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420chan is Getting Overhauled - Changelog/Bug Report/Request Thread (Updated March 22)
how to best manage this situation by Sophie Bombleshit - Fri, 27 Jul 2018 08:14:13 EST ID:OPS/NolJ No.525757 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I went on a date with a girl on Sunday, we ended up making out
then she was eager to text the next day, pretty much over the week, and although she said she felt she was 'getting ahead of herself' by kissing me and 'wanted to take it slower' it seemed like all was well - but then yesterday she only replied once and today I've asked if she wants to go out again next weekend and it's complete silence, I know maybe she just hasn't seen it/had chance to reply but I'm worried... A little more background info is that she has pretty bad anxiety, so idk how that would affect her with regards to this

But yeah any help appreciated
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Hedda Harrydid - Sat, 28 Jul 2018 10:58:30 EST ID:mv6CynSU No.525781 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Yeah girls don't like it when they feel like they're losing their freedom. I usually don't even text much except to set up the next date because it's easy to say something dumb or seem too invested or whatever. Best to play it cool ime and just text a little and set up the next thing casually. Don't act like you're in a relationship after one date.

At this point wait like a week or two, she'll probably text you in the meantime, but if she doesn't maybe send one more text asking to meet up for drinks, just a casual thing. Then if she doesn't reply don't do anything at all and move on, and she might eventually get back to you or she might not and you'll know where you stand.
Rebecca Hibbleman - Sat, 28 Jul 2018 11:00:09 EST ID:jhxT8BUJ No.525782 Ignore Report Quick Reply
meh i just think he's overreacting
again, i don't see the incel implicación but w/e
your friend. - Sat, 28 Jul 2018 12:09:21 EST ID:bX3FxiFV No.525784 Ignore Report Quick Reply
ahhhh you gona fail. nah forreal tho you cant always hope thins are gona go your way. good luck man. i know im gona compromise on love. read a book on bein a alpha thats what got me into books forreal. it was really controdictive. i would personally like to see the whole personality breakdown of women in this time. becuase like 18-30 seems to be the generic. i know there is a lying personality with girls in this time, never wanting anyone to be even in the same book. i would text her lines like ugh there feeding us stuff so we can piss straight water. catpian planet. dont always have something that ends in a dead end, if you do you'll just be talking to yourself ans i know she dont want to be no shrink.

she won't let me fuck by Eliza Ninkinshaw - Sun, 01 Jul 2018 08:09:14 EST ID:RL2h3ZGt No.525192 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Been seeing a girl forlike a month. We make out, sleep in the same bed, date, I met her parent, she texts me all the time. I couldn't get it up the one time she let me get in her pants. Now I can sorta get her clothes off but she just won't lemme go all the way. She just shuts down at the last minute. Very frustrating. What do.
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Hedda Clayspear - Fri, 27 Jul 2018 07:51:11 EST ID:s/hoWmF6 No.525756 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Changes. Chainges. Talking bout dem changes. Roll with it. No point paddling upstream, even if it feels so bad it's good.

Get on the next one asap
James Focklemot - Fri, 27 Jul 2018 15:54:58 EST ID:gc9kjgVP No.525767 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Shit this guy actually did. Maybe he's wrong but it's very plausible she was just using the reasons she gave as excuses. She got her attention and to feel special.

Regardless though, trying to fuck last thing at night is never a good plan. Okay no it's often a good plan there's usually just something better.
Hedda Harrydid - Sat, 28 Jul 2018 10:49:32 EST ID:mv6CynSU No.525780 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Thanks m8, yeah there's always something else.


Yeah I mean I saw it coming. She's been pulling away, taking longer to reply, harder to get out on dates lately. I was just nervous and shit about being more affectionate and assertive with her and I kept letting her change dates and kinda take the lead a lot. This is why she never fell in love. Towards the end I fixed the affection end of things and we were more sexual with each other, but it was too late and I was still letting her change dates and be flaky. I called her out on it a little but it was too little too late.

I pretty much told her I get it and I wasn't doing that good with her anyway, and she basically said she really did/does like me but blah blah not ready for a relationship blah blah. I basically called her out on it and was like, look you'll probably go and end up dating someone. Let's not bullshit here. I'm not going to wait for you, etc, and idk if I can be friends. Then I left it open like, if you do want to see me hmu but I'm gonna do my own thing. So there's a slim possibility that I'll get to hook up with her down the road at some point, but my guess is she'll end up in a relationship (or I will). If I do, we can be friends, if we both do, we can be friends, but if it's just her in a relationship and I'm still single I can't do that.

That was pretty much the end of that. Not holding out much hope. We both told each other we cared about each other and we'll miss each other etc, and at the end of the day it was a really fun summer fling and I learned from it, so it was worth it. I was feeling pretty torn up about it when it first happened but I'm honestly pretty okay with it now. Like she admitted to knowing she didn't want to stay with me for a little over a week before I asked her directly, and apologized profusely for that. I'm not mad about it. I still had fun and the affection was nice.

If you make the mistakes I made, you can't expect someone to stick around forever and fall in love. Healthy self respecting people will always do what they want, with who they want, and go where they want, and that's not a terr…
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Relationship trouble by John Shittinggold - Fri, 27 Jul 2018 00:25:31 EST ID:YoN5ssg2 No.525751 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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So I've been dating this woman for a few weeks now. I was the type to think I was never going to find he right person, 28 years into my life with no good relationships and I had pretty much given up looking for anyone. Now, Ive known this girl for a few years and she's slowly grown on me. She's smart, weird, can keep up with my morbid sense of humor, and is a very honest person and open as long as she trusts you enough. sex is fantastic, Pretty much everything I'd want in a woman.

However, she's married and has two kids. She and her husband are polyamorous, so they both see other people and everyone knows. I've known this since we started dating, and it honestly made me second guess everything, but out of sight out of mind.

She tells me one day her husband wants to meet me, nothing unusual just scouting their partners partner. I agree because I really don't have a choice and I want to know how I'll handle actually seeing the two of them together. I did good, represented myself well, he's a nice enough guy. However the Idea of her being married is fucking with me big time after seeing them together. I'm not so sure I'm cut out for this. She asked me once how I felt about sharing her, I said I was fine never being her #1 priority and possibly not even being top 10. But recently I've grown very strong feelings for her and its difficult for me to stay as cold and indifferent as I used to be. Shes also really into me now, and breaking it off will definitely break both our hearts.

Now I'm stuck. I truly care about her, and I know for a fact she truly cares about me. She told me her and her husband don't have a relationship hierarchy for lack of a better term, and that I'm more important to her than I think. But I can't get over this. Really, If I break it off I'll just be back to being alone, likely for years on end if not forever. In principal I don't even have any issue with polyamory, there's no legitimate cheating so the biggest killer of relationships is out of the way. And I really don't want to hurt her, I couldn't care less about myself in that aspect.

All I need right now is some outside perspective. Put yourse…
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James Focklemot - Fri, 27 Jul 2018 16:02:58 EST ID:gc9kjgVP No.525768 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I think in your ramble you hit the real issue. OP does not have symmetrical arrangement. This woman has many dudes, this husband likely has many ladies but OP just has one woman who he's on the side. Maybe he's not cut out for Poly stuff, a lot of us aren't, but even if you are I think there has to be some symmetry or at least everyone has to get what they expect from the relationships. If she gets what she wants but he's not even close it's going to be easier to end than fix.

That said, if this is the problem and she really does care maybe she can help OP find more ladies as she will likely know where to find poly people or have some decent friends. It does mean becoming part of a big old web though. It's worth considering if it's really worth it or if you're better off finding a pet or trying again and finding one of the many women who also cannot deal with the complexity of poly relationships and the massive increase in drama if they fail badly.

Hey, don't talk about TNG that way. It gets very good after the first season and a bit.
Lydia Demmertitch - Fri, 27 Jul 2018 16:24:22 EST ID:ehhnNOgT No.525769 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Gotta break it off before things get even worse.
John Shittinggold - Fri, 27 Jul 2018 18:34:33 EST ID:YoN5ssg2 No.525771 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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OP here, you've all given me plenty to think about. When I first got into this I thought it would be no big deal, I have no problem being alone. I'm a pretty emotionally cold person, and never thought of getting married, going common law or any of that shit. I figured I'd have no problem being a side piece, because I get what I want (sex, companionship )without the stuff I don't (kids, financial obligation, potential divorce). I'm honestly surprised I'm having the difficulty I am.

This weekend I won't be seeing her, she has other plans, presumably boning other people. This will be my first week away from her in about a month and I'm looking forward to it, all this time around another person is beginning to exhaust me. I'll be using this time to review what I really want out of a prospective relationship. If I were forced to make a decision this instant, I'd ride it out for a little while and play things by ear. I've had my heart broken many times before and have never had a shoulder to cry on, so this time would be no different. The next date I have with her I'll ask here some questions about how she views my role in her life, and where she thinks things will end up in some arbitrary length of time, and go from there. I'll try to keep this updated.

Fk boss by Fuck boss - Thu, 26 Jul 2018 08:04:48 EST ID:AfXJIfL4 No.525741 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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This is my boss
Boss is dumb
Need help roasting boss
Need helping memeing this
I know. Op suck. Oh well help.
Thomas Clayfuck - Thu, 26 Jul 2018 10:49:18 EST ID:dVp8iHEG No.525742 Ignore Report Quick Reply
He looks like a fag
He looks like a toe
He looks like just shit in the tub and is proud of it
Eliza Chuffingwater - Fri, 27 Jul 2018 14:32:52 EST ID:ka63e54W No.525765 Ignore Report Quick Reply
seems like a good lad
little bit constipated though

Fatherhood by Matilda Drillywater - Fri, 27 Jul 2018 07:04:20 EST ID:378lkKhA No.525753 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I want to be a dad, iv thought carefully about the commitment of parenting and I'm sure I want the 20 years of living in service to a kid. But I keep getting hung up on the philosophical problems of creating life.

I'm not sure if I want to be responsible for creating a possible lifetime of suffering. Wat do
Hedda Clayspear - Fri, 27 Jul 2018 07:12:55 EST ID:s/hoWmF6 No.525755 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I'm 29 and a step father. I have to supply my 8 year old daughter with love, affection, boundaries and education and all without feeling the guilt of what if she wants to die that'll be my fault.

20 is too young to have a kid but yeah you don't need to breed to feel that love. It comes anyway.
Shitting Gorrysedge - Fri, 27 Jul 2018 10:59:24 EST ID:9NL7Eezv No.525762 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Automatically associate good thoughts with polar opposite, worst thought possible by Hannah Snodhood - Wed, 25 Jul 2018 11:57:07 EST ID:YmQCOQRU No.525725 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I have a mental problem. As soon as I think of my gf, who I love very much, my imagination generates an image of her shooting herself in the head, being shot by someone else, very gory bloody death,e tc. Is there a way to stop this? It's like, a permanent association in my brain....step 1: am I thinking of my gf? step 2: imagine a visual image of her being shot in the head.

How do I make it stop? I have a similar problem where whenever I try to pray to God, images of sex, other sinful behavior, etc, pop up in my head. I am a believer in God. For now, the "cure" I am using is this:

Think of GF ---- Think of her being shot in head ---- Think of crosses, Jesus, God, protecting her or reversing time to heal the wound of her being shot, deflect the bullets by surrounding her head with steel crosses, etc. I'd like to get rid of the problem completely, though.
Emma Blazzleville - Wed, 25 Jul 2018 14:46:21 EST ID:dVp8iHEG No.525729 Ignore Report Quick Reply
That's life. Thoughts emerge from unknown places. You are a human. Humans are good at comparing and contrasting and also at imagining. The more you focus on it the worse it will become, until you get over it, and then you'll focus less on it, and it will still happen but won't bother you as much. Didn't happen for me until I was 26.
Priscilla Bonningkodge - Wed, 25 Jul 2018 23:14:24 EST ID:fqyFjWjf No.525734 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Aka intrusive thoughts. But when this is talked about this way they usually are spontaneous not so much triggered by trying to imagine something positive. It's odd and interesting that your intrusive thoughts seems to be connected to that. Perhaps despite the love you feel for her, there are still some unresolved feelings of underlying spite because of something she has done to you in the past, that you have in your subconscious buried? Ah, but I should wait to question, because then it gets even more interesting in that you say that this happens when you try to imagine positive things. Then you explain your belief. I think I might be able to shed some light on this in a way that most wouldn't or at least wouldn't bother to. It's attempted repeated demonic influence by devils that are trying to break you when you try to imagine yourself doing well and prospering. It's Pavlovian. The idea is to get you to abandon your current path. The funny thing is that atheists and agnostics would be the most likely to fall prey to this because since they don't believe in a God, they would probably unironically treat such imaginings as a private omen unto themselves while expressing something else to others. The way you are handling it seems good enough, but the devils get more discouraged and tend to leave you alone when you face the horrible imagery head on with the knowledge that it's not real, you know it's not real, you know they can only try to influence you not control you because of God, and while in the middle of being forced to see that crap, singing a hymn inside your head involving the name they cannot stand to be in the presence of - Jesus Christ.
Maranatha brother.
Eliza Chuffingwater - Thu, 26 Jul 2018 20:26:12 EST ID:ka63e54W No.525746 Ignore Report Quick Reply
the only things truly real for me are those which are highest
that's the way i live my life, and... it's working.
asking to be more positive is not the way to do it, in my opinion.
there is no sense in shaming yourself for not being for positive.
you need to find that positivity yourself, drink from the existential wellspring that is available. otherwise we are flailing in the void.
i could be talking about finding god, or whatever. it doesn't matter what it is as a mental construct. that peace and clarity is only found when you go on the inner journey. i used to be of the very worst sort, now i am of the very best. i take a christian approach in the sense that it is those who are most lost which find the best paths.

try headspace too. it's mindfulness meditation, you get 10 days free but you can use those 10 days over and over, i recommend it. helps to stop pop up thoughts. also if you're feeling bad then you could give it a shot, because if you do it properly it will derail a negative thought train. sometimes, however, meditation is no good because your body traps trauma and pain that has happened to you. in this case i recommend trying your best to cry, yell, scream, whimper.. let your pain body come to the surface and basically do what your body wants itself to do.

these have come to me in my experiences.
anyway don't worry so much about it

I don't know that the fuck is going on or what I should be doing... by Walter Gommleshit - Thu, 26 Jul 2018 01:56:20 EST ID:7DhEjqUS No.525737 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Alright guys, I'm going fucking nuts. I realize I'm not that bright, and that the world is incredibly complex. I have a BA in Sociology that I graduated with after drinking a bottle of wine every single night of the week. I am now working as a dishwasher at a restaurant. I refuse to introduce myself to people in public because I hate the sound of my own name, but don't know if I would like to hear the sound of my middle name every day either. The only time I ever felt normal was when I was on Paxil for a week. I quit reading it after I read about SSRI-Induced Sexual Dysfunction. I am 22 years old and despite having a loving family, I get the feeling that they're always examining and judging me. Esp since theyre obviously a little weird and overbearing. I often feel guilty when I complain because I know many people in extremely dysfunctional situations that would trade places with me in a heartbeat.
Basil Denkinridge - Thu, 26 Jul 2018 03:26:58 EST ID:EDbTBr9r No.525739 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>The only time I ever felt normal was when I was on Paxil for a week. I quit reading it after I read about SSRI-Induced Sexual Dysfunction.

I'm no doctor, but there are alternative SSRIs out there (each with their own risks and side effects I'm the first to admit). I mean if it were me and I had to choose between my sex drive and mental well being it seems like a clear choice. You say yourself its the only time you could feel normal.

>I am 22 years old and despite having a loving family, I get the feeling that they're always examining and judging me. Esp since theyre obviously a little weird and overbearing.

This could also be part of your problem, I'm sure your family has your best interest in mind but when you describe it like that, its obvious that you are feeling pressured. Stop worrying about what they expect from you. You need to think about what is best for yourself. By the way I share your hatred of my own name and introducing myself, but eventually I just got over it after using stupid nicknames for most of my life. If you do choose a nickname choose a normal sounding one and stick with it.
Graham Soppermatch - Fri, 27 Jul 2018 16:28:38 EST ID:373rQQkT No.525770 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>just cut off your penis and you'll be happier

where oh where have I heard this before....

Love America Fuck the Government by Nicholas Pubberforth - Tue, 17 Jul 2018 11:04:19 EST ID:79pPgq+a No.525589 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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You can literally put anything on paper and a database and people will believe it. It's funny how the government fucked me for some pretty ironic and innocent shit. Now the government is fucking itself on television for the world to see. I think it's pretty nice how most governments are either incompetent illegitimate or both. Not just the US Government by all of them be it Russia,China or fucking Great Britain.

I'm not an Anarchist by any measure. But according to the government I'm illiterate despite scoring in the top 90% in most subjects my whole life. How can you post on an image board if your illiterate.
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Charles Gettingstodge - Mon, 23 Jul 2018 09:23:53 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.525693 Ignore Report Quick Reply
You probably aren’t being watched by the government. It’s unlikely you are legally dumb. I’m not even convinced you have a pending case.

I’ve had an episode that looked a lot like this. I’m not sure how I could bring your mind around to a more stable, logic and rationality based reality.

Maybe ask yourself, do you have any paperwork for this government investigation? Do you actually have official court documents sent to you, evidence of a police invesitgation etc.

I got really lost in a story I made in my head and was fully, genuinely waiting for the police to collect me and drop me off at the airport for a private jet so I could become an ultra hardcore superpowered ninja bodyguard for a VIP illuminati wedding in Japan which they needed me for. The police did arrive to collect me, but I was dropped off at a mental unit and sectioned for threatening people with screw drivers and bottles over imagined slights and betrayals. I decided to hack their servers and send messages to the illuminati resistance with my mind as revenge while in the mental unit, watching as the news reports confirmed that yes, I did everything I said I would and wow look at all this confirmation.

I calmed down after a few months in a box with 3 meals a day, water and medication.

Psychosis is fun but it’s also a lot of disappointment.
Charlotte Duckshit - Tue, 24 Jul 2018 22:00:40 EST ID:Z7eoul5C No.525717 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Thanks for being tolerant.
Matilda Bittingpotch - Wed, 25 Jul 2018 02:17:35 EST ID:cBYQH4Mo No.525719 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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guess i have brain problems by George Murdstock - Sun, 22 Jul 2018 21:25:57 EST ID:7J0UskS6 No.525681 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>be 37

>always been told im shy

>didnt know what to do so just did well on tests while skipping classes in college. made it to grad school. have like 200k$ student loan debt now

>About a month ago i was diagnosed with high functioning autism

>trying to get on SSDI. Barely get out of my apartment. GF is only person i talk to.

>anyone know if i can discharge my student loan? my psychiatrist says im unable to work.
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Simon Blatherstock - Mon, 23 Jul 2018 17:53:48 EST ID:YKf00BKo No.525701 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Bankruptcy won't help. There is no escape from student loan debt. You will think they've taken everything and then they'll come find you sleeping in your cardboard box in a back alley and take the box from you. There is literally no way out.

Think long and hard about how likely you are to graduate and how profitable your field is going to be before you consider student loans fam. You may well be better off learning a trade and saving up for college, or even joining the military for a few years to force the taxpayers to cover everything for you
Shit Gidgewater - Tue, 24 Jul 2018 05:21:21 EST ID:jfR0c7UU No.525704 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I don't know if it is you from before all those times. But you have a significantly shitty ability to connect themes and convey messages. I know you think you're being clever, but you're not.
>Post about severe life altering event
>Quotes one or two words and posts YouTube video of some movie and makes shitty connections with no grasp of key themes or settings.
Albert Gegglestock - Tue, 24 Jul 2018 17:12:44 EST ID:tiBuSQx/ No.525714 Ignore Report Quick Reply
It's very very hard to get on federal disability.

OP, you can get certain loans discharged, but you have to be on disability for years with no expected recovery, basically.

I would apply for a deferment instead. There are often plans where being on disability or extremely low-income (ie on disability lol) means you pay nothing every month and have to handle it later.

I would read the stuff on here and also buy or check out the most recent copy of the Nolo Press Guide to Social Security Disability. Good luck.

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