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tfw no gf

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- Tue, 05 Nov 2019 17:11:44 EST 9A2s+IbE No.532291
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>tfw no gf
>tfw approaching 30 and never had a gf

How do I get a gf?
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Edwin Claycocke - Tue, 03 Dec 2019 16:57:35 EST EDVhUCf1 No.532626 Reply
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>built robot
>she left me
Henry Buddlestidging - Sat, 07 Dec 2019 07:35:46 EST qTml9FbR No.532679 Reply
Having money and a nice car and taking care of your body and hygiene helps, but that could lead to a shallow relationship. It's definitely a sure-fire way to get a girl though. Having a nice car that's well taken care of is legit a massive first impression on girls, which is retarded and shallow, but it's relatively true. It shows that you're able to handle your life and take care of your possessions.

Workplace friendship complications

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- Fri, 06 Dec 2019 06:06:37 EST oaTsjcKn No.532661
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Hey, could use some advice.

I'm 32, and my workplace contracts a security firm. I've befriended one of them, tiens out she's 24. Ireally like her - we have a lot of the same values and hobbies - but I don't LIKE like her. I'm both gay and married, and she knows this.

We bring eachother food and talk a lot, we exchanged numbers and she texts me quite often. Mostly asks for advice with guys. We both do our jobs really well and know when it's appropriate for us to talk, and wait for downtime, so no concern there.

However an increasing number of co-workers are giving us the side-eye lately, I'm not out at work to more than a few people, I don't think it's safe to do so either. Most people do know I'm married. I'm half annoyed that people automatically assume we're having some lewd affair, and half concerned about her reputation. Right or wrong, I feel like the adult here and I should fix this (not sure how) but she's moving away in a few months, so IDK.

Yeah. I just don't know. Advice or insights welcome.
B9NTT//SystemXX - Fri, 06 Dec 2019 23:26:25 EST v/j/9TUc No.532674 Reply

Night Guard here

Just ride it out.

Homo or not people are going to give you the side eye.

People give me the side eye at work regardless.

It comes with the territory.

Being chummy with the guard gets eyes. This is why the second guard shoots the shit en français with the staff here and I keep to myself unless we're out smoking.
Nell Fedgebut - Sat, 07 Dec 2019 03:38:25 EST 6MJKB/33 No.532675 Reply
You could use this as practice for coming out if you wanted. Get her on side and make a scandal. Then you'll be better equipped to deal with the cunts when you come out. It's hard dude. Stay strong and power to you brother

Stretch marks post surgery

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- Sun, 24 Nov 2019 17:04:36 EST ceqwmAhr No.532524
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About 2 years ago I underwent an extensive surgery which left me quite debilitated (bedridden for months, then small daily rehab) and unable to be active for the next year. Gradually, I have been regaining my strength and am currently working towards being as active as I once was. During the course of the rehab, my weight ballooned up from 190lbs to a maximum of 260lbs. With the recent increase in activity I've dropped down to my current weight of 240lbs, but my final goal is to get back to the 200 mark. I've noticed some stretch marks that appeared near my lower stomach, extending a few inches surrounding my naval area. Is there any way to reduce their appearance? Or something I could do to while I'm losing weight to help reduce the appearance?

Not sure if it matters but I'm currently 26 years old and 6'1"

If this isn't the proper thread to be posting in, I can move it somewhere else if anyone has a better suggestion,
Hedda Pungerchet - Mon, 25 Nov 2019 08:05:41 EST mHw0X0gH No.532526 Reply
Shea butter and don't worry about it. It's only been a year. Also

Priscilla Gollypock - Fri, 06 Dec 2019 06:14:30 EST oaTsjcKn No.532662 Reply
Microneedling. I swear it to you. Get a Dr. Pen from Amazon, it's expensive especially all the cartridge refills but I used it after a car accident left me with a huge abdominal burn scar that was revolting and keloided and a weird brown many shades darker than my real skin. It's essentially invisible now and completely flat

Dedicate six solid months to a year into it, and I guarantee you will have results. Yes it hurts. It's worth it.


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- Thu, 05 Dec 2019 14:56:08 EST SaWKafFy No.532650
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For basically all of my life, or at least since I was pre pubescent, I've experienced a discomfort in the area of my body near my solar plexus. It is not painful in anyway but when I lay down on my back I can feel something that doesn't feel right, something that feels wrong, right in that area. I'm in my 20s now and still to this day feel the same discomfort in that area, and the weird part is I have anxiety that is tied into that discomfort. I don't know if I am getting anxiety because of the weird sensation or if the sensation is somehow creating anxiety. I've read that certain problems with chakra points can cause issues in the mind and I am looking for some help as to what to do about this.

>inb4 go to a doctor. This isn't a medical issue. I'm in perfect health and it is more so a mental issue in my mind because I am getting no physical sensation whatsoever, just a mental sensation. So I know this must be related to my mind/body connection
Hannah Dimmerbodging - Thu, 05 Dec 2019 15:20:12 EST xcRBjL4z No.532651 Reply
definitely sounds like anxiety OP, you are right. So you think doctors don't work with anxiety, cool beans, would you consider
  1. counsellor / therapist
  2. Mindfulness course
  3. restorative yoga course
  4. online mindfulness course
  5. progressive muscle relaxation exercises
  6. a self-helpbook on CBT for anxiety
  7. Learning to dance

All these things have lots of evidence behind them in their effectiveness for treating anxiety
Sidney Desslefed - Thu, 05 Dec 2019 19:34:48 EST SaWKafFy No.532656 Reply
progressive muscle relaxation exercises sounds interesting. Whenever I experience anxiety, or whatever I may be experiencing that I label anxiety, it usually has a strong physical discomfort associated.. I usually don't feel comfortable just trying to physically relax.

Relationship advice? Maybe? idk..

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- Wed, 20 Nov 2019 06:08:26 EST u/96y45v No.532475
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Greetings friends,

First of all, I love you all and I hope you are all doing okay <3

So I've been with the same girl for almost 6 years now and relationship wise it's all good between us, we get along really well and we love each other to bits.

But I just can't shake the feeling that I'm not meant to be with this person, we disagree on most subjects, we have completely different interests and as far as I can tell completely different endgame life goals. I moved interstate to live with her, basically alienating all of my old friends and family(whom I used to be really close to), I have no social life now and I don't ever get the opportunity to do anything that I personally want to do, I don't feel like I've actually had fun in years.. She does not feel the same way, she loves me and just wants to be with me and just wants to touch me and feel close and attached to me. I guess I'm just not as emotionally invested as she is?

Every day I think of how much I want to leave, how much I wound rather be somewhere else and actually do something that I enjoy, but at the same time I would be absolutely crushing her emotionally, she's always saying things like "Please never leave me" "If you left me I'd probably kill myself" etc etc.

What the hell am I meant to say to that? What do I do? I feel guilty for wanting to leave because I really do love her, I know how much it would emotionally cripple her but I can't just stay as depressed as shit as I am because I'm going to go insane and I'll probably never be fulfilled in life.

I'm lost as to how to proceed.

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Ebenezer Banninggold - Tue, 26 Nov 2019 17:04:03 EST qTml9FbR No.532546 Reply

If you're anything like me you absolutely hate being in a relationship when you're in one and constantly feel trapped, and then when you're out of the relationship you miss having it and feel like an idiot.

Seriously though, if you actually feel love towards her, and she's practically obsessed with you, that's about as good as you're ever going to get, ever. Finding a girl that you can love back, who is pretty much obsessed with you is like end-game territory.

Wtf do i do

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- Thu, 21 Nov 2019 19:39:29 EST UZC9gHak No.532497
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Every girl ghosts and leaves me. I used ot be normal and have normal shit like relationships or girls i talked to long term or as half flirting friends type stuff

Now i live in the middle of nowhere and my ONLY option is to talk to girls online. Every single fucking girl ghosts and leaves me. I get like 1-3 days max like at most. It’s fucking hell.

Shit can be going perfect and then all of a sudden they just start saying yeah and okay to everything or just ghost me. And shit can literally be fine one minute and then they just instantly change in under a minute and leave me

Wtf do i do. Also i have a curse and my spirit energy is tainted with sadness
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Doris Blubbleforth - Sat, 30 Nov 2019 13:54:19 EST QWWHbVW4 No.532586 Reply
This is obviously upsetting you. It sounds like there's no going back to any of those girls, so what have you got to lose by trying to understand what went wrong. What about sending out an honest enquiry to all of them, explaining how you feel. I know with young people there is a worry of people humiliating you with screenshots, i think that's the only thing to take into account, if the girl happens to be a real piece of shit, but few would do that, surely?


I hope this doesn't bother you I just wanted to ask a quick question if that's ok. The thing is I'm starting to feel a bit down on myself because what happened between us seems to happen a lot: I meet a really cool girl who I like and she seems to like me too, but then somehow I mess up and she stops talking to me. I know you don't owe me any explanation, and whether we just didn't click or there is something stupid I'm doing wrong, or some way I'm accidentally coming off as a dick or something, I'd so appreciate it if you could tell me.
Either way I wish you the best of luck in the future and all the happiness in the world,


I would bet 100 dollars all it is is that you didn't click. In my experience it's getting harder and harder to tell a guy you don't click, or to break up, because in real life they act ok and then they lay into you on the internet, send you abusive messages, call you a stuck up cunt for not wanting to be with them... shit they wouldn't have the heart to say to my face. I think a lot of girls have a real fear of being honest now and it means men have to play this guessing game which wrecks their self-esteem. You don't seem like you would do that, most guys don't, but when they do it's so fucking scary and upsetting that sometimes you... well you just go all avoidance on them and it looks like ghosting. Ghosting is the ultimate avoidance, avoidance is anxiety, simple as
Awe' !!Bwteoy2D - Sun, 01 Dec 2019 11:06:57 EST FMN9Dld9 No.532597 Reply
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your spirit energy is not tainted with sadness, it's like saying the light is tainted with darkness. It's how you filter the energy, this is not an explanation of how to change it, but rather an attempt to clarify the definitions so that they don't bleed into each other.

I wouldn't worry too much about girls even if that means living the rest of your life alone or only with platonic friends, because first of all that actually increases your chances and second it makes a healthier relationship. The secret sauce to pretty much any relationship is respect of the boundries, not only of the other person, but also your own. Don't be so quick to give away your whole life and heart and even when you are together, it's ok to be unavailable emotionally and attention-wise for a few seconds now and again. If you just give your whole emotional and life-energy attention non-stop it kind of shows that you don't value yourself and don't respect yourself, no matter how cool the other person or persons may be, everyone needs to respect themselves enough to retreat their attention every once in a while even for a day or a few seconds now and again, this injects the "healthy" into the relationship. Everyone has his personal god inside him and doesn't really need anyone, keep that in mind and you will find a good balance between being available for them and being self-centered. You don't owe anybody your attention, so you aren't a bad person to deny that attention every once in a while to take care of your own passion. Then you can move on to compassion, but keep the balance and sometimes that means unavailability just for unavailabilities sake. It's not like they need you 24/7 anyway. Of course if they actually need you, be there for them, but I hope you get what I'm saying, live your own life parallel to living your lives together ;))
Walter Tootshaw - Mon, 02 Dec 2019 22:15:04 EST JCATCBbz No.532619 Reply
They find someone more interesting or attractive. It sucks but it happens. Plenty of women out there.

phone posting from a homeless shelter

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- Thu, 28 Nov 2019 22:06:44 EST lyGkZqPc No.532561
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this place fucking sucks don't be homeless
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Simon Claywater - Mon, 02 Dec 2019 18:43:39 EST I5gjNV72 No.532616 Reply
That's why I mentioned that I was there on shift.
Someone just gave me a second coat I can wear under my jacket. Cosy as fuck. Is layering still fashionable?

I feel I am not long for this world

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- Wed, 20 Nov 2019 01:43:10 EST s/u8z/Ou No.532473
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It is curtains for me
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new friend problem

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- Wed, 27 Nov 2019 16:12:03 EST wY3jFvp/ No.532553
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i face a difficult situation
recently i made a new friend and we were gonna meet up at their place tomorrow and chill/have dinner as friends
but they suddenly got into a harsh depressive episode and told me in a vague way they wanted to die and then when i asked what they meant, sent a picture of them alluding to doing something stupid but all the times i have tried to help others in similar situations, they played with my emotions and basically mostly did it for attention and i suffered a great deal emotionally as i am overly empathetic
i panicked and didnt respond all night and they have said they returned home but i'm still unsure what to do
does anyone know what i can do to fix this tension?

i always avoid conflict but i am afraid that when i visit them tomorrow there will be a big conflict
Sophie Fuggleford - Wed, 27 Nov 2019 18:46:49 EST FNLzGLOe No.532554 Reply
If your friend brings it up, just tell them the truth; trying to help people in that state carries a serious emotional toll that you've been through and are hesitant to go through again
Augustus Blessletodging - Fri, 29 Nov 2019 03:31:25 EST 0vgSGtfC No.532565 Reply
You could just say to them what you said to us.


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- Sun, 25 Aug 2019 06:11:11 EST jFHJy/vi No.531287
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Is it real? How would you evaluate a person for a state of hypersanity? Who would be qualified to do so besides another hypersane person? And therein, how would the initial hypersane person deem themselves hypersane? Could it be achieved by consensus?
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Jarvis Benningstone - Tue, 10 Sep 2019 08:00:29 EST yUhAjzvV No.531626 Reply
yeah but like, nobody conforms to the statistical norms, they just ARE the statistical norms. it's a totally nonsensical statement to begin with
Lillian Guddlestad - Sat, 23 Nov 2019 18:09:13 EST UA9NLTnk No.532516 Reply
Really interesting subject.

GF caught me jerking off

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- Thu, 21 Nov 2019 21:22:03 EST i3yeJaDw No.532498
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As the title says, my gf of 3 years found me post-wank. I had been watching softcore porn, and the video was finished but still up on the screen. I had cleaned up but was holding the tissues in my hand. Tldr, she cottoned on pretty quickly to what I was doing.

At first, she laughed and said "I'll let you finish then". I thought that it wasn't such a bad thing. When I went back to our bedroom, she started to cry and we had a talk where she apologized for "not being enough for me". For context, we just had sex yesterday. I explained that I get horny more than once a week, and that I will take care of myself instead of constantly annoying her with my dick.

I feel... I don't know. Ashamed? But then I feel dumb for feeling shamed for having sexual urges. My gf is a good person, but she can be closed minded when it comes to sexual openness (born and raised in Asia). She was also cheated on by her previous bf, which has left her with some huge trust issues. She said to me yesterday that if I'm masturbating, then I'm going to go cheat soon, because she isn't enough for me. I tried to explain that masturbating is exactly why I won't cheat, as I can get any extra sexual urges out of my system.

Anyway, tldr, gf caught me spanking the monkey, and she is pissed. Am I in the wrong at all? What can I say or do to make things right? I don't want to feel shamed for being a human, with needs.
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Priscilla Chevingmedge - Fri, 22 Nov 2019 14:32:44 EST mqpN1yO5 No.532506 Reply
That sounds unhealthy. She's going to be one of those wives you only fuck once a month or whatever. Find someone else OP my gf always wants to fuck
Samuel Blickleford - Fri, 22 Nov 2019 16:40:40 EST UCv5Ucxl No.532508 Reply
You're not in the wrong at all... it's healthy and normal and I'm more worried that she doesn't masturbate... Life without masturbation would really really suck, tell her a woman on the internet says she should bond with the jets from the shower head (and then she'll understand it doesn't mean she's going to cheat or that you aren't enough)

Losing virginity at 30

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- Thu, 05 Sep 2019 19:46:51 EST BR2YlFPa No.531542
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Right off I'm going to say, I know it's my fault I've achieved wizard status. It just took me way too long to realize that I need to let shit go and that happiness isn't found within a comfort zone.

A little background: I'm a short, fat guy(5'8, ~200lbs) that never really did anything with his life. I have a full-time job(not great money), a car, and a place to live(not with parents). At my core, I'm just a lonely, whiny kid that's scared of most interaction, constantly mumbles, and gets discouraged very easily. I convinced myself that keeping my mouth shut, staying under the radar, and just going along with what people say would work out best for everyone. I've gotten better, but I'm still a long way from where I feel I should be. There are probably many deal-breakers about me, but the things that immediately spring to mind are my weight and my teeth. I have several cavities from drinking too much sugary bullshit as a kid, then beer in my 20s, while rarely brushing my teeth. All I can do is try my best to take care of them, since I don't have nearly enough money to get them fixed.

While sex is the ultimate goal, I would like to build some type of relationship first. I don't know where to start though. Should I do it in person, or is everything done on phones now? Are jeans and a t-shirt acceptable attire, or is it more of a shirt and tie thing? How much ridicule should I expect? I doubt anyone here has personal experience, but any kind of help would be greatly appreciated.

TLDR: Fat, bitch-boy virgin wants a girlfriend, but doesn't know where to start.

I apologize if this type of thread gets posted a lot,. I'm still fairly new here.
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Martin Brudgemut - Thu, 21 Nov 2019 11:19:39 EST JWWudQ3H No.532489 Reply
if you're the type of dude who jerks of to hentai or whatever I'd stay away from that shit as much as possible when looking for a girl. I've jerked off to it a day before I was about to hang out with a good looking girl and when things started to get hot I had a difficult time getting into it.
Charlotte Gunningham - Thu, 21 Nov 2019 17:50:26 EST UZC9gHak No.532496 Reply
Dog you gotta work out fix your teeth brush whiten lose weight and make more money first

Feeling nothing after a friends suicide

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- Sat, 16 Nov 2019 04:10:43 EST v0joz5Oe No.532404
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A close friend of mine killed himself this morning, I found out through his family and despite the initial shock I don't feel anything at all. My parents who barely knew him where far more upset than I was. I know I should feel upset but I just feel nothing.
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Ernest Decklehot - Mon, 18 Nov 2019 11:24:33 EST S1e5N1Bk No.532434 Reply
Is this typical for you? That is to say, is feeling nothing after somebody you know dies something you've experienced before?

I would say the others in the thread are right, and it just hasn't hit you yet, but at the same time you might just be like me. I've had a lot of people in my life die, a few I actually cared a lot for even, and every time it's happened I feel nothing about it... and still don't to this day.

For some people, like me (and possibly you... maybe, maybe not), grief just doesn't occur... feelings don't occur. Yeah, I can never interact with that person again, but my life is more or less no different for it. It's like I'm skipping the grief and going straight to the over it part. I recognize and accept that they're gone, and there's nothing more to it. I rarely find myself missing people even when they're alive either. Rarely I might miss somebody, and it's the same then whether they're dead or still alive. It's typically very short lived and it's more like a very slight nostalgia kind of thing. Either way, it isn't sad and doesn't otherwise evoke much of an emotional response. Of course, I've got pretty shallow emotions as it is anyway.
Fuck Crunningstone - Tue, 19 Nov 2019 08:40:23 EST 3nVA6FX4 No.532462 Reply
That's a damaged view. You feel emotions and you express them. Just because aren't aware of your emotions and aren't in control of them doesn't mean they're not there.
Nathaniel Bicklefan - Wed, 20 Nov 2019 01:39:05 EST s/u8z/Ou No.532472 Reply
The longer it takes to hit you the more it will hit you all at once. Sorry for your loss OP

Too much

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- Tue, 01 Oct 2019 22:22:42 EST 2XVEGG21 No.531942
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I thought today would finally be the day that marked my freedom, that opened my doors, that would allow me to begin my journey towards financial stability which in turn would lead to happiness. "I will no longer be poor. I will no longer be poor!" I lied to myself. Is there really some sort of force out there that wants to keep me living in poverty? I truly cannot handle this anymore.

The pharmacy technician exam was nothing like I studied for. I went in confident but that confidence quickly fizzled out. I can retry it before the end of the year, but it'll be my last chance. After that I'll need to attend some sort of mandatory course, and I'm sure that won't be freely accessible online.

I really don't have many options. I'll keep reapplying at other jobs locally, but I can only do so much when they don't do as much as interview me. I only have so many options with no car and no public transport. I want to buy a car but it's too expensive. Having a car would be incredible. More opportunities... I wouldn't have to walk to work anymore. Walking to work, working outside all day, then walking home is too much. It's hot. It's so hot here. Humid, humid heat. I love walking but not in this environment. I'm not from here and I don't know when I'll get used to this extreme heat. I want to go back to college but I need a car to do that. To afford a car I need a better job, but to get a better job I need a car. Pharmacy work would break me out of this cycle, there are plenty of pharmacies nearby, but as they don't hire trainees I need to pass the exam. If I don't pass it next time I don't know what I'll do.

I'm so exhausted.
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Sidney Sommerforth - Tue, 19 Nov 2019 14:41:15 EST 8k4rT52w No.532468 Reply
XD i know this happens every single time i use wellbutrin
Archie Nonderforth - Tue, 19 Nov 2019 21:32:12 EST SUZYoLJH No.532470 Reply
Today was gonna be the day, but they'll never throw it back to you. By now, you should have somehow realized what you're not to do.
Albert Gozzlestire - Tue, 19 Nov 2019 22:56:49 EST NpvZxK2o No.532471 Reply
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Always amazed to hear people had similar experiences with wellbutrin. I've talked about it before, but both times I took it led to some of my most mentally unstable moments in life.

Intense emotional lability at it's best, paranoid psychosis at its worst.

I'll admit, I did dramatically improve my life immediately following each episode, so in a way maybe it works well.

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