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Kirtaner & Spardot's 420chan Wedding

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#qq on IRC by Mintzs !GD3wBpep0Y - Sun, 13 Aug 2017 12:14:49 EST ID:d5kHsYag No.518069 Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hi folks,

If you're looking to talk to someone immediately about any problems you have in your life and have nobody close to you, come and speak to us!

Join us on IRC on #qq. Most of us have different time zones but if you stay there, one of us will be there.

Don't be afraid to speak up.
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Hugh Gubblepuck - Mon, 13 Aug 2018 23:40:31 EST ID:LiDoGP54 No.526110 Ignore Report Quick Reply
social anxiety sucks ass
Lillian Gaddlegold - Wed, 15 Aug 2018 20:30:25 EST ID:SHhda2fi No.526141 Ignore Report Quick Reply

I used to have bad social anxiety.

Now I just don't care about forming relationships with other people. It's exhausting and a waste of time and money. I'd rather be learning things or making money.
' God !!Bwteoy2D - Thu, 16 Aug 2018 02:34:19 EST ID:B/1t3ZFg No.526143 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Like 90 percent of most peoples energy is supposed to be grounded by other people which means we are mostly born to serve other homo sapiens.

sober life by Ebenezer Murddock - Thu, 16 Aug 2018 02:40:09 EST ID:28iFRbOa No.526145 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Sobriety fucking blows. Life is better and im a much less boring person when im high or buzzed. Ive been trying to keep busy by reading more, focusing on my career, exercising daily, and spending time on my car but things still feel 'dead'. Ive been indoors for the past couple of days and my mind is just racing and I cant get anything done without procrastinating.

How do the sober types here feel joy? Im dull and motionless. Maybe the drugs were masking something but i much rather that than how im living at the moment.
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Struggling to deal with girlfriend's fetish by Doris Goodwill - Tue, 14 Aug 2018 17:57:58 EST ID:RdJtcLxF No.526119 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So I started seriously dating this girl about two months ago, after we met up a lot through a mutual friend, and things were going great, really well, she's gorgeous, kind, funny, and slightly strange, I had always noticed that about her, but then sometimes I got this smell off her.

It was really off-putting, but other than that the sex was great, until one night, recently, she revealed her damn fetish to me, and frankly I don't want our relationship ruined, but it really sickened me, and made me actually sick, and she says she wants to do it, and it'd be awkward if I knew she was into that and just kept up the sex as normal, but one night she revealed her fetish to me, and I felt sick because I already am not that into seafood, but she had bits of dead and slightly decaying octupus and squid glued all over her with some temporary adhesive. She said she payed top dollar from a local fish market for it, but I wasn't taking it, I just couldn't even begin to think of going down on that. She also had fucking fish heads in her hair, actually tied into her hairdo, and a bit of squid dangling out of her vagina. It wouldn't have made much difference it were clean, but it was really rotten smelling and she was swarming with a couple of flies, and I just..like I can't look at her and get that image out of my head, it's like it's mentally fucking with me.

Thing is, I want to be open minded, and I still like her, it's just that it's really sort of off-putting. She has a freezer full of squid and octopus and bits of fish and shrimp, and it's just really weird to even think of her doing it while I'm not looking. I don't know if I can go down on her again. I mean thing is, I don't think it would work going back to a non-sexual relationship now because of this. I don't know what to do. I can't move forward with the relationship now, it's ground it to a halt. It's like I can't even see her like I did before, it's getting in the way of everything.

I need advice on ways to proceed. I like her, but...the squid, I just can't, it's like finding out she has a shit fetish, but this is even worse somehow.
Isabella Buckleket - Tue, 14 Aug 2018 19:13:50 EST ID:HUUepmZy No.526120 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Jesus dude, that is pretty gnarly.

I imagine my weird fetishes would put women off, but they're porn stuff and just involved depraved sex.

Just mention to her that she could just use her imagination and keep that stuff to the porn. But I'm just some random jackass throwing an idea at you. I have no way of knowing if it will actually work.
Simon Hinderwater - Tue, 14 Aug 2018 21:17:58 EST ID:iEsd0lEt No.526123 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I mean yeah just say hey I'm not aroused by rotting fish so it's a hard out. You've only been going out for a few months so no big deal hey. What's the problem?
' God !!Bwteoy2D - Thu, 16 Aug 2018 02:51:07 EST ID:B/1t3ZFg No.526146 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Just ask her to keep it out of her vagina if she wants to share it with you. Just say loyalty is important to you and she can do whatever she wants with the squid but only you can fuck her.

Is there a connection between chalk and a certain drug? by Clara Savingpidge - Sat, 11 Aug 2018 15:45:23 EST ID:8BfTWzdH No.526075 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I know I sound like a paranoid middle age mother, but it's a genuine question.

My sister uses drugs recreationally, as do I, but I don't know what she's using. MDMA and coke I guess, but it hasn't been a problem so far. However last night was the first time an ambulance had to be called so I'm worried. I've seen her drunk and high plenty of times but she was acting straight up weird yesterday, I knew she was on something long before things went bad.

Simultaneously over the last month mysterious pieces of chalk have appeared in the apartment. At first I thought they were a halved pills but they're just short of chalk like the ones used on a board. Random things end up pockets all the time but I've found these pieces of chalk four times now in a short period of time, more than a coincidence even if it doesn't involve drugs.

I can't think of anything, but I know there are less than obvious connections such as MDMA users eating magnesium pills to help with the chewing, so I'm wondering if there's any drug or method of use that would utilize chalk?
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Alice Honeybanks - Sun, 12 Aug 2018 12:09:00 EST ID:8BfTWzdH No.526089 Ignore Report Quick Reply
That would make sense if I found a small bunch of them but they've been popping up in quantities of 1-2 days or weeks apart.
Isabella Buckleket - Mon, 13 Aug 2018 21:37:12 EST ID:HUUepmZy No.526109 Ignore Report Quick Reply
perhaps she was on MDMA and she liked chewing chalk because of her awesome teeth?

I have no experience with either drug nor chalk.
Molly Goodwill - Tue, 14 Aug 2018 07:56:48 EST ID:USUZpST+ No.526115 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Maybe she habitually gets high and draws stuff with chalk, I can't really think of anything else. Why don't you ask her?
Are you sure it's chalk and not candy cigarettes?
Sidney Broddlehall - Wed, 15 Aug 2018 15:16:05 EST ID:6mp4SimB No.526135 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I tried drawing with it and tasted it and it was chalk. I didn't ask her because if it's something to worry about she wouldn't tell me and straight up accusing her because "I found chalk" sounds retarded
' God !!Bwteoy2D - Thu, 16 Aug 2018 02:38:53 EST ID:B/1t3ZFg No.526144 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Chalk is used to prevent teeth grinding while on molly. It covers the teeth with a thin layer that prevents them from breaking when you start grinding hard.

How do I get out of this? by Graham Pickshit - Tue, 14 Aug 2018 01:31:45 EST ID:7DhEjqUS No.526112 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm 22 years old. Every single day, I come home from work, fool around with something semi-productive (guitar, learning spanish by textbook), and then proceed to get stoned and drunk.

I recently graduated college, where I finally realized how weird I was compared to most people -- back home I always avoided people because I lived in a small town where people would have severely scorned me had they known my family and I were atheists. On top of this, I have always sought peoples' approval even if it meant having only the most superficial kind of relationship with them. As I result I have struggled to "have nothing to hide" my whole life.

...I'm rambling. Anyway, at my university of 5,000 people, I was considered very eccentric -- people thought I was insane because of my expressions and mannerisms. Apparently, this was to a greater degree than what might be expected of a typical shut in/ asperger's case, and the only people that ever seemed to want me around were those in a never-ending pity party.

That said, I think it worth considering I don't have those one or two major social hobbies that most people have, be it be sports, DnD, or just studying together. My pops is a control freak and I have no reliable transportation and live in a small town. It's also true that I don't seem to have much reason to pursue one goal over another. I'm just working at a hole-in-the-wall Vietnamese restaurant where no one speaks more than necessary English. My only social relationship these days is over the fact that I can speak some Vietnamese. I want to change jobs already, though. It's dishwashing.
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Graham Pickshit - Tue, 14 Aug 2018 16:23:49 EST ID:7DhEjqUS No.526117 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Yeah, im not sure how to do that— lose my fear of disapproval. And honestly, my dad is critical of anything and everything I do be it a new haircut or an idea of a ppace id like to volunteer or a group i would like to join. I don’t have a car, so of course i have to have his approval to some degree. And of course I’m saving up money, although it’s a slow process.

>Yeah, you're a weirdo. There's really no cure for that. But you don't sound like you've been in a rut for too long

Here’s the thing: I only enjoy talking to people when im too fucked up to remember our conversation. I hate to have to introduce myself to people, I hate the sound of my own name, I hate that I dont want to be called by my middle name, either. It’s as if at every turn my mind latches onto one thing that it dislikes and allows that thing to produce some crippling anxiety. I had a sedative medication prescribed to me at one point and loved the fuck out of it. I couldnt stay on it, though due to side effects.
Thomas Wuddlehut - Tue, 14 Aug 2018 17:32:16 EST ID:N8SnPlnn No.526118 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Not much to say other than I feel your pain. I'm gonna have to cut out drinking because it has taken complete control over my life, and I also have trouble making connections or new friends. I've always felt like an outsider for as long as I can remember. I'm 28 now. I suspect I will be like this for the rest of my life. My parents are like this as well and it's probably one of those heritable traits more than anything else. Whenever I spend too much time around someone I just feel filthy, like they've contaminated me with their personality and I need to wash it off or something.

That being said though, I get social interaction through work and don't mind it. Most people there accept my eccentricities because I am their boss. Your job sounds fucking cool though, I would love to work in a vietnamese restaurant, even if it was just doing dishes, and it's awesome that you've learned some vietnamese because of it(or maybe you knew it beforehand?).

In any case, see if you can get some professional help for your social anxiety (that's what it sounds like anyway). Sedatives are not the way to go in the long run, please trust me on that. Also the whole being weird thing: I have met people in my life that "get" me and that I click with, so I know that this is possible for you too. It can be kinda frustrating when everyone else is really plain and gets along really well and you are a lonely weirdo, but there are people like you out there, or at least people who will be able to enjoy your eccentricities and might give you an opportunity to have an actual meaningful conversation.

I don't know what to give in terms of advice, I would just advise you to get creative with it and try to explore whatever avenues you are comfortable with for socializing. You're pursuing productive tasks in your spare time, these, when brought to a decent level of mastery, will impress people and allow you to have something to talk about. Who cares if you are a bit odd if you are also crazy good with a guitar? Someone who is also a musician or listens to music will find that really cool. I also find that most people don't really care and don't have that large expectations for …
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Archie Fevingridge - Tue, 14 Aug 2018 21:55:05 EST ID:rI3bHHaH No.526124 Ignore Report Quick Reply
my dude:
therapy. If you don't think you can afford it as a dishwasher you can find a way. it's worth it and not weird at all to be in therapy. most of my friends are. some were for a long time before I knew.
Graham Bummlehall - Wed, 15 Aug 2018 16:51:13 EST ID:B/1t3ZFg No.526137 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It's all triviial my man, dreams are the real reality. Live in your dreams however you wish to interpret that.
Hugh Wangerfoot - Wed, 15 Aug 2018 23:08:16 EST ID:7DhEjqUS No.526142 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I tried a couple of therapists at uni. I dont bring it up because i dont want to explain my problems to my dad. He tends to not believe in the grip my thoughts hold over me, or in things such as my inability to make friends. He’s usually too into his own pity-party. He has chronic physical pain and is sort of a resentful artist-type who came from coal-mining wifebeaters.

The therapists I saw were able to guve me a few pointers on how to conduct myself. I learned, for example, to be careful not to get so absorbed in what im sharing that I overlook how Immay be making someone uncomfortable. That was about all the help I could get. I read The Power of Now, which was some help to me. Still, i just feel that I can’t enjoy talking to people. I dont know how to match expectations, and unless I’ve had some vodka, I can’t even relax enough to have seemingly meaningful topics come to me, if that makes sense. On top of that, I dont see the point in pursuing romantic interests because i cant easily have sex unless im on a roll of having abstained from porn and masturbation for a few months.

how do you deal with depressed people by Priscilla Drummertut - Wed, 15 Aug 2018 10:35:06 EST ID:1jbaRQWU No.526131 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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trying to cheer her up is making me want to kill myself

no matter how much i try to support it doesn't make a difference

why try anymore
Priscilla Drummertut - Wed, 15 Aug 2018 11:32:29 EST ID:1jbaRQWU No.526132 Ignore Report Quick Reply
why do i want to be with someone that doesn't want to live

someone please shoot me
Sophie Murdridge - Wed, 15 Aug 2018 12:53:26 EST ID:wFwBKUSJ No.526133 Ignore Report Quick Reply

I think I can say with certainty that I know exactly how you feel. My mother tends to have depression, anxiety and a negative outlook on many things. I also have some issues with anxiety so when she is down, it brings me down too.
Priscilla Drummertut - Wed, 15 Aug 2018 19:16:37 EST ID:1jbaRQWU No.526139 Ignore Report Quick Reply
not even just that

she had serious thoughts about suicide again yesterday

how am i even supposed to deal with this
Lillian Pumblebane - Wed, 15 Aug 2018 20:05:48 EST ID:cBYQH4Mo No.526140 Ignore Report Quick Reply
happiness comes from within. so you gotta stick that dick deep within if u wanna have an effect.

Planning to say this to my gf of 1 year who I've been living with by Alice Dittingridge - Sun, 29 Jul 2018 11:30:56 EST ID:7hD/JfFv No.525799 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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do you think it's ok?

"So listen, you know this is the first time I ever lived together with anyone, and I guess I learned about myself through this new experience.
Basically I don't think I can ever live with anyone. I need to be able to do what I want when I want, having to do things for someone, having someone tell me what to do, how yo do it, I don't like it.
I just can't be with someone 24/7 I guess. I'm just not the type of person who can do that, I guess it's my personality"
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Matilda Drabberbag - Thu, 09 Aug 2018 15:22:21 EST ID:Om/gGBzM No.526036 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Something that's been bothering me OP. It's one detail but it might provide some perspective on things.

How long is her commute now?
Reuben Blatherhood - Thu, 09 Aug 2018 21:46:36 EST ID:Mkbwc0xR No.526041 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Honestly it sounds like she isnt really getting it at all.

Has she take responsibility for not being able to get herself to work independently? Nope. Is she taking steps to get a license or car? Has she downloaded some podcasts for the commute or anything? No. So that's bullshit

Yet again she's blaming it all on you living with your mum but isnt actually engaging in any form of self reflection about how she can change to make a more harmonious relationship. You live together and yet you can't even get her to compromise about a clothes basket. That's fucked up.

Its typical lazy entitlement. I guess she thinks she's out of your league and that you're just lucky to even drive her to work. She doesn't have to change because theres nothing wrong with her. You are the one with the problem. This line of thinking is not what good relationships are made of. Dont tolerate it.

Honestly you need to call her out in a gentle but firm manner.

Not looking good man. Dont take it all on yourself. You've shown more emotional maturity than she has.
Oliver Fellypug - Fri, 10 Aug 2018 06:48:25 EST ID:IJsz4t4O No.526049 Ignore Report Quick Reply
dude you're a stallion. it's clear this chick has hardly any emotional interest vested in this relationship. i agree op dropping this all at once is kind of a 'bomb', but when is not? the fact that she's trying to turn everything around is a red flag and she comes across as manipulative.

also being an adult & having no reliable means of transportation is bush league. blaming it on your partner for not wanting to carry them everyday is betamax

gtfo im tired of the pedestals your types put up for manippy women
Beatrice Bennermod - Wed, 15 Aug 2018 15:47:02 EST ID:TAsVGYKT No.526136 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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so I'm posting this from my mom's house, it dragged on a little but I finally left today.
Already feel much happier and "lighter" like a burden was taken off of my soul.
We're still gonna see each other though.
anyway, thanks for caring everyone.
Martin Murdlock - Wed, 15 Aug 2018 16:51:32 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.526138 Ignore Report Quick Reply

I’m glad dude, enjoy the space this creates for you.

is my dad a horrible person? by Fucking Blatherville - Wed, 15 Aug 2018 15:02:00 EST ID:em7ipYii No.526134 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I don't know how to feel about my father anymore. On the outside he has a friendly and outgoing demeanor but inside he's a self centered and judgemental asshole. He acts like a stereotypical baby boomer, the kind that feels entitled to everything and will throw a fit if they don't get their way. The ones that are hypocritical and completely unaware of it. Basically he has the emotional intelligence of a fucking toddler, and it's embarrassing to see a 60 year old man act that way.

Over the course of my lifetime there would be times where he'll lose his shit over something and say unforgivable things to me and my family. Even when I was a child he'd get pissed off about something and take it out on me. Being the oldest and only male child I usually got brunt of it. He'd never hit me (although he's come close) but he'd verbally abuse me, call me loser, a failure, etc. My father is an intimidating figure and when I was younger he'd terrify me when he would do this. Now I'm used to it and I don't take what he says to heart but it will still put me in a bad mood.

Usually after these episodes where he'd act like a shithead he'd apologize to me and we'd move on. Back then I was willing to forgive him because he would show remorse but the pattern would always continue. I'm 24 now and he still acts this way. Last week we got into another fight and in his rage he admitted that he's never liked me. This time he hasn't apologize and I don't think I'd forgive him even if he did.

I don't know. I feel conflicted, I'm describing him at this worst. When he's not acting like this he's a okay father. He taught me a lot of life skills that were valuable, like being true to your word, the merits of hard work, how to stand up for yourself. Stuff that dads are supposed to teach their kids. I always wanted to believe that when he acted cruel it wasn't his true personality, but now I think that this is how he is inside.

Part of me wants to try and salvage this relationship, and part of me wants to punch him in the mouth.

Bumps by Cancer? - Wed, 15 Aug 2018 00:44:19 EST ID:kBLz5tje No.526127 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm pretty sure the bumps on the back of my head are not from bug-bites, however, i can't exactly observe them with a double-mirror. I have two bumps, irregullarly placed, behind my ears, behind my skull... i cannot determine them to be bug bites; they occur within my hairline. I have anothwr bump, growing from a conspicuous ordinary skull formation on the right back side of my head. The nodules are sensitive, but i dont feel exact pain.
Martin Murdlock - Wed, 15 Aug 2018 05:24:50 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.526128 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Sometimes you can end up with spots because of all the hair follicles.

I had one grow in that lasted maybe 2 weeks before eventually popping.
Nell Senninghadging - Wed, 15 Aug 2018 08:51:27 EST ID:cBYQH4Mo No.526130 Ignore Report Quick Reply
alien eggs

Baby trap? by Sophie Bublingworth - Thu, 09 Aug 2018 11:43:34 EST ID:2ZLMnT1L No.526026 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Is it safe to say that a girl who wants me to fuck her without a condom is trying to baby trap me? I don't get that vibe from her but you never know.

She doesn't take bc pills cause of the side effects (understandable) and I use condoms but she's "really likes the feeling" and wants me to stick it in at least for a bit. Ive done a good job resisting so far but I'm thinking of breaking it off because no woman who actually doesn't want a child is OK with that shit.
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David Geckleville - Mon, 13 Aug 2018 14:15:26 EST ID:bw79xszS No.526105 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Am wamen, let me give my perspective...

Is she at least tracking her period on an app? If no, she's just naive and stupid... But also borderline wanting a baby. If yes, at least she'll know when her egg drops/in the most fertile.

They make condoms that are super thin like these Skyns Elite are nice. They really feel like nothing but not so thin a breeze tears holes into them. Buy a box and give it a shot.
Basil Fattingfield - Tue, 14 Aug 2018 11:27:09 EST ID:rLVoCSJq No.526116 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>a woman telling a guy that "these" condoms don't feel bad

yeah, sure.
Archie Pittdale - Tue, 14 Aug 2018 19:41:50 EST ID:bw79xszS No.526121 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Does it surprise you that even women can have condom preferences? It takes two to tango, and both should share the load of buying condoms.

And hey, I'm the one getting rammed with the goddamn thing for a few minutes so shouldn't I have a say which condoms are used? If I wanted to fuck a plastic feeling dick I'd fuck a goddamn dildo. These are by far the best to get all the feeling without the risk of a screaming, crying, shitting money pit that exists to destroy whatever quality of life you enjoyed for at least the next 18 years of your miserable existence.
William Hanningfuck - Tue, 14 Aug 2018 22:36:42 EST ID:CaAyhMz3 No.526125 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Geez cheer up kid.
Martha Memblestock - Tue, 14 Aug 2018 22:49:28 EST ID:bw79xszS No.526126 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Internet buddy swooped my girl by Caroline Greenstock - Thu, 09 Aug 2018 10:54:12 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.526024 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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During summer, my internet friend of many years, who I met up with once before when I happened to be in his city, came and stayed at my house for a couple days. We've had a pretty decent friendship, neither of us is particularly proactive about contact but there's a respect when we do. We bonded over mental health problems in a facebook community, I've tried to kill myself many times, hes a bit crazy etc.

Anyways, came over and we had a good time, smile on my face the entire time. I introduced him to my friends, we got drunk and everything was chill. He expressed interest in my friend, who I've "secretly" loved since I met her, I've never hooked up but I've tried initiating stuff in the past via messages and fell flat.

They basically kissed and stuff out of sight at some point during a drunken night out and some pretty intimate bonding stuff happening. No one saw, he told me afterwards. He didn't know, I hadn't told him. I told my girl that he has a girl back home, which was true but it was in the early stages like a couple weeks of knowing each other, so it didn't seem too serious and he certainly didn't seem bothered. But it was kinda hard having him make quite small comments about her afterwards, like how he fancies her or chuffed he had a crack at that. I made some kinda salty noises back at him and he doesn't seem to raise it anymore at all. We haven't spoken since my last message where I told him "okay we get it u like her" and he made a zipped face emoji. Now we just interact through likes on social media, as normal, as we usually do. Contact is usually specific, not filler.

>Here's my problem though. I'm not who I said I was in this story, I'm the guy who came to his country, stayed in his house and pulled his girl. Now me and her are secretly having a long distance relationship because basically, he isn't emotionally stable enough to handle news like this without there being repercussions for her and arguably me. I'd rather not upset him for no reason, but this has now passed the 1 month mark of "my girlfriend, in secret", we have basically entered an agreement to meet monthly and we can'…
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Phoebe Tootstone - Sat, 11 Aug 2018 01:07:52 EST ID:jfR0c7UU No.526063 Ignore Report Quick Reply
The longer this sits in secret, the worse it will be. Honestly, this is why I avoid dating friends crushes. To be honest, if all it takes is a caging to bring on D-day, is he really that good of a friend? It’d take rape or murder for me to turn on my closest friends, not a high school girl crush on some bimbo who’s gonna jump on the next best dick that comes her way.
> Honestly think to yourself, she dated you knowing your friend had interest, but doesn’t want to deal with any reprocussions leaving it solely up to you to decide how to drop the news. She seems to have little care for others and a weaker spine to help her walk. Way I see it, your just another ex waiting to lose a friend AND get dumped 3 months later... Only one month to say I love you? Doesn’t sound like either of you have decent standards to begin with.
Phyllis Crublinglock - Sun, 12 Aug 2018 13:32:16 EST ID:Qy3FigJL No.526091 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Haha plot twist! I really enjoyed reading this thread.

I don't think you should tell him, just don't, he wasn't going to do anything about her anyway, what does it matter? What do you owe him? Didn't she chose? Should she just wait for him forever? These answer to all these questions are obvious. Don't tell him
Beatrice Sittingson - Mon, 13 Aug 2018 09:47:52 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.526103 Ignore Report Quick Reply
She told him the other night.

He took it fine, seems jokey with her but said nothing to me.

Things seem good for now.
James Goodspear - Tue, 14 Aug 2018 20:23:22 EST ID:ka63e54W No.526122 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Uh dum dum he is repressing his feelings
Martin Murdlock - Wed, 15 Aug 2018 05:27:08 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.526129 Ignore Report Quick Reply

So what. If someone ain’t gonna commit to a public statement, it’s not on me. I ain’t here to think for 2 people fuck that.

Anti-depressants, the destruction of the libido, and my sex life by Shit Bunworth - Sun, 12 Aug 2018 21:15:13 EST ID:jMSpSY/k No.526093 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So I've recently started taking an SSRI (citalopram) again for the first time in several years. Last time I used it it was a massive help, it got me out of a deep rut and helped me jumpstart my life.

I'd been falling back into a mental rut over the last few months and could see all the warning signs of an impending crisis if left unchecked, so I've made the decision to go back on medication.

This is all fine and dandy except for one problem - last time I took these things, I was single. The fact that SSRIs drop a nuke on your libido didn't bother me, and I in fact saw it as a welcome bonus while I focused on getting my life back together.

But now I'm older and I have a wife who's something of a nympho. She craves sex. And right now she's pregnant and entering second trimester, which means all the hormonal adjustments are making her even hornier than usual.

How do I deal with this? The last few times we fucked I wasn't able to cum, I could feel myself kind of vaguely getting close but then the feeling sort of disappeared and I gradually went soft. It's been less than a week since I started taking the meds and the effects are getting worse each day. I have the day off work today and the idea to have enjoy some peaceful jerking off struck my mind, so I loaded up some porn and...nothing. There was some definite physical twitching down there, a half chub, but mentally I was just completely disinterested. I flicked through all sorts of things that I'd normally be interested in and I simply could not get myself in the mood.

I'm kind of happy that I'll be able to avoid porn for the foreseeable future as I have my own personal ideological issues with it, but the effect this is going to have on my marital relations is going to become a problem.

What do, /qq/?
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Shit Bunworth - Mon, 13 Aug 2018 02:52:58 EST ID:jMSpSY/k No.526100 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I get what you're saying but I don't think I quite touched on the problem.

I have no problem getting her off. She's damn sensitive and I've always been able to fingerbang her to orgasm in a few minutes flat. Every inch of her body is an erogenous zone and I can make her finish practically anyway I want.

The thing with me not being able to cum isn't the centre of my problems, it's merely a symptom. My overall interest in sex is slipping away bit by bit. She'll be nibbling on my ear and rearing to go and the thought that goes through my head isn't my usual thoughts of throwing the bitch over and going to town on her, instead it's 'urgh why, I really don't care right now, let me enjoy my peace and quiet'.

I love my wife but physical intimacy is a big component of a good marriage, particularly when my wife is the way she is.

I could buy her a vibrator or whatever but she's told me in the past that masturbation doesn't quite cut the mustard with her. It's that intimacy and sharing of the experience with me that elevates it to the next level.

It's hard to deliver orgasms when you're on psychotropic medication that has the side-effect of making you genuinely not interested in sex.

It was medically determined back when I was a younger man that therapy doesn't do jackshit for me, my brain just genuinely doesn't work properly. It's a hereditary form of dysthymia that runs in my family (THANKS MA), although I think they refer to it by a different name these days. As I mentioned in my OP, SSRIs have worked for me in the past, they've done genuine wonders for me. I know they tend to be massively overprescribed and have negative effects for younger people, but they've been lifesavers for me during troubled times.
Samuel Gondleforth - Mon, 13 Aug 2018 09:10:30 EST ID:Mkbwc0xR No.526102 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Yeah but I mean theres a bit of a difference between getting her off in a few minutes with your fingers and what I meant. I mean take the time. Push the boundaries. Build an animal.

Have you talked with her about it? Maybe you guys could figure out a way to spice things up a bit. Also yeah just talk with her about your depression.
Wesley Pickman - Mon, 13 Aug 2018 13:26:03 EST ID:JRefmd5a No.526104 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Smoke some weed and see if it helps any. I found it to be decently helpful with SSRI side effects, extremely helpful with SSRI withdrawal effects, and the weed itself gets substantially potentiated, so if you get horny from it then this might be enough to temporarily enable you to get off.

Of course, it wouldn't be a good idea to smoke around/with your pregnant wife, so YMMV and it might be kinda awkward being high while she's not. A relatively low-dose edible (accounting for potentiation) might be your best bet if going this route.

Alternatively, there are other classes of antidepressants which are less notorious for this particular side effect, or if you really find that it's helping you, there are adjuncts that can be prescribed to try and counteract the problem (though in my personal experience, weed was the most effective for actually restoring some sense of libido, rather than simply addressing mechanical issues).
Isabella Fanlock - Mon, 13 Aug 2018 14:42:02 EST ID:TdF2zjDy No.526106 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Whatever you do discuss this with your doctors. They WILL make fun of you. Asking anonymous potheads was the right call. Try putting spiders in your ass, works for me everytime.
Eugene Buzzshaw - Tue, 14 Aug 2018 01:29:41 EST ID:JqxelPRJ No.526111 Ignore Report Quick Reply
lol I just stacked an amphetamine prescription on top of it

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