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Well, having my mother's car, computers, and anything else of value that she had being just given to the girlfriend is suspicious, if not downright shallow. I told my friends and my therapist about the car thing, and they all thought it was a bit strange and heartless of my father.
Also the fact that all of my mother's pictures have been taken down, and anything else that wasn't of value has "disappeared" and likely thrown away; I actually have a book that I recused from the recycling bin of my town that has my mother's handwriting in it, and I know that it is her book because both her and my father talked about it (he actually showed me the book after the death, when he was still lonely).
There is also the share of the family cabin that my grandfather built that my father sold for no reason, and didn't talk to us about it. Not to mention that I think that he is selling a plot that was inherited to him that belongs to a family farm, established in the 1870s.
It has nothing to do with me. I don't want most of that shit. My siblings could use that, though. My father was a general surgeon, and look at his three kids: I'm on SSI, my brother is working in some factory and isn't even salaried, and while my sister is relatively well off, she entirely depends on her fiance (who she isn't married to, even after seven years) for financial support due to his risky entrepreneurship.
He told a year ago, out of the blue, with perfect calmness, that he didn't feel bad about whatever I accuse him of, because despite what mistakes he made, he did what was best. I talk to people about what my father did, and at first they support him, but when I tell them that part, they no longer do.
I am not entitled. I just want it so that when one parent dies, the surviving parent does not just take everything and then give it to some stranger he never even knew existed before the death, and squander most of the rest on himself.
He wants to take a whole trip by sailboat down the coast of Mexico with his girlfriend. He bought a used sailboat, takes monthly trips to the boat by car (we both in Idaho, so it is a long way), and is fixing up the boat. Not only is that extremely expensive, but it is fucking stupid. There is at least a 50% chance that they are both going to die on that trip, because it is so fucking unsafe. And where is he getting that money?
I do not really want his wealth. I just want my mother's stuff, and to keep family possessions in the family. And if not, what of it? He is not entitled for me to make sacrifices for him and to be left with nothing when it could be otherwise, like I'm his parent, and he's just a little baby. It is sick.
I could go on about how I slaved away from him for free, or how he wanted to take my money away from me when I was working myself to the bone and he was barely working at all at a cushy job not even two weeks after my mother died, or how he medically neglected me and my siblings when we were sick even though he was a doctor, and didn't take us to the hospital like any sane parent in order to "save money", but I won't. I didn't expect you to know that, but don't ever say those things again to either me or anyone else in my position. You don't have a clue how traumatic it is, for you've never been in my situation.