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Does the feeling of wanting to fuck other girls go away?

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- Mon, 27 Jul 2020 10:58:05 EST sxluUyk0 No.535452
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>25 years old
>First real relationship, 2 years now
>Wonderful girlfriend, love her dearly
>Great person to be around
>Chill
>Sex is good
>Everything is great in the relationship

And I still constantly just think about fucking other women. To add to the backstory - I wasn't a virgin before I met her but she is my first relationship. Before this I just wasnt very interested in a relationship, but we just got along so well and she's so great that it developed into one - which I was fine with.

However, I just want to fuck other women and think about it all the time. Its not that I want to BE with other women, and its not that the sex I have with my girlfriend is bad or unfulfilling - im not looking for anything I dont already have - I just want to fuck other women for the variety and for the novelty.

I dont think I'll ever cheat on my girlfriend because I love her totally and I never want to upset her, she'll be totally heartbroken if I ever did, obviously - but there's no getting over that I think about it quite a bit.

Just wish I could have the occasional no strings attached fuck that means nothing, just get it out of my system every now and then.

Does this feeling ever go away?
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Lydia Soddlegold - Sun, 09 Aug 2020 10:04:34 EST qK1Z+uZp No.535656 Reply
>>535626

I'd believe this if I didn't personally know over half the people in those communities are straight up pants on head, foaming from the mouth insane. They're almost all on anti depressants or have some kind of significant mental health issue and are general time bombs, everything is fine until it isn't and when it isn't it fucking ISN'T.

That being said there's a few gems in there and if you're lucky enough to get one you'll probably have a great time.
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Priscilla Shittingdock - Sun, 09 Aug 2020 18:18:19 EST 1SSFeKJF No.535665 Reply
>>535656
I think this applies to most people honestly. I say this as a monogamous guy.

I've friends who've done the poly thing or do it. It lives and dies by the same thing as normal relationships but if you have a complex relationship (as opposed to say mostly centralised but with other things going on) it can end up with many more potential points of failure to ruin everything. I've seen that go wrong. It's possible for people to get marginalised and used as emotional tampons by multiple people if they're really foolish. But it's high risk high reward. You make it work and you have a full support structure and as the joke goes, a D&D group who will turn up regularly.

I'm satisfied with one person and don't have time for more. I see other women who are stunning but at the end of the day I have the energy and emotional availability for one person and one night stands are not as good. You won't learn how to make that person's body and mind respond the way you can with one partner.

I guess I think "I'd smash that person in the hypotheticals" pretty often but I don't think that's unusual. Whether polyamory is the answer depends on a lot of stuff. You are going to end up having to duck crazies and awful people whoever you are and whatever you look for.
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Phineas Mebbleham - Mon, 10 Aug 2020 02:09:31 EST m8gMi16v No.535672 Reply
I had an open relationship for years, it had some bumpy parts but it worked pretty well overall. It served its purpose and both myself and my partner kind of got tired of it around the same time. Naturally kind of burned out. It’s a lot of work. Made us both better at sex and also made us both appreciate each other more, since people are nightmares, generally speaking. We’re monogamous now but it is nice to know we could do it again eventually if we wanted to. We’ve been together 12 years.

I do agree that a lot of people in the poly community seem to be somewhat emotionally unhinged, a lot of borderliney kind of stuff. My partner and I weren’t poly though, just open. Open to fuck buddies w little romance

Full timers Vs. MGH shitboxed union employees

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- Sun, 09 Aug 2020 14:41:49 EST P9+2I5It No.535658
File: 1596998509071.jpg -(9331B / 9.11KB, 300x242) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. Full timers Vs. MGH shitboxed union employees
Full timers are complaining about new hires being afforded MGH style shift pooling...i.e the kind of pooling regular parking lot, chain restaurant and construction guys. You get enough money a week to eat on but you gotta save half a paycheck till next payday to get the big chunk.

And yet they fought for their cushy schedule only to realise after the food; parking lot and setup guys are getting paid equally for what they perceive as piecemeal work.

Minimum guaranteed hours means you might work a 4 and they pay a new guy to finish your 3 but they get a free hour of work by cutting you loose before you get a break. It makes planning your day a sack of crap but I'm used to it being essentially "on call"

If you thought you're cattle now...MGH means that none of us are really making over $17/40hr regardless of ur tenure...

Smmh they should have asked for hire-upping when the water was still sweet.

That's what you get for not unionizong like the shitbox employees...we know they only scoop the bare amount of shit it takes to spread a line and put the precious extra shit back in the box we made for them.
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Asapw0jack - Sun, 09 Aug 2020 15:08:10 EST P9+2I5It No.535662 Reply
>>535658

TL;DR Fulltimers take the assfuck carrot that the PTs and Casuals have been running from for years by unionizing...

Wonder where all their job security went when they basically told upper management to get stuffed when they were hiring upwards.

So thanks to the Fulltimers we have no revolving door and get paid equally to do an equal amount of work and they're upset that PTs can work $17/40 at the expense of basically having to sleep with your phone next to your skull and they're not able to get any time off since they fought for rigid schedules for their cushy white collar life.
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Asapw0jack - Sun, 09 Aug 2020 15:31:15 EST UIs+nGFE No.535663 Reply
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>>535658
As the old saying goes. If you don't want to work what you're given; there's the door, hand your keys to the next guy.

Borderline girlfriend pic unrelated

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- Tue, 04 Aug 2020 00:13:04 EST ef9V5kqL No.535575
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So my ex?-girlfriend has borderline personality disorder. Basically when things are going well they feel dysphoric and lash out against the people they love, sometimes viciously. I know that sounds vauge but I've been stabbed, punched, had large glass jars thrown at my head, my bedroom door she punched through to get to me, she stole the family car, sliced my moms arm and the list goes on. I always protect her and do damage control because I don't think she knows the extent of the consiquences for this kind of shit. I also know she banks on me doing this. We were in recovery. I'm doing well and what I need to and she just wants to sit around all day and if I do anything at all that is not ashley-centric she can't stand it. Typing this shit you'd think there's no good at all but I love this chick, and she loves me. I see past all of this but I am starting to feel like I shouldn't be as much as I have and I don't know what to do. I also can't bring myself to trust her at all and I have a suspicion she's fucked around on me, although I guess it's not really that even though we agreed that we wouldn't do that if we spit up. I can't keep doing this, and I don't know how to shut off my feelings for her, she's been gone a month and want's to see me like badly and I keep flip flopping because it's cyclic, this pattern has got to stop and I don't know what to do, just the sex is fire enough to make me say fuck it. Right now I'm basically giving her an ultimatum to get help or I'm done. I need some help too, I don't know what to do. I have panic attacks getting on fb because I dread even seeing her texts half the time. Today she told me she was getting some dope to OD and kill herself because she can't keep doing this and can't stand being away from me. Everyone else that lives here decided she can't come around for fucks sake. What do /qq/?
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Sophie Fubbernet - Thu, 06 Aug 2020 00:52:29 EST m8gMi16v No.535619 Reply
>>535618
Thanks friendo. also have a friend irl in the same situation. They get so close to leaving and then bail last minute, it sucks to see. Their partner keeps escalating shit every time they come close to leaving too and it just gets worse.
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Shitting Wurringfield - Thu, 06 Aug 2020 07:42:25 EST j4hxtyVz No.535622 Reply
>>535610
>I think you might be giving him false hope. She stabs people. She has a knife.
Qft
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Charlotte Gabbleford - Fri, 07 Aug 2020 12:31:46 EST TtXni/Rr No.535640 Reply
dude is there any way to get her treatment? A weekly DBT skills group plus any personal therapist, regardless of modality, so long as she likes them (at least to begin with) will fix all this shit eventually, loads of evidence.

You are right not to trust her, she is very very unwell, she needs help, not a boyfriend .


Also never give anyone an ultimatum, especially someone with BPD, most relationship problems come from insecurity, fear, lack of trust, but with BPD it's that times 1000... what could make someone less trustful and more insecure than an ultimatum? If you want to break up break up, if you want to stay together (do not stay together) stay together, but don't ultimatum people. Whether you decide to break up or stay together tell her she needs to get help or she is going to die. 10% of borderlines attempt suicide, 1 in 10, that is huge. The whole population has a 1 in 10,000 chance of dying by suicide and she has a ONE IN TEN chance. She. Needs. Help.

Stayed in the sun too long

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- Wed, 05 Aug 2020 04:45:44 EST +Ye82DwW No.535581
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I enjoyed the outdoors too long. I went from the threshold of white strangers calling me "bud" and "bro" to "homeboy" and all the variations ("homes, homie, etc.) which I don't fucking say by the way, or "gangsta" which is a fun one.

I'm mixed and aware of how I present myself and how people perceive me. I try to dress really bright and non-urban, like if tommy vercetti fucked a chinese tourist and they mixed up clothes on the way out. In the places where my family still lives dressing like a gang member can get you beat up or killed, and that's just the shit the police will do to you, so I avoid it. I'm like jackie chan, I don't want trouble.

I just started a new job in retail and most of my bosses are hipster white girls 10 years younger than me. I go and am positive, put on my white voice and try to be as nice as possible and I still get little remarks like this. I'm not even angry anymore. I just want to lay down and die. It's never going to get better.

I lost my teen years due to bad parenting, bad surroundings and bad choices and had to play catch up. So many of the people around me did. The schools didn't prepare us for college and the handful of us that did get there were woefully underappreciated and had to play more catch up, this time not just with work but with 10s of thousands of dollars of our own money. My hands are bleeding from pulling on these fucking bootstraps and I'm trying to do it with a smile and their perception of me doesn't fucking change. I'm a 31 year old man and I have been bawling since I got out of work.

thank you for letting me vent my depressing miserable life here all these years.
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Basil Grimfoot - Wed, 05 Aug 2020 22:18:32 EST mttQWkrO No.535613 Reply
Lmao as a white person I can't even put myself into the head space of calling a black person "homeboy" let alone "gangsta", at all, but especially someone that clearly isn't about it just because they're black, That's awful and I'm sorry you have to go through it, but I'm sorry that is also so fucking funny. I bet they're the kind of people who swear they can't be racist because they have a single black friend and have a BLM avi on twitter. That truly sucks though.

>In the places where my family still lives dressing like a gang member can get you beat up or killed

It might have to do with that though. It must be a thoroughly white bread area lls. I think in the city I live in that'd be more likely to happen to a white person who called a random black dude "gangsta". It's not really an excuse, but if there really hasn't been an opportunity for them to interact with black people they're probably ignorant in the true sense of the word and don't understand how much of a faux pas that is.
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Phyllis Hittingchedge - Wed, 05 Aug 2020 23:48:04 EST h9TTa2SX No.535616 Reply
Sorry you have to deal with that shit OP, it sounds incredibly annoying. I don't know what their intent is because I wasn't there. They're either trying extra super hard to be chummy with you and really fucking it up in the process, or it's a microaggression, or maybe both. Either way I can appreciate how it feels like shit to be "othered" all the time by everyone around you, and it sucks ass.

Are you usually white passing when you don't go into the sun? Do you have black friends that you can hang out with or biracial friends who might understand some of this shit and commiserate with you? When I'm tired of people making comments and not understanding my experience, I surround myself with other people who are like me and understand what I'm going through, which I find helps. You go from being "othered" to being together and being included/accepted/understood.
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Shitting Wurringfield - Thu, 06 Aug 2020 07:22:54 EST j4hxtyVz No.535621 Reply
>>535613
I want to pile onto this so bad.

If you're a white person and you're using black vernacular because you don't know any better, that's ignorance. If you're doing it on purpose it's bullheaded obvious racism.

how to feel less empathy towards people i know feel none towards me

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- Mon, 27 Jul 2020 10:08:39 EST mttQWkrO No.535451
File: 1595858919084.jpg -(65147B / 63.62KB, 929x525) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. how to feel less empathy towards people i know feel none towards me
i'm part of a visible minority in the US and recently for some reason... it's started to hit me pretty hard that a good 10-30% of the people i see on a daily basis have nothing but hate in their hearts for me and at the very least wish i didn't exist and at the worst actively fantasize about killing me. instead of feeling the righteous anger i should feel towards them, i end up feeling bad for them. i start to think about what a small, terrifying world they must live in and what it must be like to have your mind so preoccupied with such a pointless thing, i start to think about the opportunities to learn and grow that they never had, how insecure they must be knowing deep down, sometimes really deep down, that there are things they just don't get, they just aren't bright people and that fundamentally isn't their fault, but i know the feeling isn't mutual

i know this seems so holier-than-thou and there's no way i can make it not come off like that, but it is legitimately something that really bothers me. how do i stuff these feelings down and conjure up the hate towards these people that they deserve? i want to mercilessly ridicule them and maybe even worse without feeling a shred of remorse, i want to feel hatred that will drive action instead of empathy that fuels inaction, these people take advantage of the fact that the vast majority of us aren't such bigoted pieces of shit. i've turned the other cheek seventy times seven times and now i'm done.
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Jenny Mopperbury - Tue, 04 Aug 2020 02:50:19 EST mttQWkrO No.535576 Reply
>>535558
Damn that's all it takes? I agree with everyone here I dunno why I made this thread
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Polly Boshwill - Tue, 04 Aug 2020 16:18:43 EST 1SSFeKJF No.535580 Reply
>>535576
It sounded like you needed to blow of steam and regain your perspective.

Pretty sure the quote is also lampooning the behavior rather than lauding it.
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Jarvis Gockleson - Wed, 05 Aug 2020 17:18:26 EST mttQWkrO No.535600 Reply
>>535580
Nah I know that I was getting at something else lol, but you're right I did just need to get some perspective

am I being followed or paranoid?

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- Wed, 05 Aug 2020 11:43:11 EST 7xGdC/hr No.535584
File: 1596642191515.jpg -(22529B / 22.00KB, 600x498) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. am I being followed or paranoid?
So the other night about 2am I smoked a joint out my window. When I opened it I thought I saw a light down the street from a car or something so I quickly went away and came back. When I started smoking it a black private hire taxi pulls directly opposite my house, sits a minute, grabs a bag and leaves. Ok bit unsettling but whatever just going home, car is there until sometime next day.

Fast forward this morning go for walk at 4am. I live in what I'd describe as a very small city in a student area. When I'm walking down a road adjacent to mine, I hear a car behind going past really slowly. Could have just been because it's dark and slightly narrow road, but it was proper slow. I don't know if it was the same one, but sure enough when I looked round it said 'Private Hire' on the side. A van trailed shortly behind and blocked its view of me, I ttried to stay hidden behind it. After it gets further down the road it just pulls up to the side and stays there with its lights on dim and engine running. Sketchy but ok could just have needed to stop, not very discreet if stalking me.


I leave that road and I walk past a roundabout with a gas station. Hear another car behind me at the traffic lights, small white car, and when lights go green, I have a funny feeling it will pull into the gas station. And it does, but not to the pumps, it parks right at the front as it he were going to buy something, but doesn't get out. When I look in his car to see what he's doing it's just a middle aged white dude conveniently looking the other way.

Now I'm starting to freak out a bit and change my route to go home. Saw a couple of cars/vans on my way home but it was too dark to rationally evaluate whether they could be the same ones I saw before.

What do you think? Is this very concerning or am I being paranoid? Cars do need to stop after all. I've read about professionals following people and I didn't hear anything about them just pulling up in front of you, seems a bit obvious don't you think? On the other hand, it was very suspicious and unsettling. I don't know what to believe and I'm concerned there's a small chance there are people abroad may want to hurt me. Please advise.
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Emma Blummleten - Wed, 05 Aug 2020 12:38:36 EST VAcauGzm No.535589 Reply
>>535586
Look into gangstalking. It's not real. You are almost certainly just being nuts and falling into a relatively common psychological trap. It's very very easy to see patterns like this and relate them to yourself.
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Fucking Feddlegold - Fri, 07 Aug 2020 00:16:16 EST /q+yn+S5 No.535633 Reply
Nah that's paranoia dude. Trust me. I'm paranoid as fuck. What you saw was a bunch of random shit happening. But why was a bunch of random shit happening around you all of a sudden? It always happens, you just arent normally paying attention to it.

Someone pulls into a gas station and fucks around in the front seat maybe looking for their wallet or something. Someone is lost and slowly driving or maybe they are texting on their phone. Some dude is delivering newspapers. Its not about you dude and even if it was youd be crazy to believe it.

Terrorism

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- Sat, 01 Aug 2020 22:47:38 EST 9DmUMIXr No.535546
File: 1596336458354.jpg -(98269B / 95.97KB, 620x413) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. Terrorism
I personally am misunderstood. The enite government thinks I'm a mentally ill, mentally gay, wahabist, transexual.

None of that makes sense on the surface. Islam and transexualism are incompatible. Homosexuality and Islam are incomatible. Wahabism is definitely against transexualism and homsexuality.

It doesn't make sense to me. I'm not crazy because I don't understand how one would believe hold those beliefs simulataneously.

I could be a Wahabist or I could be trans faggot but not both at the same time.

>Allah does not permit both, as nature does not allow it. I've never met a devout Muslim faggot. I've never met a faggot that became a muslim.

Can anyone explain the Islamic Transexual Faggot Delusion to me?
How does that play out?
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Reuben Fiblingfoot - Sun, 02 Aug 2020 15:17:30 EST mNRa2otm No.535559 Reply
>>535555
Maybe the problem is my lack of violence maybe I should go out there and be violent. Since youre projecting those thoughts onto me. Like you know go out there and rape some bitches and kill some fools.
User is currently banned from all boards
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Graham Nappergold - Sun, 02 Aug 2020 16:30:28 EST ZLNL16wy No.535560 Reply
Allah is the way to socialism brother
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Charles Pickwater - Mon, 03 Aug 2020 23:41:00 EST mNRa2otm No.535574 Reply
>>535560
Who needs Allah when I can trust Biden and Kamila Harris to save me from my own stupidity.
User is currently banned from all boards

Well this is awkward

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- Wed, 15 Jul 2020 23:58:54 EST R0vb3iEj No.535305
File: 1594871934741.jpg -(129959B / 126.91KB, 1062x788) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. Well this is awkward
Is there any good way to get rid of the memories you had with a person quickly? At first I thought I was starting to move on, I am, in a sense. I wake up filled with sadness, rage and regret. This is every morning since a week ago. They ended up showing their true colors a week ago with one of the nastier messages I've received from someone in a while.
I'm going to therapy and reconnecting with people I know just to pass the time.I'm working out 5 days a week now and trying to learn a few new hobbies. I've deleted them off all means of contact I have and I have plans to throw everything out that they gave me or that reminds me of them.

Are there any other methods to remove this person from my memory apart from time and distance? I know that time will heal it regardless but I'm impatient and I feel trapped. I need to fast track this, I can't afford to be carrying around this much emotional turmoil surrounding this person in the fall. It's going to affect my work in a dire way.

I'm considering dating sites.

Any tips for making this move faster? At this point I just want to forget them completely and move on with the rest of my life. I thought I could salvage the good memories we had together but now they all feel tainted with rage and sadness.

Thank you for any and all advice.
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Shitting Duckgold - Mon, 03 Aug 2020 03:42:44 EST LUAyeKAb No.535564 Reply
>>535305
if you are starting to act like me then you need to go on one of those due vacations like i was supposed to

>Are there any other methods to remove this person from my memory apart from time and distance?
ur suppost to "go find some hunnies"
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Shitting Duckgold - Mon, 03 Aug 2020 04:10:59 EST LUAyeKAb No.535566 Reply
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>>535305
just listen to ur therapist is all. women are emotionally damaged dude, and they're also happy too. as far as sending gifts, you were supposed to let the steam wear off for like 20 years and then start sending them.
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Shitting Duckgold - Mon, 03 Aug 2020 05:12:32 EST LUAyeKAb No.535567 Reply
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>>535305
use an electromagnet; u put the big heavy friend up to ur head and a light turns on when u pull the trigger

I just cried

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- Sat, 01 Aug 2020 17:02:03 EST yyOfZufy No.535544
File: 1596315723127.jpg -(508102B / 496.19KB, 1920x956) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. I just cried
I shed some tears for the first time in awhile.

I felt, in the most visceral way, the emotions I was holding onto and the things I was attached to. The things I yearn for were articulated to me.

I feel so much more relieved now...
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Molly Cluzzlepedge - Sat, 01 Aug 2020 18:19:23 EST TtXni/Rr No.535545 Reply
>>535544
That sounds great OP, what articulated it for you?

I hope you continue to feel the relief
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Shitting Duckgold - Mon, 03 Aug 2020 03:44:02 EST LUAyeKAb No.535565 Reply
>>535544
yeah

well

i want to completely destroy all of your spaceship's furniture, no offense.

Argumentative Girlfriend

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- Sun, 26 Jul 2020 13:46:23 EST riz750n2 No.535437
File: 1595785583016.jpg -(55528B / 54.23KB, 463x600) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. Argumentative Girlfriend
Hi, I am Knot, I haven't been on 420chan in forever. I have over 6 months sober, and am engaged to a lady I want to live my life with, but a lot of the time she is very frustrating. She twists my words, uses logical fallacies, makes ridiculous assumptions, and is highly paranoid. She is also just over 6 months sober.

I am here because I want to know what my favorite online community thinks about how to argue with someone who doesn't know how to argue intelligently.

I would really appreciate your help. I will gladly answer any questions and provide a more detailed description of her tactics vs my tactics if you have any questions.

Thank You
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Molly Cluzzlepedge - Sat, 01 Aug 2020 10:41:22 EST TtXni/Rr No.535539 Reply
  1. Always try to restate her point until she is satisfied that you fully understand her point of view (regardless of whether you agree or whether it is "logical") before you even bother sharing your own point of view. When you restate it try very hard to avoid strawmanning if you can
  2. Try to figure out how she is feeling. If when you say she is paranoid, you mean she is jealous? maybe jealousy is her looking for reassurance: see if giving her a hug and telling her you care about her works to reassure her, rather than trying to give explanations that have nothing to do with how you feel

How do talk to wamen?

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- Sat, 04 Jul 2020 12:27:42 EST /WTRsasU No.535233
File: 1593880062622.jpg -(85266B / 83.27KB, 900x960) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. How do talk to wamen?
I used to suffer from pretty strong anxiety, to the point that I used a load of different drugs to deal with it (some legal, some not, some prescribed, some not). But After years I got myself mostly sorted out. I've not had anxiety or panic attacks for a couple years now.

But there's one area left that shoots me full of anxiety. Asking a woman out on a date. I lock up and feel deep fear of rejection and embarassment if I just walk up and be like "yo, wanna go to dinner?" I'm not even sure what the correct way to approach this is.

For real, I've had a few girlfriends before, but I was super fucking smashed or high at the time, I also almost melted down even then. AFTER asking them out if they say yes, it's easy for me. The rest is cake. But it's that start point that fucks me up.

It's been a couple years since I tried to even get a girlfriend and I met a beautiful and intelligent woman I work with. She seems interested and friends urge me to ask her out, telling me she's interested. But holy crap my stupid brain just fills me with fear.

I need advice, or techneques rather, that might help me deal with these feelings. I know that largely it's a "just do it" thing, where there's not much I can do aside from just taking the leap. But I'd like to know of any general tips that might help keep me cool calm and collected. I don't have to be some super Lando Calrissian here, just able.

Maybe (no wait, I deffinatly am) I'm over thinking it, maybe I just need to freak out here before I'm ready. But, yeah, well, here it is? Thanks in advance random internet people.
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Zozyman - Fri, 17 Jul 2020 10:24:38 EST /WTRsasU No.535321 Reply
>>535316
That actually explains why I was much more sucessful with women when I was doing DXM and Diazepam. I just seemed to get way more women, likely because of how confident the shit made me. Note that I wasn't "plat 4 bru, ho ho SMAHED" but like, low amounts that made me much more social.

Fuck, now I have to learn to do it without drugs. I mean, I don't have to, I just want to.
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Eliza Tillinglock - Sat, 25 Jul 2020 20:57:18 EST 7Cuu/gDL No.535427 Reply
>>535233

Dont be like me, losing virginity at 24 and really coming into myself late because I was afraid to live. This is real shit. I've read a combat veteran comparing getting out there to war. Biologically, this is war. You are tryna smash. Get all of their friends brah
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Clara Chammerhitch - Fri, 31 Jul 2020 07:41:51 EST mttQWkrO No.535532 Reply
>man who uses the word "waman" has no luck with women

pottery

Partner is leaving and I want to check out

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- Mon, 27 Jul 2020 19:15:42 EST 1zJZaBp5 No.535465
File: 1595891742523.gif -(105592B / 103.12KB, 500x280) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. Partner is leaving and I want to check out
I feel so numb
My partner and I have been trying for a child, we've recently become engaged and were pretty much ready to start planning a wedding for after covid
Then, one night, they bring up the idea of opening the relationship
I tell them the truth, that I don't feel comfortable doing that, especially when we're trying to start a family and they go on to talk about toxic monogamy and how they wish I'd choke in my sleep and die (for reference, the used to make fun of polyamorous couples all the time which makes this an even stranger turn)
So Im out a 1.6k engagement ring and a 5 year relationship during which I pretty much supported them entirely (they're disabled but keep putting off applying for disability)

I feel so done, so numb
I used to be a big drinker
I'm afraid I'm going to turn to old addictions when they leave
Theyve even confided in me they think they played a role in a friend of theirs taking their own life
When they leave, I just wnna check out from these wasted 5 years and take my bottle valium, wash it down with liquor and hope I don't wake up
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Walter Sonningnick - Wed, 29 Jul 2020 07:22:08 EST g4l1+StW No.535501 Reply
>>535498
Wow fuck. Yeah you need to call the police when that shit happens.
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Graham Henningdale - Wed, 29 Jul 2020 14:18:33 EST 1SSFeKJF No.535509 Reply
>>535498
>I can't take the psychological abuse anymore
She nearly murdered you. Call the police, get out. Get your shit. if she stole your credit card for a moment, cancel it and inform fraud protection. Your police report will back up what happened. Visit a doctor to confirm your injury or take pictures

What the fuck you wanted a kid with this monster?

This shit escalates too. It won't get less violent, only more as she gets away with more and more. Get out.

In a few months you will have a party celebrating your freedom and life will taste sweet. But only if you escape before she kills you. You have two choices. Pack your stuff and leave or call the police. Otherwise she'll be using your credit card to ferry over booty calls while you're bleeding to death on the floor.
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Alice Hevingworth - Wed, 29 Jul 2020 19:21:52 EST jnas4L6T No.535515 Reply
i went through something with many of the same details. you will end up better and stronger

I ruined my brain with drugs

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- Sat, 18 Jul 2020 16:30:44 EST UZC9gHak No.535338
File: 1595104244610.jpg -(72297B / 70.60KB, 720x696) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. I ruined my brain with drugs
I was trapped in a small town with nothing to do but drugs and all the loneliness gave me mental illness.

I cant enjoy anything. Like I see people working some shitty and coming home and happy about some stupid hobby.

I only want the best of the best. I want to be high 24/7 and like go on a plane and go vacation somewhere doing more drugs with a shit load of fun things to do and then go back to a big city and have a lot of money and do more drugs and drive nice ass cars and go do drugs all over the city and fuck bitches and travel all day high.

Everything else sounds like shit
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Oliver Hummerwell - Sat, 25 Jul 2020 23:16:56 EST s0jfgpr4 No.535428 Reply
>>535338
I don't think you've ruined your brain with drugs. I think you are suffering from a total lack of purpose or meaning in your life, and you've merely ruined your attitude, expectations, and beliefs about life. Drugs did not cause this, they merely expedited the process and hampered your ability to rationally assess what the problem is.

You've tried substituting purpose and meaning with artificial feelings of joy and gratification because they, at one time, provided you with what you wanted immediately. Now, the effect has diminished, and you're left feeling just is empty and without joy, purpose, or satisfaction as you were before getting high, but even almost always while you are high too. You've trained your mind to indulge in freaking out when you can't immediately remedy the problem with a simple solution (which leads to drug seeking behavior and other impulsive and compulsive addictive behaviors, which often manifests in most people as gambling, overeating, and/or engaging in as much promiscuous casual sex as possible).

The problem is, you've hit the limit of what drugs can do to artificially alleviate the problem, and your unconscious mind realizes this. The problem is, it's primitive and misguided, and doesn't know better than to compel you into doing things that it knows can provide an extremely temporary quick fix, which distracts you from developing real interests and setting long-term goals (and actually working to achieve them). These endeavors are what can sustain you over the long-term.

Quit trying to seek quick and easy escapes through drugs, and instead work on developing yourself and improving your life. It's okay to use drugs to some degree as long as you use them as tools for achieving your long-term goals, but doing so is a slippery slope... especially as an addict, because your judgment regarding how much of a distraction and escape the drugs you use are is highly impaired.
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Nathaniel Sennerchut - Tue, 28 Jul 2020 01:20:22 EST qTml9FbR No.535474 Reply
God must hate the OP
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Hugh Fuckingspear - Tue, 28 Jul 2020 22:29:29 EST sasjEvUT No.535494 Reply
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>>535420
>yfw you realize millennials are in their mid 30s and the days of you being able to call any young person a millennial are coming to a close

Mom is getting on my nerves because it feels like she is intruding

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- Tue, 28 Jul 2020 12:56:41 EST oLU6c+pn No.535483
File: 1595955401244.jpg -(7250B / 7.08KB, 200x251) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. Mom is getting on my nerves because it feels like she is intruding
My family is unusual and when it comes to me and my mom, we both feel guilty for shit in the past like her alcaholism and my general nature of not doing shit like working but I kind of want to just forget that, instead I keep reminding myself of it or getting reminded of it from my family whenever I try to create distance. I don't help out much but it's not like I got deep pockets so that's why, but then I help her out and I just want it to be quiet and not discussed but instead I hear stuff like how I should come visit so she can spoil me a little bit, her actual words. Everyday she calls me like she's checking to see if I am alive and it's always the same phone call, yes I am alive and you? Oh i see ok.... And it's so fucked up because it happens so many times when I am watching porn its unbelievable how that keeps happening. Am I being a bad son or is this maybe just a common problem or something?
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Sidney Pummlestock - Tue, 28 Jul 2020 21:57:08 EST WOlHi5IK No.535492 Reply
Yeah it's pretty common.

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