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Bad impulse control

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- Sat, 02 Mar 2019 05:15:45 EST rcQ4DkqY No.528256
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Hey ya'll,

Ever end up in a situation that if it were ever exposed it would be the most shamefully carrer ending cancelation of your life?

If so how do you deal with the pressure of whether oor not it was noticed?
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Eliza Trotspear - Sat, 16 Mar 2019 11:34:44 EST OfJhx+DI No.528410 Reply
>>528256
Just about all of it. Nobody who doesnt deal with you on a daily basis actually gives a fuck about you and only judge you when it's topical to do so and then you go back to being a total afterthought.

I don't really ever give a fuck because I don't feel like putting in the amount of effort required to do so, and see no reason to. What do other people know? Why would I, why should I care? Even if they knew it all, same question.

Life just happens, and it's always happening. The details of my life or anybody else's for that matter only mean what you believe they do and in the context of the interaction between and consideration of human beings. Life has all sorts of consequences and meaning outside the specific context of our interactions with one another, and potentially even more so. I don't naturally subscribe to the meaning things have specifically in the context of my interactions with others or their interactions with one another.

By a similar token, I have no immediate reactions when it comes to the things people say or admit to feeling that they believe is fucked up, weird, awkward, disgusting, morally wrong, bizarre, or whatever. People often wind up following up statements I have absolutely no problem with or real reaction to with some kind of qualifying statement or precede it with one (such as "alright i know this is gonna sound really fucked but", etc.). I just don't conceptualize/see the world that way. It's borderline if not outright enthusiastic in a lot of ways.

Sometimes I will choose to see something in a negative light/wrong or weird or something like that, but it's always an actual choice of mine. I never get any kind of unconscious reaction to what they say, i never actually feel anything about it. Because of that, I'm easily capable of accepting people unconditionally. I really couldn't give less of a fuck how people think about things or especially how they feel about things. This includes whether they like me, whether they first thought i was a crackhead or an annoying douchebag when we first met, or if they like something they like, etc. People can feel how they want to feel about things, that's okay. People can think what they want to about things, that's okay too. People feel and think things all the time about everything, why let it bother or concern me?
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Eliza Trotspear - Sat, 16 Mar 2019 11:44:50 EST OfJhx+DI No.528411 Reply
I guess the best way to describe it is definitely that I lack any sense of shame when it comes to anything I don't deem to matter.

Also, I see things in a way that I suppose echoes Christian views, even though I definitely don't really draw my ideas from that. People suck. Not just some, everybody does. We're all pieces of shit, at least from time to time. Doesn't matter how much somebody actively tries to be good or is always shitty, even though I take that into consideration, it doesn't absolve us of anything. We're all disgusting, we're all pathetic, we're all gross, we're all total fucks, we're all biased, we all hurt each other (even without meaning to), we all do fucked up things, we all hate somebody, we all feel all kinds of different ways about things, we all have our personal opinions and beliefs about things. If I am capable of disregarding the beliefs and opinions of some people, why wouldn't I be capable of disregarding the beliefs and opinions of everybody? I choose when I want to regard others opinions, beliefs, and feelings.

It's not that I have some kind of haughty/cocky/arrogant attitude of contemptuous disregard for others or their opinions, a la Awe God's attitude of "fuck everybody else", I just simply don't care or regard what they have to think or say in the first place unless I want to and choose to do so. They aren't me, I'm not them, we all think, believe, and see things differently, and that's not an issue for me; I accept that and am at peace with that fact.
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Edward Gockleshaw - Wed, 20 Mar 2019 19:54:21 EST jnas4L6T No.528453 Reply
yeah ive probably slept with about 5 women that if i had like integrity or anything then i wouldnt have

did you ever have a personal issue and think: hey that's a pretty good personal issue

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- Mon, 18 Mar 2019 06:28:59 EST MMgFnP4v No.528431
File: 1552904939440.jpg -(114662B / 111.97KB, 1075x1390) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. did you ever have a personal issue and think: hey that's a pretty good personal issue
if so what was the personal issue
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Edward Shittingworth - Tue, 19 Mar 2019 15:54:22 EST Lny7/LNo No.528448 Reply
>>528439
No, but the way you handle said unrequited crush will determine whether you're a piece of shit or not.
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Phineas Semblelock - Thu, 28 Mar 2019 05:06:18 EST iGgUNbR6 No.528542 Reply
>>528448

this

you can't be nice and then fucking shit on them when they try to advance. You have to make it clear that you just want to be friends. If you don't want to be friends, then why are you interacting?

Mental health and anti depressants

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- Sat, 02 Mar 2019 10:56:18 EST 0DW75voH No.528264
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So Im 28 and Ive had an inconceivable amount of shit happen in my life over the last few years and now I feel I'm reaching breaking point.

My partner of many years and I had a beautiful daughter born in 2017 but unfortunately when she was born there was no heart beat and we left the hospital with empty arms and completely broken

It was our first child and we were brave enough to decide to try again and fell pregnant last year, had a million and one extra scans, tests, doctors appointments it was all pretty intense

While we were pregnant the second time we were both already in a bit of a fraglie state of mind, we had autopsy results and knew exactly how it happened and knew things would be closely monitored this time

3 months into this pregnancy I was in a road accident mowed down by a car and fucked my arm and shoulder up pretty bad, very low times and poor state of mind, healed now but the memory lingers

It became clearer as the pregnancy progressed that things were going well and we were expecting a beautiful boy this time

7 months into the pregnancy I found out my mum had cancer, they'd missed these massive tumours on scans the year before and now they had found them it was too late to do anything about it

Baby boy delivered and safely with us now since last December, so much joy so many profound feels, so many tears, so much laughter

Mum passed away in February, funeral next week, absolute shit state of affairs, died without a penny or assets, huge amount of money forked out for funeral, I've just learned to drive too so money is already tight as hell

Work throughout all these things have had no empathy and can't seem to grasp why I'm underperforming, they put me on review the day before my mum passed away knowing full well what I've been dealing with, nobody wants to talk to me and I'm finding work very taxing on my mental health without anyone I can really turn to

Applied for a new job doing something similar recently and got knocked back before interview, feels badman.jpg

Im going through phases of feeling OK and then phases of just feeling very bitter towards the world, my beautiful sons face and my partner are the only things keeping me going these days

considering going to to the doctor for the happy pills, would anyone with experience of sertraline/zoloft/zoloft recommend doing this?

emotions are pretty high at the moment and I might start to heal over the coming months so I'm not sure if this is a sensible thing to do while things are pretty raw

Also for anybody taking antidepressants do you find 420 or psychedelics have any interactive effects with these drugs? I'm a regular 420, used to be a frequent tripper but haven't touched shrooms or LSD since my daughter was born, would be curious to know
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Oliver Drillyhood - Sat, 16 Mar 2019 23:15:25 EST /VMtALgL No.528414 Reply
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>>528264
The first time I tried anti-depressants they helped me save my life. I was a mess, with a lot of stress and disappointment surrounding life events. The wellbutrin kicked me into getting off my ass and taking responsibility for my outlook on life. It helped a ton.

The second time, I was feeling generally depressed 24/7 so I went to the dr and got wellbutrin again, it had been a few years. It triggered psychosis that lasted quite a while. I had anxiety and paranoia through the roof for a few weeks after stopping.

However, my life did significantly improve within 2 months after that 100% of my own self motivation and doing.

So I can only say there is a correlation of me seeking anti-depressants, taking them, and then improving my overall mood and well-being
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Ian Fabblebanks - Sun, 17 Mar 2019 08:44:51 EST se6i3Lfx No.528416 Reply
>>528264

Did I say this already? Don't let anyone but a psychiatrist or maybe a regular doctor give you advice on meds. I think it's valuable to hear from other people about their experiences, but don't let anyone give you advice in one direction or the other. What matters is you feel and what path you take, because as long as you take the path that feels right to you you are taking the right path for you at this time. The problem is you are probably feeling so much at the moment that it's hard to even discern how you feel about the different paths, does that sound right? Anyway, I hope you are doing OK, OP, you have been through so much.
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Walter Snodwill - Tue, 19 Mar 2019 03:07:10 EST mX27lD5h No.528445 Reply
>>528308
I know where you're coming from, feeling pretty alright when someone is eyeing you down when they are attractive and then suddenly someone says something as insignificant as you look tired and it all being a mad spiral down into 3 weeks of deep depression and trying to sleep away all waking hours.

I think I'm losing my mind

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- Tue, 12 Mar 2019 15:13:20 EST Y2w8xxhJ No.528365
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I've always been kind of like this but it's only gotten worse since last year, I'm always feeling nervous and worried that something awful is going to happen, I cant sleep very well, my heart often beats too fast and I feel a pressure in my throat, even spending a little money makes me feel that way because I can't stop thinking I'll lose all of it soon.

It's made much worse by the fact I'm not so straight and despite they being nice, the people in my area love ultra-conservatives and homophobes, it makes me feel I'm being surrounded and threatened all the time, so I never talk about sexuality, quite often I get so angry I feel like punching people to save myself.

I'd like to talk to a psychologist or psychiatrist but I'm scared of being locked in the nuthouse or sounding so stupid they won't understand me, give me ideas or something.
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Jack Wicklekut - Fri, 15 Mar 2019 20:27:16 EST ffVpGLbu No.528400 Reply
>>528394
What you practice is a form of mindfulness that is known as "acceptance and commital" when I did therapy this is the approach my therapist helped me with.

That was definitely one of the things I beat my anxiety with but I recommend hitting it from as many angles as possible. It's very much a problem that exists in your mind so overkill is particularly effective. Understanding what causes it and that you're more scared of the anxiety itself most of the time helps. Realising that what you're afraid of isn't that scary or real a threat helps too. Mindfulness is a good way to bring that together. Sometimes I get the physical effects but I know it's just my body reacting and don't engage.

We can definitely change the way we relate to our emotions. Sometimes it's good to feel something, it reinforces the right behavior. One of the first steps in making your emotions work for you rather than being their slave is realising that they can work for you and you don't have to be their slave.
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Betsy Fendlebury - Fri, 15 Mar 2019 23:39:33 EST dJEw/uJZ No.528401 Reply
>>528400
I wish my therapist brought that up with me, I learned about mindfulness, and separating emotion from thought from the book the power of now by Tolle. Which I consider a great self help book despite what some may say. But I never realized or thought at all that I could use my emotions as a tool instead of just trying to separate myself from them.. You really just made me think... as stupid as that may make me sound... But on my journey of dealing with anxiety, which is ongoing in the present I just haven't realized yet that the end goal is to work with my emotions for good. I've kind of gotten to the point where I'm just trying to separate myself from the negative ones as well as I can and not really put any thought into my emotions other than that.

So what do you mean when you say I can make my emotions work for me?
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Jack Wicklekut - Sat, 16 Mar 2019 06:06:48 EST ffVpGLbu No.528406 Reply
>>528401
What I mean is the idea that you have negative and positive emotions. Simply just chasing those feelings leads to people taking the short term gratitude at the expense of the long term then being stuck in a rut. You can't just kind of ignore negative feelings, you can encourage the positive though.

When you make a good long term decision you can allow yourself to feel extra good. When the rewards start to come in from that short term sacrifice you can explore and fully experience the good feelings that come with it. By doing so you reward long term thinking and your emotions pull you towards better decisions.

I lost 40% of my bodyweight, I remain mindful of my new ease of movement and physical confidence to this day. Getting out of bed and doing a thing rather than being a useless piece of shit all day is not immediately rewarding but later today when my bathroom is cleaner I will feel some comfort in it being fresh and free of mould (it's a cupboard bathroom so it's a real issue in winter), when I studied my vocational course and passed exams I felt good about all the times I'd spent 30 minutes an evening and 2 hours a day at weekends not playing video games and just forcing myself to work on, re read, test myself (the hardest bit tbh) on the knowledge I learned to make it stick.

Forever wizard

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- Sat, 23 Feb 2019 22:54:08 EST UpdFegT9 No.528186
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Any advice for a guy who can't get a gf, advice on how to make peace with being forever a spider monkey's butt? im not looking just looking to stop sex needs, i also need to curb the need for a meaningfull, loving relationship
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Awe God !!vVWR8L52 - Wed, 13 Mar 2019 07:45:32 EST qsLoK+yS No.528377 Reply
>>528356
There's no other way. Even if you get a GF it would only serve to distract you from the fact that you are unhappy with yourself and from doing stuff about it. You'd just think, oh I simply have to improve the relationship in this and that way and then I'll be happy, but what the real benefit lies is in getting comfortable and happy with yourself. IMO
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Clara Fanstock - Thu, 14 Mar 2019 17:19:13 EST Lny7/LNo No.528393 Reply
While I agree with the "Become happy with yourself first" guy, I get how that can seem like a pretty impossible option. Especially without someone to serve as an outside source and confirm your credibility as a person.

Honestly? My last romantic attempts were when I was 18, so around 13 years ago. It backfired pretty fucking hard, by the way. Girl was a complete cunt, cost me more money, time and hours of sleep than it was worth. Everything after that was just more of a disaster, I don't think my heart's really in it any more. I've witnessed so many relationships, engagements and marriages fall apart in spectacularly destructive and painful ways that I'm starting to think real negatively about the concept of love. It's just chemicals in your head at this point, easy to replace with intoxication (drugs, I recommend weed but a few tries with shrooms could clear your head out as well), conversation & masturbation.

Drunk dad

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- Sun, 03 Mar 2019 16:19:41 EST aHljEXIz No.528286
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I’m 26. Live at home out of financial necessity. Have lived with an alcoholic father who gets aggressive and unpleasant on a fairly unpredictable but cyclical basis.

Me and my brother have both had to defend our mother on several occasions.

He recently fucked Christmas up, stayed off booze 6 weeks, picked this weekend to start fucking things up again. Tried to fight my mum and my brother. Also was found unconscious and had pissed his pants lol.

Mum seems afraid to leave him, compared it to escaping Scientology.

I’m just looking for outside opinions on gameplan, strategy and insights. I can throw my dad around easily so it’s not a true physical risk but my mum is a different matter.

Idk really, I’m conditioned to this, so it’s sort of underwhelming for me now but I know that something needs done. He rejects counselling, hates everybody and thinks he’s too smart to be told anything.
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Cyril Fuffingtark - Thu, 07 Mar 2019 13:25:17 EST jnas4L6T No.528314 Reply
i wish you the best of luck OP. you have righteous intentions.
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Ebenezer Crobberson - Tue, 12 Mar 2019 12:25:33 EST 1ZN3eOkX No.528360 Reply
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>OP update

For the last week my dad took the piss. He was amazon prime ordering litre bottles of vodka. A lot of shouting whenever anybody was in the house.

My brother and mother spent a week in a hotel. I’ve been living at my girlfriends with her 3 year old since last Monday whilst waiting for the havoc to blow over.

He’s been issued a restraining order style court notice.

He’s also, after a whole week, stopped drinking. He has admitted he has a drink problem and other family members posited the idea he has paranoid personality disorder, which he needs help for.

We are collecting keys for a flat tomorrow, although my mother and brother don’t want to move out the house.

My dad is supposedly going to do some expensive rehab which we will sell his car to pay for.

For me, it’s been a rough week. Totally disturbed my freelance work, my stress levels have been high enough to get a facial tick at times. I feel pretty tired.
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Ernest Chirringmat - Wed, 13 Mar 2019 03:54:41 EST USUZpST+ No.528373 Reply
>>528360
That's some real shit you're going through. Stay strong friend.

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