really excited, hugged me tight and then let go. When I asked her if she came she said almost. How the fuck can you be satisfied with almost coming? What was I doing to make her want to stop so close? Was I dragging it too long?
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Wesley Honeyhood - Wed, 05 Apr 2017 08:21:25 EST ID:impofQkI No.99475 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Women, like men, orgasm to different paces. My girlfriend cums within minutes and will cum multiple times during sex, it's pretty sweet. That said I have been with a few girls who found it very hard to orgasm. I used to be fuck buddies with this friend of mine, who although was absolutely addicted to sex, never orgasmed from it.

Don't sweat it.
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Molly Druzzlefirk - Thu, 06 Apr 2017 01:49:41 EST ID:E99Lg5MM No.99479 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>99475
This. Maybe you should let her fuck you instead of trying to give her one
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Ghengis Dong - Thu, 06 Apr 2017 02:34:14 EST ID:UXu+23xE No.99480 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>99479
>instead of trying to give her one

So much this.

Just like the irony of boner anxiety, fixating on orgasm is no way to achieve it. (And that goes for everyone involved)

I know how you feel. I've made only a few women cum by just penetration, and it made me self-conscious for a while but realize that it's totally counterproductive.

I've had two great longterm girlfriends that I almost exclusively made cum from oral/anal (One time I made my one ex cum just by rubbing her tits, which I will remember always)

Im in a great relationship now of about a year, and praise be the prophet I love that I can reliably make her cum from penetration with a lot pressure from my upper dick/pelvis on her clit

IME people have a lot of varying needs and ways of achieving orgasm. Achieving orgasm with other people can require a lot of communication. Watch her masturbate. At the end of the day she may just be someone who needs to control her own stimulation to orgasm. Something which can definitely be overcome, but always with positivity. You have to make sure not to pressure yourself as well as her
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Ernest Clondlemod - Thu, 06 Apr 2017 04:23:23 EST ID:SotwRq6Y No.99481 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>99479
Man, I know I need to chill but I just want her to have fun.

>>99480
>You have to make sure not to pressure yourself as well as her
Never thought about this like that.
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Frederick Clummlewill - Wed, 12 Apr 2017 15:43:24 EST ID:G1FF77c9 No.99518 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>99480
hang on, so you have an upper dick and a lower dick and you penetrate her with the lower dick and the upper dick stimulates her clit? I do not have this
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Clara Pizzletork - Wed, 12 Apr 2017 22:05:16 EST ID:yxj63MQD No.99522 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>99518
I think/hope he meant the upper part of his dick. Either way, it's highly dependent on both partner's anatomy.
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Nell Brannerridge - Fri, 14 Apr 2017 07:04:05 EST ID:eq+YR15Y No.99529 Ignore Report Quick Reply
There is no female orgasm, there is a person's orgasm and you just have to find what makes that person cum.

I love handjobs, I'm nuts about handjobs, they're one of my biggest fetishes. But, I can only come in one way from a handjob, if a girl is sitting between my legs, spreading hers on either side of me. No matter how much I love a handjob, it will NEVER happen unless it's in that position.

Every person has their quirks, and women tend to be a little more quirky than men, but overall female and male orgasms are pretty similar in "principle". For an orgasm to happen there needs to be a puzzle piece that makes it happen, and if you have/find that piece it can go from impossible to easy really quickly in my experience.
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Ian Cruggledet - Sat, 15 Apr 2017 05:43:01 EST ID:QSbjKck6 No.99532 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>99529
Penile orgasms are similar to clitoral orgasms, but there's another kind, that's more sensual and fluttery and that can spread throughout your whole body. Both males and females can get it, but estrogen makes it a lot easier to achieve. I've experimented with phytoestrogens and tantric techniques and achieved some mind-blowing results.
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Hedda Tillingstock - Mon, 17 Apr 2017 13:21:23 EST ID:GJMWJvSE No.99543 Ignore Report Quick Reply
it's not complicated, it's just that most people in our culture don't have much experience in totally relaxing mind and body. it could literally be muscular tension that keeps a person from orgasm. but there's always mental/psychological 'tension' that goes along with the physical barriers.

you might look into the work of wilhelm reich, the controversial student of freud. he had some far out ideas toward the end of his life but earlier on he had some very practical insights into the nature of the orgasm. eccentric dude for sure, but he was on to something.

a few suggestions i can make personally:

1) don't try to give an orgasm. just focus on what feels good. go gentle and slowly with your fingers, hands, lips, tongue, and teeth. joke around, be silly sometimes. ask how she's doing every so often, even if you think you know (can help reinforce pleasure if she affirms it).

2) female orgasms in my experience seem to almost be more of a continuation/amplification of normal pleasurable sensation. there are peaks for sure, but not in the same way men have the orgasm and ejaculation simultaneously in a literal eruption (lol). so that might be part of why lots of women are fine with their anorgasmic status quo.

3) consider giving your partner a half-hour (or longer) full body massage every now and then, being as sensitive through your hands and fingertips as you can to find all the 'trouble spots' they might have in their body. if you have the money, buy them a really good massage as an occasional gift. buy yourself one so you learn some tricks and basic approaches. try to take the long view of your partner, striving to help them release all unnecessary tension and heal whatever psycho-sexual-physiological trauma they have accumulated. they're ultimately the ones who have to go down the healing road, but everybody needs help.

4) in tai chi chuan, two qualities called song and ting are emphasized. song can be understood partially as "relaxed and open but full of vitality and awareness," and ting as "listening skill," as in the ability to feel another person's whole body with just one point of contact (initiated most often by the hand and wrist). these qualities can be developed by meditation, qi gong, some forms of yoga, massage and physical therapy training, and many other ways. aside from martial applications, the main reason to develop these qualities is for health, longevity, and feeling good, but a definite side-effect is having warm, magic hands, if you know what i mean.
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Wesley Brookridge - Tue, 18 Apr 2017 21:53:05 EST ID:Lp9hVYQX No.99547 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Date feminists, they tend to be in tuned with their body and take care of themselves.
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Albert Parringwure - Sat, 22 Apr 2017 13:39:57 EST ID:sRdQmLkB No.99567 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Parroting pretty much what everyone else has been saying. The female orgasm is a really tricky thing for some women. I think a lot of it is mental; the partner really needs to 1) get them in the mood and 2) keep them there. Sounds easy enough but with some women, especially ones that are stuck inside their own heads, it can be difficult.

Have you considered asking her what feels good? Some have mentioned stimulating the clit but I've gone down on some girls and theirs are so sensitive that it's uncomfortable. Just talking to her and showing you care will ironically enough probably get her mentally revved up to cum for you.
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Jack Hongerhurk - Sun, 23 Apr 2017 17:06:57 EST ID:FyJYFT2m No.99574 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>99472
life's hard, so you have to go harder. don't be lazy.
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Priscilla Hepperford - Fri, 19 May 2017 04:44:16 EST ID:F4a4qnes No.99680 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>99567
>2) keep them there
The hard part.
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Martin Nicklegold - Fri, 19 May 2017 11:09:06 EST ID:GE89Yp2O No.99681 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>99472

idk what to tell you OP just play with the clit and keep dicking her it always works for me female orgasm isn't complicated
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Reuben Pumbleforth - Sat, 20 May 2017 23:38:29 EST ID:omhzo9n9 No.99684 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>99472
Male here who has only cum 3 times from sex, but countless times from masturbating. OP's a butt. I love sex even though I don't cum from it. That's why ladies still love sex ya homo. I'm a homo so I can say that.
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Fuck Musslefuck - Wed, 24 May 2017 00:40:28 EST ID:4jiPKiev No.99689 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>99567

This is something I'm working through with my girl. She reports being 'on the edge' and then tensing up and losing it.


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