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- Fri, 17 Apr 2020 03:35:32 EST XcW++eOj No.102142
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Hi /sd/

My boyfriend and i have been together for a very very very long time. Sometimes he loses his hard on during sex and recently this seems to be more of a thing. Lowkey feels bad man because it’s hard (no pun intended) not to take it personally, but I try to be chill about it and I dont usually say anything because I don’t want to make him feel self conscious and make him feel worried about it, and just make it worse. I’m fit and clean and good in bed and our relationship is pretty solid. I don’t understand. I can get him hard by blowing him but then when it’s sex time he kinda loses it.

He’s bisexual and sometimes I wonder if he’s actually gay but doesn’t realize it yet. But this might just be my insecurities talking. How common is it for guys to lose their boners during sex?? He can always cum but just like, half-soft recently. Is it stress? Is this normal?
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Shit Suzzledet - Fri, 17 Apr 2020 11:46:07 EST d6w9hmp5 No.102143 Reply
>>102142
There are a lot of possible causes. Not limited to
>maybe you or your relationship has changed
>maybe he's tired or stressed
>maybe something has physically broken
>maybe the wrong drugs at the wrong times
>maybe the conditions you have sex in changed
>maybe he's cheating/watching too much porn
>maybe something else in his life is depressing him
>maybe he's not taking proper care of himself
>many more

You're going to have to talk to him about it if nothing leaps out. He must know he's losing his boner so I think the key is to approach it as "what can we change". If it's been happening a while and getting worse then something likely has intensified in his life.

I had a girlfriend who definitely could have been getting more out of sex, we knew it was something in her head (even if she just had fantasies she was ashamed to express) but she didn't want to address it and I didn't push it. She was a nice girl and the relationship ended so I wish I'd done more as there wasn't much to lose. What I'm saying is don't avoid it entirely Start gently. Acknowledging there is a problem but saying you're okay and it'll be fine (and him believing you) can do a lot of good. The other reason I regret not helping her is she took my virginity and at first I had trouble keeping it up. It was down to nerves but also trying to fuck at 1am when I was exhausted she reassured me it was okay and we adjusted when we fucked. Don't completely avoid this issue. if you do and it doesn't improve on its own then it will hurt your relationship anyway.
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Shitting Hockleshit - Sun, 17 May 2020 10:32:22 EST 1C9GP7f4 No.102228 Reply
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>>102142
losing boners is normal. It happens. I myself have a long time to adjust to the partner and asure myself to have a secure attachment before having a stable erection. As vagina is not always leaking with juice so is penis not diamond hard all the time during sex. everything comes and goes but if you have noticed changes in your sexual rituals then something may have chenged in your dynamic.
>>102143
already mentioned some factors but most important imo is the psychoemotional state of your bf and your relationship dynamic this past time.

Its nice to read that you care about your bf. If you feel bad man, then obviously you should talk with your bf about this. I understand it may be frustrating not to have a fully erect partner but if you hold space for each other and talk about this maybe you will find out whats happening and dealing with it could strengthen your relationship
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Esther Grimforth - Sun, 17 May 2020 20:14:18 EST 1wCIMbBq No.102230 Reply
Hey I was in your bf position with my ex.
I could always keep my hard on (and it was bigger) when I had atleast a feminine g-string on. But when I didn't I sometimes had a hard time staying hard inside of her, even though it felt really good to me. But if I had womens clothing on, it just kicked my hornyness up to whole other level..

I'm not saying he is into crossdressing, but the point is there might be something that he is missing from the sex you know? Like, there's secretly something that turns him on and it's missing when he's inside of you..
Do you know what kind of porn he is into, that could perhaps be a hint to what really makes him crazy horny? Like fx for me, I always watched porn and imagined that I was the girl.

Just my 2 cents.
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Beatrice Bimbleway - Tue, 19 May 2020 22:26:36 EST mx4hvxwi No.102232 Reply
>>102230
he knows I'm basically willing to try anything. he's more vanilla than i am though and he's shy on top of that. so when I ask him about what porn he watches he gets pretty shy about it. usually its MFM or something like that, or so he says, which he knows i am VERY much into but coronavirus cock blocked us on that front, and even having a threesome irl he feels very nervous about, especially the performance aspect.

I feel like if we tried some kinky shit we'd find something he likes, but he gives me no hints basically and says he is fine with teh way things are.
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Ebenezer Fancocke - Sun, 24 May 2020 20:04:11 EST MQROksFT No.102276 Reply
>>102232
Try finding out whether he's stressed or depressed about something in his life first, too many people think just piling more and more kinks is the key for a good relationship. Well, it isn't, you eventually run out of new stuff to try, then what? Instead of chasing that dopamine rush, look for deeper issues that might be going on.
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Caroline Benderdock - Sun, 24 May 2020 20:56:01 EST d6w9hmp5 No.102278 Reply
>>102276
It's either something is missing or he has a problem.

I would try to eliminate problems for the reasons Ebenezer has said because if you try just making shit more intense best case is each new fix needs to be increasingly intense and lasts less and less time. It'd be like trying to solve your wife cheating on you by moving house every year instead of addressing it or realising neither of you is happy with how that played out and willing to fix it and just splitting up before you're throwing things at each other and the neighbours call the police repeatedly.

So er.. make sure there's not a root problem first.
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Doris Hevingshaw - Sun, 24 May 2020 22:34:29 EST mx4hvxwi No.102280 Reply
>>102278
>>102276
OP here, whatever the issue was it seemed to have resolved itself. I think it might have been coronavirus stress.

and I see what you guys mean about increasing the intensity every time and how that would eventually run out of steam.
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William Drarringkere - Fri, 03 Jul 2020 10:16:18 EST Nz8J4Piz No.102378 Reply
>>102142
is this what relationships are? that's unhealthy.
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Sidney Debblewick - Sat, 04 Jul 2020 18:28:42 EST +/2JTuES No.102382 Reply
>>102368
OP here. Being a whore is the best 🤷‍♀️ tbh not even an insult

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