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Stop being dramatic.
Im assuming a lot in this post.
What i think they are trying to say is there is an idea about how women act that isnt the reality. Women, much like men are all unique in how they present, how they act, how they talk. Literally all my cis friends are totally unique in personality to each other. There is no sure fire way to pass (other than buying into the base stereotype of a woman, blonde hair, makeup etc), but I personally found is that you just exchange one mask for another when you do that, inauthenticity for inauthenticity is not the way.
The best way to get your voice good is to start using it all the time, in regular conversation, yes this might out you, if people care enough, but most people will just talk behind your back, let them, it makes coming out so much easier when you know they already know.
In regards to presenting, just build up to it (yes hrt and shaving etc etc). most people only see a few key things unless they really talk to you, stance (how you carry yourself, walk, stand.), your hair (the goal being if they look at just your hair they assume you're female) and your clothes.
Stance can be hard, have you ever worn high heels before? that feeling of having your whole body push forward onto the ball of your food, you can kind of use that feeling. Hair, get proper shampoo and condish, go to a salon, get it styled, braid/plait it etc. clothes, easiest thing to build up, bracelets, necklaces, shoes, nail polish (if its your jam), subtle makeup (concealer on blemishes)
So basically the goal is to exist without too much kerfuffle, majority of the time you are out and about you wont even use your voice unless you are with friends and if you're with friends who gives a fuck? if you're at a bar and you get clocked, who gives a fuck?
The goal is to be the authentic you not some carbon copy of the manufactured male-perspective woman. you are allowed to be a quirky weirdo if thats who you are.