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!GD3wBpep0Y - Sun, 13 Aug 2017 12:14:49 EST d5kHsYag No.518069
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Hi folks,

If you're looking to talk to someone immediately about any problems you have in your life and have nobody close to you, come and speak to us!

Join us on IRC on #qq. Most of us have different time zones but if you stay there, one of us will be there.

Don't be afraid to speak up.
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Eliza Merringwell - Mon, 03 Aug 2020 11:07:41 EST VAcauGzm No.535569 Reply
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Deeper and deeper every day. I have a tendency to get carried away by what I perceive as feelings of affection, but this is different. It's difficult.

I'm a really linear, mathematical "Logical" kind of thinker, Asperger's + ADHD, and I think part of that makes it difficult for me to put words to wispy things like emotions. This swelling in my heart, though, it just keeps getting bigger. Every time I think I cannot Feel any more strongly, I find something else about her, small or large, and it's like I love her twice as much. Again and again.

Is this what Love is? I feel like I'm going crazy.
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Basil Clayway - Mon, 03 Aug 2020 21:38:40 EST VAcauGzm No.535572 Reply
>>535571
No I don't really jack off at all.

We watched Evangelion TOGETHER, though.

Stayed in the sun too long

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- Wed, 05 Aug 2020 04:45:44 EST +Ye82DwW No.535581
File: 1596617144538.gif -(605459B / 591.27KB, 260x146) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. Stayed in the sun too long
I enjoyed the outdoors too long. I went from the threshold of white strangers calling me "bud" and "bro" to "homeboy" and all the variations ("homes, homie, etc.) which I don't fucking say by the way, or "gangsta" which is a fun one.

I'm mixed and aware of how I present myself and how people perceive me. I try to dress really bright and non-urban, like if tommy vercetti fucked a chinese tourist and they mixed up clothes on the way out. In the places where my family still lives dressing like a gang member can get you beat up or killed, and that's just the shit the police will do to you, so I avoid it. I'm like jackie chan, I don't want trouble.

I just started a new job in retail and most of my bosses are hipster white girls 10 years younger than me. I go and am positive, put on my white voice and try to be as nice as possible and I still get little remarks like this. I'm not even angry anymore. I just want to lay down and die. It's never going to get better.

I lost my teen years due to bad parenting, bad surroundings and bad choices and had to play catch up. So many of the people around me did. The schools didn't prepare us for college and the handful of us that did get there were woefully underappreciated and had to play more catch up, this time not just with work but with 10s of thousands of dollars of our own money. My hands are bleeding from pulling on these fucking bootstraps and I'm trying to do it with a smile and their perception of me doesn't fucking change. I'm a 31 year old man and I have been bawling since I got out of work.

thank you for letting me vent my depressing miserable life here all these years.
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a retarded nobody from nowhere - Wed, 05 Aug 2020 04:47:51 EST +Ye82DwW No.535582 Reply
*under prepared not underappreciated

spellcheck is over appreciated, which auto corrects to two words. Gay.
/nb even though it's on the top of the page. I'll punch myself in the nuts as penance or something.
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Shitting Fandale - Wed, 05 Aug 2020 07:39:38 EST zcGokjf7 No.535583 Reply
When I don’t like the way someone I work with talks to me, I let them know. It doesn’t have to be a big deal.

I get that there’s no point in explaining to every stranger on the street who calls you homie. But damn are that many strangers just randomly waving and greeting you? At best someone at a cash register will greet me in public and I’ve been called everything from boss to amigo, neither of which I was.

Borderline girlfriend pic unrelated

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- Tue, 04 Aug 2020 00:13:04 EST ef9V5kqL No.535575
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So my ex?-girlfriend has borderline personality disorder. Basically when things are going well they feel dysphoric and lash out against the people they love, sometimes viciously. I know that sounds vauge but I've been stabbed, punched, had large glass jars thrown at my head, my bedroom door she punched through to get to me, she stole the family car, sliced my moms arm and the list goes on. I always protect her and do damage control because I don't think she knows the extent of the consiquences for this kind of shit. I also know she banks on me doing this. We were in recovery. I'm doing well and what I need to and she just wants to sit around all day and if I do anything at all that is not ashley-centric she can't stand it. Typing this shit you'd think there's no good at all but I love this chick, and she loves me. I see past all of this but I am starting to feel like I shouldn't be as much as I have and I don't know what to do. I also can't bring myself to trust her at all and I have a suspicion she's fucked around on me, although I guess it's not really that even though we agreed that we wouldn't do that if we spit up. I can't keep doing this, and I don't know how to shut off my feelings for her, she's been gone a month and want's to see me like badly and I keep flip flopping because it's cyclic, this pattern has got to stop and I don't know what to do, just the sex is fire enough to make me say fuck it. Right now I'm basically giving her an ultimatum to get help or I'm done. I need some help too, I don't know what to do. I have panic attacks getting on fb because I dread even seeing her texts half the time. Today she told me she was getting some dope to OD and kill herself because she can't keep doing this and can't stand being away from me. Everyone else that lives here decided she can't come around for fucks sake. What do /qq/?
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Scourge of the West - Tue, 04 Aug 2020 03:18:53 EST hPFdVrzr No.535577 Reply
>>535575
It doesn't matter if she's borderline or a psychopath or Bipolar or whatever. Bitch is nuts. SHE SLICED AT YOUR MOMS ARM. There's two endings for this we don't break up with her. She murders you or has you locked up in jail. It doesn't end well. But I love her! I'm sure there's some other terrible chick that can can fall in love with that's less stabby. But it sounds like your mind has that stupid fixation it doesn't allow you to see you to see you're better off alone. Buy a dog. Jesus
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James Dullerchutch - Tue, 04 Aug 2020 05:18:10 EST oz5WthSK No.535578 Reply
>>535575
You're in an abusive relationship. You're not gonna be completely satisfied or healthy in your life when there's so much danger around you. You should cut ties with any person who does that kind of stuff to you (or your mother, for that matter). Mental illness is not an excuse for committing crimes. When she assaults you or your mom she's basically a criminal. I know it's hard and I know you love her, but that's not enough. You should love yourself and your family much more than you love a person who attacks you and your family. It won't be easy to cut ties but in the long run it would be one of the best thing you've ever done in your entire life. You'll feel at peace. Love is not supposed to hurt you, trust me.
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Cedric Churryspear - Tue, 04 Aug 2020 07:54:39 EST zFzNA812 No.535579 Reply
She'll kill someone, or you. She's not been given or accepted any consequences for her behavior, and it will escalate. People around you will start getting hurt. You will become more and more isolated from friends and family as you defend your girlfriend and she attacks you.
User is currently banned from all boards

how to feel less empathy towards people i know feel none towards me

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- Mon, 27 Jul 2020 10:08:39 EST mttQWkrO No.535451
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i'm part of a visible minority in the US and recently for some reason... it's started to hit me pretty hard that a good 10-30% of the people i see on a daily basis have nothing but hate in their hearts for me and at the very least wish i didn't exist and at the worst actively fantasize about killing me. instead of feeling the righteous anger i should feel towards them, i end up feeling bad for them. i start to think about what a small, terrifying world they must live in and what it must be like to have your mind so preoccupied with such a pointless thing, i start to think about the opportunities to learn and grow that they never had, how insecure they must be knowing deep down, sometimes really deep down, that there are things they just don't get, they just aren't bright people and that fundamentally isn't their fault, but i know the feeling isn't mutual

i know this seems so holier-than-thou and there's no way i can make it not come off like that, but it is legitimately something that really bothers me. how do i stuff these feelings down and conjure up the hate towards these people that they deserve? i want to mercilessly ridicule them and maybe even worse without feeling a shred of remorse, i want to feel hatred that will drive action instead of empathy that fuels inaction, these people take advantage of the fact that the vast majority of us aren't such bigoted pieces of shit. i've turned the other cheek seventy times seven times and now i'm done.
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Henry Trotstone - Mon, 03 Aug 2020 19:12:22 EST jnas4L6T No.535570 Reply
>>535568

that's clearly the implied message of the quote, smart guy
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Jenny Mopperbury - Tue, 04 Aug 2020 02:50:19 EST mttQWkrO No.535576 Reply
>>535558
Damn that's all it takes? I agree with everyone here I dunno why I made this thread
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Polly Boshwill - Tue, 04 Aug 2020 16:18:43 EST 1SSFeKJF No.535580 Reply
>>535576
It sounded like you needed to blow of steam and regain your perspective.

Pretty sure the quote is also lampooning the behavior rather than lauding it.

Terrorism

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- Sat, 01 Aug 2020 22:47:38 EST 9DmUMIXr No.535546
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I personally am misunderstood. The enite government thinks I'm a mentally ill, mentally gay, wahabist, transexual.

None of that makes sense on the surface. Islam and transexualism are incompatible. Homosexuality and Islam are incomatible. Wahabism is definitely against transexualism and homsexuality.

It doesn't make sense to me. I'm not crazy because I don't understand how one would believe hold those beliefs simulataneously.

I could be a Wahabist or I could be trans faggot but not both at the same time.

>Allah does not permit both, as nature does not allow it. I've never met a devout Muslim faggot. I've never met a faggot that became a muslim.

Can anyone explain the Islamic Transexual Faggot Delusion to me?
How does that play out?
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Reuben Fiblingfoot - Sun, 02 Aug 2020 15:17:30 EST mNRa2otm No.535559 Reply
>>535555
Maybe the problem is my lack of violence maybe I should go out there and be violent. Since youre projecting those thoughts onto me. Like you know go out there and rape some bitches and kill some fools.
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Graham Nappergold - Sun, 02 Aug 2020 16:30:28 EST ZLNL16wy No.535560 Reply
Allah is the way to socialism brother
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Charles Pickwater - Mon, 03 Aug 2020 23:41:00 EST mNRa2otm No.535574 Reply
>>535560
Who needs Allah when I can trust Biden and Kamila Harris to save me from my own stupidity.

PEDO ALERT

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- Mon, 03 Aug 2020 23:24:30 EST FfdjKZj+ No.535573
File: 1596511470224.jpg -(177297B / 173.14KB, 1200x1200) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. PEDO ALERT
Igor Vinícius Bispo Feitosa
Rua Carlos Laíno Júnior, n° 26, apt. 53B Cidade Tiradentes
São Paulo, São Paulo 08471020
Brazil

known pedophile, has raped numerous underage girls and gotten away with it. let's not let that happen again.

Well this is awkward

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- Wed, 15 Jul 2020 23:58:54 EST R0vb3iEj No.535305
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Is there any good way to get rid of the memories you had with a person quickly? At first I thought I was starting to move on, I am, in a sense. I wake up filled with sadness, rage and regret. This is every morning since a week ago. They ended up showing their true colors a week ago with one of the nastier messages I've received from someone in a while.
I'm going to therapy and reconnecting with people I know just to pass the time.I'm working out 5 days a week now and trying to learn a few new hobbies. I've deleted them off all means of contact I have and I have plans to throw everything out that they gave me or that reminds me of them.

Are there any other methods to remove this person from my memory apart from time and distance? I know that time will heal it regardless but I'm impatient and I feel trapped. I need to fast track this, I can't afford to be carrying around this much emotional turmoil surrounding this person in the fall. It's going to affect my work in a dire way.

I'm considering dating sites.

Any tips for making this move faster? At this point I just want to forget them completely and move on with the rest of my life. I thought I could salvage the good memories we had together but now they all feel tainted with rage and sadness.

Thank you for any and all advice.
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Shitting Duckgold - Mon, 03 Aug 2020 03:42:44 EST LUAyeKAb No.535564 Reply
>>535305
if you are starting to act like me then you need to go on one of those due vacations like i was supposed to

>Are there any other methods to remove this person from my memory apart from time and distance?
ur suppost to "go find some hunnies"
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Shitting Duckgold - Mon, 03 Aug 2020 04:10:59 EST LUAyeKAb No.535566 Reply
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>>535305
just listen to ur therapist is all. women are emotionally damaged dude, and they're also happy too. as far as sending gifts, you were supposed to let the steam wear off for like 20 years and then start sending them.
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Shitting Duckgold - Mon, 03 Aug 2020 05:12:32 EST LUAyeKAb No.535567 Reply
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>>535305
use an electromagnet; u put the big heavy friend up to ur head and a light turns on when u pull the trigger

I just cried

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- Sat, 01 Aug 2020 17:02:03 EST yyOfZufy No.535544
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I shed some tears for the first time in awhile.

I felt, in the most visceral way, the emotions I was holding onto and the things I was attached to. The things I yearn for were articulated to me.

I feel so much more relieved now...
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Molly Cluzzlepedge - Sat, 01 Aug 2020 18:19:23 EST TtXni/Rr No.535545 Reply
>>535544
That sounds great OP, what articulated it for you?

I hope you continue to feel the relief
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Shitting Duckgold - Mon, 03 Aug 2020 03:44:02 EST LUAyeKAb No.535565 Reply
>>535544
yeah

well

i want to completely destroy all of your spaceship's furniture, no offense.

Stimulants making life miserable. Desperate for advice.

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- Wed, 29 Jul 2020 03:22:24 EST 9eSe6dOP No.535497
File: 1596007344090.jpg -(30199B / 29.49KB, 400x400) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. Stimulants making life miserable. Desperate for advice.
Has anyone tried taking non stimulant medications for ADHD like strattera. I have tried multiple stimulant's and I find they make me irritable, isolated and suicidally melancholic. I am depressed and wish I could be normal. My own family says these drugs changed me prior to their suicide and I feel as though I can't stop now and I am in too deep.
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Phineas Greenson - Fri, 31 Jul 2020 15:28:42 EST 4LIo3jFE No.535535 Reply
>>535526
Nah I don’t even think I had real depression. I went to the doctor because I was tired all the time. Exercising, eating right, and improving my life in every way I can made me much more fulfilled.

Common opinion, but I think doctors are way to eager to hand out medicine.
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James Sashkat - Sun, 02 Aug 2020 18:26:31 EST 1SSFeKJF No.535561 Reply
>>535535
Mild depression can be cured by stuff like that. I'm not sure depression alone is a full disease, it's like "pain". Or the runs. There's a root cause. Sometimes it's a sign something else is wrong and sometimes like pain, you hurt when you shouldn't and only medication will help.

I think for a lot of people depression does have a cause and addressing that is the best solution. But some people needs meds to get that far or just have depression for no reason. It's complicated. Doctors are often too keen to shove drugs on people, people are often too hesitant to say "this is actually making my life worse" on meds but also many people are too keen to dismiss them out of hand "go for a walk, get some air" when that won't work.

I always advocate exercise, hydration, sleep and a good diet and so on because if they don't cure the problem (usually they don't) they will make you feel better and better able to handle it if nothing else. They're always worth doing to the extent you can.
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Frederick Brubblekat - Mon, 03 Aug 2020 00:16:14 EST q4fLZGUt No.535563 Reply
>>535561
>exercise, hydration, sleep and a good diet

Don’t forget getting high and jacking off, NgE, and a 10 day fast

How do I do this (and preferably live through it?)

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- Tue, 28 Jul 2020 03:03:58 EST /p7iBRUF No.535476
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I do not know what to do.

I am sick. I have never had a strong body, but about 8 years ago things went downhill quickly - my face literally melted off. I failed out of college because, during midterms, I was completely blinded by the immense quantity of discharge pouring through my eyes. I spent two long years seeking medical assistance, only to be rejected as things grew worse. Every joint in my body became agony, to the point I could stand up and walk maybe one or two days a week. Still I was refused any serious examination. The worst time I remember was when I had been referred to a hospital immunology clinic, where I was accused of having picked up syphilis; I thought this unlikely, but asked to be tested if that was possible. I was refused testing and kicked out of the clinic, with multiple curses about my 'lying' and about how "there is a boy in the next room allergic to dogs waiting for his allergy shots, stop wasting our time". I was never even prescribed NSAIDs for my pain.

I don't know if anyone here knows what pain delirium is, but it is a hell that makes you no longer a living, thinking human. When my pain was bad, the signalling would blind and deafen me - I must imagine the signalling was overloading my brain. I couldn't track time, or remember the day, or where I was, or even what my body looked like or that I was human. All that existed was pain. I would come to, unsure of the day, my throat slick from blood from screaming for hours.

After two long years of this, I determined that I would find a way out of this pain, or I would kill myself - I could not live with the pain any longer. In the time I was conscious and could focus through the pain, I compiled a long list of potential drugs that might help me. I ordered them in order of risk factor - first I tried OTC meds, then cannabis, and so on and so forth. By the time I neared the end of the list, nothing had worked to diminish my pain by more than 1 or 2%, and I had lost hope.

Heroin saved my life. Unlike oxycodone or other weaker agents, it actually diminished my pain. No amount would make it go away, but suddenly I could walk 6 days a week. I found a minimum wage job with my new abilities, leveraging family connections where I knew there was a sympathetic GM. My body deteriorated further with the work, but it was better than the alternative.

When I had the chance, once I had been using long enough to gain entry to the program, I entered a methadone program and completely quit heroin overnight. Methadone was a superior analgesic for my purposes, and its duration didn't hurt either. I enjoyed the lesser cognitive impact of the new medication.

Unfortunately, the sympathetic GM at work left, and was replaced with a person who hated my need to make time for a methadone clinic - clinics here can only legally operate in the morning, and they really wanted my working a 6 AM shift. This brought abuse, and when a neo-nazi manager hired a kid she was friends with, this kid greeted my by punching me before he'd said a word to me, and destroying my car. This same manager was in charge of investigating her friend, and found no fault. I walked. I was unemployed, but at least medicaid was covering my basic treatment. I have been unable to work since - nobody wants to hire someone who will randomly be unable to walk, or so pained they cannot even use a phone or keyboard (I have many long days and nights alone).

I should mention that I live with my parents. They have some wealth, but are barbaric. I have been raped and nearly murdered on various occasions over the years. Once I lost so much blood I faded in and out of consciousness for a week. When I fell into pain, I would be punished for screaming from the pain. I suspect my child abuse had something to do with stressing my body and activating autoimmune problems - there are strong links shown between the two. In any event, I am now completely at their mercy, no car, in the middle of nowhere, no friends around, stuck with them.

I want very badly to leave, but I don't know how. My county is extremely conservative and has basically zero real social services, no shelter, etc. I want to receive disability, but have not yet applied (need a doctor to write things up properly). It doesn't help that my healthcare is micromanaged - I was all but forced to select a doctor chosen by my large extensive family.

Furthermore, I do not trust that I will be all…
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Thomas Fuckingshaw - Fri, 31 Jul 2020 16:55:02 EST j8Szc2db No.535536 Reply
Hey OP, I hope to fucking god that you get out of that situation. If you've gotten this far you surely have the strength of will and intelligence to get the fuck away from those monsters.
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Molly Cluzzlepedge - Sat, 01 Aug 2020 11:01:26 EST TtXni/Rr No.535541 Reply
There is more low-cost counselling available than ever thanks to the pandemic, OP. Lots of therapists have been forced online and so you can access low-cost services all over the country (or world, though that's trickier to find because of legal stuff that therapists have to worry about but you don't have to).

Find a good trauma therapist, the most important trait of a trauma therapist is that they don't rush you. If you find yourself disassociating or having panic attacks or unable to function during or after sessions then it's going too fast and if the therapist lets that happen repeatedly they are a hack. Trauma therapy takes a long time, it might be a long time before you have the skills to even safely talk about it and work with it without retraumatising. Avoid therapists who don't believe in retraumitization, they are behind the times

EMDR is faster if you want to try that, it's sort of like a hypnotism, there's evidence it works for a lot of people but no one knows why, which is annoying.

You are definitely right about the auto-immune / trauma link. Loads of evidence for that

Reach out to other trauma victims, social support is really important, and PTSD isn't the only form trauma takes
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Molly Cluzzlepedge - Sat, 01 Aug 2020 11:04:51 EST TtXni/Rr No.535542 Reply
>>535541
Domestic abuse shelters will take you in, male or female, easier if you are female (demand creating supply) call them and see which ones have spaces

Argumentative Girlfriend

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- Sun, 26 Jul 2020 13:46:23 EST riz750n2 No.535437
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Hi, I am Knot, I haven't been on 420chan in forever. I have over 6 months sober, and am engaged to a lady I want to live my life with, but a lot of the time she is very frustrating. She twists my words, uses logical fallacies, makes ridiculous assumptions, and is highly paranoid. She is also just over 6 months sober.

I am here because I want to know what my favorite online community thinks about how to argue with someone who doesn't know how to argue intelligently.

I would really appreciate your help. I will gladly answer any questions and provide a more detailed description of her tactics vs my tactics if you have any questions.

Thank You
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Molly Cluzzlepedge - Sat, 01 Aug 2020 10:41:22 EST TtXni/Rr No.535539 Reply
  1. Always try to restate her point until she is satisfied that you fully understand her point of view (regardless of whether you agree or whether it is "logical") before you even bother sharing your own point of view. When you restate it try very hard to avoid strawmanning if you can
  2. Try to figure out how she is feeling. If when you say she is paranoid, you mean she is jealous? maybe jealousy is her looking for reassurance: see if giving her a hug and telling her you care about her works to reassure her, rather than trying to give explanations that have nothing to do with how you feel

How do talk to wamen?

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- Sat, 04 Jul 2020 12:27:42 EST /WTRsasU No.535233
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I used to suffer from pretty strong anxiety, to the point that I used a load of different drugs to deal with it (some legal, some not, some prescribed, some not). But After years I got myself mostly sorted out. I've not had anxiety or panic attacks for a couple years now.

But there's one area left that shoots me full of anxiety. Asking a woman out on a date. I lock up and feel deep fear of rejection and embarassment if I just walk up and be like "yo, wanna go to dinner?" I'm not even sure what the correct way to approach this is.

For real, I've had a few girlfriends before, but I was super fucking smashed or high at the time, I also almost melted down even then. AFTER asking them out if they say yes, it's easy for me. The rest is cake. But it's that start point that fucks me up.

It's been a couple years since I tried to even get a girlfriend and I met a beautiful and intelligent woman I work with. She seems interested and friends urge me to ask her out, telling me she's interested. But holy crap my stupid brain just fills me with fear.

I need advice, or techneques rather, that might help me deal with these feelings. I know that largely it's a "just do it" thing, where there's not much I can do aside from just taking the leap. But I'd like to know of any general tips that might help keep me cool calm and collected. I don't have to be some super Lando Calrissian here, just able.

Maybe (no wait, I deffinatly am) I'm over thinking it, maybe I just need to freak out here before I'm ready. But, yeah, well, here it is? Thanks in advance random internet people.
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Zozyman - Fri, 17 Jul 2020 10:24:38 EST /WTRsasU No.535321 Reply
>>535316
That actually explains why I was much more sucessful with women when I was doing DXM and Diazepam. I just seemed to get way more women, likely because of how confident the shit made me. Note that I wasn't "plat 4 bru, ho ho SMAHED" but like, low amounts that made me much more social.

Fuck, now I have to learn to do it without drugs. I mean, I don't have to, I just want to.
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Eliza Tillinglock - Sat, 25 Jul 2020 20:57:18 EST 7Cuu/gDL No.535427 Reply
>>535233

Dont be like me, losing virginity at 24 and really coming into myself late because I was afraid to live. This is real shit. I've read a combat veteran comparing getting out there to war. Biologically, this is war. You are tryna smash. Get all of their friends brah
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Clara Chammerhitch - Fri, 31 Jul 2020 07:41:51 EST mttQWkrO No.535532 Reply
>man who uses the word "waman" has no luck with women

pottery

Partner is leaving and I want to check out

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- Mon, 27 Jul 2020 19:15:42 EST 1zJZaBp5 No.535465
File: 1595891742523.gif -(105592B / 103.12KB, 500x280) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. Partner is leaving and I want to check out
I feel so numb
My partner and I have been trying for a child, we've recently become engaged and were pretty much ready to start planning a wedding for after covid
Then, one night, they bring up the idea of opening the relationship
I tell them the truth, that I don't feel comfortable doing that, especially when we're trying to start a family and they go on to talk about toxic monogamy and how they wish I'd choke in my sleep and die (for reference, the used to make fun of polyamorous couples all the time which makes this an even stranger turn)
So Im out a 1.6k engagement ring and a 5 year relationship during which I pretty much supported them entirely (they're disabled but keep putting off applying for disability)

I feel so done, so numb
I used to be a big drinker
I'm afraid I'm going to turn to old addictions when they leave
Theyve even confided in me they think they played a role in a friend of theirs taking their own life
When they leave, I just wnna check out from these wasted 5 years and take my bottle valium, wash it down with liquor and hope I don't wake up
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Walter Sonningnick - Wed, 29 Jul 2020 07:22:08 EST g4l1+StW No.535501 Reply
>>535498
Wow fuck. Yeah you need to call the police when that shit happens.
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Graham Henningdale - Wed, 29 Jul 2020 14:18:33 EST 1SSFeKJF No.535509 Reply
>>535498
>I can't take the psychological abuse anymore
She nearly murdered you. Call the police, get out. Get your shit. if she stole your credit card for a moment, cancel it and inform fraud protection. Your police report will back up what happened. Visit a doctor to confirm your injury or take pictures

What the fuck you wanted a kid with this monster?

This shit escalates too. It won't get less violent, only more as she gets away with more and more. Get out.

In a few months you will have a party celebrating your freedom and life will taste sweet. But only if you escape before she kills you. You have two choices. Pack your stuff and leave or call the police. Otherwise she'll be using your credit card to ferry over booty calls while you're bleeding to death on the floor.
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Alice Hevingworth - Wed, 29 Jul 2020 19:21:52 EST jnas4L6T No.535515 Reply
i went through something with many of the same details. you will end up better and stronger

I ruined my brain with drugs

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- Sat, 18 Jul 2020 16:30:44 EST UZC9gHak No.535338
File: 1595104244610.jpg -(72297B / 70.60KB, 720x696) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. I ruined my brain with drugs
I was trapped in a small town with nothing to do but drugs and all the loneliness gave me mental illness.

I cant enjoy anything. Like I see people working some shitty and coming home and happy about some stupid hobby.

I only want the best of the best. I want to be high 24/7 and like go on a plane and go vacation somewhere doing more drugs with a shit load of fun things to do and then go back to a big city and have a lot of money and do more drugs and drive nice ass cars and go do drugs all over the city and fuck bitches and travel all day high.

Everything else sounds like shit
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Oliver Hummerwell - Sat, 25 Jul 2020 23:16:56 EST s0jfgpr4 No.535428 Reply
>>535338
I don't think you've ruined your brain with drugs. I think you are suffering from a total lack of purpose or meaning in your life, and you've merely ruined your attitude, expectations, and beliefs about life. Drugs did not cause this, they merely expedited the process and hampered your ability to rationally assess what the problem is.

You've tried substituting purpose and meaning with artificial feelings of joy and gratification because they, at one time, provided you with what you wanted immediately. Now, the effect has diminished, and you're left feeling just is empty and without joy, purpose, or satisfaction as you were before getting high, but even almost always while you are high too. You've trained your mind to indulge in freaking out when you can't immediately remedy the problem with a simple solution (which leads to drug seeking behavior and other impulsive and compulsive addictive behaviors, which often manifests in most people as gambling, overeating, and/or engaging in as much promiscuous casual sex as possible).

The problem is, you've hit the limit of what drugs can do to artificially alleviate the problem, and your unconscious mind realizes this. The problem is, it's primitive and misguided, and doesn't know better than to compel you into doing things that it knows can provide an extremely temporary quick fix, which distracts you from developing real interests and setting long-term goals (and actually working to achieve them). These endeavors are what can sustain you over the long-term.

Quit trying to seek quick and easy escapes through drugs, and instead work on developing yourself and improving your life. It's okay to use drugs to some degree as long as you use them as tools for achieving your long-term goals, but doing so is a slippery slope... especially as an addict, because your judgment regarding how much of a distraction and escape the drugs you use are is highly impaired.
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Nathaniel Sennerchut - Tue, 28 Jul 2020 01:20:22 EST qTml9FbR No.535474 Reply
God must hate the OP
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Hugh Fuckingspear - Tue, 28 Jul 2020 22:29:29 EST sasjEvUT No.535494 Reply
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>>535420
>yfw you realize millennials are in their mid 30s and the days of you being able to call any young person a millennial are coming to a close

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