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- Sat, 21 Jul 2018 15:31:46 EST 1v4sqxZz No.100756
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So I’ve struggled with getting my dick to work for a long time. I really want sex and I am not incapable of getting it, but when the time comes to take out my wang my body goes into a physical panic mode. It’s small and I’m ashamed of it for a couple reasons, but above all the biggest problem is it don’t fucking wanna work. Like I can live with the smallness and when I can stay hard I think I bring my partners enjoyment. But the only thing worse than a lackluster dick is a dick that don’t work. I realized last time that I was straight up terrified of having sex. I get that full body fear like when something really bad happens. The girl I was with is amazing and sweet and wants to work with me. I really want to fix it because I think if it doesn’t get better soon I’ll end up an pimp. I think the issue stems from the shitty codependent relationship I spent 8 years in from the age of 14 until last year. She was mean and an alcoholic and every single time we had sex I was terrified that if I didn’t perform she would go on an abusive alcoholic rampage (happened often). She would insult me and my body in ways that would cut me as deep as humanly possible. I think that’s how I’ve come to this state. Should I try dick drugs, anxiety medication? Both? I’d really rather not see a doctor if there’s rcs or entheogens that could help. Maybe meditating and hippy shit? Idk I just don’t know where to start 😔. Thoughts?
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Walter Bardfoot - Tue, 24 Jul 2018 10:57:47 EST /FrnDjDF No.100764 Reply
You have some baggage man. See a therapist or sex counsellor if you can.

Otherwise, google "sensate focus". I think you could do with some time where you get sexy with a lady without any PIV stuff. Sex is about so much more than just penetration. It's great that this girl wants to work it out with you - say that you want to spend time being intimate together with 0 expecations or pressure, and just enjoy the little things, like being close to each other, being touched lovingly, enjoying each other's bodies etc. If it's just 30 mins of you fully clothed cuddling each other that's fine, you just have to gradually erase your negative associations with intimacy and learn to tune out the bullshit worries of inadequacy. Every time a stupid thought pops into your head, take a deep breath and focus on the sensation you're experiencing. Even if you're giving pleasure, focus on what you're feeling too. In a way it's like mindfulness too - except you're focussing on touch rather than just breath. So maybe mindfulness will be useful for you, too.

I would say, slowly build it up. Stop viewing sex as this goal-oriented thing - don't try to "achieve" something. Let yourself enjoy it, and slowly broaden your comfort zone. Talk to her if you're uncomfortable, and if you're worried she's not enjoying it, ask her. Also, size isn't all that important - being a good, considerate, communicative lover is. Big dudes can be absolutely awful in bed too.

Finally, be easy on yourself dude. If you can't love yourself how are gonna love somebody else? Love yourself, take care of yourself, do what you need to do to feel happy and healthy.
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Fucking Honeyhood - Tue, 24 Jul 2018 20:28:39 EST AHcHPMAZ No.100766 Reply
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Wow. Are you me? I genuinely had to stop and make sure I didn't write this thread a few months ago and forgot about it.

Anyway, my only advice is this. Cialis + GHB. The former seems to make your dick hard as diamonds with little stimulus, unlike viagra in my experience. The latter? Oh wow. I can't stress how brilliant this substance is for those struggling with sexual issues. On the one hand, it suppresses anxiety, just like all the other GABAergic drugs, and quite effectively I might add. But that's only half the story. It makes you horny as FUUUCK unlike any other drug I've experimented with and that's really saying something. The intensity of the lust felt while under the influence makes me feel more like a possessed monkey than a human.

Basically, when you got a sexy lady in front of you, a rock hard dick thanks to the cialis, and a head full of GHB, watch how quickly your sexual anxieties fly out the window. This drug gave me hope where nothing else worked. I honestly believe doctors should prescribe it to people struggling with issues similar to us.

Sadly, the girl who gave me the chance to experiment with it with her left me after a month for some Asian dude on holiday. But before her I genuinely believed I had no hope of a sexual future, and now I have reason to be optimistic. I still have a lot of demons that need addressing that haunt me every day, don't think it's gonna be a quick fix, but it may give you hope. I am *NOT* recommending it as a substitute for therapy - it sounds like you need it.

Just a disclaimer do some thorough research because it's pretty fucking dangerous if used without proper care. It has a poor therapeutic index and dosing without using proper measuring equipment carries risk of death. That should not put you off though, because controlled, sensible use has basically zero side effects. May also be hard to obtain depending on where you live, but good luck OP. I believe in you.
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Graham Possletotch - Mon, 13 Aug 2018 21:15:10 EST OEZC93ob No.100807 Reply
>>100766
>Sadly, the girl who gave me the chance to experiment with it with her left me after a month for some Asian dude on holiday

Well at least you no longer need to worry about your penis size being an issue
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Sidney Firringkitch - Fri, 05 Apr 2019 00:56:33 EST jNYtxo43 No.101091 Reply
Hey dude. I kinda want to chime in and let you know that I have some of my own shit. All I can say is that you are just going to have to go for it. My issue is that I can get hard but I feel nothing during sex. I have never orgasmed from sex. It makes sex very frustrating and pointless. Like I have to be good at sex and she basically does nothing for me.

Trust me man. This gives me tons of issues. I have a big dick. I can fuck for hours. I never enjoy it. I constantly have to reassure some cunt because they doubt that a man can have sexual dysfunction other than premature ejaculation or can't get hard. I really don't know how to have a productive or even mutually beneficial relationship and I have basically given up. I know I could find someone but this has really taken all the fun out of being with someone.

I never thought I would get to this point but I realize I can't do much about it. My life is just kinda ruined.
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Esther Pabberwill - Sat, 06 Apr 2019 23:33:02 EST xXFUhtA4 No.101092 Reply
Find somewhere you can spend some time naked, like a sauna or a beach or a forest, and just get comfortable with your body. Nobody had a pornstar dick. We're all average and like tiddy size, it doesn't actually matter all that much.
It's not sex that you need to get comfortable with, it's love. Love yourself, and the world will follow.
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Basil Cronningtene - Mon, 08 Apr 2019 06:36:19 EST Tu6NGbOw No.101093 Reply
>>100756
I had an intense fear of sex too before I transitioned. I ran away from every femake that was ever interested and everything that was about to turn into a sexual encounter. Turns out I was repressing male sexuality because I function better in every aspect of life as a female. But I doubt this is your problem too.
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!scyTheNg3k - Mon, 08 Apr 2019 23:06:42 EST PsICybwm No.101094 Reply
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> I think the issue stems from the shitty codependent relationship I spent 8 years in from the age of 14 until last year. She was mean and an alcoholic and every single time we had sex I was terrified that if I didn’t perform she would go on an abusive alcoholic rampage (happened often).

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LfHGqyMxuqI
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Sidney Backleville - Wed, 08 May 2019 22:42:09 EST 5DYm8Ovt No.101134 Reply
>>101094
what a twist
is there nothing that a SOAD song can't at least loosely apply to?

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