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I think I fucked up (cheating)

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- Wed, 19 Jan 2022 16:45:54 EST 2wZ54o2V No.541852
File: 1642628754028.png -(116834B / 114.10KB, 800x900) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. I think I fucked up (cheating)
For some context. I am a 26 year old trans woman who just fucked up her relationship with her cis gf. Found out I wasn't sexually compatible with women so I cheated on her with guys. Relationship fell apart, dumped my stupid ass and is now dating the guy who bullied me in highschool.

That's just context for my mental state because I have just been sleeping around and allowing myself to be used. I would consent to things I wasn't comfortable with because who cares right? No guy ever wants to be seen with me so I never get to go out with anybody. Nobody wants to date me. I think I just gave up my stable relationship for cheap sex. What the fuck is wrong with me?
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Simon Corringturk - Wed, 09 Feb 2022 06:40:23 EST fgPStAmm No.542051 Reply
>>542049
>I have certain beliefs about therapy
In terms of actual meaningful change, you need to do that. It's like kids in school say that they can get everything they need from the internet so they don't need to go to class, but part of the role of the classroom teacher is to contextualize the information and deliver it in age appropriate ways with respect to all the views and personalities and individual circumstances of all the people in the class.

So a therapist can help show you ways that you can help yourself but the only way you'll get a direct hands-on medically-based intervention is in a hospital. If you want to get literal, go to the self-help section and choose literally any book. Then **follow the steps** no matter what they are. Trying self-help style advice and going at it hardcore for a month isn't going to hurt you or turn you into anything, especially if it's mainstream. Behave your way to success. Stay away from Mormons.
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!scyTheNg3k - Tue, 15 Feb 2022 19:44:09 EST LnCBmcQk No.542105 Reply
>>542050
i like threads like this because they let me see patterns
>so I cheated on her
breaking the rules
>consent to things I wasn't comfortable with
breaking the rules
>have certain beliefs about therapy [authority]
doesn't want to follow the rules [advice]

let me put it to you real simple: STOP BREAKING THE RULES. learn to be CONSISTENT. stop doing things because they are "pleasant" or "comforting" or "validating" and have a microgram of fucking PRIDE.

accept discomfort. accept boredom. accept loneliness. because trying to be happy and entertained and attended all the time will eat you alive and there will be nothing left.

Parents lol

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- Sat, 29 Jan 2022 23:40:21 EST 9VZQjA7u No.541942
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What the fuck do I do?

I'm a fast-food wagestallion and I come home every night to a verbal beatdown. I live with my parents at 26 because ive always been a total autist, and my dad just insults my mom meanwhile bitching about how horrible every little thing is for him (he's some failed artist type and a loser) and my mom burst into tears after about an hour or two. And then of course he feels bad and apologizes and the same retarded shit unfolds the next day. It's only a bit better if I stay home instead of working and doing some damn thing with them to keep them company. I want to help them to where this isnt what i come home to constantly. Where to begin? Sorry, im a tad scatterbrained as it is saturday night.I guess that makes it alright.
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George Drollyville - Thu, 17 Feb 2022 09:16:27 EST E0b8yHsK No.542126 Reply
>>541964
ESL teacher in China here.

The biggest barrier right now is actually entering China. From what I can tell it's a lot more difficult getting a visa and once that's sorted you're looking at an expensive flight plus at least 2 weeks quarantine that will need to be paid for out of your own pocket. Once you're in though things generally are a lot stricter. It's not the wild west days anymore for sure, This past year and a bit there's been loads of indian chefs and russian business guys kicked out because they can't keep on extending their visa or doing the 3 month visa cycle to HK/Macau.
I'm not familiar with what the other poster said about Private Schools shutting down, but the past few months have totally obliterated training centers. Almost everyone I know who was working in one quit because they got shut down. There's still ones for adults operating and a few business are trying shit like teaching "Drama" but...it's just English, but I feel like they are gonna get caught eventually. My understanding is that this has been done for a few reasons, but mostly to make it cheaper to have a child, they want to encourage having kids to be cheaper so that more people have more kids and it offsets the oncoming issues that comes with having an aging population.

There's also the not-so-quiet rise of nationalism in China right now, along with the US and western education in general having lower prestige than it did 10 years ago. There is less demand than ever for English and the government is reducing classes in public schools, and in some districts removing it from the curriculum entirely.

That said, China is an amazing and exciting place, and if you're willing to eat the quarantine cost then it's an interesting place to live and work.

Just please man if you're going to do this try and be fucking good at it. The amount of total fucking losers there are in this country is disheartening. Don't get me wrong like, I was able to come here by accident and stumble into it all and I've had a great time. But there's so many creepy asian fetishizing pedo losers who are HOPELESS fucking teachers, and it's just frustrating to see them get as many opportunities as...people out here working hard, simply because of how many schools there are and how desperate they are for teachers.

Anyway good luck whatever you do dude.

One thing I'd recommend is do everything you can to get more than a TEFL. CELTA or even a mad simple teaching license or anything. You'll be able to waltz into a lot of higher tier jobs with just that bit more to your name, and you'll also hopefully be surrounded by professionals also taking the job seriously. There are A LOT of awful teaching jobs and it can always be a bit of a roll of the dice.
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David Billylock - Thu, 17 Feb 2022 09:19:19 EST X+CKt9KC No.542127 Reply
>>542126
Thanks, this is a really good and insightful post. I'd honestly lost hope after that whole flame war, so it's nice to see some really good insights. I'm just hoping this thread can get back on topic now.
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David Billylock - Thu, 17 Feb 2022 09:37:14 EST X+CKt9KC No.542128 Reply
>>542126
>You'll be able to waltz into a lot of higher tier jobs with just that bit more to your name, and you'll also hopefully be surrounded by professionals also taking the job seriously.
That's good to know. I'm considering international teaching, and I should have a license and a couple years' teaching experience by the time I do. I doubt I'd go to China, but it's good to hear that those credentials separate you from the pack so well. I'd rather go to South America, but I met some really cool Chinese students when I was in grad school, mostly from the Guangzhou area.

I have three friends teaching in China now, two on the mainland and one in Taiwan. The one in Taiwan had gone to college, and he's built a really good life there. I think he's going to spend the rest of his life there.

The ones on the mainland went with pretty much no credentials. One made a good life for himself, started a little family, and is a good teacher, but now he's looking at getting out of the country for the reasons I mentioned - again, they're his reasons, I have no idea how true they are. The other one is lazy and is somehow still living off his mom back in the states, I don't think he was ever a very serious teacher, but he's apparently studying at some Chinese college now.

Rejected online by the way I look

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- Thu, 30 Dec 2021 02:01:12 EST bS+0m6dD No.541667
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>Post on BDSM online dating forum
>Start talking to a girl
>She's amazing but she takes a long time to respond
>Next day
>Talk off and on all day
>She's perfect so far except for taking long to respond.
>Describes herself as a short curvy blonde with huge tits
>Says that physical attraction is important
>She posts a picture of herself
>She looks okay
>I tell her how pretty she is
>I post my pictures
>She says no thanks and removes me on snapchat so I can't respond
>Have Clinical depression
>Whole week has been awful

I am not an animal! I am a human being! I ... am ... a ... man!
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Polly Nicklegold - Tue, 15 Feb 2022 23:44:57 EST DMPOlzSV No.542110 Reply
>>541667
>I am not an animal! I am a human being! I ... am ... a ... man!
he who makes a beast of himself gets rid of the pain of being a man

help

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- Wed, 19 Jan 2022 11:52:37 EST kk1PgQs2 No.541850
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lonely, old, heartbroken, crazy and anti-social, crave help i know is never coming, just making rent and bills takes my 110% and my ability to do that is always faltering, barely eating, always anxious and sad, what do..... i'm so tired.....
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Graham Blarringham - Thu, 20 Jan 2022 08:58:46 EST NACKPsIL No.541862 Reply
>>541854
>i just need help. i need someone stronger to come here and hold me and make me eat and tell me it's going to be okay,
Since you already know you need to eat and you already know you're going to get through it, take a path and ends with you finding your inner strength.
>>541855
And don't click spam links from supplement companies.
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Eliza Femmlepen - Sun, 13 Feb 2022 23:50:37 EST o5wpCG9f No.542086 Reply
>>541850
Is there anything you can do? Is there any conceivable way you can get this help you "know" you need or otherwise change the things that cause you to be miserable? Is there any real hope for success in doing this? Perhaps a temporary but easy solution could address a problem while you work on a more sustainable solution for another, then the temporary solution can be replaced with something better.

Maybe you want to stop being "crazy" and work on your mental health but emotional pain is, fully or in part, driving you into unhealthy behaviors that is causing your mental health to decline. Medication could work to stop the emotional pain and/or craziness perhaps, which would allow you to fix what it doesn't help with more easily. After you fix this you can get off the meds and have an easier time fixing what they're compensating for. This may not be a good idea but its just an example, maybe you've already tried it.

If you really give a shit then you need to ask yourself if you even feel like there's any point in bothering to fix anything, you may not believe it will ever get better deep down. Could be why things got this bad at all. The only person who can really help you is yourself. If the odds of success seem too low and you see no way out you may want to ask yourself what you'll really lose by dying and if its worth dealing with this shit for.

Ideally you'd try to fix things at least a few times before deciding life isn't worth it but you shouldn't feel forced into a miserable life if you genuinely come to think that the odds of success are so low that death is the best way out. I'm trying to avoid jumping to this conclusion before really trying to fix things myself, at least for a few more attempts. But as a last resort death will end your suffering unless hell exists and you're going to it, but there's no evidence to suggest that it does so odds are you'll just stop experiencing anything.

People always think the worse about me

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- Thu, 10 Feb 2022 19:55:59 EST Pe2fxbhA No.542061
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But this time someone I thought I knew came into my life just to publicly humiliate me and to put me on the spot.
I already had a similar experience with a coworker on my last job.
He was acting all cool and friendly and then pretend I was procrastinating at work and trying to get men o admit I was intoxicated (when it was him, ironically, the one stoned. People believe I'm mentally challenged or not self aware of. Their intentions because I have severe ADD to the point people think I look high sober but more sociable and articulated on stimulants and friendly on opiates. So people always think I'm crazy and not smart or conscious so they think they can manipulate me and even try to admit to things or put words on my mouth.

This time it really hurt me. And I think this person is willing to even harm me or tell people that I abuse animals and kids so they mob me (because I'm solitaire and a weirdo).
This person hates me so much apparently because my opinion that she didn't let me finish (I was going to tell her that her case was a reason I support her opinion now) triggered her si much she rage blocked me and tells everyone what a huge loser I am and tries to shame me on every discord I find her in (she seems to be everywhere, I should have kept her as a occasional IG chat NPC, now I don't feel like using discord or any form of social media again nor ever trying to make friends IRL from the net as well.

They are free to cyber bully me as much as they like.
And no, having schizoid/bpd traits doesn't mean I am a psychopath (whenever I vent and insult people on chat while triggered or pissed is because I'm "brainwashed" and that side comes out whenever I'm under stress and my mind or self goes away)
I never thought someone hated me this much that I never met in person to begin with . Because my opinion was too much or just because an online character is totally me IRL making me a pos that deserves to die.
I'm sure you are perfect. Well you really hurt a self absorbed narcissist btw. And not physically speaking. And not the first time that "making new friends" treat me worse than my worst enemy.
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Basil Clunderdock - Fri, 11 Feb 2022 07:40:29 EST ZN6+nNPW No.542066 Reply
>>542061
>my opinion that she didn't let me finish (I was going to tell her that her case was a reason I support her opinion now)
You need social practice.

You committed a social error.

Others are not responsible, only you.
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Eliza Femmlepen - Sun, 13 Feb 2022 22:22:51 EST o5wpCG9f No.542083 Reply
>>542061
This is why I put up a bland but agreeable persona around other people, they generally find me ok to be around but don't feel compelled to stay around and potentially find a way or a reason to attack me. If I didn't have this ability I would probably be ostracized like you. It's not the best way of dealing with people but it ensures I'm safe from them, with the downside of having fewer social connections.

Since you can't do this sober ideally you'd find a way to either sustainably alter your personality so you seem "normal" when you need to be around people or find a way to avoid situations where your severe ADD makes you a target. Ideally though you'd avoid letting anyone you don't trust see the side of you that keeps provoking people, and carefully weigh the risks of letting anyone new see that stuff before doing it (not the easiest for someone with ADD perhaps).

You should aim to gain as much as you can from social interaction while exposing yourself to minimal risk. Maybe isolate yourself when your schizoid/bpd traits flair up so you don't piss people off. Or perhaps you could explain to them that it may happen so they can be prepared for it and know what you're going through. Either way you need to strategize against this shit.

ADHD Treatment.

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- Sun, 13 Feb 2022 22:02:36 EST r+TCrzX3 No.542081
File: 1644807756745.jpg -(253755B / 247.81KB, 1920x1080) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. ADHD Treatment.
I'm tired of living with ADHD and want to seek treatment, most likely will be in the form of a drug. I'm afraid of becoming depending/addicted to something. Look, I'm gonna level with you guys. I come to 420chan all the time and love you all, but I've never so much as gotten drunk. What advice can yall give me?
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Eliza Femmlepen - Sun, 13 Feb 2022 22:08:45 EST o5wpCG9f No.542082 Reply
>>542081
Well, stimulants don't cause that bad a dependence compared to many other drug classes. Especially when you take the minimal amount to function normally, if you take more to get high chronic use is more damaging. But it won't cause any physical withdraws only mental ones, which makes them much more mild compared to opioids, benzos and some others that have both.

If you really don't want to become dependent though only use it when you need to get work done or take time off of it every once in a while. Unlike many other meds you don't need to let it build in your system.

Anxiety solutions

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- Mon, 23 Aug 2021 10:04:24 EST rDXcLb0k No.540293
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Hi friends!
For those of you that live with dialy anxiety, how do you cope with it? Is there any substance you could take illegal or legal or prescribed. Or are there natural remedies and stuff from nature. Or therapy like CBT?

Btw I'm the dude from https://boards.420chan.org/qq/thread/540139 thread
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Dextrolord - Thu, 10 Feb 2022 10:43:04 EST Y0n0w4NY No.542059 Reply
>>540293
Its taken years of hard work to come to terms with my anxiety. I tried benzos Rx, all types of self medicating and therapy and combinations of all three. Now I am able to ride out my anxiety episodes and live a decent life with some benzo alternative meds, but it is still a daily battle.

There is no easy answer sorry:/

Do you know this?

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- Wed, 09 Feb 2022 14:52:27 EST vj1t+Fj2 No.542052
File: 1644436347280.jpg -(124696B / 121.77KB, 1300x956) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. Do you know this?
Why is it, that once I have a day off, I crash and want nothing but sleep and numbness. All the nice plans and ideas vanish the moment I have time for myself. During work hours I give effort and im looking forward to my free time, but once it arrives, I become slow and tired.
Have I the wrong plans? What do I do wrong?
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Emma Fallydick - Thu, 10 Feb 2022 06:14:28 EST D+z8WGyq No.542057 Reply
>>542054
And don't forget to mass report spam. Get the YouTube channel banned and they will go away.
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Archie Chongerspear - Sun, 13 Feb 2022 00:25:30 EST DMPOlzSV No.542076 Reply
>>542052
rest owns
once you're done with work, you wanna rest
let it ride

Why should I not just be a degenerate?

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- Sun, 30 Jan 2022 11:21:07 EST RC0ubU8P No.541953
File: 1643559667208.jpg -(49536B / 48.38KB, 600x423) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. Why should I not just be a degenerate?
Last night I fucked a guy bareback while on that Indian knock off viagra and it was great. It was my first time fucking someone in the ass without a condom and it was the best sex I ever had.

I tried so long to be a proper person and find someone for a long term and meaningful relationship. I tried to expand my social circle also. But I never succeeded. Now I'm 33 with only a handful of friends I see semi regularly and no real prospects in any area of my life. I have a job that pays okay but it's a dead end, and that's about it.

I'm lonely.

While I was doing that guy up the ass, I felt like a different person. I felt powerful and wanted and sexy.

HIV is a risk, but so what? I want to die anyway, might as well die from good sex rather than from suicide.
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Basil Clunderdock - Fri, 11 Feb 2022 07:48:31 EST ZN6+nNPW No.542068 Reply
>>542060
> I wouldn't think too poorly of it.
Sure, being incarcerated isn't something to be ashamed of. You're accepting punishment for your transgression, more people should do that.

Pretty excited and stuff

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- Tue, 08 Feb 2022 00:23:58 EST 6gvE7IDd No.542037
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So, after surviving a trafficking attempt in 2017, I dedicated my time and efforts to human trafficking awareness and prevention. Due to some things that happened around the time of the incident, my family is convinced i am a schizophrenic. Allow me to explain. The woman who attempted to traffick me is a practicing witch. This is how she identifies. I told that to a mental health professional. So "I believe in witches" and I'm a schizophrenic. At least, I guess that's what happened. The thing was, I was an independent escort prior to meeting her, and after our encounter what also really helped convince my family I was crazy, is someone was outside of my house with a walkie talkie and they texted my phone and said "Got all your dirty pictures and messages. Uploading them all to the web. Watch out for the walkie talkies, they'll be outside your house". My friend heard the walkie talkie before i ever did, and before i ever got the text. My family thinks we were both on drugs and none of this happened and Im a schizophrenic. I recently sent a video to the doctor where the woman who ateempted to traffick me says on video she is a practicing witch and can control the weather. Hopefully they will realize im not crazy if they havent already.

So yeah my mom has power of attorney over me now. Well I came into a surplus of money last week. Tonight I filed the paperwork to become an incorporated nonprofit. I am so excited. I am just worried my mother could use her power of attorney to squash it. I have enough money where I could hire an attorney to contest it.

So excited, dunno what to do!
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Augustus Gobbleken - Tue, 08 Feb 2022 06:37:38 EST vMQtC0TC No.542038 Reply
>>542037
>So excited, dunno what to do!
Sounds like you're spending that money as fast as you can, keep it up.
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Chris Sellwyck - Tue, 08 Feb 2022 15:05:31 EST 6gvE7IDd No.542046 Reply
>>542038
kinda. i spent 3k on a new pc. got a new battery for my car. now im just under 5 figures. i wish id put this plan together before i bought the pc. But i always wanted a top tier gaming rig very happy with it.

Underage Girls

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- Mon, 22 Nov 2021 05:31:02 EST dgl1eItM No.541228
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I ended up random adding this girl a few months ago on Snapchat. She likes to smoke and stuff, as do I, and we ended up hitting it off. When we first smoked together she told me she was 15. There was a period of shock that she was so young, but between her having hella plugs and us getting along so well, her age hasn't stopped me from associating with her. In fact, we just hung out tonight. Her and her friend who I first met when this girl brought her here to smoke, drink, and spend the night at my place. This other girl drank and smoked the most, so much so that she passed out way before anyone else. I didnt learn this other girl's age until she had already told me about how she goes about sucking dick, that she has done molly, meth, etc. Turns out she is 12. Well, was. Se has since had a birthday.

So I'm "friends" with both of these girls. The younger one hits me up a lot more often, typically for favors. Using me, basically. She is only a few minutes from my home. Buying bottles, matching, letting her and her friends drink at my house, rides to and from places, etc. More and more details keep coming out about this girl, including tonight when K (the girl I met on Snapchat) brought up how the 12 year old had once sucked some guys dick for a bottle. She was 11 at the time. This was disturbing to hear and honestly ruined my night. This was far from the first disturbing thing I've heard from her or about her. She blew some guy who was with the mother of his child still, she blew this guy's friend while he was on meth. Some guy gave her free ecstasy, some dude that doesn't even know her shouted her out on Snapchat saying how "dudes keep saying you fine af". She "hasn't been to school in 2 weeks", either. She is 13 years old. I dropped K off first and then took this other girl home. I didnt even really say anything to her during the ride home. She lowkey disgusts me.

I've been justifying this association to myself a few ways. One such justification is shit like "well, if they're gonna be doin this shit at least they'll be safe over here". But is that my responsibility? Part of me says these are children and deserve some sort of patience and compassion. Another part of me is saying these girls belong to the streets. Already. This was my first venture back out into the world after some intense, self-imposed isolation. But I'm thinking I need to go back. Doing these things for them makes me nervous and feels wrong. Bringing them over here makes me nervous and feels wrong. I dont feel at ease about associating with these little ass girls at all. But I'm also fairly passive, codependent, and don't know how to tell people no. I don't really know what to do. After hearing about an 11 year old giving fellatio for a bottle of alcohol, I just want to crawl back into my hole. I dont like it here.
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Cyril Possleway - Wed, 19 Jan 2022 08:46:31 EST YrX3+HFr No.541849 Reply
>>541846
sorry i didn't see the update before.

Things actually sound like they are better now even though you were evicted. You can save money while living in the shelter.

Every child whose parents don't care about them to the point where they can have adult male friends is either seriously neglected or outright abuse, no ifs ands or buts, it was illegal for them to be in your house at all, and their parents gave no shits, the chances that they could be psychologically healthy are zero, and that's not their fault and as they are so young I Really hope they can get help because it's harder and slower to heal that stuff later.

But dude now that that's out of the way, I would say that YOU too should consider talking to someone, because you seem to have a malfunctioning red-flag system and someone could teach you to set it up so it works
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Archie Fellerwit - Tue, 08 Feb 2022 09:29:56 EST 5WuF3gG0 No.542043 Reply
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>>541228
tl:dr
Anon wanted to fuck some teen but now he feels bad because she and her friend are fucking other dudes for drugs; he says he wants to do something about it but will keep complaining and do nothing, until eventually ends either robbed, killed, in jail, or fucked said girl.

Internet

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- Mon, 07 Feb 2022 22:49:38 EST emCZchxK No.542035
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There's this YT channel that is married to a woman who looks vulnerable on camera when she appears. She's only on a couple videos, one is on a road trip to Missouri, and the other is their wedding vid. She's clearly too quiet on these videos, the YT creator is not what he seems. Here's a screenshot of what his channel looks like, I used to know this guy, and let's just say that he's one big mama's boy, he's sucking off the government, and his wife looks miserable being with him. He's a pig, a homophobic rat bastard, and he's a Bible Thumper out of the camera. Unsubscribe to him if you wish to, it's for the best so he doesn't make money out of his content.
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Phyllis Giblingdock - Tue, 08 Feb 2022 00:03:55 EST 84iTo7Lm No.542036 Reply
First of all; no one cares about your personal vendetta. Second, this is not the board to post about your personal vendetta.
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Augustus Gobbleken - Tue, 08 Feb 2022 06:38:34 EST vMQtC0TC No.542039 Reply
NYPA and wrong board.
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Clara Fuckingbury - Thu, 10 Feb 2022 02:25:53 EST K6sWG489 No.542055 Reply
I'll get right on it

Landlord is causing us grief...

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- Fri, 28 Jan 2022 18:52:30 EST uBYwV8By No.541934
File: 1643413950468.jpg -(53484B / 52.23KB, 640x835) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. Landlord is causing us grief...
Our landlord is a real.. well, boomer. Hes weird.

He goes through my trash.
He looks in my windows.

He stops me and talks to me about anything he can find, complains about any small thing.

I have always apdi my rent and been a good tenant and tolerated him, but the last few months he has been selling our apartment.

And so, every day of the week, he is showing 3+ groups of people the house, forcing me to wake up at odd hours to tidy up the house, and I am losing sleep over it. He has been veyr uncompromising on it and sort of just walks all over me.

My dad, a boomer tried the boomer rage on him. but he was out-boomered, it didn't work. I juist dont know what to do anymore.
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Emma Pablingditch - Sat, 29 Jan 2022 22:58:04 EST DMPOlzSV No.541941 Reply
>>541934
Look into the rental code for your area. The things you are describing are not normal for ANY rental property, not even crack shack room rentals. In most places in the west, the landlord can't enter your dwelling without reason related to an emergency, and going through your trash is a violation of privacy that whole corporations have rightfully and legally hired security forces for.

What you are experiencing is not normal, and your local tenancy board should be appalled at your landlord's behaviour even if you live in bumblefuck afrika. I can't think of a country on earth where this either wouldn't be OK, or where you shouldn't be sitting at home with an AK to tell him this isn't OK.
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Priscilla Drabberlidge - Fri, 04 Feb 2022 23:05:36 EST /FC3N4mG No.542011 Reply
make him schedule the visits with you so you're not surprised. no schedule, no wake up or clean up and fuck off.

Man.

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- Sun, 23 Jan 2022 08:46:35 EST 185ez9uE No.541889
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Last night, this girl that I've hooked up with before got drunk, invited herself over and tried to make me have sex with her despite me repeatedly saying that I had other things to do that night/this morning. When she still showed up at my door I let her in but I didn't budge on what I'd already said, and she had a fucking meltdown over it. I spent all night and part of this morning consoling this woman because my not wanting to fuck her on this one specific occasion made her break down.

The more I think about it, the more of a red flag it is to me, and I think I want to get more space from this person moving forward. I absolutely hate feeling pressured into sex in any way, and I don't think there should ever be an expectation of hospitality/more sex just because you've been over at someone's place on a different occasion. Imagine if some dude just appeared at a woman's door, let himself in and demanded that they fug, that's bad vibes.

I really don't know how to proceed moving forward though, because at the end of the day I did unlock my door for her in the first place and sort of tacitly let this happen. I'd feel like a bastard suddenly going cold after she was that vulnerable in front of me, but I'd also feel like a bastard to myself if I got into a position like this more than once with the same person. I don't know, maybe I'll just keep my distance and let the air clear and then talk to her about it. Just wanted to vent about this, but if any of you guys have navigated a situation like this before I'd love to hear about how you did it.
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Angus Bammernat - Sat, 29 Jan 2022 15:07:55 EST KdEqEu6P No.541937 Reply
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OP here, as a bit of an update I did end up telling her we should have some space while I personally get a better sense of what I do/don't want out of shit like this. The conversation was super rough, it showed me just how many red flags she'd been waving at me and also that I'm not all that great at communication, at least at this point in time.

As it stands I'm solo again, and I think it was the right move. If I do talk to this girl again in another month or two I'll definitely be a lot more clear upfront with where my boundaries really lie. My gut's telling me that we won't actually hook up again after this distance is over with though, so I'll just take this newfound knowledge into whatever I get up to next.
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Eugene Munningville - Mon, 31 Jan 2022 15:58:12 EST X+CKt9KC No.541976 Reply
>>541937
When you date someone, you date their lifestyle. Date a dramatic or crazy person, and you're going to have a dramatic or crazy life. I don't know how right they were, but the Epicureans (ancient Greek philosophers who philosophized about happiness) basically believed happiness WAS tranquility. If someone disturbs your sense of tranquility and happiness, then being with them won't lead to a happy life. That's why it's important to be selective about the people you let into your life.

I think you should seek a partner who will support the lifestyle you want. I think you did the right thing.
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Nell Tillingfield - Tue, 01 Feb 2022 08:22:15 EST 2Hs+Jr13 No.541985 Reply
>>541937

Nice one, you kept it real, you spoke your piece - can't hate that.

If you struggle with communication man just keep some basic shit in mind - truth, respect and integrity.

Say your truth in a respectful manner and when lost of what to say, keep in mind your integrity.

You can very gently tell people that they are behaving like total cunts and you have no place for them in your life.

When struggling just try go into some sort of diplomatic/unemotional headspace and just very bluntly, mathematically and truthfully lay out your concerns. Do not give a fuck about how odd you are going to appear.

Be super cautious about over inflating the scope of your issues with someone by tossing out statements that sound like "you ALWAYS are like this" or "THIS is why *insert bigger issue*" - keep the scope contained and you can very formally dress a situation down with someone feeling totally attacked.

However buyer beware, when you start telling people your issues with them truthfully and don't fuck about with it - you will be wandering into emotional/unreasonable/illogical responses left right and centre as the "victim" of your truthful words begins to perform mental and emotional gymnastics dodging bullets like Neo from The Matrix.

BUT you will begin to feel a kind of self respect you never had before. So it's a win/win scenario regardless of outcome with the other person.

Leverage truthfulness to extract that sweet sweet self respect my friend.

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