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Honestly I think embracing and accepting the experience no matter what is the key to not having a bad trip. What happens when things start to get weird then spiral out of control is a knee jerk reaction to reject what is happening to you and escape from it, but the reality that there is no escape is almost so traumatic in and of itself that it's like throwing jet fuel and TNT onto a fire, and the whole thing just cascades out of control entirely unchecked.
I've never had a bad trip, but I've had unpleasant experiences. All I did was calmly accept what was happening because I'd already let go of both the idea that I had any real control over what I was experiencing, as well as (and most importantly) the feeling that I needed to have any control over it. I simply surrender myself to what's happening, not as an act of defeated resignation or subservience, but rather as an understanding of my place in reality and the confidence that things will be okay in the end, because literally the only time things don't turn out okay at some point in the future is when you die. Things always wind up being just fine in the end, even if they aren't ideal and you wind up a little hurt because of it.
That acceptance and willful embracing of the experience, no matter what it brings, winds up actually preventing a bad trip in and of itself. Difficult times happen, and they pass. I usually wind up feeling better for having experienced something difficult and coming out the other side anyway. Difficult experiences are where true learning and growth occur. I actually embrace such experiences themselves for that very reason. I don't wish for them, but because it is a given that they are going to happen at some time or another, I can use them to my advantage to improve as a human being. These experiences are what build a solid emotional and psychological foundation. When they destroy our original foundations, it's because they were lofty, flimsy things without any real structural integrity. If this experience didn't destroy that foundation, another would. When you build yourself back up, you do it better than ever before, until experiences like that no longer pose a threat to your foundation.
The way I see it is, is there anything actually wrong or that terrible with experiencing something unpleasant? Sure, it's unpleasant and causes some suffering and discomfort, but is that always inherently a bad thing? Why? Suffering, discomfort, and unpleasant experiences are a given throughout life, you are never going to be able to avoid that. Just accept that these things happen, and rather than let them break you completely, use them as a tool to expose your weaknesses and arm yourself with that knowledge to make yourself better than before. It's good and even necessary to experience bad shit in our lives, so there's no reason to freak out when it happens. Accept and internalize what's happening--feel it, feel all of it. While you are feeling it, think of how you are going to deal with what you're feeling in a calm manner and take that time to make proactive choices that lessen the damage and discomfort and facilitate recovery and growth.