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loneliness and self harm addiction by David Buvingstock - Sun, 09 Jul 2017 22:48:27 EST ID:/9qNwBG1 No.517330 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've become addicted to my self harm and I feel so alone and scared.

I can't and never will tell my family or GP about this, I have a friend who knows I cut myself badly recently but I don't want to push her further away by telling her how much it has escalated this week; I'm cutting deeper and more frequently, I've made three or four cuts a day(or night I guess, since I'm waking up midday and sleeping around 8am lately)for the last five days I think. I love the excitement of it and then the calmness afterwards, laying on my bed watching the blood flow out along the cuts on my thighs is happiest thing in my life right now, I can even get a little turned on by it...I have zero sex drive, so I guess the dopamine release is just so overwhelming it's causing that to happen?

Anyway, no matter how bad this gets it's never enough for me, hours after when I look at them I can't help but think how pathetic I am for not going further across or deeper etc. This is scaring me because although I want to die, the thought of leaving my suicide behind for my mam to find and deal with is heartbreaking and something I said to myself I'd never do, but with this new addiction of punishing myself further and further may well result in that awful scenario in the end; if I ever cut into an artery I honestly don't think I'd call for help, I'd accept that it was time for this pain of mine to end- but who knows what adreneline will do to me, I hope that I will call for help.

I don't want "help" from any of you, but it feels so good to write this out for the first time and get it out of my head without fear of pushing someone away. I'm so alone and feel so stuck. Maybe some of you have had similar experience in the past, or are going through this too? It would be "nice" to hear your side.

Picture is one of my four cats, who I'll be leaving someday :(
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Sophie Hisslebane - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 15:00:07 EST ID:XS6JMhmD No.517595 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Don't do it, squirrel friend.

>I'm a disgusting and selfish bitch
Disgusting and selfish people don't worry about nor hate themselves for being disgusting and selfish, because they're disgusting and selfish. The fact that this is distressing you so much means you're clearly not.
Nicholas Lighthall - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 15:08:38 EST ID:7wDF17SC No.517596 Ignore Report Quick Reply
this is the OP btw, first time I've seen the thread since my last post.

I've tried other self harm methods in the past before I started cutting, but like I've said I enjoy seeing the blood now too, plus non of those suggestions leave long term marks on your body which is also something I like, or liked..it doesn't matter anymore.

Thanks for your posts though, aand I'm reaally sorry for what you've been through.
Nicholas Lighthall - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 15:27:04 EST ID:7wDF17SC No.517597 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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There's no reason for me not to.

I don't wanna keep posting about this right now, I spent far too long making that post, I must have edited it 10+ times, entire paragraphs were deleted, that's the short version without all the dark stuff. I want to sleep, thank you for your concern and help though, really.
Isabella Shittingbanks - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 16:34:53 EST ID:C2LZTezo No.517603 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Honestly, if it feels this good to open up to random strangers on the internet, go open up to a doctor. I know its hard, but it really will make you feel good. I havnet told anyone I see a psychiatrist, so don't worry about your friends and family. I live in the USA so I had to wait till I got a job that offers health insurance to deal with my depression. I'm assuming by your use of the term GP that you don't live in a third world country like me, so what is your excuse? Two thoughts that helped me open up: "getting help iant losing control, its gaining it" and "This is my business. It's just about me. Knowone elsw knows Im here and they will only ever know if I tell them". Oh, and get some animal friemds.
Isabella Shittingbanks - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 16:39:34 EST ID:C2LZTezo No.517604 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Oh, you already have 4 cats? Go smoke pot and pet your kitty. Fuck everything else NB

How to be OK with fact that I'm nothing by James Dabbershaw - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 13:25:38 EST ID:bwJOb6Ln No.517590 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I am working on trying to do something in my life, but meanwhile the fact that I haven't done anything yet is crippling. How do I stop it hurting and setting me back days by keeping me in bed crying? What lies do I tell myself to make this okay?

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James Dabbershaw - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 14:22:11 EST ID:bwJOb6Ln No.517593 Ignore Report Quick Reply


If you don't specify gender people assume you are a man, I thought knowing the gender might affect the advice. For example, someone might say "toughen up" instead of "man up" or "have a baby" instead of "go to a strip club".. i dunno
Emma Chuddleset - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 15:30:46 EST ID:f1qCqrLu No.517598 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Even if you really are a girl I'd still personally tell you to toughen up. Nobody accomplished anything by being a whiny little bitch and life after high school/college doesn't have a rubric or an instruction manual.
Oliver Clidgewetch - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 16:28:30 EST ID:2cRqUGEL No.517600 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>I am working on trying to do something in my life, but meanwhile the fact that I haven't done anything yet is crippling
>I am working on trying to do something in my life
that's the important part. The best thing to do is not give up on that. Do you know roughly what you want to do? If not, think. Think hard.
I assume you have a job right now that just about pays the bills? If not that's the first thing you should do, doesn't matter what, just some distraction that's not completely miserable. If so, congratulations! Are you OK with this job (note I didn't say "happy")? Is the job dreadful or just "a job" regardless of how boring it might be?

If it's not a specific job you want, or any specific dream to fulfil and it's merely just your personal opinion on how you haven't really changed the world in a meaningful way I've got a little bit of hard truth.
The vast majority of people go through life without doing anything of note, without ever making an impact to anyone but the very small group of people that know them, and even when you die they'll be sad for a little while and get on with their life. The vast majority of people will never have an exciting job, will never know what it's like to have a 6 figure salary or to travel the world. But that's fine. That is NORMAL. It shouldn't be depressing or shameful because it is the common experience, and whether or not you feel like you could have done better is completely up to you, and you gotta realise that sometimes expectations you put on yourself cannot always be met.

To be happier you have to do what makes YOU happy in your spare time. Like art? Invest in some paints! like stories? Write your own! Fuck yeah you got a computer? It's free to write a fantastical world with it's own rules and people! You like cooking? Christ on a bike take a course and increase your skills and you could cook for all the new friends you'll make there!

You gotta distract yourself. It's the most difficult thing to do, because I've been there, many times. I've spent months staying in bed until 20 minutes before work, going, being so exhausted I eat ver…
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Eugene Fankinfield - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 16:29:13 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.517601 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Go to a strip club.

After that, find something you want to be great at and work on being great at it.
Eugene Fankinfield - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 16:34:30 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.517602 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I'll give real advice.

Turns out that learning something well involves practice. 10,000 hour rule still applies. Set some time aside every day to practice the skill you want to be great at. Apparently getting a timer helps. You set it for say 25 minutes, work at whatever for 25 minutes straight, then you take a 5 minute break and get at it again. Time management and such. Something I don't practice but should.

So do that and it WILL work eventually.

what am i doing wrong? by whiny mcbitchs alot - Fri, 21 Jul 2017 21:30:46 EST ID:3knwzPbK No.517572 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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my wife has to drive her mom to a town about an hour and a half away, every weekend. i am so tired of it. her mother has been nothing but a leech since the day i met her. she basically wants her daughter to be her cartaker, & has since she was 12 years old. she lives off welfare checks. i am so goddamn done with this women being a part of my life, but apparently telling your wife its her or me is a little over the line. i just want a good weekend without my wife having to drive this fat bitch wherever she wants. well anyways, rant done. i guess i will go deal with life now.
Hamilton Chamblepig - Fri, 21 Jul 2017 21:52:00 EST ID:I+aZpxKk No.517573 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It's not like you have to go with them. Don't be a bitch, go enjoy your weekend while your wife miserably drives her mom.

Have fun, watch anime while you can, and maybe have some pizza it's America dude
Cedric Churringgold - Fri, 21 Jul 2017 23:20:15 EST ID:6jfGNFOb No.517575 Ignore Report Quick Reply
i got some bad news for you hombre, the mother-daughter (throughout adult life) relationship is the 2nd strongest of all human bonds, only weaker than mother-child. a neurotypical female will always choose her mother over you if pushed to it, it is simple biology. this is why jokes about in-laws being pieces of shit have existed for thousands of years, because sometimes we fall into the trap of having shit in-laws which we tolerate because we like our partner enough. so if to you, your wife is worth putting up with the fat mother in law, just accept this negative facet of life. if it isn't, be real with yourself and with her and fuckin divorce her if it's really so terrible. what else you want me to say dude
David Dundergold - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 09:36:32 EST ID:KgGW3Hbz No.517582 Ignore Report Quick Reply
respect your elders you literal subhuman hedonist.
Caroline Fuzzleworth - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 12:11:19 EST ID:jjpiyv0q No.517585 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Who the hell would choose their mother over their lifelong partner if pushed to it?
Also, not everyone is a blind retard who can't see past some primitive blood bonds and realize that their mother is a selfish dumb cunt.

Hating your in-laws in general is natural because you essentially just adopted two new parents who were never your parents, are still never your parents, but they like to think that they're also your parents now, or, at least, they are still the parents to your other half. And that's annoying as shit.
James Dabbershaw - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 13:04:54 EST ID:bwJOb6Ln No.517588 Ignore Report Quick Reply
it's not simple biology, if my parents hadn't done a good job raising me then I would pick my BF over them, and I have friends who have made such decisions.

My parents are awesome though, and yes, I would put my mom and my dad both above my boyfriend in a heartbeat.

Estranged from family by Thundercunt Jackson - Sat, 15 Jul 2017 20:23:11 EST ID:GV9SUhOg No.517470 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've more or less decided that it's for the best if I disappear from my family. My siblings were the only point to stick around any of them, really, but it's becoming clear that they don't want me around.

For those of you that left your families:

>Why did you do it?

>What impact did you have on you in the short term?

>Long term?

>Do you regret it? Why?

>Any advice in general.
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Charlotte Fuckleputch - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 23:12:40 EST ID:1s93+sMm No.517547 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Charlotte Fuckleputch - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 23:25:21 EST ID:1s93+sMm No.517548 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Why did you do it?
Because my family is depressive shits. And I couldn't be who "I am" without their bullshit that goes along with it. I also knew it was time to grow up and become my own person and not some child of so and so. Where I lived also fucking sucked. And also people didn't really care for the kind of person I am where I lived.

>What impact did you have on you in the short term?
Eh, kinda felt a bit shitty. Also felt like I was foaming at the mouth day to day fighting to survive and make it. With no support network, no money, no jerb, and a relatively unwanted skill set, nobody really bothered to help me. Lived like a wild animal for a year of my life afterwards, very limited contact with my family. They weren't really happy about my decision nor my reclusiveness. I also was their only child and they didn't have any friends or shit anymore. I was the life of the household. They divorced shortly after my departure because I wasn't around to make things bearable.

>Long term?
Eh, they probably aren't fairing too well. They split up, got no grandkids, their only child and only reason for living just left. So I'm sure shit spun way the fuck out of control when I left. Both ended up really depressed. I got back on my feet after spending a year or two drowning. And I'm doing what I love and can live free as who I want to be. Quality of life is depressing and worthless when you hate yourself, you're heart is cold, and life is some hostile entity choking you constantly. Fresh air is everything.

>Do you regret it? Why?
Not at all. I hate that it had to be done the way it was but you gotta break eggs to make an omelette. There really was no other way around it. My parents thought about having another kid when I was around 16 or so. And it was blatantly apparent I wasn't sticking around forever so they probably made a mistake there. I had a frank talk to them that I wasn't going to be the kid they wanted, pissed them off, and et-al. Their choices to make. They would be much happier if they still had a homestuck kid that stayed local and married, had kids, got a normal job etc.

>Any advice in general.
Do it but be smart about…
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Isabella Lightville - Thu, 20 Jul 2017 08:04:49 EST ID:jPpWgI0N No.517553 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>Why did you do it?
They're horrible people. Won't have civil arguments to hash out ideas. They don't have the spirit for that. They just shut down if you challenge their ideas, but not until after screaming at you for a while and then go "Really *your name here*, you're so RIDICULOUS sometimes.". Only one I talk to still is my mom, and even she's a stupid, arrogant, manipulative, short sighted bitch. But she gives me money so I put up with it.

>What impact did you have on you in the short term?
Anxiety. Anger. Confusion about why they acted like they did. I knew if I asked I would never get an answer. Because I had already tried. They gaslit me "I have NO idea what you're EVEN talking about right now. You're being absurd. Where is this coming from?" etc. etc. Finally I accepted it like how I accepted when my friends died. It's like an early death. I might see them again one day, but I really, really doubt any good would come of it, I think it would just be another massive, gigantic disappointment. A soul crushing one.

>Long term?
It's been about 4 years since I cut contact. I still think about my family sometimes. I'm still bitter. They planted a malice in me, a hatred. Many lessons of rage were learned through my exposure to these people. Getting over that is hardest.

>Do you regret it? Why? Sometimes. But like I said before, I think regretting it is stupid when I believe that reconnecting would be a disappointment. A soul crushing one.

>Any advice in general. Stay strong. Oh, and no one is coming. No one is coming to help you. So you better help yourself. I'm serious, get this through your head. No one is coming to help you.
Hannah Hangerdon - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 09:26:37 EST ID:ElgF+aL7 No.517581 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Why did you do it?
They are vehemently anti-drug and drugs are a major part of my life. They don't respect a single word that comes out of my mouth despite being a self-sufficient contributing member of society for nearly a decade.

>What impact did you have on you in the short term?
Didn't have to call them a couple times a month.

>Long term?
Didn't have to call them on holidays.

>Do you regret it? Why?
Not at all. They didn't really contribute to my well-being in any way. In fact, they actively tried to harm and hinder me most of my life.

>Any advice in general.
Cut toxic people out of your life. If some of those people happen to be blood relatives, cut them out of your life.
Emma Dunningtock - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 13:02:12 EST ID:FWuws5/2 No.517587 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Why did you do it?
They left my cats outside during the winter and they froze to death, their reply was "Well you should have had your own house for them" (I was 19)

>What impact did you have on you in the short term?
Unlimited freedom, and nightmares

>Long term?
Too much righteousness. Too big of an Ego. I really thought I was doing it, I really really did.

>Do you regret it? Why?
The entire shape of my fathers head changed because of the stress it put on his frontal lobe, and half of my moms face is droopy now that I've talked to her again.

>Any advice in general.
Don't spitefully abandon. Remove yourself if you need to, deny contact if you need to, but never abandon. Keep tabs, Keep the love of the family in your mind. Even if they are not taking the responsibility to keep the thing together, you can state yourself as a mentor that watches over them and hopes for the best.

I think I got blackballed? by Emma Dunningtock - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 12:57:05 EST ID:FWuws5/2 No.517586 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I got fucking fired for seeing someone else's genitals on the computer at work

I don't really care if I'm not allowed to post gofundme here, I need help and was wrongly fired by what I can only assume were feminists.

www.gofundme.com (SLASH ) qcuhbz-wrongly-fired-and-i-need-rent

I tried to send an email like usual, the attachment wasn't in the folder so I scrolled down thinking it was alphabetized backwards, and through scrolling I saw a bunch of orgy photos of a female co-worker and 2 dudes. After reporting it to the manager (who is also female, and takes pride in it), nothing was changed and I was forced to work with the girl in the photos. I could not even look at her, and she felt that she had the right to demand respect from me after this kind of an event.

I asked again that her hours be moved around mine so I didn't have to deal with her, and I got fired for it. I don't know what to do here, even if you can't donate could anyone please post this somewhere else, just so more eyes can see it and hopefully someone with the assets to help me can do so.

I'm still pissing dirty and can not find a new job.
Sophie Hisslebane - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 13:44:27 EST ID:XS6JMhmD No.517592 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>I got fucking fired for seeing someone else's genitals on the computer at work
>I asked again that her hours be moved around mine so I didn't have to deal with her, and I got fired for it.

I always feel like i have something important to say, but i can never think of what it is by Ebenezer Greenhall - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 10:04:26 EST ID:V+3hE0wp No.517583 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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i always have that weird feeling in my stomach and my head that you get when you forget what youre going to say, and it feels like i have something i need to say to someone but i literally have nothing like not even something unimportant to say im like fresh out of shit to say lol, but yea its gone on for a while now and i hate it i really do, i do forget things a lot an i have a lot of tiny fleeting thoughts but none of those are even important things and i get like a stomach turning/butterflies/anxiety feeling in my stomach and my brain feels like its tight and is going in overdrive trying to think of shit and it just sucks, does this happen to anyone else? does any one have any solutions?
David Dundergold - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 11:57:03 EST ID:KgGW3Hbz No.517584 Ignore Report Quick Reply
try nofap
Isabella Shittingbanks - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 16:26:46 EST ID:C2LZTezo No.517599 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Try fapping more

Toxic Love by Emma Beckleham - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 14:22:23 EST ID:Uc3v3vtk No.517526 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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TL;DR I'm 31/f, recently ended a 5 year relationship with a 28/m. We're talking about getting back together, but I'm not sure if we can overcome our issues.

I broke it off for five reasons:

1.) We had been engaged for a year and a half and still hadn't set a date.

2.) He changed his mind and said he didn't want kids.

3.) He has a problem with alcohol.

4.) He lies and says mean things when he's drunk.

5.) His mom doesn't like me. My dad doesn't like him. Quite a few friends think we should stay apart.

I'm not perfect either. As a result of his lies, I have gone through his phone, which I know is wrong. I also started flirting with another guy a few days before I broke up with my ex. Nothing physical happened, but I know it was still wrong.
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Eliza Hendlebury - Fri, 21 Jul 2017 21:10:59 EST ID:Uc3v3vtk No.517569 Ignore Report Quick Reply

OP here. Not sure if my name will be the same.

Thank you all for your advice. I've held out hope all week that those of you who said he could change and overcome alcoholism were right, but today he proved that's just not the case.

He's been telling me the usual: "I love you, I miss you, let's work it out, let's watch GoT this weekend," etc. Then today he blew me off when we had plans. Hours later he finally texted and said he was busy, but he'd call me soon. So, being the fully rational and not at all unhinged person I am, I went to his apartment.

He was home. I knocked. He let me in. I could tell he had been sleeping/drunk. This was at 4pm. I called him out. We started to argue.

He finally admitted that he's been talking to a girl that his sister set him up with, and that he has a date with her tomorrow.

I said, "Wtf, why have you been leading me on then?"

He said, "Well you went on dates last month, I'm still hurt and jealous."
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Graham Derringperk - Fri, 21 Jul 2017 21:15:24 EST ID:zzgztlb9 No.517570 Ignore Report Quick Reply
This is why I don't mind being single at 23.
Sophie Hisslebane - Fri, 21 Jul 2017 23:18:31 EST ID:XS6JMhmD No.517574 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>I deleted him off facebook. I deleted all of our pictures. All of our texts.
>I should probably block his number.
I don't know why but that made me think of this. I guess because you're trashing all his information and shit.

That sucks man, I'm sorry. I'd say don't go full scorched earth just yet, sit on it for a few days and if you still feel the same then block him. I mean, I don't think your opinion will change (and it shouldn't tbh), I'm just saying don't do anything rash.
Nigel Gellytot - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 04:21:33 EST ID:dsMwXAUB No.517578 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Can't fix them addictive personalities bro. Can't do it. Tryin to tell ya m8.

inb4 OP goes back to him and tries to make it work for the 38th time.
Henry Picklock - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 06:26:28 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.517579 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I'm going to have to disagree man. It's definitely a challenge and for most people it's highly unlikely they will be able to overcome it, but it's definitely possible to overcome an addictive personality.

That said, I agree with you. This nigga isn't at a point where he's gonna get better

Dealing with giftedness by Ian Gozzlebury - Wed, 12 Jul 2017 09:10:48 EST ID:zzgztlb9 No.517372 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Other gifted persons here? I was a considered an extremely gifted child, scored 155 on an IQ test (WS3) when I was 9 then I got to skip a class because I was bored in class.

Eventually graduated from high school but never really could succeed in the academic fields because of how hyperspecialised everything feels. I was wondering if others always felt somewhat different from typical people, in the way you think or perceive things. Keep in mind who normal people "normies" are.
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Caroline Gengerpore - Fri, 21 Jul 2017 17:36:00 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.517567 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Mine is apparently 127 according to a test I took for the state along with a cognitive impairment screening because two concussions I've had, and I typically feel the same way and I'm really not much more than above average.

To be honest, I really just think feeling estranged from the rest of society is a common phenomenon in modern society. Just think about the differences there are in life even just between now and 50 to 100 years ago. Read up on some existentialism and shit mane (particularly Nietzsche and even some Jungian Psychology, especially as it relates to Jung's ideas on Nietzsche's philosophy).

The way interaction and belonging to the community has changed, the ways socialization (especially in the last 20 years) has changed, the lack of feeling like you're needed at all to contribute to society (and not just a cog in a machine whose function is such that you can easily be replaced by someone else), etc. Social interaction is at such a surface level now that it's easy to believe that nobody is capable of real conversation or deep, intellectual thought, but I highly doubt that is the case. Investing the time in actually speaking at length enough to properly discuss those kinds of ideas isn't something most people are ready to do at any given time, and initiating that kind of discussion is very difficult and even kind of awkward to do because it tends to feel like you're rambling (the truth is you might actually be, but it's hard to tell because it isn't often that people get practice talking that much and taking proper turns speaking and whatnot is something that requires experience to do well).

All in all, I think it's just too easy to be able to assume people just aren't on your level because of a myriad of factors that really come together in such a way that it makes it almost impossible not to. I feel like it's a bit intellectually lazy and even a bit immature to buy into that idea though without really giving it all a serious second thought. None of us are really that special, even if we have been labeled as "gifted" at some point in time. If you buy into the idea that you are somehow special and gifte…
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Doris Shakefoot - Fri, 21 Jul 2017 21:28:42 EST ID:iKPa+Mgz No.517571 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Just take the time to ask yourself right now, what exactly does having an IQ of 132 or 155 do to make you all that different from anybody else?
It means you're 2 to 3 and a bit standard deviations above the average at the tasks IQ measures. It will usually translate to being better at certain things but how to then translate that into success is different. And it's not what IQ measures. Anyone who's really as clever as their 3 SD IQ indicates realises the limitations of this measure but also that that doesn't make it completely irrelevant. It does after all measure a skill set. However it only measures those skills. IQ is a purely relative measure. It tells you where you are compared to the rest of the population at certain skills. Nothing more but also nothing less.

I think some people know they're fairly bright about most stuff and in a way a lot of people are, when you can easily grasp concepts others cannot even get their head round you know you're above average. But I agree with what you're saying. I won't waste words by going over it but yes, nail on head there.

I've also met far too many people claiming to have a 150+ IQ for them all to be right. Most people that claim to have something like that are usually pretty clever but the really smart ones don't need to tell you their IQ. You can tell a genius in action. They grasp everything you struggle with easily. Some go from Cambridge to MIT and some live as bums the latter will be far more useful in an /fo/ situation though, high minded maths is nice and all but this other guy could probably get us reliable electricity, probably even CAD and stuff like that using scrap metal

Anyway there's a lot more intelligence than IQ. And none of it, not even those other forms of intelligence matter if you're mentally ill because of a shitty upbringing or you were bullied, or you got unlucky or whatever else that stops you getting opportunities to leverage it or just cripples you. That's the only thing I'd pick out in your post really aside from some people clearly being more or less intelligent. A lot of intelligent people fail not because it's worthless but because you&…
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Henry Picklock - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 01:59:12 EST ID:yUhAjzvV No.517576 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>I've also met far too many people claiming to have a 150+ IQ for them all to be right.
Same here

> It tells you where you are compared to the rest of the population at certain skills. Nothing more but also nothing less.
I feel by your entire paragraph explaining this here that you took what I said more literally than I meant it. All of this is obvious provided you have any knowledge about what IQ represents and how they go about getting meaningful information out of your results. Granted, I'm sure some people aren't aware of this but I explicitly stated I got how the whole thing generally works.

I mean, I know you said you agreed with me, but I just found the fact you explained it all to me a bit odd and I can't really tell if you misunderstood some of what I meant or if I'm just misunderstanding you myself.

In any case
>Anyway there's a lot more intelligence than IQ
Definitely agree. This was more or less the majority of the point I was making. Like you said, IQ is a measure of a rather specific set of skills, and it usually winds up being the case that being more intelligent in an intellectual sense winds up leaving people unbalanced and stuff like street smarts, common sense, and social sense have a tendency to be noticeably lacking.

I'm too lazy to check IDs, so I don't know if you're the one I was responding to with that post, but given he was relating to OP about being very distant and unable to connect with people of more average intelligence, that was obviously the case there.
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Shit Mabblefield - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 02:02:30 EST ID:SvrL9OfC No.517577 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>it's impossible to be intimately related and connected to other people
Meant to say to NOT be**
Doris Shakefoot - Sat, 22 Jul 2017 07:28:35 EST ID:iKPa+Mgz No.517580 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Nah I'm not that guy. I've can connect with people and some of them obviously aren't as good as me at things I'm good at.

I was musing on your post mostly rather than arguing though and if you consider that my only post on this thread previously was actually directed at that guy saying he's obviously further ahead in some areas than others as evidenced by his failure to use his smarts I don't think you need to presume anything like as much.

However while it's unclear if you buy into it, the idea of the "absent minded professor" irks me. So I'm going to go ahead and further agree with your point by talking about stupid people.

Plenty of people fail to grasp common sense and street knowledge and many of them are stupid. Plenty of clever people either don't get exposed to the experiences that would give them the knowledge or they do and they get it. Similarly plenty of stupid people also fail to connect socially, autism for example does not correlate with IQ (well high functioning doesn't, low and medium functioning autism usually comes with a low IQ). Meanwhile if you want to see that tonnes of stupid people lack common sense and use facebook go look at "U OK HUN" which is basically pictures of illiterate people displaying either a complete lack of self awareness, no common sense or no understanding of other people/self centred entitlement. I suspect also some of it is fake though. Stupid people can be every bit as dumb and isolated as "clever people".

Which actually also undermines any "I'm isolated because I'm special" the only difference is that someone with a 150 IQ might be more likely to notice how isolated they are.

Most Sexually Frustrating Night of My Fucking Life by Hedda Clirringleg - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 02:11:07 EST ID:uy3JDE2/ No.517512 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So, I had met this girl that just came back to my City after being in Alabama for like 2 years. She was staying with her cousin because she left an abusive relationship and me and her cousin happened to be very good friends and so she tried to set me and her up. I hit it off with this girl immediately despite her being 28 and me being 23 and her having 2 kids. One day, my friend(her cousin) tried to get her to do H and told her it was coke when she wanted to experiment with a little. I happened to just get off H and be on the Vivitrol shot. She ends up showing me the baggie her cousin gave her and said she sniffed a little and felt weird and I told her it was H(I recognized the design on the bag too from the area) and she moved out of her cousins like 2 days later and claimed to be living with "friends" for about 2 weeks and we dont speak at all. She texts me saying she was trying to fuck, so I went over and we did our thing and a few days later she tells me she's living with her ex-husband who she has an indefinite injunction against and told me she had to move out because she didn't like the fact her cousin was selling drugs, etc and she didn't want to raise her children in that environment. About 3 weeks pass and her cousin gets killed in a car accident and so she's basically trapped at her abusive alcoholic ex-boyfriend's home and both her parents are deceased. This guy beats the shit out of her when he gets drunk and she's really just trying to escape. She's called me, put the phone in her pocket, and told me to listen. I listened to her getting her ass fucking whooped and got extremely upset. I think any man that beats a woman isn't a real man at all. So, we both mutually agreed we have feelings for eachother and we made plans to actually become roommates in a house together and split rent and utilities. So, I am over at her house tonight, her ex-husband is about 2 hours away for work and she invited me to stay with her. I hangout with her the whole day, we were all over eachother all day but didn't do anything considering her kids were around. Like I almost have blue balls because of it. She claimed she wanted weed, I got a friend of mine to smoke us out on d…
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Ebenezer Fuckinglock - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 09:39:51 EST ID:V8Zyw7UU No.517518 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Ok I read it now

You are her backup-plan and my only advice is to not only get the fuck away from her but also from any other people of that kind if its the kinda crowd you usually hang with.

>Getting high & fuckin around while having 2 kids
>bringing her kids around an abusive alcoholic
>Living with H dealer with her kids
>Wanting to do coke while having kids
Shes bottom of the barrel scum and you will regret starting anything with this girl.
Simon Duckwell - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 10:18:36 EST ID:iKPa+Mgz No.517519 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Those poor kids.

I don't feel anything for you OP but she's a piece of shit and so is almost everyone she knows. You might not be but if you're willing to chase a woman like this in denial of what a fuckup she is I think you need to take a look at your own life.
Ernest Nollerwedge - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 15:15:47 EST ID:CfonqoA0 No.517529 Ignore Report Quick Reply


You know what a paragraph is?


Read this one.

I think OP should go for it.

She has 2 kids, a violent abusive husband, doing heroin/cocaine, probably has no source of income other than putting out, I mean, what could go wrong?

Stuff that snatch OP, save her because you're the only one who can.
Shitting Honeybury - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 23:07:31 EST ID:s+dE+qb3 No.517545 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>has kids
>future junkie
>moves in with her abusive ex husband under the excuse that "but muh cousin was doing heroin!!!"
You and Emma Beckleham from the other thread should date. You're both dealing with people who you really really want to believe are total good souls in bad situations, but really, they're just two faced pricks. Nobody fucking moves out of their cousin's place to live with their fucking physically abusive ex husband just because their cousin snorts some heroin. She's a clinger who needed a male in her life so she put up with the punches for a while, but now you're here and she's ready to intrude on your life next.

You're still young, OP, don't get stuck in this kind of rut.
Doris Porrylut - Fri, 21 Jul 2017 19:38:40 EST ID:CFSPhP33 No.517568 Ignore Report Quick Reply
run nigga

Getting ready to pack my bags and LEAVE by Jarvis Gublingham - Sun, 02 Jul 2017 13:36:22 EST ID:JsQi4/8G No.517225 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Everything is making me feel shitty and I can't take it anymore.

  1. Hate my job. I'm in a dead end job, where I see no opportunities to better myself. My boss tries to take advantage of me, by paying me less for the work I do. I've had several arguments with her about it.

2. Can't wait for the weekend to come, just to drink until I'm wasted, smoke weed, and find someone to have sex with.

3. That! Happened and I had sex with a guy I met at a bar. We saw each other several times, then he started to ignore me and slowly disappeared. I would go on more in detail to get your opinion about the situation, but it was just that he might have lost interest. I kind of fell for him, but just wanted someone to have a good time with and smoke.

3. Talking to this guy that lives across the world, but really there's no future there. He lives far away, with a 9 hr difference.

4. My closest friends have their life together with kids, stable job, and don't want nothing to do with partying, go randomly to the beach and shit.. Been trying to find people that have the same interests as me, but no luck.

5. My family has always had money, and now we are basically broke. My mom never worked a day in her life, and now she is looking for a job. My dad has parkinsons, a bad knee, and bad back. I live with them, haven't moved out because I've been helping them financially and emotionally, but it's seriously taking a toll on me.

6. My mom is a nervous wreck, and that has rub off on to me and my dad just walks like a zombie asking random questions with no meaning.
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Augustus Hovingpork - Sun, 16 Jul 2017 00:51:55 EST ID:D6Nw402O No.517475 Ignore Report Quick Reply
JEEEEZ a fellow colombian is so rare around here

have you thought about going back, even just to travel? what city are u from? paisa here!
Phoebe Blackfuck - Sun, 16 Jul 2017 08:12:13 EST ID:kAEKpfyQ No.517479 Ignore Report Quick Reply
There's an easy solution for falling for guys you have sex with who then leave you: you just have to wait to have sex with someone until you love them and think they love you too. People act like it's impossible to wait, but it's not. If you make guys wait, only the ones who are truly interested in you will keep pursuing you. The extended courtship is what allows for a deeper bond to form. A lot of guys assume that if you fuck them easily and quickly then it means you'll do that with anyone and they lose interest. Men still do not like sluts as long term partners no matter what people tell you, and they will assume you are a slut if you fuck them right away. Women who don't understand this end up getting hurt over and over and end up thinking that it's something fundamentally wrong with them. Their self esteem takes a hit and they feel less able to resist the sexual advances of a guy they like for fear of him losing interest. In fact the thing most likely to make him lose interest in you is sleeping with him too quickly.

This won't fix the problem of guys being really nice and engaged and then losing interest because men do that to get sex, it's just an act and it doesn't reflect on you. If you want to know if it's real or not, make them wait. The men who are just putting on a show will disappear, but the ones who actually like you will stick around and a real romance can form.

Also, I think you will regret abandoning your family if they really are in a situation where they can't get by without you. Make sure they are taken care of and will be fine without you before you leave.
Nigel Baddledock - Sun, 16 Jul 2017 13:38:15 EST ID:iKPa+Mgz No.517482 Ignore Report Quick Reply
All my friends who are my age are at a stage where they're moving on from to where I'm trying to get in life now so I know how being behind goes. Backpacking might find you perspective or you might just be running from your problems and letting the gulf grow.

I don't think you should run away from your family. I think you should try to change things. The current situation isn't sustainable and it's not fair to expect you to look after your kept mother and sick father when you're young.

Okay so as for your job, look for a new one. You have mastered a dead end job and that means you've got a lot of skills and experience that will help you do other jobs.

Love takes months. You don't need to wait for months. But weeks. Make them know you have to be comfortable, win their respect, get to know you. A lot of guys will not put up with it but will be happy because they enjoy your company and can see things moving forward. If they don't enjoy that process then they aren't long term relationship material. A lot of guys will still try to have sex with you even if they want a relationship though.

All that said, a lot of people who want a serious relationship also want more than just get wasted and fuck. So I hope you have actual interests to share with that person or maybe they're bailing because you're shallow. I don't know, I suspect you have interests and at worst just hide them because we're all made to feel ashamed of what makes us weird. And with most people their secret shameful passion is the most exciting thing about them in my experience.
Hugh Crallyhare - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 19:02:04 EST ID:7fC8LtQw No.517542 Ignore Report Quick Reply
not the op but i'm also from Colombia. Guaviare. fucking colombians
Archie Blogglekirk - Fri, 21 Jul 2017 13:24:55 EST ID:bwJOb6Ln No.517564 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I don't know how much guys want to stay with a girl they know will sleep with a guy on a first date... Did you even want to do that or was it just part of your general Thanatos?

ANYway, do a CELTA course, and you'll never have to go home again if you don't want to. Just live in beautiful places for a year at a time, and all your friends with babies will look miserable in comparison and envy you with every fibre of their knocked up beings

Need a real job, fast by Rebecca Tootham - Tue, 27 Jun 2017 01:14:32 EST ID:vKvaev27 No.517086 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've posted a little on here recently so some of this might sound familiar, but not about this particularly.

I'm on probation for a misdemeanor offense. I was working for a few months as a machinist apprentice, i made okay money but it was fucking asinine. They had me on a surface grinder, the work was extremely dangerous, and the dude training me was a total bonehead who gave no fucks. Very dangerous accidents happened on a weekly basis, i'm surprised I didnt end up in ER or worse.

I spent a night in jail over memorial day, got caught drinking on probation (wasnt even driving) which is trouble, spent the night in jail, lost my job when I came back but was expecting to anyways because i kept fucking shit up.

That same week I got this sketchy under-the-table pizza delivery job, I dont make that much but I make enough to get by. The hours are bullshit, the other employees are total fucking douchebags. They dont show up for their shifts half of the time and I end up working 11-13 hours a few days out of the week. The owners are a mexican family and I grocery shop at the mexican store by my house and they love me, they say im the only good white person that works their and they think im a hard worker and that everyone else is a loser bum, they tell me almost every shift that i'm ambitious and will go places in life.

Theyre good people but I need a good job. This is paying the bills but i'm barely scraping by. I want to take a weekend off but no one will cover me even though I cover shifts for people on a weekly basis.

So I started applying places. I've had a construction apprenticeship interview. Seemed very promising. Went for over a half hour, the job was restoring historic buildings down town. I'd love this job. "We need to run a background check and we'll get file the paperwork for a drug test after." Called them next week, they "Found a different candidate they were interested in"

Last week. I had an interview at this warehouse for order selecting. The work is shit, but im just looking for a decent job at this point. The Interview was very promising, it went over an hour and I got a tour of the place. I answered all of the questions good and had some decent questions about the history of the company, and shown that I did some research too. At the end of the interview, I asked how many people they were interviewing, how many positions were open, and when I would know. "We have 6 applicants and 2 positions we're looking to fill" He said. "You should hear from us by Friday or next monday, we're looking to fill it quick"

I walked out with my head held high, knowing I probably would be turned down after they ran my name and saw I was on probation and spent a night in jail recently. Its now midnight on Monday, I never heard back.
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Nigel Hemmerhidging - Tue, 18 Jul 2017 01:30:50 EST ID:9kDuEtyA No.517496 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Sleeping on the job is completely fucking retarded, even if it was on break. ALSO - when you're at work, just work. Don't go out of your way to make friends or be popular, just keep your head down, do your work and collect your paycheck, you're obviously too socially retarded at this point in time to handle workplace politics.
Thomas Pickforth - Tue, 18 Jul 2017 09:55:15 EST ID:I+aZpxKk No.517501 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Yeah OP, you fucked up. Next time just shut up and show them you know how to work, while also being pleasant to talk to when in a social situation
George Nupperdit - Thu, 20 Jul 2017 19:13:06 EST ID:zKWSiC2w No.517557 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Yeah, like everyone said you should talk less and just agree politely to what the dude is saying and shows you can learn stuff fast. Don't act too enthusiastic or too unenthusiastic. Just go along with it until you're hired. And don't go crazy, have a little patience and chill, you said you made 500 dollars in one weekend or something like that which is not too shabby; yeah, it destroyed you but at least you're not broke.
Cyril Pushsock - Thu, 20 Jul 2017 19:37:36 EST ID:6jfGNFOb No.517558 Ignore Report Quick Reply

>showing up to work your first day on the job as an apprentice in metalworking in a dirty old band t shirt and basketball shorts and taking a nap

if this isn't one of the most elaborate troll constructions i've ever seen, you are never going to succeed in a professional environment until you take a massive dose of self awareness
Esther Grimwater - Thu, 20 Jul 2017 21:53:21 EST ID:5e43NuQn No.517560 Ignore Report Quick Reply
OP, I'm just going to throw this out there- It's many people's dream job, and it's surprisingly accessible: Park Ranger. Consider applying for a Park Ranger job with the National Parks Service or with your State parks agency (assuming they're real enough to have rangers).

Speaking from experience, you get to hike, bike, and talk to people all day, and while I usually dislike talking to people, everybody is so kind and respectful to you when you're in uniform that I don't loathe casual human interaction at work.

And when you're not getting paid to exercise/patrol and chat with visitors, you enforce laws and regulations, and while that might sound shitty, you get a chance to enforce the law in a way you see fit. You can show all the compassion, or assertiveness, or creativity that you want. For example, rather than ticket people who park illegally, I give everybody 1 free warning, and I log their vehicles down to keep track of them all. People appreciate not getting ticketed, and consequently follow the rules. I did this because I hate getting ticketed.

I make $18.75-$21.25/hr, and I get dental, medical, paid time off (sick/vacation/personal), lots of OT opportunities (time and a half), and paid holidays. While this isn't often the case, my position has me set with virtually no oversight, so I can literally skip entire days of work if I want to. I can come in an hour or two early, and leave hours late. I can sit in my office and play pokemon on my phone while I listen to music and eat cheetos, after smoking my bong. As to whether I abuse these privileges, well that's another story, but the point is you get paid pretty well and with good benefits to enhance people's day, get exercise in a scenic park environment, and protect, preserve, and enhance the natural and cultural resources of your home area, all with the freedom to operate pretty much however you like, even to the point that you can grossly abuse your power (luckily most don't). Sit in your office all day, go hiking all day, take a mountain bike, a gator, a truck, your car, kayak, boat, ATV, whatever you fucking want man. You get a badge, a ranger hat, and you can't take a lunch brea…
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How do I stop my father from being a miserable, pessimistic bastard? by OP - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 12:45:43 EST ID:dc+oeNfU No.517521 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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My dad is a very negative person. He's always complaining, whining or moaning. 90% of what he says falls into one of these categories.

He lives alone. I live with my mother and we see him roughly once a week. I don't have any friends or a social life, so the only people I speak to are him and my mother. My mother is great, she's very positive and optimistic. My dad is the complete opposite. Sadly, he also has no social life or friends.

I feel sad for him because I know what it's like being lonely and feeling depressed. But I can't handle it anymore. The 1 day in the week I spend with him is becoming too much of a strain. I feel completely drained after he's visited. His negativity and pessimism are a really bad influence on me, but I can't say anything about it to him because he can not handle criticism whatsoever. If I was to say something, he'd throw a tantrum and be even more bitter for months and months before he'd "forgive" me.

Anyway, is there anyone in a similar situation? What are subtle ways of making him happier or at least less fucking miserable. Thanks.
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Nigel Snodfuck - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 17:55:10 EST ID:zzgztlb9 No.517536 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I feel like deep down you know what you have to do but can't bring yourself to do it. That is entirely up to you. I think you need to talk with people, take your time, take no hasty decision.
OP - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 18:21:04 EST ID:dc+oeNfU No.517538 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You're right. I know that I have to confront him about his behavior. But I am too afraid to for a number of reasons.

Firstly, he is very touchy and it could backfire big time, leading to even more friction. Secondly, I don't know how or even if he can "heal" himself. He's so bitter, so stuck in his habits and own patterns and way of thinking that it would take a tremendous amount of willpower and discipline and self-knowledge and emotional understand (all things he doesn't possess) to even begin to change. On top of that, I don't know if he wants to change nor am I sure there is anything to change to. Maybe he really just is a pessimistic, bitter person whatever situation he's in.
OP - Wed, 19 Jul 2017 18:28:04 EST ID:dc+oeNfU No.517539 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Thanks for taking the time to post, by the way. I appreciate it, I hope that's clear.
David Fonnerway - Thu, 20 Jul 2017 06:30:41 EST ID:zzgztlb9 No.517551 Ignore Report Quick Reply
The pleasure is mine. I've spent half my life in depression, so I can only imagine what he's been going through and how unsufferable it must seem for his immediate family.
Phoebe Clesslebanks - Thu, 20 Jul 2017 19:40:29 EST ID:iKPa+Mgz No.517559 Ignore Report Quick Reply
If you're old enough to post here you can confront him and if he creates more "friction" simply avoid him. There's no friction between objects that are not in contact.

I think you should focus on improving your own life. Increase your independence from him and if your mother is dragging you along because you are still a dependent then you need to be more independent from her. Plus when you no longer need her but still keep seeing her that'll be nice.

As someone else said about their life. Don't pay the price for someone else's shit. It doesn't help anyone, it just makes more suffering.

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