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Met him on Adam4Adam, some gay hook-up/dating site. He sent me a 'Like' one day because the distance between us wasn't that large (270-300 miles), and I replied with a "Thank you! You're hot too!", or something of the sort. I started talking to him mainly because I liked jerking off to his messages and to his profile, which expressed his interest in power-exchange and BDSM very plainly. We spent a surprising amount of time exchanging messages, and one day, he asked me if I had ever considered actually trying the thing for real - being a live-in slave/houseboy. I replied with a tentative "maybe", and from then on out, he began to get more serious and practical: telling me which aspects were fantastical, and how he expected discipline and commitment. He asked me about my current situation, and when I told him honestly, he told me he believed he could better my current prospects by giving me "purpose" and, paradoxically, by building up my self-esteem through obeying his commands. He said he'd mold me into a better person, into one worthy of being owned by him: more confident, more fit and healthy and attractive, more sexually experienced. He even said he could likely get me a job too.
All of what he said resonated with me. And It only happened three months after our first convo. I was a NEET at the time. I literally had nothing to lose. No friends left, college drop-out, (mostly) cut off from family, depressed, out-of-shape. One day, he sent me a check for gas money to come to him. And I went.
It's a bit underwhelming, but saying anything else would be lying.
He doesn't do any real public humiliation, or at least not in the way most people imagine. It really is subtle, as you said. For example, we still have to refer to him as 'Sir' or 'Master', and he calls me 'boy' or 'pup'. Even in public, he expects us to be deferential and submissive, even if not in an overt way.
A good example of this dynamic in public is when we go to the movies: he proceeds to take a seat right away, while me and my slave-brother go buy the concessions, and are the ones that go for refills if necessary. Or when we go shopping for something like clothes: he'll hand us the items to hold, and we'll follow him around, carrying the merchandise.
So no, he doesn't have us crawling on leashes out in the middle of the street, but the submission to him extends outside of the home. He is romantic, though! He sometimes takes us on more traditional dates, either the two of us together or just one of us. Several times, he's given me permission to call him by his name and/or offered to do the stuff himself, and done stuff like making out and holding hands.