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Harm Reduction Notes for the COVID-19 Pandemic

Loss of libido

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- Sun, 19 May 2019 09:46:39 EST 7ouNGdLM No.101153
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So I don't really know if this should go here, in /qq/, in a physician or in a psychologist's office, but I'm gonna start here.

I've sort of struggled with my relationship with women my whole life. I've always had premature ejaculation (sometimes more, sometimes less, usually when a relationship is going fine I do just fine, and when it starts getting worse my PE also gets really bad). I've gone through rough patches where I wouldn't had sex in months (I spent 2 years without any sex from 19 to 21). Lately I've also had some impotence issues. So like, I'm stuck between being PE and impotence. Don't get me wrong, I've also had some really amazing experiences and have had some girls told me she'd never (or at least not in a long time) enjoyed sex so much, but it's really a hit and miss, and I have no way of knowing beforehand how it's gonna go down. So like, I've never been neither a stallion nor a wizard virgin.


Since last year, and specially this year, I've felt a huge decrease in my libido. At first I was like 'Well, im not 19 anymore, it's normal'. But now it's like... I'm fucking dead inside, I don't even have any kind of phantasies. I'm actually travelling around the world, and meeting ton of cute girls who are into me and I don't feel like having sex with them. I though I might be gay or bi or something, I do find some guys cute, but I think that's just an easy way out of the problem. I don't really feel like fucking guys, and the times some guy hit on me I don't really felt attracted to them. I also thought it might be some prostate issue or something, but when I look at porn I can get hard just fine. I'm really lost here honestly.

Has anyone had this happen to them? Is it my age? Is it depression? Should I try new stuff? Should I try old stuff? Last two times I got laid were disastrous (that was like a month ago or something), I think I may be sort of traumatized because of it, but I dunno, how long do I have to wait to get my libido back.
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!scyTheNg3k - Wed, 22 May 2019 15:28:44 EST PsICybwm No.101158 Reply
>>101153
It sounds like you're just overthinking it. You've had good experiences and bad experiences, which makes you normal.

"Stuck between PE and impotence" is what happens when the sympathetic nervous system, which controls the fight-or-flight/adrenaline response, is too active:

  • the parasympathetic nervous system controls arousal

  • the sympathetic nervous system controls orgasm (in psych the mnemonic is "point and shoot")

  • the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems are weakly opposed to each other (but not entirely).

being too excited/worried/nervous naturally leads to both early orgasm and erection failure. the SNS is generally "fast" and the PNS is "gradual". the way this is supposed to work is that the PNS gets more and more active and then the SNS kicks in, which results in a "storm" of nervous activity aka "tingling" and other side-effects of a strong orgasm. but if the SNS kicks in too early, the PNS never really gets to do its thing.

i guess my point is, there is no contradiction between PE and ED. they can in fact have the same cause: anxiety. there are various strategies but they all boil down to the same thing which is you needing to take a chill pill.

however, one important strategy that can't be overlooked on 420chan is smoking weed, which everyone knows makes you last longer. well, i thought everyone knew that. does anyone not know that?

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