|>> || Unfortunately, outrage has once again masked a pretty solid point. Which is that, in a match setting people can take advantage of each other physically under the guise of the match, and that there's a certain amount of pressure on newer wrestlers to pay their dues and do things, lest they be labelled difficult and not given as many opportunities. It's as true in wrestling as any other venture. |
Now, Storm is in fact arguing that intergender should be banned outright, so they don't have the opportunity. I disagree. It doesn't necessarily fix the problem, because you'll still have men and women sharing a backstage, sharing merch tables, sharing cars, etc. And do you ban men and women working together in every aspect? Do you no long have female managers grabbing an opponent's leg? Can men train women? Getting rid of the thing entirely never fully solves people taking advantage in other ways.
It's not a good idea to have them dress or sleep in the same room, but at some point we start getting into things like not being alone with a woman in a room at all, and requiring escorts for the female performers, and making people sign waivers, and all manner of things that would cover everybody, but also be insulting to the fact that these are grown people with some modicum of intelligence.
That said, Storm brings to light an important notion. It's one thing for a person in a position of power over another to blatantly flirt or ask to trade sex for opportunity, but it's another to be in a match setting where you're grabbing and putting parts near each other and generally being aggressive. And even without the sexual aspect, guys can be rougher on girls, girls can be unable or uncomfortable to do certain spots, etc. And wrestlers are expected to do these things for the sake of the match and the plot and the attraction.
I would argue that most people would be understanding if a wrestler didn't want to do a match with weapons or big high spots. But not wanting to do a match with a guy because he's a guy, probably not so much. There's that fine line between accepting that this is how it is, and expressing your feelings of discomfort. A woman who says she doesn't want to do intergender might get eyerolls from the other students, including other women. And in the current climate where it's more allowed and expected and lechers can take advantage, you might see more of those match types interchangeable on a card the same way tags and triangle and such are.
I think that's what Storm is trying to argue under the idea of banning them altogether. Also the fact that women can end up as the lone female on a circuit and forced to do them or just not work, is something that should be brought to light and prevented whenever possible. Imagine the other girl doesn't show or was never booked at all and you're faced with either losing a tour or doing a series of matches you had no preparation or expectation to do. Part of that is business, part of that is bad luck, but all these stories from #SpeakingOut suggest it can really go badly quick.