|>> || 1610329600357.png -(857139B / 837.05KB, 2103x3049) Thumbnail displayed, click image for full size. Relax, lose focus, let muscles contract involuntarily, steady pattern and rhythm, fast and hard isn't always better. |
Don't rush, could take an hour, could take longer, the pros can seem to cum in under 20 minutes. Might take years to get to that point, I don't know. Read some of the advice on how to use the Aneros, they have their own forums. Many of their techniques apply over to other toys. Look up SurfboardPotato's Guide to Prostate Play, I can't find it immediately, but I'm betting its on circlejerk.
Good toys help, they're essential really. Buy quality, they don't cost much more than the cheapest Chinese cancer causing plastic ones. I can't help you too much here, but I believe the perfect anal toy is a medium silicon butt plug. LoveHoney makes a very good one, not too much in cost either. Or try Peep Show Toys, they've got good service. Spend good money on good lube, plenty of guides out there for that just google anal lube guides - don't just use astroglide or whatever, look for the good stuff for anal.
I wish you luck, be patient and practice kegals. Focus on the area internally just under your balls, the taint/gooch. Inside there, about an inch or two in, that's the prostate. You want to be able to contract those muscles at will, until eventually they contract on their own via repetition. Just lean forward at your computer desk, put your head down and start squeezing. Not you actual ass/sphincter, but the muscles near it.
And if you feel weird? Like maybe; your heart starts racing, you start getting warm, your stomach starts contracting and getting tighter, or you feel like you kinda have to pee? Push through it. You are very probably not going to pee (if you do, so what? put a fucking towel down before hand, wear a condom, do it in the bathroom instead of your bed or carpet, who gives a fuck.) PUSH THROUGH! You're getting close. Don't change a thing about what you're doing unless you feel a sharp pain. Then stop. Otherwise, just keep that same pace and force and you will come. Look up "dry orgasm" - it is entirely different than normally cumming.
Good luck, have fun, be safe. Don't give up (or do, its not for everyone, but I hope having a different perspective on your sexuality helps you empathize with how women might want to get fucked, the G-Spot and the P-Spot are similar.)
Hope this helped somebody...