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420chan is Getting Overhauled - Changelog/Bug Report/Request Thread (Updated March 22)
Odd Request by Frederick Goffingwell - Wed, 21 Nov 2018 13:07:18 EST ID:OuQCp+w8 No.527825 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm depressed, GF of 2 years left me, no car, Mom is all fucked up in the ICU, no friends. Who wants to game with me on Steam?!


also, how do I go about making friends again? I basically lost them all being with my ex for 2 years. also, I need to save up for a car now too :(
Rebecca Sabbleway - Wed, 21 Nov 2018 13:47:11 EST ID:wVwbY1G3 No.527826 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I've actually got a steam game on tonight. My suggestion is go out and meet people.

You don't lose friends by being with someone. You lose them because of one or more of the below.
>your ex manipulated them and they hate you now
>you just stopped trying with them
>your ex manipulated and abused you and stopped you seeing them
The latter two you can reach out and talk to them and you'll probably re establish one or two friendships. If it's the last one you might make your old friends back once the story outs.
Clara Gipperstuck - Wed, 21 Nov 2018 16:07:02 EST ID:y1s1bI2f No.527827 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Yeah i might add you when I get home. Look out for Dick Pope Ackrackish.

What kimda games do you play.
Sophie Turveylock - Wed, 21 Nov 2018 17:57:23 EST ID:hBEhmcBg No.527829 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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It's nice to take some time and game and collect yourself OP, but dude, if you start to just do nothing, you'll slowly fall into a dark hole and start contemplate killing yourself everyday like me. Take a little time, jerk off, do some stupid shit. But after that, you gotta go DO shit, maybe travelling if you can afford and don't have responsibilities.

If you just hit up an old pal, say you just dumped your girlfriend, and you were wondering if you could go out for a beer or whatever, they would PROBABLY be down. Solitude is good every once in a while, but, you gotta stay active boyyyyy

What if it's my escape? by Molly Sattingsted - Tue, 20 Nov 2018 02:10:49 EST ID:1BGp4HgQ No.527789 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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This guy and I started seeing each other after meeting at a bridge near the beach. He went with a friend, I just went there to think. He was annoyed, because he doesn't really like nature or get out of his house.
After going on a "date" we agreed this will only be casual, no relationship. As he didn't believe in that since his parents are divorced and fought a lot.
We have really good sex, smoke weed, have edibles, laugh all night and sometimes have serious hardcore life talks kind of shit.
He always talks about what a loser he is, how he is not worth shit, and mentioned on two occasions how he is not good to be around with, that in the end when it sinks in I will leave.
I used to tell him how none of that was true, but then it became annoying, and I just ignore it, because I saw it as just trying to get attention.
He would also act the total opposite while talking how a girl was flittering with him, likes to make people uncomfortable, likes to make people (girls I guess) blush with impulsive answers that shut someone down, or doesn't leave you room to say anything else.
He lately sends me random shit, pictures or videos of him being silly with filters or about what he is doing. Makes future scenarios of us being in a relationship. Like when he redid his kitchen, says " this is where we'll cook together" or when he got a new sofa, said he really wanted my opinion because it will be for our home.
I started sending him random pics of stuff, but he rarely answered mine, so I stopped.
I havent seen him in 3 months, and he keeps sending stuff even if I answer or not.
When we hang out is very simple. Watch a movie, have sex or not, talk, smoke weed or eat edibles. Wake up, talk some more, shower and then I'm off.
I don't really care. I see him as my escape, like going on a drive or going to that beach bridge I mentioned. We don't know much of each other, yet I feel comfortable with that person, and feel like all my worries are gone for a while. I think he feels the same too. He is always complimenting me, in a way that seems sincere not to fuck around. And I do the same, we are both polite and kind to one another, but then he has his moments.
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Lillian Tillingson - Tue, 20 Nov 2018 13:41:33 EST ID:JsQi4/8G No.527799 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I tried talking to him about it a long time ago, while we were talking about deep shit. And he just got frustrated and took it the wrong way as if I wanted some serious relationship. He just shut it down by saying "don't ruin something good please" That's when he went on in saying "I heard my parents fought all the time, I don't want that"

If I ever see him again, I'll try and have a chat, maybe wording it different.

I have noticed he gets frustrated with little problems, like he acts is the end of the world, he doesn't know how to cope with it.

Is very hard to make him open up to you, even in sex, he sometimes seems insecure. While kissing, he would stop and ask if he is doing right, if I like it or if he is hurting me. Sounds odd, but he is the best I've had. I'm 26, he is 33.

He always likes to stay hugging me while we watch tv or sleep, as if I'm his stuffed animal, feels like that. But while he hugs me, you can feel the sexual tension. Like when you haven't fucked the girl and there you are knowing there is a chance, but not knowing when it will happen. It's sort of a rush, not knowing when he'll kiss me or if we'll have sex. I have never felt that tension with someone I've already had sex with many times. He also squeezes parts of body randomly, like my arm, my hands, my hips...holds it for a sec and lets go. Very odd shit, that turns me on.
Our sex is also pretty standard nothing crazy, but it's so good. He got worried one time, and told me he felt he was boring at sex. That's what I'll miss the most. Cuz honestly, I've never would have imagined such standard vanilla sex would turn me on so damn much. It's just the way he goes about things.

I've noticed tho, that because I have really good sex with him, I don't look for it anywhere else. I rather masturbate, because I'll see it as a waste of time. Having bad sex is very frustrating to me, it's annoying.

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Phoebe Weckleshit - Tue, 20 Nov 2018 19:00:28 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.527802 Ignore Report Quick Reply

If he is 33, leave now. From your description of his words, behaviour and etc I thought he was around 25 at latest. This is very stunted development behaviour even for someone in their mid 20s let alone 30s.

Also, guys like this have had a long time to develop their character. They know the ways to play to maximum advantage for their game, for instance he hides behind the woe is me troubled home card to outmanoeuvre conversation AND justify it.

When I was 17 I was totally living up to shit like this. Troubled, attitude to guys but soft with women, playing cards about broken homes, bad relationships, bad schools and mental health to get a pass on my shortcomings or inability to play along with relationships.

I’d recommend finding someone who won’t play games, is stable, reasonable confidence and most importantly, legit. Many other posts in this thread have worded that better than me.
John Hussledutch - Wed, 21 Nov 2018 10:54:00 EST ID:N8SnPlnn No.527822 Ignore Report Quick Reply
This guy sounds a bit like me. Sounds like someone who has been traumatized in their upbringing and has trouble with a lot of things as a result. I can't tell you what to do, obviously, just chiming in.

Leave my gf if she was raped by Archie Pungerlock - Mon, 19 Nov 2018 12:27:22 EST ID:+Dxwg5ZQ No.527785 Locked Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Is it bad that I'd leave my SO immediately if she was raped in any scenario? Not previously raped, I can get over that, but if a girl I was dating actually got raped, I'd just up and leave.

Not because I wouldn't be "able to emotionally support her" but for the sheer fact that she got fucked by another man, I dont care if it was consensual or not.

Especially since women have been reported to orgasm during being raped? What if she cums harder for a rapist than me? I'm supposed to really support her and be her rock lol? Fuck that shit

Am I really a bad person? Also the more I think about this the less sympathy I have for rape victims
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Emma Drungerlock - Mon, 19 Nov 2018 12:31:59 EST ID:MnhSzLT7 No.527786 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>Am I really a bad person
Yes, yes you are. Stop trolling the QQ board.
Ernest Surringwill - Mon, 19 Nov 2018 15:18:38 EST ID:LQaVa7NA No.527788 Ignore Report Quick Reply
go choke on your black pill somewhere else. how fucked up do youeven need to be to post shit like this?

why I did shitloads of drugs and dropped out of grad school by Emma Drimmerchodge - Mon, 19 Nov 2018 01:48:54 EST ID:rIosAB57 No.527777 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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tl;dr: because i'm a voraphile

i'm trying to apply to graduate school (again) and i've got to write that statement of purpose. it shouldn't be too hard, but there's something i just can't honestly explain: the reason I fucked up the first time around. it seems like it makes sense to me, but it's just so pathetic and disturbing that there's no way I can tell the truth about it.
i'm 27 and i left grad school in august 2013. since then i've been in the workforce which has had its ups and downs but it's a wash pretty much. test scores are good so i'm not worried about that. my last advisor liked me, which is fine; i'll get a rec letter for that, hopefully, but i only worked for him in 2013. i had entered grad school in august 2011 so there's a whole year unaccounted for.
my history with my previous advisor was pretty bad, let's be honest downright terrible. i rarely communicated and got very little done so he fired me. now mind you it started off alright at first in the first few weeks, but then... well, i suddenly got into a relationship.
if you go back to when i was twelve, i started having sexual fantasies that didn't really make sense to me. i would be shrunk down or just very small and eaten by a much larger woman or stuffed inside of her vagina or asshole, i got creative -- it wasn't porn, i had never seen any porn of this or in fact any porn at all until much later. i mostly jerked off to fantasies i had while looking at softcore images. this also generalized to being eaten by animals, i guess it made sense because animals are more likely to, you know, eat people.
so for most of high school i thought i was some kind of horrible mutant who could never love anyone. my theretofore faith in Christianity was shattered, because while I could imagine a God who would make his children gay, no benevolent God could possibly have made me. some girls showed interest in me, but i usually tried to pretend not to notice. it wasn't until i saw a bunch of -- i remember the poster was saying "OH GOD YES PEACH VORE" -- images of vore porn on the future that I realized I was not a totally isolated case.
turns out mo…
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Edward Blellercocke - Mon, 19 Nov 2018 08:10:36 EST ID:gHKKHqVT No.527782 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Look if your friends are real they won't care.

I don't know why you're going back to study though. It doesn't seem to make you happy.
Edward Blellercocke - Mon, 19 Nov 2018 08:10:36 EST ID:gHKKHqVT No.527783 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Look if your friends are real they won't care.

I don't know why you're going back to study though. It doesn't seem to make you happy.
Oliver Honeybury - Mon, 19 Nov 2018 11:39:59 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.527784 Ignore Report Quick Reply

It’s pretty easy to cover up holes in timeline to friends and employers. I have two year long gaps from being sectioned. Never told the people I lived with for years, nor any employers. I didn’t make up anything too extreme either.

Generally “I just needed to work out some stuff” will fly over their heads. No need to make up elaborate stories. Say you weren’t feeling it or you could get with it anymore or you get burnt out. Or share a half truth and say you were too busy doing irresponsible things.

Guy with depressed GF by Edward Tillingfield - Sun, 18 Nov 2018 21:57:39 EST ID:QW8Wrjtr No.527776 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hello, I came here 1.5 years ago asking for advice.

Just came here to say that the love and care flows naturally from me and it's fullfilling to see the difference I make in her life.

We just came back from a European vacation and we're both living together as well as moving up in our careers.

Things like making her favorite meal (spaghetti) into smaller portions like smaller angel hair and very small meatballs makes eating easier when she lacks an appetite.

Helping her get up in the morning and laying her clothes out and kissing her awake helps her get out of bed.

I won't list them all but I want this thread to be a list of little favors or things you do for yourself or someone does for you that makes depression a little easier. Thanks

Letting Go by Sidney Blungertirk - Mon, 10 Sep 2018 17:42:17 EST ID:cBYQH4Mo No.526624 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey /qq/,

Some of you may remember me from such great threads on /b/ and /qq/ like Booty Call Gone Wrong, Hilarious Failed Dates, and more. The first of those threads was an account of my adventures with a heroin, benzo, and alcohol addicted female as I futilely tried to help her go through withdrawals at my place over the course of multiple days, until she ended up being taken to the hospital.

There were a couple more wild binging episodes like that in the following months, but no officials ever came to my place again, and she never stole any of my liquor again.

However a couple of weeks ago she got back into full blown daily IV heroin use, and is so ashamed that she basically became a hermit in her room (makes more than me but lives with parents) for the past two weeks.

Tonight we are going to meet for dinner but the vibes are way off and if my Spidey Senses are correct this is going to be our final, good-bye date.

Despite all of the clear and obvious red flags, and everyone who cares about me urging to leave her in the dust, I love her. She is brilliant and funny and kind, and shares many interests with me. I would be willing to try to make things work even with her addiction, but it seems she would choose the heroin over me, us, or her own life. And I am unable to change her decision.

So, with a heavy heart and a lump in my throat, it seems I have no choice but to Let Go of what may be simultaneously the best and worst candidate for a female companion I have ever met. My whole life I will always look back and wonder "what if..." because this is the type of woman I would marry, were it not for her addiction. Truly, a sad conclusion to a wild ride.

I will update later this evening if the dinner was indeed a farewell or just touching base.
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Phineas Honeywater - Tue, 11 Sep 2018 21:49:22 EST ID:cBYQH4Mo No.526642 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Well, it was a goodbye. I was right. It's over.
Polly Borrychig - Sun, 18 Nov 2018 19:12:23 EST ID:/XvieVYl No.527774 Ignore Report Quick Reply
How you feelin man?
Graham Suvingworth - Sun, 18 Nov 2018 21:34:18 EST ID:jnas4L6T No.527775 Ignore Report Quick Reply

I am just emerging from the depths of despair. As I said in my OP, I loved her and would have married her. Heroin won though. Trying to be a human again after 2 months of numbness.

Sentimentalist dreamer by Molly Cruckleford - Mon, 05 Nov 2018 18:42:39 EST ID:NJkLq9MW No.527621 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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What do I do when I've been enamored by dreams that aren't possibly for me? What if this has been most of my life and I'm in my mid 20's? I feel like without a dream I will wither and die. I'm sure there's something here for me to do.. How do I find it? How can I know that it's pure and right?

"No matter how full a reservoir of maxims one may possess, and no matter how good one's sentiments may be, if one have not taken advantage of every concrete opportunity to act, one's character may remain entirely unaffected for the better. With good intentions, hell proverbially is paved. This is an obvious consequence of the principles I have laid down. A 'character,' as J. S. Mill says, 'is a completely fashioned will'; and a will, in the sense in which he means it, is an aggregate of tendencies to act in a firm and prompt and definite way upon all the principal emergencies of life. A tendency to act only becomes effectively ingrained in us in proportion to the uninterrupted frequency with which the actions actually occur, and the brain 'grows' to their use. When a resolve or a fine glow of feeling is allowed to evaporate without bearing practical fruit, it is worse than a chance lost: it works so as positively to hinder future resolutions and emotions from taking the normal path of discharge. There is no more contemptible type of human character than that of the nerveless sentimentalist and dreamer, who spends his life in a weltering sea of sensibility, but never does a concrete manly deed."

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Albert Fusslemin - Sat, 17 Nov 2018 18:25:32 EST ID:fh+mGVup No.527761 Ignore Report Quick Reply
A dream is only a dream if you eventually wake up from it. Either you achieve what you aspire to, or you forever aspire to what you wish to achieve. A dream in itself is neither for nor notfor any given person, it simply is itself: a dream. What makes one for or not for someone is solely a matter of personal choice. The question is, are you content to keep dreaming indefinitely, or are you determined to wake up and leave the dream behind for the real thing?

There's nothing wrong with dreaming, either, in and of itself. Dreams are necessary to move forward and progress, but only in so far as it being the beacon of light that guides you through the darkness toward the place you ultimately want to be. If you stop moving forward and pretend the beacon is daylight, you are merely substituting reality with the fantasy of your dream. You will, of course, ultimately know that it is self-deception, but your fear of the dark will paralyze you until such time that something lurking around in the dark happens by and shatters your delicate, fabricated glass reality and you are suddenly forcefully woken from your dream and left to haplessly fumble around in the dark to pick up the pieces of what you thought you used to know.

That's why we wake and dream in cycles, and that a balance between them is necessary to keep cycling functionally. Too much time dreaming means a homeostatic rebound effect being awake, and vice versa. Knowing when and how often to work toward your goals and to take a rest and dream up new ones while appreciating the old ones is key.
Rebecca Chumblenud - Sun, 18 Nov 2018 09:19:59 EST ID:ehhnNOgT No.527769 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Fuck if I know man. I can relate though. I'm a very idealistic person but I also have little self control and I can't make myself live up to my ideals so I live in a state of depression and defeat.
Doris Huffingbanks - Sun, 18 Nov 2018 09:47:16 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.527770 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Gotta learn how to count the victories.

If you have none, earn them.

What should I do? by Walter Fanningdock - Sat, 17 Nov 2018 11:01:05 EST ID:OuQCp+w8 No.527755 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>Fall in love like 2 years ago with puerto rican girl.
> Immediately become lovers and best friends simultaneously.
>She's got 5 years on me and is currently 30 and I'm 25.
>Ending up going through hell and back together(homelessness and all types of shit
>While being homeless I end up relapsing on drugs
>She ends up getting HOOKED on drugs
>More trial and error
>Finally get an apartment
>Bicker often with eachother and shit because we spend 24/7 together
>All we do is basically fight but still love eachother (so I thought)
>She disappears for like 2 days
>Proceeds to tell me she's with this other guy now and how he's trying to get clean and get her clean
>Throw all her shit outside the door of my apartment, leave, and go stay with my Dad.
>Mom is in the ICU(she's still there actually) for kidney and liver failure
>Stay with dad and sister for 3 weeks, get clean on my own etc
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David Fuckinghall - Sat, 17 Nov 2018 19:36:23 EST ID:gHKKHqVT No.527764 Ignore Report Quick Reply
So she wasn't an addict until she met you and tried to leave to get clean? Sounds like she is as messed up as you are buddy but it's her first rodeo. Tbh she doesn't sound super evil or anything, just trying to get her life on track but also relying on others to live, hence the cheating. Still that shit isn't on. But homelessness ain't great. Either way she was living the only way she knew.

In rehabs and shit they tell you not to get too attached to your fellow addicts because they'll let you down and then you'll spiral down after them. That's what happened to her. You're only clean after this break up. But yeah you're at risk of spiralling again.

Love has many grand ideas and shit but if you dont want to have a bitter relationship after the novelty fails you need to build it on those boring every day foundations like positive communication and having your shit together. You guys failed that. I know the romantic in you wants her back and it's not the worst idea if you want to continue your chaotic exciting life, but you'll both be hurting and spiralling through that.

I just dont think that you can go through those hard emotionally charged conversations with her without relapsing bro. Imagine an argument that boils up over something like her not getting home on time or whatever and you're sus and then she starts throwing daggers because she didn't do anything wrong this time. You'll want to run off and get high.

As for the Cuban girl, fuck her off. She's a rebound. You don't owe her anything mr martyr.
Alice Drosslewed - Sun, 18 Nov 2018 02:39:19 EST ID:RDJxj2zU No.527766 Ignore Report Quick Reply
When moving on, the WORST thing you can do is compare a new partner to your ex

They are not your ex, nor a replacement. You will have a different type of compatibility and a different relationship experience altogether. Focusing on comparing will only stop you from moving on.
Rebecca Chumblenud - Sun, 18 Nov 2018 08:32:48 EST ID:ehhnNOgT No.527768 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Do what makes you happy. People will say you can never trust her and she will cheat on you again, which is probably true, but if spending time with her makes you happy then I think you should do that, just don't try and make it a serious monogamous relationship and just be fuck buddies. She's too old for you anyway so fuck buddies is the best situation.

running away by Hugh Settingbury - Sun, 11 Nov 2018 23:18:36 EST ID:+eu7fILs No.527691 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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is there any way to leave my shit town if im on probation and fucked? i live in the middle of nowhere and its so sad i might as well just go to jail some point down the line and get it over with its basically the same thing the only difference now is i can do kratom and shit at least

i live in the middle of nowhere and its so sad. if i was on probation anywhere else i could ride busses and trains through the city go to malls see things do stuff hang out with people but im just trapped in my room alone and the probation sentence is long as fuck

if i run away do i have to get the max sentence for my crime or can they do something else or even feel bad for me? its so fucking shit out here i just want to move some place where i have resources
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Nicholas Sibblelock - Tue, 13 Nov 2018 17:29:24 EST ID:NJkLq9MW No.527717 Ignore Report Quick Reply
maybe fuck the military.. join your cat..

think about it
Frederick Billingridge - Thu, 15 Nov 2018 19:19:01 EST ID:+Tof+qQ/ No.527748 Ignore Report Quick Reply

This. I moved tryna get away from everyone. Can confirm still feel like shit.
Albert Fusslemin - Sat, 17 Nov 2018 17:51:16 EST ID:fh+mGVup No.527760 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Word, nigga. Every town and city has just as little to do and sucks to live in. The problem isn't the town, it's you. Yeah, there's some random different shit here and there to occupy your time with in a different area, but the shit available to do will become as mundane and unappealing within a matter of a couple of weeks.

The only solution then, if you're determined to run away, is to keep on running endlessly. In little time at all the constant running will too become as shitty and tedious as your everyday life where you currently are is right now. Things are always changing, but they always stay the same.

That's why the only answer to a dilemma like this is that you have to change, rather than trying to change everything else around you to solve your problems--you're the only true constant here, after all.

Time to fix your fuckin life bro

Why do my parents hate me? by A POOR VICTIM - Sat, 17 Nov 2018 03:36:08 EST ID:hRBYIF6G No.527751 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Plz help!

I live in winter town and want to move to summer town! What do?

Should I murder my oppressive parents who do not want me to be happy? I can do this but I will not.

PLEASE help me to find others to blame for my circumstances! Do NOT blame me, I believe others are to blame. Specifically do not reference my actions which had lead to my current predicament, obviously our time would be better spent focusing on how to deal with why everyone is so mean to me!!!
Fuck Cezzlelire - Sat, 17 Nov 2018 10:23:50 EST ID:gHKKHqVT No.527754 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Honestly it's their fault that they won't drive you to the airport. Fucking assholes!!! You shouldn't have to take the bus.
Barnaby Fomblelock - Sat, 17 Nov 2018 11:22:57 EST ID:iJyiJg7k No.527757 Ignore Report Quick Reply
dude you post the same threads on 4skins /adv/ and they're tired of your shit too
ban this faggot for good!
Angus Brurryback - Sat, 17 Nov 2018 14:38:36 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.527758 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Listen here you shmoe. Winter town is full opportunities and your parents are doing it for your own good. Summer town is a thinly veiled excuse for hedonism and debauchery that is self gratifying in the short term but ultimately subjects your life to internal chaos and anguish.

I blame the Russians for their subversive propaganda portraying summer town as the cure for all woes. They keep getting Beyoncé and jay to insert subliminal pro summertown imagery into their music videos and in my view, they are to blame for your misery and failed relationships.

Losing my self or something by Ebenezer Suzzlesatch - Sun, 11 Nov 2018 11:24:16 EST ID:+Tof+qQ/ No.527679 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Like 3 months ago, I had a girlfriend, I had a huge group of friends even if it was dysfunction, some of my friends died, everyone's getting pregnant, etc, but still, I had all these good friends in my life. My girlfriend left me to move to the city, and today she posted a pic of a guy asleep in a bed that I'm assuming is hers. I knew she was starting to date, she posted saying so the day I moved to a shitty little city in the south. I moved down here like 3 weeks ago for work, couldn't get a job anywhere else.

I think she was waiting on me because I told her I might move to her city if I could find a job. I couldn't find one, and I couldn't justify moving somewhere over a girl who walked away, you know? But it feels like I made a mistake. I really liked her. A lot. I'm 24 years old now, and she was the closest thing I've ever had to a gf. I've slept with like 8 women now, but 7/8 of those were one night stands.

Now I'm in this new city trying to get my bearings, I'm becoming increasingly lonely, and going out and getting fucked up on the weekends just isn't cutting it. Some girl in the bar was talking to me and invited me to another bar, but she was surrounded by male friends that kept cockblocking me and by the time I left that bar I was too drunk and had to get home. I've been out every weekend and that was the closest I've come to actually finding anyone to fuck. I guess I need to watch my drinking. This job isn't even that good. I read a quote from will smith today that says "Don't chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing and work hard. The right people, the ones who really belong in your life will come to you. And stay". I tend to agree with that.

I have been on a long journey trying to become less of a bitch. I have very "deep" feelings about the women that have come and gone in my life. I get caught up easily. I've been working on being happy as a man, by myself, but it feels like it's just not fucking working. Or like I'm going backwards. I looked up the age Will Smith met his wife. He was 27. I'm 24. Idk why that matters, but it's something to cling onto for hope. Like, maybe someday som…
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Sidney Tootfield - Mon, 12 Nov 2018 21:05:24 EST ID:jnas4L6T No.527710 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I am processing some hearbreak too OP. I was forced to end a 5 year relationship because we were both miserable and fought all the time, but we still loved and cared about each other so it was extremely hard. Tried to distract myself by going out, with other women, etc. Found a girl who I fell madly in love with only for her to reveal a heroin addiction and ghost me right when I thought things would get serious and permanent. So now that my initial rebound stage is over, and my grief of losing such a wonderful relationship to heroin is over, I realize I never allowed myself to grieve for the loss of the long-term relationship, and now I am trying to process that while not drinking myself to death.

The only advice I can give is to force yourself to tend to your biological needs as best you can, even if you don't want to. Eat adequate amounts of healthy meals, be hygienic, clean your living space, get enough sleep, don't drink every night, etc. This is all easier said than done. But if you get your brain chemistry optimized it helps in letting the grief wash over you and pass through you. TBH right now I am the least miserable I have been in like 8 years, and it's because I just focused on my physiological needs when I was unable to help myself emotionally. Though I am still struggling like you.

Good luck OP. To you and me both. *raises beer*
Samuel Hezzlehack - Tue, 13 Nov 2018 04:40:03 EST ID:XNj2um9H No.527713 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Well yeah. Transitioning is hard and you'll feel insecure. You know what to do though. Give yourself the self care and trust that you have what it takes to adapt. It's easy to linger in feelings of envy and jealousy buy you'll find that you have a lot going for you. Forget about her
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SJW gf by Hugh Parryway - Fri, 12 Oct 2018 06:23:59 EST ID:+Dxwg5ZQ No.527118 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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>gf is an SJW

My gf Is a jobless, SJW liberal, and a bisexual. Who lives off her rich parents money.

She's not just casually bisexual either. She's hardcore pro-queer, lgbt (ally) and makes a huge deal out of Sexuality. Everything has to be pro-trans this, non-binary that, gender this and gender that.

I can deal with some liberal shit but with her it is over the top. She can't go to the fucking grocery store without wearing some sort of LGBT shit or out at night for dinner without SOME rainbow shit plastered on her.

We've been dating for a few months and to be quite honest I didn't see any of this shit when we first met--she actually had a fucking job and acted like a normal person.

The thing is when she's not on her LGBT shit she's actually incredibly pleasant to be around, i enjoy her company and we "click". In my eyes this SJW shit is just a flaw that I'll have to deal with, nobody is perfect.

But it's fucking weird. She acts like a feminine girl with me and when shes with her family none of that shit happens, she cleans up. Furthermore I'm a straight edge, normal dude who's if anything is Center-right leaning and she knows this.

Her parents actually seem like normal and well adjusted people, and I've picked up that they're not that enthralled with her being into the SJW shit at all.
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Cedric Sottingnadge - Sun, 11 Nov 2018 10:15:12 EST ID:epi0TZjY No.527678 Ignore Report Quick Reply

no, because she is honest about her uncompromising beliefs and he just sits there and feels superior while using her and being duplicitous
Beatrice Tootgold - Tue, 13 Nov 2018 18:07:29 EST ID:+Dxwg5ZQ No.527718 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>calls SJW groupthink "uncompromising beliefs"

Nigel Shakedale - Wed, 14 Nov 2018 10:54:59 EST ID:N8SnPlnn No.527732 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Well if you want your girl to change, OP, it might be a better idea to talk to her than to tell an imageboard about her.

Oh wait, this is just a low-effort troll thread copy-pasted from somewhere else.

psychological help by Albert Tootstone - Mon, 12 Nov 2018 17:16:44 EST ID:LId6ukbM No.527707 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Having a consistent issue not sure what to do
>have habit of saying random thought outloud, good or bad
>mostly very bad things said
>no control whatsoever
>happens mostly when stressed, or thinking about an old event that happened(usually bad or embarrassing)

at first, it was light maybe once a day, now its at least every hour.

part of me thinks its a part of getting older, but its totally tearing into my quality of life.

on the light side, it wont happen if i am with a group of friends, maybe it happened once.

>stopped smoking weed about 1 year ago, thinking maybe im getting way too high all the time. no change/symptoms worse
>Isolationism setting in, i hardly talk to anyone anymore. starting to feel like everyone is out for their own interests.
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creative potential by Ian Dondlespear - Sun, 11 Nov 2018 22:56:12 EST ID:dJEw/uJZ No.527689 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Most of the time I feel like my true self and true creative potential is being bottle necked by how severely mentally ill I am. It is one of the worst feelings. I'm an artistic person and want to CREATE things but I just can't because most of the time I hardly have energy to eat or keep an attention span. I draw sometimes and I can sometimes feel myself connecting to the "stream" that artists say they've felt before. Like at some point in the creative process it stops requiring effort and you kind of just plug into something deeper than yourself and let "it" do the work. I've never been able to fully take advantage of it, only taste it for small amounts of time.

How do I get to the point where I can fully take advantage of my creative potential? I know that I am meant to create something beautiful in my life but currently I am 22 years old and severely upset with my life and the world. What can I do to better myself so I can experience enlightenment? I want to be able to feel something other than anguish, I want to feel as beautiful and meaningful as the art I am trying to create. I have currently tried many mediums including drawing, music, singing, and photography. Nothing has stuck to me yet.
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Archie Ponkinmetch - Mon, 12 Nov 2018 09:06:42 EST ID:LQaVa7NA No.527699 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Enlightenment is a state that only allows enlightenment. Thats why people who chase it rarely do anything but meditation.
To be a full human being I think you need some spirituality/connection to feelings/dreams and you also need to train the ego to work for/with you. See it as a tool that allows you to navigate the human world.
Walk both paths or walk none of them, Alan Watts has a beautiful talk on that topic.

As CHarlotte said, train the brain to focus on things, little by little it will get better. You need to realize that your obsession with being too ill to create just creates a feedback loop. Every time you check how you feel before you start soething you give more power to the concept. Just accept where you are now, work with what you have and START.
I know what its like to be depressed and losing hope in everything, especially the own abilities and I've had the same problem for the past months where I'm not really able to bring myself to paint most of the time. But once I started, there was a flow for half an hour and then it stopped and I started judging how I need ore time painting to get better/how I am not what I need to be anymore etc. This just increases my self loathing and I don't even begin painting in fear of failing and feeling that pain. Not painting increases the problem aswell though, so I need to stop judging and start accepting what is while doing the best I can..

So this post is mostly directed at myself but maybe it helps you aswell.
Charles Bummerluck - Mon, 12 Nov 2018 13:00:14 EST ID:yDKihQN5 No.527702 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Look mate, flow states are reserved for people who are familiar enough with what they are doing to begin to lose themselves in it. Build up a base of belief, competence, technique, confidence and focus - with time, the flow state will arise naturally.

I've probably clocked in 5-800 hours of drawing and painting this year. There are times I'll have drawn for 50+ hours in a week. At times, it were as if an autopilot took over and maneuvered my hand without any conscious decision making - at least, not in a way I am familiar with. I remember a page from my practices, were I basically generated insects, birds and woodlands within a few minutes, accurately, first time, with basically zero thought and 100% flow. This occurs because you become so familiar with what you are doing that it no longer becomes something you have to think about. Without practice, it won't occur because you are going to get stuck generating the answers to visual problem solving.

I experience the same thing cycling these days for quick reaction moments and particularly challenging obstacles - I am reacting faster than I am thinking. Again, it's just about familiarity, repetition and the belief in my ability to execute.

I'd recommend you just practice daily and give yourself larger pieces to work on from time to time. I usually set aside at least 2 hours to just do quick 5-30 minute sketches of random shit on flickr. Learn techniques, experiment and figure out what the fuck you are doing. Always push yourself to attempt more complexity and execute your visions as well as you can. Problem solve, feel accomplished. With time, this flow stuff will kick in.

I don't like the conflation of flow state with spirituality. Nor do I think that meditation is a particularly enlightened mode of being. Enlightenment is overrated, at least compared to the wonderful depictions like your attached picture. I got into zen buddhism in 2012 and have never really lost my way from some of the core concepts, but after a long time getting lost in meditations, lectures, books etc. I reached a fairly underwhelming conclusion and perspective. It's all just pretty simple shit. Take peace in that, but don't go all overboard thinki…
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Lydia Fumbleford - Mon, 12 Nov 2018 15:03:04 EST ID:NJkLq9MW No.527706 Ignore Report Quick Reply
take it from me. do not get stuck looking at the ideal and doing nothing to get there. you will get dashed on the rocks of life... it hurts. figure out your depression. if your sleep, diet, lack of exercise etc is out of whack, do positive lifestyle changes if you aren't.

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