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420chan is Getting Overhauled - Changelog/Bug Report/Request Thread (Updated March 22)
Post-kinda-NEET life problems by Charles Drendleham - Wed, 31 Oct 2018 13:58:04 EST ID:xBssPwJc No.527515 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm a virgin in my early 30's, I am absolutely fucked with women and I guess not that good looking, im not ugly either, I'm just not enough to get anything going. i'm a boring guy, unable to pin down on a hobby or to project anything too interesting other than the occasional deadpan joke or something absurd that popped to my mind, makes people laugh, hey im laughing sometimes too. Anyway I'm also a coward to some point and I'm unable to be congruent to whatever my personality is. I dont know what that is, congruence.

So to my point, I'm working in a small office and we've recently had a female hire.

I like the girl(she's really cool tbh) and, the fact that when I talk, like to someone across the room, i can see her from the corner of my eye, paying attention to what im saying. Some rebuttal, some point being driven, a terrible joke of sorts, i dont know.
It's stupid I know but I'm not used to girls looking at me when I talk.
It's messing with my head. I consciously make an effort to not meet her eyes.
I socialize as less as possible other than to help out, no impromptu interactions or anything. I don't really trust myself to not "cling" - and get myself fired, heh. And yet...from the corner of my eye she's always the highlight.

Would fucking a hooker help? I don't want to lose my job, and I don't want to constantly feel so...driven. Im pretty sure I've kept to myself pretty well though, no stupid long stares, no coming up to ask stupid shit, nothing other than hello, goodbye, and tying up whatever conversation she starts, help out when needed and that's it.
I know i'm just lonely, it's nothing more than that. it's been affecting me a long time.
But only recently i've had some semblance of rule to my life. And I've got some money coming. Not a great amount but, just enough to see 4 digits in my bank account and, yeah, that was one of my life goals and i've done that.
But it seems these stupid, wasteful thoughts are just there to cloud my mind and get in my way and i have no control over them, they're jus tthere under my skin and it's just another thing that leads me to drinking …
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Phyllis Pickhall - Sat, 03 Nov 2018 08:58:30 EST ID:xBssPwJc No.527575 Ignore Report Quick Reply

Follow up to my issue I guess.
Friday night, sometimes some folks over at the office go out for a drink. The coworker above mentioned went, and so did I.

It was surprisingly fun.
I walked her back home, she had a bit too much to drink. It was adorable. It totally fucked with my head.
The more we talked, it seems we had a few things in common. Or maybe she was just trying to find things in common. Maybe I was happy with that.
When she goes on, when we stop by her place, that she really likes me...
and there I am, holding myself in, and just say "I like you too." We hugged about 3 times, I can't remember why.
That shit sucks though. I know I made the right decision, she had sobered up a bit by then but she was still under the influence... maybe she picked it up right, as in, "I think you're cool and i'd be more than happy to see where it goes but, i fucking work with you".
Or maybe it didn't mean anything at all. I've been sexually barren for so long I might just be hearing what I want - or wish - to hear.

She'd also been a bit all over another one of my coworkers, which is forcing me to measure what is really going on. Maybe she just needs someone, I guess.
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Phyllis Pickhall - Sat, 03 Nov 2018 10:19:07 EST ID:xBssPwJc No.527576 Ignore Report Quick Reply

disregard me, i'm a 30 year old child nb
Molly Guffingstore - Sat, 03 Nov 2018 11:48:24 EST ID:iJyiJg7k No.527577 Ignore Report Quick Reply
shoulda kissed her but oh well
ask her out next week

Stopped being a fuckboy, now I have no game by Clara Peshbury - Sat, 03 Nov 2018 00:59:50 EST ID:ovbjFjaO No.527568 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey /qq/
So I spent ages 17 to 21 chasing girls. I was literally never single that entire period of time and I never had less than 3-4 girls in my life at any given time. My number one favorite hobby was meeting new women, and my entire social life was dominated exclusively by the new women I met. I was completely addicted to pussy.

I've stallioned dudes, I've had a stalker, I've had overseas romances, I've broken hearts, and the last girl I "dated" ended up falling into some kind of depression after I disappeared.

I started this year off on a dating bender that left me completely drained and exhausted. Towards the beginning of the summer, I decided to stop. I spent weeks in my apartment just trying to decompress and reconnect with myself (my last fling was probably one of the most morally repugnant things I've done in my life and it took something out of me). Fast forward a few months and I'm starting to get bored. I've been trying to reenter the dating scene again with an honest desire to have a monogamous, healthy relationship.

The problem is that my game is almost nonexistent. The thoughtless relentless energy I used to have when talking to girls is gone. The clear goal and motivation is gone. Even my confidence is a bit shaky now. I honestly don't even know how to talk to a girl at this point without constantly trying to maneuver her towards sex with flirting and teasing. My game is just gone.

idk. Is this normal? Am I jumping back in too early? What do you think /qq/
Clara Peshbury - Sat, 03 Nov 2018 01:02:37 EST ID:ovbjFjaO No.527569 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>I've stallioned dudes
Graham Fashbanks - Sat, 03 Nov 2018 02:06:08 EST ID:l7ptI/3G No.527570 Ignore Report Quick Reply
its more of a phase thing
age 13-17 i was fucking 18+ girls all day like a madman, i looked 20 at the time, had lots of drug connects, travelled all over the country to fuck women, it seemed like i only needed 10 minutes to amaze any girl, being young actually helped as i played the "mAtRue Fo R my agGeE" card a lot.
at around 18 i got really burnt out, no more parties, no more chatting up bitches all day, i could barely get good weed anymore. for about 2 years I basically stopped talking to females at all. I became NEET.
That's when I felt the same way as OP, that it just didn't work out anymore.
After a while I just started to talk to more and more girls, and only focused on the actually interesting ones, worthy of an actual relationship. I felt my game returning, they were staying up till 6AM talking to me all night again, etc etc.
I'm now 21 and have a 9/10 gf of 3 years.
Bottom line is, you've burned out, focus your attention on girls that are worth it, everything else will come naturally again. If you try to force it you will just feel like shit because what was a thrilling experience once (talking to random bitches) is just not doing it anymore. So you need to talk to actually interesting bitches.
Fanny Pennerwell - Sat, 03 Nov 2018 05:13:20 EST ID:Hu5948WJ No.527572 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Look man it's easy, especially for a dude like yourself who has fucked your way into despair. You just need to treat women like human beings and try to get to know the people that you find interesting. No game is needed. Just go talk to them about themselves or shared hobbies etc and if you want to hang out with them more, try to arrange it. When you meet someone that you like more than friends make a play. You've done it many times before. Sorted

Panhandling Life by David Bunnerfore - Wed, 31 Oct 2018 16:24:50 EST ID:DGXx8e01 No.527522 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've been panhandling to get by lately in rural america. I still live with my parents, I'm 32, thankfully they understand about needing experience for a decent paying job and how todays economy is. I got tired of having nothing at all so I started up about a month ago. Things picked up steam for me at the local walmart. It's a great place to go because people usually got money to spend there and there's also all kinds of people to bum cigarettes from. It was slow starting off and i've met several rude people, one guy threw a few pennies at me and another told me to "get off my lazy ass and work like the rest of us"...but I have met some incredibly kind people as well one lady bought me a biscuit from the mcdonalds by the entrance and another gave me 50 cents and said god bless you. It's moments like those that make it all worthwhile. I have tried at the gas station a few times too but it's harder. Still plenty of cigarettes though.
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Ebenezer Pondershit - Thu, 01 Nov 2018 21:25:23 EST ID:4ucXScoi No.527553 Ignore Report Quick Reply
sell acid
fee - Thu, 01 Nov 2018 21:26:11 EST ID:4ucXScoi No.527554 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Simon Sepperchet - Thu, 01 Nov 2018 21:38:28 EST ID:ODK3qoyG No.527555 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Get clean. Stop smoking. Don't watch porn or masturbate. Don't break the law. Sell your soul and ask government for help.
They'll mark you and start watching you all the time. Just keep that in mind and live like a Christian sociopath. Go to church regularly and pretend to believe in God (or actually convert). 5yrs tops you'll be independent.

Rage by Betsy Picklefore - Wed, 31 Oct 2018 19:54:05 EST ID:ehhnNOgT No.527527 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Any tips for staying calm and keeping the volume on your voice down while talking about something that evokes strong emotions within you?
Lydia Chagglekudge - Thu, 01 Nov 2018 01:53:45 EST ID:dBTG+jdV No.527529 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Mindfulness. Also don't debate stupid subhjective topics like politics and religion with narrowminded people.

I say rage, fuck it, louder means more right.
Emma Broffinghug - Thu, 01 Nov 2018 19:04:32 EST ID:2ZJfRoD5 No.527544 Ignore Report Quick Reply
realize stupid people aren't worth your time and don't bother engaging with them. being curt and non-interactive isn't as bad as people think. and if you have to engage with them for your job, well hey, that's what you agreed to. don't like it, find different work.
Hannah Blatherdock - Fri, 02 Nov 2018 12:59:25 EST ID:oEmJazXS No.527564 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Try to whisper everything.

political drama by Nathaniel Grandville - Thu, 01 Nov 2018 13:12:31 EST ID:X5GUIOyG No.527536 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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how do I stop being addicted to political drama?
Caroline Hallyworth - Thu, 01 Nov 2018 14:53:55 EST ID:uI0h601M No.527537 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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You blow the dome.
Emma Broffinghug - Thu, 01 Nov 2018 19:02:41 EST ID:2ZJfRoD5 No.527543 Ignore Report Quick Reply
realize central/commercial banks have the whole economy rigged and can tank markets (and politicians pensions, savings etc) whenever they want. not to mention lobbying by their major shareholders such as AIPAC.

economics > politics any day of the week. they are hired puppets.

running out on probation by Alice Poddleworth - Tue, 30 Oct 2018 19:56:35 EST ID:+eu7fILs No.527505 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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what would happen if i run out on probation and eventually come back to turn myself?

i live in a shitty small town and i dont want to live here and my state is gay as fuck and gives long as fuck probation sentences 100x longer then everywhere else. i refuse to live in a small town so when my shit gets reduced after deferred sentencing im just hopping on a plane and going to the city i want to live

when i turn myself in they'll just give me months or whatever in jail right? they wont do jail and give you probation on top of that for running from probation right? even if they did wont my probation automatically just transfer over to the city i live in? its not like they can put me on probation in a place where i dont live right?

or is there any way i can get my license back if i just run out on probation if i do everything else so i just never have to come back?
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Phoebe Cenderkog - Wed, 31 Oct 2018 07:26:28 EST ID:V9JVqZTf No.527510 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Join the military.
Fuck your cat
Cyril Pedgeshaw - Wed, 31 Oct 2018 09:55:49 EST ID:USUZpST+ No.527512 Ignore Report Quick Reply
this is the guy who just asks the same question over and over on /b/ and never takes anyone's advice. don't waste your time.
Edwin Blossleham - Thu, 01 Nov 2018 06:47:28 EST ID:uXKHI0Y/ No.527531 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Stuck in some gloomy shithole. Typical. It's going to be mental agony. But It's the fresh, new you afterwards. Oh you're going to be such a GOOD BOY after this. Yes master. Yes your most esteemed honor. Time served? Oh thank you Thank You THANK YOU your honor.

In 2014 I met someone by Priscilla Fibbletock - Wed, 08 Aug 2018 08:39:05 EST ID:N8SnPlnn No.526007 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've been in a daze for the last four years. I finally remember why I gave up and who set me down this path. The big hole in my memory has been filled in, slowly, painfully. I am so fucking tired. I can't get a hold of her. She is scared to look at what she has done, I think. She shattered my mind like glass.

It's so strange to remember someone that was completely erased from your memory, especially when you elected to erase them yourself. I never told anyone. I screamed at her in terror and anger when she called.

PTSD is a bitch, and I am fucking done. Six months of this unrelenting shit. I can't even recognize the person I am from who I was before. I hope none of you go through this.
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Reuben Brookville - Tue, 30 Oct 2018 18:37:52 EST ID:N8SnPlnn No.527503 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>uh huh. what, did she put an explosive device around your neck and hand you a list of demands?

No, she falsely accused me of several vile actions I had never commited, causing complete strangers (to me) to threaten me(death threats among others, in person and by mail), further spread false accusations about me to the people in my town, try to get me fired, try to set up situations where they could find me all alone (god knows why), all while masterfully towing the line so that there wasn't enough evidence for me to do something about it.

Initially I thought there had been some sort of misunderstanding since some of the accusations were not about things that could be identified to have come from me, but no, appearently her feelings were just hurt, as she admitted to later.

Now if you can get this through your thick, holier-than-thou retard skull: This situation was extremely unpleasant, and as creatures made of flesh and blood we do not choose our resilience (unless you are religious, in which case I am very sorry for you and anyone who has the misfortune of meeting you), and particularly if you have been subjected to severe (life/death) trauma at the hands of people before(which I have), overactivation of the sympathic nervous system is common. There are cheap household remedies for this, and unless you think people with ptsd (which I am now diagnosed with) drink because of some sort of a moral failing I hope someone puts you down asap.

Is there any more wisdom you want to share? I have a challenge for you: Try to make one, just one post where you show that you aren't exactly the type of person I suspect you are: A fourteen year old incel who comes on this board to offer "advice" by parroting "common sense".

>standard addict/alcoholic aversion to personal responsibility.
I hope someone beats you so hard you get chronic pain. When you express remorse at how this limits your life, maybe you can understand. Doubt it though.

>i bet nothing in your life is your fault.
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Emma Higglesin - Wed, 31 Oct 2018 06:18:01 EST ID:Pwq0Fy/H No.527509 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Good luck OP, your fucked
Frederick Pibberfotch - Wed, 31 Oct 2018 07:34:51 EST ID:uSPK9zEv No.527511 Ignore Report Quick Reply
What did she accuse you of?

CBD for dogs by Angus Nillerfuck - Mon, 29 Oct 2018 16:01:04 EST ID:x903zUzv No.527482 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey /qq/, I'm posting this here and on the cannabis board for safe measure.
So I have a very old dog, she will be 16 in a few months. She has pretty bad arthritis in her hips, spine, and in her right shoulder. I do have some pain/anti-inflammatory items from the Vet, but honestly I'm not sure how great they are, none are taken regularly. I have tried a few medications and nothing seems to help too much.
In general she is fine, but at night she whines and has a hard time getting to sleep (strangely when I'm in the room she will lay down just fine).
I have another vet appointment in two days, so at that point I guess I will ask about more medications/pain reliever. But I have always wanted to try CBD for her, but honestly everything on the internet is basically "If your pain medicine isn't working, go ahead but be very wary."
So I figured I'd ask you guys if you've had any luck with CBD and your arthritic pets? Thanks!
>TL;DR Dog has arthritis, I am in the process of trying different pain-killers. Wanted to know people's experience with CBD oil for pets.
William Tootford - Mon, 29 Oct 2018 20:56:37 EST ID:LRU43Jt1 No.527487 Ignore Report Quick Reply
yes, do it. A dispensary down the road from me even sells pet edibles, and a grocery store does as well.
John Fondershit - Mon, 29 Oct 2018 22:34:36 EST ID:x903zUzv No.527489 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Do you have any experience with this with your own pets?

extreme anxiety by Eliza Pickwell - Fri, 26 Oct 2018 01:56:08 EST ID:KL9nuqvR No.527441 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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How the fuck do you overcome or deal with this its gotten so fucking bad I'm not even feeling depressed or socially anxious anymore because just the sheer strength of the actual anxiety has overcome it all and its all I can really focus on, like eyes rolling back in my head constantly feel like vomiting level of anxiety. I understand that you feel anxious for a reason and searching for the feeling of relief can guide you to do the things you need to do but I cant find the things that give me relief anymore, like at all. I can workout and that helps for a bit but it comes right back there is absolutely no relaxation anymore i cant sit still for a minute absolutely cannot smoke weed anymore. After I come home from work and have worked out and it would usually be a time to relax but theres just none of that anymore. In a way I guess its good because im so scared of that feeling im constantly running away from it and trying to do shit that will make me feel good but it doesnt seem to effect it in the end and it comes right back after Im not distracted.

Has anyone overcome anxiety and how? I really really don't want too become dependent on benzos, I don't even want to try them. Sorry for bitching but this suddenly just hit me like a storm and doesnt fucking go away ever. Im 26
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Reuben Dabbershit - Sat, 27 Oct 2018 09:39:18 EST ID:ehhnNOgT No.527454 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Definitely see a doctor and try a beta blocker first if you have generalized anxiety like that. The anxiety can be coming from your body, and if you slow the pace your autonomous nervous system is firing at, it will cause the anxiety to go away. The PNS and CNS are more connected than most people realize.
Clara Cannerspear - Mon, 29 Oct 2018 16:48:17 EST ID:CcSALyo+ No.527484 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Thirden on the beta-blockers.. I'm 27 and have same issue. Was prescribed benzos til they made my life SO much worse. You'll like them too much. And never come back right
Clara Cannerspear - Mon, 29 Oct 2018 16:49:04 EST ID:CcSALyo+ No.527485 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>>527484 thirded* nb

Just feel broken by James Bunwater - Sun, 28 Oct 2018 05:08:21 EST ID:vUaVEVlD No.527463 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I cant do anything right. I have no idea what's happening to me or if I'm being taken advantage of by others. I think I might lose my job. I do the best I can but it's just not good enough. Or if I'm being preyed upon or am just an invalid. I try to do the right thing but it blows up in my face and I look stupid. And my anxiety just keeps getting worse. There's a sharp pain in my lower back when I get really stressed out. Today it was killing me. Today I was utterly humiliated, it just keeps happening.

I feel stupid for even writing this. But last night I went out with some friends. Everything was okay until we went out to the bar. And I was thinking about killing myself because there's nothing to look forward to.

My dad suffers from depression. He had a serious surgery in January and took time off of work to recover. However his coworker he shares his business with couldn't handle the extra work load and they had a big argument. My dad was deeply ashamed because his business partner didn't understand he couldn't function with his mental illness. He thought my dad was just lazy.

I'm not sure how to get help. If I can get a leave of absence from work with a doctors note. Or just go to appointments while working and that will help me.

If someone could tell me what to do.
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James Bunwater - Sun, 28 Oct 2018 06:31:03 EST ID:vUaVEVlD No.527466 Ignore Report Quick Reply
That's interesting. But how do I call by bosses and say I'm mentally unfit to work?
Molly Piblingbury - Sun, 28 Oct 2018 06:53:56 EST ID:USUZpST+ No.527468 Ignore Report Quick Reply
talk to HR or something
Polly Chennerbeck - Mon, 29 Oct 2018 08:42:14 EST ID:B7QXYJzC No.527477 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Lemme know when you find an answer, i have the same feelings of inadequacy and poor work performance no matter how hard i try, i cant focus, maybe im add and need an adderall script lol

Self-Esteem by Fuck Cherrylock - Sat, 27 Oct 2018 21:49:16 EST ID:72N5BQUN No.527458 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey /qq/,
Any tips on raising self-esteem? I realize that a lot of my problems come from a low self-esteem. I have problems maintaining healthy friendships and I always have a tendency to seek attention from the opposite gender even if I am committed. It kills me. Anyone in the same position? Any stories to share? I'd love to hear them.
Caroline Murdcocke - Sun, 28 Oct 2018 00:09:56 EST ID:3BJNW9Mq No.527459 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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Trying to build self-esteem without self-efficacy is like trying to fill up a bathtub without stopping the drain. In other words, it's a lot easier to feel good about yourself when you believe in your own capabilities. And it's a lot easier to believe in yourself when you have someone else who believes in you....

That said, one cannot rely exclusively on external validation to achieve this, because you'd be giving up creative control over your own development - and then it wouldn't quite be self-esteem, now would it?

Going back to the bathtub analogy, think of it like this - you put in the stopper, someone else pours in enough water to hold it in place, and then you fill it up the rest of the way. It's a concerted effort, and once you understand how it works, you can help others with this process as well, resulting in less 'water' being wasted overall.
Nicholas Brillykack - Sun, 28 Oct 2018 07:15:48 EST ID:LQaVa7NA No.527469 Ignore Report Quick Reply
exposing yourself to increasing amounts of uncomfortable situations and seeing how you went through them without losing yourself. This is working for me to a certain degree but I'm not doing it nearly often enough. Try looking people into the eye when you walk towards them and just learn to accept that everone has doubts/fears. It is normal and healthy to have those, you just judge them because they feel bad. I've been asked "is something wrong?" a lot as a child so I associated not feeling nothing with "something is wrong with me" and I keep trying to hide behind a blank face.

When it comes to attention from the opposite gender, I have a similar problem of behaving completely weird once I see a good looking woman entering the room/bus/whatever. I often look away, thinking I'm weird, spending the whole time avoiding to look in her direction and when I get up after 5 mins I realize that she's not even sitting there anymore.
I'm battling this by directly looking at people when they enter because it's copletely normal to check whos entering the area you're in. I still feel weird doin it but it gets better and sometimes I even manage to change my facial mask into a slight grin when I see someone I like the looks of..

Going extra hard when doing some sport and passing a woman(or just walking past) is annoying, and I'm fully aware I'm doing it yet I still keep doing it..I bet it's due to a general feeling of not achieving what I want to in life and I want to get some validation so I try to create it in my head by thinking "look how fast I can ride up this hill" or "I bet she thinks I'm fit now"..Don't think I'll be able to stop doing that unless I get my general depression and lack of employment in check..

Stoned ramble, hope you get something out of this

I'm not sure, is this a bad place or just unpleasant? by Cyril Summerfuck - Thu, 25 Oct 2018 13:26:22 EST ID:8RP6qEAJ No.527432 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I'm in a social program, i thought it would be about fitness but the two advicers are seriously unpleasant. Like the day starts with them saying someone will not be with us anymore because she has decided not to be in the program, they said that with disdain. Then they are shitty to some guy because he didn't apply for jobs, by lunch some girl stormed out of there. At the end of the day it was ny turn, which involved unflattering imitations of my posture and my overly shy demeanor was questioned as a sign that I do not belong abd don't want to be there. My opinion is very low of them and I wouldn't send anybody there. However I do often get things wrong and so I'm not fully sure about this.
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Cyril Summerfuck - Thu, 25 Oct 2018 14:12:41 EST ID:8RP6qEAJ No.527434 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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But it's so absurd, why would my social advisor even suggest this program? If I were a paranoid schizophrenic, It really feels like some attempt to cause me to quit and then use that as grounds to remove my social and financial help. We are grown ass people there, and one of them (the advisors) was all pissed off that i said the royal college of physicians say vaping is better than smoking.
Sidney Mendleham - Thu, 25 Oct 2018 19:06:45 EST ID:jeyD+EBD No.527439 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Lodge a complaint against them for a culture of bullying after gathering some evidence.
Nigel Blanningspear - Sat, 27 Oct 2018 21:25:17 EST ID:NqUElaqv No.527457 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Shit sounds like a cult. I don't even know what the fuck this social program is but get out even if you gotta live in your parents basement or something. Bounce yo

Is he cheating? by Nicholas Ceffingstug - Mon, 15 Oct 2018 18:00:25 EST ID:BQvANHRE No.527183 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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Hey guys.

32/f in a long distance relationship with 30/m. You’d think I’d have this all figured out by now, but I’m starting to think that never happens.

I’ve been dating this guy for about six months. We spent almost every day together this summer, but in August he moved 8 hours away for law school. I knew going into this that this first year would be difficult. I can handle not being able to see each other a lot, or even talking as much as I’d like. I haven’t felt insecure or worried at all so far.

Until this weekend.

I’m not on birth control, so we use condoms. I went to see him for a few days in September, and he had a new box of 12 condoms. We had sex 4 or 5 times and used one condom each time. The box was still mostly full when I left. I didn’t count them, but logically there should’ve been like 7-8 left.

Well... I went to see him again this past weekend. Naturally we had sex again right away, but when I went to grab a condom, there were only four left and the box was gone. I figured he had just split them up or something and didn’t think anything of it at first.

But later, I saw the empty box in the trash. I couldn’t help but wonder, so I brought it up. Our conversation was brief and straightforward. Neither of us got upset or anything either.

He said he was “pretty sure” we had used multiple condoms the last time I was there, and he thought there should’ve been more leftover too but he definitely hadn’t cheated on me. Then he said he had been too busy to do anything anyway, and that the only girl he had seen in the past month was his neighbor, who had come over to study. That made me a little uncomfortable, because in my experience inviting someone over to study is usually code for sex... but then he was like, “and she smokes so I’d never hook up with her.”
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Hamilton Depperstock - Thu, 18 Oct 2018 13:09:05 EST ID:BMrBkVc9 No.527283 Ignore Report Quick Reply
Being autistic doesn't mean you don't feel emotions or don't value people. They are weak at recognising, understanding and reading them within others however.

However not falling in love when you moved apart less than 6 months into a relationship is quite normal.

People do things for reasons. Some people just cheat because they lack restraint/respect or the commitment to just say that they're not monogamous instead of agreeing to rules they can't keep. Some cheat because they aren't getting needs filled within the relationship (though this might be because they're not communicating or whatever). Some people are just dumb. There's no one typical cheater or profile of a cheater or even definition of cheating beyond doing something you know is not okay or within the implied rules of your relationships. If most people are cheating why even do monogamy?

You can't just get twitchy because of one piece of evidence. You definitely need a long term plan to live together if you're in an LDR though. In the medium term being able to see each other more and more often will do but at some point you'll take the plunge. Because you moved apart early on your biggest issue is that you have to commit more than most people would that early in the relationship. Your relationship will not develop normally otherwise. I ended up in a similar situation with a girl and we drifted apart. No one cheated no one felt the urge. She spent most of the time living with her auntie and uncle working as an intern before she decided that career wasn't for her. However because we'd been seeing each other a few months it felt dumb to commit but cold to let go. In hindsight the half measure didn't work. I am glad I didn't stifle her development and she realised what she (actually didn't) want to do but it was a bit pointless in the end.
Esther Subblepine - Thu, 18 Oct 2018 13:10:11 EST ID:eUNsGCnf No.527284 Ignore Report Quick Reply
ah girl he's totally cheating :( and he's not good at it either. One thing is for sure, don't let that skanky asshole hit it raw.
George Dunderbane - Sat, 27 Oct 2018 18:43:24 EST ID:6f+dM2rG No.527456 Ignore Report Quick Reply
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thanks OP, it was really helpful to read your posts in this thread. I hope the best for your situation.

Ghosting by Polly Pickson - Fri, 19 Oct 2018 02:35:45 EST ID:L4MaGvT3 No.527302 Ignore Report Reply Quick Reply
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I've done it before, a long time ago, and I know it's shitty, but fuck feels bad man. Getting ghosted by a long time online friend, second one in a year. It's tempting to see that as a pattern and think "hmm maybe you're the common denominator" but I don't think so. Minor arguments, nothing really heated, then suddenly NO contact and a block.

Can't even try to talk it out at that point. It's so selfish. I understand being sensitive and needing a little time to cool off, but ghosting is so extreme. Makes me wonder how little they thought of me the whole time, ya know?

I have other friends, it just really blows to lose a friendship like that. No warning, no conversation, just gone. Anyway, just talking into the void to get it out.
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Clara Fandlefoot - Wed, 24 Oct 2018 05:51:17 EST ID:WtaXwCzm No.527414 Ignore Report Quick Reply
>but never makeit to 30 days to actually have it deleted
It's only 14 days...
Simon Snodwell - Sat, 27 Oct 2018 09:06:47 EST ID:LQaVa7NA No.527453 Ignore Report Quick Reply
well, for me it says 30 days of not logging in, when I'm looking at the "delete your account"-option, but what does it change anyway? I can't even get to three days without checking if someone might have hit me up..
William Drenkinkod - Sat, 27 Oct 2018 14:01:09 EST ID:USUZpST+ No.527455 Ignore Report Quick Reply
I dunno man you've just got some issues too i guess

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