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Getting Invited to Weddings by Pierre Gagnaire - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 01:27:40 EST ID:5iVF37xF No.4632668 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Is it a dick move to ditch out on wedding invitations? Why and why not?
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Ninja Boy Cedric - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 01:33:33 EST ID:Dar6fa63 No.4632670 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4632668
Tough question, depends on how you know the person I say
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Reuben Goodwell - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 01:59:10 EST ID:s8p1MVUG No.4632674 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4632668
if you dont like them enough to go, then that answers your question.
although i wonder why theyd invite someone who doesnt even like them enough to go.
is there an open bar? do they expect a gift from you? do you just hate weddings or something?

also no, thats what rsvp is for.
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Anton Weirdfeatures - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 03:16:42 EST ID:KgQGcBJf No.4632683 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I skipped out on a wedding recently. I felt like a dick for doing so but anxiety was like hey brah lets eat buprenophine instead. He is a juggalo but he ain't that bad.
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Luke Rockhold - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 04:19:07 EST ID:YbWvR5Gu No.4632691 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I missed a close friend's wedding, and I regret it. We're still friends and all that, and his wife is cool, and we're cool, and everybody is cool. I just wish I'd been there, even though I would've felt awkward and all that. I mean, if you got social anxiety and depression or whatever, then hopefully people understand. But I think it's kind of a dick move. The whole point of a wedding is that people show up and watch you get married.
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Sniper - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 05:19:06 EST ID:/XaKELj8 No.4632696 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>4632668
I ditched on my moms wedding because I had "work" (I could have taken off that day) because I disapproved of the man. He's a weak pathetic weak asshole goober who my mother is only with because she has a really fucked-up sense of compassion. she thinks he's a fixer upper but she's too blinded by desperation to realize that he's nothing but a life Essence money draining leech.

You think I'm being harsh on the guy. You think I'm a bit of a prick. Let me lay this out for you in plain and simple terms. Terms which are not an exaggeration for comedic effect. This is my life now; The man is the real life version of Jerry Smith. Talks like him, walks like him, is a fucking retard like him, and drags his fucking wife down with his emotional coddling needs. Seriously fuck that guy. Can't wait until my mom divorces him like my last stepdad.

She's gotten to the point where she's complaining about him to me. That's a good sign.
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Captain Braxton - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 06:35:54 EST ID:CDGnsfZR No.4632699 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It's okay to ditch a wedding because marriage is a sham and people only get married out of lonileness and desperation. If people were truly happy they wouldn't need marriage. Marriage of all things. Relationships are fine as long as you aren't too attached to them. If your happiness relies at all on the existence of another then you aren't truly happy.

Marriage is above all else a sign of desperation and loniliness when so many think it's a sign of mutual love and deep connection. Hey, I've been in a couple of 3-4 year long relationships, but yet I know people who have kids and get married after less than two years. Fucking clueless morons.

It's always so sad to see people go their entire lives living dependant on the existence of another, one to which they're attached to heavily, attachment in a bad way, and then they suffer the loss of the other and spiral into an early depression based death. Dying old and alone.
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Captain Rudolph Ransom - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 07:36:08 EST ID:HkuHQ0Sj No.4632702 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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It depends.
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PhoebeHurrydale.xcf - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 08:21:02 EST ID:8pLNC+za No.4632709 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4632696
have her watch rick and morty then. Ricks rants are a pretty good tear down of his personality and that one mad max episode in the latest season is good for that too.
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Feedle Deedle - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 08:45:11 EST ID:Q0ry1TE0 No.4632713 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4632709
To be fair, IQnb
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Detective Gumshoe - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 08:51:21 EST ID:um2FQr8/ No.4632719 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4632691
> if you got social anxiety and depression or whatever,
People never understand, they'll just think your a human garbage and s freak. I'm an adult but I've been so isolated from people my age that I wouldn't even know how to act around other people, or people I used to know in school.
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Vic Fontaine - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 09:02:51 EST ID:jg8KyvxZ No.4632722 Ignore Report Quick Reply
If you ditch it at least don't RSVP as going so they don't waste their money on a dinner you won't even show up to eat.
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M'Pella - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 09:52:18 EST ID:wea4iTxT No.4632728 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4632699

Posted like a man who obviously has never been to a wedding.

Weddings are pretty much just a massive kegger where everyone is in suits. They're a fuckload of fun and everyone gets drunk as fuck and has a good time.

But OP some weddings it's totally okay to skip out on. I got invited to my ex girlfriend's wedding (holy shit fuck that shit) and I was like "oh shit sorry I'm totally out of town, no wait, out of the country, no wait, actually I'm going to space. Sorry but send my regards yo."
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Jean Anthelme Brillat-Savarin - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 16:58:22 EST ID:7RKcnv+P No.4632843 Ignore Report Quick Reply
No, because it's something I'd do.
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Luke Rockhold - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 17:08:36 EST ID:YbWvR5Gu No.4632851 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4632719
Well, I'm sorry your life sucks, but that hasn't been my experience. Maybe I'm just friends with people who either understand or deal with their own mental shit (so they definitely understand).
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Nathaniel Clecklesock - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 17:24:32 EST ID:jKKzGFMO No.4632859 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Well its not more of a dick move than inviting someone to your wedding, it evens out. In fact if someone invites you to a wedding its pretty much your obligation not to go in order to keep the net balance of dick moves in check. Otherwise, we'd just have chaos.
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Bobo Brazil - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 18:19:38 EST ID:sMX9frxY No.4632893 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4632719
That does not need to be true. I recognized somebody who works like be, who is 28 but still can't talk on a stage, describe her work. She were happy to hear from me, she's glad that somebody saw that she was alone. That somebody cares.

This is real. It can go well, if somebody else just sees and cares. Somebody the same.
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Odo - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 21:01:05 EST ID:++t/aIvY No.4633006 Ignore Report Quick Reply
ITT spineless shits

If you don't want to do something, then just don't. Tell the person you don't want to do it. Don't make up some bullshit about being out of town. Don't say you have something else going on. Simply say, "That does not sound fun, I do not want to do that." You'll get one of two reactions: respect for being upfront and legit, or they'll never invite you to shit again 'cause you're the asshole that always says no. You might have to say no to a few things to fall into that category, but before long, you're that guy.
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Josh Barnett - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 21:04:55 EST ID:IEgs+Tii No.4633010 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Idk, depends on the person. Ditching your best friend's wedding is pretty fucked up. Your cousin who you haven't seen in 2 years.... Nah.
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Morrigan Aensland - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 21:05:15 EST ID:1im/HzGa No.4633011 Ignore Report Quick Reply
If it is a good friend then you're a dick for not going.
If it's an acquaintance then they probably didn't expect you to come.

Chances are that they may have just invited you as a courtesy and didn't want you to come anyways lol. Who cares. If you are obliged to go then you know.
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The Berzerker - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 21:26:17 EST ID:dsDRA5Dc No.4633021 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>4633006

>Simply say, "That does not sound fun, I do not want to do that."

That is the most autistic thing I've read on here all day.

There is definitely such a thing as lying for the sake of being courteous.

>respect for being upfront and legit

No ... I think I'm going to think "Wow what an autistic fuckhead of a guy."
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Josh Barnett - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 21:31:54 EST ID:IEgs+Tii No.4633026 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4633021

Why is that autistic? That's just called being honest. I've never said that in regards to a wedding but I've been invited to bars and parties and I told the person inviting me no thanks, and when they asked why, I just say "it's not my idea of fun." Completely normal.
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The Berzerker - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 21:38:33 EST ID:dsDRA5Dc No.4633030 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4633026

Yeah that's autistic as fuck. I'm trying to invite you out to something and basically you're like "Fuck you. You're dumb and your ideas of what's fun are dumb."

Just say you got an errand you have to do and you can't go, like normal people do who don't want everyone they meet to hate them.
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Degra - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 21:38:54 EST ID:Q0ry1TE0 No.4633031 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>4633026
>Why is that autistic?
Well Josh, weddings are significant events in peoples' lives, and blowing off a close friend or relative so callously, so unaware of how unfeeling you're being, is au-
>I've never said that in regards to a wedding but-
Wait, stop right there (criminal scum) this whole thread is about bailing on weddings. It's implied that that's what we're talking about. Goddamn it Josh you're doing it again don't you see?
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The Great Muta - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 21:41:46 EST ID:neIpcGAT No.4633032 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4633010
Owls don't orgasm. Their version of sex lasts for a few seconds, tf is this shit? There are birds who do orgasm but owls aren't the ones that do when they ejaculate.
And if it was orgasming, its wings would've been spread out.
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Josh Barnett - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 21:49:32 EST ID:IEgs+Tii No.4633037 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>4633030

Pfft, look — if anyone is autistic in this situation, it's the person who takes great offense to someone having different notions of fun. And i'm not using the word autistic in some buzzwordy sense.

>Autism — a mental condition, present from early childhood, characterized by difficulty in communicating and forming relationships with other people and in using language and abstract concepts.

If you can't step outside your own shoes and try to see things from a general perspective or the perspective of someone else, you're autistic. You lack empathy, you lack sympathy, you're narcissistic, egocentric, unable to be reasoned with.

Me? I realize that people come in varying shades and that everyone has different tastes and hobbies. The person living next door to me doesn't necessarily like the same things I do and I don't take it some great offense when they decline my invitation to go to the movies — maybe they don't like watching movies, or maybe they don't like the genre of movie that I plan to see. Them saying "No" isn't a big deal.

I think, or would like to think, that this is how most healthy, mentally-stable individuals live their lives, instead of lying and take insult from minor things.
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The Berzerker - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 21:57:00 EST ID:dsDRA5Dc No.4633048 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4633037

>If you can't step outside your own shoes and try to see things from a general perspective or the perspective of someone else, you're autistic

That's pretty funny from the guy who is pretty much okay with pretty much telling people to fuck off when they invite you to something you don't wanna do.
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Morrigan Aensland - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 22:08:43 EST ID:1im/HzGa No.4633055 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4633037
>if anyone is autistic in this situation, it's the person who takes great offense to someone having different notions of fun

No buddy it's you for not understanding that the idea of fun doesn't matter in this scenario, it's the delivery of your difference of opinion and not being willing to endure someone else's idea even if it's not what you think is fun, if you're important in each others lives you dim goon.
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Kintaro - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 22:12:08 EST ID:37VxTw8X No.4633057 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Plot-twist:You're all autistic
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Morrigan Aensland - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 22:13:19 EST ID:1im/HzGa No.4633059 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>4633057
no you faggot
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Yoshi - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 22:41:50 EST ID:sVlGi/lg No.4633068 Ignore Report Quick Reply
While we're on the subject here is the definiton of autistic thinking from the medical dictionary:

autistic thinking self-absorption; preoccupation with inner thoughts, daydreams, fantasies, delusions, drives, and personal logic. It is egocentric, subjective thinking lacking objectivity and preferring a narcissistic, inner, private reality to that with external validity. Used interchangeably with dereistic thinking, although differing in emphasis. Called also autism.

So being self absorbed and more interested in your own daydreams and shit instead of in others and the real world is literally the definition of autism.
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Josh Barnett - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 22:53:40 EST ID:IEgs+Tii No.4633073 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4633048

Except I never said "fuck off". I said "No thanks, that's not my idea of fun." But since you're so insistent on this, I invite you to play a game of Russian Roulette. 6 bullets, 6 shooter, you go first. Refuse? Autist!!11!!1!1!1!

>>4633055

The scenario has moved beyond the scope of a wedding you illiterate dumbfuck. How about you try reading instead of fixating on a fucking ceremony? My first fucking post ITT explicitly states that it is fucked up to not attend your best friend's wedding, so why the fuck are you trying to imply otherwise?
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The Berzerker - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 23:03:45 EST ID:dsDRA5Dc No.4633075 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>4633073

>"No thanks, that's not my idea of fun."

The fact that you still can't comprehend how much of an underhanded backslap of a comment this is, that is absolutely astounding to me.
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IsabellaSimmershaw.pm - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 23:06:31 EST ID:enWMgrpN No.4633076 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>when you want to get married and have no family and like 3 friends

the idea of having nobody at a wedding but my wife's family is scary to me.
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Josh Barnett - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 23:12:25 EST ID:IEgs+Tii No.4633078 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4633075

Probably because you're autistic and can't step outside of your own perspective — Egocentric, subjective thinking, just as it's written above. I've used that phrase a handful of times with my friends. They never took offense, they didn't get angry. I've had the same core group of friends for 10 years now, if my not wanting to go to the bar with them was so insulting, we wouldn't have made it past 5 years.

It's all about fucking TONE. And because your an autistic lil kid you can just can't wrap your head around that — that's the last I'm going to say of it. My social life is ideal, what about yours?
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MartinFuckingson.lgo - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 23:15:02 EST ID:dlB363OJ No.4633079 Ignore Report Quick Reply
i have a close mentor who has completely changed me as a person for the better. he invited me to his wedding and i bailed on it. probably one of my most sickening regrets and shames.
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MollyTurveyfuck.wmf - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 23:21:35 EST ID:XuQfNk/o No.4633081 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4632668
It may be considered somewhat of a faux pas if you don't let your fiance know beforehand.
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The Berzerker - Wed, 01 Nov 2017 23:50:49 EST ID:dsDRA5Dc No.4633094 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>4633078
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Matilda Brishstit - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 15:43:59 EST ID:wJoRv5Mg No.4639465 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4633079
Sometimes we bail because we aren't able to function. Maybe if you went, it would have been a disaster. You can always contact him again and tell him what you told us.
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Lwaxana Troi - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 17:11:09 EST ID:AqP2C3kI No.4639500 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Friend dies
>Contact the mods on IRC and ask if they would add his name in the RNG in his favorite boards for a sizable donation
>Takes my money and never replies to my massages

Now that is what i call a dick move.
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Ebenezer Pebbersune - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 17:28:07 EST ID:nJkrco7e No.4639504 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>4639500
That does sound shitty if true.
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Firebreather Ian - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 17:47:55 EST ID:ybxncx1e No.4639511 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4639504
Appearntly there were complaints from people who paid for an ad but never saw them posted and were ignored by the people responsible whenever they tred to contact tem. I personally remember one of them kept on making threads on /420/ to get them to notice him only the mods kept deleting them.
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Diddy Kong - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 18:04:00 EST ID:1im/HzGa No.4639519 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4639500
What a scumbag
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Michael Rostov - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 18:23:02 EST ID:vyuwULkK No.4639526 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4639500
Kirt stole many peoples money and used it to buy cheeseburgees and take his fat ass to disneyland?
I'm shocked. Utterly.
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Bruce Leroy - Tue, 14 Nov 2017 23:33:16 EST ID:w4XS1VQA No.4639630 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>4639500
As a user of the four hundred twentieth channel, your friend's gay name is a shit idea for n RNG. Also, any amount of money should be returned, if it was a purchase. But donations aren't usually considered quid-pro-quo exchanges, they are pretty much gifts, and sizable would technically be the small claims court limit of $3,000.oo USD.

But this is all semantic word play. If it was clear from the chat logs that the RNG would become a thing if money, then either the situation should see the return of the money, or you gay bitch-ass friend's shitty name gets added to 420chan.org.
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Firebreather Sophie - Wed, 15 Nov 2017 01:05:45 EST ID:U8y2+Piv No.4639658 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4632728
I've only been to one wedding of an old friend of my gf. It was boring as shit and i never want to live through that again, i didn't know people could be that uninteresting.
I was the only one drunk and trying to have a good time.
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Basch fon Rosenburg - Wed, 15 Nov 2017 01:19:58 EST ID:PnbRI0aa No.4639662 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4639630
Idk maybe the fag friends name was Bruce leroy? That would be a fitting legacy then fuc king haha
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Andross - Wed, 15 Nov 2017 01:47:24 EST ID:YbWvR5Gu No.4639667 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4639658
>I was the only one drunk and trying to have a good time.

imo that's the way that kind of thing should be. Everybody get drunk and eat that crazy ass cake. Then the bride and groom can fuck on stage while everybody cheers. None of these boring vows and bullshit. It's like I'm the only fucker who wants to throw a brick at the minister so he'll get down off his high horse and hit this fucking blunt.

Fuck weddings. While I'm at it, fuck funerals.
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Basch fon Rosenburg - Wed, 15 Nov 2017 01:58:57 EST ID:PnbRI0aa No.4639671 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>4639667
Ok Khal Drogo lol someone get this guy a clotted mares milk!
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Umawuma Filangey - Wed, 15 Nov 2017 04:15:37 EST ID:EoafuWGD No.4639721 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>4639671
NOW THIS IS PODRACING!
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Basch fon Rosenburg - Wed, 15 Nov 2017 04:35:33 EST ID:PnbRI0aa No.4639728 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>4639721
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!! did you make this
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Basch fon Rosenburg - Wed, 15 Nov 2017 04:36:44 EST ID:PnbRI0aa No.4639729 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Just looked it up. Thanks for showing it to me even if not
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Heishiro Mitsurugi - Wed, 15 Nov 2017 05:24:52 EST ID:vPnUn9eD No.4639743 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>4639721


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