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I want to better myself by OP - Thu, 12 Jan 2017 20:48:01 EST ID:HrwTH8ua No.512372 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hello all,

I would like to use this thread as a way to hold myself accountable for my daily life. I want to better myself, get rid of bad habits and be productive instead of wasting away and going nowhere.

I don't have anyone to talk to about my situation, so that's why I'm posting on here. Hopefully I'll feel more determined to be productive if I tell people on here about it. Maybe I'll even get a conversation going on how to change your life.

Anyway I doubt this will work and if this isn't allowed then by all means delete it. Good luck to anyone who's in the same situation. You're all welcome to use this thread for the same reasons as me.
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Shitting Nicklestone - Tue, 17 Jan 2017 20:14:13 EST ID:hRDPwd/f No.512516 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512434

man even if you're just learning what "brick" means and you are at chimp level its still fuckin progress no reason to be embarrassed of progress
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Isabella Heblingsodge - Tue, 17 Jan 2017 23:12:50 EST ID:HrwTH8ua No.512520 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512496
Hey man, thanks for the advice and support. I really appreciate it.

>Now I don't want you to just rest on your laurels here
That is really important and I know it is, but it's an easy mistake to make. I've been in the position so many times, where I make some improvements and then my mind tricks itself into thinking I've made it, that I'm finally on the right path. And guess what? A couple of days later I find myself down in the gutter once again, wondering what happened. I hope I've learned my lesson though. Change, improvement, progress.. they're things that require effort all of the time. You must work for them constantly or they will disappear and your hard work will come undone.

>What are your big picture goals in lets say a month to better yourself?
Well, the main objectives are to be able to look back and see I've made progress. That I'm more in control of my emotions, my mind and my habits.
I hope I will have created some (hopefully lasting) good habits and got rid of some bad ones. The overall objective is to put my time to better use, as you said. So I live a more productive life once I have the discipline to constantly be working on things that will benefit me and my objectives (whether it's writing, being more sociable, being fitter, healthier, etc). I hope I'm making sense, if not don't be afraid to ask what I mean.

>Just want to see where you're going with this whole thing, that's important. It's gonna have to come in bits, that's a given.
When week 1 is over, I'll post a bigger update on what my goals are, where I've improved and what I need to work on. It definitely is a step by step process, you're completely right there.

>>512501
Cold showers are the business! Apparently it boosts your immune system, it helps blood circulation and, going by personal experience, it really feels good once you get out of the shower. I feel much better after a cold shower than after a warm shower. As I already said, it also has psychological advantages. I really have to push myself to get under the cold water, but once I'm done showering I feel really good about the fact I was able to get under that cold water instead of just settling for the easy, comfortable option.
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OP - Tue, 17 Jan 2017 23:21:13 EST ID:HrwTH8ua No.512521 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512520
It's OP by the way.

DAY 5 UPDATE: Basically the same as yesterday, still going well. Did my exercises, stuck to my diet, wrote for an hour, read some interesting articles for something I want to teach myself, had a cold shower, didn't spank the monkey.

i'm thinking of making a column of good habits and bad habits so I can see which ones need work.

Anyway, see you tomorrow. And good luck to anyone out there trying to better themselves.
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Alice Blackdock - Thu, 19 Jan 2017 12:29:48 EST ID:mu8hf6Xw No.512566 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512521
Well I'm glad that you're keeping this all in perspective. I'm curious what sort of goals you settle on for the long term. As is you've got some good perspective so keep at it. Even though its small you're building. And as you build up that foundation you'll be able to step towards bigger and better things.

I'm keeping an eye on how this is going. And the whole main goal of bettering yourself is solid. Now you're getting near the end of that first week. So it's gonna be time to settle into those big goals soon. Anyways, keep updating I'm going to keep checking on this.
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Edward Sungershaw - Sat, 21 Jan 2017 01:31:56 EST ID:dHz96Ylp No.512597 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512372
I'll chip in on the cold shower thing. Really sharpens you up, activates a drowning reflex that shunts more oxygen to the brain. You get the same thing by sticking your face in a sink full of ice water.
Plus it's a minor test of willpower that can harden you up for life's real challenges if you've let your spirit get flabby.


Scum deserves some reprecussion by KingPoli - Fri, 20 Jan 2017 22:47:00 EST ID:/byfSGJN No.512596 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So before my ex left me, she stole my life savings and ran off and now one can find her not even the police. her # is 443-570-3541 if anyone interested with helping me fuck with her. Im just so pissed she got away with this so far and no one ahs done a thing to stop it.


My mind during relationships by Walter Bardcocke - Fri, 20 Jan 2017 21:02:44 EST ID:XNHppQwf No.512594 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I am very happy and secure with my mind and the choices I make. Even when the decisions I make are terrible and the calls I make incorrect, I still feel like they come from a very honest and sincere "me", deep down. There's a little guy in my brain and he's 100% me and he makes my decisions and I'm comfortable with that.

Every time I am in a relationship I look back on the decisions I've made and the calls I took and realize that it wasn't really me at all. I feel shame and regret for ever having thinking that the thoughts I had came from the same "me" that is so confident and secure. I'll give 2 quick examples

1) After I got dumped I thought my gf was cheating on me
I know the /qq/ line will obviously be "she was bro" but ultimately I know she wasn't. Straight after she dumped me though I had it locked into my head that she had. Realizing that I was so wrong about this was a pretty embarrassing experience. How could i, someone so "secure" within their own head suddenly fuck up that badly and make such a terrible un-me call?

2)Convinced myself my friends girlfriend was prepared to dump him and get with me.
I am embarrassed even typing this shit out and this is something I even mentioned on /qq/ once in a "friends gf likes me" thread...what ever happened to that btw? She was coming up for valentines day, anyway off topic but basically I thought my friends girlfriend was both interested in me, despite there not being much evidence for this other than the fact I REALLY liked her, and I mean, there were signs but nothing that indicated anything like she was going to break up with her boyfriend and get with me, because that would have just been madness on her end.

But a few weeks ago the second example there was a perfectly reasonable thing to think. Now I look at it and I can't believe I even had those thoughts. I just have this horrible feeling of anguish and embarrassment for ever allowing myself to think such retarded things. I've only just now identified this feeling as something that prevents me from really trying to get a girlfriend. Worrying that I have such retarded thoughts in these situations makes…
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Angus Fammleburk - Fri, 20 Jan 2017 21:11:31 EST ID:xthSn9DL No.512595 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I fucking feel you, so much right now man.

Except the paranoia about the gf, is true and it fucking sucks shit. She's the best gf I could ask for, other than she probably cheated on me.


Dealing with bullshit by Angus Fammleburk - Fri, 20 Jan 2017 19:34:40 EST ID:xthSn9DL No.512580 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Fucked up story time, so /qq/. I'm dating this girl and we're living together. I'm a paranoid fuck so I've been doing some snooping in her phone. Found some shit that implied she went on craigslist, and msged some 40 guy who was offering 150$ to fuck in his car. I double-checked by literally msging the guy, impersonating her and he says they fucked 3-4 months ago... legit shaking as I type but.. anyhow.

Sucks, finally thought I had someone to settle down with.

I'm at a fucking loss here. I fucked up big time, I'm deep in the shit, because I don't have a job. I live in a rural ass community so nothing nearby. It's her dad's place, where I live but he doesn't stay here.

The kickers are a few other things. >I live on an island
>my grandparents are the only one who will take me in, also on the island.
>child molester uncle lives with them, who raped me when I was a little kid.
>Have 900$ to my name, no car
>only friend can't really take me in as he lives at home with parents
>All of my shit's in the house, too much to carry
>Distraught, can't bring up courage to fight gf over the shit I found
>She has no idea

Any advice? on the verge of breaking down
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George Hucklemet - Fri, 20 Jan 2017 20:34:38 EST ID:yTIk4HFp No.512589 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512584
To anywhere you like as a leather tramp. 900 is more than enough to get what you need.
I'll leave this here either ways, as the alternative community might be of great help to you: squattheplanet.com
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Angus Fammleburk - Fri, 20 Jan 2017 20:41:34 EST ID:xthSn9DL No.512590 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512588

Suffer from mental health issues, think it might be PTSD but I'm not sure. Anyhow I get random bouts of paranoia that go above and beyond.

.. like fuck, I found out through a program that displays deleted data from an iphone. I was looking to see if she was cheating through kik because she had it earlier in our relationship.

I'm not entirely surprised, part of me wants to look past it. Don't want to deal with it yknow? But the rest of my brain is screaming to run.
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Beatrice Bunningtetch - Fri, 20 Jan 2017 20:56:33 EST ID:t8PSYZRC No.512591 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512590
I know what you mean. Have you ever heard of Black Mirror. There's an episode you should watch called the entire history of you. I get like that too, usually when I suspected something there always was. There's this beautiful thing called intuition. Sometimes you're right, sometimes your wrong. This time sounds like you were right
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Angus Fammleburk - Fri, 20 Jan 2017 20:56:34 EST ID:xthSn9DL No.512592 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Fucking sucks too, she's good right now and has only been nice and kind. I'm torn
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Angus Fammleburk - Fri, 20 Jan 2017 20:59:52 EST ID:xthSn9DL No.512593 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512591
Haven't watched that, I'll watch tonight.


Dealing with autophobia by Wesley Nucklechit - Wed, 18 Jan 2017 09:02:41 EST ID:dwP2IOJ3 No.512530 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I can't really do relationships. I'm constantly on edge because I think the people closest to me are always eight seconds away from leaving and most of the time I end up destroying it myself. I either get too clingy and chase them off by trying to hold onto them or decide to cut ties before they can (which is great because nine times out of ten it's all in my head).

It's gotten to the point that I've basically given up on other people altogether. What the fuck am I supposed to do here?
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Beatrice Clablingstock - Fri, 20 Jan 2017 15:40:21 EST ID:z2/FukLH No.512575 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512571
Plato's Cave, man... Plato's fuckin' cave.
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Thomas Fuckingstock - Fri, 20 Jan 2017 16:20:50 EST ID:wzS0jEvC No.512576 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512575
Trippy
Actually made me feel a little better.
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Thomas Fuckingstock - Fri, 20 Jan 2017 16:25:39 EST ID:wzS0jEvC No.512577 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Is it because in this day and age, defining relationships kind of ruins them?
People resent being tied down, the answer I guess is to give less fucks and enjoy the time you spend with people, but my jealousy is a motherfucker.
I don't really think it's possible.
Life is a cunt sometimes.
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Beatrice Clablingstock - Fri, 20 Jan 2017 16:51:07 EST ID:z2/FukLH No.512578 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512577
No kidding. Let's get a drink, Thomas.
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Simon Dartford - Fri, 20 Jan 2017 17:12:51 EST ID:zbKXnohS No.512579 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512577
people don't resent "being tied down" if anything they desire it more than just about anything else on this earth

they just resent the assumption that you should be the one to tie them down, because humans are superficial and selfish, attracted to partners they really shouldn't be with in the first place and disparaging toward the partners that would make them happy. They're fed bullshit memes by this poisonous American world culture that tells them it's okay to treat humans like tampax, throwing them out after wiping them on your bloody cunt. Disposable, without a second regard. They take after "role models" who tell them it's okay to shit on people without their consent because it looks cool in a Youtube video.

Or they get rejected by all of the above and turn toward terrorism or extremism. So many problems, nobody wants to try and fix them. They want to bury their heads in the sand and pretend all of that youth unemployment, suicide rate depression rate divorce rates... will vanish tomorrow.

It won't.


Things go surprisngly ok for me, still no GF. by Molly Finkinshit - Wed, 18 Jan 2017 22:12:27 EST ID:L9x3lDju No.512547 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Things are going pretty good for me, I got a respectable job, nothing crazy only $11/hr but its not retail and I'm not ashamed of it! I just got a medical issue I was having diagnosed and fixed so now I don't wanna kill myself as much.

Well on to the real point: I live in a uhhhh. not sure if there's a term for it "dry area" where there is a very low number of single ladies so high competition?

Odds are very stacked against me.

Introverted awkward fuck with eccentric tastes. I drive a fucking Ford Ranger and think its the best shit ever. Do you see a girl thinking thats hot? I don't have any real hobbies, I barely even play video games anymore. Every time I try developing a hobby it goes nowhere and I just end up wasting a ton of money I cant get back.
5'6" not ugly or attractive. Defs more on the ugly side. I shaved my head because I was balding, probably due to stress from my previous garbage job. My head won't even tan so I look like I just got shaved yesterday.
Hell, I don't drink even so I cant be hanging out at a bar to pick up chicks.

Tried dating sites, barely anyone in my area and in 2 years I got 1 (ONE) date. I even got a hug(?) at the end of it but there was no second date so I guess someone better came along. It was definitely intended as just a hug, don't try and tell me she was going in for a kiss, she wasn't.

So basically, I'm fucked.

I mean maybe if I moved to a area with a higher population of ladies my age, I dunno maybe I could find another awkward introvert or something. I'm doing pretty well for myself but it would be several years before I could up and move to a totally new place without it being a huge stupid risk.
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Debbie Downer - Thu, 19 Jan 2017 04:42:30 EST ID:STF3ejnn No.512554 Ignore Report Quick Reply
if your only purpose is to get laid then
  • start getting in shape
  • work on your banter ( watch pua and rsd stuff on youtube )

as per the lack of ladies in your area , i guess you can't do anything about it , can you? is it lack of women or just lack of women that you think you can get? How active you really are on trying to pick up women? If you're making an effort and nothing comes out then I guess you have to move further away from your basement, maybe hit a pub and drink a beer or two. You won't get drunk, hopefully. Maybe try bonding with some male friends first, then once your life is more lively maybe ladies will start to notice you more
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Phineas Croblingbanks - Thu, 19 Jan 2017 06:18:51 EST ID:Srw4ijKV No.512559 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Dude, Ford Rangers are the shit
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Priscilla Mepperwat - Thu, 19 Jan 2017 07:41:03 EST ID:ynhDCe7d No.512560 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512559
Duck yeah man, I've always wanted a 5 speed Ranger. Small trucks are fucking awesome
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Charlotte Lighthall - Thu, 19 Jan 2017 08:35:52 EST ID:583UPQsG No.512561 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512547
5'7 bad hairline here feeling you bruh
Smoking weed helps so much it's not even funny. Takes away that self-loathing, self-pity and depression.
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Fuck Pickman - Thu, 19 Jan 2017 09:55:14 EST ID:SvrL9OfC No.512564 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512547
Nigga girls don't care if you're driving a Ford Ranger. The only reason something like what you drives matters at all is because driving a Porsche is an indicator of wealth and possibly status/power. You don't need anything flashy or whatever unless the competition you're talking about is just ridiculous (although I have a feeling, given you feel that way, that your standards might be too high). You just need to be capable of paying for some stuff if you go out with her, appear stable financially and as a contributing member of society (helps to actually be those things unless you're just trying to fuck), and have some confidence. Obviously the latter isn't your strong suit by your own admission, but the other two should be in the bag, right?

The only place you have a chance of happening upon another awkward introvert is on some dating site and you get kinda lucky, or somehow you get incredibly lucky and happen to meet somebody through random circumstance. Think about it, they're as awkward and as much of an introvert as you, how are you ever going to find them? Either they won't really be looking for somebody, or they'll probably appear to be cold and distant (and may even act that way as some kind of defense mechanism). Either way, you won't know they exist, they'll be more difficult than usual to approach, and they might reject you simply because they're afraid of leaving their comfort zone. It's not terribly pointless to hope you might meet somebody like that and it could work if it gives you hope, but the chances of it happening are very slim.


Sister is in danger by David Lightstone - Sun, 25 Dec 2016 22:39:21 EST ID:cen01Gsp No.511924 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So my sister has terrible judgement and decision making skills. She's with an physical and mentally abusive psycho drug dealer. I've made one or two similair threads.
She doesn't want to leave him for some reason even though she told my sisters all the terrible shit. I became so mad to my fucking core I stabbed him with a kitchen knife when they showed up to my moms place to pick her stuff up since she moved out this year. Sometimes I feel it was my darkest moment, but thinking about how the knife scraped against his radius/ulna and how the muscles on his right abdomen resisted the blade makes me want to fucking murder him. My mother cried at her feet when she found out yet my sister still hasn't left him after it started to happen.
I seriously wonder if she's legitimately afraid of her life.
The more I think about the madder I get. If I do murder him I risk a life sentance and I'd be throwing away my life. I cannot relay how I feel. It's stoic rage.
I don't know how much more I can tolerate this. My sisters and mother are just watching it happen. My other sisters boyfriend told me to be patient after he helped me clean up that fuck's blood.
I now this is not your usual feel thread but I am open to any advice, although I am sure it won't convince me of letting him live.

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Nathaniel Billingville - Fri, 30 Dec 2016 11:35:48 EST ID:cen01Gsp No.511991 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511986
That's not me. My situation is different. Read the thread.
Merely the motif is coincidential
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Jack Bullerfot - Fri, 30 Dec 2016 13:43:57 EST ID:mu8hf6Xw No.511992 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Killing people isn't a stable solution for any problem. You'll either end up in prison or walking around with the memory in your head that you took care of your issues by just killing someone. That's the sort of thing that gets rattling around your head in the worst of ways. I know you love your sister but violence isn't some sort of cleanse all for this shit. Turn around, either get her some help or just stay out of the situation. You could go to the cops possibly and get him arrested if shes battered up. And if you can't? You need to just let it go. You aren't gonna change that your sister wants to be in this situation on some mental level.
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John Dartford - Wed, 18 Jan 2017 11:07:33 EST ID:583UPQsG No.512534 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>511980
> You aren't doing any of this because you are concerned for your sister. That's just a pretext for being able to kill a guy you absolutely despise.
It was hard to accept that.

Anyways, I found out my other sister was jumped by him when she came to visit her. He got a warrant out so she called the cops and he "attacked" her.
Now, you might think this is where the cops come in but they refuse to do anything from what I am told.
This is going too far. I've just accepted the fact that I shouldn't try to catch homicide. I don't want this absurd situation that's making take a life. I am not opposed to actually killing him, that would feel good, I just don't like the risk.
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Fuck Pickman - Thu, 19 Jan 2017 09:36:00 EST ID:SvrL9OfC No.512563 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512534
Even though it's a little weird giving somebody accolades for not killing somebody in cold blood out of hatred, I'm glad you listened and didn't fuck this up. Even if what you wanted to do was retarded, dealing with emotions that intense makes it easy to dismiss everybody else and abandon reason. For your own sake, it's good you didn't.
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Lillian Sarrymune - Fri, 20 Jan 2017 13:02:26 EST ID:hhQhcuad No.512573 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512534
>he got a warrant out
Hang on what?


Life changing decision by Beatrice Pandlelitch - Mon, 16 Jan 2017 00:18:43 EST ID:583UPQsG No.512447 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So I am a youngblood at a crossroad in my life. 'The plan' is to go to university in half a year, but I've been thinking about doing something else. Just like someone who would rather persue art or music instead of academics I've been thinking of joining the YPG in Syria. My motivations are largely personal and ideological. I am scared of living a wage slave life like my whole family, I am scared of not doing anything in my life before I go. I'd also like to make some incredible connections with people, shit I can't experience here. My mother is an iraqi-kurd who suffered under the ba'ath party, and my grandfather was a marxist-leninist activist. I am politically motivated to support the revolution in Rojava. I guess I have been radicalized by getting high and reading political theory all day. I've been depressed for a very long time, and I don't see myself being able to be happy in this society. I don't have any other mental thing going on other than the bad vibes, and even I took acid and thought about it I would still want to go. I am pretty much tolerant of the fact that I might die. I expect you posters to degrade this choice as romanticism or just "a phase". I expect my family to degrade this too. If I do decide to go, should I tell them?
Maybe 'Homage to Catalonia' has inspired me too much.
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John Dartford - Wed, 18 Jan 2017 12:17:24 EST ID:583UPQsG No.512536 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512508
Yeah but this wouldn't exactly be a career choice

>make it a real one and make sure you get benefits
yeah I'm going to join the regular army first.
I wonder how my country would behave though. I've only read about international freedom fighters having their passports removed in my and neighbouring countries. It isn't a terrorist organization so I wouldn't be fucking up my life completely
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Samuel Norringwill - Wed, 18 Jan 2017 13:11:35 EST ID:hn7u4wY1 No.512538 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512536
PROTIP: You can have all the aproval of big brother and have your life fucked beyond repair. Likewise, you can be chased by It and live one of the best lives among everyone alive now.
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Samuel Dartshaw - Wed, 18 Jan 2017 20:37:47 EST ID:tJVWyHNr No.512545 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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You don't have to participate in combat. They would appreciate any kind of help you would provide. Even if you went there, took some videos/photos and just helped them be more recognized, it would be enough. And it would be an irreplaceble life experience for you.


That being said, you are young as shit and maybe stay where you are for a couple more years just to read/learn more? IDK man do you really believe that armed revolution is the answer?
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Fuck Pickman - Thu, 19 Jan 2017 09:28:23 EST ID:SvrL9OfC No.512562 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512514
I enlisted after dropping out of my first semester of college thinking I could get them to help with student loans or at least get them deferred like a retard... so yeah, basically.
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Sidney Chindlefield - Thu, 19 Jan 2017 18:43:08 EST ID:zbKXnohS No.512570 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>literally go to rojava

Stop browsing /leftypol/ and get a dose of reality before you end up dead in a ditch. muuuhh orwell is not a good enough reason to suicide via Syrian army.


About to Freefall by Shitting Nicklestone - Tue, 17 Jan 2017 19:42:56 EST ID:hRDPwd/f No.512513 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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About to get out of my 4 years trainwreck of a relationship, with so much ridiculous shit I don't even know where to begin. It's in its last dwindling days. We have agreed to be civil. I have begun an apartment and vehicle search (we will sell the vehicle we own jointly). I am full time employed and can afford the apartment. In fact without wasting my money on a girlfriend this will probably put me significantly ahead financially.

I've never lived on my own by myself before. Excited, fearful, and numb is how I am. Any thoughts, advice, or shit?
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Isabella Heblingsodge - Tue, 17 Jan 2017 20:05:34 EST ID:HrwTH8ua No.512515 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It sounds like a lot will change in your life.
If you have any bad habits you want to get rid of or if you want to add any good habits to your daily life, I suggest this is the time to do it.

Make sure you don't end up living in the past. Stay active, keep your mind busy, don't let the rollercoaster of emotions take it's toll on you.
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Rebecca Hommerson - Thu, 19 Jan 2017 00:47:09 EST ID:rAFs4mS3 No.512551 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You should recognize that there will be moments when strong emotions will come to you.
What is important is to treat them as you would treat a strong trip. They will go away, they have much to teach you, don't deny them.
Be strong. Love yourself.
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Debbie Downer - Thu, 19 Jan 2017 04:44:47 EST ID:STF3ejnn No.512555 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Make sure you don't fall in love with the next girl you bang

living alone is cool, if you have some financial flexibility you should get a nice crib, nice tv set, videogames , and throw some parties from time to time. Get to know new people
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Alice Blackdock - Thu, 19 Jan 2017 05:36:39 EST ID:mu8hf6Xw No.512557 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It's freefalling, but its freedom. It's that feeling that you really can do anything now. Losing someone you've cared about is hard. But you can improve yourself when you're alone. Sure, its gonna be a little bit of a fall. But that doesn't mean that it can't be constructive. You can make positives out of this.Use this time to improve your life and yourself. I know it hurts, but its not all bad.


FUCKING F U R R I E S by Molly Pepperchit - Wed, 18 Jan 2017 17:21:18 EST ID:tcI02+gD No.512542 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I have personally mapped out a upcoming furry-con so I can try to commit a terrorist attack.


>is there something wrong with my hate for furries
>pic unrelated
>it's my cat.
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Nicholas Fellypitch - Wed, 18 Jan 2017 20:28:04 EST ID:u6zV8owN No.512544 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Where dey is, sun? I'm a go bag me soma dat sweet sweet furry poonnani. You know furries are into the dirtiest, nastiest sex ever? I don't even care if the girls are all that hot, they will decimate my penis and that makes it worth it.
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Matilda Sublingspear - Wed, 18 Jan 2017 22:57:15 EST ID:UjNuOR6B No.512548 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512542
Site moderators are required to forward posts like these to a major three-letter agency or the site will face legal trouble. You're gonna get vanned mate.
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Alice Blackdock - Thu, 19 Jan 2017 05:12:42 EST ID:mu8hf6Xw No.512556 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>>512548
Hopefully he's behind a proxy or something. I don't think he really meant it honestly. I mean a guy with a cat like that wouldn't do something like that... would he?
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Sidney Chindlefield - Thu, 19 Jan 2017 06:04:55 EST ID:zbKXnohS No.512558 Ignore Report Quick Reply
why the fuck would you ever post it to a *chan you fucking retard. you could have done good work on god's earth.


School and living by John Publingson - Mon, 16 Jan 2017 05:32:10 EST ID:vKvaev27 No.512458 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm currently attending community college in a small town of like ~80,000. I live with a roommate whose meh for the past year and a half. He switched colleges and goes to a university about 45 mins away, which he drives to.

I'm considering transferring to a different university thats 30 minutes away to enter this intense psych program this fall in a big city. If I do this, i'm not driving a half hour away to the city, i'm moving there. This is in the opposite direction of my roommates school so i'm assuming we'd no longer be roommates.

I'm 24 and didnt start school until 2016. Pretty much all of my friends are either in stable living conditions at this point (mainly serious relationships) or I wouldnt live with (into drugs and partying, not able to hold a job down or be serious, etc)

I guess I could swing living in a studio by myself but i'd be completely fucking broke all the time. I dont really know if I want to live with my roommate anymore, hes a decent guy but I dont think that living in the city would work for us, the school hes going to would be over an hour away. I'm also kind of sick of living with him.

So people who have done it, whats living completely on your own like? I've had like 10 roommates since i've been 18, I feel like I could be set to the point to live on my own (and kinda have to) by this fall

>tl;dr, potentially gonna be living alone for the first time, whats it like and is it hard?
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Debbie Downer - Wed, 18 Jan 2017 05:59:37 EST ID:STF3ejnn No.512528 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512512
>get a psych diploma to hang from your wall
>learn some basic NLP and hypnosis
>charge a lot of money for "coaching" stupid people who don't know basic motivation techniques

honestly if you're smart you can make a lot of money on whatever field you choose, but some people are just fucking lazy, myself included.
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John Dartford - Wed, 18 Jan 2017 12:11:39 EST ID:583UPQsG No.512535 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512458
>'ve had like 10 roommates since i've been 18
sounds dope tho
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!GOACID/XyA - Wed, 18 Jan 2017 20:51:05 EST ID:Y9KGRvdc No.512546 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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>I guess I could swing living in a studio by myself but i'd be completely fucking broke all the time.

Welcome to being an adult. Unless you live in a flyover state or some bumfuck hick town, rent + college is going to consume you. Get used to being broke, that's how it's gonna be, for at least 4 years or so. Don't take out crazy student loans, don't let your bank trick you into signing up for a bunch of cards. Get 1 credit card to build credit, pay it off ON TIME and never go over 30% of the balance. Spend money frugally, buy what you NEED such as food and stuff for your place. On great occasion if you're able to save up, buy something nice so you don't completely fucking lose your mind.

Roommates can make living much cheaper, but you will undoubtedly have several terrible experiences with them over the next couple years. I've had some insanely bad roommates in my time. Here are some tips, and although they may seem like common sense people fuck this up all the time, myself included when I was young.

Don't have a roommate who's addicted to anything, even if they're your best friend. Just don't. Don't have anyone who's violent. Even if they've never gotten violent with you, violent people tend to just lash out and eventually they'll start shit with someone in your house. Don't have anyone who has mental issues of any sort, this includes things that are seemingly benign like depression or anxiety. This may sound cold but a lot of these people are completely incapable of taking care of themselves and their surroundings and often it's like living with a child. Don't have any chick roommates. This sounds stupid but let me explain. Chicks will bring over guys. For whatever reason chicks seem more comfortable fighting with people in their house than anywhere else. They will get into arguments with EVERYBODY over NOTHING. Don't have anybody way younger than you. Like nobody who's under 23. People who are 18-22 are completely fucking retarded. This is objective and irrefutable, just trust me on this one.

Your ideal housemate is 24+ Male with a job who's clean, respectful, and isn't an addict.

Regarding spending look for sales at your local grocery store. Sometimes something will go on sale and it's just smart to buy bulk of it right then and there. Don't be afraid to drop $70 on groceries if you can get certain things way cheaper than you would another time. Buying food requires strategy, as it will be the single most horrible expense for you other than your rent.

Lastly, be EXTREMELY polite to your landlord. Landlords can and will dick you up and down so hard your asshole will prolapse.

What you need to do as SOON AS YOU MOVE IN is take pictures of every room, walls, ceiling, floor, all electrical fixtures, door frames, windows, and then the outside of the place. This is to have evidence in case your landlord tries to scam you for damage you didn't cause. Taking a short video is also recommended, with yourself in the video at some point. I was robbed $875 deposit a couple of years ago because the Landlord stole everyone's deposit on claims of damage we didn't do, but we had no evidence to refute it. Fucker made off with $5000 total.
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Wesley Fanwell - Wed, 18 Jan 2017 23:34:32 EST ID:EOQZ3M/6 No.512549 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512546
>don't have anybody way younger than you 18-22

that's not way younger than 24. But 18-22 year old guys will bring cute barely legal girls to OP's house.and they'll bring friends which OP can sleep with
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!GOACID/XyA - Thu, 19 Jan 2017 01:16:15 EST ID:Y9KGRvdc No.512552 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512549

OP is at college. Those are literally all over campus and they're dumb/easy as shit, no need to have a chick room mate for that.


Long story and need advice by Doris Fippershit - Wed, 18 Jan 2017 01:47:08 EST ID:RVEMMAaH No.512522 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Well, It's the typical chick problem let me tell me explain

Thanks in advance for reading, I don't know how to start this

>Well I started talking to this chick when I was about 16-17, I was a cool guy good to have a few beers with liked to party socialized, puffed some trees shit like that but my main thing was smoking marijuana..

>I'd always see this chick at parties here and there we were cool had little talks, laughs, she was my cousins good friend so she was always around, we kept it real civil added each other on Facebook etc

>She started messaging me saying what's up, small talk I'd reply all the time she'd ask me if I wanted to smoke some weed with her and I would, again kept it civil.. we'd talk almost everyday we had a good friendship

>At 18 yrs old, we still maintained our friendship by this time we started talking about a lot of things, started to get to know each other, we'd talk about Greek Mythology tattoo ideas she had in mind, I'd how her my writings I wrote all that kind of stuff so we got semi close

>When I was 19 I got into a relationship with this "other chick" it only lasted for like a year.. at the time I practically stopped talking to the girl this whole threads about, sure there was the little message asking how we been up to, how's life etc it was real small talk..

>I'm 20 yrs old, I hear she moved to United States and now she's in a relationship, I thought to myself that's good for her, I was happy for her.. I live on with my life as time passed I break up from my relationship, I was down and out at the time, it took time to get myself back together.. One day she messages me asking what I been up to, telling me how the States was telling me about her job, she never mentioned anything about her relationship I assumed it didn't work out, anyways so we kick off out friendship once again started talking all the time for months and we started calling each other reconnecting, Face Time, Skyping each other I finally started to feel a slight connection
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Debbie Downer - Wed, 18 Jan 2017 05:51:41 EST ID:STF3ejnn No.512526 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>I need advice to attempt to get her back

Usually I suggest to people that instead of trying getting an old girl back, they'd better spend their time finding a new girl. The amount of effort would pretty much be the same and it is always better to get new pussy. Old pussy is nice but not so shiny
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John Dartford - Wed, 18 Jan 2017 12:26:35 EST ID:583UPQsG No.512537 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>512522
Don't give up. I think she'll get back with you if you're upfront about previously being an alcoholic cokehead with a lot of issues. Emphasize that you're fixed and hope for the best. Even if she rejects you then keep trying


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